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| 88 | Interesting first day… even more interesting way of textingRedditors acting like women are Eve and need to get their ribs from Adam 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 06:27 PM |
| 143 | Eye opening vacationTravelling is such an important test! If there are delays or surprises, do they problem solve or get mad? If it’s out of their control, do they graciously wait or yell at service workers? Can they roll with the punches, find the airport hotel with a 24/7 ihop for misery pancakes, or spiral out of control and expect you to do everything? I’m dating someone who does all the good versions here; when our flights are delayed he’ll let me nap on his lap while he keeps an eye on notices, he’s a partner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 04:36 AM |
| 18 | Continuing from recent post by another Queen. Absolute trash book.Right? If someone does need to be told to have a personality, they probably do need some help/advice with socializing. But also, I’ve found men are far less likely to have personable texting voices than women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:24 PM |
| 33 | The difference between being a famous man and a famous woman…Well then take Taylor Swift as an example, where if you search her ten different subs each dedicated to a different body part of hers, plus tons of nsfw subs come up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:13 PM |
| 54 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.It’s the same energy as “at least with poly he’s sleeping with other women with my knowledge instead of cheating like all other men do” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 09:00 PM |
| 17 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?Yeah, I’d much rather go to a cute cabin away! I like going to nice hotels in different cities, but also cabins on islands/mountains with hiking, campfires, hot tubs, cooking together, just enjoying nature and quiet. If it’s a different cabin I don’t get the problem- if I broke up with my boyfriend I wouldn’t think I could never go on an island cabin with a hot tub weekend trip again, just like I wouldn’t think I could never go to Miami again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Women leaving the dating appsYour reply isn’t showing up to me now - just wanted to say I didn’t mean to diminish what you’re saying and your experience, and I’m sorry you’re facing racism in your country, and when simply trying to make friends and conversation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 11 | Women leaving the dating appsThat’s an interesting perspective, and one I wouldn’t have thought of. I’m an immigrant/expat in a city where lots of people stay friends with their local friend groups from high school. I’d probably ask people where they’re from as it’s a super common ice breaker, they can talk about their small town or growing up here or if they’re also a transplant we can connect over that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:58 PM |
| 49 | Another post promoting sex work as “real work” and an OP that is probably one of the top 1% of earners on OF… I feel for these people struggling to make it financially but sex work ain’t it.Right? $200k is possible with the right education and career path - otherwise men would never make as much as sex workers, and we know that’s not the case! The US does make it hard, but it’s far from impossible. Sounds like a business/communications/MBA path would be something she might find interesting and rewarding! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:57 PM |
| 9 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesThis makes me so mad. I don’t drive/own a car, and I’ve made a point to never ask my friends for a ride somewhere. If they offer, cool, I’ll offer to chip in for gas or treat them to a cocktail next time we go out, or will always very genuinely say it’s not a problem for me to grab a cab if it’s too late to take public transport. It’s my choice to not drive and there are expenses that come with it. Still cheaper than owning a car! (The only real challenge is travel, but I’ve had girls weekends w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 43 | Getting to see men's true colors after some pictures of me were used in an advertising campaign.Ugh being a “gallery girl” is signing up for being treated like an artsy prostitute half the time. And some of the gallery owners or auction houses totally lean into it for their sleazy buyers even though they’d swear up and down to their employees that that’s not the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:25 PM |
| 148 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each dayNarcissism is rampant in academia and even more rampant with male academics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:23 PM |
| 83 | scrote tried to neg me online, I used his words on himWhy spend that much energy? Yes, you were manipulated and now he’s living in your head. Seriously, just block and delete next time and revel in how good it feels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 35 | First real date post-breakup and FDS helped SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!Wow, that ended on a scary note. I will say OP, I totally understand the impulse to see a night through but after dinner would have been the perfect time to end the date given his attempts to separate you from your car. Or were you still thinking you were having a good date at that point? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 12:40 AM |
| 101 | Flip the scriptSome people are spontaneous in a creative way; you're out to dinner and, oh, they heard from a friend previously that there's a gallery opening close by, would you be in? It's not in The Plan, it's a spontaneous suggestion, but that spontaneity is enabled by prior research/socializing/prep. That's the good kind of spontaneous. Most people who identify as spontaneous though just want everyone else to do the work to make a night interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:12 AM |
| 5 | Working on myself just makes me feel more isolatedCan you volunteer somewhere maybe? Have some interaction that’s more structured than meetup? Loneliness comes in many facets, and sometimes small interactions with strangers are just as important as close social intimacy. Saying hi to your barista in the morning, waving to the person who always puts their mat next to yours in yoga class, chatting with the librarian about recommendations, all matter. But those are so hard to come by during the pandemic in areas following restrictions. I know with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:29 PM |
| 24 | Was your dad an HVM?My parents were also high school sweethearts and are the same! Still madly in love. He always gets her a big bouquet of roses for the anniversary of their first date, and every year she’s forgotten the day. It’s the absolute sweetest. While he was on business trips fairly often, whenever he was home he was an equal domestic partner even though my mom stayed home. And when she wanted to get back to work, he 1000% supported her education for a new career direction! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 02:12 AM |
| 66 | A case for a prenup - "I was my husband’s research analyst, caregiver, cook and housekeeper. Now he wants a divorce after 38 years."A prenup is typically about protecting préexistons assets going into a marriage. Assets created during a partnership are typically treated as property of the marriage - so I’m not sure what a prenup would help with here. An agreement that if you create something together decades down the line it’s evenly split? That generally what the law already says, although of course it varies by country and state. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 08:55 PM |
| 20 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?I’m going to go against the grain and say that this seems fine to me, but might not be fine to you and that’s ok. I don’t mind a bit of flexibility when trying to schedule because some people might genuinely feel they’re being considerate by allowing that your schedule might change. As long as he’s on time, that’s great. Is it a cute Italian place, or pretty casual? Is his neighborhood far from you? If it’s not far and it looks like a nice place it might genuinely be a good date option. I do und… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:23 PM |
| 23 | Self Defense Items / Tools!Friendly reminder to check your local laws before purchasing anything for self defense. Some of these items would be illegal to carry for the purpose of defense in some areas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 09:50 PM |
| 23 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."Yup, I know so many women who leaned into queerness in their early twenties and are now engaged to straight men in their late twenties. This is not bisexual erasure, this is saying that even women who are bi and leaning into queer circles and aesthetics are not cutting men out of their dating life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:08 PM |
| 86 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.He definitely read that neg on the internet somewhere and thought it sounded oh so clever and didn’t realize how downright weird and lame it would come across anywhere other than the deep recesses of internet incel land. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 81 | A warning against having children with NVM. Can’t even join a pregnancy sub without seeing this shit. Oh but it’s okay because she can work on her “insecurities” and of course ComMunICaTe! 🙄That’s why romance novels are the top selling genre - it’s the one area of culture where women are treated generously and lovingly on a consistent basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 17 | PSA Holiday Gifts that both of you use does not count as a gift!Totally. I love aesthetic cooking tools and upgraded versions of things that I have the utility version of. Still, I want a couple just-me things to go along with a household item. Get me the fancy knife, but then also a pair of cute earrings or reading socks or something that's just mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:30 PM |
| 30 | REMINDER: Do not clean up for dirty scrotes and make them feel cozy in their filth *busy none* they can find *one* hour out of the week to clean their scum.Right?? It’s not like she’s suddenly a stay at home wife. She works too!! Probably just as hard, maybe even harder. If single moms and med school residents can keep their places clean, so can this guy. And if he’s literally too busy, fucking hire a cleaning service to come in twice a month. And if you’re actually too busy and don’t get paid enough to hire a cleaning service, then get a better paying job because the amount of hours that would preclude you from cleaning ever should let you have so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:16 PM |
| 305 | The comment section is a dumpster fire. How dare she to have standards! Some of them are “I see her future buying dog and cat food”, “the higher they fly, lower they fall”, “phd doesn’t buy you class obviously”, etc.The tall guy was really attractive and managed going up to someone randomly in a pretty cool and chill way. Plus that Snapchat line was awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 04:28 PM |
| 19 | Am I codependent or do I have a strong intuition?Yup. You feel he lacks depth, he admitted as much when asked and said (reading not even that much between the lines) that he’s emotionally closed off and not ready to date. That he struggles with trusting women. He’s admitted to what you’re sensing. I think the confusion is because you’re now equating his admission to emotional intimacy, when it’s not. Neither is an invite - doing an activity or meeting friends is nice, but it’s not intimacy. It’s easy to confuse a conversation about a problem w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:57 PM |
| 316 | The IckWhen he last minute canceled attending my grandfather’s birthday dinner so he could “work on his writing”. There was a place card for him. He was only working part time. What else was he doing with his day?? It took me another six months to break up with him but that was when I lost respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:45 PM |
| 196 | The IckHonestly beyond the bills it would be all the personal documentation!! It’s terrifying knowing your ID, credit card numbers, health insurance card, etc etc are all in someone else’s possession. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 40 | I just saw the movie Mother! I hated every second.I agree. It was a compelling allegory of the inadequacy of male artistic obsession compared to the female ability to create and nurture life and the pain caused by that narcissistic obsession on the women around such a man. And that the creative pursuits of the domestic sphere are actually often more impactful than whatever poetry someone wants to write - and why do we create these strange hierarchies in the first place? Oh yeah, womb envy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:51 PM |
| 34 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Also it’s rude as hell for someone you married to be cooking in your house and purposefully exclude you from the meal?? Like nah sis that’s not ok either?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 08:58 PM |
| 53 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Oh but don’t you know it’s just that they’re jealous over time not jealous over their partner! After all, love is infinite but time isn’t. So it’s the time. Just the time. Just the days of the week that’s the issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:24 PM |
| 90 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.I have a poly friend-of-a-friend whose justification is literally that she’s a jealous person and would rather he cheat in front of her than behind her. Oh and would I like to join her bookclub for going through The Jealousy Workbook?? Like, no. No I wouldn’t because I’m actually not a jealous person and I’m in a completely secure, trusting monogamous relationship and that’s not actually an impossible ask and the monogamy is mutually desired. Yes, there will be times where relationships will req… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:56 PM |
| 43 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?In fact, one of the easiest and quickest vetting strategies is to only date guys who also have close male friends with whom they are mutually emotionally supportive. Other female friends and acquaintances? Sure! But a straight man shouldn’t only have female friends and shouldn’t only rely on women for emotionally rich connections. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:12 PM |
| 88 | When negging is made mainstream!Why on earth would I believe anyone couldn’t recognize a person they dated and were still trying to call? To the point of repeatedly calling someone else by their name? If I even believed them I’d probably assume they were an alcoholic or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 404 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsIn addition to the problem of condoning his friends lying, I’m uncomfortable with a fiancé who would have to be held to the standard of not having sex workers at a party celebrating his upcoming marriage (which is what a bachelor/ette party should be in this day and age!). Like, not having sex workers at a party celebrating you getting married should be the bare minimum. Why would anyone even want that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 09:50 PM |
| 49 | Case Study: The fortysomething year old "PICK ME". I'll even give a you a TLDR: I had sex with a man on the first date even though I was not attracted to him or even felt a connection. He feels the same way, but asked to have sex with me again.Aaaah so glad to see this comment clarifying that you did not write this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 05:40 PM |
| 13 | Maid on Netflix - Breakdown and analyses of key ideas around women's experiences who flee DV - and how this related to FDSMy friend works at a domestic violence shelter in Texas and does intake and triage for people who want to stay. Basically, there’s so much demand that if you’ve already left your abuser you can’t get in - you have to be in the home and in imminent danger. If a woman left but was living out of her car, I think that would still qualify but it might depend on how full they were at the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 08:40 AM |
| 9 | Pre-nupsI’m going to go against the grain and say I’m generally not in favor of prenups except in a few specific circumstances, like when a spouse needs additional protections in addition to what the law provides - for instance, if a spouse is staying home to raise kids and should be entitled to extra support, or if an inheritance is mutually agreed upon to be the couple’s mutual retirement plan. Basically, they should only be used from a point of love and generosity in my mind. For the vast majority of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:04 PM |
| 10 | Found one in the wild!“Sports business” = has a fantasy football league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:04 PM |
| -5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)I think this is a lovely and insightful comment and I’m sorry you’re getting downvoted. I refuse to give up on the principle that it’s possible to disagree in good faith, with well argued and well reasoned justifications, who have the same moral goals but disagree on not just how to get there but whether certain methods will do more harm than good. The stakes are high, for sure. Some people aren’t acting in good faith (especially politicians). But people on the ground can, and they can have live… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:34 PM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)I in general totally agree with you, politics is about what we find ethically and morally urgent. At the same time, I do think there’s a tendency to conflate disagreement about a goal with disagreement about a method. For example, people who are pro and anti charter schools both believe in educating children, and want the best outcome for the most children, but disagree on how to get there. There’s room to argue about method, likeliness of different outcomes, what unintentional side effects migh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:56 PM |
| 53 | Poor PickMe did a dang photoshoot 🤦♀️Why is it that all the men who look like that are so commitment phobic yet attract amazing women?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:06 AM |
| 83 | This is so sad and scary. We are not safe anywhere. Not even our own homes 😔.I’m terrified of this so if I’m home alone I’ll often put the latch on the door when I shower. I know it’s not much but it does make me feel a little safer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?In my real life, not the internet, the cheapest ring I’ve seen was $800 and she regrets it as it looks cheap and like costume jewelry (got it from an Etsy shop). All the other rings I’ve seen are very nice, and they guy tends to brag about what he got, how much research he did, the cut and clarity, uniqueness of color if it’s a sapphire, etc. The men discuss amongst themselves and definitely judge even more so than the women do at times. I’d estimate the norm is closer to $3k-$10k as even the ri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:12 PM |
| 120 | My HV bf drove 4 hours round-trip to pick me up because I *might* be uncomfortableThis is so sweet!! It reminds me of a story my mom likes to tell about my dad in college while they went to different schools about a 90 minute drive from each other. She was studying hard for finals and hadn’t seen him in a couple weeks and was really stressed. He drove to see her one evening to surprise her - and of course she was happy but also immediately like, omg I’m studying I can’t do this. But as he told her, he was actually just there to deliver this big bag of snacks, an encouraging h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 10:51 PM |
| 6 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?Oh jeez I just want to clarify that I’m being pretty facetious with that comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:01 PM |
| 27 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?The energy drink was the first red flag though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:39 PM |
| 16 | It’s easy to be generous with people you love.Same, and I’ve had friends do the reverse. Taking my BFF out for tacos and margaritas when money is tight for her is a pleasure for me!! And I had friends who insisted on treating me when I was in grad school and that $30 dinner was going to be my big expenditure for the month. It’s not hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:26 PM |
| 33 | That’s all women are good for, porn genreUgh the same people who actually believe they’d save their dog over a real human child. As if the depth of grief is at all comparable. I don’t even believe in a god but after knowing someone who lost a child, I pray that none of them will have to experience just how wrong they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:27 AM |
| 286 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questionsThey also do it as a way to make you feel closer to them without them having to give you much of themselves. It can be a parallel part of love bombing - I had an (ex) guy friend admit he asked questions like this of women he wanted to sleep with because they’d feel special and close and would think there was an actual emotional connection between them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:47 PM |
| 9 | Daily reminder: IF HE WANTED, HE WOULDI guess we do all have different timeframes that we find personally and culturally acceptable. 2 years seems the sweet spot to me as adults who aren’t going through major life transitions, but other people think longer is better (I have one friend who thinks five years is necessary and I definitely give her the side eye), others think one year is good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:06 PM |
| 13 | Anyone notice guys get uncomfortable if you want to stay at home after kids?It is tricky though when in many cities affording rent for a two bedroom apartment on one salary means you need to be making six figures at the least. I do get a little envious of people for whom staying at home for more than a year is an option! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:03 PM |
| 46 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsThat’s exactly the ideal situation for it. Give the woman at least 6-12 months at home (which is mat leave in most countries…8 weeks is horrifying), and if she has a passion for her career and he’s diligent and home-oriented then it can be really great! I just think that generally though, the whole question of “which” parent should or can be stay at home is largely irrelevant in a world where the vast majority of families need two working parents just to feed and house their kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 04:16 AM |
| 16 | How do you not desire love when you have independently accomplished everything else you have wanted in life?Saaaaame both in terms of childhood and solutions! Sometimes I just give myself a block of time to hide under the covers and cry/feel bad/wallow. And because it’s dedicated wallowing time, I actually process it and get through it. And my therapist gave me full permission to simply, out loud, say “ow” to the emotions. And feel them. And be ok with it being an ow. But like you said, then there’s a time limit or signal for when you need to get up or go into the house and be a human again. It doesn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 01:27 AM |
| 34 | How do you not desire love when you have independently accomplished everything else you have wanted in life?And, as my therapist said it’s ok to have moments when you wallow as long as it’s not all the time! Sometimes you just have to feel the pain and say ow as you rail against the unfairness of the world. But then, you get up and make a real/metaphorical cup of tea and keep cultivating other areas of your life. It sucks when a major area isn’t working right, whether that’s love or your job or friendships or family or finances. It’s rough. And it hurts. But we have to keep going and find ways to be f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:37 PM |
| 75 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏The whole “women can be abusive too!!!!!” refrain that so many apologists feel the need to repeat ad nauseam gives ammo to sexist, likely abusive cops who are just itching to get to arrest women for DV instead of men. And it makes it so much harder to call it out as the blatant absurdity it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:42 PM |
| 17 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏Jeez where I am your locked up bike will get stolen in ten seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:18 PM |
| 71 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?I stumbled my way into an amazing partner but had plenty of previous relationships where I felt guilty for wanting someone to be basically financially stable and not about to take on six figures of debt for an art degree, or who wouldn’t have to be told when to compliment me. And I have lots of otherwise extremely independent, feminist friends who also feel a lot of internally originating shame for wanting to have standards. FDS isn’t perfect for me; I admit I disagree with some aspects of the h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:03 AM |
| 106 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Someone who loves and respects you would want you to have financial integrity. I have an account my fiancé can never access with substantial enough savings. He knows I could get on a flight tomorrow and be just fine financially even without the help of my family. And he’s happy with that! He knows it’s important for me to have financial security and independence, especially since I’m not living where I grew up. Our shared financial goals include independent savings and couple savings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:02 AM |
| 4 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I had no idea that was the law in Quebec!!! So fucking cool. I’m in BC and I hate how many progressive women in my social circle have taken their husbands last names… it’s always for a “reason” but like, the men hate their parents just as much if not more and didn’t take their wives last names 🤔🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I’m not saying your choice is wrong. I’m saying that dismissing a woman’s name as “her father’s” ignore that the name is equally hers and her life’s name up that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:28 PM |
| 27 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!There was a while where I had Saturday morning therapy close to a shopping district. Post therapy is go to the bookstore, grab a new historical romance novel, browse some boutiques, and take myself to lunch at my favorite Mediterranean spot. No longer doing therapy but I still have those days fairly regularly! And now since I don’t have an appointment to make I’ll even walk there while listening to a new album! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:43 PM |
| 133 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I mean, it’s the name you grew up with. It’s your name, not just your dad’s name. It’s the name on my degrees, on my accomplishments, on my notepads and letters. My name is a part of me and my life and I don’t want to feel separated from that history by changing my name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:45 AM |
| 42 | Thoughts on SMBC? (single mother by choice or some form of co-parenting with a male friend)I’m pretty sure you don’t need IVF, you can do IUI (aka the medical turkey baster method) with donor sperm. Way less medically tiring than going through IVF! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:57 PM |
| 65 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”That quote really gives the lie to this behavior. If she were “being a ho” because she enjoyed it, it wouldn’t be a thing that would stop the moment someone appreciates her. It would be a thing independent of a mans desire to be in a relationship with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:04 AM |
| 1 | His ex is 11 years younger, and other red flagsI was really just curious and hoping to have more of a discussion because lots of behaviors can be categorized differently… it’s too bad OP felt she needed to delete it. I agree these posts are better than endless memes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 1 | His ex is 11 years younger, and other red flagsOh yeah for sure, I’m just wondering about his switches in behavior here and how OP is categorizing HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:36 PM |
| 2 | His ex is 11 years younger, and other red flagsHonest question, just to clarify! If you’ve been friends for a while and weren’t screening him with FDS in mind, what do you mean by saying he came across as HV for an hour? Had there been red flags in your previous friendship? And by HV do you mean, like, normal? I’m just struggling/laughing while envisioning how he could seem so amazing in the first hour, in a way you hadn’t seen during friendship, and then flipped a switch and tossed out all these red flags in a way you also hadn’t seen. Soun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:26 PM |
| 33 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮I like that it’s a 360 and moonwalk, because then you spin fully around and walk out backwards. Lots of good drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 12:15 AM |
| 3 | No wonder I saw few/if any women and children rushing to the outgoing planes to leave Afghanistan. Apparently, the military was letting men/allies through but refusing to let their families come through the airport gates.My coworker has been trying to get his family over from Afghanistan for five years. They’re protected by extended family and he’s been working tirelessly to get them here and they now have a good plan/shot at getting here, but it’s not an easy, smooth, or expedient process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:03 PM |
| 55 | Thank you mods! But I missed this sub.Omg yes. My best friends couples therapist is trying to get her to therapy away all feelings of jealousy so she and her husband can have an open relationship. Despite that the thought of opening up their relationship gives her panic attacks and sends her spiraling. But noooo it’s a need he has and she has to learn to be ok with it or leave. She mentioned that another friend framed it as “well being in an open relationship means he won’t be cheating behind my back, I’ll be aware of everything” an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:59 AM |
| 79 | Always keep your coins snatchedSee this is exactly what I think. In my opinion, a good partnership means that our resources are ours. But everyone should have an emergency fund that’s truly just theirs, especially women, and especially women who are separated from their friends and family or are across borders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:44 AM |
| 10 | FDS Going Private For Monthly Cleanup - Sept 1st and 2ndI think this is a great idea! Does going private mean that those of us who have been commenting can still mostly comment, or is it going to be pretty quiet for us? Either way is fine I just want to know what to expect! ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:59 AM |
| 139 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.“Oh that’s weird, I’ve done past life regression therapy and don’t remember seeing you there.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:31 PM |
| 38 | When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!Has anyone ever encountered a man in real life asking “what do you bring to the table”? Because I haven’t, and would be so aghast if I did get asked that it would never occur to me to not run. But obviously my experience is not universal! Also I’m not a huge fan of her mostly listing “youth and beauty” as her qualifications… like, yeah, but I’d want my partner (or even anyone I casually date) to recognize that I’m more than that. That’s the basis of initial attraction, not the basis of a long te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:54 PM |
| 90 | LVM coworkers ranted(?) to me and I'm sad for the women in their livesI just think it’s so sad that in their world view pregnancy is always a punishment. That it’s inconceivable to them that a man could be buying a pregnancy test for his wife for a very much wanted child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 02:00 PM |
| 6 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?Honestly I cried. But he said over and over and over how the most important thing was simply me being ok and happy. And that money wasn’t an issue at all compared to that. I think it might be different once we move into a bigger space that we couldn’t afford individually in order to start a family, but we’ll be more committed and more people explicitly financially intertwined when that happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:16 AM |
| 33 | First date: let’s watch a movie on discord!Out of curiosity, what’s the culture like for online dating there? Is it seen as relatively safe or? Feel free to not answer! I can just imagine that if driving by yourself isn’t safe, meeting up with men that haven’t been vetted by friends/family must be extra stressful too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 55 | Yesterday I noticed my 11 year old son manspreading…Yes!! Exactly. I love a man confident in himself and his masculinity. They’re also the men who, in my experience, most want you to shine and be yourself and support you in that effort because they don’t feel the need to be in competition with their partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 72 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?I’ve wanted to share this! When I first started dating my fiancé I insisted on going 50-50. I was in grad school and didn’t have a lot of cash but o thought paying 50-50 was necessary to ensure he thought of me as an equal (pick meeee). We moved in and I started paying me share of rent. After about 6 months after that, I realized I needed to quit my job for mental health reasons. I was so scared - I could pay rent for a bit from my savings, but how would he react? Well…as it turns out, he has sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 11:09 PM |
| 59 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.Even if you think you like a celeb, you like the celebrity’s public character. For example, I’m a fan of Taylor Swift the public persona. I have no idea what she’s actually like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 39 | Personal trainer and YouTuber, Chloe Ting, has come out saying she's been harassed by a scrote and media company during the past year.Maybe I’m being naive but I can’t imagine being willing to go to trial and pursue a defamation lawsuit over such a claim that would be so easily disprovable. Especially considering that the guy did previously apologize and other news organizations did retract their claim that she’s not a CPT. But then yeah you do bring up a good point that there should be more info and verification on her website. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 29 | Personal trainer and YouTuber, Chloe Ting, has come out saying she's been harassed by a scrote and media company during the past year.In her lawsuit against defamation she says she is a CPT and repeats that she is in the YouTube video about the topic. Edit: I’m not saying she definitely is a CPT I’m saying she reiterated the claim in the lawsuit plus video. That she states this is a fact, not necessarily that she actually is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 24 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesYes!! 9 holes and a lovely lunch on the patio/veranda would be a perfect third date. How a guy plays golf tells you a lot - does he get impatient at the people ahead of him/you, does he respect your ability to play and give mutual advice/humour or does he need to be in charge and the best (even on my second time playing ever my brother who looooves golf was super respectful of when I wanted tips versus when I didn’t, and he had a good sense of humour if his own shots went awry). If you’re not a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 71 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...…what the fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:57 PM |
| 64 | I’m so tired of hearing that women are “lucky” because we get free drinks at bars or get into nightclubs for free.Yeah, I wear glasses and I almost never got my cover waived - but I also very rarely went to clubs. Really only when I was 22-23. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 23 | FDS position on lube?Yeah birth control messes this up for me so lube is often necessary. It just helps it feel better! But it won’t feel good even with lube unless there’s enough foreplay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:50 PM |
| 20 | "Activity dates are best for first dates because they enable you to get to know each other better and in a lower-stress manner": solid dating advice or liable to make women lower their standards?Double dates can be nice, but I don’t agree with a board game date when you’re trying to get to know someone. People end up talking about the game, not themselves or each other. I have board game “friends” I knew almost nothing about for the first two months of seeing each other due to this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:00 AM |
| 100 | ..did anybody see this?Why are internet men so obsessed with being thought a pedophile? Why are they so concerned about our reactions to awful behavior and never* concerned about how the awful behavior itself? *the few times they do express concern it’s to perform actively talk about how they’d beat the guy up. Not like…listen to or help the victim. Nope, it has to center their feelings. Also do they not know what hyperbole and gallows humor is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:34 PM |
| 130 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.Also, who leaves their bathroom trash can full to the point of overflowing when they have a guest coming over?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 4 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…I used to be this way when I was dating a broke artist type and knew I’d want a particular style of ring. Lol not me now. Once you’re both financially stable it becomes really apparent how much people spend on stuff they care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 9 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Careful with Etsy and remember that on the internet, anything that’s too good to be true usually is. If an artist has skill and real materials, the ring will cost a certain amount - you’re not gonna get a real gold and diamond handmade ring for $500. You probably won’t even get a moissanite one that cheap. My BFF got an Etsy ring from a popular, well reviewed seller for $800 (aquamarine stone) and honestly it’s not the best quality (even leaving aside the fact that aquamarines are not meant for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:50 PM |
| 20 | New moms get less sleep and it's linked to aging... what do you think? They only studied women, but where are the dads helping out?Yes yes!! And vet vet vet for how they comment or act around kids, including/especially kids who aren’t related to him. How does he react to children crying in public? Is he annoyed or sympathetic? How does he relate to late night disturbances? If the fire alarm goes off does he grumble but otherwise is fine or does the throw a temper tantrum? Is he interested in milestones/growth of children in his life? Is he interested in the kid if you visit friends/family with babies or small children? Does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:40 PM |
| 246 | Men admit to being sexually attracted to their 15 year old daughter’s UNDERAGE friends and gets THOUSANDS of upvotes. Honestly I think 99% of men are closet pedophiles and this is what most women with daughters will have to deal with.He knew because it wasn’t the first time. Or the last. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:56 PM |
| 54 | Honest question: have you ever met a man who has fully examined his relationship to patriarchy?No. I’ve met incredibly thoughtful, kind, reflective men who would like to be aware as possible of misogynistic factors in society, but they aren’t aware of everything the way women are. Honestly. That’s ok with me. I’ll never intuitively understand everything women of different races than me go through, even as I try to educate myself. For men I encounter, I place far more importance on a willingness to listen, a curiosity, kindness, and thoughtfulness. Basically, an inclination to and willingn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:31 PM |
| 185 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?Literally so true. In a previous life I went on a date with a guy who was 5’4” and he was of the “ethically non monogamous” type who 1) wanted someone to act like a primary partner while his actual primary was long distance, 2) who would be happy fading when she moved to the city but still available as required, and 3) told me these details on the date and then got angry when afterwards I declined any further dates. OH and kept buying me drinks after I said I was ok. I highly doubt the “ethical”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 90 | The “In capitalism, we all sale our bodies anyway” argumentYep. When you’re applying for social security disability funds in the US, they go through every possible job you could possibly work. Should the government require women to be sex workers before they get disability?? Should a land lord be able to ask for sex in exchange for a rent reduction, and is that different than painting a fence? Most people know that there is in fact a difference. Economically coerced consent is not consent. It’s rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 11:58 PM |
| 92 | The “In capitalism, we all sale our bodies anyway” argumentIn sex work, your body is both the labor and the product. That’s the key difference, and from a Marxist perspective incredibly important. Lecture time! Typically, the Marxist critique against your normal crappy job is that you are alienated from your labor; you have no connection to the final product and the real profits, as they all get absorbed by the capitalist machine into profits for the capitalists. You’re a cog, not really seeing a thing through and forming meaningful connections to other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 11:51 PM |
| 47 | Why can’t they stop invading our spaces? This guy thinks he can waltz into a sub dedicated to women decorating their homes for advice. Mod thinks it’s fine despite complaints. He’s entitled to a “woman’s touch” I guess.What a boring, greige place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:34 PM |
| 68 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.Yes! We both thank each other for all the cleaning things. Maybe it’s because we’re in a small space but it would feel weird to not acknowledge someone cleaning all the dishes or putting the laundry away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 11:55 AM |
| 4 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about usOr she’d just be using him for sex for two months and isn’t ever intending to date him seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Saw this little gem on Instagram today....I’m going through a pancake reawakening as well - they were always a special occasion food with too many people vying for them at once. They’re way better when cooking for one or two people! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:55 PM |
| 50 | Saw this little gem on Instagram today....Pancakes are great. I had a dream about pancakes last night and now I want pancakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:42 PM |
| 35 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Thank you!! Quitting my toxic job and doing an extended visit with family (plus meds and therapy) mean I’m doing super well now :). Hooray! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:21 AM |
| 85 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Yes!! About six months into the pandemic I was more depressed than I ever had been. There were days when I couldn’t do anything but hide under the covers, and I just simply could not do the dishes. I played video games and took two hour showers. Spending time just breathing on the balcony was a victory. My fiancé supported me all through that. He took care of me in a way I would never ask of anyone who’s not my mom (and even then). But he did, and throughout all of it I so, so deeply knew and ap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:51 AM |
| 149 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Some people take depression as a carte blanche to behave like this forever with no attempts at treatment. Maybe it’s something like that. But the thing is, even if you’re depressed/disabled/etc there’s a huge difference between willfully ignoring all obligations and actually not being capable but still wanting to help and appreciating the support while you work on getting better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:37 AM |
| 43 | LVMs be likeRight?? My love languages are all of them. I’m affectionate with my words and touch, I pick up cute little gifts, quality time is obviously desired and important for relationships, and because I love my partner I want to make their lives better through cooking something delicious, cleaning the bathroom, etc. And you know what? It’s not crazy or needy. It’s healthy. My fiancé does all those things for me. He’ll give me flowers and picks up my favorite chocolate (he just texted me because he passe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 49 | Thank you!!Lots of people can’t trust or use the police. They might be in a country with really corrupt police, or have precarious immigration status, or even have a family member on the policy force who could make life difficult for her if they knew she was going on dates/having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:13 AM |
| 32 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad ideaYeah for a first date or blind date? Crying is a bit much unless you’re really young. Hit up some friends, take yourself out to dinner, go see a movie! I have my local pub and wine bar that I’ll go to and bring a book with me if I want to go out by myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 23 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad ideaUsually restaurants do take a bit more effort - you have to have a reservation typically, although the same is often true for a wine bar. And, if he’s asking you to dinner that does signal more interest and effort, and therefore the thinking goes that he’s less likely to cancel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:11 PM |
| 18 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differencesThis is something I need to be better at. My partner is more than happy to keep going before or after penetrative sex, but I get impatient before hand and then I get self conscious after. It doesn’t help that I’m not a big fan of oral either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:44 PM |
| 120 | No post has ever made my blood boil this much. This man treats his disabled GF like a servant and wont even keep a CHAIR FOR HER TO SIT IN. Women need to be taught from birth that its better to be alone your whole life than put up with a man who doesn't give a fuck about you!!This is actually such an important point. You can’t just magically respect yourself if everyone and everything in your life has constantly told you you’re not worthy of respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:27 PM |
| 19 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal menWe should make one of these “choose your own adventure” things where it aligns with like your birth month and the first letter of your last name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:19 PM |
| 49 | I am dying, girls.EWWWWW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 11 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.She should have blocked him way earlier when he didn’t propose a suitable date. FDS is against giving line by line instructions on what it takes for a reason, because they need to be able to come up with this on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:09 PM |
| 140 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒Some men are literally this delusional and actually are repulsed by the idea that women are human beings with bodily functions and not just pretty sex dolls that exist for their pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:03 PM |
| -5 | To the women here who are childfree: how do you define “childfree”?I think you may be falling a bit into the no true Scotsman fallacy. For all we know, the people who do and who don’t change their minds about their children status may feel exactly the same as each other for all those years, until something changes. At the very least, both the changer and non-changer use the same language to describe their sentiments, so there’s no way to predict externally who will end up changing their mind and who won’t. Some people who discover a sexuality that’s other than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:21 AM |
| 86 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookI know right!! My younger brother has been living at home during the pandemic after his industry disappeared (eco tourism isn’t exactly thriving when you can’t travel internationally) and he’s been the one cooking my parents gourmet meals each night and has been focusing on improving his cooking for them. Seriously, he’s able to season and cook proteins like a fancy restaurant. And he cleans afterwards. It’s not even like he has his life totally together but he still understands that this is the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:35 PM |
| 5 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?Part of the vetting should reveal how he reacts to these serious issues. How does he react when friends and family have serious health issues or mental health struggles? How does he support you if you’re supporting friends/family through the same? If these things haven’t come up, then it either hasn’t been enough time, you both have seriously charmed lives, potentially he doesn’t have the kind of open and supportive friendships/relationships that I’d hope for. My boyfriend spoke early on about s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 04:17 PM |
| 4 | The new dating scam.So awkward!! I can’t imagine just sitting there watching this guy down drinks. Usually people order rounds together. Maybe with one drink more for the person with a higher tolerance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 08:37 PM |
| 11 | Low effort is now the bare minimumRight that’s just living and getting some fun food after being outside for a while and indulging together. It’s the eating in the car during the getting to know you stage that just gets to me. Maybe it’s because I’ve always lived in cities that are fairly walkable, but couldn’t you find a park or something at least? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:36 PM |
| 164 | The new dating scam.This is so much worse than how my friends and I treat each other! Jesus Christ. The only person offering to split down the middle should be the person who ordered less and is feeling generous or if it’s like a $5-$10 difference and you go out regularly. Thats as friends. And my friends and I will regularly treat each other. You know what we also won’t do? Order FOUR DRINKS AND A STEAK while the other person has water and a small pasta. That’s just rude! I’m not saying you can’t have a full meal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:10 PM |
| 5 | Reminder: FDS is not heavily focused on how to improve your appearanceRight. Grooming is important! Cleanliness, hair and skin care, teeth care, exercise and a good diet are all part of taking care of yourself. Wearing clothes that fit correctly is part of good grooming. Beyond that, styling choices are al personal preference. Getting a blow out is way less important than making sure your hair is clean/neat/whatever simple daily maintenance is for your hair type. Whether or not you wear makeup is less important than what you do with that choice - do you keep your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 04:56 PM |
| 80 | Need a "Feminism is for Women" flair and a "Fu*k his feelings" flairMen only hide their emotions with other men. They let it alllll out as soon as they get a woman alone. How many first dates have I been on where they they treated me as a therapist? And then were surprised when I didn’t want to see them again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 01:50 PM |
| 51 | The comments all say "men are dumb, he's being practical" but completely disregard what this means for how he values his hobbies over his girlfriend. SmhYup. All my girl friends with good fiancé’s/husbands have bought them rings that take their preferences into account and have been excited to buy the best ring they could and that their fiancé would want. This could be $800, this could be $15,000. But they all felt proud and excited to buy the ring, and did tons of research into what kind of quality they could get for their budget. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 01:10 AM |
| 53 | Reminder 👑Trust your instincts!No non violent man has ever bragged about not hitting a woman. It never occurred to him to hit one. Only those who’ve considered it will brag about not doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:40 PM |
| 137 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.I know too many women who are with/have married guys because “they’re affectionate!!” Like. The bar is in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 11:36 PM |
| 377 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.Oh wow he’s affectionate in public and likes cuddle, what an absolute rare gem 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Apparently all girls want to have violent sex 🙄 It's not cool enough to be vanilla /sKenny G and classical music are very different. Kenny would be a no, Mahler could be a big yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Update: reining in the subThis is true, I do like seeing the more hardline analysis of egregious behavior here. Especially where people point to why certain vetting behaviors, green/red flags can potentially help avoid a situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:37 PM |
| 4 | Men do not form meaningful friendships with other men. It is not your job as a woman to fill in that void.Yes!! Men can solve this by complimenting each other. In fact, I know men who do compliment each other regularly (one guy friend just complimented another’s curls!) and they’re guys with healthy, diverse lives and good friendships. The men I know who don’t give or receive compliments are the ones who are more isolated and don’t take as good care of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:27 PM |
| 0 | Men do not form meaningful friendships with other men. It is not your job as a woman to fill in that void.This is why a man’s friendships is such an important part of evaluation. My fiancé has multiple close male friends with whom he shares his emotions with. They have long one on one conversations, their friendships aren’t based on just doing an activity together. I’m not his only emotional support (like I have been with past BFs) and in fact his social circle has been a big source of social enrichment for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Halal datingI think it’s that FDS is as a rule against it. If you MUST (or with extenuating circumstances) here are your harm reduction tactics for vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:10 PM |
| 93 | Ok, which one of you did this??I’m trying to think of what sort of university class would lead to this discussion - maybe sociology, something to do with single motherhood? Or...marketing? Help a liberal arts girl out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:25 PM |
| 20 | This is why sex work is stupid. They don’t want to actually pay for it. Paying for it doesn’t fulfill their desire for power.It's also so infantilizing and gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 66 | FDS Podcast Goal: 15k downloads in our first 30 days, which would put us squarely in the top 1% of podcasts. 2 weeks in and we're almost halfway there! Help us smash this goal by sharing the podcast with friends and family! 🙏I know it’s a super new podcast and I do enjoy it, but I do have to say that the wildly differing mic quality between hosts made it difficult for me to get very far into the episode. Of course mics are super expensive so I don’t know if that can be fixed, but I did want to give you a heads up! The host in London (I think?) sounded particularly echoey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Independent, potentially trendy restaurants. Most chains don’t count. I grew up upper middle class and Cheesecake Factory was for teenage birthday parties only. The only chain I can remember is going to for dinners as kids was McCormick & Schmidt’s. My dad took us to his favorite family owned Italian bistro (not trendy but nice) when we were kids for half day Fridays lunches. I had friends who loved the Cheesecake Factory but they were on the lower end of upper middle class - parents who worked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:24 PM |
| 33 | Mass shootings have been solved everyone! Turns out lack of access to women's bodies is why men go on violent rampages killing women/poc/children/everyone.Oh. My. God. How enraging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:05 PM |
| 8 | Mass shootings have been solved everyone! Turns out lack of access to women's bodies is why men go on violent rampages killing women/poc/children/everyone.I mean it’s not like prostitution is hard for men to access now even with it being illegal and America (and specifically America!!) has tons of mass shootings so..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornThis is actually a really really good point. Subs specifically aimed at underage users should paid, vetted employees moderating them who are known and accountable. Policies should be clear, consistent and reviewable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:31 PM |
| 4 | Let’s Not Forget That A Certain Pedophilic Be-Diapered Furry Fetished Former Admin Was Very Instrumental in Getting All Feminist Subs Who Were Critical of The Porn On This Site Banned The Past Few MonthsHi could I get an invite code too please? Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:35 PM |
| 50 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornYeah I unsubbed that week too. It was just exhausting, and then I realized most of that sub is exhausting all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:23 AM |
| 27 | If he wanted to, he would.I don’t know why you’re being down voted, it’s true! It’s just as easy as frying an egg and not breaking the yoke. Also, hollandaise isn’t that hard! Once you’ve made it a couple times you can pretty much eye ball the ratios and whisk it up in no time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 31 | If he wanted to, he would.Having lived in cities where bottomless brunch exists and in cities where they haven’t heard of it, I’d say there’s a pretty big cultural divide between those who think brunch is a time to seriously binge drink and those who’ll have a Caesar with food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:09 AM |
| 189 | If he wanted to, he would.That’s really cute but omg two strong mimosas and a jaegerbomb before breakfast is a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 21 | An infuriating example why we dress to impress only ourselves and NOT LVM/NVM!!Lots of men are just bad at recognizing hair dye. When I had bleached blonde hair that was badly in need of a toner and had an inch of roots I got men asking if that was my natural hair color 🧐. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 11 | Just had this DM'd to me. LVM can be found with degrees too.Honestly my boyfriend is the most caring, attentive, generous person and he’s the most successful and most attractive guy I’ve dated. I had stopped dating artists/musicians because they used me to make themselves feel better about still being on the struggle bus and not having a proper bed - I had totally sworn them off. Turns out the problem was dating unsuccessful artists/musicians ;). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 07:29 PM |
| 11 | Learning about Jackson PollockHey, if you need help practicing visual analysis, you can definitely DM me! I’ve been a TA and I’ve lived through assignments where I’ve had to write seven typed pages simply visually describing a work with no outside sources allowed. “A Short Guide to Writing About Art” is also a bible for this kind of thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Learning about Jackson PollockThe high end of the secondary art market is definitely crazy - blue chip contemporary art auctions at Christie’s and Sotheby’s are definitely closer to money laundering than art buying. There’s a lot of corruption leading to those crazy numbers. The primary contemporary art market (such as galleries), can be quite different. There, prices are often influenced by an esoteric formula involving factors like who already owns an artist’s work, which exhibitions the artist has been a part of and wheth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:58 PM |
| 11 | Learning about Jackson PollockLook, I hate machismo art as much as the next feminist art historian, but as someone who has an MA in art history it is useful to know the language used in the field to describe pieces of art, because that language helps with analysis. For example, the first image you linked is monumental in scale, pyramidal, industrial. Even though I’m not familiar with the work, those descriptors make me help me to analyze the work because they make me think of other figures that have been monumental and pyram… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:45 PM |
| 84 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).There was a This American Life episode last week that featured a woman making porn/OF videos at home, while her kids were home doing virtual school. It was played off as a light hearted secret (the kids apparently didn’t know), but she literally was shooting content in the kids’ bathroom. Honestly, I was disgusted - that’s such an invasion into her children’s space and there’s just too much risk for bullying with the way the world still is. It didn’t sound like they were hurting for money either… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 21 | I can hardly stomach relationship advice on other subs after my FDS awakeningI can’t tell you how many times men would come into a gift boutique I worked at madly searching for a present for their wife while having absolutely no clue what her interests were. They’d ask me to help. I’d ask some questions like, does she like cooking or entertaining/having friends over? Gardening? Self care nights in? Does she wear jewelry/scarves? And they’d have NO CLUE. NONE. And they’d want me to whip out some secret perfect gift for this lady whose name I don’t even know, while they’ve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 02:54 AM |
| 63 | It’s heartbreaking to see young women/teenage girls being preyed on like this.It kinda feels like a gross fantasy written out by an older dude pretending to be the 17 year old... just a couple too many flags in how things are phrased. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:56 PM |
| 14 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Yup, this line is what got me rolling my eyes. This just means messes will sit and if she actually cleans them up she’ll get punished for not giving him a chance to clean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:11 PM |
| 4 | Remember ladies, if he wanted to, he would!!Wow, I’m sorry. I think it goes to show how much norms can vary within social spheres! I think it’s really sad that there are so many men who wouldn’t do this, and that they’ve trained women to not expect much. This is why fds is necessary counter messaging; for many people, doing this IS the norm and it’s not crazy to expect it, and you don’t need to hold on for dear life if you do find someone who brings you food and sits with you because it’s findable again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 08:45 PM |
| 31 | Remember ladies, if he wanted to, he would!!Seriously. Like, do my eyes deceive me or does he have the only table?? While she has to balance the tray on her lap?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:47 AM |
| 20 | Remember ladies, if he wanted to, he would!!If she’s feeling well enough to have a date like this? Yeah, I know lots of guys who would. My partner would for me, my brother would do that for his fiancée, my best friend’s husband would definitely do something like that. Bringing a tray of food and chatting through the window isn’t...crazy amounts of effort? It’s some effort I guess, but he’d need to bring her food anyways. Plus wouldn’t you want to check in with your quarantined partner like that? The only extra effort was the glass of wine… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:45 AM |
| 24 | Probably one of the most thoughtless gifts to be given, and absolutely rampant around the holiday season. No thank you! ✋The Kiehls hand cream might work for you as a treat yourself replacement to the Caudelie one! It's fragrance free. I got it for my boyfriend who works with drying chemicals and is sensitive to fragrance and he absolutely loves it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:41 AM |
| 204 | So.... she bought her own ring and is supposed to be grateful about it? Lollll. No.What do you think the odds are on her being pressured to buy him a second PS5 since he sooo selflessly sold the first for her, so now she gets to buy her own ring and buy him a console. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:04 PM |
| 17 | LVM takes his date for a walk in the park and proceeds to sh*t himself in the bushes. Karma for organising an awful ‘date’.excuse me WHAT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:48 PM |
| 50 | Imagine the audacity of thinking 30k is enough to justify this behavior.Also, in addition to the harm he's doing to her, I believe that paying for sex like this is immoral and I would not want to be with someone who'd be ok doing this. I don't judge the women here, but I sure as hell judge the johns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:42 PM |
| 3 | What's abundant and of low value? All y'all dusty asses.Just block and move on. Don’t entertain them, don’t drop fds lingo for them to google. You’re writing paragraphs, he’s writing single words. He’s getting your time and attention. Just block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:13 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Oh, no. So, the first pattern that jumps out at me is that the men you’re dating aren’t trustworthy but you keep trying to convince yourself that they are. You told your ex that you didn’t trust him, and while you say that was a mistake, I think it was your gut jumping to speak the truth and you were brow beaten into recanting to keep the peace. Now, you’re dating someone whose word you can’t trust. He won’t show up on time or at all for important dates. He day drinks. Do you know how far outsid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:55 AM |
| 13 | He really got under my skin after saying "I am the culprit for everything that happened. Sorry to bother you. Bye." I am pissed af.No paragraphs of explanation. Don’t do it. Just block and delete, move on. Don’t get sucked into these back and forths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:27 AM |
| 73 | Oof does she tell it like it is lol wait until the endSo, so good. Everyone comes up with a new gender/sexuality label that they never have to show, they can simply declare, and then crown themselves as having sacred insight into the political topic du jour. It’s exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:25 AM |
| 25 | This just makes me so sad :((The thing is, women can’t make money easily on only fans. It’s a marketing lie that they do. The women who make money do so at the cost of exposing to the world that they’re engaging in sex work. They have to market themselves selling their body in other more “vanilla” venues like their Instagram, Twitter, twitch, etc. They’re pushed to dox themselves in order to get subscribers, which means that most women don’t make that much unless they have a sizable internet presence elsewhere. If they don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:17 AM |
| 44 | America’s ‘Daughters’ Grow Up To Be Women It Can’t Handle: Defiant young girls have become a political symbol in a country that fears grown women.Yes yes yes! This is brilliant and so true. There’s a reason why that “brave girl” statue became such a popular piece of Instagramified liberal feminism - it’s because it’s a girl, not a woman. You see this all the time too with male writers. They write “powerful”, maybe even nuanced girl characters and sexist shambles of women characters. Everyone loves a girl who wants to be president. Society does not love the women who try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:01 AM |
| 73 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?I will die mad that reddit banned radical feminist subs and not the red pill subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:51 AM |
| 3 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there.Saaame this one hurts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:48 AM |
| 10 | If a man brings this guy up on the first date, run for your f*cking life.Actually, I’m a little surprised you did miss neo Marxism day, at least in the upper level classes! It goes to show how theoretically diverse different departments can be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:46 AM |
| 1 | If he wanted to marry you, he would. A year into dating and he’s getting the ring made.Oh I love Melanie Casey’s designs so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:24 PM |
| 31 | NO, We Don’t. 🙄 🤦🏻♀️Right?? I always give them a big old side eye. I see my male friends complimenting each other, and I’ve complimented my guy friends plenty of times. They get a hair cut that looks good? I compliment it just like I do for my girl friends. A guy wears an awesome sweater or some great shoes? Chances are the other guys will jump on the compliment train before I do. That’s what happens when men are a) put together, and b) actually have healthy friendships with both other men and with women who feel c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 12:59 AM |
| 133 | NVMs volunteer as tributeJesus Christ. That behavior is a glaring signal to get that little boy lots of intervention and help, because it is inexcusable. Which means, it can’t continue. Because it is unacceptable. Because it’s the result of an unhealthy home life. In no world should the reaction be, “oh he’s being abusive because he’s coming from an abusive home, therefore his abusing a girl in the class is fine” ?? The reaction should be to stop! The cycle! Of abuse! Because it’s not fine!! Ok, sorry for the rant. Thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:24 PM |
| 204 | NO, We Don’t. 🙄 🤦🏻♀️Or the reddit classic, “you complimented my blue shirt once three years ago and that’s the only compliment I’ve ever received in my entire life” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:09 PM |
| 215 | Reminder to hold onto your power with no sex until commitment because they will pull this Every Time no matter how ‘great’ they seemAnyone who talks in terms of "catching feelings" is immature and not worth your time. That kind of talk is for high schoolers developing unwanted crushes on every cute person they talk to, not grown adults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 8 | What she said 🙃Yesss if anyone wants to read some more feminist theory about this, check out Sylvia Federici's Caliban and the Witch. She charts the unacknowledged and critical role of women's domestic labor in the history of capitalism, and argues that witch hunts were a way to enforce a patriarchal structure that depended on exploiting women's labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:04 PM |
| 51 | Ariana Grande’s New Song “positions” 😬THANK YOU. I came to this sub to see if anyone else here had the same reaction I did... like, no, you can't slap a music video of you in the White House on top of lyrics saying you'll change your positions and go be in the kitchen and bedroom and pretend it's about empowerment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:26 PM |
| 6 | What? Should I ask him if he can take me on his bike to a field he knows? The low effort I swear, this was his SECOND message to me!I mean, just look at the difference in punctuation. Honestly when I was on OLD I never responded to “how’s it going” messages. I had enough details on my profile (even tinder) that they could easily think of something specific to me to ask. When I did message first (and I did; I know that’s not the game here) I wrote specially tailored messages; why couldn’t they? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:22 AM |
| 12 | Stories like this serve as a harsh reminder of why sticking to FDS is so important. She’s put out already and he’s pretty much already ghosting her, or at the very least slow fading. Unless he’s died, there’s NOT reason for a man to take four days to text you back.If he were into her and truly without cell service, he’d be texting/calling before going out of range, saying how great of a time he’d had and how he can’t wait to take her out when he gets back. Once in service again, he’d maybe send pictures to her, say how he missed her more than he expected, and set a time for the next date. I have to wonder if at 28 she’s never been in a good relationship before. I had these sorts of anxieties in my early 20s, but I quickly realized that I could immediately… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:29 PM |
| 6 | Why you should never date gamersI think you simply have to acknowledge that there’s no 100% certainty in life or about any of our partners. You get as well as you can, you decide whether or not this man and what he adds yo your life is worth the risk, and you always have a back up plan. You always keep the ability to walk away if you need to - in practical terms this typically means a private emergency fund. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:32 PM |
| 96 | Made the mistake of inviting a man to a cooked meal (never again). He declined. Had the fucking cooked meal for myself and it was amazing.“Around 6” means 6-6:30 with a text at 5 to clarify an exact time that works for the host. Do you want help setting the table and for me to pour you a nice glass of wine? 6! Do you want to enjoy the illusion of effortlessness and a moment to wipe the sweat of your brow? 6:20 it is. That’s at least how my friends and I roll. But for a date? He better be on time, because I’ve planned it out and he better make an effort too. And to not even ask about your dad?? I’m so sorry. Good for you for eating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:36 AM |
| 2 | LibFems: Women don’t need UBI because Sex Work is part of the “Divine Feminine” and “empowering”🤡Is there a difference between your landlord offering a rent reduction in exchange for you painting the fence versus sleeping with him? Yeah? Should sex work be considered as a potential job alongside movie theatre cashier during your social security disability hearing? No? Well then, sex work isn't "just work". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 06:16 PM |
| 35 | How to get rid of LVM if they try to approach you in public?A lot of these suggestions to walk away aren’t useful in the situation you describe - what if you don’t want to leave your seat? In my experience, bluntly saying “I’m not interested.” is actually fairly effective. Use your instincts and stay safe, but I’ve found that it doesn’t even register as rude to them because they’re just going to keep on trying to talk to you. So you say you’re not interested, they keep trying, you maybe say “leave me alone” or something along those lines, and then just s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:43 PM |
| 12 | Can he find the clit? That is the question.Wait this didn’t end with you breaking up with him? But instead ended with more bad sex? Tough love: Reading a book you bought after any reminders is not a “thank goodness” moment. I wouldn’t even qualify it as the bare minimum, because the minimum needed to be a good sexual partner is much higher than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 11:17 PM |
| 5 | Why "walk dates" are a thing on OLD and why they should be trashed every single time.Walking dates can be good dates if: It’s not the first date, and: It’s less a walk around the block and more a promenade through the Tuileries in Paris. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:56 PM |
| 126 | Don’t do it sis.That’s why the price of rent has been and continues to be a feminist issue. We need to be able to have safe and secure housing on our own in order to be free from economic entrapment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:11 AM |
| 10 | My boyfriend called me out yesterday.Yes!! My partner did this too the other day. I apologized for rambling, and he stopped, took my face in his hands, and very seriously and kindly asked if there were any signals he was giving off that made me think he didn't want to hear everything about my day and my feelings, and what could he do to fix it to make me feel safe and heard? So, so sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:14 PM |
| 74 | To answer your question, "Does FDS hate men?"This is so so true. Women who do hate men typically do so for reasons like rape and years of abuse at the hands of the men in their lives, the ones who occupied places of trust. Men who hate women do so for reasons like...women not having sex with them. And guess which hate gets violent? Guess!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 1 | FDS Queens to LVMYou can see the allegation alluded to by the statue in the centre of the painting, between Lady Mary and Pope. I hope Lady Mary had lots of good sex with lovers of whatever gender she preferred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:05 PM |
| 34 | Why do I feel like we all have been here. SORRY THIS IS THE LAST ONE I PROMISE! (Not my image: found on fb)“You’re all I’ve ever wanted. You’re beautiful.” “But what else?” “What else is there?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:27 AM |
| 13 | Got to talk about dating standards with my 16 year old daughter, but I’m not sure if I got through to her.Or it could just not be clicking for him! There are lots of attractive, high value people that haven't done it for me and vice versa. It's really, really important to not make a lack of interest about you or about something fundamentally related to the person's sexuality. That's ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:15 PM |
| 3 | More reasons why women need to value their ability to serve a bitch and put men in their place!Congrats on defending your thesis!! You go! I also completely agree and really love working in women led environments because of the more open communication styles and I hope that more men adopt these styles in the future. There are obviously times for strong, assertive language, but I also find that the more open female-coded styles allow for productive, creative disagreement and discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:47 PM |
| 33 | Is it crack?Older men can occasionally be, but older men who are open to talking to 25 year olds on dating apps are not the mature ones. I say this as someone whose partner is about that age gap - it’s a red flag, and I strongly believe it only works in rare circumstances and if you meet and form a connection in person in a non-dating environment first where you can truly see how they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:53 AM |
| 39 | Recent increase in male anger/frustrationI’ve noticed a friend of mine started going down this route during peak lockdown. He was spending way too much time on reddit and starting to slip in some really questionable language towards women. Interestingly my bf noticed before I even did and had a long, long chat with him about it all. That paired with some lower restrictions and more socializing (not the US!) has really helped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 11:19 PM |
| 7 | Your thoughts ladies?Wait really?? I love beards. A well maintained beard is so nice! Kissing cleanly shaven faces is nice for like...the first two hours after shaving. And then the stubble burns my face. I hate stubble and my face can feel it before it’s shave-able. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:54 PM |
| 165 | How did she not know he was like that BEFORE the baby?There's a good chance he's a homophobe. There's also a chance (if this is wildly out of character and he hasn't been homophobic otherwise) that this is him projecting from childhood sexual abuse. It's apparently not uncommon for men who have been abused and who have not processed the trauma to hyper-fixate on and worry about their own children's sexuality. Of course this can also be abuse itself, and 'reasons' aren't justifications. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:44 PM |
| 58 | Woman’s UNEMPLOYED husband could handle being a stay at home dad for THREE days so she had to shut down her business and lay-off 13 people.Sorry that’s what I was trying to say! They whine about something that’s demonstrably false; the prejudice they think exists is really just the result of them not asking for custody. I also don’t totally buy that they “give up” before even trying. I’m sure a few do. But. If time with your child was on the line, wouldn’t you at least try and ask for equal custody? Even if you think it might be difficult to get? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:40 PM |
| 181 | Woman’s UNEMPLOYED husband could handle being a stay at home dad for THREE days so she had to shut down her business and lay-off 13 people.Yup. Men who actually ask for custody are very likely to get it/get equal custody. They just rarely do. And then they whine on the internet about how the courts are soooo unfair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:36 PM |
| 92 | Woman’s UNEMPLOYED husband could handle being a stay at home dad for THREE days so she had to shut down her business and lay-off 13 people.God I was SO ANGRY when I read this. And it was portrayed so...uncritically? Like “oh yeah obviously the company should shut down.” The husband did refuse an interview request. So maybe the reporter felt they couldn’t go too hard on him. But stil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 03:42 PM |
| 5 | Is it just me or is this crawling with red flagsAlso there’s a good chance he’s older than 32. That happened to me once when I was...21/22? I thought the dude was 30 which was higher than I liked but was feeling “adventurous” (sigh) and when I got there he clearly was late 30s/early 40s. Ewwww gross why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 04:25 AM |
| 1 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯I would maybe substitute* being community minded. Does this person have a community, are they mindful of their community and work to improve that? If they’re a musician, do they support other musicians and spaces or is it all about their stuff? Do they donate, are they a role model for young people, do they care about people who are suffering? *Substitute where appropriate! Not saying this has to be in place of other spirituality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 04:14 AM |
| 2 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Yes!! Friendships are so important; my bf has wonderful, emotionally and creatively supportive friendships with people I genuinely really like and respect. It’s one of the things that made me feel safe falling in love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 76 | Serious question: is there a sub that we can use to out cheating scrotes? I’ve seen so many MARRIED men on dating apps since quarantine and it makes me madThe men in my wider social circle who are poly all look like this. Why?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:29 AM |
| 7 | Men think one false rape accuser discredits women and makes sexual assault difficult to believe, but when’s the last time you heard them say rapists who falsely claim to be innocent discredit all men? They want to treat Women as an entire class but expect men to be treated as individuals.And even more than that, if you say rapists discredit men you’ll get the #notallmen brigade faster than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:21 PM |
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