| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 213 | 32 and was ready to hang up my hat | FDS SUCCESS! | _bbears_ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 70 | He asked me to pick up the check and I caved. Help. | SEEKING ADVICE | _bbears_ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 09:27 PM |
| 69 | How to talk to your new man about porn | SEEKING ADVICE | _bbears_ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:04 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 133 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?I prefer big dad energy. Men who appear, confident, stable, safe, responsible, empathetic, anticipating the needs of others, getting shit done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:06 PM |
| 27 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?Perfectly said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 51 | My friends “Thirst Trap Strategy”My profile pic was always a silhouette of me doing something interesting or outdoorsy. Men that swiped had to stop and look at the rest of my pics after being intrigued. No filters and no thirst traps. Screened out a million snails this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:07 AM |
| 26 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?My reactions are mixed on this one. I recently went through this with my boyfriend and it was challenging and scary for both of use. We are older than you guys and both decided to take a week to think about it separately and then share our feelings and decide together. I think he is being honest but it’s also some immaturity coming through. I believe he could have said the same thing in a different way and it wouldn’t have felt as jarring. I’m pro choice and had an abortion but since the child w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:08 AM |
| 14 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?Even if guys made it past a few dates they inevitably would ask for a massage. I’d tell them that I don’t do massages for men I’m dating because it’s against my professional ethics to do a massage for someone I have a Romantic interest in. If they respected that sentiment great - if not, bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:54 PM |
| 51 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?Ughhh the reason I stopped saying I’m a massage therapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:18 PM |
| 9 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Hahaha omg in my dumb ass days I dated a man that had an interlock on his car on the first date. And don’t worry I visited him in jail every Sunday for four months when he violated his parole too 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:44 AM |
| 22 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?That’s why I like attaching sex to commitment. I think it’s important that getting you in an exclusive relationship is a challenge that excites him - rather than an ultimatum he has to weigh the pros and cons of. I assume a man is sleeping with other people unless we are committed. I learned this idea from the book “men love bitches”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:41 AM |
| 26 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Yes, it’s possible! My current boyfriend waited. I will say that I believe fds principles are what convinced him to wait. I told him I don’t have sex outside of committed relationships and at one point we had the “what are we” talk and he said something like “he’s not sure if he’s ready for something serious”. I said “it’s clear we aren’t looking for the same thing, good luck” and ghosted. A month later he asked if there’s anything he could do to change my mind and I said “no sorry”. Within a fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:42 PM |
| 37 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?Guys, he also had loyalty tattooed across his back so I thought it evened out 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:36 PM |
| 254 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?I was cheated on by a man that had “don’t trust” and “don’t believe” tattooed on each forearm. Go figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 19 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮Guarantee you actual queens never bought the king shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 11:54 AM |
| 37 | “Build with him”This made me so mad I almost downvoted it but then had to remember that’s not how Reddit works lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'My therapist is older than me. She is constantly reading and reeducating herself. She has lots of young women clients and is Inspired by the way women are setting boundaries and doing this different than she had to. I like her because her views have evolved with time which is something I look for in a therapist and she clearly supports the progress of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:18 PM |
| 195 | A Male Security Guard Yelled At Me Today Because I Didn't Respond To Him🙄One time I was walking across a parking lot into a grocery store while putting my hair in a pony tail and a guy beelined right into my path and personal space to say “hey girl let me put that hair up for you” and I said “GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY FACE” super aggressively. It came out of my mouth unexpected and surprised both him and me. The look on his face is one of my favorite lifetime memories. Of course he called me a dumb ugly bitch and followed me yelling while I got my shopping cart. It make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:51 AM |
| 2 | What's your opinion on "small violent" acts?Excellent answer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:30 PM |
| 13 | A message for the female lurkersEven though I am with a HVM now, continued attention to FDS principles ensures he stays that way. He is aware that my partnership is conditional and what I will and will not tolerate has been clearly articulated. In the past I had no standards AND if I was in love, partnership was unconditional 🤢🤮. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:16 PM |
| 86 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalWhen my mom was growing up, her single mom could only afford to pay for one child’s college. She chose to pay for my uncles college because it “didn’t make sense” at the time for a women to get a college education. My mom had no education, work experience, and no money of her own when entering her marriage with my dad. When my dad went off the deep end, became a raging alcoholic and stopped coming home, she was literally trapped in the marriage with two small children. He did nothing for her and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.It is the most shorted stock on the market. I’m sure there are some folks that love GameStop and that certainly doesn’t hurt, but the stats on the stock were entirely unique all on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:45 PM |
| 8 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.His interview was AMAZING. And yeah, it was taken down on every platform because it doesn’t fit the narrative that retail traders are stupid and need to be protected from themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:40 PM |
| 5 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.I appreciate you pointing out what the article actually says. My concern with articles like this is that there is a subversive sexist narrative. I’m not sure why it is news that a few advisors anecdotally think women are more risk adverse. After doing a ton of research to understand my risk, I did not feel the need to call any advisor. Maybe all this article proves is that women are more confident in their own decision making lol. Either way, glad we are all talking about it and thinking about i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:42 AM |
| 6 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.I’m surprised to see so many comments like this??? Like I made money that is already in my retirement account. How are we finding gender issues in Wall Street fucking over retail traders that we don’t even know the gender of? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.Agree that late comers are at a way higher risk and many probably just swept in the enthusiasm and will take losses, but those who got in early have extremely secure net positive positions so they don’t mind holding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.I pulled gains early on and am holding for fun at this point. Not getting fleeced 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:13 AM |
| 32 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.Same. It’s also not fair to assume the gender of everyone who owns GameStop. That’s its own form of internalized sexism to assume gender based on the success or risk of a financial play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.I recommend checking out white board finances in YouTube. I learned a lot from him that helped me get started investing and trading. I also follow R/FIRE. Tons of good info there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:09 AM |
| 6 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.I’ve already pulled profits from my GameStop shares that went right into my long term retirement accounts. If my other shares pan out I’ll be retiring at 45. I don’t know the gender of anyone on WSB and I don’t need to. I hope all of the momentum around the market encourages more woman to learn about investing and trading—and the good and bad side of risk. GameStop aside, good financial knowledge and risk management are the way to wealth. Grateful for what I know and always wanting to learn more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:02 AM |
| 26 | Confronted my (27F) husband (34M) about his porn use today... This is how it went.I’m so sorry. This is not ok. Please call an attorney immediately. This abuse and you deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....I tried to change a tire myself on the highway and got it off fine. When I went to put it on, the suspension on the car had dropped and the car now wasn’t high enough to put the tire on. My Jack was maxed out and I couldn’t life the car any higher. A man saw me with the tire off and stopped to help, he was a gentlemen but that was very risky. He had a much more substantial jack. I learned that the “stock” jacks in most cars are very crappy and it is worth it to put a nice one in your car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 3 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....AAA has saved me multiple times, it is absolutely worth the money. As other users have said, always have your phone charged, don’t let gas run low and I have my best friend sharing locations on Life360. I was raised sort of feral and made many mistakes I’ve learn from that could have cost me my life. One time I stopped on a 12 hour drive to rural Maine to get my brakes fixed, after I got back on the road my hood popped up almost blocking my view and terrified me. The mechanic didn’t close it all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 10:39 PM |
| 17 | I debated whether to post this. On one hand, I’m glad she’s exploring a variety of sexual techniques outside of PIV sex, but on the other hand it’s sad she just gave up on PIV orgasms like it’s impossible and not at all the fault of or responsibility of dudes she sleeps with. Dick Size Matters yeah?I didn’t have one for probably 28years until I was with a man that knew how to do it. I literally thought there was no hope until I met this man. I learned from the technique he used in that relationship and now am able to make it happen even with inexperienced men of any size if I find them attractive. For me it’s the angle that creates clitoral stimulation with penetration which can only happen in missionary and girl on top. You have to really want it and be turned on, tilting hips up and kege… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to shut down inappropriate colleague?I shut this stuff down by extremely quickly and assertively saying “that’s not appropriate, now back to the thing we were discussing”. It shuts the man down, gives him no positive attention, doesn’t create a debate and gets you back to work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 2 | 32 and was ready to hang up my hatGirl I feel you. I was so worn down I was ready to accept the last loser, I’m actually grateful he did someone so awful i had no choice but to wake up. Hang in there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 07:01 PM |
| 3 | 32 and was ready to hang up my hatHahah I got some whack messages too. I’m sure HVM spend there days trolling on women’s empowerment subs 😂. My girlfriend just found the love of her life at 36, dont give up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 06:59 PM |
| 30 | I have been unvoluntarily single for a very long time, how do I tell him?Be yourself! I wouldn’t offer information about the topic and retain some mystery. When he asks directly say you’ve had some relationships over the years but nothing too serious. Just cuz those cuz didn’t commit to you doesn’t mean you were frigid or something. I would frame it that you are a discerning lady, in fact being on your own so long might peak his attention! No need to lie, you tried some stuff out that didn’t work 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:21 PM |
| 11 | How to talk to your new man about pornThere is a part of me that literally does not believe there are still men that don’t watch porn...with maybe the exception of extremely religious or recovering porn addicts. It’s going to get even more difficult for generations younger than me that were raised on smart phone porn. If the options are dump a man if he admits to ever watching porn, find a unicorn that I’m not sure exists, or die alone that’s a tough pill to swallow. I totally understand the folly of trying to change someone’s behav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 13 | How to talk to your new man about pornAm I alone in assuming that 99% of men watch porn, even the HVM? I think most men don’t understand how destructive it is. For me, signs of addiction and defensiveness about usage or quitting porn would be big red flags. I had a conversation about porn before with a man who had trouble staying hard and we watched a Ted Talk on how it fucks men’s brains up... he quit and everything got better. To me it seems to be jumping the gun to assume every man who watches porn is a LVM addict. I’m open to he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:15 PM |
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