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abishagofthevalley/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 07:55 AM
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I dont think you can prove your worth to this guy because he is not willing to accept your value. It's like you two speak different languages. You have a submissive (kinky also) nature, and he is a dominant and collared you. The whole thing is fucked for various reasons which I wont get into but the FACT THAT HE SENDS YOU BACK TO YOUR EX PARTNER, so a man who should be protective of you, and yes, possessive (I mean he surely got that trait hidden somewhere also), tells you that your ex partner w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 12:01 PM
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Approach him when HE is sober. Take agency and do it in your own terms and set the stage and pace for it. I wouldnt care that much about being called a frigid, Id be more sensitive about having MY advances rejected but this wont be your case. And when you find a moment of intimacy between you, however fleeting, tell him that sober lovemaking is worlds better than the drunken one (especially after a certain age where alcohol drags you down in all ways).
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 10:09 AM
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Thank you for posting here too. While here please look around at things that will wake you up to a lot more beauty and value in yourself, than you think you have at the moment. Desirable qualities. You're still very young and worth more than just throwing it out the window just because everybody else is. To paraphrase a famous sitcom character: IT'S NOT EMBARASSING! IT'S NOT A MILESTONE! AND IT'S NOT A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 09:28 PM
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I mean there's no way to pretend that a man who slept around is even in the same category structurally, psychologically and values-wise with someone who has been a lot more conservative with his sexual proclivities. I wanna be the star of the county down 🤣 Not one in a collection of many.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:02 PM
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I inherently never could trust guys with higher body counts. They take sex lightly and not as meaningful. Major Weltanschauung mismatch. Im sure there's many repellants if I were to make a list but this too is one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 07:52 PM
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You're making it easy for him not to step up, from what Im reading. I believe roles can be reversed and he can decidedly take more on himself if it is so decided. The tasks have to be clear though, he wont understand that you are tired etc, no, it has to be concrete action. From today on you do A and B. Id give it a try.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 08:06 PM
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You lose control over your photos. It doesnt matter if it is legally lost or not, shit is gonna be part of his portofolio AND your past AND the internet as a whole. I know, I know, they're gonna be sexy and ultravalidate you as a woman but you wont always be in THIS state of mind, there will be a time in your life where you look back and cringe and feel ashamed that you allowed a stranger to see you like that AND made a financial transaction of your sensuality. Think family, kids, husband, famil…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 11:54 AM
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Are you feminine enough to be loved by the man at hand, whom you love deeply and who has already talked marriage with you? Who cares about the abstract, disembodied concept of a good man? Who cares about the men on her show? Do you love them by any chance? Do you need their validation? I mean I read rp enough to know hpw to improve my game and quality of life of those around me. But men in general except my husband, yeah I dont give a fuck about them and what they prefer.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 05:04 PM
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Nobody owes it to me to be attracted to me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 05:46 AM
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I stopped reading at some point. Build your life in such a manner that you never again rate yourself on a fucking number scale. I mean you go on about your nose but the whole vibe Im getting is, omg she's one of those who functions according to that script. Im sorry I cant be kinder, it's 00:20 and Im at work etc etc but I mean this well. Lose the rating and this whole scripted framing you downloaded from certain web content, and not only that but you downloaded a whole boyfriend like that, too.…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 09:26 PM
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Op, you felt it right that your post instills resistence but the reason is not blue pill. The reality is that while you may be right, the women, alpha or not, still retain the right to choose with which males they want to act like that. We dont owe femininity and submission to every man who feels he's entitled to it. And when someone we find unsuitabla shows up and makes claims, yeah of course he meets resistence and derision. Not sure what you tried to accomplish here and why.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 01:37 PM
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I'd never get into such a relationship. I dont think religious beliefs are fads or whims or options that are all equally good so yeah okay I'll just follow his without DEEP thought, spiritual counsel and a whole lot of agonizing reflection that goes WAY beyond the relationship at hand. Keeping my own, yes. Giving them up and follow a lead to smth else? No.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 07:59 PM
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Whoever downvotes this thinking im talking out of my ass: we have twins and we go all over the place.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 08:25 PM
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Start following socials of new parents who adventure with babies, toddlers, kids etc. Life IS more fun with children. You can carry them in wraps slings whatever, nurse on the go, live van lives or 5*. If you want max flexibility, you can homeschool. Show him that. He can teach them.his hobbies. Life gets richer at all levels for men as well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 08:00 PM
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No.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 02:51 PM
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Maybe Im reading it wrong but I have 6 years univ + 5 years speciality after that and I dont regard a secretary as being lower or me being better or any such sort of comparison. There could be smth high mantainance about you, I dont know you at all but you seem to divide the work force somehow into higher vs lower or better vs worse and if so, you may unconciously give off some negative vibes, especially to "blue collars". Again, sorry if it doesnt apply. Also, sorry if it does.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 11:45 AM
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Thank you for your friendly reply though my wall of text isnt exactly People's Award material.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 12:18 PM
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The problem with sleeping around with women, I dont know if it's better than with men, I believe it is different and indicative of some deeper issues / personality traits which make finding a stable man (I'll be honest, for me mental and emotional stability are the make or break when it comes to long term partners with whom you can actually reliably build something and have some certainty that it doesnt all go down in flames further down the road when a stimuli, temptation or whatever happen). N…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 12:06 PM
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It seems that problems go deeper, if your partners were passive and you probably unconsciously either chose them to be like that or settled because that was offered on the table at that moment. When there is love and both partners are willing to participate, things work out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 02:48 PM
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Decide whats more important for you and live accordingly. Exciting, casual sex with anyone wont necessarily lead to any growth. Loving a good man and enjoying married life with its consequences (e. g. children) will be transformative to the chore and you leave a living legacy behind. The tingle is just a tingle. Unless you are completely burnt out because you have experimented casually too much, what you get from hetero encounters with a guy by far transcends only the O at all levels, because he…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 02:31 PM
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Ok but was he husband material? Would you recognize one? Would you be attracted to him?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 11:21 PM
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It's not about shaming, it's about assessing how much she values sex and relationships because we do go to bed and come out of said beds with different feelings, desires, outcomes and emotional consequences than men.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 11:04 PM
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You want to believe he truly loves you while he states outright that he will not be monogamous for you. Like, from the get-go he says that. Why would you even want to navigate this? What's in it for you except jealousy and misery? Is he the lay of the century? Will he be a good father to your kids in between screwing other women? Is he someone you would be proud to introduce to your mother and father, would they appreciate he treats you right in between fucking other women? Yeah, sounds like a l…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 02:54 PM
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The vibe I get from the RP women is that they are strong, level headed and determined. It's almost intimidating. The other fem forums exsude chaotic energy by comparison.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 12:22 PM
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Hi, mind sharing a bit about your family? It sounds like you come from a traditional background but where we speak of traditional backgrounds, we also automatically think not only family but extended family also. Where is everyone? Parents, siblings, aunts, cousins. An entire network of people through whom you could enlarge your circle.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:44 PM
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Yes, it is a problem. Actually this is the ENTIRETY of the problem and you know it. It's not that you clicked instantly, we click with a lot of people. It's that you find it very hard to let this go if it bothers your bf and you try to frame him as the unfair one. I think the boyfriend sniffed this correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 12:19 PM
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Aim for fewer hours. It's what I do. Goal is to work 3.5 hours a day. Im at slightly less now but I do some oncalls during the month. This is very minimal imho because I want to homeschool my boys for at least this year still.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 04:34 PM
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It is very easy, very simple to pine and to idealize a man with whom you've only spent a few days of vacation in an exotic location. His best quality from what you describe is that he listened to you like no other. He probably was making you feel unique and interesting and the sun was setting just right above the ocean (or not, if you were in Asia, but you know what I mean). I think you should benefit from this cold shower you just got and regroup and reorient your interests in your more immedia…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 12:04 PM
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Cant imagine who or why would downvote this insightful comment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 11:02 AM
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Forget what men say online, #1. I cant stress this enough. Don't waste a minute on that derailed train of thought about your worth. There's still blue pills a-plenty in the world, God bless them. Make yourself pretty and good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 04:17 PM
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Dresses are the quickest thing to put together. Quicker than coordinating tops with jeans or skirts. I also find you save money with them on the long-run, also space in your closet etc. You're young and our times are extremely forgiving, you dont even need to have the shoes to pull a cute dress off, even a classic sneaker would do nowadays. (I detest those with convoluted, fugly platforms that look like they were designed by toddlers - but that's me; and again, someone young in a dress can get a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 09:29 PM
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Scum of the earth, unless you're a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 06:13 AM
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Why would he pay for you if at the time of the dinner you had been broken up for 5 years and at least the initial dinner wasnt with the scope of woo-ing you back to a relationship? In whichever direction this goes, this wont be you typical dating experience, given your past. Only the date he asked you on will count as a real date..
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 12:02 PM
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You are talking about boys, no men. And you are too young for men, as a teenage. Wait a couple of 3-4 years.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 04:52 PM
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You bring a LOT of expectations in this department, I think you come to realize that: a lot of experidnce is not a blessing high libido is not a gift masturbation addiction fucks you up You could try abstain for a while from all activities amd discover what else there is to sensuality. Not everything between partners reduces to crude anatomy, inches, stopwatches, genital trigonometry and mechanics. Declutter your mind as well from expectations, memories, all that hamster wheeling on autopilot th…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:29 AM
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Yes but egg is only viable 24 hours.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 10:10 AM
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Trust me, I fully understand the problem of sexuality within Christianity and often times I dreamed of menopause lol. Look, considering the things you write about your SO, it looks like he isnt prone to listen to your concerns and needs (I mean if he even leaves the room). There are also more issues going on in the relationship - your psychological and sexual satisfaction - desire for another baby - faulty communication (you two probably have different languages, his being more logical and yours…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 09:15 AM
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Ok.. so as I see it, there's more than one issue at hand (no pun intended, but while we're here..) Anyway, I think it's worth trying to approach him regarding these things as well, which have nothing to do with a 3rd baby. If I were a man and my wife cried herself to sleep after we made love, Id want to know what to do to never cause that again. It's great that you are authentically submissive and traditional but this doesnt give even a HVM a carte blanche to dismiss your needs or to do things t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:59 AM
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Nothing is hopeless at 27 and people mature and change, nobody gets stuck. I commend you for your "baby fever" but dont let it overshadow the already very good things in your life. Regarding sex: find ways to make him finish inside you. Explain that not all intercourse results in pregnancy, there's only 1 day in a month where it has a chance to happen, and it will make you feel more sexually fulfilled as a woman to let the act reach its natural conclusion where it should, not outside your body.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:46 AM
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I think you will get your 3rd and 4ths but it might be after 30, because right now the first 2 seem young and very demanding. Not directly of him, but of you and I think he perceives that, psychologically. Give him time. Im 39 and want a 3rd and working on some health issues to get there, my husband is very loving of me and our twins but he never really understood the push for more and always found reasons to delay. That said, Im not resentful of him as much as I am of myself. They dont really h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:33 AM
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Yeah, I didnt mean it for him, he sounds .. I will just refrain from making any comments about him. But it is worth doing therapy, for both of them, because they are *parents* and have at least a child born in this disturbed and warped mentality, with a high insecure father and an equally insecure mother prone to anorexia. So they either start doing the work now, together or separately, or there's going to be yet at least another member of the family going through this crap in about 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 08:14 AM
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Im so sorry, I had to look up Eugenia Cooney and I just envisioned years of therapy for both of you. Fuck me, this is gonna be a ride. But worth undertaking, for the benefit of everyone involved, most of all, your child's.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 07:29 AM
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It's not you that went wrong, it's him who doesn't seem to be able to go right.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 08:16 PM
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Not sure if he is manipulating you but when you guys start talking to each other in such SCRIPTED LANGUAGE, I just...................................................
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 11:08 AM
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Maybe you're just not used to this dynamic where you dont have to chase anymore and where you can finally relax, where you arent humiliated and rejected anymore. What you have now seems way healthier than what happened before on both parts (and while I almost cannot understand your throwing yourself at him in that manner at first, facing rejection because personally I have reactive desire, I actually kind of find it amazing and the stuff novels and old films are made of, somehow. It definitely t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 10:43 AM
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Whoever downvoted me, tsk tsk tsk. :) She's younger and beautiful. She'll make it. Stop being a jackass incel upset that I dont encourage despair and crying for -- checks notes -- her having "hit the wall" at 25.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 10:57 PM
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No, they dont reflect reality. The real world doesnt work like that. And I say this as an ugly fuck way past expiry date. You'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 10:39 PM
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Even if they're petty - which, maybe - let them be. Im not sure how bringing it up would help anyone. Ive been petty myself sometimes and Im glad nobody noticed or at least had the grace to not address my lack of picture perfect reaction. I had time to recompose and reframe and nobody got hurt in the process.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 07:42 PM
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Lemme just quickly screenshot this gem and glue it to my fridge.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 09:21 PM
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I didnt think of kids at 21 either. I used to think they'd be in a distant future, if ever. You might change a lot in the upcoming years.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 06:26 PM
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I find it profoundly fucked up but not her fault. She has depression and I suspect HEAVY problems from the way she was herself brought up by her parents (and especially her mother). As a woman I think the highest calling is to be a mother to children you love. Whatever rp says about being a wife first. Personally I find it telling that the woman most highly held in regard for millennia was a mother but not a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 08:39 AM
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When he's not head and heels into me. But that was 20 years ago, he was head an heels and we are married. I think that would still be a good indicator today, when someone IS into you, you know because they can't help it and will let you know, by behavior. Wants contact and isnt put off by delaying intimacy. I'm sure there's still plenty of normal men out there, who arent either jaded or anxiety ridden though Im sure the landscape is wildly different nowadays from what it used to be in 2002 when …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 07:31 AM
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About "sparring" (as you aptly call it), I used to do it sometimes as well but only in the presence of men with whom the connection was good on paper but actually felt "off" and where I felt I needed to be defensive during flirts. Could be something there.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/22 05:15 AM
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I dont think all emotional manipulation is always bad. Not all covert speech / contracts are bad. Him being in my frame some of the time - again, not bad, especially for comfort sometimes and especially if he did something I perceived as hurtful. All of these happen in a marriage. We employ degrees of them in seduction too but also in countless social / professional settings. Nobody stays in their husband's frame all the time or asks for permission all the time. I mean okay, some people do but w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 09:08 PM
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Im in my car and cant type much. You are being very hard on yourself. If your house is messy -- declutter ASAP. Find support on the declutter sub. Im sorry but at 50 is not late to get it together but the mindset needs to be different than 20 and 30. Forget about what you know from redpill and manosphere because they are absolutely blind to the female experience and motherhood. Which should be your main focus now. Declutter your home. Get right with God. Be clean, not polished if you cant, have …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 11:19 AM
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Cant write a lot but just here to tell you that I think about this effect a lot, eversince I first found out about it. I'm happy it works so well 💕 especially that it's CRUCIAL for us to like our spouses. (And ofc be liked in return).
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/22 03:12 PM
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No. Im not into oriental meditation and the sex part sounds frankly boring, like we dont have anything else to do than bang, okay sorry, make loooove for a few hours a night. Aint nobody got time for that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 07:14 PM
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Prolonged horniness distracts me from duties and life so hard pass.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 06:17 PM
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Im just here to say Id love to see you at your worst radfem vs your loveliest now :) A before vs after of sorts. Keep up the good work irrespective of him. If he doesnt commit, next him for someone more decidedly into you. I dont know if you realize the radical diff that 90 lb make in a woman's SMV. Maybe it's good that you don't 😅
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 04:22 PM
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Im tall, dark long wavy hair, I use kohl on eyes, wear dresses and sandals or boots in winter, I think I had a full year where I didnt wear pants outside at all, Im curvy and I still feel not feminine enough. Im not very practical but I can be somewhat emotionally detached at times and in relation with almost women I almost always feel somewhat masculine, like you describe. I feel very feminine when I'm with manly men but weak ones annoy me and make me automatically turn "cold" if not downright …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 08:16 PM
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The way I see the tone of your post, you are leading the relationship, you are the more rational one and you are ready to walk away, you remain composed and unfased during crises -- maybe because you're just not that invested anymore. Also seeing that the issues with his mother are in a relatively distant future (2-3 years) and you are just pressing the matter now, in a sort of continuous present, almost sounds like you're looking for dealbreakers. Im sorry for the guy because he's caught betwee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 07:07 AM
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Wau, your last line sure is a plot twist 😅
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:16 PM
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You tell yourself a bunch of stories that may not be rooted in reality. Rating yourself as a 4/10 (I would ask "says who" but thats right, nobody can say that), telling yourself you're a femcel, that nothing can improve your situation etc. And you've been telling yourself these lies for at least 5-6 years. You have next to no social circle. Okay. You cant thrive by yourself, all alone. Nobody can. So: - Where is your family - Where is your best friend - Who is your neighbor - Who is your coworke…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:08 PM
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They are NOT equivalent. Did you and your girls talk about all the hot guys roaming around the Miami carnival?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 07:04 AM
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Congratulations! Why do people not marry while in school though? I postponed my own, back in the day, it was self-understood that graduation predates marriage but why? I try not to be resentful about a certain kind of education I received in my family, that uni comes first and that school & marriage are somehow mutually exclusive, although we already lived together at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 06:18 AM
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My God. I dont know what to tell you and I think by the silence here, everyone else is at a loss for words in the face of such despicable betrayal and double faced psycho. :( You are not a weirdo and I respect you staying true to your values. I hope God and His Mother will work swiftly to heal your soul and your life after such undeserved heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 06:37 PM
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I dont know how old you are but it is your responsibility now to recover that ground. Shifting blame to the boomers isnt doing you any favors and it's a bad look.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 10:46 AM
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High body count doesnt translate to "experience". Not all sex is quality sex. And even if it were. IDGAF about experience gained with other women than me. Im the star of the county down in his life. The end. Men with high numbers always put me off and it was a clear indicator that we arent compatible, he doesnt value connection and physical intimacy in the same way I do. Thankfully my SO and I both have the same body count so I never had to wonder.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 09:12 PM
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In traditional Christianity (trad Catholic, Eastern Orthodox) and I think other protestant denomination yoga is an issue because the poses are part of oriental gods worship. There are articles online for those interested in the topic. Many people dont know this until they go to confession. Many people put emphasis on "but I didnt mean it that way and this is what matters", but I find that having solid theological knowledge and practice with thousands of years of experience behind it is better th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 04:31 PM
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We had this situation for about 3.5 years when our twins were little because I was a higher earner at the time (meanwhile I scaled way back for family purposes and he took the lead financially) and he was a SAHD because we couldnt imagine our kids go to daycare with strangers at such a young age. He was doing - and still does - a great job around the house and I often reaffirmed that it was temporary and for the greater good. He always managed the finances, bills and my cards because I am not cu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 04:21 PM
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You can stand out, if you are good looking, outgoing and agreeable, in any environment. You can go to the park alone (signaling availability) to a picnic by yourself, in a sundress. I dont know if you're into reading but would be a good way to pass the time. Enjoy an ice coffee at a patio, observing the world. Look up events in your area, where you think you can meet the kind of guy you want. Etc. From what Im reading though, it's a ways to go from the version of you who had a violent relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 07:02 AM
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The thing is that if I wear "as little and possible" with the best of intentions (to feel comfy during exercise) in a public space, I still dont get to control what everyone else thinks of my behavior, I cant control how others may (and let's be honest, will) judge me. Plus OP writes that she wants to be noticeable and outgoing by doing workouts at the park and attract attention from good men. Op, honestly: the religious, loyal, stable men I know irl would notice you but won't think you're good …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 05:48 AM
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Sometimes I come across random definitions of HVM that just make my jaw drop, like what?! Is soda a problem in some circles? Then I remember that I dont remember when I last saw my better half drinking one 😅
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 09:25 PM
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All you gotta do as a woman is look good, reasonable weight, long hair, a dress, and be agreeable. Im sure women from 20 to 45 could pull a quality man who would treat her as a lady. The problem with women nowadays is not that they lack attractiveness but that the current lifestyle and mindsets make them overlook very good potential partners. A good partner isnt into hookups, spinning plates or making you feel you must "compete with younger women". I had men like this show interest when I was in…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 05:46 PM
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Why do you even care? Is there anyone in TRP you want to date? If not, who cares what they mean. I read redpill forums to see what things I can employ in my life & relationship to increase my and my SO's quality of life. I wouldnt come anywhere near a trp redditor and their generalisations.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 05:20 PM
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And one more thing: Your confidence will begin to improve after the first 10 lbs lost. Clothes will fit better on you, your gut will be leaner and it you will begin to "feel yourself", it will feel very encouraging to go on. Trust yourself :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 12:15 PM
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It will make a MAJOR impact. I like a lot to read input from men rather than women, as far as relationships and attraction goes, and the consensus is that a fit physique is worlds better than a heavier one. Im working on that myself as we speak in order to spark things up in my marriage. No point in talking about things with my SO and wanting change at a relationship/sex level, if I dont bring some goods to the table. If this sounds toxic, it isnt. He is ok and content with how things are BUT I …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 12:13 PM
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