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It's the way you have to insert it. A female condom has to be pushed all the way up to your cervix and form a suction. In terms of invasiveness and discomfort, this is more akin to getting a pap smear than having sex. It's very clinical and often painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:58 AM
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If the women you're dating are 30+, a lot of them are probably off of hormonal BC for health reasons. Chance of dangerous side effects increases significantly after 30 and especially after 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:54 AM
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Also, as someone who's done both -- my IUD insertion and removal were more painful than labor and it's not close. Probably the worst pain I've ever experienced. Of course, I had an epidural for labor, which isn't an option for IUD insertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:37 AM
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lol yeah I started typing an answer then noticed the username and went, oh, nevermind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:48 PM
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That's what she's saying
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:02 PM
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I assume the ban would be for non-medically necessary circumcisions for minors, not just a blanket ban of all circumcision. Just like plastic surgery laws in a lot of places. Your kid can get facial reconstruction surgery after an accident or for a cleft palate or something, but a cosmetic nose job has to wait until they're 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:40 PM
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This is my experience too. I'm the mother of a boy (soon to be two) who didn't circumcise and my husband isn't circumcised. This is something we both feel pretty strongly about and I've participated in anti-circumcision groups online. Those groups are comprised almost entirely of women, and many of them are there looking for info to try and convince their husbands not to circumcise. This is reflected in the couples I know IRL too; in every single couple I know who had a conflict about this, it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:33 PM
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but that would be like an evolutionary advantage to eat so little and still be gaining weight. That would mean your body is more efficient. I mean...yeah, female bodies literally are more efficient in terms of calorie expenditure. That's the tradeoff for lower muscle tone and higher body fat. It's an advantage in some ways and a disadvantage in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:06 PM
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My guess is they walked their child to daycare, dropped them off, and are now walking to work/home/wherever with the empty stroller.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:02 PM
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He didn't write it. That passage going around is fake and it's honestly worrying how many people can't tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:24 AM
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Neither of us are really big on lavish gifts or spending big heaps of money on each other so idk. I'm more about daily acts of love and service than big grand gestures. The only thing I can really think of is when his mom died of cancer on Thanksgiving. I left Thanksgiving with my family and drove across the state (~12 hours) to be with him. He insisted that I stay and enjoy the day with my family but I wanted to be there for him so that's what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:42 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:18 PM
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science has shown us Women & men share nearly identical sex drives Science has shown no such thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:37 PM
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My husband and I both went into our marriage with no assets so a prenup would have been pointless for us. But under different circumstances, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:43 PM
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I already police myself in that department so I wouldn't have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:39 PM
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when you talk to another man Like, in any context? Like he gets jealous when I share small talk with a male cashier or have a professional call with a male coworker? If so that's too far, I wouldn't want to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:28 PM
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James and Michael both sound good. I guess the caveat with James would be how his jealousy and possessiveness manifest. So absent that info I guess I'd go with Michael.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:14 PM
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Oh ok. Yes I'd say that's correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:37 PM
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I'm confused, are the first thing and the third thing not the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:28 PM
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However the overriding ethos of our sex life is that I get mine first, and then he follows. Same. This just makes the most sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:39 PM
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If he tried and it just didn't happen it's no one's fault, sometimes it be like that. If he didn't try, it's his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:18 PM
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For context, I have a toddler and two very furry pets. -vacuum Once a day, rotating rooms. -mop I mop the whole floor (kitchen and bathrooms) once a week, and spot-mop with the Swiffer in between as needed (usually at least once a day) -dust Weekly or so. -wash the windows Lol like... never -clean the toilet Weekly -clean the mirrors Weekly -clean the bathroom sink Wipe it down daily, clean with disinfectant weekly -clean the shower/bathtub Wipe down daily after my son's bath, disinfect weekly -…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:57 PM
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There's no way you could possibly know that and I sincerely doubt it is the case. Taylor is worth maybe a billion, and half of that is in the valuation of her catalog. Elon is worth 250 BILLION. Unless you have receipts there's no way you're going to convince me that Taylor has more cash than Elon does. And when you're a multi multi multi billionaire, debt is meaningless. It's a tool that you leverage. Elon Musk is not hurting for cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:27 AM
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Sorry I have to be an annoying swiftie and nitpick, but Taylor's wealth is not mostly cash. Most of her wealth is in the valuation of her music catalog which would only become realized if she sold it, which she will never do. Another huge chunk of her wealth is in her real estate portfolio and businesses. Obviously she has a lot of liquid cash too, but I would bet on my life that Musk has way more than she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:23 AM
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Honestly I never believed in soulmates/love at first sight/any of that stuff, and I still kind of don't...but yeah, I honestly do think it was love at first sight/first interaction with my husband lol. I can't really explain it, but meeting him felt like getting struck by lightning. We didn't get together for over a year after that initial meeting, and I was completely obsessed with him the entire time. The first time he kissed me I thought "This is the last man I will ever kiss." I can't explai…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:38 PM
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This is spot-on, I think. When women say "we started as friends" they mean "we met in a low-stakes social context and the relationship escalated from there." I have this funny theory that a lot of confusion on this topic is because women don't really have a word like "buddy." Men use that word to describe other men who they are on friendly social terms with but maybe don't have a close relationship or spend a lot of one-on-one time with. Women don't really use that word, especially for men (it s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:24 PM
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It's an internet/stan culture meme, not really a feminist thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:13 AM
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I've only ever heard this used as a joke, like when Ariana Grande homewrecked with Spongebob. It's like yeah what she's doing is bad but I'm not going to criticize her for it (usually because they find it funny/entertaining/juicy gossip)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:33 PM
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Why do the guys in these hypotheticals always earn minimum wage? Are we 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:27 PM
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Cowboys aren't really muscular, they're usually lanky guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:36 PM
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I do not like them at all and have never dated a man with one. They cover up the part of a man's face I like the best (smile lines, dimples etc.) But I don't think my opinion is particularly representative. A lot of women like beards, and IME the women who are into them are REALLY into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:32 PM
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Dairy farms never looked like that. But my dad is a cattle rancher as are my in-laws and their ranches do look like this. My dad recently had to hire a group of cowboys to remove another rancher's cows from his land and drive them back across the river to the other rancher's property.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:27 PM
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This is definitely a regional thing and I'd say even a subculture thing within that region. I'm from Texas and spent my 20s hanging out at country bars so I saw a lot of cowboy types and girls going after cowboy types. But if you ran around with a different crowd and hung out at different places (which I also did) you didn't really see that. It's a sizeable subculture in some states but it's not something every woman wants. It's interesting that it's a thing in South Carolina though. I associate…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:28 PM
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I think checking it as a rule before entering a relationship is weird and I probably wouldn't be comfortable with that. But over the course of a relationship you tend to learn each other's passcodes and get access to devices. I leave my phone unattended all over the house and my husband could easily look at it any time he wants. Maybe he has. I don't care, I don't have anything to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:15 PM
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I have no idea how many contacts I have in my phone, probably several hundred? I never delete contacts so I still have people from like five jobs ago in my phone, plus my cell is also my work phone so I have tons of clients' numbers. I regularly text my husband, his sister, my mom, my dad, my brother and two friends. I'm in a couple of discords, I'm not sure how many other people are in them. If you mean DMs on discord I have two people I DM regularly. I'm also in a group chat on reddit with thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:12 PM
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Sensuality
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:40 PM
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At 35-43 he needs to make peace with the possibility of marrying a divorcee, possibly one with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:09 AM
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This is only a problem if you consider "friend" to be the deepest and most profound human relationship, which I don't. I would hope my husband has a different dynamic with his male friends than he has with me. We are "friends" in that we enjoy each other's company, but there's a lot more to our relationship that goes beyond just that. I don't want him to love me as a friend first and foremost, I want him to love me as a spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:10 PM
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My teenage years were basically all the responsibilities of being an adult (well, not all, but a lot) and none of the freedoms. I was expected to get a job as soon as I legally could, and I had to pay for pretty much everything except housing and food. I bought my own clothes, paid my own phone bill (once I was allowed to get a phone, which was my senior year), bought my own car, paid for my own gas/car insurance etc. I moved out at 17 and went to college without any financial help from my paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 11:09 PM
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What causes that desire? Is it something completely random? Why wouldn't you desire to be around someone who "checks all of your boxes" like OP said? I don't know. It's one of the great mysteries of life. You just click with some people and not others. And yes, that intense connection is the foundation of every relationship I've ever had. The rest is built on that foundation. You singled out the sex thing and disregarded what I said about a psychological connection. It's an amalgamation of thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:15 PM
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An intense desire to be around them, being in sync physically and psychologically, an intense sexual pull, feeling a thrill in their presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:09 PM
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Chemistry is literally the #1 most important thing to me in a relationship. It's a nonstarter without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:13 PM
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I mean being in a cohabiting relationship, which I have been for the last 11 years, pretty much means you can have sex whenever you want. Sometimes it's daily, sometimes it's a couple times a week, sometimes it's none. Depends on a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:13 PM
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No, it's an example of a failing organization trying to bring in new demographics to keep itself afloat and also trying to distance itself from the abuse scandals that have become synonymous with its name.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:34 PM
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He's hilarious on social media and probably would have had a funny profile so that would have caught my attention. But he takes really, really awful selfies so I may not have found him attractive unless he posted candid pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:44 AM
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They theoretically can, but they are statistically way, way, way less likely to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:12 AM
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Exactly. You're more likely to experience violence at the hands of someone you know because that's who you're more likely to be around and be in a vulnerable position with. If women spent prolonged periods of time alone with male strangers, they would be attacked more often by male strangers (and indeed the statistics about violence against sex workers bear this out). There's nothing about knowing a man that makes him inherently more violent than a stranger, he just has more opportunity. This ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:33 PM
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Men either refuse to lick pussy or only do it out of obligation. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:51 PM
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I'm a millennial and in my experience they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:18 AM
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Are women conscious about this issue what do they do to alleviate that? This is the whole reason there's "day makeup looks" and "night makeup looks." You tend to go heavier and more dramatic for environments with low/atmospheric lighting, and more natural for everyday environments. But some people use makeup as a fashion statement and don't care if it doesn't look natural or "good" if they're trying to achieve a particular aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 01:37 PM
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Three.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:56 PM
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I far far far prefer brown or hazel eyes. Green eyes sometimes. Blue eyes squick me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 10:03 PM
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I've been on this stupid sub (under a few different usernames) since like 2015 lol The real inflection point came I believe in 2019 when r/incels and a bunch of similar subs were banned. They all flocked to PPD since it was the last "safe space" on reddit to discuss these topics, and ever since it's just been incel/blackpill whack-a-mole. That has really dragged down the quality of debate here. Also the average user here used to be older; there were very few college-aged people here, let alone t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 10:43 PM
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I haven't noticed that. But it's been happening on every sub, including a small private sub I'm a member of where I can literally see from the comments that more people are active than the little ticker says. So I do think there is a site-wide glitch happening. As for PPD, quality of posts here has gone way downhill over the last few months. I used to be very active here and hardly comment anymore because most people here now are insane and impossible to have a productive convo with. I'm probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:57 PM
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I think it's just a reddit glitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:41 PM
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Because the women having children aren’t following it. The women following it won’t pass on that belief. This is illogical. Beliefs aren't genetic. The women following the current 4B movement were birthed by mothers who didn't follow it, so there's no reason to think that can't happen in future generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:27 PM
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I'd say number 2 except I'd probably preface it with "Can you do me a favorrrrrr 🥺" because I'm annoying. I think the reason boils down to ask culture vs. guess culture. I am very much a product of an ask culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:04 AM
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Yes. And antidepressants are commonly prescribed for off-label uses too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:18 PM
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Sex is the most intimate act, two people can share. Casual sex, has little, to no intimacy. Don't these two statements contradict each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:26 PM
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The ongoing debate about this on Twitter has been a sight to behold. I have never seen such a nothingburger inspire so much deranged discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:09 AM
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If you have pets or kids you mostly talk about them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 01:04 AM
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My reaction is "Congrats on not having a job but I can't relate"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:20 PM
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A fair game isn't one in which everyone wins, it's one in which both teams/players have the same chance to win. That's a pretty universally agreed-upon definition of fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:14 PM
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It's important to me because I am close to my friends and family and wouldn't want to date or marry a person they don't like or get along with. That's just asking for a life of conflict or misery for everyone involved. My friends and family are good judges of character and if they think someone is bad for me then I take that seriously and take it into consideration. It's part of the vetting process. I don't care what they think about his looks or other superficial qualities, I care that they res…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 08:54 PM
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I say this about my husband all the time. He is a much nicer, more patient, more generous person than I am and it makes me want to cultivate those qualities in myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:54 AM
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No, most of them never tried. Of the ones who did, I slept with some of them. They were all "given the chance," I hung out in a mixed-sex friend group practically every night for five years and people hooking up was normal. They could have shot their shot at any point if they wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:50 PM
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I'm extremely averse to exercising with/in front of people so personally I would never want to go on a jogging date.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:30 AM
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lmao WHAT
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:34 AM
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I hate the whole "girls girl" thing. I don't owe you my loyalty just because we're both women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:30 PM
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I could have written this comment. Lost it to my college bf and convinced myself it was okay because I thought we would get married (we'd been dating like two months lmao - I was 19 and an idiot). I had built it up in my head as this monumental, meaningful thing but afterwards I was just kind of like "...huh. That's it?" But because the sex itself was disappointing but because I thought losing my virginity would be this life-altering event but I pretty much felt the same. Once I realized I wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:29 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:47 PM
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I make a distinction between cheating and infidelity. Cheating is sexual infidelity. But there are other types of infidelity. All cheating is infidelity but not all infidelity rises to the level of cheating. a guy's wife accusing him of cheating because he bought a bicycle for his female ex-classmate's 6yo son I wouldn't consider this "cheating," but depending on the context I might consider it a form of infidelity. That's a pretty generous and familiar gesture toward a non-related woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:00 PM
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I find that sex is very out of sight out of mind for me. When I'm single I can go months without thinking about it. But the more sex I have the more I want. So being in a relationship and having regular sex keeps my sex drive stoked and makes me want it more often. I've also found that my sex drive has increased in my 30s (I've been with my husband since I was 23, I'm 35 now)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:49 PM
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That's what I meant too. The question still stands - how could a MM or FF couple be "unicorn hunters" if unicorn literally means a woman willing to have a threesome with a MF couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:17 AM
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Isn't the couple being straight inherent to the concept of "unicorn"? I thought the word unicorn in this context literally meant a bi woman willing to have a threesome with a straight couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:10 AM
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Before we were married, we split based on income. Now that we're married we share one account.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:36 PM
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Men going through divorce are notoriously nice and magnanimous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:01 AM
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The red pill sub didn't even allow women who agreed with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 08:16 PM
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I think it's the same thing. Assuming that people hate you is assuming they're spending a lot more mental energy on you than they actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:20 PM
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This is actually the advice that helped me the most in dealing with my social anxiety. My therapist said "You would be shocked at how little other people are thinking about you." Once I internalized that, I had a lot less anxiety in my interactions with people because I knew once the interaction was over they weren't going to spend the next week thinking about what a stupid weirdo I am. It's very freeing. Social anxiety is a kind of narcissism when you think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:07 PM
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I would break up with him immediately. That's a no go for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:51 PM
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when I dated a volatile man child that yelled at me constantly I turned into a bitch that yelled back Same. This is soooo true. My ex and I used to get into screaming matches and throw things at each other. I am not a shouty person! I have NEVER acted like that with anyone else. In 12 years together my husband and I have never once raised our voices in a fight. Some people just bring out the worst in each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:13 PM
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No they don't. And you can opt out of every test and screening.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:46 PM
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Sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:48 AM
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That can happen, especially if you have a hormonal imbalance that was exacerbated by birth control. And some women go years with no symptoms. I only say so because that "getting punched in the stomach from the inside" feeling during sex is very familiar to me (I have endo) and a common symptom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:11 AM
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You may have endometriosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:45 AM
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I think maybe people are talking past each other. Most women don't need penetration for physical satisfaction aka orgasm. Penetration is mentally/emotionally stimulating but not usually as physically stimulating toward orgasm as clitoral stimulation (exceptions exist, #notallwomen etc., just speaking generally). But I do agree most women need both to feel completely satisfied/fulfilled and wouldn't be happy with exclusively non-penetrative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:05 PM
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I don't really consume any media through the lens of wanting to be the main character/narrator/protagonist. If characters are written with verisimilitude then I will often find them relatable, and that's true of male or female characters. But I can't think of ever reading/watching something and trying to insert myself into the story. To use your example, I think Walter and Skylar are both sympathetic characters in a way and I relate to both of them on a human level. I probably relate to Skylar m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:11 PM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:03 PM
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Yes, we knew severe autism existed. Mild autism was not diagnosed as such back then, it was diagnosed as a separate disorder (Asperger's) or most often not diagnosed at all. You will need to provide evidence that cases of severe, nonverbal/nonfunctioning autism have increased rather than more mild cases now falling under the autism spectrum and inflating the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:18 AM
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It absolutely does explain it. When you expand the diagnostic criteria for a disorder, more people will qualify as having that disorder and be diagnosed. Initially, the autism diagnosis was reserved for severely disabled people. What used to be called Asperger's or "functional autism" was a separate diagnosis. Now it's all folded together under one diagnosis, ASD. That's why autism diagnoses have increased - the disorders those people would have formerly been diagnosed with are no longer recogni…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:11 AM
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Before birth control, women were having kids until they died or hit menopause, whichever came first. Go back in your family history and see how old your great-grandmother or great-great-grandmother was when her youngest child was born. Chances are she was well past "prime" breeding age. Women having children in their 30s or 40s is not new; it's just novel that women are now having their first child at that age. What's also novel is the expanded diagnostic criteria for autism and other disorders,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:14 AM
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Relationships are a dynamic between two people who inspire certain behaviors in one another, for better or worse. I don't think that different behavior in one relationship vs. another is necessarily indicative of how much someone values those partners. There are many factors at play. Ultimately you just have to decide if you're getting what you want and need out of the current relationship. I don't see the utility in measuring it against how they treated past partners, because you are never goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:53 PM
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It may be a correlation, not a causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 11:09 PM
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The question is misframed and contains built-in assumptions I don't agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:47 PM
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My long term relationships all started as casual flings/hookups. So yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:14 AM
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The cause and effect goes the other way. Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime because they have less innate fear and are more likely to put themselves in dangerous situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:48 PM
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I don't understand what morality has to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:34 PM
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They probably want to meet up for a drink first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:36 AM
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Obviously if you eliminate a large faction of people your pool will be smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:35 AM
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If female enjoyment of sex determined population size there would be a lot fewer cats and ducks in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:57 PM
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Not every trait has to be evolutionarily advantageous. As long as it doesn't sufficiently stop organisms from reproducing, a trait will persist. I think the female clitoral orgasm evolved to prevent injury and infection from penetration. So men's bodies are built to orgasm during intercourse, but women's bodies are built to orgasm before. But ultimately the female orgasm isn't strictly necessary for reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:54 PM
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Looking For Somebody To Love by the 1975 is literally about Elliott Rodger lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 02:59 AM
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Lol my thoughts exactly. Spend five minutes on stan Twitter if you want to see female (and gay male) hero worship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:03 PM
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Dating, sex and romance are inherently social endeavors. You don't have to be a social butterfly to be a normally socially developed and socially competent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:02 AM
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ignoring the most obvious explanations as to why such a man has been alone all this time: that he's unattractive, that he suffers from social anxiety, that he lacks the necessary social skills. These are bad things. These are the things it's a red flag for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:50 PM
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And anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:51 PM
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Yes, most white babies are born with gray-blue eyes. Their permanent eye color doesn't set in until 6 months-a year when they start to produce more melanin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:46 PM
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Or if you aren't aware of the fact that many many many white babies have blonde hair and blue eyes at first and both get darker over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:36 PM
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No. I go years sometimes without wearing earrings and mine have never closed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:00 PM
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I actually have a very vivid memory of this day because my childhood dog died on the same day. I had just turned 9 earlier that month. Our dog was 16 and on her last legs, and my dad had planned to take her to the vet to be put down the next day. So I was really sad that whole day. I remember waking up in the morning and my mom was watching the news about Princess Diana. I was really confused because I didn't know princesses were real, I thought they were just fictional things in movies, like a …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:56 PM
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I don't think that song is really about making excuses. She's not describing criminal or immoral behavior (unless you're a religious extremist, I guess, and consider partying immoral). She's just saying she's changed as a result of the passage of time. Miley is also singing from the perspective of growing up famous which is a whole other layer to the song. My guess is this post was written by a young person who lacks the perspective being described in the song. Miley is in her 30s, and so am I. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:49 PM
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That's not true. There's an entirely separate criminal justice system for juveniles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:42 PM
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People in this sub really need to work on developing a fully-formed thought before making a post about it, 90% of the posts here are incoherent streams of consciousness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:38 PM
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When I started dating someone else six months after dumping my ex, he sent me a Facebook message saying he couldn't believe I'd moved on and "replaced him just like that." Mind you, at this point he was literally engaged to the girl he cheated on me with (I didn't find out he was cheating until after we broke up for other reasons). But somehow in his head I was the one who "monkey branched" because I had the audacity to date another guy any amount of time after breaking up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:40 PM
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I mean, that's true of working moms too. It's more the mom factor that's preventing you from doing those things than the stay-at-home factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:14 PM
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It doesn’t matter how much someone enjoys their job, they’d be happier if they were self-employed and making their own hours (working whenever they want, like I do). I have done both and I am absolutely not happier being self-employed and choosing my own hours. I find it stressful. I'd rather work regular, set hours -- even if it's more hours -- and know exactly how much money is hitting my bank account every two weeks. I like the consistency of being an employee and am not interested in ever be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:12 PM
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Lol my thoughts exactly. I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who "forgets to eat"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:48 PM
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Prenatal paternity tests can be done at 7 weeks. A lot of women don't even know they're pregnant by that point and early miscarriages are often mistaken for periods. At most he would be paying for a week or two's worth of child support between when she first knows she's pregnant and when she's able to get the test. But either way, I would assume no man would be required to pay without a test, since that's how child support for born children works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:05 PM
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I'm pretty sure the prenatal child support is for medical expenses associated with the pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:57 PM
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You have to account for the fact that a lot of married couples are old though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 05:17 PM
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Probably 5 years in either direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:27 AM
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No. It mostly makes me confused because it's so far removed from my experience. I mostly chalk it up to different environments and probably my body language has something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 12:16 AM
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There's an understood "no girls allowed" when men are hanging out together. I'd never invite myself along with my husband and his friends unless I knew other wives were going to be there. My husband has a friend who always invites his wife to their group hangs and it pisses the rest of the guys off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:25 AM
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If it's just me and my female friends then no I wouldn't want him to come. One man in a group of women throws off the vibe and no one wants to be the person who can't do anything without their bf/gf. Plus he wouldn't have any fun either. If it's a mixed sex group that includes my friends plus their boyfriends/spouses or other male friends, then yes I'd want him to come.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:23 AM
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I was factoring in the PMS as well. What about PMS? PMS happens during the luteal phase which is when most women's sex drive is the lowest, because that's when progesterone is highest. Early sexual maturity and early menopause doesn't say anything about women being less hornier than men You're the one who brought it up as evidence of women being more horny than men which makes even less sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:46 PM
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The menstrual cycle is always raging at them to go get fucked so they can have babies in the prime of their lives. They have multiple sub phases each month and a very little window to relax and calm down. This is pretty much completely backwards. Women have one window to get pregnant every month and it lasts 5-6 days. The menstrual cycle isn't "always" telling women to get pregnant, for about 3/4 of every month it's literally impossible to get pregnant. They mature sexually earlier than men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:37 PM
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This is exactly what I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:13 PM
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Extremely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:08 PM
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Babies and toddlers are very expensive because they grow out of clothes constantly and they need diapers and wipes which obviously run out quickly and are not cheap. Diapers and wipes run you about $100 a month. Obviously that isn't a problem once they're done potty training, but by that point they're eating more which eats up most of what you would save. And again, new clothes are pretty much constant, at least several hundred dollars a year. Then there's health insurance which I already mentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:25 AM
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I don't make lots of money. My child doesn't have any conditions, but he's a toddler which means he gets sick a lot and gets a lot of ear infections and things of that nature which require antibiotics. Kids go to the doctor a lot. Plus kids need regular checkups, vaccines, and after a certain age, dental cleanings and eye exams. But even if none of that was true, his insurance would cost that much because that's how much it costs to add a child to my plan. I don't know of any plans that cost les…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:02 AM
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You have to pay for health insurance, genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:51 AM
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My kid's health insurance alone costs nearly $300 a month. That's not getting into food, clothes, diapers, toiletries, daycare, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:51 AM
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Yes, just like I've forgotten most things about friends I haven't seen in years. People have limited mental bandwidth, the older you get and the more new memories you form, the more the old ones fall away.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:39 PM
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Botox, fillers and plastic surgery used to be the purview of celebrities and upper-class "kept" women. Normal everyday women getting that stuff en masse is a relatively new development.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:37 PM
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Q4All: I've noticed women have thoughts, emotions and inner lives. What gives???
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:21 PM
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Yeah, this conversation is pretty much a moot point in those states because abortion is effectively outlawed in those states too. I don't think financial abortion should be possible in places where actual abortion isn't. Realistically, financial abortion is only feasible in places with generous abortion laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:16 PM
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The window for financial abortion should fall between the time when you're able to get an in-utero paternity test and a few weeks before the abortion cutoff. There should be enough of a cushion for the woman to still seek an abortion after the man financially "aborts." Otherwise he could rescind financial support at the last minute and she wouldn't have time to get an abortion. You also have to factor in that all this paperwork will take a while to go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:11 PM
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Because people can speculate and use their reasoning skills to answer a question even if they don't have personal experience with it. And asking questions to hyper-specific groups like that is against the rules on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:42 PM
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It's also her body to do as she sees fit so he should have no problem with her using it to have sex with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:32 PM
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It shouldn't, I'm just explaining why you're not getting many answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:32 PM
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I don't think there are any other wives in this situation on this subreddit, is the thing. It's a very unusual situation. Most women here work, and the ones that don't seem to all have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:29 PM
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As a matter of fact I do, unless she's sick or injured in some way. But I'm talking about the legal realities of marriage. When you get married, your money and property literally become your spouse's money and property, and vice versa. That's what marriage IS. Your spouse is quite literally entitled to your money and resources, legally speaking. Because it's also their money and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:14 PM
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I didn't say anything about paternity fraud so idk what inconsistency you're perceiving. Rape by deception was just a really weird and illogical place to take this conversation. There are probably other legal avenues it could theoretically fall under.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:27 PM
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Literally yes. Marriage makes the husband and wife a sole economic unit, that's one of its main functions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:24 PM
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I'm pretty sure rape by deception only applies to cases where the person actually misrepresented their identity, e.g. identical twins switching places, or a guy coming into a dark room pretending to be your boyfriend and having sex with you. I don't think we want to set the precedent that if you lie to your spouse about anything you're raping them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:18 PM
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Apparently such behavior has never been even attempted to prosecute under monogamy laws Well, you're not finding this because having a family with a mistress isn't illegal. Monogamy laws are about official spouses. If you're not actually married to the other woman, you're not breaking any laws so there's nothing to prosecute.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 03:15 PM
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Then shouldn't you be able to answer this question yourself? Most people here aren't going to have experience with this dynamic, it's pretty unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:55 PM
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Like I said, I'm speaking from experience as a shy person. Sure occasionally someone will enjoy doing it. There are exceptions to everything. For the most part, it makes people uncomfortable and frustrated, and at the first opportunity they will shift their attention to someone who's easier to interact with, because that's a better social experience for them. You can talk about what humans "should" or are "meant to" do all day but I'm talking about the reality of how most people feel when intera…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:19 PM
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I am a cripplingly shy person so you're preaching to the choir here. I'm not saying it's morally bad. I'm saying it creates an unpleasant social experience for other people, which is what people mean when they say "bad personality." People don't like having to do the work to pull someone out of their shell, and shy people aren't entitled to others doing that work for them. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:04 PM
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It makes you boring and difficult to interact with and makes other people feel uncomfortable around you. It can make you seem aloof or untrustworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:47 PM
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I didn't make assumptions, I literally said we can't assume because the stat doesn't say. It says that women in lesbian relationships are more likely to HAVE experienced intimate partner violence at some point. That could be from a male or female partner, and I'm sure it's a mix of both. YOU guys are the ones assuming it's female on female. What "platitude" did I make?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:40 AM
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No? Stats say what they say. If the stat was that lesbian relationships are more likely to include domestic violence, I would take that at face value. But that's not what it says. This is just reading comprehension. I'm not adding qualifiers, I'm reading what the study actually says.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:29 AM
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The statistical fact is that women currently in lesbian relationships are more likely to have experienced domestic violence. It's a fallacy to assume that all or most of that violence was at the hand of another woman, especially given that most women in lesbian relationships have dated men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:11 AM
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I'm not denying that lesbian couples can be violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:08 AM
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He's 2 and a half so he's only just being introduced to the concept of Santa
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:22 PM
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Sorry I can't get past your repeated use of the word maiden
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:21 PM
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Gay men are notoriously non-monogamous. Technically that isn't disloyal if it's an agreed-upon arrangement in their marriage, but that's not a dynamic most straight couples or lesbians are happy with. Lesbian couples tend to come from similar backgrounds and demographics as the straight couples who are most likely to divorce -- they marry younger, belong to lower socioeconomic strata, etc. Married gay men tend to be older and wealthier, which are traits that correlate with lower likelihood to di…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:53 PM
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I have in the past so clearly I have it in me. I'd like to think I wouldn't anymore but who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:49 AM
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Dark haired/eyed skinny hyperactive imps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:46 AM
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I look like Aubrey Plaza if she was blonde, my husband looks like young Javier Bardem
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:31 PM
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My weekday breakfast is overnight oats with yogurt, fruit and chia seeds. On weekends we have a bigger breakfast like breakfast tacos, waffles etc. I like to eat a big/late breakfast and skip lunch. If I eat cereal it's usually for dinner on nights when I'm lazy but hungry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:28 PM
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Did you see your father flirt with or be physically affectionate with your mother? Yes. Did you see your mother flirt with or be physically affectionate with your father? Yes, but less so. My mom in general is a more cold/less expressive person than my dad. If there were problems, what were they and how aware of them were you? Too many to list, and very aware. Did your father ever talk badly about your mother to you or in front of you or to her in front of you? Yes, all the time. Did your mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:18 PM
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Well first of all I don't think it's possible to assign custody in a prenup, at least in the US. But assuming it was, no, I wouldn't. I don't think kids should be used as a bartering chip in their parents' relationship. Assuming no abuse or addictions, I would want my husband to have partial custody because I would want my son to have a relationship with his father. I'm certain my husband would feel the same way. We both love our son and want what's best for him, which is having a relationship w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:04 AM
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OK, again, I probably worded this poorly. I don't mean (and my mom didn't mean) that they are the source of all of your acute joy. Obviously I can enjoy taking a walk in nature even if I hate my husband's guts and wish he were dead. But from a holistic life standpoint, your choice of spouse can either make your life as a whole easy and enjoyable or tedious and miserable. You literally share your life with this person, as long as you're both alive and married you will never make a major life deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:30 PM
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Ok, that was careless phrasing on my part. I don't remember exactly how she worded it. But what she meant was what I said in my second comment -- that your choice of spouse has the capacity to make the rest of your life either happy or miserable, and that it's a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. If you don't think that choosing the person you share your life with, share a home with, raise children with, merge finances with, and get old with is a decision that has major impacts on your ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:58 PM
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That's not what she meant. She meant that it's a decision that will impact every single aspect of your life, for better or worse, so you need to choose carefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:48 PM
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My mom told me that the person you marry will be responsible for 90% of your happiness or misery for the rest of your life. I think that's pretty good gender-neutral advice that I'll give to my son, and my daughter if I ever have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:37 PM
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Same. I work out for cardio and joint health. My workouts are pretty light (I mostly just walk a lot, lift 10lb weights and do body weight exercises) which is enough to keep me healthy, feeling good and help with my back pain. I'd have to up my game a lot for my workouts to have much of an effect on my appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:02 PM
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Only athletic thing I've ever been kind of good at is swimming but I never competed or anything. I have long limbs and big feet so that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:00 PM
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I have only ever owned Androids and so has my husband. I couldn't care less what kind of phone someone uses, I just personally don't like Apple products. When I was teaching high school ten years ago I noticed that phones had become a status symbol the way clothes and shoes were when I was in school. You definitely took a social hit as a high school student in 2013 if you had an Android instead of an iPhone. I'm baffled to learn that this is an attitude some people have apparently carried into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:48 PM
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That is how it works. Baby boomers were born 1946-1964. Your grandmother is technically silent generation but on the cusp. Even by your own definition your grandpa is not a boomer as WWII was still going on in 1940. He's solidly silent generation. But ok, your parents are older gen X, not boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:39 PM
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Boomers are in their late 50s-early 70s. Your grandparents are silent generation. Your parents are likely boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:07 PM
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It's hard to answer the first question because my brain doesn't really think in percentages, and also because once I find one guy attractive I tend to hyperfocus on him and ignore everyone else. It's not that he's the only guy in the room who could potentially be attractive to me, he's just the one who happened to spark my interest first. As for the second question, they're just neutral. I don't have the mental bandwidth to walk around forming opinions on random people I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:12 PM
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It's very rare that I find someone "repulsive." Like, they have to have terrible BO or some kind of festering sores or something to reach that level. Most people, men and women, are just neutral. But there was never a shortage of attractive men. Whether I take note of them depends more on my mood/headspace and the environment. The same guy can be neutral in one scenario but catch my eye in another.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:35 PM
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Not if they also work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:46 PM
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"yasslighting" is very good
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:25 PM
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I use "femcel" more as a personality descriptor/archetype than as a woman who literally can't get anyone to have sex with her (because I agree that doesn't exist)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:07 PM
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I've got bad news for you, you're still watching porn
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:00 PM
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Asking someone to be dominant seems like kind of an oxymoron. Personally I have never asked a man for this in general and it's not a relationship dynamic I'm interested in. I have asked my husband to "take the lead" on certain things because I either don't have the bandwidth or I feel he's better equipped to handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:51 PM
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Women can definitely glow up (I did) but going from femcel to Stacy would require a personality transplant and, as a wise man once said, those aren't yet available.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:44 PM
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Mutual friends
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:15 AM
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He's a shitty, lazy teacher. And being a student isn't a profession so it's nonsensical to say a student is being "unprofessional."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:18 AM
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It's called having a personality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:51 PM
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Why can't a man just walk up to a woman and tell her he wanted to talk to her cause she's hot? Why does he then have to pretend about caring about all the random stuff she's saying and entertaining her for hours when he just wants to be intimate with her? So...he didn't want to talk to her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:03 PM
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What's "bad body"? Just not fit or like really obese? Also how short is short?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 08:27 PM
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He was 17 and worked at Taco Bell.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:20 PM
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I've been on a few different types of birth control. They all had negative effects on my libido, some more than others, but the type of man I'm attracted to never changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:54 PM
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Pretty much never. We're a very physically affectionate couple and it often just escalates to sex rather than someone "initiating" out of the blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:29 PM
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A mama's boy isn't just a guy who talks to his mom or even has a good relationship with his mom. It's a guy who's spoiled by his mom or whose mom is overbearing/controlling and who basically lets his mom run his life, who takes his mom's side over yours, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:07 PM
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I have a policy of blocking any minors I come across on social media, but blocking is against the rules here too so...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:51 PM
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I care about similar values and compatible personalities. I don't care much about shared interests and hobbies, and in fact I kind of like to not share those things so I can enjoy my interests in peace (and I need to be with someone who lets me do that which is where compatible personalities comes in).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:49 PM
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It absorbs the blood before it has a chance to leave your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:28 PM
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Do you not know what a tampon is?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:20 PM
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Sharks being attracted to human blood is a myth. And if you have a tampon in you're not going to bleed in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:10 PM
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Speaking for myself personally, it's not outright impossible but pretty difficult to relax enough to be seduced and sleep with someone without alcohol, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:54 PM
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It's not possible to have "separate everything" in marriage just by virtue of how marriage works. Even if you keep money in separate accounts, it's still a marital asset and belongs to both of you legally. Putting that aside, this is really only feasible for wealthy people, or people willing to live way below the level of what they could afford together. Kids would also complicate this arrangement. How do you decide who gets the kids and when? You'd basically have to work out a shared custody ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:10 AM
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It wouldn't be my first choice by a long shot, but if I really really fell in love with a man who had a kid then I probably would. Or if I reached an age where finding a man without a previous marriage/kids wasn't realistic, or if I got divorced I might be open to a blended marriage type situation. If I did though I'd still want additional kids of my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:42 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:09 PM
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A few years ago I broke my ankle and had to wear an orthopedic boot for six weeks which caused my calf muscle to atrophy so I had to go to physical therapy to build it back up. They made me do a lot of resistance band exercises. You can probably look them up on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:05 AM
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Have you ever considered typing a sentence without using the word "bro"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:39 PM
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Ah yeah I guess that's true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:50 PM
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I'll stop commenting on posts about online dating when 20 year olds who have never been in a relationship stop commenting on posts about marriage, divorce and childrearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:44 PM
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Major dealbreaker. Actually not even a deal breaker because there wouldn't be a deal in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:42 PM
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Pretty sure that would be a murder charge, not manslaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:58 PM
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Mods = Gods
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:47 PM
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So now it's narcissistic for women to date their looksmatch instead of men more attractive than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:54 PM
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Should have watched MTV Cribs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:42 PM
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You weren't able to figure out on your own that rich and famous musicians existed? Did you not own a TV or radio?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:11 PM
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That means these women are pretty one-dimensional too and are probably pretty evenly matched with these men. You only think they're more interesting because you're a straight man and find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:40 PM
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Yes, progressive liberalism is one value the upper socioeconomic classes tend to hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:53 PM
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It's not that important to me, but most women for whom it's a requirement or strong desire come from a socioeconomic background where being college educated is the norm. It's a class filter, and college education is a good proxy for a lot of other traits they desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:02 AM
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I just skimmed the post and missed the second bullet point. But my answer addresses it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:28 PM
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If it's a secret then it doesn't really make a difference to me does it? I guess if the question is which one would be easier to deal with once the secret is out, it would be the female friend who secretly hates me. I would just stop being friends and talk shit behind her back, which is kind of fun and I wouldn't feel guilty because she hates me already. The male friend, assuming I don't share his feelings, is a more awkward and delicate situation to handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 10:55 PM
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I don't understand what any of this means
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:13 PM
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This isn't uncommon at all? They don't need to be in the same room at the same time to compare them. If you knew a woman when she was married to her first husband and still know her after she marries her second then you know both men. Most single moms didn't get knocked up by a random who did a disappearing act immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:10 PM
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"Popular" has always been an interesting concept to me because, at least at my high school, I found that the people who were considered to be "popular" weren't necessarily the most widely-liked people, and vice versa. By the strictest definition of the term, my best friend was one of the most popular people in our school. She was cool, interesting, outgoing, charismatic. Everyone got along with her. But she was also weird and a slacker, alternative, genius-level smart but academically lazy, her …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:52 PM
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Cancer or autoimmune disease probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:04 PM
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I can't fall in love with someone without sexual attraction and chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 08:31 PM
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Lena Dunham and Matty Healy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:17 PM
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Happened several times when I was in high school. It's awkward for a while but eventually it blows over. My town was too small and friend group too insular to cut out every guy I had an unrequited crush on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:36 PM
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Absolutely not. Most women, even very fit women, do not have the upper body strength or bone density to take out a man with a punch. She would break her own hand before she did any real damage to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:44 AM
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Sure, I could be stronger. But even if I was stronger than I am now, most men would be stronger than me. My brother might have to use two hands to restrain me instead of just one. Elsewhere in this thread I posted some charts about benchpress numbers for men vs. women. Women's "advanced/elite" numbers were similar to the "untrained/novice" numbers of men of the same size. Women being the sex that bears young creates huge differences on our physiology that can't be overcome with weight training. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:27 AM
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My "gender" doesn't, my sex does. Are you unaware of the differences in physiology between male and female mammals? This sub has to be the only place in the world where men will argue that they're NOT physically superior to women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:19 AM
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Yeah, duh. I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:15 AM
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She's not saying that all men shorter than her are physically disabled or minors. She's saying that for a male to be weaker than her at her stature would require him to be either physically disabled or a minor. A healthy short man is going to be stronger than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:04 PM
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It's disturbing how ignorant people seem to be about the basic differences in male and female physiology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:00 PM
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"If a woman is stronger than a man she is stronger than him" yes, obviously. Most women, even if they lift/train, won't be stronger than men even if they don't. Compare the male and female charts here: https://www.healthline.com/health/exercise-fitness/average-bench-press#average-for-men Advanced/elite for women is barely stronger than untrained/novice for men. A woman benching 100kg (220lb) would have to be a 200-lb elite weightlifter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:41 PM
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No. A woman who lifts is usually still going to be weaker than a man who doesn't. https://boysvswomen.com/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:15 PM
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Women being weaker than men isn't a "gender role," it's inherent to our anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:10 PM
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My brother is shorter and smaller than me and can immobilize me with one hand. Women do not have a physical advantage over smaller men unless the man is disabled in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:43 PM
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Interdependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:01 PM
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In my experience, older women tend to be wary and protective of young men in relationships with older women too. I think after a certain age women just sort of develop a maternal mindset toward people younger than them in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:14 PM
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Higher ed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:00 PM
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He's gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:58 PM
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I think people know that it's called Disneyland or Disneyworld, they just call it Disney for short.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:39 PM
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I have never wanted a big wedding, expensive ring or trips to Dubai or Disney. If I wanted those things I wouldn't marry a man who wasn't willing to give them to me, regardless of what he gave to other women before me. I'd be much more upset that he didn't disclose that he was married multiple times previously. Edit: If he "blows" in bed why am I marrying him in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:47 PM
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Outside of a sexual context that's just not what the phrase "hooking up" means. You don't say "I hooked up a fish," you say "I hooked a fish." You would say hooking up when you're talking about attaching two things together, e.g. "I hooked up my monitor to my laptop." So why would the sexual connotation be the first and not the second? It's called hooking up because it's an attachment/connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:16 PM
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"Average" is a wide range, and there are some men who fall into that range who I find attractive and some I don't. Sometimes it's physical, sometimes it's a personality thing, sometimes it's just an intangible "not feeling it" that probably has as much to do with me and my mood as the guy himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:48 PM
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Yep. I say this as a very shy/socially anxious person. I basically did exposure therapy on myself by working customer-facing jobs and forcing myself to go out and meet people even when everything in me was screaming not to. You have to fake it until you make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:09 PM
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Yeah that 25% seemed way too high to me too. Either this is returning a lot of false positives or he's matching with a bunch of porn bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:16 PM
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His deranged fans are jumping on it because they don't want him married to anyone, that's really what it is. The age gap thing is just a convenient excuse to pretend they're on some moral crusade and not that they're psychos who think they have a chance at fucking Chris Evans. Same exact thing is happening with Timothee Chalamet/Kylie Jenner right now and there's no age gap there. Fans are just nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:23 PM
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Exact same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:13 AM
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This is how I "dated" 10+ years ago and how all my friends dated. We were part of a big coed social scene who partied and drank together all the time. Crushes and hookups happened and sometimes those developed into relationships. The situation was ambiguous until it wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:12 AM
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Less money yes, unemployed no unless it was just a temporary thing and he was actively looking for work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:05 PM
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Both your ages We're both 35. How long have you been in your relationship? 11 years, married 6. How often do you have sex now? 3-4 times a week generally, sometimes more or less depending on various factors. We mostly have sex on the weekends though, like multiple times Saturday and Sunday and not much or any the rest of the week. Just because of our schedules. How often when you started your relationship? When we were first dating we only got to see each other once or maybe twice a week, but ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:03 PM
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Clean shaven
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:24 PM
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Hershey kisses. They have foil instead of plastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 04:07 PM
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I didn't say anything about casual sex? I am choosing choice D which you labeled "none of the above."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:24 PM
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None of the above. I wouldn't be happy in any of the given romantic/sexual scenarios so I'd rather just be alone. I might not be happy then either but it's easier to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:05 PM
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lol I don't even have to go looking for this comment, I know exactly who wrote it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:42 PM
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I don't think they do universally. My friends are split like 50/50 on liking beards or not. And the women who are into beards are REALLY into them. Personally I am not a fan of beards because a man's jaw/chin/dimples/mouth lines/etc. are my favorite part of his face and I don't like it to be covered up. Plus beard hair reminds me of pubes and it feels gross when kissing and there's nothing nastier than watching a man with a beard eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:39 PM
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Also, I'm pretty sure the stat is that lesbians are more like to have experienced DV at some point. Many experienced DV with a male partner before they started dating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:34 PM
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I can't compute "attracted but not excited." Attraction, chemistry and good sex are exciting. I don't need to be taken out on a yacht or whatever if that's what you mean by "exciting," but I need to get butterflies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:31 PM
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Do you think the SNL writers room isn't full of men making crude, repulsive, embarrassing jokes?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:29 PM
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By media I mean the press, not social media. TMZ, People, Today etc. are all using sources from Joe's side. He's playing offense. (Although a couple of articles from Sophie's camp seem to have come out since I wrote that comment.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 12:03 AM
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The entire media narrative right now is coming from his side. Who knows what the truth is. Even with a normie couple going through a divorce you'll have competing narratives, let alone with celebrities who have to put a PR spin on everything. No one will ever have the full story. I just feel sorry for the kids. It looks like this is going to be a nasty custody dispute between parents on two different continents.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:47 PM
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I'm the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:02 PM
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Non-negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:30 PM
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Whichever one gives me butterflies. I've never had that feeling for two men at once so won't be hard to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:52 PM
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He didn’t specify anything to do with sex so I don’t know if it involves that. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:56 PM
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One ex is a chef, still single, last I heard had a bit of a substance abuse problem but that was several years ago. He moved across the country and I haven't seen him in like 15 years but still in contact with his sister and other mutual friends from high school. One ex married the girl he cheated on me with after dating her for like six months, she tried to stab him, he tried to overdose on Tylenol, they got divorced and now he's remarried to someone else who seems very sweet but who knows. Las…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 03:33 PM
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I imagine it would be difficult for an older woman to "get sex" from the 70th percentile of young men. That's not really a typical situation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 08:05 PM
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know an underwater welder. He went to school for computer science but was unable to get his degree when his firstborn came so he started welding because it paid well and he could start asap. You absolutely can't start underwater welding "asap." You have to get a welding license, which takes several months at least, and additional training and certifications on top of that including a commercial diving certification.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:54 PM
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Or just meet in person ASAP so you can just see what the other person looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:10 PM
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I don't want to hear anything about any women he hooked up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:24 PM
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I went without sex for nearly 7 months during pregnancy and postpartum. I was on total pelvic rest which meant that I not only had to avoid PIV but literally anything that could cause me to have an orgasm. I still did stuff for my husband. Other than that... I lost my virginity when I was 19 and since then I think the longest I went without sex/sexual activity was nearly a year between my most recent ex and my husband. During pregnancy it was a struggle because my husband and I have frequent sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:25 PM
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That's acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:19 AM
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More fodder for my theory that people who own unconventional pets (anything besides dogs, cats, and sometimes birds and fish) are fucked up and not to be trusted. I have never once been proven wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:10 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:20 AM
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We have half of our guest room partitioned with a room divider and on either side are our respective office spaces and personal decor that doesn't fit with the rest of the house. On my side I have a bunch of cat figurines, floral print (my husband hates it so I try to confine it to my personal space), my Taylor Swift merch collection, a bunch of pictures of my son and nieces, a wax burner and my treadmill.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:43 AM
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My ex did a lot of manipulative things, but one of the worst and more obvious ones in hindsight was any time we would fight, he would talk about being suicidal or talk about how whatever he did that I was mad about was a pattern of behavior he developed because of XYZ traumatic childhood event. He would play on my sympathies and my desire to protect him to get me to forgive him. I tried to break up with him several times and he would always threaten to kill himself so I would end up feeling guil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:31 AM
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What are you going to do to prevent pregnancy while "waiting it out"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:19 AM
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The faith people on this sub have in high school students to internalize and implement the things their teachers tell them is truly heartwarming.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:40 PM
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Literally most full-time jobs? Administrative assistants at my workplace (entry-level job, no degree required) make 48k which is $4000 a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:23 PM
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maybe because lesbian sex is actually celebrated No, it's because being penetrated by someone you're not attracted to is universally disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:20 PM
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Sure. Doesn't matter to me and it's not something I ever gave a second thought to before I came to this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:12 PM
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Europeans/Americans <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:24 AM
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Like someone else said -- it's a magnetic pull toward the other person. Just a rush of chemicals that makes you excited to be in their presence and makes you crave it when you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:26 PM
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This whole series is the gayest (and by gayest I truly do mean most homosexual) shit I have ever laid eyes on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:09 PM
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This seems kind of misandrist. You're implying that the more masculine a person is the less they're capable of love and hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:36 PM
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I'd choose my husband and my mom would want me to. He's my life partner, and he's young, and my kid needs a dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:34 PM
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Really need people to stop making this guy think his "female women" joke is funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:15 AM
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I only started drinking coffee a year or two ago. I don't think I got less stuff done before I drank coffee, I'm just not as sleepy while I'm doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:54 PM
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Helps me wake up in the morning. I like the taste and aroma and I like the ritual of making it. I'm not really sure what the benefits or disadvantages are besides that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:47 PM
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Thank you! I'm a mastermind 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 04:19 AM
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I don't mind him not being a high powered career oriented person, I'm not either and don't really like those sorts of people. But no kids is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 04:04 AM
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My husband is a welder. I like tradesmen. I wouldn't date a server or barista at this point in my life (mid 30s) but did when I was younger when those jobs were more age appropriate. But those jobs aren't typically what's meant by blue collar.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:42 PM
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No, I'm saying as a heterosexual woman I can say that I have attractive female friends but that doesn't mean that I, personally, am sexually attracted to them. I feel the same way about some of my male friends. Acknowledging that someone has objectively attractive features isn't the same thing as subjectively experiencing sexual attraction to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 01:42 PM
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Sometimes you just don't have sexual chemistry with people, or sometimes people can be attractive objectively speaking but not your type. To me it's not really different from saying I have attractive female friends but I'm not attracted to them. I can visually see that someone has pleasant features but that doesn't mean I respond to them sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 05:14 PM
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I mean I think he writes for magazines and stuff too, but yeah, people make a lot of money doing pop culture commentary on YouTube. He has one of the largest followings on the platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 01:02 AM
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He's a music critic on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:41 AM
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Blue eyes is an instant 0 for me, I cannot
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:39 PM
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Hate this mofo so much
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:37 PM
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I've been around evangelicals all my life and have never once heard this phrase outside of the internet. The mental real estate this non-concept takes up for some men in these spaces is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:44 AM
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Yeah lol this is a lesson I learned when I was like 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:57 AM
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This couldn't be farther from my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:11 PM
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Silicon Valley and Hollywood are like 400 miles apart. I just don't think these people cross paths that much because their industries are based in different places. And if they did, one or the other would have to uproot if they were to get married which would put a damper on their careers. Again this isn't a concern when the same city is both a financial and entertainment hub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:33 AM
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Total shot in the dark but I wonder if this has to do with location. Our celebs tend to be on the west coast while our billionaires are on the east coast. So they probably don't run in the same circles or cross paths as much as they would in, say, London, which is both a financial and entertainment hub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:17 AM
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If you were born in 1996 you're the youngest possible millennial. The oldest millennials were born in 1981. So about half of the cohort is in their late 30s-early 40s right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:51 AM
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Millennials are already in their late 30s and 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:42 AM
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I know exactly what you mean!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 07:07 AM
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I wouldn't want to be a guinea pig but after it's around for a while and FDA approved and all that, and assuming it has the taste/texture of real meat, I'd be all for it. I'm already halfway there because I don't eat any meat off the bone. I have a pretty big ick factor when it comes to meat that looks or feels too, well, meaty lol. So the meat I eat is mostly processed to hell and probably not much more natural or healthy than lab grown meat would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:49 AM
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Yikes. She's got a beautiful face too, what a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:45 AM
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No, she cheated on her husband with a costar who is married and has a baby. She was also friends with the wife and had met and held the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:17 AM
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Matty Healy has an edgy sense of humor but he's a genuinely great person and he worships the ground Taylor walks on. I also think they're still dating on the DL but that's another story lol. Her fans were acting like complete psychos for the entire month that relationship was public and slandering Matty for things he never even did or said, she was right not to cater to a bunch of freaks on Twitter over showing loyalty to someone she's known for a decade. Taylor's only ever paid the most basic l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:22 AM
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I'm not the biggest purplish possum fan but I'm pretty sure he'd be the first to say that he's successful because of looks/height. That's like kind of his whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:13 AM
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We spend about $500 a month on groceries for our household which includes two adults, a toddler and two pets. So that's roughly $16 a day for all of us. We very rarely eat out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:04 AM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:56 AM
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5'5 is not "average Joe," that's significantly below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:07 PM
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Yeah, I speak from experience lol. It's a work in progress for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:06 AM
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Talk to me or have mannerisms and a vibe I think is alluring. I can't really list specific actions, I know it when I see it. It also has a lot to do with me and my mood and the environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:24 PM
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whomst
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:28 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:13 PM
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Sounds like this is feedback he's getting from friends and family too, not just girls he tries to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:43 PM
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Assertiveness. Standing your ground. Having the courage of your convictions. Saying no unapologetically. When people say you are "too nice" they usually mean you're nice in a way that's a detriment to you, because you're a pushover and let others take advantage of you. Being "too nice" can also often make people view you as untrustworthy because they will assume you're not telling them the truth, you're just telling them what they want to hear. And then you will turn around and do the same to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:49 PM
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Well I mean, you yourself admit that it's not every girl. I don't think anyone's claiming that no woman dates or prefers older men. But in general people tend to date close to their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:04 PM
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Your phrasing is confusing. Are you saying you see girls dating older more established men or men their age?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:49 PM
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I find the average man neutral until he behaves or interacts with me in a way that gets my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:05 PM
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I think so. Lots of people do it. There are RN to BSN degree tracks specifically for working RNs who want to get a bachelor's (usually because it's required for a supervisory role, or because they want to go on to NP school which is a master's degree). There are several nurses in my family and the only one who has a bachelor's is my sister-in-law who took that route because she wanted to be a NP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:04 AM
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I think this depends on the state. In my state you just need an associate's degree to be an RN.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:46 AM
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An estimated one in ten women have endometriosis and even more than that have PCOS, I think around 20%. Both of those conditions cause painful periods, and birth control is the first order of treatment for both. Most women also have some hormonal acne especially in their teen years. I haven't seen anyone claim that "all girls are on bc for basically no reason."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:31 PM
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I never said it's given to everyone by default. I said it's prescribed off label to girls and women who aren't sexually active. Those health issues you mentioned are very common and it results in a lot of women being put on birth control even if they're not sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:08 PM
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To prescribe birth control off-label? It's very much legal and happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:57 PM
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They are. It's very very common.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:36 PM
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And most women don't have naturally straight hair, so if that's "all" that's required that's going to be a lot of salon visits and home styling to achieve that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:49 PM
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The man. I'm married with a great sex life. We've steadily had sex 4-5 times a week for the last 10 years except for when I was on pelvic rest during pregnancy and after birth. I am always down when he initiates, but he almost always initiates. Because sex is simply "out of sight, out of mind" for me. I don't wake up wanting it like he does. It doesn't take a lot to put me in the mood, but "the mood" is pretty much a constant for him. This has been true of all my past relationships too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:04 PM
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If it was something they tried once, realized it wasn't for them and don't want to do again I'd be fine with it. If it's a lifestyle they're still into and open to then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:14 PM
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OP is a guy but yeah, I'm not sure why so many people cling to this narrative when it's so obviously not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:42 PM
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Never been in one and never would. Don't care what other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:58 PM
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Anxious avoidant
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:26 AM
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They mean lines of credit in general, not credit cards per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:43 PM
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I have for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:38 PM
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There are certain points in my hormone cycle where I just crave sex qua sex and get turned on at the sight of my husband's body. But in general yes, being the object of his desire is what turns me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:27 PM
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It's never happened but I would be annoyed. I'm really particular about food, I want to pick what I eat. Plus on a date I'm cognizant of how certain foods will affect me later on in the evening which isn't exactly something I'd want to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:10 AM
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One of my best friends since first grade is a guy. We're practically like siblings and my parents even call him their third son (I have two brothers). We've been friends through every life stage and were roommates for a while in our 20s. He introduced me to my husband and I had a hand in him meeting his wife (he gave me his phone and let me swipe through profiles on OKCupid for him; I found a girl who I thought was cool and I wanted to be friends with her so I told him to message her. They're ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:15 AM
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B. If the sex is that good then I'm obviously plenty attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:06 AM
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Right lol, this seems like a no-win situation. If you leave with no explanation then you "ghosted" and "blindsided" them. But if you give them a reason then you're trying to "control them."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:14 PM
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Yes, we both agree I'm wrong for being with him in the first place. But here we are. I have made a mistake and am dating a man with an intolerably ugly couch. The couch is very important to him and he won't get rid of it. I can't live with the couch. There is no compromise to be reached. So answer the question. How do I tell him this is my reason for breaking up with him without being "controlling"? Saying "You shouldn't have dated him in the first place" isn't an answer. In the analogy, I AM da…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:58 PM
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Ok, let's say I think he has ugly taste in decor. He's always liked this style of decor and I thought I could put up with it or influence him to have better taste, but it's a year into the relationship and he's not budging and we're thinking of moving in together. I tell him I can't look at this ugly decor for the rest of my life, so if he's going to insist on keeping it then I will have to break up with him. Am I being controlling? And if so, how could I express my reasons for leaving the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:32 PM
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why even get into this relationship to begin with? I don't know why he did it, it was dumb, I've said that like three times now. I don't understand how that factors into whether or not he was controlling. fact is, he attempted to have her change her lifestyle so she could be with him - that’s what makes it controlling Ok, let's use my analogy from another comment. I start dating a guy who is a smoker. Maybe I thought he would quit or maybe I thought I could put up with the smoking but it turns o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:25 PM
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I agree he was dumb to get into a relationship with her in the first place. I just think that's a separate issue from whether or not he was being controlling. “hey, stop doing this thing you love or else we won’t date” is controlling behavior So then setting any boundaries for what you'll put up with in a relationship is controlling. He is allowed to leave a relationship for any reason he wants, including reasons you or I think are dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:16 PM
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I don't see how what he did was controlling in any way. He laid out what his issues were and said that if the behavior didn't change he would exit the relationship. He wasn't threatening or aggressive in any way. He even wished her well and said no hard feelings. I think the particular things he took issue with are pretty dumb, but that's really neither here nor there. People are allowed to leave relationships for reasons I think are dumb. But I don't see how that makes his behavior controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:11 PM
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it's up to women to save the world, but they can't do that if they're cleaning the porch all day and God knows what else, laundry, dishes, cooking whatever. That stuff is fine when the world isn't on fire. Why doesn't this equally apply to women who have jobs? Most women aren't communist revolutionaries, whether they're "trad wives" or not. And even when "the world is on fire," people still have to eat, wear clothes and live in clean environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:41 PM
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It is though. It's one of the few places on reddit where people debate controversial stuff. Yes that's right. It's a debate sub, not an advice sub. You can take information you glean from the debates here and apply them to your life the way you would apply advice. But the purpose of this sub is not "advice" and never has been. It's a place to debate topics related to intersex dynamics and specifically the red pill, which was never limited to just dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:27 PM
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This isn't an advice sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:02 PM
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I am interested in romance, love, dating and sex as subjects. Have been for as long as I can remember. It's never been clear to me why I would lose intellectual interest in those topics just because I'm married.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:00 PM
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Yes it did. This was about ten years ago when I was in a really bad place. I was in therapy (CBT) for about six months and it helped me cope with a couple of difficult life situations that were going on at the time and just in general helped me identify my triggers and redirect the thought patterns I was getting stuck in. It also helped to feel like I had someone holding me accountable for working on myself. I still have a lot of anxiety and it's a constant effort but I'm more equipped to deal w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:21 AM
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To get a handle on my anxiety because it was literally ruining my life and killing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:20 AM
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We've all been there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:26 AM
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"When you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath and count to four." -Daniel Tiger
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:50 AM
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The vast majority of states already don't have permanent alimony. I'm surprised Florida still did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:31 PM
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Somehow young men were able to develop libidos before free high def streaming porn. I think he'll be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:08 PM
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My best friend and I always intentionally got in the way of the balls so we'd be out of the game and could sit on the floor and talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:08 AM
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Yeah basically. What happens if you fall behind on the reading? I mean there's no book club police that are going to come after you, you'll just probably have a hard time following the conversation that week. Or you skip that meeting and catch up for next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:49 PM
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I'm not currently but have been in the past. You... talk about the book you're reading, that's kind of the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:40 PM
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I'm a parent of a son and I plan to monitor his internet use very closely until he graduates high school. I know it's easier said than done and they can access stuff anywhere etc. and he will probably get his hands on it one way or the other, but we plan to do what we can and be pretty strict parents in this regard in our own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:56 PM
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But if dad is actively facilitating that is pretty gross Not just gross but often the first step toward sexual abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:16 PM
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Because before it was banned incels would just spam "Cope" after everything. It's pointless, bad faith and doesn't further conversation in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:15 PM
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change/challenge my view
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:06 PM
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Based and Dunbar's number pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:48 AM
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yup, same. My mom always said if you're entertaining multiple guys you don't actually like any of them that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:29 PM
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He appreciates me and tells me so all the time. This is very important to me. He is hilarious. He takes great care of the people in his life. He's a great dad, brother, son, son-in-law. He is very protective. He makes me feel safe. He is very much the yang to my yin. He's a calming, stabilizing presence. I always say I'm in a mixed optimism marriage -- I'm the worrier, the pessimist, the catastrophizer; he has a relentless faith that everything will work out, sees the good in every situation and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:38 PM
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Bad things only happen in capitalist countries, so true bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:06 PM
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I like how redditors just assume everyone agrees that capitalism is a big bad boogeyman
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:07 AM
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When little boy falls and has a booboo, he wants his momma. If momma is in surgery, he won't be happy. This is true of literally any job. Do you think a waitress can just walk out mid-shift because her little boy skinned his knee at daycare?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:11 PM
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I started playing a game where if I see someone post virulent fat hate I go into their history and see how many pages back I have to go before I find a "I used to be really fat" comment. It's usually not more than two.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:29 PM
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At the moment yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:14 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:09 AM
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I don't have a problem with men filtering by weight. I never used OLD so it's kind of irrelevant to me. If I'm dating a guy I assume he can see me and determine for himself whether I'm too fat for him or not. I'm not sure why the specific number matters. I hardly ever weigh myself so I wouldn't be able to give an accurate answer anyway. I could tell him what size I wear but that's probably meaningless to most guys, and again I'm not sure why it matters, he can use his eyes and decide if he's hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:14 AM
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My impression is that there isn’t really much difference between male and female desire for sex. Your impression is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:41 PM
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Yes I gathered that, I'm curious what you were trying to convey by saying it like that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:25 AM
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What strange phrasing. Why "two women and then four or five others" instead of "six or seven women"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:06 AM
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Yes, it's just a habit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:33 AM
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I'm not on birth control now but I was for 7 years. I didn't notice any changes in who I was attracted to, just my arousal response in general. I was with my husband before, during and after birth control and was always attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:21 PM
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Yep that's my experience too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:20 PM
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Her memoir was really interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:50 PM
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I agree with him although I'm not sure how much this varies across cultures. But in many traditional families the woman does the household admin which includes paying bills, hiring contractors, buying household items etc. Husbands usually decide on bigger purchases like cars etc. but the day-to-day purchasing decisions are usually made by the wife because she's the one running the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:22 PM
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Jesus that's so sad. What a fucking moron that lady is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:19 PM
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No, they're not all like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:04 PM
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Proving that actors are hired to tell a story onscreen and sometimes human stories involve romantic or sexual scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:51 PM
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People don't become Hollywood A listers to be voice actors. It's perfectly valid not to want to date an actress for this reason, I'm just saying I don't think people who are actually in that business think about it the same way you do. I don't think Tom Holland is shocked or bothered when Zendaya has to kiss another guy on screen since he's an actor too, to him it's just part of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:44 PM
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That pretty much means you can never be a lead in a movie again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:09 PM
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Like I said, there were opportunities and they are not timid guys. If a guy I hang out with for 15 years shows no qualms about trying to sleep with women he's friends with, but never tries anything with me, it seems silly to assume that he's just uniquely intimidated by me for some reason. And I'm not talking about elementary school, I'm talking about high school/college/young adult friendships where we were hanging out and getting drunk together every night and people hooked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:54 PM
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"Be easygoing and let them have their way a lot of the time, don't argue, don't ask for much" is how you should be treating your children? Maybe if you want to spoil them and turn them into assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:06 PM
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No reputable church or clergy member is going to ordain a sham marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:13 AM
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Try the skyn condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 03:36 AM
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That he's single would be implied. Not single=in a committed relationship. If someone asked one of Joe's friends if Joe was single, they would say yes, even if they knew he was casual sleeping with someone. If she's not his gf, he is single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:06 PM
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Why would he tell his bench press buddies that the girl he's casually fucking is his gf?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:56 PM
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Joe from the gym also isn't going to say he isn't single
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:54 PM
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Dangerous way of thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 01:39 AM
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Not really, we all have our own lives that we run ourselves. I can't really think of a scenario where I'd need to defer to my siblings or vice versa so I don't really know where a hierarchy would come into play. I'm the youngest of three and the middle sibling is objectively the smartest and most successful so I guess he's at the top of the hierarchy in that sense. My oldest brother is pretty severely disabled and needs a lot of help from the rest of us so I guess that might put him at the botto…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:20 AM
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Indifferent
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:13 PM
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Well you didn't exactly "prove" it but I'll take your word for it. Although I'm not sure expect is the same as demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:46 PM
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They demand to be taken out for $300 dinner dates on a first date. Demand? Really? I want to know if a random woman has ever come up to you and demanded a $300 dinner date. "I'm a woman and you're a man; I want dinner, YOU OWE ME A $300 DINNER DATE!" Has a woman you've ever been on a date with, and you wouldn't pay $300 for her dinner, demanded a $300 dinner from you? I'm not talking here about trying to get you to pay for her dinner. I'm talking about her explicitly saying to you "I talked to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:54 PM
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No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:01 PM
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I've never even done A
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 02:56 PM
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I'm not but my husband is. Not sure what you mean by "immune to all this nonsense." I guess if anything navigating sex dynamics just comes more naturally to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:40 PM
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I just don't think anyone should sit there silently while someone is disrespecting their spouse. Weak shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:16 AM
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I would want my husband to step in and defend me or remove me from the situation. On some level I think my dad would want that too, or at least respect him for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:32 AM
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It would depend on the circumstances. If I had been neglecting him and it was a one off thing I might be able to get over it. I don't think I could forgive an ongoing affair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:44 PM
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Taylor Swift and the show Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:49 PM
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It’s hard to travel with your whole family People travel with their families all the time. Do you even have time to travel now when you're so focused on work? it’s hard to work 24/7 while having a family Well, yes. No one should be working 24/7. I can’t imagine marrying by 30 that is impossible Don't do it then, but there's a good chance you'll run out of time to have kids. Biology doesn't wait. It sounds like you don't actually want a family that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:00 PM
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If you want kids with someone your age, you should aim to be married no later than 30. Which means you should be seriously dating by your mid 20s. Unless you work on a submarine, there's no reason working should mean you can't date. Learn to walk and chew gum at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 01:31 PM
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It's very rare that I see someone I think is truly ugly. Most men are just neutral until they interact with me in a way that catches my attention. I do have a type though, and I guess a non-type (I don't like blond men or men with blue eyes). The latter is very rarely able to get out of "neutral" territory for me, but it has happened occasionally, and I still don't find them ugly per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:33 PM
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My best friend of 25 years takes days to reply to my texts. It's not personal, people just have busy lives or aren't in the mood to chat/hang out sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:25 AM
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This doesn't really seem like a relevant post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 12:09 AM
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Ideal tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:26 PM
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Important to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:28 PM
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Yes. I've always been more into musicians anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:52 AM
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cinematography You have to be joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:51 AM
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cannot easily be taken away Except by the inevitable passage of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:59 PM
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Collarbone and shoulders
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:31 AM
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I would also posit that a lot of these self reported "women" are not actually women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 02:39 PM
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Not interested in being part of someone's kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:02 AM
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I met my husband in a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:14 AM
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Yep I've said the same thing. New reddit is so aesthetically horrendous I can't even stand to look at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 06:46 PM
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ISFJ, 6w5
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 06:56 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 02:32 PM
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Because I'm interested in the subject matter. Human sexuality and relationships have always been something I was fascinated by. I don't understand why being married means you would lose intellectual interest in this topic. I'm not here for dating advice and never have been. I was on this sub before I was married, but I was dating my now husband when I started posting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:29 AM
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No way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:26 AM
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No. Thousands of kids are subjected to horrific abuse by the "proper families" in the foster care system.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:20 PM
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Diana was the side piece tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 06:56 PM
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It would cause problems whether he did it in the past or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:01 AM
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Sure I agree with all of this. To be clear, when I say "have sex when he initiates" I don't mean just lie back and let him stick it in dry right then and there. I mean have an open and generous mindset toward your partner, don't interpret his sexual advances as him asserting his selfish needs. Interpret it as a bid for love and connection, relax and be open to it. If he's a good partner he'll do what it takes to physically prepare you for intercourse (and if he doesn't, again, why are you with h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:57 PM
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Foreplay exists. I'm not suggesting you just let him stick it in dry whenever he wants. I'm suggesting that if he initiates sex, you should relax and be open to it and you will more than likely become aroused enough for sex. And again if you have a lot of trouble getting aroused even with foreplay...why are you with this guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:55 PM
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Because it's hurtful to neglect your partner's needs, because it's good for the relationship, because the female sex drive is very fickle and responsive so waiting until you're "in the mood" can often create a negative feedback loop where you're NEVER in the mood, whereas having more sex will often do the opposite and put you "in the mood" more often. Like it or not, sex is the main way men experience love, so to deny him of it more than once in a blue moon is deeply hurtful. inb4 "well what abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:17 PM
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The opinion that usually gets me dragged by other women on this sub is that women in LTRs/marriage should have sex pretty much any time their partner initiates whether they're in the mood or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 01:26 PM
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Several years ago my mom told me that when I was a teenager she worried about me because I wasn't rebellious and never got in trouble. She thought that was abnormal and there was something wrong with me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:39 AM
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I mean, I don't think there's any reason you can't focus on your friendships while pursuing your goals. I guess it depends on what your goals are. But I think just naturally as time goes on most people have other relationships and things going on in their life that take priority over friendships. I don't think it's a conscious decision people make, it just happens naturally. If you do find that your friendships are getting in the way of your goals though you should probably examine that. I guess…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 09:24 PM
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Most of my friends have been in my life for 20+ years at this point, but even so, their place on my list of priorities has dropped significantly as I've gotten older. My friends were my life in my teens and early 20s. But once I got into a serious relationship, got a "grown up job," got married, started a family and had to start taking care of older family members with health issues, I just had less time and emotional energy for friends. And it goes both ways - my friends are in a similar spot i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:41 PM
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Christian Bale ♥️♥️♥️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:51 PM
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Yes, that's pretty much the only way I've ever dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:26 PM
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Right that's what I said, the feelings aren't platonic but the relationship itself is unless/until it becomes something more. I've also had fleeting attraction to friends who I knew wouldn't be good relationship partners so I didn't want to pursue a relationship even though the physical attraction was there. Ultimately I valued the friendship over the possibility a sexual or romantic relationship with that person. So I don't agree that attraction means you necessarily want more than a friendship…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:58 PM
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Only when listening to Britney Spears' 2003 banger
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:20 PM
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Daily
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:45 PM
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I don't understand why people think this video is an example of a woman trying to "have it all." This woman is 36 and says she's been divorced for three years, which means she divorced at 33. She said she has embryos with her ex-husband, which means they had tried to do IVF while they were married. People don't just start out with IVF, especially in their 20s. You do IVF after a year or two of failed attempts to get pregnant. This likely means they were trying for kids in her mid-20s and she cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 03:53 PM
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I wanted to get married within the next few years and have kids at some point. He wasn't anywhere near ready to get married and wasn't sure if he ever wanted kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:01 PM
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Lol if you've got Taylor Swift tickets you will have no shortage of women of every demographic who would be willing to go with you. Just be prepared to prove the tickets are legitimate. I'd probably try the local sub of the city where the concert is. I've gotta say though I'm not sure a concert like that is a great first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:24 PM
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Maybe try to find someone on a fan page of whatever artist you're seeing (Reddit, Facebook, Instagram etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:44 PM
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I prefer the texture of bacon cooked on the stove, plus I use the grease to fry my eggs and potatoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:43 PM
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First guy's mental health deteriorated throughout the relationship and so did his treatment of me. He did and said a lot of fucked up shit I don't want to get into but long story short picturing a future with him filled me with blood curdling terror. So I broke up with him. Second guy, we weren't on the same page about the future, what we wanted and when we wanted it. He broke up with me. Amicable breakup, no hard feelings, just didn't work out. Those were my only two relationships before my hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:36 AM
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Yeah that's how getting hit in the cervix is too. It's your whole pelvic area that hurts, and down into your legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:39 PM
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I think getting hit in the cervix is a similar type of pain. It's a very acute, deep pain that can be debilitating for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:29 PM
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No one's saying it's bad, it just isn't the norm in the modern west and hasn't been for decades
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:15 PM
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For my husband, yes. For a "partner" or boyfriend, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:06 PM
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If it's like a sports medicine deep tissue type massage I don't care if it's a man or a woman. If it's one of those more sensual massage places I'd prefer a same sex masseuse but it's not a huge deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:31 AM
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I have both, but it's not hard for me to understand why someone would want pets and not kids. Pets are fun and cute and silly, and they give you an outlet for nurturing and caring for something but with much less responsibility. First of all, you don't have to carry your pets in your body for nine months and then give birth to them and live the rest of your life in a body that was affected by that process. You can have pets as a single person without issue. Of course you can be a single mom too,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:57 PM
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I probably wouldn't have said no for all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:33 AM
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Why not try to meet and date girls at school instead of on the apps? That would knock out the third criteria, probably the second too, and likely the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 05:22 PM
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I sometimes vent to online friends if I'm frustrated about something. No one we know irl. It's never about sex though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:49 PM
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It's not an idiom. More like a colloquialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:18 PM
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Right. Hooking up with friends was very normal in our social circle too, and in fact I did hook up with some guys I was friends with, because they initiated it. So I have to assume that the ones who didn't just weren't that interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:37 PM
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Most of my male friends have been in my life for 15 years or more at this point. They knew me when I was single. If they were just biding their time waiting to fuck me they had ample opportunities, and my friends aren't timid when it comes to chasing women so there's no reason why they wouldn't make a move if they wanted to. I'm sure they're attracted to me on some level because they're men and I'm not hideous, and I'm sure if I offered many of them would have taken me up on it because, again, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:20 PM
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I'm the shyest of my friends by far. I had to actively work on my social anxiety before I could date. Shyness is off-putting to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:48 PM
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Boomer ass take
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:53 AM
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Alexa play Mastermind by Taylor Swift
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:38 PM
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I wasn't living with this friend during that relationship or breakup, and in fact the friend was on another continent during that time. He moved in with me for a few months when he returned to the states because I had a spare room and he needed to find a job before he could get an apartment. I've been friends with this guy since we were toddlers and nothing has ever happened between us. We are both married now and still friends. I do understand that most guys would be uncomfortable with a girl h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:08 PM
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For the second half of my pregnancy I was on pelvic rest which meant not only could I not do PIV, I couldn't do anything that felt good for me at all. That really sucked and I took care of my husband in other ways as much as I could but obviously it put a damper on our sex life. Then we had our son and waited the doctor recommended six weeks to have sex again. I didn't want to wait longer than that because I do think sex is important and I think it's important to keep doing it even if you're not…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:04 AM
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There was no thinking, I was brainwashed by feelz. I didn't really have a plan B for if it didn't work or we didn't get together, I just met him and was obsessed with him and that was it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:48 PM
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In the summer of 2010 my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me after taking a job in another state. Basically we were not on the same page about the seriousness or trajectory of the relationship and I was in denial about it. As a result of the breakup and other stressful events going on in my life, I was extremely bummed out and depressed for several months and basically never left the house except to go to work. At the time I was living with my best guy friend who was always trying to get me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:41 PM
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OP is a man and I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 10:30 PM
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Making out with heavy petting/grinding.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:44 PM
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Men can be happy with small amount ... of food. hahahahahahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:25 PM
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I simply insert the Encyclopedia Britannica disc into my CD-ROM
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:00 PM
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wow what a unique and fascinating perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:56 PM
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When we were living together before we got married, my husband and I split bills proportionate to income. We did this at times when I outearned him and at times when he outearned me. Now that we're married, all our money goes into a shared account so there's no "splitting."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:00 PM
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I don't know. I've never tried to do anything like that and can't really put myself in the headspace of someone who would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:56 PM
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I wouldn't. Revenge isn't something I'm motivated by or care about. I'd just move on with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:13 PM
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My husband and I are big fans of his and saw this show live (not the one that's actually on netflix, but he did the same act in our city). It was...awkward. It felt more like a PR thing than a comedy show. I do understand he's in a difficult spot trying to rebrand himself after his divorce and all the mess of the past few years, and I'm sure that's a difficult needle to thread. But it was uncomfortable to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:50 PM
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I married a man who loves me and treats me with care and respect. My son also has good role models in his uncles. A good example is the best teacher.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:21 PM
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Meanwhile there's a 6'3 guy here who claims to be a virgin because of his face
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:20 PM
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Well no, but I don't think I would stop loving my husband if he developed dementia either. But people stop loving their mothers for other reasons. Regardless, my mother carried me in her body and gave birth to me. Our love was borne of a biological bond. You have no such bond with an unrelated person. I love her because she's my biological mother which in itself is a sort of condition. For unconditional romantic love to exist then there would be no reason to love one person and not another. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:41 PM
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I don't understand what it means to love someone if you exclude their actions and how they make you feel. That's literally...how we experience other people, by interacting with them and having an emotional response to those interactions. What else is there? Besides looks, I guess, but even attraction is a physiological response which is a "feeling" at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 04:17 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:27 AM
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Buy a house in 2013 you idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:26 AM
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You can go longer between washes with long hair because if it's dirty you can braid it or throw it up in a bun. You don't have those options with short hair. Short hair has to be washed more often and needs at least a little bit of styling every day. It's much less forgiving. The only thing you really save time on with short hair is drying, but again, you're washing it less frequently to begin such so you're not blow drying it as often. (And a lot of women with long hair let it air dry, which ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:46 AM
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I don't. I think both people should give 100% all the time. That will look different at different stages of life. I might be making more today but maybe I'll get laid off in six months, or maybe I'll have a complicated pregnancy or get sick or injured in some way . You never know. It seems myopic to hold the income disparity over your spouse's head as if circumstances can't change. We're partners and we're in this for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:05 PM
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Is that because you have had other relationships? where your behaviour has changed over the course of your life? To a guy who hasn't had that experience you do realize that it would be impossible to understand. Yes, I do realize that and I've always assumed that this topic was a fixation for people who don't have much or any relationship experience. For people who have had multiple relationships with multiple people, it doesn't make a lot of sense. Is he supposed to accept her view on this matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:58 AM
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If my wife used to have sex like everyday in college and initiates only weekly with me, its not an insecurity to be concerned about my role in her life. Wouldn't you be concerned with a low frequency of sex regardless? I can't understand how the ex factors into it. The other examples aren't equivalent because it's concurrent treatment. If my husband was treating another woman better than me RIGHT NOW, yeah I'd have a problem with it. But I can't understand comparing two different relationships t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:22 AM
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Every relationship is different. He probably does things with/for me that he didn't do with her too. (Well, there are for sure two huge things we've done with each other that we've never done with anyone else -- get married and have a kid.) If I'm happy with our relationship then what he did in previous ones doesn't matter. And if I'm unhappy with some aspect of the relationship then it's not like it's okay just because he never did it with anyone else either. I will never understand this line o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:34 PM
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Every time I hear about old people it's people who were born a long time ago
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:52 PM
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TONS of liberals own pits. They seem them as downtrodden and misunderstood goodbois who get a bad rap. Adopting a pit from a shelter is a virtue signal on par with having a nonbinary child in liberal circles. My dog was attacked by some soyboy hipster's pit a few years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:44 PM
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Heat rash/eczema/dermatitis. I get that too. A corticosteroid cream will take care of it. Also as a preventative measure you can put deodorant or baby powder on the areas where you tend to break out, it will absorb the moisture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:04 PM
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Flirting is a word used in more languages than english and it means the same thing everywhere. It evidently doesn't, because no English speaker uses the word flirting to encompass any expression of sexual/romantic interest. It's a very specific type of interaction. If it's not playful and lighthearted it isn't flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:06 PM
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I know you are ESL so you are just going to have to trust me on this. "Flirting" in English means a playful, lighthearted interaction that's suggestive but indirect. It's even used in other contexts, e.g. "I've been flirting with taking a trip to the Bahamas" would mean "I've been thinking about taking a trip to the Bahamas, but I'm not serious about it yet." Once it becomes serious and direct (e.g. "I'm planning a trip to the Bahamas"') it ceases to be flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:50 PM
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No. Confessing is not flirting because it is straightforward and emotionally heavy. Flirting is neither of those things. Flirting is suggestive and playful, not direct and serious. I suppose there is a way you could confess your feelings in a flirtatious manner, but generally "confession" implies something more heavy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:42 PM
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No. Confessing is straightforward and has emotional weight. Flirting is lighthearted, meant to titillate and intrigue with some plausible deniability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 06:41 PM
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It's fine. If the store doesn't allow it they'll have a sign up saying so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:49 PM
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I've experienced childbirth and had to sign a consent form for every single test my baby got. None of them are mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:48 PM
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I've never heard of this. Most white people at most have a cleaning lady that comes once or twice a month. Some wealthier people might have a nanny, and often a nanny will do other domestic tasks like laundry, meal prep and light cleaning, but there isn't really a separate word for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:32 PM
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Second guy, he sounds funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:42 PM
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Swarthy men with dark hair, dark eyes, boyish looks and impish personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:41 PM
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I do it 2-3 days a week. My toddler is rather unchill but my job is very chill and my hours flexible. I do like half my work in the evening after he goes to bed, and I try my best to schedule all my meetings at naptime. But yeah, it isn't easy or ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:40 PM
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i consider myself agnostic but open-minded, i honestly appreciate the community aspect more than anything. OK I mentioned this before already but yeah if this is you then definitely check out a UU church.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:38 PM
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That sounds like Catholic, Anglican or Orthodox. If you're in the US you could try a protestant church, most don't do all of that. If you're not quite sure what you believe yet and just want to get a feel for it, you might even try a Unitarian Universalist church.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:36 PM
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This is a pretty normal conversation among parents of boys. People want to know what you chose and why, and they're quick to offer up the same info about themselves or what they would do if they hypothetically had a son. IME women usually say they defer to the dad, and the dad is always the one who wants it. Of the couples I know who had conflict about it, every single one was a case where the dad wanted to circumcise and the mom didn't. (For the record neither my son nor my husband are circumci…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:47 PM
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Except men don't want their women fucking anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:51 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:42 AM
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Taylor Swift hasn't had ten boyfriends. She's had five, maybe six, real boyfriends and a couple of media PR relationships and/or brief flings. Taylor Swift has been with her current partner for seven years and counting. Taylor Swift has been a touring musician since she was 15. If you've ever known touring musicians of either sex, it's a lifestyle that's notoriously incompatible with maintaining a long term relationship, given that you're essentially in a long distance relationship indefinitely.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:02 AM
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I'm seriously starting to suspect that men in these spaces think a prostitute is any woman who has sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:41 AM
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He's in the southern hemisphere I think
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:05 AM
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Yeah, exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:31 AM
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Yeah, it's usually the wives of very wealthy men who carry those luxury handbags. Poor girls carry counterfeits lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:43 PM
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Yes I'd agree that cultural Christians are most Christians. Your post specified conservative Christian virgin girls who to me bring to mind something much more niche. It's probably due to my upbringing and exposure to those types that I draw a distinction between the two. There is a whole universe of Christian women who are serious about living their faith, and they're not meeting Chad fuckboys because their entire social life from the time they were babies has been curated to consist only of ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:38 PM
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I thought Jeff Bezos was the richest man in the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:05 PM
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Yeah, OP seems to be talking more about cultural Christian types. I'm like you, grew up in a strict religious community (not Mormon, but similarly insular) and went to a college affiliated with my church. Of course there were those who deflected and left the church, myself included, but the ones who took their religion seriously married young to another religious person, often one they'd grown up with in church camp and homeschool groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:25 AM
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Call the cops
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:16 PM
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lol I was the opposite, my mom was constantly encouraging me to take more pride in my appearance, take better care of my hair, wear a little makeup etc. and I did sometimes but I hated it. I do wish I had honed those skills a little earlier. And yeah, it's crazy expensive, and unfortunately the quality of the products you use really does matter so if you want your makeup to look really good you're usually going to have to cough up more for higher quality products and brushes. (That said, I just …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:02 PM
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a skill with that little time required to learn This is really understating the time required to become really good at makeup and styling. I've been wearing makeup since high school and I really only became good at it in the last couple years in my 30s (and even then, I'm still nowhere near Tiktok GRWM levels of skill). I still am not good at doing my hair, only so-so at styling outfits and completely inept at doing my nails. This stuff can be learned to an extent but like a lot of things there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:12 PM
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I've never seen any of the women in my family get into physical fights, even minor. My mom said she used to fight with her sister when they were teenagers but that's the only example I can think of. I have two brothers and they fought all the time, from the time they were little kids. My oldest brother and my dad got into several physical fights too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:57 PM
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It's happened before. It hurts at the time but life goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:58 AM
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Well, phonetically, you wouldn't expect "lose" to have an "ooh" sound. You'd expect it to rhyme with close or hose. Loose makes more sense phonetically, so I can see why that would be confusing for a non-native speaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:12 PM
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I'm a romantic (except I'm tall and romantics are supposed to be on the shorter side, but otherwise it fits me to a tee). I wish I were a theatrical romantic or some kind of dramatic. I like being curvy and feminine but I wish I had a little more edge. I especially hate my sloped shoulders and how fleshy my face is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:40 AM
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So it sounds like the black pill IS that it's temporary, which is the opposite of what you said two comments ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:59 AM
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I see this claim a lot. Which Disney movie was about "unconditional love"? In most Disney movies I can think of the prince had to win the princess over or prove himself in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:54 AM
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I don't see how the idea that women's love is conditional would be contradicted by having daughters. As a parent I'd think you'd WANT your daughters to love conditionally. Unconditional love (to the extent that it exists) is very dangerous for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:48 AM
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Lol my thoughts exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:58 PM
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This is survivorship bias. A huge portion of those grandparents who married in the 50s were the no fault divorce boom of the 70s and 80s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:53 AM
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I remember they handed one out at the end of one of our abstinence only assemblies but I don't remember if I signed it or not. I was an edgelord so I probably signed "Hugh Janus" or something
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:17 PM
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Literally who
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 12:18 AM
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It blows my mind that this tradition is even still a thing (to the extent that it is, which I doubt is much at all) in the age of cohabitation. "Sir, I've been playing house with your daughter and fucking her raw for five years, may I please have your permission to marry her?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 07:40 PM
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Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:27 AM
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The rule of thumb is half your weight in ounces. I'm a woman who weighs 145 lbs and I try to drink 70-75 oz a day, and I don't count my coffee. The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is drink two 12 oz glasses of water. And yes I pee constantly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:56 AM
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Those are the top 1 and 2 professions for women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:06 PM
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That's crazy. My son will be 2 in May and he will sit and watch a TV show for maybe 20 minutes before he gets bored and wants to do something else. Same with my niece who's the same age. My older niece will watch TV and Youtube for longer stretches but she didn't start doing that until she was 3 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 06:49 PM
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I've used it twice and bought it both times. Didn't even discuss it with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:29 PM
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Kids, yes. 18-month-olds not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:21 PM
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I'm not saying he shouldn't work. I'm saying he needs to either help out at home after work, relax his standards about how much she does at home, or hire help. Newborn stage is survival mode. She literally does not have time to take care of a newborn and an under-2 toddler (I'm not kidding when I say this is NONSTOP work in and of itself), keep a spotless home and keep up with her own sleep, fitness and hygiene too. According to OP, after a few months postpartum she lost the weight and started c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:15 PM
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The first year of a baby's life is an all hands on deck situation. That's especially true when you have an 18-month-old in addition to the newborn. That's pretty much the worst age gap possible for two kids. Feeding, burping, changing, bathing, soothing, supervising and cleaning up after two kids under 2 is literally around-the-clock work even when you don't factor in other domestic chores that have to get done. If the kids are being taken care of (which it sounds like they are) and he comes hom…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:44 PM
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I am that type of person. It's probably "lame" but I've never cared about that. Not everyone can be the main character, I like being supportive of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:11 PM
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My paternal grandmother and grandfather had a very formal Christian marriage. I have no doubt they loved each other in a familial way but there wasn't a lot of affection there, at least not that I ever saw (and according to my dad not when he was growing up either). My maternal grandmother and grandfather got married at age 17 and 19, respectively, right after my grandpa joined the army. I do think finances and stability were part of my grandmother's calculus in getting married so young -- she w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:25 PM
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With a lot of girls getting their periods at age 10-11 these days, I think delaying that talk until middle school is problematic. My school did it in 4th grade and thank god because I ended up getting my period not long after that and I literally had no idea that menstruation was even a thing before the 4th grade birds and the bees session. I'm fine with more advanced sex ed being delayed until middle school though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:09 PM
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All of the drugs she does Scare me real good She's got a tattoo and two pet snakes But nobody knows me like her Nobody knows her like me We're all we've got, and we don't wanna be alone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 06:51 PM
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My great grandma was a migrant farm laborer with ten kids. I'll take my work from home desk job any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:22 PM
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But my point is that the default for everyone should be putting the lid down and I don't understand why people aren't doing that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:20 AM
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Exactly. I've never understood why this is even an argument. Everyone should be putting the lid down before they flush.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:04 PM
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We stan a transcendent queen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:13 AM
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I mean, if I'm ending a relationship then I assume that at some point in the future I will be dating someone else. But I've never ended a relationship for that reason and never ended a relationship with a specific guy in mind. In fact, I find that I do need to spend time alone, doing solitary hobbies, living life on my own terms and schedule for a while after a breakup before I feel inclined to date again. But even that isn't why I'm breaking up with him, like I'm not thinking "I need to break u…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:10 AM
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Because it's a physiological urge that will manifest in (nearly) all people at some point even when higher order needs are not met. Whereas the higher order needs generally don't start manifesting in any noticeable way until the more base needs are met.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 10:11 PM
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Well, I have a kid, so no because that would make it impossible for a relationship between us to ever really be serious. No hard feelings and I wouldn't blame him, but it just wouldn't work out for obvious reasons. If I didn't already have a child, sure. Edit: I do wonder though if he applies the same rule to related children like nieces and nephews. If so, I don't think I would date him because we have incompatible views on duty to family.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:39 PM
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I wasn't exactly a tomboy but I didn't fit in with super girly girls either. I had a mix of male and female friends. My brother's best friend from childhood through high school was a true tomboy. So is my sister-in-law who's now a butch lesbian. My mom was also a tomboy in her youth. Growing up I knew a pair of identical twins who were as different as could be; one was super girly and fem and one was a huge tomboy. I was in Girl Scouts with both of them and friends with both of them. I tend to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:47 PM
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Exactly. Just by filtering for men roughly in your age range you're already bordering on "delusional" according to this calculator. It's spectacularly stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:03 PM
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It wouldn't be for me but I think that's something everyone would have to decide for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:02 AM
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Ask the guys on this sub who claim that's the only type of woman they meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:34 PM
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They are. By gay men. Female sexuality is responsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:52 AM
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a short girl with thick thighs and big baby eyes will be considered attractive, but her brother who will look similar Why is this such a persistent assumption on this sub? I am a woman with two brothers. My brothers don't have my thick thighs and curvy hips and sloped shoulders and feminine face ratios because they're not women, they're men and have male bone structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 04:38 PM
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This is exactly what happened to me too. Pretty common for endo patients.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:44 PM
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It varies from state to state and depends on whether and how finances are commingled after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:32 PM
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Yeah. There's definitely a difference in how you're approached, interacted with and treated as a woman when you're with a male partner vs. alone. Even if it doesn't always come down to overt physical protection, his presence is a deterrent to bad actors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:15 AM
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If I were marrying someone later in life and he had already built up a sizable amount of wealth separately from me, I wouldn't have a problem with a prenup. In my actual marriage though, we got together at age 23 when I was just out of college and he was still finishing school. We've spent our entire adult lives together and we've worked together for everything we have. Him asking for a prenup under those circumstances would have been a slap in the face, and frankly wouldn't have made any sense …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:08 AM
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If it happened early in the relationship when I was in the throes of love and NRE, I would have shut it down. When I feel that way about a man I have complete tunnel vision and don't even notice other men, and if they approach me I do whatever I can to politely but firmly exit the convo ASAP. I don't entertain it at all. If it happened in the last six months or so of the relationship when I had mentally checked out but hadn't worked up the courage to leave, I may have entertained it and may have…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:11 PM
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I never said anything about a "massive rotation."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 04:48 AM
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I've mostly heard it used to describe the sort of vague period in dating when you like the person, you've had sex, you want a relationship with them but nothing has been officially defined yet and you're still trying to feel each other out. Sometimes it turns into an actual relationship, other times it fizzles out because you end up not being on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 08:01 PM
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The scenario you described (back to back LTRs of 2+ years with no breaks) isn't reality, what I described is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:15 PM
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Because most people in between LTRs have hookups, "situationships," short term dating relationships that don't go anywhere, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:06 PM
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He did that shit for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:41 AM
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Truth
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:40 AM
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All I gotta say is thank God for religion making it sinful to talk to others if someone is courting you. What religion says this is sinful? Traditional courtship in the west at least involved talking to multiple suitors until one proposed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:20 PM
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I'm not but have been in the past so I'll answer anyway. How has it impacted your sex drive? I never had much of a spontaneous sex drive, but it depleted what little I had. I could still get in the mood for sex when my husband initiated, but I didn't get as into it as I do off birth control. Are you single and on birth control? No I was never on it when single. I got on it after my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I moved in together and wanted to stop using condoms. Are you on it for reasons…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:10 PM
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How long did it last? College and a little after. About five years. What made you want to partake in it? It was just normal life for people in my age group and area. When I was 17 I graduated high school and moved in with my older brother who threw a lot of house parties and got me into bars underage, so that was my introduction to it I guess. Then once I started college I met more people and started going to other parties. It's just what people did. Does "party phase" always equal "hoe phase" t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 02:44 PM
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You can probably tell from her social media. Or just ask what she does for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:23 AM
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Yep, exact same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 01:24 AM
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Sam
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:59 PM
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Q4 Heterosexual Women: Would you rather have a 100 Men call you beautiful or would you rather 100 Women call you beautiful Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:55 PM
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I got married at the courthouse on a rainy day too! I also had the flu lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:54 PM
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I don't think about anything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:21 PM
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I love Aella. Don't always agree with her takes but her ability to start discourse is unmatched. She used to post on this sub a long long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:40 AM
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Yeah. That's why I think it's important for women to have sex even if they're not always in the mood. It creates a positive feedback loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:17 AM
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I have endometriosis, and when I'm having a bad episode, an orgasm is followed by several hours of cramps and pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:25 AM
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Yeah, and eating out/ordering in. Even for my middle class family in the 90s, ordering a pizza was a treat once every few months, and we always did pickup because delivery was too expensive. Now people do UberEats multiple times a week like it's nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 12:39 AM
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One time my mom matter-of-factly mentioned the first time she took a shower. She was in her 20s before she lived in a house that had one. It blew my mind to learn that showers weren't a standard fixture when she was growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:54 PM
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Do you think of sex and physical intimacy as 2 separate things? Kind of? An ideal relationship consists of a lot of sexual and nonsexual physical intimacy. But the nonsexual intimacy is what keeps my sexual fires stoked, and it often leads to sex, so the lines are kind of blurred. Has sex ever been a chore for you, or have you ever had "duty sex"? I have had "duty sex" yes. It's not a big deal to me if I'm not in the mood and my husband is. Sometimes I end up getting into it, sometimes I don't. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 09:48 PM
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If you think differently from the crowd you get banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:37 PM
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Yeah actually I think that's what it was. And I think they thought I'd think it was cool but for some reason it scared me to death lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:40 PM
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One is hung up on her ex who she was still in love with long after they broke up, and then he died. She's traumatized and fucked up, and sabotages every relationship she has because she hasn't gotten over her ex and his death. One is a guy who grew up in a weird religion that irreparably fucked up his attitudes around sex. He can get girls, but then he's grossed out after having sex with them and goes into a religious guilt spiral. As a result he mostly just hooks up with women he's not all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:23 PM
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Rubber gloves. Also my brothers told me the Pink Panther lived in our attic (??) which scared the shit out of me for some reason (?????)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:10 AM
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I only have a few friends who are still single, and for every one of them I could tell you what their major malfunction is that's keeping them from having a successful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:09 AM
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We have less sexual desire due to our monthly hormone cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:58 AM
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She's a woman with female sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:16 PM
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No thinking, just vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:58 PM
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Current behavior (real or imagined) or just generally how I feel about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:23 PM
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I'm definitely capable of extreme jealousy and insecurity, but it's never really centered on a guy's past. That seems pretty unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:40 AM
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"Escorting" is how they get around the illegality. They're selling their "time" and "company," not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:23 PM
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https://www.rapidtables.com/convert/length/cm-to-inch.html There you go, you're welcome. Jesus Christ the caterwauling every time a European's delicate eyes are forced to gaze upon a measurement in inches is so ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 03:58 PM
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Ah yeah very different environment. This was a very very conservative church in a rural area.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:35 PM
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My experience growing up in a fundie church was the complete opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:53 PM
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Meh. My husband and I were part of the same wild party group in college, then we started dating and were boring sober homebodies by age 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 08:34 PM
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Because you can't replace sex with anything but sex. Otherwise dead bedrooms wouldn't be an issue as long as the couple has shared hobbies and interests, which is obviously ridiculous. It's like if someone asked "If your microwave stopped working, what would you do?" and I said "Use the oven." Does this imply I think I'm only good for cooking? No, I'm just replacing the broken thing with a roughly equivalent thing that serves the same purpose because that is what solves the problem at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:48 PM
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But my point is that there's not going to be some permanent record of it that people can look up. It's just to verify your age for access to the website, just like showing your ID to get into a bar or rent a car.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:37 PM
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Do your prospective employers know every bar or casino you've been to or every car you've rented? Why would porn be any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:35 PM
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Definitely Steve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 10:19 PM
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Well I kind of legitimately had a drinking problem back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:04 PM
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In my early 20s I could get shitfaced, go to bed at 2am and wake up at 8am to teach children. Now in my 30s I need minimum three days to recover from a glass of wine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:51 PM
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The father doesn’t sign the birth certificate > mother wants child support > mandated dna test to establish paternity > father dosent do it not shows up > END THERE OK, in this case the guy just lucked out because the mom didn't care enough to keep pursuing it. If she does, and he continues to ignore court orders, he will eventually get fined or arrested. You're basically just saying "You can get out of paying child support, just break the law bro." Which, valid, tons of guys do that lol. But it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:43 PM
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Oh my god. For the last time: "Signing the birth certificate" (which isn't even a thing in a lot of states) does not establish legal paternity If you are not married, you can refuse to sign an acknowledgment of paternity until you get a DNA test. If you are married, you have a window to contest paternity which can be done after a home test concludes you're not the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:39 PM
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This is not true at all, in fact in many cases the father is ordered to pay child support retroactively. You are really just making shit up, unless maybe you're talking about a country besides the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:24 PM
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Signing an acknowledgement of paternity can waive the right to a DNA test before establishing legal parental responsibility. Right. And he can choose not to sign it without a DNA test, or choose not to sign it at all. But even if he doesn't sign it, if she pursues child support in court or enrolls in any welfare programs, the state will go after him for a DNA test and (if he is the father) child support. I would have assumed before that a judge would have to be convonced to compel a test on a pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:00 PM
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You're talking about the acknowledgment of paternity, not the birth certificate. Yes, a father can choose not to sign it. However, if the mother goes after you for child support, you will be court ordered to take a DNA test.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 03:47 PM
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The birth certificate does not establish legal paternity. Signing or not signing it does not determine whether you pay child support. The birth certificate is just that -- a record of a birth. In many states neither parent signs it. What happens is the mother tries to get some form of welfare (SNAP, CHIP, etc.) To do so, she has to name a father. The state will then send you a court order for a DNA test, and if you are the father, they will start dunning you for child support to recoup the costs…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 03:44 PM
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Yes, a home test will not be admissible in court. But you can get a home test, and if it says the baby isn't yours, THEN you can get a court-ordered test. At that point I imagine you wouldn't be worried about pissing the mom off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:47 PM
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We are busy people with jobs and a child. Most days we get, max, 90 minutes of waking time to spend alone together. Pursuing sex with other people would eat into the limited time and energy we have for each other. Sex with outside parties risks the other partner's health. I know multiple women who got STDs from husbands who cheated on them. Him getting another women pregnant is literally the worst thing I can imagine short of his death. It would destroy our relationship and family irreparably. (…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:33 PM
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This. If you don't nip an "emotional affair" in the bud it will almost inevitably turn into a physical affair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:42 PM
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These days the baby rarely if ever leaves the room the mother is in. When I had my son, from the time I gave birth to the time we left the hospital, he never left my line of sight. They don't whisk them off to a nursery like they used to, unless they need to go to NICU or something. Plus they have tons of ID bracelets and whatnot now so the risk of a hospital mix-up is minimal. But yeah, if it's something you want to do so both of you can be 100% sure there's nothing wrong with that. I'd still r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:32 PM
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Just like a physical affair, it may or may not be a dealbreaker. Depends on the circumstances, how long we've been together, how invested I am, how contrite they are, whether my own behavior might have nudged them in that direction, etc. I have the capacity to forgive someone for cheating on me, physically or emotionally. It just depends. That said, a lot of people (mostly men) claim not to care about anything but physical infidelity. I kind of think they're deluding themselves tbh, I don't beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:35 PM
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Signing the birth certificate is not an establishment of legal paternity. There are only three ways paternity is legally established -- by marriage, by formal adoption, or by signing a legal acknowledgement of paternity (not the same as the birth certificate) and submitting it to the court. If you are not married, you can refuse to sign the acknowledgement of paternity until you get a DNA test, and any unmarried man should. The mother does not have to consent to this test, as the purported fathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:48 PM
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How was it a long distance relationship if they worked at the same school?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:36 AM
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You are perfectly within your rights to ask for a paternity test. What Redditors seem to want, though, is to not suffer any consequences. That's not how it works. You don't even have to ask. You can just GET a paternity test. Swab the baby's cheek and send it off. If it turns out to be yours the mom never even has to know. I don't understand this obsession with "asking" for a test. It's your baby too, you don't need mommy's permission.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:46 AM
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They also named it "female delusion calculator" vs. "male reality calculator." Not exactly unbiased lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:41 PM
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What's funny is that the big divorce boom in the late 60s-early 80s was all those trad 1950s Leave it to Beaver couples who were supposedly soooo happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 05:47 PM
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Last year my husband and child were sick on Valentine's Day and this year my husband was in a car accident. Cursed holiday. (He's fine, just dealing with annoying insurance shit and the police because it was a hit and run)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 05:31 PM
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It's not. It treats every variable as independent which is stupid to begin with. And then it completely ignores the fact that a woman's dating pool isn't 100% of men. It will be limited to unmarried men within her age cohort and location/social milieu. But just filtering out married men and significantly older/younger men already puts you in the "delusional" category because that alone will filter out all but like 20% of men. I put in my husband's stats from when we first met -- unmarried, white…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:49 PM
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Lilith from Frasier
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:44 PM
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When you're masturbating you're either fantasizing about a sexual scenario with someone you're attracted to, or you're just focusing on the physical sensations and the tool you're using is just a neutral part of the process. Getting into that headspace while having actual sex with another person -- feeling their body moving, hearing their voice, feeling their breath, smelling them, tasting them, having their semen deposited inside of me -- requires a level of disassociation most women aren't cap…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:12 AM
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I don't see how you're interpreting it as theoretical. Everything about his original post and replies indicate that he thinks people are choosing attraction at the expense of other factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:08 AM
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The Bureau of Labor Statistics measures labor market activity, working conditions, price changes, and productivity in the U.S. economy to support public and private decision making. They're not there to "help" anything, they're there to collect and aggregate data pertaining to labor trends in the US. They do collect unemployment statistics, but not every non-working person is "unemployed" per se. Are you thinking of the Department of Labor?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:43 PM
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Why are you acting like it's either or? You can filter for attraction AND someone you want to raise kids with, it's not a binary choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 09:37 PM
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Because hopefully sex will be a big part of that relationship, and sex with someone you're not attracted to is disgusting. The sexual spark might not last into your 80s, but that early chemistry and intimacy and the bond and memories that form from it is the glue that holds the relationship together through other seasons of life. Obviously attraction shouldn't be the only thing you consider when choosing a partner, and it shouldn't necessarily be prioritized over everything else, but it's an imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:07 PM
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I'm saying that if PEOPLE (such as the ones on the sub, I thought it was obvious that's what I meant) take the data that says "30% of working women outearn their husbands" and report it as 30% of women in general outearning their husbands, that's not the fault of the data but the people misinterpreting it. The source itself is very clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:16 PM
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There is no amount of employed husbands broken down by employment status of their wives. This is what you said you were looking for in your last comment so that's the information I provided. I don't know why you're all capsing me for not finding a different thing. Couldn't the number of husbands outearning their working wives be found by subtracting the number of wives outearning their working husbands from the total? I'm not sure why you'd need separate tables.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:55 PM
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I've been on forums since 1998 and know what green text is. I don't understand what it has to do with this conversation. Even if you were paraphrasing it's not what I implied at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:52 PM
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All my boyfriends started out as casual hookups. Whether it became more than casual boiled down to mutual interest and lifestyle factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:57 PM
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It says 19.8% of married-couple households have the husband as the sole earner. Which would mean their wives are not employed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:42 PM
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So your issue is that the data is presented slightly differently? The equivalent info can be gleaned from the page I linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:08 PM
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Why are you quoting something I didn't say? They might have bias but this isn't an example of it imo. The equivalent data exists for men with non-working wives, collected by the same bureau.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:01 PM
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It did the same for working husbands with non-working wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:44 PM
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If the study counted marriages with a non-working husband but excluded marriages with a non-working wife, then yeah, it's completely worthless. It didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:42 PM
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The bureau of labor statistics deals with data pertaining to working people. It's not some grand conspiracy. Non-working women (and men) are simply beyond the scope of what they do. Some people just share stats without doing their due diligence, and misrepresent the data as a result. That's not the source's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:40 PM
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I can't imagine caring that much about how someone I don't know lives their life. But even if I did, what you described would more likely make me feel sorry for them than make me want to boycott their movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:15 PM
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My point is there's probably no movie in existence in which someone involved hasn't done something awful. Especially if your bar for something awful is "dates younger, but still adult, women."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:11 PM
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You should probably just not watch any movie then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 12:32 PM
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It’s really weird that you conflate expensive gifts with investing in a relationship. I had a boyfriend who gave me expensive gifts and honestly I don’t think he was that invested in me. I’d much rather have a man who invests his time, his effort, his consideration, his passion, than gifts. This. Gifts feel very manipulative sometimes. I grew up with a person in my life who would treat me very badly and then buy me something and expect that to make everything okay, and would hold it over my head…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 12:27 PM
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She may have given it back when they broke up, that happens sometimes. Or he wrote a first draft then gave her the final one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:52 AM
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The only people I know who pronounce it that way are very small children, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 11:10 PM
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There's a weekly discussion thread on this sub that centers around a different topic every week. This weeks' topic is Valentine's Day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 11:09 PM
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No. Could easily be a sign that he was young and easily taken advantage of and knows better now. Or that relationship ended badly and he's more cautious now. Or it could simply mean that his financial situation changed or he has other financial priorities now, which has nothing to do with me. I don't measures someone's interest or attraction to me by how badly they allow me to treat them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:37 PM
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Lol thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:24 AM
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I earn more than my husband but the difference is negligible, just a few thousand a year. His job doesn't offer insurance though, so he and our son are on my health insurance (I'm a state employee and our insurance is very good; it costs me $600/mo to cover both of them on my plan) Neither of us are trust fund kids or have any assets to speak of. We were broke 23-year-olds fresh out of college when we got together. I guess if there was a catch it would be that he has the capacity to earn a lot m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:58 PM
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As a small handed woman I have been complaining about phone sizes for years
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 05:24 AM
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I'd tell the son to ask a man. I'd tell the daughter to wait three years and if she still wants to marry him she has my blessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 03:08 AM
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How is Lizzo a "sex symbol"? I don't think anyone on this sub knows what that phrase means.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:14 PM
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Ha, I was listening to that song earlier today.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:47 AM
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This is my pet peeve too, thank you for your service
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 02:03 AM
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Lol I love River
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:50 PM
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No, he's saying that sissy hypno porn turns nerdy guys into trans women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:50 PM
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5'7, 150, 34F
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:39 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:40 PM
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I don't think anyone's claiming that on an individual level women are consciously rejecting men out of fear of pregnancy. It's more an explanation of the evolutionary basis for why women are more selective in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:21 PM
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Children born to "fathers" that actually aren't: 17,588 Where are you getting this number?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:03 PM
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Yeah it's all girlbosses saving the day now. We need 👏 more 👏 representation 👏 for 👏 dumbass 👏 weirdo👏 women👏
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:04 AM
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Yeah I agree honestly. And I'll admit I do a fair bit of password sharing myself but I always knew that was not totally above board and would probably be cracked down on eventually. It's funny how people are like "This move is totally going to backfire, people will just stop watching Netflix!" Uh you mean the people who already weren't paying for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:01 AM
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If I choose men, am I the only woman? If so then women. I think I'd rather die than meet whatever fate awaits the sole woman in a post apocalyptic world.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 06:13 AM
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If I don't get one I assume you're dead and/or hate me and will have anxiety the rest of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 06:12 AM
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I always got very sinister vibes from Tom Hanks
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:20 PM
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Me too 👋
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:13 PM
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Men absolutely don't trust men around their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:08 PM
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I mean, here's the thing. He was specifically going for elementary teaching jobs. A lot of parents are uncomfortable with the idea of a male teacher working with their very young children. Kids that age often still have accidents or need help going to the bathroom, and parents don't want a man helping their child with those intimate things. To mitigate those fears, you'd have to hire more female aides to help the male teachers with that stuff, which costs the school more money. I'm not sure that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:53 PM
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This question makes no sense because it's a binary choice. If I wake up a different gender tomorrow I would necessarily wake up a man because that's the only other gender. Unless you're talking about "neogender" nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:06 PM
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I've never done anything particularly wild sexually and never had the desire to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 03:07 PM
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Nature didn't give women reproductive control, modern medicine did.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:25 AM
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The towel you use can make a big difference. Don't use the same type of towel you dry your body with. Get a microfiber towel specifically made for hair or just use an old t shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 01:06 AM
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If your main problem is flyaways -- just random stray strands that won't lie down -- running an unscented dryer sheet over your hair or spraying some Static Guard onto your comb/brush or directly onto your hair (from a 6-12in distance) can help calm them down. If "poofiness" is more your problem then try a humidity control hairspray (again, sprayed onto your brush or on your hair from a distance). L'Oreal makes a good inexpensive one. Comes in a black spray bottle with teal letters. I have crazy…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:55 AM
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Men losing attraction after the most important routine act of a relationship. Deeply immoral. What are you referring to here?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:08 PM
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In every relationship I've been in he paid for the first outing for the first date, I paid for the second outing or second date, and then once we were seeing each other regularly we took turns treating each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:04 PM
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You're reading a lot of weird things into this post. Nowhere does he say that their situation is "dire" or that he's on the brink of divorce and suicide. Nor does wanting investment advice for the 50k imply that the pension isn't sufficient. You can have "sufficient" money but still want to invest and make more. Very weird post to try to twist into a PPD topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 02:49 PM
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And you're just going to serve your family steak every night? No sides, no vegetables? Nothing that requires chopping or any kind of preparation, just a slab of meat on a plate?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:29 PM
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This is why I got an under the desk treadmill. Between work, housework, childcare, hygiene, sleep and trying to spend quality time with my husband, there just aren't enough hours in the day. Could I theoretically do it? Sure, but it would cut into the already very limited time I get to spend with my family. Not worth it. If that means weighing 145 lbs instead of the 130 I'd prefer then that's a sacrifice I'm willing to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:27 PM
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I mean sure, if you're in basic training and working out for hours every day you're going to lose weight regardless. But we're talking about what's feasible for the average person. Your average wife with a job and kids can't do basic training levels of exercise, she can maybe fit in an hour of exercise a day and that's not going to put much of a dent in her weight. A single snack could cancel out an hour of exercise. Obviously I'm not saying people shouldn't work out, it definitely helps a littl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:40 PM
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Women in basic are no different... This is just a completely ignorant statement. Women ARE different, our bodies are different, our body composition is different, our hormones are different, our cycles are different. Any woman who's successfully lost weight and kept it off will tell you that she did it with diet, not exercise. Exercise is great for strength, mobility, tone and cardio health but its effect on weight is negligible unless it's paired with diet changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:22 PM
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You have a different viewpoint because you're a man. This is not true for women. Our bodies do not burn calories as efficiently as men's, even with exercise. It's all about diet for us, and it's a delicate balance between eating enough to stay full and have energy but still staying under your calorie limit. I have an under the desk treadmill and walk literally all day while I work. I get 12k-18k steps most days. I still have to count calories and meal plan to keep from gaining weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 03:55 PM
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It's reasonable to want her to stay physically fit. It's not reasonable to want her to look like she did when you met. Bodies change, especially after kids. My fit 34-year-old self doesn't look like my fit 22-year-old self.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 03:15 PM
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I think it's fine. Not everyone's built to be a go getting high achiever. Society needs worker bees too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:59 AM
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A, I don't have the ambition and hustle for B.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:10 AM
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Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 08:52 PM
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Seriously, what is there to discuss here?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 06:37 PM
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We tax productive men and women in order to provide for children who have no say in the circumstances of their birth. And the child support system they hate so much is literally the government recouping those tax dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:32 PM
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There are indeed state laws for vaccination. No, there aren't. There are certain things you can't access without being vaccinated (like enrolling in public schools, or working in a healthcare setting -- but even latter is usually required by the employer, not the state), but nowhere in the US is being unvaccinated for anything "against the law." But even if you aren't familiar with vaccination laws, there are also laws for children requiring some type of education. Same theme applies. Truancy fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:13 PM
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Being unvaccinated against certain communicable diseases is against the law. Not in the US it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:00 PM
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In my experience the kind of person who's super paranoid and snoops and lies about snooping almost always ends up being a cheater themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 01:48 AM
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Yikyak was big when I was in grad school circa 2014. I didn't know it was still around.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:15 PM
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I agree with you that the jealousy and discomfort with it is normal. What's weird, rude and socially maladjusted IMO is to buy the gift but then stipulate how the person uses it. It would be like buying someone a gift card for a certain store but then telling them which items you don't want them to buy with it. The whole point of buying a person a gift is that it's theirs and they get to choose how to use it. If you would be uncomfortable with a potential use of that gift then just buy them some…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 06:20 PM
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Yeah I'd say your instinct is correct lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 05:09 PM
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If this is something you care about, just give a different gift. A gift with stipulations is awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 04:57 PM
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I think you must not spend much time around age 50+ people or the ones you know are unusually discerning. I have seen older relatives and coworkers fall for some incredibly obvious shit, and they will argue with you when you try to tell them it's fake. Hell, I've seen younger people on reddit fall for that Jordan Peterson "is there anything more cucked than having a daughter" voice deepfake or extremely obvious photoshopped images of celebrities. A lot of people really don't have the media/tech …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:38 PM
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I haven't heard anything about Leo but I wouldn't be surprised. Tons of closet cases in Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:00 PM
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I think that points related to pedophilia are hyperbole and kinda derail the conversation. I don't understand why. You asked what my thoughts are on it and this is one of the first things I thought about. You're crazy if you don't think this will be a huge issue with this technology. There's no reasonable scenario where sites publishing recreations of children get away with it. Obviously the site wouldn't get away with it. My worry is that A, regardless of who gets in trouble, there still exists…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:56 PM
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Also FWIW Nick Jonas and Hugh Jackman are gay. Lol thank you for saying it so I didn't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:11 PM
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I think it's pretty terrifying. I'm especially worried about what people might do with pictures of kids, and if parents could end up in legal hot water because of it. I don't know how all that works but if "child porn" of my kid in my home winds up on the internet how do I prove it's not real? And even aside from that, just the thought of someone doing that with my child's likeness is bone chilling. It will definitely make me think twice about anything I share online now, not that I share much t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:07 PM
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The albums I listen to the most front to back are probably Taylor Swift - Red Bright Eyes - Lifted or The Story Is in the Soil, Keep Your Ear to the Ground Turnpike Troubadours - A Long Way From Your Heart Jason Isbell - Something More Than Free Lana Del Rey - Norman Fucking Rockwell
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:18 PM
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On a dating site in 2009.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 02:57 PM
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This is why it makes more sense for her to get off first.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:55 PM
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For mothers and future potential mothers who believe in “50/50” financial split relationships, do you feel as though pregnancy, labor, postpartum physiological consequences, breast feeding, everyday parenting, etc. are split “50/50”? No, lol. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:12 AM
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I lean toward the first guy but it depends on the extent and flavor of the misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:57 PM
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Ok. I'll retract my slight exaggeration. Since most women aren't dating 12-year-old boys it's kind of beside the overall point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:43 AM
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It very often is. If not 12, then definitely by 14-15. Either way, the vast, vast majority of adult men are stronger than the vast, vast majority of adult women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:17 AM
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Even short weak men are stronger than women. Twelve year old boys are stronger than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:57 AM
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I've spent most of my adult life in LTRs, and when I'm in a relationship I kind of turn off the part of my brain that walks around scanning the room for my next object of obsession. I can and have developed crushes on guys while in an LTR, but there was some interaction that preceded it. But I think if I were single for an extended period of time I'd still be able to develop a crush like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:55 AM
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My husband always said this about retail workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:19 AM
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A lot of the antiwork types are full-on socialists who want the workers to own the business.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:49 AM
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Yeah lol I always have the same thought. Either the amount average women get approached is way overstated on this sub or I am a hideous bridge troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 09:58 PM
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Really depends on her age and lifestyle. If she's young and going out to bars and clubs every weekend, then probably several times a week. If she's 30+ and/or doesn't frequent environments that are conducive to approaching, very rarely. Source: Am average non fat woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 09:49 PM
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Blonde Aubrey Plaza
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 02:45 AM
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Probably because they handcuffed the guy and then passed him around like a ragdoll taking turns punching him in the face. In a lot of the other police brutality incidents there was at least some gray area about to what extent force was necessary, but this one was completely unambiguous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 09:53 PM
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You're not getting straight to any good stuff if you're adopting a kid who's spent their early childhood getting pingponged around the foster care system. If you think changing diapers and cleaning up puke is hard try showing up to your nine-year-old's court date for arson. Also, uh, that daughter is going to have a really rough time, let's just leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 01:56 AM
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Lol yeah. Some dogs are just not loveable. My best friend has had the same dog since we were in college which was ~15 years ago. I have dogsat for her a few times and I hate that dog with every fiber of my being. It's getting up there in years and I will not be sad to see it go.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:05 AM
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Prince consort.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 01:22 AM
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Women aren't loved unconditionally and most dogs aren't either. People buy specific breeds of dogs because they have conditions for what they're willing to live with in a dog, and people give up dogs all the time because it no longer suits their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:58 AM
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No one will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:46 AM
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Extrovert. I like extroversion in friends but quickly learned that I find it overbearing and oppressive in a more intimate relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:35 PM
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All the time. But I also think it goes the other way too - often depression and anxiety are signs that something is wrong physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:19 PM
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This guy literally volunteered at a homeless shelter looking for a woman to marry so that she'd be entirely dependent on him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:13 AM
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Well, I'm speaking from the experience of teaching at a pretty rough urban high school, so that colors my perspective. But kids are absolutely out of control and policies at many schools have effectively hobbled teachers to the point where they can't do anything about it. Competing with cell phones for attention, a battle you will lose 100% of the time. Everyone, from the students to the parents to the administrators, have an adversarial attitude toward teachers. Mainstreaming of SPED kids into …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:40 PM
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If she's not attracted to him and thus not turned on, those things just feel like a gynecological exam.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:53 PM
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Teaching fucking sucks. The main perk is that it makes childcare easier because you more or less have the same schedule as your kids, get summers off etc. Men don't have that incentive so there's very little in it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:26 PM
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Don't forget all the self-reported studies that say women were happier in the 50s than today. Those are gospel too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:03 PM
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Yeah, the car was still going straight when the pedestrian stepped into the street, and it doesn't look like it even had its blinker on. This one isn't on the pedestrian.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 10:46 PM
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the average women is broke and living paycheck to paycheck despite them being the most dominant force in colleges. The average woman in the US still doesn't go to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:48 PM
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For women who aren’t necessarily into these things. Do you feel this image has any effect on you or how you date No.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:33 PM
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Yeah, just happens sometimes for hormonal reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:55 PM
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I mean...she probably thought you ditched her
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 07:56 PM
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I had boys do this to me a lot in middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:36 PM
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I've got bad news for you if you think you can only catch those diseases by sucking dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:39 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:43 PM
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Really, all of them? I work but I'm not a careerist boss bitch and that whole attitude and aesthetic grosses me out. I'm a married mom but that's not my whole identity either, and I pray to God I never become a person who can't talk about anything but my kid (and please shoot me if I ever utter the phrase "Momma bear.") I'm conservative but the gun toting blonde "women of the right" thing makes me cringe to death. I like to read but I hate "bookworm" culture. I'm just me, there's not really any …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 01:57 AM
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It's called r/theredpill sidebar
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:27 PM
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Ohhh ok that makes sense. I was thinking two different guys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:25 PM
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Wait, how did you have two honeymoons within a year of each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:03 PM
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That's not what she's talking about. She's saying that when the baby's in utero you shouldn't expect to feel what we normally call "love" (affection, warm fuzzies). What you do feel is worry, concern and a protective instinct, which is a different kind of love, and the kind of love the baby needs at that point in its development. The more emotional bonding kind of love happens after the baby is born. This is 100% natural and normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:25 PM
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She does care, otherwise she wouldn't be worried about it. She's invested in its health and well-being. She's not experiencing the oooey gooey affectionate love feelings because the baby is still inside her and what she's experiencing is more of a medical condition than parenthood. She doesn't see it as a "child" because it is quite literally not a child yet. Pregnancy for a lot of women is a disassociative experience, and your body is literally not releasing the hormones that your brain interpr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:20 PM
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Yeah, but in this example you don't live close to your friends and this was a rare occasion to see them. That doesn't sound like the case with OP. And not everyone has the money to spend on stuff like that. I just think it's kind of weird and mean to imply that a person lacks care for their friends because they don't want or can't afford to do a particular activity with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:03 PM
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I would just tell them that. Say you appreciate the invite, but you're trying to be careful with money and don't want to drop that much on a concert of a band you don't really like. It's nothing personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:54 PM
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I mean, not really? Not wanting to spend a bunch of money on an activity that doesn't appeal to you doesn't mean you don't care about your friends. You can do other stuff with your friends later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:53 PM
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I'm not really sure what you're reading into this statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:32 PM
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I've always wondered why the "promiscuity burns out your oxytocin receptors" thing only applies to sex with multiple men. Surely lots of sex with the same guy would have the same effect? I hope these dudes are rationing sex with their wives and gfs, you'd hate to see her lose her ability to bond with them because they had too much sex :( I also wonder if they think mothers of multiple children love each subsequent child a little less until she eventually just can't love a child at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:25 PM
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girls are calm and boys are dumb That's the "impulse control" part of my list. When people say boys are less mature than girls I think they usually mean they demonstrate poorer impulse control (which tbh, I think is true after a certain age, but I don't think that's the sum total of maturity). Anyway this thread is kind of going off the rails with the pedophile comment so I'm going to tap out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:36 AM
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No, I'm not talking about violence (and honestly, the girls I taught gave the boys a run for their money in that department too lol). Again, when I say maturity I mean things like emotional regulation/impulse control, conflict resolution skills, responsibility, conscientiousness, time management, owning up to mistakes, self awareness, displaying empathy and theory of mind etc. To me, giggling and bubbliness are just personality traits manifesting as outward expression. In fact, when I think of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:05 AM
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Not to touch on a forbidden topic but I wonder how much this just comes down to race genetics? If I'm not mistaken, girls of European heritage in the US tend to get their periods at 13-15 while hispanic and black girls get it a few years earlier. Boys of those latter ethnicities tend to hit puberty earlier too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 12:29 AM
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I taught 16 year olds for several years and can't say I observed that. Maybe giggly and bubbly just doesn't read as immature to me. My maturity markers are things like impulse control, conflict resolution, conscientiousness, responsibility etc. and I didn't notice a big difference between the sexes in those areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 12:26 AM
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There's not really a debate here, it's an established fact that girls start puberty on average two years before boys. Boys also tend to have one last growth spurt in their late teens-early 20s, which girls don't have. That's probably what you're observing with your old classmates. Honestly it's the mental maturity thing I find more dubious. In my experience working with teens and preteens, there's not a huge difference in maturity between boys and girls. To the extent that there is, I think it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:26 PM
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Years' worth, I imagine. Probably super restrictive dieting and steroids too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:27 PM
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Can confirm, looked like an 8 year old boy until I was 17 then finally started to look like a woman. Now I'm curvy, not fat curvy but healthy weight with actual T&A curvy. My friends who I envied for their womanly shapes in school are mostly fat now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:08 PM
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Men be like "Women have no spatial reasoning skills and suck at math" and also like "women can tell the size of your penis down to the millimeter and are always comparing it to the statistical average"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:44 PM
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If he's just trying to hit that's where it matters the least because if a woman is already at the point where she's alone with a naked man she'll probably just go through with it. Maybe not if it was a legit micropeen but this guy's isn't. I really don't think most women are going to put a stop to a hookup because a guy has a slightly smaller than average penis. Maybe she wouldn't want to see him again but even that's doubtful if the sex was good.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:33 PM
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Oh I'm not saying it's the main reason, I'm just saying I think it's a factor. Whether the scarcity is legit or not, a lot the lesbians I know seem to find finding someone a lot harder then gay men do, for whatever reason. That's why I said scarcity mentality, not just scarcity. I will say though that my lesbian friends live in smaller cities or even rural communities so I'm sure that skews my perception too, living in a bigger city probably helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 01:46 PM
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Exactly. If he had done that to a man, especially in that bar (country bar where a lot of rednecks and cowboys hang out) he 100% would have been punched.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 01:17 PM
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I guess that was poor phrasing on my part. What I mean is it's probably true that women are ruder to men than other men are, but men are also ruder to women than they are to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 12:46 PM
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I was once seeing a band play at a bar and it was standing room only. A couple of older guys (like, 30 years older) were standing behind my friend and me and trying to talk to us. We were polite and friendly at first but eventually it got annoying so we became more terse with them and kept trying to move away from them. At one point I took out my phone to text another friend who was meeting up with us and one of the men reached over my shoulder, took my phone out of my hand and told me if I had …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 12:31 PM
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The betrayal of your husband impregnating another woman lasts a lifetime too. You're only focusing on the man's side in both scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:06 AM
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Both involve cheating, betrayal and giving resources to a child that isn't yours (a married man's resources are his wife's too). I don't think either one is really worse than the other, they're both pretty much the worst thing you can do to a spouse of that respective sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:08 AM
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I guess C, because I have done that. My ex lived 2 hours away, we met online and the first time we met in person I drove to see him. We dated for about a year and took turns driving to each other. It was an annoying amount of distance but not untenable. I also had family where he lived so it was a drive I was used to making every so often anyway. I might do D if we met like on vacation or at a conference or something and had great chemistry and wanted to continue to see each other. But I don't t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 07:22 PM
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That's surprising to me. Maybe it's just that gay men make themselves more visible with Grindr/gay bars/festivals/etc. For whatever reason it seems like lesbians have a harder time finding each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:06 PM
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Well...that's kind of the point, their lesbian friends are probably the only lesbians around. That's their entire dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:06 PM
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I don't think I've ever seen someone say the average woman has "hundreds" of people she's close to. Comments about female social bonds tend to be more about the strength, longevity and intimate nature of those bonds, not necessarily the number of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:54 PM
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I think lesbians also have more scarcity mentality because there are relatively few of them and, anecdotally, they seem to "deflect" more than gay men do (I know multiple lesbians whose partners left them for men; don't know many if any gay men in the same boat). I think when two lesbians get together it's like THANK GOD I FOUND YOU and they want to lock it down immediately even if they're not all that compatible outside of sexual orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:20 PM
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I don't know, I'm not good with numbers and I don't know how to account for future inflation. A couple hundred million? Edit: Ok I was thinking about this more and I way overshot the number lol. If I got paid 500k a year from now until I'm 90 (women in my family live at least that long) it would come out to around 30 million. So I'll say that's my price. I wouldn't take the deal unless it ensured I'd be able to pursue my passions and NEVER have to worry about money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:08 PM
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Hmm. Well at this point there's no amount of money that would make me give up my husband. But in a hypothetical world where I didn't already have a man in my life in that capacity, I think I could be convinced to do it if it was a large enough sum that I could live comfortably for the rest of my life without working. So, it would have to be a lot. And even then I'd only do it if I could still adopt or have kids somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:01 PM
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I have always been very introverted/socially anxious and was able to mitigate it and have a pretty vibrant social life in my early-mid 20s mostly thanks to copious amounts of alcohol. Then I got married, and stopped drinking, and had a baby, and the pandemic happened and atrophied what few social muscles I still had. Now I am more socially isolated than I've ever been and I wish I knew how to not be :( But hey I have lots of online friends! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:56 PM
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Does "opposite sex" include male family members and friends? Or are you just talking about sexual/romantic intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:53 PM
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I'm actually curious now -- in a world where women did want to pay for male OF-type content, would you only serve attractive women? If an obese bridge troll wanted a cam session with you would you be amenable to that for the right price?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:33 PM
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Sure, I'm not trying to talk you into showing your butthole for $100 a month lol. I've just never understood the need to be attracted to the person on the other end for virtual sex work. Women certainly aren't most of the time, even for full-service sex work. I don't have the personality or will for something like OnlyFans so I wouldn't do it regardless, but if I were inclined to, I can't imagine it making a difference who was on the other end if I was getting paid the same. I'm about as close t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:26 PM
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Gay men also tend to marry much later in life, after a much longer dating period, and gay male couples tend to be higher earning and better educated than lesbian couples. All of which correlate with lower divorce rates in hetero couples too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:57 PM
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It's not "gay for pay" though, I'm not talking about like fucking guys or anything. It's selling butthole pics, why does it matter who buys them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:55 PM
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Dude if I were gay, or women really liked to look at dick, I'd do OF's in a heart beat. I've never understood why men think they need to be gay to sell sexy pics to gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:35 PM
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I love sharing a bed, but I can understand why some couples sleep separately. Snoring, moving around, different schedules etc. can make it hard to get good sleep, and good sleep is really really important for people's health. It's probably better to have a well rested spouse who sleeps in a different bed than sleep together and have a spouse who's exhausted and grumpy all the time. My parents have slept in separate rooms for years because of my dad's snoring. If my husband ever snored like my da…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:50 PM
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What did you mean by "accusations are enough"? The context in which you said it implies that you meant enough to lose your job. Matt Gaetz is not an example of that, in fact he's an example that you can have accusations against you and still be popular enough to win a congressional race.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:37 PM
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He's also still a congressman. Your example for how accusations are enough to lose your job is a guy who not only didn't lose his job but was reelected to public office after the accusations came out?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:30 PM
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You're never going to find a woman who loves you like she loves her son. Get that notion out of your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:55 AM
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Men say and do things to women that would get them punched by other men so I'd say this goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 12:07 AM
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I could see that. Otherwise seems like a bizarre thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:24 PM
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I don't think female sexual satisfaction was much of a priority in prehistoric times.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:12 PM
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Yeah, I'm not saying you shouldn't warn them about the risks and encourage them to wait until they're ready. But I also think you have to be realistic. If you know they are having sex or suspect they might be, there's nothing irresponsible about buying them condoms and encouraging them to use them. I'd argue it's more irresponsible to stick your head in the sand and focus on what your kid "should" be doing instead of what they're actually doing. (I say all this as someone who didn't even have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:39 PM
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I'm a little baffled by how often dildos are coming up in this thread. When women talk about using toys in bed I assumed they meant vibrators. Are women actually using DILDOS in bed with a male partner??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:24 PM
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When r/incels got banned, a lot of them came here. Around that same time, FDS started growing in popularity and a lot of them started posting here too. Both of these groups are more interested in circlejerking and taking cheap shots at the opposite sex than having a reasoned dialogue. Also the age demographic of this sub skews way younger than it used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:11 PM
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I have single friends who still go out to bars and meet guys there. I don't think it's changed that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:50 PM
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I mean it's either that or I'm simply so beautiful and magnetic that men feel inclined to approach me in bars when they don't feel inclined to do it with other women. As nice as that would be to believe, I don't think it's the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:49 PM
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Yes that's my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:41 PM
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I think if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, it's pretty safe to assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:33 PM
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I understand the religious argument, but putting that aside, I don't really see 16-17 as a "such a young age" to have sex. It's pretty developmentally normal to be sexually active at that age. Yes sex can come with mental and physical health risks, but all the more reason to talk about it and make sure that they're approaching it safely and with knowledge and maturity. I guess I just don't see a big difference in a kid having sex at 17 in high school or the next year at college. How do you deter…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:41 AM
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Sex is a fundamental human experience. I didn't mention alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:34 AM
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Yeah it's pretty well known in the restaurant biz that Italian has the highest profit margin of any cuisine. Cheap ingredients for the most part and you can charge a lot because people think it's fancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:34 AM
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If you know they're sexually active, assuming they're doing it at a developmentally appropriate age (e.g. 16-17, not 11), I don't see how making sure they're being safe is irresponsible. Is buying a teenager a car irresponsible? Driving is statistically MUCH more dangerous than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:42 AM
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Also I just have to point out that I find this funny. Men on this sub always say "You're responsible for your own orgasm, don't blame the guy if you don't get off!" But when a woman knows how to orgasm and does so consistently but it's not the right kind of orgasm, they're quick the blame the guy for "sucking in bed" or not having a big enough dong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:10 AM
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I've never been with a guy who just "jackhammered away." They did do the "lesbo shit" though, guilty as charged. If that's bad sex then you could have fooled me, I thoroughly enjoy it. I'm happy for you and your incontinent wife though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:09 AM
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I lived in west Texas at the time yes. I'm very familiar with the demographics of my state. I didn't say the whole state was majority hispanic, but the area I lived in was. I say brown because I'm mixed. People readily assume I'm Hispanic more than they think I'm black or mixed. I do best dating wise with Hispanic women. Why are you talking about you? I was talking about your female friend who doesn't get approached at bars. Everywhere I lived, white women were the most popular by far. Even tind…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:53 AM
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I can't have PIV orgasms and have never used toys. Fingers and tongues exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:17 AM
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Yeah, I could believe that. I've never really been interested in using toys but if he wanted to incorporate them into our sex life I'd be open to it. But I wouldn't be the one to suggest it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:41 AM
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...that's what I was talking about in my original comment. I don't enjoy it, I hate it and it makes me feel bad about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:40 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean by "brown" but the area I'm from is majority hispanic. But sure, if you're an extreme ethnic minority that's probably going to hurt you. Although to me that's just a roundabout way of saying you're (general you) unattractive to the population of men in that area. I don't know many men who would say "Wow, she's hot and I'm into her but I'm not going to approach because she's brown."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:23 AM
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Have you ever enjoyed straight porn? Not really. How you feel if a guy you were really into wanted to watch porn with you both being naked or semi-nude? You mean porn of us? I would have less than zero interest in watching it and I think it would probably be best if I didn't, it would probably make me embarrassed and self conscious which is the quickest way to kill my sex drive. I suppose if he wanted to record a video for his own personal use that'd be okay, although I'm not sure I'd ever be ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:19 AM
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White, Texas, 34 but when I was going out to bars I was in my early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:49 AM
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As a woman who's never used toys, it has always surprised me that men don't seem to have much of a problem with it. If I were to put myself in their shoes, I think it would make me pretty insecure if my partner needed to bring some device into bed to get off. I've had exes who wanted to watch porn before or during sex and it made me feel terrible, I imagine a partner needing to use a toy would make me feel much the same way. On the other hand I do have sympathy for women who have trouble achievi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:45 AM
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She should try wearing a low cut top. Worked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:39 AM
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You go to a bar, sit down, and because no man goes out of his way to ask her out, she's ugly. I mean, yeah, it's a safe assumption. No offense to your friend. But as an admittedly mid woman I have sat down alone at bars many times and always had men come up and talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 11:52 PM
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I know from experience my response is freeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:59 PM
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Most of my friend groups in my life have been co-ed and we did stuff as a group of guys and girls most of the time. But yeah, sometimes just the guys or just the girls get together without inviting the opposite sex. One member of the opposite sex in a group outing can kind of throw off the vibe, especially if other women there don't know him that well and especially if it's a straight man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:25 PM
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Yeah. I work from home now but when I was still in the office I was constantly amazed at the amount of soda and sugary coffee people drank every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:10 AM
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I mean yeah, this is true. It's not incumbent on anyone to give up their private property so that other people have a place to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:30 AM
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You do work up an appetite walking that much (I average about 6 miles a day). I just try to keep my snacks healthy. I eat a lot of celery, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:16 AM
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I'm under the desk treadmill pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:23 AM
4

I'm a conservative atheist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 09:31 PM
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I want him to have social bonds that are important to him, especially family. I don't want to be his entire social outlet, and I don't trust a man who isn't close to anyone to be closely bonded with me and the family he creates with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:13 PM
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Ugh, young Joe Rogan was devastatingly cute
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:53 AM
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A hysterectomy is major surgery and comes with complications like early menopause and incontinence which are arguably worse than periods.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:12 AM
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D imo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:40 AM
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I think he's saying that his dad never taught him that if a woman (e.g. hypothetical future gf) hits him or tries to harm him in some way, he can/should hit her back.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:37 AM
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I'm not really sure why this is a Q4W because it's usually men I see making this claim. I agree with you. Most people in current year don't wait for a committed relationship to have sex, so I've never understood how a guy could get a relationship easier than he could get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 09:11 PM
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Yeah I'm from a hunting family and this bothered me too lol. Where I live you're actually allowed to kill more doe than bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:56 AM
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Interesting, I think I'm kind of the opposite -- I can pick out discrete moments of happiness because to me happiness is a temporary emotion and I can remember the times I felt that way. But it doesn't make sense to describe myself as a "happy person." It would be like saying I'm a hungry person. Sometimes you're hungry/happy, other times you're not. I don't think I'm unhappy by default either though, just content most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:14 AM
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This is pretty much exactly me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:31 AM
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"Get a life" is a pretty cruel thing to say to the person who, by your own admission, puts all their energy into caring for you, your home and your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 10:41 PM
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Because most women don't talk like autists. She would just say she wasn't attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:33 AM
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I guess the Overton window has shifted on mini skirts. When I was growing up, we would call the skirt on the right a mini skirt, but not the one on the left. IMO, if it hits at mid thigh or passes the "fingertip rule," it's not a mini skirt. (But tbh a skirt that length would still be considered unprofessional in any academic environment I've worked in.) But I'll concede that the definition of miniskirt seems to have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:10 AM
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Yeah, I agree with your definition. Although the second skirt wouldn't be work appropriate either IMO, but I wouldn't call it a mini skirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:05 AM
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I'm starting to think the men on this sub don't know what a miniskirt is. I really doubt a professor was wearing one to a work event.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:57 AM
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But it seems guys are the crazy ones about sex and women don't pursue it as much. Is it because women are the gatekeepers of sex and they can easily get it whenever they want so it's just supply and demand? Obviously not. There is a group of men with sexual abundance comparable to that of women (gay men), and they have way more sex with way more people. So clearly having more access to sex doesn't make you desire it less. People get this cause and effect backwards all the time and it's really si…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:09 AM
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I think my personal line would be when it interferes with his IRL sex life, e.g. wanting to watch porn while having sex or instead of having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:59 AM
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Hmm I am a big color theory enthusiast, but I don't think any season is more approachable than any other. I think dressing in your colors will make anyone look more approachable no matter what season they are, because it makes you appear more harmonious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:43 PM
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When people say gambling they mean with real money. Otherwise it's just gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:38 PM
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it's bed time bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:14 AM
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Maybe not but every account I've had suspended or banned on Reddit was due to something related to that topic so I try to tread carefully lol @admins if you're reading this I'm referring to Caitlyn Jenner's republicanism, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:48 AM
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Think Caitlyn Jenner
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:26 AM
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Untreated addiction or severe mental illness Violent criminal behavior Ruinous financial irresponsibility Extended unemployment with no attempt to find work Porn addiction or pushing for me to fulfill some vile fetish Something else that would probably get me banned from reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:31 AM
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There's no ideal. It depends on the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:16 PM
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There are subreddits for the Idaho murders because until last week it was an unsolved crime which is a lot more interesting to discuss. It's still an ongoing investigation with a pending trial so, again, there's more to discuss. A guy killing his family and then himself is tragic but there's not a lot of discussion fodder there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 09:11 PM
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The homicides people find interesting are ones that involve some added element of sadism and/or sexuality, or that are particularly gruesome or out of the ordinary. These types of crimes tend to be committed by men toward women. But when the victims are men, they get just as much coverage. John Wayne Gacy and Jeffrey Dahmer both had male victims and they're two of the most notorious killers with documentaries and movies still being made about them decades later.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:46 PM
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That story has received a lot of news coverage. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:39 PM
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I don't really understand it. "The difference" between what? I don't know how long I'm going to be alive but I want whatever time I spend on earth to be pleasant and comfortable so I take steps to make it that way, which includes making myself and my family financially secure, nurturing my relationships, taking care of my health, etc. I don't really care about my legacy after I die though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 04:30 AM
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I don't really have a deadline for it. IME this stuff comes up pretty naturally in the early stages of getting to know someone. I guess if we were more than two or three months in and hadn't discussed it at least in general terms I would start pressing for info.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:59 PM
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I would just decline his invitations and hope he gets the hint. If he persists, tell him you'd like your relationship to remain professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:36 AM
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Are you serious? There's tons of organized crime in the US. In just the last ten years in my tiny hometown there have been two federal busts of organized crime rings affiliated with Mexican cartels.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:18 AM
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A guy who's trying to spend time with you when he knows you're in a relationship doesn't just want to be friends. Even if your intentions are good, your boyfriend will know what the guy's intentions are, and will see your entertaining those intentions as disloyal whether he admits it or not. If you care about your boyfriend you should nip this in the bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:49 AM
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If I'm comfortable with the person then I love just being together and doing our own thing in silence. I have this sort of relationship with my husband, my mom, and two of my friends. I consider this one of the highest levels of intimacy, when hanging out with someone feels as natural and comfortable as being alone. Otherwise, silence is awkward. I'm very introverted and have gravitated toward more extroverted people as friends, because I need someone who can initiate and drive the conversation.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:01 AM
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Once or twice a month, usually to relieve period cramps. Clitoral only.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 10:11 PM
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Yeah I've never understood this. If my name was "my dad's name" then surely my husband's name was HIS dad's name? Why is a daughter always borrowing someone's name but a son gets to call it his own? My maiden name was my name. My married name is also my name. It's tied to ME and MY identity, it's mine. If I got divorced I would keep my married name. It's mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:25 PM
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Introverted and unassuming, yes. Shy/meek/timid, no. I can't really imagine how I'd end up in bed with such a person because I myself am shy/meek/timid and someone would have to drive the encounter and it's not going to be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:23 PM
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The propensity for it is biological.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:41 PM
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1 is biological in that men aren't the ones who get pregnant, but cultural in terms of the laws come into play in this situation. 7 is mostly cultural, and while it's true in my culture there are cultures where the opposite is true. 2, 4 and 5 are a mix of biological and cultural. 3 and 6 are biological.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:26 AM
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It's still risky... Yes, I conceded that, but it's not the kind of risk I was contemplating in my original comment. And for every single mom there's a man who risked knocking up a random woman. women date drug dealers and gangsters And men ARE drug dealers and gangsters which, statistically, is more dangerous than dating one. A better comparison would be sex work, which is very risky and dominated by women. I'd say that's the one high-risk activity in which women outnumber men. women take differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 03:00 AM
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I guess that's financially and socially risky, but not a risk to her life and safety which is what I was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:46 AM
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So, something that most men will do at least once in their lives and many men do very frequently vs. something a few women will do once in their lives (perhaps not even knowingly) and a tiny fraction will do with any frequency. Ridiculous comparison. And then you have things like taking riskier jobs, playing dangerous sports, committing crimes, getting in fights, drinking/doing drugs in excess, using weapons, etc. All things women can and do do, but men statistically do way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:42 AM
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As the mother of a son, some concerns off the top of my head: If he gets someone pregnant he's pretty much powerless in that situation More likely to engage in high risk behavior More prone to severe and dangerous mental illness such as schizophrenia or psychopathy More prone to addiction More susceptible to deaths of despair More likely to suffer congenital health problems that run in the males of my family In general and in my experience, sons are less close with their parents in adulthood tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:50 PM
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Like I said, in terms of physical sensation and orgasm I prefer hands over anything, so I don't think it would change my answer. I get very little physical pleasure or sensation from PIV, it's mostly about the intimacy and psychological thrill for me. Maybe a small dick would make that more difficult too, hard to say since I've never been with one*, but either way I don't think the presence or absence of oral would make a difference for how I felt about PIV. *Before dudes start REEEEEing and cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:42 PM
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I'd probably pick no oral. I like giving and receiving oral, but I think PIV is more important overall. I'm a woman but I don't usually orgasm from oral, I like it as foreplay but I usually get off from fingers. And I think PIV is best for bonding and intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:30 PM
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I think oral-only encounter are more common than folks think, especially in high school/college. Yeah, this is my experience too. I'm always confused when people on this sub act like it's not a thing. That's the whole point of "bases."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:28 PM
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I don’t really care. I thought I wanted a son until I actually got pregnant and I just knew it was going to be a girl. Haha, same but opposite. I always wanted a girl but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I just intuitively knew it was a boy. I was thinking about him as "my son" before we even found out the sex. When my uncle died last year I realized two things -- one, every woman on that side of my family going back at least four generations has had a boy first; and two, every woman on tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:15 PM
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I don't think either is superior or has it easier. They both have strengths and weaknesses, and they both have their own privileges and challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:36 PM
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What about intense making out and grinding with clothes on? My first orgasm with a guy happened like this, no genitals were touched directly skin-to-skin but there was still enough action to get me off. I think this is why it's confusing for women because for us a heavy petting makeout session can be just as, if not more, intense than giving a blowjob. So if men are worried about her "oxytocin receptors" and "bonding ability" and all that like they claim to be, it doesn't make a lot of sense to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:23 PM
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I did this a lot. It wasn't for nothing in return, usually it was me giving him a BJ and him fingering me. It takes me a while to get to a point where I'm comfortable with PIV. With some guys I got there eventually, with others it was just a one-off encounter so we never reached that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:12 PM
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I joked to her that, just to be safe, I should dye my hair the same day I get work done, so my husband focuses on that instead of the change in my face. A lot of celebrities actually do this. Very often a drastic change in haircut or color is to distract from a procedure (often a nose job)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:47 PM
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Lonesome Dove is incredible. I definitely think you'd enjoy it if you like Steinbeck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:13 AM
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I was on pelvic rest for 4.5 months of my pregnancy. This means that not only could I not have PIV sex, I couldn't do anything that felt good for me, because I was at risk for premature labor and an orgasm could trigger it. So that really really sucked for me, but I did take care of my husband in other ways. That's the only sexless period I've experienced in a relationship, other than 1-2 week pauses due to illness, travel and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:12 AM
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My top 3 are Gone with the Wind, East of Eden and Lonesome Dove. I love big historical epics. Favorite authors are John Steinbeck, Cormac McCarthy and Kurt Vonnegut.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:40 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:27 AM
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Yes, people do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:17 PM
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Yeah there's a whole "pit bull mommy" thing here, it's disgusting tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:16 PM
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The US
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:01 AM
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I just started "The Passenger" by Cormac McCarthy and it's already made me cry a couple of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:25 PM
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Her car was her destination. She was there. She was probably afraid that if she tried to get in he would push her away and steal her car with the kid inside. Kid's car seats are usually on the rear passenger side so getting to the driver's seat would require walking all the way around the car. I wouldn't be comfortable doing that with the guy there either. I probably would have done what she did. Walking away works when they try to stop you on the street, but he had her cornered.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:48 PM
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I read 6'
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:27 PM
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An A-line cotton dress that hits at the knees or just above, usually with spaghetti straps or strapless, and usually in a light color, often with a floral pattern. Taylor Swift wore them a lot early in her career.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:51 PM
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https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-apps/imrs.php?src=http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp-content/uploads/sites/21/2014/07/E-072114-COVERPROMO6A1404895442.jpg&w=1200
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:34 PM
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Pretty sure the pizza box thing was speculation from some Twitter rando. Doubt there's any truth to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:23 AM
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Women never want to be the one to break the touch barrier first. If you touch her and she doesn't react well or reciprocate, then yeah, she's not into you. But a guy should never wait for her to be the first to escalate physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:02 AM
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Serious question - how can you tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:01 PM
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That's up to them, but yeah I'd say it's generally good advice. If someone doesn't want to get all up in your junk they're either not that attracted to you or not that sexual in general. Either way doesn't bode well for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:59 PM
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Your male friends are right. As the man it's your job to escalate, and as the woman her job is to give you signals and be receptive. Yes that's sexist, blah blah, that's just the way it is. If you are going out on dates but not initiating physical escalation, she perceives that as mixed signals and you not being into her. She most likely feels like you friendzoned her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:38 PM
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Probably either lesbian or asexual
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:13 PM
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Well I mean this was the 1920s-40s, they didn't have a lot of options. That was the norm before birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:29 PM
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Marriage is a legal status that joins two individuals into a single household and legal/financial entity. People want to get married for a variety of legal, social and spiritual reasons (though the latter obviously doesn't apply to atheists). It gets rid of a lot of red tape surrounding things like inheritance, power of attorney etc., sometimes it gives you a tax break, and socially it legitimizes your relationship and family in the eyes of others. Marriage is a universal rite of passage through…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:58 PM
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They didn't ask, they just let me go.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:25 PM
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This happened with my great-aunt and great-grandma. My great-grandma had her oldest daughter at age 20 and her youngest at age 42. When she was pregnant with her youngest, her oldest was pregnant with her first. So my mom has an aunt and cousin who are the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:24 PM
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I once lost a job because of social media pictures where I was consuming alcohol. People lose jobs all the time for after-hours activity that might reflect badly on their employer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:12 PM
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the first guy she has sex with will be an intense experience, she will bond strongly and have her hormones in full swing This is a male fantasy of what female virginity loss is like that is not reflected in my experience or that of any woman I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 01:32 PM
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If I'm at the point where a guy is giving me oral sex I've already seen his dick or easily could if I wanted to. There's no reason to "assume" its size.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 01:17 PM
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If they saw you initially and turned you down, that’s a strong signal in my opinion that they find you physically unattractive. I don't agree at all. But even so, a person can be unattractive in photos and attractive in person. I’m not signing up for that. If she doesn’t see me and at least think “okay”, I’m not interested. That's fine, I'm not trying to change your mind, just saying what I would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:11 AM
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I wasn't really thinking about someone "coming back," just organically hitting it off with someone in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:59 AM
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Sure. People come off differently online vs in person. I was a stranger to him, it wasn't personal. Frankly I'd date someone who previously rejected me irl too. As long as they like me now I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:55 AM
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Strange how you never think about this when you're very young. Lol speak for yourself, I've had existential dread since I was like 9. tbh I'm less scared of being dead and more scared of the process of dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:41 PM
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Very common in my experience. Usually it's not the close inner circle of friends sleeping with each other (although that does happen) but more peripheral friends if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:21 PM
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I don't want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:25 PM
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Mountain Goats "No Children"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:41 PM
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Trying to imagine what my life will look like in 30 years feels like hubris -- who's to say I'll even get 30 more years? In 30 years I'll be 64 which is the same age my parents are now. My husband's mom didn't even make it to her 60s, she died of a very aggressive cancer at 57. Who knows what the future holds. Right now I have my husband and my son and hopefully soon our family will grow more. I invest everything I can in those relationships every day so that hopefully they will thrive for as lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 04:07 AM
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No no you don't understand they're all elite body builders with 60lb of muscle
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:31 AM
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Yeah there's some massive boomerism going on here wrt tattoos
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:17 PM
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Yeah. Teaching programs fall all over themselves to recruit male students and schools fall all over themselves to hire them. Aggressively trying to recruit men into the teaching field has been a thing for a decade at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 09:54 PM
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Now, never, because I'm not looking for it or paying attention to men in that way. When I was young, single and open to it, it happened all the time. It's much less a function of how many attractive men there actually are and more a function of my headspace and relationship status.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 09:49 PM
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Yep, was going to say the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:53 PM
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It's not a staffing shortage. Staff are stranded in airports unable to make their flights. It has to do with a failure in their scheduling system.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:05 AM
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I'm all for hating on the media, but in this case Southwest actually is being pretty mum about what's actually going on, and they are indeed blaming it on the weather. Southwest is lying and the news is reporting their lies absent other information.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:04 AM
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I'm the same way. At the first sign of aggression or even a raised voice, I'm out. We can continue the conversation after we've cooled off. I've left a family weekend trip early and drove 2.5 hours home because my dad and brother got into a yelling match that seemed like it was going to get violent. Nope nope nope. Even if I'm not involved I don't want to be around male anger. Thankfully I've never once see my husband get to that point in over a decade together. But if he ever does I will GTFO w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:18 AM
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Ok, so you essentially just contacted this woman cold out of the blue after years of not speaking to her, her reception was lukewarm and then you sent her a picture of your penis. Most women aren't thrilled about dick pics in any context, but if you're going to send them it should be in a situation where the conversation is already flirty and sexually charged. What you did is the equivalent of showing up to someone's house and flashing them and thinking it's okay because you had sex one time yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:04 AM
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One only needs to look into the rates at which prostitutes are raped, robbed, assaulted and killed to see how faulty this logic is. Women whose job it is to be in isolated, vulnerable situations with strange men are attacked at far higher rates than the general population. Which means that proximity and opportunity are the important factors, not whether or not you know the person. Most dog bites also come from dogs in the family home. Those stats would almost certainly change if people were as c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:32 AM
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Am I missing something? Where in this story did she send you a nude?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:24 AM
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Not without her knowing because it involves drawing her blood. But you don't have to do it before the baby is born. If you're not married, you don't have to (and shouldn't) sign anything until paternity is proven with a test. If you are married, you have a window to contest paternity (I think it's around two years in most states). In either case, you can do a quick cheek swab shortly after the baby is born and send it off without ever involving the mom at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:51 PM
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Why don't you find a girlfriend for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:40 PM
2

Well, my parents got married at 19 after 8 months of dating and their marriage was... tumultuous for many years, and I think they'd both do it differently if they had it to do over again. So they didn't necessarily tell us NOT to marry fast, they just told us to give it a lot of thought. But then there were also religious teachings against premarital sex and "living in sin" so idk, kind of mixed messages. My youngest brother and I both got married at 29. My oldest brother married later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:29 PM
5

Important yes, quickly as possible no
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:14 PM
5

Yeah makes sense. After the initial "college educated" bar has been cleared, things like where you went to college, what you majored in, family educational background, advanced degrees, amount of debt etc. start to become considerations. It's kind of like jobs looking for applicants with a minimum degree requirement. It's a good initial filter to separate the wheat from the chaff but a lot of people with degrees will still be disqualified for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:14 PM
2

No, they can still see it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 06:49 PM
4

I would be upset and I would want to meet and hopefully have a relationship with my bio kid in some capacity. But I would still love the kid I'd raised for the last ten years, I don't think it would make me feel any differently toward them, I'd still consider that my child and love them just as much. Also I would sue the shit out of the hospital. But I think this isn't a great analogy because a paternity fraud scenario involves an intentional betrayal by a person you love, obviously that's more …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:58 PM
3

No one said anything about fat, ugly or egotistical but yeah sure. Men want attractive women. College educated men want attractive college educated women, who aren't hard to come by in their circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:42 PM
4

There's more to relationships and marriage than "pleasure." People seeking to build a life with someone, share a home and investments, have kids etc. want compatible values and lifestyles, and college education is good shorthand for a lot of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:23 PM
22

People who say this are usually college educated themselves and are usually a certain type of college educated person (e.g. a first gen college grad who majored in nursing at a third rate state university probably doesn't care as much as a fifth generation Ivy League grad, to use an extreme example). Reason is that college education signals a lot of things about class, values, earning potential etc., and people want to be aligned with their partner in those areas. It's MEANT to filter out a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 03:28 PM
2

I remember this when we had that gnarly ice storm in Texas last February. That first 30 degree day after eight days of single digit temps was glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:14 AM
4

My son is just a toddler but I'm not sure why I'd feel any particular way about it? It's normal for teens to hang out with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 09:40 PM
85

EXACTLY. This shit drives me crazy. "Group A is more cautious and less likely to be attacked. Group B is less cautious and more likely to be attacked. Conclusion: Group A should be less cautious." 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 09:37 PM
2

I'm a Texan married to a Tejano and I agree with you. I love Mexican food (authentic and Tex Mex) but I have never been a fan of tamales. My husband's sisters and aunts spend hours making them and I feel bad for not liking them. I always just politely eat one or two at holiday gatherings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 06:06 PM
1

Yeah my family does this all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 03:46 PM
2

I always scored high on female-dominated people-oriented professions. Nursing, teaching etc. I did teach for a while and still work in education, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:20 AM
1

I could be mistaken but the first time I remember it being a big online discourse was after the 4chan post in 2011 https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/free-bleeding
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 03:15 AM
2

It's just what families do. You can try to celebrate holidays separately from your spouse and kids but it's going to upset a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:57 AM
2

Free bleeding was a 4chan hoax
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:17 AM
3

Spouses are family and celebrate holidays together. Especially if you have kids, you want the whole family in the same place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:16 AM
2

Prefer it, no, but sometimes there's a situation where I'm incapacitated and have to send him. This has happened like twice in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 01:39 AM
2

I see I'm not the only one who's been binge watching The Hills
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 11:03 PM
4

Birth control didn't affect my "attraction" per se, but it affected my capacity for arousal and enthusiasm about sex which probably looks like a loss of attraction from the man's point of view
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:12 PM
1

Aww sorry to hear about your breakup. I was in a similar place when my most recent ex broke up with me -- we were together just under a year and I probably jumped the gun on how serious I thought we were, but I really saw a future with him and was pretty depressed for a while afterward. But there is definitely hope, you will move on and find the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:21 PM
1

Married 5 years, 1.5 year old kid, sex ~3 times a week, very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:38 PM
3

Since always. Back in those days it was normal to go on dates with multiple people until you were "going steady"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:13 AM
16

Don't be afraid to be loud. Match his energy. Most guys don't make noise...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 01:48 AM
1

I'm generic white/European mutt. I've only ever dated white and hispanic men and probably only ever would date those two groups. My husband is hispanic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:39 PM
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I do cook and clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:38 PM
62

Men who are strong, present fathers with good judgment tend to raise strong daughters with good judgment, who don't need much help finding a suitable partner. The women who date a string of toxic assholes probably don't have a dad with a good head on his shoulders, if her dad is around at all, so getting his input wouldn't help.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:53 PM
2

It really depends on environment, socioeconomic status etc. "Trashy" has a lot of overlap with overweight/obese, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:45 PM
2

Yeah I'm always confused about this narrative on this sub. I've never been to Europe or dated anyone from there but I have friends from Europe or who lived in Europe for extended periods and they say the same as you, that people over there are even more casual and DTF. But then I come to PPD and hear that you're exclusive in Europe the first time you kiss someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:51 PM
6

It's never happened. If it did I guess I would go with the person I liked more but it's just hard to imagine a situation like that because I'm extremely tunnel visioned when I like someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:42 PM
7

No. I'm just thinking that I like that person. "Others" aren't part of the equation at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:19 PM
20

Theoretically my options are open as long as we're not exclusive. Realistically, when I like someone, other options are the furthest thing from my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:06 PM
3

I'm 34 and have been in three. One from 18-20, one at 21 and the current one from 23-present.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:40 PM
2

No and I'd leave. I would assume he didn't love me anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 01:48 AM
2

Me either. I think I got in just under the generational wire for that one, thank God
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:31 PM
2

My husband and I have a character we do named Autistic Caveman Gary. Basically while everyone is out hunting and gathering Gary is in his cave tinkering with rudimentary tools and charting the movement of the stars and shit. The rest of the tribe is really pissed off at him because he's a shut in loser who doesn't contribute but actually he contributed more to human civilization than they ever did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:26 AM
2

Not much more than 24 hours, however I had a period in my life where I was getting very very little sleep (like 2-3 hours a night) and eventually had a psychological breakdown because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:23 AM
1

Yeah, I didn't even know "jerk" was a physics term until that conversation. And they say PPD isn't educational!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:50 AM
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Acceptable: Cats and dogs Case by case basis: Birds Unacceptable: Everything else* *fish don't count as pets, they are decor
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:32 AM
1

I think keeping gifts is fine, but still wearing their clothes is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:18 PM
4

.53 A long time ago a couple of guys here came up with formulas for "slut acceleration" and "slut jerk" which also factored in time between partners, time spent having sex with the same partner and a couple of other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:20 PM
2

No, the reason it's so low is because most states have very specific requirements for awarding alimony and most couples don't meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:34 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:14 PM
6

Something between A and B. If he doesn't at least try I would assume he doesn't like me that much. If be does try, I'll probably put on the brakes a little because I'm not comfortable moving that fast. I like a gradual buildup to PIV but I'm not opposed to some fooling around in the meantime.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:37 AM
3

Chefs, musicians, cop, military
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:06 PM
1

Very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 03:20 PM
7

I do run and lift light weights. I don't like the look of the gym bodies the guys on this sub drool over, I don't really care if men like it, it's not the body I want for myself. I am pretty happy being a 5-6. There's more to life than trying to live up to some thirst trap ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:24 PM
2

Oh ok. That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 04:21 PM
3

I'm just trying to understand the logic behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 04:44 AM
1

Yes, definitely. Although I think not enough attention is paid to how physical ailments can manifest as mental illness too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 04:16 AM
12

I don't understand the logic. Why would having better options make you less discerning?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:26 AM
1

Yeah I know, but that's exactly why when servers trade in singles the manager will try to give them the largest bill possible. They need those other denominations to make change but they're never going to need to break something bigger than a $100.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:22 AM
1

Often as a server I would leave work with a $100 bill or two because I would trade in my cash tips at the end of the night for bigger bills, because I didn't want a bunch of ones and my manager didn't want hundreds. Then I'd hit up the bars. So yeah I was paying bar tabs with a $100 often enough. But then I guess that begs the question of where our customers got $100s 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:12 AM
4

I mean I never sat down and gave him a list. We started out as drunk fuckbuddies and he's smart enough to know he wasn't the first guy I did that with. We had all the same friends and both hooked up with people in our social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:11 PM
1

Ok. So we're back where we started and I don't want to go around in circles so I'll just say I disagree and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:36 PM
1

I'm saying it's rooted in insecurity and fear you won't be able to upgrade. This is what you said initially. You see how that's different, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:28 PM
3

So it's not fear that YOU won't be able to upgrade, it's fear that YOUR PARTNER will be able to upgrade?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:25 PM
2

Very. Go to a doctor immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:08 PM
8

Then your premise doesn't make sense either. Why would people be worried about the ability to "upgrade" if they can just add additional lovers and keep the old one too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:02 PM
6

I agree it's rooted in fear but it's not fear of not being able to upgrade. It's valuing that specific person and not wanting to lose them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:54 PM
5

Ok, so what? Why shouldn't I fear losing something that's valuable to me? Seems like a pretty valid fear. "You only go to the doctor for cancer screenings because you fear death" Well, yeah. Should I not?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:44 PM
6

I'm married and he was one of my hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:29 AM
1

Teens-late twenties. Once people start getting married and having kids everyone has a lot less time for friends. When I was 20 I was hanging out with friends pretty much every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:41 AM
1

I have a couple of friends who I text nearly every day. But I only see friends in person once every couple of months. When I was younger I hung out with friends pretty much daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:28 AM
4

I felt nothing at all when we broke up. I went through all those emotions before the breakup. After the breakup I mostly just felt kind of rudderless because going from an LTR to single was a big change to my life and routine. I missed being in a relationship, and I mourned that for a while. But I didn't miss him, and I wasn't angry or upset with him anymore by that point. In fact, shortly after we broke up I found out that during the last few months of our relationship he had been cheating on m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:46 AM
21

I don't know how anyone's really supposed to prove this but I have been over my first love for a long, long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:25 AM
5

It's how I met most of my boyfriends including the one who became my husband. I didn't really have any bad experiences, nothing major anyway. So yeah overall a positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:11 PM
2

No. There are men who are objectively gorgeous who I am not personally attracted to, and men who are objectively average who I am attracted to. It's not 1:1. If you're saying that women should date men who they experience subjective attraction to despite those men not being the most objectively good-looking, then I agree, but I think women already are doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:53 PM
2

I'm talking about the subjective experience of attraction, not the objective evaluation of a man's looks. In a vacuum, some of the men I've been attracted to were objectively better looking than others (taller, more symmetrical faces, etc.) But the attraction I felt for each of those men was all the same. I wasn't "somewhat attracted" to some and "very attracted" to others. It's an on/off switch, not a slider.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:45 PM
1

For women, no, there isn't. You're projecting male libido onto women. Men walk around with a spontaneous libido running in the background and are able to find a "minimum viable" woman who is a sufficient outlet for that libido. Women's libido is dormant until it's activated by a man they find attractive. There's no "any port in a storm" mentality. Women's libido and attraction is not gradient. We are either attracted to a guy or we're not. I genuinely can't even imagine what "somewhat attracted"…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 09:43 PM
1

Yeah. I think the problem is entirely overblown. I finished undergrad without any debt, and I didn't get help from my parents. I worked hard so I could get academic scholarships, and I got some need-based grant money. I also did two years at a community college, worked 30 hours a week, lived off campus with roommates, didn't go to a prestigious school etc. I did not have the glamorous "college experience" that a lot of kids want, but I graduated without debt. I took out some loans for grad schoo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:35 PM
2

That's not how women's attraction works. There's no "somewhat attracted," there's just attracted or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:33 PM
1

There are tons of medication shortages right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 03:07 PM
5

When people say this it's because they themselves are on this sub because they're sexually/romantically unsuccessful and are here to lament their status, get dating advice and/or air their grievances with the opposite sex, and they can't imagine someone being interested in the subject matter for its own sake. The quality of discussion on this sub was much higher when there were more of the latter type of person here and less of the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 12:55 AM
1

No one over the age of 20 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 11:16 PM
8

Do you realize that if the option to reproduce can be done without women, most of the high value men all women go for would just entertain a few girls, fuck a few others for cash, and whenever they want, get a kid out of nothing... Why aren't wealthy men currently just using egg donors and surrogates to be single dads?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:18 PM
1

I think it's mostly a pipe dream, but to the extent that it's not, I think it will almost entirely be used by couples where the woman can't carry the pregnancy to term or to finish gestation when the baby is born prematurely (I'm most excited about the latter possibility -- this technology could save tons of wanted babies). Aside from that it will be just like surrogacy, only affordable to the super rich. It won't have much impact on regular people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:16 PM
0

That's not really the philosophy behind abortion rights, though. If it was about a right to not be "forced to breed" then men would get an equal say. It's about a right to terminate a pregnancy. With artificial wombs you could terminate the pregnancy but gestate the fetus separately from the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:14 PM
1

Isn't that what social credit is supposed to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 12:18 PM
5

That's bad sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:03 PM
0

I am married. why do you want marriage? I wanted life partner, a family and to be a normal member of society. why does it benefit you ? It makes me a respectable adult in the eyes of my family/the world at large, it gives me a sense of comfort and security, it gives my child(ren) a stable home to grow up in, it gives me protection in case my partner dies or leaves (or him protection in case I die or leave, which I consider a benefit too, since I love him) what do you gain from it Everything I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 07:35 PM
1

Yeah the joint pain really sucked, made it hard to sleep for a couple of nights. We were similar but opposite lol. We went to a 4th of July party and a couple days later a friend who was there came down with it and warned us. A day after that my husband came down with it. I was walking around feeling pretty smug about not catching it but then it got me a couple days later. My friend and husband both tested positive but I never did. But since I knew that's what it was I stayed home for 10 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:31 AM
1

Ah I see. Yeah that's gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:29 AM
1

Omg the joint pain was THE WORST. I really didn't get all that sick from covid, my main symptoms were fever that made me freeze to death (I remember sitting on the back porch in Texas in July and shivering) and joint pain. The weird thing is how it came in waves, and it started in my feet. I would be feeling fine then suddenly my toes would start to hurt and gradually it spread to all my joints, then it would go away after an hour or two. Super strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:42 AM
1

...what are pizza pranks?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:35 AM
5

Answering the OP's question?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:40 PM
1

Yeah I got those comments from women sometimes but men never commented on my hair color that I recall.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:21 PM
0

Yeah I had red hair for years (naturally it's dark blonde/light brown)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:18 PM
0

I dye my hair constantly and I don't think I've ever had a man ask me this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:04 PM
3

It is extremely hard to make it as a model or an influencer, even if you're pretty. And it's often more work than a minimum wage job.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:36 PM
3

I liked working these jobs in high school and college. I got to be active, work through my social anxiety and make friends. Plus I, you know, needed money to pay for stuff. Not everyone has a rich family or is cut out for sex work. And I certainly would have hated to miss out on an opportunity for real connection and love because I was with some "Patreon boyfriend" I was financially dependent on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:30 PM
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Been with my husband 10 years, married for five. But I'm not really here to give advice, this isn't an advice sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:01 PM
3

A
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:36 AM
1

Just PIV shouldn't last more than 15 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:23 PM
1

I have a son and he is not circumcised. My husband is also not circumcised. Hypothetically if I were married to someone who wanted it I would probably defer to him, but I'm glad I married someone who was aligned on this issue. I've been with circumcised and uncircumcised men and they're pretty much the same when they're hard. I don't really have a preference either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:46 PM
4

I think cheating is a shitty action but I think that otherwise good people can have a lapse in judgment and do shitty things. That's why I believe the best strategy is to eliminate the opportunity for those lapses in judgment to occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:59 PM
6

I've been with my husband for ten years and never cheated on him or anyone before him. I don't believe that I ever would. But I still see no reason to put myself in a position where temptation could arise or where my partner could doubt my loyalty. It's easy to say "Well if chemistry develops I'll just distance myself," much harder to do in practice. Much easier to just not give it a chance to develop in the first place. I've been cheated on once that I know of, and it was with a female friend o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:57 PM
6

It's not about trusting or not trusting any one person. It's about understanding human nature in general. I hold myself to the same standard. I have male friends I've known for 20 years who I don't hang out with alone because I don't want to create a situation where something could happen or give my husband any reason to suspect anything. And when I was single and a male friend was dating someone I wouldn't reach out to him to hang out one on one out of respect for his girlfriend. How many peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:06 PM
3

I'd rather protect my relationship than test my partner in this way and hope they pass. And just because they haven't cheated with this person yet doesn't mean it won't happen in the future. People can have friends of the opposite sex. Just hang out in groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:02 PM
5

I don't believe that only "shitty" people cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:43 PM
9

Give your partner the freedom of choice. If they are going to cheat they will cheat, irrespective of any rules. This is what I disagree with. I don't believe that most cheaters intentionally set out to cheat. I think they spend time with someone of the opposite sex, platonically at first, and feelings develop and boundaries get crossed gradually over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:43 PM
4

I don't understand the connection? People should exercise their free will and autonomy to make good decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:41 PM
2

I don't date bisexuals or care about what they do. We discuss heterosexual dynamics on this sub. Why is because that's how cheating happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:41 PM
1

I mean unrelated to you, obviously. And when I say alone I mean "without your significant other."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:11 AM
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