_incitatus- Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Still in the divorce mess, but doing a little better Thanks man, there was no process, not one that I was conscious of, then it clicked. I sensed my choice was to let go or be destroyed. So I’ll live to fight another day😅 Yeah it would be nice to meet someone calm, but I am in no rush, believe me. I really hope things continue to get better for you. Thank you for the response, I wish you the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/26 09:11 AM
4	Don’t expect the court system to give you emotional justice. I’m focused on the settlement. Luckily, my child isn’t influenced by the all the gaslighting and drama my ex loves to invent.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 02:04 PM
3	Still in the divorce mess, but doing a little better I’m glad you’re doing better. I almost didn’t make it but I enjoy seeing my daughter and I have reinvigorated my career. I entertain the thought of meeting someone one day. (Preferably someone who doesn’t have NPD) The turning point which substantially ended my distress was when I let go. I just let go and perceived some of the benefits of being single.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 01:59 PM
1	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. That is exactly what happened to me. You are very very perceptive. In my case the ex has extreme NPD and I worshipped her because of my history of complex PTSD. She casually threw me away like a piece of trash one day and I tried to kill myself. But 7 months later I realised I’m free and it’s beautiful. I’m moving back to the city, my daughter and I have a tight bond, and my career is improving drastically. Maybe one day I’ll meet a woman who actually has empathy and a conscience. Someone kind. …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 07:03 PM
1	This is just brutal, getting divorced in a few weeks. I have this issue with my ex. She gives such a flawless performance of being a beautiful good person no one realises I was the only one for whom she would take off her narcissistic mask to torment.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/25 05:51 PM
4	Do women really miss their ex? Mine calls when she can’t get onto her other friends, when she’s a couple of wines in, or when she realises how much I used to do and she feels overwhelmed. I’m courteous for our child’s sake but I’m silencing her calls more and more often. It seems a little pathetic to me, almost like she wants me to encourage her to enjoy the life she expelled me from. I have my own plans.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/25 12:06 PM
2	Just checking in, how's everyone's mental health? Thank you, yeah a major part of my strategy is to start fresh, new memories, new habits - well said. I don’t want to take anything from the past with me except for my daughter. I never liked living coastal, the city has all the opportunities my daughter is interested in and it will be great for my work too. I hope you enjoy your move here, there are a lot of good things about Australia, beautiful vast environment, everyone equal, people like a laugh with a bit of irony. Australia is getting a bi…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/25 02:03 PM
2	Just checking in, how's everyone's mental health? Thanks mate, hope you’re doing okay too	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/25 09:48 AM
10	Just checking in, how's everyone's mental health? Had a suicide attempt 7 months ago, after she left- now experiencing unexpected success in my career- probably because I’m far more invested in it. Have a good bond with my daughter which helps. I’m moving back to the city which is something I’ve always wanted to do. So yeah - in one year I have gone from absolute desolation to having a measure of hope. Still have very sad days but I have a reason to get up in the morning thank God.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/25 02:25 AM
6	If given the chance to travel back in time, what qualities would you look for in a partner? A woman who doesn’t have narcissistic personality disorder.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/11/25 05:11 PM