__thesandman Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Don't want to be outcome-oriented, but that really is the situation... The only way to truly stop caring is abundance. Without abundance it's fake it till you make it. Which can work just as well. Some general and hopefully relevant advice coming from an "introvert" who has largely overcome issues with introversion and had success with women in the last year: You're using labels of mental issues to avoid taking responsibility. This might be hard to accept, but reframe it as being the strong, silent type. The truth is that a bit of extroverted behavior is needed onl…	/r/seduction	27/07/18 02:58 AM
5	Hot chick, dull personality? Brief responses and lack of conversation investment are caused by only two possible things: she's not interested for one reason or another she wants to skip the bullshit and hook up with minimal effort I say get her snapchat or phone number and try to set up a date today or tomorrow cause she's probably ovulating. Might be too late already but that's alright.	/r/seduction	26/07/18 02:08 PM
1	2 dates went well now she is busy Try and plan a date at your place a couple days in advance and stay in touch with her every day. Seems like she legitimately couldn't make it. Keeping girls on ice with communication every day is worth it to reduce flaking. This will be the third date though. Not sure if you've kissed her yet but it doesn't really matter. Invite her to your place to cook dinner together and/or watch a movie and then escalate.	/r/seduction	15/07/18 08:05 PM
5	Went speed dating last night, met a lot of nice girls but some were friends. How do i ask one out without offending the other? This problem is in your head man. Ask one of them, ask both, ask three who are friends if you feel like it. If you think they're worth your time it's what you have to do. Fortune favors the bold and so do Katie, Melissa, and Stephanie. Actually here's an idea: suppose you like Katie but her friend Melissa isn't your type. Ask out both but make it clear to Melissa that you're potentially interested in Katie. Ask her questions about Katie and appear very selective while maintaining a friendly vibe…	/r/seduction	12/07/18 09:37 AM
3	How to deal with severe anxiety when dating? There's the school of thought that you shouldn't rely on alcohol. But for one thing, it's socially acceptable. And for another, it's something you get over once you gain experience. This is why I tend to get drunk on first dates sometimes.	/r/seduction	10/07/18 07:18 AM
4	How to deal with severe anxiety when dating? Alcohol	/r/seduction	10/07/18 07:12 AM
1	How should you advance this? Don't do instagram. You have no idea how many guys an even remotely cute girl gets in her dms. Do snapchat or texting instead.	/r/seduction	09/07/18 09:41 PM
2	My unique situation that I need help with! It's a unique situation in an abstract sense but once you're at a social event with these girls, the circumstances don't make anything different. Do not discuss being a virgin with girls. You have no idea how bad most guys are with their game, kissing, sex etc. You have discovered pickup so you already have a massive advantage. As I said earlier, nothing about the situation will require any unusual game. You're better off reading through internet forums right now to get some cohesive pointers. L…	/r/seduction	02/07/18 07:27 AM
1	A little bit of help Don't discuss anything relating to other girls with girls Pay attention to her actions rather than her words. Every girl says she's looking for a relationship. How will you get her over to your place without her finding out where you live? Get her number and set up a date.	/r/seduction	01/07/18 07:48 PM
-4	Why do girls love it when you look into their eyes while talking to them? It's actually "ours is but to do and die" ass munch	/r/seduction	29/06/18 07:15 AM
4	Why do girls love it when you look into their eyes while talking to them? Ours is not to wonder why	/r/seduction	29/06/18 06:39 AM
1	Cancer and seduction Either way, the best thing to do is to choose a group/school of thought and stick to it for a while. A place like this is inherently based on answering specific questions of limited scope from those who don't know what questions to ask. Tinder, okc, etc. probably will give you the best results at this point.	/r/seduction	28/06/18 06:12 AM
1	Cancer and seduction Check out other resources like rooshvforum, bang, day bang. This sub isn't really that helpful for absolute beginners because its contents aren't complete and cohesive.	/r/seduction	28/06/18 05:47 AM
1	Best ways to get dates? A very broad question. What's your age, living situation, etc. and what type of girls are you dealing with?	/r/seduction	16/06/18 05:42 AM
1	Do you guys think a girl would find this weird? It's all about frame, not about the words you say. The frame you want is something like, "you've managed to impress me so far". Playfulness will prevent it from being awkward.	/r/seduction	13/06/18 04:25 AM
-3	How Can I Overcome Sexual Anxiety Around Girls That Have Had A Lot Of Sex? Worried That I Won't Perform And It Prevents Me From Escalating. I struggle with this too. The hotter the girl the worse. You have shifted the frame to a situation where you're trying to impress her. This is toxic. Sex-wise, you have to not care about whether she likes it. During sex, a girl should be just an object you use for your own pleasure.	/r/seduction	05/06/18 01:42 AM
1	Met a girl online on a dating app, conversation was initially great, we spoke a lot, asked mutual questions... If she's gonna be gone for a long time, then your chances are pretty slim. But a lot of times, girls on tinder really just want to hook up without exchanging dozens of texts. This makes them lose interest after a while when we don't escalate quick enough while maintaining a playful vibe. Best idea in this case is wait till 2-3 days before she returns and say "Hey (name) fuck me if I'm wrong but (some bullshit prediction about her)". The prediction has to be wrong of course.	/r/seduction	12/05/18 12:17 PM
2	Uk) Girl on tinder wants to hook up but worreid I look different and uglier than on the tinder pics? Wtf man How many times are you gonna post this	/r/seduction	05/05/18 01:32 PM
3	Why do girls on tinder stop replying for absolutely no reason? By congruence I mean that you have to maintain a constant frame with texts. Don't be flirty and funny and then suddenly switch to being chill and aloof. A lack of congruence usually comes from too much effort and strategy. For example, these guys who mess around with the emoji bs just text like that normally and don't spend a lot of time strategizing about what to text next. That being said, the vibe that has worked best for me is essentially trolling the girls and then going for the digits. An …	/r/seduction	28/04/18 05:41 PM
2	Why do girls on tinder stop replying for absolutely no reason? Exactly. Strike while the iron is hot. Also, besides pics, tinder success is mostly based on your text game. Congruence is important with your tinder texts.	/r/seduction	28/04/18 05:20 PM
1	Does she just like the attention? No problem man. I'm a freshman in college and I was in the same situation a few weeks ago. Rejected cause she has a bf but still a chill situation in class every day. She does all our group assignments and it's the only reason I'm passing the class haha. But all we can do is shoot our shot.	/r/seduction	27/04/18 04:14 AM
1	Does she just like the attention? Spring is here, love is in the air, the semester is almost over, it's time to ask her out.	/r/seduction	27/04/18 04:04 AM
1	Does she just like the attention? If you wait for a good opportunity to ask her out you never will. It sounds like she's flirting with you pretty hard.	/r/seduction	27/04/18 03:57 AM
1	What are the best movies or video games to watch or play with a girl at your place? Donnie Darko is 100% the best movie for netflix and chill. It's funny and scary in the first few minutes and minimal dialogue so you can talk and run game while it's rolling. I've never seen past the first 25 minutes of it	/r/seduction	26/04/18 01:20 AM
1	How do you make transition to serious dating? Familiarity causes attraction. Maybe she's a really good girl with whom you should get into a serious relationship. But if she doesn't want to, then getting too attached will hurt you.	/r/seduction	24/04/18 03:01 PM
3	How do you make transition to serious dating? I've had the opposite problem in the past, but maybe that's because I'm younger and afraid of commitment. It's a man's job to start a relationship but it's a woman's job to try to tie you down into a serious relationship. It seems like it's probably a mistake to get into a serious relationship with a girl you met on tinder. You can have a long term relationship that isn't really serious and that's probably a better option.	/r/seduction	24/04/18 02:14 PM
8	The people that I know that have girlfriends didn't do anything special to get their girlfriends It's normal for a guy to have a girlfriend. Thus, all you really need to do to get one is essentially be a normal or above average guy and lower your standards. But the seduction/pickup lifestyle goes beyond this. The purpose is to bang a larger number of higher quality girls than most guys ever will. The seduction advice will help you get a girlfriend, but strictly speaking, that isn't exactly its intended purpose. When you use mainstream game advice, which is oriented towards working with larg…	/r/seduction	24/04/18 04:21 AM
1	How to escalate from making out I just keep it rolling cause why not? I think it might make girls less nervous too.	/r/seduction	23/04/18 03:48 AM
1	Any other subs Yeah that's true. I don't really know any other subreddits but check out rooshvforum	/r/seduction	23/04/18 02:43 AM
1	Any other subs r/tinder	/r/seduction	23/04/18 02:20 AM
14	How to escalate from making out The laptop should be on a table or something, not on the bed with you haha. Girls like to feel your body weight on top of them, so when you're making out, get on top of her.	/r/seduction	22/04/18 11:38 PM
4	Real life footage of getting laid (case study) In this case, you have no experience, but you also have no experience with gaining experience. Thus, you don't know what resources you need. Infield videos probably won't be very helpful. What you really need is a good wingman, or actually even a mediocre or average wingman.	/r/seduction	22/04/18 03:13 PM
1	How to emulate the naturals? You don't "have it", so you must learn game. In a sense, the entire purpose of game is to emulate the naturals. However, with game, a man is capable of surpassing all of the naturals. Trying to strictly emulate the naturals directly is a fool's errand because game is an established and systematic way of doing that. Studying the naturals is helpful of course, but if a natural and a pua have the same level of game, which is able to explain and teach it more effectively?	/r/seduction	22/04/18 05:20 AM
2	What should I do? Constant conversation will prevent it from being awkward when you first go over there. This might be more detail than you're asking for, but here's a general blueprint. When you sit next to her watching the movie she'll probably sit like a foot away from you. Wait a minute or two and say "I feel like we're sitting really far apart, come over here". And she will. Move your arms and legs around a little bit and make her wonder if you're brushing up against her accidentally or intentionally. Then a…	/r/seduction	21/04/18 09:24 PM
3	What should I do? She invited you to her place, which essentially means she is at least toying with the idea of having sex with you. But she wants plausible deniability to avoid feeling like a slut. She wants to feel like it "just happened". Using the term "Netflix and chill" is a huge mistake because it is equivalent to saying "we'll watch 20mins of a movie while I escalate and then we'll have sex" Now you need to build comfort by playfully making it clear you were joking around. But if you go to her place to wa…	/r/seduction	21/04/18 02:47 PM
3	What to do when you have nothing interesting to talk about yourself or the other person? Some of the stuff from Day Bang by roosh v will help you out here. Hard to summarize but the first part of the conversation should be rambling while throwing out bait until she hooks.	/r/seduction	20/04/18 03:46 AM
1	How to Reschedule a Date Nah man, I'm just messing with you	/r/seduction	19/04/18 06:02 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date If you don't know, now you know, nigga - Biggie Smalls	/r/seduction	19/04/18 05:52 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date Hmm. I'm 18 and working with the 16-20 age bracket, which are stereotypically more into texting. This is interesting.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 05:47 PM
4	What to text out of the blue to show you’re not ghosting? It has to be done, but it should be something unexpected, like snap a pic of some sign that's weird or a double entendre and say "what are your thoughts on this" Has to be unexpected and fleeting so that she is excited to hear from you rather then annoyed.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 05:13 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date It seems like there's a big anti phone call movement on this subreddit. We all have different techniques but if we're all satisfied with our own results then who's to judge? Personally I prefer to call girls when setting up logistics instead of exchanging dozens of text messages.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 03:30 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date She probably doesn't know she's being psychologically analyzed for not responding to a text yet haha. Who knows whether she's busy now or what. Do girls usually block you when you try to call them?	/r/seduction	19/04/18 03:05 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date But seriously though, what's the practical difference between blocking and ghosting and why is it a big deal?	/r/seduction	19/04/18 02:48 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date Maybe I should hit her up. What's her number, op?	/r/seduction	19/04/18 02:13 PM
1	How to Reschedule a Date I agree that she has a very low interest level, but that sort of thing can't be salvaged by texting. Might as well wait a day or two and call her before nexting though. It obviously can't hurt.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 02:10 PM
50	What to text out of the blue to show you’re not ghosting? Get her snapchat and send pics back and forth, random thoughts, questions etc.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 01:49 PM
0	How to Reschedule a Date I like to use the "false dichotomy" with setting up dates. Here's how it works; "Sunday or Tuesday, what's better for you?" It makes her think about when she wants to go on a date with you rather than questioning whether she does. Probably best to text her something, let her respond, and call her a few minutes later. You're working with a low interest level here, so if she doesn't respond to the text, maybe just call her.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 01:38 PM
4	End Game: How to get women to hand their numbers to you That's gonna take some serious self-discipline to "quit" women for a whole year of your quickly vanishing youth. Good luck on your journey.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 04:33 AM
2	What to say to take it farther ;) This is some very solid advice.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 04:29 AM
1	Do I pursue her or not? I mean if you didn't set up a sexual/romantic frame before, then you should probably be sorta indirect with arranging a time to meet again. Hang out with her plus some chill mutual friends with alcohol involved and escalate, get the digits, etc. Alcohol always helps a potentially awkward situation.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 04:13 AM
3	Good first date, meh second date Don't entirely understand that but still gonna sauce you an upvote bro.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 04:07 AM
9	Do I pursue her or not? Well you said she was really cute so you should hit her up. Enough girls will reject you in life, so why reject yourself?	/r/seduction	19/04/18 04:05 AM
3	Good first date, meh second date Cooking at your place is always a great date idea. It has to be something exotic but really easy to make. Its not the time to practice culinary skills you learned from rachel ray, more like something light that doesn't require any actual cooking. Toss a salad with her and you'll probably end up eating her clitoris before you're done chopping up the weird exotic japanese ingredient you grabbed at the store. Wine during the cooking process is essential of course.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 03:54 AM
3	Good first date, meh second date It's a struggle sometimes. Personally I would never go on a second date with a 1 hour timeframe. I mean I don't last that long in bed but a date and sex in an hour would be a real challenge haha.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 02:58 AM
3	Good first date, meh second date Usually I try to set up a second date so that it leads to sex, but I have had this same problem on a second date after more than a week since the first. It seems like you could probably bang her on the next date though, if you're able to get her out again.	/r/seduction	19/04/18 02:39 AM
3	Stimulants Honestly in terms of stimulants, coffee is good but I think cigarettes are better. Nicotine gives you energy and relaxes you at the same time. Also for some reason it seems like cigarettes are a substitute for motivation. If I have to stay up all night working on something, smoking a cigarette every now and then helps a lot. Modafinil and similar drugs might be very effective but there's a stigma about them. Also would be expensive for daily use vs coffee or rolling your own cigs for $5 a week	/r/TheRedPill	18/04/18 09:35 PM
2	Is this girl in my class showing that she’s interested in me? I completely agree. Coffee or "studying" is ideal.	/r/seduction	18/04/18 08:59 PM
2	Did I mess up?? I mean you have to be willing to lose her as a friend/acquaintance. Don't just "subtly show signs" and "see where that goes", you have to be decisive and polarize the situation. My advice about calibration etc referred to physical escalation, not verbal.	/r/seduction	17/04/18 03:57 AM
4	Did I mess up?? You need to make your intentions clear with her and try to hang out with her one-on-one at some point under a non-platonic pretense. That being said, I think you need to use calibrated escalation with her in this case. Talk, try to build attraction, have her sit close to you and touch her incidentally to gauge her reaction. Based on her response, escalate further while monitoring her response at each step. Good luck.	/r/seduction	17/04/18 03:49 AM
1	Help needed The stranger your response the better. Don't give her a legitimate answer	/r/seduction	16/04/18 10:01 PM
1	Good Ideas for a date? That's true but nicotine keeps you sharp so your game is 100% on point haha.	/r/seduction	16/04/18 04:38 AM
1	Good Ideas for a date? Drinks if you're both over 21. Otherwise: -coffee -low key drinking wine at a coffee shop -hookah Hookah is a really good date but it can be kinda expensive. Too much thought into a complicated date has never worked out in my experience. All you need is a chill venue where you can sit next to her, talk, and escalate. Obviously, alcohol will improve things.	/r/seduction	16/04/18 04:05 AM
2	Dude looks like Owen from RSD It's him 100%	/r/seduction	13/04/18 02:06 AM
1	For every number you get, how many lays do you get? Yeah me too. Tinder has been good for me so far. I hope you're not in Minnesota cause I don't need any competition haha	/r/seduction	13/04/18 12:48 AM
1	Some out of the box begginer questions I think sometimes we think our behavior towards a girl has a certain meaning but they interpret it in a different way. In this case, I think "freezing out" a girl by not flirting with her for a few weeks while still seeing her every now and then is essentially just friendzoning yourself. I believe in the strategy of striking the iron while it's hot because when a girl flirts with me and then goes cold, I realize that I should have made a move when she had a more favorable disposition.	/r/seduction	12/04/18 10:08 PM
1	Some out of the box begginer questions I think you need to either forget about her or ask her out on a date within the next few days. Girls lose interest when they flirt with a man and he doesn't make a move, and perhaps that's what happened here.	/r/seduction	12/04/18 08:50 PM
1	A shocking party encounter (didn't know how to respond) Appropriate response in my book is to touch her similarly then pull back, escalate again, make out within a few minutes.	/r/seduction	12/04/18 08:43 PM
1	I'm going on a second date to cinema. Any advice? You need to ditch the cinema date and watch a movie at your place or hers instead.	/r/seduction	12/04/18 08:41 PM
1	For every number you get, how many lays do you get? Not sure whether you mean watching a movie at your place or at a theater, but neither is a good first date idea in my opinion. A theater prevents you from physically escalating but netflix and chill can be too much pressure for most girls on a first date, whch causes flaking. However I think it's the best plan for a second date. I am also a tall white male in college. I have somewhat average looks, and I have had the most success with coffee or hookah dates at night. Sit next to the girl on a co…	/r/seduction	12/04/18 08:30 PM