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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 85.5kg (188.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10), BF, Navy 85cm/36cm = 16.5%. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 86kgx10 (191lbs), Overhead press, 58x6 (127lbs), DL 100kgx9 (220lbs), Squat, BW split squats. **Physical** Mobility still fucked for squat so I'm doing split squats and working out what level to start at for weighting them. Deadlifts are coming along, and I feel stable there. I've been exploring eating at maintenance, and also the mindset of bulk/cut. It feels like I'm a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 04:28 AM
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thanks, great take. Just reset my bench and it's feeling strong a 85kgx10 where as previously I was juuuust hitting 6. I haven't re-visited the heavy singles, but I might add them in when I'm feeling good. It's nice to see where I'm at strength-wise.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:52 AM
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I work in education, and I can get small consulting style gigs paying between $2k and $5k. My latest project though is worth about $10k and I’m aiming for more of those.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 09:53 PM
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Goddamn it. Appreciate this comment because it made me think more carefully about what I mean. The pattern I have gone through with OYS and sex so far has been: 1. I’m making myself better, isn’t this great 2. I’m focusing on getting more sex by pushing all the right buttons and DREAD (stuck here for a long time but pretended I wasn’t) 3. Now I’m angry my CCs aren’t working, and I’m trying to punish the wife for it. (Flicked back and forth from 2 to 3) 4. Ok, I realise I’ve been seeking sex for …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 01:56 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 85.5kg (188.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10), BF, Navy 85cm/36cm = 16.5%. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 85kgx10 (189lbs), Overhead press, 56x7 (125lbs), DL 90kgx10 (198lbs), Squat 80kgx10 (176lbs) PhysicalGSLP still going well. I've reset my bench and hit 10 reps at 85kg, previously I hit 6. Deads and Squats are progressing with focus on form still. Squats causing the most problems, so I've got a bunch of mobility exercises to do from a PT.I'm getting overwhelmed with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 04:52 AM
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I run actual GSLP, then add some weight and aim for a set of 3, then add again and aim for 1+. It started as a test 2 weeks ago to see where my strength was at, and I've kept doing it because it feels good. Final bench set at 6x93kg (205lbs) was tough this week, so I think a reset is coming. OHP is at 7x55kg (121lbs) and I think 60kg will likely be a reset, although I didn't think I'd get above 200lbs on bench without a reset so I'm not sure. Strength gains have been surprising on this programme…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 09:36 PM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 85.5kg (188.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) Lifting. GSLP. Bench 100kgx2 (220lbs), Overhead press, 65x2 (143lbs), Squat: 70kgx10 (154lbs), DL 80kgx10 (176lbs) - **Reading** NMMNG summarised, moving on to WISNIFG. I’ve got lots out of taking my time with the reading, making sure I take notes and review. I’m moving on from NMMNG to WISNIFG now. - **Sex and relationship** - I’ve been averaging sex once a week. I’ve been leading to low level role play, some blindfold…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 09:38 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 85.0kg (187lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 16% - 18%, mirror. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 100kgx1 (225lbs), Overhead press, 55kgx6 (121lbs), DL 70x10 (155lbs), squat 75kgx6 (165lbs) Physical I’ve run GSLP for 8 weeks, gained 2.5kg (5.5lbs), which is about 1kg over where I want to be at this point. I’m starting another 8 weeks now, and am aiming to be at 86.5kg at the end of that cycle, then I’ll look towards leaning out. Today I achieved my goal of a two plate bench f…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 09:23 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 85.5kg (188.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 16% - 18%, mirror. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 91kgx6 (200lbs), Overhead press, 55kgx6 (121lbs), DL 60x10 (132lbs), squat 75kgx6 (165lbs) Physical GSLP is going well. I’m feeling strong and progressing well to a 2 plate bench. My squats and deads are feeling good at low weights and high reps and I’ll continue to slowly up the weight. I’ve been eating at an unknown surplus and it’s started to show. I’m not happy with how sof…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/22 09:27 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 83.7kg (184.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% - 16%, mirror. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 90kgx6 (198lbs), Overhead press, 55kgx6 (121lbs), DL 60x10 (132lbs), squat 60kgx10 (132lbs) Reading Summarised chapter 7 of NMMNG. Started listening to Rian Stone’s sidebar YouTube playlist. Mission The recent posts about mission have come at a really good time for me. I’ve set goals for one of the 5 areas that I was focusing on as part of mission. I’ve shamelessly adopted 3KLs…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 10:05 AM
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-Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 83.7kg (184.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% - 16%, mirror. -Lifting. GSLP. Bench 92.5kgx4 (202lbs), Overhead press, 55kgx6 (121lbs), DL 60x10 (132lbs), squat 50kgx12 (110lbs) Reading Working on summary of NMMNG chapter 7. This summarising process has been really useful. I’m getting way more out of the book this time than last time. I can review my notes. I am embedding the lessons through changing my actions. 60DoD - llifting What - support 12months goal …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 10:48 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 83.7kg (184.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% - 16%, mirror. Lifting. GSLP. Bench 90kgx3 (198lbs), Overhead press, 49kgx9 (108lbs), DL 40kgx10 (88lbs), squat BW. Reading NMMNG summary of chapter 6 complete. Physical Focus in the gym has been great lately. I’ve been on point with my protein targets and eating a range of good food. I’m smashing out some good meal prep too. After injuring my back I did some reading and saw a manual therapist. It’s really helped…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 08:25 AM
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That’s it. And yeah ‘broomstick’ doesn’t look great for deadlift and squat. I’ve tried out some single leg BW squat variations this week that were pain free, and haven’t made things worse, so I’ll load those next week, and I will try the same with trap bar deadlift. More generally I’m adopting an approach of "What do I need to learn from this situation?” rather than checking out/avoiding/waiting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/22 12:44 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 83.4kg (184?lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15%? (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Lifting. GSLP. Bench 85kgx6 (187lbs), Overhead press, 48kgx8 (105lbs), Rebuilding squat and deadlift form after injury. **Mindset and mission** I’ve been having a rough three weeks or so. And in the past I would probably skip OYS and say that I had been too busy. That’s why I have about 35 OYSs during 2021. But it’s useful to keep going because on reflection three weeks isn’t that long, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 04:48 PM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 82.8kg (182lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Lifting. GSLP. Bench 84kgx6 (185lbs), Overhead press, 46kgx9 (101lbs), Rebuilding squat and deadlift form. Reading NMMNG, completed summary of chapter 4. Working on summary of chapter 5. Physical Had a really rough week with my back playing up. I thought I had it dialled in but it must be worse than I thought. I’ve got a useful book and have seen a manual therapist to sort it out. I’m not …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 08:45 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 81.7kg (176lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Lifting. GSLP. Bench 82.5kgx6 (182lbs), Overhead press, 44kgx11 (97lbs), Rebuilding squat and deadlift form. **Reading*\* NMMNG, working on summary of chapter 4. Scheduled in time each day to get this moving. **Physical*\* I had a session with a PT to look at my squat and deadlift form. I tweaked my back last week. It was extremely useful, he gave me some useful cues, and some mobility wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 08:22 AM
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Yes that realisation was not there for me until I actually wrote it down. Sick kid this week so zero progress on working out the fucking. GSLP is a delight after pushing lower rep sets in 5/3/1 I’m enjoying more volume and a calorie surplus.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:31 AM
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Thanks was useful
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:39 AM
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Yeah absolutely it’s very clear here and this has been a useful reflection all week. For the sake of future reference, without owning the fucking I wouldn’t have internalised this point - lead to the fucking I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:31 AM
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I bought the 5/3/1 book and downloaded the GSLP book. They give you more context, and flesh out some of the stuff you read online. They seem like they are self published though, so typos and a bit of fluff. But good to know you are reading from the actual source rather than second hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 06:26 PM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 81.7kg (176lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Lifting. GSLP. Squat 80x10 (175lbs), Bench 81kgx6 (198lbs), Overhead press, 40kgx11 (88lbs), Deadlift, rebuilding after bad form. **Reading*\* NMMNG, written summary of ch3 done. **Nutrition, lifting*\* I took some advice and switched up from 5/3/1 to GSLP. I've got a set of microplates and had my first bench session going up 1kg this week. It's much more different from my 5/3/1 programme …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 09:05 AM
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I will enjoy life, and if I don't, I'll make changes so that I do. I like this. I can see that being a very useful mindset. Exploring the idea of mission has helped me to recover things that I enjoyed doing but let slip by the wayside.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 02:39 AM
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FWIW I would go on GSLP, add 1-2lbs of BW a month until a 1000+ PL total. And fix my squat through form checks on the Starting Strength subreddit, with a coach or similar. Thanks have checked out GSLP, suits my 3-day schedule and maybe just what I need to shake things up a bit from 5/3/1. ​ So. How's the fucking going? Asking the tough questions. Not great. Well not where I want it to be. Better than when I started - quality is up. I've had some real successes where I thought I was killing it. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 02:32 AM
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OYS #37 Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 81.2kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Basics Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) Reading NMMNG, written summary of ch2 done. Missed summary of ch 3 this week. Nutrition, lifting I’ve been aiming to cut to 78.5kg (173lbs), which should be around about 12% BF. Then I was intending to slow bulk. But my calories have been over the last 2 w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:40 AM
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I’ve been exploring mission over the last month or so with some daily writing. I’m narrowing down into a range of things that get me going. I think I’ve finally taken on the suggestion to focus on mission, so I’m intending for OYS to be much more about this now and how I can pursue it congruently.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:24 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 81.2kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics*\* - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading*\* - NMMNG, written summary of ch2 done. **Focus on mission*\* Some great advice from 3KL last week reminded me to focus on mission. At first I was really confused. I wrote: This whole 'focus on mission' shit is confusing the fuck out of me. So I …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:00 AM
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Yeah serious lack of abundance here. Stay plan is the go plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:23 PM
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Yeah I hear you. I’m doing good work on mission and this ‘sex on the brain’ pattern isn’t dominating my life like it was in the past. I came here with this sense that ‘everything is good and if only the sex was good then my life would be complete’ belief. Having said that I’m owning my shit here of not doing a good enough job of actually taking up the tools and playing with them. My first read of NMMNG was basically - go for what you want - but I haven’t been living that. The whole being needy, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:21 PM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.6kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist **Basics** Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading** NMMNG, written summary of ch1 done. **Consistently putting in the work** Reading Ragnar’s recent post highlights the difference between doing the work consistently with commitment, and doing a half-ass job. I found this place about the same time as …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:05 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.6kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) I’ve struggled to get back to it after a big Xmas break. So I re-focused on calorie tracking and started using the ‘Lose It’ app instead of MFP and it’s been great. Basically the same deal as MFP but easier to use. I set my lifting targets last week for the ye…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/22 08:46 AM
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I have no interest in going overboard to take it to the next level. Why do you see putting in extra effort and focus to take something to the next level as bad? If you were protecting something about your ego here, what would it be?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 08:31 AM
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Lack of sleep is the worst man. I’d get a sleep consultant. Helps to have someone else to lean on for direction when your brain isn’t working.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 07:55 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.6kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) I’ve set some lifting targets for the year, based on 6x 7-week cycles of 5/3/1 with a bit of wriggle room. These will take me firmly into the ‘intermediate’ lifter range. **Reading** Sidebar posts on anger process, unchained man about mission **Working through…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 07:48 AM
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I’m still processing the nice card idea, but to be clear it’s not about giving up your mental point of origin to serve someone else. As I’m using it at the moment it’s an idea that helps me avoid expressing some misplaced anger by trying to punish someone when they have threatened my ego somehow. It’s not the same card we’ve been playing for years, it comes from a different pack.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 09:07 AM
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I hadn't really taken it as a frame/shit test but you're totally right. I've taken a trip through your OYS 19 and it's been an extremely useful journey for me. My take is that you shifted from a frame of 'feel free to fuck off' to 'I choose you'. One has you as the victim, fighting back, driving yourself with anger, the other has you as the game-master, making choices, finding other sources of drive. When I take being called out as a shit test I can see that I was getting shit tests and frame te…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 01:10 AM
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Nope not getting me what I want, ups and downs, but nothing consistent that I can rely on. I have been really enjoying getting into all sorts of projects, spending time with mates, put lots of good time into meal prepping etc. But when I withdraw attention I'm doing it in a shitty way and it shows. I got called out for being needy and asked if there was something going on that I was trying to deal with via sex. If your wife is a mirror to you this was the clearest overt reflection back of this s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:11 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.6kg (178lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) Basics Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) I have been cutting for a long time now, and I'm aiming to hit about 78.5kg (173lbs) before I start to bulk. I'm expecting my lifts to pick up then because they have stagnated. Reading Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. Mental models I've been using Ragnar's focus lis…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 01:22 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 81.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist)**Basics*\- Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs)\*Reading****Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Validation, mental point of origin*\*I've been using Ragnar's focus list each morning and during the day to keep dialled in on mission and mental point of origin. Working to drop validation and to drop filters has r…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 02:17 AM
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As an actionable thing to do to address validation I've got a lot of value over the last week going through Ragnar's focus list (adapted a little for me) each morning, and during the day sometimes, and writing some notes under each heading. It's helping me to constantly return to my mental point of origin and think about mission, which limits seeking external validation. It also helps with butthurt because mission is front of mind. Like Along-the-Reeds replied, I also think about what I will do …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 12:26 AM
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Yeah I hear you on that one. Someone elsewhere mentioned the ‘superman’ CC, where you do everything well and then expect something from others for it. Same deal - I’ve done all this stuff, made all this project…give me what I want. I take it all as a lesson in being your own mental point of origin. Horns has pointed out lots of times that it’s a lonely road, and it only gets lonelier. I think part of his point is that as you drop validation from others, you are the only source of anything…which …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/22 08:23 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 83.2kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** Gained about 3kg over the holiday break and lead up to it. Am cutting to 80kg, then starting my first bulk, likely in March. Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading** - Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **60DoD Booster** - Week 6: Finance Investigating rejiging my mortgage to lock in some rat…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/22 08:16 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics**- Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading**- Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Validation seeking**I’ve used some reflection questions this week relating to some sources of validation that I thought I was prone to (attraction validation, respectful/good guy, egalitarian). They have been quit…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 05:21 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading** - Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Escaping sex for validation** I'm continuing with NMMNG second read and have added in taking detailed notes on this post about stages of escaping sex for validation, along with the associated posts on how valida…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 01:55 AM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics*\* Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs)**Reading** Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Covert contracts and leadership*\* Still working through covert contracts and ego. Some really helpful discussion for me and reflections in OYS and 'primer to frame' on [PancakeOptimusPrime's OYS](https://www.reddit…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 09:26 PM
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I set a goal in my last OYS to start reading through the sidebar again, one post per day. I didn't stick to that at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/21 10:25 PM
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You failed to read sidebar posts and now you are crossing your fingers that you’ll succeed at reading the books too. Some of the books are badly written, and you have to find ways to wade through the shit to get to the good stuff. But hoping you’ll do something and waiting to see if that hope works is a shit strategy for something you think is important.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/21 06:03 AM
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- Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading** Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Covert contracts and leadership** I've been continuing to reflect on covert contracts and ego. I've passed through frustration that I spent so long not properly dealing with the mental and leadership side of thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 05:58 PM
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Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.5kg (175lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 14% (Navy, 37 neck, 81 waist) **Basics** Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) **Reading** Returned to NMMNG and WISNIFG. **Covert contracts and leadership** I uncovered a big fat covert contract in the form of 'I get fit and hot, you fuck me'. Further investigation revealed more - the 'kill it at home, kill It at work, you fuck me' CC. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 05:59 PM
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I'm in, a week late since I've been offline, but focusing on squats for week 1. My lifting celeb is olympic weightlifter Lu Xiaojun. He's a mobility legend. I'm adding mobility work.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 05:56 PM
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OYS #24 Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 79.9kg (176lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15.3% (Navy, 37 neck, 81.5 waist) **Basics** - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) - Diet. 2200kCal/day, cutting to 79.5kg - Sidebar complete. Reading NLP books. - No porn. 5 weeks. Something to work on. Not a consistent thing I’m doing anymore, but have noticed decrease in energy from jacking off so keeping an eye on it for no…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 10:39 AM
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OYS #23 Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15.3% (Navy, 37 neck, 82.5 waist) Basics - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) - Diet. 2200kCal/day, cutting to 79.5kg - Sidebar complete. Reading NLP books. - No porn. 4 weeks. Something to work on. Not a consistent thing I’m doing anymore, but have noticed decrease in energy from jacking off so keeping an eye on it for now.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 10:26 PM
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It's not so much the exact idea I like but the playfulness of it. I was making pirate hats with my kids and ended up making a treasure map I gave to my wife later on...treasure located in our room where I was waiting with the pirate hat on. I tried to make a treasure box I could put my dick in but my arts and crafts skills aren't quite there yet. Bottom line is it was hilarious and I had fun. Requires legit OI though since you really look like a 'tard if you have a covert contract tied to arts a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 04:01 AM
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How tall are you? That calorie intake is really low and will be hard to sustain long term. ‘Looks like I won’t be lifting for a while’ Who’s OYS is this? Own that shit and fix your back and then your form and in the meantime work on your other lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:09 AM
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I like using the idea of ‘what don’t I want to do’ as a radar for shit you should be doing. Some of the stuff in Atomic Habits might help to embed the gym habit, since the motivation of ’stop being a little pussy’ will wane after a while so havng your environment set up to support the habit will catch you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:04 AM
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I like this questionairre. This whole thing of just having more fun has really resonated with me. And it’s also led me into new territories where I don’t know what’s going to happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:00 AM
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OYS #22 Late 30s, 2 kids under 5. Married 7 years. 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15.3% (Navy, 37 neck, 82.5 waist) **Basics*\* - Lifting. 5/3/1: Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Squat 97.5x2 (214lbs), Bench 90kgx2 (198lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs) - Diet. 2200kCal/day, cutting to 79.5kg - Sidebar complete. Reading NLP books. - No porn. 2 weeks. Something to work on. Not a consistent thing I’m doing anymore, but have noticed decrease in energy from jacking off. **Relationship/Mindset*\* …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 01:58 AM
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OYS #21 Me: 37 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15.3% (Navy, 37 neck, 82.5 waist) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, under 4 Bench, 90kgx2 (198lbs); Squat, 97.5kgx2 (214lbs); Deadlift 140kgx2 (308lbs), Overhead press, 60kgx2 (132lbs). These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. Physical On track to hit 'intermediate' targets for all my lifts by end of year. Working on cutting to 79.5kg, aiming for somewhere around 12 - 14% BF. I'm getting good definition whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:51 PM
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OYS #20 Me: 37 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% (Navy) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 87.5kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 130kgx3, Overhead press, 60kgx2. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Physical** We are locked down here due to Covid so I'm doing bodyweight work with rings for a few weeks. Focusing on achieving a ring muscle up, core work and stabilising and mobilising for squat and deadlift once we are out. Main shit to …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 09:59 PM
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I've had the same challenge with nutrition - blowing it on the weekend when I have less structure. I've had some success with focusing on hitting my daily protein allowance in the meals leading up to an event (and going low carb, low fat). Then if I mop up the rest of my calories in junk I'm less likely to overdo it because protein leaves me more satisfied.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 04:29 AM
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Thanks for reminding me of the MPO concept. The HVM comparison came from a reality check AlphalfaSprout gave me during 60DoD about my attitude to my hair. I had claimed I didn’t care I was thinning on top, and that I just needed to get it cut more often so it looked ‘less shit’. He pulled up the idea of ‘less shit’ as being a non-productive attitude, and asked “ Why is that? Why is the standard for the top of your head "look less shit"? Do high value men think this way?” That notion of ‘does thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/21 04:31 AM
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OYS #19 Me: 36 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% (Navy) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 87.5kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 130kgx3, Overhead press, 57.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Physical: Keeping on doing what is working** I’ve made progress here and I’m in a solid routine. I’ll continue on as I am for now. I have 6 month strength goals that I am on track to hit. After reading more this week my priority continue…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 10:16 AM
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OYS #18 Me: 36 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) BF 15% (Navy) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx3; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 130kgx3, Overhead press, 57.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Fitness** I have been focusing on cutting for the past 9 weeks now by aiming to eat at a 500kCal deficit each day, so roughly 2200kCal. My adherence has been up and down, and I have not managed to get below 80kg, which was my initial goal.…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 10:46 AM
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OYS #17 Me: 36 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10), BF approx 17% using Navy method, need to get more regular measuring this. The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 130kgx3, Overhead press, 57.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Fitness** I continue to learn more about my eating habits and how to track more and more consistently. I'm plateauing at my current weight, and I wasn't sure why. Now I can see t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 04:30 AM
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OYS #16 Me: 36 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 127kgx3, Overhead press, 55kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Reading** MMSLP, MAP, TWOTSM, NMMNG, SGM, My Lessons with Kumi **Fitness** My weight loss hasn’t moved on my cut this week but I feel like I’m stabilising where I am. I’m refining my measures, not just tracking but recording and reflecting on daily calori…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 10:49 AM
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OYS #15 Me: 36 years, 80.5kg (177.5lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 127kgx3, Overhead press, 55kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. **Reading** MMSLP, MAP, TWOTSM, NMMNG, SGM **Fitness** I’ve been focusing on cutting down to 79.5kg. Currently in Week 6 of a planned 8 week cut. Tracking all calories each day and preparing frozen meals for days when I don’t have easy access to good food h…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 09:43 AM
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OYS #14 Me: 36 years, 81.8kg (180lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 127kgx3, Overhead press, 55kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. ​ **Reading** - MMSLP, MAP, TWOTSM, NMMNG, SGM **Physical** I’ve been focusing on cutting down to 79.5kg. Currently in Week 4 of a planned 8 week cut. I’m making fluctuating progress, where I have a good start to the week and a bad end. I have learned that I …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 10:12 AM
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OYS #13 36 years, 82.2kg (181lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 127kgx3, Overhead press, 55kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. Reading - MMSLP, MAP, TWOTSM, NMMNG, SGM Overall I will start and finish each OYS from these two rules: the only thing to focus on is me, and the only standards of success are how I feel and act. This is the guideline I set for myself for OYS 7 but I lost track o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 09:57 PM
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Fuck I don’t know either. I have read about the ‘stay plan is the go plan’ and that If you are a high value male you are going to get lots of interest from other women. And Athol Kay’s point that all a man really needs is some generally good vibes and regular access to a warm vagina. But I’m not there yet. I don’t know how to live that. For sure the scales are by far in favour of the relationship at the moment. Things are far better than they were now and I probably wouldn’t have found my way he…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 05:33 PM
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OYS #12 Me: 36 years, 82.7kg (182lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10), BF 19.5% (Navy method, 38cm neck, 89cm waist) Wife: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 85kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 127kgx3, Overhead press, 55kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. Reading MMSLP, MAP, TWOTSM, NMMNG, SGM (I’ll admit I read this first, thinking all I needed was the sex stuff) Sex and relationship I'm finally ready to let go of all the shitty shit I've been using to 'get sex', and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 09:56 AM
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This is all still settling for me. I thought I knew what I wanted/expected. As I make progress I see that the results are different from my expectations. Like the guy with the shattered model, I’m surprised when people, wife included, respond differently to me. My horizon shifts as I unlock new mental models. This sexual dynamic is a new model for me. And I’m very far from there yet, but I see at least some of what wasn’t visible before.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/21 09:17 AM
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OYS #11 Me: 36 years, 82.7kg (182lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 82.5kgx3; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 120kgx5, Overhead press, 52.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. BF 19.5% (Navy method, 38cm neck, 89cm waist) Lifting and nutrition I’m way below my required protein intake. At 1g per pound I should be eating about 180g of protein, and up to probably 216g if I go for 1.2g per pound. When I was tracking my full daily i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 10:03 AM
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OYS #10 Me: 36 years, 82.7kg (182lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, married 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 82.5kgx3; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 120kgx5, Overhead press, 52.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. Appearance A comment last week on my OYS zoomed in on how I am insecure about my hair. That led me down a pathway of reflection, and I read past 60DoD posts about appearance and style, and a chapter in Models that was referenced in the 60DoD post. It's no…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 08:46 AM
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Are you gainfully employed? 2. Are you happy with the income you are making? 3. Do you generally have plans for progress in this area? Yes. 2. No, I'm comfortable but I want to make more. 3. Yes, through promotion and additional contract work. I'm largely on track, with both promotion and additional contracts, but the underlying moments of anxiety and my suboptimal coping strategy is slowing both of these things down. Why is this enjoyable to you? I realise I have filtered my responses for what …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 04:52 AM
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Me: 36 years, 83kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 80kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 120kgx5, Overhead press, 52.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. I've switched up my program a bit to fit my 3 day a week schedule better, and I'm doing a 6 week cycle before a deload week, rather than a 3 week one based on the Beyond 5/3/1 book. Work I am on a leadership programme and am working with a coach to improve my focus on a key …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 09:02 AM
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OYS #8 Me: 36 years, 82.4kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 80kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 120kgx5, Overhead press, 52.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1 BBB. Have finished second cycle, currently in a deload week. Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP still making slow progress through these. Reading the OYS thread. Finished Anti-Dumps Machine Physical: I've stabilised at my current weight and I'm not pushing towards anything at the…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 08:06 AM
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OYS #7 Me: 36 years, 82.4kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 4 and 1. Bench, 80kgx2; Squat, 95kgx5; Deadlift 120kgx5, Overhead press, 52.5kgx3. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1 BBB. Have finished second cycle. Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP still making slow progress through these. Reading the OYS thread. Finished Anti-Dumps Machine Physical: My lifts have gone up well and I've been very consistent with gym sessions. I'm seeing that I need to keep f…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 07:29 AM
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Why are you running 5/3/1 and not a beginner LP like SL or GSLP? 5/3/1 is the first programme I came across and I have liked it over the past 8 weeks or so. Making gains in strength so will continue running it for now. I'm open to changing things but at this stage I'm focusing on learning the lifts, nailing my form, consistency and leaning out to 80kg. Your 'productive strategies' is very vague. Are they actually working? And how can you tell? I'm using a planning spreadsheet from Ultraworking, …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 11:56 PM
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OYS #5 Me: 36 years, 82.0kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 1 under 4, 1 under 1. Bench, 72.5kgx5; Squat, 85kgx5; Deadlift 105kgx6, Overhead press, 50kgx6. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. This is my first 4 week cycle and I’m still calibrating my estimated 1RMs. Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP both (still) in progress. Reading the OYS thread, and listening to the livestream. Finished Anti-Dumps Machine Overall For the last 3 weeks sleep has been h…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 12:40 AM
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OYS #4 Me: 36 years, 82.3kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, under 4 Bench, 72.5kgx5; Squat, 85kgx5; Deadlift 105kgx6, Overhead press, 50kgx6. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. This is my first 4 week cycle and I’m still calibrating my estimated 1RMs. Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP both (still) in progress. Reading the OYS thread, and listening to the livestream. Working my way through the material regularly now. Relationship Progress is mixed. I fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 08:10 AM
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OYS #3 Me: 36 years, 82.5kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 1 under 4, 1 under 1. Bench, 72.5kgx5; Squat, 80kgx7; Deadlift 100kgx10, Overhead press, 50kgx6. These are my current top lifts on 5/3/1. This is my first 4 week cycle and I’m still calibrating my estimated 1RMs. Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP both (still) in progress. Reading the OYS thread, and listening to the livestream. A point HOA made in a post resonated with me. It was that by this stage …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 08:42 AM
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OYS #2 Stats Me: 36 years, 83.9kg, 1.78cm (5ft10) The missus: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto 6 years 2 kids, 1 under 4, 1 under 1. Bench, 176lbs; Squat, 200lbs; Deadlift, 250lbs; Overhead press, 132lbs Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP both (still) in progress. Reading the OYS thread, and listening to the livestream. Week review Leading us to good sex is what I’ve been working on after a lacklustre experience last week where I got jacked off but wasn’t behaving congruently. It was a real case of push…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 10:45 PM
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Tyred_Biggums Thanks. Had some success working through this and building up a model of the ideal that I'm shooting for. Helped to keep a clear sense in my mind of how I want to act, and seems more flexible and responsive than a set of rules of behaviour.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/21 10:13 PM
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Details - Me: 36 years, 85kg (188lbs), 1.78cm (5ft10) - Wife: 37 years, together 13 years, de facto married 6 years - 2 kids, 1 under 4, 1 under 1. - Bench, 176lbs; Squat, 200lbs; Deadlift, 250lbs; Overhead press, 132lbs - Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP both in progress. Background - I have been lurking since September 2020. In the four months I have started lifting, lost 5kg, re-started my sex life after baby no. 2 and cracked open the door to see something good. - Some progress made, but I have a lot t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 08:39 PM
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