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| 24 | 'Hit the gym'. | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/23 04:08 PM | |
| 20 | Trying to keep cool, it's hard as F@#& | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/23 11:19 PM | |
| 17 | Seriously curious... | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 12:06 AM | |
| 10 | Disorders and divorce? | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/22 09:48 PM | |
| 10 | It's coming, eventually | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 05:35 PM | |
| 6 | Be actively civil, or be actively silent? | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 02:16 AM | |
| 4 | Waited till the kids were grown, anyone? | Dealing with the Ex / STBX | Zapped2311 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 11:11 PM |
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| 7 | Wife is divorcing me, do I have to me macho here and pretend it's not killing me?Ay yo-- you got enough voices in your head trying to win for 'best advice' and all that shit... you need to be good with how the fuck YOU want to deal with this shit, and follow that wherever it goes. Me included, everyone here is going to want and try to give you the advice they wish THEY got when hitting this spot-- especially those post-procedure-- but for really real, it's so individual and unique, all Imma say is, my dude? Handle it how you *have to. Ain't no pussy shit, ain't no macho shit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 12:10 AM |
| 3 | How do I take Revenge after what happened to meSorry man, that is some vile, scumwhore behavior she put on you. You have EVERY goddamned right to be mad. ...that 'friend' though? The one who knew? WHOOP HIS ASS. Therapy for you. Asap. It ain't gonna 'fix' you quick, but it's gonna get you past the slash to your pride, heart, and dignity. Sh!t works, my dude. Go for it. I know from unjustified injury, the kind that makes you see red and daydream on violent revenge, but word up: Therapy helps handle that sh!t. Therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Is that really your child?You know what? I hadn't thought of that- and for real, I'm damn near 50 and I'm still just finding out what kind of medical sh!t ran in my family tree... but even with that idea, today's knowledge is SO far advanced, they don't need a damn medical history anymore. They'll just throw your sh!t into the internet, hit up 23 and Me or some sh!t and BAM everything that's wrong with you will get printed out. Like bringing your car to pep Boys for a bad alternator, next thing you know they're like 'Wel… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 02:05 AM |
| 4 | Is that really your child?Fugghedaboudit. What's the point, if they're grown? I mean-- I HEAR you, that's a thing to wonder about, but you already put in the time, love, effort, got all the back pain and hair loss for your efforts...lol... nah, it's pointless to even entertain the thought at that point. Got enough unhappiness to deal with, why add more on? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 11:03 PM |
| 1 | If you're a good person and got married, how did it feel when your marriage broke down? Did you ever wonder as to where you went wrong, and why God made you meet the person that you ended up marrying? How did you reconcile these events whilst still believing that God still has a plan for everything?Who was that? It's familiar to me. Sounds like something CS Lewis may have written, I'm not sure. Hell, for all I know it could be from a Marvel comic, lol, they had some heady stuff in their books too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 04:16 PM |
| 3 | If you're a good person and got married, how did it feel when your marriage broke down? Did you ever wonder as to where you went wrong, and why God made you meet the person that you ended up marrying? How did you reconcile these events whilst still believing that God still has a plan for everything?Funny because, even after being raised in church as a kid, leaving church when parents divorced, but going back as an adult by choice, what's happened in my marriage has helped me leave church and all that altogether. Can't say I'm an 'unbeliever', but I'm certainly not a professing christian anymore... whether that makes me good or bad is up for debate, I guess. The breakdown of my marriage has much more to do with the dynamics between my wife and I, than anything a god might've done, but with … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Can’t make this upCompletely feel for you, man. Don't worry about overcoming your hate for those scumbags-- it's BEYOND deserved, in this case. People talk about forgiveness and sh!t, but I say F*CK'EM. Disorders only make up a small part of the reasoning behind actions or words-- it's not the whole person's character, and if it's 2 people doing the dirt? That's collusion, pal. Being a pain in the ass is one thing, but false accusations? And of THAT?? Nah. F*ck'em RIGHT where they stand and where they always WILL… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 12:38 PM |
| 2 | That’s it boysWhy is young marriage SUCH a damned plague in the military? USMC vet here, I'm not speaking out of school- I'm SAYIN though... I'm 30+ years out, WHY do we DO this??? Too many marriage/military horror stories. Sorry, Brother. Avail yourself of EVERY bit of assistance Uncle Sam has to give you. But you know- get a civilian lawyer first. GIVE UP NOTHING. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 01:56 AM |
| 7 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…I don't think you know how men work. Plenty of literature out there to explain it, look it up. And get yourself in the gym. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 06:31 PM |
| 1 | The forgive your ex crap really pisses me offIn another sub, someone wrote about a component of forgiveness that I have NEVER read before, and that's probably because it puts responsibility on the offender-- and whenever we read about forgiveness, it's supposed to be 'for us, not them', right? WRONG. It's just like respect... forgiveness has to be EARNED, and the NEVER talked about component of that is ATONEMENT. I'M NOT WASTING A MICROSECOND OF THE *GIFT OF MY MERCY AND GRACE ON A THANKLESS, *HEARTLESS INDIVIDUAL WHO ADMITS NO WRONG IN TH… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 05:36 PM |
| 5 | Is getting married even worth it?Marriage is nothing more than a business contract. Period. No one in a wonderful, blooming, and happy relationship needs to add signed paperwork to it-- it adds NOTHING of value and causes entirely too much bullshit for all concerned. ESPECIALLY if kids are made. So no, marriage isn't worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 01:09 PM |
| 0 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.I don't even understand why you did it AGAIN. Fuck all that 'analysis' - man, just stop. Crazy ex- bitch or nit, just stop. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 08:23 AM |
| 8 | To sleep with your eXWord up-- STAY AWAY. I'm sayin: dude, once you get past the yearning for that 'good good', or if the shit just don't 'do' it for you anymore (that's where I'm at)- after all the rest of the bullshit? She has ZERO to offer you... and that pussy is EXACTLY that: ZERO. Just an empty hole. Period. No pun intended. Feel your feels, go rub one out, THEN see if you still want to hit that. And do NOT go in for that 'found jesus' bullshit. How about she try finding some real ass soul searching, figuring … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 01:11 AM |
| 2 | I feel trapped in this hell. Especially Thanksgiving a few days away…Word up, you should feel fuckin fanTASTIC for dumping that stuff, fuck if no one else sees or gives a shit. It's nice when folks notice our good shit, word, but if they don't? FUCK IT: you're *STILL winning, ANYway. Every time I see someone smoking, I get that little twinge like 'Ugh... just ONE puff would be awesome...' but NO THE HELL IT *WON'T... man, I been there and done that, and my dumb ass went and got myself stuck smoking again for another 10 years... fuck that. Not this time. Keep stro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | I feel trapped in this hell. Especially Thanksgiving a few days away…...I'm pretty sure the dude up there was repeating the old trope, "My old man went out for a pack of cigarettes and just never came back." BTW, GREAT job on your sobriety, man!! It's hard as FUCK to dump our vices, but dude, KEEP IT UP! GREAT job, man. We think those things help, but they DON'T. AT ALL. GOOD FOR YOU, MAN | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | I need advice pleaseHey Sir-- salute to you from one Brother to another. BUCK UP. Whatever it took to get you through training is needed here, and I'm salty as FUCK off the fact this shit happens to my Brothers FAR too often... get your *bearing, Sir. Marriage carries an oath, and if your bride broke hers, then it's time for you to do what you need to do for YOU and YOUR kids. You know what UCMJ Article 86 is, and that's EXACTLY what she's done-- you can go the reconciliation route (NJP), get to the bottom of shit … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 04:26 AM |
| 5 | Did you love your wife?At this point in my journey- sorry for sounding so dirty hippie about it, but it's turning out to be a fuckin' journey- I'm thinking that 'Love' isn't just one thing. There isn't some Webster's 1-2-3 version of a definition of it... it's *something*, but it doesn't stay constant... and the changes that happen, they're like, levels. Steps. Rungs on a ladder that we'll climb or not, depending on our personal 'bent'. 30 years ago I was infatuated with my (now) wife- understandable, I was 16 and ful… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Feeling the failure pretty heavilyYeah, I'm sure I don't know what you're talking about. I was simply advising dude to get some help figuring himself out, get to a place where he's comfortable in his own skin. He doesn't seem to be, and all the suggestions in the world ain't gonna do shit for him if he ain't cool with him first. No idea what you're going on about 'comfort is for women and children', that makes zero sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 04:44 PM |
| 6 | Feeling the failure pretty heavilyMy shrink always tells me: You have to be okay with being uncomfortable to GET comfortable. Get a shrink, dude. Work through what seems to be some co-dependency issues you have- man, NO relationship will work for ANY of us if we're not cool with who we are. And do what you can to divorce dollars from personal worth. Just do it. You got some time and space to get back to YOU-- so take advantage of it. Start figuring YOU out and add as necessary to your life, on YOUR terms, and rock the fuck out! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 03:27 AM |
| 3 | I love her, and that's the beginning and end of everything.Forgot to write-- you didn't do anything to 'deserve this', no one 'deserves' the shit hand life sometimes deals out. There's all sorts of resources available to you-- I mean, you posted on here, you reached out, that's a start, man. Look for groups that sound like they deal with what you deal with, those kinds of groups are all over the place now. When we found out my wife has ADHD, it was an 'AHA!' moment that explained damn near EVERYTHING weird going on in our marriage, took almost 18 years … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 04:56 PM |
| 4 | I love her, and that's the beginning and end of everything.Bro, I'm not being sarcastic or an asshole for writing this-- get evaluated. What you wrote sounds to me like ADHD. My wife has it. What you wrote about your spouse handling shit, and your thoughts, and pretty much all of that-- get evaluated. If it's ADHD, or something on that spectrum, there's help for it, and life can get better. Sorry you're going through it, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Am I in love with you or am I in love with the way an idea of youNowhere near your age, but I've got 24 years of marriage in the bucket, and feel that's 'qualifying' enough to weigh in-- the IDEA is pretty much all that kept this thing going, for us, because the people we've each grown to be, are a LOT different than the ones we married. I mean, DUH, everyone grows/evolves, to a point, but in a situation such as marriage, you'd expect such to simply be part of life, growing older, hopefully wiser, and so on and so forth... and the changes that come, whether n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/23 01:12 PM |
| 2 | The TalkBased on the information provided, sounds like your missus is complacent and cold. Mirror it. Be the same, get into therapy for yourself, if you aren't already, and draft the divorce papers with your attorney. A therapist is a MUST, man. They'll help you get out of your packed head and worked up feelings, and learn to focus on your ability to control yourself and YOUR life, instead of bugging out about the situation. Wish I started therapy years ago, myself-- having that outside, objective persp… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Trying to keep cool, it's hard as F@#&Yep. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Married male friends have become NPCs.I dunno, man. I'm of the mind to believe friends are going to remain friends, married or not. Not every married couple I know is miserable, and to me, part of being a friend, is respecting their marriage; if they're happy in it, great! If they can't stand it, great! I'll listen either way, I'm just saying: their marriage is *their thing, I respect it, and I already know we're not going to be doing every Friday night like we used to... priorities change! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/23 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Do I tell the kids even though my wife is forbidding it?We're not the ones being cheated on, so we're all like FUCK YEAH, TELL THE KIDS AND SHE CAN GO *FUCK HERSELF But I'm going to suggest couching whatever language you use, just out of care for the kids' feelings/mindstate... don't know how old they are, but parents divorcing is a big fuckin thing, and it's going to affect the kids. Maybe a lot, maybe a little, who knows? "Mom and I are no longer in love and don't trust each other, and that's not the way to do marrige." Something like that. I'm jus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | It's coming, eventuallyAppreciate the wishes and the reply, man. Sucks that things went upside down, but it is what it is. I lurk in here now and again, I'll be taking notes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/23 10:29 AM |
| 3 | It beginsSorry it's happening to you, man... but... Bruh, I'm looking at 50 in a few years, and I've been with my wife since I was 16 years old. There were a few break-ups to make-ups before getting married, but just so: I've been with this woman for more than half my life, and would give ANYTHING to go back in time and choose to stay in the Corps, instead of getting married. Back then, she was my world. Dude-- I left the Marines for her! ...that's some good good, brother (lol). We have a handful of kids… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 10:21 PM |
| 2 | It's coming, eventuallyThanks man, good food for thought here. Luckily, we only have one common account, and that's for rent. Otherwise, completely separate finances. I have to work the extra jobs, we're too upside down on things. I hear what you're saying about how it can hurt, but it is what it is right now. You've given me an idea though... got some googling to do about it. Thanks again for the knowledge! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 10:06 PM |
| 3 | It's coming, eventuallyGood luck to you, man. I'm interested in what you wrote about the tax aspect, I hadn't thought of that. I hear you about multiple jobs and salary, all that, but I really don't have much choice; when I wrote we were barely hanging on, I wasn't kidding- and there is no depending on the missus for anything. Shitty spot to be in, yeah, but I'm not playing victim. Fuck that. She can be a loser if she wants, I'm hoping my kids learn more from me than her, but if they don't, them's the breaks; I'll be … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 09:57 PM |
| 2 | It's coming, eventuallyCool, thanks for the reply. I'll look into metals, trying to get a BASIC understanding of Crypto, since it's coming, like it or don't. She *could do a 180, sure, but that's up to her. In the meantime, I have kids and myself to take care of. Thanks again, bruh! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 09:31 PM |
| 9 | Anybody ever regret getting divorced because you never got as good sex again?Not yet divorced, but know it's coming- mutual understanding that it's inevitable- and for real, the sex is the only enjoyable 'glue' anymore. I mean... it's GOOOOOD. I'm betting I'll go without entirely once we split; there's just no substitution for certain things, sometimes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | [33M] I've Found Out My Girlfriend's [29F] Past Is Different Than She Told Me. How Should I Approach This?Honesty is paramount. Period. Embarrassment/insecurity about our past is understandable, but selfish mischaracterization about it is just LIES. Drop her like a bad habit. Truth matters. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Hello everyone, as a young man, I'm looking for advice on finding 'the one.' I'm in a relationship with an incredible girl, but I was hoping to gather insights from you all regarding potential red flags to watch out for or any proactive steps I can take to avoid the horrors many of you went through.Question for both of you, but especially you: Can you 'do life' on your own? Before jumping the broom, reinforce YOUR life to the point that you're wholly self-reliant, so your marriage can continue to be the CHOICE it is now, and you can continue to enjoy your chosen mate freely and without dependence. Have friends? Keep them, and keep up with them. Have goals? Likewise- keep working towards them. Have routines/lifestyle that makes you happy/healthy/sane? Keep them. In a nutshell: keep doing yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/23 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Life Lessons While in The Marines.SEMPER FI, BROTHER!! Way to keep that bearing!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/23 05:34 PM |
| 0 | Satan Promised WomenChill out fellas, this dude is obviously broken... no matter the weirdo shit coming out, he's hurt. Weirdly fanatical, yah, but none of Us would be on this sub if we weren't dealing with some of the worst pain a dude can face. Let's talk to him. Talk him off the ledge, or at least TRY. Don't let the verbiage smokescreen the pain. Then again, dude comes back on some other other shit, well, gotta do what's gotta be done. OP-- try that again, man. You got open ears here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | New Study Shows Approx. 55% of Men in US are Covert Narcissists.Word up-- I began to receive videos by that one Indian chick, Ramani something, texted to me about this shit, just made me angrier and more distant; we went to a marriage counselor for about 5 months, did mostly individual sessions, counselor was like 'I don't see any narcissism in you, we've been talking weekly for months'... and my wife ended the sessions after that... my present shrink is the same way, been talking with her since October last year, sees plenty of anger and defensiveness in me… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Third Wave Feminism Destroyed American FatherhoodI care. Sorry you're dealing with this. Laws are so heavily slanted in the woman's/Mom's direction... it's not even unfair. It's abuse. Plain and simple. Tell you what my shrink told me: Be a victim of your past, or be the creator of your future. Pick one. All the things that come from getting/being divorced... there's no real salve for it because it's not like a favorite mitt you lost, or maybe that one time in high school you didn't ask out the hot chick because you thought she was out of your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/23 08:35 AM |
| 1 | 30m wife and I want no difficultiesUnderstand me, I'm not minimizing the heart, bud. I'm not by any means. I'm simply saying, if there's no ill will involved, no 'better option forcing a divorce', then you're miles ahead of the majority of dudes who face this. You'll need a counselor of some kind to help you through, so find one asap-- and try your best to view this transition as the numbers game that it is. Lean on the folks who will support you, get yourself a therapist, and seriously consider the positives of nearly unbridled,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 05:01 AM |
| 4 | 30m wife and I want no difficultiesFlat out: If your missus is talking about ending things on a 'good' note- no infidelity, no abuse, no hairy secrets or motives- dude, I'm sorry as HELL you had to hear she's not in love with you anymore, but on a practical note? RUN with that fucked up 'gift'. There's NOTHING good about divorce (until it's the ONLY option- and even THEN it sucks dogballs), but the more 'amicably' you can experience and go through it? I think it's safe to say that any man IN this sub would give a nut for that- ri… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Abolish the matriarchy...to keep it relevant to the original post- and also what seems to be true- the introduction of the term 'patriarchy'. Words matter. What changed? Obfuscating the natural order of Men and Women, and blaming it on Men- hence, 'Patriarchy'. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:59 AM |
| 13 | There really is no upside to marriage, is there?Depends on your idea of a good life. There aren't any guarantees, no doubt, but it's like so many disclaimers on products say: Individual results may vary. Blanket statements always suck, but in this particular case... it still sucks to be the husband in a marriage that doesn't work out. Some form of pre-nup seems to be the way to go, just for individual protection. No ne gets married expecting divorce; happens all too often, unfortunately, but hey: go in prepared for it and eyes open. There *is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Abolish the matriarchyI 100% agree with your premise; as 'modern' as we try to present ourselves to be, Moms still run the roost. 'Happy wife, happy life' is STILL a shot through 1000 times overused phrase, unfortunately believed in and practiced by TOO MANY people... ...new information leads to newer understanding, no doubt, and godDAMMIT I don't know about y'all but I can't keep UP with all the shit that's being revealed and 'discovered' these days-- I really wish I could, because 'new' shit is always exciting to m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:28 AM |
| 10 | Found a remote camera in the homeI'd honestly say nothing about it, and play with the whole situation, especially when she gets back. Remove the clutter in front of it, and just conduct yourself accordingly, knowing it's there... shit, bro, this is GAME time, for *you!! Obviously trying to 'get dirt' on you, you're aware of it now... hell, man, I would have a BALL with this development!!! Just do NOT let her know *you know it's there, if you can. Shady as FUCK-- but the jig is up, my dude!! Have fun with it!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Fiction books for fun?Not about divorce, but awesome reads that I return to annually- the Genghis Khan series and Julius Caesar series, both by Conn Iggulden. These books are incredibly well written historical fiction series', and will suck you right in. Been reading them for about 10 years, restarted the Khan series just today, as a matter of fact. Try them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 06:05 AM |
| 1 | 'Hit the gym'.NothankyouSIR!!😆😆 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/23 03:31 PM |
| 1 | 'Hit the gym'.Nah, like I wrote, I get the basic reasons, I was just curious to see if anyone else noticed the trend, that 'hit the gym' is more often than not one of the very first- if not *the first- suggestions for dudes to begin coping with something difficult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/23 01:52 PM |
| 4 | 'Hit the gym'.Pantera, Throwdown or Hatebreed were my go-to's for the gym. Maiden's more for working on the car for me. Especially Buicks, which has me eventually saying F/U to the car. I hate working on Buicks hahaa | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/23 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Does body count really matter?It only matters if it matters to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/23 02:00 AM |
| -2 | Women now a days are incapable of making logical, reasonable decisions. I’m at the point where I’m starting to believe someone somewhere has taken advantage of them and is leading them down a path of ruin. I don’t see nor know what this path benefits but it is utter ruin for them.I'll probably get vilified for this shit, but I'm writing it anyway: The pendulum swung the other way, fellas, and we're pretty much at the top of the arc. Be real-- whether right or wrong, chicks have been second class to us for a LONG fuckin time, and it's come back around. BUT. They're not *built for this. Seriously. Just like we're not built for all the namby-pamby shoegazing sitting down to piss bullshit going on with 'men' today. I don't GET why the natural differences have to be used as s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/23 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Any advice starting outBeautiful reply, and I'm sorry you faced what you did. Cheers, sir! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/23 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Any advice starting outYes: Don't get married. Seriously. Loove is NEVER enough to sustain marriage, and no one wants to talk about it. You're an individual, she's an individual, and you will never STOP being so-- but you'll be entering into a legally binding contract that makes you responsible for the other individual's dalliances, no matter what-- --so-- IF you're going to do it? Continue setting yourself up, as if you were just building your own, unfettered life. Find out about ways to shield your finances from mar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/23 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Wife probably planning an affair this weekendEff that, man. Sounds like you had some shitty therapists-- sorry if that's the case, I'm not calling you out-- therapy does work, you just gotta know why you're there, have at least an idea what you want to get out of it, and be honest about the shit. Also, listen to your gut-- if the person to whom you're baring your soul seems off, they probably are. Ditch'em. Emotional shit ain't 'color by numbers'; while lots of things are similarly experienced by lots of people, individual results ALWAYS v… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Wife probably planning an affair this weekendGodDAMN I feel for you, man... it's a fresh hell all its *own when we even think our missus is cheating- but *hearing that shit?? Fuckin UGH... I'm sorry, man, I really am. I can't tell you what I'd even imagine I'd do in your shoes, BUT-- Divorce is on the table, it ain't a question-- get into some therapy, man. Shit like this? We ain't built for it. Chop a hand off, lose an eye-- do some painful physical shit to a dude and 'because we're dudes' we'll deal with and even 'wear' that shit as a ba… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Ready for divorce, need help understanding my wife. Please advise. Don't hold back.Kinda. Adderall- helps 'quiet the noise in her head' but does fuck-all for anything else. Dxed 7 years ago, just started therapy a month ago. Too little too late for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/23 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Ready for divorce, need help understanding my wife. Please advise. Don't hold back.Bro... not for nothing... have you considered ADHD or something? I'm not even joking-- look it up online and see if anything that goes on or happens as a matter of course, fits any of the listed symptoms. My wife has it, doesn't do SHIT unless it's interesting or down to the last minute to get done-- which is why I'M done, 24 years of that shit is ENOUGH-- but check it out, man. Can't hurt to look it up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/23 02:54 AM |
| 1 | stbxw is introducing our 2 boys to her new boyfriendI'm not yet divorced, doing my research for it, so I've nothing experiential to share, but here are my thoughts: Y'all- you and ex-missus- are done. Over. What you do with your life-- YOUR life (friends/new chick/etc) -- is none of her business... and, unfortunately, likewise. *So long as the kids are safe, mind you. There's every reason to fear being 'replaced', but the only way I can think of to combat that fear, and kill it, is just be your kids' Dad, and let that speak for itself. These are … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Disorders and divorce?Childhood trauma? I'd say so- mental/emotional, from her mother terribly oversharing, about some horrible shit that happened to her (mother) while growing up. I may have gotten the name of the medication wrong- it's been a while since she tried it, and I don't think it was an antidepressant. I'll look into the 2 things you suggested, thank you for them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Disorders and divorce?Agreed wholeheartedly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Disorders and divorce?I'm not concerned about it being used against her- I'm pissed, but not feeling particularly vengeful (at the moment anyway), I was just looking to see what it was like for dudes who've reached the point I've reached. Thanks for that, though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Disorders and divorce?I recently read the same, on another sub. Despite it being present for the entirety of this marriage, I don't see much in the way of female-specific presentation, except for when 'aunt flo' comes around; it appears to exacerbate some of the symptoms like fatigue and forgetfulness. That's a normal part of that time of the month already, but it's amplified with adhd. SUPER touchy, too- make one offhand gesture or comment or something, even accidentally, and watch out, jack. Otherwise, the symptoms… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Disorders and divorce?3 different practitioners. One wasn't 100%, leaned more into GAD. The other 2 also saw it, but explained it as kind of a 'counterbalance' to the adhd. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Disorders and divorce?👍🤘 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Disorders and divorce?*Very cool to hear from the dx side, thank you so much for piping up, man. Seriously. I wish it was only the adhd, but things have gone way too far. There's comorbidities at play that I am absolutely powerless against, and treatment just isn't in the cards for her. 'Can't afford it'. Tried Celexa(?) one day, got mad at me and said 'Fuck it. I'm getting rid of this,' because I was the one who suggested it. Trust me, dude, this has been a long, slow, indescribably painful dragging of my heart over… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Disorders and divorce?Yep. She's not convinced after 3 evaluations... sometimes. 7 years later, Adderall but no treatment, and now no more love. I'm in NY and I'm going to get BENT over in the courts. 23 years down the drain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Disorders and divorce?Sorry man. I'm having a hard time not loving this woman... but I can't do it anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 02:44 AM |
| 3 | Disorders and divorce?Bro-- I can't help but feel like I wasted the last 30 years of my life. Everything you said, man. Everything you said. I concur. Sorry you had to go through it. Absolute heart shredder, those disorders. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 02:42 AM |
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