_troubled_ Archive

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4	Date took a complete 180, need advice She wasn't feeling it obviously. I couldn't tell you why specifically, could be anything. I know you think you seduced her perfectly based on your conscious behavior, but something about you could've (must've) turned her off that you aren't aware of about yourself. Some brief constructive observations: the way you've described building attraction in your situation (eye contact, smiling, light platonic touching, complimenting, subtle flirting) isn't obviously romantic or seductive. It's significa…	/r/seduction	14/10/19 05:10 PM
–	Just do it already Keep telling yourself that, but attraction isn't objective.	/r/seduction	06/10/19 03:00 PM
–	What would you do if a woman who broke up with you 6 months ago committed suicide? I'd conclude that she was damaged and needed help. I was looking through your account history and it seems that possibly you are the woman who broke up with someone 6 months ago. I don't want to jump to conclusions but it seems to me that you need someone to talk to , someone that can actually digest and understand what you're going through so they can help you. I'm gathering that you think committing suicide will be a vengeance for being treated wrongly. You're trying to determine how he would …	/r/seduction	14/08/19 04:29 PM
2	Girls want you to take action Read about it then. You can't just expect to get something without knowing anything about it. You have to teach yourself. A simple touch isn't what instantly turns someone on. You touch someone in a friendly manner to get them comfortable with your touch, not to "spark sexual attraction." Sexual attraction comes during/after comfort is established, when touching becomes more intimate/romantic/sexual. If you've ever had a woman come onto you then you'd know exactly how a simple touch/grab of your…	/r/seduction	04/08/19 04:49 PM
3	If you chase/ pursuit 1 girl at a time you will loose your mind Softening the blow from rejections while perpetuating the same actions that made him feel this same way initially? That doesn't sound right to me. He already explained it to you.	/r/seduction	20/07/19 06:16 PM
3	Should I politely put her in her place? I think you should take a deep breath and ask yourself what exactly she did to you that was so disrespectful. Objectively it seems that you're pissed that she isn't into it anymore. She doesn't owe you anything. Like someone else mentioned, if you don't tolerate a behavior, then simply don't tolerate it. You don't gain anything by discussing your lack of tolerance. You won't change someone by trying to discuss it with them. It just makes you look worse. Find someone whose behavior you can tolera…	/r/seduction	14/07/19 02:44 AM
–	Lesson about kino What? Based on what evidence?	/r/seduction	13/07/19 07:33 PM
27	Lost my virginity on vacation Yes I agree. Who goes to the DR on vacation and survives?	/r/seduction	03/07/19 10:36 PM
–	Went on the best date ever--she has a boyfriend. He smock	/r/seduction	01/07/19 09:09 PM
2	Any older guys here? 30's or 40's Check your state laws. Where I live in the US, up to age 24 you can legally get with age 16-17. But yeah there will be stigma regardless.	/r/seduction	13/06/19 03:28 PM
2	If I went to the gym, would it help my looks and help with girls? Indirectly. If it improves your confidence then that'll help you get laid.	/r/seduction	06/05/19 08:48 PM
5	If I went to the gym, would it help my looks and help with girls? You can make substantial progress in the gym going 90 minutes a week. Three 30 minute sessions a week. People that say they dont have time are liars. Diet is what's more important and more challenging. Also, don't do things for girls. Don't lift to get girls. Lift for yourself.	/r/seduction	06/05/19 08:42 PM
1	Lats getting tired from pulling shoulders back? Maybe you're over exaggerating it. Your posture should be relaxed, not tense. Relaxed shoulders, slight tension in the abdomen, upright neck and raised chest. Shouldn't have back activation if you're relaxed.	/r/seduction	15/04/19 10:39 PM
2	The fix for oneitis Thank you man, greatly appreciate you.	/r/seduction	11/04/19 09:12 PM
–	The fix for oneitis Nah man it makes sense. I've always struggled with it, and it's always felt out of my control. It's most likely attributed to something from child development. It's all deeply subconscious I think. Got bullied pretty hard through younger puberty years, physically and mentally, but relationships seem to be the most affected from that. I should be proactive and get some help.	/r/seduction	11/04/19 10:19 AM
–	The fix for oneitis How can I go about figuring that out and taking care of it? Just went full retard recently and can't stop beating myself up over it.	/r/seduction	11/04/19 09:43 AM
2	I Feel Like I'm going to miss out. You'll only miss out if you don't take action; start making improvements now. Don't let any internal or external negativity prevent you from starting now. The sooner you put in effort, the sooner you'll see results. The sooner you start building experience and learning, the better you'll be. Why are your friends better at this? Because they've been doing it longer, it's that simple. I wasted years beating myself up and self destructing, and my skill set is lagging significantly in comparison to …	/r/seduction	09/04/19 07:00 AM
14	How do you guys manage frustration and desperation, especially after failure? I'm going to be real with you. You're giving yourself a month and a half to develop a skill set and pressuring yourself by expecting results within this timeframe. You're most likely going to be left more disappointed in yourself. Be honest with yourself. You're not going to want to hear this, but you're more than likely not going to get laid or meet the 'one' by mid may. Is it possible? Yeah, but you'd have to make this into your top priority, going out multiple times a week, studying, learning…	/r/seduction	29/03/19 04:48 PM
3	Met her on tinder There's really no specific topic to talk about with someone. There are certain questions you can ask but really, conversation develops spontaneously and being in your head about what to say will ruin your ability to communicate. You can literally say anything to anyone and it really doesn't matter. Instead of thinking of saying something just say it and put it out there and see where it goes. Don't try. I suggest reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Changes your perspective on a lot of s…	/r/seduction	29/01/19 10:41 PM
1	I'm choosing to move on This is great, I needed this. Is this simply done through abundance? Having more options = less investment into one particular girl? I've been out of the game for a while so when I get attention it's like a parasite for my brain.	/r/seduction	27/01/19 07:49 PM
3	I'm choosing to move on I've been dealing with this same bullshit over the past couple weeks. Girl comes onto me, says we should hangout, goes cold randomly, and isn't receptive to hanging out when I try to set something up. It's bizarre and a waste of mental energy so I'm done. There's like no attraction between us either, I shouldn't have gotten involved. Shits whack.	/r/seduction	27/01/19 06:06 AM
8	Had sex for the first time and doesn't feel good? Cut back your masturbation to increase sensitivity again. I mean it’s your choice really: death grip masturbation or enjoyable sex with a partner. Don’t fap for two weeks and see how sensitive you get.	/r/seduction	27/08/18 02:07 PM
4	Had sex for the first time and doesn't feel good? Is this an actual question? Have sex however you like to.	/r/seduction	27/08/18 02:05 PM
4	Had sex for the first time and doesn't feel good? The best solution is to stop masturbating so frequently and so intensely. The way to fix this is to increase blood flow and allowing your dick to heal itself. If you’re constantly masturbating intensely, your dick is worn out. Think of it like a muscle. It needs time to recover. There are actually dick exercise routines that improve erection quality and in some cases promote small growth in length and girth. Check out PEgym if you’re interested. I know it’s slightly weird initially but you gotta…	/r/seduction	27/08/18 02:04 PM
51	Lost my virginity when I was 16 - I've slept with 22 different girls now, and I'm 18 yrs old. Here's my most honest guide on how I've done it. Bro did you read the guide, nerd? Just drink alcohol bro In all seriousness, I’d like to hear from you. You have power over this. Why do you honestly think you aren’t having success? Like I said, you have control over yourself; you have the ability to improve, adapt, and change in the ways in which you desire. What’s holding you back?	/r/seduction	27/07/18 05:01 AM
1	Help with girl To me, she’s behaving in a way in which to prevent any sign of interest/attraction towards you, if that makes sense. If she was interested or attracted, she would hold eye contact to build attraction/tension instead of breaking it. She wouldn’t ignore you purposefully. You mention her frowning but not smiling at you. Maybe she’s shy? I have no idea, but from the information you’ve provided, I don’t think she’s without a doubt attracted or interested. If I wanted to make it clear to someone that …	/r/seduction	19/07/18 07:47 PM
1	What are some of the best ways to get a girl to come over for sex after you've already hooked up a couple times. I feel you on the boring invitation but honestly I don't think it matters. There's nothing you can really say that would otherwise increase the chance of her coming over. If you're good in bed that's really the only impression she needs to be more receptive. What's stopping you from hooking up when they come over to hangout? I've been in the same situation with a girl and it was just implied that she was coming over to fuck. That was the basis of our friendship so it might be different but eithe…	/r/seduction	07/02/18 05:29 PM
1	Successful people aren't Demi-Gods with insane willpower and incredible productivity skills. They are normal people who understood the importance of the small seemingly insignificant daily disciplines. They understood how these disciplines leveraged with time could make them unstoppable. http://www.nature.com/articles/mp201185 http://www.nature.com/articles/ng.3869	/r/seduction	12/01/18 04:10 PM
1	Successful people aren't Demi-Gods with insane willpower and incredible productivity skills. They are normal people who understood the importance of the small seemingly insignificant daily disciplines. They understood how these disciplines leveraged with time could make them unstoppable. There is definitely genetic implication in intelligence. Look at savants. Look at young kids who are intelligent beyond their years, completing college degrees at incredibly young ages. Not everyone has that capability, and it's not even a learnable attribute. It's an unquestionable genetic gift.	/r/seduction	12/01/18 03:08 PM
1	Need help improving myself but I just don't know how to do it. What is your mental concept of a confident man? What do you think you're lacking in terms of becoming confident?	/r/seduction	02/01/18 04:44 AM
2	Feeling pretty defeated right now. :/ Be present, in the moment. I know it's cliche but that's how you take things at face value, for what they are without judgement or projection.	/r/seduction	01/01/18 11:50 PM
1	Need help improving myself but I just don't know how to do it. What problems?	/r/seduction	01/01/18 11:33 PM
1	Need help improving myself but I just don't know how to do it. Set goals. Align actions to achieve goals. Do what you want. Let go of the past and more importantly, learn to let go of your thoughts.	/r/seduction	01/01/18 11:18 PM
2	What’s your mindset with women? What kind of action did you take to change that mind frame? I hear stopping porn helps which I should probably consider	/r/seduction	01/01/18 11:02 PM
71	A guy lived with all women for a week and tweeted all of his observations about them Is what worth what? If you value your life on women, then no, it isn't worth it. Life isn't worth living for women. Live for your self.	/r/seduction	22/12/17 01:15 PM
1	How do I reconcile a high sex drive with my quiet and introverted nature? How does it break down to "some people are outgoing and some are not?" That's the exact labeling process of introversion and extroversion.	/r/seduction	21/12/17 06:06 PM
3	I have a great life and good confidence... except when it comes to girls It's not gonna disappear. It takes work to get over and there's no shame in that.	/r/seduction	08/12/17 03:09 PM
1	How to transform? Need help here! Gym. Meditation. Time.	/r/seduction	08/12/17 12:23 AM
2	My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turn Everyone taking psychiatric medication should be told this. It's unbelievable. Here take this pill that you know nothing about and figure it out. Come back for a higher dose if it doesn't work.	/r/seduction	17/10/17 01:07 PM
1	My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turn Figure out what you truly desire in life and go after it. Invest in figuring out what you're passionate about. Having a clear picture of your future will make anything seemingly more attainable and you'll have fulfillment, fun, and love. You're looking for a massive change in consciousness, in your perspective of the world. https://youtu.be/Hq3OVbUYQfo FF to 00:03:30	/r/seduction	16/10/17 08:24 PM
5	My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turn I really relate to you. I also went into college with the same expectations, even though I had an extremely introverted experience in high school. I was 18 and ready to have the time of my life. I lived 20 miles from the university but wanted the college experience so I spent the absurd amount on a dorm. I ended up making a few friends but no sexual or romantic partners after the first year (I was a virgin with social anxiety and a lot of insecurities.) The next fall term, I lived at home and co…	/r/seduction	16/10/17 01:21 PM
1	This Way Of Walking Makes You Look Twice As Attractive - "Men who walk with swagger in their shoulders more than doubled the perception of their attractiveness. Swagger involves dipping the shoulders slightly with each step to create a rolling motion." Probably not very, considering the site is just some guy's blog promoting his ebooks.	/r/seduction	22/09/17 01:38 PM
33	This Way Of Walking Makes You Look Twice As Attractive - "Men who walk with swagger in their shoulders more than doubled the perception of their attractiveness. Swagger involves dipping the shoulders slightly with each step to create a rolling motion." https://media.giphy.com/media/ipVUldHk1ZxPW/giphy.gif Like someone else said, chances are you already do it without even knowing. It's quite subtle, as it should be.	/r/seduction	22/09/17 01:37 PM
8	This Way Of Walking Makes You Look Twice As Attractive - "Men who walk with swagger in their shoulders more than doubled the perception of their attractiveness. Swagger involves dipping the shoulders slightly with each step to create a rolling motion." So basically, no.	/r/seduction	22/09/17 01:27 PM
6	This Way Of Walking Makes You Look Twice As Attractive - "Men who walk with swagger in their shoulders more than doubled the perception of their attractiveness. Swagger involves dipping the shoulders slightly with each step to create a rolling motion." Do you think they make the number up? It was a conclusion from a study they performed. If you read the article, it claims to be more than double.	/r/seduction	22/09/17 01:26 PM
1	Who is shocked? Maybe you have a bad approach.	/r/seduction	29/08/17 12:04 PM
24	I really hate being a single virgin and its been eating me up, what should I do? I'm not here to insult you. You're approaching life the same way a five year old would though. You're stuck in a childlike paradigm. You're whining about something someone else has that you don't. Do you really think that's what women want in a man? Even if you aren't showing people these emotions directly, they're conveyed beyond belief through the subconscious, beyond your control. You're not in control, and you should be to be mentally healthy. This is why meditation exists. Life doesn't get …	/r/seduction	29/08/17 11:28 AM
1	Had a girl call me "safe" the other night What the fuck are these comments. Sad sight.	/r/seduction	26/08/17 04:45 PM
0	Guys who get laid a lot, how often do you masturbate normally? Get out of here with that garbage. You can call anything anyone says about someone projecting. It's like calling someone out for breathing. Get out of here.	/r/seduction	25/08/17 06:57 PM
2	Need advice: good looking guy with ZERO self-confidence with women This guy seduces all the women	/r/seduction	25/08/17 06:31 PM
4	Need advice: good looking guy with ZERO self-confidence with women This guy seduces all the women	/r/seduction	25/08/17 06:31 PM
1	Developing God Tier Eye Contact \| The real reason why you can't maintain strong eye contact with a women Yeah I believe it does. I'm currently struggling with self image and confidence but I've been in a place of self confidence before with a lot of PUA influence. They're both beneficial in communicating, and communication is present in almost every aspect of life. Work, family, relationships/friendships, strangers.	/r/seduction	24/08/17 11:14 PM
12	How do some guys manage to have a social life with a lot of friends and hot girls in their social circles? It's because these people you're pointing out don't have the goal of meeting people and creating relationships. That's more of a byproduct of the goal, which is to be the best version of yourself (and if it isn't, it should be.) These people you're pointing out (lack of a better term) are living their lives, and something about it captivates others enough that it makes them want to be around this person. They may find value in that person, share common interests, or even look up to that person, …	/r/seduction	20/08/17 01:48 AM
3	The Tinder Black-pill This has been posted here before. What're you trying to accomplish by posting this here? It's not useful whatsoever. These people either lack self respect or didn't read the bio. Great. So what?	/r/seduction	19/08/17 09:54 PM
14	Developing God Tier Eye Contact \| The real reason why you can't maintain strong eye contact with a women Hey man I was bullied too. I remember in middle school when I tried to make eye contact with girls and it felt like the hardest thing in the world. I've been in a bad place recently and it's really obvious how everything went down the drain for me. Posture, confidence, and eye contact were skills I built up but this past year has just broken them all down again. It's time to build myself back up. Having done it before ensures my capability and allows me to understand what works for me. A lot of …	/r/seduction	10/08/17 06:14 PM
2	How to actually love yourself. I feel like I experienced exactly this over the past year or so. I'm at stage 4 now in reference to your 5 stages, on the rebound of a morbidly terrible year. It was excellent for learning about myself, and totally necessary to successfully move forward but I'm way out of shape and my eating habits are out of control	/r/seduction	01/08/17 04:22 PM
5	How to tell a very clingy and needy girl you aren't interested? This is the worst advice I've ever seen but thanks for the laugh	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:48 AM
1	Why do people change after marriage? Nah pussy get an R1	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:39 AM
1	Neediness is ruining myself, help! You think you're acting needy but she's upset that you won't talk to her.... Hello?	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:29 AM
3	At what age is too old to hit on college chicks? This is the funniest thing I've read all day	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:20 AM
1	Let's be Honest Here About Virginity Lol I actually just saw his comment on another thread and it seems he's trolling	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:08 AM
3	I can't keep girls, any advice? Cool story bro	/r/seduction	01/08/17 01:04 AM
1	Let's be Honest Here About Virginity Because you're an asshole.?	/r/seduction	01/08/17 12:53 AM
28	Let's be Honest Here About Virginity It's obvious that you value happiness in sex, and believe that other people have that same value. They don't.	/r/seduction	31/07/17 11:24 PM
6	I will tell you one of the best places to meet women Mindset	/r/seduction	24/07/17 08:59 PM
6	If you flirt with every girl you see you'll have multiple options by the end of the week (if not the same day). Instead of saying "girls don't like dating you because you're too nice," why don't you turn it into advice? "Girls don't like dating you because you value them more than they value you and more than you value yourself." If you tell a nice guy he's too nice, they have no clue how to change. They didn't even know that was a problem. Chances are they go black and white and turn into a lonely douche bagging asshole with no friends of any gender.	/r/seduction	19/07/17 10:45 PM
3	Bought tinder plus, ran out of people to right swipe in an hour? Exactly this. Only using apps to meet people puts a huge limitation not only on the amount of people you'll potentially meet, but also different/unique individuals. I'm not saying everyone on tinder falls into some similar category, but the amount of people 'off' of tinder compared to 'on' tinder is huge. If you have that much desire for abundance, you'd be better off polarizing in person in my opinion. Bars, clubs, and if those aren't for you, whatever your niches are.	/r/seduction	12/07/17 05:10 PM
2	17 year old virgin. What should I do? You're seeking approval if you're this worried about it. I lost my v card at 20. Your mind makes it a way bigger deal than it is, as it does with many things which you'll realize with time.	/r/seduction	01/07/17 01:57 PM
3	New problem encountered This guy is 19. All hail king vet	/r/seduction	31/05/17 12:01 AM
1	Can we get a brief summary of all the important points for having strong body language? Strong posture will portray confidence through body language, would it not?	/r/seduction	21/12/16 03:27 AM
9	Can we get a brief summary of all the important points for having strong body language? I can give you tips for confident posture which in turn will portray confidence/strength in your body language: Neck- should be as straight up and down as possible, chin down and back where comfortable, and eyes on the horizon Chest- pull the top of your sternum up like its being pulled by a hook, or like you're trying to hold water on your sternum Core- slight tension in abdomen to bring in your stomach and keep your back in its natural curvature/more straight Glutes- squeeze them to get the pe…	/r/seduction	20/12/16 06:53 PM
1	A new rule to change your perspective: the most attractive quality a girl can have is an interest in you. I love this. Fucking can't stand modern day text/head games.	/r/seduction	17/12/16 09:33 PM
1	Most of this knowledge seems virtually impossible to use in practice. Here's some advice. Talk to everyone, not just "attractive single women." What is even an attractive single woman? You're putting an attractive and single label on every woman you see. Do some self introspection and look at yourself from a worldly view. Get some mental help if you need it. Fuck dude	/r/seduction	04/12/16 02:25 PM
1	I work at Pandora and girls are all around me, I need to improve my game and ask one of them out, any help? It's nothing to obsess over though. I obsessed over it until I lost my virginity. The grass is always greener.	/r/seduction	02/12/16 03:25 PM
3	I work at Pandora and girls are all around me, I need to improve my game and ask one of them out, any help? I've seen this multiple times. It's just meaningless sex and sure that may be alluring but it's... Just meaningless sex. It's not hard to do through escalation, especially when you both know what you want.	/r/seduction	02/12/16 04:41 AM
5	Is opening up a Tinder account a good idea if you're just starting out to learn seduction? I haven't cold approached much. I used tinder for a month or two over summer to a very casual extent (put minimal effort in) and likewise got nothing out of it. Felt like a waste of time even if I was right swiping everyone.	/r/seduction	23/10/16 04:00 PM
2	“The Happiness Manifesto” By Julien Blanc (How To Let Go & How To Be Happy All The Time) Can you add anything else about this book? I'm interested in picking it up.	/r/seduction	10/09/16 06:18 PM
6	Will women ever care how men think? Wow, that was some seriously incoherent rambling. You're obviously frustrated. Thing is, you can't change nature. You're better off accepting it.	/r/seduction	04/05/16 06:15 PM
2	The bouncer is your biggest friend and ally man of the year	/r/seduction	10/03/16 08:23 PM