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Excellent. A lot of people get tripped up on lust or romantic feelings when in those situations, which can ruin the dynamic. But I'm glad you found benefit from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:50 PM
2

Not inherently. Only if you're able to use it to your advantage, and don't get wrapped up in thirst, especially aimed at her. Personally the benefits don't seem worth the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:01 AM
2

This has some validity to it. However, most guys do not have enough sex or options to keep up with their problems. I think it would be more accurate to say people use dating as a simple hobby, time-waster, or validation. Sex is a great form of validation, and it's a shame so many men in particular make things unsafe after the sexual barrier is crossed. Good girls get ruined by bad guys. Good guys have to clean up the fucking mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:22 PM
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Can't believe none of them would send clown pics:/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:27 AM
-5

Profoundly based
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:10 PM
0

Perfect example
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:51 PM
2

You know, yesterday I found an old note a girl once left me, and thought "Girls used to be so nice what happened?" Then I realized people are being raised to be hyper- individualistic now rather than part of community or collective. Even the family unit is more divided than it has ever been. Add that to the gender whose dating strategy is effectively a survival mechanism and...there you have it. Shameless self-centeredness with no guardrails. No surprise but it is a damned shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:27 PM
2

Most people don't do that. Start with accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:15 AM
2

If this doesn't summarize it all in one post, I don't know what does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:59 PM
2

There is merit to finding someone young for sure. I personally believe that as a man in this day and age, acquiring some knowledge and experience with women in his younger years is more important than rushing to lock one down. I would even say it is crucial. Plus, don't wanna date out of emotional laziness or desperation. Once you're older, you are generally more in a position to give women what they want and need - and can more effectively scout out what YOU want and need (and not waste time on…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:54 AM
6

Because we don't get to put our biology on hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:12 AM
4

Fucking. Exactly. I once told someone, "The hardest part about dating is getting TO the date." Truly a sign of the times.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:11 PM
2

I don't think, I know. Every woman who has claimed to want this eventually catches feels / gets dickmatized.
/r/seduction17/07/26 07:14 PM
1

Dating is THE domain in which men who invest more get less [desirable] results.
/r/seduction15/07/26 08:56 PM
0

Who said any of that other than you? Lol
/r/seduction15/07/26 08:50 PM
2

All you're doing is showing her that you'll tolerate it.
/r/seduction14/07/26 03:29 AM
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Real
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:54 AM
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This is a stellar breakdown of how (most, probably) women perceive these two polarities in the moment, and I appreciate it a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:04 PM
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There is nuance between "stay away" and "be mindfulful and show discernment in your dating decisions"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:07 AM
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What metrics were being measured?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:55 PM
3

You might be onto something tbh
/r/seduction16/06/26 05:08 AM
1

Replace those with "wants to be led by a competent and considerate man" and it's suddenly accurate
/r/seduction16/06/26 05:08 AM
1

Hypergamy is a survival instinct, not an absolute. The problem comes when every menial inconvenience FEELS like it "threatens her survival". That + the perception of having endless options of men = "hypergamy." If she is asking herself if she can do better, or flaunting/signaling to another that she CAN do better, hypergamy is not "satisfied." Not one man can check every single box 24/7 365 - nor should they try to - but the one who has most of the boxes checked most of the time is in far better…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:10 PM
3

Do shit the others won't then
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:49 AM
1

I know what you're getting at. But the human race would go extinct
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:15 AM
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We need more of this energy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:02 PM
1

Another thing is that they are often - not always, but often - more attractive behaviorally than their elder counterparts. It really depends how much experience and wisdom a woman racks up - or doesn't. & How they carry themselves both internally and externally.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:37 PM
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You can bond without getting lost in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:39 AM
2

"I'm not saying don't put in effort and not lead"
/r/seduction10/03/26 05:17 PM
1

The type of women we would be willing to sleep with casually is often much different than the type we would want something serious with. Many guys (like myself) are exceptionally picky with who we settle down with. It sounds good, feels good, looks good, and works out if both work with each other instead of against.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:55 PM
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At some point pets became surrogate children for women. Therefore it would be reasonable to assert that you attract women who have a maternal need to take care of someone/thing. So my hot take is perhaps they see something in you that triggers that instinct? If there's even a grain of truth to this idea, you could do a lot with this without having to learn the hard way. Highly encourage.
/r/seduction02/03/26 05:17 PM
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Spoken like a dime in disguise ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 08:19 PM
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When someone presents feedback about yout words/behavior, get past the 'feeling bad that they said it' bit and acknowledge what you did and how it affected the other person. In the moment. Not 2 weeks later. Basically, get over yourself without abandoning yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:06 AM
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Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:40 AM
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Sounds fun Slowly approach, observing the house in the process Then say something like "Life of the party I see" or "Oh you're here for the snacks too? I like you already" And see where it goes.
/r/seduction04/02/26 08:48 PM
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Exactly. Which means she was likely walking the line to begin with.
/r/seduction27/01/26 09:46 PM
1

Many men do little things like this on accident because they operate in lack. So they really want it to succeed, and change behaviors whether they realize it or not. The mindset OP notes is one that comes with abundance, naturally. Most men do not have what one would call abundance in dating. So in this sense, the shift is a form of self-priming or an affirmation more so than "adapting to behavioral therapy." It's just operating under a more mature (and successful) framework.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:28 PM
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At the start, yes, in general women get the same treatment/routine. Especially since mine happened to be stunningly effective, in hindsight. Over time, as your relationship develops (or doesn't), you learn how much she deserves (or doesn't). How much effort, financial benefits, time, commitment, etc. That's where things get tricky for a lot of guys, and they end up trying to "play both sides" - ultimately confusing the woman and playing games.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:12 AM
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My eyes totally skipped that part lmao my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:38 AM
0

How can the answer to a question about the last 5 guys you've been with... not include 5 guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:12 AM
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Hearing a success story involving AIM is the satisfaction I didn't know I needed. Godspeed to you both
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:50 AM
-4

Definitely all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:48 AM
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Fuckin banger post
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 02:44 AM
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Most guys with an UNLIVED single chapter are likely operating out of scarcity, meaning they are far less likely to lose (or risk losing) the one they do have in pursuit of oneS they may or may not get (with). I've lived most of my life single, have enjoyed the fruits of being a pretty cool and attractive dude, and have left unfulfilling relationships - though not simply to meet other women. It's more complicated than that. Ylu should practice the things you mentioned on your own girl as well as …
/r/seduction07/01/26 09:35 PM
0

Omg my favorite redditor is back With some straight facts too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:12 PM
1

Hell of a summation my man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:10 PM
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What you're really exposing here is that liberal women are far less tolerant than conservative men. Not the flex you think it is but that's not my business 🐸🍵
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:24 PM
0

Indeed. See, we have more in common than we think. Let's go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 07:56 PM
1

I promise you there is more to life than oppression
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:59 AM
1

Don't forget the armpit hair
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:58 AM
1

No wonder the birth rate is plummeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:13 PM
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Welcome to TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:46 AM
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Let me offer some nuance. It's different when someone who has always been [perceived as] timid/soft-spoken/pushover is suddenly exhibiting traits of confidence/arrogance. & Many times this can come in the form of over-correcting behaviors: trying to control/lead everything, arguing just to argue, etc. It's often very performative if we have a preconceived notion of the person and are not aware of the work - or lack of - that warrants their evolution. If it's something like confidence from going …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:05 PM
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Women in his rotation. So he's saying having 4 more women in case shit goes south.
/r/seduction09/12/25 09:44 PM
1

Don't overcomplicate this issue. Men need to enforce healthy boundaries on both himself & her, which is part of making him her "best option." Women need to get better at not taking their man for granted and respecting the limitations he sets. This mutual respect dynamic can't be faked, it can't be half-assed, and it can't be negotiated into reality. It must simply be. & If it can't be adhered to, then it should not be tolerated. Period. That is why it is so uncommon in this largely self-centered…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 02:35 AM
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& We care what society thinks why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:41 PM
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No, you're a coward if you deliberately dismiss an entire 'genre' of content (that has been known to help many) because of how one/a few come off. I actually agree with a lot of your post. I myself stopped watching the "manosphere" creators that I don't look up to or seem too bitter. But if I had turned away entirely, my life would have ended up much, much more misguided. A lot of it is simply being conscious of the dating process and controlling what you can control.
/r/seduction29/11/25 08:45 PM
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Yes, some are cringe. Yes, many are rooted in bitterness. But dismissing everything you hear because of a few (perceived) bad actors is equally as low effort as blindly accepting everything as fact. There is a ton to learn from that sphere, both positive and negative. Turning your back to it on an emotional whim is cowardly, and do you think cowardly behavior only happens once? Because turns out women don't like cowards either.
/r/seduction29/11/25 05:58 AM
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To maintain everything but society
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:03 PM
1

This is solid advice. I would simply replace ChatGPT with "guys who are already successful with women" - since, as someone with autism and an utter lack of experience, OP would benefit most from integrating 'the human element' rather than AI as much as possible. Constant exposure/attempts + conscious learning = improvement OP, remember that you are solely responsible for this journey. If you quit work, you'd better have plenty to fill in that time/energy.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:48 PM
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It does if you have smooth social skills aka game
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:07 PM
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"One men" is peak irony. Perhaps a Freudian slip? 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:41 PM
7

"Sexual strategy is amoral."
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:26 PM
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& How does that work, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:59 PM
6

Give up and stop complaining Or simply get better Not this, never that, wouldn't this. Who WOULD want to be around this?
/r/seduction13/11/25 06:58 AM
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Good point. I'm glad you said that. That would be respectable IF those are ACTUALLY her values rather than something she does selectively here or there based on her mood. In other words, if she waitsbregardless of the man, that is actually commendable. Any man saying otherwise doesn't see the value of a woman being selective; such is the result of thinking with our "lower head." I have seen many cases of a woman going on a date with one guy, like him a lot, deny him intimacy, and then calls her …
/r/seduction09/11/25 02:00 AM
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It used to be taught by default. On accident. Naturally. But now everyone is mysteriously socially anxious and depressed. Surreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:23 PM
4

Absolutely nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:29 AM
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When was the last time you've dated? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:19 PM
1

Yes. Ride the momentum, not each individual step.
/r/seduction22/10/25 07:36 PM
2

Initial physical attraction isn't. But what you find attractive in a partner, enough so to tolerate, is absolutely a choice. A choice women rarely, if ever, take accountability for. Or even acknowledge for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:43 PM
3

Ego -> Relief -> Pleasure / Connection
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:57 PM
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Sometimes you don't find the red pill - the red pill finds you. Amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:51 AM
3

Excellent points. Something to chew on for sure. I just read a post on TRP sub that is like an extended and refined version of this concept. Highly recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:01 PM
1

I didn't even have to say it LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:23 AM
1

How did you get to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:05 PM
1

First of all, it's only stressful if you give a fuck what they think. Ascribing more weight to strangers' opinions than your own is a recipe for a mental health disaster. Separately, if you're on a date, why would the woman leave knowing that you're not experienced in relationships/sex? Hell, what would it even take for that topic to come up? Lacking the social acuity/discernment to avoid topics/energy like that miiight just be part of the problem. Perhaps it's less about the lack of experience …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 06:52 PM
1

Men just want to feel special, valued, and respected. As a whole, men are just less respectable than ever AND women are less respectful than ever. That's the problem. The whole "grass is always greener" mindset being perpetuated by the internet and social media doesn't exactly help.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 08:05 PM
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Big goals
/r/seduction28/09/25 07:30 AM
4

This, right here, is knowing the difference between "No." & "NoOoOo hehe" ...
/r/seduction23/09/25 06:04 PM
2

The answer is objectively yes. You're trying too hard to quantify something with such high variety - and a high variety species. I see what you're getting at but there are too many cases on both sides to really make a solid argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:42 AM
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Same thing though.
/r/seduction10/09/25 12:14 AM
3

You're telling me we are supposed to enjoy human interaction? Mind fucking blown bro
/r/seduction06/09/25 12:28 AM
2

Because men allow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:35 PM
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You're telling me that we have to do the same thing as every other man throughout history/prior to this generation? If it didn't work, you wouldn't be here. Git gud, human interactions are fun once you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:30 PM
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She would basically have to be a cuck for that to happen. & As close to perfect as is humanly possible, otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:28 PM
1

For the best tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:50 PM
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Would you want someone to date you because they're bored?
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:04 PM
1

You forgot the most important part: what variables would make him MOST attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:27 PM
1

Early 30s I think youngsters are mostly interested in the end result than learning a skill, charming someone, and mutual connection. It exists, but those people aren't loud enough.
/r/seduction27/08/25 04:17 PM
4

OnLine Dating Someone once said "days of OLD" and I was thinking the phrase. Times-a changing...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:27 PM
4

How about offer equal to or more of those women offer men? How about asking why that is instead of how to stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 11:04 PM
1

Hey. Watch it.
/r/seduction23/08/25 07:19 PM
6

"Heyyy"
/r/seduction22/08/25 07:31 PM
9

Great knowledge + dogshit communication = mediocre message I like where your head is at. Grammar will help clear up your tone.
/r/seduction22/08/25 02:30 PM
4

Being shitty pays.
/r/seduction20/08/25 03:10 PM
4

I've had 3 women tell me they were celibate in the past month.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:33 PM
1

What we hate in ourselves we hate in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:06 AM
1

What is your budget for improving your image?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:40 PM
3

You would think that, wouldn't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:02 AM
1

I don't try to change women. I converse with them and they learn to respect and understand someone who doesn't agree with them, and vice versa. Sometimes they follow the leader, sometimes it's "agree to disagree." So many guys do try to change women though, and it is a lost cause. Lead by example, not convincing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:01 AM
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This. It is amazing to watch people red pill themselves without even knowing it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:05 AM
1

Believing that is the only factor is the issue. I know being a victim is a relief and all. But excellence is even more relieving.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:01 AM
1

Become less unattractive & more attractive The process starts with believing it is possible. & It is. But do you have the courage to see that? Because it requires taking responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:52 PM
1

If the question has "can" in it, the answer is probably yes. If the question has "always" in it, the answer is probably no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:32 PM
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So in other words he's right
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 08:35 PM
3

Spot-fucking-on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 07:19 AM
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They just (usually) lack the father that, once upon a time, would have raised them consciously and guided their decision-making. In damn near every household.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:48 PM
1

The grass isn't greener on the other side It's redder where the blood of its comrades spills
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 10:39 PM
1

Years of practice my friend. Once you realize her comment is fear in disguise, it becomes a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:57 PM
9

Fincels
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 08:28 PM
0

Just remember, if you pick flowers, you're essentially a murderer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 08:27 PM
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I agree men are getting in their own way. Being resentful and insulting gets nobody anywhere but backwards and distant. That's boy behavior. It sounds like you and your fiancé had naturally aligned intentions and didn't have to compromise. THAT is what I'm getting at. It does not go so smoothly for most. Women often compromise and end up with someone who is a better fit holistically but didn't arouse the same feral feelings within her, especially initially. For better or worse tbh - feelings go …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:10 PM
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You are blessed to have both feral attraction and commitment. May that last for a lifetime. However, many do not have such luck. It is often one or the other. The guy here is not seeing himself as "lesser" simply because it was a casual hookup. It's not simple jealousy. It's deeper than that. He finds himself wondering what physical or personality traits he is lacking since he didn't organically spark that fire within her like "the hookup guy" did. & That is a fair question. Because as I'm sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:53 PM
3

Can you give an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:04 PM
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I'd literally love that. Saves so much energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 03:57 PM
2

What a great answer
/r/seduction22/06/25 05:27 PM
1

"I'm a professional passion hunter." Idk have fun with it, dlip it around, change the subject, lead her on without lying, etc.
/r/seduction22/06/25 05:11 PM
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Why does it have to be the most possible dramatic scenario? No one wants an altar, and if they do, that's just as problematic. Why can't she just admire him more than most? Can't she just make him feel special? Isn't that the point? Honestly, based on your language, you seem like someone who often gets told that you're not expressive or that you don't care. If that is even remotely true, I encourage you to lean into being more open and honest about how you feel, when you feel it, to whom you fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:59 PM
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What a great topic/question. I give you props, OP. My answer is... not inherently. It is a delicate balance between personality traits and physical attraction that likely changes per person, but yields some generalized patterns, such as: "If her masculine demeanor outweighs my attraction to her [the feminine], then forget it." I've been in that scenario before and literally went from nearly naked to taking her home.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 09:50 PM
1

Keep it up brother, just don't outright lie to her through the process. Tryna cling to her approval via deception is a Grade-A reputation ruiner.
/r/seduction08/06/25 02:37 AM
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If she likes you and is feminine, it will be refreshing in ways most men these days do not understand.
/r/seduction06/06/25 06:40 PM
1

Lost in a world that doesn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:35 PM
2

Start with the Mystery Method
/r/seduction02/06/25 03:02 PM
5

Find one in the field and make a friend.
/r/seduction01/06/25 11:10 PM
2

It's less about seduction methods and more about the lack of emotional groundedness in your lack of experience (because that's all it is). I'm sure those topics and concepts amplified or exposed a lot of self-doubt in ways you weren't conscious of before. It gives you something to work on. Use it as fuel.
/r/seduction01/06/25 06:15 PM
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I've only dated the latter long-term. For short-term idc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:05 PM
1

Higher standards in what way(s) though?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 05:34 AM
4

What you say has merit - but the two are not mutually exclusive. It can be true that the man should "improve and try again" AND that women/people are more dismissive than ever before in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 05:24 AM
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Because men and women are opposites. Congratulations, you cracked the game. Save some for the rest of us.
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:46 PM
90

Rave
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:43 PM
10

Wish people saw this part of TRP rather than Andrew Tate clips or PsychologyToday articles
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:31 PM
1

"I could get used to that."
/r/seduction30/05/25 02:20 PM
2

Goodness. I'd love to.
/r/seduction28/05/25 01:59 AM
2

Are you sure you're not trying to say attraction vs arousal?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 02:27 PM
15

Can you please acknowledge what was actually said to you? I was so curious how you would refute the commenter's actual point, but you just made it about the male equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:02 PM
1

That must be why women cheat more, even if slightly Cracked the code
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:09 PM
0

Because men's value doesn't decrease when we have more partners - it's the opposite. That is a man who has gotten the approval of other women, which is reflective of his value, which makes other women want to take their chance on him. The more valuable, the more women line up, and the more excusable being a "man hoe" is. Meanwhile, the same can't be true for women because sex is more consequential, hoe or not. HER hoeing around is exposing herself to that risk (pregnancy) more often, which is ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:27 PM
1

The situation you posit is as close as it can be to this reality, so yes, I would. But not without standards/discipline/restraint. That's one lesson abundance (even relative to most) can teach a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:46 AM
1

Absolutely. The difference in attitudes is staggering.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:40 AM
1

I'd venture that I need zero women, and any women that are in my circle are because I enjoy their presence and want them there. Your tone makes it sound like you resent guys who do want more than one. Have you witnessed that cause trouble in your life? I get what you're saying and agree to an extent. Men tend to go overboard expressing their desires but not provide enough value and safety to warrant a healthy monogamous relationship, let alone one where he sleeps with others. You don't have to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:53 AM
2

This. So much this. The most healthy and fun dating/relationship dynamics involve attracting her to you, not having to chase/convince her. Every other guy does that. Your energy - conveyed with body language/nonverbals/behaviors - should be enough to st least interest her, provided you're decently socialized. From there, just keep conversation lighthearted/playful and plant a seed of curiosity in her mind. & You do this by becoming someone worth being attracted to. Someone interesting. Someone f…
/r/seduction13/05/25 04:22 PM
2

Homegirl just kamui'd herself to another world then wonders why men are confused
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:49 AM
1

Maybe the same traits that lead to failure to find a partner are correlated with the traits that let unhealthy coping mechanisms etc fester. Lack of clarity. Lack of proactivity/action. Lack of communication - holding it all in. Who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:06 PM
1

There is a difference between advising someone to stay single/alone and advising them that it'd benefit them to be perfectly okay with being alone before they seek out an entire other person to spend the rest of their existence with. It's just that people get lost in the extremes. Needs moar nuance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:04 PM
0

You just described unworthy in different words.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:06 PM
1

About a year ago, I asked 10 women in my life between 20-30 if they would rather be approached in-person or online. 9 out of the 10 said they'd rather be approached in real life. My experience may not paint the picture for all of womankind, but it does say something... Women crave connection and communication from men. Most women in the west seem to be starved of the respectable boldness [from men] that requires walking up to someone and sparking conversation. As a result, they often take whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:52 PM
2

Taking non-physical action towards fulfilling an emotional interest or desire with another, while in a committed relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 07:39 PM
1

Not love you. Make you feel loved. Otherwise, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 08:21 AM
2

Excellent summary, damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:45 AM
1

What if the same thing that makes you want to settle down is correlated with your dry spell
/r/seduction25/04/25 12:44 AM
2

LOL holy shit. What a gem. Thank you.
/r/seduction24/04/25 06:20 PM
7

Honey, don't expose yourself 🥺
/r/seduction23/04/25 06:19 PM
3

Would most guys lie to their wives, break their vows, and live with it every day? Probably not. Would most men indulge in a guilt-free opportunity to sleep with another woman or women if they could (and knew no additional weight would be added to his actual relationship) - absofuckinglutely. We almost all want variety, whether we act on it or not - and women would benefit most by not taking that fact personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 02:46 PM
4

Less concerned with others opinions/social standing It's called "having balls" for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:11 AM
1

That could be true! Though far from always. Think of it this way: Red Pill for dating is the equivalent of therapy for mental health. Are you a loser for needing help? Failing? Having low self image and focusing on appealing others over yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:18 PM
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What's the first name/label a woman calls another woman they're upset at? What about the second? Exactly. Checkmate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:04 PM
5

Bro hit her with the mangekyo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:21 PM
3

(She's always like this)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:42 PM
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That doesn't weird you out at all? (The fact that she consistently brings it up - not the preference itself)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:22 PM
1

My goat 🐐
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 01:49 AM
2

It's that homie has not integrated it into who he is. He made it who he is. He then communicated it, in perhaps his biggest mistake. This was all preventable. But he had to go through it. & OP, I'm glad you called him on it (and also researched it) - it will craft him into a fine man and you into an (even more) astute lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:51 AM
3

Changing the definition doesn't change reality. I like what you're getting at, but "shoulds" don't pay the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:19 PM
1

How's that working?
/r/seduction28/02/25 03:59 PM
28

Holy fuck, you encapsulated that beautifully. & I'm speaking as a straight guy. Made me want to send this to women I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:48 PM
3

Man, I could do so much with those three topics alone. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:13 PM
1

Can you expand on what you mean by rhetoric? I know what the word means, but I'm curious how that manifested. Perhaps even worth a thread of its own 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:09 PM
1

It's mind-boggling. One of those things that still doesn't make full sense even when you understand it Perhaps because of how vocally they complain about dating, and then proceed to pick the worst of society.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:03 PM
1

That would repulse me. What about this is natural again? The part where she has to ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:07 PM
0

No ship is steered by two captains. When a waiter gets your order wrong, which one of you flags them down and corrects it? When shit hits the fan, who is first to be proactive in handling it? Who is in a position of comforting the other more often? There you have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:58 PM
1

I strangely support this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:09 AM
1

How you treat yourself dictates how others will treat you. Not always. But with general accuracy. For example, your Reddit photo is only your body, in a short dress that is skin-tight. What am I left to gather from that? I'll leave that up to you. Regardless, it wouldn't justify harassment one bit. But if/when I have a daughter, it will be painfully clear that dressing certain ways "invites" certain types of behavior and treatment, especially from boys. You can't control everything, but you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:37 PM
1

Lmao it's hard to even call those titties
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:39 AM
6

No consequences
/r/seduction13/02/25 06:27 AM
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This response is art.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:23 PM
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The term you're looking for is virtue signaling. Godspeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:01 AM
1

Normally I'd agree but the energy behind the words is different than most. Consider enlightenment, widely considered to be the height of spiritual ascension. But, what many don't know is that enlightenment is not the end of the road. Why? Because the world is bigger than you - so even if you achieve enlightenment, what good is that if you do not help your fellow man? Same logic applies here. Wanting to help =/= wanting to brag or flex. The mindset being presented here is immensely valuable hones…
/r/seduction07/02/25 03:57 PM
2

Bro leveled up to an Enlightened Player. Seriously, I love this. Keep it up. Just don't run yourself ragged on some kind of crusade high horse.
/r/seduction06/02/25 05:34 PM
3

I think he has enough options to simply not care
/r/seduction06/02/25 05:29 PM
3

Both well said and unfortunately true. Byproduct of a selfish society. & This type of behavior often leads to men not doing the things they "should" be doing - leading, initiating, dates, etc. Which then amplifies the bad behavior and nagging from the women. Hell of a feedback loop. Then eventually someone gets cheated on and the cycle repeats with someone new 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:13 PM
1

Correlation =/= Causation
/r/seduction29/01/25 03:42 AM
0

They don't want solutions. Sometimes just gotta let em emotional vomit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:59 AM
7

Speaking from a man's perspective. Dating is the only domain in life in which you get rewarded for trying less. This is separate from self-analysis, studying human nature, etc.
/r/seduction25/01/25 12:47 AM
1

Post things that debunk it? So, YOUR definition of reality. Got it. Your logic makes you seem like a plant whose own vines block it from sunlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:23 AM
1

Except it would be by choice LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:18 AM
1

Sharing the fruits of your labor with another is satisfying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:48 AM
3

I'm sure you would, "delusional-gf" ;) Imagine how many hours and how much energy would be saved if everyone just...did that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:20 AM
5

It's when some small issue of the present reopens this deep one-sided wound, and certain women become out of control and feel the need to use anything from that man's history that they feel would "win" her the argument and/or deflate his ego. She resented his weakness, then weaponized it against him. Most men have been through this. Though every woman would say "I don't do that!" Okay, let's see what happens when someone who has been thoroughly vulnerable with you pushes the right buttons on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:18 AM
3

You are beautiful for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:42 PM
9

How do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:08 PM
2

So you just decided that without hearing/witnessing it? Yeah, I can't feel bad for you. It's a product of your own creation.
/r/seduction09/01/25 06:38 PM
1

You will have no women and you will like it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:20 PM
1

Ugh so controlling! Sexist! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:33 PM
2

Well fuckin said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 12:01 AM
0

Well said. But how do we do it? I'm so glad you asked. Men need to learn to not be so reactive. If you are putting her in her place or enforcing a boundary, let her huff and puff. Don't take the bait to argue or justify yourself - if I want the conversation to be over, best believe the conversation is fuckin over. Any unresolved bits can be addressed at a more responsible and stable time. If you take the bait, it will be like TWO pigs rolling in mud. Personally, I would rather watch and help her…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:42 AM
0

Precisely. Red Pill: improvement/growth mindset. Blue Pill: victim/fixed mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 08:27 PM
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Wait til you learn about archetypes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:13 PM
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Apathy is a double-edged sword. You protect yourself from the unpleasant while also shielding yourself from the pleasant. Think about it. What if you were about to sleep with someone and he didn't react to your body? I'd guess you would rather feel desired, just by someone you trust, in a safe environment. As opposed to... neither (aka what you described). I agree it would be nice if men in particular were a tad less animalistic, but at the end of the day, it's up to you whether you care or not.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:52 PM
1

The reason they got divorced is likely intertwined (or, identical to) their struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:57 PM
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Great way to cull the genetics of some of the most unstable female mates possible. Another win for the Gene pool 🤘
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:20 AM
1

Suppose that's true, it's on us men for allowing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 08:47 PM
3

Those in that age group were brought up on significantly more technology as well, so it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:33 AM
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Yes, that is called being humbled. It is a necessary step to understand your place in the world, and to become a man who can look that truth in the eye - and hopefully doing something to change that. If you succumb to your feelings in that moment, that's all you are worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:36 AM
6

Exactly. Omission is the play.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:01 PM
2

Thank you, missed that detail. That means she threw it out VERY recently. Which means it either ended days ago, or she threw it out "for" me (which would appear more as sneakery than curteousness).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:33 AM
1

People will tell you a lot if you know what questions to ask and what to look for in the answer. This applies both verbally and nonverbal; I've learned more from how she answers a question than the answer itself, which is filtered to some extent. I would start by asking if that was an ex, as to prevent building a story that is a fabrication of my own mind. If the answer is yes, I would ask what made her leave him. Depending on our level of seriousness, I may or may not ask why she feels the need…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:40 PM
1

The tone and body language during her response would be quite telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:30 PM
3

Because we want to be appreciated for who we are. The wealth is not who he is. The problem is when HE doesn't know that, leads with his wallet, and expects her to "love him for him." The money - and all it buys - is merely an external manifestation of certain traits, like commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:04 PM
3

The nuance here is that women are statistically more likely to stick around through hardship (and deal with negative traits) when he has more money. Ironically, the more money he has, generally the more "resilient" a woman will be in a relationship. It can be hard for her to find or recreate that lifestyle if she left him, so it makes sense to some degree. Doesn't mean she married him solely for the money... but in many cases she has STAYED for the money... and grown resentful... which paints he…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:59 PM
-2

So, emotionally convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:41 PM
28

I'm curious about your bio now, because for me, getting the match is at least half the battle. Well played though. She made that shit into a lay-up for you.
/r/seduction31/10/24 04:38 PM
1

While this is true, it doesn't take away from the content of the original post. They're not mutually exclusive; they can both exist. I once had brief access to a girl's Tinder account, so I decided only to swipe on men who seemed respectable. & Holy fuck. Very few fit that. These profiles were too: Creepy. Angry. Silly. Try hard. Desperate. Sloppy/unrefined. And then wonder why they don't hook anyone. It's like many guys lack the ability to consider how they are perceived to anyone else. It's un…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:17 PM
1

How often do you get matches?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:07 PM
1

Hinge technically, but you need one of the premium subscriptions or you only get 5-8 free swipes a day (last I checked), which hardly yields any fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:06 PM
1

How are your results?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:59 PM
1

Child-free, naturally, until I found my husband. Is this really even a question? Better yet, what are you getting at by asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:06 AM
5

Should the leader not act first? What am I missing here? Things have to start somewhere. Not to be confused with her taking initiative in showing/expressing desire. I think most of us would find that attractive on some level, because we're used to having to be the one to get shit going.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:52 PM
2

Accept yourself regardless of what some random has to say.
/r/seduction20/10/24 07:13 PM
1

Oh I bet. High school era music hits different. Throw it on in the shower and see what happens...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:38 PM
0

Stop needing. Transmute that need into a want. As in, "She would be a nice addition to my life."
/r/seduction18/10/24 08:13 PM
1

Oh I ABSOLUTELY do not. I have more tact than to talk about this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:23 PM
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I challenge you to find one man who has smashed hundreds of women. Or even 100. Or 50. I doubt you know one. Unless you count me. Surprise! Even if you don't approve of or resonate with this man's feat, you have to respect it. To some extent, he had to earn each of those lays, even if a handful were easy. Just so happens modern women are - generally, but not always - quicker to give it up because of modern female empowerment, sexual failsafes like abortion/birth control, etc. You ever hear women…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:22 PM
0

There is a difference between being funny and being goofy. Goofy is childish and unattractive, and often to gain attention. Laughter is child-like and displays healthy regulated emotions. Though they differ, I find that both are best in small doses, honestly. Simply trying not to laugh - and thus neutering your own personality - to appear X way will probably end up having the exact opposite effect... There is a difference between that and having a more stern/less "silly" demeanor.
/r/seduction15/10/24 09:03 PM
1

You don't. Let her bring it up. But don't lie about it.
/r/seduction14/10/24 10:22 PM
1

Please speak more on that because I can't conceive it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:37 PM
0

Very well played, if true. Some would even call it smooth. Let us know if that happens/how it goes~
/r/seduction04/10/24 06:03 PM
1

3,000,000 IQ
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:27 PM
2

Beautifully said, through and through.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 06:10 PM
3

Our lowest self gives in to lust and other temptations. The self we know we should be is against it. Another way to put it: we would fuck these [OF] girls, but not take them seriously as long-term partners. Both can exist. It isn't so black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 05:20 PM
1

In short, it depends on how the relationship manifests. To call it all black or white would be the height of human foolishness. It would be healthier for the individuals AND society as a whole if sex was a byproduct of good relationships/intimacy, though. But perhaps the absence of that is a contributor to our current (broken) dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:50 PM
1

Don't make her qualify herself next time. Asking her effectively what she brings to the table screams low-value - and one too many F&F pods. But this girl wouldn't know that. Make her laugh, make her wonder, make her cum. It's simple. Maybe not always easy, but simple. In the meantime I recommend sharpening your English.
/r/seduction22/09/24 09:48 PM
1

Very important point(s) - not to be overlooked!
/r/seduction22/09/24 09:45 PM
0

You actually didn't. Read it again. Slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:13 PM
4

Yes, because men love variety. It's what most of us inherently want, at some point, whether we say it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:12 PM
2

More vibrant. More curious. Less experienced = less comparison. Less settled, so more adventurous. More malleable, which helps if you're an actual dominant. You don't have to be a manipulative piece of shit to leave a (positive) impression/impact/imprint on someone. No one talks about that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:55 PM
1

I've come to learn that older women want exclusivity more often and more quickly. As someone who isn't fully ready to start a life with someone ASAP, younger women simply make more sense - to a certain group of men, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:50 PM
1

Zander x Sartain?
/r/seduction14/09/24 12:04 AM
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I'm aware. Heard some horror stories. Just answering your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:39 AM
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In theory: More attractive > get more chances (dates/sex) > more practice > more experience > more skill/technique
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:11 AM
1

Sounds like the embodiment of a "numbers game" - no?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 05:30 PM
1

Hell yeah. & In a way that directly addresses some of the biggest qualms with online dating as a whole. Fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:20 AM
1

Fuck it, take 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 02:11 AM
1

Genius. It's like the lovechild (lol) of dating apps + speed dating. Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:48 AM
2

The way we show sexual desire can be different from how women do. Between that difference and the fact that we are in the most poorly socialized generation of men (humans) thus far, many male expressions of desire are misinterpreted, terribly executed, or just outright unwanted. This has come to be expected of us in a sense, which is why there's less collective judgment. But if a man's efforts become public, and they're deemed cringe, it can do so much damage to him and his life. & That is why l…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:09 PM
1

I'd make the drive for this here movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:57 PM
1

Lmao. These replies. Like fucking clockwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 05:06 PM
2

Men hunt, women choose. The hunt is more intentional, thus holding more power. The choosing is oft by intuition/feeling, which gives it less weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:16 AM
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Head game better with less head.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:10 AM
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& Look at the direction we are being driven. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 04:30 PM
2

Well said. Not to mention a guy outright pursuing a relationship (which manifests as him trying to move the pace rather quickly) is often a turn-off for women. Or, at the very least, makes them question him. I've had multiple FWB tell me this over time... These days, guys are (unfortunately) better off posing as if they're seeking casual, finding a FWB, and maintaining that dynamic until she pushes for a relationship. Boom. Then the hard/expensive part starts. Gone are the days of two people hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:42 PM
2

It's called social proof. It's also responsible for girls not noticing you when you're single yet throwing themselves themselves at you when in a relationship. By being chosen by a woman, you appear to be a better choice to other women. From a biological and evolutionary standpoint, your genes are proven to be reliable - and thus would help her and a potential offspring survive.
/r/seduction24/08/24 12:08 AM
1

Damn. What a perfect and wildly accurate description. If every man read and internalized this, we would have a very different world. Also, a post from a guy named Shonenhikada WHILE I'm watching a Shonen? Iconic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:27 AM
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I've experienced the same thing. This is a common phenomenon and a strong variable as to why men date younger. They are usually less experienced, more open-minded and energetic, and less jaded (due to less baggage). It's quite refreshing. (I'm 30) One day you'll marry, too... and you'll be looking around wishing you could be where you are now. Observe, learn, and enjoy!
/r/seduction07/08/24 01:30 AM
1

Yes. This is the best and damn near only correct answer - I'll dub it 'non-sex appeal.' Many women wonder why guys only want to fuck/hook up... but few realize that they are not unique/interesting whatsoever outside the context of the bedroom. They rely on their physicality, which men have probably jumped through hoops for - but a man of substance will need more... if she expects more out of him. In this case, the wifey should be sure to sprinkle some personalized sex appeal on top. Icing on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:55 PM
7

You really just nailed that shit in one sentence. Impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:31 PM
1

Because 95% of the time, the juice isn't worth the squeeze, to be quite honest. As in, for many of us, the benefits/rewards do not outweigh the risks/negatives. It is an investment of time, energy, and often money. It comes with the risk of having to protect her if shit hits the fan in some way. We have to basically repress sexual feelings (which women don't understand the extent of, understandably). Considering what we put into it whilst do not getting what we TRULY/instincually want most out o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:57 PM
1

Women want capability. Money signals the capability to commit to something of value, stick to it, and provide for a potential family as a result. Not to mention all the luxurious things/lifestyle that would set her apart from others (in her head) - it's all so alluring while being backed up by evolution/biology. Side Note: Not all who have money are greedy. Many are. Far from "all." I'd check your relationship with money itself before even thinking about entering/attempting one with a woman... W…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:00 PM
1

What I say/think doesn't matter. What you do with the advice you were given is what matters. You got this dude!
/r/seduction18/07/24 05:13 PM
1

A pristine case of correlation =/= causation, if I do say so myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:49 PM
1

I was unironically saying that bro's advice to you was quality content. He basically gave you a soft blueprint on how to make the changes in your life to shift your results (and become more interesting in the process). Just to find out that what you do for fun is the thing that is also bringing you distress. So what I gather from that is that you tie your identity too tightly to your results, specifically in pickup. When it's working, it's great; if not, it's horrible/pointless. In reality, resu…
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:47 PM
1

You tried. Quality content though.
/r/seduction17/07/24 01:12 AM
1

99% x 1%
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:53 PM
3

Honestly, that's super fair. You did work for your money/status and deserve someone who can at LEAST keep up. It can literally multiply lifestyle potential... without any ego bruising. Imagine. I have a friend who makes less than his girlfriend. She has made numerous tiny remarks about lifestyle/making more, and I can tell the resentment is starting to creep in. Shame. All preventable. But some see the juice as worth the squeeze. Who are we to say? I can appreciate your self-awareness, as well a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:25 PM
16

Such is the essence of polarity. (When's the wedding?)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:03 AM
2

What a pristine response. Saving this one for a rainy day. I'll add to it: Those who are socialized get women, and those who get women are perceived as safer bets. "Safer bets" for the woman's physical wellbeing & for the survival of their (potential) offspring. Just so happens that taller men with muscles fit the mold/perception of being more capable, even if it's not true. Those who aren't are more prone to trying to prove they are, as you said. They also lack the discipline required to contro…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:58 PM
5

Whether or not "it" will get better depends on whether or not 'you' will get better. My #1 tip is to become aware of what you did right when you succeeded, what went wrong when you failed, and to become conscious of female nature - the good, the bad, and the ugly. The first two are only possible by experience; the third can at least start with raw knowledge (including others' experiences). Questions to consider: What behaviors/attitudes led to the 3 lays you DID get? What went right in each of t…
/r/seduction11/06/24 05:22 PM
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