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I agree. I think there are many diseases that could potentially arise from atypical neurological pathways, and different expressions (or suppression) of genes based on what you're exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 11:37 PM
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Yeah this. I remember being dismissed as a "sensitive" frequently throughout school. I'd have really benefited from a diagnosis along with a smaller, less stimulating classroom and occupational therapy as a child. Needless to say, when my daughter started showing similar tendencies, I got her into OT as soon as possible. She still has difficulties but I think she is leagues ahead of where I was at her age. Interestingly, my son probably is ADD/ADHD but is definitely not on the autism spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:54 PM
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The direct deaths are bad enough, but it seems few people are considering the fallout from this virus. It's nasty. Researchers are starting to see what was once considered just a pulmonary disease affect multiple systems in some of the intermediate survivors. Heart, kidneys, liver... the people who survive the acute disease with these repercussions are, through no fault of their own, going to continue to burden our already shaky healthcare system. Sometimes "what doesn't kill you makes you stron…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 03:08 PM
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I appreciate the link, thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 09:56 PM
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I agree, and I didn't mention this in my first comment, but we've gotten just as many "why is she with you?" type comments from men as we have from women. It's pure haterade when someone pulls that crap. They see you're happy, or maybe you have something they think they want, and they don't like it. Neither sex is immune to the crabs in a bucket mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 05:42 PM
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There's a big difference between "he's not my type" and "ewww". The latter sucks, but I think it's more a sign of insecurity in those commenting than anything wrong with the couple they're judging. My husband and I have gotten it numerous times through the years. Yes, this kind of criticism bothered me when I was a teenager. As I've gotten older I've grown to accept people who do this are nosy and miserable. The other side of your question is, yeah, I love seeing other women flirt with him. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 05:33 PM
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Plot twist: no one here has an answer, because they too love playing the victim and bitching about things instead of actively trying to change them. It's all part of the human condition. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 04:07 PM
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Former Medicaid recipient here for reasons 100% out of our control (husband was an under-insured young cancer survivor). I'm really glad for safety nets because he probably would have died if they hadn't been there. I would have been a widow with a small child. I do wonder if the fallout would have been different had he been single and childless though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 03:15 PM
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Right, and in such a situation, I do think the onus is on the woman to not be coy if she is sure she's not interested. Coyness should be reserved for reciprocal flirting. If she says no and he backs off, he's done nothing wrong. If he starts to try to bully her into the answer he wants, that's a pretty flagrant boundary crossing. It's not common for men to do the latter--that is to say, most men are courteous and respectful--but it's not incredibly rare either. Being physically attacked is only …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 03:55 AM
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With the relative humidity here, I'm sure I'd suffocate. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:44 PM
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In the example I gave, I wasn't wearing a stitch of make up and my glasses were on. I was wearing a spaghetti strap tank top and exercise shorts because I had just walked out of the waxing studio. That's pretty close to "just rolled out of bed" for me. The last time I was followed by a strange man in a store (right around the time lock down was declared), I had on zero make up, glasses, plain clothes, and was carrying my preschooler. It doesn't matter how we dress, we get hit on regardless...loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:55 PM
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No, it's not. Asking for help is not creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:24 PM
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It's never creepy or predatory to just ask for directions. If you're asking for directions with an ulterior motive it's gauche at best, but let's not discourage people from seeking help when they need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:12 PM
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Well, it's only one example, but I remember having a guy walk up to me a few months ago and ask for a lighter. I believe I was clipped but courteous (made eye contact, apologized before I said I didn't have one) but at that moment I was somewhat offended he might have thought I was a smoker. I hate cigarettes. Generally speaking, women just aren't open to being approached in public. They're out and focused on running errands. Limited return on any attention is supposed to convey that. In theory …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:05 PM
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The most recent one involved him pinning me against the bed in a spooning position, with one arm wrapped around my arms and torso so I couldn't move and the other hand down low. He was whispering dirty talk in my ear. It's pretty rare for me to have an orgasm while he's penetrating me so that was one big factor. Him restraining me so effortlessly paired with whatever he was saying at the time amped up the sexy boogeyman side of him. And he didn't have to "sell it" because he was also enjoying ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:20 AM
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We had a rumble late last week because the stagnation is driving me nuts. Other than that, we've been fine. Better now because things are moving forward for me again and he has shorter hours due to the stay at home order (essential worker). At night, we put the kids to bed and take a few hours to do some combination of gaming, watching movies or Netflix, and having sex. Standard millenial stuff. We do miss our friends though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 03:57 PM
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Medium sized southern city. Cold approaches are uncommon. Possible factors: it's not received well here, I have a bad case of RBF, I'm rarely out alone, older and uglier than I thought I was, blah blah. What I do notice: eyeballing, excuses to create and extend conversation, to touch (ex. pat on the shoulder or back, any kind of overt brushing up against, hugs are big), occasionally being followed in stores. So mostly soft indicators. I'll be honest, I'd rather have a guy slap my ass in a one-an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 05:53 AM
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Three-way tie between missionary with my legs up over his arms or shoulders, prone, and spooning (especially if sandwiched between him and the back of the sofa).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 05:11 AM
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Not only do I have morals and argue that all humans have a moral compass and the capacity to follow it, this is probably one of the single most insulting concepts the manosphere has carried a torch for IMO. I often feel guilt and shame, you can see this because I'm one of those constant apologizers (working to fix because it's annoying). I don't say "sorry" to avoid conflict, I say it because I acknowledge I might not be taking another's perspective into consideration. Just one concrete example.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:56 PM
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Maslow's hierarchy. A man who is insecure in his own well-being and resources may not be able to look after another's property. I think those who are do or are at least capable of selflessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 06:19 PM
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I was under the impression that a prevailing theory of why monogamy came to pass within the agricultural revolution was due in no small part to the surplus of average men outnumbering and defeating (if necessary) the few genetically gifted men for rights to the group's women. To directly answer your question, it is "moral" because these villages you describe are often extended family groups. Why wouldn't a man want to look out for his cousins or nieces and nephews? They aren't of his direct line…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 01:52 PM
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Well, asking him to take the lead and giving him room to grow and patience with any mistakes made worked for me. I don't know if my guy was ever a "beta simp" though, just a hardcore romantic. The raw material was there to work with. He wanted what I did, I just had to stop creating unnecessary power struggles. ...but I should mention this was only one piece of the puzzle. He had others: changing work positions where he is surrounded by men whose machismo is intense but so is their pride in what…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 02:43 PM
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If I don't know them, I assume they're unmarried. If I do know them, I figure it's none of my business. Neither of us ever take ours off. If we're in a situation where it isn't practical to wear the metal ones, we have some silicone and elastomer stunt rings. Married 13+ years. His grandparents ran a nightclub for quite a while several decades ago, and they said it was disheartening how many wedding bands they found during clean up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 04:11 AM
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I don't disagree with you and do try to acquiesce to my husband's needs, within reason. Even if I'm not super into it in the beginning, I don't find myself ever regretting it. I'm sure it helps he is very giving and always gung-ho about getting me off too, and understanding during our health-related dry spells. If he rubs my back and holds me while I'm having a full body migraine, I can give him my best when I feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 06:12 PM
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The Mist. The ending is still seared into my brain years later. Absolute worst case scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 05:43 AM
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Yes, because volunteering at a soup kitchen after you've already had six healthy children is great for improving your chances at reproduction. I imagine I'll keep asking "why?" all the way to the ground. I don't expect to get an answer, but that's okay because it's the question that motivates me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:46 AM
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I disagree that two imperfect people loving one another is in any way settling. Beyond that, I am sorry and I wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 04:20 AM
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On one hand, if people with dwarfism can find love, so can you. On the other hand, no one is guaranteed a great love in their life. Having a purpose and a tribe is another means to a sense of completion, so I wouldn't write off those book clubs if I were you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 12:26 AM
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embracing meaningful relationships, romantic and otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 11:49 PM
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Well, sexy isn't just an attractive physical appearance, it also pulls behavior into the mix. I can be arrested by a man's physical beauty and be uncomfortable in his presence because of that, but I'm not going to think about sex until there is some evidence of chemistry. The push-pull dynamic is very important for a guy to cross from physically attractive to sexually appealing. He doesn't have to be a natural, but he can't see it as a chore either. He has to enjoy interacting with me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 06:41 PM
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There are a contingency of users here who are so inept and inexperienced when it comes to interpersonal contact, they believe every interaction is a transaction. And yes, if you want to dissect that statement, I suppose you could say it is much in the same way people can argue that altruism is inherently selfish because giving to others might make someone feel good. In my opinion, that's a terrible way to go through life. Animals including humans are mediated by complex cocktails of hormones and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 06:15 PM
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There are intelligent people here worth talking to, in small doses. And it's a great distraction from the dumpster fire currently consuming the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 11:50 PM
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It's okay, various history books and spiritual texts agree with me even if you don't. Read between the lines. "I would be in charge of contraceptives" followed by "the worst came to pass" means he was using them improperly or not at all. If they had a contraceptive failure, he would have stated that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/20 10:42 PM
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I didn't misread what you said. If anything, you misread what I said. You're referring to the concrete disgust of blood ("ew, get it off") and I have been referring to the abstract. There are many examples throughout history and societies of men being disgusted by the fact that we have to menstruate, not simply menstrual blood itself. Aren't there Buddhist passages that compare female sex organs to rotting meat? They're used to inspire monks to remain celibate iirc. I'm not disgusted by my menst…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 07:11 PM
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Come on, really? There is no diligence testing for anyone, period. When you agree to have sex with someone, male or female, you have to take them at their word. If either fails to uphold their word, you have unpleasant repercussions, usually either in the form of STIs or unwanted pregnancy. But if a man says he is going to be responsible for condom use and he is in fact responsible for condom use, he is drastically mitigating his chances of being "victimized" either in the form of unwanted pregn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 07:22 PM
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"Your fault for having sex" Women have been told this since antiquity. We've been handling it as well as it can be handled. Welcome to the club, young blood. Thats a common misconception "men are disgusted by periods etc" I mean its true. But its true for all humans. We are all disgusted by other peoples bodily fluids. Women might be disgusted by our blood, but we have to deal with it on a monthly basis anyway. It's not something we can easily escape. Besides that, I was referring to the viscera…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 04:46 PM
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I am definitely not victim-blaming by advocating responsibility and comparing this situation to one where a person has all agency forcibly removed from them is asinine. If a man was raped and there was a resulting child, then I would be victim-blaming. This instance had two consenting parties who both knew that pregnancy could result and chose to risk it anyway. If you don't want to be a father, be diligent about protection or don't have sex. That's it. It's no more or less than what men tell wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 03:56 PM
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Birth control, used correctly, prevents most unwanted pregnancies. Doesn't this inherently change the situation by mitigating the risk in the first place? Can't men control this either directly by using condoms properly or indirectly by choosing not to sleep with a woman who refuses to have safe sex? I'm not saying men can't be victimized by batshit women, but the case posited by the OP is pure irresponsibility on both parties' accounts. The woman shouldn't have consented to abortion if she wasn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 03:17 PM
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Lol? He's not in a catch 22 when he has no say whatsoever???? I have no clue where you are and what your tax stratum is, but as an American from the southeast, I know numerous single mothers who have zero contact with their children's biological fathers. These men made a decision to walk away from their children. Child support laws make that more difficult but to say it never happens is myopic. Imagine if I forced you to be a mum and gave you no say over it. You would go nuts. Up until the sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 03:04 PM
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You don't have to consent to something to acknowledge and respect that it is a risk. In fact, when it comes to pregnancy, consenting to it is moot because neither men or women are able to discern when a woman is fertile. Our species has hidden ovulation. This is a biological fact you're trying to make an ethical argument against. So yes, if I go out to a club in a skimpy dress, it's wise for me to acknowledge there is a risk of being groped inherent. I might decide not to go based on that, or I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 02:29 PM
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JFC, this. They were both being dumb, but at the end of the day, she is the one in a rotten catch-22. Her body is affected no matter the decision made.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 01:45 PM
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INTJs don't have friends. We have minions and archnemeses. (Srs answer: same best friend since 6th grade. We just can't quit each other.)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 07:48 PM
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That's why I said "if it's not your thing, cool". OP indicated it was, in fact, his thing and that he suppressed that "instinct" or whatever thanks to feminist propaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 11:03 PM
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I have a soft spot for sleeves on well developed forearms, but there is a simultaneous warning bell usually going off in the back of my head with heavily tattooed guys. I wouldn't rule him out for either option. My husband is one of the few people in our friend group completely lacking tattoos, for reference, but I'd be fine if he had them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 10:57 PM
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No, it sucks. If you don't feel reciprocal, it's disturbing. If you do feel reciprocal, it just leads to misery no matter what choice you make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 05:45 AM
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I'm sorry your ex cheated, OP. I think it boils down to incompatibility and lack of self-awareness in both sexes. But I am curious about something else: why can't you (general you) respect your partner but also give her degrading and rough sex? I fully understand if that's just not your cuppa period, but if you both like it, why isn't she inspiring those feelings in you? Are men in general capable of compartmentalizing sex or do they see a woman and either place her in the "Object" box or the "P…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:12 PM
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I can't say I'd hate to be male because I believe that virtually everyone experiences pain of great magnitude at some point in their lives. Life sucks, and can also be amazing, regardless of your sex. As far as we know, none of us asked to be born or put in the specific bodies we inherited. I had intense gender dysphoria as an adolescent. Once I found myself in a more stable life and home, I got much more comfortable with being female. I suppose it's a big reason why I legitimately feel compassi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 04:54 PM
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Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. Negl, I've always found this statement more profound than the entirety of Song of Solomon. Oof.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 04:41 PM
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I like leaving an impact, in general and even more within the confines of a steady relationship. Sex is supposed to be interactive and fun. It's how we reconnect at the end of a long, frustrating day. Regarding the second, it really depends (again) on if it's a repeat encounter or not. I tend to fall in the second camp though, him getting off makes sex a complete experience for me whether I orgasm or not. Granted, I have a partner who loves making me orgasm but doesn't compel me to do it if I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 04:55 PM
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1) Players are usually charismatic. Women tend to be suckers for charisma. I'm no exception, although I've never been drawn specifically to the player type. 2) Options for NSA sex? Probably. Options for a loving, long term relationship (which is what I want)? Not at all. 3) I'm an introvert drawn to extroverts, but I'd prefer he exhibited compassion and self-awareness. Rough around the edges is preferred to someone who is erudite and fussy, although the latter would be good to debate. 4) I was b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 09:03 PM
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Psh, the vertical plane is and has always been overrated. Horizontal is where it's at. Where's an AF/BB parody joke when you need one?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:44 AM
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I'm loving the 6-foot social distance rule and have plans to enforce it with a cane if need be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 12:44 AM
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Suddenly you have 97 identical shimmery eyeshadows and you don't know how they got there, but you're applying one right at this moment. Ahhh, this is like me and highlighters. I have too many of them, but they do get used, so... justified?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 06:56 PM
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When I put on makeup it's primarily to complete a "look" if I'm dressing nicely that day. Is it to attract attention? I mean, sure, if by attention you mean glances. If I'm not busy with whatever I'm doing, I make note of them. It's an ego boost. It doesn't mean I'm advertising, but my body language is naturally very closed off so I seem to avoid a lot of cold approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 06:47 PM
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The key is the importance though. Sure, men are capable of subtle communications, but it ranks much higher in the average woman's vocabulary. There have been plenty of studies showing how much women rely on body language and facial expressions. It's also a stumbling block for men, because while they are capable of becoming adept at it, it's not second nature. I imagine it’s the same for the woman in this scenario. Will the women in my social circle approve or condemn my action of hitting on a gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 02:01 PM
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Because rape and abuse are kind. Sure, we can play that game. As usual you are comparing apples to oranges, and treating a strange person indifferently or neutrally is not being unkind to them. Men also interact with each other too. They form bands and develop camaraderie. Why are men still more likely to be loners? Maybe because other men treat them poorly as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:49 PM
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I would agree with that, although I'm still not sure I would say it's an active thought that is reasoned out with the pros and cons fairly weighed. It's more of a worry that sits at the back of your mind and bothers you until you blow up at the guy in question. I'm not saying it's right, it's just one of the intricacies of female communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 11:42 PM
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I'm not formally diagnosed with autism but I'm definitely not NT. I've been with my husband since I was 20 and he was 25. We have been through a lot in our nearly 15 years together. He's always been an anchor in the best way possible. It would be stupid for me to throw him away in favor of an unknown. Romantic love has always been ephemeral, although I don't agree that once it's gone, that's it. I think it comes and goes. So you cultivate a platonic love (friendship) to get you through the valle…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 06:42 PM
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Everything you mentioned is a factor, but you also have to consider the female social matrix (FSM), which I think is best described as the female group of influence surrounding any given woman. This can be her mother, aunts, sisters, and/or chosen friends and it is a powerful force. As for why, we all worry about what our peers and elders think to some extent because humans are very socially driven animals, women perhaps more so than men. Preselection involves not so much a conscious question ("…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 06:19 PM
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I'm probably not the best person to ask considering I am an oddball female loner, but I believe it's widely accepted (at least in this sub) that women are more socially driven than men on average. As for why, I'd say it's about a 50/50 split between nature and nuture, just as with most things in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:04 PM
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Preselection goes hand in hand with insecurity. If you trust your own judgment, you worry less about the choices you make and how they measure up to what everyone else is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 03:58 PM
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Yes. I believe men and women both have distinct but equally painful burdens to shoulder. Women's existence is fearful, men's existence is lonely (by default).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:21 PM
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Sure, as usual there is some truth to it, but it does not describe the actions of all or even a majority of women. You will occasionally meet a woman who fetishizes unavailable men. Most of us don't. What you are probably seeing is a woman who is attracted to a man in spite of his relationship status. I've been there before myself once, but I refrained from letting it get out of hand out of respect to his fiancee/wife, even though it caused me a great deal of pain at that point in time. Again, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:18 PM
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What? I wasn't trying to be callous, I called myself a weirdo as well. There's nothing wrong with being weird, but there are growing pains involved. It's nothing that can't be solved with a large dose of self-awareness. Anyway, good luck figuring it all out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 08:09 PM
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This is what constitutes "daddy issues"? Because I have several of these flaws and/or perks myself and my relationship with my father is fine. My relationship with my spouse is also fine. Sounds like it's more about being a hypersensitive weirdo. OP, assuming you're young, I'd sincerely recommend working on building a thicker skin. One major quibble: you cannot say "may leave if she doesn't get the right attention" in one breath and right after say she's "ride or die". That's not how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 09:30 PM
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Peacocking can take so many different forms besides the extreme facial tattoos you mentioned. Personally when I've been on the receiving end, the guy in question was trying to get me to smile/laugh (or in other words, catch me off guard) rather than trying to prove physical fitness. Competence is just about the biggest turn on there is, assuming it's a skill I care about. I've used this analogy before: I don't care much about how successful a stock broker is--no offense to any financeers here--b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 11:31 AM
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Yeah, I work in healthcare as well, which is why the example came to mind. I also don't know if I actually believe most surgeons could be diagnosed with sociopathy, but it is something that comes up in popular publications regularly. I was trying to illustrate that what you see in public is not necessarily what you will get behind closed doors. Not all damaged people are drama llamas (as much as it pains me to say it, because melodramatic types irritate me, lol) and vice versa. Most humans wear …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 06:48 PM
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No and no. There's a big difference between "emotional stability" (or perceived stability) and mentally or neurologically normative. Many surgeons supposedly have a high number of sociopathic traits. They're also stable to the point of coldness... they have to be. No breaking down while someone is flayed open on a metal table in front of you, no cold feet when you have to make a risky decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 06:06 PM
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Women initiate most divorces because we've had it drummed into our heads for several generations now that we should seek happiness, and if a woman's partner stops putting effort into the relationship and helping to create the push-pull dynamic that was present in the beginning, she's going to feel taken for granted and resentful. Meanwhile, he's fine plodding along in their life, which is why men are so frequently claimed to be blindsided. What really happened is she stopped feeling close to him…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 05:26 PM
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I'm not fat or a man and I reserve "losing my shit" for things that actually matter, but good try!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 09:23 PM
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Have you ever been "seduced" by a guy who wasn't a looker? Kind of, yes. He was straight up ugly. Was making out/sex worse than it was with someone you're thought was hot? I guess it was worse in the sense it was just neutral. It wasn't really bad quality, but there's no doubt I wasn't into him physically. Does the attractive behavior make him look more attractive in your eyes? Eh... I think in the case I'm considering, sex came first and the emotions followed. After that, it was less about his …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:42 PM
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Shhh, you're interrupting his angerwank.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:23 PM
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I literally cannot give a rebuttal when your argument includes phrases I never said or implied, such as "male oppressors" and "male privilege". The only thing I can do is stand my ground, because you've failed to convince me in any way that all women do is whine about being victims and expect men to be their pack mules. I never stated that women were angels who could do no wrong or directly mentioned the wage gap, although some of my sources talked about wage gaps in the 19th and 20th centuries.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 01:01 AM
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You have proven that men are the real victims with all of these very convincing studies that have never been seen in this sub. Meanwhile, women have always worked, largely because they both need and want to, and neither of your relevant studies disprove that fact. The first states the average time worked by men is 8.1 hours per day, and the average time worked by women is 7.3 hours per day. The second doesn't actually compare hours worked by sex, it just says men are overwhelmingly more likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:51 PM
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You are the one who brought up male oppression, after being challenged on whether or not women made a choice to work or be idle victims. Women (and children) were already in the workforce when the 19th amendment and the Representation of the People Bill were passed. That last link is of particular interest, as it does state that 51% of women 16-24 were gainfully employed versus only 30% of women 25-44 during the 1910s and 1920s. Women at the time believed that the responsibilities of marriage su…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:36 AM
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In the example I linked, men (primarily) did stop women from working. They thought it was unseemly that they went naked in the coal shafts and they also were not as productive as teenage boys due to strength differences. Nevertheless, I'm going to say this a third time because you don't seem to be reading what I'm saying: that part doesn't matter. The women were there by their own choice. They did not go "oh!! the hardship!!" and elect to stay at home, doing needlepoint while sipping tea like so…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 03:43 AM
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You first.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 03:25 AM
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Close to 20 years, I got started as a teenager. Sorry again for the spiel, but maybe it will help you figure out what the problem is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 01:43 AM
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Again. Your first comment implied women, throughout history and en masse, have made the choice to stay home and not work. First of all that is blatantly untrue. Women have always worked regardless of class, it's a matter of whether or not they were compensated. Second, speaking of tropes, you're citing another that has always been true: whatever the upper class do and want tends to hve a trickle down effect over time. In response to that, I gave an example of working class women who had their li…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 08:04 PM
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This has no bearing on the article I linked. Some men campaign against other men too, like the male feminists often complained about here. You said women made a choice to stay home and avoid hardships. I gave a specific example with a fairly large population of the reverse being true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 05:41 PM
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Or let's do some reading, shall we? Here's an article on female coal miners in the UK during the 19th century. Guess who was pushing them out of the mines? Edit: Just remember, a downvote is disagreement for the weak-minded. ;-*
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 05:23 PM
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Oh heck yes, this is a request I can answer. First of all, what's your region and where are you trying to grow them? They are temperate plants. They do better outside in as much sun as humanly possible (unless of course you are in some place like Arizona, then you might want to avoid late afternoon sun). They also like a brief freeze in the winter. You're safe to leave them outside down to around 20 degrees F. Mulch if you're worried about colder temps or freezing winds, or shelter them in a coo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 01:26 AM
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I have no idea. I would assume that the mechanic is a human being and his life doesn't revolve strictly around the inner workings of cars. Chances are good he probably hunts or fishes, maybe plays the guitar in his down time, and likes to go snowboarding in Virginia when he can get off work. Succulents are definitely not gay, although they can reproduce asexually. Bonsai in general hate me because I am not a patient person. I'll stick to my Sarracenia.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 12:57 AM
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Um...I grow carnivorous plants? I'm sure that would be lame as hell to a skydiver but very interesting to, let's say, a succulent enthusiast. Why do we have to have hobbies that "few other women do"? I also knit. Lots of women knit. Does it matter that a lot of men work on cars? Does it make mechanics less interesting or valuable? Most mechanics know how to assemble the car's engine but don't have the knowledge to program its computerized chips. Are they suddenly NPCs because they lack the appro…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 12:46 AM
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They can, with the understanding that men (on average) are direct communicators and women are (on average) indirect communicators. Neither is bad or good, they're just different, and both parties have to work to bridge that gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:51 PM
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Well, I'm in my 30s, have borne him two kids, and he can still bounce a quarter off my ass. I'm sure he could get a goat or two for me in a remote central Asian country. This is at least moderate value, am I right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 06:26 PM
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(though a case can be made that they probably exaggerate the hotness of the girls they're bedding.) Right, so the perspectives are equitable because men value physical beauty while women value ability in the simplest way of putting it. A high SMV girl doesn't have to be high RMV for a man to want her at least temporarily, or to keep her in a noncommittal rotation. A high RMV man isn't necessarily high SMV to a woman seeking marriage and stability. This is the standard complaint that comes up tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 01:37 PM
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Let's be honest, they seem to be oddly proud about not meeting their partners half-way. But again, this goes in both directions. It isn't unique to the women of FDS. How many men in TRP have (or claim they have) any number of women beating down their doors to give them whatever they wanted with no many strings attached? On the flip side, how many posters at FDS are impersonating or just trolling? The difference however is that TRP would never have gotten a favorable review in the mainstream medi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 08:28 PM
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What you all see as a "compliance test for weak men" I see as someone seeking a mate who will respect and treasure her. Some of what is recommended is a really hamfisted way to go about it, but most of the people who read TRP and FDS have been traumatized by the opposite sex. I don't agree with the means either side tries to go about getting what they want. I do understand what they want and why. No, i don't think some of the stuff flying around FDS is healthy. Neither is some of the stuff on TR…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:17 PM
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A man caring for his woman's needs and also taking her wants into consideration is not subordinate, and being "alpha" is not synonymous with being high value, especially when you consider that most of what makes up alpha traits according to TRP is really just doublespeak for psychopathy or narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 01:55 PM
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No. He turned into an attractive guy and married a cute girl, I assume they have a family and are living life now. I'm happy for them and I'm happy with what I have. Granted, I married my husband at 21, so I feel like I'm toeing the line with your post subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 03:01 AM
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I disagree. Positive role models are important but at a certain point, we all have to figure it out for ourselves. Common sense does not equal following rules, it's the sum of a lived experience. Some people develop it sooner than others, some never do at all. My parents also told me to think for myself. It didn't stop teenage me from being affected by hormones, peers, and marketing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 09:27 PM
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Again, I'm not talking about rape in any format. I shouldn't have used the word "cornered". I also think there's a vast difference between acquiescing to your date paying for you and expecting him to do it. The latter gives the experience a transactional nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 09:24 PM
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You certainly seem like the kind of person who has had it since conception. I'm sorry I'll never be able to aspire to such greatness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 05:10 PM
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I don't really follow how regret sex is the same as violent rape. I prefer to go dutch in part because I want to avoid having regret sex, which has to do with my own values, not who is "to blame". Why is transparency an issue when you're trying to determine long term compatibility? I know how my brain works. I try to avoid treating sex as transactional. Ergo, I pay (or rather paid) my own way when getting to know someone. Either you go because you want to go, or you don't, it doesn't matter who …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:35 PM
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I think you're mistaking what I mean by cornered. I'm referring to a sense of obligation, not being raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:47 PM
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I hate the "make him pay for you" mindset, especially in the early days of dating when you're still feeling each other out. Dutch is preferable until both parties have a clear idea of where you'd like the relationship to go... whether it actually gets there is another issue of course, but in my opinion the intent counts. Being paid for always made me feel like I owed them something as well, and I prefer not being cornered like that. Edit grammar.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:40 PM
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Because humans are animals heavily entrenched in symbolism and canine behavior loosely approximates how men move, work, and act. The same goes for women with cats. You can see this in literature as well: "he looked at her wolfishly" implying a smoldering kind of hunger. "She was being catty" when a woman engages in passive aggressive verbal subterfuge. Humans love their totems. We created elaborate mythologies to make sense of the world. Our ancestors took inspiration from what they saw in their…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:20 PM
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He has sharp features, a strong jaw, a thin mouth, and yes, a large nose. I don't think him having large, wide set eyes is enough to call him a pretty boy. He's not conventional or effeminate-looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 12:21 PM
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Adrien Brody, Vincent Cassel, Djimon Hounsou, and Javier Bardem off the top of my head. I'd classify all of them as ruggedly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:27 AM
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This is painfully accurate. As an example, I've pointed out to my husband numerous times that his [male] best friend and I both have a similar dark, acerbic sense of humor. We could say the exact same joke, same delivery, and he would be laughing hard at his friend. I'd get wide eyes, a slight head shake, maybe a grimace. I believe there are two components to this. The first is the mother (or would-be mother) of your children is not supposed to be "unclean" as evidenced by the dirty sense of hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 02:22 PM
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I am a people pleaser (to an extent) so I usually feel guilty, especially if the other person is very polite. I also fall back on the "married with kids" excuse, it seems like the gentlest way to redirect their attention and the least likely to earn ire in response.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 09:28 PM
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This phrase makes me grind my teeth. Men may have to "do" in order to be noticed but women have to choose and hope that they made the right one. Neither sex is passive when it comes to mate selection, unless it is done for them as in arranged marriages or something insane like bride kidnapping. Complete dreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 08:12 PM
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Don't worry, it's not the first time I've been compared to a car. Beep beep.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 12:53 AM
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I was being sarcastic... I know that and I consider what he did assault. He knew I wasn't on any other birth control, that I was previously a virgin, and foremost that I was adamant about having sex with a condom. He was intentionally manipulative, spiteful, and maybe controlling. I admit my mistakes, the first was picking a terrible person and the second was not immediately walking away. Does it matter if he bragged about it or not? Isn't it more likely that if he bragged to his friends, he pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 08:55 PM
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I only really have one noteworthy ex I still see as a jerk years later. Is being stealthed considered a douchebag thing to do? If so, he was a douchebag. To play devil's advocate, I caved and kept on having sex with him when I should have walked away. Chalk it up to youthful mistakes. The H was a literal youth group leader as a teen as well as a peer counselor. He's pretty wholesome, but everyone has a dark side.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 11:20 PM
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Didn't realize it was a CMV, reposting under automod. Not sure if I agree with peak beauty being 15 to 19 but everything else checks out. Men were terrifyingly overaggressive when I was in my teens and early 20s. Whether it's faded looks or the fact that I don't carry myself like a prey animal anymore, they're more likely to decide I'm not worth the trouble now and that's all I care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 09:13 PM
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Everyone knows potentially romantic situations are tense one on one. By turning it into group outing, she was trying to remove tension and see if sparks would fly in a casual setting, not make her hopeful jealous by bringing a tag-along. People who date within their social circles do group dates all the time to test the waters. Furthermore, why would she invite out a married man who has a wife who is present in this group where everyone knows everyone? Likewise, now that he has completely reject…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:16 PM
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It works because at its core the working components of RP advice are common sense like being the best version of yourself, doing it for yourself, and displaying confidence. There is no doubt women are drawn to these traits. The point that isn't as well discussed is these are often features of girl game as well, and unless you are a man who simply must have a shrinking violet, you're going to be attracted to a woman who also exhibits these behaviors. Men who fail have yet to internalize they poss…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:17 PM
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To directly answer your question, I can't fathom why the posters here have issues with more mundane forms of excitement (and I don't find that to be a paradoxical statement). Best guess, we have a lot of psychopaths or wannabes who are shut-ins and the only meaningful stimulation they receive is from movies and video games. Maybe this colors their expectations. We went on a date last week. Started with a 3 mile circuit with him jogging and me on inline skates next to him, ended with a Nerf gun w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:05 PM
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Oh man, I'm having a boomer moment. LJ was the shit for so many years. I got an email the other day saying my account was still floating around.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:48 PM
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I never knew I needed heart-warming cow videos in my life. Thanks for sharing, they are adorable!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:11 AM
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Ex-bandgeek lumberjacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 06:46 PM
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Authenticity is important in regards to things like compulsive lying, cheating, etc. What you're describing is superficial. There's nothing wrong with experimenting with what people see as long as it doesn't have any morally negative fallout. I will say this, I've known some individuals who aren't just inauthentic in the way you describe, they also turned out to be legitimately nasty people. The one I'm thinking of in particular wore a mask to hide personality defects and it was always just bare…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 05:09 AM
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Ahh, have you read Radium Girls by Kate Moore or The Disappearing Spoon by Sam Keane? The former is of course about the radium poisoning of dial painters in the teens and twenties. The latter is about all the nifty players in the periodic table with plenty of highlights on assorted radioactive isotopes. Great reads, maybe a touch of nightmare fuel but very infotaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 07:06 AM
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They did not. We're legally married. As for if they would have, I don't know. I do have a friend who couldn't get legally married due to a chronic health condition have a religious ceremony, although I'm not sure what denomination. I perceive them to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 12:05 AM
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Yes, Catholic ceremony sans mass because I wasn't confirmed at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 11:23 PM
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I'm not sure. It's hard for me to put myself in the shoes of a forever girlfriend because I've never been in that position. However, I am a "never say never" kind of person and marriage was a means to an end rather than something I desperately wanted for myself. If the institute of federally recognized marriage was abolished tomorrow, I would absolutely trust that my husband wouldn't leave for example. He's also a religious man and our marriage has just as much gravity in the eyes of God as it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 10:27 PM
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34F in a 13 year monogamous marriage. I was a pretty staunch misandrist before I met my husband thanks to severe anxiety combined with negative interactions with the opposite sex throughout adolescence. Being with him and seeing his gentle nature was a major catalyst for changing my outlook. Clearly it wasn't all him, I had to make the choice to change, but he gave me time and the chance to do so. Because of my experiences I see very few people as irredeemable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 05:42 PM
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1) Yes, albeit I'm pretty sure my state still has common law marriage, so... 2) It depends on the level of trust. I would have to feel secure in the fact that he wouldn't leave any children and I to the elements if he got tired of us. 3) I think you'll be more likely to find platonic cohabitation in millennials than romantic. I can't really divine a ballpark percentage because the vast majority of my friends are either married, living alone, or living with family/in a platonic roommate setting. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 07:24 AM
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I feel your pain, except in my case it was the threenager cock-blocking and straight interrupting us over the weekend. Multiple times. Child, you're cute and you know it, but stop shining your flashlight under the door. Give us five freaking minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 04:22 PM
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I was brutally honest with my husband when we were still dating. I told him if we were going to survive long term, he needed to be willing to butt heads with me. We're in a good place but I had to give myself permission to trust him (thankfully he never had a huge problem with making decisions) and that took a while to work through. It all boils down to trust. As for what I want when I tell him to make decisions, I want him to take the lead in situations where I do not trust myself to make the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 09:07 PM
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I think you're correct. It does seem to be a more uncommon setup than what is portrayed in pop culture, but I don't think it's all that rare. I've gotten the impression my best friend and her husband have a similar dynamic as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 02:11 AM
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I'm inherently very submissive to my h, but if he wanted it and he came to me honestly, I'd find some way to make the experience enjoyable for him and as enjoyable as possible for me. I remember reading about a specific dynamic styled as a Queen and her knight, and it just sat right with me. It didn't remove any of the power and beauty of male strength, yet he is in service to her. I got the impression that they usually have a relatively normal sex life and so on. If I was drawn to female domina…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:24 AM
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Please do, it would make my day as well. Hope you both have a great evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 08:31 PM
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Yeah. I'm sure the vast majority of women love being charmed. However, approach matters. Words matter. Do you really think all women are OK with being opened by their partner or love interest mentioning a second woman more attractive than they are? Personally I'm not the jealous type and it is typical for my husband to point out other women he likes to me, so I responded with curiosity. It could have backfired easily, and that is what I'm referring to when I say you should always take into accou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 06:51 PM
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It's also about what your individual partner likes. I'm sure some women would hate that kind of ego-stroking period. I love it from him because he's a very genuine person. I would not love it from a man I didn't know well and would automatically assume they were trying to misdirect from something else going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:32 PM
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I'm talking about a man I've been married to for 13 years, and this post is about maintenance romance. Why in God's name would you even think to say something like this to a woman you barely know? In this case, the difference in context--a well-established relationship versus the uncertainty and newness of the dating scene--is massive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:29 PM
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I have the perfect anecdote for this. My husband ran a race today. After we met up following the race, he made this passing comment. "I saw the most beautiful woman today. She was so hot." I said, "Oh yeah? Where was she?" He replied, "She was there when I rolled out of bed this morning." You can say all you want that this is beta, blue pill simping but to be quite honest he is masterful at this style of charm and I fall for it almost without fail. I'm sure it helps that we normally tease each o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 07:14 PM
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I can't say I have, possibly on account of being a light sleeper. Sex usually wakes me up pretty quickly, as do those lovely dream orgasms that happen once in a while. Kind of a bummer, sleepy sex sounds fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:57 AM
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I dunno, I guess it was a roller coaster for me because I was attached to the characters they offed this season. There was no way to cleanly end it either because of how historically important other characters became, so the cliffhanger makes sense. There was one point I was disappointed in because it made a pivotal part in the season four finale seem contrived in retrospect. There was also a little more comic relief which was odd. But yes, I assume given the time period that the final three sea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 12:14 AM
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Finished Peaky Blinders season five last night. It was equal parts excellent and deeply distressing... ugh. Now to wait another two years for the next six hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:55 PM
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You're not comparing the correct statistics. Cancer that "has spread to other parts of the body" (also known as distant metastases) in the prostate cancer statistics more closely correlates to the metastatic breast cancer survival rate. Per your own source, this is 27% survival after 5 years. Meanwhile: The 5-year survival rate for most men with local or regional prostate cancer is nearly 100%. So yes, breast cancer with local metastases is somewhat more fatal than prostate cancer with local met…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 05:45 AM
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I mean, you aren't even trying to use the "nyuk nyuk ur just an outlier" response on me. Good on you for sticking to your guns or something? I can't say what's really on my mind, so I'll just go with this: uh huh, ok, sure. Edit: It appears you or someone like you downvoted me, so here's a more civil contribution. I'm not a neuroscientist but I would assume that abstract concepts like honor and integrity originate in the cerebrum, the part of the brain associated with higher thought. In both men…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 04:53 AM
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That women have no concept of honor and integrity. This is probably the one thing I read here often that grates the shit out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:52 PM
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he's married I think this is a major plot point, OP. Guy #2 probably knows how to better communicate with women on their level. If he has a good marriage, that's also built-in "abundance mentality".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:56 PM
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You can't stop change, so make a choice to change together instead of apart. Like others have said, this involves keeping some mutual interests and (probably the big one) making sure your partner is above everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 04:36 PM
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Does a dojo count? The split is usually 75:25 in favor of men. Rarely we have a 50:50 class and once in a blue moon, women are dominant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:14 AM
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How much dominance do you expect a man to exert in a relationship? I prefer him to take the reins the majority of the time but I don't crucify him if he stumbles. I have guided him through a dark time previously and I would do it again. Do you enjoy being submissive to a capable man more often than not, or do you prefer a mostly equal relationship? It really depends on the context. I guess the former but not at the expense of him laughing me off with a pat on the head when I want to discuss thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 08:08 PM
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Short answer: nope. Long answer: I have some complicated personal ideas and feelings about what constitutes a soul mate or soul mates, but it doesn't line up with the popular notion of there being a single person for every other person in existence. My "one that got away" was a cheater in the making, and in hindsight I believe there's a good chance he would have cheated on me as well. No regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 04:29 PM
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30-35. My age plus 5 years seems to be median, give or take a couple years. Not really, it may have narrowed a little. Friends' ages range from mid-20s to mid-40s with a few outliers north of that estimate. A little over 10 years, we had intense chemistry. He also seemed worldly and well-educated. (I would call him nerd cute but he was no model.)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 08:07 PM
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Masculine energy, especially when they aren't afraid to goof off and act like me somewhat the way they act around other guys. I say somewhat because I don't really think I want to get punched or have fireworks shot at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 04:40 AM
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I try to defer to him, but it's imperfect. We butt heads at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 01:39 AM
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Lurking and then participating here hasn't really changed the convictions I developed through my own daily interactions, but it's useful for gaining perspective. Whether or not my personal beliefs have changed, I acknowledge that I've become softer and more considerate towards strange men and women alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 01:29 AM
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Agreed on all accounts! The ability to compartmentalize seems to have become a little easier with age and learning how to communicate better with the opposite sex, certainly. I think you're correct that it's atypical for young women to be good at it right from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 12:09 AM
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My husband has a dad bod. It's not his fault as a previous major surgery damaged his abdominal fascia. It doesn't bother me. Why would it? I've had children; I weathered pregnancy, birth, and nursing very well but my body is certainly not perfect. I focus on his shoulders, arms, back, legs.. I was never an ab girl anyway so it's not a huge loss. I'm not sure I'd call him squishy though, he's very solid in spite of the physical flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 01:26 AM
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I appreciate the addendum. Personally I still have passion in my 15 year monogamous relationship, but I would be lying if I didn't admit it tends to be compartmentalized and set aside in favor of pragmatism at times. Life wears on and you deal with events you couldn't even fathom as a young person in a brand new relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:27 PM
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Yes I have and I would do so again.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 06:03 AM
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Well, because it changes the appearance of the person's bone structure. The more we as a society emphasize cookie cutter beauty, the more women will contour to achieve that look. I'm grateful that when I was a teenager, Bobbi Brown was (one of?) the top makeup artist. She always tried to keep it natural looking and preferred emphasizing unique positive features over masking imperfections.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:00 PM
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At risk of sounding too sappy and weak among the crusty barnacles that occupy this space, he is home. It doesn't matter where I am as long as he's there as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 08:03 PM
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There's no hard cut off. If I think he's attractive, that's all that is needed. I can't see having much in common more than ten years apart, realistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:37 PM
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Nerf guns are great. Or if you want to be a little extra, they now make these at-home laser tag systems. Laser X is one brand. Source: mother of tween boy who still doesn't have a cell phone, much to his chagrin.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:34 PM
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Stopped by a chain craft store last week to pick up some fabric and there was a very burly looking guy behind the fabric counter. I believe he said he was a sewer (or tailor I suppose) to another customer. He had a wedding band on. One sign doesn't mean much but I think it's safe to assume it wasn't there for show. I'd be fine if my guy decided to pick up a set of needles and knit with me as long as he still acted in a masculine manner towards me. They're tools for producing a finished object, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:21 PM
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Just one person's perspective, but I don't think it's cheating at all. Working out is supposed to mimic the actions of toiling in the field or hunting after all, which is how men became developed before gyms became a thing. IMO, massive bodybuilding muscles are for men the way being the skinniest is (or was) for women. It's something each sex does among themselves without real input from the opposite sex. We all know that extremely thin women are likely rated more attractive by other women than …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 05:50 PM
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Yep, there have been a lot of silly threads lately. Oh well, all you can do is try to answer with honesty and consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:29 PM
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I'm more attracted to physique than musculature to be honest. A dude doesn't have to be cut if he has broad shoulders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:49 AM
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Basically what you said, OP. I might be able to revisit the friendship a few years down the line, but distance is better for getting over someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:49 AM
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The only time I've had this happen was when I caught feels for a casual partner. It was unexpected and i gave it six weeks, I think. I cried for a couple hours, mostly from embarrassment because I felt had, then moved on without looking back. To be fair, it was easy with that person because I honestly didn't find him attractive. He caught me at a low point. C'est la vie.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:41 PM
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I'm not a big fan of fandom tattoos. I like well done nature-inspired pieces (my largest one is floral) and ones that pay tribute to heritage, like ta moko on Maori people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:00 PM
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It's one facet of truth. There are many situations that have this result. There are also many situations where women use men as a so-called "stand in boyfriend" but without the emotional and physical intimacy he desires. No, I doubt men confuse their feelings per se. There is a turn of phrase I hear occasionally, something along the lines of "I walk down the street and fall in love multiple times a day". This statement confuses me. I've never heard any other woman say it and the men I hear say i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:48 PM
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I don't know if it's quite that straightforward because there is a market price on gold per ounce that fluctuates by the day. Yes you can find deals, but it's not often in any mass market setting. It's more likely to happen on the secondhand market, ex. a pawn shop in a rural area where the demand isn't so high. Plus, if you buy from unscrupulous vendors, you have to worry about base metal being stamped with a 10K, 14K, or 18K mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:11 PM
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