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Finding out Tyra Banks was the real villain all along for every single season shook me. I rewatched the series a few years ago and couldn't believe how frequently the "villain" was just a confident, articulate woman who had the audacity to not totally efface themselves for Tyra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:45 PM
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Incel.subs get taken down because inevitably the moderators can't stay on top of the calls to rape or otherwise harm women. Same reason every other sub got banned. It was never for vile content, it was always cause the comments got way out of hand. Even the creepy "let's take photos of underage girls" sub only got banned when they realized users were trading actual child porn via messages. When this sub starts saying men should be violently attacked, I'll be the first in line saying it should be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:15 PM
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Just because I'm doing ok now doesn't mean I'll always be ok. If you can't handle me at my worst, then I'm not going to waste my good periods on you. It's a really important litmus test to give to men, because its one of the biggest disqualifiers you're going to find..most men aren't emotionally sensitive enough, considerate enough, or caring enough to be willing to help care for their partner during their low points. Maybe if I was a man, Id have the luxury of being able to assume most partners…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 07:33 PM
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Neurodivergency usually isnt something you can avoid talking about for very long, otherwise you risk being horribly misunderstood. With most people X=X. But a condition can mean that for person with a certain disorder, X actually means Y. You need to be extremely cautious about it, but just failing to mention it entirely.would be a disaster. For one thing, some people flat out can't handle it, and it's not worth wasting your time over them. I think more important than how you approach it with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:11 PM
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His peers were getting drunk at frats and groping people. It's cringey, but I'm not gonna hold pre-25 against a grown man unless he's clearly exhibiting the exact same pattern
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:13 AM
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Meghan is super smart and down to earth one of the only rappers I like. I think she panders to the male gaze, but I think it's more like "look at y'all giving me your money cause I'm hot. You could never" It's definitely not outright progressive, but for that genre I definitely think it's a big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:07 AM
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I feel like I'm too late in the game to start sleeping with women. Like I don't know how to approach that in OLD without coming across like a straight girl who's experimenting (especially because I am in fact someone who until a few years ago identified as straight, and who is by definition experimenting with women). I already know from gay friends that being bi is already viewed cautiously, so I feel like nobody is going to want to "waste their time" on the inexperienced "bicurious" girl other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:36 PM
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Take the kids and go to a women's domestic violence shelter. They can help you figure out everything from there, but the key is getting out quickly and without him realizing you're leaving until you're already gone. I think domestic violence shelters are usually experienced with icky custody situations (at least the one I used to volunteer at was) and taking your kids to enter one won't be viewed as kidnapping or anything that would count against you in court. Covid adds a layer of complication,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:15 PM
209

I seriously thought the brag post was about how good her manicure was. This is the ultimate nude shade match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:59 AM
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Plus it's next to impossible to have a long-term relationship with a girlfriend, so if you are in a relationship that you're emotionally invested in you might as well get marriage. If you weren't f*cked up before you enlisted, you probably are afterwards. The widespread culture of alcoholism alone is just concerning. Thanks for your service and all that, but hard pass on dating a veteran.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:13 AM
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I couldn't find a source because every keyword that would bring it up just brings up Chris Brown, but it was something a lot of people in the music industry brought up to defend Chris Brown at first (before the story got out about just how brutal the attack was). And I remember seeing various paparazzi photos of her and her ex-boyfriend (the one who's like a saudi billionaire) fighting where it was pretty clear that she was the one being "physically aggressive" (getting in his face with her hand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:15 PM
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Alternate alternate explanation: he wanted to lock her down with marriage, but when she said no he decided to just get her pregnant instead. Now that he already has something to tie them together that makes it harder for her to leave him, he really doesn't have a need for marriage. Both marriage and reproductive abuse are common tools abusers like to have to control a person. Just saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:29 PM
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Well, technically his obligation to his kids is legally binding regardless. A marriage certificate definitely doesn't protect you from scrubs either. I think a better way to frame it isn't that the not marrying him was a mistake, it's that being clearer on her boundaries of marriage and having higher expectations would have revealed him to be an unworthy partner a lot sooner. If you're not ready to get married, you're not ready to coparent. And if you are ready to coparent, then you should get m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:27 PM
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Not to use a mysoginistic phrase, but "why buy the cow when the milk is free?" Why marry a woman if she's already playing the role of wifey in your life? He's gotten the value of a wife without any of the work or costs of marriage. It's a win win from his perspective (as long as he's the type of man who doesn't value her happinesses). If getting married is something you want to do eventually, then there needs to be boundaries that are saved for marriage. Idk what those marriages will be cause it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:20 PM
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Women who are uncomfortable with anal sex will unintentionally clench their sphincter muscle. It's incredibly tight on the penis. So if you have death grip induced limp dick, it feels amazing. Guys who don't have limp dick tend to find it uncomfortably tight, and guys with an ounce of empathy are uncomfortable having sex with someone who's clearly uncomfortable. And a relaxed anus really offers no benefits over a vagina other than the "kink" factor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:24 PM
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Also, they were married. He's divorcing her over anal sex and demanding sex with prostitutes. Best case scenerio, it's a 50/50 as state. Worst case, it's not and it's extremely unlikely he's going to be looked at sympathetically when splitting assets. I don't even think this is about the money or the anal sex. I think the friend is right: he's just venting his pent-up frustration. Which is SO concerning. If he is that willing to be hostile and distant without communicating and then make such an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:19 PM
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Hey now, that's not fair! You don't know this is a pickmeisha. There's a 50% chance this is a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:51 PM
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I think he brought both drinks for both people as like a DIY outdoors coffee date since you can't dine-in right now. But like....why drink coffee if you've got digestive issues? Drink some green tea or something. I'm.lactose intolerant so I make a point not to have dairy on a date. I'm not gonna plan a date to Ben & Jerry's and then go sh*t in a bush. What is wrong with people....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:47 PM
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Domestic abuse is actually fairly equal in terms of quantity, but domestic abuse that endangers safety is more common for women and nearly all fatal domestic violence is perpetrated against women. Rihanna and Chris Brown are a good illustration actually. Rihanna is known to hit her boyfriends, but her slapping someone and her getting beaten have to death and fearing for her life are wildly different even though both technically fall under the banner of "domestic violence"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:44 PM
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Palm oil is extremely common in beauty products but it's primarily used in food products. I looked into it a few years ago and giving up palm oil is not by any means easy. You're basically giving up like half of all processed foods and everything except castile soap for your skin. Not doing this to discourage you from doing so, mainly just want to point out that cutting out palm oil goes a lot further than these brands. And while these particular fields may have gotten traced to these particular…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:30 PM
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Reddit is definitely overrepresented with people on the autism spectrum. Not a joke, not shade. The amount of people on the spectrum or with ADHD (which is like a cousin to autism) is mind boggling. Both ASD & ADHD are associated with worse hygiene and relationship skills than a neurotical person, and both coincidentally find men struggle with these much more whole women tend to put in the work to learn them anyway and just get super depressed and anxious about it. You see a lot of hygiene posts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:12 PM
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100% this. My friend kept getting UTIs and couldn't figure out why, and the entire friend group was looking around like "who's gonna be the one to tell her it's her dirty dick boyfriend?" Just cause it's next to impossible to get an infected penis doesn't mean poor penile hygiene isn't going to have ramifications. This woman is gonna need a gyno on speed dial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:07 PM
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Cardi is a former stripper and Meghan isn't but apparently was friends with strippers and was in that same mindset. Sex work is a tool of oppression for many women, but for others it's a form of empowerment, because it allows women to have autonomy. Rather than depending on a husband to bring home the bacon, a sex worker relies on themselves and men are quite frankly a dime a dozen. I'm not gonna defend sex work because as a whole I think it's an extremely.problematic industry and very, very few…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:31 PM
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I think the song epitomizes the concept "topping from the bottom". In which a person is in the "submissive" role but is actually the one dominating the entire thing and fully in charge. But that's a whole niche topic. I agree the song isnt exactly what I'd call ideal female empowerment, and I've always felt that way about hypersexualized female rappers. There's this idea I came across which is that the male gaze flipped is still the male gaze. Magic Mike for instance they argued is really just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:17 PM
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Love languages are supposed to be about the ways in which you prefer to receive love. So your partner can better express their feelings by making sure that they're speaking in a love language. It's a way for couples to identify why they might be miscommunicating, and how they can create a better system going forward. It was never intended as some kind of Myers-Briggs "well that's just who I am" kind of thing I'm not a good gift giver. But I knew one of my good friends was very much a gift kind o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:22 PM
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The honeymoon period is a real phenomena, that we've begun to measure using MRI and hormones testing. For reasons still as of yet not completely understood, at about 1-2 years into a relationship we normalize to them. Intitial attraction and love is full of extreme physical effects: we get tons of oxytocin, tons of cortisol, etc. But at about 1.5 years into a relationship, they're no longer shiny and new to.your brain. Some people argue that we've gotten used to their pheromones, which would exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:02 PM
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How would you ask for the number in a way where you could pass it off as actually talking to the other person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:26 AM
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Its more like the HBO scribble noise or the Netflix bum-bum sound. Not really a "song" so much as 3 seconds of branded noise that vaguely resembles a jingle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:10 AM
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You need to be in therapy ideally with someone who specializes in trauma (it's different than other types of anxiety. Any therapist can help, but the ones with experience with trauma will be miles ahead). What you're describing it is a trauma response. Breaking the cycle of violence is a big deal, you should be so proud of yourself. But letting go of the lessons you subconciously learned during that experience isn't something you can just willpower your way through. Intimate relationship violenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:57 PM
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Narcissists can be extremely.good at following the "rules" if it benefits them. Not looking at other girls means no fighting or nagging, and means you're less likely to suspect them of cheating. The only.method of spotting these kind of psychopaths I've been able to figure out is how they talk about random 3rd parties or whatever when you give them absolutely no indicators of emotional reaction. Like asking them about someone and then asking clarifying questions or asking them to extrapolate fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:38 PM
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2!d wave feminism had some awesome people, but it also had some of the worst people. White hippie feminist who talks about menstruations connection to mother earth levels of cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:37 AM
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What's crazy is that this isn't even the best part of that speech. Gosh, she really is just the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:55 AM
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I think this is above bare minimum. He's more playful with his kid than most parents on a random day when they're distracted by something, and his communication is a lot more thoughtful in how he speaks to hide partner (like saying he loves her then clarifying not just cause of the Xbox, and then joking about the Xbox). He didn't move the ends of the earth in here, but I don't think being superman is the definition of HVM. This is a man who clearly prioritizes his partner and children above his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:49 AM
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Literally the only acceptable explanation for this is they're both autistic. Like a lot of neurologicial conditions, there's pretty big gender variances which would explain why she's cleaner but still gross enough to not understand how f**king disgusting her boyfriend is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:42 AM
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Not knocking the self care at all, I think buying presents for yourself is a good idea! But be careful about tiktok and consumerism. There's a LOT of undisclosed sponsorships and things. get a lot of pinterest 'im a compulsive shopper who takes the term *retail therapy" way to literally and I may or may not be carrying a balance on my credit cards month to month" vibes from a lot of tiktoks, and with how their alrogrithm works it's SO easy to get pulled into that corner of conspicuous consumptio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:56 PM
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I haven't felt like I've earned the place to say it, but I legitimately think the male depravity and low value male things needs to be banned unless it explicity centers the convo on what women can do about it. If I wanted to be barraged by images of women being brutalized and humiliated, I'd go to pornhub not FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:43 PM
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Of course. Rape isn't sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:08 PM
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Holy shit, scrolling through her instagram quickly it looks like she's really been through some stuff, and is really making some huge steps towards healing & growth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:52 AM
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The only criticism I remember against her way basically that she looked super old for her age, and if someone wants to marry A 16 yr old why mary someone that looks like a 36 yr old divorcee. I was like 12 and thought it was so beyond creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:48 AM
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I hate this mindset of "predatory business practices should be allowed to exist cause it's not illegal". Like, yah buddy. That's why we should make it illegal. You shouldn't have to be a person familiar with contract law to avoid having your life ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:26 AM
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Is this a textbook? I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:47 AM
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If it looks like a dick, it's for men. If it's sort of an abstract geometric shape in a bright cute color, it's for women. Source - I went through a major sex toy phase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:36 AM
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Nah, this is someone with a lot of internalized homophobia bending over backwards to find a way to make being attracted to men not gay. Lots of gay people think they're straight for a while because of how messages about sexuality are instilled in us from young childhood. I've seen this a decent amount with gay/bi guys who have a lot of homophobia and masculinity issues. Where it's partially that they don't want to be gay, cause gay=yucky. And partially that masculinity in other men intimidates t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:16 PM
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Saving their number is how I remember who they are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:07 AM
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Young people these days are just super fucking cool. There's still a lot of non-FDS mindsets, especially around sex/BDSM/non-monogomy, but overall they're just not into the "be a doormat for a man and then maybe he'll.love you eventually" stuff. It's a fairly common joke for straight women to joke "you know how I know sexuality isn't a choice? Cause I like men :(" and talk about how most straight men are trash. Like I'm regularly getting a schooled about independence and emotional maturity in re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:40 AM
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Do you guys have reccomendations for resources on feminist theory and topics? This sub has a pretty limited scope which is understandable, but I have zero idea where to look to educate myself in the areas that are off-topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:10 PM
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Because it's not informed consent. Sure, they agree, but many don't really understand what they're agreeing to, and don't understand why they hate it when they do it, and are made to feel bad because they chose the thing, and what's wrong with them that they're having this negative reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:09 PM
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one direction is such a weird successor to this trend, because there were definitely the same persistent rumors of gayness. But it was the female fans who idolized them who were fueling it this time. It was the hoardes of adolescent girls who were sexually attracted to these guys who also deeply wanted them to be gay. It's one of those situations where I just have to shrug my shoulders and say "idk man, human sexuality is perplexing sometimes" and roll with it. But I'm super excited for the all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 07:40 PM
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I actually see it as a different issue - women generally are attracted to much more androgenous men than men think we "should" be. There's studies showing we gravitate towards the burly lumberjack look only when were ovulating, and during the rest of our menstrual cycle tend towards more androgenous/effeminate men. We want hyper masculine as the baby daddy when were in the thick of hormones induced insanity, but we want Softboy Supreme to actually be our life partner for the other 25 days of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:23 PM
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Cause you can usually see a girl's full body and sometimes even bathing suit pics on instagram, whereas a lot of women don't put those kind of photos on OLD or snapchat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:40 PM
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HOW does a person wear a white turtleneck without getting foundation transfer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:28 PM
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It doesn't "in it's core essence worship dick". It's an openly and intentionally mysoginistic system. One of its primary reasons for existence it to enforce a strict patriarchal social hierarchy in which women are literally property of men. It is far worse than just sexism, it is fundamentally rooted in oppressing women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 09:03 PM
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I just assumed that he's religious, cause that sounds like the kind of response a religious person would say. Like I can see them going to a church with the "cool", "not like the other pastors" kind of pastor who has a rock band open before his sermons. And so leaving his wife would have meant being ostracized from his community, his entire family would probably shade him cause they don't believe in divorce, he'd have to deal with years of guilt and spiritual crisis. Vs being able.to constantly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:40 PM
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I stopped watching halfway through. I don't need anything else to convince me. Pumped for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:39 AM
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Because they're not mentally present in their relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:59 PM
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Female and male are adjectives. They are used to indicate gender of a species. You can have a male cat or a female bird or a male human. You cannot have "a female". It's a descriptor of a noun, not a noun itself. Man and woman are nouns. They differentiate gender of people. Female to woman is the equivelant as if you started using the word human instead of person. "Oh I met this really nice human today". Usually people can hear with that sentence how awkward it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:21 AM
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I'm so impressed when people can wear a monochromatic nude outfit and not look like a naked mole rat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:37 PM
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From eachother. Women support women in their lives.. because we "earn" this service by also supporting them back. We call it friendship. Men think they can just cut in on our support network and use us like freeloaders, without putting in any of the work or support that is used to gain entry into the trust circle. Woman absolutely have more solidarity amongst eachother than men have with themselves ,and they honestly hate us for it. They think they should be entitled to the "sisterhood" despite …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:11 PM
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They need to flag those numbers and just have a dedicated team of burly, deep voiced men to answer those calls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:55 PM
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Thanks for the plug. After the past year, I've been looking to start moving towards more nonprofit journalism but so far I've only had my local one. Super awesome the 2nd one is female-oriented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:20 AM
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I'm too scared of being disappointed to find out anything about Hozier. Im following the Trump policy of: "as long as I don't test to see whether or not he's a LVM, then he's not a LVM"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:30 PM
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None of these are womanly. These are all human traits that are enjoyed by ever person to varying degrees regardless of chromosomal sex or gender identity. To label these as feminine is inherently compartmentalizing human traits and saying 'this is what women should be, and what non-women shouldn't be'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:40 PM
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Technically all evidence currently implies that the true feminine activities are manual labor & art: subsistence farming & child rearing while also inventing language and drawing. Want to feel womanly? Send your male partner away for weeks at a time while you chill with your gal pals growing vegetables and reading poetry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:38 PM
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It'd weird that people are identifying Steph Curry as the problem when he's made it clear he doesn't care, and Ayesha has also made it clear it's not him but the the pressure of him being so famoud. That her husband is a big deal now and gets aspiring professional baby mamas throwing themselves at him all the time. That she's suddenly working in Hollywood and surrounded by women 3 inches taller than her who weigh 30 lb less. Steph has taken the sideline and said it's not his business how his wif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:19 PM
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I assume all men watch porn, but I definitely think we don't discuss frequency enough. Colbert is very catholic when usually comes with a little residual shame about masturbation. So probably fairly moderate to low user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:24 AM
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I don't get how that would work for the back camera? I can't think of anything I do that could be captures by my front facing camera that I wouldn't want seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:20 AM
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This is a good time to plug that you should treat anything with a camera as being on at all times. I dated a software engineer for Microsoft and we were in his living room once and started fooling around and he literally paused to walk over to put his t-shirt over the little gaming camera thing he had. I was like "oh isn't that a little paranoid?" and he just looked at me totally serious and was like "no. Are you not covering your cameras? Always cover your cameras!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:18 AM
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I actually wouldn't be super worried. I know that this seems like serial killer shit, but it actually seems way less concerning than that. This sounds like a person with maybe schizophrenia or something in that family who is stable. Even when totally mentally stable, a lot retain a super "off" quality in terms of social interactions. There's no disconnect from reality here. his level of interest seems inappropriate, but you have to consider that he's probably talked to you more than any other wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:08 AM
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Yeah this honestly seems like something she should be a little emberassed about herself for how clearly nonexistent her standards are. What does it say about you that a homeless dude just played you for a free meal and ride and you didn't even realize? You'll get better men when you expect men to be better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:19 AM
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Thank you!!!! If you pay attention to her for more than a couple minutes, you realize that she actually seems like a straight up self aggrandizing b*tch. I've disliked her ever since I realized she went to Harvard just so she could brag about going to Harvard. Her degree has no application within her career field, and she admitted that she had no intention of leaving her career field. Like Im not saying she needed to study theater or something, but she knew she was gonna switch to behind the cam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:11 AM
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Love bombing early in the relationship most likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:05 AM
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Natalie Portman seems like peak upper class white feminist to me. Like how she wore that dress to the Oscars to make a statement about the lack of female directors and then when people pointed out her production company has never worked with a female directors she was like "I mean, I tried, but it was harder, so I just chose men instead. Sowwy :3". She's clearly very smart, but she just strikes me as someone who would absolutely stab you in the back to get ahead, and that she'd smile and say som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:03 AM
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People forget what a crazy, weirdly sexual person she was before they got together. I have a very strong suspicion he implied that he and Aniston were splitting up/separating/etc (they had been fighting about the future of the relationship) and that Angelina was in such a sex-craze that she quite literally didn't think twice about it. I feel like he's good at sex and also he was obviously good looking, so his partners just get a bit entrances and ignore literally everything else about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:57 AM
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Ballet is very high-class , but the dancers make absolute shit money and they have to retire super young, at which point their only real career option is dance teacher (also terrible money). It's super common for them to marry wealthy people they met while part of a company, because that's the only way they can stay in that social class . Notice that she married a financier ($$$) Natalie is rich, because of her career she will put in ridiculous effort to stay fit and youthful looking, and she is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:52 AM
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I very rarely respect major actors as people. It seems like the vast majority have a mild personality disorder of some kind. Like I've just always gotten the feeling she's kind of cold and super pretentious and really wants to be seen as sophisticated and intelligent. Having kids with a french ballet dancer just seems way too on-brand for her desired image to pass up the opportunity just because he's dating someone else. Something about her eyes when she smiles also gives me snake in the grass v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:42 AM
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I've definitely seen best friends that are in an emotionally abusive relationship with eachother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:10 PM
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Because he IS emotionally abusive. Gaslighting is death by 1000 papercuts. This man has had 7 years over which he has convinced her up is down, abuse is love, and that his continuous stalls are a sign of upcoming commitment. It takes a major revelation.moment for women this far gone to see the light. And even then, they need to run immediately while they see the light and take strong measures to end things decisively otherwise the abuser usually drags them back into blindness. It's incredibly sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:04 PM
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Because he IS emotionally abusive. Gaslighting is death by 1000 papercuts. This man has had 7 years over which he has convinced her up is down, abuse is love, and that his continuous stalls are a sign of upcoming commitment. It takes a major revelation.moment for women this far gone to see the light. And even then, they need to run immediately while they see the light and take strong measures to end things decisively otherwise the abuser usually drags them back into blindness. It's incredibly sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:56 PM
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Oh hey its me and half the men I've dated in one description. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:22 AM
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Emotional intelligence is everything when it comes to picking men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:01 PM
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Nothing turns me on quite like having to nag my partner about something I've told him 12 times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:32 PM
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There's tons of videos of how to please a woman. It's a 5 min clip from a longer porn shoot that shows the guy haphazardly flicking his tongue around her vulva for 2 minutes and cuts to the end where the dude is aggressively thrusting into her before finishing on her tits.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:24 PM
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Also, during sex, the burden of communication is on the person performing the act. If you think a person needs to advocate for themselves to receive pleasure, that just means you're admitting that you don't bother to communicate about preferences and boundaries. It's not women's responsibility to tell their partners what they want, it's their partners responsibility to ask. if you aren't repeatedly verbally checking in with your partner throughout sexual intimacy, then you are bad at sex. Period…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:19 PM
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Reddit started out, like in it'd super early days before subreddits, having a really strong STEM-leaning. Nerdy, mostly male, probably an above average autism spectrum representation. It was fine, cause the site was such a calm almost professional atmosphere. I joined like 8-9(?) years ago --- not coincidentally it was within a couple months of my freshman year in College if Science and Engineering [my orientation speech from the college dean bragged that it was now ~25%, a rapid increase from l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:58 PM
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I don't think it's just pornsick that causes the inability to make women cum. I think if you were to get a totally inexperienced, never seen porn guy. Like some science clone who was a total blank slate -- I still think he'd be terrible (though severely less violent and degrading). I think female sexual response is radically different than male sexual response. And that the only way men learn female pleasure is by paying attention and being responsive to womens cues (aka emotional intelligence) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:53 PM
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Because he said the only place he'd seen a woman advocate for female pleasure was 'only fans' and said women should either speak up or stop complaining. So he's saying 1) there arent feminist and lesbian enclaves that advocate for female pleasure 2) that literal porn for a male audience is an authentic example of female pleasure 3) that women's choices are educating men or submission to men. Anyone who frames sex as an automatic assumption is enabling the assumption that sex is an entitlement in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:31 PM
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Keyword sensual. I'd rather spend 10 minutes sensually kissing than have a guy robotically eating me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:21 PM
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I think men aren't taught how female sexuality works and just try to frame it through a male sexual lense (because society enables them to not understand female sexuality.)Cause if you just shove your hands down my underwear and start rubbing my clit, I'm not gonna be into that. I have to do build-up on myself. I think a big issue is that we frame sex as being pleasure and totally skip the desire, which for most women if the desire isn't there then it's not happening no matter how good your move…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:20 PM
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Omg, yes!!! It's like men have no idea what pressure is so they either just lightly craze or super-roughly yank and twist and it's like....wtf are you doing?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:05 PM
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My nipples have almost no sensitivity which I used to be sad about but this sub has made me feel like I actually low-key had a superpower all these years. I've got some superman nipples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:00 PM
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We aren't a monolith and yet, we are. Cause absolutely NONE of us want out nipples tuned like a car radio 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:59 PM
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There's a couple of legitimately really good instructional videos out there that technically are porn since they're graphic video depictions of sex, but they're not really porn porn. I don't mean fake, sensationalized instructional either. I mean it's a person (overwhelmingly a woman, wonder why....) Speaking ina mostly monotone giving detailed instructions about anatomy and how to better stimulate that anatomy. I do think there's a valid reason to support these because most formal sexual educat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:58 PM
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Womanizer or any similar style - its a suction vibrator so it offers a totally different sensation than a tradition vibrator. What I like about them is that I don't get reduced sensitivity afterwards like when you've had a long session with a normal vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:25 PM
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Lowered sex drive is also a really common symptoms of depression/anxiety in women. And November/December/January are when depression spikes. The vast majority of people I talk to are struggling with their mental health. I don't miss my libido, I'm fine without it. But just want y'all to be aware - women's sex drive notoriously fluctuates according to the environment/situation were in (what's often called "responsive desire") and is tied to our thoughts to a much higher degree than men. A suddenl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:13 PM
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Idk I don't get this mindset. I don't know you, go ahead and brag to your friends. Why would I care? Because it's inconsequential to my life, bragging is kind of just an ego boost. Yes, damn right, you were lucky to have the privelege. How would he take pics of her? It was her place and I think she'd have noticed him propping up his phone? I mean she was literally doing the exact thing you accused him of possibly doing..... You can be married to a man for 30 years. Doesn't mean the next time you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:15 AM
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Why not both? She gets to totally avoid the "waaahhhh take me back. Forgive me we can make it work" phase. She gets to be petty and hurt him emotionally. She gets to have sex with a young buck. She gets a hilarious story. This story seems like a win win for her. It'd be one thing if she was hurting herself in the process or going to some elaborate lengths for revenge it unable.to move on. But this is just funny to me. Like if I decided I wanted a divorce, this seems like the absolute funnest way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:02 AM
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I think you mean subjugation shit - no man would ever be forced to endure anything like this. The bar exam is sexist and they've been criticized for it for a long time, and this is just another egregious example of depraved indifference to the biological realities of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:46 AM
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You'd think out of all those personally affected lawyers, someone would sue them. Even just as a "I'm retiring so give no fucks anymore" blowout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:44 AM
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She's pretty messed up emotionally and very clearly is still working through her trauma. She likely felt like him being so much lower in status might have protected her from the kind of shit she's had to deal with in the past, only.to discover that nope: he's still trash too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:34 AM
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If it didn't bother her, she wouldn't be posting this self-defense. I have no interest in marriage, but I also have no interest in explaining how I'm basically already married on social media. Nah, the entire point is that I don't want to be married, not that I essentially already am. If I basically was, I'd for sure want the paperwork
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:27 PM
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As someone who has fallen into this trap too many times, I think it's important to first ask yourself which situation you're in: 1) you are uncomfortable with the dynamic in general. It feels like he's using you as some kind of romantic outlet by just never explicitly being romantic. You're starting to wonder if he thinks he can just gradually escalate and slip in to being your boyfriend without ever actually admitting that's what he's doing OR 2) The lack of reciprocity. He wants you to be his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:58 PM
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I feel like there needs to be a sister sub to this one that's just like female life strategy or female solo strategy. Cause obviously this sub was created for dating, but I think so many of us have realized we it's not the dating aspect that we were struggling with. It was just the difficult in unlearning the harmful lessons we've learned as women: not being martyrs for the man, not overlooking when men violate our boundaries, being scared to assert our boundaries, navigating the judgement of wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:42 PM
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Assume he does until you're certain he's monogamous for 6 months (it can take up to 6 months for a person to test positive for certain STDs, so a negative test doesn't definitively rule it out unless it's been longer than that) And then still use protection, cause you never know when he'll cheat since he certainly won't tell you. Like unless you're trying for a baby, use a condom. I know like 3 people who got STDs while in what they thought were monogamous relationships...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:21 PM
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$$$ you don't exclusively deal with sick people. Its one of the few fields in healthcare thats actually health care rather than just treating sick people obstetrics is super rewarding $$$$ you recognize it's a historically underserved field that it's rapidly changing and which can affect not only individuals but also communities to a greater degree than practically anything else you could do. reproductive healthcare, both historically and in terms of advancements, is genuinely fascinating did I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:59 AM
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It's a genuinely terrible example of it as well. I'm solidly above average for math, and I've had to understand way more complicated ideas around zero. But this example was hard to follow. Multiplying by zero isn't something youd demonstrate visually, because zero is not a tangible concept which is what throws people. It's not a number really, it's a placeholder to indicate absence. So just using something they're familiar with (like a carton of eggs or kitkats or something that they're familiar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:07 PM
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It's insulting because "logical"/mathematical intelligence isn't the only form of intelligence. There's like.9 I think, and at least 5 of them are like undeniably universally recognized as being a form of intelligence (a couple are iffy and debated). I totally.understand concept like these. But when I got to calc 3 or 4, I bombed because I have terrible spacial understanding. Give me an excel sheet and ask me to make equations - I'm there. but ask me to choose which shape is a rombus and which s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:55 PM
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Because he switched his example around halfway through (first it was cups with 2 markers eachz and asking how many markers would 0 cups have. Then he switched it to a cup with zero markers, how many markers would 3 cups with 0 markers have?) Because she's switched it around, she got confused at what was being measured. So her (incorrect)answer is 3, because there would be 3 cups of zero markers. This isn't how they usually teach zero multiplication, and dude should probably just pull up a youtub…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:49 PM
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I get the feeling he's low-key abusive, and that he sets up lots of little "demonstrations" to make her feel stupid. The way she says 'but that's a different question though' strikes me as someone who's had really bad experiences of being tricked before. Either she had a bad math teacher and she developed some math anxiety (my mom has it, it's quite common with girls especially) OR she's used to him putting her on the spot and setting her up so he can feel superior. The lack of backstory on why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:43 PM
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I have social anxiety. Being a bit ditzy about math will literally never come up now that we use excel & various other programs to do it all for us. Having social issues will seriously impact his career growth, personal life, romantic partnerships, and child rearing. There is no aspect of life not impacted by social ineptitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:38 PM
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My.mom is horrible at math. She conceptually doesn't get stuff that means she doesn't remember it cause it flusters her. Very simialrly to this person, it's almost like this learned thing where they get flustered and just feel like it a trick almost? I'm realizing that early negative experiences with math leave a lot of people, mostly girls, scarred for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:35 PM
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This is gonna sound weird, but are you sure you're straight? A lot of lesbians or bisexuals don't questions their sexuality until they're older because they thought they were straight. We have heterosexuality ingrained in us very young, and women learn to internalized it so effectively that they just assume that's what heterosexual attraction feels like. Similarly, they find the "male gaze" of women unappealing. Megan Fox in a Transformers movie didn't seem sexy to them, so surely they're not at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:14 PM
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Totally agree on severity of impact being important. Not only does a lot of porn have problematic depictions, but the actual behind the scenes of the industry are even more horrifying. The romance novel is not even the same country as that shit. With that said, it should be stated that the vast majority of the romance genre is trash. Not because men woo women, but because they often don't (at least not in a healthy way). I wasn't introduced to sexualized depictions of sexual assault through porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:02 PM
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My school only separated us for one day. So we had several days of normal health class where the topic happened to be puberty and they told us to write down any questions we had that we weren't comfortable asking, and then on like the last day they split us up by gender and that was our one like "girl talk" day where they'd pull all the questions that had gotten submitted throughout the week. So we still had to learn about boys waking up covered in bodily fluids, and they still had to learn abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:22 PM
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I don't think porn can be blamed for this. This is legit, textbook abuse. Idk what causes thAt if it's something wrong with their brains or society of they watched their own father's do it, but men don't last long enough to learn this kind of systemic destruction from a porn video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:13 AM
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100% she is not safe with that man. This is textbook abuse. Lifetime is already trying to buy the movie rights, that's how over the top this level of manipulating and controlling behavior is. He's either going murder her or poison her to make her sick (and thin).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:09 AM
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She doesn't even need this sub (yet). She needs a domestic abuse shelter. I'm seriously concerned he's going to attack her if she tries to leave. That level of controlling and verbal abuse and then when they mention breaking up they glare and sat 'you shouldn't say stuff like that's. That's not a red flag, that's a whole like a big ass banner that says "RUN".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:07 AM
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I was in school for engineering for 3 years and I view it as a huge red flag. Not all engineers suck, but as a group holy God they suck so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:00 AM
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It will get abused. All laws will. That doesn't meant you don't pass them. You adjust them every couple years to respond to how they're working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:55 AM
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I was diagnosed with ADHD. For 3 years, I bounced between different medications because they either didn't work or caused side effects that became debilitating (went from a healthy BMI to underweight in 6 months, wouldn't sleep for 3 days at a time, suicidal thoughts, etc). Saw multiple doctors and they'd all just shrug and say 'meh, what do you want us to do about it?? Sucks for you, but these are your choices.' Went off meds because I just couldn't handle it which involved dropping out of scho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:56 PM
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Women have their pain dismissed despite the fact they have substantially higher pain tolerances. So if a women says her pain is a 6, that's a 9 for a man. Men die cause they refuse to go to the doctor. Women die because the doctors refuse to take gender disparity in medical care (+ training) seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:43 PM
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This is the type of content I came here for. Thanks so much for this! I'm currently on hold at the library for 'the second sex' and this just makes me even more excited to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:11 PM
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