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I tried to describe my wife's behavior only enough to provide context for my mindset, thoughts, and actions. Would you be willing to help me rephrase it so that I'm focusing more on myself and less on her?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 02:40 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 6'0", 179 lb, 18% BF (Navy), Age 42, Married 17 yrs, kids Lifts: 5x5: BP 165 lb, DL 310 lb, SQ 225 lb Read: Currently re-reading NMMNG. Have read the sidebar. My current goals with notes about my weaknesses/mistakes and what I'm going to do about it: 1000 lb club; body fat under 15% Lifting, strict with macros. Life is good. Be my own mental point of origin; maintain frame This last week I was more judicious with my attention towards my wife. Whenever she was disrespectful I told …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 06:00 AM
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I'm not sure what you're referring to, but I'm guessing the list of goals at the end. By "on track" I meant to indicate that I'm actively working on these and having success. I didn't write anything more because I didn't see the need to expand on them in my OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 07:29 PM
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Fair point. I started as a complete loser, I'm working to be that attractive high SMV dude with his shit together. It does feel good to know that I was less triggered to be defensive than I used to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 07:26 PM
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Thanks for the validation. Yep, my headspace and mental point of origin are shit. I am fixing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 07:21 PM
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Thank you, those are some key pieces I was missing. Restating for my own benefit: I should value my attention, I shouldn't let her waste it by letting her own the conversation and run amok. If she says something disrespectful I don't have to take it seriously. If I don't want to continue talking I can choose to leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 07:20 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 6'0", 181 lb, 19% BF (Navy), Age 42, Married 17 yrs, kids Lifts: 5x5: BP 160 lb, DL 295 lb, SQ 185 lb Read: Currently re-reading WISNIFG. Have read the sidebar. My current goals with notes about my weaknesses/mistakes and what I'm going to do about it: 1000 lb club; body fat under 15% Last week I injured my back doing a deadlift with bad form. Previous injuries were a serious setback to my lifts, but fortunately ice, Ibuprofen, and rest carried the day and I barely skipped a beat.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 05:45 AM
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You're absolutely right, fitness isn't taking a lot of time, I'm just scared to get uncomfortable. I'll work on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/24 04:33 AM
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OYS #19 Stats: 6'0", 183 lb, 19% BF (Navy), Age 42, Married 17 yrs, kids Lifts: 5x5: BP 160 lb, DL 295 lb, SQ 180 lb Read: Currently re-reading WISNIFG. Have read the sidebar. Last week u/ChestHighandClean called me out for not having specific goals, and suggested that this is why I've made little to no progress so far. I think he's right. Here is a list of my current goals with notes about my weaknesses/mistakes and what I'm going to do about it. 1000 lb club; body fat under 15% I injured my ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/24 06:08 AM
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I would flip it, the issue I raised was whatever was top of mind for me when I wrote my OYS, disconnected from any specific goals. I think these goals will help clarify what I work on going forward. I'll own my shit better next week. This list, approved or not, is a reflection of honest desires I've been contemplating for a while now. Certainly inspired by all the reading I've done in MRP. Your comments motivated me to make them concrete.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/24 05:04 PM
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OK, I think I see what you mean. Here are more specific goals: 1000 lb club Body fat under 15% Eliminate all debt with > 5% APR Be my own mental point of origin Become skilled at game Have 3 women besides my wife who I know I could fuck if I chose Become skilled at social dance Become fluent in Spanish Develop my career (I have specific goals that I won't go into here)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 08:20 PM
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I am definitely accomplishing a lot in life. Would that be something I should include in an OYS? I may have tried to be overly brief. Great point about frame though. I want to live a substantial life.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:45 AM
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Yes, I'm a slow learner. Not quitting.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:43 AM
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There is a lot to be gained in your lifts yet. Yes, I think I could lift a lot more. I'm struggling to break through a plateau but will keep at it. The more you do this the greater the proficiency you will have in responding in a congruent nature. This seems key for me... if I can learn to thoughtfully respond in a congruent fashion I will accomplish a lot more than trying to be witty.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:43 AM
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Thank you for the thoughtful response. That's a brilliant example of agree and amplify, I just don't think I could come up with it in time. That's the wittiness that I struggle with. And yes, at the same time there is an element of wanting to "win" here which is not serving me. I think at this stage I might have more success with ignoring it or holding boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:35 AM
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Get better at what - specifically? Can you answer that? I want to be whole and to love myself. I want to not give a fuck what other people think, and live life on my terms. I want to be free. I'm not so great at these things, I want to get better at them. If my thinking here is off, I want to correct it. This is a flawed goal. I'm a slow processor, slow thinker too. I used to think I needed to be quicker witted too. It didn't matter and still doesn't. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone her…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:27 AM
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Solid. I have a hard time remembering that I don't owe people a response. Also I can see that my responses are often actually reactions. Maybe I can cultivate a more thoughtful, rational manner of dealing with people that is me, instead of trying to be like those whose wittiness I admire. I think this also aligns with what I've been thinking about shit tests from my daughter in particular: there is such a social status differential that I will likely lose status if I try to spar with her, my bes…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:12 AM
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I never considered just accepting that I'm not quick witted and working with it. I'll have to think about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:05 AM
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OYS #18 Stats: 6'0", 182 lb, 19% BF (Navy), Age 42, Married 17 yrs, kids Lifts: 5x5: BP 155 lb, DL 290 lb, SQ 175 lb Read: Currently re-reading WISNIFG. Have read the sidebar. First time posting since my ban 10 months ago. Before I was trying to be a perfect OYSer and never say anything that would get me attacked (and consequently never say anything vulnerable or of value). I also wanted to check all the boxes (read all the books), maybe to get a pat on the head or feel like I had some level of …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 07:09 AM
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Wait, this isn’t the Swole Trappist Book club? Shit, I must have taken a wrong turn somewhere…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 01:13 AM
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OYS #17 Stats: 6'0", 175 lb, 14% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 135 lb, DL 265 lb, SQ 175 lb, BR 130 lb, OHP 85 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading 48 Laws of Power and The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves. Have read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth, SGM, The Way of the Superior Man (x2), Bang, Practical Female Psychology, Sex at Dawn, How To Answer "Do These Pants Make My Ass Look Fat…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 08:20 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: 6'0", 182 lb, 18% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 103 lb, DL 275 lb, SQ 185 lb, BR 140 lb, OHP 83 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading Bang and re-reading The Way of the Superior Man. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth, SGM, The Way of the Superior Man. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: In a follow up comment last week I committed to "reach out to each o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/23 06:28 PM
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Thanks bro, I love being part of this warm and supportive community.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 04:42 AM
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This is not doing it well. Nope. This last week I was within 50 calories of my target almost every day, and protein was within 12g. I can do better but a big improvement. Reply with a planned action and report on following through next week. Start with one activity. I made a list of 5 friends I'd like to meet up with regularly. I will reach out to each of them to set something up, and meet up with at least one of them before next Tuesday.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 04:02 AM
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OYS #15 Stats: 6'0", 184 lb, 19% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 98 lb, DL 255 lb, SQ 165 lb, BR 130 lb, OHP 79 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Way of the Superior Man and Bang. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth, SGM. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: While I've been tracking macros for a while now, I was off give or take several hundred calories and usually …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 08:47 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 6'0", 184 lb, 20% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 133 lb, DL 245 lb, SQ 210 lb, BR 120 lb, OHP 85 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Way of the Superior Man. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth, SGM. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: Passed some shit and comfort tests. I feel like my ship is finally pointed in the right direction and making headway.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/23 12:15 AM
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She followed the script with precision
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/23 02:45 PM
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Thanks, I see what you mean now. So much to learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 07:53 AM
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Time to move on now that I have it all figured out. Later losers. /S Thanks for the warning. I've noticed that when things get "better" I fall right back into her frame. I don't quite understand what you mean by "script behavior", can you explain that a bit?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 03:38 AM
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Change positions to manage your erection/stamina. If you feel yourself about to cum too soon, change to a position with less stimulation for you and more for her. If you are having erection problems or want to cum yourself, change to a position with more stimulation for you. I'd gotten into a rut of missionary and doggy style sex with my wife, and I had never considered using positions to manage the stimulation levels for each of us. I started experimenting and found new positions that give her …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 04:45 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 6'0", 186 lb, 20% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 130 lb, DL 225 lb, SQ 195 lb, BR 115 lb, OHP 85 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading Sex God Method. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I'm a little over halfway through Sex God Method, and I've only put maybe 2% of it into practice. Something must have clicked though be…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 12:24 AM
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OYS #12 Stats: 6'0", 186 lb, 20% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 135 lb, DL 215 lb, SQ 180 lb, BR 105 lb, OHP 85 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading Sex God Method. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models, The Charisma Myth. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: Good lifts, good diet. What I did poorly: Failing shit tests left and right. I really need to STFU. Actions for this week: Lift, STFU, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 02:38 AM
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OYS #11 Stats: 6'0", 186 lb, 21% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 135 lb, DL 205 lb, SQ 170 lb, BR 100 lb, OHP 83 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Charisma Myth, Sex God Method, and sidebar posts. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I hit a wall with the reverse diet so I started a weight loss diet. I'm sticking to my macros. I was reading about t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 05:55 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 6'0", 186 lb, 20% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 125 lb, DL 225 lb, SQ 150 lb, BR 115 lb, OHP 80 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Charisma Myth and Sex God Method. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I'm doing well with the reverse diet: slowly losing weight while increasing my calorie budget (and sticking to it). Good progress on…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 05:50 PM
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By "reverse diet" I'm referring to https://www.avatarnutrition.com/blog/reverse-dieting/the-ultimate-guide-to-reverse-dieting, which purportedly allows you to gradually increase your "calories in" over a period of time without putting on much or any weight. Sometimes you actually lose weight while increasing your macros, which is what I'm currently experiencing. "What sorcery is this?" was me expressing my delight that this counterintuitive idea appears to be working out for me. It's possible th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 11:30 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 6'0", 189 lb, 20% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 16, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 105 lb, DL 225 lb, SQ 155 lb, BR 115 lb, OHP 72.5 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Charisma Myth and MRP sidebar articles. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook, The Red Pill Handbook, Models. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I learned my lesson from Thanksgiving and stayed in macro range over the holidays. I started a reverse diet which is just blo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 06:44 PM
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Good points. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 02:12 AM
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OYS #8 Stats: 6'0", 190 lb, 23% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 15, 6 kids. Lifts: StrongLifts 5x5: BP 90 lb, DL 240 lb, SQ 205 lb, BR 100 lb, OHP 70 lb. Reads: I'm currently reading The Red Pill Handbook and Models. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: Back to BP/BR/OHP again. Stayed in macro range. What I did poorly: I was harsher than I needed to be with my wife when she behaved poorly. Probably better to clearly tel…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 07:17 PM
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Absolutely 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 07:28 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 6'0", 190 lb, 22% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 15, 6 kids. Lifts: BP -- lb, DL 220 lb, SQ 195 lb, BR -- lb, OHP -- lb. I'm doing StrongLifts 5x5, ramping BP/BR/OHP back up as I recover from shoulder tendonitis. Reads: I'm currently reading The Red Pill Handbook. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I STFU better. I shaved off the Thanksgiving fat. Takeaway: overeating during the holiday was not worth tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 05:39 PM
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Makes sense. Thanks for helping me see my self deception.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 01:54 AM
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Shit, yeah. OK, I also commit to being disciplined over Christmas. That won’t be easy but the setback isn’t worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 01:43 AM
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OYS #6 Stats: 6'0", 194 lb, 23% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 15, 6 kids. Lifts: BP 95 lb, DL 210 lb, SQ 185 lb, BR 120 lb, OHP 72.5 lb. I'm doing StrongLifts 5x5, with alternative exercises for BP/BR/OHP as I work with a PT through some shoulder tendonitis. Reads: I'm currently reading The Red Pill Handbook. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male, Book of Pook. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: Passing shit and comfort tests. I've felt a lot more amused by some of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 05:50 PM
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Do you have activities outside of work you do with others that do not involve the wife? Very little. Hiking, lifting. Tons of room for improvement here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 11:45 PM
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I’m working with a PT, he has me doing strengthening exercises and stretches. Going to start doing some free weights this week and build back up to the barbell. Old habits die hard but I will STFU better.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 11:41 PM
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Yup! And strength exercises + stretches for the shoulder recommended by my PT.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 01:52 PM
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Agreed. I will STFU harder this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 05:38 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 6'0", 192 lb, 22% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 15, 6 kids. Lifts: BP 95 lb, DL 190 lb, SQ 175 lb, BR 120 lb, OHP 72.5 lb. I'm doing StrongLifts 5x5. BP, BR, and OHP on pause as I work through some shoulder tendonitis. Reads: Reading Book of Pook and The Red Pill Handbook. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male. Mission: Get my shit together. What I did well: I took my wife on a few dates this last weekend. In the past I would ask her what show, which restaurant. This…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 03:43 PM
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lol, nice. I'm just trying to get my shit together. I guess my "mission" is a placeholder at this point, I'm hoping to get more clarity down the road. "Be" works.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 09:40 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 6'0", 190 lb, 22% BF (Navy), Age 41, Married 15, young kids. Lifts: BP 95 lb, DL 180 lb, SQ 165 lb, BR 120 lb, OHP 72.5 lb. I'm doing StrongLifts 5x5. I injured my shoulder last week so I put a pause on BP, BR, and OHP. I have scheduled an appointment with a PT to work through it. Reads: Reading Book of Pook and The Red Pill Handbook. Have read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, The Rational Male. Mission: Become a high value man. Health: I got a physical, everything looks good except abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 06:18 PM
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