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Danger alert 🚨
/r/askMRP27/06/25 12:27 AM
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Woaaa careful now buddy, keep talking like that and the rest of the class might realize that these men who want women to lower their standards and give them a chance would be getting "settled" for, and we can't possibly highlight such an obvious contradiction lest it break their fragile minds 😥 MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!! 🤡🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:30 PM
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Bro you're living in a fantasy world, the real world simply is not like this. Fresh n Fit != Real World lol 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:25 PM
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Don't expect an answer to your perfectly logical and reasonable questions. These guys are walking contradictions who don't e even know what they truly think & believe. They think everyone else's brains are damaged, but it's obvious to everyone else who had the damaged brain. Sad. Just emotionally reactive automatons who can't even consrruct a coherent argument 99% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:20 PM
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Stop looking for validation from women you say? Yes, exactly, and funny enough THATS WHEN THE WOMEN FALL OUT THE DAMN SKY AND LAND IN YOUR LAP. It's all counter-intuitive. Ask George Castanza, he started to do the opposite or what he would usually do and everything in his life turned around. He couldn't lose. Everything turned to gold. ^ There's a kernel of truth to this!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:18 AM
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Ok good point. I apologize you are right, my tone was not helpful. Genuinely sorry man. Now what? You can do this, I promise you. A little courage goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:09 AM
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Good point. I take back all I said
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:24 AM
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Ok bro, you win, good day 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:21 AM
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Our idea of what 6s and 7s are may be different because in my mind they are above average and would be seen as pretty or attractive by the majority of people. That is if you were faithfully using 5 as a reference point for average attractiveness. I used tinder gold / premium and paid for boosts and would get a LOT of matches. No problems lining up as many dates as I could handle or want. I would also go out and meet random people / women and generally had a happy go lucky attitude which I found …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:16 AM
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They were 6s and 7s. I would rate myself a 5.5 or a 6 (average guy not particularly good looking, not particularly ugly). But that's the thing, I wasn't aiming outside my range and complaining about it. Why would I go for 8s, 9s, 10s that makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:27 PM
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You're either being purposefully obtuse or you actually are not able to grasp the core point of what it means to be yourself. It means to allow your true self to simply be, without shame and embarrassment. It means your locus of control is internal instead of external. You seem to be watering it down with a language game along the lines of: "Well if Im naturally ashamed of who I am then being myself means being ashamed of who I am". I cannot tell if your are stupid or just playing games. Use com…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:25 PM
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Because carryinf a gun is legal and feasible everywhere in the world 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:01 PM
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Not sure what you're trying to say. If you're awakward and self conscious around others then it means you're not comfortable in your own skin and you struggle to relax and just be yourself unapologetically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:00 AM
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It means to get at the root of why you feel awkward, ashamed, and self conscious. You can actively improve those things through self reflection and therapy. This is not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:22 AM
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It's polarizing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:23 AM
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Lmao?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:23 AM
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Well there you go. You are not comfortable being yourself. Work on that first, everything else will follow
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:22 AM
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Are you rely yourself though? And do you feel good and confident about being yourself? Because if you're yourself but you feel ashamed and embarrassed then of course women will pick up on that. The idea is actually to be unapologetically yourself. That is what's attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:34 AM
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The true alphas are the ones that just be themselves with confidence. You can be a skinny nerdy gamer dude but be alpha af depending on your attitude and not give a fuck just be yourself mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:32 AM
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Lol but you're a man. It's not the same for women they are significantly weaker than us, even at their strongest, that is the whole point
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:35 AM
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No problems dating on and off the apps as an avg guy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:05 AM
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Lol ok but that's a lot to ask from the entire population of women. Remember we are simply trying to understand why they might have this fear baked into them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:47 PM
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2014? bro I was dating actively as recently as 2022
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:46 PM
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It depends a lot on your profile, what you write, the vibe of your pics etc, and are you using premium paid boosts
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:19 PM
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Wow that's sick bro, congrats u got it made
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:13 PM
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Bro, you're arguing logic with a baked in emotion due to the evolutionary process. That's the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:12 PM
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You'll probably say the same thing to someone else another 3 years from now 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:11 PM
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Women!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:22 PM
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It's not. I meant the fear based on actual statistical likelihood of something happening. Much more likely to be SA'd by someone you know and not a random stranger I the street, as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:21 PM
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I was deep in the dating apps as recent as 3 years ago don't gimme that 90s shite
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:20 PM
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You're complaining that things aren't equal. "we have to do this, but that's not fair wahh wahh wahh" listen to yourself or just keep victim puking up to you good luck with a that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:13 AM
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That's the thing tho. He wasn't compensating, just being himself and not giving a flying fuck about his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:11 AM
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Nah was the same before he was outwardly and obviously successful even when he had nothing and I was like his 3rd employee I think. I've seen him go from nothing, to extremely wealthy, to average in his later years (dude drives around one of those nerdy little mini cars now and is coasting on like 30k a year in his 50s). He's always and still does have ladies throwing themselves at him because his charm and confidence are on another level. Dude could be a homeless yogi and he'd still be pulling …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:58 AM
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Learned this one from my psychologist when I was dealing with a lot of work stress. He reminded me that stress originates in the body and must be dealt with in the body, not the mind. I was trying to deal with my stress by thinking an working through it, but men typically need to work their bodies to be mentally well balanced. That was a lightbulb moment for me and I cranked up the gym, running, football/soccer and watched my stress melt away in the coming weeks an have generally been a much mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:50 AM
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Ok how about this: I was working at a tech startup in my younger years and he was my boss, ended up becoming one of my life long best friends and to this day is one of the most charming and charismatic mf's Ive ever know. Doesn't hurt that he's haitian french Canadian and moved to the westcoast so he does have a certain charm about him. But dude was / is short as fuck, but also charming as fuck and has never acted self conscious about his height. He's also quite built and not scared of anybody, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:47 AM
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don't get too discouraged, purplepilldebate is a funhouse mirror that doesn't reflect reality. I see my young nephews & nieces growing up and its the same shit it's always been. The negative perspective is amplified to kingdom-fuck-and-back in these online spaces never forget it homie.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:41 AM
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Awesome bro that's the best way to get beaches
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:37 AM
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Women literally give birth and you're complaining that men have to go to the gym and women peers don't 😂😂😂😂 bro listen to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:35 AM
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A man who does not train his body is significantly more prone to stress and mental anguish.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:33 AM
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Boom nailed it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:32 AM
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The biggest alpha I ever known in my life was like 5'5. But he was confident and successful and had the mind of a warrior. Never seen someone get so many women that just threw themselves at him. On another level. Handsome fellow for sure, and smart, but his charm and charisma with the ladies simply off the charts because dude saw himself as a total stud and wasn't scared of anyone or anything. Also a beast in the board room
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:26 AM
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Let them have their self fulfilling prophecy based on an echochamber of victim puke misinformation... More for the rest of us. I kidding though. I genuinely wish these guys would pull their head out for their ass but I also know how hard it can be to become unstuck from a specific perspective or negative pattern. The good news is that offline, I the real world, most guys and gals are still dating and doing their thing same as 20,30,40 years ago... The online perspective is unhinged and warped to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:21 AM
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Women are obviously significantly physically weaker and more vulnerable than men. They know it, they feel it, we know it. It is baked into them from thousands of years of experience and evolution. Is their fear of men a bit overblown in the modern world? Yes. But is it understandable, and likely coming from a primitive emotional survival instinct of some kind? Yup. And thus, even if irrational, should be somewhat understandable. As a man, I don't think you realize just how vulnerable and insecur…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:56 AM
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Easier sure.. not sure what your point is...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:40 AM
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100% agreed on the dating apps. You can much more easily connect with more attractive women off the apps / out in the wild. Especially these days as most guys just don't do this anymore so you can really stand out if you gain Abit of confidence to meet and chat with other humans (and eventually attractive women) out in the wild as you say. But as you know it's something you need to experience first hand to believe it, and most guys aren't willing to take that risk. Glad you met someone great. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:39 AM
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Never said that mate. I have a beautiful wife who I'm very attracted to, great chemistry and sex life. But I chose her primarily for her personality: kind, good sense of humor, loyal, down to earth, and smart a s a whip. I find a lot of the guys on these forums are way too focused on looks, become intimidated, and forget that they should be vetting these women for LTR & personality traits instead of putting them on a pedastal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:03 PM
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So it's all about physical attractiveness to you? What about personality and compatibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:21 PM
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Downgrading can actually be a good strategy to run through more numbers and just generally become more comfortable with women. Or.. what do you mean by downgrading?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:51 PM
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Yes the whole point is that most dudes would do so much better with a slight mindset shift. Anecdotally, a good mate of mine was having a terrible time on the dating apps, I pointed out a few things he was doing wrong and how his mindset was self defeating and literally within 1 weekend his dating life completely turned around. It's a numbers game is a crucial mindset aspect to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:49 PM
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Yeah may do you probably partly right part of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:17 AM
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The autism in this sub is maxxing out time to dump the stock
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:55 AM
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Your view of things is so negative and limited. This is why it's important to see dating as a numbers game. If you have only been on 2 dates in 7 years then you're doing something wrong and you're not even really in the game to begin with so why even talk about something you're not really involved in?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:52 AM
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Of courseeee. You're arguing with the wrong dude my guy. I never claimed men should do all the lifting in a romantic relationship. Who would want a partner that doesn't reciprocate and also go out of their way to make you feel special? I have a great wife, we both put effort into keeping the spark alive and making the other feel special. I wouldn't be with her otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:47 AM
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Wow what a bad-faith bastardization of what I said . The idea is that part of you needs to keep living your life for your own pure enjoyment, fulfillment, growth, etc. It's part of what made you attractive when you started dating your wife. That you had your own life. A lot of guys get in a relationship then become complacent, depressed, couch potatoes. Women too, but guys are especially prone to this pattern. Keep living your life (partly) as if you were single, your own person, with your own p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:41 AM
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every guy is simping so apparently it's rocket science?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:36 AM
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I'd pick being single over both those options. What are you tryna say?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:34 AM
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"highly motivated to try and make the best of what little interest you do get" Yikes I can hear the pussy drying up from here. If anyone is reading this and this is remotely similar to your dating mindset... I dunno what to tell you. You're fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:25 AM
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First date should be a quick coffee, a walk, a quick drink etc. Second date should be something fun you'd both enjoy. Pay or don't pay whatever. But yeah, keep it simple. By the end of the 2nd date it will be obvious if there is chemistry or not. Also, always be the one to end the date. Have control of that shit, dontbe that awkward dude waiting to see where things go. Plan something for afterward so you actually have somewhere you gotta be. This shit ain't rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:21 AM
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Then they end up like most miserable couch potato couples having no sex and being resentful of each other but unable to separate because they are just comfortable enough. And besides, they've both let themselves go and who's gonna wanna be with them anyways so much easier to just stay together and grit your teeth until death do us part. Such a beautiful approach to life and marriage!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:07 AM
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Yes just leave him right then and there, instead of y'know, expressing yourself and telling him how you feel when he tosses his freshly washed shirt on the floor. Definitely much easier to simply leave him at that point /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:06 AM
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Yes but you're missing half the frame / mindset. When you're dating someone in the early and exciting stages of a relationship, you probably have your own life as well, your own goals, hobbies etc. This is part of what makes you attractive, exciting, and mysterious. So "never stop dating" is a reminder to keep wooing your wife / spouse, yes. But it's also a reminder to keep growing and evolving and pursuing your life outside the relationship. More quality time together. More quality time doing y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:00 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:19 AM
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Confirmed. Most of the people in this sub are unaware of the real redpill philosophy and simply argue for or against a gross bastardization of their actual beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:44 AM
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90% of these men who are butt hurt about women are aiming WAY out of their league, overly focused on looks instead of personality. They go for stacey and complain that Stacey is "too Stacey" and wish they were more Margaret. But they won't go for Margaret hahaha wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:16 AM
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As a guy who also has found a wonderful wife, a top tier human being in general, congrats. There absolutely are great women out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:14 AM
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Nah not true. I slayed on the dating apps as a 5.5-6 avg looking guy just by being friendly, easy going and not weird. Bit of chat, suggest a low risk meetup like coffee or a walk then go from there. "Well you're clearly an 8 or a 9 not a 5 or 6 like you say". No. I'm not. I was however aiming in my own league, not shooting for the 10s, maybe 7s at most but either way I swiped on girls I knew were in my league. Be normal Be friendly Suggest meetup (coffee/walk) once rapport is established Aim fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:17 PM
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The opposite or creepy is a guy who's relaxed and easy going, come what may, live and let live, comfortable in his own skin, and happily going about his life. Take that for what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 02:27 AM
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Also want to say that I enjoyed reading all your comments (both of you) and there was a lot of food for thought in your spirited back and forth 🤝🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 09:15 AM
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He does have a point though. If you swap our man and woman for white person and black person, because the stats show blacks disproportionately likely to carry out a physical assault or attack the white person, then doesn't all your same logic apply?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 09:07 AM
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Everything the internet autist says makes perfect logical sense, but often misses the mark on simple common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 04:04 PM
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It will become obvious if you simply apply it and practice it. You can start by simply making small talk and being friendly with random strangers (scary, I know, to talk to a random human) Women are no different. Like damn this is human socializing 101 here. Your perception is warped by what you read online and doesn't reflect the reality of the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:54 PM
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What are you talking about do we even live on the same planet? I small talk people ALL THE TIME while out in public. People are generally friendly and receptive, including dateable women. You want to chat women up and increase your chances of meeting someone then simply learn to make polite and friendly small talk with random Humans as you go about your day in public. Women are no different. Or you can continue to assume the world is a big scary place that will reject you if you put yourself out…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:50 PM
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I dunno man what would you say to some sweet old lady in line at the grocery store to be friendly? Or some other dude in line for coffee. Just talk to women like humans Make small talk. If you don't know how to do that, research it and practice it. It's actually a thing that a lot of people still do and most people are still surprisingly open to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:42 PM
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SMH your autistic mind is in a knot
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:50 PM
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You clearly don't know what you're talking about and have never tried what I'm suggesting
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:49 PM
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Bro sorry but that's the worst possible thing to say to a woman you want to chat up. Like damn, easy there tiger. How about just making normal conversation to see if you even like her? A bit of light banter, see if you vibe, observe her and see if you even like her personality. Women can sense if you're only interested in sex, and that can intimidate them. Much better, and they will be much more receptive if you go in with more of a friendship-vibe and just say a few light hearted things to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:04 AM
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Who cares. Besides, that's the loud minority. Vast majority of women are still open to being approached. Just be respectful and read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:00 AM
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It's much easier than this supposes. You can easily walk around smiling and making eye contact with women / people. It will be obvious which women are feeling your vibe and open to you approaching them. VS sneaking up behind them like the pink panther and 'going in cold'. There are shades / levels to this thing. Start with the easiest and most obvious approaches don't make things so hard on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:58 AM
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My wife is a lot like this. These women do actually exist believe it or not. Kind, empathetic, smart, understanding, down to earth, emotionally intelligent (buzz words, i know). All the best feminine attributes to compliment a man. Not to say any woman (or man) is perfect. But there is definitely a subset of high quality women that fit this type and a decent amount of them too. But it's also up to men to look deeper and not be shallow just as they request women do towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:07 AM
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As an average guy who went hard on the dating apps for a period of time, can confirm that paying for tinder gold was a huge difference maker and well worth the cost for boosts and other perks. Can also confirm that I was very very successful on the dating apps. Met a lot of cool chicks, a lot of fun dates, some even remaining friends until this day. They key to success I found was to just be light-hearted, have fun with zero expectations, genuinely enjoy getting to know the other person, and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 02:24 AM
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Hey you, stop being so reasonable. Your post is not nearly inflamatory enough for this sub. Shame on you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:55 AM
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What percentage of that 70% is because women are fed up with their shitty husband? The 70% means nothing without deeper understanding and context.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:47 PM
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Exactly my point my man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:59 PM
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So many men do the exact same as these “evil women”. ie Ditch their loyal wife for some less-than-honorable reason. (did you know 20.9% of women who become terminally or life-threateningly ill are left by their husbands?) ... (while only 2.9% of men who become seriously sick are abandoned by their wives) Cherry picking the worst from each side of the gender debate is lame and boring af. Low IQ online debate sphere
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:18 AM
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They are arguing with the voices in their own head, publicly via internet forums lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:39 PM
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It's a way to test your strength. Simple as that. They often shit test without even realizing what they are doing
/r/askMRP26/09/24 09:03 AM
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Attaboy, but also attaboy fr. Good luckmotivation and a few solid points buried in that shitwall of text ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 10:48 PM
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Cute post. Time to get to work you may have a solid 40 years ahead of you
/r/askMRP04/09/24 08:35 PM
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To a degree yes, but for the most part women can sniff out fake / unearned confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:22 AM
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You should start a dating app that does a criminal record check Be the change you wish to see in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:41 PM
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Jesus Christ bro your hamster wheel is on beast mode
/r/askMRP01/06/24 11:14 PM
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Ride or Die friends? Uhh yah of course. Thought that was a given
/r/askMRP12/05/24 07:31 AM
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You can leave the redpill but the redpill never leaves you
/r/askMRP11/04/24 05:26 PM
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But... Andrew Tate hurr durr
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 06:56 AM
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Epic thread. Keep going 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:14 PM
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Blessings bro, great to see progress post like this with a true redpill orientation bleeding through in every word, not that fake-ass alpha tate kabuki bs
/r/askMRP15/02/24 12:36 AM
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This was my first thought. He's may be more concerned with what others think of his woman than what he actually thinks of her
/r/askMRP13/02/24 06:06 PM
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Turn off the Andrew Tate videos and read the sidebar for ffs. This post gave me cancer
/r/askMRP08/02/24 07:29 AM
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boom. top answer. everything described can be said about abusive men as well. that's just being a shitty person. and 100% relate to basic courtesy in a relationship, doesn't mean I'm not independent or don't have my own boundaries. relationships are give and take
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:52 AM
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lol what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:13 PM
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Stop making friends with shitty people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:09 AM
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Running and general fitness is a good start but ain't gonna cut it. Pack on a few lbs of muscle. Gym. Squats, deadlifts, bench. In and out in 30-60min 3x per week is enough to stand out from your average Joe. If you're having troubles interacting with women do what you can to spend more time around them in a non romantic context, practice chatting up random women when you're out and about, and as much as I cringe at the PUA stuff there is a lot of truth in their pickup methods than can be a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:51 AM
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Being 5'6 is not a disqualifier. The biggest Chad I know is a short king, women fawn over him. He is very intelligent, in great shape, and very charismatic though. So yeah, if you're short you probably need some other stand out qualities to land a high quality woman because no doubt women are attracted to height. But they're also attracted to intelligence, humor, status, muscles, etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:44 AM
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Exactly. Most of these nerdcels complaining about women are generally awkward as hell because they simply haven't spent enough time around them. They are literally still in a 3rd grade mindset when it comes to girls lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:23 PM
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Do you go to the gym.and exercise regularly? Start there. Lift = solves a lot of problems in terms of physique, confidence, discipline, attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:21 PM
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That could be true, but I'd guess that the vast majority of men struggling with women could solve their problems by simply; 1) Putting effort into their fitness, style, etc 2) Spending more time around women generally 3) Playing the numbers game and getting over the fear of hitting on women Could you be one of the few guys that is genuinely going to be hopess with women? Maybe. But chances are you are not, and the above 3 points will drastically help you, especially considering most men couldn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:12 PM
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Sources for this? Genuinely curious as I have not heard this before.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:31 PM
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Qualify that with makes good stable income and I think most would say yes. Are you saying most women would rather date a white collar worker making $80k/year than a blue collar worker making $160k/year?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:53 PM
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what's the stats / numbers on that? for perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:25 PM
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Nah I'm not talking white collar specifically. Everyone knows electricians, plumbers, trades, etc are very lucrative. I could have just easily said that my buddy finally got a good career in plumbing and the same story would hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:55 PM
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Agreed, I don't think all do, but it's very common. Also I could roll that back and just say "general awkwardness" around any woman they are attracted to. Exposure therapy wins the day. Something PUA's had right was to just get out there and get over the awkwardness of being shot down / rejected / denied by doing it so much you don't care anymore and realize it's just a numbers game and nothing to do with you personally
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:43 PM
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Make enough money that you can be financially stable and a good partner. This will vary depending on where you live of course. Yet a good portion of these magic the gathering or wow players are so obsessed that they never take a few years to deliberately build their career prospects and remain working in retail, warehousing, or some other low tier job that anyone can get. Just a few years back one of my nerdy buddies finally got off his ass and got some Microsoft networking certifications he'd b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:26 PM
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Your anecdotal experience may tell you that, but mine tells me the opposite. I know a lot of nerds who fit your description, and without exception the ones who have good careers and take care of themselves have attractive wives and never had any problems dating. Can't say the same for the others, even though hobbies and interests are the same
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:15 PM
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Such men probably need to adjust their expectations of what kind of woman they can land. With that said, a man with nerdy hobbies who also has the rest of his life in order should have no problem finding a decent woman. Good career? Look after yourself and in relatively good shape? Good hygiene? Play magic the gathering on weekends? Cool. The problem is the guys with nerdy hobbies often times purse these things to an obsessive level while they let the rest of their lives go to shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:06 PM
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I wasn't aware that having nerdy hobbies means you can never hang out with women, have women friends, or deliberately spend a small portion of your free time pursuing an activity that will purposefully put you in the company of women so you can practice being around women and seeing them as human beings
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 05:53 PM
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Could be true but either way a lot of men could benefit by simply hanging out with women more in a non romantic context
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 05:49 PM
1

Sorry bro, never too late to get your shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:58 PM
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One of the best things to do for a man who struggle's with women is to make friends with them and spend more time with women outside a romantic context. Step 1) Learn to be relaxed and friendly with women and see them as just a human being without putting them on a pedestal. Problem with a lot of these nerdcels is they never spend any time around women then become absolute awkward niceguy fedora tipping freaks once they are actually in the presence of a woman they are even slightly attracted to.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:55 PM
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5 solid friends is enough to be a healthy human. I don't think op was saying everyone needed 50-100 expansive friend network lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:51 PM
5

Oh jeez, color me surprised, most of the guys complaining about relationships and whamen also happen to have no irl friends. shocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:47 PM
5

You're letting whamen live rent free in your head buddy, go be a monk already and leave MRP to us losers
/r/askMRP21/01/24 03:48 AM
4

"boooo whaaaammannn, am I right fam?"
/r/askMRP21/01/24 02:05 AM
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Lol what kinda bitches you wasting your time on homie. Come back in 10 years. This is MRP after all
/r/askMRP21/01/24 12:51 AM
1

Too much time online and not enough sunshine = socially awkward. Average looking guy who has lots of friends (of both sexes) and a healthy mindset and a shred of self respect will have no problem landing a decent woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:44 AM
2

Zero. Your children are better off with a happy and contented father, not simmering resentment between parents that they have to be around every single day. "Staying together for the kids" will set your kids up for unhealthy relationship patterns in their future.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 10:29 PM
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So let me get this right... Your wife could abuse you to no end, and you will remain in the marriage because you're catholic and have taken vows? Stop bullshitting us OP. Either you are lying that you would never leave your wife, or you are the biggest beta pussy on this forum and actually never would leave your wife, in which case you are a lost cause. You could read and practice all the best MRP stuff and it will all be for nothing if you don't have any boundaries or expectations of your wife …
/r/askMRP17/01/24 09:26 PM
2

Most redpillers would not disagree with you. Redpill is not prescriptive, it's descriptive. You want to be a poor fucboy who plays guitar on the beach all day? Here's how to do it. You don't want to get married? Here's what to know. You want to get married and have kids and be monogomous? Here's what to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:34 PM
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If you want to learn how to fish you don't ask a fish you ask a fisherman 😅 People are rarely aware of how their underlying motivations and psychology, and this goes for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:30 PM
3

No new ideas being presented because I think the redpill guys from a few years ago (who had been posting this stuff for 10+ years) discovered most of the important stuff already. But of course that's not exciting to people who want to consume instead of apply and practice. (not accusing you of this) Someone said recently that if you look back far enough you see this stuff comes in cycles if decades, and needs to be forgotten and redescovered again and again through trial and error (unhappy guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:27 PM
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Nice to see someone who actually knows the original redpill philosophy and not the bastardized crap being shilled by Tate and the like. Original redpill was literally just guys (and lots of married / ltr guys) comparing notes on what made them and their wives happier, and thus happier relationships, and helping men to live better more actualized lives. The "redpill" as it's commonly known now is a joke and most of the original redpill guys are laughing at how ridiculous it all is. Like damn bro,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:22 PM
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Bro this is the price men pay and have always paid. It's nature. Don't fight it, embrace it. Women are judged on their looks, men are judged on WHAT THEY DO (and who they are). You want to attract hotties? Be an attractive man. Be a formidable man. Accel in your chosen field, be fit (gym), and be a man leading a full life who doesn't need a woman to make him happy. Then the women come, effortlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:48 PM
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I'm not paying $35 to read this. But I did read the abstract. People are getting married later in life. But that doesn't say anything about dating or relationships. Just because people aren't getting married doesn't mean they aren't having meaningful romantic relationships and even families
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:54 AM
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And yet the vast majority of people I know, both young and old, continue to do what they've always done. Date, marry, have kids. Are things changing? Yes, but the way people talk here in this forum you'd think society has gone from 8/10 people dating and marrying down to 1/10 people dating and marrying. When it's probably more like 7.5/10 people are now dating and marrying instead if 8. It's a slight shift in our society that is way over blown in internet discussions. Log off, touch grass, spend…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:05 AM
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Most companies are quite small. I'm not talking about being the CEO of a fortune 500 company ffs. You can become quite wealthy running a small business of 3 to 10 people or even being a contractor
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:41 AM
0

Lol I don't think you have to worry about that anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:58 PM
0

They are for the guy running the accounting company tho. As I said, be slightly better than the average (in this case, accountant)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:58 PM
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They all end up in the Dead bedrooms subreddit 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:56 PM
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You don't have to be a pro athletes or a billionaire. Just more successful than the average guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:50 PM
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Can work on very attractive women who are used to fawning men and see you as a point or 2 below her in terms of looks but not totally out of the running
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 07:52 PM
0

If you're goal is to court a woman who See's herself (even subconsciously) as higher on the totem pole than you, then the strategy could make sense. Because she expects you to fawn over her, so when you defy her expectation it increases her interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 07:28 PM
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This strategy works great for women who are on the fence about you. Read the room. There are very few hard rules about how to interact with women to build attraction. Every woman / circumstance is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 07:24 PM
4

They not true alpha's then. I've seen a true alpha who was the biggest fucking nerd I ever met. But he didn't give a fuck what anyone thought about him. He would talk about the dorkiest stuff but in a way that made it seem like the coolest shit you ever heard. Chicks loved this little nerd. They were all over him. His whole vibe / attitude was on another level and you couldn't help but be drawn to him and think that whatever he thought was cool was most definitely it. There's alpha, then there's…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:40 PM
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Good luck I doubt anyone has concrete examples. Just vague ideas of how they think things are 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:41 AM
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Being the kind of man that legit-RP philosophy guides one towards is still an extremely rare thing and will likely be for the rest of all our lifetimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:00 PM
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women are the gate keepers of sex. men are the gate keepers of relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:59 AM
4

Cool cool
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:58 AM
8

I've experienced this type of masturbation as well, usually after an extended period of not busting. Also me and my wife have experimented with edging and "Karezza", and I notice a similar experience. Only way I can describe it is a more sensual connection to ones sexuality -vs- beast mode horniness. Almost like if you don't bust a nut for a while, don't look at porn etc. the energy is transmuted into this more all pervading sensual energy. Then when you masturbate it's a different experience an…
/r/askMRP26/11/23 10:19 PM
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It's whatever you want it to be. Want a side piece? Get one. Want a great romantic life with your wife? Here's how to do it. All men want something different and that's ok. Some see this list posted above and think it's a hassle. Others see it as just the natural order of things and aren't bothered by it in the slightest.. To each his own way, which is what the RP is all about: getting what you truly want out of life regardless of what others think
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/23 10:36 PM
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I'm assuming you know what she likes in bed? Meaning you guys talk about sex openly without shame and are exploring your desires? Does it feel like your sex life together is evolving and growing? It should, imo. 50% of my sexual focus is on getting my needs met, ie telling her exactly what I want. 50% of my sexual focus is on my wife and her pleasure. Also helping her to explore her sexuality, unlocking new things in her, creating a safe space for her to share what she wants, express herself etc…
/r/askMRP23/11/23 05:10 PM
21

If you want less starfish and more enthusiasm then you need to be planting seeds of attraction and arousal throughout the day, with the right mix of dread and comfort so she feels close and connected to you but simultaneously wanting more of you. And always let her see / sense your sexuality, never hide it, always express that you're a man with a sex drive. First thing my wife feels each morning is my morning wood pressed against her ass when we wake up and spoon for a few minutes before getting…
/r/askMRP23/11/23 03:49 PM
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Touch some grass homie. Most women not like this in the real world. They just want a financially responsible / healthy man who earns a steady income lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 06:51 PM
8

You're so deep in your wife's frame that I wonder if you're even capable of having a thought that doesn't revolve around her. The actual living embodiment of "Happy Wife Happy Life" Why work 70 hour weeks? You're clearly miserable and have zero time for your family or your self
/r/askMRP21/11/23 04:15 PM
1

Nah, women are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:35 PM
1

Ok what? The point is that you can treat your woman well withouth being a simp
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:48 PM
1

Bury it deep in the backyard so she never forgets that fucking duck!!
/r/askMRP15/11/23 10:49 PM
2

My condolences to your pet duck ✊
/r/askMRP15/11/23 10:21 PM
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Been with my girl for 25 years. I treat her like gold. I'm nice to her, kind to her, and generally do what I can on a daily basis to make her life just a little bit better. However, I also have my own life, I have boundaries, and I always express my truth to her even if it conflict with hers. I'm my own person, with my own goals, interests, hobbies, perspectives , etc. This is what most women want and are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 08:02 PM
5

Bro, who cares, build a better life with or without her
/r/askMRP15/11/23 07:07 PM
1

Was in highschool and college in the 90s. Most of us were all fucking eachother. No iphones, no social media, just good ol hormones raging.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 10:26 PM
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I would consider myself a 5 and I still had no problems chasing and dating a lot of decently attractive women for meaningless flings. Confidence goes a long way towards attraction. So does simply being a normal person who treats the other person like, gasp, a human being. Having lots of women as friends goes a long way to both of the above. Being comfortable in your own skin around women comes from simply having lots of them in your life. And yes, men and women. can be friends in a purely platon…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:42 PM
1

lol well said
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:38 PM
3

I've dated a few significantly younger women (10 to 15 year age gap) and every single time it was the same story: 1) They prefer older guys to guys their age (ie a guy with a career, ambition, and who doesn't look like a teenager, is simply more attractive to them) 2) These women tend to be a bit more ambitious and mature themselves as compared to their peers Believe it or not many younger women actually prefer and are more attracted to guys in their 30s and 40s. I've met enough of them to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:13 PM
2

They are not young girls, they are young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:03 PM
1

Well put
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:55 PM
1

Ok I get the "ick" now.. for me, if a girl is too negative and catty or talks trash about people behind their back. A lot of women are like this fromy experience, and it makesy skin crawl
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:56 AM
1

If she don't smell right. I've dated hot girls that just had a weird (not bad) smell about them, and I just couldn't get past it. My current girlfriend smells like home
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:55 AM
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You're mistaking stuff you read on the interwebs for real life. Most of the women I've dated have not reacted negatively to me showing emotion. and with my current girlfriend, whenever I open up and be vnerable and show emotion is when we have the best damn sex ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 01:22 AM
3

Pendulum swing implies that the pendulum will naturally swing back to progressivism. This guy's argument is that conservatism will wipe it off the map as we know it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 10:49 PM
1

I couldn't remember if swears get blocked or not 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:25 PM
1

Yes. So if I as a man am more statistically likely to experience physical violence while out and about, wouldn't that mean I should be the one who's more scared?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:24 PM
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Men are literally more likely to be the victims of physical violence than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:40 PM
2

I come from a more traditional family structure in the sense that my mom stayed home and gave up her career ambition while my dad worked to bring home the paychecks. My parents are boomers and I'm Gen X. As soon as my Dad got home from work thosugh he was either doing some traditionally male chore like cutting the lawn or washing the cars, or more often taking me and my brother to our various sports & activities. So between work and being with his kids he basically worked from 6am to 9pm every s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:27 PM
1

did you even read the post? Dude is talking literally about the collapse of progressivism due to piss poor birthrates, not a pendulum swim
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:10 PM
3

I'll take a 6 that looks like a 6 first thing in the morning with no makeup, any day of the week. I have a friend who's an 8, or so I thought until I saw without makeup. She was so unbelievably good at applying makeup that I never realized just how much of it she was wearing. It was not obvious even up close. Everything looked natural. I always thought you could tell the girls with heavy makeup, but you cant
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:44 AM
2

Based af. Also lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:41 AM
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I'm surprised more people don't mention this in these discussions. The reality is that men will fvck and casual date down a few points, which not only leaves a wake of hurt and used women but also psychologically messes with them because they get a false idea of their appropriate looks match range. Ie they think just because they can casually date & fck an 8 means they are and 8, when in reality they are a 5 and will never get an 8 in a serious relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:38 AM
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Ya I dunno it's weird. But then again we're just a bunch of apes who have barely emerged from the cave. So the answer to your question is probably pretty damn complicated and a mix of many many factors. Everything from naturalbevolution and biology factors right up to social control and patriarchy stuff. It's kinda like asking why female gorillas don't bond with each other and all compete for the attention of the alpha male. I mean gorilla society would probably be alot better if the ladies lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:37 PM
1

Most reasonable answer in this thread. Good job 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:49 PM
0

Based af ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:46 PM
1

I and most men want there to be more sluts, not less. But if I was a Dad and had a daughter I would definitely not want her to be a slut. However my son could be a playa as long as he's safe and respectful. Why is this? No frickibg clue. Just an automatic instinct I feel, and probably most others as well, resulting from evolutionary past, the patriarchy, yadda yadda...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:26 PM
1

Do whatever you want to do. You want to stay at home and be trad wife and have no career ambition? Cool. You want to be a high powered career woman? Cool. Most guys don't care one way or another and it doesn't make you more or less attractive to us. (The opposite is not true though, ie high status men are usually inherently attractive to women). Just do whatever makes you happy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:19 AM
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