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abort_retry_flail/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:30 AM
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Their natural insecurities draws them to it like a moth to a flame. They need constant validation for everything they think and do from that poisonous system.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 01:39 PM
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I don't use social media at all. Don't look at it, don't have a profile, and frankly I'm utterly disgusted by it and anybody who uses it. It's pure spiritual and mental poison. It's nothing but narcissism and voyeurism and foments the absolute worst qualities in a person. My ex's life completely revolves around social media. You'd be hard-pressed to find an hour in the day where she wasn't doom scrolling on there and I'm convinced it played a massive part in the end of our marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 01:05 PM
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I think when you add up their biological imperatives, with today's affirming culture and (especially) social media, you'd be hard-pressed to find a single 'moden' woman that isn't like this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 12:37 PM
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Yeah, women are impossibly insecure while simultaneously being enormous narcissists. Their entire value system is 'what can you do for me?' As soon as they find somebody more 'exciting', more ego/status boosting or can provide them with more material luxiluries they're out the door. Hell, even if they just get 'bored' they're out the door. Never think for even a split second that women care about anything other than themselves. They don't 'love' like you do. As long as you always approach them w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 12:06 PM
3

I want to find myself That means they want to fuck a bunch of strangers consequence-free.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:41 AM
3

Right there with you. It was a fun adventure. I learned a lot of life, women and myself, but at the end, the juice isn't worth the squeeze. I'll never attempt a serious relationship, co-habitate, or marriage again. I'll never give somebody that much power to destroy my life, health and happiness again. I've come to the conclusion that 99.9999% of 'modern' women are complete and utter garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:21 AM
2

It will be alright. If you need somebody to talk to that's in the same spot, hit me up.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 12:42 AM
12

Yeah, when I heard about it it was a great day.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:43 PM
24

"The grass is always greener, but just as hard to mow." My ex was sleeping with a married coworker. They both agreed to blow up their marriages at the same time so they can have their life together. Guess who just cheated on her? Ain't karma a bitch?
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:27 PM
15

She didn't mind divorcing me when she knew my father had stage 4 cancer. Fuck her and fuck her family.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 06:51 PM
14

I got lucky, one of my marathin running friends, who is 10 years my younger, and going through her own divorce, started a FwB thing with me the day after I signed the paperwork. It's been nice to have that serotonin, and really helped pull me out of that 'I'm worthless and nobody will ever love me' hole.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 05:33 PM
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I'm doing the exact same thing. Packing up my stuff, having goodbyes with friends. I absolutely love my town, but we built that life here, and every last thing I see or do is going to remind me of our time together. I'm moving 1500 miles from the mountains, down to the beach. New friends, new sights, new adventures.. and a new me. It's frightening and depressing while simultaneously being exciting and joyful. Best of luck in your travels, friend. I'll be on that road soon myself. I don't have an…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 09:34 PM
5

Words to live by. "I think you should stick with your original feeling... I wasn't good enough for you then, and I'm just not good enough for you now."
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:57 PM
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You gotta find a way to break your obsessive thinking about her and find a way to start working on you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:08 PM
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Full agreement. The problem is biological, and it's been exacerbated by a society that encourages, enables and celebrates those selfish, destructive impulses.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:50 AM
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Nope. No folding. Still have people counting on me. I can get it done.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:26 AM
1

I feel like I'd just leave the country.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:22 AM
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I'm deciding to do a reboot somewhere new. I'm leaving Colorado and moving 1500 miles down to the Redneck Riviera. Hanging around the same old place with the same old people doing the same old shit gave me a real "stuck in the mud" feeling. New people, new adventures. Trading the mountains for the beach. Everything feels fresh and possible now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 10:31 PM
2

Apps are a fine way to order a pizza, but for me, I need to meet people through shared hobbies, interests or acquaintances.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 01:05 PM
2

Ahhh, my least favorite part about women.. their seemingly endless insecurity and ravenous need for constant validation.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 12:58 PM
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100%. Another reason why I'd never use 'apps' to meet people. There's no way I'd ever initiate any sort of relationship with a woman that uses that garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 12:55 PM
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I don't touch social media, even on the slightest. I believe it's pure cancer. Nothing but voyeurism and narcissism. It brings out nothing but the absolute worst in people. That said, my ex-wife is a complete social media addict. Her life revolves around it and I know for a fact it has a MASSIVE hand in ending our marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 12:53 PM
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You can add mine to that list.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:47 AM
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Brutal man, absolutely brutal. GD country record I'm stealing that one the next time somebody asks me how I'm doing.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:45 AM
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Yup, I've been busy doing last weekend meet-ups with friends and my dog and I run 7-8 miles a day, 7 days a week.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:42 AM
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I kept the status going, personally, and it didn't help. When we were first together we were two broke as fuck kids living down in the Caribbean. Without a pot to piss in we moved half way across the planet to the US. I was the only one working (fresh in my career). We were sleeping two to a fold-out futon watching 'tv' on a laptop sitting on an empty kitty litter tub, in a tiny little house on the shitty side of town. I worked my ass off, staring from a green IT admin to one hell of an architec…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 01:33 PM
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I vastly prefer solo travels. I'm not subject to anybody else's whims or complaints. That allows me to have the adventures and side quests that I personally want to do. That and I make acquqintces with random strangers really well, so there's always a 'single serving friend' to chat with. If you do San Diego, check out staying on Coronado Island. Really great hotels, quaint beaches, parks, great running, diners, and stuff to do, with the big city still a quick drive over the bridge. Taco Tuesday…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 08:10 PM
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Honesty Loyalty Self-sacrifice Rare traits to find in a modern woman.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 02:55 PM
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My wife and I are splitting about $14M in assets and our collective legal bill is about $20k.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 02:42 AM
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Fuck I loved our house. I had the cash to pay out the equity. I was here alone with my dog for two weeks after the initial split thinking it was what I wanted and I just couldn't do it. Everything was a memory, every door, every floor, every last inch. There was no way I would ever heal living in that place. I had to hit reset. We're selling it and I'm moving 1500 miles away. Fuck I miss that house, but it wasn't healthy holding on to it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 10:20 PM
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If you're fit and have your shit together it's great.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:43 AM
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You're a young man. You've got another half a century left. There's still a lifetime of love and adventure waiting for you. Turn the page on what was and start building what can be. In time you'll see this as a distant, painful lesson that built you into a significantly better and more resilient man.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 12:56 PM
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Recovery isn't linear. It's a long series of, sometimes extreme, ups and downs. You hit a down, my friend. All you can do is stay the course, keep active, and power through. Maybe you need a holiday abroad? Fresh scenery, fresh activities, and maybe some inspiration? A week at the beach, a dip in the salt water, some drinks with umbrellas and new people to talk to has shaken me out of that spot before.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 12:44 PM
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When I start getting in my own head I run and work out. It's hard to worry about your divorce when you're exhausted and focusing on your breathing, pace and form. My advice, exercise till it hurts. It's an magical anti-depressant, the exertion gives you the best sleep of your life and you'll look better to spike that self esteem. Depression FEEDS on sedentary lifestyles, avoidance, and solitude. It'll continue to get worse until you do something drastic to break that cycle.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 02:57 AM
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Spectacular advice. I'd also add 'alcohol doesn't solve problems, only make them worse.'
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 11:29 PM
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The guy that she cheated on you with dumped her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:53 PM
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People on these apps are almost completely garbage human beings. Volunteer, find a club, go to church, get out and have hobbies, you'll meet people. The people on the apps are deranged narcissts and not worth a minute of your time. I know it gets lonely, but you're not going to find happiness with these apps. Just people that will lie and cheat, with zero conscience.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 02:22 AM
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Not an app man, myself. I like meeting people in the meat space. I feel like most, if not all, women on there are extremely low quality people.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:14 PM
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Yup, I realize that one now. Frankly, I'm finished with it. I'll casually date or FwB, but I'm NEVER doing the relationship/co-habitation/marriage thing ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 02:09 AM
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Yup, mine was 20.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:56 AM
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WWS Yeah, now that I've read that, that's exactly it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:55 AM
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just time for another phase in life on this third rock from our sun. Bingo man, gotta keep moving forward. I'm moving out-of-town and hitting reset. I'm genuinely excited for what's next.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:51 AM
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I just had dinner with her this evening to talk about the house sale and some other financial shit. It's been 100% amicable, 50/50 split, no support, no kids, we barely even laywer-ed up, and I keep the dog. but I could see the 'holy shit I just ruined my life' look in her eyes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:43 AM
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they monkey branched to another guy already 100%
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:41 AM
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Yup, same exact thing here. 20 years together. Beautiful home. Financially well-off. Plenty of intimacy and love. Zero abuse, rarely ever a disagreement. Two careers, dog, vacations, shared hobbies, fiends, etc etc. Everything you'd want, or so I thought. At 46 I got the "the stability of the marriage is suffocating" and "I want that white-hot passion of dating and being 21 again". The woman can't fathom how love changes over the decades, and that financial and emotional security is extraordinar…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 01:09 AM
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Thanks, that gave me a good laugh.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 10:19 PM
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Protip: don't have relationships with married people going though a divorce. Most everybody I've seen needs a year+ alone before they're ready to dip their toes jnto a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 08:36 PM
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I'll never put myself in a position where a woman has the ability to devastate my life like this. I'll casually date or do the occasional FwB thing, but relationships/co-habitation/marriage is 110% off the books. I did it once and just don't need it again. I'd rather die alone than hang myself out to suffer like that again. The overwhelming majority of women are just supremely nascisstic/selfish creatures. They don't possess the ability to understand honor, loyalty or vows. The moment they're "b…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 07:49 PM
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46 year old man here that has a FwB relationship with a 34 year-old marathon runner. No drama, no bullshit, just a date or two a month, zero co-habitation and sex 3+ times a week. What a wonderful change from marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 07:19 PM
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Full agreement. If you're not an abusive alcoholic and divorce "came out of the blue", 100% guaranteed she's been fucking somebody else for months.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 04:19 PM
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I would never touch the apps (46m). I like to meet people in the real world. Running, dog parks, beach trips, even the occasional bar. Join a club, heck, I even started going to church to meet women. Everybody on those apps is pure garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:33 PM
6

Going to court is never a fun experience.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 02:48 AM
5

why do divorces cost so much? Because they're worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 12:54 PM
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left because they wanted to No doubt. I'm not naive enough to chalk it all up to social media, but I think you underestimate just how easily people can be manipulated by social media and the impact it can have on their thinking. It's gasoline on a camp fire. the big conspiracy is 'no fault divorce' Full agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 03:20 AM
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Same exact experience.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 03:10 AM
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100% it had an impact. I know my ex was an absolute slave to social media, tik toks, and online validation. She swallowed the whole 'girlboss, strong independent woman don't need to man, divorce him girlfriend you deserve that young, punch-drunk passion after 20 years of marriage' bullshit that social media drip-fed her. She hit that perimenopausal mid-life crisis, and despite having degenerative MS and a dedicated, loving partner that was going to support and care for her to the bitter end she …
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 03:05 AM
1

Yeah man, prioritize the kid. Things will get better when you stop caring about what your ex is doing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:44 AM
1

The grass is always greener, but just as tough to mow.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 09:22 PM
3

My experience with women, the ONLY thing they care about is getting fucked. Every single other thing in their lives can be pure dogshit and as long as they're getting railed hard on the reg they'll be blissfully happy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 07:25 PM
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Did AI write this?
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 12:53 PM
3

Make friends. Stay busy. Get out of your old comfort zone (no rules any more, man), and exercise. Hobbies. I have a cornhole league in the spring/summer. In the fall/winter I have friends over every other Sunday for football, wings and beers. I read, I love cinema, I garden, I keep bees, I cook, I hike/camp, I compete in chili cook-offs, make ice cream, and all sorts of odd things. Daily exercise consists of running my German Shepherd 8-9 miles a day and lifting. For me, it's been huge that when…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 09:22 PM
5

It gets better. Hang in there friend.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 08:40 PM
5

Tear off the band aid. The sooner it's done the sooner the healing starts.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 05:18 PM
1

Just like reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:25 AM
2

Yeah, that was fucking exhausting.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:02 AM
1

Shit, all that stuff was my favorite. I liked decorating the house for the holiday/season. That's one thing I really, really miss.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:01 AM
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There's no such thing as the RIGHT person. Two people change so much in a lifetime together that it's almost impossible to spend a lifetime together.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 03:36 AM
1

Simply not worth it. It's all just a fairytale that ends in tragedy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 03:33 AM
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I'm on month 2. I'm already a marathon runner, no hard drugs or alcohol, eat well, meditation for years, ect. I've got friends and hobbies outside of our friend group. I'm not sure what else to improve, but I feel like I still need to do something.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 03:29 AM
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