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Still purple. More red about certain subjects, more blue about others, but it all even outs. Perspective is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:10 PM
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Kids still roam, but they have to get to a certain level of cognizance before it's a good idea. You're not going to send a five-year-old outside without supervision. If you do, they're going to find a pond to drown in quickly. I'm going to go out on a limb and say the helicopter parenting thing is niche, upper class, and probably urban trope. Lower class urban kids roam, usually in groups with older siblings or cousins. Rural kids with acreage? Definitely roaming. Suburban kids are geography dep…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:52 PM
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I'm not sure why this escapes so many. Lots of people seem to prefer codependency to an actual meeting of the minds, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:51 PM
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It's interesting how sharply divided the opinions are, OP. There's essentially no in-between.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 02:32 AM
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Western society values commitment and steadfastness, at least superficially. Also people have a habit of throwing stones in glass houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 06:49 PM
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Even beyond the self-imposed financial helplessness, being an isolated SAHM (the 1950s model that seems so admired) is a bad deal no matter how much money you have thrown at you. See The Yellow Wall-Paper. Humans need novel stuff to do and taking care of babies and small children, lovable though they are, is mindless monotony. The most successful (happy and effective) SAHMs I know either have excellent communities or part-time jobs, the latter of which kind of negates the whole SAHM thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 03:41 PM
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Nothing I said suggested you or anyone else was uncomfortable in their skin. It was a byproduct of my own upbringing. My point of relation was strictly the likelihood of taciturn fathers raising less traditionally feminine (and therefore strange, according to some on this subreddit) women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 08:16 PM
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I think a lot of the women here are in that same position. Perhaps that's why we're perceived as "weird". My dad wanted boys. He got girls who he raised as half-assed boys. He taught me a lot that I'm retrospectively grateful for, but it came with the side effect of being uncomfortable in my own skin more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:51 PM
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Good idea. We've got another obstacle course coming up soon but maybe one of the color runs will drift by in the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:44 PM
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Do you intentionally try to be more masculine around men you don’t like? I try to be polite to everyone regardless, but if by masculine you mean something like a more prickly, standoffish demeanor, then absolutely. Likewise, I'm warmer to men I'm fond of, regardless of appearance. There's a little bit of a diminishing return to the warmness though, because if a man scares or intimidates me I go back to a more prickly mode, even if I find him attractive. Maybe especially if I find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 07:07 PM
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For St. Patrick's Day weekend we ran a mud run. I'm still getting dirt out of parts unseen three showers and much vigorous scrubbing later. So much fun, even if I was bordering on hypothermia by the time we finished. Looking forward to the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 03:15 AM
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This whole thread is spot on. If I had a dime for every time my appearance was criticized for either being "too good" or "too bad" since I was about 12, I'd be a very wealthy person. That is true for nearly every single woman I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 02:14 PM
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No, most women do not have the level of constant sex drive that men do. When women want it though, they are capable of having it over and over again in a short space of time, whereas men are limited by their refractory period. Biologically speaking, women tend to want the most sex the days leading up to ovulation and maybe a few days afterward. So that's a roughly 7 to 10 day period out of the average month where her sex drive could come close to competing with her male partner's, and even then …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 08:56 PM
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There are two sides to every story but Justine's side was quite telling if there was even a kernel of truth. I thought it was kind of weird how similar looking Tallulah Riley is to her, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 11:43 PM
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That's brutal. Poor doggo, poor guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 10:36 PM
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Well for one, I was infatuated with him and naively thought we could be friends, which lasted all of two days when his wife figured out what was up... I don't blame her for the record. But there was additional drama associated with that job that I'm not going to get into here. The whole ordeal wrecked me mentally and emotionally for months afterward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 03:22 PM
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There was one guy when I was 19, a coworker who I was head over heels infatuated with. He had literally just gotten married and it was my last day on the job. We had a few minutes to speak alone and he asked me if I thought he married the right woman. I told him I couldn't answer that question for him. I'm still proud of myself for that level of clarity at such a stupid age, even though it lead to a lot of pain afterward. So the short answer is no, I've never willingly been a side piece.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 11:04 PM
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How do you deal with impostor syndrome? Life is good right now and I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 04:14 PM
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He took me on an impromptu road trip to the lower Outer Banks to see wild horses when I was 37 week's pregnant. I very much appreciated it, in spite of my swollen lower legs. Earlier this year he took me to Florida to see manatees and did not rest until we found them. I express romance by making things for him, like food or art or clothes, and taking care of him. We culture and nurture each other's interests. That's the best I've got for romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:12 PM
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Have you read The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera? It's been a while, but if I recall correctly, it deals with the "heaviness" of attachment and responsibility versus the "lightness" of an unbound, rootless lifestyle (obviously a very truncated summary). It's not the most lighthearted read, but if you're cool with fiction, I recommend it because it doesn't demonize either path. They're all a part of the human experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 01:28 AM
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What is the difference between withholding sex and playing hard to get? I don't think playing hard to get is necessarily sexual. You can play hard to get with casual friends by dodging requests to hang out, for example. Do you also agree that the rest of the list above is a good strategy? The ones that show playfulness or confidence are fine. Others are OK if used in the beginning and limited, like emotional distance and playing it cool. If he continues to be distant after we've become physicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 10:56 PM
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She can complain all she wants, but if she's having consensual sex with him, no one in their right mind is going to take those complaints seriously. It's clear she finds something titillating about the charming douchebag. OP can use his or her walking shoes and cut out as soon as the complaints start up. "Ugh, Trey is such a--" "Oh, I just realized I have a coffee date with Olivia. Later!"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 12:32 PM
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We'd keep walking, and fwiw, my husband is fairly intimidating. We've both read too many stories to know that physical size means jack all when the other person has the element of surprise and weapons. The only time he's ever returned that nonsense is in a controlled setting. He just mad dogged a kid who would not leave me alone. Kid left me alone after that. I respect him for knowing his limits and saving his energy for a situation that requires it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 12:09 PM
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My hair is straight with no frizz. Pictriev's algorithm is smoking some good crack. I tell people I look like the love child of Cillian Murphy and Lena Headey. I can't think of one person I closely resemble.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 08:50 PM
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I can do you one similar, if not better. Despite having a 96% feminine face and looking 24 years old, Pictriev decided my top match was Phil Spektor. I just... what? But I'll take it, because I kinda like the idea of people imagining Phil Spektor blathering about love and healthy LTRs from his jail cell.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 08:17 PM
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I did. Husband is/was a Catholic with some hang-ups thanks to his strict upbringing. It did not help that his parents had a shotgun wedding six weeks before he was born.. unfortunately that fact was held over his head growing up. He was a technical virgin before me, even though he had like 10 previous partners for everything up to PIV. We waited almost a year before we had PIV sex. His rationale was that he didn't even want to chance the possibility of getting a girl he wasn't serious about (or …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 01:57 PM
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I think it actually has more to do with stressors or lack thereof than the man's ability to produce tingles. Note she said that there's not much going on in their life, no sense of urgency. That would be in line with the RP theory of soft dread, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 11:34 PM
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Yeah. That response was heavy on the sarcasm and not directed at you, for once.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:46 PM
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I legitimately did not realize there was such a massive taboo against women approaching men. I do have a nice jawline and a slight ass-chin, so I suppose it's possible I am a high T, manly-woman-hag. I'll go sit in my manly-woman-hag corner now and stroke my ass-chin in contemplation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:42 AM
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I have a messy man. The first time I spent the night at his apartment, I had to wade through piles of laundry down a makeshift path to his bed. I look at him and said, "If we're going to share a bedroom, this cannot continue." I did give him the option. He chose the shared bedroom and better space maintenance habits. It still isn't perfect, and I do have the occasional freak-out (or tantrum if you prefer) but we've both mellowed out over time and are better about figuring out a happy medium. He …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 12:23 AM
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I like to paint my nails but I never have time, so I got one of those 4-in-1 emery boards. The finest grit leaves a nice shine and it takes like five minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 11:54 PM
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I don't rate people on an arbitrary number system. I find features about them I like and see if they outweigh the features I dislike or am neutral about. Case in point: I can overlook a belly if a man has strong arms and broad shoulders. I could care less about a six pack if the guy is otherwise very small built.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 03:24 PM
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Hah.. Solipsism. It turns out that men aren't much better than women at trying to grasp concepts outside of their own purview.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 05:05 AM
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https://www.goldenbarrel.com/recipe/coconut-oil-fudge/ ​ Not exile_in_redditville, but I made this for the hubs this weekend. I've used the recipe numerous times and they have a pumpkin one as well. Sub the honey/maple syrup for a sugar free table syrup, add 1 to 2 TBSP erythritol or liquid stevia to taste. Add 1 tsp vanilla after you take it off the burner. You can sub in any nut butter you like. You could probably even separate the mixture and add chocolate to one, plain nut butter to the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 03:30 PM
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That's a great attitude to have, I'm sure your partner(s) appreciate it. However, my comment was meant to illustrate that there are some types of pain that can be controlled (like adding extra lubrication or not going so hard), some types that can't, and no one is at fault for the latter but a little understanding would go a long way. I didn't mean to give the impression that my husband is an ogre. He's not. Sometimes I try to tough out what seems like a little thing for him, and it snowballs in…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:37 AM
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You have my sympathy. Endo is a bitch on so many levels, and that type is a special breed of awful. I hope the surgery gave you relief.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:02 AM
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Yes, exactly. Personally I like that post-workout feeling, but not everyone does and that's fine. I definitely do not enjoy feeling like my husband's penis has a razor embedded in it, which is a close analogue of sex when all the nerves in my pelvic cavity are freaking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:04 PM
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The comments that said "how painful can sex be?" kind of infuriated me. It's not about attraction. For one thing, the typical woman is not "always on" like the typical man is. She can be very attracted to someone and still not feel like having sex with them right then, because she's somewhere on a continuum between pre-occupation/anxiety to literally being in pain. All of that doesn't magically turn off because Don Juan climbed through the window and swept her off her feet. Some things can be wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:26 PM
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Plot twist: we're all damaged in some way. Life is hard and humans are frail.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 02:09 AM
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Both partners need to give 100/100. That doesn't mean always be perfect, it means never stop trying. Relationships end when people start slipping repeatedly. Usually it's both, sometimes it's entirely one-sided and those situations are tragic for the partner being left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:20 PM
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Men gave resources to courtesans but very rarely married and created families with them. In fact, the only real example that comes to mind would be Justinian I and Theodora, and that is likely in part because she had an uncommonly shrewd mind. Maybe there were others, but they were the exception to the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 06:51 PM
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Besides some relatively generic health indicators and symmetrical features, what makes people attractive is subjective. Men can like pale, delicate East Asian women with huge doe eyes. They can like curvy, extreme hourglass-figured black women or Latinas. Hey, they can even like tall, slender Nordic women. Or anything in between. Or none of those types. There are beautiful people in all walks of life. Jason Momoa is usually brought up as the bishie du jour right now. There is no denying he is at…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 05:26 PM
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Miscarriage isn't a "less than" event though. Physiologically it follows the same process as birth. When a woman miscarries, her body is doing the same thing as it would in labor, just too early (and also, usually, more rapidly). As far as what is more painful, pain is highly subjective.. we all know that. I have spoken to women who would say their miscarriages were much more painful than their term births to living children. Misoprostol-induced miscarriages or abortions tend to be very difficul…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 12:10 AM
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The cervix has to dilate and efface whether a woman is miscarrying or giving birth. It's not the weight of whatever is in the uterus that is causing pain, it's the os in the cervix literally opening up, sometimes significantly, to pass the fetus. The faster effacement/dilation occur, the more intense the pain is (usually).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 09:34 PM
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NGL, that was part of the appeal, especially for a relative prude (at the time) like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 02:21 PM
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Yeah, that is a beautiful placement, but a major ouch! I always shied away from cartilage piercings because just pinging my ears sometimes while brushing my hair hurts. Piercings that go through mucosa fair better in terms of healing time and completion of healing, at least in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 02:17 PM
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They never healed right, as in they looked fine externally but were always painful. My body doesn't do surface piercings well. 18 months in, they started to reject and I said "Well it's been fun." Unfortunately, piercings in general are high maintenance and don't stand up well to abuse, so my husband couldn't do much except admire them without me whining and cringing. As for the hotness factor, it seems to be sharply divided between people who go wild for them and people who think the owner is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 12:30 AM
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Blah. My nipple piercings were disappointing. My triangle, on the other hand, was not. I hope to get that one re-pierced some day. I used to stay up late on Saturday nights to watch Tales from the Crypt and then have nightmares about it. Ah, nostalgia...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 06:40 PM
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I think so, yes, but I haven't been burnt. There is a part of me that understands where the anger comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 01:29 PM
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An interesting note on this story: the couple in question used to be enormously active in the Toronto BDSM scene. Among other things, they were riggers and participated in the rope displays of Nuit Blanche every year. She was also a vocal cuckquean. I didn't know them personally, but remembered their faces and how popular and well-liked they seemed to be. The article came as a sickening shock. Retrospectively, maybe it shouldn't have. Their sentences should have been equal, because she made the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 10:43 PM
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My H was a technical virgin before we got into a relationship (huge emphasis on the technical part because he was kind of slutty when it came to oral sex and outercourse, so take this with a grain of salt) but he had a similar mindset. There are no guarantees in life, like you said. Understand that if you choose attachment, you will probably weather more storms than you would as a monolith because her burdens will affect you and vice versa. Vet for a girl that is willing to put your relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 01:42 PM
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What exactly is wrong with what you call "duty sex" if she is an active and willing participant?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 12:26 PM
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Cosigned. When my guy walks through the door in the afternoon, 9 times out of 10 I have to struggle to not grin like a maniac at him. (I will admit that the 10th time I'm pissed at him or something else...)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:25 PM
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I'm working on growing a thicker skin. 2. I think different perspectives are interesting rather than scary or annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 06:00 PM
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On average, women are really bad about expecting men to be mind readers; men are really bad about desiring lots of low-effort sex and taking it for granted; many people let themselves go as they get settled into a LTR. I realize it's overrated in this community, but the healthiest way to deal with all of this is to talk about it in a straightforward manner. But it's of great importance to set a good foundation for this, so marry/LTR someone you can talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 10:35 PM
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They exist because women will groupie for anything and everything. It's literally a matter of finding your niche. Mastery in a given subject is what we seek. Regarding neuroticism, yeah, it's annoying... but most of the men who are "hopelessly neurotic" are really just unproven. They don't know how to act around the opposite sex. That's why both pills suggest working towards becoming laid back. Blue pill/normie culture says "be yourself", Red pill says "approach until the anxiety is gone". They'…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 03:29 PM
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That's a kind thought, but she hasn't reached out to me for any help. If she ever volunteers anything to me, I'll make a mention of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 10:26 PM
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Easy killer, you're foaming at the mouth a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 12:19 AM
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Nah, she's attracted the attention of plenty of guys. Some of them were definitely nerd-cute in my opinion. It surprises me that anyone would use the "it's because they're fat" line in this day and age. It's rather out of touch. Her weight is a hindrance, sure, but it wouldn't stop her if she was determined to date. She just isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 12:08 AM
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Not me, and it doesn't apply exactly because she did date a little when she was teens/early 20s, but my SIL is now early 30s and hasn't had a LTR or prospect for... probably close to ten years now. She's personable and intelligent but flaky. She is attractive but is very overweight (subtext for the fat shamers: she has excellent facial symmetry and natural bright red hair, plus nice skin/teeth... but unfortunately, again, she's obese). I think she would qualify as very pretty if she was average …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 10:45 PM
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Well, my immediate thoughts go to murder and rape, but that isn't conclusive because there are terrible crimes that don't involve killing others or removing their autonomy. I think it depends on the likelihood of the offender both reaching some kind of peace with their community as well as being able to rehabilitate and reincorporate into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 08:41 PM
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As far as renaming goes, how old are they and how long have they been assigned this name? If it's been a while I'd keep it, but if it's a placeholder for a previous stray or fresh kitten feel free to change. My geriatric old man is sleeping next to me, snoring. 16 years old in July. <3 Have fun with your new furry buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 07:57 PM
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You have my upvote. I've gone at it with a couple of well known blues on this sub who saw no problem getting 12 year olds drunk and raping them. JFC. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 01:18 AM
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Thanks to my feminine nature (I guess), I'm not really comfortable with leaving people out in the cold unless they've made some grave, irredeemable mistake. Maybe welfare could be handed over to an non-government entity at the state level with any donations of time or money accepted being voluntary.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 01:01 AM
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/popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 02:18 PM
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I really don't think religion has much to do with it. It has more to do with most people a) not having great future time orientation and/or b) not being good at choosing a compatible partner. As always, self-awareness is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 02:03 AM
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Well, you said "especially men" so I'll put my comment under automod. I value mature bonds over NRE. I like to preserve what I build, not rip it up when it becomes less than perfect and start all over.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 11:56 PM
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Another INTP/INTJ signing in. I don't care enough about it to want to be anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 03:03 PM
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My preferences swayed away from swarthy guys (I was an opposites attract kind of girl) and toward lighter men after I got with my husband... I still think darker men are attractive, they just aren't my top preference anymore. However, I've been attracted to indicators of masculinity since I was basically pubescent. Guess I'm an oddball.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 09:03 PM
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Right. The yes man is an extreme form of the romanticized self-sacrificing man, that's why he's pathetic rather than hot, but they are on the same spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:10 PM
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I'll refrain from anymore snarky responses. Stay safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 06:46 PM
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Oh hi there, Mr. Outlier. Would you like a cookie for your troubles? I can make them keto-friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 06:07 PM
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That's right. Privilege does come with living in a first-world country, doesn't it? Notice I never said privilege was bad or that I would rather be living in rural Syria. Privilege affords us the ability to make choices. Some people choose to make choices they wouldn't be able to in a more traditional setting, like playing video games all day or being bitchy to everyone around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:22 PM
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Privilege, the same attribute that lets Western men sit in their apartments playing Overwatch instead of being outside chopping wood and hunting game.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 01:08 PM
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Not according to the study I linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 12:48 PM
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OK?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 12:46 PM
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I'm sure there's a degree of subjectivity. Personally, what I see is the over representation of a single, obnoxious stereotype that makes me both take note and grind my teeth. I perceive that as being hyped up, whether or not there's an element of poking fun at the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 12:46 PM
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The study states that male fetuses are more likely to die closer to term while female embryos are culled late in the first trimester, that "significantly more" female embryos are miscarried, and that the third trimester losses of male fetuses does not close the prenatal loss gap. Here's an article from The Guardian that distills the study. So perhaps that could explain the biology of why male infants have a higher mortality rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:20 AM
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A "yes man" is a man who will go to great lengths to fulfill any request (in this case, for his significant other) even to his own detriment. "Yes, dear. Right away, dear. Whatever you say, dear."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:41 PM
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Nature begins culling male babies before they're even born. As usual, there is at least one study that claims otherwise. Pregnancy is a rocky experience for both mother and fetus, regardless of its sex. Plus males are far more susceptible to birth defects. I believe this is due to X-linked disorders, which (while numerous and significant) make a pretty small slice of the pie when you consider everything that can go wrong during development. Most other congenital defects are split evenly, or mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:29 PM
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"Weak" women were weeded out, but it was on a more biological level and had less to do with their character. Many women died in pregnancy or childbirth, or in the weeks following; or they were otherwise unsuccessful in reproduction (ex. couldn't breastfeed, couldn't carry a baby to term, sick babies, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:50 PM
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Confidence, intelligence, and the ability to apply those qualities to whatever means he chooses. I would say it differs from the current popular viewpoint because the mainstream media hypes up the "yes man" caricature far too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:38 PM
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I regret it because I vetted my partner poorly. I wish I had picked a man who saw more inherent value in me. No hang ups though, because it didn't take too long in the grand scheme of things to find one who did.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:55 PM
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Right... so... all of the items I've made for my husband over the years for special occasions or even just because (runs the gamut from handmade cards and art to knit items to food, including a freaking bent wood ring with stone inlay) means I am the passive recipient of romance in perpetuity?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:45 PM
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Well, that's not what you said before. Previously you said that she would remember you forever. Now I see it's all about your deflowering paraphilia. Whatever... you do you, but you're working on some A+ projection with that statement. You aren't in your partner's mind and you have no idea what she's really thinking and what memories she will hold onto decades from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:18 PM
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No, it's not a joke. If you want a revolving door of young women in your life without building any deeper relationships, I don't really care. It doesn't change my stance (and the generally accepted science) that most young people are still figuring themselves out and aren't as emotionally and mentally stable as they will be at 30+. The rational part of the brain doesn't complete development until the mid-twenties. Just because you make a mark on her mind doesn't mean it's a positive one. Likewis…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:05 PM
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We want u at ur best certainly not at ur worst, You're getting our physical best, but not our mental/emotional best. You may fuck the 20-year-old and for some guys that's fine. But if you wanted to keep her, there's a good chance she'd flake on you in some format, whether it's cold feet, cheating, or having your children and then taking them away from you when she decides she needs "something else". A woman who is in her 30s may not be as physically hot, but she's less hormonally-charged and mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:44 PM
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But ravishment falls under the umbrella of rape now thanks to the enthusiastic consent model. If she says no at any point, even if she is thinking yes, and he doesn't stop, hypothetically he is guilty of at least gray rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 12:51 AM
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It really depends on the context, like so many things in life. Are they dressed and acting like typical Westerners otherwise? Whatever, I'd assume she was like me and wanted to cash her chips in early. If there's any sign of ethnoreligious elements, I'd be dubious but not pay much attention past that. The only thing that would bug me would be signs of neglect or abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 12:16 AM
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And kids are annoying but also super precious. It's like these people don't understand that all aspects of life, including the choice to have and raise children, have ups and downs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:54 PM
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Has the behavior of certain women effected you in a negative way? Yeah, absolutely. My older sister is literally a psychotic mess and has spent most of her adult life as a vagabond. She treated me (and most other people around her) terribly so I try to be as unlike her as possible. But as stated, she is certifiably mentally ill, not some vague "BPD woman" that pillospherians love to throw around because women apparently just can't be selfish assholes. I was also bullied pretty hard in middle and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:43 PM
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Well, I'm another one, although in recent years I think my status as a non-believer is wavering somewhat. The catch is that I don't believe a soul is unique to humans. I do believe a soul (what animates all life) has some imperceptible quality to it that separates it from the electricity powering my toaster. Yes, more than memories, neurotransmitters, and hormones. Those are the hows, not the whys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 01:16 PM
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I think this story is extremely unlikely, given that it's from the Daily Mail.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 02:26 AM
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Yes, this so much. ...But you know someone will pipe up and tell you the second paragraph ~never happens~ and you're just making it up for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 10:20 PM
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You know, this advice gets recycled a lot, but it worked for me, so...try your friend group. If you don't really have one, maybe reach out and make one. We give young men the advice to find their mission, and it shouldn't be so different for young women. Basically, get involved in extracurricular activities. Check your school, your local park system, meetup.com. It isn't a straight shot to a lifelong relationship, but you will be better off for it either way. Any male friends you make will get a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 07:10 PM
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OK, let's unpack this. First of all, here are two studies for your reading pleasure. The first found that isoflavones (phytoestrogens) are not significantly reduced, but altered, upon fermentation by the bacteria S. thermophilus. There are fewer glucosides, including acetyl- and malonyl-glucosides, but increased aglycones. The second looks at the benefit vs. harm of consumption of soy products. There is a tentative link between bisphenol A and a soy isoflavone because their molecular structure i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 02:21 PM
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Actual Viking society wasn't just "not individualist", it was so communitarian that they couldn't be arsed to care about paternity. TIL. Very interesting. On that note, the Scandinavian countries and Finland are some of the most pacifistic societies in existence today, and soy has never made up a significant part of their diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:48 PM
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Like I said, alpha/beta dichotomy doesn't even apply here. It's a masculine trait, or I guess I should say feat. We are discussing masculinity. And if there's one thing Red Pillers get absolutely wrong, it's to tie up masculine behavior with these abstract, conceptual hierarchies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:55 PM
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Soy is no more estrogenic than cow's milk, which Europeans have been chugging for ages. In fact, the estrogens in cow's milk are animal estrogens which are more biologically compatible with our own bodies. If soy increased estrogen in men, hypothetically cow's milk should as well. Regarding the second paragraph... OK. I'm pretty sure I've seen people in the TRP community referencing the rise of herbivores as a contrast to their masculine forebears. But at this point we've driven everything down …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 06:44 AM
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So first of all, this comment was a joke. Second, I made the point in my first comment that their behavior has changed very recently (in the past 50 years) while they have been consuming soy for millennia. How could soy, unmodified, cause this change in such a short period? If you want to get into the whole GMO debate then cool, but that's not what Southeast Asians have been consuming for generations. Third, you seriously don't think that committing suicide in such a brutal fashion requires some…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 03:05 AM
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...but not because of soy consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 02:12 AM
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Nothing wrong with soy. The Japanese have been eating it for centuries if not millennia, and even Red Pill folks acknowledge that before the imperial era ended after WWII, Japanese men were ultra masculine. I mean, disemboweling yourself with a short sword to defend your family's honor, and having your second behead you if you flinch or fail to complete the job... hoo buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:38 AM
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Understood. That's fair. My husband and I talk a lot about politics and global happenings and it really helps us to be on the same page, or close to it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:37 PM
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I agree that a description would be helpful. In lieu of that, it depends on how far into his preferred side of the political spectrum he is. I'm very much a centrist, so even if there was physical attraction, we'd have a hard time with discourse outside the bedroom if he was ultra-liberal or ultra-conservative. Being pedestalized would be a deal breaker though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 09:20 PM
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I don't consider myself feminist by today's standards but I'll take a stab. For us, the big "feminist" thing with our kids (we have one of each) is enforcing boundaries. If someone says no, say "OK" and move on. (This is an oversimplification.) I don't want to suppress my son's masculinity as he grows and develops it, but I do want him to understand it's not right of him to make people do something they don't want. The same will be true for my daughter. How we explain these lessons will depend o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 08:56 PM
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Musicas tradicionais de capoeira... preparing for a graduation event in a couple of months. Also podcasts. Wrapping up one segment of a popular D&D/comedy podcast right now. edit: Marinheiro Só by Carolina Soares
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 07:08 PM
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My belief is that male and female beauty are different but equitable, so any kind of intellectual comparison is moot. My brain probably lights up in similar regions when I'm looking at attractive people of both sexes, maybe slightly more with men because I am sexually attracted to them. I don't really see a need to change your view because, beyond some foundational necessities like symmetry and good health, beauty is subjective. You do you, and have fun with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 07:09 PM
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Ummm... neither? Really. I'd rather be striking. Arresting. Capable of leaving an impact (not necessarily sexual) on others. I don't think men are a monolith. Whether she's cute or sexy or something else, attractive women aren't lacking in men willing to wife them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 10:27 PM
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IIRC my top two were quality time followed closely by physical touch and my husband was tied for physical touch and quality time. A family member once told us we were like coral because of how close we usually stay in proximity with each other when we're together... heh. Before my husband, I was not a casual flirt or a touchy feely type. I was very careful not to kiss guys because there was a high likelihood of sex following, even if I didn't particularly like him as a person. Kissing was like o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 01:05 PM
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You're not the only one, and I've gotten pretty thin as well. Very small frame I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 03:29 AM
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I'm not a part of the target demographic for the question, but I think Red Pill chooses to define character differently. In their opinion, it's part of being a masculine man, so those who successfully begin living for themselves have character even though it may not manifest as being a stand up guy. From what I can perceive, to them it simply means being willing to stick to your guns. However, as to your question of women preferring benevolent gorillas to self absorbed chimps, I think this is tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 02:23 PM
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Smoking. Poor decision making. Disinterest in maintaining good health. Not being a decent human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 10:56 PM
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Yeah, I can concede that in part. (I married a Wal-Mart Parking Lot Jackass... He wisened up before he developed a TBI, thankfully...) While I definitely found the risk-taking quality attractive, I also found the nature of some of the antics he and other male friends got up to concerning. Coincidentally though, when I hear the phrase "boys will be boys", I think of them pulling hijinks like this rather than sexual harassment or worse. I'd say only a third of the stunts the Jackass crew did were …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 07:02 PM
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Has anyone mentioned Jackass yet? That whole brand held quite the thrall over idiot teen and early 20s men back in the early aughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 06:36 PM
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She sounds sadistic. If that isn't compatible with your needs, I'd recommend moving on. But I don't think this has much to do with women as a group leveraging sexuality for favors. Your girlfriend has her own peccadilloes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 02:16 PM
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Is she really manipulating you or is she playing what she thinks is a fun game with you? Teasing can be fun in certain contexts. In my experience women like to be teased, it's part of foreplay for us. This could be another classic example of miscommunication by projection. If it's driving you to the brink of insanity or whatever, you probably need to make it crystal clear to her you aren't enjoying it. But it kind of sounds like you don't really know what you want. Sort it out in your own head a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 01:58 PM
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I can't claim many scary dating experiences because, TBH, I didn't date around much before I got married. But here are some events that happened during mundane settings where I should have been safe from what transpired... - Fired from a job because I refused to sleep with my boss and one of the establishment's owners. - Stalked and harassed by a coworker whose advances I refused (courteously I might add). Different setting than the above situation. - Followed to my house because I pulled a traf…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 06:56 PM
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It happens. It's much less common than it used to be, probably because I am older and usually accompanied by husband and/or children. The problem is not the catcalling itself IMO, but the fact it's usually accompanied by aggressive body language and overtures. That's when I get spooked. If a guy wants to say "Damn, baby, you look good", I have no issue smiling, saying thanks, and continuing on my way. Politeness without any meaningful engagement. If they don't take the brush off well, it becomes…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 07:36 PM
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Those guides are ridiculous. In both sexes, the differences between the 7s, 8s, and 9s are negligible and favor personal taste over any real or perceived flaws. The 5s and 6s are what most people would still see as well above average. Then, there is a steep drop from the 5s to the 4s. Hardly anyone on that chart is actually average. Symmetry is the foundation of beauty but it isn't the whole story. If it was, phenomena like the uncanny valley wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 02:52 PM
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Sure, sometimes I find old men attractive. Has he taken care of himself? Has he tried to work with his body (ex. Jason Statham shaving his head when he started losing hair) instead of against it (ex. Trump's comb-over or Jason Alexander's apparent hair plugs)? Again, power can be sexy, but it's highly dependent on the context and personally I feel prowess is more important. I'm more interested in a master carpenter who knows how to hunt and fish than a celebrity or a politician of any level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 06:41 PM
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Mixed feelings about this. I try to point out when my husband starts getting a little too aggressive with his mannerisms and words when he's trying to relate to others, particularly women (he's a leader in a community organization with a large maternal presence, many of them single or divorced). He acquiesces, but it's usually with gritted teeth because he's essentially stoppering his own emotion for the greater good, so I try to keep it to a minimum. I also have a tendency to be hyper-empatheti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 03:47 AM
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Yesterday I ran two miles in less than 15 minutes. That's pretty stellar actually, especially if you're an older guy. The average is something like 13-14 minutes for a single mile. I'm not a runner, so I'll be happy if I can do a sub-30 5k one of these days. Anyway, great job rebuilding yourself. I mean it sincerely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 02:49 AM
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No, not necessarily, which is why I asked if the previous poster had any data saying otherwise. There are many women now who have been on birth control throughout their reproductive years and only stop in their 30s to conceive, so they have no previous measure. There are also women who deal with primary infertility only to fall pregnant easily and unexpectedly the next time, and women who deal with secondary infertility that may or may not be age-related. And that's only the female side. Getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 02:28 AM
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No debate here. Even if a woman's value declines and she's no longer getting the attention she wants, she's never truly invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 08:51 PM
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Just out of curiosity, do the 40+ women who are having abortions tend to have older children as well, or are they nulliparous? I've read that if you started having children closer to so-called peak fertility, you may also find it easier to fall pregnant later. 35+ women also have a higher chance than other age groups of falling pregnant with fraternal twins, so there is that. Additionally, how do you feel about most gynecologists telling women under 35 to try for a full year before seek help rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 08:47 PM
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Yes, you should always say no. Other commenters have illustrated why a woman may not say no. I'm adding my two cents, which is that even no is not universally effective. No one is accounting for the manipulators. I think it's safe to say we all know and acknowledge that some shitty women exist and purposefully give mixed signals, but most women are socialized into doubting themselves, which can lead to having regrettable sexual interactions. This is why the enthusiastic consent model (which I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:58 PM
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I'm not denying that men have a difficult situation as well, but you asked about it from the female perspective. Saying no is not a panacea to stopping undesirable sexual activity. We'd all do better if we stopped projecting our emotions onto the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:03 PM
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I've always been able to say no pretty forcefully, then I end up feeling guilty or being made to feel guilty, which has lead to undesirable physical interaction a few times. We're damned either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 02:55 PM
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I've never done it but I don't think the trope is all that uncommon, especially in the teenage and early 20s set. Generally speaking, people want agreeable peers and subordinates. If you're dumb or play dumb, you'll presumably have no opinion of anything and therefore be agreeable. I imagine that's where the dumb likeable bimbo/biff stereotype comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:01 AM
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This question is kind of a trap, no? I'm pretty sure most of us here feel our partners are pretty great and perfect for us. I'll try to play along. In no order, the top ones I can think of include: 1) I wanted to be desired and loved. 2) I wasn't interested in dating or sleeping around. 3) He was very thoroughly vetted by the people who were the closest to me. 4) We saw a great deal of potential in each other. And, drum roll please... 5) I fell in love with him. It used to be loving him in spite…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 08:05 PM
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Speaking as someone with a nebulous "mental illness" tag... Mental health can be transient. Just because any given person is depressed this year doesn't necessarily mean they'll be in the same state the next. They may be worse or better. Some conditions are chronic, most are long-lasting but can be treated or managed. Finally, there's a big difference between a) neurological disorders like narcolepsy or autism, b) conditions thought to be chemically-mediated like chronic depression and bipolar d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 01:36 PM
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I think you might find the threshold is high for strange men, possibly as a screening mechanism (admittedly a faulty one) because humans tend to associate beauty with moral character. It tends to be lower for familiar men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 01:25 PM
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Yes, I would agree that in Western society today, any kind of compulsion to stay at home is self-entrapment. By the way, I think I had a brain fart and replied to you with a different but related thread on another post in mind, so thanks for humoring me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 02:19 AM
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I would add that unless the woman has a rock-solid community of friends and female relatives that she is able to spend a lot of time with during times when her husband is working, raising kids can be very isolating. No, it's not hard physical labor, but the hours are long and the lack of meaningful adult interaction will eventually wreak havoc on your mind. My kids are wonderful. I do better when I can have a break from them here and there. By the same turn, they are a break for my husband from …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 09:44 PM
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Not quite the same, but I worked for a state historic site (privately owned, not federally) with vast gardens and miles of trails once upon a time. It would have been my actual dream job if the people I worked with weren't so insufferable. The experience was worth the extreme temperatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 02:53 PM
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British/German influence lent to a highly individualistic society. Emotionally warmer nationalities have a tendency to be more community driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 03:08 PM
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A career in academia (probably anthropology and linguistics) that assigned me field research and one of my major tasks would be immersion with locals. I always wanted to collect folklore. I don't think I would actually be suited to this job, but you did say dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 07:30 PM
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I'm not sure it should be called a strategy though. People like her (and me, years ago) probably have very little personal agency, for whatever reason, although I'd guess past trauma. Agency can be developed but it takes time, support, and the person has to want it. I do hope she finds someone who makes her happy and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 06:25 PM
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He shouldn't have had to, but yes, he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 01:57 PM
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I recognized it following the aforementioned guy and went directly to my now husband. He was another person in the friend circle who I had resisted dating because I was worried about some key religious differences and messing up the social dynamics of the group. I did tell him about my interactions with the previous guy before we did anything physical, so he could decide if he really wanted to go further. As far as overcoming it? I never did anything like that again, but it was rooted in self-de…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 01:20 PM
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Sure. It was a guy in my friend circle. He hit on me constantly when he was around, even though he was in a relationship. I usually just stonewalled and ignored him. At some point the fiancee broke things off with him. He was also dealing with drama caused by another person in the friend circle who was very manipulative. He got my number from a third party and pressed for a date, and I reluctantly agreed because he said it would cheer him up. Then he pressed for sex so he could get past the brea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 01:03 AM
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Does it count if I was sober? I knew he was a loser going in. He was pushy. I acquiesced because I thought I was being selfless and helping someone through hard times when in reality I was just insecure. Long term? I'm not thrilled I did it, but it's in the past. It helped me figure out very quickly that I sucked at casual sex, so that was one benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 10:58 PM
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I don't disagree with you... but I don't particularly sympathize with feminism, other than staunchly believing everyone, male and female alike, should be able to choose their path in life. I said that our relationship looks more red pill for all intents and purposes. I don't identify as such because 1) its complicated relationship with extremist movements and 2) its target audience is male, which is fine by me. It is definitely fascinating in how wide-ranging it is and I do believe it is symptom…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:12 PM
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Yep... Lots of East Asian and South Asian men as well. Plenty of Latinos. It's pretty wide ranging.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:37 PM
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No. We really do sometimes go to clubs to dance and drink and grind on our partners to fulfill that little exhibitionist inside of us. It has nothing to do with picking up some fresh meat. Sometimes it's fun to show off without the threat of becoming somebody else's target of acquisition. The most I'll give you is "catch and release", but that STILL doesn't mean I'm entertaining the option of going home with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 02:52 AM
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I don't know. I frequently see red pill ideology lumped in with white nationalism (among other extreme belief systems) and that is troubling, but on the other hand there seem to be quite a few men of color who adhere to it. Because it pertains largely to interpersonal relationships, it has the potential to stand on its own. Both my husband and I tend to be socially liberal but fiscally conservative, and our relationship follows much of the typical red pill metric. That said, I wouldn't assume th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 02:38 PM
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It was a learning experience. The ironic part is he was actually very controlling and manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 12:56 PM
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No idea about gains, but as far as motivation goes? Possibly fear. I remember telling my second partner, a FWB who I kinda-sorta caught feels for at the time, that I wanted to be dominated. Super generic, no details. He responded with "eww, that's gross!" and ragged me for a few minutes. I felt very ashamed and dropped it. That gummed up the lines of communication with my next partner (now husband) and it took us a few years to work through it. I offer up the caveat that I was very shy, inexperi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 02:44 AM
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It's not directly comparable of course, but how do you feel about the people who adopt a cat or dog only to find out it has behavioral issues or worse, some illness that's going to affect its quality of life and probably shorten it as well? Would you expect those people to just throw that animal away because it didn't meet the initial expectations? Or would you hope that they loved their dog/cat and did the best they could for that animal while it was in their care? It's the same mentality with …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:58 PM
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The OP of this thread was describing an abusive situation with an existing girlfriend. You said plate her. I said run away from her. That isn't an apples and oranges comparison. I guess you could argue if she stays a plate she might never become abusive, but that isn't the situation that was presented. She was already established in his life. "Why give a toxic woman time" was a rhetorical question. Obviously you find something interesting about said toxic woman, but it's a great way to invite dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 09:52 PM
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It's not about respect, it's about attention. Even a plate thinks she has value beyond sex to the guys she's sleeping with. If there are so many options, why even entertain toxic women with your time?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 09:06 PM
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Sounds like run the fuck away material. Why gratify such a miserable person with attention of any kind?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:59 PM
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She didn't just provoke him without a reason, much like he didn't snap without a reason. It still may not be a good reason but it helps to know why. Yes, she may just be a young, entitled brat, but not a single person here can definitively conclude that from a five minute clip that involves her throwing things and him retaliating with physical force.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:00 PM
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Is there a backstory? Objectively, her actions are inexcusable but it would be helpful to figure out why she felt they were justified.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 05:58 PM
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Yes you can you can work a minimum amount of hours, part time, in Arizona and receive benefits. Is it for sure tied to hours and not wage? Because in my state, it is wage-dependent and the cut-off is something ridiculous like $600/month. Even with disability benefits, that is not survivable in most areas. Hence what I said about the cut-offs preventing people from trying to go back to work. Uninsured, their medication is astronomically expensive, and then you have to factor in the rest of the li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 11:41 PM
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F (25) and I am not a "traditional" type of woman. I think that's the term. I don't plan on having kids, I work at a mechanic shop, and I make my living and pull my own weight. Please stop this. Unless they are literally sitting on their ass eating bon-bons all day, domestic women do pull their own weight, they just aren't paid for it, or not very well for it. It's unnecessarily divisive. I'm sorry the women in your family are stereotypical, but don't project. Most of it's legit but you can work…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 10:30 PM
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We're very much done, but every once in a while I get a minor case of baby rabies and say "let's have another". The way he smiles at me, replies "Ok!" and grabs me is both exciting and oddly comforting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 01:23 PM
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Giving oral sex while the recipient is driving. We were young and dumb and thankfully it was late at night, but he simultaneously managed to smash my head into the steering column and almost drive off the road. Why yes, I do still hold it over his head.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:47 AM
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Well, I can only speak for myself, but no... it's not casual at all. I'd never engage in any kind of damaging sex act with an unproven (untrustworthy) partner. But I do enjoy some of them in the context of an otherwise loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:44 AM
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I wouldn't say infinitely more popular, probably just more recognizable. Yeah, it was a business decision (especially after losing support of the LDS) but Girl Scouts have always adopted more of a domestic, cooperative model for what they teach. Plenty of girl parents have been encouraging their girls to go into the BSA because it has a survivalist lean. Example: camping is a requirement in BSA packs and troops, usually at increasingly primitive sites as the Scouts get older. In Girl Scouts it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:56 PM
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LOL. If women age like milk, some of us turn into a fine cheese, which is a high value commodity that pairs well with wine. In fact, some really good cheeses can make a so-so table wine more palatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 02:34 PM
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Sorry to say it probably is. I've never checked but feel free to report back if your curiosity gets the best of you. 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 10:31 PM
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Stoma sex, because if something has mangled me so badly I've lost use of my vagina, there's a good chance it's mangled my intestines too!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 10:16 PM
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One of the most frustrating things I encountered when I was younger is how often guys would send their friends to ask me out. It always got an automatic rejection, because why even bother if you can't ask me yourself? What is the deal with this behavior if not some level of intimidation?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 06:16 PM
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They look very happy and I find that admirable. They both lived well and seem to have built each other up. Who cares if I think they are hot or worthy of each other? From what little we do know, they didn't think they settled. The worst outcome for any couple regardless of SMV is the relationship becomes deleterious to one or both individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 05:21 PM
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Yep. From personal experience I'd say the charisma element is even more important if you're dealing with an introverted woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 02:51 PM
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Earplugs, earplugs, earplugs. I live in them. It sucks, but better than going insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 09:52 PM
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Female. In no particular order: smoking and heavy drug use (includes alcohol), slurpy noises while eating (I have misophonia, it's a bitch), lack of personal hygiene and self-care, inability and/or lack of desire to care for their belongings (ex: car, apartment, guitar) and dependents (ex: pets, kids). Lack of structured morals, lack of intelligence*, unreasonable rigidity, any features of psychopathy. *Personally I think intelligence is a loaded term. I would rather be with a man of average IQ …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 09:01 PM
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IMO Rollo is the least terrifying of the talking heads who seem to be at the top of the manosphere. Several of them, like Roosh, have a dead-eyed expression that gives me the willies. I guess it's the male equivalent of the thousand cock stare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 08:25 PM
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Do what you think you want, but prepared to temper your expectations and remember the grass is always greener on the other side. Always.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 06:32 PM
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Ah, for clarification I'm in full agreement with you. Just pointing out to any naysayers that there's a difference between the party lifestyle and having fun here and there with your friends or SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 05:28 PM
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I'd also say there's a huge difference between the clubbing lifestyle and going out occasionally to dance and drink. I enjoy the latter for sure, but the former is way too high maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:56 PM
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I try, I try.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:34 AM
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I'm admitting I'd probably not be getting laid with any kind of regularity by the preferred sex. So whether I was a trap or a twink or an incel doesn't really make any difference. It's a moot point. Plus, make up and dresses suck. If I'm going to be a guy I'm throwing all that crap out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:32 AM
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Becoming a trap would probably not help me get laid by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 04:10 AM
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I'd either be incel or some old bear's tiny pretty boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 03:04 AM
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OK, I can give you that, but then it also becomes a chicken vs. egg argument. When do we figure out the true root of the problem? To be more specific though, when I referred to social mores I'm referring to the societal constraints placed on feminine hypergamy rather than poor socialization and abuse. Yes, some women sleep around for fun and others do so in order to manipulate, but most women who impulsively seek out sex (or use sex as leverage to gain relationships) are broken, lost, and have n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 08:26 PM
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Because pharmacology textbooks are dense AF and I still have to wash the dishes and fold the clothes. Someone save me. :cry:
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 05:24 PM
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What about Dr. Sean Stephenson? These two individuals are comparable. They are both severely disfigured by congenital defects. They are both self-made motivational speakers. One is a man, one is a woman. Dr. Stephenson is definitely married to an attractive, typical woman and I think even has a child, but I see nothing recent about Ms. Velasquez being in a relationship...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 01:32 PM
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so a 35 year old woman typically will have similar skin to a 50 year old man, all else being equal. The studies I've read have indicated that, yes, women's skin is 15 to 20% thinner on average than men's. Because of this, women are more prone to developing fine lines and wrinkles such as crow's feet, but men are more prone to developing deep lines such as laugh lines aka jowls. Guess which type responds more readily to surface treatments like glycolic acid peels and dermabrasion? Now guess which…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 01:06 PM
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Nope. I have had the best orgasms and most satisfying sex within the context of a solid relationship precisely because I trust my partner. I'm not going to share my deepest wants with an ONS or even just a friend. One of the big reasons I didn't sleep around was because I hated the idea of some guy telling his friends "oh yeah, we had sex but it was gross because she smelled bad" after the fact. Incredibly humiliating and shit like that becomes gossip whether it's true or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 04:33 PM
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I was actually thinking of making a post like this but you worded it more succinctly than I would have been able to. One catchphrase thrown around a lot in the manosphere is feral women and they talk about it as if it's our base nature to revert to this state in the absence of social mores. IMO, I think when women are feral, it's reactionary. It certainly has been for all the high-N women I've encountered. So I agree with you. Maybe a minority are sociopaths that want to manipulate everyone arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 04:17 PM
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Bingo. I wouldn't have had kids if I hadn't met a good man with morals I respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 04:42 PM
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I can only speak for my own relationship. It absolutely follows an "ebb and flow" model. Most recent example: for 18 months after my youngest child was born, while I was nursing and presumably not ovulating, my sex drive was in the tank. I still liked sex, but I didn't really want to orgasm. Now that everything is pretty much back to pre-baby norms, we still have sex regularly. He gets "validational" sex around ovulation and "transactional" sex around my period or when I'm recovering from illnes…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 10:05 PM
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There is a difference between childless and childfree, as I'm sure you well know. You are not the same as a late 30s woman who wanted kids, but has waited and struggled to find her Mr. Right only to realize having a baby isn't going to be a simple process at this stage. About a third of woman who "do everything right" (in other words, likely 37 or older before she is in state to have kids) will experience this. Furthermore, it isn't exactly fair of you to assign misery as a condition of personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 01:55 PM
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Maturity is one factor, presence is another, conviction is a third. A typical early-20s man is still figuring himself out and hasn't organized these qualities yet. I'm sure some would say I have daddy issues, but my relationship with my dad is just fine. I have just always liked older men, maybe because I hung out with my family patriarchs a lot growing up?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:13 AM
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10 years with a 5 year deviation. My husband is the youngest guy I've been with at 6 years older than me, every other guy has been right around the 10 year mark. I'm definitely not trying to sell the Anna Nicole Smith/J. Howard Marshall stereotype. That's unrealistic; a man still has to have a virile presence for the initial attraction to be there. But the quoted 5 to 7 year gap in a typical heterosexual relationship is a pretty significant gap when it comes to current history and pop culture. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:09 AM
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I preferred older men in my early teens, and still prefer older men in my early 30s. That is the rule of course, I'm sure you'll find exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 09:42 PM
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Sounds like he counseled them or gave them some kind of safe haven.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 10:23 PM
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It had better wrap around his thigh a few times before it penetrates me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 02:12 AM
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Nope, I'm in a different phase of life. But when I was in the dating stage, I was too determined to be "self-reliant" so I held most men, and most people really, at arm's length. Nowadays, nearly all of my male friends are in committed LTRs themselves. It just works better than way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 07:20 PM
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Has she had any scans done on her brain by any chance? When it comes to schizophrenia specifically, since it is a degenerative brain illness, it can usually be spotted physically. It may be worth speaking to specialists about this so the diagnosis is 100% correct as you mentioned some docs dx'd her as schizoaffective instead which is a very different thing albeit with some crossover symptoms. I actually have pushed for this in the past, but I'm not managing her at this point. It's strange, we ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 02:43 PM
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OK, so... I'm not going to tell you about the long-term side effects of anticholinergics and benzodiazepines since you're probably well aware of them. I wanted to respond to one thing. Schizophrenia didn't run in my family until it did. And yes, there is undoubtedly a genetic component, but recent studies have tentatively linked Neanderthal DNA with schizophrenia. That means anybody of Eurasian descent could be at risk of developing it, hypothetically speaking. The reason why I wanted to mention…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 01:43 PM
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LOL, right? My husband's in contracting and I hear names like "black widow", "inferior desecrator", and "power bitch" thrown around when talking about some of the female clientele and their designers. They are just as likely to call the uncooperative male clients names. It's equal opportunity derision.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 05:28 PM
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Please dude, get yourself down to the bare minimum of drugs necessary for functioning. The dependency is going to make advancing age hell for you, and people do care about you. Personal anecdote: I have a sister who has paranoid schizophrenia (or schizoaffective disorder, depending on the shrink you ask). She was an anxiety patient before that. I have no doubt that her dependency on prescription drugs and abuse of street drugs played a major part in the development of this illness, and it is ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 03:23 PM
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The reasons cited in your last paragraph are part of why I did not like 50 SoG (besides the terrible writing and unsafe practices). It's a farce of what it's sold to be. In a better-written story, it breaks down into a little of Column A (he makes her submit physically) and a little of Column B (she makes him submit emotionally). The power struggle is where the real fun lies, and you can't have a struggle if each person is occupying the same role 100% of the time. Anyway, good post, OP. Thought-…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 02:56 PM
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I'd chalk it up to maturity. Younger, immature women are the ones who are more likely to go "ew, gross" at an unattractive man checking them out, even casually. I don't particularly care anymore as long as he doesn't make a pass at me, although even then I try to decline in a respectful way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 01:10 AM
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Nope. Attractive men can definitely be creepy if they cross the line from casual admiration to a menacing leer. If you're giving me the impression that you might follow me down a dark hallway and corner me when no one else is watching, I will think you are a threat to my well-being and a creep. Thirst comes into play here. I'd say attractive men are less likely to be creepy because they get regular play and therefore more practice at male-female interaction, but that isn't always true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 11:13 PM
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The question is whether it's really cheating if you basically had a mutual free pass? Yeah... I don't personally think this is a black or white question, which is why I shared the personal anecdote. Opening a relationship is tricky business and you can do it with all parties on board and gung-ho or you can do it with one person essentially coercing the other. In the latter case, one person is compromising their needs (sometimes beyond a healthy boundary) in order to satisfy the other. So maybe i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 11:04 PM
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I'm not arguing your position, I'm sharing what I felt was a comparable anecdote--at least from a moral perspective, because cheating is cheating whether it's 1 or 100, right? The OP may very well be fake or at least heavily exaggerated with key details left out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:39 PM
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I don't really have much additional input, buuutt... You also say you wouldn't want him to curl up and die... which means you don't know, which means he's not really the alpha you wanted. With the ideal male you KNOW, you don't hope. I guess I didn't phrase this well. I was speaking from a selfish perspective: it is my wish that he not curl up and die. I'm also of the belief that he would not curl up and die if something happened to me. End of the day though you know damn well you masturbate to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 04:48 AM
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The number is questionable, but I do have a best friend who was otherwise in this situation. He was previously a virgin, she had an N count of 3 including him. He was unfortunately insecure in the prior state of virginity and requested an open relationship. She grudgingly acquiesced and had some short term flings while he may have had one? Long story short, they grew apart and she found a new romantic interest. Queue divorce initiation. It was extremely frustrating from the outside looking in, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 09:14 PM
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No doubt. I was on the receiving end of bullying too, from both sexes, and retrospectively I wonder if (in addition to directly bullying me) the girls who hated me put the boys up to what they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 07:25 PM
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Any place I can relax and hopefully be myself, which pretty much limits prospects to extracurricular activities and through friends. It definitely excludes cold approaches on the street, public transportation, work, and school. The first two would make me nervous, the second two are inappropriate (IMO of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 06:52 PM
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They don't like guys that are really into them and would rather have a 10 status male to fuck who doesn't care about them all day before a kind hearted and openly warm and loving 7... actually they would rather have a 7 status who doesn't care about them before a 7 status who does. Oof. You know, I'd be willing to admit there is some truth to what you preach, especially at the instinctual level. Many if not most women are drawn to dominant men who have it together and have a purpose. But why can…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 05:49 PM
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Sometimes I think that's the ticket. They might argue otherwise but the woman who rides the "cock carousel" is more of an archetype for men (not saying that person can't be real). What they're really after and seem to miss in post-20s women is youthful energy and innocence. Granted, it doesn't really matter what course you take, the processes of life eventually zap that out of most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 02:41 AM
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I don't know if it's training as much as it is positive qualities rubbing off on each other. He's made me a better person insofar that I am more durable, patient, compassionate, and being with him has nurtured inborn determination. I've made him a better person because he knows how to establish boundaries, he's honed his leadership skills, and he's probably more organized and responsible than he used to be. Some of these may have been natural progression but I definitely think others resulted fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 12:31 AM
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This is how my relationship works. It isn't all sunshine and roses but we chug along smoothly for the most part, and I like to think we're both still in love with each other. No, it's not for everyone, but it's a perfectly valid option that gets discounted too often today.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 04:46 PM
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He is. I would have to check the context this quote is in to see what he means by that, though. Personally, I would argue that conceiving a child from a top shelf guy hoping that he'd stick to you because of that, or trying to get some other shmuck to pick up that responsibility in case this doesn't work out is the ultimate act of hypergamy, so I don't see how getting out of such a predicament is worse. You are undoubtedly correct in your interpretation. But the statement is very bald and I pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 01:26 PM
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Well, "abortion is the ultimate act of hypergamy" is a direct quote from Rollo Tomassi. While I realize he doesn't represent the entirety of the Red Pill, he seems to be an influential voice. So that's where the inspiration for the question came from at least. Basically, is it still hypergamy if the gametes (especially the man's in this case) were poor quality? Regarding the societal perspective of too few babies being born, do you believe overpopulation is a farce then, at least in the West? Re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 03:08 AM
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He (ENFJ) is a skilled tradesman, I (INTJ/INTP) am a student in a health science program. I hear this is a fairly common pairing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:31 PM
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Naive love aka infatuation is turbulent and exciting. Mature love has cycles. If feels boring or practical, that's because it's reflecting the atmosphere of your life at that moment. Shake things up if you don't like it (and yes, both parties should do this...the responsibility shouldn't only fall on the man). Or don't, and opt out of romantic love. Your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 12:43 PM
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And by the way, if you decide to keep it, we're doing the DNA test You know, I don't disagree with paternity tests being standard or at least freely available. Barring tragic circumstances, children should have two willing parents and if women have full access to birth control and abortion, men should be able to opt out as well. Unfortunately, that stance doesn't do much to help suboptimal replacement levels, and as a result option 2 may have brutal results because fewer elderly will have extend…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 04:42 PM
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Hmm. I double checked on the UTI > PID and it looks like I'm wrong and I conflated two issues. UTIs lead to kidney infections if untreated, PID is caused by bacteria being introduced to the uterus. This can happen as a complication of contracting chlamydia (and possibly gonorrhea too?), which may be asymptomatic. Sometimes the two conditions are comorbid. Sorry. Regarding the hepatitis viruses, you are correct that C is mostly through needle use. It's B that can be sexually transmitted. Any of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 03:52 PM
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Probably as a result of Hepatitis C. Additionally, UTIs can cause pelvic inflammatory disease which affects both the kidneys and the uterus.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 03:24 PM
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I don't see pro-life as being synonymous with Christianity or any other religion, but maybe I'm using the wrong terminology. My point is that it appears many Red Pillers look down on abortion, and that's why I asked my original question: what does RP generally think about terminating an unhealthy (but wanted) pregnancy if abortion is the "ultimate expression of hypergamy"? Anyway, you more or less answered my question. It was more pragmatic and less philosophical than I had in mind but it works.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/18 01:46 AM
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It actually wasn't a gotcha, it was an honest question. I have no clue how most pro-life people feel about TFMR because it's rarely addressed. Yes, the vast majority of abortions are voluntarily performed on healthy mother/baby dyads, I know and acknowledge that; but sick babies are born every day and a subset of those babies will have zero quality of life. TFMR just happens to be my personal soapbox. All of that aside, what about my first comment? What if I want to keep this baby but my partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 04:36 PM
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Termination for medical reasons. The fetus often has a condition that is incompatible with life or would live with a devastating disability. Examples: T18, anencephaly, harlequin ichthyosis. Sometimes the fetus is healthy but the mother's life is threatened by continuing the pregnancy. Example: a woman diagnosed with advanced cancer in the early stages of pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 10:22 AM
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Two different questions here IMO. Would I want it? Yes. Would I keep it? If it was looking like I'd be a single parent, probably not. Some people are prepared for solo parenting. I'm not one of them. Also pertinent: even if I went through with an abortion, the relationship would probably be over. The only caveat to that is if genetic testing revealed markers for some serious abnormality. I'd really love to hear what TRP thinks of TFMR since so many seem to think abortion is the ultimate expressi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 08:29 PM
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Well that's the rub of it. In order to qualify myself as not solipsistic, I would have to share some uncomfortable personal details. Suffice it to say, I don't see myself as a prize. I do wonder if he could have done better. Whenever we've talked about this, he says he has no regrets, but in my darker moments I think he is selling himself short. Tell that to the women that feel men have to qualify for their love. I have and will tell it to any woman who asks my advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 07:30 PM
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Just because we don't divulge the shitty parts of our relationships or personalities doesn't mean we're being solipsistic. It means we're not interested in sharing the dirty details on a public Internet forum. In reality, no human being is a prize. We're all flawed in some way. The mystery of successful relationships is finding another person who can love your strengths and accept your flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 06:06 PM
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Well, he wasn't my first, but my count is extremely low and he's the only guy I've given crazy sex to. That's not factoring the domestic items like incubating his sprogs, cooking for him and knitting him beanies. So I hope he thinks he has. For what it's worth, I think I made out like a bandit. There are few people I can comfortably bare my soul to, and he's at the top of the list.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 05:55 PM
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Pregnancy isn't the only risk. I'm pretty sure women are considerably more likely to contract an STI from her male partner than vice versa because the vagina is more open and delicate than a penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 02:21 PM
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Ugh. I don't miss Fet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 09:08 PM
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I play "hard to get" no matter what, because I'm an introvert who doesn't warm up to new people easily, even men I'm viscerally attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 08:55 PM
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We were option C. He didn't exactly wait around but he was always open to the idea. I didn't accept initially because he immediately started gauging interest (I take a long time to warm up, hadn't warmed up to him yet, got skittish) and I felt we had different relationship values. Plus I was scared to death of dating, our situation not working out, and forever tainting our friend group. Anyway, it ultimately turned into me pursuing him and asking him out. It took about 18 months to get from A to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 01:10 PM
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Humans are social animals. Not only does being ostracized suck from a mental and emotional point of view, in extreme situations it can be lethal. So if you want an evo-psych answer, people who fear judgment are afraid of being abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 07:26 PM
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You're right. I realized that right after I hit the post button and reread the comment but figured deleting it would be lame. So it stands, a monument to my lack of reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 01:27 PM
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Men can be petty af in the other direction too. My husband had a group of ex-friends who treated him worse after we got together, mostly because he was less available and less pliant. However, the ringleader was an ultra-competitive jackass who couldn't stand the thought of husband doing better than him sexually, so that group decided I was a crazy bitch who he'd regret ever touching with a ten foot pole. Fun people, they were. All that said, the dudes may have been at least partially motivated …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 02:56 AM
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I guess in a loose sense. I always thought with LMR there was interest from both people at first but then the woman gets shy right before sex happens. This is probably more along the lines of ravishment if I had to categorize.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 11:50 PM
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I'll bite, but I'm pretty sure it's a little different for everyone, so YMMV. My version is usually pretty animalistic and involves a struggle, not so much 50 Shades of Grey as being chased through a forest in the dark. Nothing terribly brutal as all imaginary parties are happy and satiated at the end, but definitely the latter option.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 07:19 PM
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Truly fantasized, like consciously made them center stage in my brain while I'm taking care of business? Probably none. But I definitely have a curious streak and I wonder what it's like for most of them, even the ones I don't personally find super attractive. I also sometimes have sex dreams where a friend will be the feature, but that's rare and I feel weird and unnerved afterwards. Extras: mostly upon meeting, maybe some additional furtive thoughts close to ovulation. None. I don't have the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 07:07 PM
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Yes, I'll definitely give you that. There are a significant minority of women who are just shit-stirrers, and using sex in this political climate is low-hanging fruit for them. But I do feel that most women, say 75 to 90%, are jumping on the bandwagon because they really have felt threatened or silenced by some kind of traumatic experience. The problem is, MeToo has become nothing more than an echo chamber and I think it has reached a peak, which probably means lash back is inevitable. I have no…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 03:45 PM
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It really depends on the quality of the complaint. I had a classmate of mine who is about ten years younger tell me about her experience of being chased by scary guy in a bad part of town. I sympathized with her because I remember dealing with crap like that in my late teens and early 20s. I wasn't worried about whether or not she is hotter than me. It's not humblebragging if you are legitimately afraid for your life. Sometimes humans have a tendency to downplay frightening events in retrospect,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 01:58 PM
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What a disappointing bot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 12:32 PM
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There is actually a semi-popular lifestyle blogger named The Freckled Fox who was in this situation. She's Mormon, got married straight out of high school to a man who was about 10 years her senior and immediately started popping out kids, one after another. She was pregnant with their fifth when he was diagnosed with terminal melanoma. He went through a very sad decline and passed away about 18 months later. She remarried 3 months after that to a man who by all accounts seems to be a douche and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 12:28 PM
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Taking each other for granted, no respite from the daily grind, growing and changing apart rather than together, communication failures, not learning from your mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 02:38 AM
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Fuck, I'm sorry that happened to you. I know, platitudes from an internet stranger. Your husband's a good man. Your story goes to show that the heuristic of treating all guns as if they were loaded works well when applied to men, too. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 06:17 PM
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In a different situation, yes, I could absolutely see myself being Captain Save-An-Incel. Probably not for healthiest reasons either. As for the situation, it would probably start off casual and evolve (or devolve) into me catching feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:40 PM
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You know, I'm not going to say I didn't have some dark thoughts when my husband was dealing with his long illness some years ago. I was young and stupid. While it was a factor, the prevailing thought wasn't about his job and the money he made.It was that I couldn't stand the thought of watching a previously vital man that I loved waste away into nothing. So yes, it was an active decision to stay, it's just the reason you cited didn't add gravity to my decision-making process. It boiled down to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:21 PM
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Bleh. I wanted to elope. He wanted the big Catholic wedding. Both mothers sided with him and he won. We could have avoided so much drama if we had eloped...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:38 PM
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Nope, it doesn't. Considering how much automation is involved in our daily lives, this is a dumb stigma to get attached to. The only thing I worry about, and this is a very distant worry, is AI becoming advanced enough that robots can synthesize personalities and even what we might consider to be souls spontaneously. At that point it'll become a slippery slope, just like standard brothels and prostitution are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:35 PM
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I always thought a dad bod was skinny arms with a round belly. Apple-shaped but not yet severely overweight. Not attractive IMO. Here's a computer generated image of the average American man. I can definitely handle strongfat though. Hubba hubba.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:20 PM
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You're replying to the wrong person. edit: Actually, to clarify, you're leading in with a quote from another poster. I never said anything about it being one human's responsibility to fix another. It seems someone else may have, but she too could have been referencing support. Support is also work, albeit indirect.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:17 PM
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If a woman is depressed and fatigued, why does the man have to do the work to fix it? Why isn't it the woman's job to fix it? It's not. Who said it was? You literally cannot "do the work" for another human being when it comes to crap like addiction and depression. But support is a big help when you're dealing with hormone imbalances and chemical changes you can't directly control. All of that is compounded by both men and women lacking self-awareness in general. If you see someone you love in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 02:11 PM
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Cosigned. I actually did marry my husband during my "peak years" and there are tons of memories I cringe at in retrospect... he had to wade through about five years of shit before I started mellowing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 12:50 PM
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I'm brainstorming some possible topics. Hopefully they haven't been done to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 02:12 AM
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Greetings, fellow long-time lurker. 👽
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 01:12 AM
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Phew. I don't think I'm destined to be a psychonaut in this life, even weed seems to do a number on me. But that was an entertaining and informative read. Kudos.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:36 AM
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I say why not both? Pickers (or throwers if that's your preference) in the streets but hookers in the sheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:02 PM
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Knitting makes a satisfying, flat material that's easy to manipulate into many forms. Crochet produces bold textures and is much easier to freeform, but uses more yarn in the process. Many say crochet is also (ahem) "faster and easier". Ergo, knitting is done by proper ladies, whereas only whores crochet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 05:53 PM
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This rant brought to you by Dexedrine, Xanax, etizolam, and lean (except I used 7up because the shop ran out of Sprite). How are you still alive? D: I'm pretty sure that combo would cause my heart and brain to liquefy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:10 PM
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I'm with my husband because he clubbed me over the head and dragged me back to his cave. The resultant low grade TBI prevents me from fending for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 12:48 PM
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My agreement was less about the specific activity taking place and more about the dynamics between couples or a group. The BDSM scene is easily compromised of 80% maledom/femsub. If you had a person getting bound, skewered, electrocuted, the odds were very good that person was female or female-bodied and the person acting upon them was male. There were of course exceptions. Source: it's amazing what you'll do for a dopamine rush.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 12:32 PM
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Most BDSM is just traditional gender dynamics for pretentious people. I'm not sure I would qualify any of the people we ran into in our local scene as "pretentious", they were a pretty motley crew. But I definitely agree with the rest of the statement. Extreme traditional gender dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:02 AM
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What's worse for the TRP worldview, ladies who are happily married to genuine Adonises or ladies who are happily married to average manlets?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 03:43 AM
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I mean, will preventative birth control also be overturned in this scenario? Because speaking personally, I'm done having kids and have a copper IUD. Will I have to get my IUD taken out and be at the mercy of my spouse and the rhythm method until menopause or uterine prolapse (whichever comes first), or am I safe since I've already done my civil duty? I guess in regards to my kids, I'd teach them to abstain or at least stick to other methods of interpersonal fun that doesn't result in being up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:47 PM
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A little of column A, a little of column B...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:09 PM
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I can't prove you wrong if it's true. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 08:15 PM
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For some women the subtext is "hotter than me".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:44 PM
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Men and women lose attraction when they and the other party stop trying. You know that tenet TRP likes to quote, "steel sharpens steel"? That's true for romantic relationships too. And that's probably why so many people get stuck in cycles of abuse (tension > incident > reconciliation > calm). And others get lazy and check out, sometimes just one party and sometimes both. But if both parties make the relationship a priority, over work, over friends, even over any children, the couple will last l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 01:16 AM
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Yet, her hypergamy, her ultimate battle-tested primeval instincts for natural male selection, couldn’t see any problem with this disease, which is a major red flag in my opinion, she was more focused on his “height”, his “confidence”, his “game” (being non-needy and showing lack of interest, he being desired by other females, etc), and his “status”. You are aware that couples dealing with hereditary illness these days can seek IVF with PGS testing, right? Not saying that's what they're going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 11:49 PM
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This is tough. Positive: 1) Kind 2) Strong (physically, mentally, and emotionally) 3) Courageous 4) Hardworking 5) Excellent father Negative: 1) Overworks himself 2) A little arrogant 3) Long fuse but unpredictable temper 4) Needs to be the center of attention 5) He loves garlic and onions more than he loves me. :'( FWIW I do also think he's attractive and good in bed, I just didn't really feel like those attributes should be front and center.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 11:24 PM
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1) Um, never? 2) If there's ever any comparison, my current (husband of 10+ years) is much more favorable. 3) Sex and romance ebb and flow over time. You make the choice to keep putting in the work and stay together, or you make the choice not to and move on. Sex is never magical on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 01:19 PM
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