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Zakdoekjeleggen/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 10:43 AM
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It definitely slows her departure down. Babies assumed to be his is a benefit in some cases. If you want parental rights, for instance. Say your preggers girl gets hit by a truck and your monster inlaws claim the child - that would suck.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 01:47 PM
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Do something fun to spoil him. Blowjobs come highly recommended. Nice lingerie now and then, if you're not already doing that. A backrub.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 01:21 PM
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https://www.terapia-cognitiva.mx/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Emotion-Regulation-Skills-Handout.pdf Emotional regulation handouts pdf
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 09:35 AM
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TRP
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 11:36 AM
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Nah sweety, the internet is a hard medium for conveying intentions. You never offended me, all I wanted to do was point out it's all your choice. AFAIK you are welcome here even if you disagree with everything, so long as you are open and honest, and not pretending to dish out RPW advice that is secretly just mainstream truisms. Submission is a function of trust. Idk how far your capability to trust goes. Just food for thought, I am not trying to convert anyone lol.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 05:43 PM
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https://www.terapia-cognitiva.mx/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Emotion-Regulation-Skills-Handout.pdf For at home therapy :-) for the little rascal. You need self-care honey. Can you maintain weight for a while, or does that lead to gain for you? Weightloss in and of itself can be stressful, and you need as little extra stress as possible rn. The toddler just reflects your mood. It will get better when you feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 05:27 PM
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I love myself very very much, that is why I practice behavior that gives me the outcome I want. Including submission. You absolutely can have a typical kind of relationship, and be happy, it's just not RPW. Why do you want the label? Being your best self is very mainstream. Why are you here? I think your hang ups about the concept of submission block you from really thinking about this. I definitely don't think you or anyone should do the RPW thing, it just works for me. I find more meaning in l…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 05:09 PM
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I have made it last over a dozen years now, so I will chime in. You are not submitting, neither to him, nor to the relationship (that's just hamsterspeak). You are just compromising, like basically everyone does. It sounds like you are happy. So that's good. Often though, happy normal relationships end up bad. People quit making an effort, people lose attraction, someone better comes along. Sometimes not. I know marriages like yours that have lasted decades. But it's nothing to do with RPW. The …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 04:13 PM
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Footage of his family dancing and clapping to "happy" while doing laundry.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 03:58 PM
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Step 1. Be attractive Step 2. Be pleasant Step 3. Profit.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 12:32 PM
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I told my husband I would not have a family out of wedlock, I needed that stability if we were gonna have kids. We were together unmarried for many years, before we made it official. A man can gain things from marriage. One - decrease the chance of the woman leaving him. Two - social proof that can be helpful in conservative circles. Three - tax benefits and practical stuff like who gets to visit first when you're hospitalized, babies automatically assumed to be his etc. Four - there can be a be…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 09:32 PM
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Just make sure the little cockblocker is down for a nap ;-) And think a bit more about what is lacking, and what you want. Then we can help you devise a plan of action.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 08:15 PM
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There is no one exact way. People and situations differ. RPW look at the truth and use it to their advantage. For you, may I suggest enthusiastically initiating a few blowjobs to start with? And then right after, smile and go do something else as if nothing happened. That one usually goes over quite well.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 07:41 PM
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It's a PDF full of handouts about emotion regulation, aimed I think at ppl with borderline personality disorder, but also useful for children, immature ppl, those who have been raised without emotional literacy, ppl with trauma, or anyone overcome with PMS
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 12:58 PM
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Is this really the hill you want to die on? Is he regularly dismissive of your desires, or is it just the table? Are you always this intense about furniture? (no judgment if you are, personally I don't truly care as long as it's clean, but some ppl reaeally get in to home dec) Is this your way of trying to make him proof you matter more than his ex? Or that you matter at all? What other indicators are there that you do or do not matter? So many questions. Typically I would say, you made your des…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 08:59 PM
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Which God?
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 10:22 AM
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The only answer is self-care. You know how to handle difficult situations, but you get too stressed too think and act the way you know you should. Practice self-care to the extent that you can roll with the punches. Because the punches always come.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 05:55 PM
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Ideally, he just cares about her and the benefits are a total bonus and make him super psyched happy feel like the luckiest man alive. Both is okay, too.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 05:23 PM
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Don't be ridiculous, illegal unemployed immigrants are on the botton of society, just as she said. Get real. Guys like that, all over the world, will romance easy prey women for the legal benefits that marriage brings.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 03:30 PM
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THEY CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 12:17 PM
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If even a little bit is left, or expelled, some of those bacteria are potentially deadly. People die sometimes when cooks don't wash their hands properly. Going straight in there is risky plain and simple.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 12:05 PM
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Lol, he knew before this sub was even created. Strategy? This is sorcery and he likes it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 09:44 AM
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Do you fit his generic suitable mate mould or does he care about you (and not just how you can be of usr to him)?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 09:38 AM
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Yeah, this. I have some hard limits, too. And this is one, mainly because the risks are huge (hygiene/infection).
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 09:29 AM
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I like porn, so I think it is a silly matter, but hypocrisy is a HUGE RED FLAG. Don't submit to someone who isn't trustworthy. Ever. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 09:23 AM
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We RPW enjoy cringing
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 07:36 PM
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Epilator device for the bikiniline and legs, short trim for the rest. My husband doesn't require everything baby smooth. I am waaaaaay too sensitive to survive exfoliation down there lol
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 07:36 PM
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You may want to try addressing the defensiveness before giving up. My husband had a similar attitude, he took everything negative I brought up as criticism and dismissed it as me being negative without looking at the content of my statements. Very annoying. But when I pointed that out, he got to know himself a little better. Realised he sometimes needed some time to digest what I had said (while I expected direct solutions), and it got better quick. Defensiveness is one of the 'horsemen of the a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 09:23 PM
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Submission isn't the same as just letting a guy have his way all the time...
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 09:02 PM
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If it feels draining to submit, something is wrong. While it is possible that this lifestyle is not for you, much more likely, you and him are not attuned right. Option 1 is you just leave. Option 2 is: bring your captain your problem. So you need to make sure you can explain the problem clearly. It's not about just a trashcan, or not appreciating the lovely dinner. It's about your voice not being heard, him not taking your wishes into consideration enough to make you feel taken seriously. If he…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:26 PM
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Obviously yes. Ever read a girls or womens magazine? So much about dating and sex, and all written with the unspoken assumption that you reaeaeally get around.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 10:15 AM
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You bought into a set of values that do not serve you. Try and opt out. Don't let this virginity obsession be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Rn you are focused on yourself and your guilt, not on his desire. It's unhealthy and not constructive. Focus on what you can control.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 09:35 AM
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Hope 1 is described very well by islehaven. The other option is a social climber. My husband comes from working class parents, we are upper middle class now. He was sent to good schools and very ambitious and smart.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 12:41 PM
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This!!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 12:39 PM
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This and more of this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:27 PM
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Good advice would be: If you want your marriage to last, get some rice and beans. Starving people bicker.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:19 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:07 PM
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My roots run deeper than yours. The Tradition of the badass warlord getting all the babes is much older than the newfangled Christian ideas you hold dear.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:06 PM
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We both get everything we want sexually. For neither of us does this include other men. Extremely high value, not really. He is not a celebrity or millionaire or something along those lines.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:04 PM
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Yeah mine does. Don't listen to the tradcons trying to shame you. It works for us because I am not the slightest bit, not even a teeny tiny little bit upset about it. Also it's a turn-on for me. Unlike you... TBH I think you should withdraw your 'permission' until further notice. Maybe he can make you feel loved, wanted and secure enough that this can be a thing, later on. No decision needs to be permanent. For now though, this clearly makes you unhappy. You don't have to do everything because i…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 04:50 PM
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Nun mode for a little while (shouldn't be too hard with the coronacrisis rn). Do lots of loving kindness meditation, keep a positivity diary (writing only and as much as possible the good/funny/sweet things, it will help you refocus on the right stuff).
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 10:52 AM
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If that's what you want to do, you don't need much advice, it's easy for women. This is about reaching your goals as a woman, TRP the same but for men. Our goals often differ, and what comes easy for us comes hard for them and vjce versa, generally speaking. Most women here want advice on marriage and personal growth.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 09:29 AM
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That's wonderful. The circumstances for healing are all present. Now let time work its wonders. If it itches, that means it's getting better!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 06:37 PM
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It's generally speaking not pleasant for men to hold the thought of their woman with another man in their mind. He already knows she's no virgin and still wants to marry. No need to stir up trouble.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 05:24 PM
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How long are your together periods for? Like have you spent days, or weekends, or weeks, or months at a time together?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 05:09 PM
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Not a thing you want to bring up. He knows you had sex, if he wanted to know more, he would ask. He doesn't want to hear this. It would be self-serving to soothe your own conscience at his expense.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 04:39 PM
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Someone close to me does your job and told me the same gossip drama tales. She never participated and got promoted to the head of her department in time. If their criticism basically boils down to "your perfection makes others uncomfortable", shrug it off. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 03:48 PM
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Is your basic situation safe? You have income, a roof, food etc? What social support do you have (absuive relatives and dysfunctional drama folk don't count)? For now, just get through the days, and report back which parts of that are hard. If you want to send a text, reach out to someone else instead. You know the things are just an excuse to fool yourself with, they can wait until you feel strong, or be replaced. This is a big community, I can't promise I will always be here, but someone who c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 03:30 PM
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It's called nun mode :-)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 03:25 PM
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You get it :-)
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 08:59 PM
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I met him before I was 'legal', we became a couple a few years later. I was anything but mature for my age, had lots of childhood trauma to deal with. He is the same age as me, so we basically did lots of trial and error. My personality is naturally submissive, I want to please, and much too much so. To the point of being a doormat and completely over-exerting myself on behalf of others. This could lead to meltdowns on my part very easily, being over-burdened and codependent all around. My husba…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 08:13 PM
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My husband wants very specific spoons for various dishes and I do my utmost to comply. Unlike OP, I say no to sex as much as I can. Much more fun IMHO. These are risky games for those with pokerfaces or in new relationships tho, proceed with caution.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 04:06 PM
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Man I love the safeword for minor annoyance idea!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 04:00 PM
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Really grateful we hardly even notice the coronacrisis. Only minor adjustments, no drama. And all this sunshine!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:57 PM
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You are absolutely right, I overlooked that part.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 03:55 PM
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Never ascribe to malice what can be explained by incompetence or stupidity tho? The advice doesn't change any way. She needs to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:57 PM
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He cannot change what he gets off on, same as a gay man can't turn hinself straight.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:56 PM
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Yes. And these guys typically walk all over the very sweet submissive kind of girls. OP good for you for making him see sense. You should be able to talk about negative stuff without being dismissed. The residual anger might be managed best by realising that it was you who failed to communicate to him the importance of your views and thoughts up until now. He is not a mind reader, and dismissal worked. So you can wish he had been more sensitive, or you can accept that he is not. And if you accep…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 02:51 PM
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Family friend
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 10:19 AM
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I'm not sure he needs help. He avoids unnecessary drama because there is no reasoning with annoying little sisters, that's not weakness. I have been the annoying little sister. The brother who stood up to me does muuuuch worse with women than the one who shrugged and ignored it and didn't engage. The 'henpecked' one kicks women to the curb the moment they show signs of behaving like a bratty little girl, while the other still wastes his energy standing up to them. Instead of simply finding a mor…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 10:10 AM
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If he is a very young sadist, it could be he is benign but incompetent as of yet. In that case, still leave, because you're not a school and you are getting hurt. Especially with a history of family abuse, you need to keep yourself safe. ETA - I have changed my mind on this, evidence points to malice, not just incompetence.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:57 AM
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This is temporary. He will not change.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:17 AM
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Run! You cannot make yours see this is upsetting and hurtful, because he already sees and likes it. He enjoys your suffering. He gets off on it. My husband does a lot of this, too, so I recognize it. Only for us, it's mutual, and there is consent. I'm a masochist, rough sex after minor mess-ups is like stress relief to me. Only mine would not continue if I wasn't getting off on it, too. He is a sadist, like my husband. But mine is a benign/moral man with a kink. Yours is dangerous. Leave him ASA…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:17 AM
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Polite argument? I was at my worst there. What kind of people do you usually argue with??? ;-) Your advice was way too stern and conservative IMO, so that's probably how you treat yourself as well. Youthfulness is mostly about having fun, you can be self-indulgent in wholesome ways as well. You don't have to ruin your life to enjoy it. Re: the argument, you should definitely NOT dress down out of female solidarity. Instead, inspire others to look their best also and lighten the room with your pr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 09:30 PM
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Yes. We were young fools, now we're slightly less foolish. The more I relaxed and just supported him, the more freedom he had to try and fail without drama from me, the more room he had to grow.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:45 PM
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A temporary completely understandable down in a weird situation like this is not the crumbling and decay of all that you hold dear. Talk about it with him, laugh about how you have turned into a nagging shrew (as soon as the bad mood is over anyway) and give yourself some grace to adjust. Also, anyone not going completely nuts rn qualifies as a rock. The world is in a turmoil. As for actionable advice - maybe do an extra hour of tv, together with him. Make popcorn. Cuddle. Also tell him your fee…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 04:26 PM
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Me too
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 07:46 AM
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Could be pride, could be a way to market herself or make money, could be naivity, could be a slut, could be the (family) culture she was brought up in that values this, could be for attention, could be exhibionism as a fetish, could be your idea of provocative is entirely different from hers, could be she wants to give the guys a boost out of kindness (srsly), etc. No way to tell. Why do you wanna judge? Not your business unless it's you, and then introspection would work better than asking us.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 09:04 PM
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Is it possible to isolate yourself more while you study or reflect on studies and have a sort of ritual to move into family/socializing mode ?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 08:36 PM
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Is it possible for you to do less? I can be reactive when rushed or distracted or disturbed. It is easier to be mindful when you are giving people your full attention, than when you are trying to get on with the interaction so you can continue (X)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 06:40 PM
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Actual intelligent insights novel to them. Ride or die attitude. Strength of conviction when doing the right thing. Useful life skills. For some, wit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 06:23 PM
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Maybe stein un stein 😈
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 05:36 PM
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There's a song for this! https://youtu.be/Eo-KmOd3i7s
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 05:17 PM
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We are preppers. Does that answer your question? :-) I am a little stressed, yes, but not about the current situation. Just the potential for a great depression, wars etc rn.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 01:36 PM
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Explain to her how good IT tech guys often get extra education on the job. Paid for by their employer. My husband also had this, IDK exactly what courses because there were loads, but one was a masters degree.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 01:01 PM
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As I said, for work is one thing, for solidarity with other women is ridiculous. You claimed to do the latter and so encouraged her. This is not in her (or your) benefit. OP very clearly states she tries to avoid trouble. To enjoy the attention is not a bad thing at all. Everything is a slippery slope if you have no sensible shoes or mind. Too bad you have acquired old woman vibes so young. Maybe you can toss those by enjoying your beauty?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 10:45 AM
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You aren't advising her for her benefit, but for your own. Encouraging young single women to downplay their beauty and threatening them with not being accepted to scare them off is typical old jealous woman behavior. And your implication that she shouldn't enjoy getting male attention is just asinine. This isn't advice, this is rivalry.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 10:06 AM
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Yeah all the above is just trying to deter rivals lol. Genuine, interesting, funand nice people are always welcomed by good people, regardless of what real society they frequent. Dressing down to get/keep a job, sure. But to support other women? Oh please... That's a ridiculous thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 09:15 AM
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No ideas to help, just a reminder that however you celebrate it, you will both likely remember forever. Because of the current situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 06:28 PM
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Thanks - FWIW I was genuinely wondering.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 04:23 PM
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It's right there under the giant letters "the red pill" it says "the official video channel"
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 02:08 PM
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I doubted myself because I put too much stock in general consensus. Some relatives were annoyed with me for bringing it up even when I didn't expand on how bad exactly I thought it would get. FWIW, I think people need to work on community food security everywhere. Time for victory gardens.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 11:45 AM
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'Official'? Who are these people? That's a steep claim, to be the official RPW channel. Is there a transcript?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 11:07 AM
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Lol of course we do better, I hardly notice a change. Less ironing to be done is all. Meanwhile my next door neighbor stopped brushing her teeth and started daytime drinking.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 11:04 AM
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Just do what he wants. Why is this not an easy choice for you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 10:34 AM
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Attraction is just one little thing, not enough to start a relationship for. Of course a seed has to be planted sometimes for attraction to wake up. That's a very normal and common phenomena. Think about this guy, though. Think about his flaws, don't just fantasize about him. What would a life with him be like? What baggage does he carry? What do you not respect about him? What could cause problems? Can you see yourself actually following his lead, do you value his judgment, or is he a bit silly…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 10:33 AM
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I'm the oracle in our home. Told him about the virus and major consequences early January, and we have been preparing hard since then. He takes my advice more seriously than before, and if I tell him to buy X ASAP, he doesn't wait to hear the explanation first anymore. I have had a few meltdowns and nightmares about this in februari, and it was stressful. Because back then he didlisten to my warnings, but we were both still hoping it was just gonna blow over. It seemed to come out of the blue so…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 10:01 AM
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If he did A or B, you should have either accepted that or moved on.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 04:07 PM
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Your first line is wrong. Nobody needs to be impressed with your hobbies to want to be with you. If you have social difficulties, focus on fixing that. Become pleasant company. Learn how to be easy to talk to, sympathetic, kind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 01:58 PM
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My gut told me my husband of over 10 years was angry a million times, but he was always just wondering where best to put explosives or some such. Depending on your insecurity levels and other issues, guts can be liars. Ask him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 12:12 PM
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Eat more wholesome foods, strength train. A very basic routine would be squats, deadlifts, glute bridges for lower and push-ups, shoulder presses, back rows for upper body. Learn form first without weights. Then use weights to make it hard to do 10 or so reps times 3. Google for more info. Or follow along a youtube tutorial. Keep plucking. Epilation for the legs (lots of touch - ups), get a machine. Make your hair look fabulous and smile. Maybe learn to do blow outs or do overnight sock bun curl…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 12:00 PM
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xD
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 11:43 AM
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An honest man would either A) tell you you are out of line by telling him who to talk to and continue the interaction openly, B) explain why he disagrees with your idea and talk to her openly while comforting you or C) keep his word and not talk to her. You have a dishonest sneak.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:41 AM
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Improve yourself (esp RMV) so you can get a hottie and hold on to him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:32 AM
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I don't see how rights should have anything to do with (perceived) superiority. And superior in what way? Morally? Men are taller on average, so they have the higher ground... I think whoever doesn't prefer the other sex to their own, and doesn't see them as having value that they lack themselves, so whoever doesn't see the other side as superior in some way, is not entirely healthy mentally (if they are straight). Equality is for maths, not for humans.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 08:20 AM
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I think some people will be glad there are proportionately more slim young female people left, and it stinks.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 03:35 PM
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Covid19 binds to ACE2 receptors, those are located in lungs and kidney and testes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 03:34 PM
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Can, but can also make them thoughtful. My experience: My mother was horrible, my brothers are great. My husbands mother was horrible, most of her sons are great.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 08:44 PM
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This is just not true. Your weight was the bottleneck, that's why it seems SMV trumps all. You only need to be attractive enough, RMV does the rest. As a rule of thumb, men need to work on being better, women on behaving better. And generally speaking, we do the opposite (women focus too much on being interesting with cool hobbies, men too much on appeasing).
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 07:52 PM
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Beans, rice and edible weeds. Season with bacon and garlic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 07:49 PM
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You deal with your kids all day and have no trouble changing your attitude (from mommy to wifey) despite him being in the same space. It will probably be easier to swap behavior modes when working, because you teach at a different place. You will have less time and energy to flit about the house being cute. Try and be mindful about how you spend your days and evenings off. It may help your mindset to have dedicated chore times. I am (hard to explain! ) service-oriented. I don't feel quite right …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 07:48 PM
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Nah. If he has a horrible mom but keeps a healthy distance, he should be fine. Only an issue if he is still within her grasp. A horrible ex wife would be a bigger red flag, because he chose her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 07:36 PM
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