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DISCUSSION_wannaseemedisco/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:14 PM
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My NVM refused to get up out of bed and get me a snack (I begged for literally anything) when I was pregnant and lightheaded. He said I could get it myself. I just laid there. We’ve since broken up and I’m dating someone new (6 months in) that has only casually met my son. I got text-lectured last night for having my BF go to a family party with my son because the NVM doesn’t feel comfortable with it. I’m apparently selfish and only ever cared about my own feelings. Ok bro. Don’t be old me. Be n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:00 PM
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We need to fix society so that women DON’T suffer from career opportunity loss due to pregnancy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:52 PM
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We’re in agreement, but that’s not the spirit of the post. I was confused. Now I’m not, thx.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:52 PM
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That’s exactly what the comment was saying—it was a woman photographer taking shots of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:08 PM
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Your story is my nightmare. I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:37 AM
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I dated a guy who donated sperm and lemme tell you, he was no winner either. Just saying..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:38 AM
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From your description he doesn’t sound like HVM..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:22 PM
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Loving her was easier, the Waylon Jennings version
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:56 AM
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Wow, I stand corrected. Ruined for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:15 AM
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He likely didn’t have AML, you know that right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:14 AM
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Found my new kink!!!!! THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:14 PM
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Thanks for the new life goal: mango from Pakistan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:22 AM
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In case you haven’t, grill mango. It is officially my favorite food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:59 AM
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Thanks but I just broke things off with the new guy after he outed himself as a Jordan Peterson convert and started throwing around his distaste for women's access to abortions ("muh penis has no rights once my seed exits my body") and claiming divorce rape is real. Has no clue or empathy for women. Too bad, so sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:32 PM
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I love how deeply religious men are having premarital sex that result in pregnancy. It is my favorite part of this psychopathic rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:50 PM
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That was my takeaway too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:44 AM
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Omfg that is so annoying. He probably had PE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:43 AM
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Was it the move where he slaps his dick against your clit/vulva?? Because what even is that..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:40 AM
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Yup, my last relationship right here. Said what I needed. Was disregarded. Gave multiple chances. Was disregarded. So rude. But it's all good. New guy is hung and much more skilled in the romance department. The only thing I've had to explain is my dietary preferences. Quite lovely. Still too early to tell where it's going, but I'm happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:45 PM
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It isn't even men assuming, it is the narrative of our society. It is fucking bullshit. Being a black woman is life on hard mode. Raise up every black ladyfriend in your life. Look up shine theory while you're at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:32 PM
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Lol, my ex Josh the Marine. Thinks he is gonna be an MMA fighter or some bullcorn. Insecurities run deep when you don't know how to be a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:28 PM
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Well I mean conservatives can still lick my heel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:25 PM
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I actually prefer princess to queen rn because a queen has legit responsibility and I want everything handled for me. Haven't decided if I'm ok with that yet, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:06 AM
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I thought I couldn't handle having a male gyno but last month was having pain so bad I thought for sure it was endo or my pcos, and the only available doc for a week was a man. IT WAS THE BEST PAP SMEAR OF MY LIFE, like no pain or bleeding or anything. So now I'm not sure. But I hope he stays at my office.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:58 AM
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I bet his dick is red too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:56 PM
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I just started seeing a man who offered --without prodding-- that he stopped watching porn when stumbled upon some research on how it affected the brain. I wonder if sending them an article about the effects on the brain and acting 😮 "did you know this?! Wow!" Would be an effective method?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:55 PM
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Rape test: Did she say yes? COULD SHE SAY NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:09 AM
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Damn that looks cozy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:38 AM
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The only times I lurked that sub was when I was the HL to my emotionally and eventually physically abusive partner (who was using sex as a weapon), or when I was the LL to my everyday male chauvinist partner who used other forms of abuse that he, to this day, will never acknowledge. Too bad I share a kid with him. I always thought that me being super turned on in the beginning of the relationship and drying up over time was normal. No, it is because these men haven't had the opportunity to fuck …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:27 AM
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Exactly, and well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:15 AM
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To my last xbf after yet another last minute cancelation: "I can't keep letting you hurt me" No more begging for the bare minimum of respect. That sentence is longer than I'm ever going to go again. I can't wait to forget about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:01 PM
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Bravo, also stealing that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:56 PM
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Childish is the behavior that would result in me needing to block you. Don't be manipulated by those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:43 AM
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I have to admit that Judah is my literal dream man. If I ever meet a man like him, that's it, I'm done. I love PC, and relate to her hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:05 PM
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Abso fucking lutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:39 PM
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I am a trauma collector for real, well put. Well, I was. Not anymore :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:23 PM
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Wow, that was beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:37 AM
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Was his name Josh because at this point he was probably playing both of us ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:16 PM
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Perfectly put, and worth repeating: guys like this will never be happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:49 PM
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My favorite part from my recent xbf: "the military did this to me, they need to fix it" This motherfucker has private health insurance he could've been using to get into the therapy he knew he needed. No, he would rather bitch about the VA. P.s. motherfucker your depression is a chemical imbalance which is on some level genetic and also likely set off by your abusive childhood which propelled you into the marines as a means of escape. Dear God can I please stop finding these fucking marines, I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:47 PM
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We have a very similar situation and I just want to say I'm proud of us for finally enforcing boundaries. It still hurts me rn, but we are sparing ourselves the inevitable future pain. Good luck my friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:40 PM
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My last xbf: "She ghosted me after I quit my job to move to be with her in the UK and then later sent me a really nasty email where she said some horrible things like I'm not as smart as I think I am" GOT DAMN I should've listened to her wise words! I ghosted him because he's either a complete flake (being generous) or an outright liar (most likely), and while it's tempting to email him and tell him it's not that he's "too much" as he seems to think, but that he's not enough to be worth staying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:57 PM
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I only this month learned self compassion and for the first time in my life can confidently say I love myself and MEAN IT, plus my actions confirm the shift in mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:07 PM
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Yeah, cohabitation ruined my life three times before I learned that lesson!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:57 PM
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4& 5 omfg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:56 PM
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That fucking visual is 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:33 PM
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To piggyback: think about your first two weeks of a new job. Did you understand everything about what it entailed? Were you productive, involved in all of the projects, fully trained? NO. You can't know everything about a topic after just two weeks, and anyone who thinks they do is delusional. I was complaining about some formulas in excel one time and my abusive psycho ex bragged that he learned excel in one day LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL, he also thought he loved me within the first two months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:05 PM
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You don't say. Lmfao. I wish I hadn't deleted my dating spreadsheet, this year has been wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:01 PM
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I feel like it's a term of misogyny tho, when was the last time you heard a man get called codependent? Personally.. never..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:00 PM
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Yes, and using headspace or white noise and reading with no screens.. but my insomnia is past that, sadly, although I highly recommend the zzzquil brand melatonin gummies in the lavender flavor because they are quite delicious imo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:18 PM
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Hey if you are having a hard time sleeping at night talk to your doc. A lot of people are having anxiety with covid these days and they may be able to prescribe something non-habit forming. I use either .5 to 1 mg alprazolam or 25 mg quetiapine and an hour later I am out, and getting enough sleep helps keep me emotionally stable despite the stress of 2020 in general!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:45 PM
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Two different recent examples Men who love it don't say it, they show it with quiet confidence and skill This guy was almost like afraid of getting the rest of his face touching the rest of my vulva, imagine A Christmas Story when the kid gets his tongue stuck on the pole. And the stamina was just not there.. which means my dick sucking stamina isn't there either, lol. Even if they have quiet confidence and skill, if you don't cum within their alloted time of effort they get pissy I realized why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:39 PM
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Remember the reba duet does he love you?!? Like wtf reba noooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:32 PM
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Give her Good And Mad if she's into politics and history!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:30 PM
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I LOVE THIS! Your bullcorn threshold is ideal, major props.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:27 PM
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I am way more objective while dating which makes breakups 100000000000% easier. Like at this point a year ago if I just had this recent breakup I would've been crying and upset for a solid month straight, every day. While I'm not over it since it has been like 3 or 4 days, I haven't cried once. I don't actually feel the heavy sadness or loneliness either. I'm seeing my friends, playing with my kiddo, planning for my solo future and buying a brand new house this year (!), and obviously posting wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:25 PM
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Red flag if before 3 months, ideally around 4-6. Masks haven't fallen off before 90 days. My last xbf said it around 45 days in. I wanted it too, wanted to believe him, wanted to love him. Broke up on day 85 LMFAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:19 PM
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Isn't codependency an outdated theory? Also re: being free therapy.. it is one thing to tell a man that you are especially sensitive to canceled plans from things that happened in your past, but an entire other thing for him to break down sobbing that his parent(s) never loved him. Like one is just sharing and the other is unresolved bullcorn that will 100% be indicative of their mental state and inability to be in a healthy relationship with boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:14 PM
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P.s. if he says he loves eating your pussy he is lying, ask me how I know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:06 PM
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EVEN BETTER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:18 AM
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Ugh right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:14 AM
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Solidarity ✊✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:07 AM
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Came for the barf emoji and it wasn't here yet so 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:05 AM
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Ty for the vote of confidence 🥰 I blocked him yesterday but have an old iPhone that we would message on.. I left him on read and turned the phone off and promised myself I will turn it on in 2021 just to wipe it and sell it. You're right about the urge though, I just planned what I would say if he does reach out another way and will for sure stick with an indifferent "i don't think we're compatible, bye". But I can tell I'm still hurting because he keeps popping into my head. What is most import…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:56 AM
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At this point I just want a nice, cute, well endowed fellow to take me places and pay and make me laugh. Fuck feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:48 AM
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I was just thinking in the shower today that my xbf (it's been what, two days now?) was a GUEST IN MY HOUSE. All these dudes are guests. And I kick out inconsiderate or untrustworthy people, period. My place, my time, my rules, maybe if you have earned my good graces I will allow you to stay a little past your welcome but by God there is a limit and I love my alone time at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:53 AM
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MY LAST RELATIONSHIP RIGHT HERE I danced thru the red flags like they were raindrops and I was fucking Gene Kelly from singing in the rain. My only comfort is I really liked my birthday, lol. If you're gonna put up with a man's bullcorn, make sure you never put in more than you leave with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:47 AM
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Same experience regarding the texting devolving into impersonal nothings. And yeah, "I'm just really depressed rn".. cool story bra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:38 AM
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Him "having" you brought up up for a short period of time. You should feel used, that's what he did. My recent ex did those same things. Eventually they will seek out someone new to give them that rush of approval as they win her over.. until it is no longer enough, and then on to the next. Their insides are gaping blackness that they likely will never learn can only be filled by themselves and not other hot HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:25 PM
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The reality is it is his own self esteem that is shit, that's why he kept dragging the relationship on. He needed your validation. Maybe we did actually date the same person, lol. Was his name Josh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:21 AM
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Never again will I date a man who calls an ex crazy or says she went off the rails. Not even once. If she was legit crazy, my dream man would say she had some unaddressed mental health problems that couldn't be worked out. There is no excuse for pejorative language towards women, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:24 PM
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Ok I did it. Thanks FDS :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:21 PM
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I wish there was an FDS app that would give control to a mod or someone to go thru and block/delete for you.. I feel like I don't have the strength to do it. But you know what.. I'm gonna, right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:18 PM
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These guys will never truly love you. They will love how you treat them and what you do for them and their life. They have no concept of self respect which would otherwise allow them to be selective with their partners. They have no bouncer at their night club. They sit inside at the bar and then choose the best option that night. They will slowly resent you for not being the dream woman you were originally.. especially if you are HVW and call them on their bullshit. They are just as dangerous t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:22 PM
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I just had zero success doing so. As someone who is bipolar, there is no excuse for not taking care of yourself. And the instability was too emotionally painful for me. I love who I thought he was in the beginning but it truly was a mask over a pitiful man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:13 PM
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Today is my ex-bf's birthday too. Well, I think he knows he is my ex. He fucked up for the last time yesterday and for the first time in three months we have not spoken for 24 hours. I have no desire to reach out and have the whole conversation.. So anyways, men truly are trash and sadly at this point I'm not sure there is an exception for that. Fuck liars and people who lack integrity. I feel bad for his next victim. But I feel so good to have the emotional drain gone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:05 PM
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ME TOO. Well, slightly different reason, but it was about all of the broken promises re: in person visits. Like, dude, I told you. You know. Stop fucking this up. Stop canceling last minute. I already made my desires very clear. Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:58 PM
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I'll die waiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:54 PM
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Exactly, how's apartment life, joke of a scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:44 PM
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That hurt me. But yes, exactly. TBF he did me a solid by not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:10 PM
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I also enjoy looking at attractive people in general. Do you see me subscribed to a feed of hot guys holding their massive dongs?! No, because my life is full of more important things, and my mental space is precious. I'm thinking there will never be a guy who has this same mentality and it's honestly depressing. Guys feel entitled to access to a variety beautiful women, full stop. Naked or clothed, it is there and it is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:37 PM
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WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE MEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:49 PM
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I'm still mad that I put so much time into helping with sheetrock, mud and taping, and painting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:59 PM
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My first engagement.. we lived in a dry cabin that he built himself (former carpenter). We caught up earlier this year, and he still doesn't have flooring installed on the ground floor. It's subfloor still. He barely installed water and a functioning bathroom/kitchen like a year ago. Last month would've been our 9 year wedding anniversary L M F A O What a train wreck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:58 PM
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I just love this description and will use this on some tired old scrote in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:47 PM
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Condense ding lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:31 PM
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I love her top so if anyone knows where to find it i would be quite appreciative :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:26 PM
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This is what killed my first relationship.. he claimed to not feel good about the wedding since we weren't as intimate as he wanted. After five years together, I needed the commitment to feel safe enough with him to be open sexually. I'm SO HAPPY it didn't work out but damn, that was a hard lesson to learn. Good for you for figuring it out after two years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:03 PM
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Love the outside perspective and needed it. THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:36 PM
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Peeled like bananas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:47 PM
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Love that technique. I did ask for reasoning, and it could go either way with whether it was specific to me. Maybe he calls every woman "resolute", "empathetic", "wild in the best way", "exuding confidence". But he also threw in some beautifuls, intelligent, blah blah. Hard to say. I'll consider it yellow. Thank you for sharing your experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:45 PM
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I suppose I could have added more context but I wanted to get a wide range of feedback. We have been dating for two months, but known each other for four total. I have a hard time discerning love bombing from genuine words of appreciation, and this one is a talker. It's a nice change from my last relationship but really just about anything from that would be a step up, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:41 PM
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"Empty flattery" is a lovely way to describe it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:38 PM
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L O L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:35 PM
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Twinsies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:39 AM
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Wheezing! Words have definitions! L o L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:45 PM
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I work with an actuarial firm and it's a mix of the best and worst men ever, but I'd say at least they tend to keep things professional in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:55 AM
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As a single mother, just wow. 1) everyone takes government handouts, the rich just happen to call it "tax exemptions" 2) I believe in social support systems because there is no reason why a child should go hungry 3) can we collectively stop villainizing the poor? Jfc Edit:typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:22 PM
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I say "high maintenance is just another way of saying high quality".. thank you Dawson's Creek, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:17 AM
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I'm sorry what? He fucking peed himself? L O L , best story of the day, thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:13 AM
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I feel called out with my plaid shirt and pink hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:00 PM
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Eh I've had limp dick with uncircumcised.. my only LD experience so obviously anecdotal. But I agree, circumcision status shouldn't be used as a put down. Now if their dick is broke, too short, too skinny, or what have you, sure.. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:04 AM
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Your "one" is ready to be in a long term committed with YOU without any hesitation. You'll meet good people that aren't right for you from a life stage standpoint, which may be this situation. Leave now with your dignity intact. Holding on to this is preventing you from having space in your life for your dream relationship..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:21 PM
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I just say I don't eat on an empty stomach, but dinner sounds nice. They usually change their tune.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:39 AM
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Where did you find these videos? I've been wanting something like the shorts in When Harry Met Sally for a while now..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:56 AM
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It's my birthday today! Happy birthday to you! I spent mine with my 3 yo, although my sis stopped by and brought me flowers among other gifts. I have a new BF but I also have very strict timelines for meeting my child, and I must say that this has been the most relaxing birthday of my life. It is SO NICE to truly do as you please. The best gift of all :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:20 AM
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I just want you to know that it happened to me too. I'm so sorry you're going thru this. I didn't pursue legal action because I didn't think anyone would believe me, since even my own family didn't, and I was angry that not only was I the victim in all of this but that it only meant MORE WORK for me. I deeply regret letting my abuser get away with what he did. But no matter what you choose to do, I support you, and so do the hoards of women who post here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:53 AM
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I do like the cut and color. Any dupes out there without any wording?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:49 PM
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Wouldn't you rather date a man who stares intently at you while you're talking and in a natural break of the conversation says how refreshing it is to have the company of a woman who is so open and confident to share her thoughts and ideas with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:47 PM
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Hell, what are some of your favorite male book characters? What about them does it for you? It's a good place to start if you're not going to date soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:27 PM
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That's the best response! Stealing it! Normally if a guy says that to me I take it as open season to lie right back to them about whatever petty b.s. they're on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:50 AM
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I should also mention that I needed to find a good tailor in my area so I put it in my OLD profile and ended up with a few quality recommendations. Always delegate when you can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:24 AM
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I don’t ask for rides ever, I love my hybrid and I love driving. And I wait for about 6 dates before I invite them over because I take my personal security seriously. I also make sure to point and smile at my Arlo system when they first come over. But the other small stuff, right off the bat, like date 3. Usually about two/three weeks in. Most guys don't last too long and I'd rather have a nice candle and pleasant dinner for my efforts, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:22 AM
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Eh, right off the bat I like to mention my affinity for candles and live plants and surprises. And then I complain about something. And the ones who come to my "rescue" and show up with a candle or plant are the ones that I allow to take up some of my precious time. My new BF asked what I wanted from Lush when he was there last week. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that for me, it's an attitude of high expectations. Men like to prove themselves. I like to let them, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:00 AM
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Good points, but these were pre-FDS and I lived with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:48 PM
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But yeah, it isn't healthy. It works for me but it blind sides my partners. I'm not saying that I care so much at that point about how they feel, but it definitely sets them off and has resulted in abusive rampages in the past since these were LVM/NVM to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:55 PM
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Every fucking time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:53 PM
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Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:37 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:22 PM
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The only reason why I'm in therapy, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:43 PM
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Yeah, I'd take both kids and tell him to fuck right off once all the paperwork went thru.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:01 PM
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Agree, except with my last live-in (never again!) I enjoyed cleaning because it was my excuse to constantly be busy.. so I wouldn't have to interact with him, lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:06 PM
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Yeah, same, and there are still situations where leasing makes more financial sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:53 PM
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That really depends on a lot of factors. Cars are not investments, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:02 PM
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New bf jokingly flipped me off. I didn't flip out about it, just said I don't appreciate it even in a laughing context. Told him that people who did it jokingly eventually do it purposefully. He apologized and said he would work on removing that from his repertoire. He did it again yesterday, this time I acted hurt. He immediately ran to me, pulled me into his arms and apologized and said he does it all the time with his friends and he's trying hard to break the habit. I told him I'm not his fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:58 PM
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I tell men I can't cook from the get. It's not completely untrue.. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:17 PM
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Bikini Kill (and Le Tigre!), 7 Year Bitch, Heavens to Betsey, Bratmobile to a lesser extent just because a lot of their stuff feels like it tears women down, Cadallaca.. Every time I need to get amped, these women bring "it". Job interviews, presentations, break ups, slumps. Super empowering, maybe a bit too libfem by today's standards, but where would I be without these awesome ladies bringing women to the front?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:53 AM
58

Just be grateful that you didn't figure this out in two or ten years, after supporting his sorry behind and getting entangled with kids and a wedding. I call it my price of freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:01 PM
68

Fuck that guy, NO means NO, not maybe if you ask me a million more times in various other ways. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:42 PM
106

Better yet, roll it into sex ed and make men study it too. Have the teacher do a lesson that challenges their sexist attitudes at that age. Wouldn't that be lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:10 PM
5

OMG 🤣 Yes, I realized I always wanted to travel throughout Central and south america and was "waiting" for a travel partner but forget that! I wait for no man. However, I do wait for covid, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:34 PM
3

Well that makes sense, lol. I don't have IG/SC/Twitter, maybe I should sign up. Hmmm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:31 PM
10

Does anyone have more of these?! estoy intentando aprender espanol ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:05 PM
5

Maybe I can help you see what others are picking up on? --He didn't need to act weird about slipping up on her name. I've done it in the past, it's meaningless. She wasn't even there to be upset. Him being weird is the flag. It's not normal to make a big deal about it directly to her, it's manipulation because he was acting weird enough to draw her attention and make her feel concerned about how he is feeling, ruining an evening with her friends. --If by typical male you mean NVM/LVM, then yes I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:34 PM
16

You are *SO SMART* to have noticed these things and posted here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:21 PM
23

What's sad to me is that my "first love" was "christian" and said that God would prefer he watch porn than sleep with a bunch of women. And for a long time I agreed. Because I never thought to question why he didn't think he could control his sexuality. Just, all of it--yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:16 PM
17

Hairy back and moobs just ruined my perfectly good lunch, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:12 PM
48

Oh yeah and if you aren't going to commit to blocking & deleting, at least change their name to something like corey cuntwaffle, or some description of their worst characteristic. If some of these dudes ever try to contact me again I'll be laughing too hard to seriously consider interacting with them. slim-dick liar, I'm looking at you, lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:38 PM
5

What I've loved most about doing this has been creating the mental image of this man -- it feels more concrete, and purposeful in my dating. It's the difference of feeling like, "why bother?" and, "he's OUT THERE!". Because he's out there, and we'll cross paths eventually. That thought makes me happy and keeps dating exciting to me, instead of feeling like a grind while I wait for some new way to be disappointed, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:29 PM
2

Why don't you just say how much you love them, but wish there was some way you could take them home with you to enjoy for the life of the bouquet. "It's such a waste of beautiful living things for me to not be able to experience them as you intended.." then act super pensive and say, hey! Why don't you do (XYZ) instead of splurge on the flowers? That would mean so much to me, and last so much longer, or remind me of you when I'm (ABC)..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:00 AM
20

I hope I never hear "vibe" come from a man ever again. It's officially on my red flag list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:05 AM
13

This is brilliant social commentary right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:32 PM
22

Your background? You mean my background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:55 PM
8

Yeah at this point we should all be able to select "Scrote" as our second language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:41 PM
43

Lol, fishing is not a cheap hobby. If a dude had a full setup, I'd be super down. We're going before sunrise. Of course thats a fourth date activity..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:21 PM
1

Have you tried saying no thank you? You don't owe him a reason, and if he asks why just say you don't need a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:22 PM
11

Me. Fucking. Too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:56 PM
3

I've been seriously reconsidering my lifestyle these days in relation to climate change and the fact that I need to forgo the travel that I've always wanted to pursue is heartbreaking right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:56 PM
19

This should be the FDS "Are You Ready To Date?" app! 200 profiles with various red flags and one good one. If you swipe on the LVM/NVM, it sends you to the handbook. LMFAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:14 PM
8

My worst ex (ended up physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive) was the one who turned me on to watching the Bachelor/Bachelorette..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:12 PM
14

Same for the father of my child. No pics. In fact, put his hand to block the picture I was taking of our newborn on the way home from the hospital. JFC. I'm still so angry about it. "Those were the best years of my life" he says. Could've fooled me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:57 PM
5

Does he have any brothers, lol. I kid of course ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 10:20 PM
8

Butttttt that's also because I'm leveling up right now, and just realized i could do one dinner date and an activity date a week (2 dates max), and alternate the guys accordingly. Like when you sing a song and one person starts with the first verse, the second joins in, and then the third starts singing..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:40 PM
24

I don't have enough calories to date three men at once, lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:37 PM
28

Yeah, you close the lid before you flush to prevent particulate dispersion in your bathroom. I was visiting my son at his father's house yesterday and was SO PROUD to see my 3 year old shut the lid before flushing. His dad was like 🤷🏼‍♂️ I figured he picked it up from you. DAMN STRAIGHT HE DID.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:26 PM
8

Your assignment is to read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft and Why Men Love Bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:15 AM
37

Blockachu lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:06 AM
0

Lmao I was confused as to why sugar waxing was offensive.. don't worry ladies, I get it now, although it did take me a minute ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:58 AM
2

I've known couch surfers with the same agenda and much success though, lol..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:59 AM
3

You're absolutely right. Also, because of FDS, I saw it way sooner and cut it off immediately. Hurts just a little. But he isn't who he was pretending to be. Wounded jackal 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:57 AM
2

Ugh I'm in the middle of this at the moment and it really sucks to feel blind sided by someone who you were beginning to trust. It's the same old story with these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:47 AM
2

L. O. L.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:23 PM
2

Haha, the last guy I called out for crossing boundaries didn't ever call me back. I said he must take pleasure in doing so and that he should consider being introspective about it. If he does it to others, he'll do it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:48 PM
16

The worst decision I ever made in life was re-homing my kitty because I was moving to the country with a man who was allergic and knew he'd likely get eaten by coyotes if he was an outside only cat. Should've fed that man to the coyotes. This is the one decision I will never forgive myself for in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:07 PM
26

On date 11, after 6 weeks of exclusive dating, my (now ex) boyfriend said it was annoying that I "take so long to get off" in the middle of being intimate..I like long sessions and don't rush to orgasm. So I told him to leave my apartment. 56 hours total spent together for his mask to fall off, revealing underlying resentment of being held to the high high standard of treating me the way I deserve. What an idiot. They all seem to be, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:49 PM
234

I stopped caring about looking rude, now I'll call someone out. "Did you even listen to a word I said, or do you just think you know better than me about what I want?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:27 PM
81

What the fuck did i just read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:54 PM
33

Yeah my ex had all kinds of advice for my diet and exercise routine but couldn't figure out why he never got visible abs when he legit doesn't eat vegetables and 98% of fruit. Wtf do men know? Nothing..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:40 PM
19

Whatever is broken in you that makes you want to stay with someone who treats you like shit needs to be addressed in therapy and intensive self reflection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:12 PM
8

You know what though, you make a great point. I didn't grow up with a good family life (drugs, alcohol abuse, homelessness), but I'm still aware enough and committed to personal growth that I am facing my issues head on. He doesn't even notice the difference because he doesn't care to. It doesn't serve him in the near term. It's not required. Maybe I will let him figure that out on his own. It's his life and I'm not responsible for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:02 PM
15

It sounds like he wants assurance that you aren't pursuing others while you get to know each other better and see if things work (hence "exclusive").. and it sounds like you're still on the fence and vetting as you should be. So if I were you I would say you only commit when you're certain, and you're not quite there yet but would be open to reevaluating in however long you feel comfortable with. If you want to throw him a bone, maybe go for the "exclusive" label but mention you don't have sex o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:30 AM
21

I realized the reason why things didn't work out with the father of my child is because his parents were never "together" and he never saw his mom treated the way a woman should be in a relationship. He legitimately had no reference point to compare against his own actions short of movies or the few married friends that he rarely connected with.. but his dad is amazing, and he is an amazing dad. Man I'm all about these epiphanies today. This one might be worth sharing with him. I really don't fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:05 AM
14

I'm really happy I have at least another 7 years to figure out how to talk to my son about porn.. especially considering his porn sick dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:57 PM
2

I just looked up the lyrics and I had it all wrong 🤣 sorry Shakira
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:54 PM
2

Thanks kind stranger!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:51 PM
2

Loosely: Lucky that my breasts are small so you don't confuse them with mountains
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:36 PM
2

God I almost want to send this thread to my ex but that would be helping him disguise himself for his next bangmaid..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:25 PM
1

As Shakira famously sang "Sueno que mis brazos son pequenos no las confundas montanas" Not sure about the message for the rest of the song but that part always stuck with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:34 PM
24

This was my first red flag I ignored (although it did bug me!) with my one ex who turned physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:21 PM
13

Yup, that too. Like how is that supposed to be sexy? I just feel like a mannequin that you're afraid to get caught feeling up..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:23 PM
31

Tbf he never wanted kids, so I felt like I deserved it for "trapping" him into fatherhood after an accidental pregnancy. I told him I could do it on my own and he insisted on staying together and being a dad, but he seriously complained the entire time and only after I left him this year told me these were the happiest years of his life. Like, cool story bro. I don’t feel the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:22 PM
94

They think poking you with a hard on is foreplay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:01 AM
172

Yup, after I stopped breastfeeding and things were deflated my ex said, "time for a boob job hunh" and I never came back from that. Should've just broke up with him right then and there. Instead? I went to two plastic surgeons for interviews on getting breast implants. Glad I didn't go thru with the surgery and dropped the man instead. I don't ever want to attract another porn sick man again. Some women get boobs for reconstructive reasons or what have you, but my breasts were and are absolutely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:00 AM
6

There was a minute there that I regretted it, but for me that was a red flag that I was depressed. Once I fixed my circumstances and got back on the only antidepressant that ever worked for me, I began feeling grateful for every day that I had the little one again. So I mean yes and no, but I think it's important to recognize that your fear about regretting your potential future children--the fear is just a thought with strong feeling attached to it. The odds are highly unlikely that it will be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:06 AM
127

Fuck that family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:01 PM
30

I'm proud of you, internet stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:13 AM
61

If you have to ask.. yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:11 AM
5

So not only is he telling on himself for why he's still single, but also making the biggest argument for keeping your sexual history to yourself. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:58 PM
38

Unless you're going thru the eviction process, you aren't trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:22 PM
4

When I was still with the father of my child, I used to make him take the baby into the men's restroom first before I would consider it my duty. He was a good dad.. but not a good partner, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:06 PM
8

Wow, with that attitude it sounds like he knows you'll never leave him so he doesn't HAVE to respect you. You should get into therapy ASAP..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:05 AM
24

I love how we're all doing the TP pyramid these days, LOL! That was the neatest part of the whole place. Also I think I have PTSD from my ex.. like our place was much worse than this and eventually I just gave up. Having my own place is so freeing. I wonder if I'll ever cohabitate again..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:00 PM
2

Ok, I ordered some! So excited!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:13 PM
5

While dating a guy I made a comment about men without bed frames and it was a few weeks later that he mentioned putting one together at his new place. He specifically said he bought it because of me. I'm glad he was open minded on that one, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:35 PM
5

Can we have a sheet conversation real quick? I personally love soft sheets, preferably ones with a heavier weight to them (but not like flannel or anything). I had an ex with the PERFECT SHEET SET and it changed my life, but I haven't been able to remember who made them and fuck reaching out to that guy to find out, lol. Any recommendations? Which are your favs for soft and weighty? Money is not a concern to me FYI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:28 PM
10

What a loser. Can you imagine being so dense that you acknowledge how shitty you are and just expect the world to suck your dick regardless? JUST WOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:31 PM
13

As someone with HSV2 (and I've only had two outbreaks in 8 years).. He is frighteningly overcompensating. Don't believe a word he says. He needs to figure his own stuff out before he is ready to date anyone, much less someone who isn't also a carrier. As other posters have said he is love bombing you out of desperation and it's disgusting. Please block him. If you find yourself interested in a man who doesn't have a million red flags besides HSV2, PM me and I can help you figure out your risk to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:01 PM
11

I also want to add that his accusations of you talking to other guys is another huge red flag.. projection much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:49 PM
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call me new fashioned! I take care of myself, cook healthy meals for myself, wash my own clothes, mostly make it to work on time (the commute from my bed to my home office can be brutal), and tidy as I go in my small, perfectly appointed apartment that is 100% to my own taste. That's just the kind of woman I am I guess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:32 PM
7

Luck. It's still early stages though, I'll report back in a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:11 PM
3

Then maybe focus your attention elsewhere. He is not the person you would need him to be. So work on yourself. Why do you feel compelled to chase someone who doesn't meet your needs? It sounds like you aren't happy being alone. You will always have this problem if your life isn't satisfying to you. Time to discover what it is that fills the void in your heart, the one that you're trying to stuff LVM in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:59 PM
5

Everyone is commenting to make a list because IT WORKS! --things he did to hurt you --things he did that were just annoying --any unattractive characteristics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:14 PM
16

Ask him if he normally gets away with assaulting women. Tell him he should be more careful in the future because he won't always be so lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:32 PM
9

Get a fake number, like Google voice or text now. Both are 100% free and sync to your phone. Voice is probably a little better (no ads) but they both work! Plus you can block in the app too, just like any other number. Date safely my ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:32 PM
1

Speaking from experience.. it doesn't make a difference. The man who leaves it behind once doesn't care, period. So glad to be out of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:23 PM
54

L O L. I recently (since a breakup in March) decided I will only stay with a man who can get me off with oral. New boyfriend is a keeper ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:03 PM
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