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7	(24M) Had a go at cold approaching women at a party and was pleasantly surprised! Confused by the difference in reactions though....	Removed: Specific Situation / post on r/askseddit	_myvanitythrowaway_	/r/seduction	20/04/21 02:07 AM
4	(23M) High SMV but women aren't putting in effort, why might this be and what can I do about it?	Conversation	_myvanitythrowaway_	/r/seduction	04/09/20 02:57 PM
3	In the early stages if a woman is keen on meeting up but is unable/unwilling to commit to a set time, am I supposed to leave the ball in her court or should I reinitiate at a later time?	Outer Game	_myvanitythrowaway_	/r/seduction	03/04/21 01:14 AM
2	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations?	Fundamentals	_myvanitythrowaway_	/r/seduction	20/02/21 05:23 AM

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2	Are we as men working too hard to get women? See for me, the biggest issue isn't so much the work itself but the repetition of work for red herrings. E.g. I generally have a good experience on dating apps in terms of reply rate, initial engagement etc and usually have multiple active leads going at once (at least initially) However, they disappear out of nowhere and so all the work that went into getting to that further stage was for naught. Having this experience multiplied over and over is what is the exhausting part for me	/r/seduction	16/06/22 03:13 AM
8	Are we as men working too hard to get women? In my experience, simply treating women with respect and socializing with women as friends is all that is necessary to find many good connections. I do this but women don't really seem to care.	/r/seduction	16/06/22 03:09 AM
2	How do I a 23m hook up with older women? Only thing is, that age range needs to also include your age in their range. Problem is, I've found they aren't looking for my age (25) in their range	/r/seduction	15/06/22 12:39 PM
14	Witnessed a successful approach They're saying women are far more selective of who they deem worthy of approaching	/r/seduction	26/08/21 10:06 PM
5	[deleted by user] Who is telling guys that their dick is attractive? How do they get this in their head? If you have a top 5% body and take a pic with your whole body and your dick is in it, then a gal may like it. Not sure if it's because I include my body with the first dick pic I send (after sexual talk starts to escalate) but I almost always get a very positive reaction. Pictures of just my dick get a positive response too, more so if I've done the body + dick pic first. Angles matter a lot too.	/r/seduction	26/08/21 03:30 AM
1	Lessons from 15 years of learning seduction: How to be attractive. Excellent post, thank for this! Very insightful! A question I have is about your last post about goals. What if you have no clearly defined goal in terms of dating life/sex life/etc? For me, I would say a relationship with the right woman would be it but I seem to have trouble finding that particular kind of woman and so am perfectly content to have casual sex etc in the meantime. Given you say "if you are not completely clear and congruent with what you want, then you will always end up in an u…	/r/seduction	19/08/21 12:26 AM
0	Girls won’t meet up again after sex I’ve NEVER heard of a woman not being willing to see a man again after having good sex with him. I've had this happen a few times. e.g. Slept with a girl, made her cum multiple times (she told me so unprompted). She hinted at perhaps wanting to be FWB, I was receptive. Never heard from her again. Don't understand the logic there at all.	/r/seduction	08/08/21 09:59 AM
0	Girls won’t meet up again after sex so if he refuses to accept any criticism and say none of that is the problem it must be something he can’t change and that’s the only thing I can come up with There's a difference between refusing criticism and being able to definitely refute particular points for certain though (e.g. I think he would remember brushing teeth and showering haha). My experience has been very similar to the OP, and I'm about 5 inches taller than he is. So I can say that in my case, it's not height, appearance, hygi…	/r/seduction	08/08/21 09:57 AM
2	Girls won’t meet up again after sex Did u eat them out until they came? Then f’d again until that happened at least twice? That usually gets callbacks. I've had girls who I've done exactly that with. Made them cum multiple times (they told me so unprompted). They hinted at perhaps wanting to be FWB, I was receptive. Never heard from them again. Makes no sense lmao	/r/seduction	08/08/21 09:54 AM
2	Girls won’t meet up again after sex I have some pretty heavy ADHD with possible autism and it makes connecting with people very hard, both on my side and on their side. Not OP, but I'm similarly ASD/ADD like you. Did you ever have times where you felt the connection on your end but they didn't on theirs? I find that happens to me a lot.	/r/seduction	08/08/21 09:48 AM
1	Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intention I absolutely agree with this. I have no issues approaching women at all, I just need a reason (or intention) to do so. How do you find that intention, especially if you don't have a legitimate intention?	/r/seduction	30/07/21 06:25 AM
3	How to have harder and healthier boners? Look into lifestyle factors too. E.g. frequency of jacking off and/or using death grip. E.g. any stresses in your life run. E.g. medications can have an impact on libido, might affect erections if it has an impact on blood flow etc	/r/seduction	29/07/21 06:29 AM
1	Don’t fool yourself— being in shape and having a masculine physical presence is extremely important to consistently attract the most beautiful women While I agree with this, the flip side is that a LOT of women will be intimidated/put off by a man who's in shape and masculine. They'll also stereotype you a lot and avoid you based on that. Women were a lot friendlier to me when I was underweight and less confident.	/r/seduction	26/07/21 09:11 PM
2	How do I fix being socially retarded? For me, I had to develop my social skills from scratch and what really helped me is my go to of "who, what, where, when, why, how?" Anytime a woman mentions something have a who, what, where, when, why, how question in response to that. e.g. "I study x at y campus" Why did you choose that course/campus? What do you have to do in that course? What's the nightlife like at that campus? How do you deal with x in that course/field? Where would you like to go to do x job once you graduate?	/r/seduction	28/05/21 01:48 AM
3	If you struggle with attracting women and/or dating, please read this! Funny you say this, in my experience, I find that the average and below looking girls are less receptive and more standoffish than the attractive girls who are much more receptive and flirtatious. But that's just my experience.	/r/seduction	28/05/21 01:44 AM
1	You attract what you are. Become the type of person that you want to be with. While I agree with the idea behind this, what do you do when you have become the type of person you would want to be with but then are unable to find those qualities in women? I'm 24 for reference.	/r/seduction	28/05/21 01:42 AM
1	Guaranteed way to know if a girl wants to be Approached What do you do when women almost always never hold eye contact and look straight down when you try to make eye contact with them?	/r/seduction	27/05/21 06:01 AM
1	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you find better girls that vibe with you. Plenty out there to meet. Stop seeing problems and think of challenges and opportunities to improve Plenty out there to meet but it's so damn exhausting haha. Like if a brick wall type was the exception rather than the rule that would be one thing but when it's consistent then it gets tiresome and just weighs you down. I just want women my age to talk to me like a normal person at the very least.	/r/seduction	20/04/21 02:29 PM
1	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you So that means the more valuable you become (you get in better shape, you dress sharp in a nice suit, you look handsome af) you're basically dripping with value at that point. For some women, seeing a guy like this they feel they would have to work hard to keep him around, they feel they would be getting themselves in a situation where they can get hurt because "a guy this valuable can't possibly be into me" so what ends up happening is it becomes an ego preservation thing. She basically rejectin…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 02:25 PM
2	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you maybe you're not listening to their signals. But their signals tell me to go away, how can I read it any differently? open with a compliment. When I do this I usually get a flat thanks and/or no effort to continue the conversation (like not even leaving the door open). Talk less about yourself and make it about her. When I do this they either a) Give short sharp responses that don't go into much detail or b) Happily talk about themselves but don't give a fuck about learning about me either.	/r/seduction	20/04/21 11:55 AM
2	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you You just need to develop the charisma and watch your results change. But see here's the thing, I feel I do have charisma I just don't get a chance to show because I get brick walls straight away lol. Like I've been able to have convos for hours with people I just met, so long as they are receptive to me and actually engage in convo.	/r/seduction	20/04/21 08:55 AM
1	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you I'd suggest reading more online and self analysing your approaches, writing down what works and what doesn't and correcting or calibrating your approaches based on that information. The only thing I have is that more attractive women are much more receptive to me than normal looking women who are much more standoffish comparatively. I wonder if it's a perception thing, as I have found out that a reason some girls who were mutual friends who were immediately standoffish to me at a party thought I…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 06:24 AM
1	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you Hmm if you're doing the work yet it still seems like it's not enough, then that may mean that you're average to below average, no offense. I'm not saying this just to be mean but the reason why I say this is because if this is the kind of guy you are, then you're rarely gonna have girls make the effort, reach out to you, or drop hints. See, this makes sense to me but at the same time I get tons of matches on Tinder. This is what I look like, I don't think I'm average/below average but you be the…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 04:10 AM
2	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you What do you do when women never seem to want you though? I mean I have no problems with approaching, flirting with girls but yet they hardly ever engage in conversation, let alone flirt. Never have girls make effort, reach out to me, drop hints etc either	/r/seduction	20/04/21 01:49 AM
2	My game is 10x better with 'ugly' girls. How to apply the same with 'pretty' girls? It's a good theory actually, would have had more experience socialising etc. But even still, if a super hot girl came up to me, I would be overjoyed! Even though I'd know she was out of my league and would be a bit intimidated I wouldn't just brick wall her lol	/r/askTRP	16/04/21 05:10 AM
2	My game is 10x better with 'ugly' girls. How to apply the same with 'pretty' girls? Funny you say this, I have the opposite problem. Average and below girls act like a complete brick wall whenever I go talk to them but yet more attractive girls will actually engage me in conversation and actually FLIRT. It's a complete mindfuck to me, anyone know what this means?	/r/askTRP	16/04/21 03:55 AM
1	In the early stages if a woman is keen on meeting up but is unable/unwilling to commit to a set time, am I supposed to leave the ball in her court or should I reinitiate at a later time? Most chicks that do this I leave them on read. Exactly what I do too. Watch they message you again in a month if you do that. This never happens in my experience. They just never speak to me again.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:48 PM
1	The keys that made me get positive results almost every interaction. Do all of these things and yet women my age are quite standoffish and don't engage in conversation at all. What could be causing this? No one else but women my age act like this...	/r/seduction	27/02/21 10:03 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Yes to which? Just women your age?	/r/seduction	24/02/21 05:43 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Do all women act this way towards you or just women close to your age? How old are you btw?	/r/seduction	23/02/21 05:33 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? I'm glad that you can relate to my situation though I apologise for it too haha. How do you deal with this?	/r/seduction	23/02/21 01:37 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? The only common variable in all those settings is you. Absolutely correct, hence my asking. So you are definitely issue, most likely your energy/vibe since colleagues and classmates have a lot of benefit from treating your nicely yet they don't. Male and (older) female colleagues, classmates, and everyone else treat me excellently. Like go out of their way to talk to me. Women my age don't. The burden is usually on me to be the "guide/leader" of the group otherwise they'd just sit there all awkw…	/r/seduction	21/02/21 02:00 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? See I thought that might be the case, hence why I've done some of those how attractive am I posts. I do get a ton of matches and messages and responses on Tinder though. You can have a look on my profile and judge for yourself	/r/seduction	21/02/21 01:55 AM
0	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? I get where you're coming from but it's more along the lines that I myself lose interest in them when they act like this. I feel that my time is valuable so if the vibes are not good, then I cut my losses and walk away. I'm only interested in girls who are interested in me and can show this to some extent. No matter how attractive they are, I lose a ton of interest if they have little charisma and can't even engage in conversation with me. If I'm having to pull teeth to get anywhere I don't find…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 08:32 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Having that abundance mentality of “I’ll try with the next” Good point. How do you manage that in a place where you have to see them again, e.g. uni, the gym, etc?	/r/seduction	20/02/21 07:43 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? I would be tempted to ask even though it’s a vibe killer just so you could get the intel for future conversations. That's exactly it. I want to ask but want to know how to ask in a way that doesn't feel completely awkward and kill the vibe. Any tips for how to achieve that?	/r/seduction	20/02/21 07:27 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Two things about that though. A) it’s female dependent. Right, I don't do this straight away because I never even get that far anyway. We have to be vibing well first before I start with that kind of stuff. It’s been of great help to me to read people and treat them accordingly This is sort of what I've been doing, their vibe tells me fuck off so I cut my convos short and leave. In essence I am treating them accordingly by doing that. But I want to figure out the source of the fuck off vibes and…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 07:14 AM
0	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? I like to have a fun banter energy, you know back and forth witty remarks, teasing, little disqualifiers, all things that seduction recommends, no?	/r/seduction	20/02/21 07:04 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? I meant no offense but I’m curious how you carry yourself around people your age the kind of vibe you give off. None taken. I came here for advice and hard truths not sugarcoating. I have very proud confident body language if that helps? I don't think I change how I act around people, but the reactions I get sure are different. I don’t want to judge you off your vanity profile but many women are turned off by a man who seeks validation. Of course. However as I've said in another comments, I don'…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 06:55 AM
2	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Yeah I just looked at his profile. He looks like a million bucks. Thank you for such a kind compliment, I appreciate it. I don't quite see myself on that high of a pedestal. It’s got to be a shitty personality and the kind of rbf (hate using that term for a man) But how do you define a shitty personality? Based on the reactions of others not just women? Like if it were that bad, surely I would repel everyone not just women my age, no? But no, everyone else is overwhelmingly receptive to me, like…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 06:37 AM
2	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? You probably come off as vain and self absorbed, most women don’t like this. I’m just guessing based on the pictures you’ve posted in other subs. Perhaps, as I do get a lot of stereotypes and assumptions about me but all of those are unwarranted as my real life personality is in no way anything like what I post on here. I never post body pics or even talk about my appearance publicly and/or on social media. Hell I don't talk about myself at all, I try to ask about the other person.	/r/seduction	20/02/21 06:22 AM
2	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? It’s possible but perhaps it’s just that you’re pursuing the wrong type of people. But this happens to me everywhere. Like just a girl my age showing basic friendliness is so rare for me I'm shocked when it happens. Most people’s reaction to someone they find attractive isn’t to be cold to them Exactly. I see it all the time, "if a girl likes you she'll....". All those oblivious guys threads. I never get anything like that because regardless if whether they like me or not they act similar to…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 05:56 AM
1	What can I do to help women be at ease around me when they seem uncomfortable and/or standoffish in conversations? Ah I just added this part in: I consider my personality to be quite friendly and charismatic, so I don't see why women act this way; I don't have any problems with any other demographics being receptive to me for instance. My friends (both male and female) have seen some of the reactions I've gotten and have been dumbfounded. The only thing I can say is that almost everyone, friends, acquaintances, dates, hookups almost all seem to have this perception of me as someone who gets a lot of tail. Ev…	/r/seduction	20/02/21 05:49 AM
1	The number one thing that women are attracted to that no one talks about, and very little guys pay attention to. It’s best to relax and let that guard down so the woman will feel calmer around you. Also be positive and smile ! True, I did find I used to be way more guarded before starting stimulants. However, now I'm way calmer and more relaxed and not guarded at all and women my age still act this way. Like I'll smile and be cheery and say hello etc and they'll still give me go away vibes. How do I know if it's a them thing or a me thing? I notice that more attractive girls are usually more receptive but …	/r/seduction	20/02/21 04:18 AM
2	what is something attractive that women do during conservation (in person)? Have wit, charm, and charisma Be able to talk about a range of topics Take interest in the things that I'm saying and have follow up questions Have passions and ambitions of her own that she can talk about in depth	/r/seduction	20/02/21 04:11 AM
2	The number one thing that women are attracted to that no one talks about, and very little guys pay attention to. A woman needs to feel safe and comfortable with you as a man. If she feels uncomfortable with you your chances of getting with her have sailed. In my experience, this is absolutely 100% correct. How do you establish more comfort with women as I find women my age are almost never comfortable around me? They treat me like a bear, massive shields up, standoffish vibes.	/r/seduction	20/02/21 04:09 AM
1	(23M) High SMV but women aren't putting in effort, why might this be and what can I do about it? If that's the case, you may find better luck on Grinder. Heh, not as in them doing most of the work, taking all the initiative etc. I mean as in a fairer effort ratio. Most of the time it's like 90/10 my effort/hers. I don't like that, feels like pulling teeth and I lose interest as I find them boring/uninterested. Like I'm not even expecting 50/50, even 70/30 would be much better! I like girls who can banter, talk shit, be creative in their responses etc and that doesn't happen in 90/10 effort …	/r/seduction	05/09/20 03:39 AM
1	(23M) High SMV but women aren't putting in effort, why might this be and what can I do about it? If you're hoping a girl will be "fuck yes" about you after seeing you on tinder and sending a few messages back and forth I can see why you're reacting to this. As you're finding out this is not how tinder works. This is not how women on tinder behave. So then, what is the solution here? Spending more time building rapport on say text/insta first? I always heard to keep text/IMs to a minimum and mainly use for setting up something. Which is usually how I play it: Tinder - message - back and fort…	/r/seduction	04/09/20 03:54 PM
2	(23M) High SMV but women aren't putting in effort, why might this be and what can I do about it? Thank you for your insightful comment. I'll address bit by bit: You're playing this game trying to get girls to chase you. Game? What game? Previous girls are not taking an active interest whereas the new girls are. I mean to me, of course I'm going to be more attentive to the one that's doing more. Just pick the girl you like and go on a date with her. To me, I believe in the law of either fuck yes or it's a no. Since the girls are either directly/indirectly (to me at least) being wishy washy t…	/r/seduction	04/09/20 03:30 PM

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