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You're probably not escalating or generating any sexual tension in your texts - your texts got boring. Texts should always have a purpose. I would only ever be texting a girl if I had a reason to (I.e. asking her out, or to build chemistry after a long, in person conversation/make out situation). Your texts should always be escalating the conversation with the aim of meeting up. Don't expect any miracles with texting, but there are methods you can use that will improve your chances. Check out th…
/r/seduction03/06/17 11:03 PM
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It's perfectly fine to find yourself attracted to only one girl, so long as you actually plan to seduce her, you're only sixteen, so it's a natural thing to get a little attached. However, do not let this stifle your overall development. By all means chase this girl, but be okay with it if she doesn't like you back. Oneitis is usually a symptom of feeling like you're not enough You're projecting a lot emotionally onto girls because you're afraid you can't get others. News flash: you absolutely c…
/r/seduction02/06/17 09:57 PM
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Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Instead of punishing yourself for not approaching, focus on rewarding positive behaviour. To reduce the emotional investment you have your interactions, you need to approach until it stops being big deal to you; instead becoming a reflex. meeting girls should become a regular part of your day-to-day life. Go out, and strike up conversations with girls you see. I'm not going to lie, it's challenging at first, but if you focus on having fun in each intera…
/r/seduction31/05/17 11:39 PM
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I think at this point in your life you should focus on improving your own opinion of yourself before you get stuck into game, It'll give you a better point from which to start off and build apositive mindset. Make a promise to yourself that you will consciously make the effort not to think negative shit for a day, then a week, then a month, and watch yourself slowly evolving into a more positive, self-respecting man. This video really helped me get over this mindset, so it comes highly recommend…
/r/seduction31/05/17 11:21 PM
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Stop over-analysing how you think people perceive you; most people are way more concerned about how they are coming across to you. No one thinks you're a rapist; that stripper was just fucking around with you. If you're worried about how you look to people, make a concerted effort to smile more when you're talking. A smile and eye contact is really all you need for people to feel comfortable starting a conversation with you. Be nice: LISTEN to their stories, be as attentive as possible, try to d…
/r/seduction30/05/17 11:00 PM
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Stop shitting on yourself and wallowing in self-pity. Negative self talk is an addiction that you have to get over for success in life. Make a promise to yourself that you will consciously make the effort not to think negative shit for a day, then a week, then a month, and watch yourself slowly evolving into a more positive, self-respecting man. This video really helped me get over this mindset, so it comes highly recommended: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RyPrTs8vgKs Do as many of the following…
/r/seduction30/05/17 10:48 PM
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You're a beginner, so anywhere is good to meet girls. Bars, clubs, the street - doesn't matter. The most important thing is that you are going out consistently and taking risks to talk to women you like. That might sound intimidating, but it's something you'll need to do if you want to improve your social skills. Try these exercises to help you get to an advanced stage more quickly: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-qQLvT_SNVw If you want to attract women you're interested in, then you have to crea…
/r/seduction30/05/17 10:38 PM
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First thing's first, drop the 'woe-is-me' narrative you've fixated on. That self-indulgent pity party nonsense is going to get you nowhere. I speak from experience. This video really helped me get over this mindset, so it comes highly recommended: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RyPrTs8vgKs Now that you've decided you're going to be proactive about your dating life, I'm going to give you some insight: women are attracted to high-value men. If you aren't one, then start working on yourself. Do as m…
/r/seduction26/05/17 11:30 PM
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First of all, you need to stop being hard on yourself, and stop judging yourself based on your interactions with other people. Next, just start fucking talking to people. One a day. Male or female. doesn't matter. No excuses. You have to force yourself to be social if you want to make friends and meet girls. You're in college, so join a club or something, that's an easy way to get to know people and build a social circle. If you make the commitment to actually meeting people and putting yourself…
/r/seduction26/05/17 11:11 PM
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I would say you need a mindset adjustment; you need to show sexual intent in your interactions. Right now, when you're talking to girls, I bet you feel the need to be cautious with what you say, not to "fuck up" the interaction, right? That's fear, and hiding your intentions is more likely to stop you getting laid than just relaxing and saying whatever is on your mind. You need to understand that it's okay to be sexual as a man, in fact, it's vital for success with women. Women want guys who are…
/r/seduction26/05/17 10:58 PM
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Here's something you can do to actually put it into practice. From now on, every day for a month, strike up a conversation with a stranger you meet. Gender or age doesn't matter, neither does location; bus stop, coffee shop, college, wherever, all are good. Just start talking to people. Because you're just being friendly to every and passing the time, there's no fear of "rejection" that stops you doing it. You'll find after 30 days that starting conversations becomes second nature to you. Once y…
/r/seduction24/05/17 09:46 PM
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Good question. If you want to become a man that is attracts women, then you have to become a high-value man. That value of being a masculine, healthy man translates to higher quality women. RSD Max has an excellent video on the steps necessary tobecome a high-value man (his infield videos are pretty nuts too and will give you an idea of what good game looks like) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fN5FkKS7V3w&list=PL9-Q3NjD4AANDpMXKySZRYNgnN-pnAxgL&index=132 On top of what he said: eat healthy, lif…
/r/seduction23/05/17 10:17 PM
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Cold approach is an excellent way to get good at game, but it's tough, and you're going to get rejected a lot. For that reason, it's important to get obsessed with the process rather than the outcome of every interaction. Focus on positives, and try not to take rejection personally. When you're starting out, the main thing is quantity. You need to gain reference experiences to learn social dynamics. I would for 2 hours, with at least five approaches. You can babystep it if you want, but the more…
/r/seduction22/05/17 04:36 PM
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Think to yourself, "Is there anything she does around me that she wouldn't be comfortable doing with a friend?" The answer here is 'No'. More importantly, she literally told you that she was only interested in being friends, so she's clearly already decided that she doesn't see you as a sexual partner. If this is happening to you a lot, it means you're not being man-to-woman and showing sexual intent. If you want to avoid this in future, you need to learn how to show sexual intent like a man. We…
/r/seduction22/05/17 04:34 PM
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Your face to face interactions are where the attraction is built. Text game is basically just to keep things ticking over and establishing in the girl's mind that you're a high-value guy with an interesting life, without giving too much away, so don't overtext. Build a little rapport by sending her high-value texts that don't necessarily require a response from her. Example: I got a date with the girl I'm currently seeing by sending her pictures of cool shit I was doing, and making jokes about h…
/r/seduction20/05/17 09:33 PM
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The main thing with club game is that you have to get into a fun, extroverted frame of mind. So as soon as you get in, start talking to people and joking around. Do this as much as you can in the first 30 minutes. As for the approaches themselves, you need to be loud and confident in your approaches. More on the actual techniques here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=riheA5x9WaE Basically, you've got to be really strong/cocky/fun on the openwilling to take much more flak because of it. You'll get …
/r/seduction20/05/17 09:25 PM
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I get you. In that case, try to avoid texting her. Meet her within your social circle or at a college event she's going to, and treat it like a mini date. Get her laughing, bust her balls, and then at an emotional high-point during the conversation, suggest you grab a drink. Use these techniques to generate attraction : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Fad1vQDFSJg The main point here is not to chase her; to let her know that she can have you whenever she wants. Knowing she can have you kills attrac…
/r/seduction16/05/17 10:07 PM
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The issue here was that you built attraction (she was into you) but not enough comfort. Women don't want to be judged for sleeping with someone, so it's very important to give her some plausible deniability in these scenarios. In your case, it would have been good to say something like "Hey, look...we don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with." Then spend some more time chatting and build back up to the kiss. Try using the techniques that RSD Max talks about in this video:https://m.y…
/r/seduction16/05/17 10:00 PM
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Your text game let you down here - the texts were too dull, and demanded too much work from the girl. Replying to texts like "How was your day" I is a chore. Texts should offer value. I.e. give the girl a window into your awesome life, without asking for anything in return. In this situation, the girl probably feels slutty because she slept with you the first time you met. I would have sent a text about something you both laughed about when you met, texted back and forth to build comfort and the…
/r/seduction15/05/17 10:03 PM
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Classic case of oneitis brought on by a scarcity mindset. You're crushing hard on this girl because you aren't making enough of an effort to meet other women. You're projecting a lot emotionally onto her because it gives you purpose/excitement that is lacking somewhere else. Honestly, how could you be so emotionally invested in a girl that you have never even talked to, and more to the point, how many girls who are actually interested in you are you missing out on because of this? You need to ta…
/r/seduction12/05/17 12:46 PM
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You need to start escalating physically and flirting. For example, when she laughs at one of your jokes, put your hand gently on her shoulder, look her straight in the eye, smile, and say something like "You have the dorkiest, cutest laugh...it's adorable." From there escalate with kino, and continue escalating within the conversation, adjusting to how the girl reacts. Don't push too hard too fast; focus on getting her comfortable around you for a while. Look for signs of interest, strong eye co…
/r/seduction11/05/17 06:33 PM
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There's no silver bullet. You just have to grab your balls and go and talk to them.The best thing to do is to abide by the 3 Second Rule. Next time you see a hot girl you have to approach before you can count to three. By doing this, you're starving your brain of time to the think of excuses. Before you know it, you've already said, "hello". Doesn't matter how boring the line is, as long as it's delivered with good eye contact and a friendly, but commanding voice. Don't overthink it and with tim…
/r/seduction10/05/17 08:37 PM
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I don't usually advocate canned material (I would usually just say whatever comes into my mind, good or bad) but it's sometimes useful to have something in the back pocket to help you relax. A good tip is to be honest with your intentions, and your opener should reflect that; you don't want your interaction to feel robotic. Go with something like "Hey there, I don't usually do this, and I'm kind of in a rush, but I think you look really cute today and I just had to talk to you. What's your name?…
/r/seduction09/05/17 02:31 PM
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Well, you're face to face interactions are where you should be building attraction. Words on a screen aren't going to have the same potency as person-to-person flirting. That said, you can convey interest building on your previous conversations with the girl. Being subtle is overrated, as long as you don't text "Ay gurl want sum fuk?", showing romantic interest works in your favour. Build a little rapport by sending her high-value texts that don't necessarily require a response from her. Example…
/r/seduction09/05/17 01:03 PM
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I would do the following: Treat your next interaction with her as you would a mini-date -- and make sure to steer the conversation in a sexual direction. This is pretty hard to do with a friend, however, this video can give you a better idea of how to escalate the conversation from friendly to more flirty in a more natural way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90ZKnU2e23Q As for actually asking her out. Make sure to drop in at a high point in the conversation where you're both having a good time …
/r/seduction08/05/17 09:48 PM
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One thing you definitely need to address is not escalating. How is a girl supposed to get attracted to you if you haven't given her cues that you're interested? You need to learn how to show sexual intent and be comfortable being sexual. It's all well and good that you have a lot of social proof/are in good shape, but if you're not taking action to try and get laid it's not going to happen. You need to push physical and verbal boundaries if you want to get laid. You're playing to win, not to avo…
/r/seduction08/05/17 04:44 PM
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I'm sorry, dude, but from what I'm reading here, she's no longer interested in you. However, you've got oneitis pretty bad, and that's completely clouding your ability to judge this situation correctly. You're crushing hard on this girl because you don't have any other options, and that's going to hurt you in the long run. You're projecting a lot emotionally onto her because it gives you purpose/excitement that is lacking somewhere else. Cure this by going out and meet as many girls as possible.…
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:25 PM
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Shit, man. With funny, imaginative pick-up lines like that, I'm surprised she didn't drive all the way to your house and demand you have sex with then and there.
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:02 PM
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First of all, by not approaching the girls you find attractive, you're only rejecting yourself, which isn't going to help you, and it's going to compound your sense of frustration. Secondly, you need to really ask yourself, 'What's the worst that could happen in this scenario?' The worst case scenario is that she says, 'No' and you're left with exactly what you had before you approached, so really, it's no big deal. Here's an excellent video about how to get over your approach anxiety: https://w…
/r/seduction04/05/17 02:51 PM
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Speaking from experience, depression is a bitch to control, but here are three things that helped me stay positive after I came off my meds. Eat more healthily: This goes double for you because of your situation. When you eat well, your body responds better to stress, helps your body fight disease, and improves hormonal balance. Eating healthy doesn't mean you have to cut out comfort foods (at least initially), but try to incorporate more fresh fruit and veg in your diet. I hate cooking, so I ju…
/r/seduction03/05/17 08:54 PM
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I think the key is that you're "trying to impress". If the girls are falling all over you looking for attention as you suggest, then you've already won - they see you as an attractive, high-value man. All you need to do is to convey your personality as you would with anyone else, but be more flirtatious. Keep the girls chasing you by teasing them, enjoying yourself, and not giving too much away to keep a sense of mystery. Watch this video for pointers on how to read girls better and successfully…
/r/seduction02/05/17 08:46 PM
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Good for you man. The first thing you need to do to start dating awesome women is to become the type of high value man they go for. This means working hard and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone as much as possible, which means lifting, eating right, dressing well, and most importantly, going out there and meeting as many women as you can. The more action you take in each these areas, the quicker your learning curve will be. As an introduction, I recommend watching this video. It's long, …
/r/seduction02/05/17 08:32 PM
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I've had some problems with exactly your situation. Knowing that their are plenty of other hot girls out there, but fixating on the one that is giving me attention. This is usually a symptom of feeling unfulfilled in other areas, or of having a boring life without direction. You're projecting a lot emotionally onto girls because it gives you purpose/excitement that is lacking somewhere else. First thing you need to do is sit down and take stock of what you want to achieve over the next few month…
/r/seduction27/04/17 03:47 PM
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You're in college, which means there are literally hundreds of different clubs and societies where you'll have the chance to make friends and meet girls based on mutual interests. Take advantage of that, and go to as many social events as you can. This video goes into depth about build a social circle in college: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5h4LuoNnEKA&t=527s Outside of that,remember that in cities there are thousands of new people in the same situation as you. Try using websites like meetup…
/r/seduction25/04/17 10:00 PM
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Be ballsy. I wrote a post about this a few days ago, and I think it applies to your situation: Right now, when you're talking to girls, I bet you feel the need to be cautious with what you say, not to "fuck up" the interaction, right? That's fear, and hiding your intentions is more likely to stop you getting laid than just relaxing and saying whatever is on your mind. You need to understand that it's okay to be sexual as a man, in fact, it's vital for success with women. Women want guys who are …
/r/seduction24/04/17 10:11 AM
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Oneitis is usually a symptom of feeling unfulfilled in other areas, or of having a boring life without direction. You're projecting a lot emotionally onto girls because it gives you purpose/excitement that is lacking somewhere else. First thing you need to do is sit down and take stock of what you want to achieve over the next few months. Write down a list of goals for 2017 and work on them religiously. The point here isn't necessarily to achieve the goal, but to get fixated on the process and l…
/r/seduction24/04/17 10:02 AM
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I would say you need a mindset adjustment. Right now, when you're talking to girls, I bet you feel the need to be cautious with what you say, not to "fuck up" the interaction, right? That's fear, and hiding your intentions is more likely to stop you getting laid than just relaxing and saying whatever is on your mind. You need to understand that it's okay to be sexual as a man, in fact, it's vital for success with women. Women want guys who are confident in themselves, like to have fun, and own t…
/r/seduction22/04/17 04:59 PM
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Tough break, dude. You'll get over her, you just need to be proactive about it. Here's what you haveto do: Pursue other interests. 2. Pursue other girls. You were emotionally invested in this relationship and you need to find that sense of purpose somewhere else to get back on track. First thing you need to do is sit down and take stock of what you want to achieve over the next few months. Write down a list of goals, big or small, and work on them religiously. The point here isn't necessarily to…
/r/seduction22/04/17 12:31 AM
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Max posted a long as preview of the content of the Natural a while back. Gives you a really good idea of the top notch stuff he's got in there: https://youtu.be/b5mFl7ov5xk
/r/seduction16/04/17 09:01 PM
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Generally speaking, these are things I've noticed re: girls flirting. It's often hard to tell, but there are a couple of cues to look out for. Disclaimer: These examples apply mostly to girls you don't know very well; a girl in your circle who you haven't spent much time with, girls from bars, clubs, etc. How is she standing? Is her body turned towards yours? Is she standing close to you or allowing you to move into her personal space? Is she standing like this?: this:http://t1.ftcdn.net/jpg/00/…
/r/seduction15/04/17 06:08 PM
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The key to improving is not to get invested in the outcome. Don't focus so much on how the girl react to you, focus on finding things that you enjoy about each interaction. After you get blown out, think about something that was funny about the interaction, and what you think you could've done better. Other than that, you just have to push on through, and have faith that it will get better (it does). I find that doing more approaches in a set usually helps me relax a bit. I accept that the first…
/r/seduction15/04/17 02:55 PM
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Don't ever "accidentally" do anything. If you're constantly checking your moves on a girl, it's far more likely that you'll come across as creepy. You're a man, and you're attracted to this girl, own your sexual intent. Here's how I would escalate from meeting a girl to kissing. When the conversation starts, just go with the flow, be nice and friendly, joke around, convey your personality. If she's happy to stick around with you, then start flirting. A good way to do this is to steer the convers…
/r/seduction13/04/17 01:22 PM
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What will improve your social and dating life is taking massive action and getting out of your comfort zone. There is no greater satisfaction than shattering limiting self-beliefs through action. If things aren't working, you need to double down, or adjust approach, no wallowing in self-pity. Is there any sport/activity that you're even half interested in trying? Go do it. Don't have anyone to go with? Even better, you can practice your social skills there. If things get awkward, ask people why …
/r/seduction13/04/17 12:11 PM
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Remember that there are a lot of misconceptions out there about seduction. A lot of people think that it's a bunch of tricks you learn to get into a girl's pants, and some people have success going that direction. However manipulating people will fuck you up long-term in relationships, so it's best not to think of pua like that. Think of it as a means through which to better yourself and reach your potential as a man. To have great experiences with the right kind of women, you'll have to become …
/r/seduction11/04/17 10:02 PM
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Day game is tough starting out. So it's best to break yourself in slowly. From now on, every day for a month, strike up a conversation with a stranger you meet. Gender or age doesn't matter, neither does location; bus stop, coffee shop, college, wherever, all are good. Just start talking to people. Because you're just being friendly to every and passing the time, there's no fear of "rejection" that stops you doing it. You'll find after 30 days that starting conversations becomes second nature to…
/r/seduction08/04/17 12:35 PM
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I'm working on a similar situation right now. The important thing to remember is that you're going to see a lot of this girl if she's in your course, so you can play this one indirectly and over a longer period, rather than "sniping" this one girl. Best thing to do is become the guy who chats to everyone instead of sniping this one girl. Be social with everyone in class and build a wide social circle within it. Doing this increases your standing and will make it easier to open her because you'll…
/r/seduction06/04/17 03:39 PM
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I'm sorry for insulting you, Grootbot.
/r/seduction06/04/17 12:49 PM
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When the conversation starts, just go with the flow, be nice and friendly, joke around, convey your personality. If she's happy to stick around with you, then start flirting. A good way to do this is to steer the conversation towards relationships. Ask her what her type is, and then pick out extreme examples. E.g. if she says she's into tall guys, point to the gangliest, Groot looking dude you can find, and ask if that's what she meant. It's a really fun way to build rapport. If she's sticking a…
/r/seduction06/04/17 12:48 PM
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Best advice I could give is just relax. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to "get" something from the date - get to know the girl, have fun. But do it in a fun way. Here's some good ideas: https://youtu.be/PQG6bqHT8IY
/r/seduction03/04/17 10:52 PM
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Cold approach is an excellent way to get good at game, but it's tough, and you're going to get rejected a lot. For that reason, it's important to get obsessed with the process rather than the outcome of every interaction. Focus on positives, and try not to take rejection personally. When you're starting out, the main thing is quantity. You need to gain reference experiences to learn social dynamics. I would for 2 hours, with at least five approaches. You can babystep it if you want, but the more…
/r/seduction01/04/17 12:27 PM
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No worries, man. Happy to help!
/r/seduction29/03/17 08:38 PM
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Yes you are moving in the right direction. The most important thing is to move on as quickly as possible from this girl. Women generally deal with breakups a lot better than men do: they get all of their emotions out in the open pretty much immediately, and usually move on more quickly as a result. Men on the other hand tend to hold onto the sadness and try to ignore it, and oftentimes find that they get worse rather than better over time because they never divest emotionally from the girl. This…
/r/seduction29/03/17 08:30 PM
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No matter what you do, you're going to get rejected, everyone does. The only way you're going to get over your fear is by talking to enough girls that you stop taking it personally. To get over the fear you're describing (approach anxiety) you need to stop yourself from making excuses not to approach. The best thing to do is to abide by the 3 Second Rule. As soon as you see a hot girl, you have to approach before you can count to three. By doing this, you're starving your brain of time to the th…
/r/seduction26/03/17 11:36 PM
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You really need to just get out there and start talking to as many girls as possible; you're a beginner, so it's totally going to be numbers game for now. One or two girls is far too small a number. Here's a challenge: From now on, every day for a month, strike up a conversation with a stranger you meet. Gender or age doesn't matter, neither does location; bus stop, coffee shop, college, wherever, all are good. Just start talking to people. Because you're just being friendly to every and passing…
/r/seduction26/03/17 11:32 PM
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Good work putting yourself out there dude. Yeah it's tough at first, but with more experience rejections stop mattering because you come to know it's not a reflection on you, just the girl's mood at the time. If want to reduce the number of rejections you get, and learn how to handle when girls get testy with you, focus on inner game. Accept all of your flaws, and realise that if you are comfortable with who you are, girls will be more likely to get attracted to you. Women are drawn to men who h…
/r/seduction26/03/17 11:21 PM
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Here's how I advise guys to do it. A lot of inexperienced guys think that going for a kiss should be one big moment, but in reality that is more likely to freak a girl out because their was no lead up. Natural escalation happens in a lot of little steps that build up to a kiss. Here's my basic outline of how it should look: Stage I: So you're enjoying a conversation with her and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's…
/r/seduction21/03/17 02:42 PM
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If I were in a high-energy venue like a club I would, but you don't need to. You can start slowly and build if you need to, but most important thing to do is make touching part of the interaction, and keep escalating based on how the girl reacts (calibration). For example, when you're trying to make a point to her about something, put your hand on her hand, look her straight in the eye, and leave your hand there. Smile and give it a little squeeze. Gauge how she reacts to you doing that, and pul…
/r/seduction21/03/17 02:30 PM
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Generally speaking, these are things I've noticed re: girls flirting. It's often hard to tell, but there are a couple of cues to look out for. Disclaimer: These examples apply mostly to girls you don't know very well; a girl in your circle who you haven't spent much time with, girls from bars, clubs, etc. How is she standing? Is her body turned towards yours? Is she standing close to you or allowing you to move into her personal space? Is she standing like this?: this:http://t1.ftcdn.net/jpg/00/…
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:53 PM
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Here's how I advise guys to do it. A lot of inexperienced guys think that going for a kiss should be one big moment, but in reality that is more likely to freak a girl out because their was no lead up. Natural escalation happens in a lot of little steps that build up to a kiss. Here's my basic outline of how it should look: Stage I: So you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If sh…
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:50 PM
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I completely agree with Mr. Snapolicious. If my friend hadn't introduced me to RSD and day game, I would still be banging my head against a wall when it comes to dating. More importantly, their self-improvement content is second to none. I've hit a lot of personal milestones through making use of their online content, and most of it is free. Sure, they charge a lot of money for their bootcamps, but I'm not going to begrudge them for charging so much considering how effective I've found their con…
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:45 PM
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The fact that she said she is down for a movie night is a really good sign - she's definitely thinking about sleeping with you. The most important thing to remember here is not to rush things. You want to build comfort between you before you start escalating. I wouldn't think about touching her too much for at least an hour. After that, introduce physical touching to your conversation and escalate accordingly. When you're telling a story where you're emphasising something, put your hand on hers …
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:15 AM
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Basically, when she's looking up at you, doe-eyed, looking like she's completely absorbed in you/hanging on every word. tl;dr really strong eye contact.
/r/seduction13/03/17 12:17 AM
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Never ask a girl out by text; it's a bitch move. What you should do is ask her out in person the next chance you get. The most important thing to remember is to ask her out in a situation where both of you are having fun. Next time you have a little while to spend time with her, treat it like a mini date. At a high point in the conversation, for example, (after you've made her laugh about something), look her straight in the eye, smile, and say something like: You know (_____), you're fun to han…
/r/seduction12/03/17 10:08 PM
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When you've got the girl cosying up to you like that, make strong eye contact, look at her lips, and back to her eyes a few times. The key is to make sure that she notices you doing it; if she continues looking at you, especially with the "anime eyes", it means she's waiting for you to make a move to kiss her. If you want to do a further test, place the palm of your hand on her cheek/neck area; and look at her lips/eyes a little more. If she doesn't respond negatively (pulling away etc) then you…
/r/seduction12/03/17 09:56 PM
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To get over approach anxiety you need to stop yourself from making excuses not to approach. The best thing to do is to abide by the 3 Second Rule. As soon as you see a hot girl, you have to approach before you can count to three. By doing this, you're starving your brain of time to the think of excuses. Before you know it, you've already said, "hello". I've found doing this stops me from getting stuck in my head and doing more approaches. Try it and let me know how it goes! As for this girl, jus…
/r/seduction10/03/17 07:49 PM
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Why don't you find out? If a girl looks at you, and smiles at you, then yes, she is definitely interested in at least talking to you, so smile back, grab your balls, and go talk to her. You could say something like "Hey, you caught my eye and you made me smile. I have to run soon, but do you study here..... yadayadayada" When you introduce yourself, it's important to first, give a false time-constraint because the girls knows that she can get out of the conversation at any time. Also, take a ste…
/r/seduction08/03/17 12:45 AM
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Totally with you on this. I like the way you escalated slowly and built a lot of rapport first. I would be more interested in finding out how you generated attraction in the first place.
/r/seduction08/03/17 12:35 AM
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You're heading in the right direction (Med school? Jesus). You've obviously been working hard on yourself, and it won't be long before you start reaping the rewards of those efforts in game. Something to always bear in mind is that if you're a guy who takes action and regularly pushes himself out of his comfort zone, you become a higher value man, and women are attracted to high-value men. By default, guys like that are comfortable with themselves, so when they interact with women, they reflect …
/r/seduction06/03/17 03:03 PM
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Dude, it sounds like you've got serious oneitis for this girl. Putting all your eggs in one basket is a really bad idea when it comes to dating. You say that you don't "feel" the same connection with other girls, but that's only because you've projected all your insecurities onto her. By constantly looking for her attention, you're going to come across as needy, and that is a major turnoff for girls; your neediness is only going to push her away. I know this, because I've had to learn this lesso…
/r/seduction04/03/17 12:44 AM
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No matter what you do, you're going to get rejected, everyone does. The only way you're going to get over your fear is by talking to enough girls that you stop taking it personally. To get over the fear you're describing (approach anxiety) you need to stop yourself from making excuses not to approach. The best thing to do is to abide by the 3 Second Rule. As soon as you see a hot girl, you have to approach before you can count to three. By doing this, you're starving your brain of time to the th…
/r/seduction02/03/17 11:09 PM
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Thanks, dude. False takeaways have made such a difference! I also felt way more in control of the dynamic of the interaction. It's also fun making them wait;)
/r/seduction24/02/17 04:07 PM
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Couple of practical things you can do: Eat more healthily: This goes double for you because of your situation. When you eat well, your body responds better to stress, helps your body fight disease, and improves hormonal balance. Eating healthy doesn't mean you have to cut out comfort foods (at least initially), but try to incorporate more fresh fruit and veg in your diet. I hate cooking, so I just bought a juicer and have those as often as I can. Free recipe: 1 bunch of kale, 4 stalks of celery,…
/r/seduction24/02/17 04:01 PM
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There is no 'right moment' my friend. You need to grab your balls and take the plunge. First point to remember; women respond to men who go after what they want, both in life, and in love. Men who own their sexual desires, who aren't shy about pursuing girls they like are the ones who get laid the most. This is because it demonstrates self confidence and high value, traits that women find extremely attractive. In order to get with high value girls, you can't be hesitant about what you want. When…
/r/seduction24/02/17 03:41 PM
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Seddit is a sub dedicated to learning how to get laid/get an awesome girlfriend. That's all. Redpill is similar in that it teaches men to better themselves, but it also has a distinctly political/ideological tint to its message. They are more about empowering men in a world they see as anti-masculine. Whether or not that is the case depends on your worldview I guess.
/r/seduction23/02/17 12:13 AM
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No problem, man, happy to help:) For the greatest improvement, ideally you should be doing both. It depends on how much time you have. If you're short on free time, just make sure you're approaching at least one girl a day. If you see a hot chick, approach her too. If you're like me, however, yoi need time to warm up. My first couple of approaches almost always suck, so I set time aside and do a minimum of 5 approaches to get me started. Anyway, the most important thing is to keep pushing your b…
/r/seduction23/02/17 12:03 AM
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It sounds like you've plateaued. That's okay, most guys eventually lose motivation after the initial burst of enthusiasm for pickup. How to get good at game again. You already know the answer: start approaching again. The reason you're game sucks now and your nerves are getting the better of you is because you're out of practice. Good game is a muscle you have to maintain, otherwise you allow excuses to creep in and you end up in a position where you never approach at all. Best advice I can give…
/r/seduction21/02/17 06:37 PM
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There's very little context here. It sounds like you're going on multiple dates without a plan for getting to sex. Are you escalating the conversation and showing sexual intent? Or are you just chatting like two friends? You should be working to move the conversation in a sexual direction, and keep things interesting. A good way to do this is to ask presumptive questions. For example, notice something interesting about the girl, and use it to steer the conversation towards sex in a subtle way. S…
/r/seduction20/02/17 02:59 PM
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Well, the first thing to remember is not to put pressure on yourself to get laid, be it at clubs or anywhere else. Doing so means you're more likely to get upset with yourself if you don't score or get blown out. The second thing you need to do is get comfortable talking to people, male and female. When you arrive,make the effort to talk to as many people as possible. Make eye contact and smile, introduce yourself, ask them questions. The focus here is getting out of your head and into a social …
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:04 PM
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Okay so here's my lowdown on escalation. Other guys might have different approaches, but this works for me, and I've got positive feedback so hopefully it'll help you too. First, watch this video on showing sexual intent. He breaks down the core principles that are vital for successful escalation in all situations : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-_oBZfdd8Q Now, here's a basic run through on physical escalation and how it works for me. Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up t…
/r/seduction15/02/17 09:52 PM
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The short answer is 'Yes'. The longer answer is 'Yes, and that's what makes you better." It's really hard to accept that sometimes, even when you do everything right, the girl just won't be into you. What you should take from this is not that you suck at game or whatever, but that in the long run, accumulation of reference experiences, negative and positive alike, are what make you improve. Failure is only failure if it makes you quit. Secondly, you have to remember that no person, no matter how…
/r/seduction15/02/17 09:42 PM
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Anything that shows sexual intent is flirting, and there's nothing wrong with it. It shows that you're a man who is comfortable being sexual, and indicates value and confidence. I gave the same advice to another guy in another thread. Ask her what kind of boys she likes, then use that to tease her a little bit. For example, if she says she really likes tall guys. Point out a huge, gangly skinny dude and ask her if she's into that. It's a fun way to move the conversation towards dating. You can a…
/r/seduction12/02/17 11:28 PM
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Ask her out, but try to drop it into a situation where you're both having a good time. Women respond much more to emotions than men; how she's feeling at the time you ask is going to factor into her answer. So next time you two are bantering away, treat it like a mini date -- give her a reason to want to spend time with you. This video has some good tips for getting her to invest in the conversation, and most importantly, how to spark attraction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=joglrAJj3uo As fo…
/r/seduction07/02/17 11:25 PM
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Dude, I would strongly recommend that you move on from this girl. You've got yourself caught in oneitis, which will only frustrate you and put you in a needy mindset that will hinder your growth in game and in life generally. The absolute only way to get over this is to go out and meet other girls - getting stuck back in the game is crucial to the process of moving on with your life. It's good that you've taken steps to find other girls, but you need to push even harder: sleep with ten other gir…
/r/seduction07/02/17 11:15 PM
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Approach anxiety is a bitch, but it can be managed. The best thing to do is to abide by the 3 Second Rule. As soon as you see a hot girl, you have to approach before you can count to three. By doing this, you're starving your brain of time to the think of excuses. Before you know it, you've already said, "hello". I've found doing this stops me from getting stuck in my head and doing more approaches. Try it and let me know how it goes! I took that technique from this guy's video; he goes deeper i…
/r/seduction06/02/17 07:51 PM
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Yes, exactly. Girls spend a lot of time and money on their appearance, so complimenting how their dressed is always a good option. It's also non-generic and specific to the girl, unlike say, calling her beautiful.
/r/seduction06/02/17 07:14 PM
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First things first, if you're inexperienced, you need to start going out and meeting girls. For the next 30 days, go and speak to one girl a day. It sounds really scary at first, but if you make the effort, you'll start getting the experience you need. Don't focus too much on the results, just make sure that you're actually forcing yourself to talk to girls. You're probably going to ask what 'line' you should use to start the conversation. Truth is, it doesn't need to be anything really clever. …
/r/seduction05/02/17 10:33 PM
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I think you're obsessed with comparing yourself to these other dudes. You think you're better than them and you can't understand why they are doing better with women than you. This is an unhealthy, outcome focuses attitude that won't help you get laid. What you need to do is change your measures of success. Focus on you, and only compare yourself to yourself. When you go out, focus on pushing out of your comfort zone, and take those actions as evidence of improvement, instead of whether you get …
/r/seduction04/02/17 12:47 AM
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Okay so here's my lowdown on escalation. Other guys might have different approaches, but this works for me. First, watch this video on showing sexual intent : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-_oBZfdd8Q That's an excellent overview to what good escalation is. Now, here's a basic run through on physical escalation and how it works for me. Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to sex. You sound like a beginner, so let's just focus on getting to a kiss for now. Stage I: So if you…
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:16 PM
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You need to learn how to show sexual intent and be comfortable being sexual. It's all well and good that you have a lot of social proof/are in good shape, but if you're not taking action to try and get laid it's not going to happen. You need to push physical and verbal boundaries if you want to get laid. You're playing to win, not to avoid losing. Women respond to men who are comfortable being sexual because it demonstrates self-confidence and higher value. Tl;dr You need to start escalating wit…
/r/seduction01/02/17 03:48 PM
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Here's a basic run through on physical escalation and how it works. Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to sex. You sound like a beginner, so let's just focus on getting to a kiss for now. One important caveat: Remember that no two interactions are the same, and every girl is a little different. It's impossible to have one model for every situation, but here's a basic example of how it might go. Stage I: So if you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start …
/r/seduction30/01/17 12:41 AM
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Talk to her, dude. The ball is the perfect opportunity. When you see her, make eye contact, smile, and introduce yourself. See if she's cool, and if so, ask her out. You don't know her, so what do you really have to lose? Plus, good looking girls are used to getting asked on dates, the worst thing she'll be is flattered. You should focus on having fun in the interaction, don't take her or yourself too seriously. Convey your personality as fun guy. Make jokes you find funny, bust her balls, tease…
/r/seduction26/01/17 10:00 PM
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It seems like you've been stifled in your unwillingness to take action to change your situation. The only person who can change the way your life is going is you; if you hate how your love life is going, then the obligation is on you to change that. If you want to have a love life, then you're going to have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and make yourself uncomfortable. This is how you grow. Here's what you do: For all these things, it's best to break them down into manageable chunks …
/r/seduction25/01/17 11:35 PM
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Well, the first thing to remember is not to put pressure on yourself to get laid at parties. Doing so means you're more likely to get upset with yourself if you don't score. The second thing you need to do is get comfortable talking to people, male and female. When you arrive at the next party, make the effort to talk to as many people as possible. Make eye contact and smile, introduce yourself, ask them questions. The focus here is learning to be social and improve your conversation skills, som…
/r/seduction23/01/17 09:26 PM
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Here's something you can do to actually put it into practice. From now on, every day for a month, strike up a conversation with a stranger you meet. Gender or age doesn't matter, neither does location; bus stop, coffee shop, college, wherever, all are good. Just start talking to people. Because you're just being friendly to every and passing the time, there's no fear of "rejection" that stops you doing it. You'll find after 30 days that starting conversations becomes second nature to you. Once y…
/r/seduction18/01/17 11:48 PM
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Starting out, me and my friend used to do between three and five approaches per day. We got blown out all the time, but after a while you start getting comfortable with thinking on the spot and you'll start getting results little by little. A number, then maybe a flake, a date, maybe a kiss, etc. It's simple maths: the more approaches you do, the higher your chances of getting laid. As for approaching itself, it's really not rocket science. Simple stuff. Abide by the '3 second' rule. If you're w…
/r/seduction17/01/17 11:08 PM
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She's definitely not interested, dude. If she's making no effort to contact you despite the time you've spent together then it's best to move on. There are plenty of other girls out there, so don't get hung up on this one.
/r/seduction17/01/17 11:02 PM
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It's hard to know exactly what you're doing wrong, but perhaps it's the manner in which you're asking them out that's the problem. Women respond much more to emotions than men; how a girl is feeling at the time you ask is going to factor into her answer. So next time, spend more time getting to know the girl. Treat every interaction like a mini date -- give girls a reason to want to spend time with you. As for actually asking the girl out. Ask in a way that shows you're expecting her to say yes.…
/r/seduction16/01/17 12:37 AM
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Rejection, honestly, is not all that bad. The important thing is not to take it personally. I've been burned more times than I can count - every guy has. You can't let the fear of failure prevent you from pursuing what you want. Moreover, pretty girls are used to being hit up by guys, so it's not like she's going to freak out pepper spray you. The worst that will happen is the girl says, "No." How bad is that really? As for telling a girl you like her, it doesn't have to be a huge grand gesture.…
/r/seduction16/01/17 12:00 AM
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Dude I was in your exact same position about 4 years ago. It's I'm glad to hear that you're getting the help you need from a therapist -- it's good to have someone in your life who can give you objective opinions. I'm no expert, but I'm going to tell you what has helped me exorcise my demons and make some headway with game. Number one, you need to remember that the only person that can change your life is you. You, and you alone are responsible for what you do with your time. I can tell you from…
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:42 PM
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From a slightly Machiavellian perspective, knowing that you have other girls around definitely works to your advantage in your relationship. There are few things more attractive to a woman than a man who has other options, and knowing that will keep your girlfriend just the right side of jealous and keep her chasing you. It's usually the reverse scenario, Obviously if things don't work out in this current relationship, it's good to have an pre-existing network of girls you can plug into instead …
/r/seduction06/01/17 08:54 PM
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Hey man. Sorry that you've had it rough lately. I think it would be better for you to start working on yourself. Specifically, you need to branch out and try to make friends who you want to spend time with. Pick up a new hobby or a team sport that gets you meeting other people. By taking up a hobby you enjoy, you're more likely to meet like minded people, and other girls who actually want to spend time with you. Check this video out for tips to build a social circle: https://m.youtube.com/watch?…
/r/seduction06/01/17 08:22 PM
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If you want to start getting laid, you need to start doing cold approaches i.e. going up to girls and talking to them. Starting out, me and my friend used to do between three and five approaches per day. We got blown out all the time, but after a while you start getting comfortable with thinking on the spot and you'll start getting results little by little. A number, then maybe a flake, a date, maybe a kiss, etc. It's simple maths: the more approaches you do, the higher your chances of getting l…
/r/seduction05/01/17 10:04 PM
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Doesn't matter what they think of it. If it works for you, then that's all that counts. No woman is going to be like "Oh yeah, that technique would totally work on me."
/r/seduction05/01/17 09:39 PM
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I don't think she's completely uninterested in you, so it's worth asking her out again; even if it's just to find out either way. Ask her out, but try to drop it into a situation where you're both having a good time. Women respond much more to emotions than men; how she's feeling at the time you ask is going to factor into her answer. So next time you two are bantering away and swimming in that sexual tension, treat it like a mini date -- give her a reason to want to spend time with you. As for …
/r/seduction05/01/17 09:35 PM
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Couple of thing: Harsh truth time, dude: I think you've friendzoned yourself with this girl. All of what you described above is stuff friends would do, plus a girl wouldn't be going to you for guy advice if she was into you. She's most likely decided that you're only friend material because at no time in your interactions did you convey sexual intent by flirting, touching her, and turning her on. Your next interaction should make it really clear that you don't see her as a friend. You need to pu…
/r/seduction02/01/17 11:54 PM
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It would have been better to try and keep the conversation going. When you're starting an interaction, it's totally on you to keeo things going until the girl is gets into the conversation; the so-called 'hook point.' You'll know you'll have a got to the social hook point when you start getting positive body language: eye contact, turned facing you, smiling while you're talking. She'll be asking you questions, and the whole thing will feel more natural. To get to that point, you need to convey y…
/r/seduction30/12/16 02:32 AM
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As in don't focus on whether or not you get the girls number, a date etc. Just focus on having fun, and if you get something more then that's a bonus.
/r/seduction24/12/16 03:06 PM
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In that case it sounds like you're afraid that by showing your interest you risk rejection. If you want to get a girl you have to get comfortable being sexual and showing your intentions, trying to think of the best thing to say to attract a girl will get you stifled and stuck in your own head. The best way to beat this is to say literally whatever comes into your head in a conversation. Say things that you find funny, provocative, interesting, whatever, regardless of how you think the girl will…
/r/seduction24/12/16 12:01 AM
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Nah, I just carry a madness everywhere I go... Over the border... and back to the snow...
/r/seduction23/12/16 11:34 PM
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You did a really good job opening her. Sure it was awkward, but who is judging you here? The girl certainly didn't. The only person judging you here is you. The best way to get over this is to do as many approaches as possible. When i was starting out I tried to do four approaches in about an hour, every day before work. I always found that after the first two, which where always awkward because I was in my head, my nerves settled and I started caring less about the interactions, making it easie…
/r/seduction23/12/16 11:21 PM
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It sounds like you're not escalating in the interaction. Here's some advice I gave another dude that will help: Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to a kiss. No two interactions are the same, but here's a basic example of how it might work. Stage I: So if you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's responds positively by laughing or whatever, that means …
/r/seduction23/12/16 11:06 PM
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Nothing wrong with thinking about this girl, that's the essence of romance, isn't it? Two pieces of advice for you: The key here is not to get completely emotionally invested in this one girl. You're aware of your feelings, and you're largely in control of them, which is great. However, it's vital that you to make a concerted effort to go out and meet other girls even while you're dating this one so as not to get into a scarcity mind-set. If you approach this relationship from a position where y…
/r/seduction21/12/16 11:56 AM
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There are a couple of simple things that you can do to become more confident, rather than just acting confident. Eye contact is the biggest one. My boss once told me that I tend not to look at people when I speak, which is a big no-no for men because it makes you look unsure of yourself, girls pick up on this straight away. So when you're talking to people, make a concerted effort to look them directly in the eye. It takes practice but will definitely work in your favour in the long-term. Second…
/r/seduction21/12/16 11:39 AM
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It shouldn't take too much for you to get where you want to go if you're as attractive as you say you are - you're just socially inexperienced. Two things: 1.You need to hit up more girls and gain reference experiences because this will help you learn social cues. Doing daygame is the panacea for social anxiety because it forces you to do things that make you uncomfortable. Make a promise to yourself to start conversations with at least two strangers every day for the next 30 days. Don't judge y…
/r/seduction21/12/16 11:38 AM
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Don't be ashamed, dude. You just need to learn how to escalate. Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to a kiss. No two interactions are the same, but here's a basic example of how it might work. Stage I: So if you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's responds positively by laughing or whatever, that means you can step it up a little bit. Stage II: While…
/r/seduction14/12/16 11:10 PM
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Okay, so I've got to give you some bad news -- you never "get over" approach anxiety, you just get better at controlling it. In nature, we are conditioned to be cautious in new surroundings or with new groups. It make sense: if you piss off the wrong chimp (or talk the alpha chimp's girlfriend) the whole group might literally tear you to pieces. Approach anxiety is an evolutionary hangover from that primal stage, even though the worst case scenarios these days are laughable by comparison. We're …
/r/seduction14/12/16 10:35 PM
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Could you give us a breakdown of what you're typical interactions look like? Then it might be easier to give you advice.
/r/seduction14/12/16 10:17 PM
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Hey man. I think focusing on self-improvement as you are is definitely going to work in your favour. Building a skill-set is a great way to improve confidence and give yourself a self-esteem boost. So why not add meeting girls to that mix? Seduction at high levels is an art, but at your level and mine, it's a skill, and like any skills, it takes patience, practice, and perseverance to make progress. My suggestion to you is to incorporate meeting girls into your day-to-day life. Start doing day g…
/r/seduction11/12/16 12:39 PM
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Keep it light and playful. Don't let the girls reaction affect the way you present yourself - your aim is to be a fun, carefree guy who doesn't really care about the outcome. If you occupy that mindset, the girl is more likely to be receptive to you. As for what to talk about, just say whatever comes into your head. Your aim here is to have fun in the interaction. So yes, tell jokes, bust balls, and ask questions if you feel like asking them. Have a look at this video for example -see how relaxe…
/r/seduction06/12/16 04:51 PM
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Good work going out sober and enjoying yourself. That's huge and a lot of guys can't do that even with alcohol in their system. In terms of how to build up sexual tension with a girl in order to go for the make-out yourself, check out this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s4FTUxvtoRY For the kiss itself, just go with what feels good and don't judge yourself. Part of the fun of kissing someone is figuring out what you both enjoy, so just take your time and make savour the moment. Just don't…
/r/seduction03/12/16 10:33 PM
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Progress is going to be slow when you're starting out. But like you said, there is something that will awaken inside you if you just keep pushing your comfort zone and get those valuable reference experiences. Make sure to challenge yourself by opening groups and mixed sets, and definitely definitely definitely start taking field report to help you identify and overcome sticking points. They'll also help you track your progress and can be rewarding to look at later. Here's one I wrote a while ag…
/r/seduction01/12/16 11:34 PM
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There are a couple of simple things that you can do to become more confident, rather than just acting confident. Eye contact is the biggest one. My boss once told me that I tend not to look at people when I speak, which is a big no-no for men because it makes you look unsure of yourself, girls pick up on this straight away. So when you're talking to people, make a concerted effort to look them directly in the eye. It takes practice but will definitely work in your favour in the long-term. Second…
/r/seduction27/11/16 10:35 PM
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Your mindset should be to meet women you are certain you're attracted to. There's more risk of rejection with new girls, but the payoff is far better and it's obvious that if you stick with this girl you're just going to get bored and move on anyway. Why wait? Much better (and more fun) to pursue your other options, build up reference experiences, and get really good at getting the type of women you are actually attracted to. This approach will serve you better in the long run, and it'll stop yo…
/r/seduction22/11/16 10:45 PM
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Dude I'd probably just ask her out. If you really like her, and the worst outcome is that you're a little awkward around each other, then what do you really have to lose? Plus, good looking girls are used to getting asked on dates, the worst thing she'll be is flattered - your reaction to it is what will or won't make it awkward. Anyway, now that you're going to be a man and ask her out, you need to start showing sexual intent - i.e. flirt with her. Usually, when you put yourself in the friendzo…
/r/seduction21/11/16 10:46 PM
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Strong points: you did a good job taking the lead on the date. It's good that you took her for a walk, kept things moving, and weren't afraid to escalate - most guys have trouble with this. Points for strong eye contact too. Weak points: Too gamey. You escalated too hard and from what I'm reading made no genuine attempts to get to know the girl. She knew straight away you were only interested in sex (which is fine) but girls can smell that a mile off and it comes across as desperate. Without a g…
/r/seduction10/11/16 09:45 PM
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First, you need to work on your attitude: Don't fall into the 'Nice guy' mentality. That's just a by word for feeling sorry for yourself - that's going to get you nowhere. Have you ever seen 'Cool Runnings?' There's a bit in it where John Candy's character is asked why he cheated at the Olympics, despite already having a gold medal. His response? 'If you're not good enough without a gold medal, you'll never be good enough with one.' The gold medal was filling a void in his self-esteem, much like…
/r/seduction06/11/16 11:52 PM
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It shouldn't take too much for you to get where you want to go if you're as attractive as you say you are. You are not a little bitch, you're just inexperienced. 2 things: You need to hit up more girls at parties. Don't judge yourself by how the interactions go, just fucking talk to them. Seduction, at its most basic level is numbers game, and you need to get used to putting yourself out there. I agree with quinntuplets, but if you reallt want to smash through anxiety then I would say 5 is a bet…
/r/seduction03/11/16 10:47 PM
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In my experience, for first dates it's always better to do some kind of activity together. I like going on hikes. It gets you moving, taking in and talking about the scenery - there is something inherently romantic about the outdoors. Afterwards, you can hit a nice, cosy, cafe, or if you've been getting the right vibes you can invite her back to your place for some hot chocolate and a movie or something - she's going to be way more receptive to this after being outdoors. The best part of this is…
/r/seduction30/10/16 09:28 PM
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Yeah this is an issue I've struggled with too. Thing is, most likely there isn't any one answer to this problem - the bottom line is that some girls just won't be interested in you. That said there are some things you can work on for strong opening. Being really direct and firm when you open is crucial for success in any interactions - you have to get and hold her attention, and keep a stronger frame than the girl to demonstrate your confidence. This means eye contact, commanding vocal tonality …
/r/seduction27/10/16 09:56 PM
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I've had plenty of mental health issues over the years, and speaking personally, I've found that the best way to break out of a rut is to take action to change things. I think other people here have covered the seduction aspect of things, so I'd like to give you some help with managing depression. I've given it to other guys online and friends and they've all reported positively. Here are my 'three pillars' of improving mental health: Eat more healthily: when you eat well, your body responds bet…
/r/seduction24/10/16 10:06 PM
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Hey man. Getting back into anything after a long while, especially something as challenging and unpredictable as game, can be really frustrating. First thing's first: It seems like you're having trouble with escalating conversations and turning girls on in set. You're probably not engaging with them emotionally, escalating physically, or spiking their state. I have been having trouble with this recently so I started taking field reports to see if there were any patterns. Here's a sample from a c…
/r/seduction10/10/16 10:23 PM
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Your logic here is flawed for a number of reasons: Obviously, losing your virginity to a prostitute is a terrible idea and will leave you with a completely wrong idea of what sex with normal women is like; there won't be any emotional connection, intimacy, and while you might have side-stepped all the awkwardness and frustration of a trying to seduce a girl, it won't feel like you've earned it and you'll have learned absolutely nothing in the process -- it's the difference between building a mil…
/r/seduction09/10/16 11:00 PM
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Hey dude, sorry to hear you've been having it rough of late. I don't know you personally or exact situation personally, but advice is going to be simple: women like high value men. If high value women are consistently rejecting you, it is because you are lower value than they expect or you don't have a large enough sample size. That value of being a masculine, healthy man translates to higher quality women. This guy has an excellent video on how become a high-value man (his infield videos are pr…
/r/seduction02/10/16 09:08 PM
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