Xyphos37 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man?	Question For Women	Xyphos37	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 02:26 PM

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0	Weekly Community Chat Megathread (31 May 2020) That does suck, my nephew was born 3 months ago and I haven't gotten to see him in person yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/20 12:57 AM
2	Weekly Community Chat Megathread (31 May 2020) Been going to therapy for a month or so now. I feel like it does a lot less for my mental health than the gym used to. I miss the gym so much even if I only did go there times a week for 2 months until it was shut down by COVID. Other than that I just really miss having coffee with my girl friends after lunch, miss it more than the gym or restaurant outings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/20 12:10 AM
6	Do you agree with the observation that the relatively few times women approach men it is overwhelmingly with a guy way out of their league? Jesus Christ, in which school did you learn maths?! Who taught you this nonsense that "everything" is normally distributed? I don't recall ever saying everything is normally distributed. I studied Physics at FEUP by the way. Nonetheless, you'd still expect people's looks to be normally distributed because they're independent variables (See: Central Limit Theorem), i.e. because someone looks great doesn't make you look any worse, you still look the same. The underlying assumption here is that aft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/20 10:39 AM
3	Do you agree with the observation that the relatively few times women approach men it is overwhelmingly with a guy way out of their league? Original statement was that 80% of men were below average. Take a sampling population of 1000: 800 claimed below average 200 claimed above average. Assuming worst case scenario (which is unrealistic because it assumes non-normal distribution), we've got 800 people rated 1 and 200 people rated 10 on a scale that runs the natural numbers comprised between 1 and 10. Our average rating would then be: ((800 x 1)+(200 x 10))/1000 = 2.8 Which is a ludicrous result. To further exemplify this proof by ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/20 10:13 AM
1	Male sexuality is an exploitable weakness unless sublimated & controlled Why is it psychopathic to celebrate (...) the improvement of the gene pool? Considering women seem to select against intelligence, the backbone of our modern comforts, I'm not sure this is a guarantee.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/20 02:49 PM
1	Why haven’t women evolved to be ok with men’s polygyny (sharing an alpha)? The point is that if you're guessing at a glance who has more resources, it's more likely to be the guy you know is an Engineer rather than the guy you know is attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/20 04:01 PM
1	Q4M: So...tell me about this dancing monkey. I think it'd be more correct to say that there a lot of men here who think the only performance is being the extroverted attention magnet. When I say most men love to perform, I meant that men generally love when their actions get the positive attention of women. Honestly, might even be more correct to say that they love when they get any attention from women, even negative attention is appreciated, see catcalling. If your objective is to get casual sex and you resent having to do the performanc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/20 04:18 PM
5	Q4M: So...tell me about this dancing monkey. I think you have it right. I think most men, apart from anti-social ones, do love to "perform". However I think there is one important detail that is often overlooked and that is that not all men like performing the same act and I think some men, on here in particular, resent the idea that they have to perform a particular act. I think they often overlook that there are different performances they can do to varying degrees of success and hyperfocus on a singular one. My oldest brother is your ty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/20 09:21 AM
1	Q4All: What does your love/sex life look like? How has that influenced your beliefs about gender dynamics? Between the ages of 16 and 21 I had 3 LTRs all spanning about a year. It's been 7 years or so now since I've had either a LTR or sex. Since getting my life back on track I haven't had much difficulty finding dates, a lot of them come from my SIL playing matchmaker but I can't seem to really connect or like many of the women I see on dates. Other than that I became a bit enamoured with a friend of a friend that I started hanging out with over the past 9 months or so. Asked her out, she declined a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/20 07:11 PM
1	Question For Women: If you were suddenly a man, what would you do to have sex with women? All the while going to the gym and eating clean to become a lean mean machine. Been on this step for a while. Really don't want to go on OLD though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/20 02:20 PM
1	Are the top % of women (not just in terms of attractiveness, but intelligent, career-oriented, good personality) having trouble in today's dating market? The real lucky ones are the tech bros, they have the highest base, cushy hours in fun offices, and unlimited PTO so they travel truly for fun not for work With the advent of decentralized companies, we also travel for work. I flew for work 5 times last year and I only started this new job in October, my team lead had 38 flights for work last year.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/20 10:40 AM
3	CMV: Men have become the women they want to marry I am sorry but I am already making my way to new zealand or australia (whichever accept me). Fair enough, hope it works out. I was just going to point out that it's typically very easy to come to Portugal if you're Brazilian.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 10:17 PM
2	CMV: Men have become the women they want to marry Yes, I am fun and I like to spend time around people who are also fun and will have fun with me. Same as almost everyone then. I'm describing the lifestyle of millions of normal human beings who still manage to have good jobs, relationships, and occasionally even volunteer on the weekends. Of course. I never said you weren't, you're just also describing my narcissistic father to a tee. I'm merely drawing attention to the fact that none of these behaviours or choices you're pointing out have much…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 10:14 PM
1	CMV: Men have become the women they want to marry You need alcohol to be brave?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 10:07 PM
2	CMV: Men have become the women they want to marry Did you ever wonder why my dream is to leave brazil? Try coming here to Portugal, you'll have an easier time compared to most of the West. You wouldn't be the first or last Brazilian to do so and from what I've heard, it's a gigantic improvement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 10:04 PM
2	CMV: Men have become the women they want to marry They are frugal, virgin or low n, they do not lie, they abstain from drugs, alcohol, and other party behavior Seems to me like you're just trying to justify your lack of discipline and need for substance based escapism by pointing out that unsuccessful men don't engage in the same behaviours you do. I'm biased though since what you're prescribing is the lifestyle choice of the most pathetic man I've ever met.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 10:03 PM
1	Discussion: Would you be with someone who's in their "struggle" years? Standing by an existing friend or SO when the shit hits the fan is another matter, and that is something I have done. You're better than 95% of my former friends then, believe you me almost everyone abandons you including some family.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/19 02:31 PM
2	Redpillers who don’t want to settle down until their 40s: Won’t the best women be married or single moms by then? It’s more like - you’ll be very socially unconnected and it will start to appear obvious. People with kids aren’t just going to let strange unattached men hang out with them. Meh, family exists. It's a bit weirder for you Americans I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/19 10:39 AM
1	Guys, if a woman told you that you’re “husband material”, would you take it as a compliment? Yeah I want to start my own family, so yes I still want to get married. Why would I care that some women don't find me hot enough?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/19 08:08 AM
2	Q4M: what’s your mother like? I've wanted to do that for the longest time honestly. That's actually my main motivation for hitting the gym three times a week, getting strong enough to beat him up if I choose to go down that route. It's a desire I hold but it's not a productive one, it might bring some satisfaction momentarily but I don't think it'd make me happy. I want to be happy. Moreover, there's a risk he retaliates on my mother. I think if I actually succeed in finding someone to build a family with my mother will fina…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/19 03:19 PM
3	Q4M: what’s your mother like? For what it's worth I still like her and interact with her, I call her every week to ask about how her dogs and vegetable garden are shaping up because it makes her happy. Simultaneously I know I hurt her when I plain refuse to spend Christmas, New Year's or Easter with her because her boyfriend (one who's beaten me up) will be present, in fact I just plain never share a physical location with her boyfriend. She did the best she could within her own limitations but she has some big glaring flaws…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/19 01:54 PM
2	Guys, if a woman told you that you’re “husband material”, would you take it as a compliment? I hear this all the time, it's honestly just wearing thin. Yes I do want to get married but I'm very unsuccessful at the dating game.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/19 01:38 PM
4	Q4M: what’s your mother like? My mother is a really well meaning, intelligent, hard-working person who has no spine, discipline or ability to show affection. I know she tried her best with all her children but I've never gotten so much as a hug or any encouragement from her about anything. I didn't lack anything on a material level as I was growing up, though that ended up being the case later. Her relationship with my father was lifeless though no one can blame her there seeing as my father is about the stupidest, most inco…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/19 01:25 PM
1	To those who hate current dating scene, what prevented you from finding a significant other earlier in your life? Why did you not find someone in your social circle? I was destitute and starving, had other priorities. Life's back on track now but I think I missed the best time to find someone family oriented.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/19 11:27 PM
2	With designer babies on the horizon, will parental sex selection shift heavily to pro-female? Although I dont want kids at all, I'd personally also rather have a son. My reason (which might also be reason for some women) is that I have a younger brother who was an awesome kid and I enjoyed seeing him grow up. I think this might hold more truth than just a general preference for the opposite sex. Personally, I'd ideally have three daughters and I think that's because my parents weren't good at parenting at all but I did observe my Uncle parenting my cousin a lot as we grew up (we're about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/19 08:50 AM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? I wasn’t trying to attack you, sorry if it came out that way. Don't worry about it, it was a joke. Were the women who found your academic job unappealing young? Well yeah I tend to date within my age range (20s).	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/19 03:08 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? Yeah it's pretty helpful insight thank you. I feel a bit attacked lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/19 02:34 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? Money being the sole factor wouldn't really explain Software Engineer being a negative though. There is a correlation with money though, I agree there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 05:08 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? I've always found it peculiar on how Hispanics are still so 'Other'd' in the US considering some Hispanics are indistinguishable from Latin Europeans (Like the Spanish say).	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:49 PM
3	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? No argument here, I don't even like discussing the particulars of software engineering with coworkers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:41 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? How can I not talk about my job when I'm asked about my job? Actual example from my last date: "So what do you do?" "Oh I develop AI." "Oh yeah I guess that's also needed, do you enjoy it?" "Yeah not as much as I liked Academic research but sure. How do you like being a doctor?" In my experience, women will -always- ask what I do and if I enjoy it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:37 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? anything STEM. I will say that Astronomers for whatever reason skip this rule. Quantum Physicists don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:13 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? We live across the Atlantic so I think we're safe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:08 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? Almost anything can be sexy as long as you make it exciting. I will say I've gotten better results (but not good) when I've framed my work as 'I develop AI' than saying 'I'm a Software Engineer'. Both are true but I suppose the first has more appeal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:06 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? Prestige and the popularity of the career among attractive extroverted go-getter white men. Wouldn't really account for Doctors in my experience, quite a few of them aren't particularly extroverted. Your post on the whole does make a lot of sense to me however.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 04:02 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? You might've met my brother, that's him to a tee.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 03:39 PM
1	Q4W: What determines if a certain occupation is attractive in a man? Software engineer isn't high status because normies don't actually know what a software engineer does. There aren't TV shows about sexy software engineers like there are TV shows about sexy doctors and lawyers. This makes sense to me. Conversely, everyone knows what a garbage man does, but it's not impressive or prestigious, therefore not a stereotypically attractive job. It has to meet both criteria. This also makes sense but isn't aligned with my experience. While most women, as expected, didn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 02:47 PM
1	How are you with your female friends? 1.) Do you think men in women can ever be just friends? If not, why? What about if one, or both of you are in a happy relationship? Men and women can always be friends. If they're in a happy relationship it becomes even easier for that to be the case in my opinion. 2.) Do you have female friends? If yes, what % of your regular friend group are females? Yeah, about 30% or so. Keep in mind I'm a STEM-lord and so are most of my acquaintances so even my female friends are Engineers or Scientists. 3.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/19 01:50 PM
1	CMV: RPers who claim they were “lied to” about what women find attractive reflect common and understandable misconceptions shared by many young men. However, it’s a myth that these misunderstandings are the mainstream “Blue Pill” position. Let's say I adopted the stance. How do I get the family I want if it limits me from dating any woman? Morals and honour are important but they shouldn't be an absolute barrier to getting what you want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/19 01:11 PM
9	CMV: RPers who claim they were “lied to” about what women find attractive reflect common and understandable misconceptions shared by many young men. However, it’s a myth that these misunderstandings are the mainstream “Blue Pill” position. But how do men possibly miss that girls care about looks? Negative reinforcement from other people. You're told so often that they don't that you internalize the message. It's pretty much the same way any lie told enough times becomes something you start to believe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/19 12:00 PM
2	CMV: RPers who claim they were “lied to” about what women find attractive reflect common and understandable misconceptions shared by many young men. However, it’s a myth that these misunderstandings are the mainstream “Blue Pill” position. Moreover why would you hold it against her if she wouldn't want to date someone who you admit was unhealthy and unattractive? I don't necessarily share the viewpoint though I can empathise with it and I believe the source of it comes down to the following: "You're one bad day, one unfortunate situation away from returning to your worst state." This is more personal to me but, I spent a couple of years in near-starvation while utterly failing at everything and now I've rebuilt my life, am on trac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/19 11:56 AM
2	CMV: RPers who claim they were “lied to” about what women find attractive reflect common and understandable misconceptions shared by many young men. However, it’s a myth that these misunderstandings are the mainstream “Blue Pill” position. Honestly this is it. FDS types are just the most explicit in that they want a guy who's already done the work so they can reap the rewards. My stance is if you weren't there during the work you don't get the reward. If I took this stance the only people eligible for me to date would be a couple of (male) friends since they were the ones who were around when I was starving and depressed. It's simply not a practical stance to take.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/19 11:46 AM
1	Do TV shows or works of fiction create unrealistic expectations about how easy dating is? ain't no girls out searching TINDER for scientists Can confirm. My job(s) have seemingly always been a negative.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/19 01:49 PM
1	men under 6ft constantly lie about their height on dating apps On the personality front, do you have female friends whose personalities you respect and like? Sure, several. Most of them are in relationships with pretty good guys. My cousin is also someone I really like personality-wise. All 3 of the relationships I've had started off as friends though one of them was a big misjudgement by me (ended up being a serial cheater, not just cheating on me but from meeting up with her years later so too did she cheat on subsequent boyfriends). The other two girls I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/19 06:34 PM
2	men under 6ft constantly lie about their height on dating apps Personality and life goals mostly. I'm specifically looking for someone to start a family with and someone I could see myself being with for at least two decades. I guess I have 'female-like' patterns in what I look for, i.e. someone who'd be a good mother and also someone I find interesting enough to share a life with. My brother is consistently perplexed by my stance of 'I don't know if I like her yet' when I take a girl out for coffee or a drink by the sea. He's a serial womanizer who legitim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/19 06:03 PM
1	men under 6ft constantly lie about their height on dating apps Yeah, I think anyone would settle after years of being lonely. Meh I'd rather eat the hot end of a gun than settle below my already reasonable standards. I've been alone for around 6 years now too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/19 05:16 PM
3	men under 6ft constantly lie about their height on dating apps I actually would date a genuine 5'9 man IRL, but I don't trust they are that height on dating apps This is really funny to me because I'm 5'9 and say I'm 5'9 on top of not really lying about anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/19 04:37 PM
1	What few Redpill truths, observations or accurate generalities do you think will become mainstream and socially accepted within the next few years? I have no idea. I don't wish to trample on the free rights of women and force them to pair up with people they don't want be paired up with. Simultaneously I wish there was a way to reintegrate these lost men rather than have them check out of society entirely. At the end of the day though, I don't know what that way is. I think the old ways that were employed to achieve it are no longer tenable or acceptable, we need new ones. But I don't know what these new measures could or should be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/19 02:55 PM
1	What few Redpill truths, observations or accurate generalities do you think will become mainstream and socially accepted within the next few years? The addiction to video games will cause more consumption which will again stimulate the economy. Too reductive a view in my opinion. There are more consumers than producers. If consumers have to be funded by welfare (i.e. taxes on producers) then we enter a terrible cycle that's even worse than a zero-sum exchange. It's best for everyone in a society if everyone is productive since having welfare dependents that don't produce anything around slows everyone down cumulatively because you have to t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/19 02:50 PM
2	What few Redpill truths, observations or accurate generalities do you think will become mainstream and socially accepted within the next few years? I think the sexlessness epidemic is good because it will force current guys to be better partners or never get sex. It does run the risk that you lose productive taxpayers and workers to escapism like porn and video-games funded by terrible jobs or worse still welfare that places an even bigger burden on the most productive members of society. Risk worth taking? We'll find out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/19 02:43 PM
4	What few Redpill truths, observations or accurate generalities do you think will become mainstream and socially accepted within the next few years? Why am I supposed to feel sorry for them if they don't even bother to try? You're not. They've decided for themselves that they're not willing to put in the effort to get what they want. They can (and do) complain that the amount of effort required is absurd (in their perspective). The fact that they complain does not mean you, or anyone really, have to pay attention and fix their problem. What some might point out is that, historically, societies that don't properly integrate their men tend to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/19 02:38 PM
2	Most advice to young men(and women) is economically non viable. Objectively? Yes. Unfortunately my emotions and insecurities don't quite care that I rationally acknowledge it likely had nothing to do with how I am.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/19 10:48 AM
2	Most advice to young men(and women) is economically non viable. What a shitty thing to tell someone. But hurt people, hurt people. I’m sure someone made her feel this way at some point in time. I doubt her assessment is rooted in reality. It's been over a decade since that person told me that and to this day I'm still split on whether she was right or not. She wasn't lashing out to hurt me with that comment I think, we wouldn't break up until 4 months or so after she had said it and even after that we remained mostly amicable. Main reason I still consider sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/19 10:26 AM
2	Most advice to young men(and women) is economically non viable. The fear of people who admittedly have no assets and still fear being divorce raped. Have assets, don't care about divorce rape. The fear of alimony which is virtually non existent. Don't fear this either. The fear that they are nothing but beta buxx and that some woman will walk down the aisle with them, and all the while she will be consciously thinking they are sexually repulsive and planning a branch swing. Could happen but seems like it'd stem more out of paranoia than anything else. I'm no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/19 09:33 AM
2	Is there any point dating if you're a shitty provider? Your guy and me seem to have similar stories, hope he's doing well since it isn't easy to crawl out of constant failure and fix one's life. I'm glad he had you to support him through it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/19 04:24 PM
10	Q2dating challenged/sexually unsuccessful men: wouldn't it be better to be gay? Potentially but if I had been gay and was just as unsuccessful I'd probably wonder if being straight wouldn't have been better. Ultimately it seems like a silly question, I'm hetero and just have to deal with the reality of that orientation. I think better than wishing that one were gay, it's probably better to work on losing thirst so that your mind is free to concern itself with things that have a better chance of making you happy if you're consistently failing at dating and/or casual sex. It'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/19 12:17 PM