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Not a guy but one of the guys I knew who most successful with women was 5'4" not muscular and balding in his early 20s. He worked at a non-profit and was attractive, funny, smart, and kind. His idea of "success" with women was finding one woman and being in a committed and loving relationship. All his girlfriends were like him, sweet, funny, smart, and fit in with our friend group really well. We lost touch when I moved states, but he looked like he was moving toward marriage with a really lovel…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 02:02 AM
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Honey, it's not a thing lmao. Don't listen to that kind of nonsense. It's just incel fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:26 AM
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Ew, you think you're entitled to self esteem? So I'm just supposed to respect you and treat you like a human being, even though you're lower on my arbitrary scale of attractiveness than I am? Oh okay and you're not an NPC in the story of my life and you have free will and it's okay for you to exercise it? Ridiculous, disgusting, you have an inflated self-image.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 12:30 AM
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Like I said, you only know a handful and I know dozens
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:54 AM
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Lmao. My husband and I got married at 32 (me) and 31 (him). I had tons of relationships and even a prior marriage when we met. We're not religious and had gasp premarital relations! I settled for my first husband bc I thought at 26 I was getting old and needed to start a family. Thank God I didn't have kids with him. I didn't settle for my husband. I only found hi.. by being extremely picky and we met online, NOT at church. I don't work since our daughter was born, but I do have income bc I rent…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:12 PM
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This is just a redpill sub basically
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:25 PM
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Thank you. They're gross af. But... a lot of women on the pregnancy subs are talking about how their bfs and husbands have left them and aren't returning their calls etc. It's like men both create and exploit vulnerable women at every turn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:50 PM
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They're fucking disgusting. I was first flashed at a young looking 12, braces, heavy coat, and all. I think it probably delayed my interest in sex a few years beyond the usual. That thing was tiny and pink and attached to a fat, leering (in my eyes) monster. I cried and ran away as well. He was fucking laughing as he stroked his disgusting little slug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:19 PM
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Someone messaged me, I guess bc I'm in some pregnancy subs, very respectfully and kindly offered money for me and my baby in exchange for some tame photos of me and my belly. How sweet, right? Blocked and reported. The sub wasn't helpful either when I reported, but these gross motherfuckers either convince themselves that they're helping women, or they're just being straight up manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:16 PM
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My mom is opposite. My husband is pretty awesome, but my mom always asks if he's annoying me yet, and says "he's a lucky man" cos she knows I cut em off quick lmao. After years of long, shitty relationships, I had to cultivate that quality and I've been happier and wouldn't have met my husband otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:52 PM
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I'm a little worried about that too. I'm due in 6 weeks, so I'm planning on just dumping baby on my husband. He's smart and gentle, he'll figure it out. It's my first baby too, so if I can be alone with her, he can as well. I need a dental surgery after she's born, plus I wanna get a massage as soon as it's safe and comfy to do so 🤷🏾‍♀️ It's just that people feel women are "naturally" better at caretaking and being organized. We are better, but not bc of our vaginas. It's bc of practice and prep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:49 PM
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That's all true, but why is this man all butthurt about them being together anyway?? She makes him happy, he makes her happy. They always look like they're having a good time. They're both excellent parents. He could have someone better looking, but her personality, sense of humor, hobbies, etc would be different. She is what he wants! She could have someone better looking or richer, but there aren't as many men at her level. Not that she settled, but he's not just a catch, he's who she wants. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:14 PM
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I asked a "friend" that I had dated ever so briefly, whether it made a difference if he got what he wanted through browbeating or willingly, and he said no. We fell out of touch when I suggested that he didn't treat his wife with respect and her "issues" were a result of that. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:26 AM
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They really could be. I've seen gay dads with small foster children, but they were completely competent. It's the societal standards more than anything, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:12 PM
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Themiscyra! Honestly an all-mom commune would be awesome. No men allowed, if you get a boyfriend or something, he can't visit there, but you can visit him, and move out whenever you want. I've known people who have done a variant of things like that, like women who worked different shifts at the same restaurant and watched each other's kiddos for free. I'm not sure how willing people would be to have strangers look after their kids, but I think there's something in the idea, for sure. Maybe star…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:32 PM
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I used to work for WIC and saw a few dads with sole custody. Most of them brought their mothers in with them to answer the tough questions like "what's the name of your child's doctor? When was the last visit? How much formula does s/he drink? What kinda of foods does s/he eat?" Like come the fuck on. A lot of them had their new wives bring in all their kids collectively, while he remained... elsewhere. Men coming in alone were 99% of the time a shit show, would call the mother at work, over thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:22 PM
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It's even better how in the black community, every ill is blamed on single mothers, yet deadbeat dads get a pass. "You knew he was trash," "pick better men," etc. I know what men will say about the guy in the OP: "that's not a real man," "get married before you have kids with someone," though evidence doesn't bear that assertion out. Also she can be blamed for her bitchy attitude "driving" the man away. Even the ones that pretend they want to be with their kids don't fight for custody. They'll c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:11 PM
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Lmao yep. My dad was ashamed of being a deadbeat dad, but he got over it lmao. He's honestly a great father to his second family, but we had a nominal relationship for a very long time. We're still not very close now, but we're comfortable enough, mostly for the sake of me being in my siblings' lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:08 PM
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I think that's what everyone thinks being a dad is. Fun weekends where you take the kid for an outing (after mom feeds and dresses them) and bring them back right as they're getting cranky so Mom can put them down for a nap. Hopefully the house is clean and dinner is being prepared so that by the time the kids get up and you've finished your relaxing post "parenting" beer and tv time, you can eat. I mean, phew! The amount of married women I've seen be basically single moms.... I used to joke "I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:05 PM
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Exactly my thoughts. Fucking why? And it's not a big deal until a woman is dead. If you're raped and live, no one believes you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:21 AM
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Friendzone guys are the worst. Manipulative and deceitful. If you straight up say you're not interested, they're all "me either," but give it time. When you're rude and say "never in a million years" it's "whyyyyyy? But I did xyz for you and you accepted it. It was so obvious I had a thing for you! Women only like assholes!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:25 PM
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But she smiled at him /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:21 PM
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Incest 🤢 porn 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:19 PM
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Lmao. My ex said this a couple of times. At first I was hurt about the lack of trust, then I was finally like "trap YOU? Do you really think I can't do better?" Oops... he never said it again :) and begged to stay together when we broke up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:19 PM
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I say this a lot, but younger guys are so different. My little bro is 20 (I'm 32), and I've befriended guys his age at work. They are completely used to having female friends and treat them like people. My brother is the same way. One kid I just loved and he was so sweet, took me out for lunch, started dating a girl and wanted me to meet her and everything. Another thing is, they ask women for advice. Men my age I've noticed, typically don't. I would never date a guy that young (my husband is 31…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:16 PM
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That was my favorite part 😂 truth hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:12 PM
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"why woman if no have sex with me?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:10 PM
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You can always tell how much a man wants you by how much he tells you he wouldn't date you and "it wouldn't work between us." As soon as he says that is when I realize he's not a friend but a fuckboi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:50 AM
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I thought the reason they didn't get married was bc of the insanely biased and crazy prenup. If that's the case, Nikki is winning (she clearly doesn't see it that way) and new wife probably signed the same prenup and tapdances 24/7 to keep Cena happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:32 AM
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Absolutely! Congratulations, queen ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:27 AM
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Basically the entire album The Spirit Room by Michelle Branch. That was my jam when I was like 14-15 and I remember the music being soothing and catchy, so I download it again... Just track after track of pickme sadness. It's awful how music indoctrinates young women to expect suffering and that they should endure it, just to keep a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:26 AM
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And no possibility of an orgasm lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:54 PM
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I inherited a very skittish cat and it took over a year to get real snuggles from her. I let her do it on her own terms and she trusts me now. But yeah that's definitely dog person behavior 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:33 PM
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Those are beautiful! Wish I didn't have a black thumb 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:31 AM
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I never thought of it this way. I can see people making excuses like "he was drunk," "I'll just stay out of his way next time," " it's my dad, I can't call the police on him." So fucking sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:40 AM
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I had a roommate that would keep her window cracked in the winter so her cat would cuddle her. I thought that was pretty pathetic too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:02 AM
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For a class you weren't even in.... The double audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:01 AM
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Remind him a couple times, then just increase the life insurance...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:00 AM
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But...but... He paid for a hotel room 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:21 PM
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That's more of an incel argument than anything FDS has ever said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:38 PM
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I think people that advocate for 50/50 no matter what don't understand love. If you make more, you're seriously gonna watch your SO struggle to contribute equally while you have disposable income and savings etc? If you work fewer hours and make the same or more, you're gonna let your SO struggle taking care of equal responsibilities in the home when they have less leisure time? That's disgustingly selfish and people (men) show these traits long before marriage. He's not going to change, and if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:19 PM
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A guy I was considering dating sent me a dozen roses and asked me last minute to drive two hours to spend the weekend with him at a hotel. When I said no, he went on about how he spent money on me and there was more where that came from, and he'd treat me like a princess, and he'd BOUGHT ME ROSES! I think that's probably the least money to largest expectation gap I've ever experienced. This was well before FDS but I laughed even then. He also accused me of timing our first date so I was purposel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:10 PM
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We've been posted to againsthatesubs and called "female incels" when we're the opposite. I've only seen one person quasi stick up for FDS and they were like "yeah it sucks but at least they don't advocate rape and pedophilia like male incel subs," as if that's the only difference. It's significant but wtf. I'm not as pissed about the comments and hate as I am that we're literally banned from posting in other subs just bc we're members here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:05 PM
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They call it "gatekeeping sex," and I haven't heard a convincing argument as to why it's bad 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:00 PM
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Thank you for this post. Incredible ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:16 PM
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dRaMaTiC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:50 PM
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I met my closest friends online! Good luck to you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:37 PM
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You know what's funny? I always had boy bullies! I've always had male and female friends, but I've never had the kind of rich, deep, enduring friendships with any male that I've had with female friends. Even once at a sleepover, there was a girl I was acquaintances with, and we both couldn't sleep, so we stayed up all night talking, just the two of us. One of my favorite memories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:29 PM
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That's what "the wall" is, I'm convinced. The age at which most women stop accepting bullshit lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:34 PM
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God willing, less than 10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:28 PM
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Hey, Matt is NOT wrinkling up! All his excess beer weight keeps him nice and plump and red thankyouverymuch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:17 PM
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Thank you ❤️ I'm glad you're out of your situation, too. It's easy to say we're dumb, but we're actually generous and compassionate and thoughtful. Now we're saving our gifts for those who deserve it (especially ourselves!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:43 PM
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He doesn't take the best care of him, usually doesn't pick up his poops (and has gotten several letters from his apartment complex for it), and the dog definitely preferred me after only 6 months of dating lol. He was salty about that, too, but he could have controlled it. The dog was fckin 12 years old when we met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:41 AM
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Or you can be a dumbass like me in my last relationship. Doing chores for a man I didn't live with bc he was "having a hard time." Then he didn't wanna reimburse me for the groceries bc I ate some of them too (bitch, I'm cooking them, aren't I???) and he never wanted to go to mine bc his was bigger. This man told me I'm always at his apartment and not paying rent. Anyway that's when I realized his delusion was off the charts, and happily stayed home at my "small, crappy" apartment. I moved a mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:33 PM
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I'm pretty sure that's the "Romeo and Juliet" law. But if you can't prove anything sexual is going on, the abusers can get away with it. Many states have laws that if a girl is stat raped, the man won't be prosecuted if her parents consent to a marriage. So you'll see a 12 year old girl, she gets pregnant, the father of the baby is 20, they get married, no jail time. Edit: the age is 15. The case with the 12 year old I was thinking about, the husband still had to do jail time. I'll try to find i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:05 PM
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The fact that they looked and acted like that most likely means they were being abused and/or neglected at home. Those men probably didn't even treat them well, but better than abuse is "well," if it's all you've known... Same parents would probably kick them out if they got pregnant, though they never loved or educated them enough to prevent it happening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:01 PM
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Even 22 and 25. One just finished college, and the other's been in the real world for THREE years (assuming they're college educated. If they're both not, that kind of evens the playing field).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:57 PM
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I think universally, it's 30. 25, your brain has just finished developing, and you're still having formative experiences. I watch 90 Day Fiancé and my theory hasn't been incorrect yet. All the women under 30 will accept any kind of bullshit treatment, whereas the 30 and over are more likely to tell people they don't care what they think and to go fuck themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:55 PM
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The point at which women become universally undesirable to men. Either 25 or 30 years of age, depending on how much of a pedo the incel is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:53 PM
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My next door neighbor was 12 dating a 17 year old. They broke up two years later when he went to the Army and accused her of cheating on him while he was in basic. She assured me they didn't have sex (strict parents, Christian upbringing) but I never could quite believe it. Meanwhile he went to my school, bc she was in middle school, and he was a huge immature fucking loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:52 PM
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This has been covered pretty well, but I'd like to add some alternative views. I think one reason that teen girls are made fun of because they're harsh. I think it's a good thing. They'll call out and make fun of gross and creepy guys. They know they're desirable, but they have their whole lives ahead of them, and are usually not interested in the grown men lusting after them, and also don't care about any negative opinions men might have about their interests. They're carefree and light and unp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:33 AM
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I just read this today, and it made me want to cry: https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/comments/kw3m34/update_to_this_isnt_normal/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:52 AM
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"wretch" lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:38 PM
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Because it can't be proved, and even if it could, it's not applicable to human relationships today.
/r/ExRedPill12/01/21 02:36 AM
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We actually met on Reddit, did voice chats, then video chats, then met in person. It was actually just sheer luck. We never ran out of things to talk about, and always wanted to be talking to each other. I met ex-guy on Hinge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:23 AM
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I feel like women want men so they can build a stable life together. Men want women so they'll do things for them and make their lives easier and more comfortable. My husband is not like this, and hands down the best man I've met, including my own dad and every other dude in my family. It's like a sleepover with my bff every night. We share chores. I met him when I was 32, and it wouldn't have happened if I hadn't given up on a relationship with a NVM much sooner than I usually would have. Alone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:02 PM
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I'll be honest: it starts in the home. You let your man disrespect you, the kids start doing it too, and grow up thinking it's natural. I've seen it IRL, in r/breakingmom, and those old Supernanny shows. Boys calling their moms fat and stupid, bc Dad does, and the woman, completely broken, just sobbing. Disgusting. My sister-in-law has three sons and the thought of her tolerating that makes me actually laugh out loud, but not all women are raised to be strong, or achieve it individually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:45 PM
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I was on some sub, I think it was r/seduction, and some guy was asking advice about what women like. A woman responded, and got piled on, bc men "shouldn't listen to what women say they want, bc women don't know what they want." Another dumbass replied "if you wanna catch fish, you don't ask fish, you ask a guy that's caught a lot of fish." So fucking cringe you don't even wanna help them out. All they care about is getting laid, not relationships or anything substantial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:57 PM
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And that's why he's married. Some queen was like "this man high values" and held on to him. He probably does stuff like that for his wife all the time. And I'm sure she deserves it. Good for them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:24 PM
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All women aren't submissive. Some are. But men who say women should be submissive or seek out submissive women seem weak to me. It's seems like wanting to be the MVP on a weak team vs being an equal contributor on a decent team where everyone is more or less equally talented, or talented in different ways. Like they can't handle a woman who speaks her mind, makes her needs known and won't be walked over, or has her own income, education, and social life, because it threatens them. It's kind of c…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/21 01:08 AM
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BABE THIS IS SO ACCURATE. My ex tried that with me, before we were official. He resented that I was dating other people, and announced "I'm going on a date with a 23 year old." He was 30 and I was 31. I was like "okay, so...?" but he had no response. He had nothing except a receding hairline, a beer belly, and the audacity. He really forgot himself for a moment but he remembered quick lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:47 PM
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Good post and comments! I just have to add, things just FEEL EASIER with my partner. Even if he's not helping me or it's something I can do on my own, it's nice to have a second set of eyes, another opinion if something comes up, like a safety net almost
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 01:47 AM
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I agree with most of the points. If you ask someone out on a date, you should show effort, plan something nice, and don't be afraid to spend money. I do agree that a lot of the date advice comes as a reaction to red pill or mras saying not to spend money on women bc they're gold digging whores etc so maybe it's a way to weed out those types. Like I said, I don't agree with all the philosophy, and I'm now married, but I sometimes went on cheap dates. If the company is good, the money doesn't matt…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/20 04:00 AM
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Where's the political part?
/r/ExRedPill28/12/20 03:50 AM
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That has nothing to do with feminism. Oversexualization of black men, at least in the US, has been going on since slavery, at least. It's racism that makes you feel uncomfortable, that paints you as a predator because of your race. It's true that men too often abuse and hurt women. This is not the fault of feminism. It's just the truth. It's probably less prevalent now BECAUSE of feminism. You shouldn't feel guilty or responsible for it, but you should be mindful that lots of women are uncomfort…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/20 11:28 PM
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I happen to disagree. The core beliefs are not similar at all. I think some people think so because the most vocal minorities of each group tend to be more extreme, thus they sound similar. FDS emphasizes getting with a man who can take care of himself financially (not necessarily "rich"), but also can cook and clean for himself, and is mentally sound. Basically, not someone who needs "completing" or mothering. That's why the woman also needs to make her own money and be independent, so that two…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/20 11:10 PM
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I personally don't agree. FDS teaches how to avoid certain types of men, and being happily single until you find a "high value" male. It is very against the patriarchy and settling. It also teaches a lot about breaking off relationships early if you're not compatible or treated well. Like any community, there are toxic people, and things I don't agree with, but they are not at all equivalent. The red pill is basically a game that is used to trick women into having sex. It's half a step up from M…
/r/ExRedPill27/12/20 08:48 PM
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Aww you dated my ex 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:55 AM
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My ex used this line. He made good money, but it was a pandemic. He paid more often when we ordered in, but I did his shopping and most of the cooking. He'd argue "I paid you back!" for the groceries that went in his house lmao. Who's the one who bought thoughtful "just because" presents? Me, not him. He accused me of leeching off him bc we were always at his "bigger, nicer" place but he was too lazy to come over to mine, and he was "allergic" to my cats. I got sick of his shit real fast and it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:13 AM
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Translation: GIVE ME WHAT I WANT OR YOU'RE USELESS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:49 PM
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Say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now," or "I'm also dating other people" and watch the LVM lose his mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:13 PM
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And women. Redditors love to talk shit about FDS and are even trying to get it condemned as a hate sub ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:08 PM
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Well, that, and taking advantage of them as most of them are drunk or on drugs. Either that or plying them with alcohol and drugs and THEN getting their "consent."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:06 PM
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I think it's just a societal thing. Expecting the man to be more experienced, more sexual, take the lead, etc. But when I lost my virginity, the guy was a little freaked out just bc he didn't know beforehand. I think people would consciously prefer to engage differently with someone who is a virgin, more gentle, considerate, just to try to make sure it's a special experience, or at least not scary.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/20 10:43 PM
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I used to be into it, but I guess in a very mild way. It was lame bc they (doms) always wanted to push limits even when I was explicit. It actually just pissed me off. My current relationship has no aspects of BDSM at all and I don't miss it. I also didn't really enjoy being a dom either. Sadism isn't a thing that comes easily to normal people imo, but then again neither does masochism I suppose lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:06 PM
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Okay, good luck with whatever it is you've got going on there
/r/ExRedPill19/12/20 08:32 AM
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Everything you found "right" in the red pill is also wrong. Men should champion men's issues, as women do for women's issues. Tons of feminists fight for men's issues, but it's not appreciated, or issues are considered "women's issues" bc they affect women MORE, like sexual assault, rape, etc. You won't find feminists condoning abuse or rape against men. Feminists are people. Just because someone wants equal opportunities and advantages between sexes doesn't mean they're totally free from person…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/20 09:58 PM
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People are also ignoring the safety issue. It's much better to deal with having to go without sex for longer than you prefer, than being constantly worried about sexual assault, rape, and abuse. Partner violence goes both ways, but is common and often deadly for women. It can be scary or even dangerous to reject a man. Then there are also "newer" forms of sexual abuse like drugging, stealthing, and revenge porn. Treating casual sex like it's the end all-be all is at best immature and at worst mi…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/20 09:50 PM
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It sounds like you need therapy. This sounds like a self esteem and racial issue as much as a sexual issue. To your points: yes, I think most women would be uncomfortable taking a man's virginity. I've done it, once, and it was a little scary, but worth it. It helped a bit that I didn't know at first lol. I just read on r/twoxchromosomes or maybe r/datingoverthirty a really touching story about a woman taking her BF's virginity. You will find women willing, it just depends on your relationship a…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/20 06:48 PM
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I followed him for YEARS thinking he was a woman. I was shocked for real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:19 PM
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Boze is actually a man! A straight man! But he's a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:05 AM
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My last one, I said "I'm not happy with you. And I deserve to be happy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:33 PM
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Just chiming in to say your life is just beginning. You can still figure out and choose the type of person you want to be! Nothing is ruined yet. Keep going with your therapy and keep focused on what you want in life.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/20 08:21 AM
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We're also socialized into it. When I left my husband, I struggled with feeling like a failure, like I gave up too soon. I was told by my mom (also divorced) that my expectations were too high, then, if I was really gonna do it, do it quick before I was 30 so I could start over lol. In this day, in the US, there's nothing a man can do for a woman that she can't do for herself, or with another woman. Getting a gun is stupidly easy, sperm is cheap and you can be extremely selective. All my ex husb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:58 AM
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"Close your eyes and think of England" comes to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:49 AM
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I still think it's good advice 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:34 PM
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Several years back, a guy I was talking to said he wanted a wife like Marge. One of the things we'd bonded over was The Simpsons, so he was well aware. We even discussed it but after 5 minutes I was like 😬 he knows exactly what he's saying. He's married now, and ... poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:15 PM
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Yep. I'd rather have a man with a little income who is responsible, mature, and ambitious, than a rich, feckless, stingy one. Captain Wentworth vs Mr. Elliot typa decision. My ideal Austenman is still Henry Tilney though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:09 PM
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An amazing post and a really wholesome sub!
/r/ExRedPill02/12/20 05:45 PM
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I'm not yelling, I'm using a stern tone, like a dog trainer. You don't like it because you're not used to women enforcing boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:35 AM
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My delusional ex told me I didn't have any friends. I told him, I have more friends than you! Which was true, but anyway when I broke up with him it was a total and complete surprise lmao. I didn't even actually break up with him. He had one of his tantrums, broke up with me, and I said "okay," and held him to it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:40 AM
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Legally speaking, you're better off killing the person. Which is awful but that's our broken system for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:58 AM
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Kind of an aside, but choking is the biggest predictor of domestic homicide. If a man chokes a woman, he is likelier to go on to murder her than punching or slapping or other types of abuse. Obviously alcohol use and having a gun in the home are also huge factors for homicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:57 AM
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You don't like watching roided up grown men play fetch and get upset over where a ball lands? Hm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:26 AM
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My husband works full time and I work part time. Due to covid he's on decreased hours (but still full pay, bless) and he won't let me do everything. I did feel like I had to "earn" not working, but he clearly doesn't think so, and I'm really happy about that. I'm still kind of the household manager but he's no slouch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:13 AM
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Opposite for me. I had a single mom who worked and did everything else. When I'm the lone adult, yes, I do everything. If I'm not, why act like I am? It's 2020 we're not muling for men anymore. If your arms aren't broken, you can pick up a broom or a skillet and make yourself useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:09 AM
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Like an MLM. If you don't make money, it's your fault, not the MLM structure or products
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 11:49 PM
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If they walk away, so be it but I've literally never once seen that. Every time I've insisted on a condom, they've used one, so... I know stealthing happens but it hasn't to me, probably bc I project a heavy bitch energy. I will call the cops, right after I beat your ass, motherfucker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:57 PM
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I feel like men have abused that term so much, it shouldn't be allowed to be applied to them. The "logical" and "rational" sex indeed 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:54 PM
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That's a really good thread. A lot of people open up about how their relatives' abusive husbands mysteriously died, all before the 1960s, some as early as the late 1800s. They were something of family legends. ETA someone also posted stats about no-fault divorce correlating with a decline in female suicides, and the presence of battered women shelters correlating with increased divorce rates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:42 AM
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If you're hesitant to put yourself through that, then don't. That doesn't invalidate OP's point. If you don't want to put effort in due to fear of being hurt, don't expect to reap benefits. Nothing is without risk.
/r/seduction24/11/20 11:56 PM
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I would try to find a therapist that will meet online or over the phone. It's definitely more of an option now. To your previous point: what kinds of things do you think we can say to loved ones who start going down the rabbit hole into redpill or mgtow? What will they listen to, and what logic will work? Oh yeah also, please don't feel bad about your post history. Just delete them. It's good to feel that disgust, but you gotta let it go. You're a different person now! You were basically manipul…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 01:51 PM
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A lot of what you say is true, but might be too generous. A lot these men (and I do unfortunately sub the red pill and seduction) seem extremely resistant to advice, especially from women. They want to be accepted just as they are. They don't really want to change. They want tips and tricks. Which is what everyone wants, but mature people know you have to put your best foot forward. They're mostly lazy whiners who actually aren't worthy without the work. Also, women look better without that much…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:40 AM
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S**cide fuel for incels, maybe. They'll never try to better themselves, and the higher women raise their standards, the less likely they are to get laid. Meanwhile, they literally advocate rape, slavery, and pedophilia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:24 AM
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Check out r/seduction. You don't find a shortage of pathetic dudes asking "how do I get a girl that's out of my league?" or "I see guys that are 5/10 with a girl that's 8/10. How do they do it?" Most of the answers are variations of " level up" but the rest are stupid "game" bullshit. But yeah, women are the picky ones. We're just looking for men that shower every couple days, don't cheat or manipulate, listen when we talk, and don't act like they're the only fucking person on earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:23 AM
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I usually don't generalize and I hate when I do, but this post is spot on. I'm just going to add that women are MUCH more likely to be killed by male partners, abused, left when they are sick (there are studies about this), cheated on, and left as single parents than men are by female partners. Once she has children, a woman's earning power decreases or stagnates, while the same isn't true for men. Pregnancy and childbirth are unpleasant, and in some cases debilitating and life threatening. Ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:17 AM
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It's definitely true. I've even been on the other side. This guy just stuck around doing things for me and I wasn't that into him. I kept trying to dump him and he kept begging me back until I finally just had to dump and block him. I was being lazy and low value, it was winter, I didn't want to find anyone to date. I could have just as easily been alone actually. He wanted to stick around even though I showed him I didn't value him. I honestly felt guilty about trying to "break up," (I would ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:38 AM
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I wanna be like "have you met men?!" Any given woman can always find a man interested in her. A quality woman will attract quality men, and if the rest are too intimidated and can't take it, then good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:21 PM
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THAT'S WHAT I DON'T GET! Maybe bc marriage is seen as less necessary? So they'll be with a guy for like 5, 10 years without being married. Shit's crazy. You had all that time to find a man that won't eventually drive you bonkers and got two degrees, to be with ... that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:12 PM
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Yes, definitely! I'm not sure if men feel this way, but I've also felt like every relationship ended was a failure (especially my marriage). I'm too impatient, expectations are too high, I'm too selfish, unrealistic, I'm a quitter, etc. Most of that is internal, but I've definitely gotten the "your expectations are too high" or "men just aren't that smart, they're all like that" speeches. I've been dumped a handful of times and didn't feel that pressure oddly. Like it's a relief almost lol. My l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:08 PM
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My little brother is 20 and hopelessly spoiled. He's super sweet and kind but kind of feckless. I've told my mom since he was 3, he was spoiled but she always said I was "jealous." Now she can't get him to do anything. She almost kicked him out and I offered to take him in. Apparently the threat of living with me was enough to straighten him out for a few months. She says he's "scared" of me but also that he's "always listened to" me. He's not scared of me, we have a great relationship, but he k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:38 PM
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I don't think women are bothered by singleness itself. It's the societal pressure, and lack of other women willing to stay single to preserve their standards. That's why we're upset when our friends settle and are unhappy. We could have been happily single still hanging out, but they don't have time between working, managing a household, doing most of the childcare and housework, and handling his family as well as hers. Before I got married (2nd marriage), my mom was always asking me when I woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:22 PM
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I agree. Men tend to listen to other men, though, so hopefully if guys post things like this, they'll try to emulate it. But some guys see men treating women well, they scream out "simp." It's really toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:05 AM
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There are lots of guys like this! They spell it out and expect us to pity them. I've definitely thought this, but never had the guts to say it to their faces. You're a queen and my hero ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:00 PM
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I wish you could make a career out of this. It sounds like how people deprogram former cult members. A valuable service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:20 PM
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Better not have sex with him, then, in case you accidentally create a life and become unattractive to him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:16 PM
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You left, so I wouldn't be too ashamed! I got married at 25, and when it got really bad, I was like "if I get divorced before I'm 30, I can probably start over" lmao. It was finalized 2 months before my 30th birthday. Real talk, I think women know the probability of finding a good man is pretty low. In my case, I asked myself "can I do this for the rest of my life?" The answer was no. I was mentally and physically a wreck, my eating disorder came back, and I was angry and suicidal. I felt like "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:13 PM
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Yes! And for what?! A life full of frustration? Children? I've known women who have been with the shittiest men and the only thing they don't regret is their kids. Even with the kids, they wish they'd left earlier and realized they were single mothers the whole time anyway. Is this the answer? Children?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:25 PM
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I had a "friend" who told me to get serious with this guy I was dating casually bc he "puts up with" me. He was alright, but sis, I'M the prize. At the time I wasn't ready to settle down and he and I just didn't connect, but he was nice enough. I wouldn't choose him now and I'm glad I didn't then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:21 PM
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Black Dahlia (2006)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:59 AM
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He could be an employee :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:18 AM
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"Nice guys" finish last. Nice guys don't. Help people because you want to, but being a doormat is exhausting and will lead to bitterness. Bitterness and desperation are not attractive, but empathy and confidence are. Be a person who likes to give but knows their worth. It makes me sad when people complain about themselves: they're ugly, out of shape, broke. You still have value as a person, and you're probably bring too harsh on yourself anyway. It's easy to be your own worst critic, but try to …
/r/seduction10/11/20 05:08 PM
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I was saying bull bc not only do I not believe you, I think you're pathetic. Looking for women "out of your league" and insinuating that you can buy them is shallow and sexist and pathetic. Your posting and comment history belie your claims that you're successful with women, and really lead to you looking like a disingenuous braggart. But yeah I'm sure you can throw money around and fake having a personality long enough to fool a college kid into sleeping with you once or twice, if you don't loo…
/r/seduction09/11/20 01:11 AM
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Bull
/r/seduction08/11/20 11:17 AM
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Yep. Side note, I'm not "chocolate," "cinnamon," or "cafe au lait" or any other commodity that can be purchased and consumed. Men need to get it through their heads that women are PEOPLE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:27 PM
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Jordan Peterson. A pseudo-intellectual icon for incels and other maladjusted misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:51 AM
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After my mom married my (ex) stepfather, we had more money and she wanted to start doing annual vacations. He complained so much and made it so unpleasant bc he wasn't the center of attention and couldn't control everything that after two (2) vacations, she started excluding him, and we started going just her, me, and my brother, and tbh had a blast each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:55 PM
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After my mom married my (ex) stepfather, we had more money and she wanted to start doing annual vacations. He complained so much and made it so unpleasant bc he wasn't the center of attention and couldn't control everything that after two (2) vacations, she started excluding him, and we started going just her, me, and my brother, and tbh had a blast each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:54 PM
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After my mom married my (ex) stepfather, we had more money and she wanted to start doing annual vacations. He complained so much and made it so unpleasant bc he wasn't the center of attention and couldn't control everything that after two (2) vacations, she started excluding him, and we started going just her, me, and my brother, and tbh had a blast each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:54 PM
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Omg I just wrote a long ass comment about my ex doing this exact thing, only to scroll down and see that you summed it up so succinctly and beautifully. Reading this article now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:32 PM
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I used to beg my ex to have "serious" conversations and he would put them off and put them off. Obviously I could never talk about my feelings bc I was attacking or blaming him, no matter how gently I put it. When he couldn't justify, even to his rotten brain, accusing me of being harsh, I was expecting too much too fast. Once, finally, we negotiated on a time limit (3-5 minutes) and he timed it religiously, not counting all his stalling, of course. He immediately went back to his video games an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:31 PM
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After #metoo took off all the LVM complained "oh so we can't even talk to women anymore?" That's correct. With that attitude, you're exactly the kind of person we don't want talking to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:56 AM
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I'm not eating a McRib in a Honda til we've been dating a year lmao. Brad is crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:30 AM
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Yeah her comment was about a negative experience that disillusioned her and made her sad. A good lesson and early wake up call at her age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:32 PM
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His guidance??? He can't even put his own dirty boxers in the hamper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:44 PM
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