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Question For MenYouAskedIt/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:30 PM
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How so? Earlier you were arguing that women wouldn't want the guy that won the lottery and did nothing. They would rather be someone with passion and drive. Now you're saying money in itself is power and you don't need to work to impress anyone. That's very inconsistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:15 PM
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You don't think wealthy men care if their partner wants to fuck them? They care too. If you want women then they need to be attracted to you, not what you offer. You're describing a betabux. There's no power in fake attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:52 PM
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You'll attract gold diggers and that's about it. Women get with average men and even poor men, but they were attracted to those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:48 PM
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How long have you been together?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:24 PM
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Bruh, he's been locked up for like 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:20 AM
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His face is not natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:14 PM
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Not remotely attractive to me. He looks like someone tried to make a real life Ken doll.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:04 PM
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I said struggling men aren't not getting laid because of too many other men are available to women. They aren't not getting laid because women are all out here sharing a man. Most men are getting laid and getting relationships. It's only a very small minority that can't manage to figure it out and a high portion of these men also have no friends. Why do so many of them not have friends? Do they have no friends because men are hypergamous bitches? Many are lacking social skills and awkward from n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:41 AM
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East Asia is an entirely different issue as well. Only half of married people are having sex. Sex is for procreation and stops after your kids are conceived.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:49 AM
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I make over 6 figures and I have no debt. I like to go on vacation for 2 months of the year. I love my car. I love my house. My daughter goes to private school and is involved in multiple hobbies. I like to travel and take weekend trips. I buy what I want, when I want it, because I earned it. That's what I mean by lifestyle. If I am going on vacation and you earn much less I now have to pay for you too. You're not paying your half of the bills around the house. That's less money in my pocket for…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:19 PM
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I would be single before dating a man that makes significantly less money. I am not lowering my quality of life to support you after investing years of time into schooling and working my butt off to achieve the lifestyle that I want. Now if something happens after that commitment then it's fine, because I am committed to my family and staying together through the good and the bad. I could support my partner and child alone. He could support us both alone, but we work together to maintain the lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:46 PM
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Women are very aware of being a booty call and even seek them out. Not everyone is looking for a relationship at all times. People end up with those similar to themselves in looks and socioeconomic class.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:56 PM
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The same study showed that those same women still messaged men along a bell curve while men, who rated the women evenly, sent 2/3s of their messages to the top 1/3 of women. The actions shown in that study completely dispute what you have written. Apparently men don't care about what's average and disregard their own level of attractiveness when contacting women while women did the opposite in contacting men. Strange who that worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:13 PM
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Yes, ban all premarital sex and then everyone can be equally as sexless and you can stop blaming women. These same men still won't get partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:40 PM
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Those 10+ women wanted to have sex with that particular man regardless of his mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:23 PM
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No, you're not guaranteed anything. All of the improvement in the world may not get you a partner that you want. Can I find someone to use you? Can I find someone to abuse you? Can I find someone to fuck you that you find hideous? Can I find you someone that you would never want to date? I can find those people. Do you need to accept them? No, that's fair. Most of these arguments come down to sure I could date a single mom or get fucked by random men, but I can't get a partner that I would want.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:10 PM
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Not getting what you want doesn't make the world unfair. It being unfair would mean that these men are prevented from pursuing women, but they're not. It's not unfair to anyone that no one is forced to be with a partner that they don't want. That is the definition of fair when both sides have equal access to pursue and to reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:48 PM
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Even if you stopped all premarital sex it still wouldn’t get these men laid or get them partners. They aren't not getting laid because too many men are available. They're not getting laid because no one wants them, period. Look at east asia and see the virgin population. The isolation comes from a lack of friends too, not just romantic relationships. Not being a likable person isn't going to be changed by a lack of premarital sex for others and for comments others to stop. I don't know why that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:28 PM
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Idk, rainbow pee sounds like a weird surprise in the morning. What color are you today?? But seriously, any of those are actually possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:22 PM
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Why are you assuming it's yellow?? It could be red, blue, green, orange, or brown.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:20 PM
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A low one, hence why she's not having sex before you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:46 PM
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I seem to only have a sexual attraction to Asian men, but I haven't seen any white men in general to really catch my eye to think wow, that person looks really nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:31 PM
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My partner is great. All of the men that I keep in my life are great too, but there are a lot of men that suck. The same goes for women. Some people are assholes and it's not gender exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:36 PM
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Is he willing to get professional help? Because that would be a requirement. If he was seeking help then it would be indefinitely that I would be willing to support him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:28 PM
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Whenever needed, because loss is hard. My partner lost his first wife to cancer. It's always going to be there for him and I will always support him expressing his emotions about it. It will be the same for his parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:08 PM
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Usually a lack of estrogen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 02:09 PM
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I disagree with her. Being healthy and active is more attractive than hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:35 PM
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That guy needs to be locked away for life with no chance of parole.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:03 PM
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Already in one, but I was the same before getting into one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:23 PM
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Bruh, that would make me a lesbian to give a shit if women find me attractive. I am straight, but thanks?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:03 PM
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Did you mean to say unattractive? No, I am not unattractive. I am not single either. What I am is a health care provider, parent, and partner that has a lot more shit on my mind than to wonder what Becky thinks of my outfit. Sorry, but I am too secure for that shit. There is no competition. If a man wants me then he wants me for everything that I am. Becky can do whatever and look however. It's not hurting my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:12 PM
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Comfort. I wear scrubs at work, scrubs at home, scrubs and a hoodie, and if it's hot l wear a t-shirt and shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:23 PM
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What do you consider about yourself to be above average compared to other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:47 PM
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It's definitely not true for me. I couldn't care less what other women think of my clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:43 PM
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I don't take issue with either choice, but I value sex as something special in a committed relationship. The only issue I have is when people lie about their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:39 PM
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I am not trading in my values. If he has a high number doesn't do casual sex then he is doing something really fucked up to end up single repeatedly or he doesn't value commitment. Either way he's not the guy for me. You're free to want what you want too. There's no need to judge anyone for living differently than your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:30 PM
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A lot of men want someone with similar values and histories to their own. You don't need to have sex with more than one person to know if something feels good or doesn't either. You can explore with 1 or a few partners and not have a high count. Hypocrites have an issue with wanting low n count women for the reason that you listed. I don't think most men in the real world sincerely give a damn about someone's past unless it's a crazy amount of partners or they have different values on sex than t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:25 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:17 PM
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It's different for sure, but the concept is the same. You can't worry about how others view you when they're not in your life. You need to worry about how you see you and feel about yourself. Most guys look down on me. Let's be honest. I am not tiny. I don't make men feel masculine standing next to me. I am "breeding material" for tall genes that guys want for their kids, but not in a partner. I look 100% Korean, meaning I am seen as supposed to act submissive and chasing white dick for some ima…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:38 PM
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It's bad to see a natural part of yourself as something that needs to be fixed. That's completely separate than acknowledging that others don't see it as attractive. My dad forced me to own to my body, literally forced it on me by buying me heels too. Have you ever seen a 6'2 Asian woman? No, and they all stared uncomfortably. "You're wearing these when we go out. Put your shoulders back, eye contact, and smile. When you walk into that room walk in like you own the entire fucking building. Good,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:07 PM
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No, insecure means nothing more than some feeling negatively about that specific trait. The results of that insecurity are something completely separate. How you deal with those feelings is on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:57 PM
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Of course it's natural to feel insecure over things that you see as a flaw in yourself. Edit: I was for a very short time insecure about my height after being bullied relentlessly at 14 for being almost 5'10. I was taller than all of the boys and the girls. It's a natural feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:49 PM
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Yes, I am. Most are wearing it for themselves, to feel more pretty, to cover imperfections that make them insecure, to look more youthful, to look less "tired", and to look more feminine. All of those things are insecurities at a basic level. They fear not being pretty enough compared to others or not liking their own fresh faces. I know some wear it to highlight specific features that they love, but wearing it to change your appearance is an insecurity. Do you have any idea how much make up cos…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:36 PM
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Yeah and you can include shapewear, padded bras, and toupees in there as well. Anything that you're doing to cover up or alter your appearance to feel better about yourself is most likely rooted in insecurity. Some times I wear tinted lip gloss or eyeliner to highlight the shape of my eyes, but that's it. I don't think it's the same for make up artists that enjoy super dramatic looks, but those people are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:28 PM
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I think it's weird and a major sign of insecurity, but don't really care if someone does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:23 PM
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I understand that you have strong feelings, so it's fine. You're not resorting to personal attacks or being hateful. You're free to express those feelings and I am free to disagree with them. There are no hurt feelings. The idea of educating a culture is an interesting one, but it all still comes back to one opinion that the majority has to assume is correct. That's what happened in Nazi Germany too, but it was clearly wrong. Who is to really say how others should live? As you said we inherently…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 11:58 AM
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How would you see that happening? The only way it's possible is to remove rights. People are going to completely opt out of marriage if they can't choose who the with or have the freedom to leave a bad partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:54 AM
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Why are you using online apps when you have options showing interest irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:35 AM
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You're complaining that they don't find you attractive while you admitted to doing the same thing. Why do you expect them to be different? Maybe they thought that you might have a good personality as well and then felt no connection through conversation. If it's fine for you then it's fine for them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:24 AM
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Even ugly people are allowed to say no if they don't find you attractive or for any reason at all,, no matter how small or seemingly petty. That shouldn't be a hard concept to understand. Everyone is entitled to their standards. It's the only thing you're entitled to when it comes to dating, because you're the one that suffer the consequences of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:42 PM
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We no longer live in an age were relationships are required for personal survival. They're not guaranteed to happen anymore and you have to be desired by a partner rather than needed. People aren't going to waste their time on those that don't interest them or those they see as not adding value to their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:26 PM
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A properly emotionally regulated mentally fit adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:21 PM
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I think a lot of it is very toxic. There are good points that are common sense, like vetting people, but to me a lot of them seem like they're chasing people far out of their league and then complaining all men suck. It's very similar to the redpill guys screaming all women suck and don't appreciate "good men". Like bruh, you have a terrible attitude, no social skills, are looking way out of your league, and think you deserve it because you have the basic adult skill of holding a job. There's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:31 PM
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No one needs partner, career focused or not. You should only have a partner that you desire to share your experiences and feelings with and for no other reason. That's what that phrase means.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:07 PM
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What I don’t think is that those nurses were told when they were children that they have to find a job with the values of being a nurse so they can help people and be able to financially support their loved one. I was told exactly that. Your career should mean something and I came from a military home with 2 physicians for parents. If you decide to have a family you may be responsible for solely supporting them as life happens. There are no male and female roles when bills need paid. I believe t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 12:41 PM
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Even in the short time my last post was up, there were a fair amount of women who mentioned some sort of trauma in their pasts being a part of their motivation. No they didn't. Anyone can go read your post. Literally one woman said her parents were controlling and she wants to be able to buy what she wants without question. That does not amount to fair amount of women or her being traumatized.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 11:51 PM
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I love my work. I love knowing that my work has made a difference. We save lives daily and that's an amazing feeling to see them walking out of the hospital weeks later after being flown in for trauma care. It's the best feeling in the world. The hours suck, the stress sucks, the losses suck, but the wins make it worth everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:29 PM
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Not if he's not interested in hook ups. I would agree to that point, but he'd still have a hard time finding a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:36 PM
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Well there's that and I am also sterile. I never wanted kids so I took care of that issue a few years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:35 PM
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I don't think that he would be staying. He's so far over the top other than height that he's going to intimidate women. Most women couldn't keep up with his lifestyle or his education level. They really aren't going to have a lot to offer him that adds to his life and he's looking for a relationship. I think he's looking for a wife type and those women are going to be intimidated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:28 PM
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I would rather spend my life being single and knowing that I will maybe find 3 more people attractive in my lifetime than to be with someone that I don't want. I don't need to have a partner for happiness, but I can't be happy with someone I don't genuinely want. There's no point in that for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:23 PM
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7/10
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:18 PM
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I think he's got a few things going against him. Obviously a lot of people are racist. He's 5'6 and that's going to be a problem for a lot of girls. Let's say that I found him attractive. I still wouldn't swipe on him. He might not intend for it, but he comes across as very serious. Doesn't smoke or drink. Looking for a relationship out of the gate. He's in grad school. This man is looking for a wife with that lifestyle. That's not how I want to date. I wanted to meet someone and whatever happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:15 PM
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None of which happen before implantation, which is not 3 weeks pregnant. Your hormones do not change before implantation. Your body is not magically sensing a fertilized egg and doing extra prep for pregnancy. That shit happens every month and your period comes when you aren't pregnant. You experience nothing before implantation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:21 PM
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I'll dm you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:17 PM
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You felt being pregnant before it was physically possible and no embryo was implanted?? Really? You're special. You don't ovulate until week 2 of "pregnancy" and it takes at least another week for the blastocyte to implant. You're not even physically pregnant yet and you are telling yourself that you felt something from a a fertilized egg free floating in your tube on its way to your uterus. Well done. I practice medicine. Sorry that facts outweigh your feelings. 3 weeks pregnant is before you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:17 PM
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You think you felt being 3 weeks pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:12 PM
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We're broke from the future move, but it won't take long to build our savings back up. Cars and house are all paid for outright and we have no credit card debt. Even with a pay cut I will be making over 110k. That will build up pretty quickly and he's now going to be making 4 times that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:11 PM
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The first few weeks you have no idea that you are even pregnant. You test when you missed your period. That is 6 weeks. Miscarriages from stress are a lot less common than you would think. They're almost non existent, or else you wouldn't be anti abortion laws being an issue as most would miscarry. Yet somehow these kids are still born as well as cases of paternity fraud. Stress isn't the baby killer that you claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:08 PM
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Considering that you won't even miss your period until you're 6 weeks pregnant? Not much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:04 PM
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That's not even true. You can have a blood test done at 8 weeks that tells you the DNA with no risk to the pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:01 PM
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Our mortgage will already be paid for either way. It's just monthly bills like utilities and food which I could cover on my own even with the cut. I don't have an issue still doing 50/50 even with the cut or covering it all if something happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:55 PM
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We're moving to NJ. He's getting an 80k raise and he wants me to go into a less stressful field and work as a pcp in a private practice. That's a significant pay cut from where I am sitting now, like 40k. We had a pretty heated discussion about it and he said wtf is wrong with you. I never expected 50/50 from you, that was you. You did your part Koko. From now on your paycheck is yours and I will handle the house bills. Idk, buy the groceries or something if you feel the need to contribute to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:15 PM
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We are sadly no longer going to be a 50/50 household.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:08 PM
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I don't date escorts. He pays for his own damn time. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 02:45 PM
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At least once a day. It's probably considered higher than usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 02:06 PM
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A partner alone doesn't make you happy. They can add to your happiness. Do you think that an abusive partner or someone using you can make you happy? Partners don't fix mental illness or cure shitty life circumstances either. You're going to be the same person with the same problems you were before beginning that relationship. You can also be lonely while in a relationship if your partner isn't giving you what you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 02:01 PM
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I expect him to pay 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:58 PM
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It doesn't matter why she's no longer interested. She's not and she's obviously going to reject you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 11:16 PM
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There might be a policy against dating active patients due to the amount of sensitive information they can access. I wouldn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:09 PM
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I wouldn't expect him to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 08:11 PM
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I do like the occasional dinner at Cracker Barrel. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:59 PM
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It's about heart disease largely being blamed on those factors and obesity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:23 PM
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The article is about men dying a few years younger from heart disease due to smoking, obesity, poor diet, lack of exercise, and stress. Edit: Should remove their autonomy and ban alcohol, tobacco, and force them to diet and exercise?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:20 PM
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I don't cook a lot of meat, but we do eat a lot a seafood. He usually cooks any other meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:42 PM
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I like cooking, but we split it. I make breakfast the night before and packed lunches too, but it took me maybe 20 mins. He would clean that up and we switch off on dinner. He likes to grill and cooks most of dinner in bice weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:34 PM
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He would be led to the door if he tried that shit. I have no desire to be treated like a child or to have my opinion ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:08 PM
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I am adopting his daughter from his first marriage, because she is now my child. We split everything 50/50. Chores, childcare, cooking, and everything else. No, I don't do most of anything and he would never ask me to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:26 PM
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I do 50/50 and always have been that way. It's been a complete 50/50 from dates, to buying homes, and even paying for his daughter's care because I wanted to adopt her. He has my respect, because I wouldn't be with a man that I couldn't respect. He does not have submission from me. We're a partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:04 PM
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But 2/3 of those messages sent by men went to the top 1/3 of women while women messaged along a bell curve. Men rated women evenly and overwhelmingly messaged the top 1/3. That's the data too. No, Stacy isn't fucking some average or below average guy and it's also exactly what OP is bitching about. He can get girls, but they aren't attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 08:24 AM
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You're not complaining men can't find love or have a chance. You're complaining that the girls are ugly or not what men want and you've done it on multiple threads. No women are going to feel bad that you feel entitled to better women. That's what this is and it's ridiculous. Why would men be entitled to better women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:15 AM
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Your friend can hook up with this girl, but her bf was definitely being chucked and cheated on. He definitely wasn't a hook up too and it ended up turning into more. That definitely didn't happen. They also definitely weren't 2 adults clearly open to casual sex and understood that meant they had slept with other people, because she wouldn't have been pregnant shortly afterwards. None of those things ever happen and she is 100% someone that lied to him and the poor bastard is doomed because of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:07 AM
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Then he has consented to only having casual sex. He shouldn't be out there fucking if he wants more and the same goes for women. Don't have casual sex and then cry you were used for something that you agreed to and sought out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:00 AM
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Over 70% of men are sexually active. Are you actually trying to imply that you know what's more usual in my country than I do? If so: lol Has no bearing on an individual situation between 2 consenting adults where casual sex is clearly not frowned upon, because you have no issue with the hook up. You only take issue with her having a relationship after. Maybe they don't have your hang ups on sexual pasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:58 AM
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There's no relationship so it's casual. Not labeling doesn't suddenly change what it is or expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:57 AM
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They agreed to casual sex, don't blame someone else for not offering you more than they agreed to, that's not how life works. He made his decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:53 AM
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Or they're both grown ass adults that understand they weren't committed to each other and had no right to exclusivity until a conversation was had on it. Most people are having sex, not a small amount of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:50 AM
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Mentally healthy men and women don't have casual sex and then bitch that all they had was casual sex. They don't do things that they don't accept in an attempt to get something completely different from a situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:46 AM
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And you said yourself that you are assuming that they were seeing each other when it happened, but you don't know that for a fact. Plenty of crazy ass people claim to be in love after a few weeks and even do it with people online that they haven't met in person. You don't know anything about their situation. He might have even known about it if they were only talking and have been seeing other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:39 AM
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Plenty of guys do it too. It's redpill ideology to "spin plates" and fuck around while single. You can't be shocked when women do it too. Would you be saying the same thing if your friend went and found a girlfriend? Probably not, at least according to most of the men on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:32 AM
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No, not a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:44 AM
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You are focusing on trashy women by believing that they're going to pursue a guy that's not 100% focused on them. There are too many good guys for women like that to tolerate the bs. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:42 PM
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What you want it to mean to be on dating apps: a man has options. What it actually means: this man has no options and is trying to compete with 6 other men for 1 girl because he has no other choice. It doesn't say what you think it does to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:31 PM
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You want it to be seen as different. She sees it as a guy trying to be a player and not having the options in real life. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 11:29 PM
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I am telling why she will see you being on multiple apps as no different than you seeing it. She is not chasing you or trying to win you over unless you are the best option she has for what she is seeking. It's not worth the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:59 PM
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A man that has options isn't dating through apps. He doesn't need them. That's what most of you guys don't realize. A man that has genuine options already has women in his circle that are pursing him. A man on multiple apps does not. He is instead trying to create many options and projecting the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:55 PM
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Go ask most women. Women don't like double standards. If you're not investing in her then she's not wasting her time on you. Men are too easily replaced to put up with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:51 PM
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But it does work that way if you're looking for a partner that's only invested in you. They expect the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:47 PM
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She was dating and looking for a partner. Why is that weird if she's single? You were also on that other app. Should that have turned off women that were potentially interested in you too?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:45 PM
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Was she still seeing him when you went out?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:42 PM
1

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:40 PM
1

But in this instance she fucked some guy and moved on a week later. You said that's disrespectful to both you and him. How?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:36 PM
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I don't think status alone triggers sexual desire. If she is attracted already AND admires you then it's enchanced, but it's not creating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:32 PM
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You're still having casual sex and not having a problem with it. The only problem you have is that you're not the only one having access to casual sex with her. Why is it different if she did it and it didn't work out so she moved on? Were you being disrespectful to the next partner by having been with the last and it was nothing but a fuck in the end? You've been open on here about having had hook ups and stuff. Why is it only disrespectful when a woman does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:29 PM
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Are you having that conversation before sex? I want a relationship with you if this gets physical. That conversation? Or are you seeing how the sexual chemistry goes before deciding if you want to lock it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:23 PM
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But haven't you said many times that you wouldn't consider a relationship until after sex? What's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:21 PM
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There's nothing here to say that the bf wasn't fucking her at the same time and other women too. You're assuming that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:39 PM
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First guy is no better than the bf. I can guarantee he wasn't the first. Maybe the first that week, but girls that hook up don't start dick hopping out of the blue one day. If he's lucky he was the first that month, maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:32 PM
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You can't complain unless you're not out there trying to fuck randoms too, unless you're all out here fucking other men and secretly gay. You want sex with women, but these magical unicorns that are going to jump on your dick on date 3 that haven't jumped on other dicks doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:29 PM
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She was a single woman that had sex with a single man and then entered a committed relationship with someone different. Shock of all shocks. If she's fucking you then she was fucking others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:17 PM
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My mom isn't Asian, but I have her last name as a middle name. My daughter will have a hyphenated last name, but that's her choice. I didn't even think of asking her to change it, but she asked her dad if she could have my name too after the adoption is finalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:47 PM
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They can choose. Their kid could be any combination from Dean to what you listed. It's completely their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:43 PM
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The father usually, but many use both. Some people get it as like what you would consider a middle name or hyphenated into one new name.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:38 PM
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It's just a piece of paper to me, but Koreans don't change their last name. You don't do it in the middle east either. It's just not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:35 PM
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I won't change my name. It wasn't a discussion at all. It's not a thing for many cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:22 PM
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I am putting my notice in on Monday. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:08 PM
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No. It's about overturning the original case that made it a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:10 PM
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Bruh, learn to read a graph. It's 44% women and 47% men. The number of pro life women has also dropped in the last few years by 6%. More statistics. 47% of Americans are pro life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:44 PM
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Show me that they voted for men that said they would remove their rights to abortion. Voting for someone isn't the same as voting for someone that said they would remove their rights. Show me these men said. We know they voted for them, but we don't know what they claimed. Just remember that if the govt bans birth control and emergency contraception while raising child support. 52% of men apparently voted for that shit too. No complaints. The new laws now in effect stating that men are now respo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:31 PM
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He has to deal with child support to and not complain about it. It goes both ways, but I believe that a lot more women are going to remain single or get sterilized to prevent pregnancy. You really will see hypergamy in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:26 PM
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You can't provide proof for your argument that women voted for men that they knew were out to ban abortion and supported it. That's your claim. If you make the claim you need to be able to prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:24 PM
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So you can't do that. Okay, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:22 PM
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Now show me where these people said they planned to ban abortion as part of their platform for these elections, because I can show you where these Supreme Court justices said they wouldn't ban abortion and then went and did it. Did the senate vote them in believing they wouldn't do that? Yes, because voting doesn't mean that these people said they were going to do this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:16 PM
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Child support for life? That's a thing? Really? That's not a thing anywhere and the average child support payment is $400 a month. That doesn't cover half the cost of raising a child. That doesn't nearly cover it. What about men? You don't get pregnant. It's not your body being forced to carry a fetus that might kill you. The US has the highest maternal mortality rate of any developed country. When you might die you can choose to not be pregnant. Abortion is consent to carry, not get pregnant. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:13 PM
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Plenty of men walk out and never look back. These pregnant women survived just fine. Many run and hide so they can't be tested for paternity and child support. Kid still survives. Fetus is removed from the mother's literal life support, it's dead. No, those things are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:04 PM
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Women are "fertile" for approximately 7 days of the month. That's quite a window and that window changes with stress, illness, medications, and other factors. If you have unprotected sex 3 days before she ovulates she can still get pregnant from that and 3 days after the egg is released as well. Plan b does absolutely nothing to prevent pregnancy. It prevents ovulation IF it has not occurred yet. That's all that it does in any circumstance. It doesn't prevent implantation. Birth control still al…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:57 PM
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This actual scenario still releases pre cum during intercourse. It contains sperm. It literally takes 1 to get her pregnant. Do you not know how dicks work? That fluid has sperm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:44 PM
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Let's not forget that you can't give it up without the father's consent too unless he abandoned the baby. Forced parenting goes both ways. I highly recommend that any woman that could get pregnant get on long term birth control such as a copper IUD (10 years), Nexplanon (3 years), or get sterilized if you are against being pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:42 PM
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Pulling out is not effective and plan b and birth control are on the table to be removed as rights too according the abortion opinion. Then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:38 PM
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They're talking about partial birth abortions which have been illegal for 2 decades. There's a federal law against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:29 PM
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Because the govt passing these bans preventing women from exercising their autonomy to not carry a pregnancy are majority men and the majority of women in these states are pro choice, that's why. 70% of the country believes abortion should be legal in some form.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:22 PM
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I support pro life women and I have provided abortions. Their body and their choice. They don't control mine and their religious views are not mine. No one was forced to get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:12 PM
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I was working part time at planned parenthood to provide health care where it matters the most. Preventing pregnancy in the most vulnerable and yes, participating in aborting unwanted pregnancies. Now that our trigger law will go into effect we are out. My daughter will not grow up with less rights than I had. I am feeling very grateful that we can afford it. We moved into this house very recently and remodeled, but out we'll go with more money in a seller's market.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:08 PM
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My partner and I are moving states over it and my tubes are tied. We're both health care providers and believe abortion is health care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:59 PM
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The Supreme Court suggested removing the right to birth control today too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:55 PM
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We decided to move to another state because of the ruling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:41 PM
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The Supreme Court today suggested overruling the right to contraceptives completely and making them a state issue as well. source
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:33 PM
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As well as birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:52 PM
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Justice Thomas cares and spoke about it in the ruling. The errors must be corrected.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:47 PM
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Your taxes are far from safe. Someone has to pay for their medicaid, food stamps, foster care, and welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 03:39 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:57 PM
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Yes, but l am Asian and white mixed. I am very tall for an Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:14 PM
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Genetics? I ate my vegetables too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 12:09 PM
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I think there's a difference is in self esteem. Yes, it really sucks to experience bullying on either side, but l have heard shorter men say that it can feel emasculating to be next to a very tall woman. I have never felt less feminine due to my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:57 AM
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Probably below 5'7 in western countries 5'9-5'11 6' Above 6'5 is getting too tall for almost everyone and l say that as a 5'10 woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:52 AM
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I had guys showing interest pretty much at all times despite my height, but I knew some taller girls that really didn't have any. They were unattractive AND tall, but it's as true for men as is it is for women when it's said that your partner has to be attracted to you in some way. It's wasn't 100% insecurity on the part of the men. They weren't interested period and some chose to be assholes about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:45 AM
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I am almost 5'10. I have had guys make negative comments about my height from their own insecurity, but I also had plenty of interest from shorter guys. My first bf was almost 3 inches shorter than me and we were together for a year. I definitely think it's a negative for most guys if they're shorter than the woman, but they will pursue her if they like her enough in spite of the height.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:30 AM
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Family doctors/PCP make less than dentists on average, by several thousand dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:25 AM
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Your family doctor should be able to refer you to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:57 PM
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It could be vaginismus.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:54 PM
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Go see your family dr. Tell them what you're experiencing in detail. Tell them the gyn was of no help and ask them for a referral. It would help if your therapist provided a note saying the issue had been addressed and they don't believe it's psychological. Specifically ask who you should see about nerve pain in the genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:24 PM
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It is ok, I understand that you might have landed a bad partner. It is nothing to be ashamed of since most women apparently fall for bad partners. Not the case. Just like you woman like to say that you'd rather live alone than with a man, reading about women like that I'd also rather live alone than live with a woman. I would rather be alone than be with a man that isn't actively adding things to my life as I do for him. You have to keep working even after being a relationship. You have to keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:38 PM
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You should definitely stay single if you feel like taking care of a sick partner for a few days is too much work. She complained because she was sick and he wouldn't help her. No cooking, didn't do dishes, and didn't do anything during that time to help her. That's what she asked of him and his excuse is that she wouldn't ask Chad to take care of her. She definitely had a reason to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:23 PM
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I definitely wasn't raised to think like that about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:13 PM
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Everyone should do that same and not settle for a situation they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:19 PM
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I guess the pressure of being the bread winner doesn't agree with feminine sensitivities. Apparently you don't know what 50% means. There is no breadwinner in my house. We each pay 50% and we each have our own bank accounts. If anything l pay more than him for my daughter, because I have never needed to pay for her at all, but that's my choice. I have no idea why you're ranting. It's the ability to chose those roles. You make a choice to accept it. In the end it's every person's choice to accept…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:16 PM
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You wanted equality. That's paying 50%, not switching roles. Men kinda accept it as a part of life though. What men choose to accept rather than being alone isn't my issue. That's on them for accepting it. My partner would never accept it either. We all have choices to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:12 PM
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If sharing is the point, why not share your income with him too. Because I didn't get a PhD to support a man. I got one for myself and my financial future. He has his own doctorate and together we share a lifestyle that we both want and have both equally invested financially. Could I have the house that I want supporting him too? No, I couldn't. That's taking from my happiness. Could I continue to buy whatever I want or do what I want when financially supporting him? No, I couldn't. That too tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:06 PM
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My happiness isn't dependent on his income as long as he makes enough to match my lifestyle. I make my own money, but financially supporting a man to keep up with me would make me unhappy. I wouldn't date him and would be content and happy with my life otherwise as I have been for the majority of my adult years.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:56 PM
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I guess more power to you if you're happy being an ATM.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:24 PM
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What can you do for a woman that no other man can?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:54 PM
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Many men and women aren't looking for marriage anymore. There's no need for the legal ties outside of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:53 PM
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Most people are not going to go for that. That's a codependent relationship and not healthy. Someone that can't get anyone else to play my role/fill my place. There's always someone else willing to fill a needed role. There's only 1 person that a partner wants in a relationship. Needed people get used, abused, and can't leave, because they need that other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:10 PM
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Why would anyone want you if you need them? You become a job at that point and not a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:59 PM
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I ask them out after l decide that there's more than attraction there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:06 PM
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To share your happiness with someone you want, not need. Adding a layer of happiness isn't the same thing as making you a happy person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:40 PM
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I did it through friends, family, pets, and an active social life. I was never lonely, touch starved, or feeling unappreciated. All that I didn't have was a relationship and I was fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:46 PM
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The research says none of those things matter either way, which I find to be a bit ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:12 PM
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My type wasn't necessarily about something physical. It listed a ton of factors such as education and things like that. I have a graduate degree, great career, financial stability, high earnings, and a great family along with a social life. Yes, I want my partner to have ALL of those things as well AND to have sexual attraction to them. My attraction is asexual. I have only been attracted to 3 people ever in a sexual sense. I have dated and had relationships with 2 of them. I wouldn't date witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:18 PM
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I wouldn't date someone that's not my type, even if it had meant staying single forever, because those things are important to me. I am a happy fulfilled person outside of a relationship, so no, I am not going to date someone that doesn't make me happy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:12 PM
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Happy Father's day!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:44 PM
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Again, laws have specific meaning and you can't be charged for something you didn't do. You can't make threats to a school and then be charged with physically hurting someone. That's not how that works and I see that it upsets you. I am not paranoid about mentally ill or violent people. I understand what we can and legally can't do to them for charges and treatment. You can not charge for something that did not happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:59 PM
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They're not entitled to anyone and either are you entitled to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:00 PM
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He was even showing off his cuts days before the shooting and they didnt baker act him. You don't know how the Baker act works.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:34 PM
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Felony assault has a definition. Turns out that didn't use a weapon. He tackled him. So violent nutjob gets a misdemeanor. He's on trial for attempted murder, for what? Attempting to murder his ex roommate. Turns out that you can't be convicted/charged for shit that you didn't do, unless you're being wrongly accused of something. The charge must fit the evidence and crime. Dave Chappelle suffered no injury and wasn't actually attacked with a weapon. It wasn't felony assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:26 PM
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Many women are okay with just a fling or casual. Doesn't mean she's attached to say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:20 PM
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Was the Buffalo shooter convicted of making threats? No. Where did he make threats? Online? In writing? No, he told some students, which isn't enough to convict him of anything. He was sent for an evaluation and counseling. Yes, I know you love to believe all mentally ill people are homocidal, suicidal, and should have all their rights taken away. You really need to stop projecting. He should not have been able to buy a gun, because of his mental health, period, but no judge could have convicted…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:07 PM
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He has accepted a plea deal for a non felony, which the DA said is because it wasn't a gun. It was actually a knife that was retracted and folded closed during the attack. Dave Chappelle was physically assaulted and the guy is on trial for the attempted murder of his ex roommate. So again, you're wrong in both counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:00 PM
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According to you he still has the right to carry. He wasn't convicted of a crime. Was the Buffalo shooter convicted of making threats? No. Was the law recently changed to cover making threats since him? Yes. He shouldn't have had a gun because he is clearly mentally ill. Which is why NY also changed state law that physicians can report you, diagnosed or not, for review. You're welcome for the ableist shit that you're ranting against in other threads. According to you he should have been able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:50 PM
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But what happened to your stance on innocent until proven guilty, because 'Murica, and everyone can own guns until that happens, because Constitutional right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:42 PM
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Most gang members haven't been arrested for any type of violence at all, but go on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:22 PM
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Just a reminder that you're making up alternative facts again as most gang members haven't been arrested and found guilty of a felony that prevents them from owning guns legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:17 PM
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Where does "these medications" apply to you think ALL medications are depressants or hallucinogenic? There's a list of medications that you can't take and drive as well as a list of conditions that revoke your right to drive. Do you not know the difference between these and all?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:32 PM
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You think all medications are depressants and hallucinogens? Where did I say that or where did I say that you can't drive on all medications? Stop projecting. Medications have known side effects and yes, the law says you can't take them and drive for that reason. It's not hard to understand. It doesn't need to be guaranteed to take steps to prevent it from occurring when the outcome is a danger to public health.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:19 PM
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I have a low n count and would never sleep with a man that slept around or had causal sex. I have also had plenty of men get pissed off about a lack of a double standard being applied. Anyone should also be avoided that lacks emotional stability. It's not a double standard either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:11 PM
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Again, it's the law. Why does the law exist? Because your reaction time is lower and your rational thinking is altered. It's a public safety issue. Why is that so hard for you to understand? It's as if you have no concept of understanding that conditions and medications have known complications and side effects. Why can't you drink and drive? Same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:08 PM
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Again, tell me a secondary use of a gun and why they would still need to use one that doesn't involve threatening someone or killing something. Can you do that? Can you tell me why they would still need to use one?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:26 AM
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Have a seizure disorder? Can't drive. Take these meds? Can't drive. Are they capable of driving 99% of time? Yes. Are the allowed to drive because something might happen? No, they're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:22 AM
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🤣 You're always a flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 09:07 PM
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I bet she is squeaky clean!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:46 PM
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Is that how your gf handles it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:41 PM
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😒 It was fine before a dick was in there...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:41 PM
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You do not insert water or try to clean inside a vagina!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:20 PM
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There is a ton of misinformation out there and it sucks. It sucks so much. Women are dying of cancer and having miscarriages or preemies, because some moron told them that douches or powders were the key to being clean. Vaginas have a natural smell, but they shouldn't smell foul.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:06 PM
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Excellent source! Internal glitter bombs made me chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:00 PM
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Sperm changes the ph balance of the discharge. That is what causes the smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:57 PM
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Not soap, just some fingering and water in your shower. Nothing like some daily hand bacteria and soap residue left on your fingers to get it squeaky clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:52 PM
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Pepper puree? No, my girl bits are perfectly clean. You can damage the lining of the vagina and cause infections by adding water alone. The vagina has a bacterial and ph balance with in it that control yeast and the natural mucus substance constantly flushes it clean. That's also how periods work. The secretions are what cause the tissue to flow down and out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:50 PM
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I wouldn't be shocked if someone said they did that. People really are ignorant on genital hygiene. That's why I asked after hearing that you're supposed to finger it clean with water in the shower. Yes, the actual vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:47 PM
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Wasting kimchi is a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:41 PM
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That's why the vagina secretes discharge. It really is naturally self cleaning on the interior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:39 PM
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There are people on this sub that believe it needs rinsed. That's why I explained it. It wasn't personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:38 PM
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That's what I said too, but no, apparently you are a dirty woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:37 PM
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That's called a douche and is extremely unhealthy for the vagina. It genuinely fucks up the tissue and health.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:36 PM
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Do you clean the interior cavity of your vagina? A man on here is telling me that a gynecologist told him that women should be inserting water and a finger or 2 to clean out the actual vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:35 PM
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Q4A Do you believe that women are supposed to be washing out the interior of their vagina?? Interior, as in up in the opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:28 PM
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You don't have water in your mouth, and yes, sex, oral sex, and fingering all lead to the introduction of bacteria into the vagina and can lead to infections. Do you have any idea how nasty your saliva is? Sperm alone changes the ph balance. Washing your vulva and the labia minora is washing the opening of the vagina. You don't mess with the inside of the canal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:21 PM
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My opinion wouldn't change at all. A woman being stressed by breast feeding is considered a valid medical reason to discontinue it and the only person capable of deciding what is best for her and the baby is herself. No one else and no opinion on her quality as a mother is valid based on that. Idc if you were a woman that breastfed 7 kids. It doesn't make you a good mother or her a bad one for not doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:19 PM
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I couldn't care less what you recommend or think is best. You have no right to call people bad mothers for feeding their child. Until you are a pair of breasts or can breastfeed you have 0 validity in saying what should be done with a woman's body. It's that simple. You too can take medicine and lactate. Do it yourself in that case. Apparently it's what a good father would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:52 PM
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The vagina stays closed. That is the purpose of the labia minora and why you are not supposed to use soap on the vulva when cleaning them. What you said is using a finger or 2 and water IN the vagina. No, you should not being doing that. Cleaning the vulva or between the labia is not inserting anything into the vagina. Water does not enter the vagina while bathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:49 PM
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I would say it's best if it works for both mother and baby. It is not the best for the child if it stresses the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:45 PM
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Then I suggest seeing a new one. I am a nurse practitioner and you do not put anything at all into the vagina to clean it. No, not even water. You will upset the balance of healthy bacteria that is 100% needed to prevent infections and control yeast overgrowth. Do not use anything inside of the vagina unless it is a prescription medication.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:23 PM
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You're not supposed to do that. The natural discharge flushes out the vagina. You should not be putting water inside the vagina. It's also a fantastic way to introduce bacteria that don't belong and soap particles into the canal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:06 PM
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That smell can also be a reaction to soap, especially scented soaps, a douche, or anything other than a mild ph balanced soap being used to clean the exterior. You really don't need anything more than water and a washcloth. If someone is overweight I would recommend a mild soap, because of trapped sweat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:02 PM
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You should not be using water inside the vagina. Even water can throw off the ph balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 05:54 PM
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Mild soaps are okay to wash the vulva, but nothing scented and it needs a balanced ph. You can get a yeast infection from regular soap.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 05:27 PM
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Do you know what else passes through breast milk besides those good immune supplements? Stress hormones from mothers that find it painful or hate doing it. Those are most certainly not good for the baby and their bodies do react to it. They don't get to choose which hormones to absorb, so no, breast feeding is not always best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 03:14 PM
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Bruh, I am a medical professional with a PhD... There are no nutritional differences in the formulas available today and breast milk. The differences are in antibodies, hormones, and white blood cells. Those are not nutrition. Those are immune system supports. Breast feeding often goes beyond 2 years as well. Babies normally begin solids at 4 months old with cereal being introduced into their diets. Babies can actually begin eating cereal much sooner, even as newborns. Have you ever heard of aci…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:34 PM
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There are no "nutritional" differences today and breastfed babies are vitamin d deficient without drops. Go do some damn research instead of judging women that have healthy happy babies and are healthy happy mothers. Resentful parents are not good parents. Breast milk contains antibodies. That is the difference and that difference in not nutritional. The quality of breast milk is also completely dependent on the health and diet of the mother while formula is not. This mom shaming shit needs to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:03 PM
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I would have been open to any race that was raised in my culture. I grew up on an American military base surrounded by all races, but one of my parents is also from that country. I was completely immersed in my family's culture and lived there until l was almost 8 before moving to America.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:25 PM
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I honestly wouldn't date anyone that came from any culture that was extremely different than my own, either religious or socially. I don't think my culture is in any way better, but it's the life that I live. Most people from other cultures aren't going to be comfortable with my life and l have no intention of changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:16 PM
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Racism and a lot of it is probably tied to his name or people thinking he's a Muslim. That name doesn't say western. I have a very Asian name and people makes tons of assumptions based off of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:57 PM
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More than 70% of women do not orgasm from penetration and that includes with vibrators. It's not a size issue, but an anatomy issue. The nerve endings of the "g-spot" do exist, but this magical spot isn't what people think it is either. It's the internal end of the clitoral nerves located approximately 2 inches inside of the top wall of the vagina. Some women can feel them through penetration and some can't. The cervix also has exposed nerve endings. Most women find hitting the cervix to cause p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:36 PM
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It's not that monogamy is taken seriously. It's the belief that they have to be married to be taken as a serious member of the community or be seen as having something wrong with them. Abuse also tends to be rampant in those communities and leaving isn't an option. These things have been studied for years. Women are to be subservient and the parents are always involved in selecting and approving partners before they can even date. Marriage is expected. Marriage shouldn't be expected of anyone. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:06 PM
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Obviously once you start allowing guns for some people it gets harder to regulate for the rest. You can get a gun from someone who got it by legal means. I don't see this any differently than meds. You have patients that become addicted after accidents. I don't see it as an argument to make heroin legal because because people can get it if they really want it when we tell them no opiates.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:56 AM
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I guess my question would be do those regulations actually have an impact on homicide rate? I don't have that information for homicides against the general public. I do have that information for suicide prevention, because studies have been done. Men that own a handgun are 8 times more likely to die from suicide by that gun, while women are 35 times more likely. We do have information on partners being killed by those same guns, which you already know is a problem. The question would be does it …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:46 AM
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She's pissed off that a mental illness precludes you from gun ownership. She said it's ableist, so why aren't cars banned? Why aren't knives and medicines banned? They're also regulated too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:34 AM
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Except her stats for car suicide are higher than all combined suicide together. That's not honest at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:27 AM
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Not for me personally, but l will use whatever pronouns someone else prefers in the context or she, he, or they if consider themselves non binary. It's not that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:24 AM
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Then no, not all men got sex or wives. Autistic and mentally ill people weren't married. They were in asylums.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:23 AM
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You mean rape. Forced marriage is still rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:20 AM
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Definitely. Do you know that they will get lung cancer?? Do you? "They don't need you making decisions for them."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:19 AM
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It's not permanent. The lack of sensitivity also naturally occurs after an orgasm fades and why subsequent orgasms can take longer to reach. It does not cause nerve damage. Yes, it's been studied.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:17 AM
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But somehow no one has convinced any women to sleep with these women. Strange, it's like people won't have sex with people they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:13 AM
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This thread is because of me, because I showed her the actual gun laws and I agreed with them. You can't own a gun if you have a diagnosed mental illness or have been hospitalized against your will. She said that means i believe all mentally ill people are violent killers. The law and I are both "ableist" for saying that mentally unstable people shouldn't own guns for the safety of the public and their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:09 AM
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You're a teacher??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:58 AM
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Try again. "The age-adjusted suicide rate in 2020 was 13.48 per 100,000 individuals." Car suicides do not account for more than 100% of suicides. Where are you getting these numbers from for this data?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:58 AM
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No, that's not the woman that you want. There is no right woman for you. No relationship is perfect. No one checks every box.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:53 AM
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He also slept with many other young girls,including his grand nieces, that would leave his bed crying and he wrote of "accidents" in his testing of his purity. He was a child rapist. The "right woman" will like you for you. Are most men probably going to like that woman? No. She's also going to be unattractive and have her own personality flaws too. That's not what people imagine when they say there's someone for everyone. You have had women interested in you. What did you tell me? You'd fuck he…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:48 AM
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The guy was a child rapist. Personality matters depending on the situation. A hook up? She doesn't know you. It's all looks and chemistry. A fling? Looks and she thinks you're fun. An actual committed relationship? Yes, personality is this biggest component of a relationship, but of course she needs to be attracted unless you want a sexless relationship. Looks aren't the most important thing in a relationship. No one is denying these things. Saying personality matters isn't saying looks do not m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:38 AM
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You mean like Ghandi, who was notoriously racist against Africans and fought for segregation? The man that bragged about sleeping nude with his young nieces in his bed? Are those the morals you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:32 AM
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If being a moral person was sexy then Gandhi and MLK Jn would be considered sex symbols, not Harry Styles. MLK Jr cheated on his wife with multiple women. He did great things for the advancement of civil rights. He was in no way a moral role model.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:24 AM
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If a woman does not breastfeed and she stays at home I will liable her as a bad mother There are many legitimate medical reasons to not breastfeed for the health of the mother. there is a lot of emotional connection between a mother and her baby when she breastfeeds due to chemical reactions not certain on the exact details but I know it exists. Postpartum depression also exists. Pain from breastfeeding exists. Cracked bleeding nipples, blocked ducts resulting in infection, and resentment toward…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:30 AM
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You might have to deal with the social fall out no matter what. What you're planning would piss off a lot of people and make them feel used, but you're technically not outright lying to them. Scorned people can cause a lot of damage. Keep that in mind. That can include accusations too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 07:00 PM
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Can you not get hook ups?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:54 PM
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Sure, and it's excusable by the same reasoning if women scam you out of money or sleep with other men while you think you're the only one. You're not technically lying to them and they aren't robbing you or technically lying to you either. It's not how I live, but you're the one that has to live with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:49 PM
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This doesn't relate to what I said at all. OP gets angry that women he thinks he should he able to instantly fuck reject him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:29 PM
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It's about delivery, tone, ease of conversation, physical attraction is going to impact how people receive banter. If someone is interested they make it easy for you and are equally engaging. There are no words that will make someone find you sexually attractive. You need that first and then the conversation to build the connection. It can't look forced or not fit you as a person. My partner is smooth as butter with people. He can charm anyone and a big part of that is because he is so attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:37 PM
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This guy also likes to throw in how angry he is that a less attractive or older woman dared to reject him when he tried to get sexual within 5 mins or how men actually have to put in work to get relationships/sex, even if they're attractive. Omg, the horror of it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:19 PM
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People have hung themselves, intentionally crashed their cars, and threw themselves off a bridges/buildings, and OD’d on pills. And yet people are more likely to die by suicide in a home with a gun. Other methods being available do not change that fact. More than half of gun deaths are a suicide. More than 24,000 in the US die by firearm suicide every year. That is someone every 22 minutes in the US. There's a suicide every 11 minutes. No, having the ability to almost guarantee your suicide atte…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:46 PM
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It's called asexual attraction. You recognize that they're beautiful, but it doesn't trigger a sex drive. I left another comment on this thread that outlines some of it. It can apply to sexual attraction, sexual repulsion, or a complete lack of a sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:09 AM
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It's called asexuality. Sex drive and sexual attraction are not the same thing. Some people are repulsed by the idea of sex with anyone and yet they masturbate daily. Some are only repulsed by the idea of sex without attraction. Some people have no libido at all and don't masturbate or have sex. Some people go their entire lives never one experiencing sexual desire for another person, but they want a romantic relationship outside of sexual contact. Some asexuals are not sex repulsed at all, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:07 AM
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I also don't think felons or violent people should have guns. You shouldn't have a gun if you have been convicted of any violent crime. You shouldn't have a gun if you have a chemical dependence on alcohol or drugs either. The law says all of these things for a reason. They're all rooted in mental illness. At least be upfront that you’re ableist and believe everyone with a mental condition is a violent killer. You’re clearly proud of your ignorance That doesn't mean everyone with mental health i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 10:16 AM
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i used to be involved with some bad people Why were you involved with these horrible people? Are you a horrible person too?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:49 PM
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I know that everyone that has diagnosed depression has an unstable mood and altered thinking, which is a terrible mix for weapons. The instability, sudden shifts, and relapses are 100% justification to keep guns out of the hands of the mentally ill. It's a public safety issue. Have you been listening to the Texas response? They're blaming all of the shootings on mental health issues, because it's not the guns or the youth that are the problem. The last common denominator is mental health and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:19 PM
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It's not ableist to say that emotionally unstable people shouldn't have guns. Suicide is not a right and half of gun deaths are suicides.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:43 PM
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Texas law says they can't. I believe in the constitution and the rights that it gives states to determine their own laws that are put in place by the people. You're against that??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:33 PM
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Mental history on file. Read the law. That is enough to be denied in places.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:29 PM
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Was he convicted of child abuse? Was your teacher you posted convicted??? Are you okay with that guy having a gun in class because he doesn't have a record? You sound insane. No one should be allowed to have guns around children that are not theirs unless they are the police.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:27 PM
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You want people to not have a gun just because they have a mental illness. There are already laws on that. No you can not own a gun in most places if you have been hospitalized with a documented mental illness. It's a state and federal law.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:23 PM
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Like the sexual predator teachers that want guns. They should definitely be allowed to carry weapons around students they are trying to assault. That makes absolutely no sense, but if they took a class and want to carry one I guess nobody should stop them, constitution and something. Guns do not belong in schools in the hands of anyone that is not law enforcement that can be held liable for their action or lack of action to protect the students.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:18 PM
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Most mass shooters are middle age. We're talking about school shootings, hence the armed kids in school. Those shooters are not middle aged. Because some police forces are extremely corrupt and will gladly let kids die. We already know that, but the legislative answer is to the arm the pedophile teachers that people should be more worried about instead. So you want to be ableist? I watch Fox news. The only way to stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun. If an 18 year old can be a bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:13 PM
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Why is this kid allowed out of his house at 3am and his dad doesn't know where the hell he is or who he is with? This is way beyond a teacher did something. This teacher is a predator, but this dad can not blame the school for some shit happening at night when his son is in his care. They're both to blame for this being allowed to happen to this kid. It's a failure of the school system to vet their employees and a failure of this dad to know where his son is at.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:46 PM
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Hot take, but what if we give the 18 year old students ak-47s to stop the other 18 year olds with them and allow them to roam the halls preventing violence? Preferably the ones that want to be teachers and it can count as college credit. Obviously we need qualifiers here, like a good guy with gun t-shirt. This plan can't fail as long as they have no criminal or mental history on file.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:30 PM
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There's inciting violence by encouraging it, but threatening people directly or indirectly is a terroristic threat and a separate crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:05 PM
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Gun people: We need to arm these teachers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:56 PM
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There are a lot of stories you can read online of birth parents stalking and harassing their children the moment they turn 18. It is stalking and they can be charged and given an order of protection. They are treated as strangers by the law. I would think in the case of a financial abortion, if somehow made legal, it would act the same under the law and wouldn't require a mother to even tell the child who the father is by default. I certainly wouldn't tell my kid until they were an adult and I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:46 PM
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High standards and having asexual attraction. I got lucky. It was pure luck both times. I never felt a need to hide either. If someone isn't into you or a right fit then nothing can change that for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:28 PM
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As well as no one knows what she looked like before getting pregnant or living with his addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:21 AM
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That's his wife, they have a young toddler together, and he's "been sober" for a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:13 AM
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Do you know what she looked like when they met, before marriage, his addiction, and having a baby in the last 2 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 11:56 PM
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My dad actually sat me down at 19, 10 years ago, and talked to me about never being in a relationship with an older man for security. I think a lot more parents are educating their kids about these kinds of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 09:58 PM
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Trump told them to march down there and fight like hell or they wouldn't have a country left. That is not saying to protest peacefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 09:45 PM
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It's at the discretion of the judge to weigh the evidence and credibility of it for a public safety issue. Red flag laws do not say that your guns are removed because 1 person claimed a, b, or c.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 09:43 PM
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You don't get to defend yourself before an arrest warrant is issued either. It's still due process.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 09:10 PM
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There are multiple hearings. The judge signs the warrant based on evidence of a threat. Then there's another hearing involving the defendant within 30 days
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 08:50 PM
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Red flag laws require due process. Only a judge can order the removal of weapons and qualify the length of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 08:44 PM
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You're not going to spend money on her when you're dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 08:31 PM
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I'm going to call bs on your lack of premarital sex when the marriage and birth records show otherwise. "By comparing marriage records with subsequent birth records, historians can tell that by the late 18th century, 30 to 40 percent of American brides were pregnant at their weddings. Society wasn't really upset that the girls were pregnant, as long as they got married to the father. But not all men were that honorable, especially since the towns were now drawing in unsupervised, strange men to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:43 PM
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you'd know you can see how people dress without checking them out You literally described her ass crack... That is not noticing how people are dressed. You keep throwing in all of these excuses. Why? If you weren't checking her out, didn't hit on her, and never even thought of it then you wouldn’t be this concerned. Doesn't matter if she sounds older and looks like she's in her 20's. You were checking out a minor if you can describe her ass in that much detail. It's that simple. I spend hours tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:58 PM
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For example, there is this girl at my gym who for the longest time I thought was in her 20s, turns out she's 16 (I never hit on her or even thought about it, I heard her talking about it once). She dresses in those tight ass leggings/booty shorts that show off her entire buttcheeks right up through the asscrack. I think I read somewhere that girls are going through puberty earlier these days. I've been going to this gym for a year now, so she has been dressing like this since she was at least 15…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:40 PM
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I would support my partner and his child if needed because of an accident or something, even permanently. We both make enough money to do that on our own, but there's no way in hell that I would support some random ass guy because he doesn't want to work. That's not happening and I would say that the women willing to do it without a need would be less than 5%. There's 0 need to accept that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:21 PM
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Read the part where I said I'm glad where they are dressing this way. I never said women shouldn't dress this way. I'm simply pointing out it is more about looking good than actually lifting. A few posts on Reddit is not "obsessing" over it. This is just how women exaggerate to try and shame people. Wtf?? The girl you were directly referencing is 16 years old and was 15 when you admitted to checking her out. Yes, you should be shamed for happily creeping on 15/16 year old in your 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:09 AM
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I want sex at least daily with my boyfriend and I am asexual. I have only ever felt sexual attraction to 3 people in my life. It can apply to nearly non existent attraction to other people, low libido, or sexual repulsion. Low libido applies to wanting sex with someone else, not masturbating. Many asexual people, that have low or no libido and aren't sex repulsed, have sex with their partners to make them happy. I am sex repulsed without attraction and the thought of interest, sex, or dating doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 12:23 AM
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What did she teach you? Be happy. Do what makes you happy, because it's your life. The people that disagree with you had the opportunity to make their own choices. Don't allow them to make yours for you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 09:54 PM
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I had the cool aunt. She never wanted to get married or have her own kids. She's very content with her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 09:43 PM
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Either party could most likely have a biological child using a surrogate. It would depend on her fertility issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:39 PM
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It's gorgeous!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:02 PM
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My parents are an interracial couple. I would have dated a different race, but not someone that wasn't raised understanding my culture as it's a huge part of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 05:53 PM
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Happy early birthday!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 12:25 PM
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Bake him treats and cook really nice dinners. I took care of his house chores if I was watching his daughter so that he could come home and relax with her. Buy him a rose and sneak it into his work locker with a note. Hide his favorite snacks in his desk with sticky notes on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 10:28 PM
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Yeah, America has those throughout the summer and early fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 05:56 PM
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Did you know that gray hair typically sets in at different ages for different races?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 05:51 PM
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Do you mean like carnival?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 05:43 PM
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No one has gives consent for child support, not the mother or father, and every child has a legal right to be supported by both parents. When it's you that is pregnant you can consent to an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 04:30 PM
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Sexual, because my attraction is so rare and I can't have a relationship without it. I can find friends anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:58 PM
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I would say 98% positive. We rarely disagree on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:23 PM
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Half admitted to knowing that she was unwilling. That doesn't say shit about being drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:00 PM
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Post these things showing where these said it wasn't discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:52 PM
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There's a big difference between questionable consent while drunk and KNOWING that she wasn't willing, but again, do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:51 PM
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And you know that because??? You were there when these first time discussions happened? Sure you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:40 PM
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Do you know if they were on birth control? You do not, but you make assumptions. You assume everyone is out here fucking haphazardly because they can't wait for that abortion. Do you know anything besides the fact that they were willing to have an abortion rather than being forced to go through an unwanted pregnancy? Again, you do not. No one made any claims that most women are forced to get pregnant. That's you again trying to move the goal posts. The fact is that birth control fails and there …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:38 PM
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I love how you left out this info where half of these men in this study admitted to engaging in sexual activities with an unwilling participant a year after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:33 PM
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Again, abortion being available removes the risk of forced birth. They took pregnancy and their options seriously. This is all you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:25 PM
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Because removing abortion for women that don't want to be pregnant equals forced pregnancy. Strange how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:24 PM
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Despite what you want to think, most accidental pregnancies were the result of consensual sex. Things I never said, but again, another hot take of yours. The discussion was on forced pregnancies and you saying it's illegal and whether or not these women discussed sterilization before the leak. Again with the goal posts and assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:19 PM
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They explicitly said now that Roe V Wade might go away, they're pressuring their husband/boyfriend to sterilized. Okay and??? Do you know this wasn't a topic before? You don't. This is a Lilith take...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:12 PM
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Here girl, have a free one with linked studies citing where the info came from stating that up to 16% of college aged men freely admitted to having raped or trying to have raped and have done it repeatedly. Again, from their own mouths, but totally a woman's narrative when written by men with info directly from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 01:57 PM
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Are you really going to sit there and pretend that the study isn't linked in that article? Studies are not liberal or conservative opinions. Please stop attempting to move the goal posts, yet again. Focus, girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 01:35 PM
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It speaks volumes that these husbands and boyfriends still want sex, without sterilization that might not be possible for the women at their age, and that these are no longer willing to risk a forced birth if their 99.9% birth control fails or their husband decides he wants a child or another child against her will. It says nothing about their ideas of abortion other than that they will would be willing to have one vs a forced pregnancy. You have no idea what they thought about before the leak. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 01:32 PM
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Again, moving the goal posts. They aren't trying to get their tubes tied and you don't know why, but there are no restrictions for men that want a vasectomy...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 01:23 PM
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I dont praise stupid people. They could have gotten sterile beforehand, but no, they waited until abortion might be slightly harder for some of them to get to even consider it. Try to get your tubes before the age of 25 as a childless women and see how easy it is, even with health conditions that could endanger your life should you become pregnant. I had to see 4 doctors to get it done. Why? Because my future husband will probably want kids and I shouldn't take that from him. I work in health ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:53 PM
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No girl, you do not get to move the goal posts. Is forced pregnancy legal? Yes. Abortion will still be available for the life of the mother being in jeopardy is all state. That doesn't change. A condition that endangers the life of the mother is not guaranteed an abortion under these new laws. The life of the mother may be attempted to be saved, not guaranteed. She is only eligible if she is in immediate danger of dying at that moment, not this pregnancy will kill her. It's only available once h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:36 PM
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Is stealthing common and also rape? Yes. Do 13 states have expection laws on rape by spouses that it's legal unless physically forced? They do. Do those 13 states not consider stealthing marital rape? They do not, because the sex wasn't forced. Is forced pregnancy of your wife now legal in those states? Surprised Pikachu face for you, it is legal! You should be praising these women, but they're damned if they do, and damned as crazy and overreacting to forced birth if they don't. The alternative…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 12:06 PM
3

Are you okay? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:43 AM
4

Plan C as once in a lifetime vs forced birth isn't the same as using it as flippant birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:42 AM
0

It's not unreasonable. I cut off any male friend that shows interest in more immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:38 AM
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Don't ask for what you can't offer. There's no making up for attraction unless you're okay with being used financially and not actually wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 05:48 PM
5

There are much bigger problems in East Asia for dating that the work culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:43 PM
2

I can't tell you which would trigger my sexual attraction since I don't know, but I would go with skinny over muscle, unless we're talking underweight skinny. Toned over super muscular every single time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:04 PM
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I waited a year for both of mine, but there's not a set time. For my relationship we dated casually for 6 months before moving to being in a serious relationship. I had sex once before him. It was a pretty big step and not something that I take lightly. For others it might mean nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 09:58 PM
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That goes well beyond athleticism. Being physically active is definitely a big plus for me. It's more attractive than someone that lifts. I don't really like bulky guys to begin with though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 09:56 PM
2

Do you distribute your fat well too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:43 PM
2

Are you attracted to fat people?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:27 PM
1

It's not for me and would be wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:25 PM
1

How does he make you feel? Whether or not you can see a long term future with this person. How safe do you feel with this person physically and emotionally? What is your emotional connection like? Do you feel valued as a person or is this guy looking for a mommy bang maid? Do you feel respected? Most importantly, are you ready to have sex with this person? Feelings are what dictate it and they can’t be forced. That connection and readiness is there or it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:24 PM
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I would definitely say no. It's not regret, it's about having different values and lifestyles. What I find funny is that most guys complaining about not getting laid almost immediately also say they don't want a promiscuous girl. The magical unicorn that does casual sex and doesn't have casual sex with most guys she's dating probably doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 07:04 PM
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I wouldn't be with a guy with a history of casual sex either, but l might have made an exception if it was literally once, they were up front about it, and said it wasn't for them because that's not how they value sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:51 PM
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Yeah, pretty much. I am not saying there's a year mark or something, but I am not having sex if I don't see it going somewhere permanent. Sex can alter your entire life with a disease, pregnancy, or whatever. There's protections, but they are never guaranteed. I didn't fuck with maybe l won't be that person. Sex is very intimate to me and it's something that I value. I don't judge people that live their lives their way either. It just means that we aren't compatible and that's great to acknowled…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:28 PM
1

I don't do casual sex even with attraction and we weren't in longterm committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:19 PM
1

I waited a year in both relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:09 PM
2

Not into casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:05 PM
1

I couldn't tell you how many guys any of my friends have been with, because it's not discussed. Being a complete bitch or trying to get with someone's bf would be a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:48 PM
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There's a guy on here that said being an incel is more mentally traumatic than being raped multiple times, but apparently not as a traumatic as fucking an ugly woman, because he says no to them. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 08:10 PM
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I wouldn't date anyone for any reason without sexual attraction. That is absolutely the first requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:56 PM
2

Seems accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:55 PM
2

Yeah, there was a shooting yesterday. Security guard was killed in a liquor store less than mile from the bar scene. It's in the news now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 03:08 AM
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We're having a lot of gun violence at the moment. Google our news headlines and decide how adventurous you're feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:57 AM
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Implicit consent isn't not saying no, it's implying yes through words or actions. A lack of action is not an action that says yes, because of the freeze response. Good luck with that shit. Yes bro, movies are totally reality and everyone believes in fairytales too, except for the law which says implicit consent still has meaning and it's not not saying no.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:31 AM
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I don't think all men are trash, but I do think there are a lot of toxic entitled people of both genders. I would be extremely shocked to see that from my dad, partner, or brother. I know how I was raised and it wasn't to be some red pill wife. Edit: In hindsight, i might have been raised to be a red pilled man. You have sex when you want, with who you want, and nothing else matters. Your body and your choice. You can take birth control and we can talk about the options, but condoms are a must. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:13 AM
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Cool. A guy can put his hand on your shoulder and then grab your dick? That's socially acceptable? Fun country. That's also not what implicit consent means. Actions or words that say yes are implicit consent, not freezing, not acting so off that you ask is everything okay. She clearly did not give implicit consent and your response said so. Yes, that is sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 01:50 AM
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Wtf are you going on about? I said she wasn't into you and tried to let you down gently. You basically told her, after what could be a sexual assault, that she's nothing but something you want to fuck and her feelings are hurt. Now you don’t understand why she's pissed. Going for straight sex is fine. Touching someone sexually without consent is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 01:18 AM
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Or you freaked her out, she froze, and when you said something she had her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 12:53 AM
1

She was clearly not into it if she rejected you trying to kiss her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 12:21 AM
1

Did she kiss you? What flirty behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:50 PM
1

How is she flirting back?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:04 PM
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Then leave. You have been speaking for 5 or 6 days. What is she expecting? "I value speaking to you occasionally more than the idea of dating you and that won't change." You're not beholden to someone that you don't know on a personal level.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 09:57 PM
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She was trying to politely reject you without hurting your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 09:39 PM
0

No, definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 09:38 PM
2

I would say that we are back to normal for the most part. Lots of shootings recently to let you know that the city is still alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 09:31 PM
1

We get rat snakes quite regularly. I let them be as long as they don't start acting aggressively.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 03:20 PM
1

About $20,000 without health insurance and $8,500 or so on average after insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 09:21 PM
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Again, he said nothing about these women except what he had told them should be their standards. He didn't say a word about their actual standards and then told you that they weren't trying to get men out of their league. The original OP asked what are the "high standards" that men are complaining that women have for men. Neither topic relates to your answer of entitlement for wanting someone that makes them happy and they're attracted to physically. You assumed they must be chasing hotter men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:53 PM
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That sounds like entitlement. What do they bring to the table for the man? No mention of leagues, only you being upset that women have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:45 PM
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Your comment was that a woman is entitled for wanting someone she finds attractive and compatible. Those were the standards he listed. That is in no way entitled. That's some bitter pill nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:42 PM
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Which OP never once said, but off you went anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:39 PM
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You called that girl entitled despite her level or whatever never being mentioned. He said don't have sex with people that don't get you off. Don't date someone you find unattractive. Don't be with someone that doesn't make you happy. That is what you called entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:34 PM
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If you have enormously high/high standards and aren't happy with what you actually get She is what you actually get. You need to be happy with her. That's what you said about a girl not being happy with guys that ask her out, because God forbid she choose someone compatible that she feels attraction towards. She must be entitled and her standards are too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:29 PM
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No no, if that's what you get then be happy or your standards are too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:23 PM
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If she's below you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:21 PM
2

And if she's not?? She's still what you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:19 PM
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Are you going to date an obese single mother that moonlights as a meth addicted prostitute? you have enormously high/high standards and aren't happy with what you actually get I don't think that argument worked out as well as you think it did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:05 PM
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Why are you assuming someone is out of her league by default?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:01 PM
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Met at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 07:57 PM
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He's claiming all of this went down in 24 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:59 PM
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Sounds like a larp. Mutual friend wants to introduce her and her husband to him. She then immediately starts texting him after a year and half like she has his number in her phone. He of course keeps these texts from a year and half ago on his phone from a 2 month fling and eagerly sends them to the husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:54 PM
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Is she supposed to be in relationship with someone she doesn't want so that he can be happy? That would be entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:32 PM
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How is that entitlement? That guy doesn't have to ask her out. She is free to remain single her entire life if her standards are too high for her to qualify for those men. They can and should have the exact same requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:28 PM
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She's either severely mentally fucked up or most likely she's a troll. All of that and new potential partners happened in the last 2 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 03:15 PM
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She's married too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:54 PM
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No. I never had much body hair to being with, but it's all been removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 07:35 AM
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Yes, because people want to be wanted by their partner and not needed by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 03:10 AM
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Vulnerable narcissism is a nicer term for covert narcissism. What was posted was copied straight from a therapy website.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:11 AM
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No problem
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:13 PM
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I have a defibrillator. I can keep him alive until a sex worker shows up. I'll pay. I'm not heartless. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:56 PM
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It can apply to attraction, libido, or sex. Some want a relationship with intimacy, but without sex. Thinking of kissing someone I don't feel attracted to makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit. Some have no drive at all, some are sex repulsed, and some are okay with having sex because their partner wants it. It's a very wide spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:55 PM
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I have a very high libido single or not, but I am repulsed by the thought of being touched by someone that I don't feel that for too. It's only the attraction, not the sex drive. It's a solid yes or my mind thinks you might be a woman, dead body, or maybe a tree. I have no idea why it doesn't happen. I see people and think they are handsome, but it triggers nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:44 PM
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No, there's no eww or he's not good enough. It's literally nothing at all and not even a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:40 PM
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I don't think most women have asexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:38 PM
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I have only felt physical attraction to those 3 men. When it's that rare you make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:34 PM
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3 approaches and 3 different guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:31 PM
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Yes, but he was gay. Yes and we dated for a year. Kind of, work colleagues, and we are still together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:26 PM
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No 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:08 PM
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You're going to seek out the positive traits and stay away from the ones that you find to be negative. My partner is very similar to my dad in personality, but I love my dad. We have a great relationship and those same qualities help foster good relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:26 PM
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The common one that I see multiple times a week is bad oral hygiene. Bad breath and tooth decay from a lack of consistent brushing. That is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 09:13 PM
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He's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:41 PM
2

I don't like bigger guys!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:39 PM
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Guys like Kim Soo-Hyun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:36 PM
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She's also most likely looking for a man with an above average body. Above average won't have the same metrics for men and women, but they will both understand that they're above average and have no need to settle for less than that. Men with only 1 thing might settle for another, but a rich hot doctor isn't settling for anything short of what he wants, because there's no need. Rich hot women also exist and are looking at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:47 PM
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You do understand that there are women with their own money and looks too right? Being willing to settle doesn't mean forced to settle. They're no different than you. You choose to fuck down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:08 PM
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Why would he date down when he's rich and hot? There's no need for that. He might fuck her, but there's no reason to date her. You could date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:04 PM
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How many of the girls your age that are also very fit have money or whatever else it is that you're lacking?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:00 PM
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You can't be lacking, but you don't need to be better than her in those areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:57 PM
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Most people are not paired off in lopsided relationships. I don't know this crap comes from when it's not what you see in real life. People generally match up with looks, lifestyles, and socioeconomic class factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:48 PM
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I get your point, but the average woman isn't attractive or in shape. She's significantly overweight. Saying a fat average girl with make up is as attractive as an average man with a gym body is kind of delusional. They are nowhere near the same. Men do not have the obligation to get fit because someone put on make up and to call it equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:28 PM
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Discretion is more common in the upper classes, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:11 PM
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Wanting, preferences, or even demands still don't equal entitlements. What you choose to accept is your business, but OP in wrong in saying that putting on make up is the same thing as spending time in the gym. She can still look like shit without make up and he still has to live with that part of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:08 PM
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Not the same thing. If someone is fit and they want a fit person that's completely reasonable. It's also completely reasonable if man is heavily into exercise and wants a woman that is not just in shape but also into the lifestyle and puts effort into their body too. If you're naturally in shape but demanding a bodybuilder there's a problem. It's about the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:53 PM
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There should be a psych exam as part of a background check for buying firearms or ammo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:33 PM
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If a woman spends time grooming then she can expect a man to spend time grooming. If a man spends time exercising then he can expect a woman that also works out. They are not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:22 PM
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My friends and coworkers are all extremely varied by ethnicities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:34 PM
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Women also date older, rarely younger. If you look at the ratios as they get older more men are in a ltr than women of the same age. It only makes sense that some are with those younger women. Couples are looksmatched socioeconomic matched in the US too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:00 AM
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40% of relationships are now started through online. I mean it's clearly working for them. It's not unrealistic if if it works for both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:46 PM
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I don't see why it's inaccurate. It showed what? That even though the women didn't rate the men as physically attractive on pictures alone that they messaged along a bell curve while men rated more evenly and pursued the top 30%. And men shotgun so every woman receives messages and hell if you have to do the approaching, you try to puch up as woman do. So if you were a woman with more attractive options approaching you on apps you too would take the best in the situation. That's natural behavior…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:28 PM
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Also a coincidence that 2/3 of messages from men on apps go to the top 1/3 of attractive women, despite there being a massive gender in balance on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:35 PM
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You also can't control what you find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:49 PM
1

Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:44 PM
1

I think some level of attraction is required for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:33 PM
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He was asking about other qualities making up for a lack of physical attraction, specifically in women, like personalities or money. Things like that. Some level of attraction is required.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:31 PM
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Asocial, anxiety ridden, autistic... There are multiple perfectly valid reasons that people end up isolated that has nothing to do with hypergamy or standards. Being socially isolated will make dating extremely difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:26 PM
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This made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:24 PM
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I don't know anyone that applies it that kind of things and that's insanity, not a mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:21 PM
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What would you consider yourself? That is how demis experience physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:19 PM
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Not all of it. Like a fight with a friend. Let it go and move on. Not getting a promotion and your current job still gives you what you need? That sucks, but maybe next time. To me it means don't internalize and become dramatic with self doubt for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:18 PM
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It has it's place. Don't take drama and disappointments to heart, because it's not worth it. Focus on the positive and enjoy the short time that we have here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:12 PM
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No, it's about being someone's type and not ugly or completely neutral to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:11 PM
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Ty too!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:10 PM
1

Completely reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:07 PM
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Yes, because this guy on here said muscles can make someone attractive despite a below average face. Then he said noooo, women obviously think you meant deformed ugly with that question. So l am asking this to everyone. Can a lack of all attraction be made up for other qualities to make you want to date them. Coincidentally he is the only that said yes, he would pay for facial surgery for them to be attractive to him. Weird, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:07 PM
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Damn demisexuals. 🤣 I figured that this would be your answer. I don't think the concept could be applied to your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:04 PM
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Would you make that effort to get to know her if you were looking to date or would it have to happen organically and damn, she's cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:01 PM
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Exactly. It's not about their objective attractiveness. If they don't do anything for you personally It's not going to matter. That could happen almost anywhere on the scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:58 PM
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No gotcha involved. Only asking if personal qualities can make up for a complete lack of physical attraction. I don't think that they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:57 PM
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So not someone you would intend to date, but you might ask her out if you knew her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:54 PM
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Meh, still physical attraction. You like that look. What if there was nothing. No small thing that was attractive. You are completely neutral or slightly negative on appearance. Can a personality quality make up for 0 physical appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:51 PM
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That's not unusual. You're still attracted, but she's not your normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:48 PM
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Okay. I need this distinction. Did you find her physically attractive? That's all that matters. It's not about objectively attractive, but subjective. If you found her attractive then she doesn't count for this thought experiment. It's would you date a person that you had 0 physically appeal to you. Not hideous, just meh, does nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:47 PM
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No attraction to him and he's a random. Are you giving him a chance to see if he has these qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:34 PM
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Bruh... 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:29 PM
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She's not hideous. Just below average and does not turn you on by appearance alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:29 PM
1

No side chicks! Future wife material only.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:23 PM
1

I suspect that is going to be the consensus.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:22 PM
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Let's say she's below average, but not repulsive. Just meh, doesn't do anything for me physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:19 PM
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Are you willing to date a 1/10 to see if they are your soul mate?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:15 PM
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Q4A Are there any qualities that would override a lack of physical attraction or would you look for both in someone else? Relationships only! Bunch of hoes on here 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:12 PM
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He's famous and a multimillionaire. Celebrities do not count for what women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:10 PM
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Last person to answer just said it's hideous OR any man she doesn't find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:07 PM
2

They work best in conjunction with therapy. You may need to try several. Success is highly dependent on body chemistry. Side effects usually fade in 1-2 weeks. Definitely worth a shot. They are meant to make your situation livable. They are by no means a cure or quick fix for most people unless it's purely chemical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:03 PM
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He is now arguing that objectively unattractive must be deformed or worst case scenario. Do you mean a guy that you don't find physically attractive or do you mean deformed and hideous?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:56 PM
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Those women are attracted to those men. No one said men need to be a model, but you 100% have to be not unattractive to her. Huge difference. I never said worst case. I said objectively unattractive. The women here said no, it wouldn't make a difference for them. That's their opinions and they are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:54 PM
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Go ahead and ask if objectively unattractive means deformed or below average. It has a clear meaning as below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:49 PM
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Did I say deformed? I said objectively unattractive aka below average. Read the results. The answer is a clear no. If she doesn't find you attractive in the face the body won't make up for it. Stop telling women how they feel about attraction to men. The only strawman is you saying hideously deformed. Nice try though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:39 PM
1

Some state laws changing will never amount to a constitutional amendment. You need the majority of the country on the vote and you will never have it. This is an incel revenge fantasy that will never happen. Those men will end up in jail as threats long before that happens. Slavery is illegal. It will always be a choice and there are more men than women in this country. There will always be options for women to choose from iF they want a partner. All of these things have been tried and what did …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:37 PM
1

I am not a fan of facial hair. It's a little sloppy, but not remotely close to bad. He should clean it up and then it would be great for those into that look. No idea what to rate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:31 PM
1

You don't know the difference between federal law, Roe vs Wade, and a constitutional right? It will become a state issue, not a nationwide one, and no state or the federal govt can implement laws that violate the constitution. Do you understand how govt works on even a basic level?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:27 PM
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Are you really this uneducated? Roe vs Wade was never codified and never considered a constitutional right. It was a bodily automy and privacy issue under the court, not constitutional. Men will stay single even if it means women remaining virgins living with their parents. Look around the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:21 PM
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The constitution literally prevents it. Laws can't break the constitution. Sorry about your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:16 PM
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That's not true though. You choose to live under those laws and consent to taxes by working under those laws. I mean you can move. The constitution prevents owning people, sorry. Consent required.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:13 PM
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But would you find yourself physically attracted to either?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:09 PM
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It would also apply to really noticeable asymmetry. Some with a clear very bad feature that stands out too. Muscles aren't going to make up for that. If you're pretty average looking but have high bf of course it's going to help a lot and that's most guys. Most guys are going to call into the average category by default. It's not going to make up for people that have those issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:07 PM
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Not having something that there's no entitlement to or isn't a need is never going a problem for others to fix. Why? You can't force someone to consent or have feelings. You can't own humans. We moved past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:02 PM
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No, I said that other qualities or money can not create physical attraction. That's just facts, not blackpill. Can you find someone to use you for money? Sure. Can you get a woman that you don't find attractive with it? Yes. Can you create physical attraction where none exists? You're not a magician.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:00 PM
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Carrot top for one off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:58 PM
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Average? Sure. Ugly? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:55 PM
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I am not mad or offended. I am showing him that it's not how attraction works. Maybe he can save himself from disappointment instead of being angry over something that never made sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:52 PM
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Where did I say that?? I said no one will be in a relationship with someone they don't find attractive. I said that's not a societal problem and you need to be someone your partner wants. Wow, common sense is now the blackpill?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:50 PM
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Who is offended by truth? Not me. Being fit doesn't make up for being ugly to women. A body doesn't create sexual attraction. It adds to it, but it doesn't create it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:49 PM
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Women saying that you need sexual attraction for sex and relationships isn't blackpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:46 PM
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Q4W Does a man being fit override being objectively unattractive in the face for your sexual attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:45 PM
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There's a 30 year old on here. 6'2. Makes well over 6 figures and he's fit. Can't get a woman that doesn't treat him like trash, abuse him, and outright use him for money. They don't even pretend to want him, because he is below average in the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:37 PM
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Not super attractive and finding you not attractive at all are not the same thing. Would qualities make up for a woman that you found ugly and unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:33 PM
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Not to being attractive. You're ugly with a fit body, not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:32 PM
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There's levels of physical attraction, circumstances and other qualities of a person compensate. Tell me what qualities an obese ugly woman can have that will make your dick hard. I can wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:19 PM
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Why does it drive you nuts that women will reduce their standards as they run out of options or time and that includes physical attraction? Because that's not what's happening. They're valuing other things for a relationship and he needs to be the best of her options, not the hottest. There's a difference. You're implying that women are getting desperate or chasing attention while also telling me that 30% of men 18-30 can't get laid and it's a problem. I am going to need you to choose a side. Si…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:17 PM
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Why are so many women many married mothers on antidepressants? Tee hee. Why do single women without children live longer healthier lives? Why do men younger when single and experience the opposite? Because men take more from women in relationships and the return to our happiness is not equal. There's no disparity between women on antidepressants. Hitting the wall exists, people talk about it here, even liberal women will acknowledge the concept of "settling down" or settling in general This is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:41 PM
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No, no option is always a choice. It's always 100% an option to not be with anyone that you don't find attractive. That's not hypergamy. Women reject attractive men too and choose to be alone rather than unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:28 PM
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I am in a relationship, my second one actually. Never claimed to be single. I pursued him too. I rejected every man that ever pursued me immediately over a lack of attraction. I do only have relationships on my terms, as does everyone. You seem to miss that point. These men and women out here dating and having casual sex are doing it on their terms and living life how they want. That doesn't hurt you. They wouldn't and don't want to date you. It's funny you should say that about women being visu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:26 PM
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I just say thank you, but I'm not interested. There's no need to makes excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:16 PM
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If women were open to sex or relationships with guys they weren't attracted to then incels wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:12 PM
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You're assuming that women have the same sex drive as men, we don't. Most women don't orgasm from intercourse, less than 25%, because of anatomy. Women are also visually driven for attraction. No, there is a reason most women aren't fucking their friends and it's not because of options. They're having sex and relationships with the ones they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:10 PM
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That is not true at all. I have asexual attraction. It's immediately there or it's not. It's been 3 men in my entire life that I have felt it for and I am 29. It doesn't change or grow. Physical attraction is a thing. Not amount of nice guy is turning her on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:08 PM
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Technically you'd have to refer to the relevant agencies' policy and procedures manuals. That's what I said. It's up to what their expected duties are and they most definitely have a policy on it, but their behavior could end being all justified as preventing more lives lost by preventing the parents from entering if they weren't compliant. Public safety involved more than the students in the room he was barricaded in. It sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:06 PM
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But naturally she still has to agree. There can't be anything forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:01 PM
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No, I would never be with someone that I don't find sexually attractive and want to be with under any circumstances. Why do you think most girls aren't fucking their friends? A lack of attraction. How do you plan on getting married without that unless it's forced? You're not. A forced marriage will only result in resentment for you. particularly when there are no other available partners. That will never be the case to find a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:00 PM
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Fucking requires sexual attraction and a desire to please you. Her hand can replace you in a heartbeat and never let her down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:54 PM
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Not arranged marriage. Winning her family over and having the resources, reputation, and personality to impress them. That doesn't involve your family being involved except to be judged by their reputation and standing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:53 PM
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No, most parents do not approve first. Many people are hated by their in laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:51 PM
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That's fine, but it's not the same as being fired for dereliction of duty or them failing to do their job if they didn't. No one is happy with how it was handled, but that doesn't mean that they by default didn't do their duty. That would mean that regulations and responses need to be changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:50 PM
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That's up to the local govt to decide whether it was expected for them to do what they did and or if they didn't. I won't pretend to know what their expected duties are, but they may have done their jobs and nothing more. You can't be fired for not going above and beyond your duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:45 PM
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So a roommate...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:40 PM
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I don't know that it's the same with govt employment. They were on the scene. There may be legal protection for them, justified or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:39 PM
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Is it dereliction of duty under the law?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:31 PM
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What is holding up your responsibilities? No cheating isn't the same as having sex. Not being abusive isn't the same as being loving and supportive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:28 PM
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The Supreme Court ruled in 2005 that cops do not have a constitutional duty to protect people from harm and cannot be sued for it. So... Don't get me wrong, I love good police officers, but it's not a job to be taken lightly. Imagine if our military had the same protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:25 PM
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Multiple children left the scene alive and later died from their injuries. 13 of those 19 children were received as patients. Yes, they survived that hour and bled out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:23 PM
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They absolutely knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:19 PM
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It's called the golden hour in medicine for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:15 PM
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A ban on divorce isn't the definition of marriage. It's slavery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:10 PM
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First ban contraceptive access for people who aren't married. Abortion would obviously be banned. Women and men would get heavily social shamed if they had a kid outside of marriage. Divorce would be punished or not allowed. Apps like tinder would also be banned, maybe ban OLD completely but establish social spaces for meeting people IRL. Churches kind of do this but I'm not religious which makes it difficult. Banning sex out of wedlock or LTRs would fix a significant number of dating problems. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:07 PM
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Having any sexual contact outside of marriage. Think sharia type law. You need marriage and you need her family's approval first. Are you going for that so every man gets a shot at their virgin pair bonding princess that might in theory not hate you and may fuck you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:03 PM
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That's all cool until you end up hanging for property damage to someone else's future chattle, sorry, wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:58 PM
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We need more kids to be born. Gun violence is the number cause of death for American children. The only solution is more children being born and to die from disease and neglect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:56 PM
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He's a loner that wants a sharia like system imposed on American women so they can't have sex and for their families choose a husband for them via social pressure. Dude has issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:52 PM
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Q4M republican/conservative men only How you have had casual sex? Would you support a law that forced celibacy until marriage, giving up all casual sex for yourself, so that guys that can't get women to date them "have their chance"? 3.Would you support a full patriarchy system where your acceptance is now not only based on the woman saying yes, but getting her family to choose you first based on your reputation/family status, your health/mental health, your finances and assets, and whether or n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:49 PM
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They still won't date you, screw you, and they damn sure won't spend their lives with you when being single is more appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:54 PM
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It's definitely better than average. I wouldn't say that I have had a difficult life, but I've also worked hard with school and dedicated myself to be in this position.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:45 PM
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When separated by religion roman catholics were 1/4 of abortions in the US. The highest of any religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 09:14 AM
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East Asia is still functional despite a 40% VIRGINITY rate for adults 40 and under, weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:05 AM
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It shows and we are proud. We little people are grateful for your dedication. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:01 AM
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"Fuck us or we'll force you to do it." Now ask why women avoid men again. Nope, stay single. As I said before the majority have adapted and aren't struggling. Men and women collectively benefit from each other. That is unless you would like the majority of health care providers, teachers, social workers, and so on... to disappear. Women earn the most money in 40% of households. We no longer need men to survive. You have to be someone we want. This is entirely a personal problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:00 AM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:55 AM
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You can't force feelings or relationships. Those men will stay single, regardless of how large the number becomes. You can't expect people to have sex or to be with someone they don't want. Do you know east asia has a significant singles population? Relationships benefit men and not women there. Is that a woman's problem to fix or to feel bad for those men? No. Is it ever going to be their problem to feel bad for them? No. Women would rather stay single and even celibate for life than to deal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:52 AM
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People are having less casual sex. People aren't entering relationships that they don't want or need. Those are good things, because it means people are making choices for their happiness rather than by force or expectations. Sex is not a need for survival. It's not a problem and there is no entitlement to either a relationship or sex from someone else. You or anyone else not being able to attract a partner is not a societal problem. There are no harems going on. Women typically date a few years…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:38 AM
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Yes, let's call all people liars when their narrative doesn't match up to what you want to hear. You have apparently never heard of heartbreak and taking time to heal, focusing on your studies, or being too busy with caring for a sick parent to date. Those things don't happen and they have to be lying when they said that they were too busy to date or enjoyed being single, aka sleeping around. The number has gone done since the beginning of the pandemic. More men had sex and the number for celiba…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:24 AM
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Single as in not in a committed relationship. 49% of men aged 18-29 are in committed relationships. The vast majority are getting laid. Half of young men are not celibate. Celibacy rates drop dramatically after the age of 25. It's young unattractive men with no social skills and introverts that struggle the most because they're not aren't being approached by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:14 AM
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51% of men 18-29 were single during a study and 33% of the men were not looking for relationships or casual dates. Those men are going to take up a decent chunk of that number. Most men are not struggling to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:05 AM
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That's not an empty threat, just fact, and in a few decades your taxes will have already supported more than full generation of those kids. Someone has to pay for their food stamps, daycare, wic, medicaid, foster care, and public housing. The state sure is as hell isn't going to cover it without additional revenue. States are already passing laws making the father responsible for half of the costs of pregnancy, birth, and maternal fees related to her pregnancy. We're going to see a lot more of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:52 AM
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It's ridiculous that you think all of these abortions are from Chad's "harem girls" as if most men aren't having regular sex and in relationships. Those kids belong to Billy too. The only thing banning abortion is going to do is raise your taxes to support the kids being born that can't be afforded. Way to punish those women. They give those kids up to the state and you still have to pay for them. The better off women go to states where it's legal. Only poorer women will be hurt by a ban and of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:39 AM
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5% of pregnancies between married couples end in abortion today. That number was 10% in 1986 and 1980. Abortion rates have been halved in the last 20 years. They're 1/3 of what they were 50 years ago. In 1973 there were 148 abortions for every 100 live births in total. Today there are 45 abortions for every 100 live births.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:29 AM
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I bet it was because women got married earlier and didnt have sex before marriage as much. Women have changed since then, so i doubt abortion being illegal tomorrow would mean the stat would stay the same People have always had premarital sex and a lot of it. They had abortions too whether safe or not. No, the statistics won't change if they're made illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:21 AM
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But I thought they were married and not having premarital sex?? Wasn't that your point? Women weren't single and fucking around before abortion and these crazy marriage ages in their 20's. Like back then how the after marital age was around 21. Remember that great time everyone talks about that never actually existed?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:17 AM
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Abortions were only illegal in the US for less than 100 years. Do you really think that premarital sex is some new thing? 30-40% of brides were pregnant at marriage during the late 1700's in the US and it wasn't considered a big deal. Abortion was legal too. It was only illegal since the early 1900s. These are not new things in society at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:11 AM
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Girls are married off into other families. Boys marry and bring girls into the family to provide more help at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:47 AM
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I never wanted to be pregnant. That will never changed and I ensured that it would be impossible with sterilization. We will adopt if l ever desire more kids than my partner's daughter. There are too many unwanted kids in this world as it is now and they need loving homes. There's nothing that could change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:16 AM
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33% of those men are not looking to date or for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:02 AM
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A lot of women don't want kids due to the culture. It has very little to do with education. You are expected to raise the kids, take care of the house/cooking alone, take care of your husband, AND take care of your in laws while working full time and paying half of the bills. All while being given the emotional support of a rock from him. Fuck that noise. We want a full equal partnership or we don't want relationships. Even without having children most marriages in east Asian countries mean all …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:43 AM
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I didn't mention rape. The majority of abortions are because people can't afford a kid. It means dropping out of college or the children they already have not having the same quality of life. Not wanting to be pregnant is a reason to have an abortion. Your birth control failing is not a reason to have your life thrown away. Those numbers are from the cdc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 10:24 PM
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https://www.motherjones.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/blog_abortions_gestational_age-1.gif 91% of abortions are performed in the first trimester and 98.7% are performed at 20 weeks or before. 20 weeks is important because that is when the fetus is checked for abnormalities with an indepth ultrasound and measurements. That left over 1.3% are cases that endanger the life of the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 10:12 PM
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Grief counseling is also offered for that too. It has nothing to do with a psychological issue with them thinking they killed their child or guilt. It's most often used by for later term abortion after 18 weeks because the parents found severe deformities or a child couldn't survive. That is the death of a wanted child that those parents had to make a choice to end the pregnancy. Most abortions are done before 10 weeks and involve nothing more than 2 pills that induce a period and expulsion, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 10:05 PM
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Grief counseling is also recommended for patients that required aggressive surgeries for cancers like hysterectomy or mastectomy. That is also removing cells from your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:53 PM
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I think your concerns are the only valid reason that I can think of to not be willing to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:48 PM
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Q4A Would you use dating apps if you were required to provide state ID/license to register. The information is only on file to by used by the police for use in investigations. ie claims of rape, paternity claims after ghosting, or assault and robbery Please explain why if your answer is no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:40 PM
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No child ever needs to handle a gun to see something die. No child needs to handle a gun to learn gun safety either. Take your children hunting and educate them. Don't give them access to guns that YOU can not control at all times because it is also in your physical possession. I shot guns growing up. I learned gun safety. Not once was my grandfather or father's hands not in control of that gun at all times. That is responsible child gun safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:20 PM
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111 are killed by gun violence. Guns are the number cause of death for American children and you don't think we have a gun problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:08 PM
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In the US we have averaged more than 1 mass shooting per day in 2022. That's a whole lot of assault weapon usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:04 PM
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AR15's account for 28% of mass shootings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:01 PM
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I need to know how I should feel about my partner liking my ex's pictures on fb. Should I be concerned or is it normal to enjoy seeing people that you have no reason to be jealous of happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:49 PM
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What is wrong with you? That's rape. Nobody is ashamed of anyone being raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:45 PM
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From your own site... 675 self defense uses listed for 2020. So again, I ask if you can provide actual data that a good amount of the 45,222 deaths from 2020 we done in self defense. Edit: "There's a good reason to believe that most self defense of justified use isn't reported, because" is not a stat. That's some made up assumed shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:39 PM
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Ohhh, fancy girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:32 PM
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Good luck with your electrolysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:30 PM
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Provide actual stats for these self defense and justified gun use numbers that you are most definitely pulling out of your ass. The US has 31% of the world's mass shootings. Can you name a single one of these mass shootings done in self defense?? Edit: the 20,000 number you posted is not gun deaths for 2020. That was gun deaths from Jan to May 2020. There were 45,222 known gun deaths in 2020.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:28 PM
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Why do you have cooties to be zapped?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:20 PM
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That's why we have this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:19 PM
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How many times does this happen? It was a world news story for a reason. Do you see this happening daily around the world? You do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:18 PM
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Entitled assholes that believe their displeasure and mental illness give them the right to go shooting people. Other countries with guns don't have this you're so special snowflake culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:15 PM
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There have been 24 mass killings in France since WW2. There have been 27 school shootings in the US this year. I don't think that's comparable. There have been 214 mass shootings in the US this year where 4 or more people have been shot. Yes, we have a gun problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:10 PM
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I don't think anyone under the age of 18 should be allowed to independently handle a gun, period. You should not be allowed to handle an object designed to kill if you're not old enough to be expected to be responsible for your emotions and actions at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:04 PM
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Yes, to remove the sticky starch from the surface.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:52 PM
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That's what I thought. Apparently OP had much different parents and no job as a minor.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:35 PM
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No one has suggested arming all students to get more good guns in the hands of good people. Have hope! This could get worse!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:20 PM
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I don’t want to be armed. I want to feel safe in my work place. Have you considered changing careers given the current situation? This might be a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 06:18 PM
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I'm still going to pretend that the baby expressed that they're a mermaid. #goals
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 06:16 PM
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Isn't your son an infant??? #goals
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 06:09 PM
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Children are held back for reasons that have nothing to do with educators. There might be a disability, truancy, work not being done at home, or work not being done in class. Educators have a job at work to teach kids 40 mins of subject material that enables you the ability to do your homework. It is 100% not their job to make your child listen at school or home to cooperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 06:07 PM
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There's no contract at all outside of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:49 PM
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Were your parents involved or in control of your finances?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:20 PM
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You break your commitment when you no longer treat your partner as an equal with feelings and disrespect your commitment to their happiness. It becomes abusive emotionally and no is bound to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:16 PM
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Most people aren't leaving to be with someone else. They are leaving because the relationship no longer works. Do you think that a partner should stay with a person that now refuses to have sex with them? Do you think that other partner should be obligated to have sex they don't want? Should someone stay when their partner has changed and now makes them feel bad about themselves? What level of unhappiness needs to be there before it's you weren't committed?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:07 PM
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Winning at life is fulfilling personal dreams, not someone else's dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:56 PM
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Yes, severe mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:55 PM
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When does commitment happen? When should no longer seeing someone signal the death of commitment? After a few years of monogamous dating when you should know if this is it or not? Only after marriage? When exactly does commitment turn from we choose to work together to I am obligated to remain despite no longer wanting to be here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:28 PM
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This guy passed his background checks too, so what exactly are they good for besides keeping felons from legally buying guns? We need something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:24 PM
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He didn't have a mental health or criminal history to prevent him. It's his right as an American citizen... 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:11 PM
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From the office of the Lousiana Governor saying that the senate is trying to ban emergency contraception and he will veto the bill. Their house already passed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:09 PM
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He bought them legally at a store.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:46 PM
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I had way more money than that saved in cash at 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:43 PM
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Some triggers laws ban plan b and iuds, because they can be used for emergency contraception to prevent implantation. That is true, but as of now that ban only includes having it put it as emergency contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:34 PM
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I wonder what we're going to do with all of these babies that people don't want or don't have the resources for. Watch taxes significantly rise to pay for subsidies such as food stamps, daycare, public housing, and medicaid. Multiple states now have bills in their senates stating that biological fathers are now responsible for 50% of the mother's out of pocket costs for the birth. States are going to go after more fathers to get their money back too. Children being given up into the system will …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:19 PM
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Plan B and IUDs are being looked at as abortion meds. "Life begins at conception." They're taking it literally and you can do nothing to prevent implantation. Preventing implanting is now abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:54 PM
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It all matters in dating, but being older and wealthier is never going to make you more attractive than the hot guy her age that already has his shit together plan wise and is carrying it out. That's a redpill fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:31 PM
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No, I would not agree actually. An older, but less attractive, wealthier guy is never going to going to be attractive to a younger attractive woman that actually wants him as anything more than a wallet. Be the best version of yourself. That's something that socially aware people already know. If you need a strategy to date then you're starting off way below average. Again, you shouldn't have to be told these things. People want sexual attraction, stability, and compatibility together. That requ…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:18 PM
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It puzzles me more that anyone needs advice to take care of yourself and get your shit together. Those things should all be common sense and not need to be said. Would you find those things attractive in a partner? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:33 PM
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But it is a standard for many other people. Would that be a problem? Why are you getting offended over other people being allowed to have perfectly reasonable standards if they meet them?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:07 PM
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What happened to being on the same level as them?? Do you immediately share your complete sexual past? The number of hook ups, fwbs, past relationships and all of that to see if you meet their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:05 PM
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I think it's unethical to make someone's history of trauma or disorder of any kind of part of your standards if it doesn't inhibit their ability to be a good partner I know I shouldnt do it but feel rather helpless when my feelings are repeatedly being hurt and the negative behaviors are yet to improve. So I take control of the only thing I really feel I can influence in a moment of distress and powerlessness and I determine that we are not to have sex until I feel better about things. The rejec…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:59 PM
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Do you immediately tell guys that you have a personality disorder and ask them about their mental health so they can decide if you meet their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:34 PM
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I like tattoos, but they need to fit your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:00 PM
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Bro, just stop. You have no idea what genuinely suicidal people do. The "cries for help" give you information. You can't manipulate genuinely suicidal people into giving themselves up. They don't want you to have information. They don't want to be remembered or known. They want to disappear like they never existed. People don't call hotlines or crisis when they actively want to die. They call because they don't want to die, but don't know how to make the pain stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:55 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:34 PM
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Jfc, she answered and said the same thing. Do you have a medical degree?? Do you? No, you do not. He can not be talked down. That's why it's called FORCED.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:27 PM
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Super sweet guy that needs to take his ass and get the help he deserves for a medical condition, not a failure as a man condition. This shit is why social media sucks so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:59 PM
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He doesn't want help. He needs forced hospitalization for that, but we need a name or number.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:44 PM
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He needs hospitalized, not therapy. He actively wants to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:28 PM
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Yes, that's him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:04 PM
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Bunny ears remarkable sort
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:58 PM
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Yeah, I really hope someone has person info
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:58 PM
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Sorry honey. Little focused on someone suicidal at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:57 PM
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Everyone is doing great. She's settled right in and is comfortable and happy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:45 PM
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Remarkable sort
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:31 PM
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Does anyone one have Bunny ears personal info? He is planning suicide and he needs professional help for his depression. Please reach out if you have to u/pineappleglazedham
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:25 PM
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Gold diggers
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:19 AM
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I'm sorry for your losses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:54 PM
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Still b, but c is probably objectively higher on the scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:27 PM
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I brush off compliments for the reasons you said, but if someone keeps saying things I don't want to keep talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:09 PM
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I think they're equally attractive on an objective scale, but l favor asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:05 PM
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I think the only time what you've described would happen is with someone with severe insecurities and it would go far beyond questioning what to buy him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:40 PM
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No. Does that happen to you when you shop for your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:06 AM
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I don't know if that could be legally done. Could it? You would need the mother's consent if unwed, because it's not a necessary medical procedure. A husband is the presumed father and could consent. Unmarried father could only consent to that after signing the bc as he has no rights until that moment. It's a whole host of issues legally, which is why I think it hasn't been done. I think that it should be optional for the couple involved and offered at every birth. Like if you had fertility issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:34 PM
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Go call your legislation and tell them that you want it banned. There is no law forcing it. I won't respond to you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:24 PM
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Yeah sure, do you think the state cares? I can almost guarantee that these guys will end up in jail over it as it will be seen as child support arrears. They don't care. This is their breadcrumb to we aren't punishing women with the abortion bans and honestly it should have existed a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:17 PM
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Go call your legislative body and get that banned. It has absolutely nothing to do with this thread. Parents choosing circumcision and fathers being responsible for half of the mother's cost of pregnancy are unrelated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:10 PM
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Apparently one was passed in Utah. It allows the mother to seek half of out of pocket costs for the birth directly from the father. I am thinking that if abortion is banned it will become state mandated law almost everywhere that the state sues the father for 50% of the state expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:00 PM
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Sorry Bandit. That wasn't directed at you. Yes, but it would be the labia minora which some infants are born without, but still not really the same thing in terms of safety to the child. They can also become naturally fused and require surgery. It can cause a host of functional issues with the vagina, which is why it's called mutilation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:57 PM
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Did you really think these abortion bans were going to accept unneeded state fees to cover their forced births? I expect child support laws to change to a higher amount too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:52 PM
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I never said he wasn't. I was only interested in the laws being proposed in multiple states and already passed in Utah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:49 PM
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https://www.npr.org/2021/04/07/985089967/utah-law-requires-biological-fathers-to-pay-half-of-pregnancy-related-medical-co Utah law already passed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:46 PM
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That was not your original statement. FGM is not the same as male circumcision either. The equivalent would be removing the entire head of the penis rather than the foreskin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:45 PM
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Utah apparently already has a similar law and the funds are due after confirmation if it's disputed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:43 PM
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No state forces circumcision or denies it. The draft is federal, not state level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:39 PM
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I assume that he will have the option to sue her after the fact to have his money returned if he is not declared the father, because the law covers unwed mothers too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:38 PM
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I am glad to see that it's already been passed in Utah. I see that at least PA and MI have it up for votes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:36 PM
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The bills are designed to stop the states from spending more money on Medicaid births. The father will become legally responsible for half the costs incurred, presumably through medicaid or her insurance? The mother would have to be on the insurance for the birth to be covered. The child's part of the bill doesn't happen until after delivery, so the father is responsible for half of her medical bills, not only the child's.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:34 PM
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The Pennsylvania senate wants to pass a law allowing pregnant women to recover half of all pregnancy related expenses from the father, thus making child support begin at conception. Edit: apparently PA is not the only state with these bills in their senates
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:26 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 08:33 PM
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This is not responsible for his sperm or your pregnancy guy. It's better this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:55 PM
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No sexual attraction from me for either, but guy 1 is way more attractive in every facet for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:16 PM
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Guy 1 for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:00 PM
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She should have left him after he ignored her months and she tried to reach him. He abandoned his marriage go get drunk and push his own wife away. It's not an excuse for cheating, but she should have left him. He left the marriage too when he checked out. Why should a woman stay with a man that abandons her for 6 months to become a drunk? Because he was upset?? Like their fertility issues didn't equally hurt her? It wasn't her dream as well to have kids that just ended? His feelings didn't mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 08:23 AM
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Too late. You already voted yourself into forced child support by voting against any abortions. Enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 07:26 AM
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Listen to the conservatives. You can't get a girl pregnant if you keep your pants on, but if you have sex, you need to pay the consequences. Babies happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:58 AM
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Yeah sure. We all know that conservatives are really really big on taxpayers supporting children that they trying to force birth. You can pay higher taxes for the the men with no jobs through welfare and child support for your own. It's a win win. Well done. You did great. That law will never be changed, because all of those laws are in the child's best interest and the state's economy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:54 AM
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The law says otherwise. Those are the consequences of your consent to put your sperm in her. You go tell the judge all of that and watch him laugh in your face. Refuse to pay your support and go to jail. You don't get to make the decisions, the law does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:47 AM
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Your sperm is inside of her. She is not choosing to get pregnant. That's not a choice. You are both equally responsible for the conception of that child. Where the hell is women's accountability for their choices to have sex? It's the same accountability that you are claiming to not have because once sex is over it's not your fault. Well than embryo is growing through no choice of her own. That's not her bodily choice. The only thing that she could choose is to abort it. The only reason men like…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:50 AM
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It's only biological. That doesn't mean you should love them less or allow them to be treated differently. That just makes you a shit parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:27 AM
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Because you choose your kids. Someone else doesn't get to say that's not your child and that is what you're doing. I would disown my entire family over that, because they would no longer be my family. Nothing comes before my daughter, not her dad, and certainly not my parents. If you can't fully accept my child as your family then you can fuck right off. How could you put anything before your kids or remain in contact with someone that denies them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 01:59 AM
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He said was hardly ever at home or around her and distanced himself. He sounds like a some times room mate. He's not home enough to notice her being gone for weekends or nights at the gfs house. I would say that's pretty bad. I don't really know how to take this in any way other than you making excuses for her behavior. To me, you're essentially asking "what did you expect to happen?" No, I am saying that no one would be shocked if she left if he can be taken at his word that he basically cut he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 01:43 AM
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If you're okay with someone saying that your kids aren't your kids then I guess do you, but that's a horrible person that should never be around your kids again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 01:39 AM
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True enough, but my needs are already being met. I still wish you luck on your journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:15 AM
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No, newer user and this is my only account. I wish you good luck on your milf hunting, but it won't be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:10 AM
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I am a parent. I am adopting my partner's daughter. We're in the legal process now. I have been raising her as my child for a year now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:06 AM
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I never once defended or excused her behavior. He never once claimed that she blamed him for the affair either. Here is my problem with your argument on the 6 months. You are the same guy that says about unfair treatment if an ex got sex at this point in a relationship and how it's treating the new guy badly. Somehow you also say a woman that leaves or whatever after 6 months of being admittedly abandoned by her husband and treated poorly isn't really committed. Let's do what we can here at take…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 12:05 AM
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There are a lot of reasons that sex dies in a marriage, but not being an equal partner is a huge one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:43 PM
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I didn't say that she was better than him. I also said it was no excuse for her to cheat. He on the other hand checked out of his own life for 6 months and ignored his wife and responsibilities in his marriage. That is a breach of vows. Her reasons for cheating and his reasons for checking out don't matter. They both had a responsibility to each other and their relationship. You don't get to forget your spouse because some shit is happening that you don't want to deal with in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:39 PM
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Now you might be pregnant 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:34 PM
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So you moved the goal posts from he wasn't a bad partner to she should have been more committed to a drunk that abandoned her for 6 months, nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:31 PM
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Congrats and good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:27 PM
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He really is taking care of my boyfriend's child. I didn't give birth to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:26 PM
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He threw himself into work, wasn't home often, and was drunk. What about that sounds like a good partner? He admits that she tried to help him for months and it did nothing, so she stopped. That's not being gaslit. That's honest self reflection. You can't be a good partner when you're not there. You can't be a good partner when you put work and alcohol above your relationship either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:18 PM
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I think many men are missing something from that statement. If men took the initiative to help more instead of being asked repeatedly to do something it would then come across as positive. If she has to tell you then she's parenting you. I tell my daughter to rinse her dishes in the sink. I shouldn't need to tell him that. The last thing I am going to feel is sexual attraction if you make me feel like your parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:16 PM
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It doesn't excuse it, but she had an affair because she was neglected and unhappy. Even he admits that he wasn't a good partner. She should have just left him before that happened. Don't cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:07 PM
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Why would I be turned on by him doing housework that I shouldn't have to ask him to do? It's about damn time doesn't equal being turned on. That's an expectation. I shouldn't have to ask you to pull your own weight let alone demand that you do basic housework. Sex is not a reward for being an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:55 PM
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You clearly have no idea how much attention and care an infant requires.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:45 PM
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My bf is a father. Nothing turns me on more than walking in the house to find him having a tea party or engaging with whatever she wants without worrying about how he looks to others. He gets his hair done by her too. Yes, being a good father is sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:42 PM
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You mean while she naps, takes a soaking bath, or does one of the million other things she can't do while she's caring for an infant alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:39 PM
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No, a man being an actual active father is sexy af. Very few things in life are more sexy than a man handling his responsibilities with his children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:28 PM
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Then he can hold his baby and not get shit done, seems reasonable. Or maybe he can not go out and stay trapped at home. You don't seem to understand the purpose of a stroller or baby carrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:26 PM
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It's cucked to be a dad that realizes he needs hands to do shit? Since when?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:20 PM
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There's a crazy front coming through. Not sure where you live, but it's going to drop 20 degrees here for the high tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:13 PM
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Give it a try and interview some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 09:03 PM
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Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:58 PM
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Getting someone in twice a week to do floors, windows, and to sanitize the kitchen and bathrooms makes a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:58 PM
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He does do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:46 PM
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Get well soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:45 PM
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Hard work won't erase autism or mental illness. It won't erase introversion. It won't develop social skills or a personality that others find attractive. That's why there are average and attractive men that can get laid but can't get relationships or friends. No surgery can change that and all relationships require much more than physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:37 PM
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Many yes and they cleaned by actual confident masculine men that weren't so insecure that they felt threatened by specific behaviors. Living in filth is not a sign of masculinity. It's a sign of being lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:49 PM
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The only time I see that is when men say that women SHOULD have sex just because he wants it, regardless of how she is feeling. That's not okay under most circumstances. That's not the same as I haven't felt like it recently and he feels neglected.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:25 PM
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No one said they can't know, but you are saying that those grandparents have inherent rights to deny those grandchildren and treat them different from birth because of dna. That's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:15 PM
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Do your parents have the right to know that your wife was raped? That's what you're saying. That your parents have the right to deny a child that you claimed as your own, because your wife was the victim of a crime and their DNA is different. You think that your parents have the right to tell that kid to go call their rapist daddy's parents if they want attention. That is okay with you? Really? That's okay with you? It's okay with you for parents to deny your children or that their mother is the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:40 PM
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No one claims wanting sex is marital rape. Having sex with her against her will is rape, regardless of marital status. She's not property. I would also argue them men do not have a providing nature based on the amount of men that want a 50/50 relationship is fine, but those men that want traditional relationships trade money for a stay at home wife, not a sex doll.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:24 PM
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Not alive or in contact with them. Adopted children don't have access to them. Children from donors don't have them. This isn't even about inheritance. No biology entitles anyone to inheritance. It can all go to their favorite child, grandchildren, or even a neighbor and that is completely fair. What's not fair is to call someone your grandchild and then treat them differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:15 PM
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She won't want you for you, not ever. Her behavior won't change either. She will still be continuing the behavior for the attention of men. That is a pick me that wants a man for status.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:05 PM
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How is that the child's problem and why would you allow someone to exclude your children? That's some shitty ass parenting. If you get divorced it's okay for her to remarry and he treats his kids differently? Same rules, different rewards. Go tell your kids to stop expecting to be seen as kids in a house where they're called family and expect them to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:00 PM
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Do you think that biological grandchildren should all receive an equal inheritance because of biology?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:56 PM
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Should any kids receive less love because their parents got divorced and remarried? No. Are these kids allowed to treat these grandparents differently in your house? No, no they're not. They're expected to treat them like everyone one and respect your parents while being treated completely differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:43 PM
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Well that's pretty special. You're okay with innocent children being treated differently because of blood relation in the same family, to which they had 0 choice, and your wife having to prove that she's not a whore to your parents based on absolutely nothing. You can think what you want, but your kids do not have to agree or live by your beliefs. They don't have to allow their spouses to be disrespected. They also don't need to respect you as an adult, because biology is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:00 PM
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Show me where someone, anyone at all, said that they make the same effort to attract people regardless of how much they want them. No one says that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:18 PM
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Tell me who cleans their house when they're alone? They do or they hire it out. Who cooks? They do or they go out. Masculine men do indeed do feminine work for themselves all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:17 PM
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Why would you expect women to treat men exactly like their ex when that person isn't their ex and hasn't built the same relationship? Attraction can also be lost. No, I am not finding you as hot as you were 50lbs ago when you took care of yourself and weren't a sloppy mopey mess. The women in this study weren't even dating these men. It was what should would you wear on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:11 PM
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You're okay with your dad suggesting that your wife is a whore that cheated behind your back and committed paternity fraud? That's going to be some marriage you have left. It's also some weird ass relationship with your parents that as a grown adult you would let them tell you what's acceptable in your relationship. Do you honestly think that's okay?? My daughter is being adopted. If that ever occurred with any family member it would be the last time they ever spoke to me again. Biology doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:56 PM
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You'd be fine with your dad asking for a DNA test for all of your kids because he has some weird right to know that those are his grandkids?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:47 PM
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That's true. Now tell me why you feel entitled to any information about another adult's sex life, relationship, fertility, decision to adopt, or any other person aspect that doesn't concern you. A child that your child legally claims as their own is your grandchild. Their biology is not your business. That is only the business of the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:37 PM
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A pick me woman wants a man, any man, not you. That is not a loyal woman that wants or even desires you. It's about her status and nothing us.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:18 PM
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Billy beta needs to stop whining about shit "endlessly" if it's not actually important and can be blown off last minute for a trip to the beach.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:46 PM
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Did you read the post? These men are still doing housework, just not equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:45 PM
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Would you care if your grandchildren were adopted or conceived using donor sperm eggs because your children were infertile? How 2 consenting adults have children is not anyone else's business. How consenting adults live out their relationships or kinks is not anyone else's business either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:33 PM
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A guy blowing off an actual project needing done that he spent weeks complaining about isn't the same as her seeing him as beta. That's more of a wtf were you wasting my time complaining about it for if you can blow it off moment. That has nothing to do with being adventurous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:28 PM
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Adventurous- being willing to be spontaneous and to try fun things. Let's take a road trip to the beach this weekend. Assertive- having a backbone and speaking up for what you do or don't like. Have opinions and voice them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:30 PM
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There's nothing confident, sexy, or masculine about a man that wants a woman to take care of him like a child and then demands she listens to him like a child of his, not ever. This is how you get a dead bedroom, because we aren't trying to fuck our children or our parents either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:06 PM
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Why do you think housework still tends to be shared so unequally? People stay in relationships and allow it to happen. It's because people get with dirty ass people and expect being in a relationship to change them. Some of it is because of old entitlements to having a mommy maid for many men. Many men want traditional women despite not earning enough to afford for her to stay home, no commitment, and then she should somehow do it anyway out of love. Don't be with or stay with someone that doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:34 PM
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The link he posted is about men pump and dumping women that they don't consider wife material, male dual mating strategy, not women treating men differently based on attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:51 AM
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That's some of it, but it's also tied to those other things. If the girls perceives herself as less attractive she will wear flats. It's also part of the reason that 26% of women would wear flats for men they did find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:47 AM
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Highlights Preference for high heels correlated with female self-perceived attractiveness. Shorter body height correlated with preferences for high heels. High heels were most preferred in interaction with an attractive male. High heels were least preferred in interaction with an unattractive male. High heels are female sexual signals
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:18 AM
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I usually laugh at shit posted here or wonder how some people can be so fucked up. It's really interesting and entertaining, but not something that I take seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:11 AM
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Growing up in the southern US l was taught not to fight back, because your odds of being seriously injured or killed by your attacker are much higher. I asked u/pineappleglazedham if these things were true, since that's her job, and she told me that the women that did are the ones with the worst head injuries or more likely to be killed. I guess there is a reason they teach it to us in schools after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:10 AM
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I see my parents pretty much daily, at least 6 days a week. I always hug them. We have always been verbally expressive, because my dad wasn't raised that way by his father and it bothered him. We were hugged multiple times a day. My parents still hug me every morning when l drop my dogs off at their house for them to keep while l am at work. My brother and I were surrounded by love at all times. I can't honestly think of a single time that my parents have ever made me feel like one of them was d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 11:00 AM
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You freely and willingly put the sperm in there. Plan b doesn't prevent pregnancy and never has done that. It prevents ovulation only if it hasn't happened yet. It's not a choice at that point for her to get pregnant. The failure of birth control or the timing of egg release is not a choice that she has made with her body. Yes, you are half responsible for the results of that situation. You weren't raped. You weren't unaware of the possibilities. An abortion should be her choice to not CONTINUE …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 10:40 AM
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"Sure, he's a slut, but he's the kind of slut you can take home to mom and dad."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:41 AM
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I think he's 5'5? Somewhere around there, but he's not struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:12 AM
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u/derekmorganbau Where you at??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:38 AM
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You are also your superficial traits. They're all a part of you. Your ambition, work ethic, drive, looks, sex appeal, and personality characteristics. The fact that some of them are superficial doesn't change that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:34 AM
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I didn't say it's an effective contraceptive, but when you ejaculated in her vagina you damn sure consented to the consequences. Your sperm, your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:27 AM
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Pressured by who? There's no pressure from a job to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:22 AM
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Not if the kid already has a legal father. It can't be changed because you live with her. Read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 11:43 PM
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That law also does not apply to a child with a legal father. It says that you can not claim one man as the father and then attempt to establish another one as the father, even if that man is the biological dad, because the child has been claimed and it would be to their detriment to lose that bond. Again, nothing to do with dating a single mother or any child that has a father on their birth certificate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 11:15 PM
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That's not what it says. It says that a proven record of a man claiming to the be father, having a fatherly relationship, supporting the child, AND presenting the child as their own to the community can be ordered to pay support because it is to the detriment of the child for them to be denied the father that you claimed to be. You can not be ordered to pay child support for dating a single mother. Those are not the same thing. You playing daddy and dating the single mother are not the same thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 11:11 PM
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Show me 1 case that it happened! A case where a guy dated a single mother and was then ordered to pay child support! That shouldn't be hard to do if it's common knowledge and happens. Show me a law.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 10:07 PM
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But that doesn't make them legal divorces either that couldn't be contested.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 10:06 PM
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Mexican law requires that you must be a legal resident to file for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:50 PM
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Show me proof of your claims that in England and Wales a man can be forced to pay for a child of a single mom that he dated after they broke up. It's still not on google...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:26 PM
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Again, it depends on local laws and can challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:16 PM
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Except it's not. I looked... Now if it's common knowledge and these things exist you need to provide them when Google doesn't. You are the one making this extraordinary claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:14 PM
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Show me a report of it having happened. It would definitely be in the news.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:10 PM
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In other words you can move, become a resident as I said, and file for a divorce where the results will be based on local law... Your spouse can also challenge jurisdiction on that divorce if they do not live there and you are only there for school.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:06 PM
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Lol no. Please provide one case or story in the news that an ex bf was named a legal father only for living together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:05 PM
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In what country does living together transfer legal the legal responsibilities of the named father onto the bf in a separation?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:03 PM
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Challenging paternity means you were named the father. That's not dating a single mom. Acting as a parent is also not dating a single mom. This discussion is about dating a single mother, not paternity fraud or acting as a parent. She would have to prove to the court that you had taken over parental duties and provided financial support to that child. Dinner out doesn't count as child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 08:57 PM
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As l said, community property is decided by local laws.. You can't file for divorce in place where you are not a resident. That's not legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 08:55 PM
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Divorce only covers things earned or bought during the marriage. Those assets are determined by local laws determining what counts as community property. The police have nothing to do with child support. The mother can file a complaint in the court for unpaid arrears after so many months and the judge tell you to pay your support as ordered or go to jail. No one is arrested out of the blue. You can not be ordered to pay child support for a child that wasn't born in a marriage, wasn't adopted, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 08:40 PM
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Southern hospitality is a very real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 07:02 PM
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They post their income on profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 09:14 PM
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Plenty of men pull out. Your sperm, your choice. Once given to the woman it's her choice, but she couldn't make that choice without your original consent. Stop acting like a victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 09:07 PM
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You just said she was playing a particular gender role. No, hate against people is not a gender role and the word slut is nothing more than hate for people that have had sex. It's not about them at all, but an attitude/opinion directed towards them. Wanting to be degraded is not a gender role either. That is not how gender roles work. You need to figure that out. Have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:54 PM
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If you're unattractive it's to get gold diggers, because you should be set up by 30. It's only about financial stability for the majority of those girls, not attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:45 PM
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A woman is not someone that men look down on for having sex. She said call her a slut. She didn't say women are sluts or men aren't sluts. You're using misogyny to define a gender role, sorry, but it's not a thing. It's only a thing for you. Men do not get to define what is feminine, masculine, or a gender role simply because that is how you see things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:43 PM
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I never said a single word about you role playing as a rape victim, a school boy, or anyone else. You have spent the entire thread arguing that you wouldn't be acting as a woman if her assailant was female. You really need to learn to read, because no, it's not hard to understand. Not once did I ever mention anything else besides the fact that you would indeed be acting as a woman if her assailant was female regardless of the actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:38 PM
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Nah dude. That's not a gender role, just hate for women that sex you don't approve of them having. That's no different than saying the n word is the role of a black person. No, just makes the person saying it a moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:35 PM
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You are the only person that mentioned a school boy. Wtf are you even talking about?? We were talking about people acting out their trauma. You would be her female rapist. You would be acting feminine in bed, sorry to burst your bubble. There's no school boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:21 PM
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Slut is also used by women against men. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:20 PM
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And if it's a woman attacker you are playing a woman in her head, quite literally. No talking around that. Why does that bother you so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:18 PM
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Pay attention. I said that if her rapist was a female that you are acting as a female in bed. It's no longer masculine or a male gender role to which you have been arguing nonstop for no damn reason. If her rapist was a woman than all of those actions of spitting, calling her a slut, and raping her are now feminine. Do you understand why? Because criminal behaviors are not gendered. If you are acting as the woman you have now taken on a female role.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:15 PM
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A female rapist isn't a male gender role no matter how you spin it. It's literally a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:10 PM
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You are acting her what her female assailant did. Why is that so hard for you to understand? Being a rapist or an abuser is not a male thing. It's not gendered at all. That's what you wanted to claim, but it's not. You would acting as her female replacement in her trauma response, which is indeed feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:06 PM
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No, it's replaying mental trauma. That is besides the point. I am roleplaying a male predator and she is roleplaying a female unwilling participant. I agree its a coping mechanism though, but again it's still roleplaying gender roles. It is literally me playing a particular male role and her playing a particular female role. The idea that we are not playing gender roles is incorrect. We are indeed playing very specific gender roles. You'd be a female rapist if her original attacker was female. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:02 PM
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No, you would be role playing as a female. Her attacker was female and being an abuser or rapist is not a male role. You would be replaying her attacker, a female, making you feminine in bed. You said that you would be acting as a male gender role because her attacker was male and you are reliving it. You would 100% be acting as a female if her attacker was female. Why is that so hard for you to accept? You would be their gender, not your idea of what gender role would be. Women are rapists and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:58 PM
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If her attacker was female you would be acting as a woman in bed. That was your definition. You would be role playing as a woman. That is not masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:50 PM
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No, listen to what you said. If you are role playing as her assailant and if it was a female attacking you would 100% be acting feminine in bed, because you are literally serving as the woman assailant in her trauma coping. You'd be acting feminine in bed by spitting on her, calling her a slut, and assaulting her. That's how you defined it. You are literally role playing her assailant who happened to be male. If it was a female then you would be acting feminine in bed, because it's still rolepla…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:45 PM
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No, not depends. You are acting feminine by spitting on her, calling her a slut, or doing rape play if her assailant was a woman. Those were your own words. it's still roleplaying gender roles. It is literally me playing a particular male role and her playing a particular female role. The idea that we are not playing gender roles is incorrect. We are indeed playing very specific gender roles. In this case you would be acting feminine and doing the exact same behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:38 PM
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Okay, so you're acting feminine in bed with these women if their assailant was a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:33 PM
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I have NEVER told a guy that looks do not matter. It's not all women. Many many women are open about what they want from a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:30 PM
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It is inarguably reenacting certain gender roles. No, it's replaying mental trauma. It's a well known coping mechanism and has nothing to do with being a woman. Men also do it. It's how unwell people process trauma and try to reclaim the consent that was taken from them and it's weird as hell that you consider being an abuser or predator as a male role. Feminists care a lot about male on female sexual assault for it to not being a female thing lol Many feminists also care about female on male as…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:27 PM
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Looks are the most important thing, but it's stupid to think that anyone is going to be with someone that they don't find attractive. People figure that out before high school even. You develop crushes at first because they are cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:23 PM
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You have an "interesting" sex life and ideas about what it means to feminine. I'll leave it at that. Being raped, abused, and called a slut for having sex are certainly not female things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:20 PM
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In fact, from my experience, the more they hated gender roles, the more they desired them, especially in bed. What does this mean to you? What is it that they want that shows their distaste for gender roles, especially in the bedroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:15 PM
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No, that's just a mentally ill woman. No one should be physically abused, but you're not going to get something that you don't offer either when women are making their own money. Height only matters if she's a height queen and high earners only matter to gold diggers and women that want their equal. You're above average in those 2 things, but they're not going to make up for a lack of attraction and will only matter to women specifically looking for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:12 PM
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What was all your shit about women being submissive and it's a gender role then if eating pussy isn't feminine? It's a submissive act only for her physical pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:10 PM
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You do realize that's a submissive act and apparently a feminine gender role according to you. There's nothing masculine about 2 lesbians in bed and nothing feminine about 2 gay men in bed. You're trying to define things that don't apply to gender as gender roles in the bedroom. It's false.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:06 PM
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So men that eat pussy like lesbians are acting like women? They're being submissive? They're what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:01 PM
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He's a weird one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:52 PM
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And yet guys do it. Who said that you have to date those women? Are you out here trying to date ugly women or do you think that your money and height should get you more?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:51 PM
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Then by default a man that gets pegged isn't acting like a traditional man. Who are you to define their sex life, with a women, as not traditionally masculine? Who? Gender roles exist where people choose to see them. Men can't breastfeed, neither can all women and a significant portion don't want to either. Their partners also bottle feed. Are they acting feminine by feeding their own kids? You like to stereotype women, do your thing, but that's not how it works. Not everyone is into gender role…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:50 PM
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You did though, by claiming a woman pegging them is acting masculine and that being the receiving partner being penetrated is feminine. Remember your last answer? Men stick penises in vaginas. Gender roles exist whether we want them or not. You are saying that being pegged is feminine or gay with that line of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:45 PM
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I mean get with the times. Guys that like being pegged aren't gay or feminine because of it either. That IS what you are implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:42 PM
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An attractive women that makes her own money. That's equal. Physical attraction is probably the most important thing for either partner, unless you want a sexless relationship. Average is average, no one said you need to be a model. I said that you can't make up for a lack of attraction. That is what sparks interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:41 PM
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No, you have a fucked up idea of gender roles. Not treating him like a woman or asking him to do things he doesn't want is not a gender role. It's not masculine or feminine. There are 100% cis straight women that can't have vaginal sex due to medical conditions that are debilitating. Are you saying their partners are no long masculine because they can't fuck them? That's weird as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:39 PM
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Still no pegging happening, not ever... You are weirdly obsessed with that idea. A woman can be not submissive, straight, and not want to shove things up your ass. Those are separate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:35 PM
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What's feminine about your woman taking control in the bedroom, not role playing, not trying to be cute and sexy, but flat out getting hers? Nothing and it happens quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:27 PM
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You believe that men need to be dominant in bed. Not true at all. That's not what makes a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:15 PM
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No, but that's a weird ass thing to make into a gender role. Sex is more than penetration. It's not submissive to have sex that you want and getting on your man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:14 PM
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I will never be pregnant. I initiate sex equally too. I am also the one that knows how to fight and shoot, not him, and I wouldn't want him in that position. We split the bills 50/50 and all of the house chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:10 PM
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I don't believe in them, but they're fine for people that want to live that way. Both of my parents were physicians and military officers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:53 PM
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Congrats!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:42 PM
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I personally think it's a good thing for women to focus on their education and careers. No one should be stuck depending on anyone else for their financial survival. It means that women have the opportunity to pair up with men they genuinely want or to remain single. Everyone should have that option and not have dependence forced onto them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:27 PM
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Absolutely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:18 PM
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Height isn't a requirement for me, but holy crap that would be awkward if someone was that much taller. I would say 6'6ish max for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:14 PM
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You're not physically average. Being tall or making decent money doesn't make up for being unattractive. Being below average isn't a neutral. It's a negative and you are going to attract undesirable women that can't get average men to commit to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:56 AM
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Never too full for a game of volleyball.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:41 PM
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I am about to throw down in a vicious family game of volleyball after a BBQ dinner. It should be a great time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:12 PM
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Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:08 PM
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Fine!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:04 PM
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Have a nice evening!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:02 PM
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The Netherlands are ranked in the top 15 most promiscuous countries in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:55 PM
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You are not average. This is the shit I was talking about. You're in your mid 40's, making minimum wage, and below average height to the point that native women in the area are your size. No, that is not the average single guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:39 PM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:39 PM
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It's definitely going to help couples that have been stuck at home. You need a little breathing room from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:37 PM
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I would say that at least 85% of the married couples l know are legitimately happy and have healthy loving relationships, but it's hard to say. Everyone has been married at least 30+ years like my family members, or married for less than 10 when most divorces seem to happen. I think most couples probably go through some less happy periods of life together, so maybe it depends on when you're looking at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:02 PM
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Your ratings are strange. 7-9(uncommonly attractive) and 5-7(commonly attractive). I think that you need to put 7 in one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:50 PM
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Not true. There are guys here all the time talking about some being with an asshole that actively treats them like shit. Being a nice person is a person that isn't actively trying to hurt you or spiteful behavior. Not listening or caring on the level of a bf isn't not being nice. He has no reason to not be indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:44 PM
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Idk, maybe they don't really think about relationships. Maybe it's sex sex sex and if continues to work it turns into one and that's all there is to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:39 PM
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I don't think anyone can be shocked that he's not caring about her feelings afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:33 PM
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Was he nice to her during the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:19 PM
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Does he really have their support or do you think it was the Trump endorsement?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:15 PM
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Men don't seem to care about much besides face and body to date them. Whether that's access to sex or what idk. I do know that men will also lead uglier girls on for sex and then dump them. I 100% don't think they are ever considered for serious gfs. We have all heard of the starter gf or placeholder girl until he can get someone he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:10 PM
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It's definitely a safety issue if she didn't know him before, but she should do what she feels comfortable with i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:07 PM
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That's pretty messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:06 PM
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He's not? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:57 PM
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No, what you said is that you can't control putting less focus on the internal, "it's not a choice", which is bullshit and dishonest. Like you said how attractive people without adversity are the most boring people. That's you making up a narrative. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:44 PM
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That shouldn't be allowed. He should have had to give up his Turkish citizenship before being allowed to run. That shit is crazy and one of the less crazy things happening, sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:40 PM
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He's a celebrity. This isn't a normal situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:33 PM
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Your post wasn't about hate. This was the basic point of your post. I don't want to minimize someone's dating issues : There might me a small number of men (and women) who struggle finding a partner due to exceptional levels of unattractiveness or other hindrances. I rarely ever see these kind of people but if they are out there, they deserve empathy. But if you truly think that not going on sex escapades when you are twenty is a problem, then you're going to get flat-flined if actual life probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:30 PM
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Your whole thread was that if you can fix your problem then it's your responsibility to do so and to not complain about. Fix your problem. This is 100% a choice on your behalf.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:14 PM
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You mean exactly like the post you made about the manosphere being victims of their own minds and entitlement when it comes to dating and that they should fix their own problems? Like that? Yes... fix your problem and date the women that you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:07 PM
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That's a choice. You're crying about not getting women you want because of your personality over a choice that you're making. This is a 1st world problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:03 PM
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Maintain your appearance and work on the internal. This shouldn't be rocket science to figure out. Do you think that's too difficult?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:58 PM
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This is tradcon shit, not struggling as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:53 PM
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Some people isn't the majority of below average people and even they freely admit that they want someone they find attractive. As I said it's fine, but most people that can't find "anyone" are being held back by their standards. I am not accusing men of chasing supermodels, but I am saying that your odds of getting an average woman as a below average man are really low. No one is going to consider chasing average women "shooting for the stars", but it is if you're not average too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:54 PM
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You know that dating study that people were raving about that said 80% of men were rated unattractive and men rated women evenly? That same study said that 2/3s of all messages sent by men went to the top 1/3 of the attractive women and that women messaged men much more evenly. That is shooting for the roof unless you're also above average as a man in attractiveness. Do you think that 2/3 of men on dating sites are well above average? Especially when you consider that men already by far outnumbe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:44 PM
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Who is seeking out below average? Being ugly wouldn't make them attracted to other ugly people. This is another huge problem too. Many of these guys have "no standards", but only as long as she isn't fat, has a low n-count, has sex with them, is attractive to them, doesn't have kids, and doesn't expect them to commit. You don't have to lower your standards, but that doesn't mean you get to say women's standards are too high because other girls won't date you and let you treat them like a free pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:37 PM
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That depends on the men in question. For average men it's probably around a 5. For below average men it's going to be much harder. That could be autism, mental illness, lack of social skills, lack of a social circle, being poor, or a number of things, but none of those men are average. Most of the guys you see online that say they are average and struggling then come out and say that they have some of these issues. That sucks, but you're not average. The average man is not mentally ill, ugly, fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:27 PM
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You are risking a pregnancy even if she isn't like that. Go get snipped if you don't want more kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:36 PM
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I don't understand why anyone wouldn't get sterilized if they're certain they don't want more kids. That's how you prevent being baby trapped or having an accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:25 PM
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I stay single. That's not my somate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:12 AM
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I believe in love. I don't believe in unconditional relationships where everything can be forgiven if you really love them. That doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:19 PM
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I'd take it, but I wouldn't ask for it. Don't be with a person that you don't think you can trust. 10% is still 10% and there are a lot of opportunities out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:15 PM
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I am pro choice and no, absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:15 PM
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He's already made 3 threads asking how to get a virgin gf. Yes, it's him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:04 PM
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Yes, a super high amount of anger by agreeing with other people telling you the same thing and not one personal comment about you. That makes complete sense. Have a nice night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:38 PM
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Based on the reaction that I am shocked you're still hung up on something while you now think l am out to get you or some shit? That's not a reaction to a conversation or statement. That's the sign of a fragile ego. Move on, everyone here is telling you the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:29 PM
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Jfc, you're still on that? You must have some serious insecurities to still be thinking about that conversation, but okay. Go do you and waste your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:25 PM
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She's probably not going to date you if your body type is completely different and she's insecure. She's going to think you're trying to play her. On the other hand if she isn't insecure then she's probably not going to feel pressured to diet or lose weight and if she does, I think these guys are right. You were the best that she could get before, but look at her now. You're either going to changer her personality into being overtly sexy, acting sexually, and liking the attention or you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:20 PM
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No no. I meant "l" as an example of the person with the disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:07 PM
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Yes severe. Let's not discuss intellectual disabilities for consent reasons, but said like uncontrolled schizophrenia. Psychotic episodes of self harm and hallucinations. Explosive anger that can't be predicted. That level of disability. That person can't hold a job. That person couldn't be safely left alone with children. Like if I stop meds, which isn't uncommon at all, that I will completely detach from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:47 PM
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Do you honestly expect a woman to intentionally choose that type of life let alone want to bring kids into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:42 PM
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I would date someone in a wheelchair if they were otherwise fully independent and functional. One of my friends was paralyzed by a very low level spinal cord injury in a car accident. He is 100% independent. That wouldn't bother me at all. An ileostomy wouldn't bother me. It's less of a disability and more of a medical condition. Someone born with no legs. I mean he has a physical difference, but it doesn't seem to be disabling him in any sort of function either and that would be my concern. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:38 PM
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Understandable. It would be a lot of work on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 05:11 PM
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Disabled =/= can't work. I said severely disabled. Severely disabled people can't work meaningful jobs by definition. And if you navigate the benefits right and live in a low CoL place money isn't as big of an issue as it may seem You really think it's acceptable to raise children in intentional poverty and off of govt subsidies like SSI, medicaid, and welfare funded by the state?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 05:09 PM
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How would 2 disabled people that can't work even have a family financially? You can't raise kids on SSI online. What kind of life would that child have realistically? Sorry, but you need a lot more than love to raise a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:48 PM
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I think most people feel the same. There's a huge difference in those situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:45 PM
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I think that's a perfectly normal take. Disabilities require more time, more money, and generally a lot more physically from the able bodied partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:43 PM
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Q4A This only applies to a new relationship, not a partner that becomes sick or injured. Would anyone here be open to being in a serious relationship with someone that has a severe genetic/physical/mental disability that impacts their ability to function independently? Would you be willing to have kids with that person knowing there's a decent chance that your child would also be disabled? Are you willing to physically take care of your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:28 PM
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I don't have the added muscle of someone that lifts, but I am in shape, and have abs. It's all long lean muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:04 PM
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I'm a cute snack and you're the whole damn restaurant chain. We are not equal. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:00 PM
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Ya👏 need👏 to👏 stop👏 this 👏nonsense!! Some of us are trying to be happy and have some self esteem over here!! Maybe this is only a me problem, but l know it's not. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:50 AM
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Was it size related like dick too big/small? No. I was unaware that l did not have a hymen. I had what was almost a completely solid imperforate hymen instead of a band. I passed out from the pain and bled l like I had been murdered. He called an ambulance and was legit traumatized from the experience. He thought that he had severely injured me. You don't want to hear your gf scream and pass out from pain during sex. He ended up in therapy over it. It was that traumatic. My conventionally mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:53 AM
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Men could have the same shit. Men choose to not build those relationships with other men. You choose to not listen to each other. Our friends listen. Our friends are there when we need them and we are there for them. I still have friends from middle school that I speak to on a weekly basis to catch up, check in, and see how they are doing. That's what women do. Men have these same abilities. You know who doesn't give a shit about men crying they are alone? Other men, because you let this happen …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:35 AM
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She stole my heart. She didn't know we were dating until 3 years into it. I was a friend from work. I babysat her and we had fun play dates during that time. We accidentally met. We lived in the same neighborhood and they were on a walk while I was walking my dog. I didn't know that she existed. I immediately assumed that he was married and he explained his situation. She asked if she could come play with my dog. She is an absolute handful, but I wouldn't change a thing. I love her to pieces and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:13 AM
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ok, this point makes the most sense to me. What about if he got it in the past prior to meeting you? Would you lose interest? I probably wouldn't care other than the mental health aspect and did it fix what he was hoping for mentally, because l think that level of insecurity goes much deeper than the height, unless he is far below average height at like 5'2 or something. It's not the idea of the procedure itself that's the problem, but the reasoning behind it and attached mental health. So the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:09 AM
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Do you at least understand why others might not feel that way? Like sure its ideal to have someone prefer you as you are but depending on what traits someone posses it can make achieving that a lot more difficult and make you miss out on certain experiences No, I really can't understand it. I understand the desire to be desired. I don't understand the desire to be wanted by someone that doesn't. That should shut down your feelings and make you realize that they're not the right person if they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:38 AM
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I do agree that there's a threshold that you need to meet for most people, but I don't think that benchmark equals settling. I do believe that people's standards change as they get older, not from desperation or a need to, but maturing and realizing through life experiences what is important to them. For example I always considered myself childfree. My partner has a child. I met him, liked him, and then learned that he had a daughter. I thought about that for a while. We weren't dating at that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:55 PM
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Your height is fine for all except the most shallow of people. You're not short in the slightest. You have the correct attitude. It's great and even admirable to improve to be the person that you want to be for yourself. It should never be okay to try to change yourself to be what someone else wants, because it's not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:31 PM
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There's more appeal to tall girls than there is to short guys. It isn't some imaginary flaw thats in their head its a well documented trend that women of all heights and nationalities have a preference for tall men and are turned off by short men. This statement bothers me and isn't a reason to mutilate yourself. I wasn't uncomfortable with my height because I was considered less desirable as I am taller than most men. I was uncomfortable because of being bullied. If you don't want me for who l …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:20 PM
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Complications do not get nearly enough considerations in these decisions. It's much more than you might not like the result. Yes, you can die or end up in a permanent disabled/vegetative state. You can die from botox and most people don't consider that dangerous at all, it's botulism being intentionally injected into your muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:14 PM
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How tall are you? I understand the desire to be desired, but I can't understand the desire of some people to be desired by someone that doesn't see you as good enough the way that you are now. That would be an instant turn off for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:07 PM
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I think a lot of it is being insecure with themselves. Like someone very short worrying about automatically having short kids with a short man? Or maybe the whole protector thing since shorter men are more likely to be bullied by larger ones? There's no real reason for it that makes sense. I wish l had an answer for you. Hell I wish l could tell you what triggers my own attraction, but I can't even do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:53 PM
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Cosmetic dentistry is a whole different thing. Implants replace missing teeth and improve overall health. Veneers and crowns are cemented in place. I wouldn't take issue with a hair transplant either, but I wouldn't really classify that as surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:50 PM
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I was 21 with my ex and I am 29 now. We've been together for 4 years. Everyone said my ex was average and they did make comments asking why l was with him. Average Asian dude with glasses studying STEM. I found him attractive. I have only found 3 men sexually attractive in my life. It's on or off. There's no maybe. There's no it might change later. It's instant and they look nothing alike in features or style besides all being Korean. I found him attractive and he is a really really great guy. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:48 PM
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I know that's true, but there are women that don't. Those same women that care aren't going to accept a disfigured taller version of those men either. It's not worth the risk or the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:29 PM
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He is and so what? I didn't have an issue with my ex being 5'7. "Oh oh oh, that's why he's your ex! Gotcha!" No, I lost my virginity to him at uni and it ended after that because it was a very traumatic event due to a medical condition, imperforate hymen, and he believed that he had seriously injured me. I passed out from pain, it looked like a murder scene, and I ended up in the emergency room. He needed therapy and there was 0 chance of him ever being willing to have sex with me again after th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:27 PM
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Literal disfigurement, scarring, and things of that nature I would support correcting. That's really it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:22 PM
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I can't give examples, because it would have to be something more along the lines of a disfigurement from an accident, scar removal, or medical correction rather cosmetic surgery to enhance something natural. I would not support surgery for a case of body dismorphia. I don't think that l could support limb lengthening under any circumstances to be honest. I was not always comfortable with my height either. I was bullied a lot over it. I would hope that someone would get me mental help to deal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:20 PM
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Hell no. Your height is not a flaw to be corrected. It's an exceedingly dangerous surgery. There's no way to determine that you won't be permanently disfigured AND disabled from it. They'd be getting committed to the psych ward instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:01 PM
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I would support it if l knew that it was something that they had always been uncomfortable about, but that's it. Chasing a vision of perfection? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:39 PM
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I've never seen it when it wasn't someone being a "niceguy" that followed the rejection or straight up pervy. I would think it was trashy if he hadn't done any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:46 PM
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I’m also pretty sure if you met the monogamous love of your life and found out 15 years ago when they were young and a single and slept with a woman after drinking a little too much, having had casual sex once or twice or maybe even three times!, you wouldn’t end the relationship or even shame them or view them lesser than. However if you found out 15 years ago they saw a prostitute? Ya you probably would I would definitely leave if he lied to me over something that he knows is important to me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:17 PM
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Women have social lives that they spend years cultivating for a support network while men tend to rely on their partner for emotional support. Women are less likely to tolerate bs and being unhappy rather than being alone. It's the same reasons that women are more likely to file for divorce. We would rather live our lives happier with our friends and families than to be miserable to be with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:11 PM
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As you can see in your personal case you have a judgement against men for having casual sex. Most people have an additional judgement against men who have this casual sex with prostitutes. I don't have a problem with anyone having casual sex nor do I judge them. I said l wouldn't do it and I wouldn't want my partner to do it. You have a male victim complex, can't read, or don't believe that women can speak for themselves. I never once said anything about men or singled them out. I think your per…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:46 PM
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I don't view casual sex as wrong. I don't judge anyone that has it. Let them be happy and do whatever they want. I don't care if men or women go see sex workers. I would never be okay with that and it has nothing to do with society teaching something. I wouldn't be with anyone that didn't view sex the same way that I do. It's not religious or anything else. I don't believe in casual sex. It's that simple. My parents didn't raise me to view casual sex as bad either. It's just not for me. That's w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:17 PM
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It's not going to change a damn thing. Men are still going to run around screaming they don't want a high n woman, because she's a whore, while sleeping with actual prostitutes. Woman that don't engage in casual sex are never going to be comfortable with someone that sees prostitutes. It's not only about stigma, but how people view sex for themselves. Those things are not going to change. Women are still going to be dating and having sex with guys that they're interested in seeing. The only thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:33 PM
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It would not stop men from trying to use women for sex and save their money. It's also not going to make women okay with dating men that have been with prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:19 PM
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It's been 4 years and I can't imagine myself being anywhere else. My life is absolutely perfect with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:51 PM
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How are men being denied mental health services? Seek out a doctor and get meds and treatment. You need more than therapy if you are suicidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 10:00 PM
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We have a lawn service, a mechanic, and other professionals. Why are you killing spiders rather than taking them outside? I am the one that checks on strange noises/intruders. None of these things are male things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:56 PM
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We can't have it all unless we're all high earners. If you want equality at home then you might need to lower your financial expectations. You can't work 12 your days and contribute 8 at home. That will kill you, but you can live in a cheaper house. You can buy less wants and have a happier home life with a partner that's present and has the energy to participate. We are a 50/50 house. He makes considerably more than I do because of our specialties. We put the same amount of hours in at work and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:15 PM
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I never once said that she shouldn't contribute equally though. There's a such thing as living within your means. I think that also applies to men working too much to contribute at home. He can work less, but it might mean adjusting their lifestyle. That's how 50/50 works. It's completely shared and agreed upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:00 PM
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I wear them quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:57 PM
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Sure, if you're living within their means. If you want a true 50/50 for bills then you need to live within their budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:16 PM
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It's edited to reflect that different states have different laws for what qualifies as community property.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:19 PM
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I said that things bought together in a marriage are community property. Does the law say that is true? Yes. Does the law also say that your solely held ownings and accounts are community property by default? It does not. No, l did not misconstrue the meaning of community property.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:17 PM
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That is only false in 9 of the 50 US states that are community property by default. In all other states, common-law property rules apply. Put simply, this means that assets and debts you acquire during a marriage are yours alone — unless otherwise indicated by a title or other legal document. In some cases, this can make for an easier divorce: You both just keep the items that belong to you, and you only have to worry about dividing anything purchased together. It's not always that easy, though,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:10 PM
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No, community property states, l think there are 9 or 10, consider everything in the marriage to be community property. Every other state has community property, but the laws all vary as to what counts in a marriage by default and that's extremely important.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:56 PM
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Not by default because of marriage. In community property states. They aren't the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:54 PM
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Lol, no it doesn't. Marriage entitles you to half of the community property. Things bought during the marriage as a couple, like a house. Depending on your state law: That does not apply to your paycheck. You don't need even need a prenuptial for that. Joint accounts are community property regardless of who puts more in, but marriage does not allow access or ownership to private accounts. You are responsible for half of the bills. That's it. Go talk to an attorney instead of falling into a rabbi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:31 PM
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Why does marriage change that? It doesn't, because marriage doesn't entitle someone to your paycheck, not even legally. You're more than welcome to have completely separate finances and accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:27 PM
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Not when they are still splitting the bills, especially if they rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:22 PM
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These happen with all living in relationships, which are the most common. A piece of paper doesn't change how most couples live and these idiots still combine finances and take out loan together.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:15 PM
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Guys want a virgin until she doesn't have sex with him. At that point she's a prude, frigid, dysfunctional, hypergamous, and broken. The moment she has sex she has become a whore and is expected to give it up to any guy she is dating in the same time period equal the shortest she made any man "wait". Yes, women are shamed for being virgins and then move straight to being seen as sex dispensers. No one knows you're a virgin unless you tell them. Don't tell people things that you are insecure abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:07 PM
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Relationship rates are not. Legally bound relationships are at an all time low.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:17 PM
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The only point of marriage was to own people and to force them to stay. Marriages that are happening now have higher levels of happiness and lower divorce rates because no one is forced to pair up for survival and they aren't rushing into bad decisions at young ages that they can't walk away from and people are complaining about that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:15 PM
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Relationship rates are not though. Marriage isn't necessary to be happy for many people. Again, choice compatible people. That's the entire point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:12 PM
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You do realize this is all a choice right? Men are choosing to marry these women and put themselves in these situations and then bitching that they got what they paid and sought out. Prenuptials have existed forever. You know what your partner makes before marriage. You should be adults and talk about expectations for chores and bills. It's ridiculous that either gender thinks that they should be doing less work at home and in the relationship because they also have to act like functional adults…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:01 PM
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That's what a 50/50 relationship looks like. 50% of everything is on you irregardless of any discrepancies in income or hours. You can agree to whatever you want, but you don't get to assume that you making more money means she's responsible for more childcare, housework, or anything unless you agree to it and she has access to that money to compensate for her time spent doing your half at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:48 PM
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A salary discrepancy doesn't mean that she can't afford half of the bills and the he shouldn't be responsible for half of the chores. It means he should have more in his personal bank account after shit is taken care of 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:31 PM
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I had split the bill in both relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:20 PM
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He's anti feminism and only looking for casual sex too. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:15 PM
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It's the validation, not the sex. You can see an escort for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:42 AM
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"Do l look like your mother? No, don't talk to me like a whore."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 05:20 PM
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Someone that doesn't approve of casual sex isn't going to like a higher body count or suddenly be okay with a lot of casual sex. Some virgins will want their first to be with a guy with experience. Some virgins will prefer other virgins. No virgin woman is dating a guy simply because he's a virgin. It's not going to make you more attractive by default, because it's not difficult to find, especially under 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:22 AM
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Turned 25 this month. Left his gf of 4 years meaning he was 21 when they got together. Remember their perfect relationship? Here he was falling in love with a different girl 3 years ago, but he couldn't be with her, because she was a size queen too and he was too ashamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:26 AM
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We have a great relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:15 AM
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We live together and we work together. I would still choose to see him daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:31 PM
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No, at the end is a snarky ass statement from the person that recommended it. He doesn't say she has it. Don't you find it just the tiniest bit weird that not once in his multiple snooping expeditions he can find everything except her saying anything about his size, confirming buying it, him finding it, her review to her friend, or anything else except comments FROM the friend who clearly doesn't like him and porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:09 PM
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She didn't mention her bf once and it doesn't say anywhere that she bought it either. This "slut" recommended it in a text and she commented that it's so big that she would have to hide it. He was insecure and nothing more. He was disappointed the moment she asked what does bbc mean, because she was so sweet and innocent. Then he went snooping and found it on her phone. He tied a bunch of other shit said together and decided that she was penis shaming him based on her friend's behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:03 PM
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You're not going to get many more girls to do it either. The ones you hope would do it could be $1k or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:16 PM
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$200+
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:14 PM
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I don't think it would land, because better looking girls are going to command a higher price, like now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:10 PM
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Whatever she charges is fine. You can go elsewhere if you don't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:09 PM
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But if he looked like either myself or my brother I would send him outside to speak to people or set him up a dating profile. If he's ugly or has insurmountable social issues then to Korea he goes!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:46 PM
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Move back to Korea and take mom and dad's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:27 PM
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Is he ugly? What am I working here?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:22 PM
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He's not entirely wrong on the killing aspect, but the seat belt has to be sitting on you incorrectly for that to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:34 PM
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It says one when you reply to it. It says 605 on the chat. Also fat isn't muscle. It doesn't give you added strength. It definitely counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:32 PM
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She said 605.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:29 PM
0

Your husband is a tank, not a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:17 PM
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What's your class about? Don't make me regret asking that. Feel free to tell me l don't want to know if l don't want to have my day ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:40 PM
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Yes, but I still wouldn't consider having kids outside of adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:28 PM
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Because he thinks he is that special because of passive income. He buys her dinner? I have no answer besides entitlement and he is lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 07:21 PM
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It's all in his comments to me...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 07:14 PM
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Apparently so, because married property is community property...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 07:04 PM
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He's pay for his house, his things, with his money, and he sits on his ass. He is expecting his gf who works full time to come to his home and take care of him and his shit because he makes more, like she should feel privileged to look at his money and life that he has made very clear she does not have access or ownership too. The words he is seeking are maid, chef, and prostitute that expect nothing in return. His mess, his property, and his shit are his and not part of their relationship. Did …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 06:56 PM
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It is absolutely not covered. It's a mess. I bought him organizing racks and hooks too. He added that box to the pile.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 06:39 PM
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The mess is not in my house. It's the garage full of sports equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:56 PM
2

Shh, it's a revenge of the nerds fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:29 PM
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I don't understand it either. It's never my partner. He notices when I wear it and says it's nice, but I guess it's because I never wear eye catching make up. It's usually men at work asking why I don't wear it. I am required to wear surgical masks at all times. Why the hell would I be wearing make up?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:29 PM
0

No child birth for me. I would only adopt children into a better life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:21 PM
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I don't wear make up as a daily habit. If I wear anything to work it's basic eyeliner and a moisturizing lip balm in a natural color. I get asked quite frequently, by men, why I don't wear more make up to highlight my festures. I do wear make up to go out to family dinners or a party, but I always go for the natural make up look. I still get asked the same damn question. Most men do not recognize natural looking make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:34 PM
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It wouldn't bother me if it was the case. I can't make assumptions as to why someone was rejected. They weren't attracted to him? Okay, that's their preference, not mine. You can be rejected for 10,000 reasons and those reasons only grow the more you know someone. He's perfect for me and that's all that concerns me in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:06 PM
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No woman he approached went out with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:02 PM
2

Reading the crazy shit people believe about both genders and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:37 AM
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It's racism, but they don't see it that way since they tie a "positive" thing to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:29 AM
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It's not a type so much as how it's demeaning for the other person and it's only their race or a specific feature they assume is tied to it. "It's like saying I want to date a black guy because they have big dicks." "I only like asians because they're conservative and submissive." They don't want to date that person. Would you be okay with someone saying I want to date a nerd, because he makes lots of money for me to spend and will let me walk all over him to keep a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:24 AM
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Don't date them. Note the hypocrisy and move on. There are too many decent guys that aren't that way to waste your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:27 PM
1

You also claimed to be strong as fuck by way of being a man, but you are clearly a naturally small framed man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:27 PM
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You having weighed 122lbs at 5'6 and claiming to be naturally strong as fuck and easily beating up average sized men is rather relevant when you also claim women are at a severe disadvantage because of their size alone...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:24 PM
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If she has access to his money, yes, but not otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:17 PM
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Not trying to scare you or nothing Don't worry about that. I don't need to bulk up or lift to fight the average untrained man. I am trained to fight with 25 years of martial arts at 29 years old and a 4th degree black belt. Yes, l have fought men outside of the sport. I fought off 3 of them until the cops showed up to protect another woman from being attacked. The average man is not nearly as strong as he thinks and he doesn't have a height advantage over me. The average man is super skinny or s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:41 PM
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I would not date that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:16 PM
1

When you were 122lbs were you fighting and easily beating average sized men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:15 PM
1

You're 24. So in last 8 years or so you put on weight and lost weight, but apparently you are a very very small framed man naturally. That doesn't come with high levels of inherent strength. You were 122 pounds. Your basic strength level was probably very much on par with the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:07 PM
1

When did you start lifting?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:00 PM
1

You're not 173 pounds of muscle. You're bulking and have been for years. Are you saying that before you bulked up you were getting your ass handed to you by average sized men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:52 PM
1

You claimed that size gives men tremendous advantage by default, but here you're claiming that average sized men had no advantage over you and you kicked their asses easily due to strength alone AND training. You're about the size of the average woman. If you can kick their ass easily they can certainly defend themselves with the self defense training. Self defense isn't about strength, which you should know about as a self proclaimed fighter. Self defense is about technique, exploiting weakness…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:40 PM
2

Are you admitting that most men of average size and your skill are going to take you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:18 PM
1

But she can find someone in that 1% so it doesn't need to change. That is a ton of men. A ton of men with sex and no risk of pregnancy. Maybe she's really into anal sex. Now you want her to settle for a partner that can't satisfy her when there's nothing to say that she can't find a man fine with the situation as it is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:10 PM
1

It's not going to matter for a guy on any size that really cares about her. There's also anal and oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:57 PM
1

Pain is pain regardless of gender for the average person and fighting can be extremely painful for someone that has no experience combined with bad technique. The average man or woman is extremely overweight, not exactly the best candidate for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:56 PM
1

Because it's not the size. It's any penetration at all, even a finger or a tampon can cause excruciating pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:51 PM
1

Now imagine you being in a real fight while feeling that pain. You'd get your ass beat by the average woman, all because you hit her wrong. That slap isn't knocking her out. Let's talk about your average woman for a second. She can break your finger. She can bite through flesh. She doesn't need above average strength for either of those things. The only thing she needs for that is the lack of fear to protect herself. That's all that she needs to know how to do. You have extremely vulnerable spot…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:46 PM
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It's extremely painful and a person in pain is not a person that is focused on fighting. Do you think that if you were ever in an actual fight that you could hit someone as hard as possible without hesitation? That's important. Are you afraid of causing them "actual damage"? Do you fear getting into legal trouble over it? All of those things are making a difference. People discuss women and fighting constantly, but the average man is out there like I could knock this bitch out. Same dude is cryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:33 PM
1

There are definitely women that can hold their own against a man in a fight too without over estimating their abilities. The average man 100% over estimates his abilities to take down a woman as well because of a size difference. Not all men are stronger, bigger, and have the ability to actually cause damage. Fighting takes a specific mentality too. It's going to hurt the majority of people taking a punch or throwing one. Fights are very short lived experiences outside of a ring unless you're be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:22 PM
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The point of self defense for women is to get them away from a situation, not whoop their ass. Self defense to get away from the average man with no training will most likely work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:13 PM
1

The micro penis is still going to be a no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:26 PM
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Ectopic pregnancies are the leading cause of cause for early pregnancy due to internal bleeding. A ruptured fallopian tube can cause you to bleed to death. Not all ectopic pregnancies are tubal pregnancies. The pregnancy can not survive outside of the uterus. That doesn't mean that is can't survive long enough to cause severe internal damage depending on the placement. That's why that aren't always fatal, but they can also leave you sterile and you are at a much higher risk of it repeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:29 PM
2

100% agreed. Happy mother's day!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:23 PM
2

She works full-time and makes 50k. His income is passive and 10xs that, but the income disparity means that she should do the housework in his house and she has no access to his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:22 PM
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I agree, but the over problem is that many men seem to see the situation i presented and assume it requires the effort that you presented.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:15 PM
4

No, it's not illegal to keep taking them despite the risk for defects and miscarrige. The fetus most likely won't survive without severe complications and birth control is required while on them for that reason unless you are sterile.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:14 PM
1

Being home with children is a cut to your personal finances as well that's hardly ever taken into consideration. You are "making less" to be at home and l know far too many that are overworked and it never stops. Dad comes home and sits on his ass. Leave daddy alone, he's tired. His existence is he worked 8 hours and he deserves a break. She gets none, because these kids and this house are her job with no time off. They expect the house to be clean at all times. Not cleaned during the day while …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:10 PM
2

It is a muscle condition that causes severe pain. Not I can't sex with dicks, but using a tampon causes excruciating pain and I can't stand sex because it of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:02 PM
5

That's not what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:58 PM
5

That's not good news. That's amazing news. Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:56 PM
1

That time is worth at least 3 hours of daycare not paid for financially, regardless of the effort. But in the case of OP he has passive income, stays home,, and thinks that because her working full time only makes 10% of his income that she should also come home and do most of the housework and chores in house she doesn't own because he has more money in his account that she can't touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:53 PM
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Cooking sometimes regardless of working or staying home with kids is fair. Expecting the stay at home parent to do your dishes, laundry, and all of the clean up while you sit on your ass in the evening is not. Not taking care of your kids because you worked is not fair. When you are at home you are expected to be an equal partner and parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:47 PM
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OP is asking if a live in gf should do most of the housework and chores while he sits on his ass because he has passive income, in HIS house, and she has no access to his money. He wants to trade rent for a mommy bang maid that is his employee with no job security.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:27 PM
2

He's an anesthesiologist. I am a DNP with a trauma/surgical specialty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:06 PM
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My partner and I make more than that a year combined. Your relationship is not your income. Your income is not available to her. Why should she work to make your life easier, in your house, become your free employee, and not be compensated when she also works outside the home? Charge her rent and do your half. That's equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:45 PM
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That sounds like your best option, because what you have proposed is impossible. No one is going to value what they don't have. You just became that weird guy on Craigslist looking for a roommate. 90% off rent, but you need to fuck me and do all of the household chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:38 PM
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Does she have access to your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:29 PM
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That's something for a couple to decide, but if you're expecting the "lower earning partner" to always be working at home while the other sits on their ass it's going to be a problem, like with stay at home mothers. Why should this women work 24/7 without a minute off because a man worked 8 hours and feels that's enough? He can cook his own dinner and clean up after himself at that point. She's home to take care of the kids, not him. He's not their child. If he wants those things then he better …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:27 PM
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Don't marry someone that far off from you. There can be an income discrepancy of course, but there needs to be equality. You're basically saying you're paying me rent to live with me. You need to do these chores to be with me, because my lazy ass sees you as below me. You can work full time, but I worked smarter and you should be punished for that. It doesn't make sense and will never make sense to a court. Your home life is separate from your work life and childcare and housework should be spli…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:22 PM
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Then hell no she shouldn't be acting as a maid on your property. Use that position to hire one. You're the same type of man to do this and then be pissed about alimony. This is how alimony happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:13 PM
2

Does she own 50%?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:11 PM
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Do you plan on giving this person free access to your money? Is there equal ownership of the property? If not then why would you expect them to do more at home for your things? They're essentially working for your benefit and not their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:06 PM
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Yes, while we both earn over 6 figures he makes almost 3 times as much as I do because of his specialty. We have 1 child. She's his biological daughter that I am in the process of adopting. I pay half of her bills for the house, schooling and all of that, because she is my daughter. I can't say she's my child and not pay for half of her bills. We're getting married some time in the near future and he's offered that I could completely quit working, but 50/50 has always been my standards for a rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:57 PM
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We're both high earners and everything is 50/50. Bills, childcare, and housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:42 PM
1

They can and the younger you are the more likely it is to happen. I was under 25 when I had mine done. Mine tubes were cut, burned, and then the burned ends where clipped back away from each other. Why? The gift of youth means a higher amount of cell regeneration. It's happened with a vasectomy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:39 PM
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It depends on the situation. If a tube repairs for sperm to pass in then it can in theory release the egg into the uterus too. Has it happened and resulted in children being born? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:30 PM
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Yes, you still have eggs being released. They are usually absorbed into the body. Most of the tubal ligations are the tubes being cut and pinned back from the ends. That does not make pregnancy completely impossible. The tubes can also grow back together in rare cases. It's extremely rare, but not impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:11 PM
2

Happy Mother's day to the PPD parents and l wish a happy day to everyone's mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:37 AM
2

I think a lot of guys would consider 5 high.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:19 PM
1

Do you think most people would consider that a normal cut off?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:16 PM
1

What do you think is an unacceptable normal for a 25 year old woman? Where is low count cut off for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:05 PM
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I also saw several that said they want casual sex but would only marry a virgin. They want to marry too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:59 PM
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Don't have sex with him. I don't know that you understand the meaning of the word rape. Remember rape? The topic that you specifically mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:36 PM
4

No birth control has 100% confidence even with perfect use, not a single one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:13 PM
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Plan B does not prevent pregnancy. Plan B prevents ovulation if it hasn't happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:34 PM
1

I have introduced single people that I thought would be good together, but I never told them that. Some dated and some didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:04 PM
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You don't need to have sex in any relationship until you feel ready to take that step with him. You also don't need to worry about your body count. If you are someone that enjoys casual sex then have it. If you're someone that doesn't then don't have it and don't allow yourself to be pressured into it. Body count only becomes an issue in 2 situations, people that have different sexual views than you and hypocrites. You don't want a relationship in either of those situations. Do what feels right …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:02 PM
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Self described ugly guy. He says it in the video l linked. She thinks l'm ugly. No, she thinks you're a fucking psycho that's harassing and recording her in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 11:25 AM
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He thinks women aren't responding to his harassment because he's ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 10:56 AM
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And again, it's your argument that parents can no longer have slaves, because you got past that. No you didn't, because children are still forced to abide by your decisions for them as it was in slavery. That's not a legal argument. That is your argument being false.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:49 AM
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A person decides on their moral code. Morals are subjective and cultural. Look at cannibalistic tribes. They're in no way breaking their morals by eating their enemies. You can also break your own moral code without consequence and the only person that you need to answer to is yourself. My moral code is the law and the code of ethics for my profession. They both say it's it's legal, ethical, in the best interest for the well being of my patient, and upon their consent. It's within my morals and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:46 AM
1

Don't know, but they totaled 4 years of marriage between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:42 AM
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Children born are considered to belong only to their mother until paternity is established, a birth certificate is signed, or a court order is granted outside of marriage too. I guess you didn't get as far past that as you thought. Especially when a minor can't get an abortion without parental consent because they aren't an adult, but they can be forced to be parents by adults. Super moral
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:24 AM
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How can you legally kill someone? Self defense, yeah. Abortion, yeah. Removing life support after brain death, yeah. Letting a dnr patient die, yeah. Do you know of another way to legally kill someone? Please state it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:15 AM
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They are relevant, because murder is unlawful and removing life support is not, regardless of your opinion about how a good parent acts. They don't want to be parents. That should be evident. They don't want to be pregnant. That's their legal right too. You can not control how the world thinks. People and their individual states can decide those laws and moral codes. You are free to move to a place that fits your moral code. They're not breaking the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:14 AM
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I find unlaw killing to be morally wrong. I do not find removing life support of a brain dead individual at the request of the family to be wrong or illegal. There's a lot of shit that's legal that I morally wrong, but abortion isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:07 AM
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You literally told me to go unplug grandma and ask how her family and the law feels. I tell you that the family requests it and you resort to why are you using legal examples. I am telling you how grandma's family and the law feel. It's not a moral issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:05 AM
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Morals are subjective and are morals and behaviors are often formed by the law. It's not morally wrong to remove life support from a human without brain activity. They are surviving artificially and it's the decision of the family and the law that decides if it's okay or not. Not you or I. I do my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:01 AM
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We can't do that, but the family can and the law supports them. Life support can be terminated even with a ight chance of recovery. It's completely up to the family. Just as the mother has the right to terminate the fetus from her own life support system. Go ask her how she feels about when you're asking the family that requested grandma be left to rest too. It would be murder for me to do that without their permission, but this is a legal requested medical procedure and your feelings don't chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:48 AM
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It was edited over 15 minutes ago...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:44 AM
1

Morally gray isn't the same as murder. Abortion is ending a pregnancy and cutting off circulation by causing a period in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:35 AM
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Human and viable person are not the same thing. That's why pulling life support exists as well. It's just how it is in some cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:23 AM
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Babies don't need the person that gave birth to care for them. They need someone to care for them. The point of viability is set at 21 weeks 2 days is the record with current technology and that born baby is most likely going to have severe brain damage from brain bleeds and will need mechanical life support. A fetus below the point of viability can not survive without that specific person carrying them. There's a difference. Less than 7% of abortions occur after 15 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:08 AM
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Never date a man with mediocre toast.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:56 PM
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It's a human life, but it's not sentient at all, before 8 weeks as it has 0 brain activity, and has no muscle reflex before 12 weeks. It has no sense of anything before 18 weeks, and senses no pain before the point of viability. For me human life in that sense begins at the point of viability and can survive outside of the womb. At the point of viability I personally believe it's wrong. I have a clear position on it. A living embryo or 20 week fetus does not equal a baby. Babies can survive outs…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:49 PM
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They want to charge patients with homicide. You're focusing on the terminology rather than the action. You can be anti-abortion and still believe in the death penalty. I personally don't, but they are different actions regardless of how similar you view the word choice. Murder is murder. Innocent people are executed. They have no issue with that. Yeah, better kill the kid to make up for the father's actions. That sounds morally right. Yeah, make the girl birth her sibling child that is almost gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:30 PM
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It is consensual and Fruity and I watched 2 different videos. We exchanged links and we both saw what the other was saying. Fruity knows that my video made it look abusive and it cut off the last part of the conversation where he says the woman must agree and not be coerced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:23 PM
1

What? How so? 99% sure it's also illegal to kill your birthed children. It's also illegal to rape your child. Those rights really helped her. Really? I wonder if the pro-abortion or anti-abortion community does more for charity. I asked this question earlier. How many pro life people would adopt or believe in more social programs to help these parents that keep their babies. None said that they would adopt and most seemed against more social programs. Make that make sense if you want abortion to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:09 PM
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A 14 year old raped by her own father can't get one. She can be "inconvenienced" for a few months. Most pro life people don't give a single shit about children after they are born. They raped kid has more rights than the half sibling/child she's being forced to carry. I care about the birthed children first and always will. I do not believe that an embryo is a baby and my opinion on that won't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:57 PM
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Then you're not watching the same video.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:48 PM
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I 100% believe that it should be a choice. I also 100% believe that it's 100% abusive bullshit when you write and enforce those laws without rape or incest protections and then add that your rapist can sue you forn$10,000 if you get one. That's not being pro life. That's being a fucking asshole that blames women for being raped or children for being raped by family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:46 PM
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Go watch it again and he never said that she can decide not to do it. The word consensual was never used.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:35 PM
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I'd be a hell of a lot happier if these rape laws made exceptions for rape, incest, and minors, but I still believe it shouldn't be for the govt to decide period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:35 PM
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Was there any element of it to inspire actual fear? Because he said that. "Banana split"= bitch, imma hit you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:28 PM
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Forcing birth is also morally wrong. Those women are free to make that choice as long as abortion is legal somewhere. Your moral thoughts on it don't make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:22 PM
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No, no he did not. He said she knows that when I say this word that if she doesn't stop she will be hit and sometimes it's the only recourse because men do not fear women anymore. That's not consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:21 PM
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No, but nowhere in that video did he suggest that. He said it's necessary as a part of making your woman submit to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:16 PM
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That both people want and agree to the act. It's not used as a means to control someone from behavior you dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:13 PM
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If it's consensual then whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:11 PM
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No, women can't put a child up for adoption unanimously, that's total bs. They need the father's consent. They have the same safe haven law protection and the child will be turned over if the father wants it. A man isn't pregnant and most abortions occur within the first trimester, or 10 weeks within a missed period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:10 PM
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Try again. Fathers can absolutely legally abandon their children under the safe haven law. You are handing your rights to the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:02 PM
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Yes they can. It's called the safe haven law and any parent can do it. Almost all abortions are chemical. It causes a period. That shedding cuts off circulation. According to you that's ending their life support too. You don't have to like it or approve, but I will never judge a patient that chooses it. It's not a decision they make lightly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:46 PM
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A natural thigh gap is based on bone structure, not weight alone. Narrow hips and thigh bones curved slightly inwards means you will probably never have one even as someone that is underweight. Wider hips and straight bones means you can be a larger size and still have a natural gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:34 PM
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I have one. I am not underweight, but I am half asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:31 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:54 PM
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If it wasn't dependent on her consent and survival we wouldn't be having this discussion either, but it is, and men can drop off babies at a firehouse too. Pulling life support is at the discretion of the family, not us. She's not ending their life, she's ending her life support for it. If it dies, well I guess that was God's plan. It could have been prevented.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:54 PM
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He promoted physical abuse. That's his legacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:44 PM
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Can't post it. Google Kevin Samuels domestic discipline
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:43 PM
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That's not what he said. He said warn her and if she continues annoying you then hit her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:42 PM
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Men with 50% custody don't pay support. 90% of men never file for custody and it's agreed upon outside of a court between the parents. More than 25% of women receive no support even though it's ordered and less than 40% of single dads actually have a child support order. So no, not required from dads... You are required to participate OR pay for the time that you are not there and the mother has additional responsibilities. You can also file to terminate your parental rights just like with adopt…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:41 PM
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