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I think they mean more on an internal level. Find a way to overcome it.
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 09:12 PM
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Firstly, sorry that I forgot about this and this did not respond for so long. Secondly, I think instead of your question "Can I ask how do you work to be less self-focused?' the question fits the solution better as "What do I need to replace my self-focus with?". Part of the answer to that, is movement/growth toward being balanced in all things. How do I work on getting there? I pray a lot. I think about God a lot and mankind's relationship with their God, what it's meant to look like, how we re…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 02:22 PM
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As I was reading your post I thought to myself- I love her. For probably these main reasons- I can tell you are being genuine because I have many of these same thoughts, struggles, and fears, and you seem kind and thoughtful, even if a bit self-focused. And please believe me, I am so self focused that it's one of my deepest things I've been working on since I first accepted the realization, maybe a couple of years ago. (I accept the realization more and more as I see it manifested now that my ey…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 09:50 PM
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Everything bad seems to be imitating the good, trying to replicate it. With sin, it's like filling yourself with something. Filling yourself with God and his righteousness is good, but you can sin, and fill yourself with evil, and get a rush, that imitates the rush of knowing God deeper. But since it's not real, it will never be enough, and it's like hell that is always hungry, starving, and never satisfied. It will always keep you chasing more, never understanding the urge and longing that you'…
/r/RPChristians11/10/20 12:25 AM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:08 PM
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It's often a symptom of something inside. The reason for having the short hair is sometimes unfeminine. It's not the short hair itself.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:04 PM
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You could try the brand The ordinary, they are affordable and good quality.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 12:57 AM
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Rose hip oil at night. Basically all I do and I have the best skin of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:09 AM
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What I aspire to be is someone specifically unique to fit my husband's needs and desires. I am moldable, someone exactly fit for him. I can learn eagerly who he is and what he wants and be someone perfectly suited to help him be everything he can be. For prep work for just generally being ready for "a man", not necessarily a specific man, I would say be someone who is eager to please, who can put her guard down, who is willing to let go of her own will and do whatever she can to be the best mate…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 12:03 AM
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I am a woman, and though I recognize that male posters and commenters are prevalent here, I've never felt discluded or like this sub is primarily for men. Men are who typically use the sub and that's fine. It's good to see the different perspectives of godly gender roles and it makes sense that men would be the bulk of this sub. Women have a lot of pride right now and a lot harder of a time submitting to their role (even in the church). In time I think more women will check in on this sub.
/r/RPChristians30/04/19 04:02 PM
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There's definitely a balance. I've seen people way over fill them and I think it looks ridiculous. But on very light colored eyebrowed people (such as myself), it looks waaaaaaaaay better to have some color to them.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 11:04 AM
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Also, I do agree with everything else you said in that comment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:56 PM
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Huh? I didn't say anyone was wrong, I pointed out that you weren't answering her question.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:55 PM
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calling her a liar Was this obnoxiousness necessary, in your mind? That's great that it helped. I think it would've been better if you had addressed her actual reason for posting. What do you think about submissiveness? Does it seem like a good trait for people, and especially women, to possess?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 07:47 PM
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Okay, but the purpose of her post is to get advice on how to be more submissive, and you only seemed to try to correct her thinking about something else. That's not a bad thing, but seems unhelpful to her since you didn't address what she was asking as well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:21 PM
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When someone is talking, give them your full attention and seek to understand what they are saying. When it comes to going places, things to do, etc, be somewhat agreeable when others suggest things. Don't take charge and try to make people do something just because you want to. Also give ideas and feel it out, sometimes it might be a good idea to push something or take charge, but not every time (nor even most times). In general, take a look at your intentions. If they are selfish, don't try to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:19 PM
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Confidence, determination, and strength are not mutually exclusive to submissiveness. A woman can, and should, embody both. She is asking how to be more submissive, and you keep encouraging her yo be confident and tough, which is not constructive feedback to her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:48 PM
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Then she isn't putting God first. And if you want to have a good relationship, your woman needs to put God first. Only then will she submit to you.
/r/RPChristians05/03/19 10:56 PM
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Especially when women get together or behind closed doors where no one can see. Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eats, and wipes her mouth, and said, I have done no wickedness. That verse came to my mind when I read that. Women are definitely prey to believing if no one sees them, it won't be found out. Especially in a moment of strong temptation. They look for any excuse to give in. By this of course I mean women who are not seeking God, not all women.
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 11:15 PM
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She is just telling you what she thinks you want to hear. You said yourself, she's behaving contrary to being a devout God-focused woman. You already know it's a front to get you. She is playing a game, and getting you to fall for her is her end game. Plus, if she can't control her sexual urges now, what makes you think she will when the "courting phase" has ended, and she will need to rely on God in order to love you at times? She won't always be infatuated, you know that. Take my word for it, …
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 10:54 PM
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Don't kid yourself, you have control of your actions. It's going to be very tempting for you, since the desire is so strong in you, but you have the choice EVERY TIME to have sex, or not to. You are not controlled by your desires.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 11:31 PM
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It wouldn't be "dimming your light" to make less money than him, you can put your light towards other things besides finances, if that's the area he wants to control.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 07:46 PM
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I've been considering this lately. How would you say it does? I'm not saying it doesn't, I just don't see how, unless someone has some sort of genetic disease that causes them to hold onto calories as fat storage instead of using them for energy...but even then, how would they be able to do any work without utilizing those calories? If someone has a slow metabolism, they would still burn the same amount of calories needed to do something, so wouldn't they use the calories that have been converte…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 12:19 AM
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My butt got quite a bit bigger from doing lunges. I held 20 lb dumbbells in each hand, and walked around in circles while lunging, until my legs almost gave out. Didn't take too long. I did that only a couple of times a week. I stopped because I began to get purple lines all over my butt which was otherwise nice and round. The stretch marks were a deal-breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:46 PM
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I do!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:44 PM
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Similarly, you can gain weight eating nothing but sweet potatoes, spinach, and avocado if you eat enough of it. Avocados are actually high in calories. Just wanted to say that, because while they do contain healthy fats, we need to be careful with them. I have lost weight in the span of six months by calorie counting. I never gave up sugar or chocolate, namely, chocolate ice cream. I eat chocolate ice cream almost every day. I still only weight 112 pounds, and have maintained that for months. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:38 PM
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She seems to be spoiled and rebellious. As far as you pitying her for being out in the cold, don't. She doesn't have frostbite, she wasn't dying. Some discomfort will do a woman like that some good, and help her to appreciate the times she is fortunate enough to have comfort. That, or she will harden herself more and become bitter.
/r/RPChristians30/01/19 02:53 PM
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She’s excited for butt stuff and BJs and everything under the sun. Bjs, fine. Butt stuff and everything under the sun? I'd pray about this one with a fervent heart and open mind. The anus was not designed to have anything put into it, but for waste to come out. Using our bodies in a way that God did not design them for will impact us negatively, and prevent deeper intimacy with God. It's not about limiting yourself, but rather, growing in closeness with out creator. Doing things like that, that …
/r/RPChristians17/01/19 10:34 PM
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My husband and I each get $50 a month to spend on our own things. For me, it's specialty coffees, amiibos, and thrifting. For him, it's board games, comics, and video games, usually. We have a joint account where all of our work money is deposited into, and we each have bank cards linked to it. It's my job to discern whether or not I should use my allowance on something, or the debit card. Sometimes it's not so black and white. If I see a cool plant I want, I can rationalize it and say that it's…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 08:44 PM
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Synthetic hormones will likely alter her mood, anxiety levels, ability to think clearly, appetite, and many more things that we don't even understand yet. Her sex drive will likely plummet as well since she won't be ovulating anymore. If for some reason she comes out unscathed while taking hormonal birth control, she is a rare breed. The human body has its own balance that God designed it to have, and forcing synthetic hormones into it typically causes women to have issues, and it's no wonder wh…
/r/RPChristians12/01/19 05:53 AM
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The hormonal IUDs cause the hormone levels in a woman to become abnormal so that they do not ovulate. The uterine lining becomes thicker, so even if for some reason she was ovulating, the live sperm likely couldn't get past the thicker barrier. The non hormonal, or copper IUD works because copper is toxic to sperm. They have studied the sperm under a microscope after being exposed to copper ions and several of the sperm were detached from the head and tails, and many just died. As far as I am aw…
/r/RPChristians12/01/19 05:43 AM
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I will answer this question as I personally believe. How do you know when to call it quits? When the covenant of marriage has been broken by cheating. Everything else I would stay with him and try to be the best I could be **for him. I can't depend on him for my joy or inner peace, that would be unfair of me. If I left him when things were hard between us, it wouldn't make me any happier, though my emotions and feelings would certainly be trying to deceive me in telling me I would be. The flesh …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 04:32 PM
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I wish you wouldn't capitalize "Him" when referring to the other guy. It seems like you're talking about God or something. If you wanted to differentiate, you could just make up a fake name for him and use that instead of pronouns. Anyway, just my preference. I am a woman, and used to be a cheater, so it might benefit you you hear my thoughts about this. She seems to be seeking his attention, possibly for validation, as she may not think your attention is of value to her anymore. She's already g…
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 05:39 PM
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She might love you as a friend but she's not in love with you.
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 05:27 PM
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To trim fat, counting calories and staying around 1200 a day will cause weightloss. To sculpt your body, depending on what you want (a rounder, shapely tush, perkier breasts, stronger looking legs, etc) there are different workouts you can so that cater to your specific wants. You can do research for that and watch YouTube videos for specifics. What I do specifically- I ate 1200 calories a day for about four months and got rid of my gut. Now I eat between 1500 and 2000 to maintain. I do pushups …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 02:25 AM
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I wanted to give you some anecdotal evidence that might surprise you. I'm surprised I haven't seen it mentioned in this thread yet. A few months ago, I started wearing a bun on top of my head like this. It was so easy and fast to do, and I thought it looked stylish, so I wore my hair like this on average five times a week. I started noticing I was losing clumps of hair in the shower and when I brushed it, and that never used to happen. Despite taking biotin, the hair kept coming out. I looked in…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 04:47 PM
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I don't want to put anything in your head, but if you start having any issues on the copper IUD, it could be that the copper is throwing your body's natural metals off balance. I was starting to get weird on it until I started taking zinc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 05:36 PM
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Doctors always claim the hormones are "localized" with IUDs and thus won't cause you the same kinds of problems as the other forms, but I can tell you from personal experience and reading loads of other testimonies from the r/birthcontrol sub, that's a load of BS.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 04:30 AM
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The thing is, my husband is a rarity too. I thank God for him everyday, because as far as I'm concerned he's been the biggest blessing I've ever received and there's no way I deserve him. He is patient with me and loving, and takes care of me more than I do him. He is also moody and stubborn, and is a challenge to me in many ways, which only adds to the blessing, since it gives me many opportunities for growth and when I do please him or get through to him, it's so much more rewarding. I guess y…
/r/RPChristians23/11/18 09:03 PM
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This is how I was. I studied the bible and decided to seek the strength and wisdom to be a submissive wife before I'd ever even heard of red pill. Coincidentally, I loved the movie the Matrix and saw it as being a biblical and spiritual metaphor of people needing to wake up to the reality of God in our world. When talking with someone over on the r/anxiety sub about how different I am yet very blessed because of choosing to follow my husband's lead, and they referenced the r/redpillwomen sub, I …
/r/RPChristians23/11/18 12:05 AM
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I had no idea that was the original usage of the quote. In the RPW sub, it is often used as a way to say that women cannot help who they have and do not have desire for. This sub is so much farther than redpill, they say it's a tool and used for sexual strategy and while it can be that, they seem to be missing the Designer of it all. I submit to my husband to be alignment with the will of God, they submit to improve their relationships. It's bigger than what they care to admit. I guess what I'm …
/r/RPChristians22/11/18 12:35 AM
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you can't negotiate desire This is a key element in red pill ideology and one that I don't agree with. Are we to be slaves to our desire, or any other emotion for that matter? Biblically, we learn that it is possible through the power of Christ to overcome our flesh nature and rule over ourselves. Eventually, by acting on wisdom and not our emotions, and replacing the lies in us with God's word, we can control our emotions, a concept the world will never understand. I am a wife who was previousl…
/r/RPChristians22/11/18 12:07 AM
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I am very frugal, so I looked into much cheaper alternatives than getting whitening solution from the dentist. Since I used to use the dentist whitening kits though, I have some teeth molds that were made when I was in high school, and even though I'm almost 30, they still fit my teeth. So I get two different whitening gels from the dollar store, one that you are supposed to twist the bottom to push more out onto the brush and kind of paint your teeth with, and one that is a bigger tube that com…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 04:35 PM
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Knowing he would never forgive himself, I faked forgiveness before I felt it I'm a huge proponent of forgiveness being a choice and decision one makes, same as love. These are not feelings that are dependent on any part of our bodies or emotions but solid choices our wills decide on. So even if you have feelings of anger in you, you can still forgive him. Keep acting on the decision of forgiveness and not your anger emotion and eventually the anger will be overcome.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 03:20 AM
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So, I don't know how motivating this will be to you, but it sure is for me- when I floss at night, especially those back top and bottom molars, even if I flossed not 24 hours prior, the gunk that comes out and on the floss stick reeks. It's so gross, and it's always such a relief to have gotten it out. Smell that a few times and it's sure to motivate anyone who wants to be healthy and take care of their body to floss regularly. I have naturally straight teeth, but over the past few years from dr…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 07:04 PM
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Yes. This is big. We need to be reaching higher. I just want to reiterate a few ideas about this that I have come to realize. Jesus died to bridge the gap between mankind and God, to be the mediator, and to pour out the abundance of the Holy Spirit- he died to rise again. I'm going to paraphrase this but it makes me think of the parable Jesus told about casting out a demon, only for it to return with its friends to a nice, tidy, empty house. We need to replace the bad in us with righteousness, m…
/r/RPChristians30/10/18 06:48 PM
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I haven't read the comments so I'm not sure if someone said this or not, but we should always be prayerful and wise, especially when reflecting the love of God to those around us. Essentially being as open in the spirit ad we can be, seeking God and allowing him to speak and act through us, being one with his will. Praying always, ministering to each person in the wisest way, that will be the most effective for that person. It will not be the same way with every person, and seeing God's wisdom w…
/r/RPChristians30/10/18 06:12 PM
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I would posit that men pursue women because of sex and I believe that it would be irrational for any castrated man or enuch to marry a woman in the west There is so much I want to say on this. But, I'll just say this. A help meet was created for man to do far more than just have sex with him. That is just one of the ways their love manifests itself. She is to give herself to him, be subject to him in ALL things. Sex is not the be all end all. Not by a long shot. Any man, castrated or not, would …
/r/RPChristians28/10/18 08:46 PM
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Yes, this needs to sink in the church. Logic/wisdom>feelings. Our culture puts waaay too much emphasis on feelings and the church has likewise adopted this mush. At my women's small group, it's all over our reading materials and in the videos we watch. I want to warn them of how unbeneficial this is, but I'm not sure the time is right yet. I'm trying to be more subtle so they don't feel defensive, and then identify with those feelings and subsequently act in them by putting up a wall.
/r/RPChristians26/10/18 06:59 PM
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For skincare I would highly recommend rosehip seed oil. Jojaba is good too, and less expensive, but rosehip helps my acne, it's hydrating, brightens my skin, it's my absolute favorite product for my face. For makeup, I don't wear mascara but I love blush. It really livens up my face. Hair I'm a bit lazy. I typically just do a high bun because I'm running late most mornings and it takes less than a minute to do. Braids are also fast, easy, and stylish.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 01:24 AM
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Thanks, and to you and your future wife. Trust God and surrender this to him, and you will prosper. :)
/r/RPChristians21/10/18 02:09 AM
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I definitely see your perspective as being valid. God does forgive, but that doesn't mean that all consequences of our sins are absolved. If I stole merchandise from a store, then apologized to them and they forgave me, they would still be short their merchandise and thus a profit. If a homosexual man contracted aids, then later came to Christ, repented, and stopped indulging in those desires, he still has to deal with having his flesh corrupted by aids, though I do believe his spirit is cleanse…
/r/RPChristians20/10/18 06:42 PM
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I don't understand what exactly you're basing your accusation on. I do. Emotions. There is no logic or wisdom with this person, at least in this situation. Oh, and this is coming from a woman's perspective. I'm not worried at all that you're going to assume all women are foolish based on that person's comments, if I actually care to see what this sub actually thinks, I won't process through my emotions. People like that are why women have such a tainted reputation right now.
/r/RPChristians08/10/18 07:23 PM
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You can still control your actions when drunk, it just becomes harder. The temptation is stronger and your conscience is weaker, but when we give an account to God of our choices we made, being drunk will absolve us of none of them.
/r/RPChristians08/10/18 07:07 PM
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She didn't abort me. Almost did, but ultimately decided to have me. How submissive of her. That's probably the most red pilled thing she did in their relationship, at least that I know of.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 02:07 PM
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Have you downloaded the myfitnesspal app to keep track of your calories? That's the only way I can consistently stay at 110 pounds, I keep track of all my calories every day. It may seem daunting, but it's not that hard. I don't use a food scale or anything, I just estimate based on the amount I eat. When I stop tracking my calories, I gain weight. Every time. My goal is to get an accurate feel of the calories in the foods I eat, and how many calories I burn when I do certain activities, so I ca…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 10:36 PM
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On the flip side, my husband despises my onesie. He says it makes me look like a gigantic baby lady, but it's soooo stinkin comfy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:16 PM
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Validation that you're on the right path and your self improvement and hard work is paying off! Good job!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 03:26 PM
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She's isn't saying that what he is doing is awful, she is saying that she knows (not feels, thinks, btw) that what SHE did there is awful. I think that's where we are seeing two different things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 02:47 PM
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Yep, there will be a mix of all different kinds of people but I think the mean (does that mean majority? I forget those terms..) is pretty supportive, yet not sugarcoaters. Anyway, it seems to me like you're doing good and growing, keep it up:) P.S. That's cute :) I have had many hamsters in my day with Zelda-based names
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 05:01 PM
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Yes it seemed as if you had already picked up on all of that to me. However, I'm not in any position to judge, I've been known to be condescending myself (something I need to work on).
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 12:26 PM
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(I knoooow it's awful) This is rationalizing to yourself why you said it. Huh? That was her saying that it was awful when she instructed him on what to cut up first. How is that her rationalizing anything? Maybe I'm just missing something?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 01:58 AM
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Its so against my being and personality to be aggressive and abrasive that the words to defend myself will not come out of my mouth Is it, though? If you were humble and honest naturally, it seems like it would be simple to you. Say, "it's hurtful when you talk that way to me" or "I wish you would speak kinder to me". If you had no ill will, anger, or hatred towards her it would come out sincere, even in a pleading kind of vulnerable meek way, and it would reveal to her the pain you say you feel…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 07:42 PM
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It seems to me that you are indignant that other people make a vow and are allowed to break it anytime they want. It destroys the institution in your mind. However, one could say the same thing about sin, and being allowed to behave and act in a way contrary to the design of their creator. But would that destroy righteousness in my mind, that others can freely live unrighteously? Certainly not! Rather, it causes me to take pause and cultivate a healthy fear (or wisdom) of doing the same, and mis…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 03:18 PM
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You don't need people who are like-minded as you, you need people who are open-minded. Even if someone doesn't agree with your stance, if they care about you and value your company it will still be a good friendship, where you both can share your alternate ideas and beliefs and try to understand one another, rather than judge. I am very into God, and I have a good friend who is a self declared pagan. She is anti my God. Yet, we have another common ground, we both highly value wisdom. Also learni…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 03:03 PM
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Most here want the end goal to be a relationship where both parties are 100% committed to one another, marriage is taking a vow that you will be. You seem to have the same goal as others here, you just don't agree with the taking a vow part. I don't see the issue, aside from your apparent discomfort that other people want to take a vow, and you do not.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 02:49 PM
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This is something I write in my journal some weeks, so that I focus on it during meditation: "let go of getting what you want, and things won't seem so hard" (or in your case (and mine), worthy of pouting over). I keep a bullet journal and make a weekly spread every Monday morning, and one of my sections is thoughts/quotes. Whenever I open it throughout the week for my checklists, grocery lists, writing down my work schedule or whatever else, I see those quotes and it reminds me to take a moment…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 11:44 PM
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Sarah, who called Abraham lord, is also a good example of a woman submissive to her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/18 07:35 PM
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For me it's real simple. If he wants kids, I'll have kids for him. If he doesn't, I won't. I will do what it takes to make him happy and be a good helper to him. It's not about what I want, and that's the way I like it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 01:14 AM
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Based on the way he capitalized FAT in his post, I assume it's an acronym for something, probably a description of a trainable, submissive girl, though I'm not sure what exactly it stands for.
/r/RPChristians11/08/18 03:30 PM
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Sounds like you have many expectations for your friend, you idolize her but do you really know her? You spend long periods apart, and you dwell on "who she is" or rather, who you desire her to be. You may have made up some fantasy in you own mind and even if you were to marry her, I think she'd let you down, and you'd feel lost. It's not fair to her, and it isn't wise for yourself. You seem very emotionally driven in this whole scenario.
/r/RPChristians08/08/18 04:39 PM
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Feelings are a lot more difficult to control than actions. We have the ability to control if we act on our feelings or not though, and the more we choose to act on wisdom despite what we are feeling, the more we gain control over our feelings. Don't feel bad about having irrational urges, emotions, or feelings. Listen to them, acknowledge them, but do what you have found to be good, no matter what they say. Feeling something isn't necessarily a cause for guilt, even if it's unreasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 03:24 PM
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Sounds like he's just "swallowed the red pill", and is still in the anger phase. Hopefully he will work it out and realize he is being irrational and projecting, trusting his emotions too much, and not taking a balanced approach.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 08:09 PM
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That's kind of what I thought was actually going on. Not that it was actually too heavy, but that she just didn't like to do it and maybe hid behind the weight excuse. I know I've caught myself doing things like that before. When she explained about it being a metal can that has to carried down the driveway (as opposed to the wheeled ones), and that she doesn't put it all on him, that makes sense now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:08 PM
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Oh, gotcha. That makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:04 PM
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Taking out the trash? Is the trash really that heavy?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 05:47 PM
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For a woman to be trained by her husband, she first has to submit to the concept of being trained. First and foremost I had to see and know that it was God's design that I become the woman specifically tailored for my husband. Then I sought his "training", by looking for ways to incorporate what he wanted and needed me to be for him. I don't think a husband can force this, I believe submission is a choice that must be made, otherwise it will not be genuine.
/r/RPChristians22/07/18 08:47 PM
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Of course. And maybe it isn't critique that he's looking for at times, but more your understanding and validation. An approach I try to take with most people, is to first acknowledge what I agree and then add to it, that way it doesn't feel negative, but more like a positive conversation. Coming to conclusions and figuring things out together, and growing together, is a great way to bond with people.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 07:31 PM
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This is a different situation but I hope it may be of at least some help. With my husband's work, I don't understand it. He is in the heating/cooling business, and sometimes does construction projects and electrical work. It's difficult for me to grasp his dilemmas or what he is thinking about doing differently with a project, and why. I make sure to ask him questions, to understand how he sees it as best as I can, so at least I can give (to the best of my ability) am informed judgment. If I wer…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 05:46 PM
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There's more options than being dishonest or a doormat. Those are two opposite extremes and you don't seem to realize the balance here. Also, other people being weak or rude is not a reason for us to break our integrity. We shouldn't base our decisions on how other people are, but on wisdom. Your advice is fear-based and weak.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 07:33 PM
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Yeah OP. Manipulate her and then lie to your husband about it. Also act crazy and make yourself cry. Basically be a psychopath! You'll have a wonderful outcome for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 05:01 PM
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You could try be open about how and when you noticed that it happened to you, and how you now have learned how to look out for that kind of thing. When I'm honest about things I've struggled with, I found that most people can relate.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 12:22 AM
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You sound like you're defensive about your own anal play with a man in this post.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:25 PM
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I agree. That is not a natural act for a man to engage in.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:17 PM
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Great reminder that we need to be vigilant and wise even in our most relaxed states like watching television. If we aren't careful, messages, ideals, and agendas of the programs will be allowed to redefine normal for us and seep into our subconscious minds. We can't let anything think for us, because the world will not hesitate to do so!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 05:06 PM
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They arent mutually exclusive though, and according to the Bible, if a woman seeks to serve God she will be seeking to serve her husband. In fact I would argue that only a godly woman who is submitted to God first and foremost will be a truly good and loving wife.
/r/RPChristians11/06/18 11:05 PM
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That is how a woman lives for God- by adhering to the design he has for her (serving her husband). Edit: here are some verses that came to mind when considering your point: But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, ju…
/r/RPChristians11/06/18 09:16 PM
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If her purpose is to be a helper to the man then that's what she needs on order to fulfill her design.
/r/RPChristians11/06/18 03:43 PM
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He was trying to connect with my dog the other day and he wasn't doing the thing right, so my puppy was confused. I tried showing him the right way and he got pissy. Just little things like that. Stop taking the alpha role in the relationship. Don't offer advice unless you're pretty sure he wants it, let him figure things out on his own. If you start treating him more like a leader, he will start being more of a leader.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 08:51 PM
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Alll of those have their own spheres of authority. A husband's is the most, and most personal. A boss has no authority over knowing something about your past lovers, I believe a husband does. I agree with you that no matter what the authority, you are still accountable if you submit to something that is immoral or would be unjust to another. But telling your husband who you've slept with is in his sphere of authority to know, and it is not unjust or immoral. The only reason I can see that someon…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 05:37 PM
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If he has a right to your submission why not submit to him in this? He asked a question, and wants you to answer truthfully. If you don't, you aren't yielding to him, aka not submitting.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 01:13 PM
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If he's the guy for you then he will understand. Plus it's a good opportunity to show him that you're not that person anymore, that you don't think it's okay for a woman to sleep around. Yes, there's always going to be consequences of bad decisions, that doesn't mean we should hide them from our husbands. If anyone should know, it's him. Anything less than that kind of a relationship, isn't what I want to strive for.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 01:11 PM
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Sure, and it's also your right to not submit to your husband's leadership at all so why are you on RPW if you're giving BP advice? "Whatever the intention the result remains the same" Closed-minded. Yet again.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 07:51 PM
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I think you might benefit from being more open minded. Your use of absolutes reminds me of how I use to think. I would only base things on what I saw and my own experiences and I was so sure of things. I would argue and hold my ground and when people would try to share their perspectives, I would listen only for the purpose of refuting it or finding holes to grab onto and focus on. Don't get me wrong, I still think like that at times, but I try to recognize it and release it before I become "har…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 06:51 PM
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In case your n count is anywhere beyond 0, this is a very good place to apply the STFU as well. Ignore his question and make it obvious that you don't want to talk about it. If he insists tell him something in the context of "It's in the past and if it was to have any effect on me you would have seen it already". Ignoring anyone is rude, much more someone you supposedly love and have committed yourself to. Then you assume the reason he asks is to see if it has any effect on you, instead of tryin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 06:17 PM
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This seems like such a disrespectful response to someone who is supposedly your captain and leader.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 04:56 PM
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I try not to fart around my husband if I can help it (or do it quietly) because I know he's grossed out by it. But I fart all the time and intentionally loud around my brother in law because he and I think it's funny. I think with different people you can show different parts of you and with some people, maybe dial it down if you know it bothers them. However, if you expect people to treat you or behave a certain way with you, you will be hard pressed not to build up resentment when they don't l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 02:12 PM
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"Sex is a fun physical activity, if you keep fit and healthy there's no reason you can't enjoy it multiple times a day."
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:31 PM
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How is isn't it helpful? She's basically suggesting what you were- give him all the sex he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:54 AM
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Not every time someone accuses the other of cheating are they projecting, but most times when people are cheating they will project.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 03:18 AM
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I really don't think she is intentionally bragging. I know it is pretty off putting, her description, but I think it does paint a picture of a piece of her personality. That she can get so present and caught up in a moment of lust, and pull someone into it with her, her passion level must really be huge. But conversely, I think if she gets bored with a guy, the passion drops to zero. It's either all or nothing for her personality type it seems like.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 01:52 AM
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The worse your past is, if you have honestly overcome it, the smarter and stronger you will be now. If you have been through many adversities and made a thousand mistakes but have seen why they are mistakes and are now enlightened to what the better path is, you are a much better match than someone who has not seen much temptation and therefore wouldn't likely know the what to do when faced with such things. Isn't that obvious? Why do you think we live, why is all this negatively allowed to exis…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 01:46 AM
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Where do you get this evidence from? It just sounds like it's your opinion and it doesn't make for a good argument. You might be right but the way you word it sounds opinionated.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 02:31 PM
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This seems like a pointless conversation. Neither of you have any actual data, just assumptions about "most" people.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 05:40 AM
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Are you taking any birth control? Synthetic hormones can seriously impact mental health. Also have you ever tried acupuncture? For me, it helps me to understand and see myself in a more objective sense, so I can deal with things more rationally and with diligence and patience. Medication will only mask your issues, as soon as you stop they will be there (still), and you will have wasted all that time you were covering them up with medication when you could have been overcoming them. At least, th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 12:31 AM
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I agree with you. If someone prefaced telling a secret to me with, "you can't tell anyone including your husband", I would say "then don't tell me". A wife is to submit to her husband in ALL THINGS, this includes revealing any information she has, if he asks her to.
/r/RPChristians26/04/18 05:35 PM
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I agree with you. To me, it has seemed for some time now that this sub is being tempted to "the blue side"...and giving in.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 03:32 PM
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Oh they love it- it makes them seem like selfless martyrs or something. Though they act like it's so difficult for them, the ones I know who say this, have made it this way, and wouldn't have it any other.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 07:49 PM
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I'm 5'2" and my husband is 6'. We both wish there wasn't such a height difference. Any making out standing up gives me a neckache, sex standing up is impossible unless he is bearing all my weight, and in pictures of us, I can't help but thinking he'd be better matched with someone who was at least 5'6". I think we go together wonderfully in many ways, but physical stature isn't one of them, sadly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 12:30 PM
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"Yes it's so oppressive to be a housewife, and you have the right to choose, but only out of options WE give you." - Modern feminist
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 01:58 PM
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The anus was not meant to have anything going into it, the vagina is for sex, the anus is for your body's waste to exit. Anal is not natural, and you are right to refuse it. He does seem like he has temptations for men that he is giving into by simulating that in his sex life. If he keeps hurting you, I think you should call the cops. Maybe jail will help him figure things out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 07:53 PM
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To me, it's all about your perspective. If you think your partner is lucky to have you, then you are self focused and lacking humility. Turn that focus on your partner's good qualities, and you will be thinking that you are the fortunate one, and I believe, will be cultivating a much healthier and happier mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 01:09 PM
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My baseline is having a washed, toned, and moisturized face. Wearing at least jeans and usually boots. The top can vary depending on where I'm going, but no stains, holes, stretched out weirdly, etc is a must. I wouldn't feel comfortable otherwise. For my face I can go without mascara or eyebrow tint, but I don't feel very pretty unless my skin is excellent. I like to still use powder foundation and blemish corrector, even without any other makeup, to even out my skin. Hair is usually down, and …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 08:39 PM
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Hell no. If a guy doesn't have the courage to tell the truth, he looks weak in my eyes. Plus, I'm not the kind of woman who asks a question expecting to get the answer I hope to hear. I want honesty, no matter how uncomfortable it makes me feel.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 10:19 PM
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Hmm a liar or a beta...are those really the only two options?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 09:29 PM
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I agree that they should part ways. I think it's the only way there will ever be a chance for these two, is if they break up and spend at least 6 months on their own to realize more about who they are and what they want. If they are still wanting to be a couple, I think they could give it a try after being independent from one another completely- living apart, no contact. I think there's too much under the surface that no matter how good the relationship may seem now, until it's dealt with when …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/18 07:56 PM
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Reading your post, I can almost see you holding a blue pill, bringing it closer and closer to your mouth, looking for a good enough reason to swallow it. You're flirting with trouble, and this is a test for you. I am a Christian woman who met my husband when he was a virgin and my n-count was 7. I became a Christian a few years after we met, and I tell you, it is possible (and sure) that a Christian woman who is not a virgin truly repents from having sex with anyone who was not her husband. I ne…
/r/RPChristians04/03/18 05:51 AM
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I'm not sure if anyone on this sub had mentioned this yet, but bullet journals are a great way to track your progress, keep you organized, and help motivate you. For mine, I have on my left page the current week's days sectioned off in boxes going down the page, which I write my work schedule and the hours I actually worked each day, as well as my itinerary for that day- appointments, plans with family/friends, trip to a certain store. etc. I have a few other sections on that page as well, and o…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 04:08 AM
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Lets just be honest here, if a woman has a belly that (yes is carrying a child) is stretched way out to the point where her bellybutton is popping out, who would find her physically attractive? There's a certain beauty to an expecting mother, that goes far beyond physical beauty (she is going through a great trauma to care for and incubate the father's seed) but physical beauty is definitely not at it's peek. I hate how offended women get at the notion that they are any less attractive physicall…
/r/RPChristians03/03/18 09:40 PM
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Yes I think a truly submitted wife is giving 100% of herself to the relationship. She isn't lazy, or looking for someone to do all of her thinking for her. She's invested, she's utilizing all of her abilities and resources to be the best wife possible. Not like a helpless child at all, just a strong woman who has a strong boss she loves to please.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 01:17 AM
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I agree that there is ignorance in people's understanding of the gender dynamics, and how it works best. Though I'm asking myself, why the ignorance? It's not that the information or anecdotes aren't out there, so I would conclude that the closed-mindedness stems from fear. How the fear formed could vary among people. I honestly think people are blind to wisdom because of fear. I really enjoyed your description of a first mate, it makes it sound so honorable. Which, of course, it is pretty honor…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 09:30 PM
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I'd love to read the post if you end up writing it. I think you must have a lot of confidence in yourself, or perhaps a lack of insecurity, to have no doubts or temptations in the area of submitting to your husband. I will keep striving to get there, as I know that's healthy, but I can't ignore these temptations and doubts, I have to overcome them. The modern world, especially I think, the western society, can put a lot of pressure on a woman, and both genders really, to go with the norm. I thin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 09:21 PM
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I've struggled with feelings like those before- he's the leader so I'm just to follow and ask permission for everything, basically treating him like he's a parent. That was a couple of years ago. I've since been enlightened to see it differently, he's the leader, but I still have complete control of my life, I choose to follow (sometimes less willing than I should). A marriage is whole new relationship, it has similarities to a parent-child relationship in a way not unlike how I'd look to my bos…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 05:46 PM
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Oh, thanks for doing that research, I'm relieved to hear that actually!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:09 PM
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I would compete with his phone in a sense. His phone captures his interest primarily, but you want that to be you instead. My strategy just from considering this for a bit is that at first I would try to share in his interest in whatever he is looking at. Find some interest in it, and let it fuel conversations between the two of you. Find out what he loves so much in looking at his phone, whether it's humor, validation, entertainment, and learn to supply that for him, even more so than the phone…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 05:53 PM
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There are many different kinds of geranium, ours is the one that is mostly leaves but in the late summer blooms tiny purple flowers. Is that the one you don't like? The smell is very strong and earthy. I've found people who like it and people who don't, but since we have it in our house I hope more people do than don't.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 02:13 PM
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I've also been pleasantly surprised at my husband's positive reactions to vases I've filled and displayed in the table during the warm months. I really love plants in general, and going to the greenhouses together and picking out new ones is a great time for us. There are certain plants he is drawn to for their scent, such as geranium (cranesbill, I believe it's also called). So after we brought it home and planted it in the yard, I separated it and brought some inside to put near the computer f…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 02:48 AM
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"Doesn't he help you around the house?" "He does more than that, by being the breadwinner, he pays for the house, that I enjoy cleaning and taking care of." Some people are so one-sided. Always seeking to make the average woman out to be some martyr who works so hard while her husband is lazy. And some women actually seek to be this way, so they feel like they're needed or important or something. My sister strives so hard and gives herself to working and doing things for others, but she treats h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 02:38 AM
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I think if you implemented it in more than just your actions, but your internal will, to be what he needs you to be, and if you didn't resent it but found real purpose and enjoyment in being his, then yes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 03:19 AM
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It seems to me like you're unwilling to submit to him as he is, you only want to submit to him if he's who you want him to be, which is basically only you submitting to yourself. Maybe try submitting to what he wants to do, even if it seems boring or not what you want. Look at it as a challenge, because it obviously isn't what you want. Try to immerse yourself in his activities, and when you're having sex, think to yourself that you'll do what he wants, that you'll come for him, whatever you wan…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 05:29 AM
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I disagree with your advice. Love is not a feeling, it's a choice, and she absolutely can choose to love him. Are you thinking love and lust are the same thing? Also, you're advising her to break a commitment she made, as if a commitment and her integrity are just no big deal. It's a big deal. And it will have serious consequences to her life. If she can't choose to be satisfied in this test, what makes you think she'll pass the next test life throws at her?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 05:22 AM
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My husband and I dated for four years and then I left him. The relationship was terrible, I was completely into myself, used him as much as I could, and generally treated him like shit. When we broke up I had a wake up call. Not about him specifically, but about life. In those six months I became so different in what I valued and how I looked at things. I think I grew and changed more in those six months than ever in my life. There was a lot that went into it, which may or may not be relevant to…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 06:55 PM
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I think we should be focusing on all of that, on everything in us that isn't submitted to God. I didn't realize you were asking specifically about this sub and it's focus. I totally agree with what you're doing- trying to rehash out things you know or believe to be right. I think we all need to do this for ourselves, it is what overcomes complacency of the spirit and mind in my opinion.
/r/RPChristians09/02/18 09:21 PM
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I think they gave a real good answer to your questions. The fact that your still asking, "Yes it's sin, but what is the danger in that?", indicates to me a possible blind spot. The bottom line should always be visible before us. The danger of sin, of any and all unrighteousness or darkened will is that it is in disalignment with God, and therefore will bring us to destruction. Only in oneness with God, are we truly alive.
/r/RPChristians09/02/18 08:00 PM
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She will likely never come back to you with the way you are behaving towards her. She sees herself as the victim, and the more you stand your ground the harder you're pushing her away. Are you able to love your enemies? Can you implore them to open up to God, by showing them love despite their hatred towards you? This humbleness, not to be confused with being a doormat, is what I think it will take to win your wife back, to God first and then to you. Yes you have your rights, but can you put tho…
/r/RPChristians06/02/18 09:54 PM
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Sometimes the truth serves as an eye opener, sometimes it hardens. Depends on how receptive the person is. I don't think it would help her to try to dominate her by forcing her to acknowledge her faults, I think she'd do better by seeing the fault in another and slowly realizing that she mirrors it to some degree. Kind of like when you have a dream about someone but they represent you. Sometimes it's easier to see when it's not us.
/r/RPChristians05/02/18 10:25 PM
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She sounds like she needs work on submitting to her husband. She doesn't sound Christian to me, more like a Pharisee.
/r/RPChristians05/02/18 06:29 PM
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I agree with that too. I think it's the husbands job to mold and shape his wife into his ideal woman. It's her job to be receptive to this and seek out what he wants from her. He can't dictate her beliefs but if she puts into practice his ideals then she will see if they are good or not and likely her thoughts will begin to change on things.
/r/RPChristians04/02/18 02:14 PM
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You're adding to scripture here to fit your own opinion. There are several possible reasons that it wasn't good for man to be alone. I believe the masculine and feminine together bear the image of God. I think mating is a purpose and design of every creature, but it isnt mandatory. God commanded mankind to multiply, not every single couple in the world. Further, Paul tells the Corinthians that it is better to remain unmarried, but they should marry instead of burning with passion. Nothing about …
/r/RPChristians10/01/18 04:34 PM
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That was a command God gave them, that doesn't negate my point. God didn't say "I will make man one who can make children with him" he said it wasn't good for him to be alone and so decided to make him a help meet.
/r/RPChristians10/01/18 04:22 PM
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All due respect, from the very first passages of genesis God clearly reveals that marriage is about joining a man to his wife because it was not good for man to be alone, and he needed a help meet. Not about making children, though we have all the parts and design for procreating, it's not the primary purpose of marriage.
/r/RPChristians10/01/18 06:10 AM
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Great reply. Well thought out and organized. This is my first time posting in this sub actually, and I would like to add too, that Jesus' rising from the dead is also key to the necessity of the sacrifice. I see the act of him overcoming death and being raised from the dead as what bridges the gap between mankind and God. I think the his death was necessary because he essentially took on all of our sin and then destroyed that, and his being raised from the dead was necessary to restore us to God…
/r/RPChristians10/01/18 05:27 AM
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You're considering giving in to an emotion: desire. Letting it own you and rule you, doing what you can to appease it. This will make you miserable. Just look at people who allow their emotions to rule them. That's how people become fat, afraid to live, desperate to please others, full of themselves, insecure, the list goes on and on. Having self discipline will make you much happier than allowing desire to rule you. You seem to be blinded somewhat right now, by your craving for lust and fresh i…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 07:30 AM
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I would say that imagining yourself alone during sex isn't necessarily disloyal, but definitely not the best case scenario. The higher and better way, as far as I know, is to fully be in the moment with your partner, being honest, open, vulnerable, and deeply in love and in tune with each other.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 05:34 PM
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I suppose I have a strict definition of cheating. Any disloyalty to the partner, including allowing yourself to fantasize about another person, is cheating. Loyalty starts in the heart, with the decisions and choices we make, despite however we may feel. Choosing to focus on someone else in a sexual way would not be ok with me, and likewise if I did it to my partner, I would know i was betraying him. If he's looking at other people now, especially those you know he's thought of at least in the p…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 05:26 PM
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I believe it's for glory, a desire to be desired, even worshipped. In her mind this control is power. She fell out of love with her husband, and in love with herself. Edit: I'm new here, so I can't say if my theory is RP or not, as I'm still learning what RP is. It's just based on my experiences as a woman and being able to identify with these types of temptations.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 06:22 AM
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I know that it was removed because of the editing issues. I think because of the stigma surrounding the word "religion" and how many people define it or see it versus how I do, I wanted to clarify. I don't mean to be argumentative. Thanks for letting me know. I suppose I did view this sub as inherently Christian.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 06:08 AM
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I've edited the comment. Also that doesn't seem right to me. I'm not basing my advice on a religion, I'm sharing a decision I make that has helped me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 05:05 AM
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In regards to the Facebook reactions, are they emogees, or likes? What are the pictures like, her all made up in a selfie, or her with her SO, or her dog, or something like that? If it's just her in the pic, I too would be very suspicious. Red flags all over that. Also, if he cheated on you with her before, he should respect and value your relationship enough to never want to contact her again. She would be a reminder of his shameful decision to cheat.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 04:34 AM
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I think orgasming is key to him being attracted to you. Men want to be able to give their women sexual pleasure, this in itself is a part of their pleasure. Also I completely disagree with the person's comment above, I would advise not to get lost in some fantasy, and not to imagine he isn't even there. This can lead to a sad result, where eventually you may imagine yourself with another man during your sexy time and essentially cheating on him in your heart and mind. You will possibly come to d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 04:09 AM
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Just because it's a two way street doesn't make the woman not a slut. The guy was a man slut for soliciting a woman's pic who he wasn't committed to and she was a slut for sending it. Slut does not imply that only the woman was in the wrong. That's just the side we are analyzing at this time. I totally agree that the guy was being a slut too that's just not who were discussing here is this scenario. (Sorry I said "we", I totally just jumped into this convo)
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 10:27 PM
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