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7	My 8 year old just told me mom’s “friend” is coming to beach with them Going forward I wouldn’t say all women are like this… but this was always the risk of signing that marriage contract. Let her take the full brunt of being a 40yo single mom. She’s already getting run through. It sucks for the child though. There’s no chance of you keeping them away from all the boyfriends that’ll go through the house until they’re 18. Hopefully once they’re a teenager it’ll click what their mother did to your family.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/26 05:21 PM
8	Ex-wife's boyfriend causing problems. In my opinion you’re over-invested emotionally in this guy. Gray-rock only works if you don’t care. You clearly do. You need to look inside at why you’re bothered by what is essentially some free childcare. When I finally emotionally detached from my ex she had gone and laid up with four dudes from my workplace. When word got around and people came with the gossip they were surprised that I could talk about it casually. I was just happy to be free, who she threw her legs back for was finally not…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/26 12:12 AM
2	I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. As an organic carbon based male with balls between my legs I salute your decision to not enter a contract of servitude! F*ck the bots!	/r/Divorce_Men	31/05/26 07:10 PM
1	Budgeting for life after the split is a massive wake-up call Well you’re splitting the debt and getting equity right? Is it enough to buy again? Or get something cash like a manufactured home? Can it eat up your debt somewhat? Or you could use it to front run all of the child support for a while. You gotta think outside of the box for sure. But you being employed should come out ahead. Meanwhile she’s having to get off her ass and see where an MBA gets her in 2026. Once she starts earning you can renegotiate child support. Then you’ll know where you stand…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/26 01:53 AM
3	I wasn't expecting how few people cared about me. Better to be alone than with people that make you feel lonely. You should try to get out of your living arrangement and move closer to your job at the least. You can’t survive in that much toxicity forever.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/26 01:08 AM
6	I think this was my 1st and last marriage I mean unless she’s rich amiright? Haha	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/26 12:53 AM
1	Need advice . Wife agrees to go our separate ways and live apart for good , but still wants to fuck exclusively . I mean if ex-wife pussy is all you can get then it’s better than nothing haha You have a rare opportunity to “cheat” on her now though. Imagine her reaction if she found out she’s just the ol watering hole for when you can’t get down to the university.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 09:52 PM
0	Dudes can't stop thinking about her. Every other women is invisible. Well escorts are cheaper than therapy haha	/r/Divorce_Men	04/05/26 02:30 AM
4	Wife wants to be debt free My divorce wasn’t nearly as painful but thank you for reminding me to never sign that line ever again.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/26 09:09 AM
5	GLP-1s marriage killers? Well now you know how she really felt but she couldn’t get anyone better. I used to see a lot of that at my old warehouse a while back. Newly divorced women on their She-E-O kick. She wants to feel like a sexy young single lady again she can’t do that with you around. Like you said she’s torched, go find a new woman.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 09:00 PM
4	How can I stop feeling hurt by her new relationship? You don’t have anything better to do than watch your ex wife’s life? Yes grieve your lost bond, but remove the blinders from your eyes. Being a husband is a sacrifice for a man. Sacrificing every other woman. Sacrificing time and money for her happiness. Sacrificing all the little things to not piss her off. It’s women who need the security of a marriage. Getting divorced from a cheater is a blessing. Imagine finding out when you’re 55 or 60. You’re just as single as you were when you met her. J…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/26 10:46 AM
4	Anyone willing to admit they actually regret leaving? Men initiating divorce is atypical by itself. Men are logical problem solvers. It’s what women like to complain about right? So when the calculated solution is to begin one of the most grueling legal processes a man can experience… you have to wonder how painful the day-to-day marriage was. I still grieve the bond and friendship I had with that woman sometimes. It’s hard to get to that close to someone more than once in life. The woman you marry isn’t the woman divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/26 05:05 AM
13	STBX sleeping with someone else You’re free now. Billions of women out there and she just opened the door for you. And chose to reenter the dating market as a 35 yo single mom (we know how that goes). She’ll be calling you within the year trying to reminisce. Probably around the holidays. Dog a few escorts to speed run the rebounds and take some time off work to go to take some trips to nature parks. Take pics of Mother Earth. It’ll take time for you to identify your hobbies. A year from now you’ll be going to court hearings a…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/26 04:23 AM
4	Red flags in possible future wives! I would suggest flipping the equation and making your position unassailable. Own your home and your assets outright. Set up necessary surveillance systems. Then acquire whatever lady you want and have babies with her if you desire. You really only need to hedge against the family court system. Surveillance to record her freakouts (hedge against false abuse claims and solid evidence to stop the victim narrative) Assets owned and in your name prior to marriage (you have a firm base post-divorce to…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/24 03:34 AM
8	Does one ever get over her betrayal of choosing to open up our private marriage to her friends, over communicating with me? Cut it quick. Now you know what to look out for in the future. Get out of there dude. You're burning mental resources to maintain your calmness that you aren't aware of. If you hit a breaking point her, her friends, the police, the judge will have no understanding. They'll just say "See! See! I told you he was an abusive narcissist!" Whatever you do during your stress response is just evidence against you.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/05/24 07:42 PM
4	If your wife has a “work husband” assume they will eventually hook up Can confirm. As a younger guy I’m still trying to figure out how to have kids and hedge against the woman that will ultimately bear them for me lol	/r/Divorce_Men	27/04/24 07:18 AM
2	Is this the healthiest r/ on Reddit? Enjoy it while it lasts.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/24 03:43 PM
5	Glad I found this place The peace, is truly enough.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/12/23 04:12 AM
2	How do you actually know if you’re ready to date again? For me I was celibate monk single for 6 months, despite being married for 8 years. Not by choice… just depression haha. Now, I talk with women that are interested and still feel guilt because I know I don’t want to bond with them. I just want that 🐱	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/23 11:02 PM
2	Recording of DV incident by stbxw Depending on where you live DV cases can be /are picked up by the state (ASK ME HOW I KNOW🤪). It’s beyond her lawyer and your divorce case. You have a video of her GRABBING at you. Did you consent to that grabbing? No? Battery. Simple. She pursued you to grab? Assault. Oh and you’re married? Mix it together… Domestic + Assault + Battery = DAAB. There’s a charge for that 😎	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/23 10:55 PM
3	Recording of DV incident by stbxw Bro mobile Reddit sucks. I just wanted to comment that you have enough evidence to at least attempt to make a case against her. I wanted to tell you to time her arrest for the weekend so she can’t see a judge until Monday. Take that time to mentally and physically fortify yourself against an enemy that has had time to study you. I retyped this like 5 times 😤 Also INAL :p	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/23 10:44 PM