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Question For Womenabouttodiv/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:11 PM
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Discussionabouttodiv/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:24 PM
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I believe I failed a comfort test that I misidentified as a compliance test. Nah, you are overthinking. I was asked to get up and get a drink to which I smiled at her and didn’t move immediately. Shit test, NOT shitty comfort test “you should have just told me to bugger off if you didn’t want to get me one’. lol (a fair comment) No man, not a fair comment, a shit test. broken record that I didn’t ignore ignore but can see how it may have looked that way. Weak, realised where I went wrong lol
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:32 PM
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I am really confused, weren't you the guy that was about to dump his wife? When I was about to get divorced, I was knee deep in night game. You seem to be playing house
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:25 PM
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the antidote to female hypergamy is male hypergamy. Because women's value reduce over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:02 AM
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Don't get married, if the woman loves you, she will stay. If she is after beta bux she will leave you as a lost cause and find other sucker. Its pretty simple really, marriage is something that gives woman right over your money. If she is willing to forgo that right, then she wants you for you. Because she could easily find another man to marry her if she is not hedious
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:01 AM
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Its a fair exchange of value, if you want services of govt like roads, police, firefighter etc that let you work and earn money then you need to pay the govt. Now if you dont work then govt cant do jack shit really, you wont be able to afford ps5 but you will survive on food banks and such. Our society functions on the premise that people in general wants to have a home, a car etc and dont want to live on the streets with barely enough food.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:14 AM
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We are entitled via morality to decent treatment from other beings No we are not, I think thats where you make a mistake, we are not entitled to literally anything there are generally social consequences. Maybe but social consequences are not that much of a threat in today's world as people can always get a new social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:31 PM
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I dont think he is gonna care if you dont fuck him, given that you already werent fucking him thats why he is sleeping with other women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:04 PM
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To me, “fidelity” means being loyal to your partner, supporting them, and acting in a way to preserve their trust and happiness, because when you love someone, you’re made happier when they’re happy. And you would still not be entitled to it, because we are not entitled to anything no matter what
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:52 PM
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It’s when men stop making an effort with her not their looks. Thats where I disagree with you, Looks matter a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:50 PM
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And thats where we disagree, statistics are poor markers. If u tell me that once a week is reasonable I would tell you to kick rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:44 PM
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Implicit requirement means that it is demanded. Its not demanded, its the truth. Its not a demand any more than gravity is demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:42 PM
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Even if “fidelity” for you looks like non monogamy within relationships Its not, fidelity is by definition monogamy, its just that no one is entitled to it Hurting people is immoral Immoral but not necessarily illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:35 PM
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equitable This single word is secret to riches of many divorce lawyers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:33 PM
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why a woman should stick to him instead of getting it from someone else? She should not. But she is not entitled to it. Because she is not entitled to anything
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:31 PM
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they are reasonable? thats the thing, who decides what is reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:27 PM
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You said that you should leave her. Did I? I answered in a very specific context. Let me spell it out for you. You said Instead of “demanding” she meet your needs I said, never said to demand it, its already a implicit requirement, And thats true, if she does not meet your needs she should be replaced. But I never said to demand it or not meet her needs Meaning If your needs arent met, even when its because her needs arent met, you should leave her instead of communicating. So you just straight …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:24 PM
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I want my needs to be met but I dont care about my partners needs. Oh did I say to not care for partners needs? I must have amnesia Cause men who women dont want to have sex with have women lining up to them. There is a difference between women and a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:15 PM
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I think that married people are entitled to fidelity from their partners, but not necessarily sex. Thats where we disagree, married people are NOT entitled to fidelity. Its more of a gift
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:13 PM
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Alright spell it out for me, what are the obligations of a man in marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:09 PM
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She has been trolling here, making shit up, like straight up lies. I dont think she missed the "/s", she doesnt care to engage in good faith
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:07 PM
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A man who needs it all the time to his wife's detriment is failing in that virtue and failing her as well. How do you propose a balance is created, where man does not get neglected and wife does not get "detrimented"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:04 PM
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Every rejection is a slice in a death by a thousand cuts. Thats too dramatic for my taste, rejections never really affected me personally, But yes, relationship will get weaker with every rejection but then again I dont particularly get attached to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:03 PM
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Like what, only thing marriage obligates is equitable partition of assets if divorce happens, rest is optional
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:51 PM
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Make your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:50 PM
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the lack of sex is a symptom of a larger problem, but not the problem itself I do agree that db is sign of larger problem but it is in itself a big problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:47 PM
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The fact that someone refuses to perform an obligation does not mean they don't have an obligation. Obligation that cant be enforced is a guideline. Like the elephants in India who are tied to pole by a flimsy rope. When they were young they were tied by shackles so they cant run away. Now when they are adults they dont even try to run because they think they cant. These obligations are just illusion that people can choose not to follow
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:45 PM
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Yet as a man, you are still obligated to do all the things your wife expects of you Well actually no, I mean they can tell you to do it, and you can just not do it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:36 PM
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Like prisoner's dilemma
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:35 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:34 PM
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are you saying you have never been able to make one feel that? Oh hello Cathy Newman, nice to see you here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:33 PM
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you are saying a man should be expecting her to always say yes to sex. sure Oh am I saying that, damn really. Wow I never knew I can say something without saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:31 PM
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Now now, no need to make things sexual,
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:28 PM
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I think its more that men lose their attractiveness. If they maintain it, then it wont be problem but then again relationships tend to make people lazy and comfortable. If men cant be comfortable and get a beer belly then they will have higher standard for their partners so their wives cant get comfortable or they will be replaced. There is a saying "getting old and fat together", unfortunately thats not an option if you want vibrant sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:27 PM
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Female orgasm is a liberal myth that needs more study /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:22 PM
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Nope, they are not owed, its just words that people put importance to because they are suckers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:22 PM
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because if a random woman said no to sex then its a no forever but a no from wife cant be forever. wife is special because the no from her isnt forever. I mean I have gamed women in bars who rejected me then fucked me after few weeks so no is not forever for anyone. what im saying is women SHOULD want sex from husband Thats the disagreement we have, Thats not something man can expect from his wife because he cant control her. Look it from the man's perspective. So technically his wife is on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:20 PM
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Instead of “demanding” she meet your needs I never said to demand it, its already a implicit requirement, either she meets the needs or she is replaced. Demanding is just redundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:11 PM
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But why exactly did you feel the need to tell me that. I assume that you understand I was replying to another commentator, and I was talking in a particular context and I was using the "job" thing to make a point about something different. Then get your shit together and get a good job. Idk what else to tell you. You just peeked my curiosity, why did you feel the need to tell me, that. I was not asking you to tell me anything. I was not moaning about "job". I was replying to other commentator th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:10 PM
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Long-term relationships aren't just about sex. Why didnt you eliminate the word "just"? Because you know that sex is part of the deal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:00 PM
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Can you explain your comment or why did you felt the need to write it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:59 PM
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Sex isn’t owed to anyone, Nothing is owed to anyone,
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:58 PM
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But the way you're talking about sex makes it sound like something wife gives to her huband than something they do together which is really off putting and make it sound like the problem is something else other than sex. I am saying that wife is not different from a random woman, We dont expect women we meet at bar to fuck us, we need to make sure that she enjoy time with us etc. I think my question is if the same effort is required with wife vs a random woman at bar what makes wife more special…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:55 PM
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Well, most men here claim they want love, not transactionalism But I am not talking about love They also claim sex is hard to get No its not, women sell it for like 20 dollars. Its just that men want to feel desired. Which is stupid really. And divorce is also expensive, at least in practice Divorce is expensive. thats true. I am not sure how women feel about their husbands only staying with them because its expensive to leave. I guess women dont have that big ego and are okay with it. Men shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:48 PM
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sex is apparently hard for men to come by There is a difference between skinny fat 22 yr old man who lives in parents basement and a married man who has a good job. His wife did fuck him even if it was for getting his commitment, he sure can find another woman to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:37 PM
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Maybe I should write a post here with a proposal for it to see how well it's perceived.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 02:52 AM
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Nope when women are horny they fuck someone, not necessarily you. Maybe that someone is a vibrator. Look man I don't know why are you stalking me. If you don't agree with me you don't agree with me. Make a post about your theory tell us your theory, the actionable advice you derived from that theory, the field report where you tested it, and results so that we learn something from it. Mindless debate is not something I care to do
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 02:50 AM
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Men on r/marriedredpill have a solid framework to work through it and they still struggle with STFU. So dont be hard on yourself its a process. I think redpillwomen should have some kind of OYS weekly post like that on marriedredpill. Its a process and women tend to have less resources and structured guidance to work through their issues
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:38 PM
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oh definitely, its a lot less work to game them. Not for LTR though, sometimes we just need to relax and a woman who knows when to shut up comes in handy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:50 AM
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you seem to have it all figured out, good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 06:54 PM
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. Sex with the wife shouldn’t be this hard Shoulda woulda coulda make my wife a plate If she is married to you, you cant make her your plate, you will be the loser whose wife is someone else's plate. Dude, your feelz are hurt because your wife is not attracted to you. Get over it. Do what you want, its your life. Just dont be so pathetic to think that you gonna get any sort of validation from me. If you want my permission to divorce her, Permission Granted. I can sit here and psychoanalyze you a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 06:43 PM
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Bite the bullet, divorce and move on. Lead the way. No one is stopping you
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 02:54 PM
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Then a little positive reinforcement will help her morale. A good hug will go a long way. She knows you will leave her if she neglects you so you dont need to lie to her that you need her. Just give her positive affirmations for things she accomplished and how you are certain that she will not let you down. In this way she will find it more desirable to operate in ur frame
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 01:59 PM
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Attractive women shit test more, because they have more options. Men want attractive women. These women tend to act like bitch to weed out Low Value men or weak men. Men dont find bitchy women attractive, its just that attractive women are generally bitch to men when they are in a "courting situation"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:53 AM
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Men already has that superpower its called the redpill . Redpill gives men power and motivation to replace their partner if she can give him future he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:50 AM
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Initiating sex for validation just to see "where I stand". Although I do not care if I was to be shot down but when I can close the deal, yes it seems to stroke the ego. Now before I initiate I ask myself am I really horny or do I just want to feel better? Half of the time it seems to be the latter. Do you feel good about having sex or do you feel good about her saying yes to sex. If its the latter, then either you are gonna dread the time you initiate or you gonna dread messing up sex because p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:43 AM
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my wife ended up asking me to say "I need you". It was a comfort test, it was not a main event, it was not a shitty comfort test. Her: "How can you say you don't need me when I need you?" Yup comfort test Me: "because I don't need you. I need air, I need water; it doesn't mean I love them or choose to keep them around." Not great, Her: "Saying that just makes me feel so replaceable." Comfort test Me: "I don't need anyone else, I've worked hard to make sure of that. I choose to keep you around be…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:32 AM
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This criticism was a hit to my ego, I was being attacked on not being a good husband and father, two roles I value a lot. And as I said before, whenever someone tells me I'm something, I believe them, thus putting me into their frame. So, as I was laying in bed I took a breath and consciously dropped my ego. I can't explain how I did it, but I just make the feeling go away Its gonna happen again, bad mental models are not that easy to change. Thing is though MRP or game in general is highly inco…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:18 AM
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What did I do? I try to STFU, but the amount of mutiny I am witnessing, when I don’t strike hard makes me wonder what the right strategy is. I should know by now that getting upset and being unattractive is not an option. Still in the moment, it seems like the only option to me. I need to just leave more often, when I am experiencing disrespectful behavior. STFU is "last resort" when gaming. It should not be the default Saturday night I went out (see under social) and got some minor shit-tests a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 05:11 PM
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I’ll work on getting this information to see if I can escalate instead of assuming they’re together and bailing. Why? game her anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:54 PM
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Twice over the past couple weeks I had performance anxiety and could not stay hard midway through sex. body doesnt lie. mind has a habit of bullshitting itself, but body tell it as is
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:51 PM
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I have a real gut now after the holiday which sucks. your fault She asked me to call as a man because they would leave her alone when they realized that they have been supposedly been talking to a dude. While I did help her, I didn't help her right away. I asked her questions about this caller, how it started, and ways to avoid it in the future (like just blocking unknown numbers depending on the message). What she really wanted, and has wanted before in our relationship too, is immediate suppor…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:46 PM
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well if that's true then you are a lucky one. Get out of your wife's frame, she has stopped adding value to your life. If divorce is happening, make is quick and inexpensive as possible. Then find a woman who can add value to your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:45 PM
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Approach daily. Just say whatever comes to mind. Nope, there is no point going blind. You need to have a framework for how you approach so that you can figure out what mistakes you made.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:36 PM
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all my thoughts are preoccupied with securing a job and studies this and gym, thats it, lose your weight and get a job. there is no point chasing pussy right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:34 PM
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I pushed my ex to follow up with her paralegal and told her that if this is what she wants, I will sign it. Fuck you, you will. You are at war, divorce is not a joke. This is not time feeling sorry for yourself. Start building a war chest and stop egging your soon to be ex to escalate things before you are ready. Dude, your post reek of self loathing. Its not time to play victim, this is not a place where you self destruct. Its time for you to start taking your life seriously
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:31 PM
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Tuesday pushed through resistance. Got starfished. LMR is generally a sign of weak game. Friday over lunch my wife confided that she is stressed out by how often I want sex. I just listened. Shit test I said thank you for telling me how she felt. Aaaand you failed the shit test Then she basically asked me (in subcommunication) to stop initiating so often. Not surprising, you failed the shit test She immediately went full bitch mode. Shit test She came to the kitchen to further explain to me how …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:23 PM
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My problem is that I’m working 7 days a week starting the day from 9 am to 11 pm but my productivity is low. On some days I was too lazy and took too many breaks during the day, sometimes to just lay in bed. 14 hours a day, 7 days a week will mess you up. Now if you are serious about working so much then prepare the list of goals to complete for next day and have a go at them. It will stop the fuckarountaitis and you may be able to actually enjoy life after work Initiations (day 3) Stronger the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:05 PM
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I am still frustrated with the ongoing sex life and she seems to be too. My approach to increase dominace doesn't work so far (or not as quickly as I want to) as my attempts are blocked. In this subreddit there is always a tagline, "there are no shortcuts". Turns out for sex there is a "shortcut" Stats: HackSQ 25, BP 35, OHP 20, BC 22.5 (in kg, 2x6-8 1x5+) By fixing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 03:33 PM
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BPD girlfriend or wife. GTFO there is no other support possible. Even if you need to leave your kids, get out. BPDs are not to be messed with in this climate
/r/MensRights08/01/24 02:00 PM
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This new criminal code will be challenged in courts for years to come. The language in this particular law is very problematic because its so vague. I guess we will have to see how courts interpret it
/r/MensRights08/01/24 01:56 PM
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hurts feelz tho
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 11:01 AM
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Dude, I can go overt because I can handle shit tests. And I can handle comfort tests after going overt. It would be dlv if i was not willing to fuck that other woman and was just using it to manipulate her. I don't need to manipulate her, I can just fuck this other woman. I am not negotiating desire because I am desirable. I am not giving her ultimatum to fuck me or doing chores in exchange of sex. I can just fuck other women if she does not fuck me. I don't give a fuck if she fucks me, she know…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/24 05:51 PM
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How to game your wife? Fine I am in a good mood so why the fuck not. Disclaimer, anyone can watch Jackie Chan on TV, that does not mean you know Kung Fu so if you fuck up dont blame me. I am giving you nuclear codes, if it blows up on you, dont come crying to me. Emotions make women horny. (Also ovulation) Attraction makes horny women want to fuck you. Comfort makes women actually fuck you. Lets assumes the woman is horny for a moment, what will she do? she will shit test you to see whether you …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/24 04:23 PM
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nah men and women should do whatever the fuck they want and let the society erode, let kids be fatherless, let families be broken, let it all burn so that this sham end once and for all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 01:39 PM
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Married or not married rules of attraction are always the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:50 PM
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I made my own assumptions, I admit Oh yes, now figure out why did you feel the need to make assumptions. Something something, misandry something
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:34 PM
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Maybe she pulled away to give you space to process your brother's death or maybe she didn’t want to use sex as a fake band-aid for you to cover your emotions? Nah, if woman wants sex, she will have sex. Women just dont want to fuck mentally weak men. Its not about sex, its about desire that they show. We can tell the difference is a way women approach us, hug us etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:33 PM
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Thing is, women do not want to fuck weak men, thats why when you show weakness, shit tests began. That's the redpill, thats why its a bitter pill to swallow. Past doesnt matter, that fact that you are married doesnt matter, the fact that you work 10 hours a day for her to be sahm does not matter. If you are not mentally strong enough to pass her shit tests, she will lose attraction. But then again, women get old and lose their value. With time men realize that with amount of effort they need to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:28 PM
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Lifelong monogamy was designed for women. Women get old and their value decrease. Thats why women push for marriage so much. Its to make it difficult for men to leave them. Things are changing, "she is not yours, its your turn" is not a catchy line, its the truth. Who is at the losing side of things, no one really, its just open market. people form relationship with people who match their value. A middle aged woman who was left for younger model was just not valuable enough for the man. She just…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:49 PM
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Pompous guys who feel the need to compensate for their insecurities by being loud and obnoxious have always existed. I dont see how you feel that you discovered something profound. Take women for example. When women are faced with hardship scared little girl comes out and all the bullshit about strong independent women go out of window. Then they go into "therapy industrial complex" and are never able to get out. Because they use therapy to sooth themselves, it makes them feel somehow in control…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:40 PM
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Standards are direct function of value, Take me for example, I would never have married my ex-wife if I was, what I am now, I used to be skinny fat dude with no social skills. Now I am muscular with ability to find any woman I want. Even my ex knew that her time was over before I divorced her. Same with woman, if she is more valuable, she will have high standards, if she is getting older her standards will reduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:17 AM
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No the definition of abuse is getting wider and vaguer. A man forgetting to load the dishwasher is called abuse nowadays. Men wanting sex in marriage is abuse nowadays. Only way to figure out whether its abuse or not is to throw the whole relationship in open dating market. That's where all the delusions and entitlement ends. If a woman who is SAHM and complains that man does not do 50-50 housework is thrown in open market, thats when she gets to judge her real value. When she has to support her…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:02 AM
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Society does not care if a woman is a side chick. women care themselves if they are side chicks and other main chick is getting all the resources. Main chick cares because her partner can get other woman preggo and she gets his resources "Are we dating the same guy" is facebook group created by women themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 06:50 AM
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their oatmeal was too runny too much milk, usually I put a whole banana but you left 1/3 of it unused. Shit test, trick is to not give a fuck. Reply with agree and amplify. Something like "yes runny oatmeal will make them run faster, why do you not want them to run faster, that's not very nice" then she will argue back, misconstrue her words again until she realize that you are fucking with her idiotic advice. you want your kids to suffer and starve. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. Dis…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 04:25 AM
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sooth my brain or remain in this stage of delusion? its not delusion, your brain is doing whats its designed to do, seek comfort. It is seeking comfort in the fact that you found redpill so there is a way out of this mess you have created from urself. Problem is that this mess is not gonna sort itself out, you gonna have to put in hard work. Its not time to feel relieved or become complacent, its time to put in work. You are 35yo, this is it, its not the time to take it easy. A man's most precio…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 03:36 PM
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I'm not prepared for the game aspect yet. Dude you are gonna be single soon, redpill is a sexual strategy, get ball rolling on game
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 02:52 PM
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You dont owe her anything. From now on, make a decision keeping that into mind
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 02:49 PM
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I don't get much sex (last time was 6 weeks ago with the therapist), So your sex therapist is actually a prostitute, who gives you lessons on how to please a woman Do I push myself to do it anyway even if I'm not feeling like doing so YES, push yourself to approach women, game women. Trust me, if you dont consent you dont HAVE to HAVE sex. So dont be afraid that a woman will fall on your dick when you are not in the mood. even if I didn't feel like it, would I feel better? Unlikely, you have big…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 11:30 AM
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Kissing and grabbing my dick no kissing the dick, aww All in all I think my take away is the fact that I could get dates if ever needed in the future. Of course you can, your wife chose you, she doesnt fuck you but she did choose you. I think many men forget this simple fact. Thats why they let the relationship deteriorate. There is always a sense of imposter syndrome, that they got their wife is a fluke. Its the case with you doesnt it, thats why you are dragging your feet. You want reassurance…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 11:14 AM
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Its not the wife issue, its the leadership issue. You have to lead in order for others to trust you enough to let you lead. There is no easy fix here OP, you let her wear pants in relationship, she will not give up control so easily even though she hates taking the "mental load" and nag. you need to do a hostile takeover and that requires passing countless shit tests thrown at you So make a plan, lead, pass shit test, rinse repeat
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 11:01 AM
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Told my GF that I am not ready to propose. What I dont understand is, why are you not fucking other women by now? Tears and snot were everywhere. You like that didnt you, your dear gf being affected by you. It makes you feel important, feel wanted. Dude call me kink-shamer but snots and tears can not replace sex Asking to delete all social media. (Successfully done) Oh boy Helping her find her hobby- Organizing a weekly lunch to discuss problems issues- Next Step: Getting her to track her calori…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:57 AM
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My interactions with people can never be on coast (at least not interactions I find meaningful) because frame will get pushed, and mindless interactions make it difficult to recalibrate to someone’s shit test. Mind explaining it, in the most excruciating detail you could.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:52 AM
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I told her that complaining and whining aren't working for her so maybe she should try something else. you dont have to get defensive all the time.(especially with a 3 month old daughter wtf) You are suffering from some weird form of [Napoleon Complex(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_complex)]. So you have to always get defensive. Thing is OP Napoleon was the most intelligent and capable military strategist. Robert Greene still has a raging hard on for him. BUT he lost, do you know why? Be…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:43 AM
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While things are improving between her and I, the obstacle between us is still lack of a confident, positive, and masculine frame Why hide the juicy details? More specifically what made you write those three words?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:27 AM
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(weighed 337 lbs last Tuesday). One meal a day will fix the fat issue very fast given that you can handle it. I know my numbers are shit but im okay with that as long as they're heading in the right direction You dont need gym to lose fat though. I have psoriatic arthritis I have heard great things about keto with regards to inflammatory diseases. Keto also helps with weight loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:24 AM
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I will use every rep of a new weight and every gram of muscle as my new motivation and validation. Calm down, there is no need for grand declarations to sooth your troubled brain. You are just frustrated and that's fine. Best way to relieve frustration is facing the truth head on and act with as much intensity as you can without expecting immediate result. You are about to face very dark thoughts and they WILL catch you off guard if you are careless. Trick is to push through them, and do whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 10:14 AM
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I do wonder if I should continue posting here Lets see Squat: 155 lbs 3x5 DL: 185 lbs 3x5 Bench: 135 lbs 3x5 OHP: 80 lbs 3x5 Rows: 155 lbs 3x5 This I’m really trying to experience my emotions without necessarily acting on them, like sadness, anxiety, anger and jealousy. I figured out that I don’t want to be alone and if I am, then others will see me as a loser. This is validation seeking behavior. I also realized that I have a covert contract with life, in that if I constantly anticipate terribl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 09:39 AM
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Shit tests are like her foreplay. They are inevitable
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 09:33 AM
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Women have been a second priority As they should be I don’t really want to be the asshole Think of it this way, you are not being an asshole, you are giving them feels that they want, like soap opera. My OLD profile and demeanor on initial meets both need improvement, which is making finding new women seem more like work than it should be I donno man, narcissist in me, loves to improve my profiles because I see it as a favor to others, kinda like kings making their own statues I am fighting cogn…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 09:27 AM
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