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Marriage/ChildrenabramN/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:44 PM
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GeneralabramN/r/MensRights19/05/24 05:42 PM
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False AccusationabramN/r/MensRights15/07/24 08:21 PM
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DiscriminationabramN/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:41 PM
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GeneralabramN/r/MensRights20/06/25 10:39 PM
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GeneralabramN/r/MensRights01/11/24 04:07 PM
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GeneralabramN/r/MensRights08/05/24 03:00 PM
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abramN/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 02:59 PM
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GeneralabramN/r/MensRights21/04/21 09:56 PM
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Married Red PillabramN/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 07:32 PM
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Do the conditions of the settlement prevent you from talking or writing about it? Write a book about it, or an op-ed for the NY Times or something. Get your story out there, in the hope that more people will become aware of the pain and suffering that accompanies a false accusation.
/r/MensRights11/07/26 09:43 PM
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https://www.foxnews.com/outkick-analysis/new-york-times-blames-misogyny-fans-supergirl-flop-disastrous-opening-weekend "The Times also blamed the "largely male" fanbase for their "misogyny.""
/r/MensRights02/07/26 12:22 AM
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because we let them?
/r/MensRights19/05/26 09:45 PM
1

a life spent doing what you love is a great life indeed.
/r/MensRights07/05/26 08:34 PM
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yup women have been redefining their roles in society (or even downright rejecting them) - men need to do the same and start questioning their own roles.
/r/MensRights14/04/26 07:36 PM
9

makes me think of Dead Poets Society - who's better at conforming?!?
/r/MensRights08/04/26 03:29 PM
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So I think women have made tremendous strides in achieving parity with men in a lot of different ways which is great. I also think that women have used this opportunity to shed a lot of their adherence to societal gender norms, also fine but could be abused. Men are not adapting, at least not adapting in a way that is necessarily in their own self interest. We are not questioning the social norms that govern us, and we judge other men harshly who don't conform. And, some harsh truth time. Women …
/r/MensRights25/03/26 02:01 AM
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"but, but, I was just...really...MAD"
/r/MensRights04/02/26 03:05 PM
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the lesson here - keep records of all interactions with a women especially if you haven't known them for long.
/r/MensRights20/01/26 03:40 PM
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my mom (still married to my dad) - took my girlfriend aside when she caught us making out, and gave her a lecture on her "pearl" (virginity) and how men are only after one thing. My own mom.
/r/MensRights16/01/26 04:38 PM
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not when a child is involved - when child support/custody is in question, the needs of the child come first. It's not about laziness or avoiding responsibility, it's about making sure this blameless child is not punished because their parents split up.
/r/MensRights14/01/26 07:22 PM
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Agreed with both of you - I think there's a lot of built-in societal friction to men rejecting others' (especially women's) expectations. Hell, many men were raised by women, so feel like they have to give women additional deference because that's how they were raised. Men need to break that cycle and invent a new role for themselves in this society. Even if that means angering some women.
/r/MensRights26/11/25 03:59 PM
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It's a legitimate question. But I really think that's on men now to figure it out for themselves. Women have been redefining their role in society, why can't we do the same? Otherwise we remain stuck in these roles that maybe aren't even relevant anymore.
/r/MensRights24/11/25 12:06 AM
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This is great to see. We need more sensible people like yourself who speak out if they see this injustice, online or IRL. I think this is also a good reminder for men to advocate for themselves,to be comfortable with deciding on their own values and boundaries, and to stand firm in the face of mockery or anger for even having these boundaries.
/r/MensRights20/11/25 02:14 AM
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"I don't want to hear any complaints!" "oh yeah father of the year" "grow some balls" "suck it up"
/r/MensRights14/11/25 04:36 PM
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oh yeah, if you're married you have the proverbial sword of Damocles over your head - what's going to anger or disappoint them today?
/r/MensRights14/11/25 04:03 PM
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it keeps happening because men keep falling for it. Male/female partnerships do not come with legally binding behavioral strictures - there are laws around child support and not beating your partner, etc, but that's not what I'm referring to. Guys can expect their wife to cook, clean, etc all they want, and she can get angry and refuse all she wants. Women can tell their guy they want him to clean the toilets all they want, and he can refuse if he so desires. The problem is that men have been co…
/r/MensRights06/11/25 07:26 PM
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My mom always tells this story of her older sister eloping at 16, so her father set a rule for all the other daughters - they could not date one man at a time - they had to rotate. So this is not necessarily a bad rule to follow, and can be good advice - for BOTH sexes - to make sure folks don't get oneitis too early in a relationship, or too early in their life for that matter. But this idea that only women should have that "right" - uh, both males and females can decide to date however many pe…
/r/MensRights28/10/25 06:00 PM
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Gotta optimize the productive time. Men are living longer so can work longer for society.
/r/MensRights19/10/25 06:40 PM
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it's related to the environment they're in, but yes. I'll give you a couple examples - my 9 year old son is at public school and some of his friends and he had just sat down at the last available table. Some girls come around and complain to staff and they end up getting the boys ejected so the girls could use the table. My 5 year old son was learning new words and one of them was "penis" so he draws pictures of literal triangles that he tells some girls are penises. Everyone was laughing except…
/r/MensRights09/07/25 07:01 PM
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I think it goes beyond that. If you have women in your life period you're often expected to defer to them in some way - women are the de facto arbiter of "good" and "bad" in the world (at least in the western world). This is why even after you get involved with a woman you'll still have that inferiority complex because here is this person who will tell you all the ways you're doing things wrong.
/r/MensRights09/07/25 05:29 PM
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Good reminder that men do still have a say in this world and haven't lost all of our influence.
/r/MensRights22/06/25 06:18 PM
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this mourning of "the way it was" is ironic because women's wants and needs and expectations are changing (which is fine) but at the same time they're complaining that we're not sitting in our box and ready to jump at a moment's notice to meet their new demands. I really see this as an opportunity for men to change our own image and the way we approach dating and relationships with the opposite sex. Hopefully men can figure out that we are not at women's beck and call, and that we don't owe them…
/r/MensRights22/06/25 04:20 PM
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the good news is that mankeeping shouldn't lead to someone going to jail. Same with cleaning habits or stoicism. I was going to say looking at someone too but who knows - leering may become a thing. Stay safe out there guys - steer clear of the stuff that will send you to jail. For the rest of it - if you're with a woman who gets that bent out of shape if you share with her, then it's your choice to stay with her. Instead of focusing on what women like and don't like, worry about what you like. …
/r/MensRights17/06/25 03:29 PM
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this is just a more streamlined way for people to qualify their prospects earlier on in the selection cycle. Why men are upset about this is that it highlights the idea that men are made to feel ashamed or even unworthy to even have standards for women in the first place. Also, height is something we don't have control over, so that causes more shame and anger. All I can say is, work on yourself. Make yourself the best version of yourself you can be. And don't hold on to hope for that one girl t…
/r/MensRights10/06/25 04:03 PM
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the apple doesn't box far from the tree
/r/MensRights04/06/25 05:24 PM
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first time I've seen someone compare men's situation to Atlas Shrugged, and men "going Galt" - I don't think that MGTOW is necessarily the answer in the long term - if you willingly ostracize yourself you're only hurting yourself in a lot of cases. And, the thing with Atlas Shrugged was that the producers were going to this hidden community to produce without being exploited. A community of like-minded individuals. Men have a hard time forging this kind of community/connection with other males, …
/r/MensRights07/05/25 03:12 PM
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there may be some recourse if libel or defamation is involved. of course, it would fall on the guy to get a lawyer to start proceedings.
/r/MensRights10/04/25 08:55 PM
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maybe L is projecting and he is messing around with a student too
/r/MensRights14/02/25 06:46 PM
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It is a matter of managing expectations isn't it...maybe another way to look at is in today's socioeconomic environment, what is a reasonable expectation for both men and women? Is it everybody for themselves, or is there some value that we want to provide to others because that's just being human?
/r/MensRights30/12/24 05:09 PM
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I am starting to ponder the idea that men have as much or as little agency as we desire, and we can enforce our boundaries as much as we want. But we are getting this crap fed to us from parents and relationship partners on how we should act and the indignities we should suffer to get a mate or keep a mate or not ruffle someone's feathers. I remind myself too that one of the core attributes of tyranny is obedience in advance. What I've been starting to do is ask why is this an expectation of me,…
/r/MensRights27/12/24 08:34 PM
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There's an interesting book about the different types of people out there that can ruin your life, and one point it made was that if a person you're getting to know does things that 90% of the people out there would not do, then watch out and/or get out of there. Even if it seems like it's something nice at the time, there's a high probability that they will do things in the future you will not like. E.g. watch for the abnormally forward woman....what is she going to do if you make her mad?
/r/MensRights24/12/24 08:19 PM
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how many of you guys out there would struggle to hold back tears if a male friend said he loved you and meant it.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 06:00 PM
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lack of purpose
/r/MensRights19/12/24 08:56 PM
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keep your looks up, keep going to the gym, flirt innocently with other women, don't beg for sex. If she rejects your overture, say no problem and move on and wait for her to make a move. don't be predictable, be late from work every now and then. Randomly mention what some female co-worker said at work that made you laugh. the main reason men feel like they're forced to beg for sex from their wives is that their wives see them as locked down and without any options. (Gently) disabuse her of that…
/r/MensRights19/12/24 04:25 PM
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yeah it's not necessarily only women who are getting screwed, it's whoever earns less (or nothing). I have met more than one stay-at-home dad.
/r/MensRights13/12/24 07:12 PM
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I think we need to have a "refuse to compromise my worth for sex" day, and then make it every day
/r/MensRights24/11/24 12:25 AM
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well, yet one more reason not to share my feelings with women. But really, all I see here are more phrases that women can use to bash men, from toxic masculinity to mansplaining to mankeeping. I must admit to being very troubled by that SNL sketch. Maybe because there is some truth to the difficulties men face in interacting with other males.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:41 PM
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ok if you have a tablet get something like yousician - they have apps now that give you realtime lessons that actually LISTENS to the notes you play and gives you feedback on that. It's a lot of fun and the lessons are usually incremental so you're not just thrown into the deep end.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 04:45 PM
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we can be as constructive and reasonable as possible, but we're not necessarily conversing with people that will act in good faith with us. I think the most important thing is to cover our asses and help to cover our fellow man. Women only have the power they do because of the allies that they have.
/r/MensRights31/10/24 05:14 PM
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You're thinking "Did she throw 6 bottles or only 5" "Do I feel lucky?" Well, do ya, punk?
/r/MensRights17/10/24 08:52 PM
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just as women are learning to reject society's expectations of them, so must men. And "teach" is the right word here - no one is born expecting things in life, they are taught. So, men need to teach their sons to push back on these expectations and ask why they need to put women on a pedestal. As humans, we can be kind to one another without putting additional requirements on how to treat someone of the opposite sex.
/r/MensRights14/10/24 04:50 PM
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I've been reading this book about the five types of people that will ruin your life, and the author makes the point that if 90% of the people you've come across would NOT behave like this, then chances are this is not a person you want around you (if you can help it - sometimes it's family, etc). So if 90% of your other female co-workers would not do the things this woman's been doing, then maybe this woman has an issue that could pop up later in a nasty way. It might be a good idea to see if yo…
/r/MensRights10/10/24 09:26 PM
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I'm alright.
/r/MensRights11/09/24 06:59 PM
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and the way we combat this is by putting our foot down, asking what's in it for me, and rejecting this kind of arrangement or expectation. But who out there is actually brave enough to do this? It will incur a lot of anger and hand-wringing, calling you less of a man, potentially fewer mating opportunities, etc...that's what it's going to take - confrontation - until we see in the headlines "more and more men insist on equal financial contribution from romantic partners."
/r/MensRights15/08/24 08:29 PM
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You can absolutely have standards, but see, the problem is that the modern woman doesn't want to be held to ANY standard. By society, other men, other women, etc. Plus, they can rationalize any decision they make! Have a job, don't have a job, have kids, don't have kids, pay their way or not - women can make a case for whatever decision they make and they'll have someone nodding along in agreement. Women can even sell their bodies on OnlyFans, justify it to their selves, family, boyfriend, and e…
/r/MensRights12/08/24 04:44 PM
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Men are the ones that are supposed to keep others safe.
/r/MensRights09/08/24 02:23 PM
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I wouldn't consider it right or wrong - just a matter of individual preference. People can certainly get mad that you express a preference, but that's their problem and not yours.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 10:05 PM
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yup
/r/MensRights15/07/24 08:21 PM
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Uh huh. So which of these three statements would you argue are invalid?
/r/MensRights09/06/24 05:51 PM
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I think these can all be true: No woman owes a man a date. No man owes a woman the sweat off his brow. Males are biologically conditioned to be attracted to women and the skin they show.
/r/MensRights09/06/24 04:58 PM
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best interests of the child outweigh everything else.
/r/MensRights03/06/24 10:01 PM
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nice video - I guess my question is why these double standards still exist if men are so "done" with them
/r/MensRights23/05/24 04:11 PM
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Absolutely, if I'm not happy and she tells me she's not happy, then I can certainly make that choice
/r/MensRights19/05/24 07:05 PM
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Totally agree, I think the difference there is where these standards come from. Are we dumbly nodding at whatever "rule" is thrown at us, or are we checking our internal values first before agreeing.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 06:08 PM
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Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too. It doesn't mean we have to let them. I think the elephant in the room is the fear that if we start being more assertive with the opposite sex and start demanding more for ourselves we'll get pilloried by women and even the broader public. Imagine it though, for a second.. always going Dutch on dates especially if you're on a budget. No I won't go to see barbie with you and get interrogated about it afterward. Sorry Hon, you need to fend for yours…
/r/MensRights18/05/24 07:40 PM
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Learn to identify these bitter women, and avoid them. I wonder if that is part of the problem for men - they don't have a good grasp on what is reasonable and good in a relationship - they experience forms of misandry during their formative years and therefore come to believe it's normal. This is what we have to undo. We need to teach our young men that abuse, disdain, being take advantage of (being seen as a wallet), IS NOT OK. Men need to be taught about the concepts of cui bono (who benefits?…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 10:05 PM
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I'm in agreement with you. There are lots of different types of interactions possible with people - both men and women - that could result in a very negative outcome.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 10:18 PM
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to me, a married man with two young boys, the endgame is to help the next generation to learn the values that will help them to succeed in life, make the best decisions to optimize their happiness, and to quickly screen out the people (men and women) that would make them miserable long term. I am optimistic that there are still women out there that don't automatically view all men as being evil and toxic, but I think we need to teach the future men how to better identify and reject the ones that…
/r/MensRights08/05/24 10:07 PM
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LOL I hear ya, which is why men need to arrive at new values for themselves, that will serve their best interests while still enabling them to be contributors to society. The old way doesn't hold water anymore, but the new way makes men feel useless.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 05:18 PM
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prenups work, but you then need to worry about her getting mad and canceling the wedding when you ask her to sign one.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 09:35 PM
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I think you had it right - there's really no point in arguing about it. However! It does expose the subset of women that think poorly of men. If a woman had healthy attitudes about men, they would probably roll their eyes at this whole discussion. If you have to have women in your life, look for the eye rollers, and run away from the bear chasers.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 06:21 PM
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there doesn't need to be a label attached. You do you.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:29 PM
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exactly, so one way men can help themselves is to learn the signs of a man-hating women, and stay away from them as much as possible. There's no point in engaging them, even for the purpose of debate - why would you even want to be around someone who hates you that much? It's not a sexist thing; it's a human thing to not want to be around people that despise you.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 10:09 PM
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My take on the "bear vs man" conversation - it highlights the group of women that hate men. What other signs are there that a woman hates men?
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:43 PM
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all this tells me is that there is a group of women that hate men, and they are disseminating their message of hate using outlandish hypotheticals on the Internet. What's interesting to me is how to tell the difference. I imagine there are still women out there that don't immediately view every man as a threat, and those are the ones that men should seek out as potential partners. Now, if we get to the point where ALL women hate men, then that's a different story.
/r/MensRights02/05/24 05:28 PM
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one pivotal moment for me was when I was dating this woman who started planning our marriage and telling me the changes I would need to make once we got married, the things I would be responsible for, and oh, by the way, she might invite her dad to live with us. I asked "what do I get?" and she replied with "me!" I mentioned this to my parents, and my mom said to me "well that's everything isn't it?" It was at that point that I realized this was majorly fucked and it was not just one outlier of …
/r/MensRights30/04/24 11:05 PM
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there will be a time, in the future, when the pendulum swings back and men are recognized. It's just..not now. for now, we don't engage. We don't get in arguments about it. We crack down and do our work. I'm hopeful we can start saying no more often when requests don't align with our values. Let the women complain about that. Let the media go on and on about this generation of "abandoned" men. I plan on meeting my commitments and teaching my boys to do the same. I'm hopeful we can start question…
/r/MensRights29/04/24 04:36 PM
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it definitely opened my eyes, and helped me to understand what had happened in prior relationships. I will say that getting exposed to TRP at the beginning of a relationship is not the best idea. You really start to see things differently, and you start to question the "truths" that your partner is trying to lay on you. You start to ask "why does my opinion not matter for anything? Why does she get so mad when I express a differing preference or disagree?" So beware - it can really disrupt your …
/r/MensRights29/04/24 04:22 PM
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I was thinking about just this when I saw the story about the guy whose friend got upset with him for not wanting to date her overweight friend. We have to teach the next generation of men that having standards and sticking with them will make some people upset - it doesn't make those standards invalid though.
/r/MensRights29/04/24 04:09 PM
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lesson learned: if a woman asks you a question about her age or weight, RUN!
/r/MensRights25/04/24 09:26 PM
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not crazy - all humans apply some filtering to their mate selections (e.g. not fit enough, too fat, face not symmetrical, etc). The main question is why guys get hell when we express a preference or opinion. In my humble opinion, it's because we allow it. It would be amazing if more guys could pipe up and express what they like, don't like, aren't comfortable with, etc...
/r/MensRights25/04/24 08:46 PM
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what's funny is men could probably benefit from some of that same advice. Develop a hobby or interest. Don't let members of the opposite sex drag you down or deter you from reaching your goals. I disagree with the kid thing though. Kids will absolutely drain you, but at the same time - they're your kids, you brought them into the world, and yeah - you are going to need to do a LOT for them. That's how it works.
/r/MensRights16/04/24 07:35 PM
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After you've firmly established boundaries with the other person. If you're going in without talking about finances or your day to day needs then you're going to have a bad time. If you're desperate not to lose the other person you're going to have a bad time. If either spouse is coercive or controlling you're going to have a bad time.
/r/MensRights06/04/24 05:46 PM
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it's the male gaze, and it's very bad.
/r/MensRights14/03/24 09:10 PM
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Get out of there now
/r/MensRights12/03/24 02:46 PM
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See how a man treats a woman or behaves around her, and then look at the women in that man's life and how they influence him. I think of the prohibition movement in the 1900s, where women would pose with signs reading "lips that touch alcohol will not touch ours." Women have been manipulating men with their sexuality and approval or disapproval since time immemorial. Married men will have their wives glaring at them (and possibly denying them affection) if they don't behave the "right" way. Whit…
/r/MensRights06/03/24 09:16 PM
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yeah, he should have gotten himself the gaming pc and given her the old one. The way it should work is that men grow up, they become competent and self-sufficient, they've got their shit together, and the value of their labor grows until they have a surplus. That surplus is then extended to other people - a spouse that believes in a reciprocal and nurturing relationship, and children. Maybe other family as well. Unfortunately, too many men look at marrying as a sign of success, when it's not. Ma…
/r/MensRights28/02/24 08:49 PM
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This is all predicated on the assumption that people need to do something to participate in our society. Hermits don't care as much, or at all, in generating value for other people. If you want to participate in this society, you need to provide some kind of value. Women DO have it easy in that sense, somewhat, as they are desired for certain traits right off the bat. Some women rely on that entirely, like some folks rely on social security in retirement. But us men don't have the SAME advantage…
/r/MensRights27/02/24 12:58 AM
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forget women for a second - men have traditionally taken on the dirtier, harder, more unpleasant work because they could, and didn't have much of excuse not to. For many men, it's a source of pride to be able to be self-sufficient, to fix up their own house, to work and be productive, to NOT complain about hard work.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 05:42 PM
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passing on one's own genes is a biological imperative. Being good with women means a higher likelihood of passing on those genes.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/24 08:57 PM
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seems like they're making it a hostile work environment for YOU
/r/MensRights23/01/24 06:54 PM
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Or, married people are realizing that it's a marathon now, and not a sprint to the finish line, and what they are willing or unwilling to tolerate drastically changes. e.g. sleeping together - after a while you don't necessarily want to cuddle together and you just want to get some damn sleep. With dating, you are making time for the other person. With marriage, your time is now intertwined with that other person. Big difference. And, people lie to make the other person happy when they're dating…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 06:42 PM
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ok, so we're in a situation where women can bash undesirable men with impunity, but should a man do the same thing he would get pilloried in the court of public opinion, cancelled, etc...right? We're now at this crazy time where it feels like men can't really state their preference without being called sexist or something worse. Like, we can't even say what's on our minds without getting at minimum a side glare. Man, I would love to see an "uprising" of sorts by men all over - like, if you see t…
/r/MensRights16/01/24 10:11 PM
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Yes it's completely normal.
/r/MensRights12/12/23 03:49 AM
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do you pause when you talk to her, so she can get a word in edgewise? In all seriousness, a) I'm impressed that you managed to write all that with no punctuation and b) if you feel bad about yourself when you're with someone, then get outta there and fast.
/r/MensRights07/12/23 11:49 PM
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naw, you'd still need to co-sign on the mortgage, especially if you're not married. This is not a good analogy because a house is not alive. The whole reason fathers are kept liable is because it's all for the child's best interests.
/r/MensRights06/12/23 05:39 PM
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because every straight man knows they'll have to toe the line if they want to procreate. It would be really interesting if men could tell women "naw, I don't want what you're selling," but I can't imagine that happening.
/r/MensRights17/11/23 04:11 PM
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Email 'em! [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) - let them know you find this offensive and misandrist.
/r/MensRights14/11/23 04:10 PM
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It's any online forum where people are fairly anonymous. Complain about something, and people jump to the conclusion that the only reason you're venting is because you hate that person or thing you're venting about. vent about women = you hate women vent about kids = you hate your kids vent about America = you hate America the list goes on. Online and anonymous means you should expect the downvoting, name calling, and bans if you go against the collective. Or even just one person. Shoot, it even…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 03:59 PM
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If the kids are grown up, independent adults, then what are you hanging around for if you're unhappy? Marriage is not a coffin.
/r/MensRights07/11/23 08:45 PM
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I just don't know that men can even imagine the sense of abundance that even mildly attractive women feel when it comes to online dating. Could you imagine if you were hungry and cruising around looking for a bite to eat and every frickin' restaurant had wait staff running outside to flag you down and give you a free meal? For men, on the other hand, it would be the same, except for the wait staff comes outside, looks you up and down, and then goes back and boards up the front door and gives you…
/r/MensRights25/10/23 03:24 PM
2

Totally agree! I don't understand why we expect any sympathy either. But then again I would say that about any non disabled adult as well. I think all humans have the capacity for sympathy and empathy, to a point. And some people may be sympathetic one day and then use your problem against you the next. But how do you know who is safe to vent to? Outside of close family and friends, you can't really. And it's especially ironic that we complain about not getting sympathy from feminists or man hat…
/r/MensRights23/10/23 04:35 AM
9

Never complain, never explain. If you accept the former then you take the latter. Yeah, I'll be responsible for reasonable things, but I sure as hell ain't gonna feel compelled to justify my method.
/r/MensRights08/10/23 11:31 PM
7

fragile male ego = suck it up and have a thicker skin. for women, it's probably something like princess or snowflake - that entitled mindset that you are special and should be treated accordingly.
/r/MensRights26/09/23 07:16 PM
2

yup, and if she feels scorned or embarrassed afterward, watch out for negative remarks about you behind your back. (and hope they don't affect your employment). Probably better to suck it up and take the hug and get on with your life. Sorry, I feel for ya, but men have to be uber careful about their responses to women. Especially at work, you can't afford to be seen as antisocial, aggressive, judgmental, sexist, or anything else that doesn't jive with women's perceptions of what you should be.
/r/MensRights20/09/23 03:29 PM
3

I disagree with the first part, since women are more willing to share a high value male than settle for a lower value one. I remember one of my first experiences seeing an "alpha" male at work - his girlfriend was visiting from out of state, we went to the bars, the gf was hanging all over him, he sends her home, then proceeds to sleep with a local girl. The second girl knew about the girlfriend, didn't care. I was blown away by the sheer audacity of it. And yes, the girlfriend stayed with him. …
/r/MensRights13/09/23 11:28 PM
1

you gotta really ask yourself - what purpose do these conversations or debates serve? Acceptance or common understanding? Forget it.
/r/MensRights31/07/23 06:28 PM
4

yeah, I am saddened sometimes to see how I compromised myself or my boundaries in the past, all to get that female affection.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/23 04:47 PM
10

I remember dating this one girl that wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, wanted me to make changes to my appearance, go along with her agenda, etc. When I asked her what I get in return, she said "me!" I remember discussing this with my mom, who said "well that's everything isn't it?" I was very troubled by this. I think it's a fair question! WHAT AM I GETTING OUT OF ALL THIS? Maybe it used to be you got a supportive woman who welcomed you warmly when you got home, and children that respe…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/23 04:13 PM
6

happy man, good plan
/r/MensRights04/07/23 02:30 AM
3

Agreed! And men need to bear witness for one another too... See a man being treated unjustly or abused? Speak up and tell anyone who will listen what really happened. Ask a dude if HE needs help if a woman is abusing him in public. "Everything ok here?" "I'm fine, he's just being a jerk." "I was talking to him. You ok dude?"
/r/MensRights27/06/23 03:28 AM
2

We need to watch out for each other. Advocate on another man's behalf if you see if him being treated unjustly, if you don't who will?
/r/MensRights01/06/23 02:54 AM
2

Because these men have been indoctrinated by their mothers and their wives. Mothers teach boys to put girls on pedestals. Behind every straight male lawmaker, judge, etc is a woman that will henpeck him to death if his decisions don't benefit women in some way.
/r/MensRights17/03/23 05:12 PM
45

Who was it that said that only women, pets, and children are loved unconditionally? Something like that...
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:21 AM
6

The primary responses I've gotten when sharing my feelings are a) could be worse or b) the other person has it worse.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:20 AM
-9

well, and why do men care so much about what women think anyway? why are many men afraid of disappointing or making women mad? We've been socialized that way. Think about it - did mom teach you to put women on a pedestal? Did your dad teach you something similar since he was socialized that way too, and he's got a wife that will deny him affection if he displeases her or goes against her? How many times do men go against their own self-interests for a girl? Respect is one thing, subservience is …
/r/MensRights27/01/23 07:52 PM
10

Agreed - though to us what constitutes shitty behavior may to them just be extreme abundance mentality. I mean think about it - if you've been taught your whole life that you have this thing that everyone wants, and you learn how to use that to get what you want, shoot, would you care as much about that one person that you disappoint or betray? I'm reminded of the show Succession, where they talk about some people as "not real" as in someone gets hurt but they don't have any real impact on your …
/r/MensRights19/08/22 06:55 PM
1

it really does a man no good to share his feelings with his woman. Don't complain, don't explain.
/r/MensRights02/08/22 03:33 PM
1

I really think this is more the pendulum shift away from old cultural norms about women and men's proscribed positions in society. Humans have a hard time with gradual and consistent change, I feel, and complain vigorously when change doesn't happen fast enough. I do think we'll get to a place where there's more respect between the sexes, but it will be interesting to see how men end up. What will dating and the workplace look like?
/r/MensRights18/07/22 07:16 PM
2

Reconcile? Why do they need to do that?
/r/MensRights17/06/22 03:09 AM
1

you don't want to do it, don't do it! She's your girlfriend, not your wife. And, you're only 20?!? Vasectomies are reversible, but I'm not sure it's 100%.
/r/MensRights03/05/22 10:36 PM
6

There's really no good reason to share your feelings with most women. Better to stay somewhat of an enigma. I've had both men and women tell me they can't really read me, and I'm thinking good, leave em wondering.
/r/MensRights07/01/22 04:32 PM
3

Ehh.my mom was a divorce lawyer. This was her advice as well. She hits you? Get out of there. You touch her back, she claims you stuck her. You claim self defense, but the question will always come back to the male. "Did you touch her?" "Yes, but she hit me fir - " "but you did hit her?" "Yes" It won't matter, especially if there's no witnesses. You go to jail. This is actually really good advice for any physical assault by anyone. Self defense can be an iffy claim and you both may end up in jai…
/r/MensRights29/12/21 05:42 AM
4

Long term, if we think of it as pendulum going from one side being patriarchal society where men ruled the home and women couldn't own land, were expected to cook, clean, care for children, please the man, etc, and then the other side being a female ruled society where men are sperm donors and laborers - we're definitely seeing that shift now. So the questions would be how far is that pendulum going to shift, and for how long? How bad can it get, and how will men respond? Will we get to a point …
/r/MensRights24/03/21 02:44 AM
7

I only started having fun dating after I stopped worrying about getting the girl to like me and decided to pick places for us to go where I could have fun. Dinner date? F that. Let's go to a bar and play dice. I also really like the idea of "give the gift of you". In other words, be there, be present, enjoy the moment, and let the rest take care of itself.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/21 04:35 AM
29

Heh...I lost out on what could have been an amazing experience with this girl I fancied... she was over at my place, cuddling into me, hands wandering... and I got stuck in a logistics mind trap. "Where are we going to do this? My place is a mess and my bed is covered in clothes!" Had my place been more presentable I would have been able to keep my mind in the moment and enjoy.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/21 07:14 PM
1

Unfortunately, there's not a lot of upside to sharing your feelings with women, especially your SO. In my experiences, from relations with my mother, to dating, to managing women, to my wife, it's a coin toss - maybe you get some empathy, but more often it's dismissal because they "have it worse." Share your feelings with other men if they won't make fun of you for it, or talk to a shrink. There's just too much of a risk of your SO seeing you as weak, and then she'll start looking for someone el…
/r/MensRights28/01/21 07:27 PM
2

I wonder if there's ever a time when a man could be alpha AND pay his woman's way...how would that work?
/r/TheRedPill26/08/19 06:17 PM
14

I'm going to posit something here that may prove to be controversial - many men live in fear of women - fear of their anger, fear of their disapproval. (e.g. fear of their wives' anger leading to lack of sex or divorce). What I've been trying to figure out is where does that fear come from? Is it somehow related to their mothers, and wanting her approval? Being taught from early age to never disappoint a woman? Or just fear of being accused of sexism and then being pilloried in the public eye? T…
/r/TheRedPill17/05/19 05:10 PM
1

The courts may take away that latter option. :/
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 03:29 PM
1

another good test for over-investment - am I ignoring my own desires and wishes for the sake of another? (man OR woman). Am I betraying my own integrity? Sure, compromise is often necessary for human relationships, but if you're skipping the gym even though it's important to you so you can talk on the phone with a girl for 4 hours, you need to re-evaluate your priorities.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 07:37 PM
1

Agreed - 41 here, married for 4 years, with a three-year old son, and just recently discovered TRP. Would I have done things differently? Maybe, BUT - I love my son and I feel a responsibility to show him that he's worth more than what a woman can extract from him...
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 06:37 PM
3

Agreed, not blaming her... just more sad that it took this long to figure out, plus the realization that we sometimes get very detrimental life advice from people that have been in our lives from the very beginning.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 07:23 PM
2

Totally! I've read No More Mr. Nice Guy (I'm actually reading it a second time now)
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 05:35 PM
24

so much of TRP boils down to self-integrity: know who you are, ACCEPT who you are, follow through on reasonable self-improvement goals, and above all do not allow others to define you or your life goals. You set your own destiny, and action based on that realization will draw like-minded people into your life. Letting your shortcomings define you, or pedestalizing ANYONE (not just women) will make you feel and act like a lower-value PERSON.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/18 06:26 PM
3

I made a mistake a few weeks ago by buying a couple of girls shots at the bar in a Vegas casino. Now, I'm married, so I wasn't really trying to do anything, but still - this was such an ingrained habit that I'd developed of buying drinks for others (usually women) in an effort to impress them. I chatted with these girls for a bit, only to have them move on to another, also married, dude. I immediately thought of TRP and laughed at myself. Ahh...sometimes these habits are damn hard to break!!
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 10:39 PM
6

recovering people-pleaser here - what I have realized too is that other people have their preferences and opinions that they are often trying to foist upon those around them. But, just because they have these preferences and opinions doesn't mean you have to do anything at all with them. It seems like that happens a lot especially with guys trying to impress women - they cater to the female's opinions and preferences, and end up losing themselves in the process. One simple example is trying to p…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 06:02 PM
3

I believe this has more to do with our society's inability to control the spread of obesity, so instead we attempt to normalize it. Otherwise there's just too much cognitive dissonance - if we were to say that there's only downside to being fat, then what, half or more of the population would feel bad about themselves? Can't have that! The map at the bottom of this article speaks volumes. It's scary! https://stateofobesity.org/obesity-rates-trends-overview/
/r/MensRights13/04/18 02:59 PM
2

great line from the Phillip Black Show (start listening around 13:15): "a woman is like a little kitten, and you are that little piece of yarn dancing around in front of her" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43stErWRn1A&t=320s
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 07:27 PM
1

my fave is Norm from Cheers: "women: can't live with 'em. pass the beernuts"
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 06:28 PM
1

Before I was even aware of trp, I made two choices that drastically improved my dating experience, a. I would not get into a ltr for a full year and b. I would make sure to have a good time on every date. I even had to tell one girl, who was falling in love with me, that I "wasn't falling in love that year." Lol. But it really made a difference on dates, because whether it clicked with the girl or not, I was still having fun doing what I wanted to do. She was along for the ride, and if she dug i…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/18 02:14 AM
2

I had something similar happen to me, except it was after we had already had sex. I found out later that she had been using me to get another guy jealous so he would fully commit to her. This was all while she was still married (I knew about that). Then, one night she tells me she's hungry for "dessert." I thought, sure, I'll tap that again, and said ok. She called me back to let me know that, no, it was for literal dessert. I paused, and said no thanks. She became upset, saying she couldn't und…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 04:57 PM
3

My theory is that it all comes down to sex. The "successful corporate men" know that they still need to have approval from the women in their lives if they're going to copulate. This approval is related to the mores of the time. An example of this in the past - just look at Prohibition, and the Woman's Christian Temperance Union - have you seen the picture of the women with the sign that reads "Lips that touch Liquor shall not touch ours?" They were basically saying "quit drinking or we won't fu…
/r/MGTOW24/10/17 10:59 PM
15

this reminds me of The Office where Kelly breaks up with Darryl over text and his response is "it's cool." Love that scene!
/r/MGTOW24/10/17 10:12 PM
2

hey, why not kill father's day? Do we men really need it?
/r/MensRights13/06/14 08:40 PM
1

just take a look at all the subsidy programs that exist for single parents...who pays for those? http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Government-Assistance-For-Single-Mothers
/r/MensRights10/05/14 05:50 PM
1

sure, though some states will include the standard of living that the child "enjoyed" prior to the divorce in that calculation. Some parents will abuse this of course. http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/how-to-calculate-child-support.html
/r/MensRights09/05/14 10:53 PM
0

actually, it might be to the "supporter's" benefit that it's income-based and not needs-based. What if the other spouse claims that the child needs a pony or a new car?
/r/MensRights09/05/14 09:33 PM
2

best interests of the child.
/r/MensRights01/12/11 07:45 AM
-7

yup, and us guys have this: Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat. 2. Movie nudity is virtually always female. 3. You know stuff about tanks. 4. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase. 5. You don't have to monitor your friends' sex lives. 6. Your bathroom lines are 80% shorter. 7. You can open all your own jars. 8. Old friends don't give you crap if you've lost or gained weight. 9. Dry cleaners and haircutters don't rob you blind. 10. When clicking through the channels, you don…
/r/MensRights13/09/11 04:27 AM
2

I just think that both men and women need to think about themselves first. Guys: take care of yourself, make yourself a better person, and when the right woman comes along she won't be a drain to you or your pocketbook. There are losers, or duds, in both camps, so let's not make it an us vs. them situation. Seriously, if you have your sh*t together, and you can be a man (which includes standing up to someone who claims to be entitled to the sweat from your brow), then you've got nothing to worry…
/r/MensRights28/03/11 02:41 AM
1

So it's society that's telling men that they're not valued? Are women a part of that society?
/r/MensRights25/07/10 04:31 AM
-6

well, hopefully that pendulum swings back before they figure out how to synthesize sperm - then men are really SOL ;)
/r/MensRights22/07/10 09:13 PM
5

I think a lot of those come down to personal responsibility. One could argue that women get away with more. One could also argue that spoiled children of senators get away with more too. Forget all that. Try these five simple rules on for size: 1) take responsibility for your own actions (or inactions). Don't compare your situation to someone else's. Own up to what you've done. 2) Demand, when possible, that others take responsibility for themselves. This includes girlfriends, wives, etc...so if…
/r/MensRights12/01/10 09:19 PM
9

Some of the messages men get from other men (siblings, father, friends) "Sack up and be a man!" "Quit your crying!" "Shrug it off and get back in there!" "Dude, who's wearing the pants in your family?!" "You need to get your house in order man" "Don't be a p**sy" "You like (insert pop band here)? How does it feel to be gay?" Discuss.
/r/MensRights12/01/10 06:16 PM
1

I think a lot of it boils down to: change what you don't have to live with, accept what you do, and decide if something is important enough to do either. For example, asserting oneself can be necessary, but only when the alternative is something you can't live with. Some drunken guys making fun of you is a transitory event - it usually isn't something you have to live with every day. An abusive spouse, on the other hand, is something you will have to live with, if you don't put your foot down no…
/r/MensRights10/12/09 05:42 PM
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