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Either one or two. Depends a lot on what he leads with, his body language and the way he looks at you you can usually distinguish if he's looking you up, just wanting to make a friend on something mutual, or if he's aiming to hit on you or flirt. Usually in settings like that though, you're safer assuming the latter and pushing back if you're not interested while getting yourself in view of others for support if they get any ideas. Safe to do it with other women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:14 AM
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I mean. If I have the time, and he manages to pass it off not as creepy or invasive but just as genuinely his way of learning about himself and what works for him and not, sure, I guess. I mean. I don't see any reason not to unless the questions were awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:20 AM
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About 14, right when puberty was started. Grossest shit ever. No idea why people think that shit is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:58 AM
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I'm a lesbian, so I'd be shooting for other gals like me. Low sex drive, generally puts much higher value in other romantic elements. But if I was straight, yeah I'd do the same thing. Look for someone like me. Clearly the relationship won't work otherwise, one of us will just be unhappy. I've had to leave people over sexual incompatibility before. Its important to find a partner that'll match you on things like that, not just settle with whatever. You'll both be unhappy. Its kinda like any othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:46 PM
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For me? A unique form of companionship. There is just a difference in feeling between romantic love and platonic love. Its pretty specific, and I don't even delve into a relationship hard before I feel it. Its hard to describe a feeling with that much complexity, especially one with no comparison since everyone feels love differently. I guess a really simplified way would be this feeling "I want to spend my life with this person, I want to feel this same feeling back from them, I want their care…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:43 PM
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Sex and a relationship are two entirely different stories. I was in agreement, like, yeah I could do that no problem until it got to the part where there would just be no romance at all. That's where I'd say no. Could I do it? Yeah. Would I prefer it? No. I like me some romance. But I'm not particularly sexual, and sex doesn't matter to me much really. You wanna distinguish those two concepts. They're not necessarily intrinsically tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:19 PM
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I'm a pretty big introvert. By the end of the day I'm usually pretty run ragged from having to be social all day. Means more often than not I just don't wanna do anything out. Just enjoy a good movie or play a game or read. And usually I just date in the same category of people who like that sort of thing. We can watch each other play, or enjoy a bad movie together and poke fun at it, or cook a fun recipe together. But if I haven't like.. gone out and done something proper in awhile I do get a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:37 AM
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👀 Hahaha! Depends on how large the gap is. A good chunk of those physical ones are flexible. I've definitely dated outside of a lot of those things before.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:43 AM
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Let the local lesbian chime in, lol. Might be a fun insight to your question. I typically like brown hair a lot. I just find it really pretty, the whole spectrum of it. From a deeper brunette to a more dirty blonde mixture. Eye colour doesn't matter much to me really. Maybe hazel or brown? I like a gal that's roughly the same height as me. I've dated a bit shorter and a bit higher. I'm just shy of 5'10 so its a bit rare to find gals a bit higher, lol. But either way I like. I just dislike differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:16 PM
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I think there isn't anything bad about leaving a relationship because your needs aren't being met. But I also believe that doesn't mean anyone from either side should be forced into sex they don't want, that's just rape. Ultimately though, if you're in a relationship that isn't panning out because a need isn't being met, then its probably time to sit down and have a talk and see what's up and why the situation has changed. If y'all can find a solution, perfect! If not, then its probably time to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:52 PM
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Truth though. I help some of my guy friends out that way. Great way to strengthen some friendships for the outgoing and introverted crowds alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 10:44 PM
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I'm usually not a super expressive person for a lot of emotions unless they're really strong. So my face is often fairly neutral, almost like a poker face. Unfortunately its fairly often it gets mistaken for a face of disinterest from people who don't know me very well. Or people in a bad mood. It comes with some benefits too though so for as much hostility as I get sometimes from people misinterpreting it, or me missing out on things because people thought I wasn't very interested, I also have …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:22 PM
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I'm a pretty big nerd and video game hobbyist, so just innately I typically come across more dudes I share interests with than other gals. Means over the years I've made a lot of guy friends, some I'm really close to. And I'll say for the most part, its been pretty great! I've had hiccups, but generally that's from people who show off things early enough they never ended up getting that close to me. Never discount friends based on gender, you're cutting off a lot of people, half of the world, ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:44 PM
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Sorry, you can only pick one of the three. Would you like billionaire with a side dish of vampire, or perhaps the caveman soup, mademoiselle? The chef has prepared them to exquisite perfection for any woman's taste buds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 07:53 AM
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I think its more lack of communication. Nobody was ever taught how to sit down and discuss their expectations, wants and goals early on. And ultimately it'll lead to conflicts that cause irreparable damage. Nor the emotional maturity to kinda really sit down and discuss problems as they arise, or even to recognize where they are in life and if they're even at the maturity level to handle something long-term, let alone being at a place in life where long-term you're going to be satisfied with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:58 PM
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What does this even mean. "The bucks stops with"? I don't understand, but this sounds ridiculous. No partner should have more say than the other, that's how you kill a relationship or start generating hatred, unless they magically always make the decision somehow both of them want. Or the other person not making the decisions just has no backbone or doesn't care. Most relationships I've seen really last any amount of time is when both people are constantly communicating, and always making their …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:49 PM
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I think its more about the quality of those in your life than the quantity when it comes to how someone is raised. Having one or even fifteen people won't matter if they all suck, teach you bad advice and lessons and mistreat or mishandle raising you. One good person, or two, or whatever, is really what will help the most. I'm not saying things like stability don't matter, they do. But ultimately someone from a stable home still ends up a tantruming Karen if they aren't raised by the right peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:59 AM
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Lesbian woman. Personal body count of 3. Two exes and my current partner. Honestly if I have to pick something that surprises me.. it'd depend on the number itself just as much as it would their age. 20 at 19 for example would make my eyes pop a little in surprise. 20 at 40 wouldn't really, lots of folks out there like that. I don't really mind any of it. Having a good partner isn't necessarily indicative of their sexual partners of the past. It can be, but then you'd have other signs, not just …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:31 AM
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Sounds like a reason not to have kids and instead travel and spend money on your hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:47 PM
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Well you didn't specify what gentleman actually means, honestly, hence why I went with my own definition. I don't see a problem with a guy who goes out to drink with a couple friends, or even hits up a girl he thinks is cute, none of this is un-gentlemanly to me. What is is refusing to accept a no, or persisting despite discomfort from the other party. That's when it crosses over in my mind. So if your question is supposed to very specifically have one definition of gentleman, then you need to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:47 PM
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Bowling would be a fun first date! I was going to suggest that. Thrift shopping might be fun too honestly. If you've got an amply sized thrift store around, or antique mall. Lots of good date ideas out there to explore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:15 AM
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Well I'm gay so I'm gonna go with the former. Gentleman thankfully step down when I tell them I'm not interested. Although by Disney terms that's not necessarily true. I guess it depends how one defines gentleman, but in my definition, an actual gentleman would know when to not push it. It'd also make going out drinking a lot safer. No worrying about roofies and shit, no weird guys who get violent with you, no stalker problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:11 AM
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I think the "never over their first love" theory comes from an amplification of a specific type of gal essentially stretched out and made to fit over anyone who is a woman, which more often than not seems to come from a place of insecurity on the part of the guy. I lot of guys, even here it seems, get really self conscious and really insecure with the "performance", or with the idea that if their partner ever had anyone else, there would be comparisons.. which is negative to them, hence where th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:58 AM
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Usually my flirting is pretty overt. But I only tend to end up getting attracted to people I've known as friends for quite some time. And when it happens I'll usually express it pretty heavily with things I think would interest them and things that show off my goofiest side. Like cheesy pick up lines, or getting super involved in all of our conversations, asking tons of questions and nerding out in front of them to the extent I just blab and blab at length without a care. It gets pretty obvious …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:35 PM
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Personally marriage has a huge set of legal but also symbolic benefits honestly. Legally in emergencies, you have someone you trust calling the shots for medical stuff or with regards to your will and possessions. And I wouldn't want anyone else getting my collections, I don't think anyone else would appreciate them in quite the same way she does. Nor their memories. Let alone also being legally recognised as a couple, and getting the benefits therein with taxes and property and so on. Symbolica…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:38 AM
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My father. He's not good at keeping any really but he even now still seems to do pretty well snagging attention. Before my lifetime he had tons of girlfriends, still friends with a lot of them. He was a bit of s party fool type and a band punk type. Was popular, did work for all the punk shows and so on. When he left to work in computing and software engineering, same deal. Always had a girlfriend pretty much. Even when he had a little shit like me tagging along, lol. He had this rocker lady who…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:57 AM
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It can and does often work out pretty well in my experience, both with myself as a lesbian and my partner and then also with het families I've had in my life. Those that communicated fairly and split based on what they agreed to and generated their fairness by being essentially two equal voices and both mattering in the process.. well those marriages had gone on their entire lives pretty much. One couple is in their 70s now. My grandma and grandpa did it that way too. One of my best friends' mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:48 AM
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Smartest shit I've seen on this sub, hot damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:31 AM
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Never been that way with me. A little love and encouragement gets me pumped and moving! When I'm at my roughest and having a hard time with motivation or getting things done, its usually love from my girlfriend that peps me up to get everything I need to do done
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:30 AM
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Just be open and communicate during it. The best you can do is make sure she's enjoying it and you're taking it at a pace you both can enjoy. No need to be afraid of it, you're gonna nail it!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:25 PM
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6? Wow that's something. I wouldn't feel insecure over someone else though, comparing is only ever gonna make someone unhappy. Does it just bother you you aren't at that same number or is it that you're upset about it for another reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:31 AM
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I dunno, maybe I'm just accustomed to dating bi people, where this standard becomes ridiculously unrealistic. And it taught me people aren't inherently like this. Some may be, like yourself and I'm sure others, but I don't believe this is inherent to everyone. I care too much about my partner to do this, and if some kind of "chemistry" showed up, I'd just push away the friend. This is what I expect of my partner in return, and a partner who argues they wouldn't because of human nature.. is clear…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:22 PM
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Its just such an odd level of distrust in your partner. I trust mine. She can have whatever friends she wants. She knows what its like to be cheated on, and I know her values and personality well enough to know she'd just tell me if it wasn't working, she wouldn't pussyfoot around it with this sort of disrespect. It seems so odd, if you don't trust your partner this much and you're not willing to give them a chance to prove it.. why are you even with them? No other option? Because clearly you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:48 PM
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If you cheat, you're shitty. You can have nuance and reasoning, maybe even exceptions on technicalities like say you and your husband have split already but the divorce is not yet official. You start dating, is that cheating? That kinda thing. That's understandable if you count that. But its a good rule of thumb that if you cheat, you're a piece of shit. You betrayed everything you agreed to, you betrayed the person meant to be dearest to you and you to them. Its very fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:45 PM
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Why not though? If they do something, you find out and you can split and not give them the time of day. If they don't, they've got a good friend and you've got a partner who isn't shitty, at least in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:33 AM
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I think it differs from person to person, couple to couple and situation to situation. You may like that dynamic and desire it, and you may be grateful to have the choice to pick it rather than have it forced on you. I know personally I couldn't do the stay at home stuff. I enjoy the right kind of work and I like being able to split responsibilities with money. And I like the time away from home responsibilities so I can breathe a bit and have some change of pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:45 AM
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Makes sense to me. Its certainly a weird red flag kinda question. It usually comes from the mouths of questionably traditionalist and controlling people too from what I've seen and heard from others. Or people who are unhealthily jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:18 PM
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See this is the way! If you can't be honest to get with someone there isn't a point to be with you. You and they would just both be unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:26 PM
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I agree with another guy who commented here. Making some vast assumptions on men here. Lying for relationships seems weird anyways. I don't get it. The person ain't worth your time if you feel you need to not be yourself to be with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:12 PM
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Buying kittens from overseas sounds terrible. Poor little guys having all the stress of being shipped around the world being thrown on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:00 PM
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Biggest boon of them all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 03:10 PM
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I think then this advice best applies to anyone who wants to have the responsibility of children some day. Its something worth teaching everyone. I think modern dynamics and traditionalist ones would both benefit from it. As well as how to compromise and how to communicate with your partner. I think specifically with examples in allocation of child care, responsibility and chores would really help with people being able to grow up and adapt those systems to work for more and more dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:21 AM
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Nah we're only in our early and mid 20s respectively. I'm early, she's mid. We talked once about the possibility of adopting some day in maybe 8-10 years time, but its something we both have agreed on being fairly unimportant to us and something we can have a more indepth talk about in a few years once we're settled in with nicer educations, jobs, a good home and maybe even a business of our own or something depending on how money goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:32 AM
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Sounds like we'd benefit from just normalizing teaching young people responsibilities of life, chores and couples. My girlfriend and I set that stuff up as needed, and just rework it or alter it as needed to make our lives easiest and happiest. We don't need to force a rigid system or push it as a "best in show" type of thing, just teach people the groundwork to come up with their own the healthily addresses these things in a way that is adaptable and works for all kinds of people and couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:08 AM
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If you like.. being the dominant one, if we're talking the context of say for example the bedroom, you do realise you won't want someone even more dominant? You want to be in charge. You don't enjoy it when you aren't. You won't like someone who essentially wants the very same role. It just won't work unless you're both switches more than dominant. Same goes with the inverse with sub people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:03 AM
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Man ain't ever met a Dom woman before? Crap, sorry, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:00 AM
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I don't really see why so many people find it degrading? I don't really see an issue with it. If people wanna do it, go on ahead, doesn't really change anything. I know everyone has their preferences for when and how they do that stuff. I don't see it as degrading because of that. I'm slow to sex with a new partner, its something that takes a lot of time and trust to build to, but I'd just consider oral like.. another position or option, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:43 AM
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Damn, hit me right in the fee-fees, bro. My heart breaks! I'll just have to keep all the cool coins to myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:23 AM
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Woman squared. Lesbian power.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:50 AM
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I wouldn't really say either is hot, but coins are pretty neat. I like rare coins and cool coins like toonies or old Soviet coins.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:39 AM
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OoooOooOOooooo. What kinda manga you got? I have a little small section on my shelf for Yuri manga but it isn't much. All my shelf space goes to my game collection. Haha. And I've got a sizeable amount of Dashiell Hammett and Piers Anthony books. But yeah I've got like three bookcases filled with games all the way from Atari VCS to PS4 and Xbox One. About 900 games total thus far. I love sitting down and hooking up a couple controllers to play games with her, and I know she loves watching too. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:15 AM
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Same can be said of any partner honestly. I know my girlfriend is really into how much I start nerd rambling about video games or talking about specific games in my collection. Or my enthusiasm in playing them or showing her specific odd and fun weird ones I own. And I shared my old justice league figure collection with her since we both grew up loving the old animated show. Its both a little side passion of ours.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:07 AM
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I think its really beautiful in the eye of the beholder. Whatever your preference happens to be and what you enjoy or not enjoy. I'm 21. I don't sleep around, never plan to, never have, and I'm pretty sure I found my partner for life now. I just don't enjoy that kind of thing. I'd be making myself unhappy by doing it and forcing a lot of unnecessary trauma onto myself getting involved in sexual experiences I know I wouldn't like because I need to have that special and unique partner bond. Withou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:03 AM
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Here? No idea. In real life though its so common the weird assumptions people make. Always makes me so confused how they come up with some of them. CUTE! Sounds like a fun way to meet. Any cool stories you up to sharing? I love hearing about cute couples, if my interest is too invasive though you don't have to answer or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 08:16 AM
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That didn't answer my questions ultimately. Why do you care? Why is this one specific method of lineage the only acceptable one to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:03 PM
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Ey nice! Always good to see someone beyond biphobia. Shit's way too rampant, even among gay folks. Half of my partners have been bi. I don't really see what makes people so weirded out by it. Editing to ask a question: how did y'all meet?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:49 PM
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"degenerate" Oh this is a treat. Wonder what you'd think of two women perhaps marrying and raising a child together if just someone's choice of a last name is enough for you to consider them a degenerate. Lineage seems to be a big focus to you alongside tradition. Any particular reason as to the fact? What makes a traditional value better than the modern one, for example with the last names? Or with my example? What in particular matters the most in this and why does it matter so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:35 PM
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Yeah, no. I depends a lot on the reasoning as to why or why not they are vaccinated. If they tell me something like they think COVID is fake, or they're healthy and it won't kill them.. then, well, I've heard all I ned to to know I won't ever date that person. Because clearly they're either delusional, or they just don't care about other people or gosh don't even understand how vaccines really work or what some of their purposes are. If its someone who physically can't be vaccinated because of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:13 PM
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Based on the updates it sounds almost more like she was the one making the majority of the money in the household, if not more. Otherwise I'd wonder the same thing. He's the one going after assets that weren't his pre marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:25 PM
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Fuck yeah, we love a little drug. Psilocybin time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:08 PM
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Hey if she enjoys doing it, why not? Q
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:56 PM
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Depends a lot on the reason I think. Especially given the state of the economy in some countries. Even have a full time position doesn't necessarily mean one even has the wealth still at that point to afford their own place. Some stay with parents for college, some maybe while they're picking themselves up, some just because its all that can be afforded but they help to make up for it. And some are fucking leeches, lol. The leeches are the ick to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:04 PM
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Damn cookie cutter preferences out in the Midwest? I can think of a couple dudes who have a hard time here on the coast who would do well by those standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:20 AM
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Hmm.. I do think I'd like a ring. Honestly I'm not too sure how that'd work between my girlfriend and I. When we're at that point, we'll probably discuss the engagement ring thing a little more keenly. As for like.. the everyday wedding band? That's not something we need to spend a fortune on. I'd like it to fit and maybe be a nice gold or something but that's it. I have a problem fiddling a lot with what's on my fingers though so we'll have to look into what works best for that. I do want one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:08 AM
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Oh I'm sure. Once it does get taken advantage of, you learn to be a much better judge for character on who it is worthwhile telling these things to and who likely won't be. I learned that as well, and hey it ultimately landed me in a relationship I'm pretty damn positive is going to last a long damn time. And got me a lot of real special and important friends
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:00 AM
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Gen Z, noticed that too. Honestly I know it ain't for everyone but I think it helps a lot of folks more than it does bad. Teaching people to be more open does a lot of good for kids or those struggling with abuse and not being sure how to voice it. It can be annoying when you're not always interested, but hey, someone they tell it to will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:56 AM
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Damn. Too bad drive ins are almost entirely gone. Really want to go to one with my girlfriend some day. A little bowling, a drive in flick, some ice cream or a nice little dinner at a local diner or burger joint sounds like a friggin dream. Sex in the car ain't too much my thing though, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:52 AM
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Oh yeah, maybe. I imagine it probably differs on a case by case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:45 AM
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I've never really seen anyone I know first hand do that before, but I've heard by proxy from a couple guy friends that they've known women who do it. My honest guess is as good as yours. Rebound sounds likely, or maybe reevaluation after knowing them longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:32 AM
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I usually like to dress up to impress my girlfriend so.. I guess to impress a hot woman. So partially true in my case! Hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:13 PM
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Damn, I dunno, could always use a little Lena Raine
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 08:25 AM
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Damn. Not into some sweet 80s rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 08:15 AM
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Hey man, the Go-Go's are pretty fucking rad. I'd fuck to We Got the Beat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 07:29 AM
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What if the music was written by a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 07:23 AM
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This is not what love bombing refers to. Its a tactic of abuse used far into a relationship. When you get abused by a partner, say emotionally or physically and you start to slip away from them because of it, they will utilise this tactic to essentially shower you in love for an extended period of time, oven also involving gifts and a very special amount of attention and care. Then once some time has passed, they resume their abusive behaviour. It varies for how long, and also varies how this ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:05 PM
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I am to please
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 04:46 PM
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Well it depends on what they say. Entirely. You can usually suss it out the way. If someone is approaching based on an interest, they'll typically know a lot more and be a lot more interested in that being the major topic of discussion rather than anything else. As an example. Say someone notes I'm carrying around a Pathfinder book. They spot it, KNOW what it is, and get interested. They approach and ask me what my favourite class is, and I respond with it and ask back. They give me theirs and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 10:03 AM
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Pretty apparent. If someone is approaching you for your looks, clearly who you are doesn't matter a whole lot. All it took was an appearance. Doesn't sit well with me. I've had approaches like that and they never do. Then again the only "approaches" I really ever delve into, with little exception, was those I'd been friends with for years or months at that point where attraction was established over a plurality of things over that time span and getting to know them a lot more personally. Obvious…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:37 AM
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I mean hence why I said an authentic reference. "I like your shirt" is clearly half assed but if the gal (or guy, I guess) approached with an actual reference or some knowledge of the subject, clearly then there is a little more connection. I'd be a little more interested in what they have to say or what they want. If you aren't aiming for any real interest or connection like that, then you won't bother and you'll only land people looking for that same boat. Or people fooling themselves into thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:23 AM
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I'm not really sure why they would approach if they didn't know me? I mean. If we're at an event and have a mutual hobby and they observe that and approach over that is an example. They know something about me as a person in that example. Not enough I'd say yes to ever, but its better than looks, that's for sure. Or maybe they recognise what my shirt or sweater has on it, like a game or something, and they approach with a reference they know. Also better. This is a really really good way to star…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:17 AM
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I'm not sure really on a number or time table. Maybe on average once or twice a week? Sometimes more and sometimes less. Honestly whatever my partner and I decide sounds good or just happens to happen. Neither of us necessarily initiate out of nowhere. There is always a little lead. I'm 21, lesbian. I think there are a lot of other stressors still here depending on the person that haven't been mentioned though. Medical problems are the biggest example and perhaps one of the most stressful out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:15 AM
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Better in general, honestly, if your aim is to build a lasting and long term connection. Men will appreciate it as much as women if you're bonding over more than just looks. Like you said, friends, friend of friends, events, stuff like that. Cultivate it a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:26 AM
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If someone approaches me solely on looks, I'm gay so I'll assume another woman, I'd just politely turn them down. I'm not really into that sort of thing nor finding a connection at that level. I'd prefer something more personality or interest focused first.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:17 AM
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Nerds, usually. Makes sense given I am one that I'd attract them. Not just for the mutual interest but usually because they likely met me over a hobby, which would most likely be nerdy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:07 AM
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It really just sounds like you're looking for a particular type of woman. These are all stereotypes for women, and they do most certainly exist. But I wonder why this is being pushed as a "women are complicated" thing. If you aren't making a generalized statement, which you said you aren't in the comments, then is this just trying to justify your personal perception or experience? I don't think I've dated another woman who was indirect since high school. Its pretty plentiful to find gals who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:59 AM
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You've got my mom's preferences. Lol. Out of my family's side we've got a weird and varied preference list. My grandma likes long hair, my mom likes em bald.. and I don't like them at all, ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 11:21 AM
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A relationship involves sex to the degree that the two parties or more involved agree upon its involvement. I think it can be devoid of sex, and that works for some people just fine. And I think the other extreme of fucking like rabbits 5 times a week is also acceptable if that's what the couple is happy with. So the answer is, well, relationships are defined by those involved within them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:55 AM
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I think its something important to note but not necessarily really something to factor into being the reason I'd ever reject anyone. These issues exist in a lot of fucking people at some level or another, I've experienced some, many others have too. Some of us manage to come out of it the opposites of what we experienced, looking for something better or knowing very strongly where our limits and needs are because they had never been satisfied prior. Some also grow out of it abusive themselves, u…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:42 AM
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Lesbian, gonna also go with E. I'm just not the kind of person. I wouldn't do something sexual with someone I barely know even in private and if it was someone I cared about like that, like a girlfriend, still no. In fact I'd be pretty flabbergasted they asked. The people I date aren't the type to want to do that themselves anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:59 AM
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I don't see how it is privileged. Someone lied to you, used your body under false pretenses and then bailed out. Its different than ghosting but both are fucked. Neither is a privilege, neither is good and something you should be happy about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:00 PM
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I think the only times anyone ever actually says no is if they outright like.. never discussed it prior to the proposal. If she said not yet and he still did it regardless of her comment. Or if something drastic occurs before the formal proposal that would drastically change their situation and the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:40 PM
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And I disagree its a huge majority. Its it perhaps a large minority that is quite pervasive thanks to the biproducts of former aspects of our culture? Yes. Majority? No
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:06 PM
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What was it? Like 1/2 of women in the US experience some form of sexual harassment in their lifetime? Or was it 1/3. You see stories about it on here all the time as well. Or even sexual assault was as great as 1/6 I believe. Should we then be applying this to the "better to assume all men are crazy rapists and sexual deviants"? Its the same line of thought as to what you're applying. And neither makes sense to apply. To be cautious, to experience the trauma and have to live with it and deal wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:57 PM
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Then why are you with them? If you try to talk and they don't reciprocate or they're hostile about it, why are you with them? This seems incredibly obvious to me. I'd be packing up my shit if months went by and they refused to talk to me about something that is clearly harming our relationship and I made it very clear it was and even warned them about leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:54 PM
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So it goes bad because they date someone toxic or shitty.. this happens to a fairly decent chunk of men so then all men immediately assume its universally a bad idea and doing it is a fool's errand? Sounds almost like the fairly decent chunk of women who assume all men are violent sex demons because they've had bad experiences and heard about others quite a bit. If someone is forcing you to bottle up, they're not a worthwhile partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:55 PM
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Oh for sure. Communicate! I can never say that enough. Talk about thinks. Best way to be on the same page is to just talk and figure things out. See who wants what and understand how things might go with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:51 PM
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I can see that. A lot of dudes on here think being open and communicating are like emotional and romantic banes and I really don't get it. I know very few gal pals that would even consider dating a guy who couldn't communicate. My girlfriend and I talk to each other constantly about everything, even little things in passing. And I love her so much more for it. I see a really rounded view and we can really take into account a lot about one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:37 PM
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Your inexperience is showing. The attraction is there, my guy, its dead because of something. Figure out what the something is and fix it and you'll find that spark flying again. Maybe not enough foreplay? Maybe they're being pushed beyond their comfort zone somehow? Maybe they are being pushed to have sex more than they can handle? Maybe you are just not experimenting or using any of their kinks? Lots of possibilities. Communication can identify these issues and discuss what might fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:24 PM
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It can help spice things up. If you're communicating and open you can try new things or maybe see just what's wrong and why. Its super helpful to be open and communicate with your partner. Express everything. Your anxieties, your preferences at any given time, so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:03 PM
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Ah yeah sorry, that's true. You've got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:32 AM
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Postgraduate is the school that yields you a Master's Degree or a Doctorate. Its any learning past the bachelor's. So you're undergraduate before the bachelor's. Grad school would then be whatever school program you're in to get your postgraduate education. Many study for their master's after their bachelor's if they can afford it, but its insanely expensive and not always worth it. So some don't or simply can't. An associate's is a two year degree, the half way point towards your bachelor's. Us…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:29 AM
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Oh I wasn't referencing financial stuff, I could care less. We agreed to pool our resources. If one of us wants a little more out of the pot, we're down to talk about it and make sure everyone walks away happy. But what I mean for commitment here is monogamy and emotional commitment. We both have that same requirement so we both exchange it regardless of the sex. Its just a pre req for me to even be willing to have sex in the first place. I wouldn't do it with someone I wasn't sure would actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:19 AM
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Another woman here. Sex is neat, but there's no way in hell I'd ever do it without commitment, love and passion. And a shit load of trust and respect. That ain't something I'm gonna do without some serious thought put into it with a very special person. Anything else and I'd be so miserable, you'd have to force it on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:14 AM
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I think the context surrounding it would matter to me. I'm a slow person to use the word love. It has a lot of meaning behind it and it takes me a little while before I feel comfortable enough going outside my walls to hand out a vulnerability like that. In the past it often took me months and I was never the first to say it. My current relationship is probably the first time I said it first, and it was a lot quicker in. And she said it right back and she's the same way as me. But I'd understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:05 AM
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You tell them. This "unnecessary pain" shit is clearly just an excuse to hide behind and make someone feel better about hiding it. You've violated their trust and they deserve to know and make the decision about what they want to do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:30 AM
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Truly the only thing a leftist like me can agree with you on whole heartedly. Libs suck. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:14 AM
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Better than cringsexuals. Those people are the real oddities no one discusses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:11 AM
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I think its rare to genuinely find anyone who is loyal to actually be loyal. Man or woman. There are certainly quite the large number, sure, but its still not something to just assume out of people. Its special enough that one should really weigh on that when they see it. I value loyalty a lot. I hold myself to that standard and I expect the same in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:44 AM
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Nah I already got a girlfriend, I think we're good in that department!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:48 PM
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Hey, same!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 09:05 AM
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Goddamn. And somehow at 8% I got cheated on bloody twice. What are the fucking odds. I guess the second time barely counts. I don't really believe she actually did it, I think she was just trying to be an asshole. I better go buy a lottery ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:45 AM
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It definitely has its moments. I don't go too skimpy really but sometimes I love showing off my general figure with a tighter dress, or feel pretty with my legs out with a skirt. That's rare though, just fun on occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:11 AM
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Damn. Pain to have ended up on the sucky side of that 8%. Absolute pain. Not that I'm super sure about stats with gay folks though, most studies about us kinda suck ass when trying to guage societal things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:07 AM
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Its really nice to date friends though. It always seems to go better
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:03 AM
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Ah yeah absolutely. I was raised a-religious, completely atheist. Hearing people demand everyone follow their way of life, especially common it seems among Abrahamic faiths, is always so grating. Though when it doesn't affect you it can also be so wildly weird that it makes you laugh. Like me and this lady having two completely different meanings for the word "immodesty"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:31 AM
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Damn that shit was wild to read. Some people are nuts. Like the second image with the person freaking out about immodesty and telling people reasons to be modest.. and you'd expect something wild like maybe hell are people going to church in just their panties? No. This woman meant a strapless dress, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:21 AM
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I like bell bottoms and wear those with my turtlenecks, lol. The 90s isn't far back enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:17 PM
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Another lesbian here.. I'm definitely gonna air on the side that this is trolling. Or OP here is far down the TERF side of the spectrum when it comes to lesbians who end up typically hurting women and men more than ever helping. My guy friends have always had my back, same as my gal pals. And I've got plenty of guy friends since I'm a huge fucking nerd. I've seen romance that wasn't transactional from het couples plenty, even helped sometimes when they were starting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 07:18 PM
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Sex to me, even as a teenager, was something that still required a lot of intimacy and a lot of trust. I was never something I could detach from love and just do it for the hell of it or because I just felt like experiencing it. My brain just doesn't understand the appeal of sex without some real, deep and invested love tied in. I have no interest, at that point. Was I interested in doing it with a partner? Sure, some of them, once things had been going long enough and I felt ready to make that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:42 PM
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One thing to keep in mind also is that trans men are far more often ignored in political and community hatred. This isn't universally true, but some people outright only think trans women exist. That says something about which is pushed more often. They're often the far larger subject of vitriol. Like being called groomers, targeted rape and violence against them, etcetera. And like you said, passing is harder. And if your own self esteem is in the dumps, you're still dysphoric even after you st…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:37 PM
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This just sounds like a shitty partner thing more than a woman thing, lol. Lot of shitty partners out there unfortunately. Hard finding the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:27 PM
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Sounds like she just wants to dress in something that'll sun and shock. I've always gotten partners easy without it but sometimes it can be kinda nice and make you feel good when you dress up in a way that feels particularly sexy. Its more for you than anyone else. Unless your partner also likes it then hey! Double the fun! Usually I dislike being super revealing, but I do show off sometimes when I get new dresses and stuff. Sounds like things are going great for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:21 PM
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A lot of the time it got based on intellect. If a woman revealed she could do very complex math, or could read, or had a little more natural intellect or practiced study. Especially if she was capable of scientific inquiry. People usually conflated that to witchery. Same went for women who typically refused the advances of men and / or rejected most of society and forged their own home or their own spot. That too was often "suspect". Honestly deviating from the norm in whatever respect if it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:13 PM
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On the flip side I hope your day is going better! I just got Uncharted so I'm playing those as well. Thanksgiving was a lot of work as a host so I'm glad to be resting now!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:01 AM
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Yooooo! That's rad! I've got a friend like that too who shows up every few months, sees how I'm doing, and then she tells me things are gonna be alright and slides away after showing me pictures of her cat and gifting me whatever the latest Stellaris DLC is. Been doing that on rare occasion a few years now. She's a very sweet person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:59 AM
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An Xbox X controller to replace my OG One controller with drift, Atari 50, Lego Skywalker Saga, Control for PS4, Uncharted Collection for PS4, Miles Morales, Va-11 hall-A physical, a bundle of clearance games and a couple things in the Steam sale since I get paid tomorrow. Cult of the Lamb probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:48 AM
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Meeting or even just seeing family on either side is always a little scary. I just try to be myself with a little added friendliness. Retail helps a lot with being able to pull that off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 06:33 AM
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Pumpkin for sure, I baked my own! Dark meat, I love getting the whole friggin leg to myself. Stuffing! Also entirely made my own, roasted the bread and mushrooms and all. Super tasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:45 AM
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Its a godsend to have family at your back, and having a brother and a mother who both care and both show their support is something that you can't even put into words how much it helps. Be there for her, depending on where you are in the world, she may really need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:40 AM
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America Fanboy? Poor bastard needs better heroes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:27 AM
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I mean it really really does depend on specifics. I mean, I'm gay. If someone has drastic enough views, they might be voting for people who would outright campaign for my rights to be limited, taken away, or for me to even outright be forced into a camp depending on the candidate. Its a scary reality, but a reality nonetheless. And I get someone being ignorant to that, but if you tell them and they refuse to really make a change.. what are you gonna do? Can you really stand being friends with so…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:05 AM
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I'm pretty sure you have to be kidding when you ask what personal compatibility has to do with attraction. That or you've only had the most shallow attraction in the world and just don't know. A lot of people select pretty hard based on compatible personality traits, beliefs, ideals and a wealth of other things they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:00 AM
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Well I mean I'm gay so I think that sums that question up pretty well, lol. I've kissed other gals. Done plenty more too once we got that far. I'm not the kind of person who likes moving fast in a relationship. Heck man if people have questions about it, I'm totally open to answering them so long as they aren't mean spirited
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:42 AM
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They do. It depends on the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 11:09 PM
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Not at all. But I do find it to be enjoyable and fun to play around with non-seriously regardless. Something doesn't have to be real to be entertaining, after all. I like to compare the stuff it actually says, mark how generic it sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 11:06 PM
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I think so, yeah. Its a really good place to have people open up and be social, make friends across gender boundaries, and it also adds in a little extra fire and competition to everyone involved to have more sporty people present and putting in the work. I think its mostly up to the teachers and outside culture to make sure everyone is treated fairly and no one is shunned for their choices or demeaned and seen as lesser for whatever type of education or skillset they want to pursue. Like say if…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:33 PM
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Hey but some gals really exceed, need and love excess physical fitness as well. The girl's basketball team was pretty big at my high school for example. Lots of the gals on there loved physical education and always wanted more. This seems like it'd be specialisation more suited for types of guys and gals together rather than just dudes. Like how some dudes fucking hate PE.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:48 PM
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That is not at all universal nor the rule of thumb. Its a stereotype. Furthermore now you're discussing appearances, these terms refer to aesthetic appearances certain types of lesbians have. This does not at all determine personality nor refer to relationship dynamics. I've dated tomboyish types and been the top and we've been equals in our dynamic. The same can be said for my fem partners as well. I don't like a relationship if our dynamic isn't equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:46 PM
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Top and bottom refers to sex. This doesn't account for switch, wherein one can assume either sexual role in the given moment. These aren't relationship roles, they're a type of sexual preference when it comes to being lead in bed or otherwise. Hence why this also is used by many straight couples as well. A man may have many traditionally masculine roles but perhaps he is a bottom in bed. You're equating two things that have nothing to do with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:01 PM
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So what is submission as per what a man calls it? How does that differ from my interpretation? Deferring to the man's judgement, having him provide, doing as he wishes, running the home and managing his chores and comforts while also managing the children and the rest of the home work. And why is this dichotomy of "the man's role and the woman's role" a necessity? Why must one choose one or the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:16 PM
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I'm confused as to what you're advocating. So you want to separate based on gender in schools.. and do what with the two end results? What is your idea for the resulting schools and how they should differ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:01 PM
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I don't really date anyone unless we have similar interests. Its a pre-req, really. I mean, how are we supposed to last at all if we don't like any of the same things? Waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:08 AM
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My girlfriend is barely taller than me and its awesome. I'm so used to being the taller one since I'm a little over 5'9, I like playing it both ways, just nice to be on the other end.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:46 AM
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I think anime is kinda boring usually but to each their own! I do like having cool merch up on display. I've got a couple Funko pops of my own. Elizabeth from Bioshock, the Outsider, Emily and Corvo from Dishonored. I have it with my lithograph of Emily fighting a clockwork soldier. Why not have some!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:29 PM
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Usually it starts off as playful banter and cuddling. One of us might already be a little on, so we initiate with the other usually starting with more silly flirting like "kiss tsunamis" and stuff like that. Then it'll involve plenty of kissing and hand exploration and usually more of the silly flirting turned into more flirting about how much we love each other. By then one of us usually pounces full into action. So it involves quite a lot of building up to it, you can't really just one two thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:15 PM
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He appointed people who actively removed school protection clauses for transgender people federally so laws couldn't chang-- what are you talking about? I think if he doesn't hate them, he's fine throwing them under the bus at the beheadst of his own potential to be elected and to keep his fan base happy, most of which are homophobic and transphobic whether they want to admit it or not. Don't have to be proud of it to be it. He can pretty it up and look nice himself while also actively supportin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:11 PM
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He supported candidates who have all actively fought against abortion rights. He appointed people who active went after LGBT rights and have endorsed individuals who do the very same. Words don't mean anything if there isn't any action behind them. Especially considering his administration not only appointed several anti-LGBT individuals, actively opposed the equality acts proposed to make it illegal nationally to discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender identity. Appointed individuals…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:59 PM
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Why, what did he say? I'm curious because actions speak louder than words and the people he appointed alongside those he backed were all people who not only supported stripping the rights of abortion away but also of LGBT individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:41 PM
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Hell yeah, can't wait for him to back more people who actively try to take away my rights. Awesome. Such a cool dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:21 PM
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Sounds rad. I love Disneyland! I'd just be sad the Tower of Terror is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:21 PM
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Its BOTH. Usually its used by dudes who intend to insult your relationship. Its the most wild way someone has ever insulted my relationship honestly. Usually most people do it in ways that aren't so stupid they make me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:36 AM
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Damn, if only. I wish. Women are too cute. ...I don't I really just want one, not a ton-
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:39 AM
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This reminds me a lot of that really dumb and really funny homophobic comment that comes around sometimes that like.. started as joke but sometimes you authentically hear it get said. "Two women? Who is gonna open the jar?" And like damn the one time I authentically heard it I so wished I had a jar with me right there and then to just open in front of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:36 AM
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Oh God they really are. I even like trashy TV and that's a little too much for me. But hey, love to see some good delivery, man knows how to tell a joke. Hope he went far in the show! Or whatever happened!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:31 AM
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It was a pretty funny joke, haha. He delivered that whole bit really well honestly. Means he's self aware, smart and funny. All good traits, assuming down the road it is true he's just joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:19 AM
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Hey, man, the money is gonna do wonders, we don't have to compromise for the sake of kids on goals, lots of things. Plus if we can live cushy after retirement, we can really enjoy those last few decades having fun and doing our thing however we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:34 AM
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Widespread, still the majority but definitely not universal! Lots of couples don't really want kids. Individuals too. I don't. I'd rather have the money saved up for my partner and I. We could start a business some day. Pay for vacations easily. Save for retirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:28 AM
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This is a super good point here. The problem isn't being open and not being "mysterious". Its being boring as fuck. They don't know how to be playful or to embellish or go crazy or pick up on what the other person finds interesting specifically and why they find it interesting. Because if you can understand what and why, you'll know usually what parts to focus on and make it interesting and thusly make the person speaking interesting. Like with software folks I don't wanna hear about some office…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:21 AM
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Love the projection, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:25 PM
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Lesbian. And a switch, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:37 PM
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No. Not all women like sexually dominant partners, not all women are bottoms. Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:56 PM
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Quite a bit. Although my parents were never married so they married other people. They didn't really hide their fights and arguing. It was a pretty good lesson in teaching me precisely what I don't want out of a relationship. Obviously I don't have kids now, but my partner and I very rarely even really get grumpy with each other. If we find an issue, we sit down and talk about it. Patience and understanding. As for if they still do it? No. They divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:36 PM
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I mean. It really does depend though, because the people using the word may have different meanings to it. Do you mean a preference for more stereotypically feminine things like dresses and makeup? Is it style being addressed? Is it stereotypically feminine personality traits? Which ones? Or are we talking about someone who is pushing it as being a doormat and a tradwife? Because.. I mean.. people use the word for all those things and for many variations amongst those things. Dudes do it, gals d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:42 AM
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So you love that he loves you but you don't necessarily love him as a whole? That's usually what phrasing it that way would imply.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:53 AM
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Well I suppose that's the point of a lot of those. Purposefully opening yourself up to that sort of thing and maybe someone will bite or maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:09 AM
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I think they have spaces for that, don't they? Then you can just look at their reddits and see what else they like and say and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:05 AM
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Ah man Sundays are good for being lazy! Go on a date, maybe go on a hike or go shopping or something. Enjoy the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:02 AM
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We should. I think its horseshit we don't do more, for any persecuted group. Its the real American way. Each is equal and should be treated as such regardless of creed, race, sexuality, religion, so on. Judge on action, not on things uncontrollable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:36 PM
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Oh yeah we so care. That's totally why we don't try to force our allies to be pro-LGBT in the slightest. Already made this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:27 PM
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Well.. LGBT people care. Because then they get punished for existing. For just being born how they are. And not like a frown. I mean being thrown into prisons, lynched, executed by the state, tortured in conversion therapy, etcetera.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:18 PM
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Did you.. just say 1 in 6 of LGBT people in Gen Z are women? Lol. In the same argument you said women are the super majority. I'm assuming there is a typo here. Man though almost like being accepting of gay people means gay people are more likely to come out of the closet or address their queerness more openly. Men are still often treated far worse than women for being gay.. side effect to gay women being fetishized and not gay men. Also like how those are often the same people who push for men …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:11 PM
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This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life I don't even know what to say. Plenty of gay dudes out there. Plenty of bi dudes out there. Shit loads even. Why do you think HALF of the people at LGBT pride rallies are dudes? For funsies? Homie, they're queer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:54 PM
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Almost like its still common they have children, just at older ages than before since they can now wait until they're in a better place for the kids with birth control and abortions available.. Oh man, yeah love pushing all that LGBT stuff. Y'know. On all those third world allies of ours. Saudi Arabia? Love pushing LGBT stuff. Totally not like they still just murder gay people and we've never done jack about it. Its almost like that's bullshit. Like what? Israel? Same thing, oh my gosh!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:44 PM
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I'm just saying, you say this makes it super trendy. Yet they don't really ever show up in LGBT spaces and I live in a fairly high acceptance area. This trend stuff is 80% bullshit and 20% a loud minority who wants to use LGBT victimization to get attention. Bullshit numbers obviously I'm just demonstrating a point. Yet those people are often still het and still date het so.. this doesn't really change anything? Like. Het people don't just change sexuality. Ultimately they're still het. Odds are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:34 PM
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Person who dates women here.. this is, uh, not really universal. Never dealt with this in any gal I dated. I think you're just dating boring people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:30 PM
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I've seen so few people in person actually like that invent LGBT space. Most any person I met had legitimate things going on. I think you've got very vocal minority going there that people conflate to be bigger than it actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:23 PM
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Damn. Like those gay people are gonna just become straight just because the media is a little harder to access. People are just gonna hide it better when need be or they're just gonna leave the country when they have the means.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:19 PM
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Depends who you ask. I prefer feminine things to a degree. Like clothes. But I hate makeup. But I love bangles and other sorts of rings and bracelets and stuff. But I also only really spend time on hobbies you see mostly dudes in. Video games, tabletop games, old cinema. But I also really enjoying cooking and hiking and window shopping. My girlfriend is pretty much in the same boat, except she works out while I mostly stick to cardio. And I'm aware those are all stereotypes. Femininity and mascu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:49 PM
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My partners have definitely never been anything like my mom and dad. I just.. am not really too much of a fan of a lot of the things they display and a lot of the things that immediately come to mind when I think about them. I'm not looking for the opposite in a lot of things, in a couple, sure, but not really in a lot. Guess I break the mold, lol. Somethings I like similar, some not at all, some so-so kinda. I dunno! It can't be that uncommon to not really match it to either of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:27 AM
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My favourites are watching some of the ones with them going onto a debate with women who actually know how to retort and trying to pull the same shit where they talk over the woman the entire time or interrupt her or whatever and just seeing when you get the debates with the opposite and the woman just never lets him talk and constantly belittles him the way he does others. Gold. Absolutely gold. They get so mad they usually quit out like babies. Same when a dude clowns on them too, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:22 AM
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Hey! I'm down to chat if you're still looking for a pal! I'm a leftist, a lesbian, I love old film primarily from around the 70s and 80s, huge fan of rock and jazz and soul music especially 70s soul and plenty more! Also a huge video game and tabletop game nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:54 AM
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The man thought he could turn a lesbian straight. Clearly he doesn't have all his marbles. Let alone also the fact he thinks women like being raped so.. he feels this is justified and natural and that clearly the woman wants this. Any other explanation is nonsensical to him. And if she won't listen, he'll make her listen. By force. So he basically chased her down to make that happen. And get the exact experience he wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:30 AM
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Depends on the gal. Not every woman in the world fucks like rabbits or even has trouble remembering their past experiences. I certainly don't really have an issue regarding like.. recalling the person. I can factually visualise the scene a little. Clearly details are lost to time, but I'm a person who invests a lot into my partners. So its not like I don't remember them or who they are or what they look like and so on. But like. The order we did things on any specific sexual encounter? No clue. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 09:48 PM
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I don't think its necessarily just solely goals that fit under this umbrella. Its the full spectrum of communication. Its just important to be very open with your partner. Talk. Let me know what's going on. Your needs, their needs, goals, wants. People just need to clear about all this stuff. Talk about it with some meaning sometimes. I learned that doing it fairly early isn't a bad idea, like a month into a relationship. Normalize the process. And then you both will start to feel more comfortab…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:04 PM
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What child? There is no consciousness, so I have to ask what child? No consciousness has yet ever been formed in any degree. No brain yet when these things can be sorted out. The heartbeat isn't even real until much later on. Just because it can be one a child? At which point we should be prosecuting every unused sperm cell that is murdered as we can. Eggs too. Not their fault they weren't born. The parents should have been having children! Or are we basing this off a concept that's religious li…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:18 AM
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Man if only that was fool proof. Too bad things like rape still happen.. yikes. Drats. Let alone the fact teenagers to make bad choices, and they will no matter how much you tell them sex is bad and abstinence is good..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:51 AM
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Little ways over 5'9. Always been a big fan of my height. Means I can enjoy the perks of being tall and of being short depending on the situation and who I'm interacting with. I don't think I'd mind being a tiny bit taller myself, 5'10-ish. Just so I can giggle when I'm suddenly a little taller than my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:06 AM
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That doesn't solve having to carry the child to term and birth it out of you. That's uh.. kinda a huge part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:00 AM
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Usually yes. Actually. If you can someone won't take no for an answer, playing along and disengaging in a way that they feel is favourable is a good means to control the situation before it can get worse. Think about it. If you tell someone no and they for whatever reason insist on refusing that answer or grow aggressive or hostile over it, you are trapped now in a situation you likely cannot solve without backup or a weapon. Because they will hound you relentlessly. However, if you play along a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:32 AM
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Second on the comment here that expressed the reasoning why this occurs. More often than not the reasoning women typically play along and then back out when they can is just the nature that being blunt with men, well, most women have experiences where being blunt with men doesn't actually stop them. Even I've got experiences with dudes who think "no" means "maybe, teehee". And if you continue the rejection so bluntly it can become incredibly hostile, sometimes worse if they decide to gets hands-…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:22 AM
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So.. good honest advice is whatever fits into confirmation bias on what you want to hear but advice from different kinds of people who would like different things don't count and just get told is bull? I mean there are different kinds of people out there. I've always valued emotional depth, respectfulness of boundaries, patience, sincerity and communication, and especially the ability to both be able to talk about whatever and to just have comfortable silence together. I'm sure I'm not the only …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:03 AM
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You're telling me a shrimp fried this rice?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:51 PM
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Same. I get that with Chinese food sometimes and I just have to have it. I get so grumpy if I don't get my General Tso in that mood
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:29 PM
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Damn I can't help it that guys made up the majority of fans for all the nerdy shit I like ;-; seriously though. Need more nerdy ladies out there in the world! Too niche!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:48 PM
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B is just the decision I'd make if I was in her shoes because of the fact he just approached me randomly, he's that much older and he's a dude BUT Since it isn't me, and I don't know what she wants, C seems fair. Hey, it might work out for them it might not. So long as it doesn't turn abusive, good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:43 PM
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My biggest is probably my introversion. It makes me come off as somewhat distant and for people who don't understand it, it often can stir up a lot of issues that I want a decent amount of space to myself, and the ability to keep some things to myself. Sometimes the latter part also means I can end up bottling and keeping in how I'm feeling about things, which can hurt people's feelings if they notice but I still won't share. I usually just need time to grow comfortable enough to feel like I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:08 PM
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Not really. I just assume he likes a good beard. Assuming he's taking care of it to make sure it looks good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:51 PM
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I tend to need a fairly excessive amount of privacy. I like to have a little space or some things that I can keep entirely to myself and share only when I'm comfortable to. I freak out when that gets breached.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:40 PM
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I imagine someone just misunderstood or someone got weirdly gung-ho about it and is super anti slur reclamation. I dunno. Hopefully the little educative lesson was helpful though!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:37 AM
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Well yeah! And you should.. if you're not using as an insult. That's the crux of it. If you weren't, then someone just went gung-ho I dunno what to say. Weird shit. If it wasn't an insult then most queer people don't care. Hey see I even used it there. Usually the big way people spot if you're using it properly or if you're using it as an insult is if you use it as a noun or as an adjactive. Like saying someone is queer versus saying someone is 'a' queer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:36 AM
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Depends on how you use it. As an insult or a rude remark? You're using it as a slur in that case. It uses to be a slur before it was mostly reclaimed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:23 AM
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Well then you trade off who tops and who bottoms, really. Its basically in flux on whatever the needs of the other needs. Some folks like it, some folks don't. I am a switch, its what I prefer. In one session you can guarantee it'll go back and forth. BUT THAT'S WHAT I MEAN. PEOPLE GOTTA LOOK INTO THIS STUFF REALISTICALLY. Bring some effort to the table. The rest you can wing, y'know?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:21 AM
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Oh I never said when a man leads. I can just understand the frustration of a bottom if your top doesn't even know what they're doing in the slightest. Guy or gal. And hey there are! If a gal sucks at sex that bad too that's on them. Some people suck at it so bad you don't even know where to start. You can give a little guidance but its hard to give a whole ass lesson in the middle of the down in dirty is mostly what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:53 AM
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Works pretty well for me. Nice and fruitful, we both get to do what we want, we both have some money and we can compromise on anything that overlaps in ways we don't both immediately get what we want. We can have discussions over any big choices and have an equal say in what to do. If you and your partner really mesh well, it'll never be a problem. We're both well heard and we can both take initiative on the stuff we want to! Sounds fruitful, productive and far less constricting and unhealthy. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:49 AM
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Hence why I said straight people are weird, man. Everyone's got their dynamics, I guess, even some lesbian relationships. I just always opted out of people who were like that. More fun to be side by side two heads as one making all the big girl decisions than having one person lead more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:33 AM
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That shit's always been weird to me. Never understood why one person should get the leadership role, let alone just because of their gender. Straight people, man, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:25 AM
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A rebuttal so fire that it went thermonuclear
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:20 AM
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Hey man sounds awful if you can't both rely on each other for moments of vulnerability or for each other's needs and wants. Everyone has gotta give and gotta take a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:20 AM
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Words of wisdom, I know a handful of dudes and gals who agree with you on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:14 AM
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Unfortunate the choices we have but unfortunately when you're in a sexual minority group that does sorta force you to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:10 AM
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Hey man they got books for this stuff, at least learn some better basics here. A gal can help out but if you're bumbling on everything but how to stuff a pole in a hole then I dunno what to tell ya. It does sorta just ruin it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:07 AM
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We promote both. Safest for the kid. Trust me, I know plenty of LGBT folks who got outted to family and it went very, very badly. A lot of them are fucked up and will be for a long time because of it. Its extremely common. So much so I'm not even sure our country could handle the influx of new kids. But hey you gotta do right for them. Sad thing is is no one actually listens to LGBT people on what would have helped them the most growing up. Eh trust me if I knew my teachers would be forced to te…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:30 PM
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How so? Do tell. I'm super curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:20 PM
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Hence why it requires years upon years of a background that clinically demonstrates you need, years on lesser steps that aren't nearly as dramatic to the body, and then multiple psychologists agreeing in letter assessments you need it and THEN several years on a waitlist to continue thinking it over for.. in total.. mmmmm.. about maybe 7 years. Likely longer. Not even considering you need to have hair burned out where your privates are for quite an extended length of time. If that doesn't dissua…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:19 PM
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I'm curious how much one class really impacts this? If even that. It sounds like something you could dedicate "home room" time towards. Wouldn't take more than an hour, if even that, to understand it in terms of what a child should know. I find it funny you equate gender dysphoria to that one thing as a means to teach it to children. Hey, if it was standardized I can think of a million good ways to do it. Just teaching children some people are not the gender they were born as will suffice. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:10 PM
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I was.. uh.. 15 I think the first time I could say I truly felt love. Clearly that didn't turn out very well down the road but it has lead me to some pretty good pastures where I am now!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:40 PM
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Wow. You figured it out good retort. I know those women who perform all those mass killings when they feel rejected by men. Wild, right? Nuts. Bonkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:36 PM
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'Unfortunately' Not a fan of medical procedures?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:33 PM
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Democrats are a shit party as well. You think they actually listen directly to the LGBT community? No. Are they better? By a mile than republicans with LGBT people. By several miles. But they still don't understand what its like to be a part of it. I more than advocate for laws and policy that help CPS remove LGBT children from bigoted parents. I'm more for the government stepping in, because it goes ignored a lot. A LOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:32 PM
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Oh the teaching younger kids about gender identity and sexuality in terms like "and sometimes two girls might like each other like your mommy and daddy too." That is different from what I was discussing, I didn't realize this was what you meant because that's how little of a problem I saw it being. Just standardize it so teachers know exactly what to say and are trained to keep it well in kid terms. Easy. Then kids get taught about it early so they don't grow up with their only knowledge on it p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:29 PM
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Ah just thought of this too. That's also not how that surgery works, lol. You don't cut it off. Look it up some time. And the end result once its finished healing. You'd never know a gal was trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:20 PM
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Critical Race Theory is a college level concept not taught in normal K-12 classes. What you're referring to is an education in American history that more deeply discusses acts of racism and hatred propogated by American people throughout its past from more indepth discussions of Jim Crow to more accurate information regarding the genocide of a significant number of Native American tribes. Let alone also looking into how other laws were implemented post Civil Rights Act to essentially continue th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:18 PM
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Yikes. Damn, imagine supporting bills like that. Reminds me of the Texas one that makes it compulsory to report children to their parents if they are LGBT. Thusly putting those children at risk for abuse from family, which is EXCEEDINGLY common still today. If your state still allows conversion therapy too then you could get shoved into state sponsored torture facilities. Listen to gay men especially talk about that. Being electrocuted, humiliated and beaten. Its almost like if a kid isn't talki…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:09 PM
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Oh do tell on this. How do outpace incels in entitlement? Y'know. The people who prop up those like Elliot Rodger who felt so entitled to sex that he went and murdered a bunch of people because he thought he deserved it. Or should I start naming off other people many incels prop up who felt the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:04 PM
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Care to give some examples? I'm curious what you consider to be unacceptable for standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:38 AM
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THIS TOO THOUGH! Even if it was your first, you know from others and from online and school and even other relationships you see in your life. I may have had some bad examples in my life to look at, and bad partners, but I wouldn't need the partners to know what bad is. And it helps you very quickly spot what is really good too. Who is worth the extra mile.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:23 AM
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I think most people are just typically really pleased with their partner. Its normal to really cherish the one you're with. If they aren't your number one, you shouldn't be with them. That's my philosophy anyways. I used to say my last partner was the best, and now my current one since we got together. I'll still hold to that. I'm happy with her. No need to even think about anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:17 AM
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The first game does a really good job at building atmosphere and making you uncomfortable. The second throws you into it a lot faster at first.. but then slows its pace to allow the horror to seep in. Kinda like how Resident Evil 2 starts out in the midst of a shit load of zombies but once you're inside RCPDHQ it slows quite a bit. But I have to absolutely emphasize that the first game is such a good master class of making you constantly feel comfortable and constantly making you question ever w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:13 AM
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Have you thought about trying the first two Dead Space games? The original people behind it are releasing the game The Callisto Protocol pretty soon, and those two games made a lot of moves coming out. They're good. Really good. The third Dead Space is ass though. I also recommend some of the free horror out here. Cry of Fear. Or Total Chaos, which is a mod that is also really fucking good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:19 AM
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Wasn't bored at all, my man! I really enjoyed the convo and helping out. And hey, if you ever make any progress or anything, message me on here if ya happen to remember me. Love to hear how things are going some day. It is refreshing to really sit down and have a pretty genuine conversation. Good luck out there. I got logistics to work through. Saving so I can move in with my own girlfriend, and we aren't sticking around in the US. Lots of budgeting. Lots of work. Good luck out there, my man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:41 AM
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Damn. Good thing I'm a lesbian. I'll go for the juggs! Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:57 PM
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Go for the jugular!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:56 PM
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Yeah yikes. I hate when people's response to genuine issues involving men is something like "just man up" or shit like that. Like male homelessness. We blame all the individual men regardless of circumstance. Or say male victims of abuse just getting laughed out the door by friends, family and the police. Or single fathers who get the boot in court even if they're clearly the better fucking parent, or stay at home dads being emasculated by friends and other dudes and women. Like. That's so fucke…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:49 PM
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Probably the wisest response here, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:36 PM
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Hey I'm doing pretty well without one. I'd say I'm more than successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:36 PM
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No kidding. Is the West that bad at paying attention they gotta have two things running at once? Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:20 PM
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If y'all are in college why not turn it into an official club? A Tabletop Games club or something. You'll get newcomers, you all can land a more reasonable frequency and even get some college funding to buy stuff for everyone to use like communal dice and printed character sheets and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:08 PM
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Yeah, really though I do get it, I mean. Being approach by a guy or gal. Sure, most likely it could be innocent, but when you're gay.. you have to typically be a whole lot more nervous and suspicious with it. Like you said, could be theft or a scam or sexual assault or rape or weird religion-justified violence. Like. Is this gal hitting on me for real or trying to single out a gay gal they can draw away from the crowd so some nuts can brutalise me outside? Or is this dude gonna accept "I'm a les…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:06 PM
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Exactly. You have to write in what you think based on both their personalities and their characters' personalities they may do. So that means writing in a subset of the most likely options. Though thankfully if you're a good enough DM its not too hard to slowly realign them back on course if it derails too hard without it feeling like railroading. It takes some experience that's for sure. I used to suck at it but I got a lot better back when I ran like the most chaotic table back in my college.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:22 PM
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I can get that. I'd be suspicious of some random person who came up to ask me as well. What do they know about me to want to be sitting here and spending their time on me? My looks? They saw me talking to someone else? Its just.. not my thing. I've never dated anyone I didn't know for months in advance first. Just how I roll. How I get attracted to people. But in terms of signs in any sense, gosh, its so varied good luck figuring them all out. You're always gonna miss some and go "WAIT WHAT?" a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:13 PM
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Well it never said famous. I thought they were just referring to people with a well established skill like athleticism or musical or comedic talent. Clearly I'm not saying anyone is famous, that'd be ridiculous, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:07 PM
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Oh God yes on the too much work. I'll let you know to write for the one campaign I've probably spent.. I dunno, upwards of 20 hours planning out concepts, basic adventures, NPCs and so on. Especially since social interaction with NPCs is HUGE in this particular campaign. So making sure each one is super well rounded and developed is a bit of a monumental task.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:49 PM
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Oh gosh yeah, no friggin kidding. Military grade boneheadedness. Would you say it still effects you a lot if you think a gal is showing interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:47 PM
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This is good.. but you gotta have it make some noise and move right when the tent opens! That's way better for a good jump. Man, you're giving me ideas that are too evil. My girlfriend is gonna kill me when I do this. AkA she'll take it as an invitation to start dishing it back and oh boy I know she's gonna get me I'm jumpy as shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:35 PM
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Hmm.. I think the closest thing I can think of on this is I dated someone who was in band and jazz band while we were both in high school. She and I met through a mutual best friend of mine, we were friends for like.. a year or two probably before we started dating. I didn't have a ton of money so I didn't always have the opportunity to see her play. Only a handful of times. Always fun though. I dressed up for each occasion, as funny as going to a high school football game is dressed up to the n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:30 PM
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What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:26 PM
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Damn, yikes on those girls. Bullying at its finest. That's for sure. Yeah I think once you're over the age of 20-22 you probably won't see that again. Brains have developed enough at that point that only someone with a lobotomy wouldn't understand that's just a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:25 PM
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Damn, yikes on those girls. Bullying at its finest. That's for sure. Yeah I think once you're over the age of 20-22 you probably won't see that again. Brains have developed enough at that point that only someone with a lobotomy wouldn't understand that's just a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:25 PM
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Use them to scare your friends when they leave into the darkness to go use the bathroom
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:21 PM
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Ah rad sounding campaign! I'm pretty much almost always the forever DM, I don't get to be the player very often unless I seek out entirely new groups. I was running a campaign for some friends but it slowed after the pandemic and went into hiatus when some people just had to move on. Opened up a window for me to run a game for my girlfriend instead. We originally planned on 5e with some friends but when we couldn't find matching schedules it just went one on one with me and her. Starfinder game.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:59 PM
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This is a good point.. it sounds like we need heavier figurines, like monopoly player pieces, and glow in the dark dice. Alright, we're coming up with solutions!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:42 PM
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Going out camping with a bunch of friends and running an outdoors spooky D&D campaign around the fire sounds wicked.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:27 PM
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Ah yeah, I'm a pretty extreme introvert so I'm not the type who really likes socialising a lot. I kinda have to push myself into doing it, and often by the end of whatever event, I'm exhausted and don't want to talk to anyone. Also means I'm innately pretty anxious. But hey, what are ya gonna do? Just not do it? Chicken out? Might as well. The potential reward is a lot better than the anxious discomfort you get initially. Made a lot of friends that way committing to joining new groups like D&D g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:25 PM
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Gotta get out there. Its important to make friends, join clubs or outside activities, school, work, volunteering, just having fun. The pandemic hampered it but things are alive once more, might as well look up online some of the fun places to be
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:15 PM
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Wow I never realised how many dudes are basically useless lesbians too. Lol. In our crowds we tend to make a lot of jokes that the more socially inept of us just outright miss signals in favour of thinking its either just being friendly or just not even noticing it at all. That's why it helps to have friends on back up. Another dude or gal or something who can be your third party arbitration and.. I dunno, elbow your arm when they notice. Whatever works. Although DIRECTLY asking you out? As a jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:08 PM
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I've had.. 7 relationships in total. I have to count it out in my head every time, a couple of them literally only lasted like a month. Each attempt was for something long term, and only 3 of them ever involved anything sexual. The joys of being of long term kinda gal and needing a lot of patience in a relationship. Takes awhile for me to be comfortable getting to that stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:39 PM
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I don't think you can say 5% of men are enacting the entirety of the 81% of women who get sexually harassed. That's a lot of work for that small of a group. Impossibly so. Clearly the issue must then be more widespread than that when it comes to lack of respect for women's boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:57 AM
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It means bullshit, haha. I thought it was fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:20 PM
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If most women used apps you wouldn't have the issue of generally having far more men on them than women in any concentrated region. A ton of women do not use these apps. No reason to. They either aren't looking for hookups, found it pointless, find partners in real life just fine, etc. I've never used one. Most of my friends who are gals haven't either. They just aren't looking for what those apps have a reputation of providing. Which is a lot of cock and bull.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:40 PM
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Companionship is the big one in my mind. A second set of eyes. A unique kind of love. Sharing experiences and memories. Those are sorta my big ones, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:34 PM
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Lol first thing I scrolled past was calling social science data ass. Truth. Social sciences are plagued with a lot of biases. Anyways, take it from me, it does exist. Its a sexual minority. Clearly it isn't going to be superbly common. Its an outlier. There have been a couple other demi folks posting on here too, I've commented on their things usually when I see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:34 PM
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You took a research methods class. You understand the limits of your minor's field. None of this shows literally any expertise in terms of the diversity of sexuality and attraction. Where is your actual reasoning and evidence? This is still hot air at this point. Where is the disconnect happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:21 PM
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Ahhh now we're at the crux of it. "I don't experience it thusly I can judge it as being crap." Almost like the conclusion that someone's methods of experiencing attraction or to what they experience attraction is true and you just don't want to believe them because.. stubbornness? Who knows. Hard to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 02:43 PM
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That's not what I said in the slightest. I said you don't find anyone attractive until you identify a specific set of personality based features. Sexually and romantically it does nothing for ya. Mister Chad 6Cock looks the same as Louise from IT. Neither are attractive and neither will ever cross your mind as anything more than at most a friend unless that specific set of traits is identified. Looks mean nothing. The looks can be a lot of whatever, and completely different every time around, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:00 AM
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Well demisexual is meant to specifically describe a method by which one experiences attraction. Y'know how you can get sexually attracted to someone by their looks? A demisexual person can't. They never experience initial attraction based on looks. Never. It has to come from a specific kind of personality, a very specific set of traits and communicative chemistry. If that doesn't come first, you'll never get to romantic attraction. It'll never cross your mind. I don't know what autosexual even m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:42 AM
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Awww but marriage is such a sweet sign of commitment. You're not supposed to do it lightly! Its a symbol!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:21 AM
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Ask the King of Dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:08 AM
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I still don't really get it though. Even before I was out, this still wasn't a problem. I mean I lived across the street from my best friend, we were over at each others' constantly, sharing dinners with each others' parents and whatever. One on one a lot. Hours at a time. In my room usually since I had a lot of game consoles. Never came up. Never got pushed on us so we never really talked about it or even thought about it. I know I can speak for him too, he's got his own partners, always has. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:55 AM
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I think anyone isn't worth your time if they aren't willing to look at new information given to them. I can understand not immediately switching gears, they need to process it, need to fact check it themselves and determine how this new information fits into their framework, their mental web. But if someone cannot, even for the tiniest shit, ever change their mind and dies on every hill to always be right.. damn dude, fuck they ain't worth your time, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:12 AM
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I wouldn't say dudebro, but giant fucking nerd fits the bill pretty hard. I'm not a Skate or Die type, I'm more of a "Yo you guys wanna play some Stellaris or join my Pathfinder campaign" kinda gal. Always have been. Both my mom and my dad were into different amounts of that stuff so. Ah. And like I said, you could make that argument if I had no friends from before I came out still. But I still am friends with almost all of them. Our sexes just was never a call for anything. Never even got consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:05 AM
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And men don't? Any dude I even accept as a friend understands that concept because they to want it. Maybe they're already in a relationship, maybe we aren't each others' types, maybe they're gay or maybe we just wanna be bros. And this part sounds like personal projecting. You don't fiendzone every dude you're friends with. Not every dude is looking for that. And you aren't friends and not lovers because they're unattractive, that's an assumed dichotomy of attractive and unattractive. They might…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:49 AM
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What makes you say that? I'm curious, why is it not possible? What prevents friendship across sexes?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:31 AM
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Nah, man. I'm a lesbian. Less dudes who hit on me regardless of having that knowledge is always a plus in my book. Sounds like I'm winning out by guys getting robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:14 PM
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Lol. Clearly its something else then. Who knows! It is fun to see what people think folks look like for age.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:53 PM
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Being clean shaven helps add to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:50 PM
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Ah man less dudes to hit on me? I'm jamming, that's awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:42 PM
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Usually near the end of later rounds, for a little bit. Some moments. But its not like super loud or anything. Its louder don't get me wrong but I'm not like belting my voice out a ton. I'll just say its never as wildly loud as some porns make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:29 PM
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Not necessarily. You could have someone who you can clearly tell by looking enjoys it but just naturally doesn't belt out a lot of noise. Doesn't mean they make none, but its more occasional. I'm that kind of person. I'm enjoying the time of my life but I don't make a ton of noise. I make a little, and usually they aren't super loud, not really until the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:23 PM
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I like the look more than the sound. Obviously complete silence is a little strange but if they just looked completely stagnant I'd really be confused
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:11 PM
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When I got my first ever copy of Halo CE I was.. I dunno, maybe 8. The game was pretty old by then but my grandpa said his was just gathering dust so he gave it to me. My cousins were spending the summer over and we played that game those whole two months before school. Lots of memories I have from that. Lots of really nice ones, us whining at each other about screen peaking and who got the sniper rifle and all kinds of stuff. I value that one a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:51 AM
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Making sweeping statements on any specific thing is going to just end up being an incomplete truth unless its obligatorily vague. Like the commenter who literally said "unattraction" which is basically synonymous with this question itself. Its vague. Doesn't mean anything besides what you want it to. Its going to differ from woman to woman, you might find patterns in types of people or in specific groups or in those with specific personality types or traits, but it'll never be sweeping when you …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:45 AM
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I've been a big believer of paying the bills and expenses and sharing the full range of the money available with my partner. It hasn't always been me on the low end of the totem poll for money either, still adhered to that belief. Anyone I'm willing to date is someone I already know we'll enough to trust with that. Let alone also that personal space and alone time are always necessary and should always be valued. My girlfriend gets lots of migraines because she's off and on new medications so mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:42 AM
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I can't believe people just assume someone inherently loves less or more because of their gender. I've dealth with this stupidity in people assuming I love less because of my sexuality but damn I never expected people to move onto gender as well. I think its more typically pushed onto men the expectations of things like men dying for their partners in an attack and so on. Its a pretty unfair expectation thrust onto men to always be a rock and always be brave, a lot of dudes internalise that pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:17 AM
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6'2, damn I've only known two gals that tall. One was an ex and the other was a star at my old high school. 6'2 is so friggin tall, and that's coming from someone who is above average in height for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:22 AM
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Lust is not love, no. However, how much the two words relate depends a lot on the specifics on the definitions given to love and lust with each person you ask. Its defined differently by whoever you ask, the words get packed with meaning individualisticly. Personally, I think lust is more about sexual desire without romantic feelings involved. Its casual by nature. So one cannot lust after someone they are commitedly romantically involved with. However love doesn't necessarily require commitment…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 05:13 AM
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Weird shit. I don't think you're gonna find much of any gender lined high volume universals in people wanting to pick clothes for their partners and what those clothes would be. I'm a lesbian. My partner can wear whatever she wants. If someone forced it to where I had to pick, I'd just pick stuff I know she likes. Cute shirts and sweaters, tighter jeans and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:59 AM
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Hey, demi pals! Same here. It took me a really long time to recognise the pattern in myself and understand there was even a word for it. Lesbian too, so it was more just sheer odds I actually managed to find partners. But it was all organic. You learn more about them, talk more, learn about those personality traits and those interactive traits you like and things sorta go from there. You'll find some too! Don't worry about it, that is if you are anyways. Best to let it come to you in my experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:45 PM
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This is very poorly phrased in the video but what it means is very late into pregnancy, just before birth, when the brain is fully developed, signs will show. Brain scans will demonstrate chemical patterns similar to what they would transition into rather than the chemical patterns inherent to their sex. Its not that one immediately understands this, its just that the preemptive signs for these things show up very early biologically. Socially it could take a long time depending on access to info…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:13 PM
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Maybe for my partner in private if she asked. But I'm not the type who likes to show a lot of skin around wildly in public. It just makes me uncomfortable. I tend to prefer higher jeans or leggings and sweaters or plaid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:40 PM
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What do you find personally nostalgic?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:23 AM
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Ooooo. Does it look tasty?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:37 AM
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Hmm.. a feasible tactic. Understandable. Some strong witchcraft there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:27 AM
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Not a man but I am a lesbian. How does someone sleep with over 500 different bloody people? How? I'd be impressed by the sheer effort that must have took.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:29 AM
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Plenty of flaky guys out there too. And not just for dating. But this happens with plenty of men too. Fickle and flaky defines a chunk of any gender. Also love the weird assumptions about women made here. "Innate nature", "anchored to the present in their emotions". Like what? Even reading other women here you should be able to tell that's bullshit. I've certainly noticed it. Lots of other women outright saying they just don't really look for anything casual and they don't date someone if they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:22 PM
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Its weird. And the sugar free ones have been missing for months now as well. I don't even see spots on the shelves for them anymore where I live. Supply issue maybe? Or some bozo's just not ordering it. My favourite candy bars aren't the most popular out there but yet I pretty much always find them stocked. And somehow lifesavers aren't? Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:43 PM
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My girlfriend already catches me talking to myself. Lol. I usually make voices and chat back and forth as a way to pretend I'm talking back and forth with a dog or just to poke fun at things. So not like it'd be unusual to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:33 PM
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Don't tell them our secrets!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:30 PM
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I can see the reasoning of this maybe in a newer couple cohabiting, so long as the person was true to their word and never went above expense caps you could afford. If he did, its on them. Makes sense early on to both split a little more like this. Stay a little more independent. But like.. six years down the line and you're both still together and married? Being this lording and concerned with money just seems weird that this point. Just pool all your money together and budget it. Talk to each …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:17 PM
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Sounds like people just making bad relationship choices and folks assuming then anyone who was more of a party girl at one point and stopped is like this. Gosh I know someone who is 44 and is still a party girl. Still "bags", so to speak. I know one who is like 23 and she stopped partying just because she moved on from it. It got boring to her. She just evolved as a person and wanted something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:04 PM
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I don't think looks are gonna play the big boy role in this really, no. People get tired of running around clubbing and hooking up and partying every night. Its extremely time consuming. Its tiring. Its repetitive. You don't really get a lot out of it. Its risky in a million ways to Sunday. Why bother as you get older? You've got more of a career taking your time. Hobbies. More interesting and complex people to spend time with. Less interest in trying new things. No way to really fit in staying …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 04:58 PM
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Yep sounds a lot like mistakes and immaturity to me in those cases. Though I know some people just prefer it casual. I can't imagine doing casual at all. Never have, never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:44 AM
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Oh. Uh. Alpha fucks bets bucks thing? Doesn't that have a lot more to do with age and maturity level than anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:21 AM
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Is this a bad time to ask what AF/BB even means
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 09:04 AM
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Oh that's why they're not given those things. Surgeries cannot occur until they are consenting adults, and HRT cannot begin with years of consistent patterns and even then not without, in most places, the age of medical consent having been reached. Before that they use hormone blockers when puberty begins in order to essentially delay the process at no risk to the child developmentally if it goes nowhere, or to be beneficial in having prevented worsening dysphoria due to what puberty would do. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:28 AM
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Parents who partook a little too much a little too often in various parts of my life. Just decided I wasn't gonna repeat that. Better for me. Better for my friends. Better for my partner and if I ever change my mind about kids, better for them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:39 AM
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Well my girlfriend and I are both on the same page of "maybe one day, but probably not". We'll talk it over a lot if that changes but it was a talk we already had once just out of curiosity at one point. We're both pretty serious about really wanting things to work, and about long term commitment and stuff and being realistic and upfront so.. I mean, its been working out really well. Especially since we have the same needs a lot of the time and are thus both really understanding of each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:58 AM
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Ah hell yeah that's the life. I don't necessarily want kids but I do want a lot of the same. A nice little home with a wife, some money to enjoy our hobbies and travel a little together. A nice little quiet life, a couple doggos. Sounds like a joy to me. I don't even date unless we're both on the same page about looking for something long term. Haha. That's like a necessity after we even determine if we're attracted to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:35 AM
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The thing that always bothers me about trans issues is that people often just like.. get told once a lie about what its like to be trans and then refuse to listen to anything else. Like the people who just assume a kid just says they're trans and the very next day they're on HRT and getting shots to change. Like what? Clearly not. It bothers me just how much hatred exists because they just aren't used to it, they get told to hate it or outright lied to about it by dudes who, usually, on one hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:28 AM
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Hell yeah now this is the good shit I was hoping to see in this comment section. If you have to force these roles onto people, then they clearly aren't natural. Those two things don't connect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:24 AM
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Yeah sometimes my girlfriend and I feel like we're banging our heads against a wall dealing with homophobic crap. Most people in the LGBT do. Trans folks have it the worst. Way worse than we do and the LGB side of things are already dealing with the possibility of the supreme court overturning our protected status and the rulings that made laws against being gay illegal to implement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:09 AM
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Ah yeah I've met a lot of people who said stuff like that where that was what they meant so I responded accordingly. Sorry for making the assumption. Lots of homophobic people out there unfortunately. You get used to fighting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:59 AM
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Doesn't explain my own relationships. I've never had this problem. My girlfriend and ex girlfriends never did this. So by your standard still. Even with couples I grew up under I only saw it in some and not others. I mean, clearly this isn't such a massive super majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:29 AM
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I've seen other women do it before, not many, but a handful. I know the behaviour and I know how to spot it because I grew up under it. My girlfriends in the past have never done it, none of my friends ever have unless they hide it a whole lot more from the public than the examples I do know of did.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:05 AM
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Well if you're a lesbian, no. It would be grueling and miserable because you wouldn't want to be there. So for a lesbian being with a dude would be even worse. That'd be a nightmare in my eyes. Can't imagine being manipulated into marrying a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:02 AM
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I had to look up what this means and I have seen shit testing before. A couple older women in my life I've noticed do it sometimes. But this is odd to just usher onto the majority of women. I've certainly not seen it in any of my friends, nor my cousins or anything. Not even my previous exes or my girlfriend. Either you live in a particularly shitty area where this is normalized or the wrong crowd keeps knocking at your door. Its weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:48 AM
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Man then you're dealing one particularly bad woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:44 AM
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Stay at home dads and primary parent fathers are rad. I've got mad respect for them doing good on their kid even society hasn't fully come to normalize it yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:42 AM
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Nah not really. Least not in my experience. My current girlfriend and I practically asked each other out because we both already knew where it was going. Before that.. I asked once and I got asked as well. Never really been an issue. You just don't meet a lot of queer people outside of queer places. That's more the issue I've seen. Hard to find a partner when there are only so many places folks congregate in any volume.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:08 PM
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You'll always have some layer of people who aren't being authentic in anything. That's true of everything in the world. Its just important to never punish the people being authentic with those not, and to take people seriously until you can tell its malarkey. Like trans kids. They put them on blockers which have no damaging effects often long enough to allow kids, often over many years, to get clinical help to identify why they are trans and if they're absolutely positive about moving forward wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:02 PM
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Exactly! I was really happy with how supportive my friends and family have been. I had to drop some baggage, but I kept the good ones around. They hear all about my girlfriend and I, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:56 PM
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As a lesbian I can assure you not all women are "coming out in 2022". Dating pools are still pretty limited, LGBT folks still make up a pretty tiny minority group in comparison to the whole. Are there some folks who came out this year? Yes, there is every year. Is the number higher because it is generally less likely to lead to you getting fucking raped or murdered or beaten as a result? Yes. I was always a lesbian but I was afraid to tell anyone that, even actively tried to bury it, for a long …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:53 PM
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Its not necessary that those two opposites are the only option out there. I'm a feminine woman, as if my girlfriend. I'm attracted to femininity much more. Your point still stands but that is one thing that isn't entirely correct about it. Many scientists are studying though the fluidity of sexuality and the idea of more typical pansexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:38 PM
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Yo those two look so cute! Living the lesbian dream, good for them. I'm glad they've been able to go public. Having to hide it is so draining and hurtful. Its hard being born a sexual minority, some men even start assuming you do it as a trend or something. Like its about them somehow. I wish them the best! They seem really happy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:31 PM
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"Dog ahead!"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:20 AM
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I didn't agree with that, actually, lol. You just made that up. If she's a teacher making 30k she's already likely gone through college, maybe even graduate school. Many do. She often works the normal 40 hours paid and often another 20 a week in office time, student activities, grading and lesson planning. So now we also have to deal with taking care of 30+ children a class, roughly 4-8 classes you have to teach a day. Average 6. You can't even imagine 2 kids it sounds like, imagine 180, 30 a pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:18 AM
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Goodness we haven't even taken children into account
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:44 AM
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Damn. So now you're suggesting going to college, so now they'll have college full time student stress, likely still on top of working at least part time or gig based, and now be responsible for almost ever chore because.. their work didn't make as much? And how's that working out for you? So you stand by that if you got a partner making triple you and now expecting you to do all the housework?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:41 AM
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Weird. And men add things women don't want and yet are often bullshitted into doing the majority of the housework including the man's things like clothes and food and cleaning perhaps some of their own goodies. Almost like in a partnership you still both have your own things and that doesn't really matter. Wow. Mind blown. That's funny. You know monetary value doesn't often equate the actually stress of the work, yeah? And you're both contributing. Say you're a teacher making 30k with 60 hour we…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:11 AM
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Because women are so soft, ha! Muscles are too hard, blehh. Give me pillow softness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:25 PM
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Very well put. That's really what this is looking like. A bunch of people pulling the shit by brother would try to do to get out of chores growing up. Any excuse they can possibly find.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:03 PM
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Ridiculous. You wanted a little furniture, lady, so now you get all the chores! HARRUMPH!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:02 PM
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This comment section is really fucking something. From the people who are like using this sole post to point like "See! I told you all women are awful with unrealistic expections! Couches are not necessary! Nothing is except my TV and my computer!" To the people who think somehow its acceptable that two full time working hours adults need to divy up their time based on economic pull rather than how long they're working and how stressed they are. Like if one is a general practitioner doctor at 10…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:14 PM
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I don't really care what kinda spank bank my partner has so long as she isn't like.. if its someone she knows, that's a little weird. That's something I wouldn't be very cool with. But on average I've got no reason to really care. Its not like it takes away from our relationship or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:37 PM
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Eyyyyy. Some joys here of being a lesbian who never wants a kid. My girlfriend and I thankfully don't ever really need to worry too much about having mad bank or anything, we just need enough to be comfortable. And honestly neither of us are big spenders, we're both pretty frugal because we both didn't have a lot of our own money very often before. So sharing money on stuff so long as we communicate about it doesn't really bother us. Still wouldn't bother me if I jumped up in pay a whole bunch e…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:05 PM
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Oh I follow what I preach. Having a primary caretaker father growing up was definitely a pretty big influence on realising a lot of the hate men get for that sorta stuff, let alone how often people just assume shit about men, was just as much horseshit as assumptions made about women. I do agree though it sucks ass when people say they agree with something and then very clearly aren't self aware enough to acknowledge they're still having problems with it. I've noticed that a lot with some leftis…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:59 PM
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You could also blame capitalism as well, seeing as removing capitalism would remove the stigma of the weight of one's pocketbook. You could also blame conservatism for the stigmas against fathers, stay at home dads and men being the primary caretakers. There is a lot more at play here than feminism. Its not so single minded. Its a byproduct of many aspects of our society not yet properly addressed. There is a reason leftist people tend to often be the ones that care the least about this sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:46 PM
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You know there is some really good points on stuff here. It really isn't fair that men get judged unfairly based on their economic situation or their lifestyle choices like if they decide to be a stay at home dad, for example. Feminism originally didn't really take this stuff into account because it was more pressed trying to equalize certain elements that at the time were really bad for women. That has ripples only now we are just starting to look into and address. I've heard people talk about …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:10 PM
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Man I can't imagine finding anyone who talked down to me or tried treating me like shit ever getting their foot through the door. Maybe I value connection more than most but this all sounds like hogwash. Even if it was a super hot lady, nah, no thanks if you're gonna be an asshole. I wouldn't be interested and I certainly wouldn't even want to keep talking. Life is limited, don't waste it on assholes. I'm not into men, but if anyone, man or woman was like that, y'all gotta just tell them to fuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:02 PM
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The vast majority of my friends are dudes, haha. My hobbies mostly lap into nerdy shit like video games and tabletop RPGs, both of which you meet a lot more men who enjoy them than women, so that's just sorta how it worked out. Through all my partners, never put a damper on my real good friends, been close since we were little kids for some of us. I've helped some of them through some pretty rough times with girlfriend problems and relationship stuff. And they've helped me when things went wrong…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:59 AM
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There are additional sources out there, feel free to look around. I don't have any more on hand though. I don't keep this stuff lying around anywhere, I used it for a school paper ages ago, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:49 PM
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If you look into the Encyclopedia of Victimology and Crime Prevention it goes a lot into the inaccuracy of data in most studies regarding same sex couples and domestic abuse, often because studies either do not specify whether or not it was with partners solely of the same sex nor often also included is that studies do not have a particularly large sample size. Asking only handfuls in non-random samplings from their own institutions. It is also cited there is inaccuracy as well due to how these …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:48 PM
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If you look at how a lot of those statistics were taken, its really interesting, a ton of those statistics were about lesbians and all their former partners, most specified that the abusive partners were men they dated prior to realisation or during denial phases. This was often dropped after the studies were made public and circled by anti-LGBT groups in order to villify lesbians and to try and push a violent stereotype. Just a fun fact. To educate you a little more. I see those stats quoted so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:26 PM
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Not often. Maybe near times to vote and only with a few. I mostly save my political discourse with friends and my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:20 PM
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Oh for sure. I've got a lot of really good friends who seek themselves short and never really muster confidence in themselves and who they are. In hurts them both in and out of dating a lot because of they're not just sure of themselves and who they are in a positive way. One friend I knew had a crush on the same girl for years and just flat out never bloody asked her and it drove me bananas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:19 PM
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A whole lot of trying to sell stuff online, haha. Got expenses to cover and not enough money to cover them. The joys of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:08 PM
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Damn I don't think someone has had to manage a large family and family household. It does come with a lot of work of you're actually trying to do a good job and by thorough. Especially if you're also skilled enough to do complex tasks and stuff too like fixing things that break as well. And adding children on top of that, even just having two, means a lot of juggling that work on top of the responsibilities as a parent, which are very large, especially in younger children. If, again, you're tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:49 PM
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Lesbian time? Pog.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:19 PM
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Maybe? But ultimately you'll get the issue that whatever you generate will probably just become unappealing to a lot of women, while then attracting others. You're just switching out which women decide to use your app. It could work if every app had a different system. It seems unnecessary though. Why not just add options for both sides? Make tons of systems available at once and then let any user, man or woman, decide which they want to use. Then anyone who prefers whichever one can use that on…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:08 PM
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Ah, I see. I don't really necessarily see a problem with how anyone ties the two together, if at all, for themselves. They just have to find someone compatible with the same values in both of those very subjects. I can't do sex without the intimacy. You've done casual sex, I can't. Physically I cannot I would probably vomit. Its just not something I can do. But I could do intimacy without sex. Its not necessary to me, even if at times I would enjoy it. Just gotta find someone with a compatible v…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:03 PM
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I don't really see this system working. Not that I find current dating apps appealing either, mind you, but this sounds just as dull and ineffective. This one is just evenore complicated and messy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:17 AM
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I.. don't really understand entirely where you're running with this. Sex and intimacy are not necessarily the same thing. They're not necessities of one another by any means innately. They can be departed from one another, and to what degrees one is comfortable with differs from person to person. An asexual person may, for example, have no sexual desire but still desire intimacy from a partner. Romance. Love. Cuddling. Dates. That sorta thing. Or someone might be more partial to one night stand …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:00 AM
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TRUTH. Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:37 PM
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I get what you mean. But it isn't just directly money. Time as well. Time gets spent in excess a lot if you're doing this a bunch constantly for anyone slightly interested in you. And that's time lost from hobbies, family, friends, sleep, or honestly anything else you wanna do in life. A lot of people when they make cases like the giving lots of people a chance, never seem to consider how much it could dig into time if you had to give anyone who asked a chance. Even two nights a week sucked up i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:15 PM
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I think a big reason a lot of those apps don't tend to work is a lot of people don't actually use it for just friends. People will still try to be romantic, just more shady and on the sly with it. Kinda kills the faith you'd have in it. As for friendship across genders. Why not? My oldest and best friends are all dudes for the most part. I'm still purely platonic best friends with the dude I grew up across the street from. I've got another I've known since middle school who I'm still super close…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:11 PM
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Gosh.. hmm. It has differed from as early as a few months to as long as a few years. My initial attraction comes from a set of personality traits and how it meshes with my own. It takes a long time to find someone who meets it in just the way I like, and I don't really even find myself interested in someone before that particular instance where I recognise all those qualities. Its all odds when we talk deeply enough for it to come out. Once that happens though, it usually just takes a few days f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:50 PM
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This is the strangest rant. Like. re you just assuming this based off a couple studies and some famous stories or a few friends? I'm a woman, lesbian sure, but I've never been happier than with my partner. Wholly satisfied, honestly I could see us living the rest of our lives together. I don't take steps like that very lightly but there is a pretty damn special bond there. Some gals are just shitty, man. You're gonna get cheaters. Some men do it too. Some are gonna be unsatisfied and belittling …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:11 AM
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I'm so confused reading this. Its just a hodge podge of weird illogical arguments, maybe its just not explained well or I'm missing something but they're pretty glaring. Let alone the weird assumptions made about why people would be here. Like from the beginning, the thesis that we know high counts of sexual partners is bad.. by using an argument to demonstrate how that very concept is preposterous is weird. Someone makes a comment about men with a lot of previous sexual partners only wanting wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:51 PM
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I don't use dating apps personally because it just couldn't really possibly give me what I need to start feeling attraction. I'd end up just wasting people's time wanting to make a lot of friends. But I mean.. if it was my only option to meet partners, I'd just skip right on over anyone without a bio. I'm there for long-term. And personality and interests are what matter most in that. Without that meshing, your long-term relationship is already destined to go down the pooper.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:13 PM
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I mean. Dude if you've got some porn sitting around, who cares? Its weird if you know any of those people, so weird that I mean.. I can't even imagine someone actually doing that. But just porn of random peoplem? Who cares. Porn is porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:53 PM
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I'd agree with the possibility if it weren't for the fact that it was the trend prior to my birth and post my birth. She had me late 20s and before that she dated mostly bald men, post was the same in everyone besides just my Dad himself. So I doubt that it has to do with age pool option type things. Its just her preference. Haha. I can imagine baldness can be rough, but growing up around her and her younger friends. I can say that baldness strangely does pretty weirdly well in redneck groups. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:24 PM
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I'm not personally the type for baldness but funny enough every time I hear something like this that makes me think to my own mom. Haha. She's got a bit of a thing for bald guys, I can tell by the trend of her boyfriends and ex husband. Almost all of them were bald dudes shorter than her. You're a type for someone. Bald dudes definitely are. I doubt by far my mother is the only woman on earth who likes bald dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:16 PM
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I really hope the best for you two. It sounds like things are gonna be just fine, keep up that good communication and you're gonna go far together beyond anything a ceremony could ever do. I'm wishing you both the best in the world. You've got this!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:27 AM
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If my partner proposed to me with something that carried that much personal value, I mean.. I'd be ecstatic. So long of course we'd been on the same page for when to marry before that moment. How I view it is.. sure an expensive ring is something and all, its got value in the material sense. But something that personal speaks volume to the amount of trust, faith and soul going into that gesture. That's not something you can take back. That's a symbol that speaks so deep in volumes its really imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:14 AM
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Haha, even I don't go to parties. We're all pretty introverted, her more than most. But it isn't like she's in her room all day. She is in college. She stays in the our resource centers and does classes and sometimes goes out to activities with the rest of us. Usually just DnD. She's never bothered by it though so its not like we talk about it constantly or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:58 PM
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I second this advice. A picture of you holding a giant fish with one of those goofy baseball hats that says like "Women Love Me, Fish Fear Me". Guaranteed matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:21 PM
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Don't get it. This sounds like a weird soapbox to even care about. Don't you feel more embarrassed saying you've never been asked out than if you said you've been asked out before? Isn't that the point to a lot of this stuff is the embarrassment also around never being asked out?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:05 PM
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I don't know why she'd feel inclined to lie in that direction. If anything its more embarrassing to lie about never getting asked out at all than it would be to lie about getting asked before. Like. There is no incentive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:03 PM
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Sometimes. Sometimes. One of my gal friends literally never had dated anyone, told me outright she'd never even been asked out. Supreme horse girl, also into my little pony and dragons and shit. A writer, introverted, didn't meet to many people if she didn't have to. Can't say I was surprised. Super introverted people like her rarely get dating requests.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:58 AM
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I think it should just be up to the woman really. I mean. It depends on what she likes and what her priorities are and what interests her. If she likes someone educated extremely in a field she might prefer a college student like herself at her own level. However her focus on romantic traits she likes may extend out in other ways. Say she likes the same level of education, but not necessarily the college variety. So someone highly specialized from a trade school may still interest her, or maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:53 AM
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I'm confused here. Do you legitimately think most women out there live like celebrities surrounded by a fair chunk of men at all times and always have people around them interested and actively offering? I dunno if we need to find a way to make you a woman for a year or something but it definitely doesn't work this way, lol. Heck I just got off about a year and some change without any romance a few months ago. I wasn't getting asked left and right and rejecting or anything. Literally just nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:45 AM
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I dunno, I wouldn't say its a fear. Its all in my mad genius desires to conquer the world and force all beneath my tyrannical grasp. Duh. This should be obvious enough. I can't evil laugh though, hurts my throat too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:40 AM
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Haha. Yeah, its an interest. Differs a lot per person who is and isn't interested. Though usually some groups have much more of a choice to be knowledgeable about politics than others do. Like marginalized groups kinda have to stay somewhat informed and be somewhat involved since they're the ones usually hurt if they don't pay attention. That's why I started learning. Joys of being gay. But that involves a lot of dudes as well. Gay men, as an example. But otherwise its all up to preference how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:54 PM
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Myself? When I say I'm single, I mean I'm single. I don't do casual stuff at all, it just isn't my thing. I know just inherently to myself I would get nothing from it. So if someone is suggested to me like that, clearly the person suggesting it doesn't know me very well, lol. If I'm single, I've got nothing going on that that moment. And if I'm out the door of being single and someone asks, I'll just say that I'm looking into the possibilities with someone. I can't speak for other women, especia…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:10 PM
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Ah yeah people that up their own ass are impossible to deal with. Usually snooty, self important and not nearly as smart as they think they are. They're just smart enough and deft enough to look extremely intelligent, regardless of the reality. Its fun to teach and be taught. It makes a relationship a lot more fun long term. So much to learn if you give it time. Hell I had a conversation about insurance and insurance politics in the US with someone for like 3 hours once. That was a really fun co…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:51 PM
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I think I tend to work in reverse of most people when it comes to attraction but I don't really think about "attractiveness" or get invested and interested from appearances as the first step. I just never even consider it. Never crosses my mind. Its a set of personality traits that get displayed first, usually just by chance talking, that will set off the first wave. And its a pretty specific and complex set of traits. Specific in demeanour, in what conservations can be held, how they're support…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:47 PM
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You're gonna find there are A LOT of guys and gals out there with like zero political or even slightly more advanced technical literacy. The types who more often than not find that kinda shit boring aren't exactly uncommon. You gotta find people who specifically like these kinds of topics, and usually those sorts cluster. If you haven't found any women, then you gotta find another clustered friend group with some in it. Lots of women in mine and we're more keen in talking about politics than a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:31 PM
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You're barking up a tree people are always gonna ignore here. A good chunk of people here refuse to ever involve LGBT discussion, let alone many being homophobic and transphobic. I think the perspective can be helpful in disproving even some harmful het stereotypes, but regardless it tends to get dismissed when people mention it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:24 PM
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EYYYY! Reading this post and some of your comments, you and your wife sound like super good and super rad people. I hope y'all both are living your best lives. If you don't mind sharing, how'd y'all meet? I love a good love story. As for the alpha male stuff. Its usually just superficial bullshit. Its usually propped up by people without self confidence who use it as a means of coping and with feeling powerful when their insecurities make them feel internally otherwise. Tate is a good example if…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:39 AM
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It is pretty much what killed me playing in higher ends of CSGO, let alone when I used to do Halo and COD. Now I don't even use voice chat unless I have to. It just gets too annoying in random matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:17 AM
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Same though. And I mean.. even introverted I've got tons of friends and they're all nerdy gals too. Plenty. Even if it ain't video games, its comics or some like magic the gathering or Dungeons and Dragons. I swear I have a hard time meeting gals who don't at least know a little bit about one of these, let alone like one. At least in the early 20s age range. Maybe its just because I'm from a particularly city. Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:15 AM
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Biphobia is one hell of a beast, let me tell you, and it manifests so horrifically on every side of the pond. Women often get targeted and fetishized, men often get a nose turned up their way. Both suck ass. I dunno why people make such a big deal out of it, its an ex partner or fling or whatever like any other. Gender doesn't really play a factor in it. I'm gay, I wouldn't date a dude outright. But I really don't see why that should matter. He's still him regardless. Its like the people who fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:45 PM
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Awesome! Well I can say I definitely agree. Never understood the casual stuff either. I just outright don't feel the attraction or interest without that special spark. Attraction is such a diverse and weird thing, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:24 PM
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Parts of this sound so satirical and parts don't so I have no idea if you're joking, joking for only a part, or not at all. It is authentic though, those apps literally do nothing for me. They're just a waste of time because I simply would never be interested from that. The information my brain needs to feel that just doesn't come from a couple messages and some pictures and a bio, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:46 PM
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I think you're close to the money on why many women wouldn't date a man who does something like that if they knew. A lot of even "reputable" businesses still abuse the women who work there, like in Amsterdam, it is legal and "reputable" and yet forced instances of it occur, as does workplace abuse by what is essentially just a smarter and more subtle pimp. I doubt many people actually consider that it just being legal and appearing above the board doesn't necessarily mean it actually is. I'd nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:17 PM
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I think it can't really be split up by gender so cleanly. Some men and women really like it and benefit from it, others absolutely can't stand it and have a hard time with it or some aspect intrinsic to it. The way I get attracted to people just doesn't work on a dating app, I'd be one of the types that wouldn't be positively affected by a dating app. I fall for a pretty specific set of personality traits before I can even go forward to think about something like looks. And you only really learn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:59 AM
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Putting in the good work, goddamn. Awesome job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:56 PM
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I think there is a pretty big aspect not considered really here, maybe overlooked by accident or not. This doesn't really account for how women are affected by the far more frequent amounts of unwanted attention they receive. Say, even if it was just once, by a man who forced himself into her life first with kindness and then becomes hostile and violent when she refuses his advance. This can be said of both men and women who have dealt with even something like that, to as far as dealing with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:50 PM
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Sex matters to the vast majority of people, I'm demi, I couldn't give a shit about sex. But this is definitely NOT the case with most people. A lot of guys and gals and so on value it quite a bit in their own ways. And many typically, due to never meeting someone genuinely who doesn't care about sex, often can somewhat reasonably make the assumption that everyone cares and thinks about it greatly. Is it right? No. But it is an assumption nonetheless that makes sense to the super majority. Beside…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 04:35 PM
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I think something a lot of people undersell is niceness itself. Sure its just one thing among many that one needs to have, but its one that matters a lot. Especially if you're aiming to date seriously. But I don't think people think a lot about the fact that niceness, kindness, means something very different to different people. What's acceptable, what's too much, too little, what meshes and doesn't. People always see themselves as nice, but that nice doesn't always mesh with everyone or comes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:15 AM
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I've had a lot of partners open up to me in the past, men and women. Life is rough, why have a partner you can't rely on when things are rough or you really need an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on? I've had exes who have gone through some really, really rough shit with family. Being ostracized and abused, ridiculed and neglected and yet also helicoptered all at once. I don't want to get into specifics, but it was a hard time for them. I was there. They needed me. Its that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:06 AM
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