a_fantastic_lion Archive

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1	Struggles with getting in the moment and getting a boner with a new women? Not a problem I'm having thank the lord but I imagine if this is happening to you - maybe you're not ready for anyone else. Sounds like you still have healing and work on you to do.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/12/22 12:56 AM
3	Having a really hard time Do you have any plans to hurt yourself? Have you imagined how, when, where, or what the outcome would be? Do you understand how selfish an act that would be? Perhaps you're not on this planet to have others cater to your happiness... Perhaps you're here now to help someone else thru a difficult time. Perhaps you're here to be a saving grace for your kids, or someone you haven't even met yet... You think? Frankly, it sounds like what you're missing is meaning. Meaning makes any difficulty bearabl…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/22 08:22 PM
1	My ex would say things like “the way you’re talking to me is very Alpha male and coming across negative” when does doing things for my son become negative? Ignore the comment and ignore her whenever she sends another load of that BS overhead. Seriously, as best as you're able, continue on with the conversation as if she had just issued an intelligible whine, "Whaaah!" - Make it sound comical in your head. This is what she's done in my opinion. She's added nothing of value to the conversation, she hasn't asked a question or made a valid point or even told you reasonably and clearly what she wants. She's emoted, presumably into your face, and like an…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/22 05:24 PM
1	Haven't seen daughter in 2 weeks, first Thanksgiving alone Oh, that's great. So, you're ahead of the curve in that sense. Congrats on that good decision! I am currently awaiting final disposition of my divorce in late January and man, the only thing that's gotten me thru it as well as I've managed has been the gym; basically, being in control of myself directly has been my saving grace. Have you been to a doctor since this divorce and forced separation was initiated? Called your family? Reached out to any friends? Done any planning or taken any steps to…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 02:51 PM
2	Haven't seen daughter in 2 weeks, first Thanksgiving alone Your experience is, without sounding flippant, fairly typical. The good news is, many of us have been thru it and survived (I went 7 weeks without seeing my 4 and 6 year old)... The bad news is, it's hard! Have you gotten yourself to the gym yet? If not, go to the gym. DO it today. Good luck. Focus on You, on changing you into a more resilient, more focused, more capable version of yourself. Put your head down and get to work. It'll save you.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 01:03 PM
4	Can’t believe this is happening. I need advice on what the next move should be. Here's a tip for you... Don't spare a single fucking SECOND thinking about her, pining after her, feeling bad for her or for yourself. Spend zero seconds longing for what's been lost... Instead, consider yourself in a race you only just now realized you're in. See the finish line in front of you, see that you can win this race, set in motion a plan to achieve what you need to ensure You are taken care of... No one else will do it for you. Hire a lawyer. Get a gym membership! If you haven't alrea…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/22 07:43 PM
3	cooking for youself sucks. Nows your chance to show yourself some love by learning how to cook. Learning how to cook different portion sizes is part of learning how to cook too. accept the challenge and find ways to make the process more economical; to include more varied ingredients and flavors, and challenge yourself to make a weeks worth of dishes that you like in 20 min or less. I did this at a time when it was hard for me just to find the energy to stand and move around, and yet, I did it, and these days ive improved…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/22 09:33 PM
3	New to this....feel lost in life turning 24 Well you're not lost, you just haven't stopped to find out where you are and adjusted your course. Life will upset your cart and turn you around - your job is to look ahead and find the most meaningful destination for yourself. And I know it sounds cheesy, but as someone going thru the same, its true, and if anything has helped me (besides working out) its been the indomitable spirit I was blessed to have.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/22 01:14 AM