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It was, but i was raised to be a pushover and not very masculine, and it turn had very little confidence. So much so that I would shake uncontrollably (literally) from the amount of adrenaline my body would produce at the thought of any potential sexual encounter. So yes I definitely missed out :/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:27 AM
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This is well put. It's more like not freaking out, or taking stuff too seriously at social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:41 PM
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I've always wondered this. Honestly confidence and overconfidence seems to be an extremely thin line. Why would you go for someone so arrogant. I'm not unconfident, moping around all the time, panicking and stuff. But like confidence is your idea that you know you can do something effectively. Well what if you're doing stuff you know nothing about, that's not confidence that's arrogance. Like what do they even mean by confidence. It seems to be more game or charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:40 PM
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Honestly I get this. I'll very subtly suggest, but if that's turned down, cognizant or not, I'll not push it. I know I want it all the time, I know she doesn't want it all the time. It makes more sense to let her 'initiate'. The last thing I want is sex because she feels like she owes me sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:10 PM
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Not really, but I would filter for kids, or desire for kids, and that tends to overlap over the age of 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:33 PM
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I'm actually with you on that one, sex without intimacy isn't appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:30 PM
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It's sex across the board that's down not just casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:28 PM
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I'm becoming more and more convinced women don't actually want sex, or men. But more seriously, yeah Its either that women are flat out no longer interested, or guys are realizing the insane effort isn't worth the squeeze. But don't get at us with this "will try harder" bullshit. Its so tone deaf. Like a billionaire saying everyone else just needs to work harder. Your privilege is showing. In a weird way I agree, maybe chasing women is a bad use of mens time, perhaps we should create cool new th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:23 PM
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Does that go for women too? I've had so many instances of girlfriends crying at really mundane stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:04 PM
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And what about when women start disliking/getting angry with you for actually becoming more "feminine". You have conversations about your feelings, they take it personally, can't handle it and blame you. Or better yet, they see you cry and lose all sexual desire they had for you instantly. That isn't pulled out of my ass by the way, its happened. Honestly, from my experience, women want emotionally open men. But in a specific way. They want a guy who had a problem he is willing to be open about,…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:44 PM
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As a dude with an exactly average dick, let me tell you it would make me feel a lot more confident if it were slightly bigger. Joked tbe other day about not having a big dick, girlfriend said "gets the job done". It may be average, but it it doesn't look very fucking average after you've been with big dicks I'd imagine. Buncha bullshit luck
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:23 PM
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Totally fair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:14 PM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:04 PM
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Well this thread is eye opening, and helps me affirm why I shouldn't mention anything to my partner about my use of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:59 PM
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If you're abusing them sure, but so do hamburgers. They are very safe (medical background)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:41 PM
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I'm 32, gym 5 days a week, eat extremely healthy, good cardio. I was a personal trainer. I've had recent checkups and I'm in excellent shape and health. I have performance/anxiety based Ed. Also fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:38 PM
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So is performance anxiety. It's leading likely because Ed used to be sort of exclusively for older people, hence heart disease. But there are a lot more young dudes actually talking about it now, I'd be surprised if even a small percent of us had heart disease. It's easy, can they get hard on their own and not with a partner? Probably just performance anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:36 PM
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Well I'm starting to lose my hair and that feels pretty fucking old let me tell you what. Went from good looking to creepy looking in the span of a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:27 PM
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It was a bit of a surprise. I'll give you that haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:31 PM
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In the post I said anything above 20, if that helps
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:41 PM
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There's an idea that by doing something so intimate with so many different people you numb the ability to connect on a deeper level with any one individual person. Just the idea anyways. I was just curious how people felt though. Turns out 90% of people love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:37 PM
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It probably does, but you'd be surprised. The average life time across all ages is roughly like 8-12. It varies more for women and men, men being slightly higher
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:34 PM
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Lol hm? Did I break a rule, or is that a dig at me having a low count. Because I absolutely do it's 8
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:33 PM
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I'm 32 now :/
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:32 PM
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Not sure me being a dude sways the answers much, it was meant as an open question
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:57 PM
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Yep, someone I know is in the top 2% I don't think she even knows
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:34 PM
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I am so sorry, that was rough to read, I cannot possible imagine what you've been through. Glad it panned out in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:09 PM
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Since every analysis/study of sexual count across several countries shows 20+ is basically the top 5-15% percent. If you find one to say otherwise i would love to read it though!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:08 PM
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That'll do it hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:25 PM
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Alright, how did you manage to pull it off?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:08 PM
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This sounds accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:08 PM
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Yeah I guess whatever people decide counts, I'd probably count oral personally
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:38 PM
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Also, m or f?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:34 PM
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Edited post, my bad. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:34 PM
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Oh yes for sure, I get that haha. I've had waaaay more sex than my partner but she's fucked like 4 times as many people as I have
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:52 PM
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When did n-count and f-count become two different things. N count I always assumed was the amount of different people you have had sexual intercourse with... no??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:44 PM
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Thats fair enough. I still get hung up on a the sex bit. Theres no way to know, if either person is sleeping around. Aside from what I've mentioned, it just gives me the ick, and I can't really say why. I just had a funny thought after this whole thing. I realized I didn't like feeling like an option, but that's exactly what I was, and always am. Perhaps it's better to get used to it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:18 PM
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I'll chime in as someone who was in this situation. I dated someone for 6 years, left her. I meet someone on tinder we go for a date it goes well, go for a second and third, we get to the sex part and she says, by the way I'm seeing other people, If that's a problem, mid taking pants off. Well let me tell you, that didnt exactly get things going. Lots of people have sex on the first date, and lots of people have unprotected sex... on the first date. I have no idea if the person in front of me is…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:40 PM
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(32m)Similar in height is a plus for the soul reason of not breaking my neck to lean down and kiss, but aside from that no. I think it's a fucking stupid aspect for people to be selecting for at all. It's like, we can put people on different planets, solve crazy ass problems, make incredible things, we have big fuck off brains. But no, tAlLeSt mAn sExieSt maN.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:30 PM
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😆😆🤘
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:20 PM
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Are you referring to yourself here? Damn dude if so
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:00 PM
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No kidding it definitely has haha. Thanks for sharing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:26 PM
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Oh see i found the opposite, maybe because there were no phones, smaller crowd in home town, asking for a date or whatever, if you got rejected, the whole town knew. There were very few people getting around a lot. Now it's like people are having sex as a form of handshake
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:38 PM
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32m In a relationship again, so wouldn't. But prior I managed to get it once, she was very straight forward. It was nice. She finished I didn't. My instinct is to say it's a fluke anytime it happens for me. So borderline impossible unless I put my standards on the floor. However I suspect that may be a cop out to some degree. I'm talented in one thing, make alright money, socially skilled (now anyways lol), I'm 6 ft tall and have all my hair (for now :/), and I dress well, gym 5 days a week. Whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 03:26 PM
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This, men are invisible
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:50 PM
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I find it kind of odd actually. For a long time it's sort of felt like women don't really give a shit about seeing men naked like at all. At least virtually. I've had girlfriends send me nudes, and if I send one back its like eh (and I'm in good shape), one was flat out like yeah i get nothing from that. It sort of sucks, because i want to reciprocate how she makes me feel by her sending one. I can't quite pinpoint it, its not just personal experience, but overall it's like I get the feeling if …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:49 PM
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Yeah it's decidedly not immutable. The consequences are sure. It's like saying murdering someone is immutable. Well once it's done sure, but you chose to do those things. It's a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:33 PM
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I actually thought you might have been a female trying to promote men to stop chasing women and just accept celibacy, but I'm gathering you're not. I don't know what you're on about actually. (Guys jack off all the time, so like this isn't news) (I'm at once a day and have been since I was like 14, so yeah) Anyways I'm sure you'll find something to retort here, go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:45 PM
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It's sounds to me like your sample size might just be small. Also I'm not an expert I'm just some dude lol. But in my understanding anyways, it seems like here's the deal: what I mentioned should be the default state. I don't mean morally, or any other judgement on it. I mean it is our human drive to reproduce. It's like food, water, shelter, reproduce. We are complicated mammals, that's it. The trouble comes in that we have this like part of our brain on top of our old "go fuck until there's a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:33 PM
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Men want more sex than women. Period. (On the whole, not everyone)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:20 AM
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This makes me lose hope in people :/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:48 AM
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Ohhhh gotcha hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:19 PM
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Hm?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:54 AM
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A study I read suggested: when shown unnattractive women, men will have the same response as "annoyed". Women on the other hand, literally "won't see" the unnatractive guy when they are shown, they do not exist. People are really shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:44 AM
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I read them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:26 AM
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I have a masters in neuroscience. Ya donkey.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:22 AM
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So you would date a man who's been with say 40-50 people?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:19 AM
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There's been a couple interesting studies on attraction and one of the interesting take aways is that women, when shown an unattractive man, will have the same parts of their brain light up that show 'not being able to see the unnattractive man at all'. And, considering 80%+ of females set their height on dating apps to >6 ft, it means most men under 6 ft are literally invisible to women. That is the overwhelming majority of men btw. So tell me again, how saying dodging a bullet is cruel and thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:18 AM
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Sort of seems like women just don't have the same sexual fantasies and needs guys do, but they have the ability to get it at the snap of a finger. And guys do have all those fantasies, but most couldn't get it ever without paying. What a fucky world. I know plenty of women with body counts over 20 or 30 in their early 20s. So evidentently, some do have the kinks and are using their privilege. Which is exactly what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:09 AM
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This is kind of tough because I think I largely got lucky with good parents. So that's a bit hard to teach In a short format. But mostly, its; Just treat people like humans man. Everyone you meet is a person, with desires, histories, they had childhoods, they have fears. Like were all the same. Most people aren't out to be bad guys. This is rule number one. They are a human being, show some empathy. Listen, actually listen. Take what you hear and wait before responding, if it's something you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 06:00 PM
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Absolutely agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:46 PM
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Agree with everything you said there. Especially early on. That's social and relationship awareness. It's maturity of understanding when is the right time. I just think it's asanine to tell guys to be confident all the time. Maybe I'm a bit nervous the first we have sex. Does that make me a shitty unsexy person? No, it makes me human.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:45 PM
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Oh I'm doing fine haha. I'm great, i adapted. It's just that I used to be thay guy. And I've had friends who are "too nice" to date. I hear chicks say that and I'm just like, nah fuck you, they dodged a bullet. I'm not defending nice guys (trademark), the like actually shitty guys pretending to be nice to get laid or whatever. I mean genuinely overly nice humans who are just that way by nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:42 PM
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The guys trying to know when and what to open up about to come off as confident but emotionally mature, without seeming insecure and emotionally a mess. mental gymnastics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:54 PM
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The mental gymnastics man. This is why it's said to just not bring up these types of things. Of course there is pacing and timing, and amount to shoulder on a person. Serious things should be brought up to a professional too. Obviously. But being a calm nice dude who is a bit shy isn't the same thing as dropping all your problems on someone. So why do those guys get excluded from sexual attraction, per your first comment. Because it sounds like you're saying it's one thing, but it's definitely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:50 PM
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This actually kind of sucks to hear. It means we can't be open about insecurities, like at all. It's the polar opposite of confidence. So we just have to pretend all the time. Not being able to actually talk honestly about feelings leads to tons of guys mental health issues. Like imagine telling women, they have to be confident about everything all the time. You can't feel insecure about your bodies sometimes, or something you said, you can't worry about what the other person's thinking, you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:10 PM
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All of that is fair, yeah I agree. I just still feel not that much different. Like I got matched because I have slightly biggers arms and shoulders and shit? That's it? Like what if I lose my hair, or something entirely out of my control. The line is so thin between accepted guy and not accepted, it's a bit scary. Hence trying to stand up for them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:22 PM
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I'm being a little facetious. I do mostly. Gym 5 days a week. And the rest of it. I actually have a wonderful partner. When I can, i try to stand up for other guys though, because honestly I'm not any different from them. I have some amazing friends who struggled to date, they were awesome humans. We're all just people who deserve to find good people to be around and show love and attention to. That's what i think anyways, maybe a bit niave.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:05 PM
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When you gym every day, buy nice clothes, whiten teeth, skin care regiment, when you work really hard to increase wealth, when you learn comedy, when you treat people with respect...... And you still come off as "zErO EFfoRt". Such an asanine response. Why don't women lower their expectations of having a perfect man who's tough, but soft, pays for things, but is a feminist, is a bad boy, but a good guy, he's tall dark and handsome, rich ;). Maybe then they'd actually find love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:49 AM
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Neither of those two options, I feel like most guys are honest about preferences. Sure sometimes white lies, but like not what you're saying here. Most guys I know have a wide range of preferences. I personally don't like big tits at all. I really hate implants, they look gross. I don't like too much makeup, I think botox is ridiculous. Small to medium size tits are perfect. I want a human being in front of me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:21 PM
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Teach us what? How to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 12:04 PM
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It's just not about the act, otherwise guys would jackoff and be happy. It's about the desire, to be wanted by women. But lots aren't wanted. So, how do you come to terms with being unwanted in society. Paying for sex should be an availability world wide, in a safe regulated way. It doesn't make it all better, but I'd imagine it would help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 03:07 AM
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This was always my sense and never had the data to back it up. Thanks for sharing this in such a well put, matter of fact way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:43 PM
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The guys who haveen able to get laid as much as they want
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 11:27 AM
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It's tricky. I think it might be one of those things, or partially anyways, that it's not so much the act of it. It's the yearning for desirability. To be truly wanted by lots of people. Especially when it is so hard for lots of guys, if a guy can get lots of women successfully, it must make them feel really wanted, feel special. And that's kind of what I'm reading here. I figured oh maybe it was a grass is greener sort of thing. But these guys seem really happy. Fuck. Also, I think most guys ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:31 PM
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Fuck I wish I hadn't read the responses to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:03 PM
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I still can't believe there's this many like clueless people. It's basically sexual assault, it's fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:40 PM
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Yeah this is kind of what I've found. My partner seems to like the v shape I have under the abs, shoulders, that sort of thing. More full body stances. And I agree. A closeup shot of a vagina is like anatomical. Tits are kind of an outlier though, you really can't get a bad shot of them, and it's almost always welcome, so I think some guys want to reciprocate in a similar way, but there isn't one
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:42 PM
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Like this one I posted in particular? Or the thought of sending a stranger a dick pick, or like sending one at all unrequested. I can't help with that part, seems insane to me. But the question I asked was because I read of someone recieving one at work, and I was like hmm, that's fucked up. And it reminded me of how and ex would send flirty tit pics, but tell me she didn't want to see any pics back. I've also got the sense from lots of women I've chatted with, and answers here as well, that rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:54 AM
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It's interesting, so far it's seems at best 50/50 here, lots of women just don't want to see it at all, which is kind of what I figured. I don't actually understand how anyone sends someone they don't know, a dick pic. It's like unhinged
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 10:59 AM
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Thanks, that's basically what i was curious about!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:38 AM
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😆😆😆😆 love that haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:37 AM
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Yeah I could have worded this better than my dead tired state allowed haha. I was more curious if women find them attractive under like relationship circumstances. The unsolicited i figured was a given to be unwanted
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:36 AM
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What? No obviously not. I'm not supporting dick pics here haha. I should have worded this: do women actually ever enjoy a dick pick, from anyone, a partner, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:25 AM
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I'm lost. Guys send them to piss women off? But we won't stop trying to piss you off? I'm not sure guys goals are to piss women off with that, I think the guys that do are just misguided as all hell and are trying to show interest (very poorly)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:21 AM
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Dude are you okay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:10 AM
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Hahaha that's hilarious. No we just snap, and don't screen any of them, sort of an unspoken rule. Simple work around for security. And trust obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:05 AM
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Is that a from experience thing? Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:04 AM
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Figured it was dudes honestly haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:59 AM
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This is basically my approach. I have a partner, but I just will artistically block the dick haha. I get the sense thats not the part she's particularly interested in seeing haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:58 AM
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Okay yeah, so like I've almost never heard of this. I wanted to see if this was an actual desire. Neat
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:56 AM
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This is basically what I've heard. It's like yeah, it does nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:54 AM
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Huh, interesting then. Thanks for the reply! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:53 AM
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Agreed. I guess a better sense of this post, or question, would have been; is anyone actually interested in seeing that. I can't say I've ever heard or experience it personally. Seems like women don't really want to be seeing any of that in particular
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:51 AM
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This is a super vague post. But this is similar to how I feel internally a lot. I struggle with retroactive jealously. One of the things that sets that off is not feeling special in anyway compared to her past partners. What sets me apart from any of them? As far as I can tell not much. So I've had to come to the realization/acceptance that, yeah, im not really special in any serious way. I'm maybe marginally better. I'm not special. So how do we be okay with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:50 AM
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Hahah maybe you're right actually, very true 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:36 PM
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I agree, I think it's whack. But it happens. My partner and I have friends that do this sort of stuff. We just scratch our heads. It's not uncommon. You seem to have one view on vacationing. Which is great. I like that view, it's hopeful. It's the same one I have. But it's also a bit niave, If you think that's all people who vacation do. 1 / 5 people on cruises admit to cheating. That's an insane number.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:49 AM
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This is how it should be. 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:40 AM
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What you are saying is fine. But it's also not so black and white. Sure, go on a girl's trip, whatever. The issue comes in with how much you are playing with fire. Trip without the bf, you're in fires territory. Grinding up against random dudes dicks in a club sloshed. Your pouring alcohol on the fire. Know what I mean? Right? so like you can trust your partner all day long. But if you find out they are having some skin on skin lapdances on a guys trip out. You know, maybe that's where trust isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:25 AM
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Have you spoken to young women recently? 5'10" might not be short short, but it's not tall to them. Minimum 6 ft to ride this ride
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:13 AM
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This is the most rediculous thing I've read here today. No. Like demonstratebly no. People have run a similar test a whole bunch, the answer unanimously from women when approached for casual sex is no. 100% will say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:12 AM
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You are absolutely right. Very good point, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:16 PM
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I mean I'm in my 30s, so not neccessarily. I'm sure it slows down a bit, eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:41 PM
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Nope, the article I linked with actual stats, AND a first hand account. Couldn't find one. *
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:40 PM
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That's a really interesting insight! I like that, very cool. Totally understand, once you see it working you get hooked
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:04 PM
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Aye. Bridging the understanding gap I think is really useful
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:54 PM
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Honestly this is true, and interesting. I've gone to the gym my whole life, and when I think about people starting and stopping, and why I've been able to keep up, it's because I have an emotional drive. I have an emotional reason that pushes me. It very likely comes from testosterone and sex drive. I'm a human guy, i desire attention and success with the opposite gender, it's not that odd. And knowing how competitive it is out their in dating, I push really hard, on days I don't want to. I can …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:48 PM
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I ended up changing mine, so you wouldn't have recognize this one anyways :p I remember it being useful convo
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:33 PM
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Much appreciated, means a lot. Also, think we've had discussions on posts here before, remember appreciating your take on stuff, hope all is well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:27 PM
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He did yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:20 PM
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Thanks, yeah I still think about him a lot. Great guy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:16 PM
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Sorry yeah, I tend to speak in generalizations here. Which i realize isn't the clearest or like healthiest. "Some men." Yup, so perhaps there's some in-between here. But the sense of pressure still is there. Maybe that's just a personal issue I have. I could be wrong. I am normal, I'm not a Nobel prize winner in anything. I have spent the better part of 15 years trying to be really good at one thing though, and I'm like maybe in the top 30% of it or something. But it's a pressure I put on myself…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:13 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:07 PM
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Yeah thats probably a fair assessment. That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:05 PM
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https://bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12889-022-12843-4 I'd beg to differ. I realize there are normal guys who get love and all that, im not saying its everyone. but it is evidently a problem. Men can't compete, they can't find a partner, they become lonely, they commit suicide. I have had friends do this, for at least partially this reason. Edit: And by a high level, I'm using that as a broad term to imply whatever field they get into, or just general careers, or whatever …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:59 PM
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You hear about men getting all these things. You don't hear about the 99% of men who get washed away because they couldn't keep up. They didn't match up. I'm not sure what you mean by the feminization of all those things, forgive me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:53 PM
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Yeah exactly. So like you can be a hermit and just do enough to survive, maybe get a dog, play video games. Honestly, parts of that is quite nice just let go of the methaphorical weight were holding. Unfortunately we're built for companionship and intimacy, in our like lizard brains, the old parts of our brain. We need it, or we get sick, mentally, physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:51 PM
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I haven't really met a guy who hasn't had to jack off once a day, just to be a functioning adult who isn't walking around hard all day long with raging hormones lol. I've heard some women who masturbate every day, but they are far and few between it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:32 PM
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Women are loved, simply for being. Men need to earn it by fighting in the arena. That's a bit dramatic, obviously haha. But It really seems to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:26 PM
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The sheer pressure. A man has no value, unless he can produce at a high level. Or so is the underlying societal sentiment. The competition of just being alive as a man, wears you down. You have to earn a lot, you need a respectable job, you need to be interesting all the time, you have to have your emotions under total control, you have to be able to get hard as a rock all the time sex is on the table, need to be ambitious, need to provide, need to be tall, need to be handsome, need to be social…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:24 PM
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Hence the suicide stats. It's a no-win game
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:26 PM
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Oh. Oof.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:27 PM
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Nothing is. The therapy is for learning to live without companionship
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:50 PM
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I'm about the only one in my friend group that could afford therapy, even with insurance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:39 PM
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Yeah I was being a bit dramatic. That decision was heartbreaking. I am so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:38 PM
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Yep. I hate to be a downer, but I think being honest about this stuff is better. And the truth is if I didn't have the genetic lotteries I won, 6 ft tall, full head of hair, good parents, I probably wouldn't be here having this conversation right now. I did really poorly early on even with all these benefits. Without them, I personally couldn't imagine going through life so alone. Life is brutal, and then you die. Play the game as best you can, if you want. It's far from fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:37 PM
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I actually totally agree with this. Some non small minority of men, cannot get laid, period. They are still human beings, with crazy hormones screaming for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:31 PM
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Easier said than done. Help is expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:29 PM
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Hey i can do that too! Try being a man, who spends his life being totally devoid of attention from the opposite sex, being totally invisible to them. Despite spending every waking hour of his life devoted to trying to be worthy of said attention. See what that does to his mental health. To be knocked out because he is short, or bald, not rich. Perhaps he actually manages to eventually find someone, but she leaves him down the line because she gets bored of a marriage and takes all his money, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:17 PM
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Pretty much the only thing yeah. Men compete for women's attention, through out most mammals. And the competition is ruthless. That's life, fight to be the best or die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:41 PM
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Yup. I think men are mostly jealous that we don't have that ability. Women have won
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:35 PM
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No ... that's not ... What I was pointing out was that you took the argument to an extreme by saying we all want virgins, in an effort to make it sound ridiculous. I used the seatbelt example as a paralell metaphor to illustrate the idea behind a 'slippery slope fallacy', its just the first thing thay came to mind. It's taking what we say, that we don't want stupidly high body count women, and suggesting an extreme, that we want only virgins. Which isn't the case. It's fine to have a history, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:47 AM
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I think he meant suicide statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:39 AM
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Yep. I always use the argument of money. This is like a rich person saying "why don't you just work your ass off and become rich like me". despite them being born into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:58 AM
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Very likely after a major world war. Happens every major war, men get to pick instead of women picking. Because there's less men. More demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:42 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:32 AM
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It's technically not illegal in large parts of North America to NOT let partners know about "non-serious" stds. So herpes, chlamydia, all that shit. They don't have to tell you a fucking thing. Fuck that noise. I know a chick who has a new guy every week. Her number has to be triple digits. She has herpes. I'll bet she's not using rubbers every time and telling these new guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:58 PM
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This is called a slippery slope fallacy, and is a weak way to avoid an argument. "Well if we have to wear seatbelts while driving, what's next, helmets?"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:24 PM
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Yeah 100%. If a woman treats me without the mutual respect I'm giving to them, I'm out. Just that simple. We're past the high-school years, and life is too short for that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:09 PM
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Yeah i know :/ you're right. Everything else is going so wonderfully, and if I lose her, I'd never get someone so amazing again. I know that's a common thing to say, but in this case, I'm punching way above my league. So yeah I know i need to, but it might torpedo the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:51 PM
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I started dating a chick last year, after leaving a 6 year relationship, with someone who was over weight and shitty to me. My new partner is tall, looks like a swimsuit model, super kind, very smart, witty, looks like a hot librarian haha, has her shit together, is a bit younger than I am. She is at the highest league, she has to be. She's the most gorgeous human I've ever been around, let alone dated. I am objectively handsome, I think? People have said this my whole life. But I've never reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:14 AM
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I really hope this is the case. Gf and I are at 1 year, moving in soon. Sex has dropped to 2 times a month, she barely seems fazed. I often wonder if it's me, something im doing wrongm. but like she seems crazy in love like I am. But God damn, interest just fell off a cliff. And when we first started dating she was talking about all these hookups, high n count, high sex drive. So seems like inside a relationship maybe that went away
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:03 AM
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