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You're not fooling me at all. You don't seem to understand the viewpoints from a male perspective, that's all I'm saying
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/26 07:00 AM
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Anger is sometimes the gift. It helps you break the loyalty and implicit promises you made to someone who is no longer there. I'm still fucked up but anger helped me reframe exactly what someone was doing to me , and helps break that bond. Good luck to you and all who share our predicament
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/26 03:59 AM
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The humiliation is also sometimes when the person who decides to burn the family down slowly learns that the grass ain't always greener. I'll go eat alone today you can fix that fence that fell down by yourself tomorrow. And good luck with the car problems and when the home power goes out , I'm sure my replacement will step on up
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/26 02:30 AM
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She's telling you that you can be free except you've got to pick the locks yourself. She doesn't know where the keys are anymore. Get those chains off , smile , then run. Your kid is your only concern now
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/26 09:27 PM
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🎵🎵 hello Karma, my old friend 🎵🎵
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/26 07:36 AM
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Let's not pretend that a wife/ no wife is 100% of your life. Work is 1/3. Sleep and nutrition is 1/3. Now that last 3rd is hobbies , friends if you have any , family , pets , fixing shit around the house , car issues , free time , books & music &movies , projects , moving your money around and finally , the love of your life. Even in the best circumstances, the love of your life is only a small sliver of your life . And that's ok , stop thinking it's a bigger slice than it reality is. And this w…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 07:24 PM
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Once they've dated all the reserves that have been cultivated over the years, no one tells them tattooed 40y.o single mothers just aren't the same without the Snapchat and ig filters😭😭😭
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 01:50 AM
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There's many other dudes in the same or similar or very different situation as you but the yield is all the same. This woman has no respect for you . There's no way you can continue this and retain your sanity. And when fate steps in , she gets ill , she decides she doesn't wanna work anymore or job asks her to leave cuz she fucked too many coworkers, how the hell would you provide or caretake this woman knowing what she does when she has the upper hand. Please get counseling, read the books wat…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 03:12 AM
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You can choose her or you can choose you , but you're gonna have to make a choice. You're both not in the same boat and you towing her for years doesn't change that
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 11:09 PM
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If I had trusted my instincts from the beginning I would've been ok. I was so attracted and infatuated that I kept moving my boundaries, eventually no boundaries at all. She lived a lie for a long time , I was never the wiser. Finally she simply dumped me and moved one of the side guys in. 15 years together 2 kids not 1 conversation to say , im hiding information that directly affects your life & I have a roster of dudes and you didn't make the new team. It hurts but I'm glad that she's gone now…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 05:38 AM
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Obviously you're being very level- headed and reasonable. I wish you the best .
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 04:58 AM
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Good luck dude. I fear you're going to need it. She has shown you exactly who she is .
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 04:20 AM
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The reassurance is this is gonna hurt like hell then you will be ok . You will survive this . But you have to want to get well , actively. If a person sits at phone with a photo album and a 12pack listening to your favorite love songs alone every Friday nite , do they really wanna be free of all this pain ?
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 10:14 PM
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Remember too that Billy Joel , Ric Ocasek , Phil Collins , I can keep going if you like , all were devastated when their wives walked out on them. So all the money , talent , looks , can't save you from people with no ethics no honor no ability to bond. So chin up and go make your best life fellas. I'm in this club .
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 07:36 PM
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Its time to take the long , painful , walk away . Now. And know that a bazillion other men all different looks , humor , wealth , all successfully are doing the same thing. On your way out your brain likes to play you highlight reels of your dead relationship, enjoy it but don't fall for that shit it just keeps you stuck. You see homeless dudes along the road pushing a cart with their crack girlfriend walking a little behind. You see dudes you know you're better looking than with attractive heal…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:51 PM
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When the postman actually wrote the ransom note he doesn't get to say Don't Shoot the messenger
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 07:57 PM
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No one leaves a relationship to start watching netflix reruns by themselves. 99.9 % she has prepared someone new to soften the landing. It doesn't matter , she's already gone. And you need to be gone now too. Easier said than done but at least you have a map now. Run and never look back. Never. Look. Back.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:44 AM
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I bankrupted myself fighting custody and visitation. There were canceled visits and arguments in police station parking lot child exchanges. Ultimately she married a guy who drinks a lot and they throw each other around. Good for them . My daughter came to me when she aged out , wanted to go college but momma and husband are always broke , no savings they both like to spend. Promise you , my daughter moved back to my state and finished college last year . She rarely even small talks to her mom a…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 08:30 PM
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The kids will mostly always come back to you, years later or sooner. There's exceptions, but you won't be one of those. Your partner will break under the financial/ emotional/tactical/ personal , issues that come with attempting to successfully single parent your children. It will age them 10 years in barely 2 or 3. Whether your children live next door or 7 states away , you need to be the best version of you. Healthy, fit , groomed , rich daddy. I want to say that you're brain is playing mad tr…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 06:47 PM
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At 53 I learned that love is not enough. If one or both people lacks relationship skills or morals & ethics , we're gonna live miserably regardless of who loves who. If one or both are on psychiatric meds , that's also a difficult life. All the while leaving an inheritance of walking-on-eggshells for any children that have to live thru that shit. It's a negative feedback loop that no one wants
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 04:45 AM
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And sooner rather than later, momma will have a special friend that you know absolutely nothing about
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:40 PM
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This was not your person. This was not your person. This was not your person. Give yourself grace & forgive yourself for what you didn't know & allow yourself time to grow and heal . Be the very best father you can be. Enjoy the ride friend. Many in this sub we are all experiencing similar , or different, but it's a shared pain. Wagmi
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 02:12 AM
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And that peace is only even possible once you cut the cancer out of your life. Don't romanticize toxic people just because you're scared to be alone. Live your best life
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 07:16 PM
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There's erasing a past , vs. maintaining a shrine to a long dead relationship. Because of the nature of abandonment and betrayal some people get stuck in a negative feedback loop and keeping mementos and pictures and old Valentines day cards simply allows you to go pain shopping when you wanna play sad songs and pretend that your past has more value than your future. Therapy helps clear shit up.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 12:31 AM
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Some people are not capable of loving supportive relationships, so they check out mentally early , then point the blame at the partner who remains. The perfect crime. But it's true that when a couple breaks up the person who dates immediately afterward is the one who cannot bond
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 05:18 PM
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I can't understand this. No one died. This person still walks the earth and confidently left - like they said I don't want to walk this life with you - and so in the future if there's money problems , they chose this for themselves. And honestly chose it for me too it just didn't work out that way , yet. A woman leaves even though the man might drink himself or pill himself out but she leaves anyway. She don't care. Except If she needs money ?? No thank you. You want out , this is out .
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:24 AM
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And new dude ain't gonna last. It's not always anything he says or does, it's that momma has learned she can monkeybranch with no penalty ' I'm still hot and other men desire me too ' . That thought pattern alone guarantees rough seas ahead. And dude is only being told what a monster you are , you're selfish , arrogant, don't pay shit , lol. She had to sell a lie to prove she's not a garden tool. 90% it's gonna fail , trust
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 11:33 PM
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Honestly that could be the alternate name for this sub r/marriagesthatmeantnothing . And itd be correct. We have to cut losses and move on , the exes already did that. They don't come back for love , it wasn't there when they left.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 07:35 AM
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Like the song says, ' anger is a gift '. I was hurt with non stop ruminations day and night , zquill to pass out , the betrayal defined me. When I started to hate her I could finally begin to accept and walk away. I was surprised the magic ingredient was so effective. We have children I've asked her to text only because when I look at her or hear her talk now I feel disgusted , angry , sick. And she has new boyfriends already , so not a care in the world. But hate saved me , lol , who would've g…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 09:17 PM
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I must disagree. Converting my pain to anger, until I can reach a place called Healing is the only way I can get out of bed every morning. I surrendered so many boundaries only to still be discarded effortlessly and ruthlessly. I'm angry that my ex knew this would kill me , and still chose this for me. I'm angry that I gave so much in so many ways , repeatedly, and have been dismissed and replaced , smoothly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 05:27 AM
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Happy Father's Day dude. In any silence at least we can teach our children what quiet dignity looks like. Use your time to accomplish and achieve personal goals and dreams and maybe the kids come back around , and maybe they don't , but nothing worse than waiting for company that never rsvp's and never shows up
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 07:46 PM
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' her mistake ' represents a thousand micro-decisions. They decide to exchange contact info , they secretly communicate, she smiles at you in the kitchen , she hides her phone / ringer off/ always face down/texting in the bathroom 'my stomaches upset ' , then picking out her outfit to meet loverboy, lying about where she's at/went, spending money on food /gas/new underwear to impress new guy, honeypot suppositories and vagisil purchases to keep it extra fresh for work friend Mike , a cheating sp…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 07:12 PM
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How To Be a Doormat . Believe all the lies. Surrender your self respect and self esteem. Eliminate any boundaries that are reasonable or protect you. Ignore the example that you are setting for your children. Enjoy sloppy seconds/thirds from your wife who is getting fucked in cars in various parking lots in town. Start smoking and drinking and eating as much fast food as possible hoping your heart will quit early
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 07:39 PM
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And after you contact him , contact me too. You're under incredible pain and you see an answer that will make it stop for you but then transfers that pain to someone or someones' else. Give yourself a timeline for things to ease up , even a little, so you don't make a permanent solution to a temporary problem
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 01:46 AM
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There's very few battles that define our lives . How we act and react in those battles are the mind memories we will cringe or cherish later, when the teeth are gone and only jello , soup , mush , for the one meal a day is adequate enough. if this is your hill to die on , ignore the money and 'smart' thing , and fight all the way. You truly love your pet , or you're truly petty , it doesn't matter since you're willing to foot the emotional and financial costs that will result. I say fight then ,…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 01:26 AM
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Or , she's just waiting for the next guy that gives her the dog- and -pony show attention at which point " we've never been compatible" & " I don't love you in that way anymore " will be reintroduced. Run OP, run. She's shown you exactly who she is
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 06:29 AM
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Happy for you man . Kids are the most important
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 10:56 PM
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It's tough but will get easier , then you'll learn from this and grow. There's therapists , books , videos , podcasts all aimed at helping you heal and prosper off of this. Find what resonates with you and you'll have a guide to lead you out of this. All the best to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 09:59 PM
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A difference is that alot of women base their persona on their face , body , appearance. Tinder snapchat insta make it easy to trade away the honeypot for great exaggerated validation and ass kissing. But time does what it does , and people end up alone , lonely , spent , and bitter. While dudes are already used to this shit , the wannabe homecoming queen gets to learn. And it's well deserved. So I'll see you at the lake or see you at the gym or see you at the car meet , while the endgame awaits…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 01:10 AM
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I don't wanna tiptoe thru the minefield. But typically stepdad is in for a rude awakening once the kids go off to live their lives , just like even biological parents are , but worse. All his time effort & love aren't gonna save him from mom redefining herself , again , and he's gonna be wheeled out to the curb. Thanks for helping me raise my kids big fella , and out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 05:46 PM
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it hurts your kids more to watch Dad live on his knees during the best years of your life. You can show your children what boundaries, great co-parenting, and dignity look like. And they can take those lessons into adulthood and do whatever they want with them
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 06:09 AM
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Cheaters don't change and no one can rewrite a Betrayal , so there's really NOTHING to save. I know of no actual successful reconciliation, it's just two cowards agreeing to live in shit temporarily, because the cheater will always find a way to hurt you again
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 08:59 PM
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Sorry man but I want to believe your truth. But I know what I see , personally witness , and learn from others' experience. A relationship is two people. No way in hell you and you alone destroyed this unless , prison , f drug addiction , compulsive gambler , many affairs , other babies not from her , and coincidentally those are some of the guys some women actually pick to leave the marriage over. You're being too hard on yourself because if you're the reason there's no more confusion 1+1=2. Yo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 10:18 PM
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DM anytime man
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 07:44 PM
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A person who has affairs or destroys the family never cares about the kids benefit
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 01:41 AM
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Absolutely. perimenopause is a myth , vaping is actually good for your lungs and lifelong eating salt and sugar to escape boredom actually is a health benefit. Name the research you speak of playa
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 08:59 PM
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Who people are in the end, is who they truly are. The mask is off so start taking her off the pedestal , and don't build a shrine for later. You both deserve to find happiness and that ship has left. All business from here on out
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:55 PM
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Your dedication to absent- her speaks of you , not her. But you need to instruct yourself or get the right therapist, to teach your brain that this task is complete. No one wants to be that Japanese soldier Onoda and others , who remained combatants in a war that was long finished , lost even. It's time to put the thought , efforts , intentions , directed inward only. And you deserve to spoil yourself .
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 08:14 PM
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Your photos are up, the same way people honor their dead. It hasn't stopped her from letting other men nut inside her , not in the least. Take what you've learned and any new growth and go build a life with someone else , clean slate. Anything else you're just rooting thru trash that you yourself took to the curb , it'll drive you insane.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:55 PM
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She doesn't know what she wants . Everything will just be chaos. She's left the relationship but wants to grab as much value as she can on her way out. Shouldn't give a fuck about anything she wants or how she wants it. Those days are over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 06:59 PM
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Absolutely this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 10:42 PM
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And if she even comes to you , it's only because everything else failed , run. Run . Run. You leave her with a life lesson that either gets learned or not , but you walk away with dignity and honor and a real chance to meet your real soulmate , who would never have left you in this predicament
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 10:37 PM
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Your brain is playing a nasty trick on you . The relationship is over , completely over. Being cordial and able to have cocktail pleasantries ' you look good ' ' you look good too ' shouldn't be misinterpreted. Even if your ex begged , and that's not gonna happen unless her life has truly trainwrecked, you've seen this movie already and the characters are still the same. Leonardo winds up floating on a door dying alone in the North Atlantic , him trying to white knight Kate Winslet doesn't chang…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 10:34 PM
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My ex was/is very attractive. After multiple workplace affairs some hidden some not , she finally threw me out with the trash. I showed her picture to my therapist and the therapist immediately responded ' this is the woman you want to kill yourself over ??? ' looks wise she's a 3 on a scale of 1 to 10. I was shocked , I said she's an 11 to me. When I repeated this story to someone I trust , that person said ' she's not really pretty ' but I know that you love her. Anyways , sorry the long read.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 09:19 PM
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Even more reason why you need a loyal supportive partner not the bullshit you got now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 01:23 AM
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you're not gonna love your way out of this . leave and never look back or forever sleep with one eye open
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 12:54 AM
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People believe they have a great sense of humor , that they can take a joke , and that they can lie convincingly if they need to. It's just not always true. She's gonna figure out his plan and play an uno reverse card on him. Hide assets herself , false dv claim , who knows. OP should get the fuck outta there pronto if he values his sanity and freedom
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 08:24 PM
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We've all seen people happy in the middle of a cocaine addiction , too. So it's none of my business but one day smiles or not a karmic bill has got to be paid. I can eat twinkies all day, lay around the couch , smile all the way , until the diabetes kicks in and I'm obese. So her smiling while Rome burns don't mean very much. But why do you still care
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 07:20 PM
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I use a spoon for soup but a knife and fork for steak dinner. Never vice versa. You write like a thoughtful loving person , but that is not this situation. If she's talked and flirted to other men she doesn't give a rats ass about you or your feelings. Judge her by what she does not says. She's playing house until she's ready to pull the pin and your acting sweet and loving to someone who doesn't choose you anymore. This is soup now , use the spoon
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 01:41 AM
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And you're not a fool you're just in love. your brain plays a cruel game when a man loses his wife. But none of it is real , two people are restored to single status , for the wife that won't be long. But you are a fool if you ever take her back. There's a gazillion reasons why you don't take a woman back who chose to leave you in the first place . Leave her to the streets , she chose it and reward a woman who is deserving of your love affection devotion commitment
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 08:54 PM
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Walk into the GMC motors dealership and demand they take 3000$ for what- you -think is their top of the line truck. Obviously price is set by corporate and they'll laugh you off the showroom floor. That's begging your ex- back , I'm guilty too , I lacked knowledge. But later you find out that truck you wanted is a trade-in with the odometer rolled back , high miles. And so poor sucker overpaid and now engine and electrical are fukt. They refused your begging and you're lucky just didn't know it …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 01:39 AM
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🏆🏆🏆
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 11:13 PM
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Dating apps are introduction services for women with borderline disorder. They fucked too many coworkers so they're forced to branch out
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 07:29 PM
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10000%. The new guy can take over the payments since he gets to drive the car lol. I treat everything with her as a business transaction, polite but not a doormat or fanboy. We have distance because she demanded distance
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 02:06 AM
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Your mind is playing tricks on you and her mind is playing tricks on her. But the relationship as you knew it is completely dead. That ship has sailed
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 07:39 PM
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Especially once she starts a spark with someone new. Then suddenly the whole history of the relationship is rewritten. At least every dude in here knows , you're not alone. We get out of bed and keep moving forward, whatever that means , and taking the pain and channeling it as fuel to be better, do better , live better is the way to overcome and thrive
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 07:12 PM
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That'll come crashing down , or maybe Heaven will spare her and she's blissfully unaware , but hopefully you don't care regardless because the person you once loved no longer exists, maybe she never really existed and your ex needed a new victim
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 06:52 PM
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The mind plays some crazy , crazy tricks on you when a relationship ends. But the actuality is often simpler. She stopped participating in the relationship a long time ago and the separation was completed in her mind before she finally dropped clues to you , and putting her feelers out for new supply. Your win is letting yourself grieve , then completely walking away. You're both still the same people, there's no change , and one will flourish or both will flourish, but you gotta get moving frie…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 06:48 PM
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You can have as many male work friends as you want now. She's attractive. But she's also a secretly unbalanced mid 40s single mother now too , go get em tiger
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:56 PM
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You're gonna get thru this , but it's gonna take time and you have to tell yourself to move on. You have to tell yourself to move on. One more time , you have to tell yourself to move on. She might come back , one day , but you can't wait around for that. And why would you want someone back whose already showed you they knew what they're doing would hurt you and still went thru with it.like making you kiss the knife she gonna out in your back. There's a billion other women out there or stay sing…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 10:10 PM
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there's been no accidental mistake here. Nothing. This woman you put on a pedestal wakes up every morning and makes the well-thought-out decision to discard and avoid you at all cost. She has more interest in what she's having for lunch tomorrow than your emotional condition. It's over , completely and totally over. It hurts but we're built for this , just like she's built for this , move forward now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 10:00 PM
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They love it when an ex destroys themselves, they get to say see I told you he was crazy ! And then run a GoFundMe for your funeral so they can buy that cosmetic surgery glow up , winning ! Lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 08:18 AM
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Who someone is at the end is who they always were , they no longer need to wear the mask
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 01:30 AM
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"don't touch me ! " giggles and enters The Chat. " Why do you have to do that " and " I don't like that " get warmed up
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 04:48 PM
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Ok but explain all her tattoos
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 09:07 AM
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I would tell the person who don't wanna get wet , borrow or purchase an umbrella. I would tell a person who never wants to feel heartbroken then never love. This awful price is what we all pay. No one is immune , think of every person you know even the richest most beautiful people on the planet. They've all been heartbroken. Now let's get healthy , survive , then thrive. Is there a good book your reading on relationships or infidelity right now ? Are you leaning on others , or just going it alo…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 08:25 AM
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This question like interviewing people that Harriet Tubman rescued from servitude then 2 years later : Anyone miss the plantation ?? Life is harder somewhat but what was the other option. Let her get railed in the garage while I watch TV with the kids ? Lmao
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 02:00 AM
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Go volunteer where someone can use your help. It might give you peace it might you give you perspective and it will give you the contentment that comes from helping someone less fortunate. Just Google volunteer opportunities near me , and pick one or two that resonate with you. There's a lot of regretful people in old folks homes , there's even more regretful people in the graveyard. So we're all fucked up in here but if you can survive it I can survive it and someone looking at me can survive i…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 09:35 PM
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She's pouring shots of poison at the bar , she don't care who drinks them , you're finding a nice stool and drinking 'em one at a time. This is not helping you. Stand up and get the fuck out that bar man. There's better places serving cake and punch , full buffet , you just gotta go .
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 10:01 PM
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Divorced dad with daughter here too. Regardless of age one parent decides to use a child as a pawn , doesn't make it acceptable. You can be a good father and human being and still not resonate with your child who's being psychologically manipulated. You can walk away , still pay your money , and hopefully the kid will gravitate to you once mom finds another special project. The kid might have a different view of events once they become independent. If dudes doing right and he just can't win , do…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 05:24 AM
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Don't risk incarceration over a woman who isn't your person anyhow. It hurts but it's not a real loss, even though your mind says so. This poor fucker just took a problem off your hands. They can both fuck off bro. Give it time and you'll move forward
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 07:29 AM
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Stepfather rarely get a win. Can mean well , do well , sacrifice time and energy, the child grows to a young adult and completely disappears out of your life. Only to resurface as family -of -the year with the split bio parents. It's never worth it. You get left by mom and her kids , bio dad says thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 08:13 PM
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There's a lot of ig accts , yt videos , books and podcasts , you'll have to search yourself because different things resonate with different situations. But you're not alone and you don't have to do it alone. Find your mentors to help you thru they're out there ! Stay strong man
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 05:04 AM
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I've realized that a lot of this marriage was only in my head. After 15 years I thought we were time - proven. We would share this life , the ups and downs , together. We would both have a best friend for life. But she's been miserable for years , sees a psych , on medication, fucking coworkers, lying and lying by omission , Snapchat , ig messaging, " need to get to work early / need to stay late again ". Well the jokes been on me , discarded effortlessly & easily. Back to the cheating. She's no…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 07:42 PM
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That's good for him and healthy. When he gets older , older , older he will process information differently. That's ok. He shouldn't hate his mom or see her flaws , that's your job. And it's up to you to protect your children , and you haven't been able to do that properly while living with her under the same roof. Some people , not even just women , are long for the streets. So they need be sent back to where their happiest
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 07:49 PM
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The opposite is seeing Dad slowly crushed by a woman who disrespects and belittles him in front of the kids. Running around having affairs , don't tell Dad - you better stay out of it. And then finally when her looks fade and her health takes a shit you get to be a nurse for somebody who would NEVER had done the same for you. Stuck for life. I'll take the 50/50 and a lifetime to enjoy them sooner than later , without some psycho always making everything about themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 07:43 PM
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In your situation it seems like therapy would not help. Therapist can't put morals ethics love loyalty in a person. She has no respect for you anymore and that's not gonna change now. If she ever wanted to reconcile it won't be for the reasons you want. Set her free and she'll be popular af , if not already , but that's ok. You'll be healing and rebuilding while she relives her younger years. But she'll wake up an older mess with only desperate attention from dudes who bring literally nothing to…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 06:25 PM
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You've passed your problem to a lucky guy called Sean. All the rest is simply logistics and will work itself out one way or another. Do not let her in when she tries to come back. She's showing you exactly what she values and respects you at , she doesn't. Have a great life from here on out, the pain will slowly slowly evaporate , but it will evaporate
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 01:17 AM
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Being single can be lonely and difficult. Being with the wrong person can be even more lonelier and even more difficult, everything costs suddenly double lol. I predict much healing & happiness in your future. Good on you man
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 01:08 AM
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The truth is the truth even if no one believes it , And a lie is still a lie even if everyone believes it to be true. She fucked him , has fucked him , is fucking him , or else there'd be no reason to be dishonest. Walk away with your head held high , even if you have to fake it , and move forward with your life. 8 billion people on this planet you certainly will meet one that has been dreaming of a dude like you in their life. Let your dignity and class lead you forward. Leave completely and ef…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 05:50 PM
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Deep down. Deep , deep down , you and I both know that you are gonna get thru this and really , really great things are in store for you. Just a terribly painful time until you turn that corner. But I promise you you'll rebound from this and fly higher than ever. Just gonna suck until then . So hang in there fren
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 03:27 AM
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You're overthinking everything and that's causing you to be overwhelmed. We can go for a drive and I can show you 5 or 10 people that have been dealt much worse cards than you. I'm not minimizing your pain but you're in a Safe place here in a room full of men who are actively surviving horror stories. Been cheated on lied to betrayed , stolen from , all by someone who was trusted and loyal . Lol. Right. But you can show your kid how to react with strength and dignity against what seems insurmoun…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 06:52 AM
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Who people are at the end of the relationship is actually who they were all along , the masks finally come off
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:03 PM
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I'm sorry man. But I love cats and dogs. Dogs are a lot of work but they change your life , especially when you're not doing so well , feeling down. Your ex obviously not a pet person ,maybe she just liked trophies . Could never walk away from a pet , voluntarily.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:21 AM
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Get a cat or dog from the pound. Possibly saving an animals life and in a way they're saving yours too
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 03:42 AM
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Let him cook
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:43 AM
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Keep moving fwd man. Push thru , the harder it gets the better the redemption is gonna feel. You're setting yourself up for a life defining moment if you'll just keep pushing forward
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:16 AM
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He never loved you but he certainly liked or was attracted to you sexually. Possibly you two have not much in common , nothing to converse about. Him having sex with another woman , completely unacceptable, but him leaving his pregnant partner is insane and says a lot about him. Even men who stray don't leave their life partner. So you are good to be rid of him , for whatever reason , it doesn't matter, he will ruin your life and by extension the child's life. He is a damaged person and not fit …
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 09:56 PM
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What color paint , what type carpet , what kind of artwork would I have to hang on the walls , to get you to voluntarily commit yourself to my new one -cell insane asylum. That's what missing a deranged but physically attractive person is , we can't choose who we're attracted to but we can choose how we act on that attraction. Safer to admire crazy people from afar
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 08:59 AM
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I'm the child of a single mom , and I would steer far and clear in most situations. Not every , but most. There's just no way stepfather can get the most for what he brings to the table. The kid will always be priority, as they should , interrupted couple time , and once the kids grown momma is out too." Thanks for helping me with my kids " you're no longer necessary
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:15 PM
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Suddenly staying in the bathroom every day for hours was my ex too. She was in there snapchatting and ig messaging. Naked texting while I'm playing with the kid , shocked
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 10:16 PM
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So it's time to start a new chapter in your life OP. Everything is gonna be fine, just gonna hurt like hell until it don't hurt anymore. I'm no one to give advice. But I see you and hear you and surviving the very same thing. It'll get better , but you decide how long you want to mourn. It's all gonna be ok. Better than ok if you spread your wings and soar.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 02:03 AM
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If you could hear how she talks about your relationship to her coworkers/friends, you wouldn't believe that you're losing something. Your pain is real , real af . The halo we put around a woman who has already chosen to leave is not
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 06:09 AM
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Single mom knows that a relationship is complicated by her children too. That's why after you finally help her nurture and provide for her brood she will want to go see family out of state for something important. When the kids are out there's a good chance you're out too. Thanks for the help kind stranger. I just need to find myself now. Menopause.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:02 AM
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No one has found a cure for the pain. But time will fill the holes eventually. You're gonna need to be strong as hell until then. It's doable even if you don't want to do it. The only thing you have to do for the time being, every day , is just survive. That's it. You'll win in the long run and you , me , your future self , and your new future family whatever that looks like are gonna be so fucken proud of you man. Fight the good fight. Every day , you just need to survive to the next day.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 08:32 AM
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There's a man out there that she'd full respect his wallet , even insisting when it's her turn to cover a meal . You're just not him. This never is about money it's about entitlement . Show her the door bro
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 11:19 PM
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Do whatever you need to do to weather this storm . But remember that this devastating painful storm will absolutely pass it's just gonna hurt like hell while it inches thru. Be good to you in the meantime
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 02:57 AM
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Replace never chase , in action. Hoping the same for all us here
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 12:31 AM
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You can do this. It's a challenge but it's not an impossible task. Look to your left and look to your right , you'll see this didn't only happen to you. So don't take it personal , it happened to you, but it didn't happen to YOU. Your checkmate is walking away quickly and with dignity , don't ever look back. Keep me posted dm is open . You have plenty of good road ahead of you but you need to step on some gas.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 11:25 PM
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It's good to feel , just means we're human. You've found your way to here , where a lot of us are severely fucked up because of the collapse and betrayal and abandonment by the woman we loved or cherished. A breakdown of the family. Some will ruminate and dark places for years , some will drink or try to sniff their way out , and some will hit the gym , hobbies , and rebuild. But one way or the other many will eventually move forward. Only you know how much you wanna suffer before you put it in …
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 07:53 AM
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I want you to be very very selfish for a minute. I'm assuming you've been incarcerated at a lower level housing unit and that must've not been too bad , in your head. But to have a goal of committing ANY crime that will result in a long sentence/ higher custody level , it's craziness. I have never met anyone , anyone , who doesn't regret doing whatever they got sentenced for that resulted in level 3/level 4. Your desire for retribution is admirable, as long as it stays a fantasy in your head , t…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 07:07 AM
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You'll want to mount a rescue operation, save a relationship that no longer exists , beg /plead/ negotiate. But nothing will work , especially long term because the person you want back simply changed into someone else and you're one of the last to know. Reinvest and reinvent yourself and walk away with dignity even if you have to fake it. You're a father first and last now everything else is less necessary. GL OP, and I'm very sorry
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 04:19 PM
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I'm sorry man and I hate that so many people are in our club that no one asked to join. But there's incredible comments and discussions here , therapy suggestions and yt recommendations to help you in your journey. Know that you're not alone and that the only way out is through. Wishing you peace , and time , time for growth. Sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 10:45 PM
2

And that Corolla runs good despite the advanced mileage but the Carfax shows a previous 35 owners. Minimum.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 07:34 PM
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You're in a good place. You will survive this and you will excel. Keep moving forward fren. Your actions and dignity will outshine all this
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 07:30 PM
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Imagine your surprise if it's revealed your wife is very much having sex, just not with you. But the other dude isn't going to help with dishes and the car payments.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 06:16 AM
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I've needed to read these words for many years now . Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:56 AM
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