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ADVICEYes_Slay_Queen/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 05:28 PM
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-1

I've only really heard it as a way of falsely justifying immoral behaviour. A good man wouldn't think this.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 03:19 PM
2

There's a certain level of shame I suppose - a lot of that body count was racked up between longer relationships, admittedly chasing validation that would never come. I can't say very much of it was enjoyable. Some of the guys were pretty nasty (bound to be a couple bad apples) and there are some no-go zones that immediately stop sex if I get reminded of some particularly bad experienes. On the other hand, it has allowed me to fully explore what I like and don't like, and gives me a certain leve…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:42 PM
0

He does want to try out new things (e.g. me on top, or him eating me out), but I've always turned them down as I've tried them before with previous partners and they weren't as pleasurable as missionary or doggy so I just can't get into them. He doesn't seem to mind as he doesn't want me to do something I don't want to do.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:38 PM
3

Oh god, I'm hoping he's not too resentful from this all, he doesn't seem that way but I'm starting to understand why some men might be
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:36 PM
-2

People become resentful when they feel they are involuntarily having their freedom and independence taken away and sometimes will act out, like cheating, to feel in control of themselves again. Shit, this is lowkey making me pretty stressed now. I don't think he feels resentful about it but this might be a wakeup call if it's actually true that men do this
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:34 PM
-4

I initially did it because up until my current boyfriend it was all unprotected (he was too pure and attractive to accidentally spread something to and it would ruin the relationship). At first the list was just for working out who to contact if I got an infection. I kind of keep it around for sentimental reasons, I'm not sure how to describe it. I'm a bit of a hoarder and that extends to this. My current bf doesn't seem to mind that it exists and I've not brought it up since.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 10:28 PM
-3

For me the topic only got brought up because in a drunken mess I showed him the list of the guys I'd had sex with and added him to the end of it, telling him he'd be my last to round off the list. Not my proudest moment, and I would never recommend anyone do that lmao
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 10:18 PM
3

Good to hear you've changed, and i understand you're paranoid about him cheating then I'll admit I've not been long enough into my "new self" to say I've changed, but I'm hoping that my boyfriend will be my last! 🤞 You're right - I'm a little paranoid about him cheating because (1) he's attractive and (2) I worry he might want to try new people to understand what he likes, much like I did, and (3) I've had a few partners cheat on me in the past, includng the one just before him. I'm hoping it do…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:55 PM
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I did mention it, but maybe not as explicitly as I should: "and I sometimes text him to ask what he's up to or remind him to take photos" It doesn't seem to be affecting him at the moment, for what it's worth. But yeah, I'm planning to ask for photos and who he's with a lot less as I realise that it come sacross as really controlling (plus it means there's less to talk about when he gets back home because I've already had a running text conversation with him while he's there).
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:31 PM
5

I told him the number I had PiV sex with (31). I'll admit it wasn't a sober decision - I was a bit drunk and showed him the list on my phone of the 31 names (very embarassing but he glossed over it) while adding him to the end. I've given oral sex to 10 other people. That was part of my past and I don't intend to repeat it (especially as it was predominantly unprotected and with random people). I would not recommend anyone do this! This is more just to say that having a "bad past" does not prohi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:20 PM
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I'm younger than you (21F) and I have the very definitition of a "bad past" ("body count" of 42, a few abortions, a lot of casual sex and ONS). I mentioned to my boyfriend on the first date to get it out the way in case he had any issues with it, and he looked past it. It matters differently to different people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:56 PM
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how about behaving like the kind of woman he deserves? For some reason this line really hit home with me. I'm trying to improve myself, I really am. I'm not sure how easy it'll be for me to work through it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:44 PM
0

Never. Maybe the closest instance was when I was 19 - I was in a relationship with a guy who was cheating on me, and I had basically checked out of the relationship. I did kiss another guy at a house party (when very drunk), but I regretted it afterwards and we didn't take anything further. I don't know whether this counts as cheating as there was a tacit mutual understanding that the relationship was already over and it was only a brief kiss when very drunk.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:28 PM
1

There aren't any red flags, I'll admit it's more of a case of me being out of his league (for now) but him not realising it, and I feel like until I'm in his league eventually someone might tempt him away. I worry that there'll be some point where he'll realise he can do better and will leave, before I've had a chance to improve myself. If he asked to track you for your safety, and you found out he was doing it to make sure you weren't cheating, how would you feel? I think I'd be understanding. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:25 PM
-9

What if he's okay with it and can monitor me at any time he chooses as well?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:17 PM
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It's mainly a matter of bad timing. My bf came into a life just after I broke up with my cheating ex, so I hadn't had enough time to recover fully and improve myself. If I didn't snag him then I wouldn't have been able to and I'd have missed out on a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I know I have those issues and I'm trying to work through them. Once I've worked through them the relationship will be fine, there's just an interim period where I'm stabilising things.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:15 PM
-5

Do you think if you would get accidently pregnant that he would stay with you? because if he doesn't then, I'll think you're prepared. He's very adamant on not having children until (1) we're both financially stable and (2) when I'm not obese and not smoking. He knows I've had a couple of abortions in the past so trusts that I'll get one if I accidentally get pregnant before we're ready. We're only 4 months into the relationship and I don't want to spook him by asking him if he's ready for marri…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:10 PM
-4

I feel like if I tell him "I mainly wanted the app so I could make sure you wouldn't cheat", it'll damage the trust more than if I just ease off on the "messaging him every time he changes location", which I admit is a bit much. If I gently ease off it wouldn't cause as many problems - right now I don't imagine it'll have done anything negative. He knows I've been cheated on and I was open with him about that at the start of the relationship when I was discussing it. I guess I don't want to make…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:07 PM
-4

Do you plan for the rest of your life to monitor your partners whereabouts? This is not sustainable. I think I'm only insecure because of bad luck. I recently ended a relationship after the guy cheated on me, and I would have had more time to heal and improve myself (right now I'm obese, smoke, and am in a lot of cc debt, but these are problems I could fix with enough time). Unfortunately this guy came into my life and it's the kind of opportunity you can't pass up. Even if I remove the rose-tin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:57 PM
-5

Tell him your stance when it comes to cheating and be transparent so he knows your boundaries and that it’s unacceptable to you. He already knows that we're exclusive so we can't cheat on each other.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:51 PM
-22

I'd agree if I dropped an AirTag in his bag and didn't tell him. I don't know if it's the same here - he agreed to it and if he's uncomfortable with it I'm more than happy to delete the app if he asks. I do get that maybe it's a little much that I'm texting him for photos and who he's with nearly every time he changes location, but I plan to cut back on that a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:41 PM
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This mentality is definitely a serious problem, and even if he agreed to this now, I wouldn’t be surprised if you guys have major issues with trust and codependency down the line. This is just an early symptom - it’s pretty important to work on fixing this. I think I will only need this for a little bit of time while the relationship settles and I improve myself. I think once I lose 60-70 lbs, quit smoking, and get out of debt I'll be fine (plus we'll have become closer over that time). I don't …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:39 PM
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But.. When we first started dating we BOTH shared our locations with one another to build trust. And we were open about it when we confronted one another if something seemed weird. If it matters, because the app tracks my location, he can look at it if he so chooses, so if he wants to know where I am he'll know. And tell him the other girls in his friend group freak you out sometimes. Just be soft and vulnerable with him. It's not the women in his friendship group, it's more random women he migh…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 07:31 PM
-35

I genuinely don't think I'll find someone like him again, I don't want to end things to heal. I would have maybe taken more time to heal but he came into my life and I know if I didn't snag him early someone else would. I don't think it'll cause any long-term issues as long as I uninstall the app if he asks (at least, I hope - I can't imagine anything major coming out of it).
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 06:16 PM
-28

If he didn't object to it is that fine though? I wouldn't force it on him and if he decided it was too clingy I'd uninstall it if he asked. If it weren't something he opted into I'd get it would 100% be creepy. I reckon that if he did ask me to uninstall the app, as long as I did it with little resistance, the consequences would be negligible. It'd just be a "hey, I don't think we need this any more", and I'd just uninstall.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 05:56 PM
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unattractive guys (who most men on here would think of as average) are single but to them they’re ugly. I honestly don't think it's true that unattractive men can't get with attractive women. It happens more frequently than you think. One of my male friends (bless him) simply isn't very good looking. I imagine most people on this sub wouldn't rate him that highly. Maybe a 3/10 on a good day. Despite this, he has confidence and charisma to him that wins people over. Interestingly it's also this f…
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