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I think if you are in a relationship, most women wouldn't challenge that unless they super super liked you, in which case it wouldn't matter if you were in a relationship or not. They would just be super into you. Some women may be more open to friendships with guys in relationships because they feel nothing sexual will be on the table/no misunderstandings. That it is only friendship and would probs make an effort with the girlfriend as well to show there is no attraction.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:09 AM
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No safe word is a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:30 PM
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A bit to unpack here... But topline: no shame in being a virgin and don't put pressure on yourself. It should be fun getting to know people you're attracted to, but if you are always judging yourself it won't be.
/r/seduction07/02/22 11:27 PM
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Don't expect to know what is good for her from some strangers opinion on the internet. Be attentive, ask her questions and listen.
/r/seduction19/01/22 12:44 AM
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Omg. This is awful.
/r/seduction03/12/21 10:58 PM
1

It sounds like you both have drifted apart. Look to the future!
/r/seduction31/10/21 10:55 PM
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Everyone got their own preference.
/r/seduction25/10/21 11:14 PM
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I am just suggesting having a bit of fun to get back into a headspace where dating / flirting / approaching is an enjoyable thing to do.
/r/seduction02/10/21 10:30 PM
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Only if you take it seriously. If you are aware of OLD's flaws, which I assume everyone is, you can take it with a pinch of salt and just use it for fun.
/r/seduction02/10/21 10:18 PM
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So... It sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself. First of all, loads of people are in the exact same position as you, you are not alone and it's not hopeless. Now secondly, dating should be fun. If you aren't having fun then give yourself a break, it's ok! Finally, approaching people can be absolutely anxiety inducing, that's a natural reaction. So for now, just make an OLD profile and try having a bit of fun chatting to girls you think are cute and ask them on a date. I am su…
/r/seduction02/10/21 10:08 PM
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Your post makes it sounds like... You have become mates and hearing how she is interested in other guys hurts you. So invest your energy in finding someone that wants what you want.
/r/seduction29/09/21 09:53 PM
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Seems like you feel pretty unpleasantly about this girl if you are calling her a "cum rag" you should move on, it's only going end badly.
/r/seduction29/09/21 09:22 PM
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It sounds like she is intrigued which is why she said yes and is wanting to find out more... don't shoot yourself in the foot asking straight off "are you attracted to me?" It looks insecure. You have already past the first hurdle so have fun on the date, keep it light and then 2/3rds in or towards the end, tell her you find her very attractive and that you hope it's reciprocated, giving her the opportunity to tell you she is into you.
/r/seduction21/08/21 11:05 PM
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After having my phone snatched out my hand, my bag ripped from me, and having been followed home several times... I am highly aware if someone is paying attention to me, and I observe them right back. I don't think this is broke,I think this is adapting.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:36 PM
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I will make eye contact... But it will be like, "I see you, I can recall all your features to police if I need to..."
/r/seduction16/08/21 05:27 PM
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Soooooooo... if you asking her to cinema, then taking her home and putting some moves on her then it's fair for her to assume your are romantically interested rather than a FWB situation, unless you straight up say "hey want to be FWB?" prior to doing anything physical. Just ask her if she fancies being FWB...otherwise you get into ick territory which is no good especially when it is friendship group adjacent.
/r/seduction05/08/21 10:33 PM
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You are throwing around a few assumptions there... Some people automatically will date "exclusively" and only date one person at a time. Some people date a bunch at once. and filter out the ones they are least interested in over time. Both are acceptable, so for simplicity give clarity and get clarity. Also... I agree this guy wanted to show off, but it just seems like an easily avoidable situation and is it ever really a good thing to show off hurting someone? It's messed up.
/r/seduction25/07/21 08:18 AM
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Did you ever discuss being "non-exclusive". For some not discussing exclusivity is an assumption that you are exclusive, especially if you are regularly looking up and been seeing each other a while, for others it's the opposite and you only become exclusive when you declare that you want to be. It sounds like she may fit into the former category and was very hurt to find someone else in your apartment, and the girl on the ned being the later. Maybe going forward just be really clear about what …
/r/seduction24/07/21 07:36 PM
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I do believe that when you truly love someone you never are "settling" for them. If anything every day you think of small little ways you can show your love and care for being in a relationship and they do likewise and together you build your relationship. You don't "settle" love/a long term relationship is not a dead end. However, if you have the mentality that you are always looking around the corner for the next thing, you may never get to experience this, since you are fantasising about the …
/r/seduction17/06/21 05:56 PM
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You got a real head swirl going on, eh? First things first... You are so young and so many people are in the exact same position as you, you aren't alone. Moving forward.. start by focusing on one thing thing you like about yourself. An engineering degree is pretty impressive - maybe you like that your smart. Maybe you got good hair? Just try to find one thing and start growing your confidence from there... Confidence, honesty, openness are all great qualities that will help you attract relation…
/r/seduction17/06/21 05:48 PM
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Sure.
/r/seduction13/06/21 02:15 AM
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Totally! Imagine coming back from a month in Mykonos and when people ask you about your trip all you can think about/tell them about is PU. Naaaaaaaah. Just enjoy it. Treat yourself to actual time off.
/r/seduction13/06/21 01:31 AM
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Do you know what, those connections take time and trust. They are so worth it tho. If you make finding the kind of person you can do that with a goal you will find them, just takes a bit of time and focus.
/r/seduction12/06/21 10:04 PM
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Sounds so dreamy! Since you say you do better when you don't try, put zero pressure on yourself to PU and make your aim to live life well. Swim in ocean, drink good wine, find the cool little non touristy spots, enjoy yourself. Let them come to you.
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:58 PM
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So, firstly... take it slow and gentle, but also, if you feel confident enough, just ask them what do they like? Be open and listen to what is nice for them and they should do likewise. Also... This kind of communication will serve you very well when you do more than kiss too!
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:43 PM
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Invest time in the girl you have a connection with, like the same sense of humor or whatever. It will all together a much more fun experience.
/r/seduction25/05/21 10:51 PM
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Sometimes it nice to compliment, even if it's a bit of a throw away. Just like a nice "cool coat" or "great smile". You could make that person's day. That's good positive karma.
/r/seduction25/05/21 10:26 PM
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Hmmmmm... Is it possible these are fake numbers, hence no response. I just don't see why you would give a number and not respond when the person contacted you.
/r/seduction25/05/21 10:18 PM
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Because 1. on apps there is a gigantic pool of people and 2. Because you want something specific - fwb, but not even the f bit- you need a giant pool to find that in since most are after a bit more than that. It is also the least social option, which is something you said you wanted. Think of it this way... You in a bar (you don't really want to be there) and there is about 50 women. Half of them are single - 25 women. Of ghost 25 women how many are attractive to you? Lets say 10. Now how many a…
/r/seduction22/05/21 06:45 AM
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If you really do feel antisocial and don't want to date, contact a sex worker. Or put it all in your profile on tinder and see what matches you get.
/r/seduction22/05/21 12:02 AM
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Being cool in text between dates probably didn't help. Just imagine being in her shoes.... you have a date with a guy and its fun and comfortable. Your expecting the convo to flow from the date, but no, he barely messages and a second date is arranged. did you embarrass yourself drunk? Have they gone off you? Why is there a second date, he must be interested? Something is different though. Turn up to second date and be cautious about it all to try figure why the change. Impossible to relax and b…
/r/seduction20/05/21 03:11 AM
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I think this isn't a strong opener because you are giving a compliment and then dismissing it and in doing so also putting your Asperger's in a negative pov. Have you got any ideas of how you can give a compliment with a positive. For instance (please forgive me if this is super cliche) but you could do something like "So I have Asperger's and naturally very detailed orientated and I must say you have so many pretty details," very cheesey I know... But I hope it shows how you can work in positiv…
/r/seduction17/05/21 11:00 PM
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