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Pure entertainment. Exactly why I read posts on theotherwoman, NameNerdsCirclejerk, ShitAmericansSay, tragedeigh, and similar subreddits. I'm mostly here to laugh at fools and go on with my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:32 PM
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Only once, from what I can remember. It was a lifestyle mismatch because she doesn't want to settle down/have a steady boyfriend just yet, but she kept shooting for men who wanted commitment. She's now taken herself off the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:15 PM
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your child is autistic, so what That's not the only risk. The others, according to the paper: "diseases, including autism, schizophrenia, bipolar disorders, and paediatric leukaemia, have been linked to the father’s advanced years." Plus "stillbirths, spontaneous abortions, preterm births, and low birth weight." Hardly a picnic, if you ask me. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:26 PM
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I don't know why Redditors need to bring "psychologically optimal" psychobabble into situations that are wholly emotional/sexual. Most relationships involve some sort of "age gap", albeit one much shorter than the example in your post. The specifics are up to the couple — some people (like my mum & dad) will opt for a larger age gap relationship, while others (like my husband & I) won't. it’s really my main argument here to prove age gaps are biologically optimal That's a hard sell when science …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:12 PM
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It's also why some men here assume ALL attractive men (i.e. "Chads" in their eyes) are terrible people. Or that they ALL cheat. They see a few attractive arseholes being successful with women, then generalise that to "hurr durr, women like aggressive and violent Chads, instead of nice guys like me". Like, sure, pretty privilege extends to men, too — more breaking news at 10, folks!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:23 AM
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They're the human equivalent of fruit flies. Annoying, will latch onto anything sweet, and mostly come out during bikini season.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:12 AM
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Because, more often than not, overweight people are unattractive. The examples you’ve provided are outliers, who maintain a decent WHR. But, for every Ashley Graham, you likely have hundreds of people who'd look CONSIDERABLY more attractive at a lower weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:27 AM
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I can believe that men will also simp for average/slightly below-average women, but I doubt they genuinely simp for unattractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:27 AM
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As long as she's moderately attractive, there will be men willing to give their attention to her and cater to her for validation, approval, and sex. And this is solely men's fault. A good chunk of men would sell their own mother for a chance at some hot woman glancing his way. This level of sheer desperation is a turn-off. If your attraction boils down to "I'll bend over backwards for a hot gf/wife 🫪😢", then you're not exactly a high-value man. It's unlikely you'll ever be a contender for women …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:59 AM
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The more selective you become, the easier it is for normal imperfections to become exit conditions rather than issues to work through. This implies that being "selective" is restricted to superficial traits. It's not. Both my husband and I have reasonable standards, and many of the factors we selected were about compatibility. Basically, someone with: Good money management, A stable job, with a desire to move up the career ladder, Love for travel (and the means to do so), A regular exercise/gym …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:49 AM
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You didn't. But you're sadly not the only height-obsessed man here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:48 PM
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if you are telling someone height doesn't matter ? I've never said this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:47 PM
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I wouldn't either, but I'm pointing out that some men on this subreddit are VERY height-obsessed. Of course these 40yo women are going to bring up their husbands' heights if PPD men are obsessed with height-based questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:46 PM
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Discussing penis size is a real WTF, but I semi-regularly have PPDers asking me how tall my husband is. See: Exhibit A. It's also one reason why I've turned my DMs off. Maybe take up the height thing with all the height-obsessed men here. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:39 PM
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1 & 4!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:42 AM
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You don't mention average (or, as it sounds like, below-average) men in your top comment: I genuinely believe that if women had to experience life as a man, having the lived experience of the attention they got as a woman, they'd kill themselves within a year. As your point currently stands, you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:55 AM
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Cause most men you know aren't all men . Obviously. Where did I say they were? My point is that PPD rhetoric about how much men's lives supposedly suck is weird... and doesn't match the lived experience of any men I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:43 AM
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Why, though? Most of the men I know are highly educated, attractive, financially secure, and well-travelled. And yes, very popular with women. If I woke up in one of their bodies tomorrow, life would be a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:10 AM
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Nah, this sub is great entertainment. It's like watching My 600-lb Life, but with people even less motivated to improve their lives. (And basically a similar brand to the other woman and adultery subs, but with fewer hogs fighting over pig swill.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:59 PM
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I'm only here for the entertainment value. Very rarely, I'll come across posts/comments that change my perspective on things. However, I reckon a good chunk of people here DON'T want to "be more understanding and self-aware and better with dating dynamic, expectations, experience and all". Imho, there's a LOT of whining on this subreddit... and I have zero sympathy for people who do nothing but whinge, whine, and moan. Obviously, change is hard, but whining accomplishes f-all in the grand scheme…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:35 AM
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I get abuses here and that doesn't coincide with women irl who get concerned about it which I don't understand. To be honest, many people online are weirdly confident about being complete arseholes. And obviously, strangers on a subreddit for debating dating dynamics are going to behave very differently from your coworkers. If the "abuse" doesn't relate to your situation, then just ignore the commenter. I'm a big fan of hitting the "turn off reply notifications" function when I don't want to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:12 PM
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Women can smell a virgin from miles I've genuinely never heard anyone say this. If you can link to at least three exact quotes from this subreddit, I'm willing to believe you. Women here say that if we as a guy are single, it's our fault that we are at fault. This isn't gender-specific. If a man or woman is unwillingly single, they're doing something wrong. Either they need to get in shape, date more proactively, or work on whatever else is hindering them from finding a partner. Women here say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:58 AM
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Honeymoon Part 1 was a trip through Sri Lanka (cultural triangle, beaches, and a national park)! For P2, we're probably going to Italy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:49 AM
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What's there to debate? You can opt out of dating for any reason you want. No one's forcing you to be in relationships with people. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:40 AM
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Oh, congrats! 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:13 PM
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I reckon it's surprisingly common. My husband and I were zonked out by the end of the day. 😴 Thankfully, honeymoons exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:11 PM
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In a perfect world, whoever initiated the date would pick up the tab, irrespective of whether they're a man or a woman. However, that's not what happens in practice. Men are very happy to pay the bill if they think you're hot (or if they assume sex will be forthcoming). This has led some women to assume that men picking up the tab is standard, not a personal preference. Why are you allowed to dodge your part of the traditional asymmetric gendered social contract of hereosexual dating while men h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:03 PM
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I'd take that as a sign you're doing something right. 🤣 Lots of us can agree to disagree, but terminally insecure weirdos will stalk your previous comments to downvote them. (I had the same thing happen to me yesterday, and she also decided to send me a Reddit Cares bot thingy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:45 PM
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No dog breed is "bad" — it all depends on the owner. Too many people like the look of certain breeds, but lack the brains, time, energy, and money to properly train and socialise their dogs. (I grew up with GSDs, and they're a LOT of work.) I knew a couple who bought a Belgian Malinois, expecting this high-energy dog to magically transform into a couch potato, just because its owners are lazy AF. Surprise, surprise! The dog turned into a destructive escape artist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:14 PM
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Do I tell random people to go to the gym/lose weight IRL, entirely unprompted? No, that'd be weird. I have, however, helped a friend pay for their gym subscription when they wanted to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:41 PM
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This was your comment to me, before you sneakily edited it: How are you a radical feminism when you're married lmao. What am I supposed to be debating when you can't even keep track of your core argument? This is venturing into circlejerk territory, so I'm turning reply notifications off. EDIT: And now you send me a Reddit Cares message because I've muted your responses? Girl... 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:07 PM
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do you have little to no sympathy for men? I have sympathy for people (men and women), but that sympathy isn't endless. The way I see it, if you're a functional adult, you also need to put in the work to help yourself. Whether that's going to therapy, heading to the gym, or switching jobs, there's only so much someone else can do for you. I'm happy to help friends or loved ones with the process, but I'm not going to shell out money for a gym subscription if they don't use it (or do their entire …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:49 PM
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They, for some reason REVEL in the idea of men not having sex, it excites them No? I don't care if random men have sex or not, provided they aren't harming anyone. I don't care what random women do either. I'm not American, but some EU countries (like the Netherlands) offer visas for registered partners. Women don't have an issue with European men dating or marrying foreign women, because there's a proper system in place here, ensuring they come over legally and aren't a burden to society. These…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:01 PM
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We shouldn't incentive young heterosexuals to have relationships Honestly, if society has learnt anything from preaching abstinence, it's that lecturing people about things doesn't work. Life... finds a way. It'd be more productive to destigmatise the decision to stay single (or opt out of having kids). I don't think everyone necessarily wants a partner (or kids), and there shouldn't be societal shame for people treading their own path.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:26 PM
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Nice! 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:12 PM
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Hardly surprising. 🤷🏻‍♀️ His whole schtick is looksmaxxing, and he's nowhere near as smooth as he thinks he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:11 PM
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I've lived in many different parts of the world. Online, one side complains about microaggressions and feeling fat-shamed. The other side has no access to legal abortions, is generally controlled by their husbands/families, and isn't afforded the same societal benefits as men. So yes, when Western liberal feminists whine about "feeling fat-shamed", it comes across as nonsensical, radical feminism to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:03 PM
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I don’t think you know what radical feminism is. All the “issues” you listed are liberal feminism talking points. So... basically the same thing, then? From the POV of someone who doesn't espouse basic Western feminism, most of your movements sound bizarre AF. Also there’s no such as being “fuckzoned” or “friendzoned”. Where did I say there was? They're both made-up struggles by people who lack accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:00 PM
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Oh, many. Radical feminism has completely lost the plot. The Fat Acceptance/Health at Every Size bullshit encourages gullible women to stay overweight and morbidly obese. Laziness and gluttony are suddenly reframed as "empowering" (if you don't believe me, just Google Virgie Tovar and Tess Holliday). I also hate the lack of accountability in feminist spaces. If every single man a woman dates is terrible, if she keeps getting fuckzoned, or if she can't attract the sort of man she wants, people sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:08 AM
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Those were three examples, out of countless others that could have been made. I've already proven that women do NOT go for "different flavour of 1 group of men" (which is a rather bizarre oxymoron). You're avoiding my questions. Either answer them, or admit that you don't have a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 11:26 AM
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Any sources for this? I mean... do you need a source to confirm that Leonardo DiCaprio, a frat boy, and some 30yo office worker earning an average salary are in three VERY different groups? Which one is more accessible to a woman looking to settle down? Which one is more attractive to a hot, aspiring sugar baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 11:11 AM
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If we assume this person "is of average attractiveness", their success rate will solely depend on what their "ideal partner" looks like. (And whether they're looking for hookups or relationships.) Some rich and famous film star: sex/commitment would be pretty much impossible. A very hot guy with loads of options: short-term hookups would be easy, but commitment would be tricky. A regular guy (i.e. a middle-class man of average attractiveness): both are very likely. Knowing how men think may be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:40 AM
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Your problem is assuming people are a monolith. The definition of a "good man" will vary depending on the woman you're talking to: To a sugar baby, it'll likely refer to an older, wealthy man with a provider mindset. Looks aren't a major consideration. To a woman who likes hookups, it'll probably be a hot man who's good in the sack. It doesn't matter if he's poor or capable of "building something lasting". To a woman who wants to settle down, long-term compatibility and shared goals take priorit…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:43 AM
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Body > face. Most people are quite average facially. Having a hot body definitely raises your overall attractiveness, unless you're quite unattractive facially. For example, when faced with two choices, a good chunk of people would likely choose a butterface over a morbidly obese person with a stunning face.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:59 PM
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If you're talking about this subreddit or other internet forums, I think the issue is that some men agenda-post towards women and get some vague platitudes in return (or a bunch of women ranting at them). "Why can't you lust after average men?" isn't a good question. "What are some qualities/physical attributes you're personally attracted to in men?" might offer you better answers. Be specific, and you're more likely to get actionable advice. And let's be honest... you should also consider advic…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:28 PM
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What exactly do you want us to debate here? Of all the hot men I know, most are in relationships or having a blast playing the field. The same applies to the hot women I know. It's obvious that if you want to lock down the "free" ones, you need to be attractive yourself and in the same social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:56 PM
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People can be WEIRD about sunscreen. I burn if I'm not consciously reapplying 55+ SPF, and the number of people I know who assume it's unnecessary is genuinely wild. "But you're young, you don't need to worry about sun spots." No thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:17 AM
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I'd be less concerned about his spending and more concerned about his financial health, attitude towards saving, assets, etc. At the very least, those would need to match mine. I've met men who earn well, but live so beyond their means that they have sweet f-all in savings/investments. That'd be a massive ick, irrespective of how much this hypothetical man earns. And I don't care about a man being "assertive, protective, and dominant".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:16 AM
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And instead of working on things you CAN improve, you're making excuses on Reddit. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:47 PM
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I can't change your view, because I agree! Honestly, a good chunk of people struggling to date just aren't good options. It's harsh, but men/women who sit on their arses and complain 24/7 about their dating life only have themselves to blame. When I wasn't attracting the men I wanted, I threw my energy into self-improvement. So I have zero sympathy for lazy sods who expect "Chad" or "Stacy" status with zero work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:33 PM
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He later told me “I really like the way you carry yourself.” I go out in public and suddenly all eyes are on me (feels super uncomfortable, this part I hate…). Oh, so I see fanfic writers have moved from AITA to GirlDinnerDiaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:39 AM
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there's also a common trope of women leaving their highschool boyfriends that they loved and grew up with, as soon as they enter the real world and suddenly have 1000s of options There's also a common trope of men leaving their "starter wives" as soon as they get rich and famous. Just as some men are likely to ditch their wives for the next best option, some women are likely to do the same. Humans aren't a monolith, so the fact that some men or women do X doesn't mean we ALL do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:35 PM
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Are there? In the comments, OP uses TikTok as a "source" for his claims. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He isn't intelligent enough to grasp the fact that he's influenced his TikTok algorithm to show him content that triggers him, so it's highly unlikely he personally knows any successful "career driven [sic] women".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:28 AM
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we don’t like ugly women. We don't like ugly men, either. Irrespective of what media they're in. 🤷🏻‍♀️ The men's rights activists and soyjacks need to stop "gaslighting", "pointing fingers, shaming and talking crap" whenever we push back against fugly men in films, TV series, the music industry, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:46 PM
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We 100% agree on that. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't think there's anything wrong with looking, because sexual interest and attraction are normal human emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:27 PM
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Where did I say men should be able to stalk and harass anyone? Because you didn't read my original comment. I said: "I don't care, as long as a guy isn't harassing me, following me around a supermarket, or trying to follow me home." To anyone with half a brain: most of us get looked at, and we don't care. We draw the line at harassment. You argued that it's "unfair that you should be expected to suppress your natural inclination". Why is that unfair, unless you want to "be able to stalk and hara…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:22 PM
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Revealing clothing isn't being fully nude but it still evokes a reaction. And I'm if course not excusing "wild animal" behaviour. My dogs are trained not to steal food off my plate, even if I leave the room. What does it say about some men, if they have far less self-control than a dog? And if you're arguing against the concept of "you can look, but don't touch/stalk/harass", I'm going to assume that you're excusing wild animal behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:14 PM
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seeing revealed breasts and asses Do you live on a nude beach or something? Most women don't walk around with "revealed breasts and asses". I've had men try to follow me home while I was wearing trousers and loose-fitting linen or cotton shirts (i.e. office wear). That's not "half naked". Most women don't have issues with men "admiring these features" — we have issues with men acting like wild animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:07 PM
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dressing revealingly or accentuating features of your sexual body parts would always garner attention to your physical appearance For a good chunk of women, we don't need to dress "revealingly" to garner attention. I get looked at and hit on very, very frequently — irrespective of whether I'm out grocery shopping, exercising, or at a bar. I don't care, as long as a guy isn't harassing me, following me around a supermarket, or trying to follow me home. Unfortunately, certain men are creeps, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:34 PM
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I disagree that "most women" are creeped out by porn. Porn addicts, sure — but not porn. A lot of female subreddits and armchair psychologists love to scream how "ALL PORN IS EVIL! AND BAD!!", but that's a clear case of a demographic of smug, self-righteous people screeching the loudest. Most videos on BookTok deal with erotica, and a big chunk of women admit to watching porn. Would Fifty Shades of Grey be so popular if all women were prudes? I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:20 AM
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This comes across as a massive generalisation, based on a percentage of men with no social skills. Most of my flatmates at uni were guys, and a good chunk of them loved solo travelling. They always made friends on their travels (and no, they weren't "Chads", either).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:43 PM
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You're right. If a woman actually fancies a guy, she won't expect him to "chase" her. The men who rant about women expecting to be "chased" are likely shooting for women FAR more attractive than they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:53 PM
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I'd feel the same way I've always felt about rating scales: most people who rate themselves an objective 10/10 are completely delusional. But it's none of my business, so I wouldn't say anything
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:40 PM
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Living there as a citizen would be ass. From the POV of an American, sure. For one thing, the average overweight-to-(morbidly)obese American wouldn't find it as easy to get those heavy-duty mobility scooters to haul their blubber around.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:49 PM
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I love it when Americans realize Europe is actually a shit hole. Good, can those Americans stop coming over? The EU isn't great for entitled, obese tourists.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:19 AM
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Yup, the men who complain the most about gold diggers have no gold. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:24 AM
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Unless you're intentionally agreeing with me that feminism is a bad faith movement that's lying about it's intent and purpose About modern, Western, "performative" feminism? Yes. Took you ages to get there, but at least you made it in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:55 AM
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I'll let you in on a secret: most people don't give a shit if random strangers want to make themselves uglier and more unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:12 AM
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Absolutely! I'm so grateful I found one of the good ones, instead of... whatever this poster is supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:16 PM
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Honestly, I think tit-for-tat behaviour in a relationship is REALLY weird. Shouldn't mutual pleasure be the goal, not "if he/she didn't do X, I won't do X for him/her"?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:55 PM
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That's more of a "Body Positivity" or "Health at Every Size" thing. Many vocal body positivity activists like Virgie Tovar and Tess Holliday think that promoting "healthy lifestyles and exercising" is a form of hate speech. And, as feminism advocates for bodily autonomy, they're well within their rights to eat themselves towards heart failure, diabetes, and morbid obesity. Just as I'm well within my rights to exercise and eat healthily. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:03 AM
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I'm not really BP, but I think men's attractiveness is a mix of both. Individual women will weigh the importance of innate vs. built attractiveness differently. In other words, it's really hard to generalise, because an aspiring trophy wife (for example) is going to view attractiveness differently from the average woman. To the aspiring trophy wife, wealth and status matter a LOT more than a man's looks. The average woman is going to want an even mix of the two: looks and financial stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:06 AM
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Not too far off, age-wise! (Rip @ the cognitive age, though. 🤣) <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 05:33 PM
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Come on, at least make your bait believable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:36 PM
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Using Redpill jargon, women are more impressed by women getting a 'Beta Bux' than "Alpha Fux'. [...] Rarely are women impressed with a woman who fucks hot losers Honestly, I don't think it's that simple. Just read r/GirlDinnerDiaries for a month, and you'll come across women whining about their hot FWB not wanting to date them (or general doormat activities for hot men). Check out r/theotherwoman, and you'll read about women who tick every single Red Pill stereotype. The way your post is framed,…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:29 PM
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they are in fact risking their lives to have sex with desirable men Are we, though? I keep hearing men on Reddit claim this, but it doesn't reflect my lived experience at all (nor that of my friends). Most "desirable men" I've met IRL have good emotional intelligence and respect boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:54 PM
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I'd say my preferences are pretty rock-solid. Would your standards slowly recalibrate so that you’d end up finding 20% of the remaining men attractive instead? The availability of men who meet my preferences has never affected what I find attractive. I've always preferred tall (6ft+), toned, conventionally attractive men, even when I lived in/visited countries where the average man was nowhere close to that. If that group disappeared overnight, I probably wouldn't find men attractive at all. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:11 AM
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Why do many men find a clumsy, socially awkward, maladjusted woman acceptable for casual sex, but women don’t? Because a lot of men have low standards for casual sex. If a woman is sexually available, they don't really mind if she's unattractive, overweight, or just a mess — there's no emotional component. Women are much pickier when it comes to casual sex, due to safety factors and the danger of pregnancy. Most of us probably won't risk it for someone we don't find sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 09:50 AM
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Exactly. They're also quick to call you a Pick Me if (God forbid!) you actually love your husband and you don't view sex as a chore. And don't even get me started on those "BDSM = rape" arguments they seem to love — despite the fact they claim to be feminists who respect women's choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 11:22 AM
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Big cities, very affluent areas, the entertainment industry, and exclusive sports clubs/events. Two of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life have been at a private golf club and the flagship Hermès store in Paris.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:00 PM
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Every day: retinol, moisturisers, and loads of sunscreen. I also get facials, and very regular high-frequency treatments to keep my skin clear. Probably going to get Botox in a few years, plus some filler in my tear troughs and nasolabial folds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:26 PM
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Women seem to dislike clear communication, its a turnoff for them No, some women genuinely find direct men super hot. For example, my friends and I loved dating in the Netherlands, because a lot of men there are upfront and refreshingly straightforward. That open communication is one of many reasons why I married my husband. Your problem is equating autism (or a general lack of social cues) with 'clear communication', which are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:31 PM
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From your perspective, how real is this pattern? [...] I’m looking for honest, experience-based answers Sure, it may apply to a few women. But it really isn't a widespread pattern, at least not in the way Reddit likes to claim. In my life, my husband is the hottest man I've ever dated, so I personally can't agree with 'Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks' as a rule. And let me clarify: my standards for men are ridiculously high and all the men I've dated met them (6ft+, good career, conventionally attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:15 AM
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Did you translate this from Na'vi? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:34 PM
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Well, I've seen a man on the internet rate Megan Fox a 6.5 and Margot Robbie a 5. Two very objectively hot women, I might add. And that's why I don't have sympathy when men complain about hot chicks turning them down. If certain men genuinely think hot women are average... it's 100% likely they're shooting well out of their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:21 PM
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Sorry, but you went to AskFeminism as a man with 'critique' and expected them to welcome it? Are you new to Reddit? 🤣 Certain women-centric subreddits don't even want women who disagree with them there, so a man stepping in with unwanted 'critique' will likely get his post removed. I'm surprised it's taken you this long to figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:48 PM
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Why tf do yall eat such boring food It's not boring if it's seasoned properly. And you can still have cheat days, as long as you're maintaining CICO. 'Boring food' also tends to give me more energy than food with excessive carbs, so I'm not constantly snacking throughout the day or getting tired halfway through a workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:28 PM
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Good — modern 'body positivity' is a scam peddled to the gullible and insecure, by Fat Acceptance grifters like Tess Holliday and Virgie Tovar.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:17 PM
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Is the FDS sub still active? You could follow that sub for your daily dose of misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:15 PM
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Was this skyfairy a raging misandric cunt too? Damn, she really has a way with words! 🤣 But beneath all the swearing, she has a point: women put in the effort to build their support networks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:10 PM
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I'm also Team No. If it's been an amicable breakup, I think it's fine to be friendly. But I still wouldn't go out of my way to spend time with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:05 PM
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do you treat your man like a "prince"? Yes, I do. We love each other, so yes... if I get 'princess treatment', it's only fair that he gets 'prince treatment'. I get breakfast in bed sometimes, and so does he. He spoils me on dates, and I spoil him right back. He prioritises me getting off during sex, and I do the same for him. He takes care of me when I'm ill or tired, and I do the same for him when he's ill or tired. If you genuinely think it's 'ridiculous' for women to love and take care of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:55 PM
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1. Opening the door for you: bare minimum for everyone (we should all strive to be polite humans) 2. Sends you good morning or good night texts: bare minimum if you don't live together, or if one partner is away 3. Buying you birthday gifts: bare minimum 4. Does your laundry every time: sharing in the laundry is the bare minimum if you live together or are in a committed relationship 5. Driving you wherever you want: could be princess treatment, but could be the bare minimum if only one partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:30 PM
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Honestly, I like hearing different viewpoints. I find TwoX and AskWomenNoCensor quite sanctimonious and cliquey sometimes, so PPD is a real breath of fresh air. Sure, there are some terrible takes sometimes, but there are also plenty of commenters and posters I can agree with. What responses from men do you really long for [...] ? I'd like some men to stop assuming that every discussion is an argument to 'win'. Especially if their strategy for debating is being aggressive (or 'woe is me') and at…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:48 PM
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That you simply fail at being whats expected of you at every opportunity Honestly, that'd be VERY difficult to do. Desperate simps will go for any woman, even if she's 400lbs, has no job, and shouts at him all the time. How can you fail in that situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:44 PM
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Unpopular opinion, but some definitely want to date married men. You just need to check out r/theotherwoman for countless stories of women choosing to have multi-year relationships with married men. However, other factors you're not considering is that married men are capable of lying about their marital status, and that some single women genuinely prefer staying single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:30 PM
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I think the men who desire 'a small percentage of the population' aren't the same guys complaining about being unable to attract women. There are some men on this subreddit who are honest about their high standards, and a LOT of men I know IRL are quite open and self-aware about the fact their standards are high. They all seem to be successful with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:07 PM
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How did you come to that conclusion? It wouldn't bother me at all if I were 'filtered out' during the dating stage for not being submissive, or an excellent cook, or housewife/SAHM material. That man and I would clearly be looking for different things, and I 100% respect a person who sticks to their standards and doesn't lead people on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:45 AM
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How do you know women have never met the men they base their 'standards' on? How do you know these men don't exist? You thinking it's delusional for women to want a man who's emotionally intelligent, over six feet, plans every date, stays loyal, never gets angry, never gets tired, treats her like a princess 24/7... etc., doesn't make it delusional if there are women actually dating these men. My husband meets most of your dumb criteria, and last I checked, he's not 'Santa Claus'. You're also con…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:43 AM
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It's a mutual reward — or, rather, a perk of being with a spouse you find hot AF. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I look forward to having sex with him, and he looks forward to having sex with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:13 PM
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I don't know what's worse: that someone created this stupid skit for attention, or the hundreds of needy, low self-esteem women admitting they actually demean themselves with this shit. I feel like I need to go take a shower and wash the secondhand embarrassment off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:16 PM
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Best partner, hands down. (I'm a woman.) Judging by the posts on this subreddit, men only value 'good sex' up to a point. When it comes to women who are only good at sex (and not so-called wife/girlfriend material), they tend to be fuckzoned by these men. Besides, anyone can become better at sex. Growing as a couple also means discovering each other's kinks and sexual fantasies, and that can take 'average sex' to 'great sex'.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:21 PM
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Tbh, you're more likely to see complaints about online dating because the successful daters just get on with their lives. The people who spend AGES on the apps with zero success and complain about it are either incredibly unlucky, unattractive, or have horrible personalities. For example, a 300lbs aggressive vegan is more likely to complain about dating apps than the average, fit 20yo woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:41 PM
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Was the '23' a typo?? But seriously, he'd look MUCH better if he: fixed his hair (or just shaved it all off), fixed his teeth, lost some weight, got toned, and picked some more flattering glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:03 PM
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Some do, yes. But that's the nature of (internet) echo chambers: angry, bitter people find other angry, bitter people who agree with them. I see plenty of women who push back against the 'we hate men' narrative, just as I see men who disagree with the 'we hate women' narrative. I mean, I'm doing that right now, and I'm hardly the only woman who thinks that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:00 PM
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be healthy Yup — 'health at every size' is a big, fat lie peddled to extremely gullible and insecure people. Most people would look and feel better at a healthier weight, no matter how hard the obesity fetishists market HAES.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 05:53 PM
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Nope, and I've never said that all PPD men hate women. Some PPDers have genuinely admitted to hating women or have argued that hating women is acceptable in certain scenarios (example from earlier today), but I don't think they're representative of all the men here. There are definitely PPD men who have takes I can agree with — yes, even the Red Pillers. I think a lot of the angry or lonely guys are analogous to feminists ranting about men I agree! I see a lot of similarities between the men who…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 05:16 PM
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I am asking what you think Can you read? I just said: I think it's moronic for either gender to say they 'hate women' or they 'hate men', but if you're a grown adult and think hating an entire gender is justified... well, you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:37 AM
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Feel free to hate us. No one's stopping you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think it's moronic for either gender to say they 'hate women' or they 'hate men', but if you're a grown adult and think hating an entire gender is justified... well, you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:23 AM
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'Better' (or, rather: fitter) should be the goal, but a lot of people could stand to lose some weight. The rising obesity rates across the world are horrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:16 PM
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About the same levels of both. It's rare to find people who see faults in male and female behaviour equally, because most critical posts/comments seem heavily on one side or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:15 PM
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If you're an even moderately attractive woman in her 20s, tons of 60yo men will hit on you. Younger men will hit on you, too. It doesn't matter what you're wearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:10 PM
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Honestly, if that's the way you view relationships, then I feel sorry for you. But to answer your question: yes, I do care that my husband is 'represented in the literal dna' of our future kids. The only exception would be if we choose to adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:21 PM
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Nope. But I do find it funny how you seem to think being 'resourceful' and 'genetically fit' are mutually exclusive. You do know that hot, fit, family-oriented guys exist, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:08 PM
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Years ago, I responded to a post on TwoX on my old account about what I'd do for my husband (then boyfriend) if he was having a bad day. One guy read my response and was PISSED that I'd have the audacity to: ask my partner what's bothering him, cook him a 'cheer-up' meal, and offer him a blowie. He exploded in my DMs, telling me that this is typical narcissistic women behaviour, where we make things all about ourselves. Anyway, I went to the guy's profile and 99% of his comments were on PPD. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:26 PM
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Ok, so you don't have a point or a rebuttal. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:16 PM
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Are you going to make a point, or just repeat what I said like a parrot?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:59 PM
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That's a very common sight. McDonald's target demographic is fat kids and their even fatter parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:15 PM
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I've never met a single woman IRL who gave a shit about 'Leo dating younger chicks'. Yet some of you PPD men seem quite obsessed with the guy, to the extent I wonder if you've got a crush on him?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:40 AM
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Why are you surprised? I think it's human nature for people to want attractive partners, even if they're average or below average themselves. And, while reality often breaks the fantasy, there are enough simps out there for this woman to actually land a fit guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:24 PM
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He'd probably be called into HR for taking his shirt off at work. 🤷🏻‍♀️ But let's assume you had an actual example that could work in practice: most women don't care if other women find their man hot, as long as their partner is faithful. And, for a few of us, it's an ego boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:01 PM
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Tbh, depending on where you live, nightclubs in big cities may have dress codes. I've gone out clubbing in the dead of winter, and while it's freezing outside, it's typically hot AF inside. You want breathable, flexible clothing that you can dance in, especially if you want to avoid drowning in your own sweat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:47 PM
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why is the go to response when asked to cover up "but im dressing for myself, i dont care about other men" Because that's the truth. I like dressing well, and yes... some of those outfits make me look and feel hot. The only male perspective I care about is my husband's, and he respects my bodily autonomy. its that others are getting visual access to what a man considers exclusive to the relationship To me, the best solution is working on your own self-esteem. If you're dating an attractive woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:38 PM
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In order 👇🏻 Facial symmetry/construction Tallness/Height (I prefer men 6ft+) Other: overall grooming & general fitness Other pros: good dick, strong shoulders, nice bum, and a deep voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:47 PM
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Crazy stereotypes. I get that some men may not understand women's sexuality, but I've also found a lot of stereotypes perpetuated by other women, too. My one major grievance with subs like TwoX and AskWomenNoCensor is that they allow certain posters to make definitive claims about women's sexuality. There's also a LOT of kink-shaming there, and treating horniness like a PickMe trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 10:23 PM
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I agree with you! And honestly, I'm confused by the performative concern some people have under this post. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I get that OP and some other commenters clearly dislike picky women (which is their prerogative), but I don't know why they're so worked up by something that's none of their business. Unless these women are physically breaking down their doors to complain, this is such a non-issue. Hell, I'd even advise men to start being pickier. I think we should all have standards for ourselves and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:49 PM
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I mean, I agree that it can be obnoxious. But what's the solution to your example? Say someone's morbidly obese and they're aiming for people who aren't attracted to their body type. A random Reddit comment about leagues is more likely to piss a sensitive person off than make them contemplate the fact that certain qualities are probably holding them back. Which comes back to my point: people are allowed to be picky. The dating world can be cruel to some picky people, but that comes with the terr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 05:00 PM
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It doesn't bother me, tbh. I've met both men and women who vastly overestimated their looks. It's like the Dunning-Kruger effect, but for looks instead of cognitive ability. At the end of the day, it's their life and they can believe the sky's neon green if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:35 PM
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Okay, say we ask that question. What then? Is she going to read a random Reddit comment and think, "Yep, I definitely need to lower my standards and date my looksmatch, who's definitely obese and unkempt, just because Reddit thinks so." People are allowed to be picky. If people's pickiness annoys you, just block them. I block people all the time when I CBA to deal with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:19 PM
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I don't understand the issue here. What am I (or women in general) supposed to do if a woman you find unattractive is picky? I'm sure that plenty of people I find unattractive are picky, but I'd never date them anyway, so... who cares? At the end of the day, no one's owed a relationship. Some people are definitely going to struggle when it comes to dating, and there's nothing other people can say or do to fix it. It's a personal journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:14 PM
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Yes! 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:06 AM
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perfect male height is 5’11” Don't they claim to be 6ft tall? Or are those the 5'9" guys who 'round up' to 5'11"? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:05 PM
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Disagree. Sending Wifey Back to School is a TRAP!! [...] She should be working & earning, not freeloading off you! [...] She's not investing in YOUR future, you're investing in hers!! Why does this hypothetical woman expect you to pay for her degree? When I go back to university, I'll be paying for my degree, not my husband. This may surprise you, but a LOT of women work and earn their own money nowadays. (Unless you're specifically dating freeloaders.) Depending on the field, you may need to up…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:35 PM
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Even in the best case scenario (no pregged-up Pick Mes, STDs, or deranged lunatics), dealing with a cheater is still more trouble than it's worth. I'll take a peaceful life, sans cheaters, any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:30 AM
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Disagree. I know at least three people who realised their partners were cheating on them after catching STDs. I'd rather be single than deal with someone infecting me with STDs from whatever mangy strays they choose to shag. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:14 AM
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Oh, was that the Big Budget Brides mod? I loved browsing the BBB subreddit for wedding inspo, but reading a few of the mod's posts/comments, I found them quite... weird and out-of-touch. Bible belt couple makes a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 07:08 PM
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Challenge her to an in-person rematch. (Clothing optional.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:47 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:33 PM
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Tbh, you're welcome to think that every woman on PPD is 48-year-old, obese single mother. With or without 3 jailbird baby daddies — but that's totally up to your imagination. The point is, words aren't particularly offensive. Lonely or insecure people lash out to make themselves feel better all the time, and if you're not an insecure person it's quite funny to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:11 PM
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Honestly, I don't think it's inherently masculine or feminine. I plan a lot of our dates, but my fiancé plans things like trips and special outings for us. He also earns more than I do, so the trade-off makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:28 PM
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Do you actually care if men do this? Nope. I have absolutely nothing against passport bros who choose to travel elsewhere for legal* love and relationships. Even if women are only attracted to these men for their €€€€€, well... financially beneficial relationships have been around for as long as we've had money. I do, however, side-eye the aspiring passport bros who continously post about how 'Western women are shit'. If you don't connect with 'Western women', then go where you're appreciated — …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:43 PM
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You'd be welcome to it. As a woman, I can tell you that short skirts draw a LOT of attention: good, bad, and everything in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:45 PM
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Offering a hypothesis on why OP might be drawn to these kinds of women isn't victim blaming, even if you're the most sensitive, emotionally fragile Red Piller. The parallel with his family provides some important context, and it's something OP might want to reflect on in his next relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:25 PM
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I'm a woman and this would annoy the shit out of me. Is it possible that growing up alongside people who regularly disrespected your boundaries has made you more susceptible to dating women who also walk all over your boundaries? Or, to reiterate: if every single one of your relationships with a woman involves this dynamic, I'm wondering if you're used to ignoring some early red flags because they don't register as red flags for you? Especially if you've grown accustomed to your mum or sisters (…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:28 AM
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I assume the mods just don't care, because I've never really seen PPD's rules implemented. When I first joined the sub with my old account, I'd report rule-breaking content, but I can't be bothered to shoot reports into the void any more and I don't really have the time. So I guess that allows users like that guy to flourish here. congrats on your engagement! Thank you! 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:13 AM
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In the case of PPD, there seem to be LOADS of insecure, unhappy people lashing out. (And trolls — can't forget the trolls.) Take this guy's comments to various Redditors on this subreddit, for example. Does this strike you as a person who wants a civil convo... or is he just a miserable person trying to make everyone else equally miserable? 'Most of these women suffer from “Not bigger than the vag” problem they ain’t all that cool without a vag so people don’t want to invest in them after sex.' …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 07:59 AM
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Some do, and it's typically a sign of insecurity or a cry for attention. I used to know a woman like this — she was incredibly insecure, and assumed that if she could 'steal' a man from a more attractive woman, she'd be 'better', 'hotter', and 'sexier'. To date, however, she hasn't managed to steal anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 09:03 PM
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Respectfully, the issue here is generalising 'some women' to equal 'all or most women'. Sure, some women don't view sex as a priority. Then you've got a whole bunch of women (like me) who view sex and sexual attraction as absolute must-haves. In terms of women's attitudes to sex, there's a whole spectrum out there. If you don't want to be settled for sexually, date and marry a woman who loves sex as much as you do— and loves having sex with you. If she isn't enthusiastic, then she isn't the one …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 05:59 PM
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How do you navigate this considering the first friends feelings? Everyone has crushes, and grown adults know how to handle rejection. I shouldn't be expected to 'keep the PDA down' or keep my relationship 'hidden entirely' just because someone else might feel disappointed. If the situation were reversed (and yes, I've been there, too), the onus would be on me to handle my feelings — not my friend/flatmate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 05:37 PM
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That's valid. I'd much prefer being single to being with someone who doesn't match my standards. But I definitely wouldn't complain about it or be unable to match those standards myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:44 AM
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I think everyone should have REALISTIC standards. If you're a fit and health-conscious man or woman, it makes sense to have similar standards for your partner. And any standards are fine if you're realistic about the likelihood of meeting someone who ticks every single box. It's whiny and annoying when people have massively unrealistic standards, then complain about being unable to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:27 AM
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Women ARE the finish line. While I agree with the points you're making, the issue with generalisations like this is that you're phrasing things as though ALL women (or women in general) are 'trophies'. Like men, some women aren't worth your time, energy, or money. I see a number of men pedestalising these kinds of women on Reddit, then moaning about their terrible experiences. (Like... no shit, Sherlock.) Or, worse, generalising this crap behaviour to all women. We should really be assessing par…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 08:53 PM
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Are they prepared to be judged the same way they judge others? Yes and no. I don't have standards for my fiancé that I'm unable to meet. But I wouldn't give a shit about judgment from random other people, even if they're prepared to 'judge' me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:43 PM
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Some of them are greatly exaggerated, yes. That being said, I have met some men who've been settled for. The common denominator there is that they had zero standards or boundaries — they were desperate for ANY woman, even if she turned out to be an abusive narcissist. And sure, it's not nice to be lonely. But putting effort into self-improvement or building a career or [insert hobby here] is far better than chasing women who are clearly not worth any time/effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:45 PM
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The vast majority of heterosexual women want to be approached. Yes and no. I'm sorry to be blunt, but there's a HUGE difference between a(n attractive and charismatic) man shooting his shot respectfully, and some rando pestering a woman into giving him her number. Plus, there are also multiple locations where most women prefer not to be approached. If you're talking about men 'not pushing boundaries enough', you're advocating for men in the second category — in which case, the default advice is …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:04 PM
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I'm not sure what we're supposed to be debating? If your point is that some women are absolute rubbish at giving dating advice to men, that's 100% true. Some men are equally terrible at giving dating advice to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 03:23 PM
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all the women I’ve met are very vanilla No offence, but you're literally a virgin. I find it super ironic that you're out here calling random people vanilla, when you've got no sexual experience. You're also 'not open to' BDSM... but you want to be restrained? Do you even know what BDSM is? Make it make sense, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:25 AM
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say that men that are very sexual and have kinks and all that are gross Do all these women belong to your hyper-religious community? While some women will 'fake it' for bad lovers, this isn't so prevalent that almost every single woman you come across finds it normal. It also sounds like you've internalised a lot of those repressed beliefs (i.e. believing that most women are starfish in the bedroom and hate sex). Unless you change your mindset, those beliefs aren't going to make you popular with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:12 AM
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So women, is there a way for me to word this on dating apps so that I can filter out people that aren’t as open minded? Tbh, if you have niche kinks, you're better off finding partners on apps like Fetlife. But, depending on the kink, we'd probably expect you to have some experience first — so being a virgin will very likely count against you. Same story with the whole 'waiting until marriage' thing. I'm going to hazard a guess that most sex positive women won't agree to a sex-free relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 07:57 AM
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this is the best looking group of men we've had Disagree. Obesity rates among men (and women) are rising, and there's far less of an emphasis on being well-groomed. While I don't agree with 'leagues', the people struggling the most seem to be in complete and utter denial about their own attractiveness, when compared to their 'type/ideal'. And I don't just mean physical attractiveness — things like severe (and unmedicated) mental health issues or an unwillingness to work on themselves can both dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:47 PM
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What reward is there as a women doing everything right? Why does there need to be a 'reward' for that? To me, that'd be like giving someone a participation trophy for being a functional adult. Both men and women face 'issues with dating', so us suddenly being the dominant sex wouldn't really solve anything — we'd just have a host of new issues to deal with. (And vice versa, if we're talking about men.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:36 PM
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I find it ironic that you typed this out to another commenter: why are you do hung up on who I find or don’t find attractive? But you seem to think women finding you unattractive is this MAJOR issue that desperately needs to be addressed. Just like you have an age preference, some women have preferences for height, age, looks... etc. You can either get over it, or continue to wallow in self-pity. Either way, it's not society's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:34 AM
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Sucks to be RP, then. In another comment, you complain about women 'fawning over height'... which is ridiculously vague. I don't know how people this sensitive navigate society, when you're out here imagining things to be offended by. Get a grip, honestly. EDIT: I repeat, get a grip. You've made three replies to me whinging about being unattractive (I assume?). Consider putting that energy into the gym, instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:17 AM
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You'll have to ask the women who care, instead of posing this as a question to women in general. Personally, I'm pretty indifferent to people (men and women) who rate themselves as unattractive/'bottom 50%' and refuse to do anything about it. If they don't care, why should I? I just opt not to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:01 AM
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As with anything on the internet, the loudest voices are often from the fringe. Lots of women (myself included) view sexual compatibility as a requirement, and I daresay that's the norm. Those who hate sex are going to be much more vocal on Reddit, because they can't exactly walk up to random people IRL and pop off about sex being unimportant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:46 PM
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Maybe this is a boring take, but ALL internet spaces have at least some men/women with a whiny victim complex. It's pretty much human nature for some people to go, "I'm not the problem! Everybody else is just mean and wrong!"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:58 PM
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It doesn't matter if I have an opinion on it being 'kosher' or not — at the end of the day, it's not my business. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I didn't like much older men hitting on me at 18 (I'm in my 20s and I still don't), but I can only enforce boundaries for what I will or won't accept in a relationship. I can't make that choice for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:10 PM
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I think everyone's entitled to their own preferences. If you only want to date fit people, or people in their 20s, or virgins, or millionaires... it's your choice. But choices don't exist in a vacuum. If you're morbidly obese and you're angry that fitness models don't want you, that's your problem and not society's. It's the same story if you're broke and no one wants to fund your lifestyle, or if you're solely attracted to one age group or demographic and they don't want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 11:35 AM
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I mean people are their real self when they are anonymous . Are they? You're saying that if I created a new Reddit account tomorrow, pretending to be a 6'6" millionaire named Chad (with hundreds of ex-girlfriends), you'd take everything I say at face value? Like I said, that's naïve. Yes but these are outliers. Okay, if they're outliers, then why do you care? By nature, an outlier isn't the norm. It's like being bothered by some men buying Patek Philippe watches, when most men aren't out here ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:43 AM
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Lastly how can you marry someone you don't love and spend your whole life with him , sleep with him and have children with him while secretly resenting him?? I never would, and I don't personally know any woman who would. Sure, statistical outliers exist (and always will), but this is the kind of take you'd expect from someone who's terminally online and thinks a few Reddit posts sum up society as a whole. Plus, looking at divorce rates and assuming those people never really loved each other is …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:08 AM
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Honestly, I'd prefer some comfortable middle ground. In an ideal world, we'd all 'take care of ourselves' in the practical sense: regular exercise, healthy meals, great hygiene, solid skincare routines, a good sense of style... etc. I do all of this (as does my fiancé) and these are perfectly achievable standards, so I think it's reasonable to expect the people in my 'ideal world' to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:21 PM
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I think we would all be a lot happier if we had a crystal ball where we could see ahead of time that a woman is hypocritical and has double standards Or... these kinds of men can raise their standards, stand by their boundaries, and dump hypocritical women. I've met people EXACTLY like the women you describe in your post, and they're a red flag parade from Day 1. But some men ignore the glaring red flags because they want a quick and easy shag/relationship, then complain when they realise their …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:48 PM
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Pretty much everything that drew me to my fiancé: Ambition, especially if he's actively taking steps to further his career and appreciates the same qualities in you. Long-term goals are sexy! Being financially savvy is another big one, because it likely means a man prioritises stability over instant gratification. Being well-travelled, or at the very least curious about other countries and cultures. Playing some sport, or at least getting some form of regular exercise. Having a range of hobbies …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:00 AM
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at the first red flag they can find another attractive man easily You're operating under the assumption that younger women can always effectively spot red flags. That's not the case — if anything, younger women are MUCH worse at spotting red flags. As a woman in her 20s, I remember friends and coworkers putting up with absolutely horrendous behaviour from men, because they didn't have the relationship experience to identify glaring red flags. It's a lot more common than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:37 PM
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Why women are afraid to say that they find attractive men attractive? As a woman, I'm always honest about my preferences. However, I've seen the way people dogpile on women who specify they want tall men, or fit men, or [insert quality here] men. Instead of listening to women's answers, you get an outpouring of "women only want Chad!" or "women only go for the top 10% of men!"... which is just exhausting and incredibly boring to read/listen to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:42 AM
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I'm not a liar, so I wouldn't call someone "attractive" if I don't find them attractive. But I don't really go around calling everyone and their mum "attractive" to hype them up, so I'm not sure if I'm the right demographic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:43 PM
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it is far more common for rich and high status men to marry or date low income women That's a small demographic of men. You can't look at a tiny subsection of relationships and generalise that to the general public. The "low income" women in these scenarios are usually hot, young, and... did I mention hot? In those cases, it's a mutually beneficial relationship where the man gets to have sex with a woman he finds desirable, and the woman gets money/status. They're not "poor men" — they WANT thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:51 PM
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Having no job/thinking a man should bankroll her life Putting no effort into her appearance, but expecting to be treated like a ✨queen✨ Being a bad communicator Being a constant source of drama (eg: every man she's ever dated is terrible, she regularly fights with her friends, "I'm a victim 24/7!!"... etc.) Being unable to compromise (or being unwilling to work on herself) if there's an issue in the relationship And bonus: Never initiating sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:30 PM
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Do you feel threatened by women more attractive than you? Honest answer: not anymore, no. For me, jealousy was a sign that I wasn't doing enough —> I needed to work out more regularly, get a proper skincare regimen, start dressing better... etc. Does it make you fly into a jealous rage? Nope. This might not be a popular statement, but I don't waste energy on a man unless we're in a committed relationship AND he's proven himself to be worthy of it. I learnt this second-hand from watching friends …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:55 PM
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Unless a guy spends a huge chunk of time sitting in front of his PC and ignores his chores/work to game, I think it's an overreaction to just turn off his gaming console while he's playing. I like playing some games with my partner and I'm happy to see him spend time on his hobbies (gaming & crafting things with his 3D printer). That being said, I know my partner won't prioritise his hobbies over helping me make dinner or spending quality time with me, for example, so I don't see them as a "thre…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:32 AM
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Frankly, people should be allowed to set their own boundaries for what they'll accept in a relationship. And I'm speaking as someone that has NO problem with my partner watching porn. As long as he isn't pornsick or cheating, I don't care how he gets off when he's alone. Other women may see things entirely differently — and it's their right to do so. Edit: And yes, I'd say the same if the topic were about dildos/sex toys. It's perfectly valid for a man to not want to be in a relationship with so…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:30 AM
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Given the amount of men incapable of understanding that not being someone's type doesn't equal discrimination (see: this screed about women "Demanding 6’4” millionaire Chad"), I'd 100% guarantee that many who struggle with dating have massive mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:24 AM
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Although do us all a favor and don't start talking down if you cant find that special 1 I've already found my special one, but even if I hadn't, I wouldn't be ranting. That's the whole point of my previous response — people who are secure in their preferences (and know they can attract the sort of partner they want) don't really care about what the internet has to say about who they date/marry/partner up with. just tired of seeing women thinking their preferences should be common traits amongst …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:47 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:39 PM
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And? Why do some men on the internet care so much about what internet strangers think? This sort of shaming happens to women too, fyi. I'm a woman of average height who prefers tall (≧6ft) men. Plenty of men on Reddit seem to think that's terrible — and I've even had nasty messages sent to my previous account about how I'm going to end up a bitter, washed-up cat lady. Hilarious stuff, really. No one who's secure in their preferences would actually care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:58 AM
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Same — banned for quite ridic reasons. I have no idea why people take Reddit blathering as confirmation of their perceived persecution.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:49 AM
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But where are they saying this, though? This is very "I'm online 24/7" rhetoric, because very few people IRL give a shit if someone thinks their preference is "-phobic" — or bother to assign a label to the fact preferences exist. I've honestly been rejected by a guy for being too short here in the Netherlands (165cm tall woman), but at no point was it "heightphobic". I've also rejected men for varying other reasons. No BS internet labels were required.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:43 AM
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Why are those particular men so insecure, then? Most men who can actually date women they have a preference for are not going to be boo-hooing about mean female Redditors crapping on their preferences. Do you think Leo DiCaprio is scrolling Reddit and weeping about comments he doesn't like? That's funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:29 AM
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why they can't advocate for men too? Why are you going into feminist women's spaces, expecting feminists to advocate for you? I'm not going into passport bros' spaces and expecting them to advocate for women living in Western Europe. It's not what they're there for and their members aren't required to give a shit about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 10:53 PM
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You're so wrong it's hilarious. You can think whatever you want to pander to your ego, but if we really like a guy, we won't be dragged away that easily. We'll tell our friends to keep dancing and that we'll join them in a bit, and then we'll keep talking to the guy we like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:04 PM
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Why are you shaming men for expressing their sexuality? If men calling older women "dried up" and "ugly" is "expressing their sexuality", then me finding men who do that disgusting and ugly is ME "expressing my sexuality". By your logic, stop telling me how to express my sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:46 PM
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Very true. Some of them are also far less likely to take 'no' for an answer or try to find ways to work around our 'no', because they think youth equals naïveté and we can be fooled into saying 'yes' if they try hard enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:20 PM
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I'm a young woman and I don't hate all gap relationships. Plenty of people with age gaps meet organically, fall in love, and then marry. My parents are just one example. I do, however, dislike these age gap weirdos: The older (40+) men who rave about how hot & fertile young women are, but only in contrast to how crusty and dried up they find older women. If these men were actually hot and had charisma, women of ALL ages would be automatically attracted to them. They wouldn't need to badmouth so …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:12 PM
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it should not be a secret that lonely men have to dig out on Reddit It's hardly a secret that people can find love while they're abroad. Key word: love. Two of my grandparents were from opposite ends of the world, met in the UK, and got married. That was decades ago. Of course, it wasn't a "mail order bride" situation and neither one was looking to manipulate the other into a relationship. And, as someone who moved to the Netherlands and then met her local partner, I have nothing against interna…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:13 PM
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Honestly, this just sounds like a thing only Leonardo DiCaprio or some billionaire techbro can do. Not the average man/Redditor. I mean... d'you really think women are afraid of being dumped the minute they're over 25, when so many guys can barely find a woman to date in the first place? When you think about it like that, you realise how nonsensical it is for the average man. If anything, it's a very weak scare tactic by a small percentage of insecure, sexually unsuccessful men intended to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:17 PM
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I'd say most people seem to enjoy my company. However, I'm certainly not naïve enough to think I'm everyone's cup of tea. It's 100% likely that someone's met me and thought I was the most boring chick they've ever met. I couldn't possibly care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 12:38 AM
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All the basic ones: Has kids I'll never sign up to be a stepparent or be forced to participate in unnecessary kid drama for a child that isn't mine/a friend's/a relative's. Alpha/sigma types In my opinion, there's nothing more insecure than a man who needs to beat his chest and bitch about what a Chad he thinks he is 24/7. Poor personal hygiene It's 2023. If a man can't wash his arse properly, he has bigger issues than trying to find a date. Uneducated & has no sense of humour Sure, there are so…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:28 PM
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fat ugly single women Why do you care what so-called "fat ugly single women" want? Are the target demographic you're shooting for? Anyone can set their sights on a 7-foot-tall billionaire sex fiend, but it doesn't mean that they're going to GET that sex fiend. The same thing applies to men shooting for women out of their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:25 PM
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Your problem sounds like you're looking for: attractive hot, youthful women but have precious little to offer them in return. Welcome to Relationship 101: hot people have loads of options. They also have loads of requirements. Whether you're a man or a woman, shooting for people way out of your league isn't going to be hugely productive unless you're a celebrity, filthy rich, or incredibly charismatic. In other words, you have to be a catch to nab a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 11:50 AM
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Do you think all men care about is sex? No. I think healthy, well-adjusted men also care about their families, their hobbies and interests, and their overall life goals. However, I definitely think that a small percentage of men who don't fit the demographic outlined above care primarily about sex. I presume that this is largely because they belong to the group that has the least sex and also lacks close platonic relationships, the desire to work on & achieve their life goals, and any interest i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 03:04 PM
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and I don’t care for it. Well, luckily for my partner and I, we don't give a shit what some random, self-important snowflake on the internet thinks. 🤣 His is the only opinion I need. If you don't want to be offended 24/7, try butting out of other people's lives (and find some hobbies to occupy your time, if your life is genuinely that boring).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 11:27 AM
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I’ve been seeing an awful lot of men disparaging women “who think they’re too good” for such an engagement ring Yes, but that sounds like projection from the men who can't afford it — or the men who think their SO would be thrilled to be proposed to with a piece of string — so I wouldn't pay their ranting any mind. They also ignore the fact that some women don't even want engagement rings and that many would be happy to help finance theirs. I've even heard of women paying entirely for their own …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:25 PM
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Yass kween, go off! 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:02 AM
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Likewise! 😙
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:18 PM
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The question is which is it? That's... already answered. There's only one option (i.e. the first one) that women want — and there'll only ever be. The question is not 'describe the difference'? From my previous response: You started the post off with an assumption that women put men in a "double bind" between these two options. We never have, because they're so vastly different. As the difference wasn't clear to you, I described it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:14 PM
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Check in w your therapist, I think you need a little more ✨ self care ✨ Why would I do that when I can read insecure comments from people like you that make me feel like an absolute ✨ queen ✨? Thanks for the ego boost, babes! 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:06 PM
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That was not ever one of the questions actually. Then you need to rewrite the title of this post which, as I'll remind you, is: > Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it? You started the post off with an assumption that women put men in a "double bind" between these two options. We never have, because they're so vastly different. As the difference wasn't clear to you, I described it. You d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:59 PM
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I don't think this really answers the question. You wanted to know the difference between "wanting men to communicate" and being an "emotional servant". I answered that question, in terms of how I (as a woman) view the difference. You not liking the answer doesn't make it invalid or a "strawman"/"outright topic change". I also posted a link to a PPD thread that explains this topic in detail, if my answer alone wasn't sufficient. Some men would not benefit from dealing with their struggles in thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:34 PM
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Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it? There's a BIG difference between: my partner having a bad day and wanting to vent about it to me, cry, or hug it out (& have me make him something nice for dinner), vs. needing to entirely manage his life and mine. When women complain about 'emotional labour', they're complaining about husbands/boyfriends/partners who entirely rely on their wives/gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:01 PM
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My personal ranking from most to least important: Similar long-term life/career goals & full transparency For example: as someone who wants children someday (but not in the near future), I want someone whose long-term kid goals align with mine. In addition to this, I'm only into men who prioritise monogamy, full honesty, and equitability in the allocation of chores/expenses. Similar boundaries I like men who know how to verbalise their hard boundaries, how to respect mine, and how to compromise …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 08:33 PM
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Do you think women should put effort into finding a partner if marriage and kids are their goal? Actually, I think women should put a lot more effort into vetting the men they date if marriage & kids are the end goal. For example, it's sad to see women who want to be married having 2-3 kids with different men, hoping that this will win them an engagement/stability in the relationship. At the risk of sounding judgemental, a relative is exactly like this. She's got (??) kids from separate fathers,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 05:16 PM
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And if they are, its because the man has been severely neutered and domesticated. In which case, chances are the woman is cheating on you. This is a laughably stupid take. Just because I don't like dating old men with saggy tits, it means I'm cheating on my partner? 🤣 If you want to bang younger women, then just go ahead and bang the younger women that'll have you. This pseudo-intellectual rubbish to 'justify' your preferences might get the other neckbeards hard, but it's hilarious to just about…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 01:53 PM
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If a woman cheats on you It will always be your fault even if you don’t think it will be Visit r/AdulteryHate. Most people hate side pieces, too. Women don’t and never need to be accountable for their actions I keep seeing a lot of "hurr durr, women need to be held accountable!!!" rubbish on PPD, but none of the men here or IRL that think with their dicks ever do (or, as is very likely, will ever do). Just one example: when demanding princesses screech that they need a bill paid just because the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:08 AM
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Don’t expect empathy/sympathy People always will, though. Some men laugh at women's dating woes, then expect to be babied every time they whine about getting no chicks. Some women expect 24/7 princess treatment and all their bills paid, then get upset when guys treat them as golddiggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:10 PM
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I'm free! Free to... sit here and feel like a useless unlovable piece of shit Strong projection there. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:56 PM
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Disagree. Trauma-bonding sounds like a fab way to have your relationship blow up in your face. Not to mention the fact it'd be awful to bring a child up in that environment. They will not care if someone is a loser, a asshole, evil So you'd welcome Amber Heard shitting in your bed if she'd never had a relationship before? She's a combination of all three, which must be really exciting for you. and can barely socialise We aren't running a dog shelter here. Learning the basics of human socialisati…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:52 PM
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Have you had a crush on a guy just for him to go and date a complete bitch just because she had a nice ass or something? Nope. Then again, I'm not interested in dating simps. All the men I've ever fancied or gone out with have had pretty high standards for the women they date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:10 AM
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I'm saying they are not responsible nearly to the same degree that women are Blah blah blah... [insert another snowflake excuse for not wanting to take 100% accountability for one's own dating choices here]. Women may have all the power when it comes to sex, but that doesn't hold true for relationships. Why do you think some women whine about "being used for sex"? Because they don't take 100% accountability for their dating choices and want to shift the blame. Irrespective of your sexual orienta…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 09:33 AM
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As if that makes an atom of a difference. Women who choose to date trashy men deserve no sympathy, just as men who choose to date trashy women deserve no sympathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:49 AM
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men get with bad women No. Many men get with bad women because they choose put breasts and a pussy on a pedestal. They choose to fuck whores and golddiggers. They choose to idolise grifters and porn stars. All of these are choices. The sooner these men start taking accountability for their own dating woes — and quit making excuses for them — the easier it would be for society to be more sympathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:37 AM
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What do men get for paying for the first date? Nothing. It's a date, not a transaction. Perhaps, if the man is on the traditional side, he may volunteer to pay the bill without expecting sex in return. Key words there: he may volunteer to pay the bill. Grown women with jobs shouldn't expect free meals in 2023 and men shouldn't expect the act of paying a bill to result in an instant dick-sucking session.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:24 AM
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This is not what 90% of the women here claim Exactly — OP seems to forget that many of us have partners/husbands/boyfriends, fathers, other male relatives, and male friends. Not wanting to have sex with every rando that eyefucks our tits doesn't mean we hate men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 10:14 AM
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Orrrrrrr women that believe this rubbish could vet their options more carefully. There are more men in the world than "unattractive guy who's only with you because he can't do any better" and "hot guy far out of your league who keeps cheating on you" types. For relationships to work out, you need to have more than a shallow physical/sexual connection to your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:02 PM
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we have now this neopuritan dangerous view that even in marriage sex is kind of asking too much Who does? Who is this 'we' you're referring to? I adore having sex with my partner and can barely keep my hands off him, but there are definitely some days when I'm not feeling up for it. There are also days when he doesn't want to have sex with me. Surprise, surprise... we respect each other's boundaries. Many couples are the same. People are only critical of men wanting sex when those men view women…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:16 PM
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she's 200lbs and gets out of breath walking up stairs Okay, but why would you want to date that woman in the first place? If she's that picky and has little to offer anyway... who genuinely cares about her opinion of you? I'd never whine about the fact some fat/lazy dude out there probably thinks I'm "not good enough". That shit's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:14 PM
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How attractive do you usually find your female friends' boyfriends/situationships/fwb/ons? It depends. Very few of my friends date very attractive men, as most of them tend to date men somewhere in the middle of the whole attractiveness spectrum. A small percentage of them even date objectively unattractive men. However, as long as they're happy, it's none of my business what their partners look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:27 AM
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What blue pill advice do you think people choose to misinterpret? Looks aren't everything. Some gullible men misinterpret this as "women don't care about looks, bro", which sets them up for disappointment when they realise... (shocker!) most women also need to be sexually attracted to their partner. Common sense would probably clue someone in that attraction is a two-way street, but there's exactly 0% of it floating around when people only hear what they want to hear. Women like vulnerability. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:12 AM
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Do Women Discriminate against Men in Education or Medical Fields? Sure. There are also women who discriminate against certain women, men who discriminate against women, and men who discriminate against certain men. As a personal anecdote, I've experienced my fair share of male/female c*nts in the workplace, so I believe workplace c*ntery and discrimination definitely aren't exclusive to one gender. My personal belief is society does not care for broken men Honestly, it's a bit naïve to think soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:59 AM
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How would you define “a hobby”? An activity you love doing, even if you aren't Olympic-level skilled at it. And do people really count traveling as a hobby? It depends. Some people genuinely love exploring the world and, for them, it'd definitely be a hobby (albeit an expensive one). People I know that fit the bill are passionate about it and full of great insights, even if they haven't circumnavigated the globe a million times or gone to 'popular' travel destinations. Others book a 'visit Europ…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:05 PM
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My dad and a few other rellies were almost this bad with cricket. I ended up picking a man that doesn't particularly give a shit about Big Manly Bro SportsTM. 10/10 decision!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:51 PM
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Why is it that it’s socially acceptable for women to enhance their attractiveness Is it, though? Plenty of people bitch and moan about fake tits/huge lips/BBLs. And, when badly done, all those things can SERIOUSLY detract from someone's overall attractiveness. I think we all have an aversion to fakeness, but men are more willing to accept it for sexual reasons (eg: gigantic tits being acceptably fake if it means he can fuck the woman they belong to).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:42 PM
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Why are people so obsessed with age gaps when it's such a niche issue? I'll preface this by saying that I don't particularly care if a woman my age wants to date a 50yo guy. It's her life and I'm neither her mum nor her maiden aunt, so idgaf. However, I DO have an issue with hilarious BS like: "young women prefer dating old men and the only people who disagree are bitter, old cat ladies, reeeeee". It's shitting on all women older than an arbitrary 'wall', just because some insecure men believe t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:17 AM
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who keeps telling you men that women don't prioritise looks? Sure, other things count, but we're not aliens from Mars. Reading comprehension, my dude. ⬆️ Having a personality = "other things count". However, having an amazing personality won't necessarily score you any points if you're morbidly obese or are a below-average guy shooting for a super-hot woman. That's my whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:30 PM
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Where? Find me a quote. Most women that aren't complete pick-mes will tell you that good looks do matter, but they aren't the only thing that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:24 PM
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Average people date, marry, and pop out kids all the time. The world wouldn't be overpopulated AF if that weren't the case. What's true, however, is that average people won't get the sexual attention that hotties, film stars, and other non-normies do. All that's left to do is either work on yourself or get TF over the fact that most million-dollar Big BoobyTM OF models aren't shooting for 'average' men. women will also openly admit that for a hookup a guy would have to be very handsome Ok... and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:14 PM
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You're equating men "feeling lonely" with the "orgasm gap, or the different standards for housework, or how unwelcoming male spaces are for women"? Seriously? Please answer this honestly: what's wrong with telling men to be more affectionate with each other or to seek professional help for their mental health crises? Everyone should have a circle of friends they can rely on and a health professional they can see if things come to it. Women do this, so why are these "lonely" men incapable of doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:52 PM
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Do men complain less about being used than women? Online? Both sexes do an insane amount of complaining about something that's so stupidly preventable. It's like choosing to insert a bat up one's rectum and then being shocked if one happens to have rabies. In real life? No, I've barely noticed people complaining. Or perhaps that's because the people I interact with tend to have strong boundaries and know that they're fully in control of whether or not they're "used".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:44 AM
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6'2 in the Netherlands should be considered short Where in NL do you live that 6'2" is short, lmfao? 🤣 Sure, it's not super tall for a young Dutch guy, but calling it short is a huge exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:26 PM
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Would you rather be with a man who raises kids that aren't his? Or one the has kids he doesn't raise? I'd rather be celibate for the rest of my life. I date with marriage as the end goal and being a stepmother is a hard NO, so option A is out. B isn't even an option, because deadbeat parents are disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:11 PM
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It's not a double standard. Women who want tall men should be free to date tall men — just as men who want slim women should be free to date slim women. It happens all the time in real life and those of us who date within our preferences don't care about external validation. But hint at asking about any weight, immediately you're an asshole who has no sympathy I mean... who cares? If someone's not your preference, just unmatch/stop seeing them and move on with your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:04 PM
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Instead of pursuing serious relationships with 07/10 men, you choose to have sex or long-term relationships with 10/10 men who are not interested in marrying you. Sigh... this boring stuff again. Who is "you" referring to? Women aren't a monolith. Sorry to burst the bubble of PPD wish fulfillment, but not every woman wants to be dicked down by a man that doesn't see a future with her (no matter how hot he is). And even when I look at the partners of women that seem to be in their 30s here (big-i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 11:55 PM
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Virginity only matters to me if the reason they're a virgin is because of some traditional/religious/cultural belief. I'm pretty irreligious and I think "because my culture tells me to" is a bullshit reason to do (or not do) something, so we'd be incompatible if those are reasons why they're a virgin. On the other hand, I wouldn't date someone who's slept with dozens of people either. They probably aren't too picky about their partners, which would also suggest we're incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 04:00 PM
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In other news, water is water and a sheep is not a goose!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 01:51 PM
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Cold approaching women is seen as 'shallow' and 'objectifying' Facts: cold approaching is only "shallow" or "objectifying" if you're ugly/low average, uncharismatic and/or have the social awareness of an awkward toddler as a guy. The men that have the most trouble with cold approaches suffer from one or more of these issues — and these are the cold approaches that women notice and complain about. The others? They're either successful or don't whine about a few misses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 01:11 PM
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Do you take men not dating or opting out (even temporarily) personally? Why would I? I think that men temporarily opting out of the dating game to work on their job, hobbies, appearance, or mental health is a good thing. Too many men make "having a girlfriend" their top priority, find some awful losers, and then either marry these chicks out of desperation or vent about all women online. You're already going through a lot and don't need that added strain on your mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:59 AM
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If all the men you're speaking to are trash, then you're most likely the dumpster Not really —> going by the women I've met that say this, most of them have insanely low self-esteem. One of my ex-friends routinely went for the shittiest of men because they stroked her ego. The big selling point was essentially telling her how ugly and stupid all other women are (including her friends... in front of those friends), and she'd lap it right up. Then, whenever these men would invariably cheat on her,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:49 AM
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In your opinion, is telling people not to actively search for love and let it come to you good advice? It's bad advice that promotes laziness. Sure, you shouldn't be hitting on every guy or girl you pass, but being proactive is always a better idea than assuming your perfect partner will just waltz into your life. By that, I mean: working on your appearance and overall fitness, engaging in hobbies that allow you to meet people and build social skills, getting out of the house more often, working…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 05:04 PM
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how do you tell if a woman is wearing hair dye irl instead of being a natural blonde/red head/brunette? If it's well done, you can't. If she's got an inch of dark root regrowth* or her eyebrows are an entirely different shade, then it's obviously a dye job. *Dyed hair will have more of a stark difference than natural, sun-bleached hair. I can tell when someone is using something like lipstick and mascara, but those only enhance appearance, not fundamentally alter it. Well, if her skin's as porel…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 05:00 PM
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Women like men they consider attractive. We always have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:01 PM
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How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you? I vet him and his behaviour. If he sleeps with anything that's got tits or a pussy, then I'm instantly unattracted because men with no standards could likely also be sexually attracted to a glazed doughnut if it scratches the right itch. Let's say a guy just wants to hook up with you and be your FWB, how do you tell that he is really sexually attracted to you? I wouldn't agree to be a guy's FWB. Any woman that does…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:42 PM
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Most women prefer the top 10% while the rest are forgotten and ignored by women unless they get super lucky. This "woe is me" snowflakery is what keeps them single. This sounds exactly like an argument from female "Fat Lives Matter" activists (or whatever the hell it is) that complain men's standards are too high. Irrespective of gender, "woe is me" snowflakery and an inability to be realistic (or work on oneself) is deeply unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:31 PM
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Women villainize/gaslight nice guys What is "nice"? Men that believe being "nice" is the only qualification they need in the dating market (and the snowflakes that encourage them) deserve whatever they get. Would you men date fugly/overweight/nasty women just because they claim to be nice? No? Then why the hell do you expect women to? we can freely admit chasing after scumbag Stacy because she has bigger boobs Women do the same with big-dicked Steve, super-hot Stan, and mega-loaded Stephen. Cue …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:27 PM
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Men do not have the same options as women in their 20s. No. Some men definitely have major dating issues in their 20s. However, not all men have issues dating in their 20s, so your generalisation is incorrect. And no, not all of these men are "Chads".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:18 PM
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dating the most desirable men in their 20s and then settling in their 30s nd 40s This isn't really a gendered thing. Most men also value having a lot of sex in their 20s and early 30s and many only think of settling down later. And the net effect of this is extremely low birth rate. It's interesting that the rising cost of living isn't a factor in your discussion at all. Children are very expensive and most (sane) couples wait till they're financially stable to bring a child into the world. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:41 AM
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I fully agree with your point about porn, because it's toxic AF for some men to believe everything they see in porn is entirely realistic. However, weeding through the losers will definitely reveal men that have more than five brain cells. Being ruthless is how you vet your significant other is the only way to go if you don't want to be saddled with a loser (of any gender). Men aren't masculine anymore. They cry over having to pay for a date. How is this related, though? Most men can and WILL pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:56 AM
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Sorry OP, but I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with finding cuteness attractive. 🤷🏻‍♀️ One of my best friends is objectively cute: she's rather short, loves wearing pink and cutesy clothes, has a very high-pitched voice, and is very sweet and bubbly. Almost everywhere she goes men are drawn to her — but she definitely doesn't look like a child or teenager, so I don't see how you find their attraction "wrong". It's simply a matter of preference, just as some men prefer women that…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:42 AM
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Absolutely not. If my man ever decides he wants a side of discount McDonald's 🐱 and a sample of behind-the-bins cocksucking, he'll be out of my life faster than you can say "woooo, STDs". Hot, sexy men are a million times hotter and sexier when they're choosy and don't run off to bang every rando that looks remotely available.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:43 PM
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Who in the deep blue fuck is getting "the ick" from half of this drivel on your list? Get real, snowflakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:37 PM
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would rather date a sedentary smoker who’s thin than a woman who works out, eats right, & doesn’t smoke but who is overweight What the hell are you talking about? With a whopping 1 BILLION obese — obese, not just overweight — people waddling around worldwide, chances are pretty damn high that men (and women) aren't exclusively going for anorexic chain smokers. Overweight people are not some persecuted minority that we need to weep tears for. But don’t virtue signal and say it has anything to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:58 PM
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OP is trying to argue that the X trait doesn't even matter to women unless they're already attractive ...and that's the same point that I'm making. A man may prefer women with blonde/brunette hair, but that trait doesn't matter to men unless the woman in question is already attractive. In simple terms, we're all animals and both sexes require sexual attraction in order to be sexually attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:49 PM
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"I was rejected by chicks I only view as bimbos and this is how I KNOW that women are incapable of reflection!"— Accountinghelpadviso If we're taking our subjective experiences as facts now, am I allowed to claim that all men love shoving boiled eggs up their bums because I went to university with a guy that publically stated he enjoyed doing it as a dare once? 🍑🥚
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:49 PM
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How is any of this women-specific? When men say they like blondes/brunettes, they're obviously referring to the attractive ones. Ditto men that say they like tall/short women. It's the way human attraction works. You'd be hard-pressed to find a single man that'd date every blonde/brunette — including those that look like Jabba the Hutt with a wig on. In addition to this, "niceness" is the bare minimum. No woman would date an unemployed Jabba the Hutt lookalike that spends his days burping and fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:19 PM
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I mean there's also investment bankers, healthcare administrators, its more than just exec level. My point still stands. Many men whining ad nauseam about not wanting to date female investment bankers (for example) will not be in the same social circle or income bracket as those investment bankers. And, even if they are, they don't need the internet to validate their personal dating choices. They just date the people they want to date. So, I reiterate... it's pretty pointless for this to be a ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:59 PM
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or high powered executives / founders that wear their career as their identity Let's be honest — larping on the internet aside — only a tiny fraction of the men that say they "don't want a career woman" actually travel in the same circles as (or would be able to date) those types of career women. So it's pretty pointless for men to wax rhapsodic about how they "don't want a career woman". I mean, would you take a contestant from "My 600lbs Life" (or whatever the show's called) seriously if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:23 PM
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This is actually good advice. The only downside? Most men on this forum have NO game and will complain about women being "way too picky" while they're shooting for women light years out of their league. And that whining is an instant turn-off for all women, irrespective of attractiveness. However, I do agree that it's better to go for partners we find hot AF and not "settle".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:02 PM
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Frankly, I don't blame those women for choosing to play the game that they've been invited to play. Loads of men are simps that'll do anything for even the smallest chance at getting a hot woman to touch their penis. If they didn't want to be used, they wouldn't have such low standards for sexual "arrangements".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:57 AM
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Attraction is feeling nervous and excited and tripping over your words - its literally the tingles No, that's a crush. I don't feel "nervous" or trip over my words when I'm around my partner. I do, however, want to rip his pants off and do a whole bunch of X-rated things with him. The reasons? 1) He's hot as hell. 2) Our relationship is in a stable and comfortable place, where we can be honest about our desires and kinks. Attraction is meeting a guy and literally counting down the hours before y…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:11 PM
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Women define being single as not in an official relationship, men define being single as not sexually active What study are you citing? If you're going by pure anecdotes, then I could just as easily say you're flat-out wrong because every woman I know would define being single as being sexually inactive/not seeing anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:11 PM
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Who's forcing you — or anyone else — to go outside? It's perfectly okay for some people to decide to spend ALL their time indoors. Frankly, the rest of us would prefer it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:54 PM
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I don't think this scale encourages honesty and growth. Placing people at the top of a scale due to fuckability is fraught with problems. Most women are going to be labelled a 3, purely because (by and large) men are horny and have lower standards for what they'd fuck. If you'd disagree with the notion that most women are 10/10 super-ultra-hotties, then rating them 3/3 is bonkers. Moreover, there are hot men that not all women would fuck. Is Chris Hemsworth or Alexander Skarsgård a 1/3 because s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 08:56 AM
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The "friendzone" (like the "fuckzone") It's literally on the second line. Is reading really that difficult for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:50 PM
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This is the basis of the friendzone The "friendzone" (like the "fuckzone") is rubbish made up by perpetually triggered snowflakes with no self-esteem or boundaries. No one owes anyone sex or a relationship. Inventing/using terms of whiny outrage just to indicate how offended someone is by their crush not fucking/dating them is pretty weak, tbh. You could be the most physically attractive man in the world but if you're shy, have no self assurance or self confidence, never ask her out and never in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:40 PM
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What do these "older women" have to be jealous of? Most middle-aged men are NO prize to young women. Men on this subreddit keep squawking about middle-aged Chads and Henry Cavill, but most middle-aged men are pudgy (if not quite overweight), balding, and steadily losing their looks. I have a hard time believing "older women" are jealous of middle-aged, saggy-titted men trying to hang onto their youth by chasing after young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:22 AM
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Jealous of what? I'm not into old, saggy manboobs or even saggier ballsacks, but if some women my age decide they'd like to stoop down to finding that attractive, well... it's their life, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:26 PM
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What about a unmuscular, chubby, butterfaced, short or balding man is it that you find attractive? Me personally? Nothing. Excluding gold-diggers, most women can't be attracted to a man they find "physically unattractive". We need to find our partners attractive to us in order to want to fuck them — though what individual women find attractive will definitely vary. What this means is that whilst I'd definitely find chub on a partner an extreme turnoff, some other woman might be willing to overlo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:23 AM
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Have you personally, or do you know any women who were only able to find success with men after lowering their standards? The only women I know that ONLY had dating success after lowering their standards were two that had overly-unrealistic looks standards to begin with. Think: overweight women looking for a) tall, super-fit gym bros and b) tall, super-attractive Kpop-looking dudes. (Not saying it doesn't happen, just saying it's unlikely to ever happen.) It bears repeating that if someone (man …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:01 AM
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Ya’ll do understand that professional athletes/actors are all on PEDs right? That's like saying, "Do you understand that OnlyFans models have fake tits and plastic surgery?" The few of us that hate the "over-muscled T-Rex" look don't care that pro athletes and actors use PEDs. I assume that those who love the "over-muscled T-Rex" look don't care either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:42 AM
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Is (seriously) dating a single parent off the table for you? Not only is it off the table, it's also out of the house and catching a long-haul flight to Mount Everest. I don't ever want the costs and responsibilities of being a step-parent, I don't want to have to deal with the possibility of someone's unresolved relationship/baby mama issues, and — most importantly — I realise that I don't have the temperament to care for someone else's kid. I've only ever dated seriously, so I would never "dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 08:53 AM
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she was talking about how far body positivity in clothing ads have progressed and how there are now women of all sizes in most of the ads Body positivity has only expanded one way — to cater to rising obesity levels. If you're somewhere at the lower end of "normal-sized" as a woman, you'd find it increasingly harder to find clothes that fit you properly (!) thanks to vanity sizing. People keep ballooning but expect their clothing sizes to stay the same, or else that's somehow an attack by... (ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:28 PM
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Is it hypocritical not wanting your girl to go on a girls trips/clubbing, but wanting to yourself? In my opinion, it is. I've always said that if men are very insecure at the idea of having a girlfriend/partner that other men find hot, they should either: 1) go for far less attractive women, 2) work on their self-esteem, or 3) set ground rules for a relationship that both parties can compromise with. If your future girlfriend is happy with this one-sided agreement, then I guess it wouldn't be "h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 09:36 AM
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The men that keep making these "hurr durr makeup bad!" posts are hilarious. You're all basically admitting that you have such few experiences with women (or none at all!) that you think the average woman worldwide slathers on layers of makeup. That's... not something to brag about, bro. I can't keep speak about the American experience, but most of the women I've seen when visiting cities in the Netherlands, Belgium, Germany, France, New Zealand, various parts of Asia... etc. do not wear fifty th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:39 AM
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significant lack of emotional intelligence on this subreddit Minor correction!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:04 PM
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By gradually easing into it and picking exercises/workouts I can maintain. When I was starting out, I just went on a few weekly walks and did a couple of very light sessions of yoga a week. I've been gradually building that up to starting my weekdays off with yoga, getting regular walks when I can, and trying to do a few cardio workouts a week. A healthy diet also makes you feel/look loads better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:42 PM
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Literally any other sub. Why would anyone go to FDS unless they enjoy being kink-shamed and exposed to occasional femcel content? If you want a more gynocentric perspective, you can lurk on TwoX or AskWomen, as you'll get unfiltered female opinions — even if you don't necessarily agree with all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:18 PM
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it's a covert way to say they like attractive and successful guys I have no idea why some PPDers on this subreddit think people need a "covert" way to admit they're attracted to attractive people. It's like literature teachers that need to assign paragraphs of extra value to random sentences like "the curtains were blue" or "Sam ate an apple". However, for those still in doubt, I'll make it explicitly clear: women like attractive men. Men like attractive women. Some men like attractive men, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 02:41 PM
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Ahaha, bang on! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:34 PM
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Would you at least agree that the majority of women like confidence a lot? I'm not sure what's there to "agree" with, as most women on PPD have been saying this for ages. That's like saying, "Can you at least agree that most humans have eyelashes?" Sure, some don't, but the majority would probably do a damn sight more than agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:32 PM
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Any sport whose participants need to go on Reddit and shitpost to appear more "manly" is about as masculine as breast milk. "What would be some badass military style call sign for a hot air balloon pilot?" Or... y'know, you could actually join the military instead of LARPing?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:08 AM
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It's because the only attractive women that most of these men follow or interact with are OnlyFans models, Instagram thots, sugar babies, and the few other women that fall into similar categories. Realising that the small percentage of thirst-trap-posting women they wank to are only a percentage of ALL attractive women out there would blow their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 03:32 PM
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No relationship can last being one-sided, supposedly, "love" would outwork the technicalities of a relationship, but that's not true. No, this is only a problem for some people. People with no (or very little) relationship experience are either fed or choose to swallow the lie that "love conquers all" and end up bitter and jaded when — shocker! — they realise that relationships take work. There's no such thing as unconditional love in a relationship/friendship, as you're meant to put effort into…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 10:52 AM
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They're doomed to marry their looksmatch (how horrible!) and be miserable with him. Sorry to the bearer of bad news, but yes — most people do date and marry their looksmatch. Which means that attractive women are dating and marrying attractive men, no matter how much some resident PPD incels want this to be fake news. I mean, you said it yourself: People who date their looksmatch never struggle or seem to complain about it. Attractive women are only destined to be "cat ladies" in incel revenge f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:49 AM
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when a girl was reminiscing about a boy who was very sweet to her on vacation. You mean the grown man that wanted to take a teenage girl away from the safety of her hotel, to a remote location in a country she was unfamiliar with? That wasn't a sweet post at all — she was likely one of many foreign girls and women he'd tried things on with, except her parents weren't having it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:30 AM
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The true nature of any person is only revealed when they have multiple options/paths to choose from and they choose the one that suits them best. Exactly. Them having multiple options but still choosing (and being faithful) to you is always preferable to them having NO options and choosing you out of desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:23 AM
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I said earlier it is not "women/men do it too" contest. Because clearly both sexes can catch STDs. You didn't phrase it that way or say anything remotely similar, so how are readers supposed to magically infer that that's what you mean by "A woman who sleeps around a lot can carry STDs"? That's why I said from a pure mating p.o.v, they are the same thing. That's not what you said. This is what you said: "Men requiring sexual purity from women is a standard similar to women requiring men to be ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:18 AM
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A woman who sleeps around a lot can carry STDs. So can a man. People of any gender that sleep around, have unsafe sex, and don't get tested regularly are disgusting and could be passing their STDs onto people. Men requiring sexual purity from women is a standard similar to women requiring men to be handsome. It's not an either-or decision. As a low-n-count woman, my type is handsome guys that aren't "community dick". Many of my friends are the same, as guys who've only been intimate with their l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:28 AM
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The only people that get to be validated and comfortable when dating are people that are successful to begin with Untrue. Before I started taking care of my body (I was an underweight "I-can-see-your-ribcage" stick figure), or my skin and hair, or all the other bits and bobs in my control (I used to be a couch potato with no fashion sense), I'd genuinely have rated myself pretty low — and my dating experiences were in line with it. And now? I'm pretty damn comfortable where I am currently, and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 08:13 AM
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Friends. Chatty colleagues. Old uni mates. Several of them average men that are capable of getting women to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:21 PM
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More hope-with-a-c. The last Chad I dated is my current partner. Come again with that "he didn't want to stay with you" projection?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:20 PM
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What rubbish. Sure, the average man can't sleep ten hot babes a week, but average men aren't incapable of having casual sex. That's just hope-with-a-c spouted by below-average men trying to LARP for sympathy. And before you accuse me of being a "tally mark", I'm a low n-count woman that doesn't like casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:05 PM
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Would you go ahead with it? No. It's not really my business what people do in their relationships, but I have certain standards for mine — some of which are commitment and monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 06:28 PM
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but men are willing to overlook NPC behavior Then those men should choose not to date NPCs. I have no sympathy for simps that date terrible women and then whine about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 05:26 PM
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Please link to advice given on this sub that amounts to "men need to wait until they're too old to do anything". Actual links to these quotes, please! An important point to note is that when you're asking strangers that don't personally know you for dating advice, they're going to give you general advice that they THINK will help you. If you're complaining about being a guy in your 20s with zero female attention, people are naturally going to assume there's either something wrong with your appea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 04:13 PM
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How do you go from "no, the sexless epidemic doesn't exist" to "why do women find being badgered for sex annoying"? Can you read? Nothing you've typed has anything to do with a SEXLESS epidemic. Just because the average woman has more sexual interest than the average man doesn't mean the average man isn't having sex. what are women afraid of? Being raped or murdered. Look it up — not all rapists are fugly. Who is harassing them, who is so desperate that they want to get in their pants for no rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:01 AM
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has the 'sexlessness epidemic' been overblown after all? There was never a "sexless epidemic" for the average guy. However, there's a very vocal minority on Reddit and social media trying to claim that this sexless epidemic exists, so they can blame someone else for their own problems. In all reality, they're either below-average men LARPing as "average", men with standards too high for their SMV, men with insanely bad social skills, or just those that read the latest female fantasy from their m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 10:09 AM
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Sorry, but I fail to see how this is romantic?? As someone that grew up in a certain part of Asia, I know that certain local men fetishize fair skin and foreign/mixed women. He's probably done (or is still doing) the same to other young girls. I've had experiences very similar to yours at several hotels I stayed at, but I DID NOT give them any of my contact info. Hell no! He asked me to come with him on his motorbike because he wanted to show me the local waterfall but my parents didn’t allow th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:56 AM
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Typical PPD mentality. 🤦🏻‍♀️ News flash: most women want men that they find hot, who've also got stable jobs, great personalities, and overall compatibility. Are those enough qualifiers for you? And yet, men on this sub whinge and whine about women being "picky" when they vet properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 05:57 PM
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But if they pick based on attractiveness they deprioritize stable traits It's not an either-or decision. Most of us choose partners that we find attractive, who also have desirable traits. Personal anecdotes, rare news stories, or imaginary tales about women that choose their shitty partners SOLELY because they're attractive isn't adequate proof that most women that want an attractive partner will ignore glaring red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 05:53 PM
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There's no correlation between attractiveness and shittiness. Whilst this sub would like to think all "Chads" are abusive/egotistical pump-and-dumpers, ugly/normal/everything-in-between guys can have the nastiest attitudes and talk/act like they're domestic abusers in training. This is what that line of thinking does: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/aug/14/plymouth-gunman-ranted-online-that-women-are-arrogant-days-before-rampage
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 05:31 PM
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how many women can say the same? Most of us. While many men still balk at the idea of sunscreen, most women have long, complex, and (in many cases, way too expensive) skincare routines. I went through a lot of effort and physical pain to get to where I am today Yeah, several of us have done the same. This isn't an experience that's unique to you — or something that's jaw-droppingly rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 05:14 PM
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Another man not understanding that a great regimen of skincare products will give you MUCH clearer skin than fifty layers of foundation. A 4 with bad skin won't magically become an 8 under sixty layers of makeup. Get back to me when you find one that does.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:57 AM
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I'm not sure what things are like in America but, in this neck of Western Europe, most women don't seem to walk around with a cement-like layer of makeup on their faces. Maybe a bit of mascara, eyeliner, and BB cream/tinted moisturiser, but very little else — at least for everyday wear. Even so, no amount of "concealer, foundation, eyelash extensions" is going to magically and seamlessly transform a 4 into an 8 IRL. Makeup that looks good on the internet/TikTok/Instagram often looks pretty obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:19 PM
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You don't have to do any of those things. There are men and women that have sex and relationships whilst being unattractive and/or downright terrible people. The genetically blessed also need to do diddly squat to garner and maintain sexual interest. "Work on yourself" is GREAT advice if you're aiming to bag an attractive partner or just want to improve your overall attractiveness. However, even then, it's not mandatory. You just forfeit your right to whine if you're unsuccessful at the dating g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:58 PM
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First off, I do agree that sex is very important to your overall happiness/satisfaction. However, the only people jumping on the "sex is a need" train are the ones that try to insinuate that every man who isn't a rapist needs to be hailed as a hero: "Those men would be healthier if they engaged in forced sex but they don't because they are good people" "They should be praised for being decent men and putting themselves at a disadvantage out of respect for women's autonomy and personhood" Tbh, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:10 PM
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I don't know the whole story, but it's common sense to change out of something if you feel too self-conscious in it, or make regular lifestyle choices to improve your overall confidence (i.e. losing weight or working out to tone up). I'm also deeply suspicious of anyone claiming to have a bra size of 32I and a BMI of 20. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it's definitely very strange and nowhere near every woman's experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 03:37 PM
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That would only be a useful metric to some women if the guy has a bunch of attractive/hot or successful women that desire him. The men that brag about having slept with women that'll shag anything on two legs (or are unattractive enough to have no standards) are pretty low-value. To be honest, any man that LARPs as a HVM that practices this is just undesirably cringy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 12:20 PM
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And then everyone stood and clapped! 👏 What a beautiful story — it really brings a tear to my three eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:35 PM
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yet they go for the extra skinny girls with eating disorders or the gym obsessed girls who compete and cut down to unhealthy fat percentage levels To any woman who's insecure about being overweight or downright obese, normal-sized women are "extra skinny" or "gym obsessed". Being out and about here (Netherlands), I barely notice any couples with severely underweight women. The majority of men appear to be paired with women of a healthy weight or mildly overweight. Plus, if you're a relatively fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 12:42 PM
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This place is much different but I wanted to ask if any of the women here appreciate the men in their lives despite the vitriol against men that is so prevalent here? Is this seriously a question? Yes, I do. Just because I don't act lovey-dovey to some men on PPD that are busy raging at Chad, sucking off malefluencers, or screeching about the dreaded WallTM doesn't mean I don't value the actual men in my life. I'm grateful for even the littlest things they do that show me they care. My partner t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:45 AM
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Girls don’t think “I got what I wanted” after having sex Speak for yourself. I wanted a partner that was hot AF, had the same kinks as I did, and was the proud owner of a 10/10 personality. I got exactly what I wanted — and I wouldn't have settled for anything less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:02 AM
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How many men have you told that "looks don't matter?" None. Looks absolutely matter. You won't get through the doorway of interest unless you're attractive — or, for some people, of average attractiveness. I have, however, come across women saying that looks aren't the only thing women look for. I assume some men have got confused/too hopeful and warped this into "looks don't matter", because no one — other than the most pathetic pick-me — doesn't care about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:40 PM
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There's nothing "wrong" with it, but there's very little that makes that goal any more attainable now than when the guy was younger. Unless the guy in question has become very rich or incredibly charismatic, he's still a second/third-class option to hot college girls that can have their pick of younger, hotter guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:31 AM
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No, we don't. A small percentage of young women may like dating men significantly older than them, but they're the exception — not the norm. Most women like dating men around their own age +/- a couple of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:26 AM
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Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some? Likely because it's a blunt question that forces them to contemplate whether their idealised version of themselves matches reality. Or, in many cases, whether they're putting enough effort in. I don't think ANYONE I know has been asked what they bring to the table — it's only ever something I read about on Reddit. And, to be honest, that's because Reddit attracts a more varied crowd than I interact with IRL and not all …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:02 AM
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Men really wouldn’t care if all women wanted absurdly shredded, hyper confident billionaires if women were also placing greater standards on themselves to meet men’s desires. The dating world is a great example of market value being assigned by demand and supply. When thirsty simps fall over themselves to lavish attention on the unattractive or unhealthy/obese/underweight women that you seem to dislike, they're over-inflating the sexual value of (i.e. demand for) women that would truthfully be f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:50 PM
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I am entitled to a woman's body. Your wish has been granted! ✨ Congratulations, you're now a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:00 PM
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They will put up with our sexuality for a relationship Speak for yourself and your relationships. I don't "put up" with anything — I'm rip-his-pants-off invested in sex with my man. Many women are the same. The will profess their love for height above 6ft, and big dicks Honestly, as a woman, not all women crave big dicks. There are several sex positions that'll hurt if his dick is too big to be comfortable for you in them, like doggy style with my partner. he has no representation in what women …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 12:53 PM
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Since weight is a changeable characteristic it shouldn't be viewed as unattractive Nope. I'm simply not attracted to overweight people — the fact that weight is "a changeable characteristic" doesn't sway my opinion at all. They're just not attractive to me. so why not positively impact her lifestyle so she loses weight? Why am I (or anyone else) expected to change someone else's lifestyle? It'd be an entirely different story if my partner or friend ended up putting on weight and needed help losi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:22 AM
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I mean, I do. It's insanely hot to be viewed as my man's "property" sometimes or have to address him as a master, maybe with a little degradation on his side. That leans into me loving being "forced" to submit to him, where bondage, CNC, and brat-taming are huge kinks for both of us. However, the reason I'm so into it with him is because I KNOW he's a good guy that respects my boundaries and is aware that a kink isn't "real life" — which is vital if you also want to explore the "less vanilla" si…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:53 AM
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This a problem that could easily be solved by losing some weight or aiming for different men — not lashing out at fitter women. Did you miss the "or"? I stand by what I said: having ZERO dating success could be easily solved by losing weight or aiming for different men, not lashing out at fitter women. Being attracted to gym guys is fine. Calling gym guys c*nts for not being attracted to you and calling fitter women c*nts isn't productive at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:27 AM
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Even so, if someone's not getting any luck whatsoever attracting 7s and 8s, it might be time to rip the plaster off and get real. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I dislike stuff like the "Female Delusion Calculator", but I don't really have a lot of sympathy for people that let their egos or delusions get in the way of their dating life and then fob the blame off on everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 03:07 PM
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Probs gonna get hate for this, but I think some women have overly high expectations for their future partners and refuse to see their own flaws. For example, a friend that I used to be close to (but now only keep in touch with on Instagram) is very overweight and keeps shooting for very hot men. They barely ever respond. It's totally fine to have a preference, but she'd then moan about the fact "curvy" women have such a hard time and how the chicks these men go for "aren't that hot". This a prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:22 PM
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That I can agree with. However, I think higher value men definitely have higher standards for a relationship than just looks — though "attractive" will still be the bare minimum there. Many average men just can't afford to be as picky, or assume they can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 01:18 AM
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You're using your view on sexuality, a woman's view, to explain to me, a man, how men's sexuality works. If you're under the assumption that hot men don't have their pick of hot women, that's pure cap. 🤣 Why are unsuccessful, average guys here whining about these mythical "Chads" 24/7? Just because you're speaking from the POV of average guys who can't have higher standards for hot chicks doesn't mean that every man is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 01:02 AM
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And when that's exhausted, they've still got our bath water! 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:42 AM
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Nope. I'm young, attractive, and a freak in the sheets — pretty much everything this weird (but hilarious) sub says is beyond rare AF. So nah, I just lean into feeling like a bloody catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:39 AM
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You can have both, looks and personality. Exactly — I don't know why this is such a hard concept for some men here to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:11 AM
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Your man telling you how much he likes your personality is not evidence of literally anything. I mean... it definitely doesn't mean anything to the guys on this subreddit that have never had a woman truly desire them, let alone an attractive woman. But that doesn't change the fact that higher value men know that they've got much higher criteria for a relationship than just "is she hot?". They've got their pick of any hot woman they'd like, so they don't have to settle for the meh ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:07 AM
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Most men believe most women's personality is lackluster at best and put up with it anyways. No — the few sad chaps larping on on this subreddit or whining about most women having shit personalities aren't "most men". (And thank the gods for that.) In the event that a few Redditors scattered about this subreddit speak for "most men", I'll be sure to tell my man that Reddit diagnosed him with Woman BrainTM.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 11:44 PM
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Too many men prize a pretty face over the content of a woman's character [...] Then you complain when you got bit by a snake that looooooves all the attention because you didn't vet he No, it's just a percentage of pussy-starved men. Whilst I do think ALL men are highly visual, the men that know their value won't be swayed into dating a hot chick that's as dumb as a brick and as catty as a Maine Coon in heat just because she's hot. They'll pick pretty women with great personalities or otherwise …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 11:07 PM
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Yes, me! 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:42 PM
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I'd think they're wise men. I have my own familial assets I want to protect, so I'd completely understand a man wanting to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:12 PM
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Have you ever lost interest in a man because he was too nice? Nope. I've lost interest in men for other reasons: being a chain smoker, being emotionally unavailable, trying to push me for sex before I was ready, being flat-out boring... etc. But never because he was "too nice". "Niceness", on its own, isn't a huge plus. It's like being able to brush one's teeth — if you're an adult, you're expected to ace it. The bare minimum of what I expect from a man is that he's kind (i.e. nice), has his own…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:54 AM
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So either put in the effort to be part of the 5% they're interested in or quit shooting so far out of your league. Attractive women don't owe you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:06 AM
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What do you think about the increasing stigma over SMALL age gaps? Stigmatising something that's normal is utterly bizarre. Most people I know have an age gap of a few years and are at a somewhat similar level of maturity, so I fail to see what's "wrong" about it. If anything over 2 years is considered inappropriate, I wonder how this would affect the dating market among young people? It wouldn't. This might be a bitter pill for some to swallow, but most of us are attracted to people around our …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:03 AM
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The only women I've seen describe themselves as "boss babes" are those insufferably annoying MLM huns. So... hopefully?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:52 PM
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He must be pretty hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:50 PM
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He has to deal with the lose lose situation when men hit on his GF. Orrrr it could give him an ego boost knowing that other men want to bang his girl, but he's the only one who's going to be fucking her? Besides, if you're in a relationship, you'll probably be dancing with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:45 PM
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Exactly — allll the sex goddess vibes!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:05 PM
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Lol, you think we don't send our men nudes and vids? 😆 It's the best way to keep my partner horny and ready to fuck as often as I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:34 PM
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I absolutely agree. Too many people refuse to take accountability for their own dating woes, and just pass the blame onto other people. The "friendzone" only exists in the minds of the pathetically entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:45 PM
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you are the looks match of a guy who looks like you just without hair and dress My partner's also really hot, so I guess that part's true. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 02:03 PM
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You overestimate how many of us wear heavy makeup or push-up bras. I mean, sure, there are a few 4s larping as 6s — but they're definitely not the majority, at least over here (Netherlands).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 01:45 PM
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He uses the vibrator on me, but I like fucking him when he's got a (vibrating) cock ring on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:15 PM
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Why do you own sex toys if you have a partner? Several reasons: He bought them. We love using them on each other. He likes watching me use them on myself. He values my pleasure, as I do his. TL;DR: Men that actually have sex/enjoy sex with their partner see the benefit of sex toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:32 PM
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Because if the woman chooses to go on a date then we can safely assume that there is at least a somewhat reasonable level of interest Not really. From speaking to other women IRL, some of them have said they'll go on dates with men they're meh about. It seems like a waste of time to me, but apparently this is typical if they've got a bunch of men they're going out with and they want to whittle things down to one guy. In which case, these women have no incentive to put in any effort and the men h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 11:26 AM
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Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships? No — both parties are supposed to put in some effort. However, this will also depend on the sort of woman you're attracted to and how interested she is in you. When my partner and I started dating, he told me that it was pretty rare for an attractive woman to actually go 50/50 attention-wise with him on the first date. And I can see that as, before I met him, I also went on some dates where I expected to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:46 AM
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women practically everywhere will act like ignoring a woman who clearly wants your attention is abuse No. Women that complain about being "fuckzoned" are equally as pathetic as the men that whine about being "friendzoned". Both groups need more self-respect, in order to leave situations that are unfulfilling. Look at the discourse on men playing video games A man that wants a bit of time to himself every week or so to play video games and/or hang out with his mates is totally in the right to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:31 AM
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Where did all the pretty thin girls go? Home. With the hot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:49 AM
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And then everybody clapped. 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:21 AM
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Typical Reddit mentality, lol. 🤦🏻‍♀️ They're both in long-term relationships of their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:17 AM
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Don't bother — men like this would rather date a psychotic bed-shitter (as long as she's hot!) or refuse to properly put their issues into words than admit any measure of blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:10 AM
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Cheating is not bad when a man does it because they usually do it for purely sexual reasons. Nope. Sexual reasons or not, it's still a deal-breaker. In the age of open relationships and non-monogamy, he's an idiot or a coward if he still chooses to date a monogamous woman or cheat. Also, if a man cheats, it's probably with women who've got no self-esteem or standards, as very few women of any value would degrade themselves into being a man's sidepiece. I don't want him to give me whatever STDs w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:56 AM
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Why do women befriend men but get annoyed when they try to date them? We don't. We only get annoyed by losers that pretend to be our friends, only to try and get us to cheat on our boyfriends/partners or try to swoop in the very second we're single. This might shock some men on Reddit, but not all men are so pathetically pussy-starved that they see every women as a potential fuck. In my friend circle alone, one of my oldest friends is a guy I befriended at 6 or 7. The newest friend I've made is …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:32 AM
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Men and women, albeit for different reasons. Men are very visual and, if you're a woman, you'll see that they assign value to you based on your attractiveness. Therefore, most heterosexual women that don't roll out of bed looking like a supermodel need to put some effort into their appearance to meet a basic threshold of attractiveness, or else they'll only be on the radar of very desperate men. Men are also far nicer to women they perceive as "attractive". The most basic effort involves: a regu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:02 AM
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When do you consider a man or a woman 'succesful' in dating/relationships? I'll preface this by saying that my opinions on other people's relationships don't carry any weight, as I'm not an active participant of these relationships and it's none of my business. However, if I were forced to answer your Q, I'd say that the people who can find and maintain healthy (long-term) relationships are most "successful" in my eyes. In the age of casual, meaningless sex, I think it takes way more skills to: …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 07:37 AM
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Unconditional love is a myth. If one of my future kids turned into the next Hitler, my love would definitely be very conditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:29 PM
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In that case, why would you want to swipe right on them anyway? The few times I've ever been shown screenshots of profiles like this, they were always boringly average or overweight 5'0"-ish looking munchkins. Not much to write home about. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:20 PM
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My problem is that there are so many girls who can so explicitly put a preference out there and I cannot There's a difference between having a "preference" and a "requirement". For example, I prefer tall men, but that doesn't mean that being tall is a requirement in order to date me. My partner may be tall, but I've definitely dated men shorter than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:10 PM
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You have to be extremely lucky to approach her at the so short time she is single. And if you're not equally as hot/attractive or charismatic, it's unlikely she'll pick you. To make matters worse, having a guy pretend to be your friend only to get a "chance" to date you if/when you're single is pretty gross. It's happened to me, and there's definitely no going back from it. It's entirely different if you want to be her friend and get to know her a bit better — without hanging around her hoping s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:45 PM
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If there's one thing I've learnt from my friends retelling their dating app stories, it's that loads of men and women on the apps are absolute bottom-of-the-barrel, low/no-tier picks. An ex-coworker/friend even had a crazy chick try to bring her kid along on their date. Hard fucking pass! ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:19 PM
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I have seen a pattern where when you tell them at the start that you find them cute they respond by saying they got a BF That's also something women tell men when we're single and NOT interested in you. then send your resume as soon as she reopen the BF job offer A little flaw: Attraction doesn't work that way. In fact, this sounds like a great recipe to get a man "friendzoned". Hot girls don't really take their orbiters seriously (as dating prospects), so even if you're on her radar, you're sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:09 PM
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Watch as a man opens up his pain and frustration about an issue that is not woman approved And where/to whom is he opening up? Within my circle of friends and close colleagues, we're ever ready to provide support, advice — hell, even be a shoulder to cry on — if a guy wants it. Don't expect the same on Reddit or from random strangers. Opening up about a frustration that she can't identify with will get him called a man baby or a whiner and will turn her off. Pointless generalisation. Just a coup…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:58 PM
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Would you date someone you wouldn't marry? Nope. Why would I waste time, energy, and affection on someone I'd never see a future with? I may be being idealistic here, but I'd rather be VERY picky with the people I date than waste time on someone who's incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:25 PM
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Why do progressives/BPers make up this grand narrative of homophobia/sexism/etc… when a guy is okay with his partner doing stuff with a girl, but not a guy? I'm not a BPer, but the only time I've heard this being brought up is when the guy in question is angling for a MFF threesome. In which case, it is sexist if the guy wants his dick wet in two different pussies, but refuses to let his partner get off to two dicks. Isn’t a much simpler explanation that girl just can’t make another girl pregnan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:11 PM
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From the post: My husband is an entrepreneur, 15 years older, and he is worth large 7 figures, although not liquid yet. Possibly around $25-30m. [...] Over the last few years, I have had a taste of how awesome life can be when you have some money, like going to nice hotels and just really enjoying life. So she conveniently meets and marries this über-rich older guy who gives her this cushy lifestyle? And she's now worried about not being on par with her husband? Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:53 PM
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Absolutely grand! I love reading erotica, and I'd dig it if my man were more interested in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:44 PM
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That doesn't relate to the point I was making at all. This was my point: But here's the thing about "friendzones" and "fuckzones" ——> no one's putting you in them. You can leave at any time, by just getting some self-respect and leaving a situation that doesn't benefit you. If someone doesn't want a relationship with you/is feeling "meh" about you, it doesn't matter if you wrangle them into bed on the first/second/third date or not. My partner and I didn't kiss at the end of our first date — mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:36 PM
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It's because the dating market isn't realistic. People get fed the whole "there's someone for everyone" and "love conquers all" bullshit as kids, then get bitter when they realise they aren't owed shit as adults. I don't see a reason to pity lazy people. It’s like hearing a fat girl complain about being fat and also insist she doesn't want to drastically change herself to stop being fat. That's because there isn't a reason to pity them. People whose dating issues could be solved by not shovellin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:56 PM
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Welcome to modern dating! On the other side of things: a couple of friends felt "pressured" into having sex with men way before they were ready, because they assumed the guys would move on if they weren't served sex on a platter ASAP. Shocker, a few of them felt "fuckzoned" by guys that had no intention of seriously dating them. But here's the thing about "friendzones" and "fuckzones" ——> no one's putting you in them. You can leave at any time, by just getting some self-respect and leaving a sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:33 PM
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Also what makes a woman trashy I mean, here's a very short list: FDS types: The ones that scream about equality and being Boss BitchesTM, but expect their dates to always fund everything. Experience with these chicks usually leads to men complaining about how all women are "golddiggers". Other entitled idiots: Lazy and self-absorbed women that can never plan dates or things for their men, are shit in the bedroom and unwilling to put in the effort... etc., but act like they're God's gift to manki…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:16 PM
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Why do men hate being a good guy? Most men don't. Most men are decent and just living their lives. It's just the certain percentage of the cringy "wolfpack" Alphas or trucknut-having, aspiring "Chads"/ r/neckbeards who LARP on Reddit that push the narrative that good men will finish last and only aggressively pushy gymbros will nab all the pussy (or whatever their ideology is). So why do men think the are being so taken advantage of in this arrangement? Because the men pushing this narrative cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:40 PM
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Looks are NOT close to the most important thing for women Sorry, but no. I can't speak for every woman out there, but all the personality in the world won't make an objectively unattractive man dateable to me. I need to be sexually attracted to someone to be in a relationship with them. so many women (many good looking) are with men who physically resemble James Corden or Zach Galifianakis more so than Jeremy Meeks or "gigachad". Untrue. Either both parties were very attractive to begin with (an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 09:37 AM
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A lot of manosphereans on Twitter and even in this sub started implying that it's because of lonely cat ladies. That doesn't mean anything. Every time a woman says something that a few insecure men don't agree with, she's a "lonely cat lady" or she's "past the wall" or [insert whatever bleating idiocy takes their fancy as an insult here]. It's basically a kneejerk reaction from people that are bitter at their dating lives and seeking to take it out on others. Don't give them attention, because t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 09:24 AM
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Why are women so against geomaxxing? We aren't. I mean, I went abroad to study and bagged a hot Dutch guy, who's also the sweetest/most loving man I've ever met. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We just find the men that whine about "ugly, post-wall Western sluts" their age and those that assume that being unable to attract hot women = those women being "picky bitches" utterly pathetic. If a man wanted to head to Thailand to find a wife and didn't bitterly slag off all other women for not wanting to suck his dick ASAP, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 07:18 AM
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They just think that's normal sex and it is not. Who decides what "normal sex" is? My partner and I like bondage, CNC, impact play, choking... etc. That's our normal and that's how we enjoy ourselves in the bedroom. You may enjoy more vanilla sex — or any kind that you personally find sexually stimulating — but it's not your job to police how grown adults have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:05 PM
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It's okay for you to not be into it, but don't kink shame. Not everyone has the same sexual preferences/kinks. Both have mental problems and are on pathway to Hell though sadly. I mean, the highway to hell does sound interesting...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:06 PM
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I'd probably choose: Get a bf your own age and have the best relationship while you are both fit and attracted to each other. I don't want to make money from other men, even though it'd be easy AF to do. I want to be in a loving relationship with a hot, faithful, intelligent man, while I work on getting my career and education on track. Forget about looks and get that career (thinking long term but sacrificing you hot years in doors studying) Attractive women don't just dry up the minute they tu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:06 PM
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Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy? Not me, personally, but one of my friends is your stereotypical hot, bubbly blonde and she's dating a relatively short Japanese guy. We always thought she'd end up going for one of those blandly attractive Abercrombie & Fitch circa early 2000s model-looking Dutch men, but nope — this guy is her other half, and they absolutely complete each other. After years of being objectified, she finally found the man that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:12 AM
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The reason why people don’t want kids is they are expensive and time consuming And loud, annoying, attention-seeking... etc. I'm on the fence about having kids, but choosing whether or not to get a cute, furry, loving animal is a no-brainer. You also don't have to dedicate 18 years of effort (and a shit ton of money) to raising a dog and live with the chance that if you're crap at the job, it may turn out to be a bully, a school shooter, or the next Hitler. Parenting isn't a decision anyone shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:41 AM
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when women no matter their looks are no different here What's your point? If you're trying to insinuate that hot men go for "over-critical, picky, average women with inflated egos/an unwillingness to work on their personality flaws", you're sorely mistaken. If you're trying to insinuate that ALL women are over-critical and picky when it comes to YOU, then you're just proving my point. Have fun thinking Chad's stealing your bitches. 👋
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 12:00 PM
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I just think when you're incredibly hyperbolic about it, there's ulterior motives. Idk man, I feel that many women are a lot more generous about rating other women as attractive, purely because they know what goes into the whole process (i.e. makeup, skincare, dressing well... etc). Men are more objective, so they wouldn't pick up on these things the way women do. when was the last time a women has been nasty about your looks? A week or so ago. I like wearing makeup and heels to work sometimes, …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:52 AM
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Do you believe every women is perfect, gorgeous and a 10/10? Nope — personally, I think only a teeny tiny percentage of them are actually that attractive. But why are you so hot and bothered by the fact some women like complimenting women you don't find that attractive? Maybe they're just being nice or genuinely find the other person really attractive. It's not that deep. And note: women don't engage in "intra-sex competition" for male attention by being nice. The people who've been nastiest abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:26 AM
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they're friends with the drug or activity you have in common I'm sure the people I've been friends with since we were 6-7 years old are ONLY friends with me because an internet stranger thinks we do drugs together. 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:56 AM
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I find it so entertaining that the same guys who constantly bitch about women chasing chads are the ones who prove why chad is the better option Exactly. Those that whinge and whine about Chad taking their bitches are the same average guys that either have unrealistically high standards (and think attractive women should lower theirs) or horrible social skills. Why would hot chicks go for over-critical, picky, average men with inflated egos/an unwillingness to work on their personality flaws?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:53 AM
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What percentage of the bills would you expect your man to pay if you lived together? If we're talking about rent and utilities and stuff like that, then 50/50. As, in this scenario, we've both got jobs, it's only fair that we share expenses if we live together. If, however, he expects me to do the bulk of the cleaning and cooking, then I'd expect him to pay anywhere from 65% to 80% of the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:46 PM
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If you or any men of your ilk are such "Top Gs", why do you need society's approval to get yourself a harem of women? I'm sure the men with a steady rotation of women couldn't possibly give less of a shit whether or not society kissed their arses — just think of all the hot rockstars with a shit ton of groupies lined up to suck their dicks. The biggest problems facing the restoration of men’s natural state are of course puritans who are naive and don’t know any better about the world I think the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 06:53 AM
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Traditional women want their cheeks clapped too. Yeah, no shit, Sherlock. But their options aren't limited to "be a virgin forever" or "get railed by community dick".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 06:23 AM
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Exactly. I'd be willing to participate in a nuanced discussion, just not one where actual solutions the OP proposes involve rape. (I also don't give a shit about people that refuse to seek actual help themselves and, instead, try to make their mental conditions everybody else's problem.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:37 PM
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A ChatGPT trained on brain-damaged toddlers and brain-damaged rape apologists definitely wrote this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:50 PM
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Yes. S3x and being socially accepted is a need. As someone that lived/grew up in a country where a certain percentage of the population lacked bare essentials, this post is a GIANT example of first-world problems. You're so insanely privileged that the biggest issue in your life is the fact that you can't get your dick sucked. Many people don't have that privilege. Do you really think it's fair that some people can't have their basic needs met like for what you people are arguing against this po…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:48 PM
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Do you think men rightfully should feel offended if he has to have money before you date him? No, he has absolutely no right to be offended. Similarly, a woman has no right to be offended if a man expects her to have her own money. I mean, let's get real — rent, property prices, the cost of living... all that shit is skyrocketing, so it makes sense to want to live in a dual-income household. Doubly so if you're planning on having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 10:58 AM
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I mean, the whole "Red Pill" thing was never created to benefit women. So traditional women — or any woman that's looking for a stable relationship she doesn't have to sell her body for — won't get anything out of Red Pill men. People like golddiggers, on the other hand, will. I mean, these guys collect (or, at least, try to) collect pussies like Pokemon cards, won't commit, are mostly irreligious... etc. No actual traditional woman is seeking out these men. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They wouldn't want actual tradi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 09:30 AM
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So what exactly is it that makes the scenario of the 30 year old man picking up the 23 year old woman “creepy” if his age and life experience cannot be initially determined by a brief interaction? There's nothing creepy about a 30yo guy and a 23yo woman hitting it off and indulging in the sideways tango. That's a normal age gap. It's pathetic if it's a 40/50yo guy that ONLY goes for 20yo women because women his age "don't understand him" or he's "young at heart" — or complaining that women his a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:52 PM
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I don't believe in the concept of "within their league." Frankly, if a man or woman is whining about never being able to attract the sort of partner they're deeply in lust with, then it's fair to say they're shooting out of their league. I think leagues are pretty flexible overall, but if there's a huge disparity in looks and nothing to bridge the gap in personality/interests/education, then one's "league" is going to be pretty evident.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:06 PM
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SOME men in your league will try to use you. But if you only go for men above your league, ALL OF THEM WILL Stop infantilising women. If someone consents to having sex, they're not being used. That's why you hear so many complaints from women about dating apps being just as bad for them because seems like every guy just wants sex. That's because many men on dating apps are purely looking to hook up — irrespective of their level of attractiveness. You could slap big "mommy milkers" and half a ton…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:56 PM
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You'd only be attracting emotionally insecure women. This is why 👇 ignoring her/not giving any attention to seem more high value Women that know their value would just dump or block flakey men. That's what actual HVM men do to flakey women, too. making a "joke" about her appearance to make her feel insecure and to "lower her value" A woman that's mostly happy with her own level of attractiveness wouldn't care. I've been negged online and a few times in real life, but those negs have no bearing o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:47 PM
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RP tells any young girls who may come across it that her best chance of marrying the man she’s most attracted to is to lock him down as early as possible And they're wrong. Sure, traditionally-minded women that want traditional partners will most likely want to settle down ASAP, as those traditional men are their version of high value men. But the men on this forum that assert HVM only go for young, attractive women are essentially spreading fake news. For one thing, HVM aren't a monolith, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:27 PM
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How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? I don't care what random men do with their money. I'm not worried about it in my own relationship, either, as my man is far more likely to buy a new bike or yet another 3D printer before he shells out on some OF rando. This means you don't get jewelry, gifts, etc. Ah, but there's the rub — I do. I wouldn't entertain a relationship with a man that'd treat a sex worker better than he does me. I'd advise any self-respectin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:22 PM
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i cant see the Fire in those relationships Are you hiding in their bedroom and watching them have sex or something? Weird take. u will always feel attracted to the tall strong guy, that is assertive and masculine Yeah, I'm in a relationship with one. But he's not a complete caveman that beats his chest and flies off into a rage because I have some male friends. He isn't wildly insecure. Sidenote: You act as if there's no middle ground between the far right and far left, and it's honestly a bit p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:22 PM
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I am far from insecure. Hell I won the game of life. Sure thing, bro. Is that why you've spent over an hour to write a bunch of comments that insinuate attractive men aren't worth it? When it comes to relationships women often complain about attractive men. When women complain about being used for sex and not being taken seriously, are they usually talking about attractive men? Are you jealous these attractive men won't sleep with you or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:53 PM
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What do I care about a bunch of losers that complain about the fact they'd like to "use women for sex", but women stop them? If you're this worked up about the fact women like attractive men, just admit your insecurities and wrap up this debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:30 PM
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telling him that he messed up He basically told her that other women don't consider him a catch, and burst her bubble. Ouch! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:56 AM
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When women complain about being used for sex It's their own fault if they expect a relationship from a man that's told them he won't commit to them. They're not being used. are they usually talking about attractive men? There's nothing stopping ugly men, Average Joes — the entire menagerie — from "using women for sex" if they can. They can also be far more jaded/likely to lash out than attractive men. Whatever point you think you're proving exists solely in your own head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:46 AM
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Yeah, but seriously... who cares about the worst of the woe-is-me posters? It's always a combination of: shooting out of one's league, having zero personality besides being bitter AF, whining about Chad... etc. Those posts are exactly like Femcels Dating Strategy, where yet another unpleasant broad will be whinging about Prince Charming not wanting to foot the bill for the 900th time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:45 AM
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When it comes to relationships women often complain about attractive men. I'm sure some men would like to think so. The women in relationships with attractive men don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:36 AM
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They assume that wanting sex when you can't get enough it being obsessed. No, but obsessively commenting about the fact you want sex (which is what you've been doing) and trying to argue that you aren't obsessed, makes you seem obsessed. BPers here desperate want to convince men that sex is not important because they want to control these "bad" (in their view) men. I'm not sure I've seen ever someone on PPD arguing that sex is entirely unimportant, which sounds boring as fuck. However, I've defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:10 AM
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Breaking news: women like attractive men and sex. What a shocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:56 AM
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women are very unlikely to criticize other women Lol, I criticise average chicks with a gold digger mindset, lazy/boring/selfish women, women that use men as meal tickets, femcels... etc pretty much daily on PPD. They deserve every ounce of it. I'm equally as critical of 🐝itches that make the rest of us look bad IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:44 AM
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It's true, and I'm glad this take is becoming more popular. Men will never give a "nice chick" with an unfortunate face/body a chance, so women should quit thinking that they need to do the same for "nice guys". I remember giving a friend of mine this advice, only for her to complain a few months later that this so-called "nice guy" had turned into a jealous and possessive arsehole because she's considerably more attractive than him. Who could've seen that coming? 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:38 AM
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How have you changed or improved yourself to improve your chances of getting the kind of relationship you want with the kind of man you want? I focused on eating right and getting more consistent exercise, as I used to be a very underweight and sedentary potato. It's a huge confidence boost to be able to fill out some clothes properly, and not have to worry about always looking like an awkward stick figure. Then I got myself on a skincare and haircare regimen, which eliminated most of my issues …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:12 AM
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Hence it makes sense why women prefer sexually experienced men, who can navigate sex confidently in a way that will make her feel comfortable and at ease. I mean, if you've been in long-term relationships, you can be a sexually experienced man without having run through a football field of easy lays. And, frankly, as a woman with a low n-count that prefers LTRs, I'm not someone that wants Community Dick Connor. I'm willing to bet that many low n-count women are the same. (Of course, I fully admi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:55 AM
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You cant say Tate is bad, and then proceed to date a guy with his exact mindset (hits gym, successful, masculine etc) and IGNORE the Dudes that are "against tate his mindset" (lazy normal dudes who work at target male feminists kinda guys) Yes, I can. I give literally ZERO shits what a complete nobody on the internet thinks about my relationship. 🤣 This post is perfect example of what happens when people are chronically online and are raging about the fact real life doesn't follow the template o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 05:35 PM
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Women are treated equally here and no bashed for their choices It's the same here in the Netherlands. A lot of men on PPD seem to be arguing things from a very American perspective, where there's an expectation for men to do all the asking out, paying for dates, and buttering women up so sex might happen. There's also a very Puritan adherence to "purity culture" and stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:09 AM
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there are many women out there who actually expect a man to pay for dates proves this It's the age of equality — ideally, those women should be paying their own half of the bill. Or they should offer to foot the bill for the next date. However, the issue is with simps who'll treat any and every chick as if she's the reincarnation of Elizabeth Taylor, purely because he may get some sex in return. Then he's shocked that the woman he's gassing up won't give him sex? Some women will even complain ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:55 AM
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Frankly, dating apps are a bit of a scam. You've got a collection of people that are either desperate or solely focused on looks (with a sprinkling of normies in there), so is it any wonder that many people using the apps are "meh" at best? Not to mention the BS algorithms. She looked dumbfounded and goes "what, really?" Typical response. I bet the fact that you didn't pick her out of a line-up of available women is now doing a number on her self-esteem. She then tells me yeah but they have to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:38 AM
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This is why dudes are always gassing women up and telling them they're 10s. Then it's on the dudes to stop doing it. Thirsty simps lie and call overweight off-brand Jenna Marbles lookalikes slathered in makeup 10s because they're gassing them up for sex. Then they're shocked these chicks actually buy into the delusions that their egos are being stroked by? PPD logic in a nutshell: calling average people 10s, then wondering why a bunch of 5s think they're entitled to 8s and above. Plenty of men d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:19 PM
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I've seen women who were with a financially disciplined man and would get upset that he is budgeting or doesn't want to go out on dates every week... the "you never take me anywhere" women. So... gold diggers? Most women aren't gold diggers. I've seen women who had $1,000 in their bank account and they would spend $600 on a cross country trip and then come home and be late on bills and act like it isn't a big deal. I'm not saying that some women aren't this financially stupid (some of them defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 02:33 PM
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Can most men really afford to cut off women who don't reciprocate their effort? I don't know if the average man can, but he most definitely SHOULD. As a woman, I think it's perfectly acceptable to send lazy chicks a message about the fact you're moving on to find someone that actually puts in the effort. (Yes, women do reciprocate when they're actually interested in you. Even the hot ones.) Frankly, I'd give the same advice to a woman moaning about a lazy boyfriend. Kick the people that don't re…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:45 AM
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most relationships are no longer focused on starting a family or working towards a common goal, as a result people are naturally gonna get pickier with their options In other news, grass is green! why are people surprised that people are being pickier with their options? Because some people have realised that higher standards = a far higher barrier to entry for relationships. The ones that regularly overestimate their own attractiveness and charisma end up getting a rude shock when they receive …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:15 AM
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initially passive women, tend to stay passive thorough a relationship, and put less than 50% effort into planning, upkeep, communication It's not "initially passive women", it's lazy women. If you're dating a woman that expects to be fawned over, entertained and catered to (without reciprocation) from day one... she's not going to magically decide to put in the effort when there's a ring on her finger. In that respect, lazy men and lazy women have loads in common. That's why people should vet th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:54 AM
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Admitting that you're insecure about being single isn't a flex, bro. Is anyone stopping you from being a multi-billionaire? If being a multi-billionaire was equally as easy as being single, PPD would suddenly have the largest collection of billionaires on any media platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 10:19 PM
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The vast majority of the guys out here saying they want a woman with a low body count is because they themselves have a low body count. I doubt anyone has an issue with low n-count men looking for low n-count women. That'd be sensible. It's the men that collect snatches like they're playing Pokemon Go (only to whip around and whine about it being hard to find a low n-count woman) that are hilarious. Either they're bragging about being knee-deep in pussy, or they're living in a gaga-land where lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:31 AM
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The dating sphere, in general, has plenty of hypocrites. People that refuse to work on their own attractiveness and get bitter when attractive people won't date them are hypocritical. Out-of-shape/obese people that expect their partners to be fit/of average weight are hypocritical. People that demand equality and refuse to go Dutch on dates/reciprocate are hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:14 AM
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why are comfort, familiarity, and security themselves anti seductive? They aren't. However, comfort, familiarity, and security on their own won't have women ripping your pants off. Those are merely the foundations that many women expect in a relationship, yet you're not offering the excitement or attraction that'll seduce her into wanting a relationship with you. why do women anecdotally lose all their sexual appetite in LTRs and marriages There's no one-size-fits-all answer for that. Some men l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:41 PM
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Once men get comfortable generally they start paying less attention to us, dates get less frequent, the romance dies down and yet mens expectations stay the same. Not sure what men you're referring to here, but this isn't true of many men. It's true, however, that other priorities may get in the way of "romance" or "couple-time" (i.e. kids, jobs, other stressors... etc.), but it isn't solely one partner's job to fix those — it's a team effort. Besides, even if OP were a neglectful partner, there…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:22 PM
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Men experience dating women, we know women like tall men You underestimate some men's addiction to copium.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:18 PM
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Q4W: How much "girl game" do you play with your husband/boyfriend? Well, if he beats me at Jackbox, he can tie me up and fuck me any way he likes. That's the only "girl game" I play with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:06 PM
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Which would you prefer: a partner who experienced ample love and companionship before they met you or who lived a life of mostly loneliness and frustration? Neither. My partner and I have very grounded and realistic opinions about life and love because we've experienced both ups and downs in past relationships. I wouldn't have it any other way. I'd hate to date someone who's been turned bitter and jaded out of loneliness/frustration, just as much as I'd hate dating someone that thinks relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:35 PM
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the "body positivity" movement are the women equivalent of Incels doing this Very true — the "body positivity" movement actively shames women of a healthy weight, because they're sucking up to the fat acceptance crowd. (Just look at all the femcel outrage when Adele lost weight.) Bitter men and women love telling the opposite sex they're wrong about their own desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:12 PM
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Tall, fit, good looking, wealthy older men get some of the hottest women on the planet. Agreed. Yet, how many 50yo men are tall, fit, good-looking, and wealthy? It's a tiny percentage — NOT the norm. That's what I addressed here: "Unless he's very successful and has great charisma, a man will hit the SMV wall after a certain age" Women are attracted to exceptional men. Yes. Most men, however, are NOT. (Most women aren't exceptional either). Therefore, for most men, their prime is when they are m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:33 PM
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Most women are more likely to come across an average, out-of-shape 50yo than a "fit multimillionaire in his 50s" (that's a tiny % of men), even though PPDers keep using the latter as an example. Unless he's very successful and has great charisma, a man will hit the SMV wall after a certain age and won't be as attractive to hot young women as he was when he was younger, despite what the PC police PPDers will tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:13 PM
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Dropping 20lbs, fixing your teeth with braces, and going from glasses to contacts could bring a guy from a 5 to an 8 (assuming other features are reasonable and he's not 5'6"). This is very true. And yet, the few times I've seen advice like this dropped in a thread by women, it's been downvoted to the very bottom. I'm assuming that's by PPD women that don't want to seem "shallow" (despite that not necessarily being a bad thing) or men that don't want to/are unable to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:35 PM
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No women lie as to what they want in a guy so they don't seem shallow. Women that write the truth on PPD also get heavily downvoted because they're (essentially) rocking the boat. It's annoying when you're telling men that most women do, in fact, like tall/attractive/ambitious men in their prime and someone pipes up with "oh well, my best friend is 5'3", 50 years old, and built like a bridge troll, but all the hot 20yo women love him, so you're obviously wrong!!!" (mock example).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:18 PM
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What TYPE of woman are you looking for? I doubt that many of the guys asking that question know what type of woman they're looking for. If you've got barely any dating experience or have rarely interacted with women you aren't related to, then all women are likely to blend into one entity — like "astronauts" or "unicorns". when they talk about which women they interact with, there’s a pattern, especially of WHERE they're interacting with them. Given how often posts complain about women being sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:09 PM
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What are your self-improvement goals? Cutting down on my stress levels, so I don't work myself to death. Hitting my exercise goals, so I get back in shape. (I tend to be underweight when my stress is at an all-time high.) Devoting more time to my hobbies, like writing and playing guitar. Getting rid of clothes I don't need, so I can focus on building my capsule wardrobe of high-quality pieces. Enrolling in a new Dutch language course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:09 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:06 PM
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It very likely could be a troll post (this is Reddit, after all). Yet some people really do have an unhealthily inflated sense of their own attractiveness, which makes them very bitter when the partners they're aiming for don't think so. It's very sad, but also self-inflicted. Just a while ago, we had a guy posting on PPD about the fact he's owed a hot girlfriend because he'd be a hot girl if he were a girl. Cue a "women are too picky" whine from a guy that only hits on women out of his league, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:34 PM
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since this subreddit and alpha podcasts swear its common for men to deal treating them like shit, emotionally. I feel like this subreddit attracts the most extreme cases, as the people in fulfilling relationships aren't going to be making endless posts about all the women that have wronged them over the years. I do wonder why they never meet hot girls that arent this vapid and awful. Well, if I use one of my friends as an example, she's insanely hot and very picky. The hot chicks with options, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:15 PM
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If you’re a woman and you’re not a solid 6 at a minimum, do your dating thoughts and opinions even matter? The issue is that loads of people (men and women) overestimate their looks and shoot way out of their league. Then they're upset they can't attract the sort of partner they want (case in point), and they let their biases muddy the waters of any discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:55 PM
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Men seem to spend their energy convincing bitchy women to fuck/date them Correction: some men. Maybe don’t go after girls trying to aspire to have that Mean Girl Bad Bitch aesthetic? The thing is, a lot of these "Haughty/Bitchy Hotties" tend to be... well, hot AF. Some people (men and women) are willing to bend over arse backwards for hot people that'll treat them like shit. Call it the halo effect at work. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It's part of an ongoing issue with society pedestaling hot men/women — some of whom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:31 PM
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I'm happy to hear that, but again, we aren't talking about just you here. You said: The problem is that when women do the things that they should be doing to vet men like creating communities like FDS or groups like Are We Dating the Same Guy, they get heavily criticized by men. No, I didn't — the other commenter did. while fds is a-ok. In which universe? FDS is the misandric counterpart of women-hating echo chambers. For reference, it posts shit along the lines of "liking BDSM is being a slave …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:31 PM
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Even if you were on the site? As a low n-count woman that's been off the dating market for quite a while now, I wouldn't be. Don't judge all women through the narrow lens of the crappy women you date/hate. Why didn't you respond to TheRedPill part? Because I genuinely CBA to give a shit what a guy chooses to identify as (Red Pill, Blue Pill, Attack Helicopter Pill...etc), as long as they're a decent person. Besides, there are arseholes in just about every movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:50 PM
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Do women really expect men to be doing performative masculinity as a stand up gig for 24/7? No, not all women expect this. However, any Redditors that keep chasing women daft enough to think men driving properly, putting on sunscreen, and gesturing with their hands are "unmanly", well... they absolutely deserve what they get for entertaining these shallow, aspiring-Darwin-award-winning clowns. If you're going to run after bottom-of-the-barrel women (or men), don't act shocked when they prove to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:25 PM
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if "Did she blow you too, bro?" existed I'm sure girls would hurry to invite all the men they know in their life, right? I genuinely wouldn't care. And if it's weeding out scammers, chicks that use men as meal tickets, cheaters... etc., then yes — as a woman, I'd tell all my male friends to join.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:36 PM
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I both agree and disagree with some points you've made. makes it hard to feel sympathy for their dating struggles Honest question: since when have most PPD men been sympathetic to women's dating struggles? Or vice versa? Yeah, I'll take "things that never happened" for €30. Women simply stand somewhere near and hope they get asked out. 100% true for some women — not all. And yet, there are men going after these chicks, only to turn around and whine when... (shocker!) these women don't want to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:19 PM
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Women can look absolutely mediocre or even ugly in the face and still get tons of matches on dating apps. Women can have the personality of a rock and get a pass for it. Well, who enables that? If men only want to date women that meet their standards, they need to stop putting all women on an unnecessary pedestal. I've heard several stories from male acquaintances and coworkers that whinge and whine about a woman either using them as a meal ticket, having nothing interesting to say beyond expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:54 AM
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they're facebook moms with 0 skills A load of them are MLM "huns", too. The only people I've ever heard call themselves "boss babes" are the crunchy types hustling essential oils.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:20 AM
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The word "settle" has a very negative connotation. If women just stopped using it, it would solve a lot of problems. How so? Would you "settle" for Tammy Slaton from TLC's 1000-lbs Sisters? I'm assuming a lot of men here would say something along the lines of "blah blah landwhale blah blah". Both men and women try to avoid settling, in order to find partners they're emotionally, sexually, and physically compatible with. So why are some men here so triggered that some women verbalise the fact the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 09:09 AM
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Don't settle. And date someone who you don't have to constantly compromise with. Spot on. Of course, the word "settle" is like garlic to a vampire for the people further down this thread. I'm genuinely curious why they're so bothered that people prioritise emotional, sexual, and physical compatibility in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:53 AM
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Disagree with some points. In my opinion, there's no such thing as a fuck zone or a friend zone —> these are just terms that people (men and women) use when they think they're owed a relationship. You see this a lot with "friend zoned" men that think their hot friend is obligated to date them and "fuck zoned" women that assume their hot lover is obligated to date them. Going by the woe-is-me posts on Reddit, these people refuse to communicate and feel that their entitlement is sufficient to land…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:43 AM
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How old are all of you? If the age gap is only 9 years, then I'm assuming you're both in your late 20s/30s. A gap of 9 years isn't the same thing as a 20+ year gap — the latter is a huge deviation from the norm. Most of the women commenting here aren't raging on 9/10-year age gaps. They're stating the simple fact that, for women in their 20s, attention from men in their late 40s/50s that selectively target young woman is, more often than not, hideously unwelcome. And yet, Reddit tries to perpetu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:18 AM
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Men go for younger women because they know she'll be easily impressed by dates to red lobster, trips trips to florida and your one bedroom apartment, and wont realize you're actually a loser. I find it hilarious that some men on PPD think these two can simultaneously be true: Young women's standards are so high they only go for the top 10% of all men Young women have no standards and will be impressed by trips to florida and a one bedroom apartment Pick a lane, maybe? Meanwhile, the younger wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 07:07 AM
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Younger women only want younger guys because they are hot Yes, we do. Whoever told you we don't has either been lying to you or is massively deluded. The amount of older men attractive enough to date younger women is tiny and not even worth discussing Where's the lie? The few times I've ever found men significantly older than me attractive was because they were incredibly charismatic, very attractive for their age, and — most importantly — weren't aggressive flirts with zero social awareness. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 06:49 AM
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You never see younger women doing it. You called? 🙋🏻‍♀️ Here I am — a younger woman that dislikes "wrinkly ones that look like that they have been out all night drinking for last ten years" refusing to leave me alone on a night out, or trying to get me drunk enough to take me home. And I'm definitely not a minority either, despite what Reddit fiction about younger women craving older men may tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 06:37 AM
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You missed one: 3. Young women that are grossed out by the older men that keep hitting on them Most older men aren't James Bond — when they come onto us, more often than not it's wildly creepy and weird. I was 15 the first time a 50+yo creep wanted me to go home with him. I still get the same feeling of disgust when a much older man WON'T leave me alone on a night out, or jokes about getting me drunk enough to let him take me home. It's fucking gross. So yes, even though most older men aren't pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 06:20 AM
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Wooo, stunning! ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:08 PM
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I agree that some men have a harder go of getting into relationships than many women, and that's something a lot of women don't realise. But the Redditors rage-posting about all women being shallow thots (or all men being shit) aren't helping their case at all. So yeah, the hateful incel/femcel takes probably require some grass-touching.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:58 PM
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That's also a speedy chute to fatherhood. Several chaps at one of my university's frats thought they were Giga ChadsTM for boasting about making their sex partners "work" to be worthy of a relationship. All fine and dandy for them... until some of their partners announced they were pregnant. Who could've foreseen that happening? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:37 PM
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Then you're probably not the type of Redditor I'm talking about. Example: Just a while ago we had a chap absolutely going wild that people wouldn't agree he deserved a super hot girlfriend because "he'd be hot if he were a girl, because girls are automatically hot". That kind of keyboard insanity deserves some grass-touching.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:25 PM
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I mean... it's Reddit. A lot of posters here desperately need to touch grass (or, at the very least, fondle a fern). So you can always expect a sea of "REEEEEEE, X gender too picky!!" comments from the muppets that feel called out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:59 PM
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Not sure what point you're trying to make? If it's hateful rhetoric to point out that relying on "games" in a vain attempt to keep your partner faithful is 100% pathetic, then... wow, we've really grown soft as a society. Frankly, it'd be the same if a plain woman were playing mind games to keep her more attractive partner faithful. She'd also be insecure AF and likely to be dumped, yet I have a feeling you'd see zero issues with that assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 06:34 PM
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Ahh the arrogant regurgitated shaming strategy Typical snowflake response when your feelings get hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:18 PM
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What are your thoughts on dating work-in-progress insecure guys? We're all a work in progress, so you've got absolutely nothing to feel bad about. The only "perfect" people are one-dimensional characters in films/books/TV programmes. As long as you aren't taking your insecurities out on other people (men and women), you have as much right to date as anyone else. I realise that insecurity can create,mostly likely will create a lot of dysfunction in the relationship. All relationships have a few h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:50 PM
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they think we will find flaw but that is actually a dumb weakness we have I'm not going to disagree that some women may think this way, but they're definitely not the norm. Paraphrasing what another commenter said: most passers-by (men and women) cease to exist less than a second after we've "seen" them. 🤷🏻‍♀️ There's genuinely no time for an "emotional affront" to be had, unless the man shouts something along the lines of "your arse is so flat, I've got half a mind to pour syrup on it and call …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:07 AM
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I'm fine with it if they don't bother me. It's only the grabby guys, the guys that'll try following you home, and other assorted creeps that I have an issue with. A simple look is nothing. I also want to ask if you would feel some type of way the day you notice that men do not turn to look at you anymore? I don't think I'd give much of a shit, if I'm being 100% honest. The only male sexual attention I care about is from my partner, so as long as he's appreciative of the view (and ready to act on…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:47 AM
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is there ever a way to get out of the respective zone once in it? Yeah —> leave. The guy whining about some woman friend-zoning him? No one's holding a gun to his head and forcing him to stay friends with her. The woman whining about some man only keeping her around for sex? No one's holding a gun to her head and forcing her to have sex with him. It's hilarious that people cry about being friend-/fuck-zoned, when they're the only ones putting themselves there. No one owes anyone a relationship, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 04:09 PM
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If your son was dating a woman with a 100 body count, would you be okay with that? Genuinely don't care. If he wanted to date a single mother with 2 kids, would you like that for him? That depends. How old is he? If he's a 20yo dating a 30+yo with no job that expects him to step in as the breadwinner+father, I'd be cautioning him about making a potentially shitty decision. If he wanted to date a fat woman who hates men, would that be cool? He can date her, but shouldn't expect me to be on board …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:10 PM
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Almost all Women Love Bad Behavior Disagree. Sure, there are some women that enjoy the ego boost that dating a "bad boy" gives them, but these women definitely aren't the norm. I feel like most of these girls are ignoring some guy who’s probably pretty handsome and smart who could give them a loving relationship to go on with this clownish situation ship nonsense Are you implying your situationship is clownish nonsense, too? 👀 The girls that want the handsome, clever guys go for the handsome, cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:55 AM
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"LittleDickGame" is OP's source for this deeply intellectual piece. According to the Twitter bio, it's a Dating/Relationship/Marriage Expert For Men With Small Penises
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:57 PM
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How do you know you wouldn't be an insecure mess if there were 100 women chasing your partner? Oh, wow, I've no idea. Maybe — and this is a reaaally wild concept — it's because I've grown to know and trust my man over the years? But I'm sure taking advice from "LittleDickGame" on Twitter and playing unga bunga mindgames with a women (or body pillows, who knows?) is sooo much more effective. 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:46 PM
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So witty — you must be a real hit with the ladies! 🥰💕
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:19 PM
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The way I see it, men that are secure in their relationships don't obsess over the fact other men may hit on their partners. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My partner and I have several hard boundaries about things, but they're things like "if you ever cheat, I'm leaving" or "if you want to name our future kids something ridiculous like Frogbert, I'm posting it on Reddit" — not "if a big tiddy goth milf hits on you, I'm going to march off in a huff to hit on some random dude because a Twitter account called 'LittleDickG…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 08:58 PM
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My girls don't get hit on, because they aren't putting themselves in a situation to be. Locked in your basement or your freezer? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:53 PM
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This is why men need to use dread game; the premise makes sense. Women, if your boyfriend hit on 1 woman every time you got approached, DM'd 1 woman every time you got a DM, you'd never go to the club and you'd delete your Instagram today. No, I'd dump the insecure loser. If you're dating a woman that's even moderately attractive, she's going to get hit on. Any man that can't deal with that should either not date, or specifically look for someone unattractive. Sorry (not sorry), to have to break…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:45 PM
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Where are these studies? I find it hard to believe that women, outside of those in fundie communities, are flocking en masse to wife up/shag some guy purely because he's done a lot of horizontal yoga. Unless, of course, you're talking about celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 06:08 PM
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If women loved sex so much they wouldn't be convincing each other to stay single. They wouldn't be rejecting countless men. Correction: Women only like GOOD sex. If "rejecting countless men" means that Joe Average with a potbelly and a todger that can't stay hard for longer than five minutes doesn't make the cut, that's because we aren't robots that can fuck men we find unattractive/ugly — or, most importantly, satisfy us in the bedroom. Attention alone won't cut it, unless the woman in question…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:24 PM
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No double standards here. If a chick rejects a guy that's confessed that he's madly in love with her, only to then whip around and ask for him to have no-strings-attached sex with her... yes, that's still shitty. There's no such thing as a friendzone, though —> if a man/woman doesn't want to be stuck in the "zone", they can just leave*. It's pathetic to stay and then bitch about it, because no one's owed a relationship. (*And yes, I feel the same way about men/women that complain about being stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 04:22 PM
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If you have sex with someone who wants to be in a relationship with you, does it mean you take advantage of them? Nope — not in this scenario. However, even though he isn't "taking advantage" of her (she's an adult that can make her own decisions), he sounds desperate, tactless, and/or a mixture of the two. TL;DR if you don't want to have a look at the post: Apparently, the Redditor had a real heart-to-heart with the guy and confessed her feelings to him. He rejected her — which is a perfectly n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 03:47 PM
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I’m (42f) noticing that the RP men on this sub keep going on about how women need to up their standards, be prettier, be a virgin, etc, etc or they won’t offer relationships to them. How is this an issue though? Any person that brags about their über-high standards for relationships — if they're a bargain bin choice that's struggling to attract even flies — will only hurt themselves. The RP, BP, PP, or unicorn-what's-it pilled people that can attract partners who match their high standards will …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:44 AM
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Is one of your 'hot guy' requirements tall by any chance? Yes, it is. My "hot guy" requirements are: hot, tall, witty, bi/multilingual, and intelligent/educated. And I found him. So, I reiterate: What's the problem if the women in question want consensual sex with "the hotter guy"?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:40 PM
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The relationship-oriented guy. Hands down. Even though I find my partner hilarious and very attractive, the biggest draw was the fact I could see a future with him. (Re the latter: I never went to Hogwarts — I can't be bothered to "change" a man. Besides, I'm pretty sure it's illegal to transform a man into a rat, even if he behaves like one.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:11 PM
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Believe whatever helps you feel better about yourself, Plopper. PS: I'm really four cats stacked one on top of each other in a trenchcoat. For sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:47 PM
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What's the problem if the women in question want consensual sex with "the hotter guy"? Would you be this up in a tizzy if men said they'd rather have sex with Jennifer Lawrence than an unattractive librarian with an ego the size of the moon? 😂 People — both men and women — like attractive people. This isn't a new concept, and complaining about it just makes you sound insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:27 PM
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Yep — we should all be honoured that Johnny Two-Pumps on Tinder considers us fuck-worthy! 😍 Waiting for a relationship with a man that'll actually respect us? Pshhh, that's riding the slip-n'-slide to the wall and "lonely cat lady" territory. The Giga Chads in Pink Floyd knew about this phenomenon, so they released an album called The Wall to warn women of what would happen if they gave in to Young Lust: being alone with Nobody Home. 💁🏻‍♀️ /s (obviously)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:17 PM
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Well, if it keeps men that think that way from finding a partner, I count that as a win. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:22 PM
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I'm not single, I pay for the luxury products I genuinely want with my own money, and I prefer having more cash in my savings accounts to spending it on unnecessary bullshit. Plenty of women are the same. In fact, unless you're exclusively dating sugar babies, most independent women are the same — or, at least, have a lifestyle they can keep up with. The average housewife, for example, isn't going to be demanding €1000+ handbags. You also don't seem to have a lot of faith in your fellow men if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:58 AM
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I've been on dates with girls with dirty or unkept nails and no ty. Women with filthy/dirty nails that aren't working very specific jobs lack basic hygiene. No makeup or good fashion sense is going to make someone that doesn't shower regularly (for example) a 10/10. Hell no! Most women don't lack basic hygiene, so this is moot point. understand your own life strategy and when it makes sense for you to do it Again, most women do. Just because you haven't seen Glam Gloria wandering down the street…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 09:09 AM
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Hands down one of the best takes here — which means it's probably going to get downvoted to oblivion. Some of men whinging about getting no women definitely seem to only want very attractive girlfriends, but women with options aren't just going to fall into the lap of some rando that thinks he's owed a hot girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:20 PM
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Spot on! Some of the men that "settle" this way can also get very resentful of the women they've settled for. They assume she's keeping them from their Super Hot Next GirlfriendTM. Anecdote: A mutual friend had an awful breakup with her boyfriend two years ago — he was tired of having "settled for a cow" (his words) and assumed all the hot babes he was eyeing would love to suck his dick. Yes, he's still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:05 PM
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Well... yes and no. If you're going to work, a party, some other event, or you just want to look polished, then dolling up will help you look more attractive. (If that's your preference.) However, it takes time, effort, and €€€ to look polished and put together. And I don't just mean makeup — I'm talking about well made clothes/jewellery/accessories, effective skincare and haircare products, waxing/electrolysis... etc. After this comes all the makeup, perfume, and whatnot. Expecting every woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:44 PM
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women think they are doing him a favor by trying to woo him the way they themselves would like to be wooed At this point, I'm just genuinely curious about your dating experiences. When I'm seducing my man, I'm definitely not giving him red roses and boxes of chocolates, and taking him to romcoms. I'm letting him know I want his cock in me — or showing him how much I want him. And, again, I'm definitely not the only woman that does this. Where have you met these women that think men need to be wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:12 PM
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Men do not need to be seduced in any elaborate way as women would like men to seduce them. Tell that to the men in dead bedrooms that wish their wives/girlfriends would initiate sex with them — or all the men complaining about women that do nothing but "starfish" in bed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:39 PM
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Even when a woman tries to "put in the effort" they just end up out on a date the woman wants to go on that the man could not care less about Once again, stop generalising your experiences with lazy/self-absorbed women to ALL women. The simplest example: my man desperately wanted to see the new John Wick film, so I took him to see it. I'm definitely NOT the only woman that plans things for her man that he enjoys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:35 PM
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So then they get all pissy because they think they are being awesome but they can't understand that men dont want what they want. Where are these pissy women? 🤣 Here in the Netherlands, it's perfectly common for dating to be a two-way street, where each party puts in equal effort. That's how my relationship started, as well as those of most people I've met. But, if you prefer dating women that don't put in the effort, feel free to say so — though you'll forfeit your right to complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:40 PM
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I assume they think that's easier than facing the truth. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It's the same for women — if asked, most men would choose young Pam Anderson over an average chick that's slept with 300+ guys. Yet, some men genuinely believe that women will choose an average Joe with a bodycount in the hundreds over a guy that's better looking/more charismatic/richer/actually talented that hasn't slept with loads of women? Hilariously out of touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:25 PM
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A high-value man is one who many women want to be with (among other reasons of course), not one who has slept with many women. This is true, to a point. As a woman, if I were given a choice between a somewhat celibate Steve Vai and some random Joe that'd slept with 5000 women, I'd definitely NOT be picking the latter. However, a lot of men view "HVM" as "dude that sleeps around", because they think that's what high-value means: being able to sleep around. Yet, to have women actually rate them "h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:11 PM
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B, hands down. There's nothing sexier than a man with some hobbies and interests. It doesn't matter if he likes playing the guitar, fancies knitting sweaters, or is a baking whizz — being passionate about something is always sexy. Granted, not every woman will find the same things sexy, but most women will prefer a man with actual hobbies over a man whose only hobby is getting his willy wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:33 AM
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All I'm getting from this thread is that a few men have dated some boring, attention-seeking, lazy women and are trying to use that as evidence that most other women are equally boring, attention-seeking, and lazy. We're not. Trust me, when women are 100% present in a relationship, we'll be intiating dates and seducing you — basically making sure you KNOW you're special. If/when we break up, it definitely won't be sunshine and roses for us. If the women you've been "dating" weren't making any ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:22 AM
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Obviously these guys must find her attractive to have sex with her, and some of them hit her up each weekend sharing memes and stuff...why not just make it official? Sorry OP, but there's a difference between a FWB/ONS and a relationship partner. It sounds like your friend is conflating the two, and it's giving her hookup partners the signal that all she's looking for is sex. The same men that'll bang her for 6 months (whilst never making things serious) aren't the ones to magically ask her to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:29 PM
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show on Netflix that very accurately documents why the women often needed matchmakers This has to be the dumbest take I've seen in a while. Reality TV being an overly-staged ham-fest aside, women are not a hivemind. Most of us don't automatically drop our knickers and kick our partners to the curb the second Chad DudeBroTM shows up — despite what one woman in an entertainment programme may have done.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:35 PM
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Is it creepy if a guy from a league below in attractiveness approaches you? Absolutely not. Provided the guy is approaching me in a polite fashion — and, most importantly, is willing to take no for an answer — I wouldn't find it creepy at all. It's only creepy when there's a predatory aspect to it, like a university lecturer trying to lure you out for drinks with him after class or a man trying to follow you home from a bar to ask for a date (both of which I've experienced). In those cases, it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:56 AM
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That's not the point we're making, though. I just gave it another go and added a whole bunch of ranges I'd accept in my "ideal man", and still got 4/5 on the delusion score. Choosing unmarried, non-obese men in their 20s/30s dropped my score by a wild amount. (Didn't even touch the income slider.) Any calculator that'd rate you delusional/picky for being a woman in her early 20s not wanting to nab someone's 50-something hubby is a bit of a joke. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:09 PM
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I put my partner's stats in and I got: 1.9% "Cat enthusiast" 🤣 Something tells me this calculator is a bit biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 11:33 AM
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The way I see it, there's a difference between needing someone and wanting them in your life because you love them (and they you). The former implies that you depend on them for something, whereas the latter is a decision that you both take to be with each other. If it's toxic to suggest that everyone should be with their spouse/partner out of love instead of necessity, then I fully admit my opinion is toxic. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:23 PM
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women no longer need men 100% agreed — I don't need my partner or my male friends. Loads of women nowadays don't need men in their lives. Society has advanced in such a way that we're able to support ourselves financially and enrich our lives educationally/professionally, without having to marry/depend on men. This has definitely made us more selective with the men we admit in our "circle", so the barrier to being in a relationship is much higher than it was in the days of yore. It doesn't mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:40 PM
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it's not much of an excuse to reject most average guys, it's a bit of a lie and it's giving guys false information Speaking as someone that's both rejected and been rejected by people, it's SUPER weird to think you're entitled to a reason you think is logical for people to reject you. Some of the reasons I've been rejected include: they didn't like the fact I once went out with a bisexual guy, I had several tequila shots on a night out with friends and they didn't like that, and they weren't a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:19 PM
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As a woman in her early twenties, I can say that it generally isn't "easier" to land one of us. Most female friends and colleagues my age would rather date men around our age (or a couple of years older), as they're usually much more attractive and have a similar level of life experience. That's not to say that age gap relationships can't happen, just that there aren't a flock of young women out trying to nab much older men — unless that older man has the talent and charisma of, say, Steve Vai. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:28 PM
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If you’re trying to tell me you’re the 1 shy woman who prefers vanilla sex over rough or kinky sex, please let me know Literally the opposite, but I've met enough women in my life to understand that we aren't all created according to a template. Just because I have certain kinks/preferences doesn't mean that my friends are lying when they say they either aren't into sex or prefer "more vanilla sex". Then again, you'd have to actually interact with enough women to know this. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:10 PM
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inexperienced =/ innocent Never said that. I said: "inexperienced or innocent in the bedroom" (i.e. inexperienced or not really on board with behaving overtly sexual in the bedroom). even if a woman has a shy innocent vibe IRL, these type of women get immense sexual gratification from acting like sluts in private [...] something every woman finds appealing Untrue. I don't strive for that duality, and nor do many other seemingly "shy" women I know/am friends with. Some of the shy ones are into BD…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:59 PM
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Men who don’t have sex with a lot of women [...] they havent experienced what it’s like for a woman to be an absolute slut for you Having sex with ten/fifty/a hundred women that are very inexperienced or innocent in the bedroom will also yield the same experience. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It's got nothing to do with numbers, and everything to do with the personality of the woman they're having sex with. And frankly, some men that rave about their sexual prowess or how many women they've dicked can be absolutely us…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:32 PM
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