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CMVYoung_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 08:17 AM
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NO. JUST NO.Young_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:12 PM
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Question For WomenYoung_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 10:26 PM
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Young_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:52 AM
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Now actually official!Young_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:25 AM
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DiscussionYoung_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 08:57 PM
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AdviceYoung_Oryx/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:16 AM
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I'm positive someone somewhere wants that rich, famous mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 12:11 PM
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Being hot is a good way to attract men. No skills required.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 12:08 PM
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I've found healthier hobbies 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 11:51 AM
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Because unfortunately, I'm unaccountably fond of this place and you people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 11:38 AM
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I would say that there's an important distinction to be made between the words "want" and "need" in your title. Ideally, you shouldn't need anything from another person. Ideally, you'll be just as okay if the person you're currently dating decides to stay or go. Call it "abundance mentality" or having a life that's fulfilling or whatever you want. Needing other people1 is where the whiff of desperation comes in, and people will either smell it on you and be repelled or you'll put up with a bunch…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 10:16 PM
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nags at him for not having the bills paid in time What's the alternative to this, in your opinion? Having the bills paid on time isn't optional, unless you want to deal with late fees and collection calls. Someone who doesn't pay the bills on time when they have the money to do so is just wildly irresponsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:30 AM
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In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 09:25 AM
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Be the change you want to see. The issue is that mods can remove posts, but unless there are high quality posts coming in, the result will simply be a dearth of posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 09:19 AM
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TRP's goal is to help men succeed at the expense of women. FDS's goal is to help women succeed at the expense of men. RPW seems to split the difference, aiming for harmonious relationships, but it still seems to cater to the male imperative; the women appear to be the ones doing most of the sacrificing for the sake of that particular kind of harmony.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:46 PM
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Having just lost half an hour of my life to rubbernecking the FDS subreddit, I'm going to say that's probably the female equivalent to TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:10 PM
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Sure, I'll bite. N-COUNT is a good factor by which to determine if a person is worth going into a relationship with. I'll dispute this. I think n-count by itself is pretty worthless as a metric because A) asking is weird; I maintain that no one past high school or college age thinks this is a normal thing to talk about, and B) y'all aren't going to believe the answer you get anyway. People who care about n-count do all these mental gymnastics with "take the number you get and multiply it by pi" …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 10:07 AM
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Kindness isn't the issue. A lack of boundaries is the issue. I think a lot of people fear/avoid confrontation to an extent that means they'll avoid standing up for themselves or others ("being a doormat"). This trait tends to get lumped in with "being nice" a lot, since passivity can indeed look a lot like niceness if you don't give it too much thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 11:20 AM
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I mean this seems like it's pretty impossible to answer because almost by definition, it's impossible to know to what extent our preferences have been shaped by our surroundings.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:14 PM
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It's happened to me once, and I'm honestly still kind of weirded out about it. A girl I dated for about a year just suddenly stopped returning my calls and texts out of nowhere. She doesn't do social media, and we no longer live in the same city, so I occasionally wonder if she just straight up died. So uh, I guess my overall thoughts on it are "probably don't ghost people unless you want them to lowkey wonder if you're dead forever." Like, just send a single text saying "hey, I'm not into it, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 10:47 AM
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Go for a walk in the park.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:07 AM
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By that logic, you could say that no one who lives in a first world country has anything to complain about, since by and large we're all adequately fed and housed and have access to medical care. But people don't work that way. There's a reason "there are starving kids in Africa" doesn't work so well to convince a fussy five year old that peas aren't so bad. It's the same reason women will complain dating is hard, the same reason people complain about their jobs or whatever else they want to bit…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:05 AM
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I'm sorry, I need to ask that you stop following this user around and doing this, at least on this subreddit. Here's the information for the US national sexual assault hotline and here are some international resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 07:58 AM
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How do you address the fact that feminists, not the evil Patriarchy, are calling for the female privilege of no prisons for women, ever? By pointing out that's a fringe view that's so vanishingly rare as to be worthless as a discussion point. I noticed that essay is from the "PostEverything" section of the Washington Post. According to its editors, "In PostEverything, outsiders will entertain and inform readers with fresh takes, personal essays, news analyses, and other innovative ways to tell t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 07:40 AM
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I don't even know where to start with... whatever this is. First, the average person in the United States is overweight, women and men both. The men you see in the gym are not necessarily representative of "men" as a whole I mean, most of the time in gym I see are men. Women are likely to feel uncomfortable in male-dominated gyms because no one wants to be stared at/made to feel weird while they're trying to work out and be left alone. Yoga classes, Zumba, and other group exercise classes are mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 11:50 AM
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Off-topic jokes go under the AutoMod.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 07:18 AM
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Take it to TRP. There's nothing to debate here, and PPD is for debate, not impromptu lectures.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 11:15 AM
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Advertising doesn't cater to people's feelings. It caters to the market. Most people in America are overweight. Women especially care about the fit of their clothes. If you are trying to sell clothing to overweight people, picturing overweight people is a good way to do it. Edit: the only time advertising leans on feel-good shit is when it's financially beneficial. Yeah, Dove has their "body acceptance campaign." Dove is owned by Unilever, who also produces quite a few skincare/cosmetic brands. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 09:06 AM
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For me personally, I don’t want to date a fat person because I don’t want my genes to pass down to someone who is unhealthy and unfit to be able to take care of their own body. That's legit. I wouldn't want to date a fat person because I find it unattractive. I wouldn't want to be a fat person because I would feel unattractive. That said, I'm still on board with the whole "fat acceptance" thing because as I understand it, it means not shaming others for their bodies or making judgmental comments…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 08:42 AM
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What's up, I'm back
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 11:02 AM
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Whew, someone sent the Reddit Crisis Bot after me. I didn't even know that was a thing! I'm fine! Not having a crisis, just haven't kept up with Reddit (whoops). That was a nice gesture, though, whoever you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 02:55 PM
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Til death or until my partner throws in the towel. I'm stubborn as shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:48 AM
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Don't shitpost.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:17 PM
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Don't shitpost.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:49 AM
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their inherently perverted male sexuality This right here is where that belief comes from. When male sexuality is seen as "inherently perverted," interacting with women in sexual ways is seen as a form of corruption.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:44 AM
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Hello, you! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:29 AM
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I took a nosedive into cynicism for a while there when I was heavily involved in PPD but now things are seeming downright rosy again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:54 AM
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They're so cute together. I want them to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:43 AM
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For about two or three months. Not on purpose so much as just losing interest. I'm actually not sure how much I'll be around now because I'm still not all that interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:59 PM
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Well hey there. I'm back(ish) and not dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:58 AM
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I'm assuming it's just a more involved/pain-in-the-ass version of why people who are dating break up and then date someone else. The relationship (marriage) didn't work out for whatever reason, they started dating again, and then eventually got engaged/married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:56 AM
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Again, if the man is in a commited relationship, he only wants friends. Yes, but this could easily apply to other men. I assume you wouldn't be okay with your girlfriend going out to coffee with men in committed relationships because you still wouldn't trust their intentions. This seems to be an obvious case of "I can do whatever I want because I trust me, but other people can't because I don't trust them." Which yeah, I understand that impulse, but why should other people (such as your girlfrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 10:49 PM
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Unenthusiastic sex is absolutely an expression of love, considering it's usually done specifically for the benefit of the person's partner. It's an unselfish act which is usually done to meet their partner's needs. It isn't an expression of lust, and while I understand why some men don't want sex with an unenthusiastic partner, calling it "not an expression of love" is just wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 09:18 AM
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Yes, it would bother me. I would not intentionally date a person who used performance enhancing drugs, mostly from all the shit I've heard about it increasing aggression and other traits that I find undesirable. I don't care if you or other people want to use steroids or whatever. I'm just not interested in having that type of person close to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 05:55 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 05:11 PM
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1 - not good 2 - average
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 08:59 AM
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I just finished a big work-related project, and now I literally don't even know what to do with myself. I guess I should take a... "break"? Is that how you pronounce that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 09:06 AM
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Dude, run. Run far and fast. People with personality disorders will fuck your shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 07:41 AM
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You'd have to go ask someone who believes in it. There are plenty of red pillers around. Try one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:55 AM
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Is that a baseball player?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:35 AM
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AMALT means that all men are terrible except my dad and husband, who are perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:28 AM
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Be attractive while also not being a shit person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 07:50 AM
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Oh hey, you got rid of the red flair. Are you not RPW anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 06:53 AM
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No, the anxiety and pain comes from the uncertainty of being with one of the "exciting" people OP is talking about. Waiting by the phone hoping a "player type" will call you is a form of anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 08:49 PM
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Excitement != happiness. It's possible to get a lot of fulfillment from your work, family, and the companionship of a partner. I'm not sure why everyone conflates "lack of excitement" with "boring life where you're wishing for death." I'm older than 25, and all these responses just make me think some of y'all are really young.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 08:47 PM
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Is a feeling of self-assurance that she won't come home early one day and find another woman in his bed really worth a marriage of drudgery, boredom and frustration? Honestly? Hell yes. Contrary to what some people would have you believe, "excitement" isn't all it's cracked up to be. "Excitement" is often synonymous with anxiety and pain. That shit is exhausting. Give me a stable life with someone who's a good partner and friend. I will gladly sacrifice excitement and sex for that. There are peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 10:31 AM
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I was a hardcore born again evangelical Christian for about two years there. That was a weird time in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 10:23 AM
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I think this is an unhealthy and atypical view of human relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:02 AM
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Agreed. I'm not saying it never happens. I've seen the high school sweetheart thing work for one couple I know. They're happy with kids, still in the hometown. I've just seen it not work out far, far more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:01 AM
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Would you say the man is prostituting himself in this situation, by your standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 10:59 AM
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Yes, I agree with you. Granted, attraction can cause problems. If one person "catches feelings" for the other one and the friendship starts to psychologically hurt them, that's a problem that means the friendship is an unhealthy one for them. I don't think that's always the case, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 10:58 AM
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Right, but prostitution is an even exchange of money for sex. Bitter manospherians call marriage "prostitution" because their underlying assumption is that women are only good for sex. In essence, they believe wives are trading sex for provision. That's an insane and deeply bitter way to view human interactions. Even in SAHM families, the fact that the mother works within the home and the father works outside is a division of labor. It's a mutual choice made by the couple that allows all the wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 10:29 AM
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It's only "prostitution" if you torture the definition of prostitution within an inch of its life to suit a tired bit of propaganda. It's also irrelevant. Most modern families are two-earner households. Stay-at-home mothers are rare these days, unless you're part of a religious fundamental group.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 10:16 AM
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I still think you're discounting the amount that a person can change over 10-20 years, and I think it's due to a lack of experience. While I agree with your conclusion "Don't marry someone you don't have sexual attraction with," I'm not sure marrying someone you met at 15 (which you suggested in your OP) is the way to go about forming a long-lasting and happy marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 10:00 AM
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Some things change. Some things stay the same. Can I ask what age you are? General ballpark range is fine. A lot more changes than you'd think, in a lot of cases. Enough to make plenty of people incompatible with their high school sweethearts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 09:42 AM
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While I don't deny that sexual attraction is a very (very, very) important part of marriage, it isn't the sole factor. You can't build a stable marriage on nothing more than sexual attraction. Watch what happens when young (often religious) people marry at 19 because they can't wait to hop into bed with their significant others— divorce is never too far away. The trend nowadays is for people to date for 4+ years before considering marriage, and I think that's for the best. It's long enough to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 09:11 AM
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Oh god, no woman needs that ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 08:58 AM
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What do they do?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 08:57 AM
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My husband says I can't say this to people because it sounds douchey, but none of you actually who I am so I figure it doesn't matter. Imma just use this space as a confessional because fuck it: I'm having a lot of professional success lately, and it's making me really uncomfortable. I mean don't get me wrong, it's great. It's what I want. I've worked my ass off for this... I just feel like I'm going to fuck it up. The pressure is intense, man. And this isn't actually a problem I can talk to peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 08:53 AM
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Friendship and sexual attraction aren't mutually exclusive. I think it's false to say that two people aren't really friends if one is attracted to the other. Men and women can be friends. It happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 07:38 AM
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In a relationship, should I bring this up, or should I just work on it on my own/with a therapist until I get through it? So in general, I think communicating problems and feelings you're having is going to be a good thing. However, the type of feelings you're describing "She doesn't text back because she doesn't love me" are unhealthy and not based in reality. I wouldn't suggest laying that on a partner because it puts them in a position to be the bad guy or to try to cater to your irrational f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 07:28 AM
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Sure, why not. I'm barely active on this sub these days though, in either a personal or moderator capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 04:32 AM
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I mean it's this or we both continue to be celibate for the rest of our lives. This is probably going to work better than that. Maybe. It at least seems more sustainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 08:05 AM
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A hot woman at the mall was flirting with my husband, and I was actually just happy for him. We had a good-natured argument about whether she was hitting on him or me (him obviously, duh) and decided we should've both tried our luck. Then we fed each other fries and went back to watching pigeons. Hallelujah, this open relationship thing is off to a not-weird and wholly undramatic start.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 02:32 AM
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"Free food & find a husband!!" huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 02:27 AM
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Short version: Married to a man, dead bedroom, open relationship, dating a woman long distance. Yes he knows, yes it's sad, no plans to divorce. Bonus round: No, I'm not with him for money; I'm the sole earner in our relationship. He would still like to co-parent with me (kids are his thing, not mine) and we might consider adoption in the distant future.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/19 12:10 AM
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5-6
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 08:24 PM
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When you're asking if 2019 is "the worst time to be an average man" I think you necessarily need to compare the entirety of what life is like for an average man now vs. the average man in the time period the OP is romanticizing. On the sex front, I would like to point out that sex in Ye Good Old Days was often purely procreative, blowjobs and anal were not standard, and porn was not free, plentiful, or easily accessible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:50 AM
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comparing the privilege of people in distant past to privilege people of today... its often stupid Then you should take this up with the OP of the post because that's the question he posited. He is explicitly making a comparison with the past and asking if anyone agrees. privileged / spoiled Loaded words that I purposefully didn't choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:49 AM
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If by fun you mean a trash fire, then yeah probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:34 AM
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Fair point. It was an ill-considered throwaway line and did not support my argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:29 AM
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They should have been more specific in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:28 AM
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People in general, both men and women, have it better in 2019 in first world countries than at any other point in history. We all walk around with tiny computers in our pockets that contain all the information known to mankind. We live in heated and air conditioned buildings where we are most likely safe from harm. We work jobs where safe working conditions and fair pay is all but guaranteed. We live in countries with so much food that even the poor can get fat off it. There is near endless acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 10:22 AM
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I live in an alternate reality of my own making. My job is to bend my little corner of the world to my will. So far, so good. Pretty much this! All you need are a few people who agree on what your shared reality should look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:14 AM
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This has been a hell of a year for reevaluating what marriage means to me. When it comes down to it, I expect my spouse to be honest, respectful, and compassionate toward me. That about covers it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:50 AM
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So PPD kinda sucks, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 08:23 AM
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It was literally everything I've seen people say here for the last 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 11:05 PM
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Q4All: Even if you don't agree completely with the other side, what have they taught you? That men are terrible. Thanks, TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 06:20 PM
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/u/flamingoinghome you still have the best flair on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 09:00 AM
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Calling a girl a slut because she won't fuck you is sour grapes. BUT so is calling a guy a fuckboy because he won't relationship you. But of course only one of these types of sour grapes is socially acceptable to express. Both are socially acceptable in the right context. Men can (and do) vent about women to their male friends. Women do the same to their female friends. It's not socially acceptable to walk around calling people "sluts" or "fuckboys" if you are older than college age aka a real a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 08:59 AM
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I feel like actually surprising someone with a finger up any orifice is a rude thing to do if you haven't talked about being cool with it at some point beforehand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 06:33 AM
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They're so cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 07:40 PM
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I had an "Oh fuck, I'm gay, aren't I?" moment back in December at my in-laws' house of all places, then tried to pretend that wasn't true for a couple more months until my husband confronted me about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 09:49 PM
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This is a weird question, but what color are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:30 AM
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Hehe. I dated one of those. We went to a class on how to clean animal skeletons together at some natural history museum.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 10:28 AM
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So there are a lot of reasons for it, all about equally true? I've been with him since I was 21, and I maybe don't know how to do life without him We're both mentally ill and need each other He depends on me to provide for him. I promised him a life where he'd never have to work again, and I intend to make sure he has it. I promised. That's what marriage is. I can't bring myself to break his heart. Losing him would feel like losing a limb. I don't even want to imagine how fucking terrible it wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 07:52 AM
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I made an assumption based on what I knew at the time. In retrospect, I was probably always a lesbian and didn't realize it until much later in life. Religious guilt is a hell of a drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 07:44 AM
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I guess it didn't occur to me that there are other people like that! I assume most people want attention from their partner, but I guess it's possible that I could find another task-oriented person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 07:42 AM
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I want you to know that I know exactly who you are, so you can stop pretending to be friendly to me if you ever see me online. We're not friends. Let's not talk. If I'm supposed to feel bad that I don't match your standards of Christianity or marriage, I don't. I have to be civil to you. I do not have to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 06:59 AM
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Yeah, honestly my husband is a saint. I know he would prefer more attention, but he's a really really good sport about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 01:21 AM
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I collect pictures of dead animals I find, start talking about methods of murder during lulls in conversations, and I'm likely to disappear into my work and not speak to my romantic partner for days at a time. Oh wait, you meant stand out in a good way?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 01:18 AM
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Okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 12:12 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 11:00 AM
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Shit, that's really like a phobia Yeah, it's not healthy. It's not so much desire for romantic companionship (although that is nice too) so much as a desire to use people as human meat blankets. I don't like being alone, ever, if at all possible. Which is not to say I want attention or to talk to someone at all times because I don't. Ideally, someone will be in the same room as me leaving me alone, doing something else, and not speaking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 10:56 AM
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I'm married and haven't been single for more than a week since I was 17. Being single sounds fucking awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 08:13 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:31 AM
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I'm pretty sure "big dick energy" is like, a joke. It's not meant to be literal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:29 AM
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Amen
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:36 AM
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He's still around on an alt.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:30 AM
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I don't really care to think of relationships in terms of success/failure. They are what they are, for the length of time that they are. However, when I was young, I had a lot of unresolved trauma from an abusive childhood and an untreated mental illness. I was always kind and giving (probably too giving, to be perfectly honest) but I was a difficult person to be in a relationship with in many ways. I was clingy. I needed too much. Many partners broke up with me due to those difficulties, and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:26 AM
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Say you and masculine "dude bros" had to share a space/presence. Ah, okay. This misunderstanding is my fault because I was being a bit hyperbolic. Polite small talk with masculine "dude bros"? Totally fine. I can get along with basically anyone for short periods of time, but I wouldn't voluntarily form deep relationships with them, nor seek out their friendship. like if a field were to be dominated by "dude bros", the rational thing would be for you to stay away right? Yep. I'm self-employed not…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 06:23 AM
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My friend recently started watching Game of Thrones, and her assessment of Jon is "He constantly looks like someone just killed his dog." And yeah, he totally does.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 06:55 PM
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Right, I find this creepy and horrifying for its potential long-ranging implications. Forget porn, this sort of software will lead to terrible things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:35 AM
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I love murses lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 05:11 AM
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I suppose I'd define gender equality as people having the same opportunities and rights regardless of their gender. On a more personal level, I believe it means that people should all be seen as having equal worth as human beings, whether male or female. Do you find your definition at odds with your desires? Maybe. I have a definite knee-jerk negative reaction to masculinity. I don't like it, and I prefer that it stays far away from me. The men I trust, love, and respect are all pretty gender no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 02:47 AM
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Hell yeah. I think that would be incredibly enjoyable. Have a couple beers and just hash all this out. I think the discussion would be a lot more civil, and it would be easier to come to an accord. It's more difficult for people to be rude when you're face to face, after all. I'm pretty confident I'd get along with anyone here IRL, at least for the length of time it takes to have a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:32 AM
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Lolol we're terrible parents. Idk man, sounds like a good time was had by all!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 06:13 AM
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The wife that let herself go after marriage and kids is practically a trope at this point. She probably did not look like that when he married her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 06:11 AM
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I assume most men are at least somewhat RP until they prove otherwise, so I kind of don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 05:08 AM
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Neither. We're both adults. No one in this relationship is a child nor acts like one. I make the money and handle all the administrative tasks of our lives because I'm temperamentally more suited to those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 11:58 PM
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how would you personally screen for a red pill man? By not dating men at all. Really easy way to avoid them!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 11:48 PM
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I can't necessarily tell who's a member of the subreddit unless they start dropping jargon and talking points (which obviously no one is going to do unless they're a moron), but I can definitely tell who subscribes to RP views just by the way they talk about men, women, relationships (theirs and those of people they know), RP-relevant news stories, feminism, cultural phenomena like Captain Marvel and Game of Thrones, etc. I mean really, I screen broadly. Any hint of regard for trad gender roles …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 11:43 PM
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or, like my grandmother, have you discovered your sexuality post marriage? You got it. Internalized homophobia is a hell of a drug.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 09:07 PM
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It means two different (incompatible) sexual orientations. So I'm a lesbian, and my husband is straight. I can't speak for other people, but our marriage works with a lot of honesty and frank discussions about our needs and feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:25 PM
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That makes it much weirder. It's really not socially acceptable to interrupt strangers having a meal in a restaurant. The OP of this post made it sound like a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 02:25 AM
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That's a pretty big assumption to make considering you know nothing about me. I absolutely do not believe the world is all sunshine and rainbows. I've dealt with mental illness for the majority of my life, and I've had the distinctly challenging experience of recovering from a childhood of abuse. My parents' marriage fell apart after their first three children died, and the grief tore them apart. I'm making a very challenging mix orientation marriage work, I'm facing down a lifetime of celibacy …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 09:37 PM
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It's called Craigslist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 05:04 AM
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And Medium is a blogging site. They will publish anything from anyone. You can make an account on Medium right now and write an "article," so anything that appears on Medium is basically "This one person had an opinion."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 05:04 AM
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That really sucks, and I hope things start looking up for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:13 AM
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I kind of dig the really dry ciders, but those sugars and calories tho D:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:12 AM
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I'm really sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you and especially your SO. The death of a parent is always so, so difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:10 AM
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BPD and gave me Valium for it Wut
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:09 AM
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sometimes our relationship sounds abusive to outsiders Okay, so obviously I don't know you or your mother, and you know better than me, but... is there a chance that it sounds abusive because it is? "Many other people think this is abusive" sounds like a red flag for abuse to me. Do you live with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:09 AM
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Ooh, I know this one! That was the owl played by Lisa Kudrow on Bojack Horseman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:07 AM
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Tell Beach Red Whine I'm coming for his title as resident drunkard this summer. You need approximately 500% more incoherent drunken rambling
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:07 AM
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I miss abortion week already.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:06 AM
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I would watch that tv show.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:05 AM
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What trp says is that it's in female nature to "be like that".It doesn't say that all women will ACT like that. This is the way TRP weasels out of being wrong. It's not falsifiable. You say "all women are like that, but some don't act on it." There's no proof for your assertion except that you/TRP say so, and I reject that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 09:01 PM
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What's YOUR explanation for RP observations? Some women are like that. Some men are like that. There are also women and men who are nothing like what RP describes, which RP ignores as outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 08:46 PM
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You can be red pill and call yourself a Christian. There's a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:56 AM
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Yeah, the issue here isn't "beta," it's "male." If he wasn't the man he is, I'd have divorced him instead of making sure he has a comfortable life where he doesn't have to work. Nice ad hominem you've got there though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:55 AM
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The red pill is not "just science". Explain to me what exactly is scientific about it. Does it follow the scientific method? Does it have falsifiable hypotheses? I'll answer that for you: no, it doesn't. Part of the reason RP is so pernicious is precisely because it's unable to be falsified. This gives its adherents the leeway to say that anyone who attempts it and fails was simply doing it wrong. Any evidence to the contrary is dismissed as an outlier or anecdotal evidence, never mind the fact …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:02 AM
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Fortunately, I'm not trying to convince anyone they should agree with me. I'm just laying out in my thought process as to why I disagree with the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:55 AM
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No, I reject the red pill because I think it's objectively false and bad for humans. I'm just pointing out that the language they use isn't geared towards presenting facts without bias like a textbook. It's persuasive intentionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:54 AM
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I could find you a lot of studies to support blue pill / feminist talking points. The red pill is mostly based on evo psych which is not a hard science.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:53 AM
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So I think the problem you're having, and what I run into it a lot of these conversations, is that you're assuming I don't understand the red pill and that's why I don't agree with it. There's a kind of underlying idea there that if you could just explain yourself to me well enough, I would agree with you. And that's because you think the red pill is truth. To put it bluntly, I understand the red pill perfectly and I still think it's bullshit. I argued on the RP side here for literal years. I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:52 AM
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This. It's why I specifically say reconversion, because it has different implications than someone raised atheist or some other religion finding Christianity for the first time as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 12:18 AM
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So as far as RP being a tool goes, it's more akin to propaganda then straight up information. To be fair, feminism is as well. Both have an agenda and both are trying to convince you of something. The language RP uses is deliberate. Most any RP adherent will tell you that the language is part of the message. It's "locker room talk". It's meant to shock and offend, and it intentionally chooses language that dehumanizes women (sluts, plates, bitches) and even men who don't perform masculinity corr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 10:46 PM
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If I didn't know anything about gravity and hypothesized that tiny invisible gnomes pulled things towards the earth, I could drop an apple and see it "work". That the red pill sometimes achieves the desired results doesn't mean their why is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:55 PM
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Did you reject RP because you think it's false, or because truth makes your life worse? I think it's false. You can find plenty of anecdotal support for either side, which is why everyone here is capable of arguing all day everyday. At the end of the day, the red pill is a strategy for getting men laid, not an accurate method of describing the world. Concepts like AWALT are heuristics meant to get men to "take the pussy off the pedestal" and avoid oneitis. It's unfortunate that this most recent …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:50 PM
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I really have no interest in convincing you the red pill is bad because I don't think it's really possible to change people's minds that way. That's just the predominant reason I reject RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:46 PM
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I mean, thank you for the object lesson in why I reject RP?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:23 PM
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It definitely wasn't a moment's notice. I was raised Christian (and was full-on "rah, rah, go Jesus!" as a child) before rejecting the religion at around 13. I was an atheist for the next 12 years, until I became Christian again at around 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:13 PM
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I've been red pill. I was red pill for 2 or 3 rather unfortunate years, until I reconverted to Christianity and realized how toxic RP ideology is. Here's the thing: you will find whatever you're looking for. If I want proof that men only care about sex first and foremost, that they're all rapists who will attack women if given half the chance (which is where RP theory leads when you're a woman, btw), then I can find it. If I want proof that relationships aren't merely transactional, that there i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:49 PM
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Yeah, I don't care. Other things about them would matter more, like personality and looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:18 PM
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And that's why you and your partner get tested at the beginning of a new sexual relationship. However, being sexually active with anyone is always going to carry some amount of risk. Most people find that risk worth it, especially when practicing safer sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:42 PM
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Right, I appreciate that you're concerned for his well-being, but he's an adult who can make his own decisions. You don't know either of us and aren't qualified to decide what's best for our marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:37 PM
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As long as they don't have children or an STD, I literally don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:26 PM
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I'm definitely not taking relationship advice from this part of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:20 PM
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She and Mel are imo the most beautiful women in Westeros (but for the balance, the next one would be Sansa) Agreed on all counts! Melisandre is so gorgeous, and Sansa is positively statuesque.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 11:40 AM
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I don't really care. I'm just as capable of being attracted to a 40-something year old woman as a college girl. (I mean have you seen Lena Headey? Damn.) The girl I've been kinda sorta involved with for the past 6 months (long distance, bleh) is about two years younger than me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 11:33 AM
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Wow, good for you man! That sounds super healthy and positive. I hope things go well for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:55 AM
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In the interest of helping this thread set a new record for comments by Sunday: I'm bored. I took the day off, and I have nothing to dooooo. Send puzzles. Send books. I hate television. My husband is like a cat. He always wants my attention except when I finally have endless free time. Then he's busy. 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 07:05 AM
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I wonder if we'll reach 600... Oh, I think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 07:03 AM
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No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 05:42 AM
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When did you realize you could have fun and be high achievers? I'm not at all fun, tbh. I just don't care about being fun. I love the work I do, and my life is pretty much built around making sure I can do that as much as possible. I barely socialize, but I can turn on the charm and do it well if I have to. I will say that I slacked super hard in school and made good grades anyway, enough to be offered a full ride scholarship to a great out of state college. I'm not a goody two shoes by any mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 04:55 AM
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100% due to male thirst
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 04:48 AM
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I mean yeah, sometimes you watch a show you generally like but don't want to watch right now, because your spouse wants to watch it. Sometimes you're too busy to enjoy a meal, so you wolf it down because you need calories and someone cooked it for you. I can't imagine how any of those things are red flags. Life is full of suboptimal conditions for sex, eating, watching TV... sometimes you just suck it up and do them anyway to be considerate. I don't think that's a problem unless you're never enj…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 04:46 AM
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How is it that you're suggesting rape with a blue flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:30 AM
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That's what I want in a wife, and I will accept no less. So I'm asking this in the spirit of honest curiosity and not antagonism: If this is true, why haven't you divorced her yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:28 AM
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Well, I'd say that enacting laws which specifically benefit women and are a detriment to men is doing just that.. but anyway... Most men don't have any direct control on the laws in their area, so this seems entirely irrelevant when it comes to discussing relationships. Laws and government are macro-level concerns. Why is that? Oh god, I need to just change my flair or I'm going to be writing these disclaimers forever. I'm gay. I think "anything" extends only as far as being a doormat here. Not …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:11 AM
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Yeah, I'm in the US. My situation is relatively uncommon, but I don't know that I would go so far as to say I have a unique outlook on anything. I'm just a gay person with prior commitments.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:08 AM
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That's a hysterical definition of child abuse, akin to women who call sex that they regret "rape".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:55 AM
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No, I would prefer not to have children but I suppose I wouldn't necessarily hate it if we had enough money to do it comfortably. I'm not maternal in the slightest. My husband does want kids though, so we've tossed the idea around a bit. If we do have a child, it will be just one and likely not for several more years. 35 is the latest I would be comfortable having a child for health reasons, and I would probably want to wait until I was 34 or so to start trying. I'm way too busy to have a kid an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:51 AM
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Red pill men specifically, especially the ones who are invested enough to moderate a red pill subreddit? Because they have an agenda. They are concerned with furthering the male imperative, which is at odds with the goals of most women. Never take advice from someone who's trying to sell you something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:47 AM
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This is the most INTP thing I've ever read in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:27 AM
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YAY, you posted it. Go, /u/crumblesnatch!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:26 AM
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the comment I included where men who would not do anything for women are the defective minority. How do you feel about that statement? I think it's false. Doing anything for another person is a rare and maladaptive personality trait. It's good to be generous and considerate, but the word pandering speaks to doing things for others to the extent that it begins to affect you negatively. Most men are somewhere in the middle-- they're not jerks, but they're not spineless doormats either. Most men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:18 AM
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This actually sounds really interesting, and I would love to see this as a series of posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:00 AM
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"How excited would you be if you held GOLD in your HANDS?" This is adorable. Thing 2?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:59 AM
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I'm not at all sure how this is a real question. Basically everyone here will tell you that pandering to women is a beta trait. Hell, I don't even buy into the red pill shit, and I can tell you that according to red pill theory, "pandering to women" is beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:53 AM
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For real.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:36 AM
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Yessssss. I can't wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:35 AM
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I get troll vibes but it's just so hard to tell. We have some real nutjobs here and it's hard to tell the sincere ones from the trolls. Poe's Law is in full effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:35 AM
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Eh, no apologies needed, but thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:17 AM
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You aren't the first person to tell me that. But he says he's happy and asks me not to leave him, so I don't think I'm entitled to make that decision for him. If he wants to be here, then that's his choice. If he changes his mind, then he can leave. I'm the sole earner in our relationship, so he'll likely even get "cash and prizes" on his way out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 12:14 AM
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You're fine! If I was worried about personal questions I wouldn't be posting about my relationship on PPD. But yes, basically. I realized I was gay later in life after I was already married. My husband knows and has been really supportive and lovely about the whole thing. I have a lot of baggage from being raised/continuing to participate in a homophobic faith community and family, so his support has meant the world to me. We're going to try to make it work, but if he were to leave me, I would n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:58 PM
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Yes, but I'm not interested in men so I find their interest irrelevant when it comes to "odds I'll be able to find a suitable partner if my husband leaves me."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:45 PM
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I'm a woman, but I don't go to gay bars. I'm assuming I just put off gay vibes because it's not super uncommon for women to hit on me out in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:38 PM
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Because I don't believe in divorce. I took our marriage vows, and I promised to stay with him, so that's what I'll do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:31 PM
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Yes, I certainly wouldn't have done any of this on purpose. It's less than ideal for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:24 PM
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Because I'm gay and find sex with men extremely unpleasant, and he finds the having sex with a woman who doesn't desire him very upsetting. He says it's rape, I say it's not rape if I agree to it, he says it's still rape if I don't want it— we've given up on this conversation for obvious reasons. It turns out not having sex at all is just all around less upsetting for everyone involved. The last several times we attempted sex ended with both of us sad and feeling worse than before. We just don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:20 PM
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You're remembering right! We're the celibate marriage. Although we've talked it over, and we could make an exception to conceive a baby. My husband still really wants kids, and I might be okay with having one when I was around 35 (the absolute latest I would ever try having a child).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 09:21 PM
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I'm late-20s. I don't actually have any unpartnered friends, so I fit the stereotype of the out-of-touch married person on PPD to a T. I have no idea what dating is like for other people my age. I settled down with my husband when I was 21. I wouldn't say I'm worried that he'll leave me for someone else, but I'm aware it's a distinct possibility on a long enough timeline. Not because of my age or looks but because of our dead bedroom. He swears he'll never leave me, so maybe my skepticism and do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 09:12 PM
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Wow, that was a fantastic comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 12:10 PM
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Holy shit y'all are a bunch of talkative motherfuckers. Current comment count for this thread is sitting at 513.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:14 AM
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Did you get hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:13 AM
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"We had this problem some years ago with the original mod team, and had to take corrective action." "Take corrective action." Yeah right. If I remember correctly, the original mod team quit in the schism that generated RedPillWives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:11 AM
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You're in favor of Brexit? Or just the party for protest reasons? I'm just curious. I know very, very little about your country's politics, but from what I gather online, Brexit is very unpopular.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:10 AM
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I must be getting old because I have no idea what TRA means.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:06 AM
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Ack, sorry to hear that. I hope you heal up soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 08:02 AM
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Hell yeah! Congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 08:01 AM
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I would raise my sons to be beta, if possible, because I think beta traits are more morally acceptable. I am 100% that person who would encourage my sons to wear dresses if they wanted. You will all be happy to know I don't really want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 07:28 AM
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I've dated both types, and they're equally fine. I think attraction and personality matters more. I would say the first type is probably better to settle down with because at this point, I'm an adult who doesn't really want to deal with another person's partying bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 07:19 AM
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PPD isn't the place for this. That said, I really hope your life starts looking up. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of hard shit, and I hope you find someone you can talk to. Do you have friends, a counselor, or another trusted person to talk to about this stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 07:15 AM
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PUAs are even trashier. No arguments there. Still, I think it's best to be polite when that's an option, and it usually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 11:43 PM
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I gotchu.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 11:41 PM
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Yelling at strangers in a parking lot is the definition of trashy. There is a way to turn down unwanted advances without being impolite.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 11:41 PM
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PPD is not your diary. There is nothing for people to discuss here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 11:39 PM
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Can we agree here at PPD that men and women have a biological imperative? Probably not. I can agree that men and women are more likely to express certain traits, in part due to their biology and in part due to socialization. I think it's impossible to determine what amount of these traits are innate, and what amount is due to upbringing. I don't think people are blank slates, but I also think that people around here give too much credit to the concept "All men are basically like X" and "All wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 04:35 AM
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Okay, that wouldn't apply to men but I appreciate your comment. You seemed to be implying that men don't value food, water, and air as highly as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 04:27 AM
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Take away food, water, or air from men for any length of time, and it will quickly become apparent how much they need and desire those things. A man who is suffocating is not going to want sex. Neither is a man who is dying of thirst or starvation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 04:20 AM
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Hm, well I guess I am his caretaker, but he's also mine in other ways. I have pretty intense anxiety, and having him around makes it better. I know he feels responsible for my well-being the same way I feel responsible for his. Which is extremely codependent and probably not actually healthy, but it's worked for 8 years so far, so we must be doing something right. I definitely don't want to give the impression that he's any kind of deadbeat. He'd get a job tomorrow if I asked him to, but like...…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 03:26 AM
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Oh, it's super hard without sex. That part sucks a lot. I'll be honest, sometimes I fantasize about being married to a woman and then get kind of sad that I will probably never have that. It seems really nice to have a normal marriage that includes mutual attraction! But we got married, you know? We took vows, and I promised to stay with him. I can't just leave. He doesn't have a job, or other friends, or any money, nothing. I promised to take care of him, and I intend to keep that promise for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 02:10 AM
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Your relationship sounds lovely, and the weekend you have planned sounds amazing. I hope it's fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 06:54 PM
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I'm just pretending it didn't happen tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 05:33 AM
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It's bizarre to me that so many men are acting like I'm oversharing by posting an incredibly innocuous comment in the goddamn off-topic megathread. Meanwhile we've got resident drunks that regularly go off. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 05:31 AM
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We've both given each other permission to sleep with other women, but so far neither of us wants to be the one to do it. So functionally, we're just kind of altogether celibate. Our relationship is so nice as it is, and we know sex with other people is only going to complicate it so I guess we're just putting that off for as long as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 03:32 AM
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Short version: Because I'm attracted to women and not men, and my husband understandably doesn't want to have sex with someone who isn't attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 03:10 AM
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So you've basically described my husband. He's very good-looking, to the point that people have told him he should be a model. Women hit on him pretty frequently when we go out. He also has pretty bad social anxiety. I'm literally his only friend, and he doesn't really socialize or go anywhere without me. I don't mind his anxiety. I enjoy spending all my time with him, so it's no bother. Plus I have anxiety issues of my own, although not social anxiety, which I think helps me be empathetic towar…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 02:58 AM
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Still a Christian, still dedicated to my marriage and my husband, not that it's any of your business. I could trot out the intricacies of both my religion and my marriage, but it would be a waste of time. I shared what I thought was a sweet story because I found it touching. If you don't like it, that's fine. that you are not entitled to having your choices and lifestyle accepted by all without judgment What trash. You are welcome to react however you'd like to my comments, as you've done. And I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 10:15 PM
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And for the record, if TWO comments on the off-topic thread, one of which was mostly about another woman, is "constant gushing" then I think you haven't been around infatuated women much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 09:43 PM
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It's interesting that men on PPD take women bitching about their SOs as the gospel truth, but a woman appreciating hers must have an agenda. PPD in a nutshell: If you're a woman, you're wrong 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 09:42 PM
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I'm trying to turn over a new, healthier leaf by avoiding unhealthy hobbies like arguing about pillsphere topics late at night. It's going pretty well, but it means I get bored after everyone I love is asleep. If I was trying to convince you of something, I wouldn't cop to being a lesbian in a celibate heterosexual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 05:10 PM
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As the saying goes, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 11:05 AM
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When you say "chaste opinionated weirdo" in your flair, does that mean celibate? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 10:00 AM
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My husband is really, really great, y'all. He's not religious in the slightest, but he is really affirming and supportive of my own (often fraught) relationship with my religion. Today I came home from church exhausted but feeling pretty good, all things considered. I sat down at my desk and started working, and as soon as he noticed I was home, he came by to ask how church was. I just said "Fine," because it was, and I was busy, but he followed it up with, "It was really fine? Everyone was good…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 09:51 AM
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Heyyy, welcome to the poly party. It's fun here. We have double the conversations about feelings 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 09:40 AM
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I think people in relationships should draw boundaries wherever works for them. If one or both people are bothered by intimate dancing, by all means outlaw it within the relationship. Some people might not be bothered by it, in which case it would not make sense for them to consider it "cheating". Side note: that feels good while drunk in a dark place with loud music Good god, why does anyone think this sounds like a good time? Sounds awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 02:14 AM
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Apparently I really haven't been around much lately. What the heck is clown world?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:35 PM
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That was a girl? Huh. I thought it was an incel man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:30 PM
1

I never thought I'd miss everyone vs. black pillers, but here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:28 PM
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Ughhhh you guys, my not-girlfriend is the best. She's so smart, pretty, and interesting. She might just be the coolest girl on the whole planet. I just want to tell everyone about how great she is. She's sleeping so since I can't text her, I'll tell you all about her instead. My husband is also really fantastic. He's sweet and perfect and good. I'm going to take care of him forever because someone that sweet is too good for this world and needs to be happy. I love them both, they're amazing. I j…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 09:42 AM
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I would date a woman who had an abortion. And as long as she wasn't weird about it (and wasn't asking because she's pro-life), I would date a woman who asked if I'd had an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 09:28 AM
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Few wives ever say "get your fat ass to the gym". For good reason. Do you imagine that would go over well?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:16 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 07:32 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 05:24 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 05:04 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 05:04 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:40 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:08 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:07 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:44 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:42 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:42 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:41 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:41 AM
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Things that repel me: Right-wing politics Anti-feminist or anti-SJW attitudes Disrespect for others' religious beliefs Criticizing people based on their appearance Using gendered slurs or calling people names Macho bullshit/stereotypical masculinity Rudeness/cruelty to the most vulnerable members of society (service workers, children, animals, and people who are mentally ill or homeless) Homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:40 AM
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Well you can take it up with the source. For all I know they've updated the statistics since then. But more importantly: if you think that 60% of Americans don't have $400 in savings, how can you think you didn't describe a UMC woman in your earlier comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 03:49 AM
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40 percent of U.S. adults don't have enough savings to cover a mere $400 emergency. and the median savings account balance across American households is $4,830 Source
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 03:45 AM
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But why?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 05:55 AM
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Are women on the same level as men when it comes to sex drive? No, of course not. Like, I wish they could feel what high T men who work out (such as me) feel on a secondly basis. Is this because you're expecting empathy which would lead to pity sex? Because let me tell you, I give 0 fucks if some strange men are uncomfortably horny. I also don't care if they're tired, feeling sick to their stomach, or hungry because why should I care about strangers that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 10:13 PM
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I wouldn't say I look down on working class/blue collar men. I don't think they're less worthy as human being or anything like that. But there's a very real cultural divide there, values-wise. I've never socialized with blue collar men except in passing, and I wouldn't seek them out. We just wouldn't have enough in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 09:41 PM
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(like, say, I found out the guy's married). That would be an excellent reason to flake
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 09:16 AM
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Three cheers for electricity! Hip hip hooray!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 06:39 AM
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Everyone hits the wall eventually. The wall is called age. It's literally inevitable, and it's coming for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 11:33 AM
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A Hummer says, "Why hello, I hate the earth and I'm not afraid to show it."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 09:40 PM
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Truck nuts! Oh god, I must have blotted those from my memory. Peak douche right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 09:40 PM
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(this means it also counts if you dislike a particular group and him also having an appropriate vehicle antagonizes you even more) I pretty much assume that anyone with a Hummer or a sports car is a douche. That's the extent to which I have any opinion on the kinds of cars people drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 09:39 AM
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Imagine being married and they had sex with other men/women. Yes, this is what most marriages in the United States in 2019 are like. You have both had other relationships, which included sex. Sometimes casual sex. Typically it's not a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 05:15 AM
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Around these parts and coming from a red pill man? Yes, yes it is controversial. For the record, I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 10:04 AM
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I agree with you about vacations. I just find that in these conversations, men tend to grow nostalgic for a past that never actually existed. They usually want the security and benefits of Marriage 1.0 without the responsibility, plus the benefits that came from the sexual revolution. Which means that what they want isn't Marriage 1.0 or a return to the "good old days" at all. What they want is just to have their cake and eat it too, which is very understandable and human... but let's not preten…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 10:00 AM
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Men as a majority don't do mental gymnastics. I'm amazed that you can read this subreddit and still think that. Pillsphere might as well be the mental gymnastic Olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 08:54 AM
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I read them and honestly lold at the thought of a man in a woman's body experiencing getting dicked down hard like some were so excited to do. I mean... if they're so excited, they can just go do it now. Make your dreams a reality, fellas! Download Grindr today!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 08:52 AM
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Do men who are so nostalgic for the good old days of our grandparents realize that men weren't getting blowjobs like candy back then, and anal sex wasn't a thing that heterosexual couples did? BDSM wasn't prevalent, and no one went into marriage expecting it would be a lifelong porn sex party.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 08:24 AM
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Why do people value anything? Some mixture of nature and nurture, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 04:03 PM
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It makes sense because I'm capable of observing trends without necessarily being part of that trend myself. "Not getting enough sex" != not having sex at all. When I say "everyone has sex," I mean that everyone is a sexual creature, barring asexual outliers. From the prudiest ice queen schoolmarm to the nerdiest dude, all human beings with sexual proclivities and libidos. The thing is, people don't typically talk about their sex lives unless they're in an appropriate context (like with an intima…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:39 AM
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Okie dokie. Thanks for letting me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 05:52 AM
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What if you fuck up their lives by doing so? What if they can't get past it? Feeling sad about having an abortion will fuck up their lives far less than having a child as an unmarried mother in high school or college. And I say this as a woman who had an abortion in my early-20s, was thoroughly traumatized by it, and got back on my feet with counseling and time. It's no fucking picnic, but moving past that kind of emotional pain is very doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 04:40 AM
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No personal attacks. Consider this your warning.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 04:35 AM
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And if she did that, you'd accuse her of lying and claiming her husband typed a thing, believing it was her all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 04:34 AM
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in fact a lot of men are very unhappy because you are getting sex Yeah, I'm not though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 12:24 AM
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I was a mod on a red pill subreddit. I know what AWALT means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 10:04 PM
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And I'm fascinated by murder and animal corpses and have a collection of hair and teeth at home. Guess how many people I run into day-to-day know that about me? There are some topics that just aren't fit for polite conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:25 PM
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Cool, I expect to see you nodding along the next time someone brings up a personal anecdote to combat the idea that AWALT, then. Since apparently we're not doing generalizations anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:23 PM
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Cool, I expect to see you nodding along the next time someone brings up a personal anecdote to combat the idea that AWALT, then. Since apparently we're not doing generalizations anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:23 PM
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Do you typically talk about private, personal things with people you think will judge you? Or do you move along and decide to share those things with someone who shares your values instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 11:18 AM
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Doubt it. I'd believe that girls act more/less sexual depending on how attracted they are to their SO, but not due to the circumstances of their meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 11:12 AM
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He specifically said that these women tell him their sexual fantasies and stories once some level of closeness and trust has been reached. That doesn't sound like prudishness, pretended or otherwise. It sounds normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 11:11 AM
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I wouldn't consider it cheating if both people agreed to an open relationship, though. I have no issue with open relationships, if that's what people decide works for them. I do have an issue with lying, sneaking around, and cheating behind someone's back. Like someone else said in another comment, better to just break up if it's come to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 10:02 AM
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Sure. Those are your priorities, and they're good priorities to have. But your initial question was, "Why do young women see a serious realtionship as a threat to their career?" And the answer is: because it is. A relationship takes time away that you could be putting into your career. For people who prioritize relationships over work, that's not really a big deal. Doesn't mean there isn't still a cost involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:42 AM
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However, I've found that after a girl realizes I'm not going to judge her, the sexual stories and fantasies come out. Everyone has sex. This post reads like you think you discovered something, but what you're really saying is "People don't act sexual in inappropriate contexts." I don't think that's some kind of good girl act so much as it's just the fact that adults don't feel the need to try to impress people with their sex lives like freshmen sorority girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:06 AM
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So this is coming from someone who settled down at 21: relationships are a huge time investment, and they do seriously curtail your ability to work in certain fields. Maybe not in the early stages when you both don't owe each other much, but marriage and LTRs eat up a lot of your freedom. In a serious relationship, you need to mold your schedule to suit your partner's somewhat, especially if you're both busy people. Personally, I used to work at concerts (great job, super fun, saw a lot of reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 09:00 AM
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I mean this in a nice way, I occasionally forget you're a woman. I mean I know you're not a man, but you're in your own box in my head just labeled "AtlasB."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 04:10 AM
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He'll be holding his breath for a long time in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 03:57 AM
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Pretty much this. I'm never going to agree that there's a scenario where cheating is better than just talking it out and laying out what you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 03:38 AM
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What if he had made an effort and you had both been working on the libido mismatch but not solved much. Lets say this has gone on for a few years Then he should be able to say, "Hey, this isn't working for me" so we can explore other possibilities. I think you're fishing for women to tell you "Yeah, it's totally okay to cheat in that scenario!" and you're not going to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 03:35 AM
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I mean, I guess I have what might be the closest thing to that? "Trophy" in the sense that all I want from him is company and someone who's nice to me. I pay the bills and my husband does whatever. I think he usually spends most of the day watching YouTube and playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 03:28 AM
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Is this a serious question? I'd be angry and sad. If he wants to fuck someone outside our marriage, he can just tell me that instead of sneaking around and cheating on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 02:34 AM
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What on earth are you trying to tell me?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 08:50 PM
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Maybe the mistake is a man assuming any kind of marriage will ensue in a lifelong sex party We have a winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 08:28 PM
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That is not what a contract is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 08:49 AM
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I was grossed out No worries, I realize this is objectively gross! 😂 "Just be pleasant" is such crap. There are so many other things that are just assumed (women are cleaner than men!) They assume that if she doesn't nag, she will of course still do all the good-housewife things like keeping a tidy home. The thing is... the person least likely to nag (Much pleasant. So chill. Wow.) is the person who gives zero fucks about cleanliness. And most men here aren't going to want that. Covert contraaaa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 06:19 AM
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Go visit r/childfree not having kids is the against the social norm, you get bingoed a lot by total strangers. I'm a married woman roughly your age who has no interest in having children. I honestly don't know where all those people find strangers who make comments about their reproductive choices, but it never happens to me. Most people seem totally happy to just live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 03:46 AM
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I could let the children run feral and let the house turn into a sty and let the utilities be shut off and that would actually be a lot more conducive to "being pleasant" than covering down on all that shit in addition to my professional responsibilities. This is essentially what I do. I never nag nor do I expect my husband to do housework. HOWEVER, there are dirty dishes and various items of trash strewn throughout the house. Clothes live in piles on the bathroom, living room, and bedroom floor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 02:17 AM
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These are excuses people who - oh the irony - can't handle the reality of dating tell themselves to feel better. Never said cheating was an accident. I said that life is long, and you have no idea what choices your SO will make in five years, ten, or twenty. They might decide to cheat. I'd say that the people who are unwilling to see the risk inherent in reality are the ones who "can't handle it."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:47 PM
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No, it's all equally bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:42 PM
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tips fedora
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:37 PM
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No offense, but I really hate "what about"ism. I'm sure most women are the same. However, the OP asked about men and not women, so it wasn't relevant enough for me to bring it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:37 PM
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In Fatal Attraction, Glen Close's character goes psycho and, among other things, boils her honey's pet rabbit in a pot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:36 PM
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Yeah, get me one too. No, make that 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:35 PM
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It's a total crapshoot. You can try your best to "vet" people, and by all means, do toss out the obvious bunny boilers waving red flags, but life is long and people change. Your wonderful sweetheart might turn into a cheater. They might dead bedroom you. They might run off and join a cult, decide the anti-vaxxers are really onto something, or just turn into a straight up asshole. Or maybe they don't! Maybe they just get cancer. Maybe they develop a mental illness. Maybe your child dies, and you …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 01:10 PM
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Thanks, dude! Nice chatting with you. You seem like one of the chill ones on this crazy part of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 01:04 PM
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It is in no way, shape, or form a contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:52 PM
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If I work for you, we have a legal contract. I am literally legally entitled to my salary. There is no such contract for interpersonal relationships. (And no one call marriage a contract, or you'll give Atlas an aneurysm.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:49 PM
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I did preface that with "I'm not sure if you're in the US." If you're in another country, feel free to share the common law practices in your part of the world. I'm always down to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:47 PM
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I don't think agreeing to monogamy entitles you to exclusivity. Monogamy means exclusivity. When you agree to monogamy, you're agreeing to be exclusive. It's a simple matter of taking someone at their word. If you tell me "I'll give you a cookie on Thursday," I don't feel entitled to that cookie. It's still yours to give or not give me as you see fit. I'll be expecting that cookie on Thursday, though, because you told me I should. If the cookie doesn't show up, I might decide that I can't trust …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:41 PM
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Do you ever wonder if you need to be the one to actively push him away so that he actually does start thinking of other women, because he'd never do it as long as you're there? So I'm going to be more forthcoming than usual because it is exceptionally late, and I've been drinking just a bit: The one time he misinterpreted something I said in a fight and thought I was breaking up with him, he threatened suicide. And I've had the distinctly unpleasant and altogether terrifying experience of sittin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:33 PM
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I'm pretty sure he just said that women don't know where their own clits are in another comment, so. idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:18 PM
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Whew. Okay, so again: complicated. Yes, he knows I'm a lesbian. That was a fun conversation (Sarcasm. It wasn't fun at all. It involved both of us crying, hugging, and talking about our feelings for like two weeks straight.) He is incredibly supportive of me as a person while still being (understandably! SO understandably) disappointed about what this means for our sex life. How did you get married in the first place? Two very young, mentally ill people meet and cling to each other like life raf…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 12:00 PM
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This question seems to assume that men are binary, either alpha or beta. I think it's more helpful to use alpha and beta to describe traits rather than people, especially since most men are a mix of alpha and beta traits. With that in mind, women are already attracted to men who display those traits. They may not be sexually attracted to kindness, patience, and responsibility, but those traits are what make men desirable as husbands and life partners. Women are more commonly sexually attracted t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 11:49 AM
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"You are considered common-law married, therefore you are entitled to a portion of the "marital" assets!" Not sure if you're in the US, but only nine states recognize common law marriages here. Plus, living together for a set length of time isn't enough to be considered married under common law. There has to be intent there as well, which means you have to hold yourself out as married publicly. Don't call your live-in girlfriend your "wife" and don't file your taxes jointly in any of those nine …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 11:33 AM
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It sounds like you're only with him so you don't have to pay him alimony? Oh god, no. Nothing like that. I was just pointing out that if anyone is going to end up paying alimony in this situation, it's certainly going to be me. It's complicated. We're best friends who love each other very much, and our relationship is great apart from the sex thing(which admittedly is a very big thing).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 11:28 AM
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But it is your condition that they give you access to your body or there will be consequences (such as leaving) and that's okay. I still think you're framing this weirdly. It's not consequences so much as a sense of boundaries. You're drawing boundaries about how you'll spend your time and who you'll spend it with. Ultimately, everyone stays in relationships because they're getting something out of those relationships. That might be love, affection, emotional/financial support, sex, friendship, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:21 AM
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"Hi! I'm the exception that proves the rule!" Well your whole point appeared to be, "You can't have the opinion that LEAVING is an option if you're not getting enough sex; you're a woman and therefore are obviously will be able to leave your relationship with no ramifications." I'm saying that yes, I have this opinion, and it's not coming from a place of female privilege. People can leave relationships that aren't working for them for reasons, sexual or otherwise. Plus, you're the one who assume…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:14 AM
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Needs to be able to fuck for 25 minutes straight because it takes at least 10 minutes of vigorous plowing for her to begin to feel something Are there seriously women out there who want to have PIV sex for 25 consecutive minutes? That sounds hella excessive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:06 AM
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No worries, dude! Feel free to post it tomorrow if you want, just wait til your 12 hours are up. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 09:01 AM
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Well, understand your female privilege here: when you choose to "chase your happiness" and leave the relationship, the court will give you a bunch of cash and prizes on the way out. I'm a lesbian in a celibate marriage with a man, pretty much staring down the barrel of lifelong celibacy because we don't believe in divorce. I'm the sole earner in our relationship, while he is the stay-at-home partner with less than five dollars to his name; tell me again about all the cash and prizes I'll win on …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:51 AM
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Please familiarize yourself with PPD subreddit rules. You may only post a new OP once every 12 hours. As you've already posted in the past 12 hours, this post has been removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:19 AM
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When two humans enter a relationship they will expect (good) sex or else they'll likely leave or similar - which constitutes a sense of entitlement. Humans feel entitled to sex in relationships and it ain't evil. Yes, the default assumption is that sex comes as part of the romantic relationship package, which is reasonable. Alternate arrangements are possible, but would need to be discussed since that's typically not how relationships are done. The relevant part is whether the amount and quality…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:14 AM
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Sorry, I realize the Automod wasn't around earlier. It's back now, so if you wouldn't mind posting this there, that would be perfect. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 02:42 AM
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I believe love and attraction can exist on separate tracks. That is, you can have attraction without love and love without attraction. To me, love means self-sacrifice. It means putting the other person's needs and happiness above your own and to an extent, being willing/desiring to do this out of a deep longing for that persons's well-being. In an ideal relationship, this sacrificial love is mutual, each person looking out for the highest good of the other. How do you ‘love’ a man and do you ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 02:40 AM
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Knowing there is someone back home who has your back, who's in your corner, guaranteed. Having someone to talk with when you lay awake in the dark at night, to share the myriad little moments of your life that would otherwise go unnoticed and unobserved. In a marriage or LTR, you form a shared history with someone. Vonnegut described it as a nation of two, with its own customs, language, and culture. You develop inside jokes, so that one day, ten years from now, one of you will say "Lobster" and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 11:52 PM
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But if you've downright deadbedroomed your partner, you've broken the monogamy contact and should either let your partner out of the partnership or allow them to get sex elsewhere. Why is it on the "deadbedrooming partner" to break up with their SO or to broach the topic of opening the relationship? This is a stunning example of hypoagency. If a person is unhappy with the amount or quality of sex they're receiving in a relationship, why do they need to be "let out of the partnership"? Why do the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 10:29 PM
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Dozens
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 10:27 AM
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Yes, but when have I ever said that I have good advice that will help men succeed at their goals? Surely red pill men know better than to listen to me (fish, fishermen, etc.). When men on this subreddit are freely giving advice and making statements that serve the male imperative, without disclaimers, I see no reason why I shouldn't do the same. It's men's own fault if they assume I'm the kind of ally they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 09:18 PM
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There's no way on earth you thought this comment was a civil response. Avoid further incivility in the future or your next ban will be significantly longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 09:40 AM
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It would be really nice if women only said no when they actually mean no, not when they mean “fuck yes, but only if you aren’t such a pussy that you take my no seriously”. Trust me, there are whole swaths of us out here who don't play stupid "I expect you to be a mindreader" games. No offense, but your wife sounds really immature and terrible at communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:42 AM
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Yes! Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 09:30 AM
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This post is marked "Question for Women." All top-level comments must therefore be written by women. You're welcome to post this under the AutoModerator comment instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 09:12 AM
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I tend to go by prevailing cultural definitions of masculinity and femininity. Disclaimer: I dislike both gender roles as a general concept and masculinity more specifically, so that's my particular bias. Stereotypical masculine traits: Stoicism, aggression, enthusiasm for sports, overt sexuality, territoriality, bravery, physical strength, bravado, assertiveness, provisioning, chivalry, desire for dominance
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 09:05 AM
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Do not use r/Purplepilldebate as a place to promote your website. I've gone through your post history, and it's clear all you do is spam subreddits to shill your blog.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:35 AM
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Brie Larson for obvious reasons. I mean, have you seen her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:26 AM
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This seems to have absolutely nothing to do with this subreddit and would be better suited to r/AskWomen. Make this connect to RP theory or sexual dynamics/relations in a meaningful way, and I'll reapprove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:21 AM
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No, living separately sounds awful. Might as well just be single in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:20 AM
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Sounds like a thing that you made up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 07:18 AM
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Men who care about sex on the first date should only date women who put out on the first date* FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 07:01 AM
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That would require me to think that deeply about strangers. No, I don't assume something's wrong with them. Relationships don't work out for any number of reasons. Not everyone finds their "person." That's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 10:14 PM
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But tell us how you really feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 10:13 PM
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Someone gave you statistics that came from a study, and you replied, "Nah." I believe that "reliable stats" to you means "stats that confirm what I already believe," and you are not looking for good faith discussion here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 10:12 PM
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Assumes all women are straight. I'm gay. I assume women I meet are straight until I have reason to think otherwise because most women are straight. No sense getting your hopes up for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 12:42 AM
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I make a conscious effort to be more curt with men because I don't want my warmness and friendliness to be mistaken for flirting. Yep, this. Even when interacting with married older men at church, some of whom I get along with really well/have a lot in common with, I'm more mindful of our interactions. I try to keep the conversations brief unless their wives are participating too because I don't want to seem like I'm disrespecting their relationship or like I'm trying to hit on him. I don't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 10:20 PM
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Women also seem to treat women better. But this may just be in group favoritism. I think it also has to do with the perceived "safety" of female-female interactions. Women are wary of being too nice to men because they might misinterpret it as "she wants to fuck." Women don't assume that other women are hitting on them unless they're being extremely blatant about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 09:19 PM
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I'm pretty sure I married the one and only man on earth that I would actually want to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 09:14 PM
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At the time? No. It did lose me at least one best friend in the long run because she got weird/jealous and ghosted me when I started seriously dating someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 06:22 AM
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I do value my marriage, but I also think that monogamy is "safer" in terms of protecting marital relationships. There's less risk involved. Sometimes monogamy is impossible or at least ill-advised, though. Mixed-orientation marriages are one of those scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 04:10 AM
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If you're trying to tell me that I would fuck one of those men, you're sorely mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 10:05 PM
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Do people who go outside want skin cancer? Yes. Everyone should stay inside to prevent photoaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 05:22 AM
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Guns are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 12:26 AM
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For the last time, 📣📣📣IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE GETTING MARRIED, DON'T.📣📣📣 There's your permission from a blue piller or whatever, since all the men on this subreddit are apparently incapable of doing anything that someone somewhere might disapprove of. I promise you, not one single person on this subreddit gives a fuck if you do or do not get married. Here, I'll even play you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 11:19 PM
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I'm critiquing the idea that men who have complaints or reservations about marriage should go for it anyway because of its "health benefits" or living longer or whatever. No one says this. The issue is, every time women on this subreddit express that THEY are pro-marriage, a certain subset of men somehow read that as a directive, "YOU SPECIFICALLY, must get married."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 11:16 PM
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Did I say they didn't? I don't even care if people act like that. It's not a moral ill, and they're entitled to it. I just dislike those traits and choose not to closely associate with people who display them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 08:33 PM
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Male sexual behavior, machismo, belief that expressing strong emotions (besides anger) is "gay", desire for a submissive partner, aggression, crude humor/speech ("locker room talk"), etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 08:16 PM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 07:58 PM
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Annoying isn't the word I'd use for masculinity. I just don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 12:31 PM
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And no I love you but I'm not going to kiss you after, even though you ask I know you don't want me to. I'm amazed that women give blowjobs to men who think and act this way, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 03:25 AM
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Ew...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 03:24 AM
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Serious question, if you're so convinced this is a viable, lucrative idea, why aren't you making it happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 09:16 PM
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I dislike masculinity in general, but insisting men change for me seems invasive. Easy enough for me to just avoid men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 08:18 PM
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You rang? Fortunately for my husband and family, I take it out on the internet instead of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 02:56 AM
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Yep, you got me. Although I think some marriages are built on romantic/sexual love, I don't think that's strictly necessary for a healthy, functional marriage. And on a personal level, I can be content, although perhaps not ecstatically, blissfully happy, without romance and sex. Contentment is all I really need out of personal relationships. I can find higher levels of fulfillment in my work and other forms of self-actualization. However, I could not be content without companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 02:46 AM
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Alt people?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 01:37 AM
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While I'm sure that's not good for your marriage, I'd wonder if that was a chicken-egg thing. People who engage in non-monogamy are less likely to hold traditional values that uphold the sanctity of marriage. Devout Catholics are probably the least likely to divorce out of anyone, and that is about as far from swingers as you can get. The thing is, people who hold those extremely conservative trad marriage values are likely to stay in marriages even if those marriages are making them unhappy. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 01:17 AM
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I'm self-employed and make enough to pay the bills. I don't expect you to do household chores, and you can sit around playing video games all day for all I care. All you have to do is provide companionship and you'll never have to work another day in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 12:52 AM
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Okay, she said that in response to this: "I don't know maybe it actually kills your expectations because you go through disappointments instead?" I appreciate your bid for equality in the bed-suckage department, but women being shit in bed would not disappoint a heterosexual woman, since they don't fuck other girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 12:47 AM
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This sounds like a really rough situation, and I'm genuinely sorry that you are experiencing this. I hope you and your wife can figure out something that makes you both happy, or at least content. You really sound like you're trying to make the most of the situation, and I think that's admirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 07:40 AM
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Protestant
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/19 04:10 AM
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Going after your deepest desires, even those animalistic IMO gets you the happiest life. While you're young and healthy and most of your peer group are single party animals, maybe. The forever-single lifestyle looks like it starts to become a downer as everyone pairs off and starts making families of their own. I don't know many people who keep it up longterm. Most men seem to settle down with wives around their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 07:14 AM
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Sounds like an awesome night.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 04:20 AM
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This is going to be a shit flinging garbage fest This sub in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/19 01:10 AM
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I read it. I think you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:57 PM
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That's a good reason for you not to get married, but it doesn't change my definition of a happy marriage. You and I have differing opinions of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:55 PM
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I think most older people no longer feel the need to chase parties and various forms of excitement, especially when they have kids. Most of the established couples I know care more about stability and partnership than novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:54 PM
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How many older (middle aged and up) married couples do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:45 PM
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What constitutes a happy/ideal marriage for you? A marriage where both people love and support one another, where each person puts their spouse's needs ahead of their own. A marriage full of honesty, affection, and gratitude, where both partners consistently work at making the relationship good. Ideally, there'd also be sexual attraction. What would make you want a divorce? Literally nothing. Do you believe in divorce? No. While I've tossed a lot of pieces of my religion overboard, that's one pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:43 PM
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The bottom line is women just want to have fun. They just want to experience tingles from their man. I wouldn't say that's all women want. I think you'll find that a lot of women are willing to sacrifice fun for stability, family, etc. (Put in RP terms, for a "Beta bux")
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 10:30 PM
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Yep. Although judging by the upvotes, quite a lot of straight women agreed with me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 09:24 PM
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but then something is different. Ah, here's the problem. I actually just think sex with men is off-putting and repulsive (no offense). There's not a "different."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 09:16 PM
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I think you don't understand how analogies work. That, or you're doing that thing men on the internet sometimes do where they conflate "willingness to fuck me" with "sees me as a valid and valuable member of the human race."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:52 PM
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I'm not sure what more there is to explain. Fucking random men is not something I'd like to do. If there are activities you would not like to do (swimming cage-free with frenzied sharks? eating 20 lbs. of liver?) then you understand the feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:51 PM
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I'm not trying to speak for all women, just myself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:33 PM
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How do women a) not want to do that The idea of fucking stranger men is not only unappealing, it's actively repulsive to me. You might as well have asked, "How do you not want to lay on the ground and roll around in puddles of mud on rainy days?" I just don't. There's literally no reason to want that. I'd probably pay someone money to avoid doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:55 AM
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My wife though? My lovely kitten? I'd marry her yesterday. Maybe tomorrow either. Aww. Good for you, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:46 AM
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If you knew then what you know now, would you still marry that person? Why or why not? Despite some pretty heavy difficulties we've had, yes. In a heartbeat. This is going to sound cheesy as shit, so bear with me: My husband is my other half, my best friend, one of the foundational aspects of my reality. He's family. He loves me with a ferocious selflessness that I frankly didn't think could exist, and he consistently helps me see the good in myself on the days when I can't. He's everything. Bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:43 AM
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Cultural Christian term for cohabiting before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:37 AM
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Female. I don't wear makeup. Why? It's a form of performing femininity that I reject on ideological grounds. It's not at all laziness or inability. I was really into makeup a couple years back. I found wearing and applying it very enjoyable. I actually still own a lot of quality makeup that I don't wear, and I'm quite good at applying it. My rejection of makeup is strictly ideological.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:29 AM
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Yeah, I mean I think there's something to be said for the tried and true methods that have survived the ages. Monogamy might not be the most fun or exciting, but it works
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:40 AM
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It sounds like you want to contour your nose to make it look smaller. You could use a cream or powder, but it will need to be a few shades darker than your skin. Make sure you avoid shades that are too warm or it'll look fake; the idea is to mimic the look of natural shadows. There are plenty of tutorials for that online too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:37 AM
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So, disclosure: I consider myself poly, and the vast majority of the relationships I've had were polyamorous. My marriage is polyish, likely to become an open marriage in the not-so-distant future. I say this so you understand that I'm not categorically anti-polyamory. I think it can work for some people. I do not think it's the best or smartest idea for anyone who values the longevity of their marriage. I think it's probably a fucking awful idea. That said, this is absolutely untrue: Non-monoga…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 08:45 PM
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I mean go for it, but ime makeup is never invisible IRL, only on camera. If you're going the concealer route, I highly recommend using something higher quality than ELF. Lisa Eldridge is a good one for natural makeup looks that focus on perfecting the skin with minimal makeup. If a male friend came to me looking for help with subtle concealer, I'd point him in the direction of her concealer tutorials.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 08:30 PM
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Do you think this is a reasonable outcome, or something that you can make happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 11:14 AM
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But most women find makeup on a man unattractive and unmanly, thus they don't allow it socially. This is the point of OP, it's not a issue in legislation, but in what is socially accepted behaviour. But then we go back to the RP adage, "You can't negotiate attraction." I'll bet most women in this thread genuinely believe that men should face no stigma for wearing makeup. That doesn't necessarily mean they'll want to fuck the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 11:01 AM
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Rubbing chemicals on your body is not going to give you the long term results you desire. Naturalistic fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:05 AM
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I can't imagine caring about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 09:46 AM
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I heartily encourage everyone to do whatever the fuck they want, up to and including makeup and plastic surgery. This includes men. You're conflating two different things: "What do men have the right to do?" (Whatever they want, as long as it's legal.) And "What do women find attractive?" (In general, not men wearing wigs and makeup.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 09:44 AM
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"Women are loved unconditionally"- Why don't you go ahead and tell me how long that unconditional love lasts in a dead bedroom? Men love women as long as they're putting out. This shit is all transactional; it's just that men and women want different things from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 08:37 PM
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what sort of argument does he have for men not willing to marry their LTR? Are you familiar with Christianity at all? (I'm not being sarcastic, I'm genuinely wondering.) Sex outside of marriage is considered a sin, and that includes people in "committed" relationships who have decided to forgo marriage for ideological reasons. As a minister, my dad is concerned with instructing people to live in a way that makes them right with God. Obviously I don't expect you, a nonreligious person to believe …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 10:29 PM
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Chiming in as a Protestant, and it's the same. I doubt there's a minister alive that will perform a sham wedding. You seem to think that religious clergymen take marriage less seriously than the state, /u/yeezusshityall, and that is absolutely not the case. My father is a minister, and he would verbally wipe the floor with any man who was unwilling to commit to their LTR because "marriage is a bad deal for men." I've literally seen him do it. Marriage is important to me, but I'm the nice version…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 10:17 PM
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I assume you're asking "How does your husband know that you're not cheating." He's the stay-at-home partner in our relationship, and I work from home, so we're in the same house together pretty much all day everyday. Beyond that, he's free to look through my phone if he feels like it. He doesn't (that I know of), but he does often use my phone as a flashlight when he goes outside for smoke breaks, so who knows if he's looking through it then. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:51 AM
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I don't feel "entitled" to being believed re: faithfulness and paternity. It's something I desire in a relationship-- trust. I would not date a man who was not willing to trust me, I certainly would not marry him, and I abso-fucking-lutely would not have children with him. I don't want kids. If I had a kid, it would be for my husband, so yeah, I would be livid if he threw that sacrifice back in my face by asking for a paternity test. Men absolutely have the right to ask for paternity tests. I en…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:19 AM
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Why don't you just move to a Middle Eastern country under Sharia law?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 02:20 AM
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I'll take "Red Pill concepts I reject" for $60,000, Alex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:30 PM
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You should have said at least 200,000. I mean then at least it wouldn't have been ridiculous. But there's literally no dollar amount that would be worth it. Money is power in the world. Why would anyone in their right mind want a SO who out-earned them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:27 PM
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He's definitely not a beta male simp who would give out commitment easily or marry you without an extensive vetting process on his end. He's well aware of how marriage is generally a bad deal for men with 70% of divorces initiated by women.[...] He thinks he can give you a marriage level of commitment without the "piece of paper." So he's a moron who's read too much manosphere shit. Why would I want a moron who's steeped in the manosphere? Hard pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:23 PM
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Of course I would be upset. The only way a child would belong to another man is if I had cheated, ergo he is accusing me of cheating. It would be particularly offensive since my husband wants kids and I don't, so if I was having a child at all, it would be for him. Fortunately, I have an excellent solution to this problem: Just don't have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 08:18 PM
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Being generous with your affection, money, and time doesn't have to come from a place of weakness. Weakness is depending on the other person to provide your sole sense of worth, contentment, and validation. If you know you'll be okay if the other person leaves, or if you have to leave, then you can give freely. I would say that's actually the only way to give freely because it's the only way you can give without having covert contracts or expectations. If they give back, good. If they don't, goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 07:56 AM
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This all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:41 PM
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Unless it affects women, which is where this all breaks down. I'm not all women, so it still doesn't actually affect or bother me. men should be able to say "I don't care about the plight of women, I want what is best for me" too. Literally nothing is stopping you, unless you're afraid of disapproval from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 05:51 AM
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So create more,if you feel that's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:58 AM
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What if a police officer held that view? He doesn't have the option to "just stay away". Women will witch hunt and try to get him fired. There's more to it than this reductionist view. Obviously I mean this in a romantic/social way. These OPs always have an undertone of "Women, convince me, a person who thinks relationships with women aren't worth my time, that you are in fact worthy!" And I see no purpose in indulging these people with that. Date women or don't. It literally does not matter tom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:35 AM
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Why do you have to give a shit about their opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:29 AM
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Why shouldn't I be suspicious and mistrustful of women? Please do! I would like it if men who are suspicious that women are all man-bleeding harpies stayed away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 12:52 AM
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Under what conditions would you be in a non monogamous relationship? Any and all, I suppose. I would say "as long as the person I'm with isn't a shithead," but if they were a shithead, I wouldn't be dating them, would I?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 01:34 AM
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I can't imagine caring about this. Why the fuck would you care? I care about how whether or not my relationship with this person is good. What their exes looked like is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 08:54 AM
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I'm in my late 20s. Preferred age bracket is mid-20s to mid-30s, basically women around my own age. Not that I'd necessarily turn down someone younger, but there stops being a certain amount of common ground when they're college students.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:12 PM
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I believe it's worthwhile to treat all humans with courtesy and kindness. Nobody is "trash". Clearly we disagree, and I disagree that makes me foolish. You're entitled to your opinion, but we are starting from very different first premises.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 04:50 PM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 04:39 PM
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Hell no. The procedure to remove eggs is involved and invasive. It's a lot to put your body through. If I need money, I can just earn it by working. No need to sell parts of my body, jeez.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 04:09 PM
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It's old-fashioned. I don't have any particular feelings about it. If certain men want to do it, that's fine. If they don't, that's also fine. It's not really a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:35 AM
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Common law marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:55 AM
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Clearly! It's eerie how similar we are, right down to my severe lack of maternal instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:54 AM
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Tell that to the red pillers who refuse to get married because of the implications of that "piece of paper" in the event of a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:49 AM
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Irrelevant. The goal is raising a child in a stable, two-parent household. If your man has bolted and you're raising a kid on your own while getting child support checks in the mail, you've fucking lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:46 AM
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a marriage certificate doesn't mean shit. If this were true, so many men wouldn't be fearful of getting "divorce raped." Clearly divorce is a powerful disincentive. Short of holding a gun to someone's head, there's no guarantee they will stay with you forever. However, marriage is an additional layer of security that makes them less likely to bolt. Getting a divorce is a lot harder than saying, "I'm breaking up with you." Having children is a huge investment for women. It takes a toll on their b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:44 AM
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Or just continue to live with your baby mama. Okay, yes, this is an option for men who don't care about/don't desire marriage. /u/CreightonWAbrams said she would never have a child out of wedlock, and you acted as though that was impossible because "accidents happen." I told you the three ways a woman can prevent an "accident" from "happening." For the record, I would never have children outside of wedlock either. I got an abortion when I was younger, and I have never regretted it. A man can say…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:40 AM
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I've always cared about finding a lifelong partner, but didn't really care about marriage. My husband "didn't believe in marriage" for ~4 years, until one day he asked me to marry him. I wasn't too fussed about it either way. I planned to stay with him without marriage, and didn't mind actually marrying him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:38 AM
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I suggested surrogacy, but he informed me that my suggestion was weird. Oh, yeah we had this exact conversation too. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:36 AM
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Three options: Abortion, adopting out the unwanted baby, and getting married before baby shows up on the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:33 AM
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But when you give guys near 100% fidelity 10/10's to have sex with every night... those guys aren't going to be as motivated as they once were to seek out relationships. Common advice to incels is "Go see a prostitute," and there is always pushback. The pushback is never "That's too expensive" or "It's illegal." The objections incels raise are always in the form of, "It doesn't count because you're paying her. Incels crave real validation and intimacy." That's not me saying it; that's straight f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 10:17 PM
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I refuse to read this post because you think "unfairity" is real word. I'm just going to assume that you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 10:04 PM
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People only like you if you're likeable. People are only attracted to you if you're attractive. Relationships aren't charity, people seek them out because they want some value added to their life. Frankly it's astonishingly selfish to me to expect people to love the "real you" when doing so would not benefit them in any way because you don't bring anything to the table. You're treating other people like NPCs in your game of life instead of actual humans with their own goals and desires and physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:41 PM
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It's obvious that love as we all have been taught is not real. It is, but not every relationship will live up to that standard, due to compatibility, timing issues, whatever. Sometimes you get into relationships with the wrong people, but that doesn't mean you should conclude there are no good relationships out there. Good relationships are built over time, through dedication and hard work. And yeah, it takes a bit of luck too. My grandparents have been together for over 65 years, and they're st…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:40 PM
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"I don't want to feel feminine." "Cool. Do you act a certain way to feel feminine?"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:31 AM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:28 AM
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I'm not exaggerating when I say that I literally never want to feel feminine. I borrow my husband's clothes pretty often (shirts, boxer briefs, occasionally pants), I don't shave, and I don't wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:12 AM
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I use the prevailing cultural definition of "femininity." When I set a new personal best running, I don't perceive that as feminine. It just feels strong and fast. I'm not criticizing the way you choose to define femininity for yourself, but I don't personally like the idea of massaging it until it has a definition that's acceptable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:06 AM
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Nothing makes me feel feminine, which is fine by me. I don't want to feel feminine, and I go out of my way to avoid it. That in no way means that I want to be a man. I'm fine with being female, but I reject means of performing femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:01 AM
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What do you think inspires women to think they can say this? Clearly they can do so. That there is a woman saying that. Likewise, you could write a scathing article criticizing women and post it on Medium or purchase your own web domain to host your views. Nothing is stopping you either. no other women call them out on it? Why is that? Because I don't seek out that kind of content, so I don't see it, and I don't know anyone in my life who espouses those sorts of views. Also, I don't see the need…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 07:42 AM
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No, although for the purposes of this question, you should probably know that I don't want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 10:50 AM
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Neither am I! That might be why I appreciate the really enthusiastic wake-up so much. Takes "Erghh why am I awake" to "Oh yeah, this is nice."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:54 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:22 PM
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He made a necklace out of a piece of blown glass we made together, and he put on my favorite color shirt and hid behind a tree waiting to surprise me. This is so high school, and it's adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:16 PM
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10/10 stealing this when we get a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:15 PM
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+1 to all of this. I go in for thoughtful way more than "romantic"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:31 PM
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When I wake up every morning, my husband makes a big, silly deal out of it. He claps and cheers and gives me a big hug, then makes me coffee. It's the best. It makes me feel really loved. I don't know if that counts as classically romantic, but I'm counting it. I do things like that for him too. I'll make up silly dances or change the words of songs to make them funny because it makes him smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:27 PM
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Ok Ariana Grande.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:56 AM
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Rest assured, I will give this opinion from an internet stranger all the consideration it deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:41 AM
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Sure did. Because he's also the kindest, most wonderful person I've ever met. Everyone's got flaws, and as far as flaws go, I can deal with "will start a fight if someone is harassing his wife," even if it isn't my ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:25 AM
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Thirded
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:18 AM
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Wondering what the BluePill response is to this, lol. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:17 AM
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I mean, my husband would definitely start a fight with that guy if he didn't chill the fuck out and knock it off. What are your thoughts about entire situation? I'd prefer it if we could all just walk away and not get into some weird shit with a stranger because I don't want my husband to get hurt or arrested.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:06 AM
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Suppose your partner is more attractive, wealthier, more interesting, and makes you feel better than other people your SMV would allow you to get. Irrelevant. I would want to know, and it's unlikely that I would leave. It would, however, trigger a conversation about potentially restructuring our relationship's boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 06:13 AM
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No it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 08:26 PM
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Kudos to anyone who still has the energy to argue this stuff after all these years. Personally, I'm pretty burnt out on it. I've been taking a break, and that will likely continue for the foreseeable future. Have fun and don't hurt anything, y'all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:09 AM
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I've said "You are going to be my little slut. And each time we'll meet you'll beg me to fuck you." If you say it seductively... not like wannabe rapper pimp... you can get her wet for you instantly. This might work on a certain type of person if they've already decided you're attractive. It's going to send most people running for the hills, though. Boundaries, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 08:29 PM
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The issue seems to be that you have a child rapist as a mod on this sub and inaction is perceived as benign approval by a portion of the users here. It's entirely up to the mod team whether they want to address it or not. We don't and have never moderated based on our personal morals. We remove things that violate the subreddit rules, full stop. If I removed things I found immoral, you'd wake up to find 3/4ths of the sub nuked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 07:08 AM
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"I didn't have the kind of sex I want." != virginity
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 11:22 PM
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I've done all the "normal" stuff aside from vaginal penetration. Gotten bj's, fingered girls, anal with my ex Yes, hi. Hello. You are not a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:37 PM
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Because people like validation in the form of fake internet points (upvotes, likes, retweets) and saying quippy things that cater to the lowest common denominator is a guaranteed way to rack up those points. Stop trying to find deep truth on social media. That shit's fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 09:11 AM
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K but it's a vegetarian restaurant tho
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 12:26 AM
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I got my husband a stuffed animal, and I'm taking him out to dinner later.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 08:59 PM
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I feel like this is my future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 08:46 AM
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Are you willing to learn to see the problem that you claim not to be able to see? Some people feel threatened by slut walks. I understand that, but that doesn't mean I have to find their dislike valid. My point, which I think you missed, was this: I don't personally have to find value in something in order for it to exist, which is why I'm fine with men's rights walks or virgin walks, or whatever the fuck people want to do. I'm not a men's rights advocate at all. I'm a feminist. I care a lot mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:42 PM
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Understand that in some cases (like this one) I'm not acting in an official capacity as a mod. I am literally just some person on the internet giving my opinion in a debate. I'm pretty sure I'm more "sensitive to the sensibilities of people" than 99% of people here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:32 PM
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So the average woman has fucked 100s of guys throughout her 20s We'll start here: this is not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 10:35 AM
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What subjects are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 10:22 AM
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PSA: My husband is the best person on earth. I'm up late working, and he just brought me tea, sparkling water, and nutella toast. This man needs a parade in his honor. I'll construct statues of him in the town square.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 10:21 AM
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I'm self-employed and work from home. Even better :P
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 08:38 AM
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Well not the "to women" part specifically. But a workplace full of coworkers that keep to themselves and don't bother you sounds great.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:10 AM
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That doesn't sound malicious at all. You sound like the perfect coworker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 03:16 AM
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Maybe I was unclear then. I don't think his opinion is fine because I don't think either of those things are stupid. Calling something "stupid" (and I assume by extension, saying it should therefore not exist) just because it doesn't have relevance for you is shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 01:02 AM
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No point. The OP's premise seems to be that slut walks are stupid, and they're trying to illustrate that by suggesting male virgin walks (which they believe are equally stupid). I don't see the problem with any of these things. I don't personally have to find value in something for it to exist. People find value in slut walks, and good for them. If a group of men found value in organizing a virgin walk, good for them too. I just don't see the point of getting bent out of shape about what other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 12:21 AM
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I have no problem with men organizing virgin walks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 11:00 PM
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Does your wife also send sexually explicit material to her friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:46 AM
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The one exception I can see is if one partner doesn’t care about same sex hook ups (seems like a dude phenomenon). So, for the record this is what I'm working with, so I'm not sure this counts as a CMV. I've been doing a long distance thing with a girl for a couple months now, and it's been easy and just in general a net positive. I'll say that it helps that she's also married because there's a mutual understanding and respect of another relationship in both our lives that takes primacy. I'll se…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 12:38 AM
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We have a free-standing bathtub that's separate from the shower. I shower every day, but no one in this house really takes baths ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 06:38 PM
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And this thread in a nutshell is why I have never, and will never, send nudes to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 11:34 AM
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I don't understand why people have such a hard time with "Just be yourself." It's obviously a platitude and not meant to be taken as gospel truth. It's like when people say things like, "Shoot for the moon! Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars!" It's meant to be inspirational, and there's a nugget of truth in it. If you strive for your big dreams and work hard and believe in yourself... guess what, you could still get cancer, get hit by a bus tomorrow, or make a bad investment decision …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 10:07 AM
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But God made the genes and the Big Bang. Checkmate, atheists and Bible literalists.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 09:12 AM
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\o/ I support this endeavor. I've been trying to think of a new flair for ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 09:06 AM
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How do you clean yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:15 AM
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Women made men. Checkmate, MRAs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:14 AM
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Inviting those who spend hours and hours debating Red Pill content, to get clarity on that content from the actual creators of that content and then debating them if they think it has holes or doesn't add up. But as u/buartha pointed out, we are all perfectly capable of reading TRP's sidebar, just like everyone else. A great many of us have done just that, at one point or another. Hell, I used to mod a red pill sub. Trust me, I understand the content just fine, just like a bunch of other blues a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:13 AM
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Hyperrreal! Hello!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 06:57 AM
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I love you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 06:55 AM
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CMV The bathtub is the best place to store dirty clothes. Who needs a laundry basket?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 06:54 AM
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It's hilarious when they backpedal after you tell them you've been married longer than X arbitrary date. "OH YEAH, well I meant 5 years from NOW!"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 09:41 PM
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I have gotten into intense debates with women here over the years. The difference is that women don't typically resort to personal attacks. Meanwhile, the men love to do that shit (seriously, I could fill a book with all the nasty shit dudes here have said to me about my husband), so debates with other women typically look (and feel) a lot friendlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 08:39 PM
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I grew up believing in and defending this rule, but recently I've admitted to myself that it's incredibly unrealistic and borderline useless for people who are not straight. Like, it is beyond stupid to me that it's fine for me and my church bestie to hang out alone (she's a lesbian, and I'm primarily attracted to women). No one bats an eye. But a great many eyebrows would be raised if one of us tried to hang out with the third member of our church group, this 18 year old kid that neither of us …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 08:28 PM
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Anyone who needs their SO to feed them drama in order to be happy in the relationship is immature. That's some high school shit. If you need your SO to be your sole source of excitement and interest in your life, you are doing something very, very wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 07:33 AM
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For the record, no one in this conversation is calling u/Salty-Bastard a misogynist. Personally, I think he's one of the most reasonable men on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 12:30 AM
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He'd probably think you have some ignorant views, based on your recent post history. (His words, not mine.) He has a couple more dude-ish, RP acquaintances that he complains are ignorant whenever he sees them. But if y'all were to just grab a beer and not talk about pill shit, I'm sure you'd get along fine. There's a reason talking about sex, politics, and religion is verboten in polite company!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:52 AM
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Same, but only after dramatically sighing to make a point about how stupid he thinks it all is 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:39 AM
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Whenever I bring up PPD, my husband rolls his eyes and tells me I'm only encouraging the misogynists on the internet by engaging with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 03:34 AM
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approaching women and asking for their number in non social settings (commute, shop ect ect). Please explain why you feel the way you do about it. Once when I was 18, a man stopped his bike to ask me if I wanted to be friends. I was the special kind of naive/aspie that thought he literally wanted to be friends, so I said ok, gave him my phone number, and met him later that evening. Except it turned out that he wanted to fuck (of course he did), so I told him I wanted to go home and left. Never s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 09:23 PM
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I have fagged out on other guys beards before though, it’s my most common compliment to men lol. I just have a creepy tendency to get intensely fixated on physical attributes of both genders and it’s been socially costly but I don’t mind! Like some guys watch, or some girls hair bun , flannel or eye makeup can just become my entire world for minutes at a time and I become mesmerized past the ability to consider politeness or any remote consideration for the current objects of my fixation . It’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:30 AM
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I don't relate to this at all. Although, I will say, one of my exes was much prettier than me, and men would always hit on her while we were on dates, out at bars, etc. It actually was a blow to the ego, because these dudes would tooootally ignore me while trying to chat her up. She'd sucker free drinks out of them for both of us and then tell them to go away, though, so it ended up being a net positive for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 02:07 AM
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You can see that attitude all over MRP, though. You see it pretty strongly in men who are the sole earners in their household, especially. "I pay all the bills, so my wife needs to fuck me regularly, clean the house, [insert other expectations here]." Check this out, someone just said something along those lines yesterday. And I'm not saying they're wrong to have those expectations. It's fair to expect that someone will do things for you if you are footing the bill. I just don't want to be behol…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 08:38 PM
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I don't ask men for money. If you ask someone for money and they give it to you, you now owe them something. In the context of relationships, it forms covert contracts. "I gave you money, so therefore you owe me sex/love/cooking for me/etc." I am utterly uninterested in owing men anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 08:21 PM
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The vast majority of the time. I've always found pursuing fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 08:17 PM
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Admittedly, I have no experience with the MTF, lesbian, nerd girls that people here get mad about. One of my best friends fits this description. She's a lovely person all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 07:00 AM
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Holy shit, I LOVE your new flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 06:57 AM
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Jealousy is pointless. Naval-gazing and playing the what-if game about the past is pointless. If you keep looking backwards, you will accomplish nothing, and your future will look exactly the same as today. I don't know about you, but I am always trying for a better future. I care about what I can do today, right now, to build the best possible future for myself and my loved ones. Sure, sometimes feelings about the past come up: things that hurt you, things you regret. I wouldn't spend more than…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:16 AM
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And demanding it be done "right now" when I'm not feeling to, will have no effect. This is something my mom used to do to me, which is why I'm very conscious of not doing it to others. I think it's important to respect that other people have their own ways of completing tasks and their own timelines. It's not reasonable to expect someone to drop something right this very second to cater to your request. That said, I think both people need to be reasonable. No, you don't need to do it right now, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:07 AM
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If he had said, "I'll take it out later" or even "I'll take it out on Friday," that would be fine. I don't like it when people say they'll do something and then don't follow through. If people do that often enough, I chalk them up as 'unreliable' in my head and start making plans that start with the assumption that I can't count on them. I will say, though, I would not be happy if I got a flat-out "No" to asking my husband to take out the trash. "I'll do it when I feel like it" seems childish an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:57 AM
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I mean, you're right, and that's why I specifically made it a point to only ask once per day. I don't "believe in" nagging. Unfortunately, this has sometime led to weird scenarios like "kitchen full of trash." But I want to point out that a marital relationship isn't a roommate situation. I've had nasty roommates before, and when they didn't wash their dishes after being asked to not clog up the sink multiple times, I threw all their dishes in a cardboard box and left it in their room because I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:14 AM
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I don't expect him to do things on my timetable, but I think letting multiple full bags of trash pile up in the kitchen is a little excessive from an objective standpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:08 AM
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I think my husband and I are pretty compatible mess-wise. I have a slight preference for there not being trash everywhere, but I can live with it and not freak out. I'm sitting in the living room as I type this, and I can see a dirty place, a bowl full of half-eaten salad from yesterday, an empty bag of chips, pants, underwear, dirty socks, and a bunch of other assorted random shit. It's whatever. I do think that it's bad to say you will do something and then not follow through, though. If you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:06 AM
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Because sometimes people say yes, but forget, or they're lazy. Or because there are some things you probably should not accept "no" for. Marriages are partnerships, and while I think it's bad character to keep score and play it tit for tat, both people should be bringing something of worth to the table. If one person starts slacking and not pulling their weight as a partner, nagging is one response. I think usually people nag when all other forms of communication (asking nicely, for instance) ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:02 AM
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So if a man is not "providing a home," do you think it's a bigger deal if he doesn't keep up his portion of household chores?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 12:03 AM
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I have a fun story about trash. I'm a firm believer in, "If you want something done now, you should do it yourself." Unfortunately, for about a year, I couldn't lift things heavier than a coffee mug thanks to injuring both my arms (yes, it was a terrible year, thanks for asking). My husband is very forgetful. Here is what would happen: I would say, "The trash is full, would you mind taking it out?" He'd say okay. He'd forget. In the interest of not nagging, I decided I would only ask him to take…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:54 PM
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Stop saying things that make me agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:03 AM
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Honestly? Sheer luck. Some of the most considerate people you'll ever meet are mindbogglingly selfish in bed. There appears to be no way to know in advance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:02 AM
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I don't think good moral character is sexually attractive, but I think bad moral character can make a person unattractive. Quick anecdote: Once I met an attractive man at a party. He was charming, and we hit it off. My house was only 10 minutes away on foot, so we left the party together and walked there. My intention was to bang this dude. Two blocks from my house, a homeless man asks us for money. I give the homeless man some change, and as we walk away, the cute dude from the party starts moc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 08:17 AM
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Yes. I'm a Christian and involved in ministry. I don't believe in "true love" in the soulmates sense. I believe there is such a thing as "love," but good relationships are made through some combination of basic compatibility, work, and compromise. Yes, my husband is an atheist. Interfaith relationships can work as long as everyone is respectful and open-minded. Christian. So yes, belief in souls comes with the package.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 09:02 PM
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Well you should have specified.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 10:06 AM
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Are men not allowed to have preferences? They are allowed to have preferences, in that literally no one can stop them from having whatever preferences they feel like. They're not exempt from other people judging them from those preferences. That's basically how life works for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 08:27 AM
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One, and it's my dad
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 07:08 AM
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You literally are making assumptions though. This is the definition of making assumptions. You're taking a single incident and interpreting it to confirm what you believe about all married relationships, regardless of whether or not it's actually true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 09:39 PM
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Okay, and I know many married couples, probably due to being your same age. You can honestly just watch them. Yes, so I was right. You're making assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 09:14 PM
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Nearly every single married couple I know goes by: His money is our money and her money is her money. Do you go around asking all the married couples you know how they structure their finances? I believe you're making assumptions about other people's marital finances due to your biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:57 PM
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considering "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve my best" type girls exist. But who's saying that's a good way to be in a relationship? I thought it was pretty well-established on the internet that's a huge red flag for a selfish person who's probably a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:25 PM
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Sorry, I actually don't understand. I'm blue pill. Clearly love is the result of biological processes in your brain. Science can explain it just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:46 AM
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"Spiritual contract" or the idea that spirituality has anything to do with marriage at all goes beyond romance. It smacks of the idea that a higher power is somehow invested in your marriage (hello, Christianity). You don't need spirit for romance. What's romance but a series of chemicals and neurons firing in your brain?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:30 AM
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Have I said that I love my husband lately? Earlier tonight, I dropped wine, and it splashed all over my favorite shirt and the couch. Literally five seconds later, my husband accidentally shattered a plate of food in the kitchen. It was a huge mess, and super frustrating! But we just went, "What the fuck, that sucks" and cleaned it up. It was fine, no one was mad; accidents happen. I grew up with a mom who would flip her shit if I so much as spilled water on the tile by accident. I'm SO happy th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:19 AM
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Annoying, evangelical atheists, basically. The ones who are weirdly religious about atheism and get up in your face about it while you're minding your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:11 AM
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Why would I be going around calling people dicks?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 09:46 AM
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Yeah, I bet those are the same people who say things like "I don't care if the government is spying on me! I'm not doing anything illegal!"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 09:44 AM
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she texts me often. How often?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:54 AM
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Absolutely no digging into my phone and no I’m not cheating and no I don’t want to see her phone either. Right? I don't know how people do relationships where they're always up in each other's shit like that. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:53 AM
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Now that I'm a high maintenance capital B Bitch guys chase after me like the camera man on the maury show. I want to be your friend just for this turn of phrase.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:39 AM
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How many girls have you eaten out?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:13 AM
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She has to love giving head but not be into getting head cuz I don't like putting my nose/face close to raw fish Not gonna lie, every time I see a person unironically refer to pussy as "fishy," I wonder if they're a virgin or if somehow every sex partner they've ever had has had BV. Pussy should not smell like fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:08 AM
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While I think that it's important to know that you'll be fine if your SO leaves (as in, you won't crumple to pieces), I do think the person you're replying to has it right. Relationships require so many sacrifices both large and small that if a person isn't making your life better in meaningful ways, what's the point? I think you can say "This woman makes my life way better than it would be without her" and also know "But if she leaves, I will be fine, and I can find another woman if need be."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 08:06 AM
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It's why I'm in favor of a prenup, because I know that I'm a giant asshole and if my relationship fails, I'd be liable to try to screw my wonderful SO over. We don't have a prenup, but I think this reasoning makes a lot of sense. A friend described a prenup to me in a way that made a lot of sense once, "A prenup is deciding the outcome of the worst fight you'll ever have at a point in your relationship when you still have each other's best interests at heart."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 07:25 AM
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For real! I think we've had five marriages among us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 06:05 AM
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My husband's? Yeah, probably. I've been coming around to his way of thinking a lot more recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 05:48 AM
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I don't hate men. I just don't want to date someone who has political views and values that are vastly different from my own. I'm sure they don't want to date me either, so it works out well for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 05:35 AM
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But what incentive for behavioural change (in a social sense, communications and the like) exists for women? Deciding that you want to be a source of good in the world and therefore striving not to be a shit person, and not to be a terror in your relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 05:20 AM
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Enthusiasm is sexy though. No, things that sexy people do are sexy. Imagine this guy enthusiastically telling you about his porn collection.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:20 AM
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No, I mean anti-feminism. I have a slight preference for sex critical radical feminism, but I will accept sex positive liberal feminists (tbh they're more fun anyway). Broadly speaking, people who believe in the existence of patriarchy and think it's a problem, criticize toxic masculinity, think gender roles are arbitrary, embrace women in leadership and politics, etc. I have a strong preference for people who are critical of the porn industry due to ethical concerns. If the person in question h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:13 AM
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I can't think of anything that actually offends me, but there's a ton of shit that will make me stay as far away from a person as possible in a romantic context: Anti-feminism Bravetheism Homophobia Racism Using gendered slurs unironically Treating homeless people, the elderly, service workers, children, or animals poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:59 AM
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The contract isn't literal, it's spiritual to them. I'm always fascinated by the crypto-Christian beliefs people retain. A lot of things I see TRP men say (this included) smacks of Evangelical Protestantism with the Jesus serial numbers filed off.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 11:32 PM
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I mean it's always a gamble. No one can predict the ways someone will change over the course of a marriage or the curveballs life will throw at you. All you can do is try to choose your spouse well, work on your marriage, and hope for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 11:30 PM
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Now that we're married I can just sneakily pay our taxes. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 11:09 PM
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For the record, my husband had no idea about any of this before we married. He still might not really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:50 PM
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I can say I was pretty shocked by how it worked, and how stacked the deck was against males in a divorce situation. Okay, but is it specifically stacked against men, or the higher earning partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:47 PM
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What do you mean by "support"? When people support red or blue pill, usually we just mean "believe to be true" and in PPD's case "argue in favor of."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 11:53 AM
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I think your idea springs from a very cynical, potentially incorrect view of other people's motives. The alternative is that people support red or blue pill because they think those ideologies are true, not because they benefit from it in some Machiavellian manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:49 AM
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80% of age-appropriate women and probably <1% of men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 10:27 AM
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This is by far the sweetest thing I've ever read on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 06:56 AM
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You can stack the odds in your favor by putting yourself out there, being fit, and generally having your shit together This is actionable advice. Put yourself out there, get fit, and get your shit together. ultimately it's a numbers game and meeting the right person is partially luck. This is a truth that some people don't want to hear. You can do everything right (the advice part) and still not meet the right person because some of it is outside of your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 09:45 PM
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That's something I think gets ignored/glossed over in pillsphere. You can stack the odds in your favor by putting yourself out there, being fit, and generally having your shit together... but ultimately it's a numbers game and meeting the right person is partially luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 09:33 PM
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Date. Get lucky and meet someone compatible with you. Marry them. Put in the work it takes to make a relationship work. Profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:55 PM
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The downside is mostly the time investment required to have a career. I really prefer having a stay-at-home partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:39 PM
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I'm going to preface this by saying, if you personally don't want to date a career woman, by all means don't. I wouldn't want to date a career man. People should do what floats their boats. THAT SAID, Some men are more independent and prefer women who are as well, and career women come with financial perks. I think my husband would probably prefer to spend more time hanging out with me (I do work a lot), but the upside for him is that he can spend his days doing whatever he wants instead of goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:50 AM
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61 Damn dude. Congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:45 AM
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Animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 04:49 AM
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If we're the same person, I have a law degree that I am seriously under-utilizing! But oh man, yes. I relate so hard. Like "Oh, I love this person so much that making them happy makes me happy! How can I find as many ways as possible to keep making them happy?"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 12:27 AM
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A lot of time and money. I work my ass off to take care of my husband and ensure that he's happy and doesn't have to work. I try to make sure he has everything he needs and wants, which gets a bit expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 10:35 PM
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Like the whole restaurant workers don’t get minimum wage thing. Only servers don't. Iirc, if their take is below minimum wage, their employer has to make up the difference, so they are never going home with LESS than minimum wage. The issue is that if their employer has to make up the difference, they are probably going to get fired and replaced with a server who can make more in tips.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 10:29 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 10:19 PM
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You're free to dislike it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 06:40 AM
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What do you mean by "distinguished comment", like an "in character" comment? Just for the sake of demonstration, this is a distinguished comment. This is what it looks like when I'm modding in an official capacity. The green flair is just a flair mods can have. You'll notice a few other mods with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 06:24 AM
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I'm not moderating this discussion, and that's not a distinguished comment that you replied to. It's a green flair. Mods are allowed to participate in debate just like everyone else, and that does not require neutrality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 05:28 AM
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I told my husband that in the future I want to give most of our income to charity, and he made this face at me 😍 He's basically a saint. Also he's mine and I'm keeping him forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 01:19 AM
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I would probably go so far as to leave a tip myself so the server didn’t get stuffed, and I would also tell the guy that he was an asshole. For real. This is actually one of my real life dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 12:04 AM
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Yes, I do think that men have sex with women for the purpose of sexual pleasure. Next question.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 10:57 AM
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I mean to be clear most female children are dressed as drag queens by their parents from a young age right but when a male does it then it's sexualization? He and I both think makeup and revealing clothing is inappropriate for children. Not to be confused with crossdressing, which neither of us have a problem with. If our son wanted to wear a dress, that's fine, as long as it's the kind of dress appropriate for a child of his age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 06:40 AM
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Oh look, he did that to you too. Not very original.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:28 AM
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As much shaming as the left does I would think they wouldn't worry much about slut shaming. Yeah, the one thing I don't get about the far left is the whole "punching Nazis" thing. Like, no. Punching people with views you don't like is a bad thing, I thought you people were pacifists.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:26 AM
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Can I guess? Gay conversion therapy, booty rap, and Japan?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:10 AM
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And you may have been together for 7 years, but I doubt you have been actually married for that long. Does the 7 year itch only start counting down once you sign a paper before a justice of the peace? Because that's some interesting evolutionary trait there. It seems like you're backpedaling because you were wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:10 AM
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Yeah. For the most part my husband and I see eye to eye on social issues. When we do disagree, it tends to be an issue of degrees. For instance, our latest disagreement was about sexual content in hip hop. I think a lot of it is problematic but it could theoretically be done respectfully by the right artist. I think there are some artists doing sexy music that isn't problematic right now. He thinks the whole thing is inherently disrespectful and objectifying. But like... it's not like we're yell…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:09 AM
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Off the top of my head from recent things my husband has said: The Gillette ad was great Applying makeup is buying into patriarchal standards of beauty Counting calories/dieting is buying into patriarchal standards of beauty It's fucked up that Japan is making trans people get sterilized before legally changing their sex All "booty rap" is problematic Gay conversion therapy is evil Slut shaming is wrong It's okay if your son wants to be a drag queen, but only when he's old enough because sexuali…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:59 AM
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Yes, very nice snide comment you have there unsubtly implying my marriage will fall apart because of my husband's politics. That's really cool and clever of you. We've been together for 7 years. Are you trying for 14?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:52 AM
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Full disclosure: I'm salty about "soyboy" because that's an insult people around here have used for my husband pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:14 AM
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It's what butthurt right-wingers, internet trolls, and edgelords call leftist/feminist/liberal men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 12:39 AM
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Chocolate is the worst candy. Fight me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 11:48 PM
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Can I just cosign all of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 11:27 PM
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In my social circle it’s assumed that men quietly support feminist causes, but no one makes an identity out of it. Same. If feminist topics come up (usually thanks to current event convos), they'll express pro-feminist views, but no one I know is walking around talking about being a feminist every single day. And that goes for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 11:00 PM
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You win for being the first person to actually give me an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 10:56 PM
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Love them. I married one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:41 PM
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A romantic friend, I suppose would be a good way to put it. She lives quite far away, so texts are about as good as it's going to get. We talk every day, but I'm running out of not-lame ways to start the conversation when it's "my turn."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:52 AM
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I'm allergic to animals. Do you seriously believe that's how men are? "Men" in aggregate, yes. Do I think that every single individual man will fuck a goat if given the opportunity? No. It's a heuristic like AWALT. I think more men than I'd assume would fuck a goat if they were promised no one would find out and if you locked them in a room with only a goat for like, 4 weeks. Most men are not lining up to fuck goats because they can fuck women instead^1, and men will choose ugly women over liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:06 AM
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They can vent in the weekly off-topic thread or else find another subreddit to vent at. Frankly, PPD is ridiculously unhealthy for all human beings, let alone the ones who already have a screw or two loose. With any luck they'll find someone to talk to somewhere outside the pit of hell that is pillsphere..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 08:42 AM
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I have no freaking clue how to keep a text conversation going. I'm running out of fun/funny/insightful things to talk about. Give me your best text openers, people of PPD. Let's see if RP or BP can do it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 07:46 AM
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You're wrong! PPD exists so I have something to do while I'm procrastinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 07:44 AM
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I took home a homeless guy that I found in a park because he was young, attractive, and pleasant to talk to. He was dirty and very obviously homeless as fuck, but homeless people clean up pretty well if you stick them in the shower first.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:40 AM
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For dating? Being physically attractive, a good conversationalist, good at reading and responding to social cues, and compatible with the person you are trying to date. And because this is PPD and I probably have to actually say this: having enough of a backbone to have firm boundaries and not let people take advantage of you or walk all over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:37 AM
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Fwiw, it's a real sub-wide problem these days. I argue for the blue team most of the time, and I get downvoted a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:20 AM
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Are you a blue piller that thinks men and women are the same? Because if so, I think we're not necessarily going to see eye to eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:02 AM
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The point in that hyperbole is that men's sex drives lead them to have indiscriminate sex with basically anything female and willing. A man wanting to fuck you essentially means you have a pulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:37 AM
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Find me an example of that, because I have never seen someone say "Just be confident." I think you're omitting key components of the actual advice people give so you can dismiss it out of hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:29 AM
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Yes, welcome to PPD where we make sweeping generalizations about the opposite sex. Take a seat, get comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:28 AM
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I'm pretty sure all men would fuck goats if you left them alone with the goat for long enough and if they were guaranteed no one would ever know about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:27 AM
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This is one enormous strawman, and I'm challenging your whole premise. No one, not red pill nor blue pill, says "Confidence alone will let you succeed in dating or anything else." Confidence + competence is always necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:20 AM
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It's not ideal, but someone wanting to have sex with you means that they see some degree of value in you. Men literally fuck goats. If a man wants to fuck you, it means you are at least on par with a goat, which is not particularly high praise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:17 AM
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Right? I know there are more of us on this subreddit. Leanne is another one. I always see you in these conversations. You and me representing on PPD, man. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 01:15 AM
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Hello, another one of those checking in. I'm the sole earner in my relationship with a stay-at-home husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 12:54 AM
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Yes, I think it's more pleasant than never desiring anything. I don't particularly like Buddhism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 08:01 AM
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You have a really alien conception of human relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:35 AM
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No. for what purpose? Desire is only painful if you're unable to fulfill those desires. Desire + attainment is quite pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 02:48 AM
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No incel content
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 02:44 AM
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Women don't want children. Until they have them. And sometimes you end up with women who don't want their children even after they have them, then take their resentment out on their kids. I'm very wary to suggest anyone have kids who feels like they don't want them. Sometimes those feelings are there for a very good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 06:04 AM
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Hypergamy generally refers to women marrying up in socioeconomic status. So for the purpose of this discussion, the women at the top of the ladder wouldn't be high RMV, they would be high earners and UMC+
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 06:01 AM
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Neither. I'd rather be seen as pretty, the older cousin of cute and the untouchable version of sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 07:48 PM
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It's a CMV, or it's getting removed. Please review our rules if you have further questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 11:22 AM
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This post is being flaired CMV because it makes an assertion in its title.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 11:02 AM
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I'm going to describe my dad, because he's the most admirable man that I know: He's kind, generous, and funny. He's courageous even in the face of life-threatening circumstances. He's assertive and a natural leader. He goes out of his way to make sure everyone around him is feeling good and having a good time. Seriously, if we go anywhere, we'll run into at least four people who stop him on the street to come say hi and catch up; he'll probably make at least two new friends while we're out. He d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 06:46 AM
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I think being able to read body language and tone are incredibly important. A playful "No stoooooop" while giggling and continuing to engage might not actually mean stop. But to be on the safe side, it's probably best to actually stop and check in to see if the other person is still okay with what's going on. Sexual tension isn't actually this super fragile thing. It can survive some frank communication. If you're getting mixed messages, it's not a bad idea to verbally clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 11:36 PM
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I'm glad to hear your life and relationships have improved, but that doesn't change my opinion of TRP as a whole. The fact that a poor system can occasionally cause good doesn't make the system itself any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 11:32 PM
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I agree with all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 09:58 PM
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TRP presents another false narrative about the world that is just as harmful as "women are wonderful" but in the opposite direction. It promotes fear/distrust/hatred/anger toward he opposite sex which I think will cause some people to have difficulty forming bonds. There are good things in TRP, but all those things can also be found outside of TRP. Having boundaries and a mission in live is good. Taking care of your body and being fit is good. Building confidence and not finding your worth or va…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 08:26 PM
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Can I come over?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 05:34 AM
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Lesbians - or at least lesbian or wlw culture - doesn't have the concept of "player" or "slut"? I can't speak for everyone, but it wasn't a thing in the circles I ran in. Might have something to do with the smaller available dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 02:45 AM
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Late-20s, in love... 8 times. Looking around at other people's answers, jeez, apparently I'm lucky!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 10:10 AM
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To other women who'd conceivably want to fuck/date her? Neither. The concept doesn't translate well because nobody cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 02:02 AM
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That's very illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 09:09 PM
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Oh for sure. I think "wear protection, but also have a plan in case it fails" is probably a good idea. Idk how any of you dudes fuck women, when I stop to think about it. Like for all you know, she might refuse to abort or take Plan B and then you'd just have to live with it. Sounds spooky, man. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 08:26 PM
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Which is not most men by a long shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 08:20 PM
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Ok, I'm not old, and when I was dating things are just about how you described. I'm not sure where these super conscientious men are, but they certainly were not the ones in my dating pool. Most men tried so hard to get you to fuck without a condom, even knowing you weren't on any form of birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 08:16 PM
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Do not spam here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 09:18 AM
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I've realized my hobby is literally reading books about theology. Yes, I am great at parties; thanks for noticing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 07:58 AM
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And putting them down constantly does not make things better Who's putting them down, and what form do you see it taking? The issue here is that incels tend to interpret a woman not fucking them as a put-down. I just don’t like someone in such a bad spot only being put down further. We oughta be working to help everybody here, no matter who they are. I say this as someone who's been heavily involved in this community for the past 5 years, on both the red and blue side of the spectrum: This is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 07:33 AM
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Because I've seen it happen? Food service jobs tend to involve at least a moderate amount of picking up and putting down heavy things. Trust me, people who do it build muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 11:26 PM
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Do women realize men don't naturally get a "moderate" amount of muscle? Do men realize that married and LTR'd women live with men? When women say their men have a moderate amount of muscle and don't go to the gym, they are saying that from personal experience. Even lightly physical jobs like working in a cafe and biking to work will give men a moderate amount of muscle. Women's husbands aren't sneaking around pumping iron when we aren't looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 11:08 PM
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Who actually buys the razors in most households? Do married men buy their own razors or do they come out of the weekly grocery shopping? This is a good point. I do think that women are overwhelmingly the ones who make household purchases (statistics bear this out, but I don't want to go digging around for them right now). Anecdotally, I'm the one who buys shampoo, razors, toothpaste, etc. in our household.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 08:45 AM
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I thought it was a bit mawkish but harmless. My husband thought it had a good message but "it has nothing to do with razors." Honestly neither of us really see what all the fuss is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 07:38 AM
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Suspicious that she did not care about penetration and was only doing it for me I mean this was probably true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 10:52 AM
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Idk man, my girl can deadlift 200 lbs. I think we'll be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 06:29 AM
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You monster
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 04:29 AM
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Yes, I don't know who these people are who need constant favors. Why is their life such a mess?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 03:28 AM
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Do not advertise things on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 02:26 AM
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Funny coming from the person who used the term 'matriarchal utopia'. Tongue in cheek.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 11:43 PM
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Oh dear. You don't actually think reality TV is representative of reality, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 11:27 PM
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Women are no more cooperative than men. Irrelevant. I think humans in general can be quite cooperative, but we were talking about women here. If you can't find solidarity, you might be looking in the wrong places. It's not everywhere, but it's there if you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 07:24 AM
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I don't understand the question. Are you saying that women are not cooperative?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 06:06 AM
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I have a really good jerky recipe that involves lime and chili flakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 03:34 AM
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Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 02:50 AM
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I don't know, look at this bomb cooperation we have going here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 01:47 AM
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Want to share the seaside house and get drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 01:17 AM
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I think women on the whole are very cooperative with one another. Maaaaybe that changes for certain women when they compete for male attention, but... what male attention? We killed the only man there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 12:56 AM
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Women are pretty fucking great, y'all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 12:52 AM
1

I mean we do need someone to open jars, so you might have a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 12:37 AM
1

I'm thinking more, braiding each other's hair, subsistence farming, lesbian sex, and Civil_Seaworthiness' coconut liquor that she has so graciously offered to distill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 12:31 AM
1

I dig your plan and volunteer to be one of the 100 women on your island.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 11:58 PM
1

I think we should all band together to kill Billy, then form a matriarchal utopia.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 11:57 PM
1

To be fair, a lot of us use alts for non-PPD activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 11:51 PM
1

Be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:22 AM
1

The OP also said she's straight, so who cares if women might make good partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 03:34 AM
1

tbf, It's hard in a different way to pick up women as a woman. Not like "women are picky and therefore it's hard." Like, "Many, many women are not at all gay, so you have to first find the ones who dig chicks."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 12:33 AM
1

Nice try
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:48 PM
1

As someone who's done both, it's a lot harder to pick up women than it is to pick up men. Men are pretty much always DTF, meanwhile most of the women you think are flirting with you are going to turn out to be straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:35 PM
1

Good for you. It's an impressive decision to cut things from your life that are no longer serving you well. I wish you all the luck and happiness in life, and we'll always be here if or when you want to come back. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:25 PM
1

My mom is going back to school to pursue her passion! She sounds happier and more full of life than I have heard in years, and I am so proud of her!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:22 PM
1

All women are bisexual or lesbian Bahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:22 PM
1

Some men literally just prefer no makeup. I met my husband at a time where I didn't wear makeup. Went through a makeup phase during our relationship, and he preferred/prefers me without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 10:59 PM
1

Thank you for the idea for my new flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 10:45 PM
1

"you up for some funky times babes?" no.. ignore this last bit, this is the worst thing anyone has ever come up with 😂 Yeahhhh that was pretty bad. Incredibly strange phrasing aside, ("vulva minora with your greasy finger," really?) yeah sure. Don't people typically ask for what they want in bed? It doesn't seem that far out of the norm to directly tell your partner what you want. I mean sure there's some improvisation, but it doesn't hurt to be communicative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:49 AM
1

Is this really that weird? I wasn't expecting this comment to get so much response.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:48 AM
1

My dad is pretty much my favorite person on this earth. He's my role model and one of my best friends. He's generous, kind, patient, humble, funny. He's everyone's friend, extremely charismatic and always talking to strangers. He also has extremely strong faith, which I find very admirable. My husband is very introverted and not outgoing at all, but he has similar good character to my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:42 AM
1

It's a debate subreddit. People here are very opinionated and argumentative. It's kind of our thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:27 AM
1

No incel content.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:26 AM
1

That's true! I think it's exceptional.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:41 AM
1

Based on this, it seems like there's an unspoken rule for all moderated forums, which is "DON'T TRIGGER THE MODS! REEEEEEEEEEE!" If I removed every comment or post that annoyed, offended, or otherwise bugged me, there would be literally nothing left. I don't even moderate personal attacks against myself or my husband (and oh god do people love to attack my religion, husband, and relationship) -- I refer it to other mods to avoid any potential of bias. We are human, but generally we try to err on…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 10:37 PM
1

Then it's a good thing you are not a member of our relationship! I'm happy that you can initiate sex the way that you enjoy in your own relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 10:22 PM
1

u/Electra_Cute pretty much got it. If one of us doesn't feel like having sex, we don't have sex. There's always later that day/tomorrow/whenever when perhaps both of us will be into the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:55 AM
1

"Do you feel like having sex?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:49 AM
1

sex driven, dominant, physical escalation without consent Right, this sounds unpleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:36 AM
1

Some of us literally want nothing to do with toxic masculinity. I married a sweet, considerate, vegetarian feminist-identifying man, and he's my stay-at-home partner. It's just that stories like mine are immediately discounted as "outliers" and so eventually we stop trying to contribute to the discussion at all. TRP and anti-feminists have MASSIVE confirmation bias going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:03 AM
1

I was curious what you guys think about the contradiction of her beliefs vs her preferences. I don't see a contradiction here. She (presumably) believes that men and women should earn equal pay for equal work. If she wants a man who makes more money than her, I'm assuming she wants a man who is in a highly skilled field and is earning a commensurate wage (doctor, lawyer, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 06:41 PM
1

I've seen studies that say the same holds true for men. Someone better go tell TRP to stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 06:38 PM
1

I would like an aloe plant, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:57 PM
1

But again, you don't know the n-count of most people that you meet, so what he's doing is taking a small fraction of humans (the ones whose n-count he presumably knows) and creating a theory that supposedly encompasses all people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:56 PM
1

Probably confirmation bias. Hello! I'm a woman with a high n-count, and I'm a happy camper. How would you actually know which happy women you know have high n-counts, anyway? Do you habitually walk up to happy people on the street to ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:42 PM
1

Only heathens put STUFF in their rice. Plain white sticky rice or bust.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 07:24 AM
1

Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 07:23 AM
1

It's true! Most men do not look like [TRP's current saggy male celeb icon].
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:08 AM
1

Now with 200% more Nazi
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:11 PM
1

In the flesh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:02 PM
1

No, I'm just committed to openness and honesty, so I had a discussion with my pastor. Among other things, meeting a new woman made me realize that I still am very much gay and poly. And more to the point of what I assumed my church would care about-- I'm not comfortable preaching anti-LGBT rhetoric. I have a couple of gay kids in my youth group, so it comes up a lot. I had a long conversation with my pastor and offered to leave the ministry, but he wanted me to stay. TL;DR: my pastor isn't exact…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:48 PM
1

Here to remind you that r/bluepillscience still exists, just like when you posted this same thread in October
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 09:00 AM
1

Clean your room
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 08:57 AM
1

What even is that title
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:39 AM
1

I think you need to piss on it more
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:02 AM
1

Not with that attitude you can't
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:59 AM
1

Aw shucks. Thanks, dude! Enjoy your NYE.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:31 AM
1

With a couple of exceptions, I think most people here are pretty alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:19 AM
1

You're late, someone beat you to the punch of calling me PPD's mother. I'm embracing it. When are you going to give me grandchildren?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:17 AM
1

Maybe a shotgun instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:15 AM
1

What's the point of being married if you can't do those things in front of your spouse? I'm worried about you, man. Does your husband criticize you when you shove a whole pizza in your pussy and jump over pop songs?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:58 AM
1

That's a lot of nagging
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:55 AM
1

That was the worst analogy I've ever seen, but you made fun of GLO, and that's pretty funny so 6/10
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:54 AM
1

Happy New Year, fucker
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:52 AM
1

I can do all those things in front of my husband. I mean, if I didn't dislike wine and hate movies and television, I guess. Also baths make me dizzy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:50 AM
1

idk he might be onto something. Have you tried screaming while shitposting?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:49 AM
1

Sorry, we're off duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:48 AM
1

No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:44 AM
1

It's called alts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:41 AM
1

You're probably looking at different people. I've made friends here, and I don't insult them and they don't insult me. Most of the super buddy-buddy chummy clique has known each other for 6+ years now, and some of us have actually hung out in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:47 AM
1

Have you ever heard of friends? It's this new thing. You should try it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:35 AM
1

Your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 03:29 AM
1

Considering I met a girl online and it's going very well, I beg to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:55 AM
1

No one thinks it's funny when you do this. I just want to make sure you realize that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:26 AM
1

Based on him being mean to azngirl and then sublime within 10 minutes of him coming to my attention, all I know is that I don't like him much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:21 AM
1

Bottoms up!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:13 AM
1

You seem like a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:07 AM
1

thx for doing your civic duty, squid
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:06 AM
1

Look, someone's got to be the mom around here. Now play nice and stop hitting your sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 01:59 AM
1

Lol, to the losers downvoting all the blue pill replies in this thread. Good luck downvoting this one!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 01:56 AM
1

I don't necessarily disagree, but who cares. Let people call themselves what they want if it makes them happy. It's not like it's hurting you or I any.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 12:53 AM
1

I told you I'm a bag of lizards
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 12:51 AM
4

This one easy trick! WOMEN HATE IT
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:49 PM
1

I have it on good authority that dragoness is still on the internet, just not our little corner of it anymore 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:44 PM
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It's not enough. We're here to take the internet from you. Bye now!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:39 PM
2

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:39 PM
1

Y O U R M O T H E R W A S A H A M S T E R A N D Y O U R F A T H E R S M E L T O F E L D E R B E R R I E S O U R M O T H E R W A S A H A M S T E R A N D Y O U R F A T H E R S M E L T O F E L D E R B E R R I E S
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:37 PM
1

🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:34 PM
1

<3
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:32 PM
1

Dude. I'm not invited? What the heck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:32 PM
1

Y O U ' R E W R O N G O U ' R E W R O N G
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:28 PM
1

I find all your posts very weird in a way that kind of makes me concerned for your well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:27 PM
3

Hello, gorgeous!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:15 PM
1

Yeah you are ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:15 PM
1

Beer > Whiskey > Wine
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:14 PM
3

I know I'm sexy. Men, please try to contain yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:53 PM
2

ANARCHY NOW. I'M DRUNK WITH POWER
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:51 PM
3

I like you, that is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:44 PM
1

I don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:44 PM
5

Woof woof, bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:34 PM
2

🦎
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:32 PM
1

I'm a collection of lizards in a skin suit. Get me drunk enough and the lizards will start to fall out. Slither slither, baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:31 PM
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Automod, go home, you're drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 10:23 PM
3

AND I'LL DO IT AGAIN TOO (come at me, incel bros)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 09:21 PM
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Yeah, it's fucking early. I'm going to a swaaaaanky whiskey bar later tonight to show off a shiny new dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 09:20 PM
1

That's true. We are all demonstrating a similar level of not-having-a-life though, which I thought was the point of your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:39 PM
1

Tbf, you are also spending your NYE shitposting on Reddit. (And so am I, and so is everyone else...)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:34 PM
1

Is this a sex thing? It sounds like a sex thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:34 PM
1

Okay! I just worried ^^' Happy New Year!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:17 PM
1

That sounds really rough, and I appreciate that you're venting! However... maybe consider that this post is 100% going to be used as ammo against you in the future. It's like a schoolyard here. People wait to see the soft underbelly so they can punch you in it. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but if you're hurt by people being callous about your mental health issues, you might want to be careful about what you share. There are some really cruel people around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:15 PM
1

Men are trash, why would I have them as toys?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:09 PM
1

Well the funny thing is, your post is you complaining that women underestimate the male sex drive. I don't. I completely believe you when you say that men think with their dicks 99% of the time. I also think that is a terrible character trait in humans, which is why I'm telling you men are trash. You can't have it both ways. You can have women actually liking men and thinking they're decent humans, or you can have women actually understanding male nature. Gotta pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:09 PM
1

Wow that was a boring comeback 2/10
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:02 PM
1

You have a weird idea of what "not trash" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:01 PM
1

Sorry, squiddy. PPD is objectively a shithole.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:00 PM
1

Must have left it in my other pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:59 PM
1

Oh hell yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:59 PM
1

Nope, this is why I've decided that all men are trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:56 PM
1

Ha. I mean, I'm still married to a man who's pretty much the best partner on earth. I did meet a really fucking awesome girl a month ago, though! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:51 PM
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Ooh, sorry. Already married to a man, better luck next time PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:49 PM
1

Wine is disgusting. Beer or whiskey or gtfo of my house. Leave the dogs, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:45 PM
1

Yeah, I mean I'm mostly kidding. I know quite a few genuinely good men through the church and just general socializing. That said, I trust men in general WAY FUCKING LESS than I did before finding PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:45 PM
1

Sorry, she's too good for the likes of you riffraff.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:41 PM
1

Idk, PPD has done a pretty good job of convincing me that all men are terrible. Checkmate, reasonable people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:39 PM
1

I don't know. Report back in 20 years for science.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:37 PM
1

News at 11: Humans age. Try to contain your disbelief.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:35 PM
1

but that’s probably what you wanted so cheers Yes! /u/LivelyChartreuse, it's working!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:25 PM
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Not really. Are you sure we're reading the same sub? We're debating gender dynamics and sexual strategy. Not our own personal sex lives. Go to r/sex if you want to hear people talk about their sex lives in detail.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:03 PM
1

Alternatively, some of us don't feel the need to talk about our sex lives with weirdos on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:00 PM
4

I'll never get tired of that joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:51 PM
1

I hear the new It thing is shitting on the floor while filming yourself. Get to it if you want to keep those merit badges.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:49 PM
1

O rly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:47 PM
1

I used to actually like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:41 PM
1

I'll accept it, but only Moulin Rouge or Dirrrty era Christina.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:41 PM
1

Got it. It's too early, my autism is showing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:35 PM
6

Go forth and fuck shit up. 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:34 PM
1

I don't understand the joke :(
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:33 PM
1

FUCK YEAH SIGN ME UP WILL YOU STILL LOVE ME WHEN I RUN OUT OF SHIT I BOUGHT AT LUUUUUUUUSH?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:32 PM
1

You people literally turned me into a lesbian. Thanks, PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:31 PM
2

Oh fuck, I forgot about how annoyingly crowded the gym gets in January.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:11 PM
2

I appreciate your contribution to this thread, squid.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:10 PM
1

I'm always really confused by these threads for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:28 AM
1

Random life update: My pastor is great, and I'm not leaving the church.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:52 AM
1

PMed you back! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 07:31 AM
1

I'm thinking of leaving the Church, I don't even know y'all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:21 AM
1

Duuuuude. For real, I'm like... not joking. There are some great people here (like you, hi!) but God this place is cancer. It's like an abusive partner that I keep coming back to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:21 AM
1

Chemical castration is already a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 07:02 PM
3

No
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:55 PM
1

You're a better person than I am! I'm not one to argue myself out of a good deal. xD
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:18 AM
2

<3
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:17 AM
5

I got married because of religious convictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 01:40 AM
9

If you don't want to get married, don't get married. Good god, it's not like anyone's holding a gun to your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 01:24 AM
1

Idk man, leave and not come back? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 01:21 AM
2

Good call. Talking never hurts, and it's always better to try communicating before nuking the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 01:04 AM
3

That has nothing to do with what anyone is talking about. The OP, a male, said that "living well is the best revenge." So "living well" is the premise posited by a male. If you think that's somehow wrong or entitled, you should take it up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 12:43 AM
4

Pretty much. I'm married, and aging is unavoidable. Would it be nice to stay young forever? Hell yeah! Is that an option? Nope, so why worry?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 12:22 AM
1

What on earth are you talking about? I'm using the phrasing that the OP used.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 12:21 AM
0

Ahh, for sure. I mean, I think it's a process. You're right, sometimes things can remind you of the past. Plus I imagine it's difficult when children are involved. Best of luck to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 12:08 AM
1

what's wrong with a little revenge every now and then? You're still focusing on the object of your hurt. Living well is fucking fantastic, not a damn thing wrong with it. Living well for the purpose of hurting someone else means you're still making them the focus of your life. It doesn't hurt them any, but it will hold you back from actually moving on and moving past whatever issues damaged you in the past. The best revenge is giving 0 fucks about the person or thing that hurt you, cutting it ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 11:45 PM
1

Sure thing. Prenup would've benefited me and not him, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 11:43 PM
1

Right! I think this is especially true when you're young. People in their late teens and early-20s are still changing and growing a lot, and that can break up couples because people don't always change/grow in the same direction. And no one is wrong for that, it's just a compatibility issue. If he wants to live in the city, and she wants to live in the country; or if she wants kids and he doesn't, it's just not a good fit. I think there is this weird romanticized idea that True Love Conquers All…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 10:53 PM
1

How do you know most people don't want to get rid of gender roles in their personal lives? This subreddit seems to be full of people bucking traditional gender roles, but mostly people tell them that they're liars or must have unhappy marriages. Once again, I'm pretty sure the real issue here is confirmation bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 09:43 PM
1

Right? If it's that hard while you're dating, just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 08:01 PM
2

You're on a debate forum. People are going to argue the available topics, and that isn't necessarily an indicator that the topic holds deep meaning to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 07:06 PM
1

You always have the best flairs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:38 PM
1

No, you didn't. The poster was anti-red, so it's pretty immaterial what his genitals are. You cared about his genitals when you thought it proved your point that women care about the Wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:30 PM
1

My question for the blue pill people, though, is how do you explain branch swinging to a more alpha guy? I'm sure it sometimes happens. I just don't think it usually happens, or even happens as much as TRP would lead you to believe. Frankly, you sound like you're young. I would guess high school or college age, and at that age, everyone is leaving everyone for myriad reasons. The real reason is usually that people aren't fully developed yet. They don't know who they are or what they want. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:09 PM
1

Hello. I am blue pill-adjacent and feminist-ish. I give pretty much 0 fucks about the concept of the wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 06:06 PM
1

Frankly, I don't care if you're A-OK with it or not. You have been appropriately warned, and further rule-breaking will be punished with a tempban.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:47 AM
1

“Question For” Posts: Top level comments must be of the appropriate group solicited. For example, a question directed towards men may not have top level comments from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:46 AM
1

This post is marked Q4Women. You have been warned once to make your comment under the AutoMod. Further infractions will result in a tempban.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:44 AM
2

Derp. That makes a lot more sense, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:36 AM
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Lesbians and straight men don't want to fuck those dudes, so it's hardly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:33 AM
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Post is marked Q4Women, please repost this under the Automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:26 AM
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You're picking incredibly masculine, buff dudes and not all women are into beefcakes. I'd tend more towards the second list you gave. Off the top of my head I'd say Dan Smith from Bastille is more my type. Skinny, androgynous, kinda fem-y boys. I don't know how to answer your questions because I don't talk about celebrities we find attractive with my friends. I think that's something out of a movie because I've never experienced a conversation like that with adult women outside of PPD. Edit: Pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:09 AM
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OP's curiosity
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:03 AM
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Omg, Kissy and Mrs. Kissy is freaking adorable. Yep! He's the stay at home partner... in large part to facilitate our always-together snuggle fest, since I work from home. It's really nice to get to spend so much time together!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 02:57 AM
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Same. My husband and I are pretty much like barnacles or golden retrievers with separation anxiety. We spend almost 100% of our time together. In fact, we took a trip recently and had to sit apart, and when we got off the plane he was like "I missed you!!" ...so that's about where we're at. I'm pretty sure that level of togetherness would drive other people up the wall. xD
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 02:52 AM
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It feels just a tad disingenuous that you didn't include the ending of the article: apparently they got high on weed and had great sex with a lot of foreplay, and now their sex life is good again. I think it's possible for couples to fall into a rut where sex becomes perfunctory and routine (which is what seems to have happened in this article). Taking the time to enjoy each others' bodies seems to have done the trick for these folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 02:45 AM
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No, not one worthwhile enough to consider. There are always going to be fringe groups on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 01:40 AM
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I find fixating on the number strange. Did you have good sexual encounters and not wind up with a terrible disease? If yes, then what's the problem? If fucking around is making you unhappy, then maybe reconsider your lifestyle and make different choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 01:38 AM
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A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 01:36 AM
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I don't know that I agree with "childish and ultimately self-destructive." I would say selfish, which I think is indicative of poor character.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 12:29 AM
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Yep! We've actually had this conversation before: I'm pretty sure your husband would want to strangle me if he had to be married to me for any length of time. Likewise I'm pretty sure you would murder my husband. They're not perfect men, we are just highly compatible with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 12:06 AM
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Not that you should look down on anyone, but people are perfectly capable of looking down on whatever they want. There's even a kind of ideological consistency there: "Women are terrible when they do anything that interferes with the male imperative or makes things harder for men."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 11:33 PM
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This is the real answer. As fucking annoying as it is when people ask questions solely to confirm their biases, it's not everyone who does that. That minority just tends to be the most vocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:24 PM
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ITT: Men making a good case for why it's really not worth replying to Q4W posts. Unless you feel like bashing your head against the ideological equivalent of a brick wall. Then go right ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:23 PM
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Okay, but no one is "born into" a relationship. Everyone here in a successful marriage went through the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:22 PM
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There are normie women subs, things like r/MakeupAddiction and r/FemaleFashionAdvice
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:19 PM
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I don't see women claiming to be married to perfect men. Mostly, I see women claiming to be married to men who are perfect for them. There's a really important distinction there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:16 PM
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Everything women say here is like watching the weather it follows fads and involves women seeking consensus with themselves. Literally go to any other sub if you want women's opinions on anything. It's selection bias. The women who are interested in these topics, especially for literal years on end, are going to be kind of fucking weird in one way or another. You'll get more typically normie-woman replies on female-centric subs but not for the reason you're thinking. You'll get those replies bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:14 PM
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If I was still dating, ACTIVELY dating, I would be outside doing that and not sitting at home on my computer. This place tends to attract more older married folks because those are the people who have time to burn.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:13 PM
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I'm with you. Exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 06:11 AM
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Indeed! And hey there! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 10:08 PM
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Huh? You're welcome to do that. We only really enforce participation on CMV threads. It's just that no one ever does that. Usually people asking those Q's have ulterior motives and are looking for a fight... which is to be expected, tbh. We are an argumentative lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:13 PM
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Like /u/Texastentialism said, I just dated people I liked, people whose company I enjoyed and who I found attractive. It was a little different because I was poly throughout my dating life, so picking one person didn't mean saying no to others. There was no need to "hold out" for a specific person, because I could date everyone I liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:07 PM
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Haha, don't worry. I didn't take that in a negative way. I know you, man! You're cool people. So... I don't know. My denomination doesn't "believe in" homosexual dating, relationships, or marriage. There are a few openly gay people in our congregation and they're welcomed (insofar as you can welcome someone without supporting their relationships and sexual orientation), but the official stance is "Marriage is between one man and one woman." I do think there has to be a place in Christianity for …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:03 PM
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So, that's an interesting question because I've realized I'm actually mostly interested in women. If I were to find myself single again, the next person I dated would almost certainly be female... and at that point before or after marriage doesn't even matter, since depending on who you ask it's all sinning anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 05:34 PM
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You claiming you're not playing gotcha games isn't going to fool us. Pretty much. I've been doing this for so long that I can smell someone fishing for a gotcha a mile away. I'm always happy to answer questions for people who are genuinely curious, but I'm not interested in wasting time bashing my head against the conversational equivalent of a brick wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:17 AM
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Cool, so I'm here to debate gender dynamics and not trot out my feelings towards my religion. I appreciate that you asked that question, but I'm going to decline to answer it because talking about my faith around here never really ends well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:02 AM
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I don't tell them what they should do one way or the other. I tell them what I did, that I don't regret it, and that it worked out well for me. I also tell them what God says in the Bible. What they want to do with that information is up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:57 AM
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Why are you fishing for anything? I don't think a man who picks a 28 year old virgin is a moron. If men value virginity in their SO, more power to them. I just have no desire to be a 28 year old virgin, and I'm not compatible with a man who wants one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 06:04 AM
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No, you're putting words into my mouth. Also, that doesn't mean that I would rather be the 28 year old virgin bride, which was your original question. You seem to be fishing hard for the specific answer you want, in every single comment I've seen you make. Why is it so outrageous to you that women by and large don't mind being promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 05:50 AM
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Are you trying to be difficult on purpose? In my ministry, I'm open about my sexual history when it's relevant. I'm equally open about the fact that I don't personally regret it. I tell them that because of the way I lived, I had a lot of beautiful relationships, found a lot of love, and eventually met my wonderful husband. I also tell them that it came with a lot of pain and heartache too— like most things, it was neither fully good nor fully bad. But most importantly (to them, not you people o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 05:11 AM
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Don't you know fun is illegal on PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 05:04 AM
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Yeah, I promise you've never seen me saying that I regret any of my choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:57 AM
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I mean, you're basically asking if I'd rather be me, or a 28 year old virgin. Although adjust the timeframe a little, since I fucked around from 17-21. I'm thrilled with my life, so clearly I would rather be the 21 year old who fucked half the town.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:54 AM
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Friendly reminder that it's okay if you're having a shitty time hanging out with your family. It doesn't mean you don't love them; it means that the holidays are stressful and difficult. Take breaks if you need to. Hide in the bathroom, text your friends, come talk shit on PPD-- it's all good! Do what you gotta do to take care of yourselves. Stay safe and sane, y'all. (And Merry fucking Christmas!)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 10:46 PM
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Spent the whole evening talking to the coolest girl on earth. Heck yeah. Merry Christmas, y'all!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 08:00 AM
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I feel you! We just got back from our trip this afternoon, and my internal clock is all fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 07:58 AM
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😍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 07:57 AM
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Thanks, Atlas <3
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 06:51 AM
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Can I come to your house?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 06:50 AM
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Do you imagine that people still spend hours gazing into each other's eyes after years of marriage? Even if you have the most attractive SO in the world, there are a lot of hours in a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 09:57 PM
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Heck yeah! Enjoy! 💃🎄🎅
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:13 PM
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Thanks, Salty! Same to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 05:13 PM
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That's rude. Alternatively, we have an arrangement that makes us both happy, and different people value different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:29 PM
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Yeah, I'm not going to play the losing game where I attempt to justify myself to you, a person who has clearly made up their mind already. Your opinion had been duly noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:16 AM
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No, I might be able to sleep more if I was. I think magicians keep better hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:40 AM
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For sure, and those are both choices that I've made. Still, the question was "Do you have life on easy mode?" And the answer is still a resounding no. Taking the easy route sounds like it would lead to mediocrity, and that's just a waste of a life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:52 AM
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I don't necessarily disagree, but which part are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:46 AM
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Different names for the same thing, I think. The point is that people start from different places in life, for no other reason than the circumstances of their birth. Sure, over several generations my family worked hard to get where they are. That doesn't change the fact that I was given more opportunities and tools to succeed, and all because I was born into that family with those means.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:46 AM
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I'm the sole breadwinner in my family, and I think I work damn hard to provide the life my husband and I have. I'm self-employed, and most days I literally work from the time I wake up until I go to sleep. It's work I enjoy, but it is a lot. Last month I didn't have a single day off. I went on vacation to visit family, and I stayed up until 2 am most nights just to get work done. Still, it's foolish to disregard privilege entirely. I had a lot of things handed to me because I was born into an up…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:44 AM
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Haven't for quite a long time. This is the first girl I've been really into since... 2013? I had a girlfriend for a year or so when I was with my husband. There was a thing last year but she was young and it was weird and didn't go anywhere. But yes, it's a thing that has happened/will probably happen in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 03:45 PM
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😕
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 03:25 AM
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Sure, why not. Only way to see if it works for you is to try it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 09:51 PM
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I married one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:22 AM
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I am, but my husband isn't bothered by what I get up to with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:19 AM
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Yeah, no. She wasn't playing a game. It was just one of those IRL streams. IIRC she was literally wandering around a Target store while talking to her phone cam. If the latter, question marks are raised for you my friend. And those would be?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 11:03 PM
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It's the holidays, and everyone is busy and/or fled for saner pastures.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:38 PM
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Ha! I hope you're having a great trip!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:36 PM
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This is actually great advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:36 PM
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Damn, I was hoping to be the Canadian.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:35 PM
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No, looks definitely matter. Good looks won't fix a shit personality, but it helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:23 PM
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Okay, full disclosure, I have totally donated to a cute Twitch streamer before. Why? Why not? I was probably going to do something equally stupid with that dollar like buy a pack of gum. Might as well spend it on getting a cute girl to say "Thanks, u/Young_Oryx!" for shits and giggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:20 PM
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Which character was I?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 10:18 PM
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In other news: Water still wet!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 02:59 PM
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I met a girl, and she is basically the fucking best. Everything about her is so dope, I can't even. We've been talking for about a month. I literally check my phone all day like some kind of lovesick teenager waiting for her to message me. Why didn't I remember that having a crush is basically like having brain damage?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:57 AM
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My flight has also been delayed 3x AND IT IS THE FUCKING WORST. I am stuck on the other side of the country from my house, so I feel your pain, sister. I am so sorry your life is being less than stellar right now. You are awesome, and I hope it gets better!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:49 AM
1

Having a child out of wedlock is still heavily stigmatized in many circles. It's seen as low class and trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:47 AM
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Anything good about TRP can be found without TRP (e.g. "work out"). There is nothing good about TRP itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:45 AM
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I would think that would be obvious from context clues. In this case: good for the health and happiness of monogamous relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:26 AM
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People into cuckolding as a fetish are also very secure. Just because you're secure about something doesn't mean it's a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:24 AM
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I don't know if I would call grinding "cheating," but it's definitely over the line of acceptability and not something either of us would be okay with. Like someone else said, the drink thing depends on the circumstance. If it's just getting a round of drinks while hanging out with friends, that's fine. If it's buying someone a drink in order to flirt, that's not chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:22 AM
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Boring
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 07:38 AM
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So boring. Go outside and do more fun things fueled by booze ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 07:38 AM
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I don't understand the point of this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 06:54 AM
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Yes and no. I'm firmly on the side of "people should not chronically have sex they don't want." But like everything else, I think sex in marriage is a compromise. If two people's libidos don't line up, I think there is some mutual compromising that needs to happen. The higher libido partner will need to be okay with not having sex sometimes, out of respect for their partner's comfort and desires. And likewise, the lower libido partner will need to be okay with having sex sometimes, for the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 06:49 AM
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If I could upvote this more than once, I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 06:43 AM
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Blame feminism for that one. The problem is that feminism's work is still incomplete. Before feminism, women were expected to be wives and mothers and not much else. This was fine for the women who enjoyed that, but not everyone wants to be a wife or mother. Now women can pursue careers... but they're still expected to fulfill the same wife and mother duties of previous times. Ideally in the future, women will be able to pursue careers and there will be equal division of domestic labor at home. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:35 AM
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That's a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:25 PM
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Goddamn you are my fucking favorite.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:23 PM
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But they arguably don't have a better choice either. I understand that men face their own challenges, but the question was "Why do women not want kids?" As a woman who's ambivalent about children, I can only answer from the female POV. The fact of the matter is that as a woman, you do have to pick between going after your career full-throttle or having a family. On a personal note, I'm in a kind of unique situation because I have a stay-at-home husband, and I'm the sole breadwinner of our family…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 07:36 PM
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the problem are "traditional" gender roles still present in the society To some extent yes, but I think it's better than it ever has been in the past. I think it's rare that women are expected to be SAHMs, but I do think we still see echoes of that "women are caretakers" expectations in the fact that they are expected to do the bulk of childcare. In some ways it's worse now because women are kind of expected to be super woman and "have it all"— be the best wife, best mom, best career woman, have…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 07:34 PM
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Not to mention that in many families, the lion's share of childcare and domestic duties still fall to mothers, even if both partners work. As someone who's passionate about my career, the thing that gives me the most pause about deciding to have a child is the fact that I will lose so much time to childrearing. Men don't have to choose between having children or having a career in quite the same way that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 09:35 AM
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I could rant about this all day (and am only really restraining myself because I have to pack for a trip and run all around town doing 5 million things before tomorrow). "Explores her sexuality" is code for "does porned up things that cater to male sexuality." It's a lot like when religious leaders tell people that it's SO GOOD to question the religion and have doubts— in both scenarios people mean "It is good to question and explore, but only if you come to the conclusions that I agree with." I…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 12:21 AM
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E.g. not that she won't do anal, but that she won't even try it So if she tries it, hates it, and never wants to do it again, you would be chill with that? The thing about opinions like this is there is the implicit assumption that if she tries it, she'll like it and be willing to do it at least some of the time. Sometimes a woman who explores her sexuality comes to realize that she most enjoys romantic, vanilla sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 09:52 PM
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If you want the quote to sound authentic, don't say dyke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 04:25 AM
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I'm so glad I don't have to work with other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 03:05 AM
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Burden of proof is on you. You don't have to produce evidence, but as of now I'm just assuming that you made the whole thing up to suit your narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 11:12 PM
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Right, that's different. Typically women aren't grossed out by the penis itself in that situation. They're grossed out by the violation of boundaries and being exposed to someone's genitals in a non-consenting manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:42 PM
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Please give me a link of a straight woman saying that on PPD, because I have never seen it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:37 PM
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I think all the women in this thread are talking about wanting men to be nice to them in bed. As in, "Let's do mutually pleasurable things like oral, kissing, and manual sex as foreplay. Let's say nice, sweet words to each other as part of sex." It also means, "Let's NOT do things like hitting each other, choking, spitting, calling mean names, etc."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:53 PM
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I don't know, but I will never forget that one man who was disturbed at the thought that he would have to fondle a woman's breasts during sex. That one nearly broke my gaydar.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:50 PM
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Ha! I mean that's how you do it to avoid looking like a tool. For a while there a couple years ago, a great many of my posts were fueled by alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:49 PM
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Huh, I actually have to think about that. I have no issues fucking in a tent or something on a camping trip, but going for a hike and then fucking in the actual woods = public to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:48 PM
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Yeah, I feel like that was supposed to be a gotcha, but "thinks all pensies are disgusting" definitely sets off lesbian or asexual vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:45 PM
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Yes, I would if I met a woman who was disgusted by all penises, I would assume she was a lesbian or asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:44 PM
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They're definitely not. They've been around for years, and Bearsaint has had about a million alts, but he's not BiggerD.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:25 PM
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That is a very reasonable stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:24 PM
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I literally just assume that men who make a big fuss about vulvas being "gross" are closet cases. Oral sex comes pretty standard with your average sex life. I don't think I've yet run into a man who thinks it's gross IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:23 PM
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To each their own, but yes, that is the kind of thing that I'm chalking up to "too old for this shit."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 11:13 AM
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Uh, who says I don't believe in evolution? There are some innate sex differences, sure. I think gender ROLES are almost entirely cultural and socialized, yes. They would have served more of a purpose at an earlier time during human history but don't have much purpose in 2018 when most women work and financially support themselves, and no one needs to subsistence farm or hunt to avoid starvation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 06:47 AM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 06:19 AM
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They can sense our autism from a distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:24 AM
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If you show up and you're annoying, I will not be nice to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:07 AM
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+1 to not being down for hitting, name-calling, or any other not-nice stuff in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:01 AM
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I don't understand how what you just said relates to what I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 02:21 AM
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Seriously, how have you not been punched in the face for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 12:44 AM
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Yes but it’s not hard to commingle that property actually. Especially because most people don’t have much. Oh, I agree. We have avoided commingling assets, and it has not been particularly hard. My point is just that people like to blame unfair laws, but in reality I think it's that people don't do their research and then don't make the (small, simple) effort to keep records and avoid mixing their assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:39 PM
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Best of luck! I know therapists can be prohibitively expensive (I don't know your situation), but I do hope you get to talk to someone if that's what you want. Talk therapy gets a lot of flak on this part of the internet, but it can really help.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:30 PM
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"And what's It seems weird and scary to me." shuffles away from the furries
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 09:25 AM
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Apparently all of them because I'm beginning to think everyone is an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 05:32 AM
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Are you a kapuchin monkey? Am I? Is anyone you know? I find those studies so unconvincing as they relate to human behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:38 AM
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I mean this completely seriously and without a hint of mockery: I really think you should get therapy for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:36 AM
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My husband did 💁
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:36 AM
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Most people are terrible at keeping records and immediately commingle their assets. Most people do joint accounts. Also, most people marry before they acquire any significant amount of assets. Assets acquired during the marriage are marital property unless otherwise specified in a prenup, iirc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:34 AM
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Clearly you’re doing nothing to change that Because I don't care. and you offer no substantial criticism as to why my post is apparently flawed with predetermined conclusions. Because nothing I say will make a difference or change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 03:48 AM
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Because after being around for years, I know how these threads go. They're always, without fail, exactly the same: utterly unproductive and producing no new information or ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 03:07 AM
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"Perceived"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:17 PM
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That's a fine looking strawman you got there. Target clearance bin?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:17 PM
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Potato, potahto
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:06 PM
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Feminism is not about equality. It's about elevating women to correct a perceived power imbalance between males and females. It's gender Marxism. That said, I am on the side of feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 10:27 PM
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Socially, in certain groups. I mean obviously people are free to say "Fuck you, no thanks. I'll just be over here doing what I want" but that's harder for some people than others depending on their personalities and surroundings. I think it's harder to be GNC and "weird" in a very conservative small town than it would be in a large city. Having like-minded people around to support you always helps. I don't think it's enforced as in "Put on a dress or you'll go to jail." Not in first world countr…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 09:41 PM
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I like feminism. Fite me. Okay, but to be serious: I think gender roles are mostly bullshit. I think a lot of harm comes from enforcing gender roles, and most people would be better off just embracing their natural interests rather than trying to conform to some physical or behavioral standard dictated by their sex. Liberal feminism is going off the rails somewhat since it's been coopted by trans activists. I see gender nonconforming women declaring themselves "transmen" or nonbinary more and mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:32 PM
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Oh look, another bad faith gotcha thread where anything women say that goes against AF/BB will be ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 07:55 PM
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What can I say? It speaks to my little millennial soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:51 AM
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Q4W - What would you want your SO to do in that or a similar situation? I wouldn't want my husband to do anything, but I would also shut that shit down immediately. As in, tell random weirdo he's being inappropriate and to leave me alone. My husband would have threatened and/or punched the dude if he didn't stop, which is not what I want but is without a doubt what would end up happening. Then there would be a whole big SCENE on the plane, and ugh. It blows my mind that you and your gf just let …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:43 AM
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You seem like you're taking it really well! I wish you and your bf all the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:42 AM
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I can't tell if I think that's blasphemous or if I want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:40 AM
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Or Betty Page going Christian fundie. 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:39 AM
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Go find your sugar mama, squid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:35 AM
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My husband would have thumped him lol Same, and I'm imagining what a nightmare that would be. There is no way I would be able to stop my husband from hitting some dude who wouldn't leave me alone, and that would be so fucking awful on an airplane. Someone would end up arrested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:11 AM
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and what the women here would want their SO to do or not do in that situation. I wouldn't want my husband to do anything, but I would also shut that shit down immediately. As in, tell random weirdo he's being inappropriate and to leave me alone. My husband would have threatened and/or punched the dude if he didn't stop, which is not what I want but is without a doubt what would end up happening. Then there would be a whole big SCENE on the plane, and ugh. It blows my mind that you and your gf ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:09 AM
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My husband and I have, without planning or discussing it, replaced our evening nightcap with HERBAL TEA. We're so goddamn old and healthy. What happens to all the party girls and party boys when they get old? They start drinking herbal tea, running 5k daily, and sometimes they even take afternoon naps. They come up with embarrassingly dorky names for dogs and babytalk small animals. Basically: they (we) turn into your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:04 AM
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I enjoy a clean house as much as the next person, but I'm busy enough that it's not likely in the cards for a while. Running on 3 hours of sleep isn't uncommon these days, and cleaning is seriously far down on my list of priorities. I would get more sleep before I would consider using the time to mop floors. I really recommend cultivating a zenlike acceptance of these things. Is a coffee stain on the floor or an errant piece of broccoli going to kill anyone? If no, then it's fine. Not worth figh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 05:05 AM
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Who cares, though? Frankly it's no one else's business how we decide to keep house. Friends don't like it? Chill, they're welcome to not come over. My point is this: I never nag, and we never fight about cleaning, ever. Men say they want that, but clearly (based on your response and a few other men) that isn't the case. Men always say that women have too high a standard for cleaning, but the reality seems to be that they share those high standards-- they just don't want to be the ones responsibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:38 AM
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You wipe up/of the little stuff as it happens. People do this? My husband spills food or something while he's cooking and just walks away. There's a coffee spill on our floor that dried like, two weeks ago. After several years of trying to combat the mess, I've started following his example by just leaving trash on the floor, and let me tell you, it's pretty sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:42 AM
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Right. So you, as a man, have a higher standard of cleanliness than I do. You're proving my point here. That wasn't a hypothetical I was giving. Our bathroom has not been cleaned in at least four months, and Clothes Mountain is a reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:37 AM
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I think most men would be bothered if the bathroom and kitchen hadn't been cleaned in 4 months, and all of the couple's mutual clean clothes were piled on the bedroom floor in a 6 sq. ft. monstrosity for the last 5 months. Because that's what happens when both people give 0 fucks about cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 01:11 AM
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All two of them? Probably because no one can find them in the sea of single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 01:07 AM
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I could be wrong, but I think it goes both ways. I think most men expect their women to do the cleaning and wouldn't actually be happy if more women were content to live in super messy houses. It seems that the ideal to men is "Doesn't nag, also does all the cleaning." I just lucked out to find someone who shares the viewpoint of "Let's neither of us nag each other, and no one is expected to do any cleaning."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 12:57 AM
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Indeed. The house often looks like a tornado hit it, but we're happy so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 11:41 PM
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Or you can just do what we do, and nobody does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 11:37 PM
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Probably just continue our relationship the way it is now, but without PIV sex. While sex is a component of a healthy marriage, I don't think it's the be-all end-all. If you mean sexually, I don't know what our sex life would look like if I was unable to have PIV sex ever again. I imagine that is something we would figure out together by communicating and experimenting to see what works for our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 10:22 PM
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I said that in response to his hyperbolic statement. His hyperbole ("You will get HIV within one month of having gay sex") didn't deserve a well-thought out answer. It got hyperbole in return ("HIV isn't that bad").
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 10:27 AM
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What is this witchcraft
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 10:44 AM
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Right? Btfo straight boys
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:45 AM
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I beg to differ. I'm sure I could find dtf dudes on Grindr.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:45 AM
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I hereby crown you winner of this thread. This is the only one I've seen so far that's actually realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 09:48 PM
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Right? We get 10 packages a week and they're never mine. I don't think I've bought anything for myself in, jeez, several months.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 10:01 PM
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Aw, thank you! We had a lovely Thanksgiving with my parents and grandparents. Happy Thanksgiving to you! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 06:34 AM
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That sounds terrifying! I'm sure he'll be a great driver. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 02:01 AM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 02:01 AM
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As in, in seems like the posts start by assuming RP principles. I've been feeling either disengaged or frustrated with the posts, which isn't good. Yes, I've noticed lately that people have been downvoting my anti-RP arguments instead of actually debating with me. That's frustrating and makes the whole thing less fun. If you're going to downvote, at least tell me why you think I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 01:59 AM
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It's a nightmare, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 01:58 AM
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Don't worry! I don't have friends because I don't want them. Too time-consuming. They would cut into the time I have to socialize with ill-tempered pillsphere denizens on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 11:15 AM
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My constant mantra these days is "It's just the internet. There are regular people outside." I refuse to believe that any of these people are representative of real humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 11:13 AM
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I've been taking a spontaneous break from pillsphere and oh boy is it nice. I love y'all, but your crazy is a bit much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:25 AM
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Jamjam provided some balance to the Force. Was nice to have a bit of Team Woman crazy to go with our Team Man usuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:18 AM
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Does anyone actually have orbiters after college? Serious question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:16 AM
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I just have no friends!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:16 AM
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Naval support activity
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 06:06 AM
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No one said that milkshakes are a sign of commitment leading to marriage, but I'm saying that people will make assumptions based on your actions. It's not so much "having a milkshake" as "having a milkshake at 2am" that seems like an intimate thing to do. My point is that different people have different frames of reference for normal platonic behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 05:42 PM
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No, being a woman is fine, especially in a first world country in 2018.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 11:50 AM
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A simple “did you get home okay” text was spun into a sign I cared deeply about this girl and her safety - somehow signaling future investment. A unique experience we shared together made her have deeper feelings. Maybe a milkshake shared at a diner at 2am. Things that I always thought were commonplace were interpreted as a sign of deep intimacy It could be that they have different frames of reference for "normal." It's abnormal to me that someone would text "did you get home okay?" or have milk…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 06:34 AM
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Oh, that's fascinating. I skimmed the study you posted. I had no idea it was so prevalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 06:29 AM
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Yes, many people are selfish but selfishness is a choice. I'm not so much agreeing to disagree as saying that other people's selfishness doesn't justify my own. I'm not saying that anyone should be a doormat, but I think that it's good to be kind as much as possible while still protecting yourself and seeking your own interests. To put it another way, other people's bad behavior doesn't mean I should go act like a shithead too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 03:31 AM
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If you think splitting hairs on whether humans are "thinking animals" or "learning animals" is the point of anything I said in my original comment, I don't know what to tell you. It seems like you're missing the forest for the trees.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 01:47 AM
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Semantics. Nothing you said disagreed with anything I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:20 AM
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You're somehow assigning a value judgment to this scenario that I'm not making. Nowhere did I say that they are somehow bad or wrong for making a choice that I wouldn't make. I'm saying people have different priorities. As you say, it's perhaps because their circumstances are different from mine. This fact doesn't somehow remove their agency. It is still a choice that they are deciding to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:02 AM
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You're trying very hard to read things into my words that aren't there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 11:56 PM
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Believe it or not, I'm actually not interested in patting myself on the back because I think I'm somehow superior to other people. I make mistakes same as anybody else, and my sense of self isn't so fragile that I need to bolster it by putting other people down. THAT SAID, I don't like the concept that we should excuse bad behavior in other people. I think it's better to empower people to learn to make good choices because that will benefit in the long run. Holding low expectations for others is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 11:45 PM
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The reaction is "fuck that guy I would never do that". Sure. We can say "fuck that guy" is a problem due to lack of compassion. That doesn't mean we should excuse others' shitty behavior. There is a world of difference between "what you did was not okay" and "fuck you, you piece of shit." I posit that the former is beneficial and necessary, while the latter is unnecessarily antagonistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 11:18 PM
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Most people are slaves to their instincts. I don't like this phrasing because it takes the responsibility off those people. It strikes me as fat logic. People have a choice to eat healthy food in moderate amounts or not. They have the choice to exercise or not. No one is a slave to their instincts. It's just that some people choose to indulge in momentary pleasure at the sake of longterm wellness. It's all a choice, always.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 11:13 PM
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I mean more like accepting that we might give in to those impulses if we were facing a greater degree of temptation. Why accept failure? Sounds weak to me. Hypoagency is a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 10:47 PM
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Not doing this is an option, though. If it were not an option, everyone in first world countries would be overweight, which is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 10:46 PM
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TRP doesn't freak me out or hurt my feelings, I just think it's pretty clearly bad for people. I don't make a habit of reading that subreddit, but I've read most of the sidebar material over the years. It's pretty hard to debate when you don't understand what you're debating. Always better to be informed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 09:30 PM
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Be civil and cut out the race baiting. Consider this an official warning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 09:14 PM
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This is just human nature--to use all the tools and advantages at one's disposal to achieve one's own self interest. It's also human nature to eat all the calorie-dense foods available in case of famine, and to kill your enemies. This works well for cavemen, but not so well for modern people for which this would result in obesity and prison time, respectively. We are thinking animals with the ability to restrain our baser natures through willpower, which is the reason humans were able to create …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 09:07 PM
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My problem with it is ethics, not efficacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 09:03 PM
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For the record, you should have no problem accessing it from the Reddit is Fun app (which is superior to the official Reddit app in pretty much every way, so I don't know why anyone would use something else). Not that I'm encouraging people to visit TRP because TRP is trash, but the more you know...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 08:47 PM
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I'll bring the tiny umbrella drinks, you bring the space helmets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 05:55 PM
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It's not better for the cows.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 05:51 PM
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On the moon
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 10:46 AM
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Oh you read them? Just the titles. There are about 30 of the same thing, just alternating calling it the ex or the gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:45 AM
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Fingers crossed that this is just someone trolling on the internet for shits and giggles. In half the posts he calls her his ex, in half she's his gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:32 AM
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Do not troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:28 AM
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Man, you are really fishing for people to tell you that your gf is awful. Why do you need validation of your feelings for her? Do you often feel that your opinions aren't valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:16 AM
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Maybe, is she hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:51 AM
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I think that's probably not true. I think the internet is the source of most people's problems. People appear to be growing up like pod people interacting via screens and not really going outside. Maybe veal is a better metaphor. Either way, it seems to be socially stunting people and leading to some really fucked up inability to connect with other humans. Also people are getting fat!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:47 AM
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Yeah, it sounds like you don't like her that much. You know what to do!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:45 AM
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This is really long, so I'm not going to read the whole thing. I skimmed it. So here's the thing: It doesn't matter if the internet thinks your girlfriend is a bad person. Do you think she's a bad person? Are you happy with her? If you are upset enough about your relationship to write this many words asking the internet if your girlfriend is bad, maybe you're not in the right relationship and you should break up with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:42 AM
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Depends what you're doing. I find it flattering when people hit on me as long as they aren't being rude about it (rude meaning shouting, saying sexually explicit things at me, or not taking no for an answer). I mean, they have no chance, but it's pleasant to be complimented.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:38 AM
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"Be yourself" tends to be shorthand for "be the best version of yourself." When people say be yourself they don't mean sit in a dark basement eating cheetos and fapping to anime porn while your mom cleans your room.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:25 AM
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Oh god, you poor thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:16 AM
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14 days thanks to that surgery that one time. Barring being unable to have sex due to medical advice, the longest I've gone without is probably like 4 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:14 AM
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It is selfish, but there's nothing inherently wrong with being selfish. Everyone is chasing their self-interest to some degree. We call people who don't do that doormats.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:27 AM
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that girl is basically gone and replaced by her mother. Yes, that's how the steady march of time works.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 09:10 PM
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paying for medical treatments not covered (or only covered partially) under the NHS Ugh, look at you guys with your fancy healthcare. I feel you, man. This + being very reluctant to give up my time are why I'm on the fence about having a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 09:09 PM
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Still not a good reason for him to up and die on us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 09:07 PM
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And the 20 percent doesn't seem to have a problem getting attached, married, relationships, etc without much of a problem. Married/attached people are more likely to be regulars here because they have nothing better to do on a Friday night. There are single blue pillers, they're probably just out doing actual fun things instead of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 09:06 PM
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HE DIED?! No. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 09:36 PM
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I agree with all of this. I don't think red pill concepts apply well to any of my relationships, with men or women. It might be because I tend to date gender nonconforming people (For the peanut gallery: when I say this I don't mean transpeople. I mean people who don't perform their prescribed gender roles).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 09:35 PM
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I've never seen a woman go into a men's bathroom, and I would think it was incredibly bizarre if I did. The only time people should use the opposite sex's bathroom is if it's a single-occupancy bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 09:27 PM
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