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We've all been there. Keep approaching, that's all you can do. It's ugly but once you get that momentum going your mind will literally be blown at how easy you can pull and attract. When your nervous it shows all through your body language. So realize that approaching is no big deal, you don't need IOIs, and just keep goin!
/r/seduction23/11/16 05:15 AM
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I feel like the is the main value of any seminar (regardless of subject matter) in that the instructor's energy has a huge impact. There's plenty of guys who don't respond to that and would probably be PO'd after paying for a seminar. Other guys need that emotional kick in the ass. I've never been to an RSD seminar but the one product I got was RSDJulien's PIMP and I was disappointed that it was a complete rehash of all his youtube vids (literally his vids strung together with rambling theory). …
/r/seduction23/11/16 05:10 AM
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damn bro some of your moves are cold blooded lol. Reminds me of that old school kind of game where people had these really subversive tactics to blow people out. With the more feelgood direction RSD has gone, I wouldn't be surprised if their instructors aren't perfect with dealing with this kind of amog stuff
/r/seduction23/11/16 05:07 AM
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I've been there. I've had interactions where I felt at ease and confident, not needy at all, but it would fall apart at the close or number pull. More often than not it was because of incongruence: I seemed like a cool guy the whole interaction, but when I exposed my "motive" of trying to pull, I became a bag of nerves and it manifested in my body language, voice, everything. It's kind of like if you're a sharky salesman, you're nailing a sale, and at the end you get hit with a question that tri…
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:16 AM
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I could boil it down to 2 issues for you: 1) You need to learn to live in the moment, i.e. get out of your head 2) If you keep putting off approach, you will never get any girls, ever. and I mean ZERO. Programs & seminars are great, but they are even better when you're actually progressing and then revisit them to reinforce what you learned in your interactions.
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:08 AM
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Funny, I always used to describe PU as a game too (well they do call it the game after all :)). Especially to dudes who try it once, fail, and then go online to vent about how it's all BS/I'm too short/I'm too ugly. Like ok bro, you'll wipe a WoW raid 100 times or get your ass handed to you in LoL and keep going but you won't talk to 1 more girl? lol
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:06 AM
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Helps if you're into the type of music that will be at the club. Here's some short term quick tips though that should go a long way: 1) Socialize with anyone you can throughout the day. people in line at a cafe or the pub, someone with interesting clothing, someone you notice is a foreigner, just whoever you can 2) Before you leave home, do something that puts you in a good mood. for me it's watching my favorite YT comedy vids, planning vacations, and playing music 3) if you're going to a Top 40…
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:50 PM
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have you ever cold approached? If so how long did you try? Bet it was a lot shorter than when you tried beating a difficult video game..
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:42 PM
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Off on so many levels man. Can't tell you how many good looking guys I've seen get shut down for lacking confidence or personality. Women simply do not care about looks as much as men, get that through your head. It's biology. You shouldn't be a fat slob but you don't need to be good-looking to pull hot girls, not at all and I've seen it with my own eyes...
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:41 PM
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I think most of us who tried PU have been there. Reminds me when I used to go to a mall and wouldnt approach anyone. So I'm not an RSD shill, but I would highly recommend watching some of their free vids on this kind of stuff to reframe and get you amped up to approach. In particular i highly recommend Julien's video on the Power of Now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APguuR-2EqM Probably their best advice is that pickup doesn't start at the venue, it starts hours before. If you're going to the…
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:37 PM
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As long as you're not a stuttering or needy, you're bringing value IMO to people's lives when you approach. Guys learning game really underestimate just how dull and mundane most people's lives are, and how receptive they would be to meeting a genuinely cool person at random. Your attitude & smiling is so key. If they still blow me off for no reason, I'm 100% convinced it's because they are a shitty person and I never get upset about it. I remember going to clubs certain nights, totally in state…
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:29 PM
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anything that is genuine is good, just happens that I like to ask alot of genuine questions. don't do that old school canned BS unless you're a great actor
/r/seduction06/10/16 04:34 PM
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I like where you're coming from for this. Personally I would drop her after the 2nd flake. That's a sign of someone who's either fake or doesn't have their shit together. If they have legit reasons then you'll most likely be able to tell, but anyone who's very neutral about flaking on you, I saw fuckem. In terms of dealing with things you don't agree with, I like what RSDMax does where he goes "bleh!" and kinda denigrates whatever they said or did in a playful way. Alot of times this makes the g…
/r/seduction25/09/16 11:08 AM
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yeah I chock it up to stupid nightclub cliche. When i started clubbing I went from offended by it, to angry, to indifferent. It's like girls have these rejections loaded in the chamber so it looks awkward on their part when they do it. But it's a necessary thing for them really, otherwise they'd be chatting endlessly with boring guys
/r/seduction25/09/16 04:28 AM
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lol
/r/seduction25/09/16 04:25 AM
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ha the titanic one? This is it, i'm literally splitting at the sides when i watch this lol https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVxsz5YNjiU btw someone also recommended watching RSDTyler rant videos at .5x speed. Also hilarious
/r/seduction25/09/16 04:18 AM
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i rock the faux hawk breh
/r/seduction25/09/16 12:45 AM
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I posted in another thread this video where Julien Blanc does a good job dissecting it, using excerpts from Tolle's "The Power of Now" book. If you cant stand him dont worry, this is a very substance based video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APguuR-2Eq This helped me a ton. I will say that silent, seated meditation isn't super effective for me, but I've been told that that traditional style is not necessary. For me I do it while walking in my neighborhood. I just learn to appreciate everythin…
/r/seduction25/09/16 12:20 AM
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lol well I disagree, I think you can have long hairstyles and have a very clean + put together look. Just don't walk around with wiry, greasy unkempt hair
/r/seduction25/09/16 12:14 AM
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lmao I'm just finally watching one btw, thanks for this
/r/seduction25/09/16 12:09 AM
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yeah man makes more sense to do that than silly opinion opener stuff
/r/seduction25/09/16 12:09 AM
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As long as you're well groomed and dressed I wouldn't worry about it. I get compliments on my looks and just last night when I left a club, I walked up and approached these 3 girls who were talking to eachother. They didn't say a word just immediately walked away from me and I just laughed my ass off because it just looked like a ridiculous cliche rejection from these girls who were probably 6's. I just make it fun and what do I care, I was making out with a 9 just a couple minutes before. But i…
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:52 PM
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I would always recommend you talk and chit chat throughout the day to people. Random situational stuff and also to your friends, even if that means calling them up and saying "hey I'm about to go out but don't feel in the mood, just wanted to talk and get some good vibes". Then you'll always feel talkative. If you're determined to go out after being anti-social all day, at least try talking on your way to the venue or in line to people. At the end of the day, people like other cool people and th…
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:44 PM
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personally I don't think looks matter for shit. How many times I had girls eye the shit outta me based on my looks and I negate all of that by botching the interaction. But try telling people on 4chan this, lol.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:31 PM
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lol I like how you ended the post. I watched Pimp but I thought that was filled with fluff, haven't seen the Natural though. Pimp was also alot of rehashed youtube videos. I got it thinking it would have the FULL infield footage rather than chopped up but was disappointed. Infield does way more for me than talking theory.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:28 PM
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Ya so true, usually i ask situational questions. What's important is you're not forced, nervous, or have weak body language and emotion. Then you can literally open with the most basic stuff. I would give an example but seems like alot of guys then try to mimic the example. But it can literally be anything about the situation at hand, it's stupid easy to open people as long as you have a smile, don't sound depressed, and aren't acting nervous.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:25 PM
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Hey I read your post. Personally whenever I experienced constant awkwardness it was because I was doing something forced that stifled my own personality or as you said, wasn't congruent. When I'm actually doing what I want to do or being self-amusing, even the worst rejection doesn't phase me. There will always be a little awkwardness now and then though, but you're getting out there which is great. It will teach you far more than reading ever could.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:16 PM
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Good for you man, that was alot better than the average Tinder date that's for sure. I like how you acted with the old oneitis and her friend, sounds like how I would act.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:12 PM
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You're right about the ego, we always work to maintain it and don't ever want to threaten it. I'll tell you having actual interest in what you say to girls goes a long way. When I was all about canned lines or structured approaches (like the old Mystery/Neil Strauss stuff) it almost NEVER worked. It just wasn't authentic and seemed like I was faking rather than being a cool person who wants to talk.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:08 PM
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meditate as well. At risk of looking like an RSD shill, you should check out this video from Julien Blanc and listen hard to what he's saying (see other videos about meditation though). It'll be a new concept to you but is so critical to understand. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APguuR-2EqM One of the quotes he uses from Eckhart Tolle's book was also mentioned by Russell Brand, who chats women up like no one I've ever seen before. Then get out there and put in effort. Also realize girls are no…
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:05 PM
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You dont need to be famous or have social status at all, but value. From my experience value can be shown through things like these, and you literally see girls' expressions light up when you do them. 1) Exhibiting your ambitions & passions. Things like starting your own business, travel related stuff, or helping kids/elderly, etc tend to connect with people. 2) Acting with conviction or a leader type personality 3) Evoking #1 out of girls yourself to know them better and create deep convo (mayb…
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:52 PM
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Shit I doubt it man. I see alot of guys who at least look like they're in their 30s bartending and they dont look creepy at all
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:46 PM
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I'm not the best wingman but I've gone out with a couple guys and learned the following pointers: -synergize and boost each other's energy. Enjoy every moment you guys are out or your state will drop and you'll be a drag on the other. -like Kobinks said, fill in gaps, keep the flow of the convo and even energize it in a "the more the merrier" sense. -I think really good wings detect possible problems before they happen: like engaging a cock-block female or male friend
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:55 PM
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Yeah I'm still building up my confidence with approaches in areas where I'd be the focus of a crowd. But I think it's just my bullshit inner voice trying to predict the future and what bystanders might think.
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:48 PM
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I don't think they were celebrated, just more cliche, and less intimidating than nightclubs. Don't feel like you have to rest on bars..nightclubs are such a joke to me now, it could have the hottest girls and the most asshole bouncers and I'm not phased. I do get annoyed by insanely loud music though but I've only recently started being conscious of isolating girls to quieter areas. Before I just screwed around on the dance floor while we shout in eachother's ears. But if that's not your thing t…
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:44 PM
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Well sounds like you're doing the usual "getting in your own head". We all dealt with it and the only way over it is to take chances and push through. Block out the mental noise. Not sure if meditation is advisable for younger guys but you can try it. Realize that you either talk to the girl, or you dont get her. Adopt that view and then gradually try more and more everyday. Teenage game is always awkward anyways so don't worry.
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:34 PM
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Sure, so pretty much what he did all night was act like the life of the party type dude. Easy since him and the other staff are all chill guys who now each other. Then he just dances his ass off at the club and does old fashioned, non-pua pulling. He was getting drunk to loosen up which I don't do anymore, and jumped around the different circles our hostel group had going. I don't know if he got a girl the night I was out with him but he never looked dejected - that's the real key. When you get …
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:28 PM
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honestly it's not though. All you gotta do is do chit-chat with people everyday so you get in a socializing mood. I've been shaking off the rust on my vacation here in Sydney. Nothin epic has happened but it's insane just how receptive girls are when you're in a positive fucking mood and not doubting yourself.
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:25 PM
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lol yeah just know there's no single way to approach. That sounds like an RSDMax approach and if you're extroverted it can work. But there's many more low key ways. And don't think it needs to be special, do it like you would when talking to anybody (talking about day game).
/r/seduction24/09/16 04:23 PM
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lol well as long as it's legal that's pretty wild. But I say any major destination city this would work: New York, Sydney, Miami, San Fran, Prague, Bangkok, London, Madrid, Melbourne, etc etc. But I imagine even smaller cities that you live near may have a similar scene. There was a 33 year old guy working at one of my hostels who went to party with us, and I'm pretty sure getting laid is his only reason for working there still lol
/r/seduction24/09/16 01:49 PM
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What stops me: Typical stuff - overthinking, doubting myself, calibrating before interaction (she's too hot, she's distracted, she's with friends, she looks pissed off). Easy fix is to not even give time for your bullshit self-doubting psyche to do this. See girl, move in. I just posted in another thread: today I was at a park and there was this really hot blonde getting professional photos taken (she was doing some sort of modeling). Seems like a definite no-go for most guys. She's the hottest …
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:30 PM
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Do what you're afraid to do (like approaching girls). So many people in relationships met through social circles and they just settle with each other because they're lazy. Just think of how many awesome people you don't meet because you're afraid of bothering them. Fuck that shit, go up and talk. They'll likely respond well and if they dont, then they weren't as cool as you thought. If you want an example: today I was at a park and this gorgeous blonde is getting pictures taken by a photographer…
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:06 PM
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Tyler's kinda gone off the rails with his rambling lol. Sometimes it's funny though. I'm looking for the one when he imitates Jay Cutler having sex, fuckin hilarious.
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:04 PM
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Solid! I do the same stuff and yeah I tend to get motivated when I'm with my guy friends and they're just gawking as some girls. I just run over without hesitating now and alot of the time I'm shocked how well it goes, especially when you have good vibes and are in state.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:02 AM
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love it man. I've recently started to embrace my "failures" & rejections. I'm very open to everyone about the major blowouts I've had. To me, saying I got the hand from a 10 is infinitely cooler than just looking at her from afar. People look at me crazy when I talk about this but they do it from their protective bubble of comfort. Fuck that!
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:54 AM
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Been there too many times bro. The best advice to snap me out of that came from RSD. Goes something like this: "Don't focus on results, engage yourself in the process" It's basically an Eckhart Tolle thing - don't be so focused on the future that you're ignoring the present. Enjoy every fucking moment you're out there, just drink it all in and silence the mental noise and you wont get so nervous or down on yourself.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:51 AM
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hmm..I've never seen kickass snapchat tips. I guess it would be similar to escalating with like text/messenger pics though + the added creativity of the snapchat editor which is good for showing some humor. There's probably tons of great guides on text escalation or text game maybe you can find some.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:45 AM
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yup absolutely. People subconsciously appreciate that basic level confidence and energy from people. Just think of anytime you were with a group where everyone's talking, and a guy says something loudly and locks eye contact with someone, everyone's focus just snaps onto him.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:39 AM
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lol interesting. The girls i saw were mostly 20-24. Compared to grinding it out solo on the streets it's insanely easy and way smoother to do at least for newbies. Guys were trying to wing it for the shy dudes, girls are trying to setup threesomes, everyone just friendly as fuck. Wish I found this sooner.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:36 AM
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Yeah apparently they would give employees private rooms on their birthdays to just go nuts. Not gonna lie that's pretty sick because there's some seriously hot girls coming through these hostels, at least in Sydney.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:33 AM
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I hear Fraser Island is ridiculous. There's also some backpacking tour where all the people sleep in giant dorm and it's just an orgy. Sometimes I wonder if guys start hostels just to do all this stuff.
/r/seduction24/09/16 01:09 AM
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You'd be surprised how receptive girls are to being opened in public. Just don't be a bag of nerves or use a bunch of canned lines.
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:23 AM
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Yeah it's a good thing. Just don't go around clubs or in daygame seeking eye contact as a requirement for approaching. Alot of guys wait for eye contact and miss out on alot of interactions
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:21 AM
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I don't think so. I don't even think that's possible when you start seeing alot of girls. But i used to have a bad habit of completely cutting off communication with girls that I didn't hook up with. I think it came off as reactive and bitter though, and the few times I ran into them in public it was fucking awkward. Now I don't friendzone every girl that doesn't fit but I act friendly, so that if I cross paths again it's positive. Would like to hear tho from guys that made something happen post…
/r/seduction24/09/16 12:19 AM
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Just like you said, sounds like you're getting in your head. I have a couple principles that are always on my mind, so no overthinking is needed. What I say is always of value, which translates to voice projection, energy, confidence. ALSO, what you say doesn't have to be epic, hilarious, or ground breaking. I'm open, non-judgmental, and indifferent and enjoy hearing people's stories, so I don't react as harshly to tests or intimidating women. Reacting negatively imo is one of the fastest ways t…
/r/seduction10/06/16 05:54 AM
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I would just act naturally rather than trying to strategize. I know guys who have a deadpan sense of humor and others with a hyper sense of humor. Both of them make people laugh when we're in groups, because they look comfortable in their respective styles. Anytime you hit with a joke or act you don't want to keep repeating it or it'll get stale. If you're trying to be that comedic life of the party kinda guy, you can just observe comedians or highly social people. You can even study comedy. The…
/r/seduction10/06/16 05:17 AM
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I don't think you should do anything special just because they're at a pool. Energy, congruence and confidence trump all. If you try and copy someone's opener and you don't feel comfortable with the style of the opener, it won't work. Say whatever's on your mind but act like you're talking to a normal person, not a HBB who you are desperate to sleep with. I'm gonna end up looking like an RSD shill but I believe in alot of their stuff, just watch the shit out of their videos. I'd recommend Tyler,…
/r/seduction10/06/16 05:06 AM
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yeah it's hard for me to tell you exactly why - I can only say you're insistence on touching base seemed like the classic "needy" angle that we're all guilty of doing before. There could be a thousand reasons she isn't responding - which means it's best to not care and talk to other girls. It's possible that your interaction wasn't enough to really hook her. Hugging, a picture, and a ride home might seem like alot to you, but she is probably talking to multiple guys. It's just the way it goes du…
/r/seduction10/06/16 04:56 AM
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I don't use kik but apparently the grey D means it was delivered but not read yet. You gotta be careful with text/social media stuff, it's really easy to come off as needy - which is probably what she felt when you tried so hard to contact her & confirm her number. This is why I go hardcore trying to connect and build value in person. Some guys are good at text game but I see alot of newbies try and get a number, eject, and rely on texting. May as well stick to Tinder imo...
/r/seduction10/06/16 04:44 AM
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NJ on going for it man. The ballsy moves all come down to your energy. If you have that positive, fun loving vibe and you're smiling it's insane the stuff you can get away with. If you act super serious you might creep people out unless you can pull it off as a joke. I've flopped on that a few times lol
/r/seduction10/06/16 04:31 AM
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I really don't see the point in asking. Plus i'm firmly in the RSD mindset where they talk about things like indifference. There's a chance they'll drop that they have a boyfriend anyways, either as a test or legitimately. To me asking brings up too many variables that I'm not too good at handling, but some guys are very good at it. If you have a moral issue with getting girls who are taken then thats fine. As far as your value, your reactions will do far more to affect that then the question it…
/r/seduction10/06/16 04:27 AM
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