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I will check it out. I’m not so sure how I feel about Laura Doyle. I tried following her method years ago but things didn’t seem to change much and I felt drained. It was like I was the one solely responsible for putting in the work. I felt very invalidated in the things he was doing to contribute to the failure of the relationship. My husband also gets frustrated when I try to treat him as the captain. He wants to be more equal. Idk I’ll check the podcast out. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 02:55 AM
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My college professor just had a healthy baby. I’m guessing she’s in her 40s.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 08:30 PM
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I love Peterson’s work. His book 12 rules of life is gold.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 08:38 PM
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In the words of Jordan Peterson, don’t compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. Edit spelling
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 03:34 PM
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You’ll make yourself crazy by comparing yourself to others all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 03:30 PM
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Yea it isn’t a surprise to me lol. I don’t really push for it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 03:18 PM
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Thanks! I’ve never criticized him though. The only time I’ve said anything was when he voiced that he was frustrated because he was trying to help me solve my problems. I explained that sometimes I’m just going to feel like shit, and that’s ok, I just need him to be there to listen.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 03:15 PM
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My depression unfortunately is a turn off for him sexually 😭
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 02:44 PM
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Yea, he usually tries to offer solutions to help “fix” the problem. I’ve told him that I just need him to be there with me rather than offer advice.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 02:44 PM
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This sounds like a very thoughtful and well planned idea. I think he will love it! Way to take care of your man.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 04:25 PM
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I think a gift card is great if you include a thoughtful well-written card to go along with it.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 02:27 PM
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My now husband said something similar to me at the beginning of our relationship, along the lines of how I made him feel loved like no one else. RPW theory works! So happy for you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 08:55 PM
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ASMR helps me relax/sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 06:51 PM
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Yea, they lost me there
/r/AntiFeminists01/11/21 10:42 PM
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This! If I married the type of guy I was into at that age I’d be divorced by now haha
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 04:46 PM
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You don’t always need to be nice. Nice does not equal good. It is SO important to be assertive and stern. Don’t let anyone walk all over you. A lot of the time, men who won’t take no for an answer and keep pressing end up being abusive/controlling. Run and don’t look back.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 07:55 PM
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Oh man I wish I had advice for you lol. I once saw a therapist who, whenever I tried talking about relationship set backs my now husband (then LTR), would go on and on and on about how men are nothing without women, women run the world, blah blah blah. It was so cringey.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:46 PM
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This. The ways and amount that I have changed since 15 is unmeasurable. I didn’t really level out and fall into my “true form” for lack of better word, until around age 24. It’s awesome, encouraged, and totally healthy to have goals, but you have no idea where you’ll end up down the road.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 06:34 PM
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I don’t care about sexual appeal. In my experience/observations, a man who goes after a much younger woman is not HV.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 06:09 PM
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Calm down friend
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 03:53 PM
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I’m against big age gaps 99% of the time. Gotta consider his maturity level. A lot of the time, older men go after younger women because they are more willing to put up with his shit and are easier to manipulate due to less life experience. Why did his previous marriage end? Has he dated women his own age? Why can’t he find someone his own age?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 03:36 PM
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Omg girl no he is not red pilled.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 10:35 PM
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I would bet my life savings that if you go back the abuse will get worse. You would be showing him that he can get away with how he has treated you in the past, thus will push even further. This is not going to go well. Things will not improve. You are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 10:33 PM
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I think it’s also about how you carry yourself. In my experience/based on my observations, people are usually more confident when more in shape. Thus they walk with shoulders up and smiling, are more friendly and non-judgmental, and overall have a better vibe. A healthy body begets a healthy happier mind. Edited grammar
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/21 06:02 PM
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Considering your posts on other subreddits, I have a hard time believing that this isn’t a problem. Trying to suggest to someone else to jump on that train with you shows your insecurities. I’ve been in your shoes before. You need to accept him for him or you guys will crash and burn. Not trying to sound mean, it’s just an observation based on your profile, my personal experiences, and watching my brother who is stuck in a similar mindset. I highly recommend therapy for self confidence. Health a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 02:59 PM
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I’m 4’11 and vary between 120-125. According to BMI, I am overweight. However, I’m definitely not lol. I actually feel really uncomfortable and unhealthy when I’m any smaller than like 118.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 02:04 PM
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Wtf absolutely not. I’m sorry but this is awful advice. My husband (boyfriend at the time) was just lazy as fuck with a low libido. If he was like that, I’m sure other men are too. It could also be a health issue. Edit: just saw you said he has a porn problem. That’s probably your problem lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 08:29 PM
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I had a very similar issue and felt very similar to what you are describing. I also did just what you did, I kept my mouth shut and repressed my feelings. Girl let me tell you, it doesn’t work for soooo many reasons lol. I kept telling myself that I could live like that, but I was just in denial. I grew very unhappy and was totally ignoring my needs. Him promising sex and then not following through is disrespectful to you. It took my therapist telling me that for me to realize how fucked up it w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 08:25 PM
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Well said
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 09:27 PM
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From what I’ve read and your comments on this post, it kind of seems like you are making excuses/trying to justify what he’s been saying and doing. As someone who was once a chronic “situationship” victim, it really seems like this is the direction you’re heading in. If he was truly interested in a relationship, it wouldn’t be this unclear. I think you have every right to ask about his expectations for the two of you. His vague responses SCREAM situationship, like total textbook.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 05:09 PM
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He sounds like a worse version of my brother. It’s probably just going to escalate overtime.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 02:30 PM
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Any specific recommendations? I’m trying to get more into Peterson.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 09:51 PM
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It looks like you do know. Trust your gut.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 02:56 AM
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I met my fiancé on tinder. We went bar hopping for our first date.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 05:09 PM
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Definitely troll
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 11:51 AM
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Troll
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 11:50 AM
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If he’s truly interested, he’ll figure some arrangement out. I’m implying that someone who leaves you hanging/doesn’t initiate is probably not the person to pursue.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 11:25 PM
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If he likes you and wants to spend time with you, he will put in effort to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 07:59 PM
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Yea, I’m not really one for unsolicited advice. She did ask how to find a good man once, and I gave pretty basic suggestions like using gut feelings and logic to keep a look out for and not ignore red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 02:33 PM
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I don’t talk about it with my best friend, but if I did she would think I was crazy. It’s sad because I’m about to get engaged to an amazing HVM while she is an active plate. She’s one of those who thinks all men are evil because of her experience with dating awful people. Hurts me to see her do this to herself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 05:13 PM
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I met mine on tinder too :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 06:33 PM
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I feel that. I could NEVER date someone with a diagnosed but untreated mental illness.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 07:13 PM
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What’s your beef with adhd?
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 06:37 PM
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He is kind and patient. He actually made an effort to talk to me and never left me hanging/waiting and wondering during our early dating days. He is smart and self sufficient, always motivated to try and fix things himself before going off and hiring someone to do it. He has great parents and a fantastic relationship with his mom. He tells his family he loves them often. One of the biggest turn ons was how he loved and treated his dog. It was obvious that he will be a great father.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 04:28 PM
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Yea I had a feeling this post was bait
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 04:40 PM
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I’m curious as to why you posted this in this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 04:36 PM
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Was going to say the same exact thing as
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 03:37 AM
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WAP is fucking vile
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 07:39 PM
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Lana Del Rey’s new album is pure gold. A lot of her music has “helpless fragile woman” like themes (which personally, I also love), but this one isn’t like that. It gives me some super nostalgic vibes. Fleet Foxes is also super pleasant to have on in the background while I’m doing things :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 07:37 PM
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Lot of assumptions to make based on one single post. You know nothing about the inter workings of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 04:19 PM
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Lagomorphs*
/r/FeminismStopsWhen06/04/21 11:11 PM
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They are watering down the meaning of the word “rape” just like they did with “racism”. Sad.
/r/FeminismStopsWhen03/04/21 07:18 PM
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Haha I’m glad he finds me sexy so it’s not the worst reason... 😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 07:49 PM
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Haha I can’t really think off the top of my head, but stuff like: “because of your rockin tits”, “because you drag your own deer out of the woods” (we’re both hunters), or just basic “because I just do”
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 03:23 PM
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Unfortunately he never takes the question seriously and says stupid shit
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 03:04 PM
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Praying for you and your family
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 02:43 PM
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Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Not necessarily on redpill specifically but a lot of good info to help make relationships prosperous:)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 06:03 PM
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My boyfriend and I are going to an indoor archery range. He’s going to teach me to shoot. I’m sooo excited!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 11:55 PM
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I’m Ok, You’re Ok by Thomas Harris. My psychiatrist recommended it to me. Changed my life. My inner child feels validated and comforted, which we all have. I highly recommend the book.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 01:08 PM
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No problem :)
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 02:16 PM
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I’m always very skeptical about age gaps. Lots of room for manipulation. Especially saying he can’t promise he won’t do coke, that should tell you everything you need to know. Can you picture yourself 10 years from now scrambling to bail your husband out of jail because of drugs? If/when the relationship falls to shit, can’t blame him... he was honest from the beginning. Edited for detail and clarity Edit: despite my username, I am actually a woman. I keep forgetting to post on this sub from my …
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 12:29 AM
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Congratulations!!!!!!! Facebook and Instagram keep advertising engagement rings and wedding dresses to me. It’s KILLING me haha. Just waiting on that proposal...
/r/RedPillWives17/01/21 01:48 AM
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It just came up naturally. His roommate is also bipolar so when he was talking about it one day I kind of just joined in on the convo. I don’t remember exactly how long it took, maybe two months? It was before we were an official couple during the vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 02:45 PM
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I have bipolar disorder also and am in a great marriage bound relationship. It is definitely possible if you take good care of yourself and follow through with treatment.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 04:43 AM
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Yea not to be harsh but two years and no commitment??? That definitely sounds like a plate to me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 08:10 PM
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I’d love to know too, I’ve been struggling lately.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 07:38 PM
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We don’t do Christmas gifts for each other, but his birthday is coming up. I got him a big poster of all birds in North America drawn to scale and mounted on a board. We both study wildlife biology and he has gotten really into birding this past year. I’m so excited to give it to him! Edited for clarity
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 10:27 PM
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I said it first after about two months of being official, so that would be about 4-5ish months of knowing each other total. I waited until I was sure I wanted to say it. We were FaceTiming (it was an LDR at first) and I said it before hanging up. He paused for a moment and then said it back in the sweetest way. We’ve been together for almost 2 years now. I asked him awhile ago what his initial reaction was when I said it. He said it seemed really soon and he wasn’t expecting it, but after thinki…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 08:43 PM
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Oh man... the struggle is so real, especially now that it is getting colder outside and I have my love cuddled next to me all nice and warm. My mom has a coffee maker that she has timed to start up at a certain time. I haven’t tried this yet (and I should), but I think the smell of fresh brewing coffee might help. Also, waking up early even on your days off helps your body fall into a routine. I should NOT be trying to give advice on this because I suuuuck at getting up early too haha
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:42 PM
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The energy that you put out into the world attracts a certain type of person. If you want to find a worthy partner, you should drop the “all men bad” mindset. My best friend is like this and I really wish I could make her realize that she is her own worst enemy here. I too was stuck in a negative pattern of only finding myself with bad guys. I only ever went after emotionally unavailable men, slept around a lot, let myself be a plate for attention, and was constantly heartbroken. When I really t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:24 PM
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And you wonder why you are single....
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:17 PM
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My baby fever has waxed and waned overtime. Now that I am in a serious LTR, it has come full force haha. We want to wait until after we graduate and find stable jobs, so I probably won’t be having any until I’m in my early 30s
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 03:18 PM
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I never got into wearing makeup. I went through a very brief phase in high school, but I really don’t like it. I make sure to take good care of my skin (but I’m also blessed with good skin genetics), always make sure my eyebrows are groomed and upper lip hair removed, and keep my hair looking nice. Doing all of the above, I’ve never had any issues looking unpresentable.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 07:01 PM
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I am in the process of getting my CPL. It’s more empowering than “feminism” ever was.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 03:10 AM
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I would make an awful wife and mother if I don’t take my bipolar meds. In my opinion, you would be a failure if you neglected your mental health. Maintaining treatment and taking care of yourself is a very brave and strong thing to do. Is a diabetic a failure for taking insulin?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 06:05 PM
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I think the first step to working on emotional dependence is dumping a guy whose flakiness will trigger you. In my experience, guys who say they “go with the flow” are screaming “I have commitment issues/I only want you around on my terms”. Edit to add: I get the pain and heartache with break ups, they suck...but it will hurt even more if you let this go on
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 06:52 PM
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Grateful for my man, who offers to go out and buy me ice cream while I lay in bed with horrible cramps
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 05:23 PM
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This. My dad had $6000 in cash stolen from his house. It was hidden and locked away but they still found it somehow. Edit to add: and he lived in a really nice/crime free neighborhood too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 01:42 PM
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Yes I agree. I am a woman with no hopes of making like minded girl friends. We’re out there though.
/r/AntiFeminists24/05/20 06:23 PM
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All of my friends are liberal BP feminists. Some know my beliefs, some don’t. I just don’t talk about my beliefs ever and don’t engage conversations about theirs. I just stay completely neutral or subtly try and change the subject. I have one friend who I know won’t hate on me if I bring up an opposing view, but that takes a lot of trust. I learned to accept my friends regardless of opinions, and it has worked out well for me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 06:34 PM
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This is so beautiful and insightful. I was also a plate, but when I met my bf I knew he was the one. I don’t know what it was, I just KNEW. I see so much of myself in this post. My life and mental health improved 100% after taking the RP. I LITERALLY have never been happier/felt more complete. It makes me sad for some of my closest friends, who are so deep into the feminist rabbit hole and wonder why they can’t find healthy relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 03:08 PM
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We’re both students, so we’re still very busy. We have two other roommates, one of them is your stereotypical bad roommate, so tension has been high. We promised each other that we wouldn’t take our frustrations out on each other. That helped a lot. It was a good reminder for both of us that we’re on the same team. I’m so grateful I have him through this awful situation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 11:03 PM
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My best friend since high school is very much a feminist, we just have a mutual agreement not to talk about politics. Even when we slip up and a political topic comes up, we’re pretty good at staying civil for the sake of our relationship. I’m pretty lucky in that sense. I have had other friends totally turn on me. One girl verbally abused and bullied me on Twitter for a few days. It was pathetic.
/r/AntiFeminists21/03/20 05:44 PM
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That’s what I’ve heard too. I wonder why.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/20 08:43 PM
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I moved in my boyfriend after 8 months. We’ve been together for a yea now and are extremely happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 02:32 AM
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When I used a dating app, I wouldn’t even give them my phone number until after we met in person. I restricted contact to the app’s messenger only.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 05:04 PM
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He is a great listener. He’s someone that his friends feel comfortable opening up to and that makes me so proud. Also, it seems kind of small, but the way he cares for his dog (he had her before he met me) shows me how great of a father he will be. I feel safe and very well taken care of. I look forward to starting a family with him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/20 05:54 PM
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That’s really awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/20 03:37 AM
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Someone drowning in 6ft of water is just as dead as someone drowning in 20ft of water. Don’t compare your struggles with others people’s, no matter how better or worse they may sound. Your’s are just as valid. Depression is a serious condition and you are grieving a loss. You’ve definitely got a lot going on. It’s really good that you are actively working on yourself! I think one of the best ways to improve self esteem is eating well and exercise. Feeling and looking healthier will definitely sh…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/20 02:32 AM
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I think the key to encouraging anyone (not just your man) to open up to you is by being vulnerable and opening up to them first. Also, showing signs of being an active listener who won’t just jump straight to giving advice. Validation is key!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 01:02 AM
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We’ve been really into chicken thighs lately. They’re super easy and delicious. I put them in a ziplock with bbq sauce, teriyaki marinade, a little olive oil, salt, pepper, and a sprinkle of rosemary. Shake that around and lightly massage the chicken. You can let them sit in the bag for awhile or just bake them right away. I put them in a glass baking pan for 30-35 minutes (or until they reach an internal temp of 165) at 400 degrees F, and then broil them for another 5 minutes to get the skin ni…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 06:51 PM
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Again, another situation I’ve been in. I had two guys that I was interested in. The one that didn’t give me the time of day was the one I wanted more. I realized I felt like some sort of an internal push away from the one who treated me like he wanted me. It took some serious self reflection to realize my pattern of getting involved with men who clearly had no interest. Thankfully, I was able to break this habit and slowly built a relationship with the guy I felt like pushing away. Here we are o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 05:21 PM
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When I was in a very similar situation, it took me about a year
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 04:57 PM
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I’ve been in your shoes so many times. So. Many. Times. I think you are letting yourself get played. If he cared and wanted to see you, he would make an effort. ESPECIALLYYYYY after months of communication. You need to know what you are worth. You are putting so much of your mental and emotional energy on a guy that doesn’t see you the way you see him. He even was straight up about the type of relationship he wanted. If you keep going at this guy with the mindset that you will change him, you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 03:38 PM
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Awww I love reading things like this 😍
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 03:00 PM
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I recommend using 3/4 cups of rice instead of 1/2. Makes it more filling in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 03:39 PM
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I’ve been having sooo much fun with my slow cooker lately! Our favorite recipe so far is chicken lemon rice soup. It’s healthy despite being super rich! https://flavorthemoments.com/slow-cooker-greek-lemon-chicken-soup-avgolemono/
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 11:57 PM
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Haha
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 12:23 AM
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According to the first BMI calculator I found online, he is obese class 1. I wouldn’t label him as obese though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 11:30 PM
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It sounds like your gut instinct is already telling you what to do. Dump him. There are better men in this world.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 06:54 PM
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My boyfriend. The love of my life. Among dealing with lifelong depression and anxiety from bipolar disorder, he makes my life worth living.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:30 PM
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I think the intimacy is the main thing
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 02:20 AM
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I want it every other day, skipping a day or two in between sometimes. He is more like an every few days with the occasional two days in a row. Other than this, our relationship is great. We have similar beliefs and goals for our future.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 03:16 PM
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😆
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 10:49 PM
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PC babies doing what they do best
/r/AntiFeminists16/11/19 01:33 AM
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