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The stigma is so bad about dating apps that I'd be embarrassed to be caught on one. Eventhough it could be a great way to find a partner for loners like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:30 PM
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At home.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:10 PM
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Ok turnes out the "good guy" doesn't want kinds and I do. What to do now? Do I stay with him forever eventhough I want kids? What about if he cheated? What if we grow as people and we don't get along anymore? What if he breaks up with me? What value do men have if they devalue us? Is it not illogical to start a relationship with a man because most relationships end in break ups and women will inevitably left less valuable?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:01 AM
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Why would a woman sleep with you, if sleeping with you makes her less valuable?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:25 AM
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Having no body hair is worse to me than having no hair hair on your head. I don't mind him beig bald but I really like chest hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:24 AM
2

But then tall women could argue that they'd need the bigger ration too. Or people argue that some men are to small to deserve the bigger portion.
/r/MensRights02/07/22 03:32 PM
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I think it's only a problem to most wonen when it's done excessively.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:44 PM
0

I personally would avoid havig children at all costs if I can't offer them a household with both mom and dad. I see their need for an intact household as more important than my wish to have children. Of course nothing os really safe. My husband could die or leave me and the kids. But at least I know I did everything within my means to give them an intact family.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:24 AM
1

I actually agree with this one. If women make the argument that things like making sexist jokes perpetuate rape culture, rewarding agressive men is too. Or men who are into BDSM. (If he is the sadist, not the masochist)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:20 PM
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So everyone who only has had sex on birth control is still a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:14 PM
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I don't get it. Do you suggest it should be illegal for a women to denie their partner sex? Or what does pussy whipping mean?
/r/MensRights23/04/22 06:46 AM
7

I don't know any guy I'd want to be friends with. And I'm saying this with absolutely no bad feelings towards men. We just don't have enough in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:20 AM
2

I wouldn't blame anyone for their shitty family. However if I saw him mistreat members of his family, I'd be out. You can have a shitty family but if you choose to engage with them on a regular basis and stop as low as them, it's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:06 AM
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I remember I was shocked too when I saw the original post. But it atually makes sense. The couply splits every bill 50:50. They both earn very well. 100.000+ a year. The women would have extra costs for the birth and will lose income which is calculated to be between 50.000-100.000. If the couple splits everything 50:50, why should she be the only one paying for this baby to be born?
/r/MensRights11/03/22 06:00 AM
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I never doubted any of these things. I'm just saying you accusing her of something she did not do is not really helpful to the situation. In fact, being accused of something you did not do, is exactly what you are afraid of. So why is it ok when you do it?
/r/MensRights07/03/22 08:09 PM
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Yes absolutely agree. But he has to no right to the kid then. It should basically be handled like an adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:13 PM
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Honest question, let's say you have a date with a woman and invite her to your home to cook for her. Would you prefer she says "No, I think you might be a rapist like most men" or would you prefer her to say "I'd rather go for a walk in the park to get to know you a bit more first" ? You could've just said you don't feel comfortable with hugs. But instead you accused her of potentially lying about sexual assault. Yes we all need to be cautious in certain situations. But there is no need to accus…
/r/MensRights07/03/22 07:04 PM
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I'm not attracted to bisexual men and I'm straight so I haven't and wouldn't do anything with a woman. Yes I guess it would be hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:28 AM
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But you still put hundreds of thousands lf dollars into them that could've been saved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:22 PM
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One income for 1 person is still much more than two incomes with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:59 AM
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I'm not saying women would act differetly if given the oportuniy. I'm just saying it's wrong to state women were the ones sending men to war.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:09 PM
2

What makes it sound like I wouldn't date someone who earns less? I literally just said that wouldn't even be realisitically for me even if I wanted to. I feel like you can't comprehend that not every women is after a men's money. There are many benefits to marriage that I listed but you think money is all women want so I don't think this concersation lead anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:38 PM
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I earn enough to the point it's probably unrealistic to find a guy within my age range that ears the same as me but of course I am the gold digger if I want to share our assets once we are married. Most married people share their income. That's pretty standard. We are a unit are what's mine is his and vice versa. I wouldn't have a problem with a prenub though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:13 PM
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I think I adressed your point by saying we don't have the same values after all if he doesn't want marriage. He could be perfect in every aspect I don't think he values me and our children enough if he doesn't want marriage. I already stared that children living with married parents have a better life. But it would also be shameful for me to have children out of marriage. And I live in germany not some highly religious country but women who have children with their boyfriends vs their husbands f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:05 PM
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I literally just listed all the reason why being married benefits children. It's not only about divorcing. It's about never being married. If put your childrens wellbeing first, you'd marry someone who makes a good father/mother and work on that marriage. Also, the main reason men don't want to marry is money. And I want a relationship where we share everything. I earn pretty good and I have no problem sharing everything. But I expect my husband to have the same mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:57 PM
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Children born with married biological parens have better physical, emotional, and academic well-being.nothing is set in stone. But that's what statistics say. And if my boyfried doesn't put our future kids wellbeing above everything else, I don't think we have the same values.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:40 PM
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Nothing in life is guaranted. But children living with their biological parents have better physical, emotional, and academic well-being. And I don't want to intentionally rob my children of that. My boyfriend either wants what is best for them too, or I wouldn't consider him as a father. But I also think the high divorce statistics are due to people not vettig their partner good enough, and not putting in any efford into the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:29 PM
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Your list pretty much sums it up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:11 PM
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In that case I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:09 PM
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War in the US is about money and nothing else. I don't believe women are any less geedy than men are. So I don't believe women are less at fault. There are less women in positions of power but I don't doubt they would at the same way as men in power do. My point was just that it's wrong to say women are sending men to war.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:09 PM
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The only valid thing you listed (in my opinion) would be transgender. Not to the point where I believe they are acutally the same thing as biological women/men but I do believe it's a legit condition that makes you feel like you are in the wrong body. And I'd always gender them by their prefered gender. I think transgender indiduals would most likely feel more inclined to believe the idiology of their preferred gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:04 PM
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I'm not saying women can't be just as evil. But you claim women send men to war when the decision of war has been done by men. At least when we look at the greatest instanz.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:54 PM
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Oh I didn't know she made it to the presidency?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:48 PM
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I do think a persons past matters. Why shouldn't it? Actions speak louder than words and I'd rather judge someones promiscuous past, than take their word for how loyal they are. However, I'd still judge a man that hat sex with prostitutes more than someone who had causal sex with willing women. It's off-putting to me that men (or anyone for that matter) would be willing to have sex with someone that doesn't actually want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:45 PM
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For the sake of my future children, no. I want them to have a stable home. If my partner doesn't want that, we are simply not a good fit. It's fine to not want to be married. Or not want children. But I want a partner who wants both because it shows he has the same values as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:28 PM
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They have a few opinions I agree with. The problem is they aren't willing to give what they expect. There is a double standard. Yes men can be trashy and I do belive in the concept of LVM. But the same goes for women. They can be just as bad and undateable. But everything a women does is being excused while men get bashed for the smallest things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:21 PM
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It's basically the only way to have kids without having to face societies scorn. Single mothers are ridiculed while single fathers get praised. Yes obviously divorce rates are high but the rates of relationship break ups are much higher. Also a child born into marriage has a much more stable invironent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:17 PM
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Someone is only to drunk to consent if he or she isn't able to say no anymore. I don't think being to drunk to consent should include having sex with someone because your inhabitions are lowered due to alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:25 AM
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Your explanation isn't really what the male gaze is about. It's basically about displaying female characters how straight males want to see them. For example women fighting in skin tight suits and high heels. If a woman walks up stairs the camera zeros in on her ass. Stuff like that. I don't think there is anything really wrong with that. I mean I do get that people who care about accuracy would be annoyed with seeing a woman fighting in heels and no armour while her male counterparts are wearin…
/r/MensRights24/01/22 04:35 AM
1

You honestly believe so many men would be fat 43% of them already are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 08:53 AM
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If all women were hot and fit but half of men were still obese, we'd have more single women unwillng to date rather then fat men paired up with fit women. I don't see how this is helping hypergamy. If women aren't willing to date down, why would them being more attractive then most men help this problem? At least now, fat women can pair up with fat men. Which they do. Acording to statistics about fat people dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:16 AM
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You can literally just google obese women percentage america
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:05 AM
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There are more obese men in the US than there are obese women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:49 AM
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41.9% of women are obese in the US and 43% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:48 AM
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I didn't take it personell. And yes I agree. On most other subreddis my original comment would already be deleted. Anything that suggest there is a difference between trans women and biological women is very controversal.
/r/MensRights13/01/22 05:24 PM
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"If they are not real women, then the entire trans dialogue is gibberish." I don't mind calling a trans woman, woman as long as she actually represents as a woman. But there are differences that can't be denied.
/r/MensRights13/01/22 05:00 PM
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No, but what I really hate is when people cry during an argument and act like them crying makes me the asshole for even speaking about an issue. It only ever happens with my sister, but the only reason where I'd be annoyed with crying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 02:42 PM
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That's why I'm against trans women in women's sport.
/r/MensRights13/01/22 11:04 AM
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I absolutely agree. And I kind of wonder how people are able to date multiple people at the same time. How much free time do they have? Is dating all they do beside work?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:21 AM
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I don't see how most of this is a gendered problem? I mean I absolutely agree that it's easier to find a partner when you are a woman. Eventhough I wouldn't say not finding a partner would make anyone suicidal. I didn't have a boyfriend untill I was 23 after I finally lost weight. Also claiming genetics about being overweight makes me a bit suspicious cause in most cases it's not the truth. If the housing and school system sucks in your country, it sucks for both genders. Or do women get an 30%o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:05 AM
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It makes me cringe. But they can do whatever they want. It doesn't really bother me. I wouldn't associate with these people so I don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:26 AM
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Most of these things apply to me and I'm still happy. I used to be fat. The body positivity movement didn't do anything for me. I have eyes I know I was ugly. Doesn't matter what kind of lies people tell only about every body is beautiful. Also, a gym body is not unnatural. I don't use dating apps. I obviously have to work to support myself. The school system and work force is also rigged against people coming from poverty. But I still made it and wouldn't see this as a serious life altering iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:49 AM
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No, marriage is a must if we'll have kids. Ther are a lot of benefits to it. But I wouldn't mind a prenub. Actually I'd insist on one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:46 PM
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I'm not gonna lie I think circumcised dick looks better. But that doesn't mean I support it. I wouldn't circumcise my future sons. And I wouldn't admit to any potential boyfriends that I like the circumcised look. I get that it's a fucked up think to do without the persons permission.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:44 PM
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Because I have a daily 3h train ride and need to pass the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:38 PM
1

Yes. I think that's what being a straight women means.
/r/MensRights02/01/22 09:11 AM
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I'm straight and I don't watch lesbian porn. The only reason I watch gay porn is because you actually get to see the guys faces. Straight porn only focuses on the women.
/r/MensRights02/01/22 05:58 AM
1

Like always, it's all about profit. If male only gyms were profitable, there probably would be plenty. What I think is really unfrair, are women only spaces in regular gyms. They all pay the same price but women get the extra space. But I don't what's wrong with women only gyms? I mean I can see the problem because women are invading male only spaces too. But in my opinion gendered spaces should be able to exist. Including women only gyms. We should just give men the right to their own spaces to…
/r/MensRights28/12/21 07:15 AM
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My first point still stands. Even if it's just 30% in coubtried wherebit's legal it's still common. I live in germany. It's legal here. But there are are still tobs of women especially from east european coubtries forced into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:28 AM
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It doesn't have to be the majority for it to be common. It's like saying It's pretty common to rain in brittain. That doesn't mean it has to rain most days. But if we are looking at sex workers all over the world, I wouldn't be surprised if the ones forced into it are actually the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 10:51 PM
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We don't really know that. Forced Prostitution is a thing. I don't think it's the majority or prostitutes, but it's not uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:22 PM
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I mean you still have to be interested in the same topics. I love to watch history documentatins but it's not something I'd want to talk about on the regular. Design, programming, websites, Apps and marketing are topics I could talk about for hours. But to me being passionate about sonething and being willing to learn about it can already be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:20 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy who had sex with 100 women either but I'd still prefer him because it's consensual sex between 2 people who actually wanted it. Yes some women (or men for that matter) might get their hearts broken. But as long as the person that wants casual sex, let's the other person know it's only casual, I don't think it's morally wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 05:10 PM
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Yeah I look down on sex work too. But I can't deny it isn't becomig more mainstream and normalized. Even just the fact we call it "sex work". I don't think it will get to the point where kids will see prostitutes advertising for their work field at school but there will definetly be change. Sex workers won't get disowned by their familys as often. They won't have a hard time finding a husband. The stigma won't be as bad. Stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:48 AM
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Op said pretty much the only option people with OF have is tendig bars in a strip club. Which I think is bullshit. I'm not saying there are no consequesnces to sex work, but most former OF creators won't have a problem finding a regular job. I'm pretty much the opposide. I don't really respect sex work tbh but I also think OP is heavily exaggerating the consequences in the work force they might face.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:43 AM
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Do you really think this one aticle proves anything? Do you know how many women do sex work? I know some will get fired here and there. But that's just a very small minority compared to the millions who do sex work. Besides, the world is only getting more progressive. Sex work is getting normalized. Sex workers will only have it easier in the future. I'm not a fan of sex work but you're delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:36 AM
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A lot of people finance their studies through sex work and later on transition to their proffesional fields. And they are still getting hired. Most people even work while doing OF as a side hustle cause it doesn't get them enough money. You're making it out to be a much bigger thing than it actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 08:53 AM
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OP claimed women who did OF can't find another job besides other sex work. You don't have to be a harvard graduate to find a job outside of sex work. But I don't doubt that women exist who financed their studies at harward through sex work and later on became sucxesful in their respective field. And my religious hillbilly comment meant if you don't live in an highly religious area, nobody will care that you did sex work when they are hiring you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 08:47 AM
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In what kind of religious hillbilly country do you live that you think having an OF will keep them from having other jobs? I'm not a fan of sex work but it's delusional to think hiring managers will care about this shit. As long you don't audition to be tom cruise 6th wife, you're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:29 AM
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I was about to answear but then I saw yours and I have nothing to add.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 05:28 PM
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"Under section 1 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003, the use of the phrase "his penis" results in females being statutorily excluded from being able to commit rape."
/r/MensRights25/12/21 07:01 AM
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I think basically anywhere is fine. But we should've had at least a short concersation prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:17 PM
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I think most women see muscular men as some to keep them safe and not someone potentionally dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:15 PM
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Paternity tests are the one thing in a relationship where the guy should lie to their partner. Just do it without consulting her. If you ask her, your're basically accusig her of cheating. So just do it and be safe.
/r/MensRights24/12/21 08:11 PM
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If she had no issue kneeling in front of you during your relationship you shouldn't make a fuss kneeling this once. I think if you actually have a strong loving relationship you wouldn't even think about non issues like this. It sounds like feminist woman complaining about cooking dinner and serving their men food. If you actually love him, you'd be happy to do it.
/r/MensRights24/12/21 08:05 PM
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As a woman...I watch gay porn. It's fine if guys watch lesbian porn. And I have no idea what "fetishize" even means? It seems like it' applies whenever someone is turned on by something that another person is angry about.
/r/MensRights24/12/21 07:57 PM
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It's really fucked up that women can't be charged with rape in the uk. But "she" is not legally a woman. That's why he's been tried as a male. I mean he is 60 and just now identifies as a woman. Comes in handy when you are a sex offender about to be tried for your offenses. There shouldn't be a difference between how court handles men and women. But it also shouldn't be allowed for male sex offender to go to female prisons because they decided to be female all of a sudden. No hate towards trans …
/r/MensRights24/12/21 07:47 PM
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I think most men do care, because most men don't make enough money to provide for two people. They probably don't care that much about the amount the woman makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:05 PM
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Yeah that could happen. But in the end I'd always do what's best for my family and in this case it would be better to have a good income.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 06:02 PM
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I'd hate it. I want to be equal in all my relationships. Wheter it be romatically friendship or just being acquaintances.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:54 PM
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To me the whole "makig less money during pregnancy and after" is actually the reason why women should date men who can financially support them and their family. I don't know why tha tis so taboo to say. For me personally him earning less wouldn't be a dealbreaker because I already make good money. And I'd rather him be a SAHD since I love my job to much to take a big break.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:49 PM
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It really depends on what extent he does them. It can be fun and can take the seriousness out of a situation, but it could also easily cross the line to being awards and overplayed. I generally love when people think highly of themselves. I love when they have great self-esteem, as long as they aren't looking down on others. I think people unconsciously internalize these notions about themselves if they do it too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:27 PM
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The standard on how I want to be treated in a relationship has nothing to do with what he did with his exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:12 PM
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I'm not against prostitution. It's legal where I'm from, and I think that's a good thing. But I wouldn't date anyone that paid for prostitutes. I'm sure most of you wouldn't date a girl that used to be a prostitute, either. (Understandably)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:13 AM
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I don't know what's normal anymore. I wouldn't do anal. But it seems to be pretty nornal for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:24 PM
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Porn is in most cases not a job that you do cause you enjoy it. So that example doesn't hold much weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:23 PM
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I don't think so. I'm not saying all of them hate it but there are some really fucked up porn genres. A lot of them suffer serious injuries with life-long consequences during filming.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:24 AM
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If someone doesn't want to give you what you want sexually, it doesn't automatically mean they aren't attracted to you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:22 AM
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If a 10/10 girl's kink is to pegg you with a 10 inch dildo infront yof your family would you say you aren't attracted to her if you decline?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:45 AM
1

Do you honestly think female pon stars enjoy their work?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:34 AM
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You know, gay porn exists too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:33 AM
1

Ok I'll admit it. I like less emotional guys. I still want to listen to your problems and it's fine to cry as long as you have a valid reason to cry. But I don't want to date a guy that cries about the slightest inconvinence. I only really cry when people I care about cry so I think it's fair to make that demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:53 AM
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It's not wrong, but unfortunately not realistic for most people nowadays. Most people need both partners to work in order to make ends meet. So to me, it would feel wrong to put that burden on my husband alone. But that really depends on each couple's personal financial situation. It's definitely the best option for people with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 10:55 AM
1

My happyness is 9/10 usually. I think a big part of happyness is about attitude towards life. More than the general circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 07:05 PM
1

Different women are in to different styles. It's not worth to change your wardrope for every girl you date. Eventhough there probably are some styles that appeaö to the majority of women. That being said, I still think people should take their partners opinion into consideration when it comes to special occasions. If my boyfriend want me to wear a dress for a work function, I'll wear a dress. If I want him to dress up to go to a wedding together, he'll wear a suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 04:24 PM
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Different women are in to different styles. It's not worth to change your wardrope for every girl you date. Eventhough there probably are some styles that appeaö to the majority of women. That being said, I still think people should take their partners opinion into consideration when it comes to special occasions. If my boyfriend want me to wear a dress for a work function, I'll wear a dress. If I want him to dress up to go to a wedding together, he'll wear a suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 04:23 PM
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I think basically every man uses online dating. So I wouldn't say only losers use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 04:10 PM
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Working 70h weeks and having to drive 1,5h twice a day to work. I looked like shit when I had to do this. I also ate terrible because eating a donut was the only fun part of my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:49 AM
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At a social event. We talk for a while and then he asks me out. I'd prefer something where I'm not forced to see him everyday if it might not work out. Like the gym or work would be akward.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:35 AM
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So you're telling me loyal men don't exist and that given the chance, any men would cheat? I may be naive, but I don't believe this. Don't project your loose morals onto all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 02:19 PM
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We have sex almost everyday. But if I couldn't see my boyfriend for a month, I wouldn't seek sex elsewhere. And neither would he. I think you can have a high libido to the point where you could want sex 5 times a day but still be loyal to your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:03 PM
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No I don't think so. But men can have a different approach to sex than me but have the same understanding of loyalty, exlusivity and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 03:34 AM
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I don't have male friends. And this is the reason. Not that I think all men can't have a casual friendship with women but it just feels wrong to go out to the cinema when I have a boyfriend. Even if that guy doesn't have feelings for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 03:31 AM
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I honestly have no friends that would be up for casual sex. And I wouldn't be either. I admit I didn't have all that much dating experience before I met my boyfriend. But even then it was pretty much clear I was the only person they were seeing. And they were the only one I was seeing. When I had the feeling that was not the case, I didn't go on another date with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:43 PM
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I wouldn't date anyone that has sex with other people. People on reddit seem to think that that's the norm and I can't expect anyone to be only interested in me during the dating stage but in real life I don't know anyone who'd have sex with others while dating someone. Maybe I'm I'm just lucky with my social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:17 PM
1

It wouldn't determine wheter I'd be in a relationship with him or not. There are worse things than a small penis. I'd still think he's a 10/10 if i love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:57 AM
2

My work colleague is 22 and her boyfriend 40 something. I'd usually find relationships like these weird but I never would've guessed she's that young. Not because she looks like it. I mean she dresses very well and professionell. Well all do at work. But she is so capable at work eventhough she just started. And she seems very mature and smart. Her boyfriend is also a great guy. Same as her very fit, good looking and extremly smart. I think there is a big difference if someone dates young women …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 10:08 AM
1

I never really had male friends and I don't want any. But I'd prefer if he'd just be straight forward. I'd be more open to a guy wanting a relationship than a guy wanting a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:59 AM
4

Why is it wasted time? I'm sure most guys wouldn't think it's wasted time when could spend their 20's having sex with hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:30 AM
5

Marriage ties two people together just like kids do. Neither should be a frivolous decision. Kids have a better childhood and grow up to be better humans if both parents stay together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:24 PM
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I'd stand by him no matter what happends as long as it was out of his control. Loyalty is extremely important to me. As long as he is still putting efford into the relationship, I will do it asweell.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:51 AM
2

For people who don't want kids I'd agree with this. Otherwise not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:04 AM
1

The only guy I had sex with is my boyfriend and it took 5 weeks. But we did other stuff untill then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:15 AM
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This was actually done in my country. At least when it comes to early child education. My niece has been in many differet kindergardes since they moved a lot. There were always almost as many male as there were female kindergarden teachers. Kids need male rolemodels. Especially since these teacher are the only male rolemodel some kids will ever have
/r/MensRights04/11/21 12:24 PM
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None. I'd either date someone that makes me feel good and wants to be in a monogamous relationship, or no one at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:53 PM
1

I thought we were talking about feminism here? No, Black people aren't more privileged than white people. But they are definitely favored in the eye of feminism nowadays.
/r/MensRights31/10/21 05:43 PM
1

I'm not deflecting theirs. I'm just saying most people were racist. Which is not wrong.
/r/MensRights31/10/21 03:35 PM
1

Dude I literally just said most people were racist back then. How is that excusing racism? There are about 90 years between the first wave of feminism in the US and the civil rights movement. Do I really habe to explain to you that there there was a whole different level of racism in the 1850's then it was in 1960's ?
/r/MensRights31/10/21 03:01 PM
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I'm calling out everyone cause everyone was racist back then. That's my whole point. I even used women in my example. But seems like some you can't take critique of a post on here as if it's an attack on your life.
/r/MensRights31/10/21 02:28 PM
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Like I said I don't doubt there are racist feminists. Eventhough I think the trend is heavily weighting towards hating white men instead of black men nowadays. But still, I'm sure both exist. But your argument that feminists are racists because they don't want men to have a fair trial just like black men didn't or often still don't have a fair trial is completly ridiculous to me. I'm talking about the US and most people were racist back then. Especially to nowadays standart. And yes agree it was…
/r/MensRights31/10/21 02:19 PM
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A men's rights movement wasn't really necessary back then. So I don't know what what your point is? I'm just saying basically anyone was racistt in america 100+years ago.
/r/MensRights31/10/21 02:11 PM
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So a movement that was started 100+ years ago was full of racists? Shocking. Guess what? All the men back then were racist too. You could make the same claims about basically any organisation founded back then. National baseball league? Racists. Your great grandmas that meet up once a week to knit scarfs for the homeless? Racists. And feminists nowadays are still racist because they judge men before they got a fair process? No doubt there are also racist feminists. But saying they are racist bec…
/r/MensRights31/10/21 03:57 AM
2

I'd start crying too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 08:00 PM
0

Ok I'm guilty of saying this to my friends. And I stand by it. But in another context. It's not about some grand gesture. If he wanted to spend time with you, he would. If he wanted to text you, he would. Some people are all talk but no action. They always find excuses why they couldn't do this or that. But if they actually wanted to do it, they would. Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't put in the same efford as you do. This could be said about women aswell. Obviously you need to comm…
/r/MensRights14/10/21 05:46 AM
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Don't give advice if they aren't ask for it. But in case they do ask, I'd ask them what they bring to the table to compensate for their demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:31 AM
2

Not my thing. I mean I would try certain things if my boyfriends want to. But others are completly of the table. I'm not into pain. So anything causing to much pain is a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:12 AM
1

Not being lazy. Being optimistic. He's mature and got his priorities straight. I can depend on him if times are rought and he appreciates my effords.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:10 AM
2

The guy on the right has zero appeal to me looks wise. And obviously the personality too. He looks like handsome squidward.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:29 AM
1

I'd date him eventhough I'm not really into white dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:34 PM
6

Why would any women choose pre?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:21 AM
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Well it's much better to be a tall woman than it is to be a short man. Isn't that what you're all ranting about all the time? That women have it easier on the dating market. Not that I disagree. But it means that aming for good looking sons, is more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:10 AM
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I know your little incel brain can't comprehend people finding love outside your chad and stacy analogy. But that's how normal people date. Neither of us are models. But he is a 10/10 to me and I'm a 10/10 to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:52 AM
2

Definetly the Virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:08 AM
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Also their biggest insult is "women only want hot men" the full timeline is full of memes about how women only want chad. Like, yes attractive people are desireable. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:56 AM
4

I feel like a lot more people should be childfree. The way some people treat their children, I have a hard time beliving they actually want them. We should get rid of the childfree stigma so some idiots who didn't even think about what it means to be a parent aren't traumatizing their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:53 AM
1

Why are all men on here thinking we hate them just because we wouldn't date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:06 AM
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Well I'm only half white and half arab so I'm not sure this one is for me but no, I'm not into white people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:44 PM
5

Or never have kids with men who won't marry you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:21 PM
1

It's only a fact if you have a study to back your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:55 AM
1

Rhen why is everyone here complaining that women only date chads and that the average guy doesn't get a chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:48 AM
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Moral of the story, stay in your lane. Goes for both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:35 AM
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I thought a big part of asia has the problem that their women don't want to marry their men anymore? Or was that just south korea and japan?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:18 AM
3

"Grow a sense of humor" Am I expected to only laugh about my own jokes all day?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:16 AM
0

You said being ugly is creepy to you. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:11 AM
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To me it means behaviour that is not in line wirh social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:53 PM
2

I'm not saying everything is set in stone but we all make assumptions. You included. Why do men on here keep saying they want women with a low body count? Because they assume she'll be more faitfull. That her sexual expectations aren't as high as those of women who had a lot of different sexual partners. That she probably won't mind their small penis all that much. They are all just assumptions. But these are things I've heard guys one here make about women with a low body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:28 PM
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No. Why would you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:22 PM
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The supposed "nice guy" cares that keeps conplaining that women only date bad guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:22 PM
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I used to think nice guy finish last was about the guy waiting to cum cause he makes her cum first and that's a nice thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:06 PM
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Does a humanbeing really only have value to you if she/he is attractive enough for you to have sex with them? That's a sad way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:52 PM
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First of, a lot of men just asume that the guy their crush is into is a bad boy simply cause he is attractive. One thing could be that he only started showing his true colours once she was deep into the relationship with him. Most women don't want to be treated badly. Obviously. She is either dependent on him or to afraid to leave. Another option is that some wome would rather date a Bad guy that's hot and has a personality than an ugly dude that has nothing going on for him. But they'd prefer i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:50 PM
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Why would I? I couldn't care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:39 PM
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It does tell a lot about you. Most people can read others wothout them having to say every single detail about themselfes. If I told you I like to hunt, go to church every sunday, own several guns and won't vaccinate my kids, you could probably guess wich political party I'd vote for. That what we all do. We make assumptions about each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:38 PM
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Why wouldn't I want them around? I can still appreciate and be friendly to the delivery guy for bringing me my package eventhough I wouldn't have sex with him. Or even if they don't serve a y purpose to me, they can still exist in the same universe as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:33 PM
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That's not what we asked for. We just wouldn't date them. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:20 PM
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I'm pretty happy where I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:19 PM
2

I'm half german half tunesian.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:14 PM
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That's just your revenge boner talking. We both know nothing about her other than that she is in a relationship with a tall man. A lot of tall men are into small women. And I'm saying this as someone who is 1.79m. It's not like I defend her cause I'm small myself. I just don't think most men are sociopaths who'd pretend to be in a relationship with a woman and then dump her jist because she isn't tall??? What kind amof crazy logic is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:13 PM
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You k ow who started the body positvity movement? Women. It's not like men were complaining Bout a lack of fat women to date. So why are you expecting women to start a men's body positivity movement?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:08 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:05 PM
2

I have no idea what it's like dating as a short women since I' pretty tall myself. But she didn't explicitly mention dating struggles. She could be talking about everyday struggled. And she never said she isn't concerned for her sons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:05 PM
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I'm 1.79m. I think that's 5'10? Not sure. But that's my minimum. But obviously taller is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:02 PM
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She called him her partner. That pretty much suggest they are in a commited relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:55 PM
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Why are you so bothered by it? My version of a hot guy includes many different traits. Why aren't you pissed I didn't mention he has a beard? Or that he has full hair? Yes I like that he is tall but I didn't think about it when I made my list. It's not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:53 PM
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She is short and it seems like she doesn't like it. But she probably just mentioned a girl cause she can relate to the struggles of short girls, since she is one herself. She never said short women have it worse then short men. I think she wouldn't want a short child either. And the way short guys complain about being short on here, it doesn't seem that crazy to not want that for her future children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:50 PM
2

Women: please have teeth and a job that's not minimum wage. Men: WOMEN ARE SO ENTITLED WITH THEIR DELUSIONAL STANDARTS!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:37 PM
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Why is she delusional when she got what she asked for? If she is hot, she probably won't have a have a hard time finding other tall men if it doesn't work out with her current boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:35 PM
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I didn't mention it because I think saying he is hot pretty much includes all my physical requirements. I didn't mention he has a beard or dark eyes either. Height matters to me. He should be at least as tall as me. But I think most men wouldn't want to date a woman that is taller than them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:29 PM
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Yeah tall men are hot. What's new?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:20 PM
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Not sure. I'm 1.79 m tall and I'd say he is about 10cm taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:14 PM
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Just because 2 things can cause trauma, doesn't mean they are the same thing. That like saying you served in Afghanistan because no one want to touch you. Or you got robbed at gunpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:02 PM
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I think the pathetic one is the guy for being with her. She is just a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:59 PM
2

I know it's worse in the us than it is everywhere else because their gun control is basically non existend. But as long as these dudes aren't harming others, (in other countries) they are not that big of a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:56 PM
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That's an american problem. And since ugly dudes exist across the globe, I'd say there is more than one cause for school shootings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:50 PM
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He is hot and we have the same mindset. He is ambitious and loves his work. He works out a lot. He isn't someone who likes to sit on his ass all day. He always comes home with a smile on his face. He isn't a complainer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:47 PM
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With trans woman in woman sports, this isn't as delusional as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:40 PM
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Men should understand that woman have options. If one cares about virginity, there are thousands left who don't give a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:38 PM
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The funny thing is, the fat woman has much better chances to date a hot guy than the men on here have to date a 2/10 woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:32 PM
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Whats hypocritical about it? I'm just wishing you good luck. I hope you break a world record of sexlessness or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:29 PM
2

I mean I could say the same about an abortion ban. It's not to punish the women. It's for the benefit of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:27 PM
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To another 15 years🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:14 PM
2

I could ever visit a brothel because I don't get off on the idea that some guy has to sleep with me cause he needs money. The second option would probably be much more popular among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:07 PM
2

How are men creating value? By working. Work isn't exclusively done by men. How you didn't see this on your own is beyond me. Yes women work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:34 AM
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The important information here is that the couple agreed on separate finances. So her income is hers and his income is his. Obviously they can change their mind and if he wants to share their incomes he can ask. But he can't demand it. And it seems especially entitled since he bashed her business from the beginning.
/r/MensRights06/09/21 05:20 AM
2

Not wanting someone 20+ years older and obese is not being picky. And most men manange to find someone in their own age range that is on a similar level attractive vise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 12:21 PM
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For men the numbers would be similar. Most wouldn't want an obese woman. Most would want someone in their age range. Then subtract all the married women or women in relationships. There isn't much left.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:10 AM
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There is calculator where you can calculate how many men have the criteria you are loooking for. Mine comes to 2,4% but they don't include personality traits. So the number is much lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:55 AM
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If there are women like this, it would me a one in a million thing. It's like finding a random stranger to donate you a kidney who isn't about to die. It's very unlikely. In fact, if religious people are actually all that giving and care about human life, they should all be runing around with one kidney. But they don't. No one givess a fuck about a unborn child or a born one for that matter, if they actually have to put any effort into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 09:30 PM
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Lol absolutely not. There are hundreds of thousands of children in foster care. Where are the devout christian men and women now? Do you actually think a woman would carry another random mens child to terms just out of the godness of her heart? That's laughable. Pregnancy isn't a walk in the park. Also, you're delusional if you think churches would spend that much money for surrogates. They only care about saving potential life as long as they don't have to pay anything for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 09:18 PM
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It's much lower than that. I'd date someone who is 7+ years older than me and -2 younger. That alone is less than 20% of men. Take away the guys who aren't single and obese guys and it's less than 1%. But there are still millions of guys who do fit the criteria. So it doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 09:01 PM
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Most men don't have 50k+ sitting around somewhere to pay of a surrogate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 08:57 PM
2

Then you can break up if it bothers you. But being suicidal because your girlfriend tried sexual things with others that she doesn't want to repeat, is embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 02:36 PM
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Tbh I think you are both assholes. Her for obvious reasons, and you: ​ I then go to the bathroom and clean myself up but have a pang of anger and punch a big BIG hole in our plater wall… all of this happens in front of our kids
/r/MensRights02/09/21 11:59 AM
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Then don't date her. If I met a guy who went through a terrible divorce and therefor doesn't want to marry anymore, I'd just not date him. I understand his view and respect his decision but if marriage is something I want, we'd be uncompartible. But being suicidal over what what your partner did before she even knew you is pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 07:18 AM
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If a guy feels suicidal cause his gf tried anal with her ex but doesn't want to do it with him cause she didn't enjoy it back then, he can go right ahead. Idk what would be the female equivalent. I think knowing that he did relationship milestones with his ex that he isn't willing to do with you. Like moving in together, getting to know his family and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 04:30 AM
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2h/ day working out. Other than that I don't really do much. I wear make up on special occasions and shop maybe once a month online.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 01:03 PM
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It's better to be safe than sorry but think there is middle ground that most people would agree is fine. For example, I think it's ridiculous that woman claim they ghosted someone because they are affraid of his reaction if they rejected him. It's just in excuse in my opinion because ghosting someone is probably making them more pissed and if he didn't give you any indication that he is agressive, I wouldn't assume the worst. Or asking someone out in broad daylight. It's also fine. (as long as y…
/r/MensRights31/08/21 06:42 AM
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Because woman can decide wheter they want to take care of a child or not. Men are forced to do it. At least financially. Equality would be gicing both genders the option to opt out of parenthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:44 AM
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Yeas but why should he be double fucked by having to pay 18 years worth of child support?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 07:57 PM
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A lot of people do. Especially women. But from my personal eyperience, the ones that won't tell are also better friends. Meaning they don't bad mouth other friends and I can be sure they wouldn't talk bad about me either. They are more trustworthy and mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 07:56 PM
1

So should we ban abortion since women could just not have sex to acoid pregnancy? It's her choice to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:39 PM
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No absolutely not. I would've dumbed her ass as soon as she started crying about her ex on a date
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:38 PM
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I' not saying everything is taboo, but telling your friends your boyfriends penis is to small is definetly crossing a line for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:36 PM
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No don't get me wrong, you absolutely shouldn't tell your partner that your ex was better in any way. But a relationship can still last even if the ex was better in some ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 11:47 AM
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It could. But not being as good as someone else doesn't mean it's not good at all. Or that they can't be satisfied. Not everyone will care that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:45 AM
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But would would be the solution? Immediately break up if he isn't as good? I mean you can't really do anything about your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:43 AM
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It depends on what you plan on saying and how comfortable your partner is about it. I don't think any guy would appreciate his girlfriend telling her friends about how he isn't as good as her ex in bed because his penis is to small. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to tell his friends details of our sex life either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:42 AM
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I think it's hard to find out wheter you're the best she ever had or not cause most women would say you are wheter it's true or not. This is one of those scenarios where one should absolutely lie cause the truth will ruin the relationship. It's like when you doubt you are the father of your child. You do not ask your wife for a paternity test. Cause being accused of cheating, hurts. Just do the test privately and no one get's hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 08:42 AM
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What I don't like is the refusal to take responsibility. Especially when it comes to kids. And that the law backs them up. I mean financially. I think men should have the option to opt out of fatherhood. Just like women have with abortion. If you get pregnant you have the choice to become a mother. And if you can't afford it on your own, you should abort (in my opinion) but if you want the kid, the financial struggle is on you. I think it goes above equal rights if only one gender has the option…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:30 AM
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Yes I agree. Also, she still wanted to be with him so it can't be that bad. But I wouldn't have taken her back either. There is no going back fron this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:23 AM
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There are many traits that make a great partner. Being a good sex partner is just one of them. I think most people have to realise they can't have all of their wishes fullfiled. I'd say many put "good at sex" pretty high on their priority list. But you can be good and others will be better. But that doesn't make you any less good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:51 PM
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I think it's a case to case thing. In this case it seems like she is still hung up on her ex. She cried on the 4th date with the OP about her ex. Her ex dumped her and not the other way around. And she is complaining about her sex life with her fiance and comparing him to her ex. I'm sure she want's to be with her fiance but only because her ex isn't an option. But all that being said, we don't know if it's only about the sex or also about other traits she missses from her ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:44 PM
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Generally speaking, having a boyfriend or girlfriend that isn't as good as your ex in bed doesn't have to mean the relationship is doomed. But in this case, it is. She should've never talked about it to her friend and he should've taken the hint when she started crying about her ex on the 4th date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:37 PM
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I mean it's ok to think your ex was better in bed. But to tell anyone any personal detail about your sexlife is disrespectful to your partner. She shouldn't have done that. And if she was truly unhappy with their sex life, she should've told her partner about it and figure something out together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 07:55 PM
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Not sure if this is a joke or not
/r/MensRights27/08/21 05:10 PM
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Not wanting to pay child support is reasonable. And it shouldn't be a thing. But the woman shouldn't be forced to have a kid either.
/r/MensRights27/08/21 05:06 PM
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It's the other way around. Women won't date men with no friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 08:25 AM
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The most common reasons for divorce are: Conflict, arguing, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship Lack of commitment Infidelity / extramarital affairs Distance in the relationship / lack of physical intimacy Communication problems between partners Domestic violence, verbal, physical, or emotional abuse by a partner Realization that one’s spouse has different values / morals Substance abuse / alcohol addiction Absence of romantic intimacy / love One partner not carrying their weight in the …
/r/MensRights24/08/21 10:20 AM
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In my case, yes they are. They all look much better than me. I have a small circle of friends, but that wasn't always the case, and obviously I did notice that some of them aren't that attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:56 AM
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I think the house should always be clean enough that guests could randomly visit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:45 AM
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The same could be said about men. They want someone who does all or most of the housework, cooking and childcare, but still expect their wife to work. Entitled people aren't limited to one gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 09:29 PM
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Polyamorous people and swinger often look like you can smell them through the screen but they still get to have sex with multiple people so I wouldn't say this rule is set in stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 05:13 PM
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Are you actually justifying having kids without the financial means for them because less financially stable countries / continents do the same? Countries that are known for their famines and poor living conditions? What's your point? "They might have barely any food on the table and 3 of my 8 kids died because I couldn't afford their medical needs, but I still got 5 to go, cause keeping birth rates up, is what's's most important"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 09:03 AM
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And who is going to pay fpr them? Barely anyone has enough money to support several kids in their early 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:38 AM
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Yes absolutely. I don't like the conventionally beautiful type either. But this was just an example for beautiful and less beautiful. These were just the first names that came to my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:34 AM
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Then add biology. A woman is receiving a man while a man is putting himself into her. The DNA that he puts inside her stays in her for her entire life. His DNA is even found in her brain. The cost is high. wow....just wow. But thanks for giving me material for r/badwomensanatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 09:31 PM
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Meh. Talk to me when you start liking men. I like men. But I won't cheat on my boyfriend to show him "how good I am to him" So probably won't like men up to your standard. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 07:32 PM
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This is bullshit. A guy won't leave his 10/10 wife for a 2/10 for variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 07:21 PM
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Amy Schumer is a rapist. If Megan Fox were a rapist and Amy Schumer were not I would choose Amy Schumer without blinking. It was just an example. They'd absolutely choose insert hot celebrity here over insert less hot celebrity here if they had the chance to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 06:34 PM
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My point is, it's hypocritical to complain about something you'd do too, if you had the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:06 PM
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We might cheat on her. But we'll be good to her as long as we keep her. I think we have a very different definition of "being good to someone".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:01 PM
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​ They do but they don't do so because she is better. They do because she is different. They absolutely do because she is better in their eyes. No one would leave their wife if said wife was checking all their boxes, for a worse option.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:57 PM
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Which is a uniquely female thing. Men are polygynous not hypergamous. They want to fuck Megan Fox, her sister, the girl on their league, HER sister etc. Etc. Men are sexually attracted to MANY all the time. e.Women are sexually attracted only to the best. If men had the chance to fuck Megan fox and the whole Victoria's Secret runway, they wouldn't lock twice at anyone much less attractive. ​ Again, as I explained above, men are polygynous not hypergamous. Men don't cheat for better, men cheat fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:40 PM
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Here's the difference between men and women: We men are honest about it. We men don't lie about it. You women always know exactly where you stand with us men. You women lie about all of this. So when was the last time you told your wife/girlfriend you'd rather have someone younger?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:30 PM
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I don't think she is ugly. But she is average at best. this is supposed to be the counterpoint for A chad and average dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:21 PM
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The way that men on here talk about single mothers suggests otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:13 PM
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I know it's controveral to say men and women usually can't be friends but that's just how it is. I wish it was different cause we could learn alot from each other. But I mean real strong friendships. Not joe from work that you talk to in your coffe break. To me a friendsship would be telling each other secrets, being there for each other, going to dinner together, meeting up alone. And these things would just be to intimate with a guy. I won't causually chill in my bed under the blankets and wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:28 PM
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In my experience (or rather what my friends told me) men often just don't care because they are to lazy. Even if they are given instructions, they just won't follow them. Maybe once or twice but after that, it's appereantly to mich to ask for. But these we guys they were in relationships with so I'd say it's partly on them for tolerating it. Doing it yourself is an guaranteed orgasm. So I never really got why some women are into hook ups. Most times, there is no reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:17 PM
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It heightens my chances. Just like working out. I know it won't change anything about my face but what is better, being short, fat and make terrible clothing choices or be short with an ugly face but a well-trained body and be well-dressed. I think I could get dates with equally ugly woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:37 AM
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I think a lot can be done by dressing well, the right grooming and working out. I know this is about personality, but I think willingness to work on yourself is part of personality. I'd definitely have a much harder time than I have now, but I think it's do-able. the big mistake unattractive men make is showing that they are desperate. Nobody wants that. It's a fine line between showing you are interested while not seeming too clingy or as if your date is your only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:16 AM
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Yes. It's an attractive trait, and it can balance out other unattractive traits. This goes for many things. Like he could have no lips but a really nice body.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:05 AM
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Not something I'm interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:59 AM
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The person that is too bothered by their partners' presence should sleep on the couch.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 08:49 AM
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I'm absolutely content and happy with spending time alone. I have a boyfriend now (I'm 25 and this is my first boyfriend) So I know how it is to be alone. And I have absolutely no problem with it. I have great friends, and a family I love. I know I will never have to spend Christmas alone, even if I was single after 45. And I really love my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:41 AM
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Are you aware how "average" is calculated? 1 couple has sex 2 times a week. Another couple has no sex at all. The average amount these two couples have sex is 1x/week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:37 AM
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According to google, they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:31 AM
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Most people have had a few dates. And they have probably seen a pattern among people that made a low effort on the first dates, who also made low effort in the relationship. These are not baseless claims. They are lessons people learned after dealing with low effort people. Communication doesn't always have to be verbal. In fact, nonverbal communication is much more important in my opinion. Most people are just talk but no action. I'd rather judge a person by their actions, then by their promise…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:21 AM
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If you snoop, you're am asshole but if you snoop and find something, you're not. That's basically how society sees it. I don't think I'd ever do it since I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. And maybe I'm a bit naive. There really have to be some major red flags for me to consider he might be cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:40 PM
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I wouldn't really be interested into going to a bar or party as a firdt date. Unless it's something like a barbeque where the party is not centered around alcohol. If it's something that's already planned and he'll ask me to join, that's fine. But if he want's to plan someonething with me and his friends, I'd wonder why we can't just meet alone. I want to get to know him, and not his friends. At least not yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:37 PM
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So many? There where 2 mentioned here and OP didn't even claim We'd hypocritically have sex with both. And like I said, I only have sex in a commited relationship. But to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:26 PM
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Most people aren't asexual so I'd assume that most people think sex is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:11 PM
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Because it's fun. But for me personally, I wouldn't have sex unless I'm in a commited relationship. So I wouldn't have sex with option 1. Same goes for option 2 cause why would I choose someone I'm not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:01 PM
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And what would those maintenance costs be? The way I see it, there are 3 scenarious here: You don't have kids and don't want any. In that case, she'd be working. So it's a 50/50 situation when it comes to bills. Unless one of them is earning significantly more than the other. You have kids and the two of you decided it would be best for her to stay at home with the kids untill a certain age. In that case you have to take care of all the bills. But the alternative would be you both pay for childc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:58 PM
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Are you honestly asking why people have sex despite not wanting kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:01 PM
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I would have aborted both of those kids. I'll only get a kid with a man that's a great father and a great partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:18 PM
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I'm sure he's a better catch than 99% of men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:16 PM
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The average married couple has sex a bit more than once a week. Let's say once. 4x/month. Another redditor once mentioned an escort is 300€. So that would be 1200€/month. In my country (germany) the average income is 2400€ (after tax). So you want to tell me the average husband spends 50% of his paycheck on his wife? Considering he still has to pay rent or mortage, groceries and all that stuff, that's imposible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:14 PM
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There doesn't have to be a dinner date. That's not my criteria. I'm simply saying it makes sense as a vetting strategy. But for me, the bare minimum would be that he makes plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:50 AM
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The average male can't afford sex with an escort several times a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:37 AM
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What they say and what they do are two completly different things. But the same could be said about women so no offence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:33 PM
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0.65% is still 2,133,300 Americans.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:51 PM
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Every dating sub is full of men complaining they can't get a date and how easy woman have it when it comes to dating. It's often mentioned here, too. So I thought it wasn't a secret men have a harder time dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:28 PM
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I have a man. I think women who struggle to have a partner have to high standarts
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:55 PM
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So all the men on here talking about how male sexlessness is a massive problem nowadays and how hard it is to get a date for many men are all just talking our their asses?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:35 AM
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Where do you live that you think women need to work while their loser boyfriend can be unemployed and not lift a finger all day? Where I'm from, and basically anywhere nowadays, dick is available in abundance. Men chase women, not the other way around. It's easy to get a man and easy to keep a man (as long as you aren't hideous). I'm not saying it's fair, or that men are disposable. No, obviously not. But they definitely have a much harder time dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:17 AM
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Men want traditional relationship where the woman works, but also does most if not all of the housework, cooking and childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:57 AM
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Men can obviously also vet how ever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:10 AM
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My phone changes erverything according to german grammar. But thanks, everybody loves a grammar nazi.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:09 AM
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This is literally the dumbest shit I've red here today. You're saying men aren't allowed to do anything nice for a woman cause otherwise he'll be a simp. Winning someones affection is being nice to them. And winning someones affection could also be a woman cooking a man a meal. Is she allowed to be nice? Yeah good lood luck with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:06 AM
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Yes you win someone's affection. That's a very common phrase. Even if Two people share it, it's still common to say they won each others affection. And both scenarios desrcibe men winning a womans affection. While I think the second one is more special since it require more efford, I wouldn't meet a guy I barely know for a first date at him home. So that would be off the table for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:27 PM
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Yes you win someone's affection. That's a very common phrase. Even if Two people share it, it's still common to say they won each others affection. And both scenarios desrcibe men winning a womans affection. While I think the second one is more special since it require more efford, I wouldn't meet a guy I barely know for a first date at him home. So that would be off the table for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:27 PM
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So basically anything nice. Cause that's how you win someone's affection. You are being nice to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:17 PM
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I'm sorry to break it to you but if you pay a prostitute for the possibility to have sex with her, you made a bad deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:41 PM
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My point is, you can have all the ridiculous standards you want. Even a handjob in the bathroom if it's important to you. It's not like anyone if forced to actually do it. Just like men aren't forced to pay on the first date. I always offer to go dutch on the first date. Or to pay all if I like the guy. But the guys I dated always insisted on paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:36 PM
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A picnic sounds much better to me but to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:32 PM
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This is the right mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:30 PM
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No you obviously should still bring your own money and pay if he doesn't want to. He isn't forced to pay. But if the women doesn't want a second date, that fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:29 PM
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Oh I didn't know having dinner and a conversation is the equivalent to prostitution if the guy pays. I'll make sure to remember this when my dad wants to pay my meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:27 PM
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Then don't take the deal. We are overpopulated anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:22 PM
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I really love to go all out for my man when it comes to cooking. And I don't even mind doing most of the cleaning. But only for a man that appreciates all that. And middle easter / south asian guys at least do their part when it comes to courting. Western men usually do much less courting if any at all and they still expect you to do most of the cleaning and cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:21 PM
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So anything nice a guy does for a girl makes him a simp?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:10 PM
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If she invited him on the date, she should. But in the end, if the guy pays. It's his choice. It's not like someone forced him to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:52 PM
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I personally don't expect the guy to pay. I mean they always insisted when I asked, but I don't expect it. But I think it's fine if women want to make it a criteria. Just like it's fine if men want to make it a criteria that women ask to go dutch. I don't get why people get so offended if they aren't part of someones dating standarts. There are million others you could also date. And don't worry I never been ghosted or used for sex. I know how to vet the men I'm dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:51 PM
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I don't see a problem with that. But I take issue with men who invite me on a date and then have no idea what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:41 PM
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It's funny how suddenly all men here seem to think traditional men are simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:39 PM
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Does he not want to pay if he asks to pay? Then why does he ask? If he doesn't want to pay, he shouldn't ask. And if he does so regardless, it's his own fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:39 PM
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I never got ghosted. And this is a thing I've only ever seen men on here complain about and I thought yes, that's a shitty thing to do. You do you, I'll keep my manners even if many people nowadays don't have any. Is it entitled to expect men to pay on the first date? Yeah maybe, but there are enough who do. I'd say most do. That's not something I personally would expect from a date, but I think it's absolutely fine to do so. You can have all the standarts you want. Wheter someone will meet your…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:33 PM
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There are also tons of stories where men claim they aren't going to commit to a girl that's been too easy for them. So in the end, I'd rather do what I'm comfortable with, since most dating advice more of a case to case thing and almost nothing applies to all men. Or all women for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:40 PM
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What do you mean with my approach? I already said I offer to pay. But they insist. Should I throw a temper tantrum until they let me pay? I just thank them and that's it. The end goal is to get a husband or a long term relationship. I'm not really stressed about getting married at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:07 PM
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No. I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now. That would be waaay to early.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:39 AM
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I think this is a great way to handle this. I'd also do it like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:57 AM
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I think anyone can make up any criteria they want. If they aren't getting dates, that's their problem. I don't expect the guy to pay. I always offer to pay at least my part. But the men I dated always insisted on paying. Even after offering several times. So I don't think it's hard to find men who will pay for a first date if that's what's important to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:56 AM
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It literally always worked out for me. The men I'm into always insist on paying. So I don't see why I should change my approach. I offer to pay. But they always strongly insist on paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:51 AM
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That's completely fine. I don't expect him to pay. But I see why people would use this as a vetting strategy. And I think it's fine to have this criteria. Just like it's fine to have the criteria that the woman should ask to split the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:25 AM
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What is a top tier men for you? Attractive? A high income? I dated those and they still paid. I know I'm not a 10 of 10. But I still think I'm attractive. Maybe a 6/10 that's above average. And these are he kind of men I'd be into. I don't expect to date Chris Hemsworth. To me, they were top tier. And they were all I expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:21 AM
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I'm not eating MC Donald. Ever. It's disgusting to me. I mean if we go on a walk date and he get's in the mood for some Mc Donalds, sure I'll accompany him. But I'm not eating it. I think grabbing a coffee and going on a walk date is a much better thing to suggest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:13 AM
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It's just a polite thing to do. And it takes like two seconds. I mean, if he wants to argue or convince me, that's when it's time to block in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:47 AM
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That sounds like a much better date than a dinner date to me. I'm not saying a dinner date is the best option. It just that there should be some kind of planning involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:45 AM
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I mean if you are good looking enough to make this your standart, good for you. For me it would be sex only in a commited relationship. But to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:26 AM
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I mean I could say the same about women. They have options. Usually a lot more than men. So they will always find someone to pay. Besides, even when I offered several times to pay, my dates never let me. I think most men would. So it's not like they are hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:24 AM
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I'm not saying a dinner date is the best option. Absolutely not. But having plans is the bare minimum. But a lot of guys won't make any.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:19 AM
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It only becomes bad if you are lying in order to get your goal. I'm not a fan of sex work, but I think women with only fans aren't doing anything wrong, along as they aren't promising their "fans" an actual relationship in order to gain money. It's also fine if you want to "use" women for sex. As long as you aren't lying to them about wanting a serious relationship in order to get sex. We have to be accountable for our own actions. I've recently seen a post about a women throwing away the keys t…
/r/MensRights09/08/21 09:05 AM
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I never got ghosted, and It wouldn't really affect me all that much. I don't care about people that don't want me in their life. But I still think it's a cowards way out, and I'm not a coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:37 AM
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I think it's pretty much standard to pay if you invite someone. If I go out with friends and decide to pick up the tab, would it be insulting to them since I "paid for their time"? But like I said, he doesn't have to pay. It's his decision in the end. But if he makes the decision to pay, he shouldn't 't complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:34 AM
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So men who pay for you on first dates are bad men? I've never been on a date where the guy didn't strongly insist on paying, even when I offered multiple times. I don't think it's that hard to come by. But maybe It's because I don't really date western men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:30 AM
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To me, it's simply rude to invite someone on a date, and then have nothing planned out. If you invite someone to an outing, it's on you to plan something. And it doesn't even cost much time and effort anyway. So to me, this is the bare minimum. If this is too much to ask for, I wouldn't date him. It also doesn't have to be like that on the next dates. Or the whole relationship. We can take turns. And I know I usually put in the most effort when it comes to basically all my relationships. Friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:12 AM
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I absolutely agree with this. There doesn't have to be much money involved. That he plans at least something is the crucial part to me. It doesn't even have to cost anything. Or we can split the bill. But I'm not showing up if a guy asks me out on a date and then doesn't have any plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:01 AM
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A relationship is MUCH more than just fucking. Especially if you want to date for marriage. Why are the guys on here always complaining about young women having to many sexual partners, but at the same time, they want to be fucked on the first date? Just because I'm interested in someone and I find him attractive, I'm not automatically jumping to sex with him. There are many boxed to be checked before I'd have sex with him. For me, inviting someone on a date and then not plan anything is just ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:59 AM
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I'm not saying I want a man that's traditional on Arab men's standards. Absolutely not. I don't even want a Muslim, or at least not a practicing one. But traditional compared to western standards is fine. In my experience, Arab men still don't expect everything to go as fast as a normal western man would. Also, my sister engaged to an Arab Muslim man despite having a child from a previous marriage. (which was arranged, by the way) Arab men aren't all that strict as you think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:52 AM
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I think this is a great one. I'd choose the same standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:33 AM
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To me, not the paying part is the most important, but rather the planning part. Making a plan is the bare minimum for me to go out on a date. A lot of guys will invite you on a date and then ask what they should do. This is low effort to me. And it implies low effort in other areas as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:28 AM
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An invitation pretty much implies he invites her. However, if the man chooses the location, he chooses the budget. (100$ sounds ridiculous to me. But if you choose that location, it's on you) And he is not forced to pay. He can go dutch even if he invited her. Even if he chooses the most expensive restaurant in town. So I don't really get the complaining from men. Simply don't pay if you don't want to. You can also make her asking to go dutch a vetting criteria. Just like she can make him paying…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:24 AM
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I just checked and I was wrong. It's 5'11
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:16 AM
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I personally don't take that much offence to being ghosted. I it never happend since I'd only have sex in a commited relationship. And I only have time for people that want me in their life so I wouldn't care if ghose who don't, remove themselfes from my life. However, ghosting is something mostly women do. And I've seen a lot of guys complain about it on reddit. And I think that's fair. It is still the cowards way out. You can always give a generic answear why you don't want to date anymore. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:14 AM
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The best vetting strategy is to be upfront and ask the man what his intentions are. I absolutely agree. But wanting him to make plans, is the bare minimum to me. It doesn't have to be a dinner date. It doesn't have to be expensive. But I think it's simply rude to invite someone to a date, and then not plan anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:54 AM
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I'd like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt as long as it doesn't harm me in any way. So I'd rather reject someone respectfully than ghost them. And I can't say I ever feared for my safety after doing so. The most that happens is them not accepting a no. And that's where I think it's ok to ghost. Even though, I don't think it can be called ghosting if you already told them you don't want to continue communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:52 AM
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TBH I don't think there is anything wrong with being a pickup artist per se. It only becomes wrong when you deceive the person you are courting. If you are being open and honest about just wanting sex, that's fine. If you lie and tell her that you are dating for marriage while you are not, you're an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:49 AM
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I think there will always be people who don't vet at all. Or they have different priorities. Meaning, there will be women who don't mind paying on the first date and there will be men wanting to pay on the first date. I also think both these standards (wanting the men to pay, wanting to go dutch) are outrageous things. They are pretty common in the dating world. So both of these groups have realistic chances to find the kind of people they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:44 AM
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That's what the guy above me claimed if I interpreted his broken English correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:36 AM
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I think it absolutely is better than just having sex on the first date. I'm from the west but I usually just date middle eastern men. They have a much more traditional mindet when it comes to all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:48 AM
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I don't believe that going for a dinner date is the only way to ensure he is serious about you. For me it's more about putting at least a tiny bit of thought behind it. So going for a coffe date is completly fine to me. And I don't think all men who want to go for alcoholic drinks are bad choices. But I encountered enough of them to make it a rule to not agree on these dates. Especially if he insists to go to a bar. It's fine to offer but once I said no, that should be it. I haven't really thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:43 AM
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Yes and I prefer different dates. However, a lot of men won't even make a dinner reservation. They invite you on a date and then ask what they should do. So this is liffing the bar for about a centimeter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:33 AM
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This is basically a small barrier where the alternstive is him not planning anything. Yeah it's not a big standart to set. But it's better than having no standart. And honestly A LOT of men don't put any thoughts into a date. They invite you, amd then ask what we should do. For me personally, it doesn't have to be a dinner date. But he has to put atleast some effort into it. Meaning, I wouldn't go on a date he has nothing planned for. Besides, I'd only have sex within a relationship so I'm not r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:31 AM
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"I don't think we are sexually compatible" you don't have to phrase it in the worst way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:25 AM
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I know but I think there is a difference between going out with your girlfriend/wife and going out with someone you asked on a date. The later implies that you put some thought behind it. But in the first scenario, the woman is just as responsible for choosing the location.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:20 AM
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I think ghosting is the cowards way out. Just say you aren't interested. No difference would be declining another date cause you aren't sexually compatible. Ghosting is universally shitty for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:17 AM
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He can expect her to be anything he wants. And he can even make sex on the first date a criteria. As long as he doesn't preassure her into it and accepts a no. As long as we accept that not everyone will meet our critera, and don't force them to meet said critera, we can have all the standarts we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:14 AM
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I I completely agree. People shouldn't be mad if they don't meet someone's standard. Just make your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:11 AM
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Her company. But if this isn't enough for you, you don't have to go for a dinner date. The beautiful thing about dating is we can date whoever we want and that means you don't have to date a women that wants to go on a dinner date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:09 AM
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I mean it's not my rule and I wouldn't apply it myself I just think it fullfills it's purpose. However since you mentioned going for drinks I'd absolutely decline if he means alcoholic drinks. In my experience, guys that ask to go to a bar aren't serious about you or expect sex afterwards. But I'd make a counter suggestion first like let's go for coffe and take a walk in the park. And if he insists on going for drinks I'd cancel.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:06 AM
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That's cute. I prefer walking dates over dinner dates cause it's less akward. I wouldn't really apply the rule for myself but I think it fullfills it's purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:02 AM
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I believe people need to take some accountability for their actions. If he pays for an expensive date, it's his choice. And he can't complain about it since he choose to do it. It's absolutely fine if men don't want to pay for first dates. But then don't do it. Instead of complaining about it. Just like it's absolutely stupid for her to go to an expensive restaurant with him and then be pissed if he wants to split the check. You're a grown woman and unless he told you he'd pay, you should assume…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:00 AM
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Choosing a restaurant is more effort than a lot of guys are willing to put into a date. Probably not even conciously. But it's pretty common for them to ask you on a date and not plan anything. I think there are many much better options than a dinner date. But he at least should be planning something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:52 AM
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Do you teally thin a red pill man hates his wife? I don't think so. And neither does a FDS'er. There are tons of posts praising HVM. So no, they don't hate all men. They often post stories about what their boyfriends did for them. I remember one story that was about the boyfriend that cleaned her house and cooked her dinner. So it's not even crazy stuff like "he bought me a yacht so I hate him a little less"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:43 AM
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They don't hate men. They just aren't willing to date LVM . Ok maybe they hate LVM. But not men in general. Just like red pillers don't hate all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:14 AM
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I know that inteligence usually comes with a well paying job. I literally stated it in my answear. Income doesn't matter that much to me in a way that I don't have a minimum income a man has to make to date me. I earn well and I don't expect him to make the same as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:09 AM
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It was in the comments and yes I'm absolutely sure these women are getting dates. It's pretty easy for a women to get dates. Even if she expects him to pay for a dinner date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:05 AM
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That women want to do everything men tell them because of their sumbissive brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:02 AM
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It's 83 million people and germany. I'm not sure where I'd put myself. Depends on what traits someone wants in a girlfriend. There are some traits I have that are very specific 1% traits and there are others that would apply to most girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:00 AM
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Mine would probably be less than 5% of men. I want someone my age. (Could be -2 years or + 7) that's around 15% of men. Then I want someone who is at least 5'10 since that's my height. The average in my country is 6'0 so this shouldn't be to hard. But it still takes some away from the 15%. He should be intelligent, good at communicating, loyal and appreciative of my efforts. Which is what takes this to the below 5% mark. However, even 1 percent is still almost a million of men in my country alon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:44 AM
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I'm not saying that FDS is a perfect idiology. There is a lot I don't agree with. I think the TRP thesis is easily debunked by the fact that most women aren't submissive housewifes once they got the chance to decide for themselfes. But I really don't mind TRP making such claims. In the end, we can have all the criteria we want. it's fine if red pill men want a submissive housewife. It's fine that FDS'ers want their 666 man. Wheter they get what they want is another question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:57 PM
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I think what an HVW or HWM are is very different depending on what traits someone finds attractive. However there are some things we could all agree on. For a HVW attractiveness would be the number 1. priority. She should be caring and putting others needs above her's (to some extend) she should be reasonable and good at comunication. She should know how to set her priorities especially financially. Like wanting a 60k wedding instead of a down payment for a house. She should be supportive and un…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:52 PM
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Ok this, I can absolutely understand. I know women's issues get a lot more media attention and men's issues aren't really treated as problems. So I get that the double standart can be ifuriating. I just thought there was nothing really wrong with the article itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:43 PM
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I mean the 6 figues is a whole other issue and I don't agree with it for me personally. But if that's who they want to date, that's up to them. But my point was, since they want a least an 6' penis they obviously don't want epnises to disapear. At least not on their partner. And they said they want LVM to evolve like that. Not the men they are dating. And I admit, some comments were nasty. But I still don't see whats wrong with the original post.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:31 PM
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I'd say I'm a 6. Men want an attractive women that aligns with their beliefs/values. Pretty much what women want aswell. Maybe the difference would be that women care more about his carrer that a man would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:26 PM
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Since FDS'ers have the 666 rule (6 figures, 6' and 6 inches) I'm positive that they don't want penises to disapear. This was just an analogy about how the female choice can be powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:19 PM
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Whats wrong with this? It's not like they a calling for men to have their penises cut of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:04 PM
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Is not wanting to go on a second date treating men disposable to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:01 PM
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She most likely didn't though. As stated in the article, FDS advices to wait 6 weeks untill you have sex with a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:57 PM
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TBH I didn't see anything particulary bad or scandalous in that article. She strictly vetted out men that didn't align with her expectations. Which is fine. I think people should be vetting much more when it comes to relationships. Especially about personality traits. Maybe divorce rates wouldn't be this high if we all did this. People fall in love and only think about how their partner makes them feel in the moment. But we should put much more thought in how he well they fit into out long term …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:51 PM
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Income doesn't really matter all that much since I earn well. But inteligence is really attractive to me. And being passionate about your job. Also constantly working on yourself. People like this usually don't earn bad anyways. It's more about what he does, than about what he earns. Another thing would be that I don't constantly want to tell him what to do. I don't mind doing all the cooking for example but he shouldn't be completly clueless. He shouldn't be the type to leave his dirty dishes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 06:06 PM
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Height should be at least 5'10 since that's my height. I really like the mediteranian look. Tanned, dark hair, dark eyes. A beard would be nice. I don't mind if he has a few extra pounds. I'd prefer this much more than him being skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:30 PM
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Direct but within social norms. Like I don't want him to send me dick pic before our first date becsuse that's what he wanted to do. But he should be open and honest about what he want's amd expects in the relationship. And even if it doesn't align with my own expectations to the point of us being uncompartible, I'd still tespect him a lot more for being honest and direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:32 PM
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Direct but within social norms. Like I don't want him to send me dick pic before our first date becsuse that's what he wanted to do. But he should be open and honest about what he want's amd expects in the relationship. And even if it doesn't align with my own expectations to the point of us being uncompartible, I'd still tespect him a lot more for being honest and direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:31 PM
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Direct but within social norms. Like I don't want him to send me dick pic before our first date becsuse that's what he wanted to do. But he should be open and honest about what he want's amd expects in the relationship. And even if it doesn't align with my own expectations to the point of us being uncompartible, I'd still tespect him a lot more for being honest and direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:30 PM
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It costs me my happyness. Which is a lot. I'd rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:59 PM
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No, that's an absolute dealbreaker even though I usually give much more than I receive in all of my relationships whether it be friendships, family or love. This reminds me of my older sister. I could clean her whole house, watch my niece for a whole week, buy her a ton of presents but if I ask her if she can make me a tea when I'm ill, she'll say "what did you do for me today?"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:45 PM
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You have to be realistic: guys will be fucking other women. You can do it the easy way and go with him so that he doesn't get ripped off or ends up in trouble. Or the hard way and risk losing him to another woman. I don't believe all men prioritize sleeping with random women over a monogamous relationship. But even if, I wouldn't date them. The choice isn't between being cheated on or being fine with my man having other women. I could just not date and be much happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:40 PM
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The sexual revolution which was philosophically tied to the idea of creating an egalitarian communal utopia, did on the contrary produced a sexual jungle where people who got lucky in the genetic dice-roll get to have it all while others eat shit. Yes, beautiful people have a lot of options. They have the luxury to choose other beautiful people. But I wouldn't say "others eat shit". Cause calling having to date someone on your attractiveness level "having to eat shit" seems pretty entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:00 PM
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Then how is the guy supposed to have sex? Many girls refuse to have sex with the guy that they are dating. Many married women refuse sex as well. Women aren't forced to have sex with men and men aren't forced to stay with their wife/ girlfriend. You either talk about how to get to a common denominator when it comes to sex or you can break up and find someone compatible. ​ Ofc she will find out. She will go together with him and pick out girls, it's fun. That's obviously not an option for most gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:56 PM
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You dont have to date women that had sex prior to meeting you if it bothers you that much. Maybe join the ultra religious. I'm sure you'll find a virgin girlfriend there. No you can't date and have sex with escorts at the same time since it would be cheating. At least not on the long run since eventually the girlfriend in question will find out. So it's not as simple as you make it out to be. In gemany (where I live) The average income after taxes is 2400 €. Let's say you have 1200€ in costs lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:25 PM
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Besides the obvious, (that it's waaaay to expensive for the average guy) I don't think most men only want sex from women. Most want companionship and love aswell.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:00 PM
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I'm arguing that this is far from being the main reason for low birth and marriage rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:39 PM
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Marriage and birth rates are low because it's the first time in human history since marriage was invented that it's socially acceptable not to have children and marry. You couldn't have chosen to live child free and without a man in the 1800. (if you didn't want to be a nun) But now women have the option to choose. Or men for that matter. Children used to be your pension insurance. If you didn't have any, you didn't have anyone who'll take care of you once you can't do it on your own anymore. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:21 PM
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Let's say "many" means 3 women. - I'll get to spend 1/3 of the time I'd have with a regular guy with my husband -Most men aren't rich enough to entertain 3 families. -I don't want my partner to sleep with other women. -I might not get along with the other women. -4 different parenting styles are clashing together. - My children will constantly have to fight for their father's attention with the other siblings. -I'd be extremely embarrassed to admit this arrangement to my friends /family ​ Means …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 07:58 AM
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It's not about being unique. It's about putting others down in order to feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 06:31 AM
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It will always be funny to me how men call women whores but get angry if they don't immediately get sex from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:59 PM
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That's what OP said should be men's strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 09:47 PM
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Most men wouldn't be up for that. Unless he's religious. Which would be a big no for me. But I don't want to wait until marriage either. I want to be together for around 5 years before we get married. I don't want to get a proposal just because he wants to have sex. Besides, what if we wait till marriage, and he's into some weird shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:24 PM
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Yes definetly but in the end she still got you so maybe she thinks you are in her league. I used to be overweight I couldn't have dated at the time cause I was to self concious. Bu appereantly most fat women don't care that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:33 PM
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So it's ok for men to pretent they want a serious relationship in order to get sex? And the best thing is, I've red so many times that women are the manipulative ones for making men wait for sex. Lol so what are we supposed to do? Have sex with someone that only pretents to like us=your bodycount will go up and you'll be a whore. Wait for sex = you're manipulative and only get cucks to date you since "alpha men" won't wait for sex. There is no winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 06:21 PM
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Yes. However, for women abortion is an option. So if you really don't want kids, get a vasectomy. Cause you don't have a last way out like women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:16 PM
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I like this answear. Most people have different standarts unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:41 PM
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I'd be supportive of whatever he decides to do. I can't say what I'd prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 12:43 PM
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That can be said about most crimes. Yet, they are still illegal. So instead of not making something illegal because it can cause false accusations, why not make penalties harder for false accusations?
/r/MensRights22/07/21 09:18 AM
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Why not both? There were a lot of times when I've been annoyed by catcalls, but not afraid. But when it's done at night with no one there besides the group of men who scream the obscene things they want to do to you....it gets really uncomfortable and scary. Sometimes they even follow you for a bit. Every crime has levels of how bad it can get.
/r/MensRights22/07/21 09:15 AM
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reason it's a bad idea because it gives people more ammunition to frame the innocents that they don't like. But couldn't we say this about most crimes? "he raped me" "he stole my purse" "he sold drugs" it's also a bad idea because it probably only applies to one gender. So because a crime is predominately done by one gender, it shouldn't be a crime? That's not a good argument to me. For expample, I think it should be a crime for women to trap men with a child that isn't his. But only one gender …
/r/MensRights22/07/21 09:10 AM
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So a young beautiful women doesn't want to date the young broke average/ugly dude. But later on, she'd date him when he is still ugly/average but has money. Would this be an even trade? Or a young beautiful woman dating an average wealthy guy. If I understood correctly, this should be an even trade according to your explanation? Beauty+youth for wealth. But this is the exact thing men are complaining about. They are mad that the beautiful women that they can get now that they are wealthy, wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:01 AM
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We all want what's best. Men absolutely would date out of their league if they could. None of them would think, "do I actually deserve this women?" Even if they are fat broke losers living in their parents basement, they absolutely would date a victorias ´secret model if the chance presented itself. So I don't get why they are so bitter about women dating out of their league. When she is dating someone who is wealthy while she herself is not. You'd do the same if you could.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:48 AM
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Waist ass and tits also fall under looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:35 PM
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Yeah we do. That's why we choose tall men. It's part of what makes them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:25 PM
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Why vet women on looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:20 AM
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Honest question, does not catcalling really restricting your life that much? Or is there another reason why this is a bad idea?
/r/MensRights21/07/21 12:57 AM
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If he was blackmailed into accepting marriage, then yes. But otherwise no. And with make blackmail I don't mean shit like "I'll leave you if you don't marry you". If you are that much of a pussy, maybe try searching for a backbone instead of a girlfriend. And don't get me wrong, I fell the same lack of empathy when I see stories on here about women who were to shy to say no when a guy asked them to come home with them. Not because he intimidated her, not because she felt threatened. Just because…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:11 AM
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I basically raised my niece together with my sister cause her ex is useless. I know how hard it is to raise a kid. How expensive they are. But I still love to go above and beyond for my niece.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 02:56 PM
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Yes that's quite alot. But she makes 2500€ after taxes so it would still not be that much for them. I think a women that can take care of herself financially won't be as bothered by him having to pay child support. If she plans to be a SAHW she's probably much more bothered by it. And I can see how this could be a serious problem for people who make less or minimum wage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:53 AM
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I live in germany. He works for volkswagen. Which is basically a guarantee for great pay. I mean I'm not that informed on child suppord laws. My friend just told me it get's lower once he has more children. Because he also has them to take care of financially. It kind of makes sense. If he has 4 more kids later on, he can't be expected to pay the same 400€ for each of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:28 AM
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Well it's a different situation for me since child support isn't as bad where I live as it is in the us. I know from a friend who married a guy with a child that it isn't that much. He makes 3000€/month after taxes. And of that 3000€, he had to pay 400€ in child support. But now that he has 2 new kids with my friend, it's even less.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:04 AM
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If he has to pay alimony or child support, I wouldn't see that as a dealbreaker. But if he doesn't have to pay but choose to pay, I'd have a problem with it. (not child support but anything other that goes to his ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:04 AM
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The keywords are: way too much. Reading is helpful sometimes As if anyone would care about 10mm. But It't going to be weird when it looks like he just stepped down some stairs once he takes his shoes off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:32 AM
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I think he is a great catch, but so is she. She is looks great. She earns well and she is very caring. Yeah, of course it's not everyone's cup of tea to date a mom. And that's fine. I can absolutely understand that. And I'm sure moms have a harder time dating than women without kids. (Depending on how many kids she has and how good she looks) But it's nowhere near as hard as the men on here want to pretend it is. A woman doesn't automatically have to date below her league if she has a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:22 AM
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Do the guy that already proved he is good with kids is the worse choice and a dumb choice cause you aren't as empathertic as him? And women are the idiots for not thinking like this? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 04:04 AM
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You're delisional if you think you'd be a better choice just because a he is dating a mom. Do you really think women would rather choose you than than a 6'4 hot engineer cause he dated a mom? You have no idea what women find attractive then lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:57 AM
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True. My sister technically has to pay her ex. But it canceles out with child support so they both agreed to pay nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:41 AM
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He is good looking, 6'4 and and an engineer. I know it's every red pillers wet dream to pretend that women who are in their 30's or women who have a child, can't get a good partner anymore. But I'd bet my left hand he's a better choice than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:38 AM
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I don't know how that's related to the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:29 AM
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I get why a lot of people don't want to date parents. But to, seeing what a good father he is, makes him even more attractive. And I love kids. It doesn't matter wheter they are mine or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:09 AM
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Dpends on wheter he does it willingly or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:02 AM
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How can women behave more female? Things that come to my mind would be dressing feminine, being nuturing and caring. All of these are not that hard to find among women. I know a lot of women who already do this. But are there other traits that are feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 10:12 PM
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And just like with women who put on way to much make up, it's going to be real akwards once it comes off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 09:57 PM
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He is an engineer, good looking and 6'4. Call him what you will if it makes you feel better. But he's a better catch than 99% of men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 09:44 PM
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And to some it's a revenge fantasy. "Oh you didn't want me in your 20's, wait till you're 30. No one will want you"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:29 PM
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She is getting married next year. I don't think she'd have a problem finding a LTR even when she didn't have her current partner. Maybe it's because she is a kindergarden teacher and her male colleagues aren't as averse to children as men of other proffessions might be. I mean her current partner is an engineer. But she get's asked out in the workplace quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:28 PM
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I someone fun-loving who isn't complaining everyday. Someone that doesn't have to be persuaded to take a walk with me. He shouldn't drink every weekend or watch tv/play video games all day. He should be active. Cause I am too. He should be attentive and a friendly, open person. Most of my standarts are personality based. But others would be: as tall as me or just sligthly shorter. I don't mind if he isn't financially stable yet, but he should be working towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:24 PM
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Whenever I hear women are hitting the wall at 30, I have to think of my sister. She's 31 and has a kid. So supposedly undateable according to the men here. But she literally has suitors left and right. No matter where she worked, she always get's asked out. In the end, it comes down to how attractive you are. Just like it did does in your 20's or any other time in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:51 PM
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I'd say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:32 PM
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I think the standards that women talk of when they say they are too low, are more personality wise. While the standards that men think are too high, are more about looks and money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:15 PM
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I don't want want a man that's complains everyday when he comes home from work. That has to be persuaded to take a walk with me. That drinks every weekend. That acts like his work is soooo much harder than me and that's why he shouldn't do any housework. That doesn't even do the bare minimum. I never met a man that's not like this. Why would I put myself through that stress?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 10:26 AM
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No I don't. That seems exausting. I don't want to be emotionally invested in more than one person. And it just really feels wrong. I know this is the standart nowadays but that would just be really weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:20 AM
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Chill dude this is a discussion forum. Discussing different opinions is literally the point of it. You do you. I just thought it's a weird justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:37 PM
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Did you ask out every girl within a radius of 100km when you were younger? Cause this logic makes no sense otherwise. Cause if you justify only dating younger women cause you dont want to date those who rejected you, there must have been a lot of women who rejected you. Basically all women your age. I mean, you don't need a justification. Date whoever you want to date. This is just a really weid reasoning lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:34 AM
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Then don't date them if it bothers you ? Is anyone forcing you? I'm not acting like that, and I expect my date to be able to look me in the eyes and form sentences too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:24 AM
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2% of guys in the US meet my criteria which are: -he is as tall as me -makes 30k -not obese not married Good thing I don't live in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:32 PM
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This would be an instant no for me. Eventhough I don't sleep around, I'd disqualify any man that does but expects the women to be chaste. But to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:25 PM
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Yeah it's technically a hypocrisy. But I wouldn't include wanting your partner to have typically male or female physical traits eventhough you don'thave them yourself. Otherwise it would be hypocritical for me to expect my boyfriend to have a penis eventhough I don't have one. I'm talking about expecting him to make more money than you. Or expecting a hot girlfriend when you are ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:12 PM
2

I like the Mediterranean look on men the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:06 PM
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Now that I think about it, I actually don't know any couple where the mom stays at home. Not even among my friends parents. Meaning older generations. A friend of mine stayed home for a year after her kids were born. And my sister did the same. The kids usually go to kindergarten, school, or both. Kindergarten is free where I live. And it's always the women who does more childcare. But it also depends on ethnicity of the couple. I live in Germany. And when it's an ethnically German couple, the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:48 PM
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Or maybe because pornsites are full of underage girls? Maybe because it's full of revenge porn and rape ? Maybe because literally anyone can upload anything and a good chunk of it has questionable consent in it? Mabye because being a porn star or sex worker in general is absolutely not like the average job? How can you compare being exploided by working 12 hour shifs at mc donalds to being exploided by being anally gang raped to the point you'll be incontinent for life? This post just really sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:07 PM
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Any hypocrisy is a big deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:56 PM
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25.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:23 PM
2

Depending on the level of his shyness, I'd pass. I mean, I don't expect everyone to be overly confident and charismatic. I'm nervous meeting people the first time, too. But if it's to the point where he can't even hold a conversation, I'm out. When there is no indicator that he is even into me cause he can't open his mouth, that's too much for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:09 PM
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Great idea. I'm sure most men would choose sex given the option. (So I'm not sure why they are being such hypocrites about women having sex?) But I'd absolutely respect a guy much more if he didn't want to jump to having sex right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:05 PM
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The majority of what I see is or what's happening in my circles is that women have to do both, fill in their traditional gender role as in cook, clean, take care of the children and work. And while the man still has to fulfill his gender role, his plate isn't nearly as full. However, I know the opposite exists too. A woman that doesn't work but still expects housework to be 50/50. Which is obviously very entitled. But if you're smart, you'll talk about these things before getting married. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:54 AM
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He doesn't have to be the most interesting person in the world but it seems like most men have to be dragged outside for a walk or most other activities that don't involve a TV or video game. And not wanting this, already seems to be having high stadarts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:22 PM
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I prefer it this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:09 PM
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I've had guys texting me this before we even met. I'd rather have a guy lay out his expectations/boundaries early on than waste my time on someone thst doesn't share my values anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 06:32 PM
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Why? I mean if I could weed you out early on even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:53 PM
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Yes. I mean I don't have a rule when I'm saying it. Just early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:37 PM
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I'd be upfront about my dating expectations. I wouldn't date others simultaneously, and I expect the same from him. He can either agree, disagree, or lie about not seeing others. If he disagrees, that's fine. Not everyone is compatible. If he lies, I might or might not find out. But I'm not going to waste my time worrying about something that's not within my power to control.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:54 AM
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Germany. I live in a small town. The dating culture in big cities is probably much different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:47 AM
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Option C isn't that common where I'm from. At least not in my friend circle. This always makes me wonder how much free time they've got to be able to date multiple people. That would be an instant no for me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:39 AM
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Because it seems to be a more common problem for young men. If we said alcohol is ruining young men's life, that would be true too. But that's something women struggle with just as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:43 PM
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It's only a problem when it's overdone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:11 PM
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I mean I've said this about 5 times before but if men want men only spaces I'm all for it. Cause I also appreciate women only spaces.
/r/MensRights09/07/21 11:37 PM
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Or complain that women don't need them anymore but at the same time, we are appereantly sill incapable of doing anything ourselfe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 12:45 PM
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It true that currently, men hold the more powerful jobs. But nowadays there are more women then men with tertiary education. Women are out earning and out learning men of younger generations. So it's wrong to assume women aren't dmart enought to handle this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 10:32 AM
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Unless you found a way to get a man pregnant, we'd both die out within a 100 years max. But if that wasn't a problem, both men and women could adapt. Do you really think a women can't do hard labour if the alternative is death? Or handle a toolbox? let's be real, if the alternative is death, women and men could handle anything. I'm not saying what men do for society is not valuable. It definetly is. But humans are smart. We could absolutely adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:57 AM
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Just like men rely on women. We'd both be fucked if half the population disappeared over night.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:56 AM
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But that's not really an argument for why genders should always be mixed. Girl scput is shitty? Ok make it less shitty. That would be my way of solving this. Make girlscout more attractive for girls. Instead of letting them join the boys.
/r/MensRights09/07/21 06:22 AM
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That, I can agree with. It's not fair, and it shouldn't be a thing. But I don't see why female only gyms should be forbidden.
/r/MensRights09/07/21 06:16 AM
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Yeah and that's not right. Bit to me the solution is not saying any gendererd spaces aren't allowed. To me the the solution would be to demand the spaces that you want.
/r/MensRights09/07/21 04:56 AM
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Like I said before, I don't agree with that decision.
/r/MensRights09/07/21 04:54 AM
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It's a double standart to expect something from one person you are dating but then don't hold the same standarts to another person just because they are more attractive. And with some people arent genuine I mean they aren't honest about their expectations if they claim to have one set rules for one person, but another one for someone else. (I might have just used the wrong expression. English is not my firdt language) Not 18 but not I didn't really date much. I guess my views on dating are naive…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 10:19 PM
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Equality would be having the acces to male only gyms too. Idk what you mean with the second part. What are the issues they actually want and I supposely don't support? We've just been talking about gyms here. Where have I ever said men should pay more for the same service? Why are you putting words in my mouth? 😄
/r/MensRights08/07/21 10:09 PM
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Well that ich shitty. But still, my solution would be to make boysscout exclusively for boys again and girlsscout for Girls instead of saying girls scout shouldn't exist either. But you didn't really answear my question. Do you think boysscout only for boys should exist? Cause if the answear is yes, it seems like you do understand that it's sometimes nice to be among your own gender only.
/r/MensRights08/07/21 10:03 PM
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And it's a private gym. Or do you think they are being government operated? And yeah girls scout being a thing is just another example of each gender needing their own spaces sometimes. I never understood this mindset of "this group has X. Instead of demanding I get X too, I'll make sure they can't have theirs anymore" If men want male only gyms, I'd support them. But it seems like not many actually want that.
/r/MensRights08/07/21 08:48 PM
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Both, men and women would prefer a 10/10 partner if they could get one. So there is no difference about men being whores and women being whores. At least not in the sense that one of them will aim to high after getting a hot hook up. Both would aim higher if they could.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 08:42 PM
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So you think boys scouts shouldn't exist? Cause women and men or boys and girls for that matter don't need spaces where they can be themselves?
/r/MensRights08/07/21 08:37 PM
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If the average man had the chance to fuck megan fox, they would. It's not like men are so noble they only pick whats within their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:27 PM
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Saying you feel uncomfortable doing certain things with the opposide sex present is completly different to me than saying you feel uncomfortable with a certain race. Otherwise we could also say gendered bathrooms and lockerrooms shouldn't exist. Or things like boyscouts and girlscouts. Some things are just better or more comfortable when you are around your own gender.
/r/MensRights08/07/21 07:24 PM
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Ok. Let's say that's true, men are whores for everyone. How is that better?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:38 PM
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You're a whore if you have sex on the first date and if you don't, you are sexually repressed. It's simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 03:34 PM
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Where does this 90% come from? Is this an actual statistic, or is it just pulled out of your head? Most women, like most men, only date people they are sexually attracted to. I highly doubt that 90% of women aren't attracted to their dates. But I'm not going to pretend that there aren't women who go for ugly dudes because they earn well. So yes, they'd rather fuck a hotter dude. That's why I never got why ugly guys go for women way above their league. Why wouldn't you want someone who is actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:57 PM
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I've seen so many guys on here claim women are delusional for wanting a faithful, attractive man. Cause an attractive man has options and will cheat on you. So why do you all expect attractive women to pay for her meal? She has options.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:04 PM
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There doesn't even have to be a strategy behind it. Not everyone is comfortable having sex with someone they barely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 11:57 AM
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I think the biggest problem here is that men don't really care as much about it as women do. Why should a business lose 50% of potential customers if the other 50% doesn't even care whether the other 50 is there or not? I've seen this question pop up a lot, and usually there general conses around men is that they don't mind having women at the gym. And even if someone cares, they are usually the minority. While women often prefer a women's only gym. I'd 100% support men's only gyms. If they were…
/r/MensRights08/07/21 11:07 AM
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I'm not attracted to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:25 AM
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US https://www.infoplease.com/us/family-statistics/marital-status-population-sex-1900-2010
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 04:20 AM
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1900 40% of men never married. 2010 it's 30%. People on here act like the world is going to end cause some men can't get sex while in reality it's still more than people used to have. Not everyone get's to pass on their genes. It's always been like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 03:09 AM
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In the last 100 years the population has quadrupled. We are at the brink of recources running out. We can't even feed the people on earth now. If every Person on earth would eat like people in developed countries, we'd need 3 earths to meet the demand of arable land. Less people is a good thing. I don't know why so many people act like lower birth rates is the end of the world. There will always be people who want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 02:51 AM
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I don't have anything against it and I think it should be legal. I don't think it will ever be as common for women to use as it is for men. But I can understand why women would do it. A random hook up will probably not care as much (if at all) about her pleasure and comfort like someone who get's paid to do the job. Plus it's much less time consuming. You don't have to build up to that point with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:45 PM
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The thought of making someone have sex with me eventhough they'd rather not, is so weird to me. I don't know how anyone can get off knowing their partner doesn't actually want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:33 PM
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I'd have a problem with this but I wouldn't do it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:21 PM
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This reminds me of these Mormon documentaries where the guy has multiple wives and talks how great their families is and how well everyone gets along. But one look at the wife's face tells a whole different story. Even if she can't outright say it. But he is completely oblivious to it. It's just heartbreaking to me that some people live in these conditions because they either love their partner more than they respect themselves, or because they feel obligated to it. Whether it is because of reli…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:14 AM
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It's easy for women to make themself orgasm. So it seems like a men's inability to do the same for her is some lacking on his part.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 09:52 AM
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I can't think of any benefit. You'll be used as a doormat. Part of why women earn less is because they don't ask for raises as often as men do. Or they don't negotiate as good. If at all. Being submissive has no benefits in the real world. Other female traits like being nurturing and caring - yes. But not being submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 11:35 AM
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That's interesting. But I wonder how many people follow FD because they believe in it, or just to check out the content. I follow it for the latter, even though there are a few things I'd agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:21 AM
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I think it should be clear that a women's body won't look the same after a pregnancy. Let alone multiple. There will be loose hanging skin and scars. That's normal. And needing a year or even 2 to lose the extra weight is reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 08:07 PM
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Both men and women should still make an effort to look nice for their partner. Even after marriage. If the wife is pregnant it obviously shouldn't be expected that she'll loose the baby weight in a month but she should make still try to loose it once she's recovered from birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 06:47 PM
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Lower saxony. I live in a small town near hannover.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 06:01 AM
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Anything outside a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:48 PM
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I couldn't find anything about whether the birthrate is at a replacement level. (probably not since that would be extremely high for today's standard) But Denmark's birthrate are steadily increasing in the last 10 years. And that was just the first country I googled.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:12 PM
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It absolutely is. Among other things but it's still part of the "problem". And it's the only thing the government can control without being to authoritarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:19 PM
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german.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:48 AM
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I rarely get approached. Almost never.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:03 AM
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If I'm not worth it, I'll just stay single. However, I think you're seeing this a little to black and white. I don't think being an attractive male means you automatically want more than one woman. Besides, It's not like I'm trying to date Channing Tatum. I know I'm average looking and I'm fine with dating a guy that's average looking. Or at least average in the eyes of society. He would be good-looking to me. But I don't think I have to date a guy that looks much worse than me to not be cheated…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:37 AM
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I think a great way to meet women is by owning a dog. I'm outside with my dog 3h daily, and that's when most of my social interactions take place. The barrier of talking to a stranger is basically gone when one of them has a dog. They are great conversation starters, and if both of you have a dog and go similar routes, you're basically already in her social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:28 AM
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I don't think it's too much to ask for those traits you mentioned on top of him being attractive if you can offer the same. ​ for a woman to only go for prettiness in men, is a good sign shes masculine This is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:50 AM
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Why is a woman wanting an attractive partner naive but if an ugly dude wants a hot partner it's normal? I can pay my own bills. I want a partner that I find attractive. The only transaction would be making each other happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:42 AM
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I've been dealt a lot of bad cards but it was up to me to make something of my life. I hate people who complain instead of take action. And that's exactly what incels are. Besides, if I never got to date, I'd still have a happy live. Men crave relationships more than women do. What makes an incel? Being ugly and not getting a date? So basically my first 23 years on this earth. Yet I still don't blame men. That's a weak mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:30 AM
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It's funny you say that when most guys on here accuse women of only going for attractive 'chads' in basically every 3rd post they make. Attractiveness is more important to men, but it's still very important to women too. If a 10/10 women goes for a 3/10 guy, she is not attracted to him, but what he can offer her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:25 AM
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That would be the ideal relationship to me as well. And I have no problem cooking and cleaning if he does things like gardening or fixing stuff around the house. But I want to know he could and would do those things too. If I'm sick, he should make dinner and keep the house clean. But since I work, I don't need a guy to provide for me financially. But I still want one. And I think it's a much better to want them for who they are and not only what they can provide you with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:08 AM
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True. But these would be my expectations. Besides, I don't think we can speak about attraction when a 10/10 women is dating a 3/10 guy because he has money. Maybe attraction to his money, but not him. Why would this guy even want a women that's clearly not really into him? I think staying on your level or dating a bit below guarantees that the person you are dating is actually into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:47 AM
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That's true. And I don't expect men to see me as a catch over the fact that I earn well. But it still feels weird to me to demand something you can't even give yourself. So I'd set my standard for dating differently that what the general conses is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:37 AM
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I think it's fair to demand what you can give. If you want a man that earns a lot, but you don't, that's entitled. If you want a 10/10 women but you're a 3, that's entitled. Of course you can still want what you want. And sometimes it works out. But I have no sympathy for people that can't find what they want cause they shoot way to high.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:25 AM
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Why would we want that? The earth is overpopulated, if anything. But ok, here are some ideas: -Paid maternity/paternity leave -free childcare - higher minimum wages -6h/day work weeks - lower taxes for married couples, even lower if they have children
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:35 AM
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Like I said, I wouldn't blame men. But and incel would. They blame women for not being attracted to them. Ok being fat is something you can control. But I don't blame men for not being into me since I'm 6'0 either. I'm not attacking incels for not being able to get a date. I'm attacking them for blaming everyone but themselfes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:45 AM
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I haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:48 PM
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Staying home watching netflix is accurate. I go to bars maybe 3 times a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:13 PM
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I'm not saying men don't have it harder when it comes to dating. But the men here seem to be completly dilusional to the amount of attention women get. I vould say the same thing I said about me, about most of my girlfriends. It doesn't happen that often. At least not where I'm from. Men on here seem to think we can just pick a different guy every day from a line of 100 men who'll wait outside our door for our attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:24 PM
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I used to be fat so there was literally zero attention. And now I could count on one hand how many times I got asked out by a guy. Another thing men on here overestimate. Or maybe it's just a cultural or geographical thing since I live in a small town. But male attention isn't as common as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:02 PM
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You really overestimate the importance of sex to women. I've been single my whole life, and I'm still happy. Whenever I see men on here complain about how miserable their life is because they can't get a date, it kind of confirms the idea that men have a harder time being single to me. There are so many other great aspects of life. Dating is just part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:00 PM
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Ok I guess I don't need a high value man then. I'm not in the top 20% of women when it comes to looks and tbh I'd rather have a guy on my level or slightly lower. And any guy I like, is high value to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:11 PM
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I wouldn't mind dating a shorter guy. The average height in my country is 6'0 for men so it's not like they are hard to find but height doesn't bother me that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:01 PM
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I have the choice to stay single. And that sound better to me that than to have sex with someone I barely know. I think everyone defines what "high value" is differently. And to me it would mean he waits untill comfortable with sex. (I wouldn't make him wait ridiculously long) And it means not dating others while we are dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:00 PM
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Some people are just not compatible. I wouldn't be ok with my date having sex with others during the dating phase. But it's fine if he want's to. We just aren't compatible then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:44 PM
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I love them. Makes them look more manly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:39 PM
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Lol the struggle is real😄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:38 PM
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If you arent a virgin you dont have a leg to stand on. Not everyone is comfortable fucking someone they know for 2 days. I mean it's obviously fine if you want sex early on. But it's not like people who aren't comfortable with that have no reason to decline sex on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 02:54 PM
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Work out other ways to better myself. I don't believe it's impossible to date cause you're 5'5. But if it is and nothing works, I'd simply not date. What else could I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:32 PM
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I was fat my whole life (not anymore) and I'm also very tall for a woman. (6'0). But I'd never even thought about blaming all men for my own shortcomings. So no, the incel mentality is not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 10:12 AM
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Not something everyone can do but if he speaks another language
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:10 AM
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I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend, but I don't hate men for it. I wouldn't be an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:39 AM
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Even if I couldn't pull girls, I'd never get an incel mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:22 AM
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I don't. A beard is like make up for guys. It can make them much more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:10 AM
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So what do you suggest? Should we stay with the first or second guy we ever dated, even though it's a bad relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:20 PM
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- get fit -dress good -grow a beard (if possible) -get a cool hobby like kickboxing or surfing - do many social activities to be more confident and easygoing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:08 PM
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It's funny how this Subreddit always swings between women are gold diggers and career women are bad because they don't need men to support them. Even if there are men who would provide for me, I don't want to be a freeloader. And giving them sex for paying me? I think there is a word for this...no, thanks. And I don't think wanting a guy that's in the same league as me, or at least not way below, is too much to ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:47 PM
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If a women goes on a date for the free lunch, she's not gonna fuck a dude she isn't interested in. She doesn't owe him sex. And if she does have sex with him, it's cause she's attracted to him and not to pay of the lunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:42 PM
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One income isn't enough for most families to live comfortably of. Men aren't throwing themselves at women, begging them to financially support them. Even after marriage. Most of you aren't even willing to pay for the first date (which is fair) but you think I could just pick out a dude that will sponsor my existence? That's not how it works. I'd rather have a full Bank account that I worked for myself than society's acceptance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:07 PM
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I can dm you my paypal since work is just a choice for women and I don't feel like it today. But you might have to fight off the other hoards of men trying to pay my rent, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:52 AM
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Don't pay then? I think you are overexaggerating how many women actually only go on dates for the free meal. Not every first date leads to second date. That's normal. Not everyone is compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:27 AM
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So? Who cares, there are a million other people you could date. I'm probably not a red pillers first choice either since I'm career oriented and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:38 AM
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I don't really care about the bald part. And everyone has ups and downs with their weight and with their job. But if this is how he always is, then no. If he has no ambition to better himself, no. I work out 7 days a week and work hard to stay successful in my career. I don't think it's too much to ask for something similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:35 AM
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Funny, usually you only see men complaining that women are too sexually open on here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:23 AM
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Who decides who is a HVM or HVW? I think that's a choice that everyone makes for themselves, since everyone has different criteria for dating. Sure, some things align with most people, but there are also things the individual cares more about than others. If complaining about something makes you low value, then I guess we all are low-value cause what else are we doing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:11 AM
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This is not true. they never claimed women shoudln't pleasure their partner. Yeah there are a lot of very questionable ideas they spread. But that doesn't mean you can just add any to fit your argument. The most spicy takes they have on sex is that casual sex is bad and that you are allowed to make your partner wait untill you are comfortable enough to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:17 PM
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Don't worry I got them saved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 09:44 PM
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I just thought it's funny how OP phrased something that should be a given in any relationship as some great burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 09:40 PM
10

OP never said anything about not getting anything in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 09:39 PM
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He has to please her sexually, care about her pleasure and do things like give oral If this is a radical idea to men, I'm not dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:42 PM
3

I think you can easily see when the women are much more attractive than their partners
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:21 AM
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In other words, you're a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:09 PM
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Nothing is unconditional. Banged your wife? Stole money from your wallet? Treats you like garbage? Only ever texts you when he needs money? Physically buses you? As if you'd still be their friend after all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:46 PM
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For your male friendships, do you have the condition that you need to enjoy his company in order to meet with him? Do you have the condition that he needs to treat you respectfully?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:23 PM
4

Because even if something won't benefit me personally I can agree that it has the right to exist. The only important aspect to me on whether something should be legal or not is if it harms others. Or whether the benefits outnumber the disadvantages. I wouldn't date a guy who smokes either. But I think smoking should be legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:54 PM
1

I mean the same could be said about swinger parties BDSM or whatever. It's for each individual couple to decide which boundaries they set. And this is one I would set.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 07:09 AM
1

I don't need to watch someone else have sex to get in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:57 AM
1

They probably aren't all free of depravity either but it's definetly the better option. But either way, I think it's completly fine to not want you partner to get off to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:49 PM
1

Nope. But don't ask me about weird shit with tentacles and all that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:58 PM
1

I never said that. But in the end, everyone involved willingly agreed to it. So it's not unethical in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:51 PM
3

I wouldn't call it unethical. I mean I wouldn't do it and probably couldn't be friends with someone who does this on a regular basis but in the end, they are all consenting adults and if that's what they want to do, they obviously can. They aren't hurting anyone. But porn is full of underage women, women who are forced or coerced into it. Or man for that matter. A lot of them have life long health issues. So I don't think it's ethical to contribute to all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:07 PM
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Idk what "ran through by dudes" means? Do you mean having sex with multiple guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:44 PM
1

True. I didn't think about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:37 PM
7

The porn industry is so fucked up that I think it's unethical to watch porn. Or at least most of it. You can have any standards you want for your relationship. Even though it's probably unlikely to find a man who doesn't watch porn, I wouldn't date a guy who does either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:09 PM
2

That's also true. But I wouldn't say people woth low options can't still have standarts. But I see that it's harder to maintain them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:49 PM
2

I think standarts become entitled when you want more than you can give. But if you choose women in your league, you aren't "the dude who'll fuck anything"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:23 PM
4

This isn't what I'm talking about. What I mean is that this guy without or with low sexual experience going to date just anyone or not? Will he bend his morals and personality just to be with any girl or will he stay true to himself. You can have low experience or options and not be desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:19 PM
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It's his choice to make so it is his fault to some degree But the same could be said about women. It's less attractive to most men if she sleeps with anyone who's interested and goes from one toxic relationship to the next cause she can't be alone. It's her fault if she get's burned. She made these choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:05 PM
7

Is that wrong ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:37 PM
0

I could've written attracted to, too. It would still be true to me in that context. And no I might not be able to tell. But there are a lot lf thinks people couldn't tell from the first date that were later revealed. Besides, if he is desperate, I can tell more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:27 PM
7

Even if he didn't have many options, I'd respect a guy more for staying single that choosing a terrible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:19 PM
2

Like I said, it shouldn't cross the boarder to entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:16 PM
2

I don't know where the difference is. Ok I just red someone's definition. If I'm want to have sex with someone, I'd also want to be in a relatiomship with him. And vice versa. It's the same thing for me. If there is no sexual attraction, I wouldn't want a relationship. If I wasn't romantically interested, I wouldn't want sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:50 PM
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I mean we do talk about sex but not about specific guys. Especially not if it's the current boyfriend. That would be disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:48 PM
3

It don't think that guys in an age gap relationship would want older women. But more often than not if the girl is 18/19 and the guy is 25+ the posts of these relationships are full of the same red flags. Manipulation, gasligthing, controlling behaviour ...and so on. And since the girl is young and naive she doesn't get how abusive the relationship is. So that's probably where this narative comes from. It's not that he would rather date women his age but women his age are harder manipulate. So t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:46 PM
4

Yes. Same thing. It's only a problem if they are hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:58 PM
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It makes a big difference. But I don't expect him to be looking like he's going to a vogue cover shooting. Jeans and a white shirt is completely fine and look great. I only really notice fashion on a guy if it's bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:07 PM
1

Never. None of my girlfriends do casual sex. Me neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:14 AM
3

How is the second one extreme? that's basically 99% of us
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:26 PM
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Being to skinny. I'm just not into it. I'd rather date a fat gut over a skinny guy. I also really dislike to much hair gel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:21 PM
2

I definitely feel much more hatred towards the abuser in the situation. But I've seen this dynamic play out way to often, and it's hard to stay sympathetic to people who make the same mistake over and over. I would offer my support the first time and since I'm also stupid in that regard, I'd probably offer it a 2nd and 3rd time too. But there comes a point where I don't feel sympathy anymore. Sometimes people have to walk into their misery if they aren't willing to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:48 AM
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Ok, if you want to see it like that, there is no other job that would make you less desirable on the work market like being a SAHM does. (besides sex work) Because you have no actual work experience. On a real job, you get paid. Most people in marriages where one partner is SAH will share their money. But often it's still seen as his money, since he earned it. It could also be used to make the other partner dependent on you. You can't leave if you have no money. Besides, it's also stigmatized. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:43 AM
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I'm talking about situations where the only reason she stays is "love". Not when she's afraid to leave or is tied to him in some way. If love is the only reason you are willingly staying in an abusive relationship, you are stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 08:47 AM
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A marriage is not an employment relationship. Like I said, it both parents decide they'd rather have one parent stay with the kids, instead of sending them to daycare, one parent will have to put their carrer on hold to support the family. If a guy doesn't want to pay alimony that's fine. But he shouldn't expect his wife to be a SAHW then. Cause putting your carrer on hold for several year will greatly disadvantage you in the workforce. Besided, these are years she could've safed up money for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:47 AM
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Some parents want to raise their kids themselves. Besides, there are a lot of people living on minimum wage that can't afford daycare. So it's the better option to have one parent stay at home with the kids instead of spending most of your waage to have someone else take care of your kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 09:31 PM
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I wouldn't make the time allimony dependent on how long it takes her to get a job since some people don't like to work. The amount she get's and how long she get's it should be calculated depending on factors like length of the marriage and how many kids they have. It should be payed long enough to give her a chance to get back in the work force. But the time should be fixed. It shouldn't depend on her willingness to get a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 09:16 PM
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Ok this is very controveral and I do feel sorry for these men but at the same time I think you are an idiot if you willingly let your Ex girlfriend take advantage of you financially. I actually think the same about some women in abuse relationships. If your partner is abusive but you willingly stay cause "you love him"...sorry but I think you're stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:21 PM
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I'd say 5'9+ . I'm 5'11 and that's the average height for men in my country
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:15 PM
1

I'm not into toxic behaviour but I don't like it when he is nice to the point where he doesn't seem to be his own person anymore. Like ALWAYS agreeing with me. It's good to have things in common but you should still have your own thoughts and opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:21 PM
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Tall women are definetly less attractive to most men than short women. I'm tall myself and can confirm it's a problem for a lot of guys. But they aren't making fun of tall women as much as women do with short men. And tall women still have a higher value on the dating market than short guys. But I mean reeeeaaly short guys. Not 5'8 or something
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:09 PM
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I'd only see gaming as unattractive if he does it 24/7. And anime is not cringe of you watch the normal stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:03 PM
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Yeah I'm really concerned about how kendal jenner and co. are going to bring food to the table now lol. You really have your priorities straight. Besides, their quality is shit. And the stuff doesn't even look that good. There are so many better lingery option. It's about time they lost customers for their overpriced shit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:40 AM
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Actuall sexworkers are against this. It's not really good for business to criminalize your service. Where I'm from, prostitution is legal. And there are a million things that could make the work safer. But this is not the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 06:39 PM
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If you feel like women are only after your money and won't bring anything of value to the table, sinply don't date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 06:24 PM
1

Living of two incomes from two joined familys is easier than living of one income from a single parent. You can safe a lot of money on rent, groceries and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:28 AM
2

Well that's just sad. I think a guy who already has kids would be a much better option for a stepdad than a guy that doesn't cause he already knows how to handle kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:34 PM
1

I notice attractive men. But I'd never imagine anything sexual with them. It would make me feel akward and kind of guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:30 PM
2

Yeah but they had completly different living standarts and expectation. Contraception didn't exist. And kids were your insurance for retirement. So the more the better. Especially since a few of them would probably die before they even hit 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:27 PM
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Yes, people have more money. But their money has much less value than it used to. The average income per year was $3,210.00. In 1950. A new house cost $8,450.00. About 3x the yearly wage. The average sales price of a new home in 2021 is 408,800 U.S. dollars. The average wage is $35,977. Around 11x the average wage. And that's just one aspect. Almost everything got harder to obtain.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 11:44 AM
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Why would I need an excuse not to have kids? If I don't want any, I have no problem admitting that. And I also earn quite well so this isn't about me. It's a general observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 11:02 AM
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I'm pretty sure the main factor for the dropping birth rates is because no one can afford to have kids anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:03 AM
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I didn't say you can't have great kids without a father. (Eventhough statistically you'll have it much harder) Yes people die. Or fathers can leave. But in that case I would not be to blame for it. I wouldn't be the one denying my kids a father.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:58 AM
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Obviously there are still dead beat dads. I have one too. He didn't leave, but he should have. That's why it's so important to me to give them a good dad. I didn't try to bash all single moms. Or say it's always better to stay in a marriage for the kids. Even if the father is an idiot. But not even trying to give your kids a father is selfish in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:51 AM
1

I think it being a double standart is a pretty valid point on why women don't like it. Yeah other double standarts exist but I probably wouldn't support those either
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:34 PM
1

I mean I don't really care about a guys decorating skills but I'd definetly see it as a red flag if he can't cook and doesn't bother to learn it. He might be ok with frozen meals, but I wouldn't want that for our future kids. So that guy seems less like husband material. Same with housework. His house doesn't have to be spotless. But I wouldn't date a guy if his house is a complete mess on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:16 PM
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I kind of hate this idea that women should just get a sperm donor if they want to rause a kid on their own. It's just so selfish. My wish to have a kid is not more important than my future childrens need of a father. Adoption is obviously a completly different thing. But if I can't find a man that I'd trust to be a good father, I'd simply not have kids. I wouldn't do that to my kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:03 PM
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I used to work at a restaurant and it would happend about once or twice a month. But it was always much older drunk guys that hit on me. So no one I'd actually date. Other than that, I've been hit on about 2 or three times I'd say. And with hit on I mean asking for my number or seriously showing interest. I don't count guys catcalling or shouting sexual inuedos at me. So it's definetly not often for me. Lookswise I'd say 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 06:45 PM
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Women are attracted to male bodies. And I honestly can't believe that this is even a question. Just because we don't make it as obvious as men do, doesn't mean we don't like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:38 AM
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This question is a reminder about how far of from reality this subreddit is. It's like y'all live in a parallel universe that knows women only from hearsay and not from actually talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:34 AM
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In that case, guys could do it too. Iämy feet are ugly as hell so I'm sure a lot of guys would be more succesful then me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:08 AM
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Like I said, the guy probanly want to know how the women who's attached to those feet looks. Otherwise it could just as well be a guy sending you feet pics. I'm not sure how this fetish works but I'd bet gigi hadid's feet pic make more money than amy shumers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:02 AM
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Another obvious thing to add: it's basically a social death sentence to do sex work. I'm sure they can still have friends but those are probably in the business too. I know reddit acts like sex work is this great empowering thing that we all should accept but reality looks different. Most people don't want to be accociated with sex workers. And I'm one of them. I could not be friends with someone that's willing to sleep with a taken guy for money. She'd be a whore if there wouldn't be money invo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:00 AM
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I mean the examples you listet are not every women's option. You can't just hang out with a sugar daddy and he'll pay you. Most guys in those arrangements would want sex eventually. And even if not, I'd still find it very hard to act like I'm interested and flirt with some old guy dor money. And even with selling feet pics, I'm sure the guys buying those would want to know how the women that's attached to them looks. So it's not anonymous. Besides, sex work is only an option for attractive women…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:51 AM
2

Just as funny as ugly or old guys wanting to date a beautiful young woman. Wanting and getting are two different things. In the end, ugly women will have to date ugly men and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 08:18 PM
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A guy who is wanted for sex has to be good looking and not completly socialy inept. A guy who is wanted for a relationship has to be much more. Responsible, loyal, good with kids and much more depending on the women who wants him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 07:14 PM
3

Oh sorry, last time I checked it looked l much different. However some of them are more about accusing OP of being scared of confrontation. Which is a fair guess since he didn't tell his fiance about the situation untill he had no other option. I mean the ghosting of the ex could alsp be an indicator for this. However it was completly justified in that case.
/r/MensRights02/06/21 06:45 PM
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No, they are calling him an asshole for not telling his current fiancé that he might have fathered a child. He waited until after he was sure he is the father to tell her. Which were 9 days. 9 days when he lied to his future wife. I mean, I get why he did it. He didn't want to worry her for nothing. But in the end, most people thought he should've been honest from the start with his fiancé. So no, this is not about ghosting his ex.
/r/MensRights02/06/21 05:48 PM
1

If you follow the rules of FDS you'll definetly have the better partner compared to red pill. But since most of their demands in a partner are also not realistic to the average male, a lot of them will end up lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 08:27 AM
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I know it's a shitty situation to be in. But I'd rather choose not having kids than having kids when I'm not financially secure. I grew up poor and I wouldn't want that for my kids. I think it's selfish to put your wish to have a child before the wellbeing of these potential children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:34 PM
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In this case I'd still say it's better to choose your career before having kids. At least untill you're able to take care of them financially. Even without a partner. It's best to plan for the worst case scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:19 PM
1

You don't need a fancy job to prefer working over becoming a parent. Why does everyone see people not having kids as something bad? There are 7 billion of us. Anyone not having children is doing the world a favour.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:13 PM
1

I'm not a SAHM but I'd only consider gerting kids if my future husband wants to stay at home with the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:01 PM
1

I see smart as being able to hold a good conversation. Being able to debate or not having one dimensional opinions. Being able to think things through. And that is an absolute must.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:25 AM
1

Tbh I have no idea what flirting actually is. I'm nice to everyone. But I' that could be seen as flirting for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:20 AM
1

As if most men actually do this level of hard labour. Most people have office jobs nowadays. Just did a u quick google search: 10% of people are doing physicslly demanding jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:27 AM
1

Yes obviously men are still working. I think what she meant here is that they aren't the sole provider anymore like they use to be. Women and men work nowadays. It pretty much evened out. But when it comes to unpaid labour, like child care, housework and all that, the gap between men and women is still much bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:50 AM
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I have to admit he didn't look like 38. Not like 28 either, but I can't blame her for not realizing. She eventually found out when she saw his driver's license. She obviously dumped him, but they dated for months before that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:33 PM
7

It's not a bad thing to have a big sexual appetite as long as you know there is a time and place for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:27 PM
3

A friend of mine (23 at the time) Dated a guy who was 38. He told her he was 28. As is she'd never find out. Wtf is wrong with these guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:26 PM
1

That's like saying women can't be anorexic, cause how can someone feel fat if they clearly aren't?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:22 PM
1

This is not a stable relationship and no environment to grow up in as as a kid. That you wouldn't consider what your future children have to go through because of this makes me believe that you are not a high value men. At least not by my standards. Even is both women wanted this. If this was their ideal way of living, polyamorous relationships are still way too fragile to have kids in.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:20 PM
1

I don't want to worry about bills. But it's mostly that I absolutely love my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:14 PM
3

I mean I do prefer my boyfriend taking up a traditional masculine role in almost every other way, but I don't care how much he makes as long as he works.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:13 PM
0

The only sex dolls I heard people were trying to ban were those depicting children
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:47 PM
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I mean what would be your solution then? I personally think I do care about men. But I care about free will even more. So anything regarding forcing women to have sex with men is obviously of the table. So what would society need to do that would make you believe they do care about men? Concerning this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:40 PM
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Oh I was thinking of another AITA post. I just really dislike people who can't be happy for others. I just don't get it. Even in my worst days I'd still be happy to receive news about my friends accomplishments and celebrate with them.
/r/MensRights21/05/21 03:30 AM
10

Let's say she did cheat the system. She got a job from her daddy that pays her 100k/year for doing the bare minimum. He'd still be an ass for his passive-aggressive remarks. This is his partner. Why can't he be happy for her? He still needs to pull his weight even if his job is more physically demanding. I'f he was single he'd still do the household chores. So I don't see why he shouldn't do them now.
/r/MensRights21/05/21 02:29 AM
1

I don't mind him being boring. I'm boring too. It's being annoying where I draw the line. I want to be able to sit in comfortable silence with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:34 PM
1

I don't think it should be banned. I'm actually subscribed to that subreddit. I think it's it's really interesting to see their point of view. Eventhough I disagree with a lot of what they say. But the incelwithouthate subredditshouldn't have been banned either. It's the same thing but on the opposide side of the spectrum.
/r/MensRights16/04/21 03:05 AM
2

There are a lot of reasons to use artificial insemination. It could be a lesbian couple. Or the man in the relationship is sterile or has a serious gene deffect that he wozld pass on to his children. Or a woman simply doesn't have a partner and still want's a kid. Maybe she is already relatively old and that's her last chance to have biological children. Neither of those mean they hate men. I mean do you really think the driving force for artificial insemination is hatred for men? Most people wa…
/r/MensRights16/04/21 02:34 AM
4

I don't get how you come to the conclusion here that swedish women don't like men?
/r/MensRights16/04/21 02:18 AM
1

So literally every birth that ever happend? I can't tell if you are being sarcastic?
/r/MensRights16/04/21 02:14 AM
1

But doesn't the "physically helpless" part include intoxication to a degree where you can't consent? I mean to me it sounds like a good thing that drunk sex isn't automatically rape. It becomes rape if one is not willing. But they can be willing while drunk. Unless they are out of their mind drunk and that's where the "physically helpless" would come into play.
/r/MensRights29/03/21 04:54 PM
1

Tbh I don't see a problem with this. If someone basically sexually harrased you with their nudes, fuck them. And this includes only fans girls. Actually it would be especially nice to see only fans girls effected by this. I barely get unwanted dick picks but my instagram inbox is full of these women. It's annoying. It's like sex, if both people wanted it, no problem. But if one forces the other to participate, he's the asshole. So to me there is a big difference between this and revenge porn.
/r/MensRights25/03/21 12:40 PM
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