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| 23 | FDS in Religious Communities pt. 1 | STRATEGY | YukiCatKingdom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:13 AM |
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| 3 | What have you been spending your money on since you’re no longer wasting it on a terrible relationship/dating?Your apartment sounds like a dream, I'm so happy for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 05:50 PM |
| 14 | Found some PDF of the books we recommendI highly recommend Spy the Lie, I listened to it as an audiobook recently. It was interesting and entertaining without excessive fluff. By the end of the book I felt like I learned something new about how to craft and ask effective questions, as well as evaluate responses to those questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:44 PM |
| 81 | Hey ladies 👋, I wanted to try something. List all the hobbies that women can't have as they are feminine or hobbies they can have and will be respected forMore of a career than a hobby, but men do not respect the skill and practice required to be a hairdresser. By and large they see it as vain, frivolous pursuit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:22 PM |
| 8 | Sigourney Weaver, 71. Hitting the wall never looked so good.That's a fair point, the women in my family tend to go grey so early, I forgot that it wasn't a universal experience. You have some good hair genes queen! And probably a good haircare routine too. I salute you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:53 PM |
| 72 | Sigourney Weaver, 71. Hitting the wall never looked so good.Not my favorite take on women aging. She looks gorgeous, and I don't mean to put her down at all, but a 71 year old shouldn't be expected to have brown hair. Grey and white hair on older women looks beautiful too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:48 PM |
| 81 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughThe line that got me was "you misunderstood that." He would commit to things, I would expect him to follow through, and then when he didn't he'd tell me I misunderstood what he said when we talked. I think occasionally misunderstanding what a significant other said is fine (I'm human after all), but when it becomes a harmful pattern that always gives a deadbeat SO the a perfect excuse to break promises, then you know it's gaslighting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:06 AM |
| 0 | What is LVM?I did read the link you posted, you wrote it. I think it's okay to disagree on the exact meaning of LVM, we're both FDS newbies after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:37 PM |
| 3 | What is LVM?I don't think a woman labeling a man as "unknown" means that they are avoiding an issue. It should mean that they're vetting carefully. Why would you vet a known LVM? This post states that a LVM is "a shitty human being," and if I've been seeing a guy for a couple weeks and don't feel like I'm wasting my time, then I don't think "a shitty human being" is an appropriate term for them. Men can be very beneficial early in a relationship. They can provide lots of support, companionship, and resource… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 01:54 AM |
| 22 | What is LVM?I'd really like to see the community adopt another term: Unknown Value Man (UVM). You can't confirm a man is a HVM until you have a good understanding of his character, which can take at least 6 months to a year to truly see. So, the current best practices is to label all the new men you date as LVM to be safe. However, many women won't want to refer to a new man they're dating as a LVM if he's been treating her well. He could be showing a lot of HVM traits, and could very well be a HVM, but you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:43 PM |
| 29 | What is LVM?This is a wonderful review of the meaning of LVM! I would add that LVM have bad attitudes. Many believe it is their right to be abusive, lazy, and/or cruel with women. Deep down, they have no serious qualms with their poor behavior. This is why we focus on LVM red flags. It's not just the red flag behavior itself, but also the attitudes that the flag reveals. Edit: fixed a word I forgot to add. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 16 | Thoughts on The Five Love LanguagesIf a man brings up love languages, I tell him I need all five. Because I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:20 PM |
| 4 | Imagine being with someone whom human porn does not do it for him anymore. Imagine that his dick only gets hard if he thinks you are a cat or a raccoon 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢As a real furry interested in the wholesome cosplay and digital art aspects of the community, yes, I do hate this guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:13 PM |
| 32 | I found this thing called MDS.It's sad. If they removed the focus on deception and false presentation, and the doubles standards (such as #24), then I think this could actually be a viable "male level up strategy." It would be great if men could encourage other men not to smoke, drink, or use drugs. It would be great if they can encourage other men to be clean and build healthy life habits. But the focus on lying and hiding aspects of themselves sours the whole list. It makes it seem like this poster don't actually want to i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:47 PM |
| 202 | Females After A BreakupDrop the dead weight and fly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 08:03 AM |
| 8 | Why some women put up with the bare minimum from men in North America: a short essay on societal+patriarchal conditioning, pros and cons/benefits outweigh the costs mindset, and the fear of singledomThat is a beautiful belief, thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 13 | Red, Yellow & Green Flags in RelationshipsI really liked how she defined the different types of flags, thanks for the recommendation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:40 PM |
| 3 | They say older women are jealous of younger women...BUT it's actually older men who are jealous of younger men 👀I am a member of this faith and I love our community too, however my ex-husband was a very active member of this church. He was also a secret porn addict, lied about how he spent money, would physically intimidate me, and refused to get a job. It broke my heart, but once I realized he wasn't going to change (and I couldn't change him), I had to divorce. I feared raising children with him. The moral of my story is to vet carefully, even if you're dating someone from a reputable community. It will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 07:20 AM |
| 3 | They say older women are jealous of younger women...BUT it's actually older men who are jealous of younger men 👀I think that Venture8 was referring to how the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints encourages young members of the church to serve as full-time missionaries and do community volunteer work and proselytizing for 18-24 months. Both young adult men and women are encouraged to do this as a way to express love for God and man, but I would say the men are slightly more encouraged. Serving a mission is a great way to gain independent living skills, as missionaries often travel to foreign countr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 07:03 AM |
| 5 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI prefer asking "when was the last time you watched porn?" It should show you their feelings about porn (ashamed, casual, disinterested, addicted, etc.) And it also gives you a chance for follow up questions like "what kind?" or "why?" Men have an easy opportunity to lie with a quick no if you ask them "do you watch porn?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:02 PM |
| 8 | They say older women are jealous of younger women...BUT it's actually older men who are jealous of younger men 👀Why is this being downvoted? She is correcting a common misconception and condeming a gross age gap relationship. Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints can certainly be HVW and can find and marry likeminded HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:46 PM |
| 14 | Women vs menSince when is nurturing not logical?? Being able to care for a small child or pet requires so much focus, insightful decision making, and thoughtful planning. If you're illogical while caring for the child, then that child will get hurt or could even die. The false dichotomy between "logic" and nurturing makes me want to barf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:21 PM |
| 24 | Disgusting bedroom with the mattress on the floor and the tv on a cooler. Futon instead of an actual couch. Girl... all the signs were there already 😂😂She did him a favor, he may actually clean that dumpy apartment now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 161 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?They want attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 67 | Thoughts on “My SO is my best friend”?I believe that your SO should be one of your best friends, but ideally you should have several lady friends in your life that you consider to be "best friends" too. It's dangerous to put all your eggs in one basket, especially when men are involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:11 PM |
| 20 | Just casually cutting men off before meeting themQueen energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Having difficulties breaking up a friendship with a male gamerBlock him, or at the very least change his name to "pornhub boy" or something like that in your phone. I also enjoy gaming, mostly on the switch and ps4. Hit me up if you want to talk about games! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:12 PM |
| 15 | Stick with the guy that loves you, not the guy you love.Or don't settle for either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:31 AM |
| 3 | My number one fan❤️😘it's so nice to be adoredIts so helpful to know that these messages are just copy-paste. There's no thought put into writing them, and they're certainly not based on reality. Just a pathetic excuse for ammo passed around by angry LVM. It's a good reminder to not bother with a response for these messages, not only is it a waste of time, but the guys sending out these messages don't even put any effort into them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 7 | Do any of you have HVM dads?My dad is a HVM. It was because of him that I felt slightly more at home here in FDS than in Pinkpill Feminism (rip). He is a good man, he worked hard to provide for our family and supported my mother in her career. He encouraged me to pursue a career in STEM and treated me with respect as I grew up. He and my mother completely had my back during my divorce. I believe that other men like him, men with kind hearts and good character, exist. My mistake was assuming that my LVM ex would grow to res… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:28 AM |
| 6 | So I watched a few videos in this channel so far found it wholesome. I love watching analysis of books and movies because there's so much in them that affects us subconsciously.I recently discovered this channel too! I'm really enjoying their work, especially the video about Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:31 PM |
| 17 | What do y'all think about using the B-word/men who use the B-word?That word is not a part of my vocabulary, and it never will be. It is degrading to say and degrading to hear. If a female friend or aquantiance uses it to praise or tease me, then I politely but firmly shut it down. If a male uses that word with me in any context then he is cut off, or at least held at arm's length with minimal interactions (if he is a coworker or something like that). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:28 PM |
| 3 | In one of our Negotiations classes, our professor made us read this story, and asked us one question: Among the four characters, who is to be blamed for the girl's death? I initially thought the old man was responsible, but now I feel it was the guy's fault. Btw, 75% of our class blamed the girl.What was the purpose of reading this story in your class? What were you supposed to gain from it? I shudder at the supposed lessons an instructor could glean from a weird fairy tale like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:05 PM |
| 32 | I bet Clint’s WIFE doesn’t even know she’s in a non-monogamous relationship.Spot on! And he really is a donkey, my goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 10:28 PM |
| 103 | Such.. bitterness.Men can and should have standards. If a guy is dating a girl that he feels is beneath him, then he's going to mistreat her. We don't want that. I think this dude is conflating "I can be selective while dating" with "I can shame people that don't match my specific criteria for a romantic partner." LVM love to use the idea of "having standards" as an excuse to be a huge jerk and bully women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I consider my father to be a HVM, and my mother told me he's only cried a handful of times during their marriage. I wouldn't have ever realized. He was emotionally available to my siblings and I, and worked hard to support our family financially and with the housework. He mourned with my during my divorce, didn't cry, but I still felt very supported by him. That being said, he never bragged about not crying often. If the guy you're describing is proud of only crying twice then I would definitely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:31 PM |
| 7 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsThis is amazing! Have you considered trying to get your findings published in a scientific journal, maybe sociology-related? I bet you could recruit other FDS sisters to replicate your data collection in their local areas too, if you wantdd more data to further strengthen your conclusions. Either way, thank you for sharing your results with us, this is very illuminating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:39 AM |
| 13 | I'm not sure if i am toxic? He says I'm sneakyGreat advice! My motto is "I will be my own hero, because no one else will save me," and it really helped me escape an awful relationship earlier this year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:01 AM |
| 34 | I've seen the Presidential debate compared to a lot of things: the circus, Facebook fights, wild animals attacking each other.... But this is what really got me. I think every woman has at least one story of arguing with a piece of shit NVM like Trump. Watching it was like an out of body experienceI think the next presidential debate should be held over Zoom. It's safer, and the moderator would be able to mute participants so that they don't speak out of turn. Listening to them shout over each other without addressing the moderator's questions was a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:26 PM |
| 11 | General discussion: how to not hate men after realizing the sobering truth?To echo the words of the sister suffragettes in Mary Poppins, "Though we adore men individually, we agree that as a group they're rather stupid!" So adore those few men that have proven themselves to be HVM, or in other words, real men of character. Maybe that's a father a brother, a mentor, a cousin, a friend's husband, etc. I was very lucky to have a HVM father. I also have a HVM cousin I'm close to that's really more like a big brother to me, he even dropped off dinner on my doorstep last nig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 17 | Religion Red FlagsMy heart goes out to you, I was in a similar position before. I'm still trying to figure out all the red flags for dating religious men, but I have I recently written some FDS-inspired guidelines for dating in a religious community, you can find those here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ig29ql/fds_in_religious_communities_pt_1/ To comment on your meetings with the priest, I just want to note that most (if not all) religions are primarily led by men, and you will experien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.This seems like a control tactic because there is such an obvious solution. The guy wants to upgrade housing while the girl doesn't, therefore the girl could keep putting in $350 per month for rent like before and the guy can foot the bill for the extra rent on the upgraded apartment that he wants. Granted that's not a 100% FDS approach to renting, but it's what a fair-minded dude would suggest. HOWEVER, that is not what's happening here. Instead, the guy is pushing the girl to pay extra rent TH… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:27 PM |
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