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| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!I actually saw her in town today. She momentarily looked eyes at me with a serious look on her face. I just smirked and looked away. No idea what her problem is/was. She was at uni doing a master's so she wasn't crazy or a dumb bimbo. She was pretty mid tier looks wise but I thought she would have been attainable because of that. Go figure. | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 05:48 PM |
| 0 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!Again, during daygame, the girl isn't drunk. Giving a number is not the fastest way to end the interaction. Saying "I have a boyfriend" is and that's what they do 9/10 times. So your reasons are fucking bullshit. | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 11:24 AM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!Why would someone give out their number if they have no intention to reply to a message? It's so fucking pathetic. And after the umpteenth time it gets fucking annoying. Why are you so adamant that this behaviour is a "rule"? | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 08:48 AM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!Yes, in a smaller population area you certainly have to be subtle about approaching. Especially when the line is so blurry between a teenager and an early 20s woman. They wear the same clothes FFS! As for serenity around rejection. I welcome rejection, the most common rejection is "I have a boyfriend" which is fine. What I don't like is when people lead me on and give their number out for no reason if they are not going to reply to a text offering them to hangout. Just don't give your number. Ea… | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 08:32 AM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!According to Google, 155k. But that includes the town and suburbs, presumably, not just the town centre. It's enough to do a few calibrated approaches per day, but not enough to ruthlessly volume approach each session and the incidents that invariably occur as a result of such a spam approaching method. | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 08:16 AM |
| 5 | Why do older women seem so much nicer when approaching?Wait until you get older, then. If I (35m) approach an 18 year old, I get age shamed heavily. It's a myth that younger girls like older guys. | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 08:06 AM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!In most towns you can't "run real volume" because there aren't enough girls. Once you filter out the ones whom you can't tell how old they are, you are only left with a handful. I already daygame in the best town in the county which I live in. Most normal people don't have abundance. I get maybe 1 phone number every couple of months. When I go to my daygame town, I do maybe 3-4 approaches in a session, over several hours, 4 times per week. So overall 16 approaches per week. And that is pushing i… | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 07:57 AM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!What is wrong with having basic manners? Also, your reasons don't make sense. There are countless excuses that could be made not to give out a phone number. "I’m actually kind of shocked you’ve been doing daygame for six years and still think in these terms…" What does that even mean. "I used to get texts like this when I was starting out" We'll be glad that the had the courtesy to even reply is all I can say. It's so fucking pathetic that a person can't even be bothered to write a fucking reply… | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 07:21 AM |
| 1 | When if ever is it ok to double text?Hmm, OLD is a different kettle of fish to daygame for sure. I actually tried to setup an account on a couple of apps recently, just to see what was out there, and the amount of personal information I had to give away to a company was really off putting. Admittedly, I was trying to set up a fake account with an AI generated guy. But if it was my real pictures and personal details I would not feel comfortable with that. I found that the prices they were charging for premium were absurd. And I find… | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 09:49 PM |
| 0 | When if ever is it ok to double text?Well then that is very rare. In my experience, 9/10 times a number is a flake. | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 09:41 PM |
| 0 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!Hmm, interesting. In 6 years of daygame, only 3 chicks have replied to my texts then flaked, 1 actually met up, which I respect, but we agreed there was no attraction to one another. So many numbers are dead numbers. 9/10 approaches result in some sort of rejection, normally with the boyfriend excuse (I honestly don't believe that many girls have boyfriends). Maybe 1 in 20 girls will chat for a few minutes after I have deployed the compliment and give their number. But then when I text? Cold ind… | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 09:38 PM |
| 1 | My Limiting Belief: Girls Don't Want Me to Approach ThemWell said. They don't care about us so why should we care about them. | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 09:20 PM |
| 0 | When if ever is it ok to double text?It's always okay. I used to follow the "one text rule". But they never reply. So this time I am going to keep pestering them until they block me or reply (highly unlikely). | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 09:18 PM |
| 1 | I am finally finding my voice but I am worried about my ageBelieve me man, younger girls ain't interested in guys our age. And even if they are, good luck getting the approval of her friends and family. | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 08:30 PM |
| 1 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!What I don't understand is, once in a blue moon, a chick will give you her number after several minutes of conversing and then when you text her she doesn't even reply. Not even a single word. So fucking rude for no reason. | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Do ladies like being asked to dance at a club/rave?I have half heartedly exchanged a few words. What I find is it ends up being a bit of an uninspiring side quest. | /r/seduction | 29/10/24 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Do different men peak at different ages?Well, I agree on your last point. I am 35 and already get a lot of "wait, how old are you" part way through the interaction. If I had to generalise I would say it's with girls under 25. There is a university near me so it's where I approach most often. I know people on here will say it's a shit test, but trust me, when I tell them and their faces drop, it's pretty apparent. And it's pretty hard to take, knowing the myth of "Smv theory" essentially promising a 2nd shot at your youth in your 30s a… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Do ladies like being asked to dance at a club/rave?I always hover around and try to read the situation first. You will get guys on this sub saying "no bro, don't hesitate, 0 second rule, see the girl, approach". Well that's all good and all if you don't mind being confronted. And while someone is free to confront you and won't necessarily become violent straight away, everyone will see the incident and it will certainly make you more likely to be rejected in future approaches inside that venue. And it will just generally feel cringe if you are s… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 10:25 AM |
| 1 | It's not that difficult guysIf you are ugly, then it IS that difficult. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 04:56 PM |
| 5 | I developed strong stoicism in fieldI can only assume that people are much better looking than I am from the results they post in this sub. Stoicism works for me by not bothering to approach because I already know the outcome. That's true stoicism. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 04:32 PM |
| 2 | What To Do When A Girl Looks At YouWhat a load of crap. | /r/seduction | 26/10/24 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Plenty of number closes but no datesHi, I have the same problem, but they don't even reply. Can you tell me what you are doing to get them to reply? | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 08:08 PM |
| 1 | I went to the club but I need a hand understanding the dynamics.Dude, if we wait for signs, nothings going to happen. My point is, we can't always go straight in, cold approach is nerve wracking and sometimes doing a little pre approach routine can help rather than lunging in at the first sign of eye contact. Especially when the club is 1/2 empty so a lot of people standing around watching. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | I went to the club but I need a hand understanding the dynamics.I don't believe this. I always lurk like a predator and watch them first. I am too scared to go straight. Like last weekend, I walked past the hot girl dancing, went to stand at a table with others, then stand by a wall, then walked past the girl dancing again and grabbed her, to which she shouted "No". Now imagine if I had just gone straight in, I would have looked like even more of a creep. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 11:38 AM |
| 0 | Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means?Well you keep avoiding the question so that isn't my problem! | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 12:10 PM |
| 12 | Just Get a Girlfriend.Posts like this always feel annoying, because there are a lot of guys like me, pushing middle age, who can't even get laid once. So having this "problem" seems so unrelatable. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 09:51 AM |
| 0 | Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means?Still didn't answer the question. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 08:36 AM |
| 0 | How to open up more? Start dating again?I would be happy with achieving just the "running through" bit. I am in my mid 30s and the only time I have got laid was when I paid a lot of money. And even then it was over in 5 minutes and they don't allow you to play again even if you've got time left! | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 07:28 PM |
| 0 | An annoying thing other guys do in clubs/bars with regards to competitionThis is most clubs though. The ratio so far has always been "off" resulting in no girls who came in on their own. Most girls come in big mixed groups with guys and then stay with those guys the whole night, shunning approaches by anyone outside the group. | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 04:34 PM |
| 0 | An annoying thing other guys do in clubs/bars with regards to competitionNo one is always on point. If that were the case, no one would ever get laid. I am a nervous approacher and prefer to hover around before approaching girls just in case they are with any males who may become aggressive towards me if I do so. And that has never lead to me being negatively challenged, but has averted accidently approaching girls who were already with guys which could have resulted in confrontation. So caution is key when approaching in the club. | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 04:32 PM |
| 1 | How to get back into gameGo to your nearest major town. Uk is a weird one for demographics, which is why a lot of Usa based advice doesn't make sense. In smaller towns you will very seldom see a girl in her 20s during the day and when you do, she is normally hauling ass and on the phone at the same time on her say to the nail bar something. So you have to rely on nightgame quite a bit, and most towns have very few nightspots nowadays. If you can get to a town with a uni or 2, that is your best bet. The difference betwee… | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means?What do you mean by "in a school"? Not every person under 18 is in a school 24/7. Again, you are dodging the question. | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Living in London hookup?Ironically, I actually got the number of a Canadian girl a couple of weeks ago on campus and she replied back for a change. Still flaked eventually, though. Canadians seem a lot more friendly than stuck up English girls. I can't speak for Japan or Scandinavia, but they sound just the same as the UK. | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Field Report: 5 Dates in 5 Days – The One with the 32-Year-Old Cougar (Cougar because I'm 21)I call bullshit on the myth that women like older guys. It seems the opposite, as your experience clearly demonstrates. Damn if only I could relive my 20s knowing what I know now! I also call bullshit on cold approach being better than apps. Admittedly, I am way too embarrassed to be so self aware as to take a load of staged cringey photos of myself to even go on an app in the first place, so there is that. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Speech Autisim Person, How to start conversation with a girl who is Jogging, or Walking? Need OpenerI am actually surprised. Some of the posts on here from past threads beggar belief. I am glad the general consensus is not to bother. I remember a classic thread where a whack job would describe how he would tell girls who where on the phone to hang up and if they didn't he would simply speak over their phone call and try to join in.🤦♂️ I expected a similar reply in this thread but maybe those kinds of people have finally been banned from the sub. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Living in London hookup?Wtf lol. The Uk is the hardest place on planet earth to date and it's a rude awakening. This is what happens when a normie stumbles into the seduction sub, lol. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 08:18 PM |
| -6 | Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means?Can you tell a 17 year old from an 18 year old? | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Had an Amazing Night, Then Got Completely Ghosted Why Does This Happen?This is the problem I have with nightgame. The last time I went to nightgame I got 2 numbers in one night, my best result. But they both flaked. And it's logical. Alcohol is involved, it's an overstimulating and exciting environment for the girl. So it's very easy for them when their judgement is impaired to be too friendly and hand over a number. And then regret it the next day. Nightgame always used to be the go to suggestion to get laid. But I have to say, it is overrated. Not to mention, by … | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 07:51 PM |
| -8 | Someone who doesn’t have a social circle or many friends for that matter. How can one meet women outside of online means?Come off it you liar. There have to have been way worse things than that. You must have atleast approached underaged, for instance. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Approach Advice?I think I have this same problem. I'm too masculine for these girls. When I am out doing daygame or in the club, it's always these younger, less masculine boys getting all the attention. But people on this sub Reddit will lie through they're teeth forever. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?Not one person has given you a useful piece of advice. I am in the same boat so I can't either. You have to be careful with your reputation. I don't even go to uni but the last few approaches on girls around the campus where I approach have resulted in some weird rejections so I am sure rumour has been put out there. A lot of people on this sub are liars who don't actually approach, or approach in some giant city. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 09:15 AM |
| 1 | 10 years experience with game and dealing with loneliness stillWell I have done hundreds of approaches that time and been in loads of cringe situations so stfu. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 06:33 AM |
| 1 | 10 years experience with game and dealing with loneliness stillI haven't counted accurately but normally I average 2 per day. So about 6. But I don't know if that counts the approaches where they blank me or ignore me or try to rush away from me. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Where do you find single girls?I get the exact same reaction every fucking time. Sometimes they don't even let me get to the point before they start walking off. Their standards are through the roof! I just know they are lying. There is no way that many girls have boyfriends. I will BURN this sub! | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 09:27 PM |
| 0 | 10 years experience with game and dealing with loneliness stillWrong. All that matters is LOOKS. Yours and mine are clearing lacking. I have been in the game for six years and not a single lay or even a hand hold. I am about to blow this subreddit to kingdom come! | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Besides clubs and high end malls what are other places to increase your numbers?"It's only awkward if you make it awkward" Let me stop you right there. It is only awkward if the [I]other person[/I] makes it awkward, which is out of your control. I can tell this is some cheesy American post from the content. So you would change your whole routine for some girl who doesn't even want to talk to you? Do you think a hot girl wants some creepy middle aged guys to hit on her when she is at the gym? And the nationality thing, why would there be a girl of a random nationality in you… | /r/seduction | 16/10/24 08:02 AM |
| 0 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?Well, I had depression in my 20s so I didn't approach at all. Mentally, I am still 20 something. You already have an advantage because you had a wife which means you must have got laid. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:16 PM |
| 0 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsI value my time, but these coaches will never come to my town to see what I have to deal with, so it is pointless. It all comes down to if the girl finds you attractive or not. Openers, etc are all bullshit. If the girl doesn't find you attractive, you are gonna have a brutal rejection. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 08:18 AM |
| 2 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?I don't believe that. For some reason, there is this myth that middle aged guys are attractive, which just isn't true. How many couples do you see where the girl is 18 and the guy is 40? It's definitely harder as an older guy to get with girls. All of these youngsters are out there going on dates and having girls chase them around. Nothing for us older guys. I've been in daygame for 6 whole years and just got a load of hassle from it and incidents where girls make a scene etc. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Older men approachInteresting post. It was just yesterday in a store popular with university students where things went a bit "weird" which prompted me to write this. It's a public store, so all ages of people go there. The trouble is, I can't tell an 18-22 year old university student from a 16 year old college/highschool student. So my "pre opener" (to avoid accidently approaching underaged) is something like "Hi, do you go to uni around here". And yesterday, a pair of girls who I am sure were at uni said "no, w… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:51 AM |
| 1 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?What about older guys in our 30s and 40s? | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:27 AM |
| 1 | How much of an issue is living at homeThis was my situation as well. You must start working on your game now. I always said I will start dating when I move out, it never happened until my early 30s. But I started approaching in my.late 20s because I couldn't find a good job to help me move out. Now I am middle aged creepy old guy getting shamed for approaching girls. To get to the point, don't put off approaching until you are finally living alone | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Older men approachThe problem here is, the rejections and occasional "incidents" that you have during that filtering process, though. For instance, if I approach in a venue popular with university students, sometimes word might go around about an older creep approaching the girls that go there. So it's so much about "taking" rejections, anyone can do that. It's about being subtle enough in your approach that it doesn't look like an approach, which isn't always possible. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 05:38 AM |
| 1 | How to approach someone when crossing the street in opposite directions?This is a tricky one. I have been crossing or waiting to cross and seen a chick. But then I get all up in my head thinking that if I walk back she is going to think I am following her. I often don't bother and continue the way I am going. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 05:33 AM |
| 3 | Being straight up ignoredIt happens to me a lot. This sub is unhealthy because all you'll get is toxic positivity whilst you are banging your head against a brick wall. We must be uglier than we realise! | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 05:28 AM |
| 2 | I feel bad for these young girls, confession.Meanwhile, as someone the same age, I can't get them to talk to me other than rejecting me whilst they are fleeing. Feelsbasbro. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Letting regret guide my approachesHaha, one of my biggest fears is getting involved with some crazy bitch on some false allegations shit from daygame. I've been daygaming for 6 years and it hasn't happened yet. But I do get a lot of cringe rejections from younger girls. Had a couple today actually. I have this fear that if I keep approaching something bad will happen. Like being pointed out to the police or something. But you don't know if there are WhatsApp groups being out about you if you have a number of cringe rejections on… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 08:46 PM |
| 1 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsWow, you must be good looking then! I get a lot of shit if I approach girls of that age. Today a pair lied about being at uni (I'm pretty sure they were) and another one said "can you leave me alone, please". These chicks have no idea what we have to overcome to approach them in the first place. But what can I say, I never dated in my 20s so I feel younger. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 08:40 PM |
| 1 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsSo why did the 18 and 19 year olds reject you then? | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 08:18 PM |
| 1 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsI am inclined to agree with you post. It's such a trope "Oh, dude, just approach girls in real life d0de, you'll get laid in no time". The only reason I like cold approach is because I am coming to the game late where despite my physical age, my mindset is still as a 20 something and so I find 20 something's the most attractive. But younger women are very unlikely to have they're age sliders set to 30+ so it means approach in real life is the only way to get a girl of my preferred age range (<25… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:27 PM |
| 1 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsSo did the other two think you were too old for them? I have this problem a lot with girls that age. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:23 PM |
| 5 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsCan confirm, I have been brutally scolded for this! There is always another side go every pie in the sky success story. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:16 PM |
| 0 | 4 Reasons Approaching Women In Real Life is 10x Better Than Dating AppsI just don't believe all this. I have been day gaming for 6 years and never gotten laid. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Gonna try going to a bar completely solo this Friday. Mid-30’s, a bit shy, any advice?I hear this, but in most towns, you don't really see many attractive women during the day and the ones you do see are normally age ambiguous, meaning you can't be sure they are old enough to approach or not. | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Gonna try going to a bar completely solo this Friday. Mid-30’s, a bit shy, any advice?Good luck with this. It's absolutely nerve wracking. It will get to 10pm and all you will want to do is tuck up nice and warm in bed. I did this several times in different towns earlier this year, booking myself into a local cheap hotel for the night. The effort to simply step out into the cold, dark night was huge. I honestly couldn't do it on the regular. Nightgame on my own seemed like such an impossible task. Chicks find it too weird unless you are a "life of the party" type, which I am not.… | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 07:20 PM |
| 9 | When did women gain so much leverage?This advice never works in reality. If you were really to ignore women and not approach, they would simply ignore you, as always and nothing would happen, ever. | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Approached hot mom and daughterFair one, should be possible, but even mid 20s girls can be mistaken for younger, which is why if they are with a parent on casual observation I tend to put them into the under 18 category automatically. | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 08:38 PM |
| 9 | Approached hot mom and daughterFair one, I hardly ever approach girls with family, there is something about seeing them with a parent which makes me question if they are over 18 or not. Or even if they are over 18, I still dead judgement from the parent if the parent chews me out for being an older guy. | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 08:35 PM |
| 1 | I Challenged Myself to Approach 1 Girl Every Day for 30 Days—Here’s What I LearnedI am doing something similar right now. After the gym, I will walk around town for a bit and approach at least one girl. Normally I end up doing 2 or 3. I am at the gym 4 days per week so if I average 2 approaches after the gym that is 8 approaches per week! The important thing I find is to walk past a few possible approach opportunities first. If you pounce on the first girl you see, it will not be a nice interaction for you or her. Don't get me wrong, some days I feel up to it, but most of the… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 09:09 AM |
| 4 | I am 40 and starting to learn gameThis is relatable. I am mid 30s with no dating history at all. A word of caution, you need to figure out the bullshit from what's real. Here's a myth that is an example of bullshit "men in their 30s and 40s are more attractive to girls aged 18-24. This here is bullshit. If I approach a girl of those ages, their very first question (in an accusatory tone) is "how old are you". When I tell them I am my age (mid 30s) they bail, not always in a polite way. This can be disappointing at first if you h… | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Don't let others dictate your reality - Holding Frame and passing shit tests with an A*These posts are never helpful. Regardless of what inane fantasy you have in your head, if reality is giving you opposite feedback, you are in for a rough ride. | /r/seduction | 02/10/24 09:03 PM |
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