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My advice, you already said no so stick with that. If your friends bring it up again say something to remind them you already said no. “I’m still not interested in her” is a simple put way of declining. After having to remind them I would next ignore them. Props to you for sticking to your guns on this one. Single moms are never worth it imo.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/22 02:30 PM
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You’re doing fine. If you’re truthfully telling them you want something fun/casual then keep doing that. If they view it differently don’t worry about it. Just try to avoid BPD girls and continue having your fun. There are plenty of women out there who do the same thing you’re doing by wanting something fun. There’s no harm in it unless you’re leading them to believe you’re wanting a relationship with them. If you’re worried about messing her head up because she’s attached and you’re not… we’ll …
/r/newTRP01/12/21 09:15 PM
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Yeah ok dude.
/r/askTRP18/06/21 03:52 AM
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If she isn’t attracted to you you’ll be her orbiter wether it’s snap or text. If she’s into you then you won’t be her orbiter on snap or text. Why is this even a post?
/r/askTRP18/06/21 03:34 AM
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Keep in mind boundary enforcement applies to everyone even men in cases. The tactics for applying it are different of course. Main takeaway is to start this when you start building your frame with plates. Good luck in your LTR. You’re at a difficult age for one but atleast you’re learning.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 02:01 PM
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Beta bait coming from a FWB yes. If this was an LTR I’d argue it’s just a regular comfort test. Some girls like that 80/20 balance. Hopefully OP follows your response idea as it’s a good one!
/r/askTRP12/06/21 01:57 PM
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What’s your age? Out of curiosity. I’d check Rollo’s blog for an essay maybe. If not there check out Rian Stone on YouTube. He’s got some videos about it but I can’t say which would be best as it’s been a long time since I’ve seen his boundary videos. I’m sure they’ll work though.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 01:56 PM
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It’s good you’re seeing that you can’t really back out of the offer since you’ve made it but that you’d wish you would’ve done it differently. No better time to learn boundary enforcement with women than now. It’s not easy and it seems to be a bit different with each girl. You can’t say things to them it’s in how you make them feel that matters. The delivery of feeling means more than them listening.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 01:43 PM
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If it’s confrontational then it’s entering her frame. Frame control is super important with boundary enforcement.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 01:33 PM
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A little column A, little column B. In all seriousness I don’t think you’re wrong. Figure out how to make your stance on these instances clear without being too overt. I wouldn’t offer your place to her after she goes out but that’s just me. I’d open the door for her to cheat if she wants to and then hard next her if she did. This is simply what I would do. Goes without saying but some people here might need to hear it too, don’t go the butthurt route. None of the “oh thanks for the invite” even…
/r/askTRP12/06/21 01:20 PM
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Honestly I’d look up varicocele symptoms and see if any fit for you. I’m not sure if post ejaculation pain is a symptom or not but since my surgery mine don’t hurt after and I know they used to.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 10:22 AM
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Do your balls ever hurt? Like an ache pain towards the end of the day/before you go to sleep? I had blood flow issues to my balls which effected sperm count, t levels and sex drive. I’d never get morning wood unless I woke up in bed with someone. Ended up getting surgery to correct my blood flow stuff and now I’m good to go. It’s a long shot you have what I had though. Low sperm count is probably the easiest thing to check for depending on your medical coverage.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 10:18 AM
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Suicide isn’t ever a good option. You’re permanently ending your life over temporary pain. It may be difficult for you in life now but you have the potential to turn it around and make this life what you want it to be. My advice is to get some rest. Focus on your health and reach out to positive people in your life. Talk to someone you know in person and not here on the internet. Someone around you is there for you more than you think they’d be. Confide in a good friend of yours about this. Chin…
/r/askTRP12/06/21 10:11 AM
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Iron rule number 7. I vote don’t even go on the date. Go see other women and forget this one. This sounds like a oneitis in denial to me. Billions of people out there. Don’t give this one another chance to “start her shit again”.
/r/askTRP12/06/21 10:07 AM
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I’d mix up shit I thought we did together and it’s all specific shit. “Remember how fun go-carting was two weeks ago? Let’s do that shit again” followed by a angry “that must’ve been another girl” to which I responded “I get you all mixed up” in a joking tone. This ones happened at least once. Just different activities not always go-carting of course.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 08:02 PM
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My happy place is 2-3. Most I’ve done at once is 5 but it got messy because it was a lot to manage. Saw them on a pretty even rotation but started mixing up names and shit. I’ve since stopped calling plates by their names and just leave names out all together. It’s “hey let’s go do this” where as before it would’ve been “hey (their name) let’s go do this”.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:49 PM
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I’ve yet to read it I just follow your YouTube but am lacking in that series.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 01:46 PM
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Yes but he’s looking for something more specific about the blueprints topic.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 01:45 PM
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u/RStonePT got anything for this guy? He’s seen more of the series you posted than I have. I’m a few videos behind.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:06 AM
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Best of luck to you man. I have no clue how to help you on that since I haven’t read it yet. Got a few on the reading list that are before that one. Hopefully someone else can help. Unsure how the author of the book is but they may have an email or a blog similar to how Rollo is to where you can email or read an essay they’ve posted on the subject. I’m sure you’ve done your Google research on this stuff though.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 03:04 AM
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Try rian stone on YouTube. He just put out a video series over the book if that’s what you’re referring to. I haven’t read it yet.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 10:44 PM
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I do this to a point as well but usually it’s because I know the shit I’m bothered by won’t bother me longer than 20 mins. I don’t bring it up but sometimes I will have a change in behavior plates notice. I just play it cool. Unless it’s a big deal. Then I usually act different on purpose and depending on what it is I’ll actually bring it up but rarely since I don’t like them knowing they get under my skin.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 06:18 PM
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I think idolizing sex or viewing it as special is bs in the first place.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:17 PM
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I give mine out. Works well for me but not all of them reach out. The ones who do reach out almost always end up being FWB unless they show red flags in the process.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 12:39 PM
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Great advice here
/r/askTRP21/05/21 08:24 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Sent him a link to TRM book 1 and said it was a good self help type book. He already bought the audio book and is saying it’s a lot to take in but he told me he’s going to finish it. I haven’t seen him in a few years. We’ve been talking more recently because I’ll be moving back in a few months. I told him to go to the gym and do what he can. He’s got some injuries and stuff but said he wants to get back in the gym again. We’ll see where it goes but either way pretty unexpe…
/r/askTRP21/05/21 06:06 PM
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Simple- just say you’re going out. Get her hamster spinning. Keep the details out and don’t say meeting somebody. Sounds passive aggressive or like you want her to ask who the somebody is. Don’t be childish about it just simply go do what you want and tell her you’re going out.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 02:26 PM
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My simplistic take away from that read is basically that it’s safe to be in relationships but not to over invest because loving a girl can and usually does, end badly.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 02:18 PM
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Agreed
/r/askTRP13/05/21 12:13 PM
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Sidebar and TRM book 1 is a good starting point.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 02:12 AM
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When I say no I feel guilty is similar. Especially if NMMNG is hitting you as you’re saying.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 11:12 PM
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Fuck is it Monday? I’m drunk. Edit- do Tuesday. Edit again- ya boy has alcohol problems and is out with a plate on a Monday. Maybe don’t take my advice.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:52 AM
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Setup date Monday. See her Thursday. Build up her anxiety through the weekend if she is attracted to you. Don’t give up your weekend for her until you know she’s a guaranteed close.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:44 AM
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Vetting is continuous until LTR status. Then it’s boundary enforcement.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 01:03 AM
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Don’t go into it thinking about an LTR is my protip. TRM book 1 on audiobook. Should be able to finish it by Saturday if you hurry. Vet for red flags before you think LTR worthy.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 12:36 AM
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After I get oneitis I gym more. Normally I do two muscle groups each workout (back and legs for ex). When I’m going through some shit I’ll do just back but twice as hard. Then if I want to go back to the gym that day I’ll do legs twice as hard. I also always refresh book one TRM after oneitis hits. Gets me ready to go spin some plates again and keeps me on track.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 03:45 PM
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I gotcha. Yeah I’d say you’re doing fine. Some girls aren’t used to being approached. A lot of my successful approaches tell me they were surprised I approached. In different wording of course. Apparently it’s more uncommon than I thought.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 03:42 PM
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50/50 on gym girl. Coffee girl you’re fine. Just smile and be friendly to the gym girl. She’s probably attracted but since you dismissed her so easily she’s probably a little off put by you. But we’re talking about 2 girls out of many out there. I wouldn’t sweat either of them.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 03:39 PM
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Time heals all but so does upping the HB levels of new plates. For me it’s usually 3-5 new notches before I get past a oneitis. It’s been awhile since that’s happened. 3 months and OP will be good as new as long as he isn’t thinking nostalgically about his ex the whole time.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 03:34 PM
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Probably attraction but without a estimate of your own SMV stated and their SMV it’s tough saying. If the interaction went well aside from the bf part then it’s probably not because they think you’re a creep.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 03:30 PM
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Go talk to the neighbor or tell your friend to slow down. Some old people are just grumpy. I lived on a dirt road growing up that the city never tended to and driving fast made it terrible. I might not agree with your neighbors approach but I agree with him on hating shit roads.
/r/askTRP10/05/21 01:56 PM
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No idea honestly. I’ve never really needed to learn how to flirt. I kinda just jokingly talk shit and build up some tension that way. Mix in a little kino and then close. I’ve never really thought about flirting.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 06:32 PM
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Not really.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 06:28 PM
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u/RStonePT (Rian Stone) has a few videos on this I believe as does Rollo on YouTube. If anyone feels the need to flame OP save it. I suggested the post. To me this is the least discussed area of TRP. I’m following along for a reason.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 02:57 AM
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Gracias. To me that’s the most lacking subject in the TRP world. Saved it. I’ll check back later on it.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 02:54 AM
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If you make a post asking mention me please. I wanna know what the group says too.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 02:04 AM
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Do shit on your own terms. Be in it for you. In everything. Fuck what other people think. Pairs well with DGAF and abundance. They all come together.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 02:04 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with it per se. The main thing behind recommending against LTR’s for young people is because they aren’t in the position to be in an LTR. Guys tend to be clouded by oneitis and change their colleges or some shit because of their GF. It’s in book one TRM.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 01:40 AM
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Ok sprinkles
/r/askTRP08/05/21 10:35 PM
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I mean am I though? If Rollo supports rian then what makes me qualified to discredit rian and his content? Am I retarded?
/r/askTRP08/05/21 10:19 PM
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Not sure who shit in your cheerios but I follow people for their content. Not their personal lives.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 09:34 PM
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If you’re focused on LTR as goal on your first go, then you’re messing it up. Read TRM book one. Specifically on oneitis and plate theories.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:17 PM
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Mid teens is younger than I expected. My bottom line advice is to not get into a relationship. Spin plates process RP fundamentals over the next few years and you’ll be better on your purpose later because of it and won’t even have to try to get women. Plates will spin themselves. You have more of a head start than most men here. Use it to your advantage.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:16 PM
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I’m on board with this approach if she is LTR material. I do wish people would share their ages more in their posts. When they don’t I assume it’s left out because we’d disagree with them wanting LTR’s in their early 20’s but who knows.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:14 PM
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At the end of the day you do you man. You know your own situation and know yourself better than I do. I’m just sharing my thoughts.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:12 PM
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Have you changed since then? Because talking about cheating exes and wanting a relationship sounds like two bad ideas. No clue the timeframe here but regardless I think relationship as goal mindset isn’t what you need. I also don’t know your age.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:11 PM
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I vote next. Build abundance. Work your insecurities out while you’re seeing more people. Work on mental point of origin. Sounds like a potential area you could improve on. Just my thoughts anyways.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:06 PM
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Go spin plates. Other response is correct. This comes from lack of abundance. You won’t care about this one near as much if there’s two or three just like her. I almost suggest you next this one because of oneitis but that’s your call.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:02 PM
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I think not having sex with the drunk girl was the right move.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 03:59 PM
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I can get on board with this.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 03:20 AM
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Just tell her upfront it’s not something you see long term and that you want to end things. Unless she’s psycho. Then be your best billy beta you can and she’ll hypergamy her way out.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 07:25 PM
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Watch archer. The best plates I’ve had say that I remind them of archer. Something about that cockiness really gets them going.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:38 PM
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Short and to the point answer. I like it.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:32 PM
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No to the verbal warning. Your boundary enforcement needs to be emotion based not so overt. You want them to know they crossed a line because they feel a little bit of anxiety about their standing with you. Do this silently. Change your level of attention given to her. Something to that effect. If she crossed a line that needs a soft next then don’t say a word just disappear for 2-3 days. Go back to it like nothing happened and see if her behavior repeats itself and if it does that when the hard…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:25 PM
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Came back to reply. Basically take three days off from this girl. No contact for three days. If she reaches out in these three days with something like “how are you” for example, respond saying you’ve been really busy. Don’t say what you’ve been busy with as it’s not her business what you do when you’re not with her. If she asks what you’ve been doing you can choose to tell her or you can simply say you’ve been working a lot or another broad answer. The idea is to keep your messages short and se…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 06:21 PM
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Are you a lost cause? Not unless you continue losing on purpose. Is there any hope? Learn how to self motivate properly and you’ll realize you don’t need to hope anymore because now shit just gets taken care of because you no longer procrastinate. I skim read your post. Learn how to self motivate. Stop being the victim in your own story. The bits of this I did read came across like you were crying while typing it out. Rollo doesn’t say it in regards to mission but it applies still “don’t wish it…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 04:31 PM
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At this point I don’t even know who’s the troll. But sure let’s keep it going since we’re all here. Nice pro tip on the condoms. That’s the advice most come here for in this sub. Glad you can speak on the gay sex side of it. They don’t teach that one in schools.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 11:18 AM
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Seek validation from within not from women. You’ll be better for it. Find other ways of validating yourself. The only validation from women you should care about is honestly what they say during sex. Beyond that seeking it from women will come across as beta yes.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 09:51 AM
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Marriage isn’t my field of expertise. u/RStonePT has plenty of videos on the subject and is much more qualified to break this down than I am. I may come back and do a breakdown but it’ll be 90% based off shift I’ve learned watching his YT channel. I highly suggest checking out his channel on YouTube. I’m single and 23, not to be dick riding but he’s up there with Rollo in terms of who’s given me the best guidance. Check him out.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 09:50 AM
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May you just have a stick up your ass for some reason. Take it easy man.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:45 AM
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Skew usually gives good advice. Don’t downvote the guy for his random trolling. He’s good.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:36 AM
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I’ll reply later. Busy now. Don’t respond to texts and don’t answer if she calls. I’ll reply later tonight or tomorrow morning. You’ll be fine being silent until then. Read the sidebar in the meantime.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:35 AM
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Username checks out. I missed that day of TRP class 🤙🏼
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:34 AM
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Wait until you find the ones who bring up their mental health issues like they’re bragging about it. That seems to be the new trend to me.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 09:34 PM
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Also for whatever reason, they provide you zero validation. I don’t look to plates for validation but I get validated by them without realizing it. BPD girls never ever validate me. They never bring up the sex being good or anything the other plates would’ve said as a validation that I don’t realize. This results in them getting into my head more than most plates normally would. By far biggest issue I have personally. They haven’t broken my frame but internally they get to my head. Also add bad …
/r/askTRP06/05/21 09:02 PM
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All of this is based on my own experience- They have odd triggers. Especially the ones who hide their BPD well. One minute you’re chilling and the next she’s off the rails over some weird shit. They tend to randomly go cold or disappear for a bit. Anywhere from a day to a week hiatus. They won’t reach out or pickup the phone. Then they come back needing to know every little thing you did while they were gone. They’re open about what they did too but we all know overt communication is rarely trut…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 08:56 PM
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Thanks man. Everything seems to be going just fine. Just figured I’d bring it up since I remembered you as well lol
/r/askTRP06/05/21 08:49 PM
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Also you replied on my post I just made the other day. Just helping out fellow men like others have helped me. Follow up on my post if you’re curious, plate A took a vacation, plate B went silent and plate C stepped up. I didn’t follow docs orders of 30 days no sex, I made it 6 days. So far I don’t see any drawbacks to having sex before my 30 days are up.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 08:40 PM
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I’m on a 2 week convalescent leave from having surgery. I have nothing better to do but respond to a handful of posts here, and yes even the posts that the OP’s can’t read my username out loud and keep it truthful.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 08:38 PM
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You need to work on a lot man. More on that later if you want. Seems like that warrants a whole other post or a refresh on the sidebar and TRM book 1. To answer your question, what I recommend doing is to simple reply less. Stop seeing her so often. Slowly withdraw and then it’ll eventually just not be a thing any more. I do this with plates naturally so if I ever hit them up a month or two later it’s not out of the norm for them to have that dynamic with me. Pull back slowly and just play it co…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 08:32 PM
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When I’m seeing plates or FWB’s frequently I don’t have the urge to masturbate. Up the approaching and up the number of plates in your rotation. In the mean time give your dick a break while you find new prospects.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 06:46 PM
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She sounds like a previous plate lol aside from the whole sending a video about getting railed by someone else. Mainly the BPD tattoos slut and broken family part. But that’s all common stuff today.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 06:42 PM
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Agreed. Hopefully people see which is which.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 06:22 PM
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80/20 is a general guideline for LTR’s. They need a bit of comfort. Once again this is general and every situation is different.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 06:13 PM
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u/Jango-5 sent you a chat
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:12 PM
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Ex plate was the same way. First girl I’ve encountered like that. She was all into upfront communication like that but then would be so covert about wanting to know if I’m sleeping with other girls. Tons of tattoos and plenty of red flags involved. She’d take random hiatuses and pop up again randomly. I didn’t mind as I was seeing other people. She also had bad alcohol problems. For me girls who react this way are associated with her and it’s seen to me as a red flag as she just wants dick and t…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:10 PM
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Yes there is. Alpha behaviors spark certain anxiety’s and emotions in women. Each girl has a different tolerance for these emotions/anxiety. That’s why 80/20 is a thing. It’s all situational because some girls need more than 80% alpha and some need less.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 03:03 PM
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Where do you go? I cold approach everywhere. Not every cold approach I do is with intentions of smashing. Sometimes I do it just to gauge interest. If I’m at the grocery store I’ll approach some girl about how to tell if a watermelons ripe or some shit. They don’t care what you’re going up and saying as long as you’re attractive. We’re opposites. I stay off social media game and approach or use OLD for ONS/lower quality plates. But I approach wherever or whenever I see a girl I wanna talk to.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 07:00 PM
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What types of approaches do you do? What type of location and how frequent are you approaching? Sounds to me like you’re self improving well and that all you really have left in terms of initial jump is success is with women. You can send me a chat if you’d like but commenting here raises visibility which could increase your chance of getting more advice than I can give.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:23 PM
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How old are you? When I was 20 that’s when I built up most of my experience the fastest. Since I’ve been 21 I’ve kinda just been riding the plate spinning life out but when I was 20 I was really enjoying it and thats when my N count went up dramatically in a short few months.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 05:50 PM
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In other words “let them break”. Was planning on this being the most common conclusion. Just seeing if there was a way to frame the situation differently. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 12:10 PM
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Hard next, read the sidebar, learn boundary enforcement, don’t get disrespected by women, and never follow your girl around at a party like a dog. The fact you compared yourself to a dog so people reading would have a clearer image is sad to read. Take the advice in your replies to heart and get better because of it. The rational male will help you a lot if you haven’t read it. After that I strongly suggest No More Mr Nice Guy. There’s hope for you yet but you need to get out of your mess of an …
/r/askTRP03/05/21 11:56 AM
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I like this advice. If I could add to it I’d like to say to OP, think less about what your messages are making her feel. I mean this for when you said you didn’t want her to feel bad about leaving her hanging. If she’s low SMV let her hang, if she’s truly interested she’ll be there when you get back around to it.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 11:52 AM
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No it’s not always as logical as we think it is but it helps some people. This community isn’t all about over analyzing everything to get pussy. This community is focused on becoming RP to self improve not to solely focus on women. Women are a by product of success. I think there’s some dots you haven’t yet connected and that’s fine. Plenty of people find this space, take what they need from it, and leave this space. Wether they leave better off or not is up to the individual. We don’t have to a…
/r/askTRP02/05/21 05:13 AM
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Why stalk? Insecure? If you have a gut feeling like that then you’re usually not wrong. Learn to just follow your gut feelings. I say soft next but this post to me seems a bit childish so maybe hit the sidebar and spin some plates. Your mindset seems like it needs some work.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 04:59 AM
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I don’t think you did anything wrong since there wasn’t exclusivity with this plate. Most of the time I’ve had plates see other women interested they behave the opposite and we have crazy sex after the nights over. They know they’re taking a prize to bed after seeing women interested. In your scenario here I think the jealousy was just too much for her to handle.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 05:25 PM
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Nope hard next. Whatever her reasoning is for behaving that way I wouldn’t tolerate it. Don’t care and move on. Her having a bad day doesn’t mean to treat other people poorly. You did the right move by leaving how you did.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 02:46 PM
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I think you’re making a bigger deal of this than you should. You said you hate tattoos and she said she does too and has zero tattoos. I’m surprised she even said anything to you about it. The trickle truth tells me you probably handled the initial situation well which is why she felt okay to continue to tell you more about it. Solid boundaries are important and being firm on what you like or dislike is important but when you’re acting like a tattoo hating maniac what do you expect a girl to do?…
/r/askTRP01/05/21 12:24 PM
2

When I was 21 I had a 38 year old I was seeing. I was RP aware but didn’t fully swallow the pill at that time. The sex was awesome and my performance was trash. She literally made the first 5 or so times about me learning what to do in bed. Taught me a good amount as I was pretty inexperienced. Once my other plates I was spinning realized the sex was better they all got more into me and it built a good deal of confidence in myself that I honestly think is what got the ball rolling for me. It was…
/r/askTRP01/05/21 12:14 PM
2

Go to the gym and socialize with some of the dudes there. The bar isn’t the only place. Shit I’ve met people from go carting. Do what you wanna do but be social while doing it. Look for stuff in your area that you could see other people around your age doing by themselves or in a small group and if it sounds enjoyable go do it. But I recommend doing it because it sounds enjoyable first. Don’t go with the intention of making friends, for me that’s an easy way to be let down and regret leaving the…
/r/askTRP01/05/21 11:57 AM
1

If alcohol changes your vibe like that you probably are too outcome independent and lacking frame. Go spin plates and look for someone younger. The girls around that age all seem to either be wild ONS material or they’re looking for something serious so they do shit like sit in your kitchen when they’re at your house while they control the frame. Spin other plates and like I said if she comes back around then keep her at bay and decide if a close is something you even want. For me if I’m seeing …
/r/askTRP01/05/21 11:47 AM
3

What opportunities changed in the new city compared to the old city that had more opportunities? I’d suggest finding something around you to go and do and then just casually interact with everyone there. Go hiking or find a volunteering thing you don’t mind doing. I go to pool halls and find all kinds of people who wanna randomly play me and I’m not even good. I’ve made some friends that way just be sure to see if they’re there all the time or drunk all the time and know wether or not you should…
/r/askTRP01/05/21 11:36 AM
2

If you know this is a oneitis situation for a 35 year old girl while you’re a 29 year old man and you still made this post pointing that out then I personally think you should slap yourself and go spin plates. Saying she lives that close to you makes this a not very good idea as well. Saying your vibe was effected better/well on what sounds to be your least successful encounter with her? Doesn’t sound like you had a better vibe if you came off as a non sexual pussy. Can you close from this? Yes …
/r/askTRP01/05/21 11:31 AM
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My comment on a similar post is below. Just my 2 cents. From my experience it’s easier to establish this from the beginning. The only way I’ve found to make it work is to speak about me missing my single days in a nostalgic manner but not in a manner that makes her think I don’t want her. Last LTR told me she wouldn’t be happy if I slept around but she wanted to know after I did. She knew I never told her when I got some strange I just made sure to be safe and get tests if I thought I needed one…
/r/askTRP30/04/21 05:16 AM
1

Your advice seems best right now. I agree.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:27 AM
1

Hard next your “friend”. Yes that’s a cockblock unless you shift the mood back. I’d have attempted to recover it by separating and if weird friend said he was coming with us I’d just say something cocky funny like “you’re gonna be too drunk when that drink kicks in. Your ass better stay put ” in a joking manner of course. He should piece it together. If not we’ll take him with and just exclude him from your convo. My old friend would behave similarly and I’d always say to the girl “he’s really d…
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:24 AM
2

If you want to go then go. If you don’t then don’t. If the friends are mutual then don’t worry about her being there unless you know you’ll go full beta or start acting weird to the point other people notice. It’s about you and what you want to do. Don’t let her dictate or effect that.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:18 AM
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I’d say no it’s not abnormal. Sounds like you just have a strong frame. I’ll also say they might not all be like this. Especially if you ever catch oneitis.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 02:16 AM
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Same post two days in a row? Surprised people are even entertaining you with responses. Read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 04:44 PM
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On we’ll say 1/3 of my day game approaches or even night game approaches, I hear 1/3 of the time it’s refreshing to meet someone organically and not online. This leads me to believe there’s not a lot of men out there that will approach in person. Too many use social media or OLD as a buffer to rejection. My last plate didn’t have a boyfriend for a few years. I know she was still out riding the CC but almost every one of those was online. I only know that because she told me “tinder in that area …
/r/askTRP29/04/21 03:50 PM
1

From my experience it’s easier to establish this from the beginning. The only way I’ve found to make it work is to speak about me missing my single days in a nostalgic manner but not in a manner that makes her think I don’t want her. Last LTR told me she wouldn’t be happy if I slept around but she wanted to know after I did. She knew I never told her when I got some strange I just made sure to be safe and get tests if I thought I needed one. The thing here though is that you don’t need your LTR …
/r/askTRP29/04/21 03:47 PM
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Rian stone and rollo tomassi are my go to’s.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 10:55 PM
2

I’m 23, I relate a bit to what you’re saying here. Not exactly but I relate. What works for me is forcing myself to do my hobbies or go out of the house. I play guitar but have arm issues and I definitely don’t play as much as I could. I’ll force myself out in a few ways. Take my dogs to a park, the lake, or a hike. I’ll go shoot pool by myself if I wanna go practice some night game too. I’ll go see a movie if there’s any good ones out. I follow the above when my plates all break at once or if I…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 12:23 AM
2

I’ve been big into Rian Stones “on point” series on YouTube. His book fuccfiles is my most recent RP read and it was enjoyable. Easy to apply/relate what he talked about because of how it’s written. If I have time for a long video I’ll put on an old red morning episode or one of rollo’s couple hour YouTube videos in my headphones.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 09:35 PM
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Pretty sure most of TRP would agree that if you’re her best option there’s no need for hypergamy to kick in. It’s taught here that hypergamy kicks in when you are not her best option wether thats due to looks, emotions, providership, sexual availability, etc. Rollo covers this when he goes on the “hypergamy doesn’t care” rant in book 1. But yes I see people saying some wild things in the group about women and their hypergamous tendencies, most of which is a bit overboard.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 09:30 PM
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Or the 20 other ways rollo puts this saying. Guessing either OP hasn’t read TRM or he’s forgotten some of it. This is the reply he needs.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 09:26 PM
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You should read the sidebar. Iron rules of tomassi covers this as well. Since you asked 9/10 times I don’t respond at all. I’ll act like I got a new number if I bump into them, especially if there was any ounce of potential oneitis for them. The 1/10 time I’ll play along to smash and then hard next after. But this is very rare. Usually when someone comes chasing, I don’t want them still for the same reasons they left my rotation.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 09:24 PM
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Screw an escape route plan just dip. Or retract slowly if you think she’s gonna be nuts. Id go cold turkey from this girl and start spinning plates. A few ONS’s later and you won’t even care. A FWB or two would be even better. Leave this post up, I’m interested to see what happens if you ever care to report back. Theres also good comments for people who might be in similar situations. Best of luck to you man. We all land in situations like this but your scenario here shows a lot of similarities …
/r/askTRP20/04/21 05:19 PM
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Feels like a drug addiction... so that’s why this post was made. If you think this plate is a healthy thing for you then you need to sit and rethink it. Just my 2¢. You should read rian stones book Fuccfiles. He addresses exactly this in his book. Enjoyable read too.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 05:08 PM
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Phenomenal the one time you’ve had sex with her? Go spin other plates and have phenomenal sex again and this girl won’t be at the front of your line anymore. To me it sounds like you’re a bit hooked on her.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 05:03 PM
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I’d go spin other plates instead of going to her place when you know you won’t fuck while you’re there. You do you man. Sounds like a mess to me. I’d look for something that’s less work/drama.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 05:01 PM
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You responded to the only part of my reply that wasn’t 100% serious. I’d follow the last bit of my first reply. If she reaches out then run game and escalate. I wouldn’t see her again after is you don’t have sex. Unless you want to be her orbiter she kisses while getting dick from her boyfriend. Maybe you’re into that who knows.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 04:48 PM
1

You’re very outcome dependent. I’d focus on abundance mentality. Spin more plates and the little things that are bothering you about this one plate won’t matter as much. Listen to Skew’s reply to your post but also go spin other plates. Work on not caring what happens. I suggest not talking about sex after certain number of dates all together if you can avoid it. Or just give her a “uh huh” response and run game as you normally would. You got some things to work on and hopefully Skew’s reply res…
/r/askTRP20/04/21 04:45 PM
1

Push pull. In this case I’d pull back and see if she reaches out. Sounds like a crazy plate I wouldn’t mind letting break. I wouldn’t want her around me or in my rotation if she’s not fucking me. If her ASD is coming from having sex but the foreplay isn’t bothering her see if she’s into the old religious loophole and put it in her butt. In all seriousness, I’d pull back and see where it goes. Escalate if she reaches out to you but I’d soft next at the very least.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 04:37 PM
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My dads 45 and he uses match and tinder and ngl he slays. He also will hit a random bar here and there with a buddy and scope it out. He isn’t looking to date though so maybe that’s why OLD isn’t working for you. He said match is the easiest and that tinders a lot of higher 20’s sluts who just want him as a sugar daddy role or for free validation. My dads only slightly RP aware but still has plenty of billy beta qualities. Edit- after reading other replies here, I felt it could add value to my c…
/r/askTRP15/04/21 04:50 PM
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Be the leader and see what happens. You’re speaking in a lot of possibilities. Find out for sure then report back. If nervousness is holding you back then don’t shoot for the #1 spot shoot for #3 and get up there a bit more. Gotta put yourself out there and see what happens. You’d be surprised as long as you aren’t an idiot the group will like your suggestions. It would also help if I knew what type of events you’re speaking of but either way it sounds to me like you’re sidelining yourself and s…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 09:02 PM
2

To what level do you include yourself? I ask because I used to be the guy off to the side. I was never shy but I never was out there either. Once I stepped out closer to the center and spoke out more I was then included and seen as more essential. I had three people call me last weekend inviting me and guilting me for not going to the lake with them and then again the next night because they wanted to go out and wanted me there. That wouldn’t have happened had I not included myself towards the c…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 08:33 PM
2

Start with the sidebar. She’s just putting you in her orbit.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 06:39 PM
1

Set 1-3 year goals. Pick a couple personal ones and professional ones and then come up with a plan to achieve it. I’ll do this and have smaller achievable goals set that contribute to the end goal. I usually lean towards financial goals and goals with hobby’s if they fit in.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 05:21 PM
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My exp with women who are upfront about things is it’s them projecting. What I mean is when they say “I don’t do hookups” it means they do hookups and they feel guilty for it so they’re hoping you don’t trigger that side and then they leave feeling slutty after. It’s a front IMO. Run game like you normally would and keep some kino and general escalation in there. You’ll be fine man.
/r/askTRP10/04/21 04:02 PM
1

Probably going to send a chat about this later this weekend. Edit- after I search Reddit/this sub a bit.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 08:16 PM
6

If more people listened to you here we’d have less of a trend here about people ignoring the signs and getting cheated on. Following his gut was the right thing to do because if he stayed he’d question his decision in doing so.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:14 PM
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How are you finding all this new shit out and you’ve known her for a few years? Odd to me your friend has the inside scoop better than you. As far as the behavior goes I can tell you that she probably isn’t attracted to you and that your lack of frame isn’t helping anything. I stopped reading other than your bolded parts. Sounds like she’s after validation is all. I’d game other women and stop being friends with them if there’s attraction on your end of things. There’s a better girl around the c…
/r/askTRP09/04/21 07:09 PM
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This is really what I should get into. Thanks man
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:10 PM
1

I’ll be home for all of my recovery thankfully. I do need to get into meditating or something. I’ve been journaling for awhile now which seems to help my head out.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:17 PM
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Tell her your cashapp is in your bio. In all seriousness I would’ve offered her to electronically pay me. If she says no I’d pay my half and leave. Bitches all have cashapp.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:09 PM
3

Lol a plate said she wouldn’t fuck me because I’m community property. I laughed and showed her the song and she was pissed I thought it was so funny. She never heard it either.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:05 PM
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Just basing off the title here, if your gut says she’s cheating just leave the relationship. If you stick around odds are you’ll wonder for a long time about it which could bring in other issues to the LTR. Spin some plates man, don’t be afraid to walk.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:03 PM
2

Other than the title what’s your question here? I think I’m missing the purpose of your post as the sidebar discusses BPD as does searching “BPD”. Yes I have dated a BPD girl. It’s what brought me here. Since being here no I have not dated a BPD girl.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 03:54 PM
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Focus on other shit. Read the rational male. Learn to channel your shit feelings if you need to but you’ll eventually forget the girl and it’ll probably happen once you get girls who you plate. That’s why it’s preached here to spin plates. You’re focusing on other shit when you do. Go lift weights. Go get a hobby. Start hiking. Go for a walk until you dgaf about some girl who doesn’t care about you. You will never be the prize until you think you are.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 01:08 AM
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Unfollow her. Delete her or block her if you have to. You know what you need to avoid and it’s seeing her post shit so stop seeing those posts. Spin plates while you build SMV. It’ll show you your progress and boost confidence along the way. Just my $.02. Edit for cutting emotional feelings I personally sit down and think to myself “what would I miss that the next girl can’t give me” when I realize that it’s not a valuable list of shit I move on. Half these bitches that get our oneitis out of us…
/r/askTRP09/04/21 12:55 AM
2

Being aware and learning is what matters.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 12:00 AM
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I would’ve stopped replying once she said she still has a boyfriend. You wasted your time past that point in my opinion. I would’ve also left out the it depends part and just ask what I wanted to ask. I would’ve gone silent after she said she had a boyfriend. She would’ve noticed the cold shoulder and either reached out again, which is unlikely, or she would’ve followed my cold shoulder and then life goes on. I also recommend finding a way to avoid saying you “care”. That struck me as a very odd…
/r/askTRP08/04/21 09:45 PM
1

Then he can have fun with that. Rare to find one that’s not been passed around. Either way this victim mentality is going to get him no where.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 05:01 PM
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Where are you located? I’ve been army for 6 years and have had nothing but women. Fuck the ratio. Focus on that if you want but focus on the 1 in the equation and stop paying attention to other dudes. Getting women is easy. Especially when you’re military. You have a head start in the looks department because you have a job with grooming standards and a job that requires you to be in shape. I don’t feel sorry at all. Don’t wish it were easier with you were better. Or say “it sucks bro”. Either o…
/r/askTRP02/04/21 04:46 PM
1

I’ve done it twice. I don’t LTR often to begin with. Both times I did it I ended the relationship because I didn’t want to be exclusively seeing only her. I would tell her this. She’d cry and get upset then I’d call her in a few days and go smash. Pillow talk consisted of her saying she thought I never wanted to see her again or whatever and I’d tell her I just want to fuck other people too. Spun her as a plate for a few months and then moved on once she started being bitchy. The sex was good an…
/r/askTRP02/04/21 04:37 PM
1

I don’t think so. Think of how long the three R’s have been around. A lot of their earlier posts still apply today. The world changes but trp fundamentals still work.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 04:34 PM
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Find what changed and go from there. Are you lifting? Eating healthy? Did you get your finances messed up? These are probably the top 3 things that will effect my level of drive in life. Fuck how good I’m doing with women they’re an after thought. For me I lose steam if I stop the gym, stop eating well/drinking enough water, or make a shitty financial decision. Take a step back, find out what changed, and then start fixing whatever changed that used to get you going. That’s my recommendation. Ot…
/r/askTRP01/04/21 08:41 PM
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Follow this advice OP. You’re doing well at the beginning don’t lose out because you want to make her wait to see you too long. Short attention spans are a thing. High interest from her means I would see her in 2-5 days depending on my schedule.
/r/askTRP28/03/21 03:05 PM
2

Up your SMV. I’m 23 and think I’m up there in the SMV. I generally turn down women who are above 27 unless they’re an exception to hitting the wall early. I guess I’m also not understanding why you’re wanting to get a “milf” when you have 18-21 women. Chicks with kids aren’t fun. FWB or ONS they’re a handful 80% of the time and I’m not going down that road again. Also I suggest getting off tinder. You’ll find some mid to lower 30’s women in local bars or pool halls that look like they’re upper 2…
/r/askTRP27/03/21 03:19 PM
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Why do you want older women? My max is 27. I’m 23. Any older than that and they’re full of baggage and they’re wore out and not fun to be around. Sure I’ve had a couple ONS with a few in their upper 30’s but I’d much rather have someone around my age who hasn’t hit the wall yet or isn’t about to hit the wall yet. Also something to consider is most girls I’ve been with that are about to hit the wall usually push hard as hell to be in a relationship. So be ready for that.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 03:01 PM
1

Thanks for the responses. Great to wake up and read.
/r/askTRP23/02/21 01:55 PM
2

No I get it. Stay away from your friends girls. That’s easy enough. Is it RP? I look at posts in this sub in a complete different light when it’s coming from someone who has flair. I look to gain knowledge or insight. Not something as simple as your reply to my comment. You summed up the entire post in your reply without telling me to be a beta. That’s what I meant by my original comment. I’ll be me and that includes me staying away from my friends girls.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/21 07:28 AM
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Normally I pay closer attention to posts from people sporting some flair. I think I’ll leave being the beta to you because what in the world is going on in this post.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/21 03:59 PM
1

No I agree with the conversation and learning aspect. Lots of men in this space have their guard up and I’d rather get solid advice than have people think I’m looking for excuses (I generally think people are coming up with bullshit excuses so this may be me projecting here). Haha that’s hilarious. I haven’t seen that movie in years! I gotta watch it now. I agree with you though. I plan on taking a bit of a break. I think my time off will serve as a solid time to think of what’s next for me. As …
/r/askTRP21/02/21 06:31 AM
1

Thank you for that. I think my biggest problem is shared by many people, we’re all our own biggest critics. I agree with the community/volunteering aspect you’ve voiced. I think that would be great. Don’t want to come across as poking holes in every piece of advice out there but my only issue here is that I’ve always been one to help myself before others. Hopefully that makes sense. If this need elaboration I can do that. After my next surgery I’d really love to get into some fighting sports mor…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 06:06 AM
1

I guess I should’ve re worded some of that portion of my post. Going back home was my end goal. While I was in I accomplished a lot. Bought a house with plans to rent it out, got a car (2019) almost paid off, selling my weekend car for 17k next month. I’ve done a lot and have had goals with smaller things like where I live currently and how I live but have been lacking goals longer term. I joined to get experience in something outside construction, to get out of a town that everyone complained a…
/r/askTRP20/02/21 04:06 PM
2

Hey either way it’s appreciated man. I’ve thought of the run my own business Idea but that fear you’re talking about is what’s stopping me. I hear it’s pretty rough getting started most of the time. Your energy dwindling line is what I have playing in my head a lot. I try to shut it up because I tend to avoid fun and focus on work more than anything. I always tell myself I can enjoy shit later and now is when I have the energy to get shit done. Like they say “something something jack worked and …
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:52 AM
2

I’ve taken a large interest in the outdoors in the past few years. Planning a 30 day camping trip with my dogs after I’m officially out. Really looking forward to it.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:48 AM
2

That’s funny you bring that up. Last plate I broke things off with was because of money. I’ve also stopped all subscriptions this last month as well. I never used them as much as I thought I would have anyways. Thanks for clarifying man
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:47 AM
2

You’re correct they do pay for school. I didn’t take advantage of tuition assistance while I was in but I do have a GI Bill to use when I’m out which will fund schooling. That’s part of my backup plan I didn’t elaborate on. Gotta figure out where I wanna go long term before I sign up to use my one time benefit package for school if you know what I mean.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:46 AM
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This is what one of my doctors suggested actually. I strung one backwards and learned a super simple song. It’s hard af. Especially the mental aspect of starting over completely and then learning backwards if you know what I mean.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:45 AM
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Thanks man. It’s been an adventure serving, that’s for sure. Been some amazingly great times and some amazingly shitty times but it all helps regulate my perspective on what I want I think. I do plan on taking 4 months to kinda relax and let things ride since I have 4 months of paid leave on my way out. I figure I’ll take that time to figure out where I want to go what new interests I’ll have. I appreciate the feedback man. It’s encouraging to hear that.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:23 AM
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1-3 are understood. Thank you. For 4 you mean stop chasing the money? Never heard the term you said before just looking for clarity.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 05:00 AM
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I’m on mobile. Let me know if my formatting could be adjusted. Edit. Wasn’t supposed to be a reply to the auto mod.
/r/askTRP20/02/21 04:26 AM
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It’s people like this who ruin the space for me. There was a time where I loved it here and now it’s BS and autism a lot. It’s okay though I’ll continue to stay and sift through posts for the good ones. Also crazy detective work in those screenshots!
/r/askTRP24/01/21 04:26 PM
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It seems to run rampant through this sub lately. Now I know why so many people seem to leave the sphere once they learn what they need to.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 01:45 PM
1

Well now you know where to start. I also suggest you browse the sub a bit. See how others approach their questions to the group who get solid feedback. Read and search then ask. You’ll get much better results compared to this post today.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:53 PM
2

Go ahead and control F “degree” in the rational male if you have it digital. If you don’t, then read the introduction. There you will find he has a double major in psychology. Or continue to ask your amazingly well thought out questions (heavy sarcasm, hope you can handle it).
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:39 PM
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What are you even after then? Us to figure out your shit for you? We swap notes and we give advice. The advice of endorsed contributors or senior RP members is more trusted than others. If you have a question then ask. Coming into the group bitching about how we react when you type out shit like you just did is what I find a bit ironic. TRP isn’t for everyone and this group has done huge amounts for many men before you showed up bitching about the sidebar.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:06 PM
2

Made up scenarios or not, prepping for future scenarios like this is ridiculous. Build a frame, raise smv and this won’t happen or bother you if it does. Read further to understand what I mean by “bother you”. You’re preparing yourself for situations you should learn to never be in. Learn how to avoid most of these vs how to react to most of these. If you find yourself in these scenarios with an LTR, I hope you’ll know that you fucked up by making things exclusive with her. Scenario 1 and 2 are …
/r/askTRP05/01/21 11:22 PM
2

Makes a lot of sense. I suggest hitting the sidebar again. Even glancing through you’ll realize oh shit this applies to a plate that just broke or something. It’s good to review the basics.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 09:28 PM
1

TRP is like a revolving door and you’ll realize that the more you live it. Prize mentality is where I’d start due to the jealousy I’m noticing in this scenario. Tell yourself that she had a better time at the movie when she was with you and that she probably thought of that because you’re a great time to be around. Channel how you view shit into a manner something like this. Then that develops a DGAF mentality because you’ll realize that you’re right and that you are the prize. The double date s…
/r/askTRP01/12/20 09:24 PM
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Sounds like you have some jealousy going on which yeah can lead to oneitis if it isn’t there yet. Placing plates above other plates isn’t wrong. Over investing is wrong. Your jealousy in this situation is shifting the power from you which will result in a major frame shift if you don’t handle your jealousy well. Then it’ll most likely result in the plate braking and your oneitis really setting in. My advice- stop caring what your plates are doing. It’s a double standard to expect girls to sleep …
/r/askTRP01/12/20 09:13 PM
1

Read the sidebar and then when you have questions about that ask here. Seems to me you have a lot of knowledge left on the table to gain here.
/r/askTRP17/11/20 03:35 PM
1

I think you’re looking into that aspect I’m a different light than I would. Did you normally smash at her place or yours? That’s how I’d pick the location. My ex gf never even came to my house I’d always go to her place so when we set the meet it was close to hers. Had it been close to mine it would’ve probably thrown her off I don’t know. Play it cool and pick a spot. Run game from there. Like I said before and I can’t stress it enough. I recommend not getting back together.
/r/askTRP08/11/20 12:18 AM
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What are your goals? I just met up with an ex a bit ago smashed her once and acted like I missed her and fed into all her shit then blocked before I left her driveway. I don’t recommend getting back together but sometimes one last fuck is great. Edit because i fucking commented this to the automod comment lol
/r/askTRP08/11/20 12:05 AM
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I’m surprised you got into a relationship with someone you’ve never had sex with. That’s the wildest thing I’ve heard in a while. Personally I’d leave. No girl is worth the effort if she’s 28 and a virgin and wouldn’t already fuck me. I’m not gonna sit and wait for her to give it up. Hard next from me. I really am shocked that you can it only sounds stupid for a red pill guy. No it doesn’t sound stupid it is stupid.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 12:03 PM
10

Read the sidebar. Never disclose your number of previous sexual partners.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 07:28 PM
5

Double book. Set a date for 5pm and another shortly after. When one flakes go for the date that didnt. When one doesn’t flake and you’re wondering if you’ll make it to the second then pick your favorite of the two chicks and cancel on the least favorite. Also it seems like you’re acting too available. Build value by being less available. If you’re free three days away say something along the lines of “I’m pretty busy the next few days but Monday I could probably see you for a few hours before th…
/r/askTRP06/11/20 03:45 AM
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Sounds like she feels guilty about it or she just doesn’t want to confront it. Either way I think yes she cheated.
/r/askTRP05/11/20 07:51 AM
1

Should’ve gone with the latter as my buddy who gives zero fucks is now in a relationship. I need a better social circle of men who will take the hit for me lol
/r/askTRP03/11/20 03:47 AM
1

Since they just left I figure I’ll at least update you. Original chick (HB7) ended up gaining weight from quarantine and is now a 5? The friend is definitely still a HB8. The 5 was trying way too hard with me and I was forwarding almost all of my attention to the HB8. Ended up making out with the HB8 friend and got her number and plans for this weekend. She told the original HB5 girl all that happened while we left to get dinner together and then the hb5 deleted my snap and that’s that. Had she …
/r/askTRP03/11/20 03:44 AM
1

Any tips? I liked the idea of creating a bit of jealousy between them by showing interest in the 8 to get the 7 going. I plan on just running game like normal and not being a little bitch since there’s two of them and one of me lmao
/r/askTRP02/11/20 07:22 PM
3

I guess I should add, yes I’m aware ideal situation is threesome. Never done one before so not the most confident with that happening but who knows we’ll see. The friend wanted to know if “I had any guy friends for her” to which my response was “you can’t share me?” And they laughed. I asked what her friend looks like and after seeing a few pictures I said I think the three of us will have fun, she looks good. Then the girl said her friend said the same thing. Who knows where the night will take…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 05:48 PM
1

If you’re trying to keep it going yes, but no texting unless it’s to confirm plans you set in person.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 04:01 PM
1

Oh yeah the sex was amazing for me too but I was 18 and thought every girl I fucked I needed to be exclusive with but hated the dynamics of a relationship. Kinda brought me to the red pill after shit like this kept happening. I used to stick my dick in crazy too often for the sex. Be careful with over pursuing. I think you’ll have a solid chance keeping it all in person now. Text as a backup backup option but don’t rely on it.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:52 PM
2

Long story short- dated a coworker, didn’t give her enough attention or care about her enough (her words). She tried fighting about something dumb before work and I can’t remember the topic now but I didn’t entertain it. At work that day I was talking to my buddy and she thought I was shit talking her so it ended up with her screaming at me in front of 50+ people and me just asking her “you done yet? Oh no not done ok let’s hear it, got any more. Hey guys she’s got more!” Just to make light of i…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:48 PM
1

Good luck man. I’m curious to see how things play out since everytime I’ve ever fucked a coworker it’s ended bad. That was pre RP days.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:42 PM
1

Start talking a little more at work if you want to plate her. I don’t recommend playing her since you’re fresh out of a relationship but that’s your decision. Buffers are things that soften rejection, look up schedules of mating in the first rational male book. It talks about it there. Straight up asking to hangout in person still seems like over pursuing. Start with small talk. Build a little tension between you two (good tension). Then invite her out for drinks or something of the sort and see…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:34 PM
1

I was under the impression this post was about a plate not a ONS from your work.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:26 PM
1

Do you see this girl at work? If so don’t text her to hangout or make plans. That’s buffering at its finest. Probably why you’re confused with this odd rejection she threw out. Had it been an in person interaction you would’ve been certain if she was interested or not. You could gain anything from asking to hang again who knows but now you’re over pursuing. Make small talk in person, don’t be the one to bring up seeing each other in person but if it’s brought up weigh your options out.
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:25 PM
1

Plates break man. It happens and when you see they’re breaking take a step back and watch it break. Learn from it though. Don’t over pursue as others have said. That’s nothing but an ego stroke to her regardless of how you think you’re pursuing. Tips I do that may help you next time. 1 set the date before she leaves your place. If you had a decent time with her on a Saturday but wish you would’ve spent the day doing something else then she’s now suitable for week nights. Tell her to come over on…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 03:18 PM
3

Your age plays a factor but I’m going to assume you’re in your 20’s. I think your best bet is to either do what you truly want to and not bring up seeing other people to your LDR/LTR or bring up an open LTR and have it more than likely end. I say end your LTR/LDR or whatever it is and spin plates. Especially if it’s a somewhat forced relationship that’s now long distance. Odds are she’s seeing other people already if she’s visiting once a month. Get your abundance mentality back until like you s…
/r/askTRP28/10/20 04:09 AM
4

Not the person you’re replying to but no I don’t think so. You’ll get a few matches out of it but you’ll get more normally with a good profile.
/r/askTRP25/10/20 04:22 PM
1

Stop being an idiot first off and then you don’t have to worry about shit like this in the future. And don’t let one match mean so damn much to you. It’s literally a tinder match. Not some unicorn mythical creature you missed out on. This post makes me feel bad for you OP. Get your shit together.
/r/askTRP25/10/20 04:08 PM
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Start going for women outside your school. Once you’re perceived as beta it’s very difficult to change that perception they have. Especially outside an LTR. Get some new prospects. Go to school sport games and meet women on the other side of the field or stadium. Take up a sport that isn’t based on a school like mma and go to those events. Being that you’re 16 it’s tough for me to provide direction in this scenario. But expanding your means of meeting people is always a good thing.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 02:11 AM
1

Iron rules of Tomassi has your answer. Read them if you haven’t yet.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 04:47 PM
5

“Love a man in uniform” is always from some trashy bitches outside of an army base. This saying from a girl who lives local to a base is a huge red flag for me. Outside of that it helps with basic shit like grooming standards and making sure you’re “in shape”. I’ve met a lot of fat people so really this is what you make of it. We also have steady pay and if you’re in for awhile it’s considered a good amount to 18-23 year old girls.
/r/askTRP18/10/20 09:13 PM
1

Not after the first one. After the first 50-100 you’ll stop caring if they say no and won’t be phased by it anymore. Once you start hearing yes you’ll be glad you’re approaching. There’s a YouTube channel that covers a lot of day game stuff. It’s called the natural lifestyles. Some of it applies some seems odd but overall I think it will help you know what to expect and what you’re doing. Edit- don’t thank me. This is what we do here. Men swapping their thoughts and methods and it reaches beyond…
/r/askTRP17/10/20 10:05 PM
2

Knew it! Go start cold approaching. Learn to accept rejection with a smile. You won’t have game unless you work on it. Good job on getting the rest of your life on track. Start building a social group and approaching. Once you fully grasp that rejections better than regret your anxiety will start being less of a factor. This is where the exposure part of the other comment comes in.
/r/askTRP17/10/20 10:00 PM
1

To me this may also be paired with scarcity mentality. What’s your plate situation looking like? If 8’s make you nervous go plate 7’s. Start small and work up.
/r/askTRP17/10/20 09:54 PM
1

Everyone wants to win the prize that everyone else wants. No one wants to win the prize that no one else wants.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 05:49 AM
1

Your post provides very little context. How did you lose it? What are your tactics now. Any self reflection on your situation will help members give you solid feedback. My guess would be scarcity mentality is more prominent now. But that’s a shot in the dark due to how little you provided for such a loaded question.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 05:44 AM
1

If you need advice in the future PM me. I’m not RP god and I’m definitely not an endorsed contributor. But I’ll help if I can.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 03:09 AM
1

You seem new here for sure. That being said I’m curious how you’re doing physically. Are you in the gym? For me that was my first step paired with the sidebar. After I got a steady gym routine I finished the sidebar moved into NMMNG and the rational male. Then it all clicked. Now plates spin themselves. If you are as new as I’m thinking my biggest recommendation is to start cold approaching. That’s been my biggest step and I’m still not amazing at it but getting better. Seems to be one of the to…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 03:08 AM
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And all that being said, happy cake day. Stop being kissed at your friend. It shows weakness and who’s frame your “friendship” is operating in. Go spin plates man. It’s your cake day.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 02:56 AM
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No if you bring up anything to her you’re dissatisfied with you’re 1 entering her frame and 2 setting terms for expectations. It’ll drive her away (even as a friend) because now you guys have terms she needs to meet. If you’re against deleting her then soft next but don’t re enter her orbit because I guarantee you’re in her orbit now. For the sidebar stuff, download the PDF, read it, before you post in the future search for keywords. It’ll help immensely and I also recommend reading the rational…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 02:55 AM
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I’d play your cards like its a ONS at most. If it turns into a plate then go for it if that’s what you want.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 01:29 AM
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Bro read the side bar. Look up what Rollo Tomassi has to say about inter gender friendships. Hint-they’re not going to work long term and this friendship of yours fits what he speaks on perfectly. You being a simple platonic friend will turn into you being an orbiter. Delete her and go back to square one with your RP journey and reread the basics. Sounds like you’ve lost your way a bit and want to keep this oneitis around which isn’t healthy.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 09:17 PM
1

I agree I think it’s stupid but why does it bother you enough to make a post about it? Let them be beta and who gives a fuck.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 08:55 PM
3

Schedule plans or say you’re going to be busy the next few days. Try not to over think it but make sure you’re making your point clear with the soft next and building value by not being readily available to her.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 05:13 PM
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I would only ghost due to the oneitis. That’s a hard next my friend. Had she not gotten to your head like that then I would say try to demote and make it known she’s nothing more than a plate. At least the trip isn’t costing you. We all learn from our mistakes.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:47 AM
1

Women are opportunistic and branch swing. Don’t LTR a cheater next time to lower chances of being cheated on. Better yet don’t LTR yet because then you can’t even get mad because exclusivity isn’t even a thing when they’re plates. Edit: spelling
/r/askTRP02/10/20 09:19 PM
4

Think before you speak. Don’t react to bullshit. Simple as that. Practice it. It’s not going to change overnight but every time you notice a negative emotion that’s caused by someone else, in scenarios like this, don’t react but instead realize that you’re better than they are and then here comes the dgaf mentality as an end result. Soon enough you won’t have to focus on it as much and it’ll be natural again.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 09:16 PM
2

I’m not sure why anyone would LTR someone who cheated out of their last relationship. That’s red flag 1 here.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 09:12 PM
2

Have you read the rational male? TRP isn’t toxic so if you’re toxic you’re doing it wrong. It’s all about playing the game when it comes to women. You shouldn’t be 100% Alpha when in an LTR. Gotta throw a small amount of Beta in there to keep her around. Monk mode while in an LTR? Care explaining how that even works? Sounds like your monk mode definition is off. Get back on your purpose and raise your SMV for you not for others. Focus on what’s in front of you and not behind you. You got oneitis…
/r/askTRP02/10/20 09:11 PM
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I wish updates were more of a common thing.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 05:19 AM
1

The rational male or book of pook are tied for my recommendation for first. Then no more mr nice guy then last when I say no I feel guilty.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:27 AM
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I vote hard next if you got oneitis for a plate. Regardless of the situation being as unique as it is. It kinda fucks her over but oneitis fucks you over when it’s for a plate. To me driving back with her sounds like the billy beta thing to do. I’d hard next without a second thought. You could have it come across easier to her by playing the “something came up” card if you choose to do so. Either way oneitis and plates is a bad mix and clearly you see that.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:12 AM
1

I do chest shoulders tri’s, back bi’s and legs. Then I do a abs and cardio day and restart with the chest shoulder tri day. For me personally it’s been great for giving my muscles two days of rest with this plan. As stated before you should get advice based on your build and body type and experience in the gym. I see too many people at the gym thinking they’re doing it right but they aren’t. I wish gym approaching for tips was a thing. I’m no professional so I’m sure other people would give me s…
/r/askTRP27/09/20 07:01 PM
2

Find a hobby you can use to occupy your mind. Read a book or play an instrument. Sounds like you’re in a low spot and for me personally being productive or doing something fulfilling is what works best. Also if you’re not day gaming I suggest that. Seems like most women are tired of online dating and are shocked a guys approaching in person.
/r/askTRP26/09/20 03:01 AM
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As difficult as it is for me to explain my method, I’ll try to put it simply. I try to build a little “mystery” or get them intrigued about something. When they ask questions I respond along the lines of “that’s definitely a story I gotta tell in person”. Usually only with things you can tell that they’re curious about. If they ask what I’m looking for I’ll respond with something like “after I meet you and we get to talking more I’ll be able to answer that question better”. They usually never as…
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:28 AM
4

I personally only double text to change logistics. I don’t send any other double texts.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 03:16 PM
10

This is why I take my pants off as soon as things make their way to bedrooms. When you pull your dick out it really does put you in control. By not having yours out it’s like you’re asking her permission to progress things further. Next time whip it out.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 11:42 AM
1

After her next text your reply should be something along the lines of “Hey give me a call in the next couple of days”. And that’s it. Don’t say what it’s about. If she asks what it’s about then ask if she wants to call now. Then when the phone call happens address your concerns. Don’t hold your breath though honestly. If she wanted to call or talk more she would’ve already initiated. Hence the needy nature of this interaction.
/r/askTRP17/09/20 02:23 PM
2

If you do confront her you’ll come across as needy. My advice is to not think or worry about it if you want it to last. If you do bring it up I suggest expressing it in a way that shows it’s crossing a boundary or something to that effect. You’ll be losing frame big time in confronting. How long have you been with her and how long is she gone for? Long distance is a bitch and anytime I’ve been effected by distance I go back to spinning plates and cut the LTR off. This is what I think you should …
/r/askTRP17/09/20 02:13 PM
2

I’ve had issues with this in the past here and there but never long lasting. For me it was condoms the first time. They were too tight. The second time it was oneitis and I legit would go limp with every plate until one day I just powered through it and didn’t have that issue anymore. I don’t jerk it or watch porn but prior to the condom issue I was doing both. I’d check your diet too. I’ve heard that plays a big role
/r/askTRP17/09/20 11:19 AM
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I’m anti roommate if you can swing it financially. I’ve yet to have a good experience with roommates. I think it helps weed out the super immature girls as well because they see that you’re out together and I think it kicks their hamster in gear a little because they ask themselves how they’d fit into your life. I’ve had a handful of plates in the last year express that to me. I vote live alone if you can manage your finances well enough.
/r/askTRP16/09/20 11:09 PM
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The “when a woman shows high interest ALWAYS expect her to pull back” part is what I’ve been needing to hear myself. Great advice. I tend to forget this one.
/r/askTRP15/09/20 11:49 AM
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If you need to then sure but why let it bother you? Rejection is what happens 9/10 times don’t worry so much about it. If you can’t help but being bothered by it then yeah block them if that’s what you need to do.
/r/askTRP15/09/20 11:41 AM
1

I think it’s beneficial for you to move on. If you do stick around I say don’t reply super soon. Build value by being less available. Text less and see her whenever you want. Be elusive or whatever the term is. It’ll give y’all something to talk about when you see her. She’ll ask what you’ve been up to and that’s your chance to raise value a bit but don’t over explain of course.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 01:43 PM
1

Soft next if you want to try to fix it. Listen to the other comment about dumping her if you wanna progress in your RP journey. Sounds like you got feelings for someone you’re not exclusive with and thats not a good thing.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 11:24 AM
1

I agree with this comment. My soft next comment is an attempt to “fix” what you could but this is what you need more.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 11:17 AM
1

I vote soft next and see if she responds to a ping text in 3 days. If she doesn’t then move on. If she does then make plans to see her and don’t even bring up the shit you’re posting about. Leave this shit in the past and let her see you as you normally were or better than before (preferably better than before). She has options so don’t expect her to chase. Learn from this and go find other plates. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 11:15 AM
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From what I understand texts generally don’t mean shit. If a form makes you feel good then go for it. I used to voice record on my iPhone and have them ride me first and dirty talk them about them being on top and shit like that. Then when we’d change positions I’d turn the recording off acting like my phone was getting a call then continue smashing. If you say “you like riding that dick don’t you” and she says yes then in my mind I was good lmao
/r/askTRP06/09/20 04:09 AM
5

What do you have to lose? Do you want to or not? Answer those and you have your decision.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 04:04 AM
1

Text less. 2/3 rule for texting and try to stick to logistics if your text game isn’t working for you. Search the sub for some texting guide that’s been floating around. Look up on YouTube “physical escalation principles every man should know” the channel is called “the natural lifestyles”. Their channel seems to have decent stuff but to be honest I found it last night.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 03:19 AM
1

Start approaching. You didn’t really elaborate on why you’re not approaching but that’s a huge part of game. When I approach less I get laid less. When I approach more I get laid more. As for tinder and my experience with it, who cares if people you know see you on there. They’re on there too. No ones ever brought it up to me in a negative way. I always swipe right on my coworkers or exes just so if they pay for tinder they see me. I don’t care at all. As for closing, you didn’t elaborate much h…
/r/askTRP06/09/20 02:29 AM
1

You can message me if you’re curious how daily life and shit goes in the military. If you do go, finances are something to keep on top of. You won’t make much from the jump. Keep from financing stupid shit and you’ll be fine. Avoid scams at the local malls and local businesses even run “specials” for military people and basically try to steal your money. AT&T got me when I was new. Also when you’re in if you’re active, you’ll have to sift through women like crazy because every girl outside an ar…
/r/askTRP06/09/20 01:26 AM
2

u/CUNT_WARS You need to read the game portion of this. It’s pertaining to your post we’ve been commenting on. Edit- apparently I didn’t hit reply. Scroll down to the longer comment. Starts with “what is a game”.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 04:45 AM
5

Would you rather be jaded and maintain your current SMV or would you rather increase your SMV and be closer to their top option? Ask yourself this. Once the red pill starts working for you then you won’t be upset and you’ll enjoy it. I’m not sure where in your red pill journey you are but after the anger phase you’ll start to really realize how well the fundamentals work. You sound very dependent on outcome and like you’re bordering scarcity mentality. Once you nail those and raise your SMV I th…
/r/askTRP25/08/20 04:40 AM
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Sounds like your SMV isn’t where it needs to be if you’re having issues with women almost hitting the wall not wanting you. Stop looking for an LTR and spin plates. You’ll find a plate worthy of an LTR during that process. You’re 25 you have time to find your LTR. Until then work on being their top option because if you’re struggling then you aren’t their top option. You just sound upset honestly.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 04:33 AM
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A lot of this has to do with age brackets. Read the rational male if you haven’t already. I doubt you’re in your prime and you’re probably going for women who are in theirs. Mating schedules man. It’s all in who you’re targeting.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 04:24 AM
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As already said trying one approach a day works well. To add to it I’d say you should also really focus on the “I am the prize” mentality. That’s been the most help for me. For me it pairs with not giving a fuck about how it goes. Once you develop the prize mentality it seems to all come together. You get DGAF attitude with outcome independence which is a killer combo for your one approach a day. For the anger phase I suggest working on letting that shit go. You were taught by a woman so you hav…
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:35 AM
3

Go carting is my go to when I actually wanna do something out of the norm. Depending on the place I go to for it I thoroughly enjoy it. Most women don’t get invited to go cart and I’ve never had one deny the invite.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 01:12 PM
1

Thank you. Very much appreciated
/r/askTRP20/08/20 02:29 AM
1

What kind of stuff goes in the journal? I’ve been reading and walking my dogs but want to start journaling as well. I’m trying to get into more low dopamine activities and stuff because I look for dopamine in everything everyday. Hell even driving I catch myself trying to get adrenaline because I’ve been trying to re regulate my dopamine levels.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 12:16 AM
5

Thank you much. I will get right on that.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:42 AM
1

I’m sending you a message.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:39 AM
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I’d bring her with personally. If you have a natural assertiveness and dominance with your friends, she will recognize and will like seeing it. Don’t get too drunk because the best sex I have with plates is after they meet my friends. I think it makes them feel special so they’re trying to pay it back. Ultimately do what you want though because it’s not about her.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:38 AM
1

Sounds good thanks for your time. Searching this didn’t get me to where I wanted. All I found was how to express you’re there for her which is what I followed. I have prospects from before and a few from during the LTR. I’m not worried at all about that part. Ideally the LTR works out though.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:30 AM
1

That’s essentially what I did. I appreciate the feedback and don’t plan on pressuring her for attention. My biggest question here is how long I should wait for? The LTR has been great so of course waiting to spin plates isnt an issue for me. I assume by your reply my post seemed very insensitive. That wasn’t the intention and hopefully my reply helps to clear that up a bit.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:28 AM
3

Sounds like a plan. I already threw it out that “it’ll be alright” and that if she needs anything to let me know. How long would one wait to for her to come around before just nexting? So far the LTR has been great up until this. Everyone processes death differently so I’m unsure.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:21 AM
2

Can confirm
/r/askTRP17/02/20 08:40 PM
1

If you search “once proud lion” on the main sub it’ll come up. I haven’t read part two. That’s new but the original part was super helpful in my last relationship to not go full beta on her. Good read but somewhat lengthy.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 02:31 AM
4

This response reminds me of the lion story on the main sub. Have you read it? It’s where the lion gets declawed and defanged or something by his lion gf and then she leaves him because he’s fat. Your little piece fits in well to the middle of the story.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 02:23 AM
1

Read undercover sex signals. I have the audio book.
/r/askTRP24/12/19 06:05 PM
8

I was just explaining this earlier. Today I worked from 6am to 11pm and have to do it again tomorrow. I simply didn’t have time to go today. I have an alarm set for 4am and I’m hoping I feel good enough off that little of sleep to hit the gym. I pay for the damn membership d hate when I don’t use it as much as my body allows.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 05:29 AM
1

Sleep and diet are pretty well dialed in. I’ll definitely do some research on this because I’ve never heard of it. It makes sense when you bring up the stress hormone aspect because I’ve heard of over stress or frequent stress causing health issues. Just haven’t heard of it in relation to training. Thank you.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:38 AM
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My issue is relying on others to reach a content point or to feel “happy” although I feel happy isn’t the most fitting word. My workout program is 4 days of lifting and if I’m day 5 my day 1 muscle groups aren’t sore then I hit them again and restart the day 1-4 process. I’ll have a rest day or cardio only day if my muscles are sore. Does overworking in the gym lead to anxiety? Because it does feel like the main issue has surfaced more the pst 2-3 weeks which is when working out has increased.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:20 AM
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Pm me
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:08 AM
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I workout 7 days a week. I think you may have misread that. I’m 5’10-11 and currently about 160. Always had low body fat so no matter what I do lifting wise I look very lean and toned. I have dogs and they help but I keep finding myself relying on people to bring happiness or put me at a content state. If it wasn’t for the dogs I would consider living with a friend for a bit.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 02:49 AM
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Through searching on the main sub I found various responses that were saying monk mode isn’t necessary. Especially when people were talking about socially unplugging themselves during MM. My take on those responses may be incorrect but that’s what got out of it.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 01:45 AM
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People need to be selective in what advice they take. I look at if the commenter is an EC first and if not I always check post history or comment history to see what other advice they’ve given. Easy to spot for the most part. I agree with what others have said as well.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 05:55 PM
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Speaking of making them feel like a slut in bed I had one girl ghost me because the first time we fucked, I think I got in her head too badly from dirty talking her pretty intensely. I’ve learned that’s also something to ease into. She was super super into it but man as soon as we finished she was acting all fucked in the head. One of the only times I’ve said sorry to someone since finding trp.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 02:35 AM
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Social conditioning, odds are most of their and our parents married young, as well as grandparents. It’s what most of us were taught before we start playing the field. For me it was paired with the sex talk growing up. It was, in short, practice safe sex and don’t sleep with every girl you want to. Find a girl to marry and have kids. To have kids safe sex isn’t a thing because that’s with someone you’re in a marriage with. Just my $.02 but I don’t think I’m wrong or far off from being right.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 02:27 AM
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Now that right there sounds like the response I needed. I’ll work on that. The only thing standing out that will be difficult is finding out what I’m afraid of or what I’m fearing I guess. I’m going to pay more attention to the caring part and start is very small doses and I don’t really mind how things are going for me I just know that my plate spinning isn’t optimum yet. It’s a work in progress and responses like that are what help me second to the red pill subreddit which is tied with the rat…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 02:24 AM
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I think it may come across as cocky through my post however I never share potential. I don’t kiss and tell and I don’t show intentions with others or bring up others. I see what you mean here and that’s noted. Yes my last relationship wasn’t quite a LTR but more of an R. Only reason she wasn’t a plate was because there was exclusivity. She was a plate for 2-3 months prior to making it exclusive and showed great qualities for an LTR but the communication issue was something that didn’t surface pr…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 01:51 AM
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Rollo talks about this in the rational male. He says something along the lines of “a good plate spinner knows when to spin and when not to spin a plate. They know which ones are worth spinning and which ones aren’t.” Something to that effect. If you’re unhappy with the results then why’re you entertaining these plates? Don’t game women who aren’t worth gaming. Your RP lifestyle and game skills will work for the non sluts too. I’m not sure how long you’ve been looking into and learning about TRP …
/r/askTRP09/10/19 06:17 PM
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I ended up canceling on today because she was being bitchy and boom whole case and post is now irrelevant however there are some great comments here so hopefully someone gets some help. It helped me but I think every person has a bit different idea on the plate theory.
/r/askTRP01/09/19 04:36 AM
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Spent 25 minutes typing that so your ass better read it. Take it for what it’s worth because I’m still asking questions in this sub. I’m not a red pill master and have mentors of my own.
/r/askTRP01/09/19 12:28 AM
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Coming in a pm give me a few boss.
/r/askTRP01/09/19 12:01 AM
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Mental shift 100% Once my mindset changed my chances with women has since gone up dramatically. Zero physical improvement due to health issues keeping me from the gym. Can’t go into detail unless in a pm because they’re pretty specific and gotta stay anonymous here.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 10:04 PM
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I agree with you almost completely. Minor changes to my mindset with it. I have no problems with multiple women at once as long as there’s no exclusiveness. I won’t just sleep with anyone if they’re not fit for being a prolonged plate or fwb. If it’s just me being horny I still look for quality. The girl this post is about is just at the lower end of my acceptable quality scale but she still meets it. She’s just not high enough to ever turn into an LTR unless she changed a lot of shit which I do…
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:45 PM
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I don’t want to be known for being a liar but I see where it is you’re going. I’d rather not say anything than lie. I only lie if it benefits both people involved.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:34 PM
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As stated somewhere deep in these comments I was thinking that my question would be connected to when rollo talks about multiple plates and only sleeping with one of them at the time. I may have misunderstood him but I guess my question is more plate theory related than a what should I do question. Either way there are some great and very helpful answers in here for myself and for some newer people to askTRP so the outcome works for me.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:32 PM
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Check your messages. I sent a link to his website since I can’t copy and paste from his ebook.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:21 PM
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Rollo tomassi uses it in the book the rational male. The book explains it better than I can.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:14 PM
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Because she said she doesn’t date people but has brought up her “hoe phase” she used to be in and all of her past shit which was involving multiple guys under the same covert contract she tried to get me to agree to.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:02 PM
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Have you read the sidebar? It’s in the glossary, pretty common term here.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 08:00 PM
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So you’re saying plates have to be women you’re actively sleeping with? Because my interpretation from rollo was different in the sense that multiple plates doesn’t mean you sleep with all of them.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 07:59 PM
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That’s a lot of assumptions but I assure you I cancel on her and tell her no to hanging out quite often due to other plans. I’m a busy guy and there’s not much spare time for her to fit in unless it’s planned in advance or spur of the moment hookup. I see where you’re going with it though.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 05:12 PM
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This plate has stated she isn’t going to sleep with someone else however I don’t believe her no matter how straight forward it could have been worded.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 05:02 PM
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Honestly I’ve been having girls throw themselves at me lately. My tinder game has been going great and there’s multiple 7+’s I’m confident I could have over at the snap of my fingers. That’s not even in person game which is where I feel even better about abundance.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 04:05 PM
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Listen guys.. I get it she’s a plate do whatever I want. The reason I’m asking is because I can’t remember which plate theory rollo was talking about where he said you should sleep with one but have other plates you aren’t sleeping with on the ready and that’s why I am asking.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 03:17 PM
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Thank you for the well put response. I agree completely. I feel like in person things went well but when she started texting me about it and I got in my head thinking about it I started to fuck it up. If she messages me to hangout this weekend, which she brought up wanting to do before the whole no sex until results thing, what should I say in response? I’m thinking of just saying “my results won’t be back until sometime next week and I’d rather hangout around then”, something to this effect. I’…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 04:39 AM
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What I do that usually works pretty well is when I’m driving her home I’ll pass a restaurant or a park or something and bring up how I’ve never been there or never eaten there or didn’t even know it was there. Then a day or two after our date I’ll bring up the place I commented on and invite her to come with me to that place. I’d say a 9/10 success rate. I only do this method if I want a second date. If the first dates going like trash I’ll never comment on a location.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 04:35 AM
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I deal with this all the time from girls who are 2-3 years younger than me. And usually ignore them or A&A. “Yeah I remember when we disconcerted rocks” or some stupid shit like that. I don’t think much into it.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 04:28 AM
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I hard nexted a plate in February. She hit me up early June asking why I disappeared and why I don’t reply to her messages on Snapchat anymore when she’s knows I’m on Snapchat from seeing my story. I told her “I found someone who will suck my dick”. Keep in mind that was early June. She got mad and wrote a long text about it and I never replied. She hit me up last week saying “I’ll suck your dick now” and that’s all her message said. I left her on read and continue to get the daily snapchats fro…
/r/askTRP22/07/19 03:20 AM
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Thanks man I appreciate it.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 12:52 AM
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Hard next forever? It’s been a cycle of me ghosting for three to four weeks and her texting me asking how I’m doing. Then week 4-5 she will call and be normal. The shitty part of it hits every 2-3 months.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 12:48 AM
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I’m also six months sober. Curious what you do in the evenings? I’ve been reading some RP books and playing guitar but damn I keep getting that itch to drink. I find myself up late because I still struggle going to sleep sober. I feel like that voids still there and I’m trying to fill it by cleaning or doing productive stuff but it doesn’t make me feel any differently about alcohol. My brains really fucking with me lately. What’s your advice here if you don’t mind sharing? PM me if you would rat…
/r/askTRP16/07/19 10:24 PM
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If you don’t like the swayed results in the comments then look at who’s an EC and who isn’t. Check their post and comment history before you go valuing or devaluing their advice. Lots of good comments already said what you need to hear. Pay attention to who’s commenting. They know more than you or I do about TRP (odds are).
/r/askTRP16/07/19 10:14 PM
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According to my doc you can get chlamydia from oral. Receiving or giving. He said the risk is moderate if the other person has it. Moral of the story, I learned not to eat pussy or let them blow me on night 1. Unsure on other STD/STI’s.
/r/askTRP16/07/19 06:14 PM
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It can’t hurt. There’s still some good info in there.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 03:53 AM
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