Yes_cummander Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Approaching an f as a mf couple	Fundamentals	Yes_cummander	/r/seduction	22/05/25 03:38 PM

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4	Weird eye contact pattern I’ve noticed while walking around Attractive women (and older women) are more socially confident. Attractive women have more social skills, are more used to flirting and they love attention. They don't mind showing that they're into someone and it's less of a risk for them. Less attractive women can be more guarded in showing their attraction. Sometimes women see me and immediately have a certain look. Like shock. Or they walk past smiling with a little eye contact. Attractive and older women are more socially confident!	/r/seduction	02/06/26 08:21 AM
1	I make out with my crushes friend in front of her and I basically fucked up Just make her laugh. Then seduce her	/r/seduction	26/05/26 06:45 AM
1	Men really need to focus on their appearance more if they want a chance Guys are 6's and can't bang 4's because they have no game. You're main solution seems to be become a 7. My main solution is get better game so you can bang at least a 5.5! If you can't bang someone of your own level of attraction what result do you think getting more attractive is going to have for you!? If you can't bang someone of your own level of attraction clearly your problem is not looks it's that you lack game!	/r/seduction	11/05/26 12:35 PM
2	Men really need to focus on their appearance more if they want a chance Yeah so your post puts emphasis on the most talked about thing today which is looks. Wile that is not what almost everyone today lacks which is game and being more social. This generation is having sex less than the previous, so why is that? Because the previous looked better? No, we had more sex because we were more social! That's whats lacking.	/r/seduction	11/05/26 12:20 PM
2	Men really need to focus on their appearance more if they want a chance Ehmmm todays: 'Blackpill/looksmaxxing/teenagers hitting themselves in the face with a hammer/ social interaction avoidance/social anxiety/ online dating only' climate ofcourse!	/r/seduction	11/05/26 12:08 PM
0	Men really need to focus on their appearance more if they want a chance Carry on then. But is this really the message to send in todays climate!?	/r/seduction	11/05/26 11:42 AM
2	Men really need to focus on their appearance more if they want a chance You can be very handsome with zero confidence, no game and have no dates, I would say that is all too common. But to have average looks with great confidence together with great game and have no dates is completely unheard of!! You're saying this because you' re Gen-z and you do online dating only. Maybe tried two cold approaches and you got shut down and then installed an app and got a date with a 4 and now you're lookmaxxing to get 6's. You've never been or seen an average looking guy getting …	/r/seduction	11/05/26 11:38 AM
2	How to pull same night lays You need to be slick AF and let her come up with the idea 'all on her own'. Then flip it around and you be the one with the objections that she needs to overcome. She needs to want to sleep with you more than you want to sleep with her. She needs to win. You need to be a prize without telling her you are. She need to come up with that conclusion on her own. You just need to help her get there. Could be your value at the venue: you know people and they respect you. All the girl like you and want …	/r/seduction	07/04/26 10:24 AM
1	How Do You Know If “I Have a Boyfriend” Means She’s Not Interested or Just Testing You? There might be some cases where you've opened the convo with strong indicators that you're interested romantically, and she tells you she has a boyfriend just to be sure, and that makes her feel a little comfort and safety or control. Later when she sees more of your personality she might change her mind and judge you not from a place of fear but realize that you actually have an attractive personality. Mostly, it just means i have a boyfriend or not interested.	/r/seduction	24/02/26 07:42 AM
2	How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women? You can be handsome, rich and behave like a little bitch.	/r/seduction	01/02/26 08:25 PM
9	How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women? Athletes, business owners, nepo babies. Good looking guys with money. Great social media prescence or hanging out in the right places and circles. Friends of friends. In the vip. Hotels. Hollywood. Aspen. South of France. Money & status + slight above average game + above average looks. That is just not a long list of men. Make it tall and the list is even smaller. If we're talking actually good looking guys and it's nowhere near the amount of 10/10 girls. Because being 10/10 as a man is not eno…	/r/seduction	31/01/26 07:42 PM
5	Making out on a date Multiple things are going on within the girl that make follow up harder. Women experience emotions differen't then men. The moment passes and later they don't feel the way they felt in that moment when they were making out with you. You can try and make them feel like they felt through text or video or social media. A reminder that spikes their emotions and bring them back to that moment they where with you. But it works better before getting a date and not after the heavy make out sessions. Ano…	/r/seduction	20/01/26 08:31 AM
2	What are some movies and TV shows that have smooth flirting, banter, and conversation scenes? Scripted: Californication, james bond scenes. Unscripted: Keys to the VIP	/r/seduction	30/06/25 08:15 PM
1	How are most of you ok with the Abysmal success rates of cold approach? We accept reality, and work with it rather than against it!	/r/seduction	26/06/25 05:36 PM
5	how do i get over fumbling 10s Our brain tricks us into thinking this is some special event that not going to happen again. But that's not true! This is just the first few times of an experience that will become just normal and expected a year from now!	/r/seduction	25/06/25 05:07 PM
89	how do i get over fumbling 10s Stop having looks as the number 1 value indicator on your list of thing to judge women by. Be very aware of your own behaviour when putting women on a pedestal. Make a short list. If you're about to do something that might be too much, check your list. Stop being surprised about attracting 10's! YOU'RE ATTRACTING TEN'S MY DUDE! Rejoice!	/r/seduction	25/06/25 04:44 PM
7	How to win against physically attractive guys Confidence is the main one, next is more socially dominant, lead every conversation, sexualize convo's without being try hard or desperate, be easy going, if you're being turned down or she shows another guy attention give zero fucks and move on to the next with the same energy as before.	/r/seduction	06/06/25 04:42 PM
2	Approaching an f as a mf couple Please, explain more	/r/seduction	23/05/25 03:04 AM
2	Why am I able to flirt effortlessly while being drunk but not when sober? In Zen the idea is to shut off the logical thinking mind and just do shit. It's differen't but similar to being a dude and talking to girls. It's like you have to learn not to be logical and just talk to them. You will make mistakes when doing that at first, but eventually you will stop caring about it and get amazing results.	/r/seduction	26/03/25 04:29 PM
7	Why am I able to flirt effortlessly while being drunk but not when sober? In Zen there is a story of a master who while teaching his students came into a room with a leaking roof. He sent out his two students; "Quick, bring something for the leak!" One student came back with a pot. The other came back with a sieve. The master then scolded the monk who brought the pot, and he praised the one who brought the sieve. In our logical minds we think the objective is to solve the problem logically. But flirting with girls is not a logical undertaking. Yeah you will do the equ…	/r/seduction	25/03/25 11:47 AM
2	How to approach the desire for a threesome without pressuring my girlfriend? Look at all these blue pilled boys in the comment section. Just stfu. Why would mff open the relationship up to mmf!? Have you no power in the realtionship at all!? Perfect set up: You need to find a girl who's a friend she likes, who has seduced girls before, she needs to be down with the plan. Less perfect: Get her to take small steps towards a larger goal. might take years. Open her mind up, Stripclub, dance, flirt with girls, kiss. Accept that chances are slim and it might not work	/r/seduction	23/03/25 10:38 AM
1	What percentage of guys have actually picked up a girl in a bar at night and close the deal at the same night? Only chalk competes with me	/r/seduction	21/02/25 07:24 PM
11	What percentage of guys have actually picked up a girl in a bar at night and close the deal at the same night? Create value at the bar. Talk to everyone, have girls see you have fun with other girls, and that girls like you. I found that the more I initiate making out in a bar etc. The more the girl has to pull away and that leads her to be cautious and go home alone. The more I kissed but pulled back myself, the more she has to convince me to want her. At the same time she need to be attracted and needs you to put sex and in her mind. And you need to demonstrate your boldness by doing something fun or s…	/r/seduction	21/02/25 07:47 AM
1	Girl is neutral towards me– How do I make her want me/escalate with her without trying too hard? Show your value without being try hard. Make her think she's noticing it herself. Make her remember why she was into you before. Then be confident, alpha, polerizing, push, pull, tease, give attention, take it away, make it fun to chase you. Put sex in her mind and connect it to yourself. Give her something to look forward to. Something to want. Make it be a good deal for her to get with you instead of the other way around.	/r/seduction	06/02/25 11:20 PM
2	Realisation that girls actually want me to approach them most of the time. Get out of your head, and just do the damn thing!	/r/seduction	31/01/25 07:48 AM
13	Lots of IOIs but no actual interest Connect emotionally, evoke emotions, demonstrate value, create a good frame, create an anticipation or longing for further communication / date in the future. Be fun. Make laugh. Attract, seduce, push, pull, tease, joke, go just over the edge and pull back.	/r/seduction	21/01/25 10:31 AM
1	Is there any proof that vibe is more important than what you say? Openers might be less important if they're good enough to start a convo. But saying some dumb shit will definitely turn women the f off! Missing your shot for sex or great things because you said the wrong thing will definitely happen. If you have all the body language and all of that going for you, and you then have something good to say, and set up a good frame, then your actually good with women.	/r/seduction	12/01/25 11:05 PM
26	Have you ever seduced a coworker? Those damn Christmas party's always get me!	/r/seduction	06/01/25 06:13 PM
3	How do you escalate during a quick coffee date? Sit close, show her something on your phone, look in her eyes, flip her hair behind her ear and comment her earring, grab her hand and compare her hand to yours. Make a joke and tease and wile laughing throw your arm arround her, or poke her side when she jokes about you.	/r/seduction	30/12/24 11:45 AM
1	Girl calls me bro after the night we had sex Could I kindly invite you to elaborate as to why?	/r/seduction	19/12/24 01:17 PM
1	Girl calls me bro after the night we had sex Explain the downvotes?	/r/seduction	19/12/24 11:40 AM
2	Besides "clubs" or "bars" where are the most appropriate places to approach women? How would one go about it? Dancing classes or wokrshops like bachata, salsa etc.	/r/seduction	19/12/24 11:37 AM
-5	Girl calls me bro after the night we had sex It's definitely some sort of shit test, as it's always the same kind of girls who say shit like that. You shouldn't accept that frame! And make her respect you more, by telling her not to in a non butthurt way but very clear way. Just tell her not to, and at the same time call her your little sister, or tell her a story about how you told your friend about a convo you and her had and refer to her as something belittling or a frame you know she won't like. Maybe she will get the message.	/r/seduction	19/12/24 09:38 AM
2	Can't approach girls without booze Just look at it like gaining XP. Over time you will build a strong character. Each approach will eventually add up to something. It's not about what happens now. Be outcome independent	/r/seduction	17/12/24 08:53 AM
1	Can't approach girls without booze From a guy who after decades still struggles with alcohol as a crutch! Get shit under control and start approaching in the day time quick! Why would you spend a decade dealing with this shit, if you can get uncomfortable for 1 month and deal with 90% of those awkward feelings!?	/r/seduction	16/12/24 01:18 PM
3	Indications of Interest (IOI's) Generally I would see it this way for a beginner: No IOI: Approach anyway and face Approach anxiety. IOI: Avoid Approach anxiety and make excuses not to approach. As a beginner: Just shut up and do it!	/r/seduction	12/12/24 06:24 AM
1	I fucked one up pretty badly. Age shit test? "Well thats actually great, my experience can make up for your lack of experience.." If she accepts the frame, put her in the little sister / not cool enough frame, but you will give her a chance. If she says she's got experience, ask her about it, and let her qualify herself to you. Then escalate.	/r/seduction	25/11/24 01:20 PM
8	[VIDEO] Dating Over 30: How To Use Age To Your Advantage I'm 38, why would want to date women in their 30's and 40's!!?	/r/seduction	16/09/24 09:36 PM
1	What are the best conversation topics for attracting women after a hot pilates or Yoga workout Maybe read or take classes in tantric yoga, isolate by asking to go for a healthy drink or medicinal thea closeby, then work your way from tantric yoga to tantra and then switch settings again and maybe brush the topic of tantric sex from there. See how they respond at each step. If it doesn't land well drop everything and just let the convos flow to flirting	/r/seduction	16/09/24 08:33 AM
1	Facetiming and voice messages are VERY effective Even small videos or social media videos can be the difference between a date or a flake	/r/seduction	27/08/24 07:25 PM
-3	"You are only one approach away from getting laid" is mostly wrong My guy, you know how many one night stands I've had!? How many would I have had if I didn't approach those girls? Zero. Just stfu and gtfo!	/r/seduction	24/08/24 12:26 PM
2	What is it about good fashion that makes you more attractive? Sign of social status	/r/seduction	18/08/24 08:34 AM
7	I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressed He's trolling	/r/seduction	07/08/24 05:55 AM
-3	She had sex with me in the first date and now regrets it. Great now let her regret it again. With next guy again And again These women..	/r/seduction	01/04/24 11:16 PM
11	How to have masculine “energy” in a charismatic way? Lead, be the first to ask the question, Direct the convo, lower tone of voice, see the humor in a situation than just share your perspective with no apologies or fucks given, stoic, what would James Bond do, challenge others and when challenged yourself challenge back, stand your ground, handle people, handle shit, don't let staff at the bar seat you at a crappy table but always aks for that better one over there, it's a Victory even if you don't get it.	/r/seduction	26/01/24 10:29 AM
2	Seduction and tricks don't work on women who aren't interested. Women who are interested don't need Seduction. Your turning it upside down! Women aren't attracted and interested in you because you have no game! If you can only get women who find you attractive at first glance you don't really have much game at all. Online dating is fucking us up! Most of the time women don't get attracted/interested/turned on in a split second. That does happen ofcourse. But your behavior superseeds your looks in female attraction. In male attraction maybe even. Was your hottest lay the most pretty girl? Surely it was no…	/r/seduction	02/08/23 05:00 PM
0	The Tesla Method: How To Make Dating Easy He did do that tho. He did the approaches. He just couldn't display enough value for women to be interested. If he started out with value, but never did approaches, guess what he needs to start doing..	/r/seduction	09/06/23 08:41 AM
1	I’ve (27M) got 5 dates booked this week, but I suck balls at escalation. Any tips or advice? It's better to escalate too much than too little in the beginning. So you're gonna miss your mark a couple time. She might not like it. That's okay! You will learn to calibrate later. If that doesn't work, you just flat out say some perverted sexual shit a couple times just for practise.	/r/seduction	27/09/22 09:36 PM
1	How do you initiate touching on a date? Get close when showing something on your phone	/r/seduction	17/05/22 09:44 AM
3	So a girl at my local Wendy’s played me when I asked for her number. Then after not paying her no mind for a few weeks, she give me her number in a receipt. WHAT?!? Asked a girls number once, she said no, I have a BF.. Two weeks later I saw her again, she came up to me and we exchanged numbers, two days later we met up and fucked. Later she told me that after I first asked her number she couldn't stop thinking about me and wished she'd ran into me again, and if she did she decided she would fuck me at the first available oppertunity. Girls man...	/r/seduction	16/02/22 12:59 PM
1	Will this opener work ? If you're gonna use a line, make sure in her mind she can never think to herself; "I already know that" So be original. Evoke emotion. If your canned line doesn't do that or advance the convo in any way, than don't use one and just make convo depending on how you feel or what caught your eye in the moment.	/r/seduction	02/02/22 11:38 PM
1	What are predictors/ indicators that a women has a high body count? Fuck we need a proper list! Knows a lot of chad looking guys associated with a social place, And they don't treat her with a lot of respect. She doesn't need to know a lot about you to leave with you. !She leaves with a group of guys she just met! She's by herself drinking or smoking weed! Weirdly confident sexual flirting from the girl. Although these types will usually own up to being a slut and be oddly proud of it, which I kinda respect tbh. Spelling out everything they're not gonna be doing…	/r/seduction	02/02/22 10:29 PM
3	Today I made conversation with a random stunning girl I approached on the street You just need more experience, so you should absolutely keep doing this! Advice from the guys here comes in two categories: Any man can get any girl if he has enough game. She likes you or she doesn't becuase of...'reasons'. nothing you can do about it. Personally I think both are sort of true. The less experience you have the more 2. Is true. The more experience with women and dating and the more theoretical understanding you get, the more 1. Becomes true. You will be able to put your finger on…	/r/seduction	26/01/22 10:24 AM
3	How do you guys act around your friends GF? It's not what guys normally do around their friends gf. But are you normal? You seem to stand out. One of the signs of a superior man is to allow unto another the victory, wile taking on to oneself the defeat. Now ofcourse that is a rather extreme position to take, and I'm not sure what is wise here. I guess it also depends on your friend and his abillity to reflect. If I was him I would be bummed, but I would realize what she is.. Untrustworthy. And not blame my friend for it. I would take it a…	/r/seduction	02/01/22 09:57 AM
8	[deleted by user] Yeah and slide in frame and get your own follower base.	/r/seduction	26/12/21 10:58 AM
1	Guys who have "closed" or taken home women you met that very day and night, how did you do it? I suddenly started doing real good with one night stands in bars once I started doing the following things: You have to find the right girl. Get a number and make another approach if you have to. You had a few L's go to another bar. Keep it moving, keep having fun, talk to guys, talk to a lot of girls. Untill you find the right one under the right circumstances. Going out alone can help to meet more people, as it forces you to have social interactions and be more fluid. You absolutely need to be…	/r/seduction	15/12/21 10:24 AM
33	Going out as friends, should I? Go out with her and hit on other girls wile your with her. Because why not	/r/seduction	11/12/21 07:51 PM
5	Has anyone else lost girls because you didn’t chase her enough? Don't confuse high quality women with low quality women. Establish yourself as having enough value for her to chase you. She needs to really want to hear from you, and expect to. You can't assume she will do this before it is normal to interact with you on say a daily basis. The margin of difference between having her chase you more or you chase her more can be very small between the two of you. Some girls like to be flat out denied hardcore and then will chase you and give you only green lights…	/r/seduction	16/11/21 02:45 PM
1	Resources for inner game? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Schema therapy.	/r/seduction	11/11/21 10:05 AM
4	Resources for inner game? THERAPY! Had exactly the same thing. Underlyieng issues can't be solved through exposure the same way a phobia or something can. You need mental healthcare professionals. Which is fine.. And can really help! Slept with a whole bunch of girls since then and have an amazing gf!	/r/seduction	11/11/21 12:37 AM
6	How effective is “have I seen you before?” Than why not just open with that in the first place? You look more confident, than having to make an "excuse to talk to you"	/r/seduction	08/11/21 10:19 PM
1	Why is being social media inactive a huge turn on for women Its not really a turn on: It's the eternal dilemma: "What do I truelly desire vs What is good for me emotionally". On the one end they use it for validation and insecurity themselves, so they don't want to feel that insecurity in their man. They don't want the competition from other women, and they know how low effort it is to flirt with someone on there. Girls hate fuckboys, but many sleep with them. They want the impossible: Great looking popular guy who's doesn't get a lot attention from othe…	/r/seduction	19/10/21 12:12 PM
-1	Is It Normal For Some Women To Be Mean When You Approach? SHIT TEST	/r/seduction	17/06/21 09:03 PM