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Zardozki/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 04:31 PM
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Zardozki/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 02:30 AM
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Here's the response you expected: don't do it. Unless you're a super groovy dude that has no attachment to money or possessions and don't mind giving it all away, then go for it player. I think the buddha said attachment is the root of all suffering or some shit, so that probably means you should get married and reward your first and second wives with hundreds of thousands for fucking Jason and Dave from marketing. Bonus points await when you reach nirvana if you have some kids, get no custody o…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 09:31 PM
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I ordered a double tequila, drank it down and deleted all 7 years of them.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 04:31 PM
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I'm replying to give you my perspective and not tell you what I think you should do. That said, you deserve to be happy. Take that fwiw. My situation was about to be just like yours, and luckily my ex ended it by having an exit affair. It didn't feel very lucky a year ago, but I never have to worry about co-parenting or even thinking about her if I don't want to. That is a blessing. She was ADHD, dyslexic, and an alcoholic. I didn't realize the scope of how dysfunctional she was as a human until…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 07:25 PM
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For the higher earner, no there isn't any benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 05:55 PM
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She sounds terrible, be thankful you didn't have a kid with her. Celebrate your life of freedom. Imagine having to be chained to that forever. You'll be fine if you take the time to examine why you chose someone like that so you never do again. Get a therapist and move on. You'll feel better a while from now, just focus on yourself and try as hard as you can to stop caring about whatever/whoever she's doing. Btw everything you feel is normal, you're ok.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 10:36 PM
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I don't have kids so I can't relate to that pain. I wish you well though. My ex cheated in a really evil way that drove an ice pick right through my heart and I wasn't sure how I'd recover, but I did after taking a year off. The divorce process alone was a side job that took about that long and the thought of dating was uninteresting. I'm writing sort of a long post because I'm coming up on the year anni of my separation next week. I was in no way ready after 3 months. At all. Everyone says this…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 10:03 PM
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Great idea. No kids here, so I can't relate with that, but I wasn't interested at all until around 10 months. Even if I would have been, I wasn't ready emotionally. Take your time, it'll come. No pun intended.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 12:03 AM
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It sure did. I took a year off from women and worked on being accountable for changing the things I did that lead to my bad outcome. I found someone new recently, and my sex drive is back and then some. Then some more. Probably a little more after that. You'll be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 09:42 PM
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Mine had ‘plans’ chasing stuff that she never realized and was perpetually unemployed. I was dumb and thought she’d get it together. Surprise she never did. Meanwhile I made lots of money that she took half of after cheating and officially kicking off our divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 05:10 PM
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Thanks. Did you try to sell online and get lower offers than you wanted or expected?
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 04:46 PM
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No idea of your circumstance, but if you’re a high earner, the longer you wait the more you lose. In hindsight, I should have bailed immediately when I realized my ex wasn’t fit to have mine or any kids (thankfully we didn’t have any). Could have saved myself a lot of heartbreak, money, and a few wrinkles.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 04:44 PM
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I made this exact post a few weeks ago. I’ll give you my perspective and take what you want. I let her keep the dog for reasons that aren’t important to this topic, but it hurt worse than the divorce or the money lost. I can’t see my little guy and I wouldn’t even if that were a thing because it would hurt too much. We separated almost a year ago and I still can’t look at his pictures. I put them away in a folder and I’ll try when I’m ready. Imo you need to suck it up and move on even though it …
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:44 PM
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This was me all the way. I don’t have kids, so I can’t identify if you do. When it was coming to a head I remember thinking to myself how scared I was of going back in the hole. It absolutely felt like a looming black cloud. In my experience that part actually hasn’t been as bad as I anticipated. I’m a different person now than when I was single last, and I’m a lot more confident and comfortable in my own skin. I suspect you might be as well. I’m waiting until the year mark to really jump back i…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:57 PM
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I didn’t know how to communicate boundaries or follow through with them either. Now you get to learn. Skip the broadway performances and file if you’re done. Go figure out your part in everything though or you’ll just repeat it all again with someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 09:04 PM
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Piling on to say you need to ditch her. Heres how many fucks she gives about you: How does that make you feel? Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 07:52 PM
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I get it, I just had a connection with this one in particular.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 06:58 PM
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So sorry! That would’ve killed me. Hope yours found a good home.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 04:03 AM
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Thanks, appreciate that. I actually hadn’t thought of fostering, I’ll look into it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 03:04 AM
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Sounds like she was fucking other people, but I’m jaded from my own experience. Shit ended when she got fit and noticed again and you didn’t. Be glad you’re not a higher earner in a community property state, minimum half. Seems like the process isn’t over yet, so buckle up if it isn’t. Read no more mr. nice guy while you wait, might be some of the reason why she left and other women will too. You sound like a good dude but she walked all over you imo. Agree with the nc comments, just move on dud…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 02:14 AM
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Sorry to that hear that my dude. Mine ended up monkey branching behind my back which officially ended everything. Hopefully you were spared that at least. I’m choosing to find a positive spin that her craziness showed me loud and clear what anti-patterns to avoid the rest of my life. All it cost me was my partial sanity and a couple hundred k. Hope you make it through the shit storm alright.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 03:28 AM
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I have far less experience in years married than you (together 7 years total) so take mine fwiw. My ex was adhd and dyslexic, I am neither. It absolutely destroyed my love for her and I failed to communicate with her whatsoever. I’ve never had so much difficulty trying to communicate with another human. Her responses to seemingly everything were to me, upside down. I shouldn’t have entered into a relationship with her in the first place, and I feel like I wasted my time and hers trying to convin…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 10:47 PM
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You sound as dumb as I did. Don’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 07:34 AM
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Sharing my 2c as my stbxw did the ap dance on me, and some of your situation sounds a little like my own. This is just my opinion based on my experience so take it fwiw: If she didn’t already fuck someone else, she’s going to. If you want, you can discover boundaries. Though it sounds like you need to regardless of outcomes. Imo she’s using you, and walking all over you because you allow it. It sounds like you have no kids, and you’re only adding to the settlement amount by the day. End it and m…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 10:12 PM
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