Zalo4 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Going through a misogynistic phase		Zalo4	/r/askTRP	12/05/17 07:00 AM
2	Congruence vs. Not Being Vulnerable for Attraction?		Zalo4	/r/askTRP	28/05/17 09:57 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How do men who aren't on this sub get girls? Yes, because there's another poor, hungry old person who appreciates that he made it to old age and continues to live for a better day. You also didn't choose to be born but you lucked out and got to experience life and in a society where the ease of food, water, shelter, clothing, and even having access to endless information (ie. internet) isn't even appreciated. Life isn't fair and we don't deserve anything. You can complain about what you don't have, be bitter, and stay the same or appreciat…	/r/seduction	01/09/23 01:15 AM
63	How do men who aren't on this sub get girls? You'd be surprised how many guys with girlfriends don't know anything about women or are even confident. Regardless, upbringing, genetics, social circumstances, game "naturals", etc. are all possible reasons. As an example, naturally extroverted individuals tend to put themselves in more social situations which means they get more experience and also tend to meet more people. Dating is more than just having game it's also a numbers game. It's also the case that this sub attracts only those who s…	/r/seduction	31/08/23 11:47 PM
6	What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women? Are you talking about self love? I can only imagine losing it if you either didn't have true self love in the first place or you haven't been taking care of yourself in a loving way for some time (eg. not taking care of yourself, not improving, hateful self talk). With regards to the former, I've confused feeling good with self love, and feeling good isn't something that's consistent. Life has ups and downs, and true self love is being okay with your negative or lack of positive emotions. I foun…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 11:54 PM
57	What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women? Basically this. If you have an interesting life and meet a lot of cool people, then it doesn't matter if one girl isn't into you because you know that there are plenty of awesome people out there that like your company. An abundance mindset is easier to have when you actually have abundance than to artificially cultivate it. I'm sure there are some that can artificially cultivate it but I wasn't one of those people. Once you have this mindset it's hard to lose though even during times of non-abu…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 06:41 PM
10	How touchy on first date/interaction? Look up Dicarlo Escalation ladder, that's everything you're looking for. You can go from beginning to end on the first date if you calibrate properly. People have sex on the first date so nothing is really out of bounds as long as it makes sense in the context of where you're at in the interaction. Lightly touching her arm or hands at the beginning is okay. Squeezing her thigh right off the bat might be a bit much, but it also depends on the energy between you two.	/r/seduction	29/07/22 08:37 AM
2	What is it that makes the men 'unable to commit' so desirable to women who want them to commit to exclusivity? Off the top of my head: The guy that has abundance doesn't need or want to settle down. There's the social proof aspect of men being more desirable if they already have/can get women. The thought that this guy must be special if a lot of girls want to be with him. There's also the aspect of themselves feeling special if said guy chooses them to be exclusive with. And there's also the challenge aspect of winning a guy over. It's not as fun or rewarding if it's easy.	/r/seduction	29/07/22 01:49 AM
8	How do you have success with mental illness? Can you? I mean real, life-altering mental illness. Not this dumb shit you hear about every day. You don't rely on a therapist to learn game, you rely on them to work through your mental illness so that you're in a good enough place to learn game yourself. Mental illness is shitty, I've dealt with anxiety my whole life but through therapy and self work I've learned to have a good relationship with my anxiety. At the end of the day you can choose to help yourself by taking some action (like finding a therapist) or give up and stay the way you are. I know depression makes it hard to have the …	/r/seduction	21/07/22 07:52 PM
1	What would be the right timing to reveal your sexual interest in a woman? Look up DiCarlo escalation ladder for physical escalation. It's an effective way to convey sexual interest without saying anything. To add on, eye contact and the way you look at her can add sexual tension too. All this requires calibration though and can be the difference between creepy and sexy.	/r/seduction	21/06/22 11:04 PM
30	So she can ask about my height but I can’t ask about her weight? In a way yes if you're not okay with that behavior, but accepted it for pussy. I mean if it was just for a ONS it might not matter depending on how you rationalize it, but I personally wouldn't want to be involved with a girl like that.	/r/seduction	17/06/22 07:38 AM
1	Did I Ask Her Out Too Soon? I really dislike your text “Well if you’re not interested it’s fine…”. It's negative and you're counting yourself out which comes off not confident. She's probably a little less attracted to you for that text. With that, she's interested and you're being unreasonable. A better response would've been something along the lines of "No worries, let me know whenever you're free". It's non-needy, and is also a good way to gauge interest if you weren't sure by now. If she's interested she'll make it ea…	/r/seduction	15/05/22 05:25 PM
11	First date called me “sweet” I'm a deep conversationalist and I've made this mistake before. My issue was a fear of letting my masculine sexuality out. You have to not be afraid to show your desire for her. This doesn't have to be done directly through words. Feel your sexual desire for her, look at her like you want her, and escalate physically (look at DiCarlo escalation ladder). You can throw in flirtation/teases if you'd like, but a lot can be said through body language alone. Some examples: when she's talking look at h…	/r/seduction	13/05/22 01:23 AM
1	Should I text her today even though I was the last text sent last night? When she was complimenting you she was basically saying "please ask me out already", and you didn't so she might've started losing interest because you're not getting it. So if you're going to text her again, it should be to ask her out. Anyways, don't text for the sake of texting. Use texting to set a date. That's not to say don't have a conversation, but the conversation should be used as a means to an end.	/r/seduction	11/05/22 08:56 PM
1	How to move beyond the arm on the shoulder? Learn about DiCarlo Escalation Ladder. There's a pdf with quite a bit of detail on how to physically escalate in a way that makes sense. Might be old school but it works and it gives you a step by step guide. With regards to going in for a kiss there's this quote/advice I heard awhile back that always rings true. I might be paraphrasing it but it's something along the lines of "if you think you can kiss her, you could've kissed her 10 minutes ago". But other than that listen to what Erbium-Oxide…	/r/seduction	09/05/22 03:52 AM
2	Anyone here who overcame Social Anxiety? I've dealt with social anxiety and sometimes still do. There's a few things I've done that seem applicable to you. Try evaluating yourself from a more grounded perspective. In your case it looks like you are someone that people like. You said your photos carried you, but you also said that once you get comfortable that's when the real you comes out and people love it enough to have sex with you. You need to bring to your consciousness the value that you bring to others and the world. People see …	/r/seduction	07/05/22 11:40 AM
3	If a guy asked you what is the secret to be successful with women what would you tell him? Invest in yourself	/r/seduction	19/01/18 10:45 PM
1	I completely ignore outer game and only care about inner game what's your thoughts on this? I've been doing this over the past couple of months. I honestly started getting better responses from people through working on my inner game, and I'm a lot happier as an individual. Just realize that you do need some level of outer game at some point.	/r/seduction	22/06/16 03:14 AM
2	Too unsocial for any of this. I think he's trying to say that he's introverted. Honestly, you don't have to do anything you don't want to and it's fine being introverted. If you do want to learn how to talk to people practice daily on people you meet like a cashier or something, then try finding a hobby where you'll meet other people like a cooking class. Cooking isn't necessarily a social hobby but by going to classes you'll meet people. Do what interests you, but try to expand your interests just to give yourself some oppo…	/r/seduction	21/06/16 09:40 AM
4	Ask IllimitableMan Hey, thank you for the reply though I'm a little confused as you said yes to cold-approaching women before improving yourself, but you should spend time focusing on yourself.	/r/askTRP	30/04/15 06:36 PM
6	Ask IllimitableMan As someone who recently found TRP should I be cold-approaching women even before I join a gym, get new clothes, and find a job? I read conflicting things where people say that you should cold-approach while improving yourself, and others saying that you should get these things in order first. Also, I sometimes feel uncomfortable implementing some of the ideas of the Dark Triad, such as narcissism. Is this a deep seated BB issue, or would you say that everyone has different morals?	/r/askTRP	30/04/15 05:08 PM
6	Maybe this Realization Will help Your Sexual Confidence, and Get You to Escalate I love the TL;DR	/r/seduction	26/04/15 12:28 AM
0	Could online dating be helpful if I am having trouble meeting girls? I tried it recently, got a date with with a 2, and no replies. Her profile pic was true magic. Anyways, my profile pic was mediocre. I'll be trying again once I get some better pictures. If you want success you better have a damn good profile pic, but go for it since you literally have nothing to lose.	/r/seduction	26/04/15 12:25 AM
1	Do any of you guys deal with acne problems? I'm 21 and had moderate acne until I stopped using facial cleansers and started washing my face with just water. My routine at the moment is to splash warm water on my face, wet a towel and wipe my face with it, then splash cold water on my face. My skin hasn't been this clear since I started puberty.	/r/seduction	17/04/15 07:54 AM