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A woman who lived in my apartment complex had caught my eye. After getting to know her and figuring out quickly that she wasn't for me, I decided not to pursue but she, in turn, had decided I was the man of her dreams. We still hung out (because she was fun to drink with and easy on the eyes) and I woke up one night to her drunkenly trying to ride my semi-erect cock not long after I had told her I wasn't interested in pursuing anything with her. I wish I could say that I was RP at this point in …
/r/TheRedPill26/10/17 05:59 PM
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If she saw you as a valuable friend, she would reach out and try to at least check in. This woman doesn't do that so she doesn't seem to feel that way about you. Actions speak louder than words and dropping you a quick message to check in isn't difficult. She may think of you as a fun person but not as someone worthy enough of her time. Don't wait around for her to reach out because I think she's going to be busy studying for a long time.
/r/askTRP21/10/17 10:46 PM
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It seems people have already given you the tools you need to get this done. To reiterate: Play it cool, be aloof, relax, and have fun. The only new piece of advice advice I can offer is try to get a feel for how both women feel. If this hippy chick is only about fucking your wife, it probably won't be fun for you. If your wife feels like she isn't getting enough attention, she may try to kill the vibe and it probably won't be fun for you. Be cognizant of that.
/r/askTRP18/10/17 11:06 AM
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He's saying stop fantasizing about television characters, re-read all of the TRP sidebar (since you're in search of what doesn't exist), and do something more productive than searching for mythical creatures.
/r/askTRP18/10/17 10:48 AM
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Claire Underwood isn't real so no, she isn't.
/r/askTRP18/10/17 10:46 AM
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As for not coming off as butthurt, that's why you keep yourself busy. You can't be butthurt if you're out enjoying life. Nobody but her would think that if you've got a busy schedule. Edit: I would suggest just laughing and say something along the lines of "You're right, it has been." Again, if you're busy improving yourself and enjoying what life has to offer, you won't remember the last time you guys spoke.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 11:34 PM
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Sounds like you were a convenient distraction for her. If she can't muster enough energy to sit on your couch and talk, she isn't interested. Move on.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 11:30 PM
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That was a tough read. I don't understand how someone can be so shitty to a person they brought into the world. You didn't ask for that. At least you made something of it. Good for you, man.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/17 03:50 AM
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Sex-starved betas who lust after unimpressive women.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/17 04:39 PM
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Some more than others. Same way some people can be more equal than others. 🙄
/r/askTRP21/06/17 10:13 PM
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I've never understood why people think this kind of behavior is cool. You want to fuck anything with a pulse? Be single. You want a relationship? Don't pull this kind of shit. I don't know in what world "It just happened" is a valid excuse but it isn't here. Funnest way to break up with her is have a night out with your friends and keep improving. She'll regret wanting to sleep with this dude when you're succeeding at life and banging girls orders of magnitude more attractive than her.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:21 PM
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This. She may not be yours, OP, but if you want her undivided attention then chances are you won't get it. Girls like this are an STD risk.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:15 PM
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My LTR has taken the time to figure out what I like and don't like. For my birthday, she got me my go-to breakfast item and blew me before running out the door to go to work. I'm not getting that from a plate unless she wants something. She takes an interest in the things that are important to me. She's been working on learning my native language so she can communicate with my family back home, for example. She learned the schedule for the NBA Playoffs so she knew when I'd be hanging out with my…
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:27 PM
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People have warped sense of what a friend is today. Someone I consider a friend blows me off, I chew them out for wasting my time. If they do it enough, I end the friendship. This isn't a friend but a person you fuck. Or used to because she sounds like she's lost interest. Hard next. Onto the next one.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 07:21 PM
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Smart move.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 11:14 PM
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Old friend or not, that was petty, next level disrespect. Ghost him before he pulls something worse.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 04:28 PM
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"Pal?" That's quite the insecure man-child you keep around. If he was a real friend, he would fuck her and not message you. His sex life is not your business. I assume he knew about your oneitis because sending you that picture was deliberate. Ghost him and learn to make better friends.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 04:20 PM
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Amen. Avoid "eccentric" types like this at all costs.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/17 09:17 PM
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I'd take not selling my body if that meant working for an industry leader. I'd rather pay off my student loans by being frugal and working hard than to selling myself.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 06:13 PM
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Hahahaha, this is fantastic. Came across an article where she talks about her second job and it sounds like she's a fucking escort. She makes it vague and tries to make it sound okay. What other job would it make sense to work under an alias? She's the epitome of today's snowflake. No hint of taking responsibility for her actions. Nintendo is to blame for absolutely everything that's happened to her. Escorting was just to "pay off student loans." Edit: https://twitter.com/moocowprincess/status/8…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 02:15 PM
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Considering these guys see this as a valid courting strategy, I agree with you.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 02:06 PM
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Isn't this how many of these situations end up? White Knights go the distance to defend women who they stand no chance with and want nothing to do with them outside of doing her dirty work for her? I'd laugh too if it wasn't so fucking sad.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 01:57 PM
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I've been telling myself for ages that I was one of those guys who didn't have to lift. I thought that rule ("Fucking lift.") didn't apply to me. Spent the last few days researching programs, form, diet, etc. because I've hit a natural limit in what I can do based on my current looks. I'm a really tall guy and overweight but it's evenly spread out so I don't look terrible... but I can do better and so can everyone else. Lifting is only optional if you want poor (or no) results. In short, you're …
/r/TheRedPill13/06/17 07:32 PM
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I've been with a couple of women who were open to anal sex (including my current LTR). The biggest factor to getting them to try has been to take it slow. Don't jam your dick into her ass because she isn't Sasha Grey. Other than that, it was a once in awhile thing. I prefer vaginal to anal but the thrill of anal every once in awhile was fun. If you're like me, you won't want to do it once the novelty wears off.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 12:18 PM
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Simple but inspiring field report. Glad to hear you were able to breathe some life into the relationship before things took a turn for the worse. Thank you for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 06:45 PM
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She sees how well you're doing and wishes she was doing the same. Congratulations.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 12:04 AM
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Yes. There are shades of truth to every stereotype. There are different types of intelligence and common sense is one of them. Fat acceptance? Body positivity? The prevalence of fad crash diets? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that being overweight is unhealthy, that losing the weight will take work, and the prioritizing weight loss will improve your chances of meeting your weight loss goals.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 06:54 PM
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They think the slop they find at McDonald's, Burger King, etc. is healthy. They drench what little vegetables they do eat in large quantities of dressing or deep fry them. They hear that [macronitrient] will give you seven kinds of cancer so they will avoid it like the plague and double up on other macros to compensate before binging. They live in Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts. Should I keep going?
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:36 AM
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I assume you that you don't use condoms and pull out now, correct?
/r/askMRP13/03/17 02:55 AM
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Wrote a long email begging for her to get back with me. She (rightly) said no.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 02:53 AM
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Some men here are reporting the worst but I think the truth is you can't say for certain (every woman reacts differently) and you'll have to wait to find out if you don't already have any anecdotes from people in her or people in her life (if she's ever taken them before). My LTR takes birth control (and has consistently since the beginning of our relationship). I've had zero issues. Before her period begins, she wants more sex (certainly a plus), craves a little junk food (she's 5'4", 118 lbs a…
/r/askMRP07/03/17 08:49 PM
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I'm not convinced she knows he wants more pussy. She's probably obsessed with the fact she can suck him unconscious and strives to do that to keep him happy. Not a bad problem to have. If I were him I'd tell her "I'm going to fuck you," have her suck my dick until I'm ready, then bend her over and fuck her until I'd had enough. Take charge of the situation.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 11:32 AM
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Avoid verbalizing it. I made a joke years ago to a female friend that we were going on a date and it drove her mad (because she was into me; I wasn't into her). I was told by mutual friends she was thinking of bailing because she was so nervous. All over dinner and a concert. Simply say "See you Friday." Less is more.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 09:25 PM
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You want to stay with her? Why? I understand not wanting to lose access to your children and I understand not wanting to lose all of your assets but instead of being an adult and voicing her unhappiness (and before any of you guys parrot material we've all read, one thing women can do when they're unhappy is bitch & moan), she decided to go fuck other guys instead.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 10:35 AM
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It's unfortunate (for her) but Dylan is within his right to walk away.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 10:18 AM
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If there is one thing I've learned about alcohol is that it's the ultimate scapegoat for doing what you want. This wasn't a mistake in either party's case. Your plate can fool around with other guys then laugh it off and place responsibility for her actions on alcohol which, in her mind, frees her up to do whatever else she wants to. Cut her loose ASAP. I'd keep an eye on your friend. He says he could see himself into her IF you weren't fucking her… yet he's busy fooling around with when he's dr…
/r/askTRP02/03/17 02:47 PM
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This, this, this 100 percent. A lot of advice is typically followed by "Fake it 'til you make it." If you change your approach and make flirting the norm, you suddenly aren't faking things anymore.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 05:54 PM
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"The Real Deal" is such a nebulous term. They can hang out, get to know each other, and fuck and she'd most likely leave that situation feeling good about things even if they didn't get married. This guy shot himself in the foot to prove he was a "nice guy." A rare breed? Same contents in a newer package.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/17 10:54 PM
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What makes you think he wasted any time? He's working on himself, he's spending time turning his son into a man, and he's enjoying himself. Toying with his ex helped him overcome any oneitis he had. I'm not trying to be confrontational. I'm just curious.
/r/askTRP19/02/17 12:12 AM
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Whenever my LTR & I have fooled around with another woman, it was someone we knew who was single, someone who takes care of themselves, and was sex positive (in the sense that they were comfortable with it). If you have any women in your life who fit that bill, you should consider reaching out.
/r/askMRP18/02/17 08:05 PM
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You give her your undivided attention and got a trickle of hers. You tell her to kick rocks and now she's giving you what you've wanted in the hopes that you continue floating around her, providing her attention. This should provide you with enough evidence to make an educated decision. Feeling scared is normal but that will pass. Ignore her. That relationship is over. Work on improving yourself and what you desire will eventually come (no thanks to her).
/r/askTRP13/02/17 03:45 AM
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Just stick with it. It will get better. I tend to keep to myself when I'm feeling irritable so I can distract myself with work or study. That may be your best bet.
/r/askTRP11/02/17 05:15 PM
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Mostly Americans. A couple of Latinas. American women like that I was born out of the US and typically ask me to speak Spanish for them. They ask what my country is like and always say they want to visit. As long as you've got good conversation skills and good stories (and some booze), it's pretty simple.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 11:27 PM
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I'd feel bad for the guy if it wasn't for the fact that he went looking for trouble. His wife dreams of Chad while Beta Bruce flops on top of her… dreaming of Chad fucked his wife. It's bizzare. I can't say it hurts me that guys will never get a clue. For me it's disappointing than anything else. Fortunately, their laziness makes it easier for me to succeed.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 09:57 PM
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I like to think I'm open-minded but this is one thing that leaves me scratching my head. Why have someone else fuck your significant other? The best part is that this poor sap doesn't realized he fucked himself by offering his wife to another man. If there weren't people in the world who did things to spite themselves like this everywhere, I'd say the author made the whole thing up.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 08:21 PM
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Fucking a real woman feels better and is far more gratifying than just fucking my hand or some sex toy. As far as drugs (and now booze) are concerned, they slow me down in achieving my goals. I've never been big into drugs but I've written them off altogether. I can be more productive doing virtually anything else.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 06:40 PM
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Latino here. Born outside the US but grew up in New York City. The East Coast of the US is great. New York, Delaware, South Carolina, Florida. My game experience is limited (I prefer LTRs) but I've had success in all these places not being in good shape but having a good personality that women have gravitated toward.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 11:40 AM
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I think you made the right move (not acknowledging the note and her writing in the bathroom) and you seem to know what to do here. This is simply not acceptable behavior. She blows YOU off for the whole week, you have lunch with a coworker, and YOU'RE the bad guy? Bail before she reaches criticial mass.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 11:27 AM
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Once you have an erection, slip the condom onto the tip of your dick then roll the condom back slowly. The condom should hold your foreskin in place. I wouldn't try to put a condom on when flaccid. The worst thing is the feeling of peeling latex off the most sensitive parts of your dick. You don't need to apply any lube or oil directly onto your dick beforehand. In fact, I would suggest against it because you don't want the condom to slide off during sex.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 03:21 AM
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Wait. Why are you with this woman if you can't be arsed to coax her out of Miserable Bitch Mode? Make her dress up for you, go check out glasses, then have a couple of glasses of wine before taking her home and fucking her into next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 12:43 AM
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Oh shit, I completely misread what you said about the client. My bad.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 12:30 AM
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Some people simply can't be helped. There are people in my life that my Blue Pill self would have wasted tons of time on. Now I give them some advice, a conciliatory pat on the back, and go on my way. Edit: I apparently can't read so good.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 10:40 PM
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With things like TRP, you really do have to watch what you say and who you say it to. I have yet to tell anyone about TRP because I know how they'll react. People are more than willing to point out RP truths but the moment you connect the dots for them, they change their tune. Your client may have liked what you had to say but is obviously too far gone to save. If he's okay getting fucked like a $10 hooker, good on him.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 04:25 AM
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If I don't walk away, I run the risk of losing frame. If I walk away, I can finish analyzing the situation and move onto the next thing I have to do.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 04:37 PM
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Thank you for this post. Trying to use this to better structure my weekly schedule and get into a better rhythm.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 01:23 AM
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Jesus Christ. I'm glad you were able to get out of that situation relatively unscathed (save for the PTSD). Hopefully she hasn't tried to contact you since this happened.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/17 06:38 PM
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Best thing I do now is be firm & direct. When I need her to do something, I will tell her (and I won't repeat myself) and it will get done immediately. To OP's point about emotional arguing, I try and avoid doing that (although I've lost frame doing it). I can defuse a situation quickly by stating my point and stepping away and letting her digest what I've said.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 11:48 PM
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That was a captivating read. Your love of reading has helped you become a great writer. Thank you for sharing.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 08:05 PM
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I cut boozing hard maybe six months into my LTR (going on 5 years) and altogether a couple of weeks ago. My friends are finally starting to smarten up when it comes to alcohol consumption after giving me grief for ages for not going out and getting hammered 8 days a week. Old habits ARE hard to break but it gets easier once your desire for what you gain from abstaining is stronger than your desire to drink. Thanks for the FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 07:48 PM
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She strung you along for ages and you're worried about her feelings? I wouldn't worry about it.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 05:05 PM
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What these men lack financially & physically, they most likely make up for in personality. This is all common sense. Yes, you can be a broke, fat slob who dresses like crap and still get hot girls… but it's so much easier when you have a good job, get in good shape, and dress well. These factors will help your chances but won't guarantee that you're going to snag an HB8.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 12:32 PM
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Just make sure you don't operate with the BP vision of what a relationship should be and you should be fine.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/17 09:56 PM
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Beg an ex-girlfriend to get back with me about nine months after she left me. Spoilers: She said no thanks. Best thing to ever happen to me.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 01:08 AM
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He's unfortunately a product of his environment. This is the kind of extreme nonsense the myth of "the one" will make a man do. All because he thought he couldn't find someone else with equal or better qualities down the road. And as an athlete, no less.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/17 09:07 PM
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Congratulations. Monk Mode is my favorite concept of TRP (at least it was the first time I encountered the concept). You take some time to make yourself better and once you start socializing again, you see the benefits and you get a wonderful rush of positive reinforcement to continue doing those things. The only thing I'll say is that works for you won't necessarily work for the next guy. You may be drowning in pussy but some guys here value quality over quantity. I'd reconsider looking for "Th…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/17 09:02 PM
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She wanted a taste of something different. You just happened to fit the bill.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 08:53 PM
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I'm not a doctor but I'm confident she's just naturally wider. To take a stab at that second set of questions, I assume she would have to be taking some unrealistically large penises for an unreasonable length of time for loss of elasticity if it even happened at all.
/r/askTRP23/01/17 01:27 AM
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I'd bring it up in conversation and tell her it's unacceptable (because it isn't). She can hamster all she wants but she can either be committed to you or entertain every thirsty guy who comes sniffing in her direction. She may accuse you of being territorial, possessive, etc. but that's just hamstering on her part. The fact of the matter is that she wouldn't be happy were the roles were reversed (although she may say she doesn't mind just so she can keep this up). Stand your ground and be expli…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 08:29 PM
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…That's not how vaginas work. It's "baseless paranoia" on your part. She just has a vagina canal that is wider in circumference compared to your dick. I don't know what your situation is but I've found that I enjoy sex more with a woman who isn't as tight if I limit the amount I masturbate (if you are masturbating).
/r/askTRP22/01/17 03:19 PM
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Doing the things that TRP suggests will definitely bridge that gap. A woman won't care about you being Indian if you're ripped and successful.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 03:26 AM
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I hate the stupid inspirational bullshit you see on places like Facebook or Instagram from people who are trying to make themselves look smart but in this case, the message from one of those is probably the most appropriate thing for you. You are, to a certain degree, competing with others but the more important competition is with yourself. If you focus on becoming better than you were the day prior, you'll eventually find that you're better than the people who eventually grew complacent. It ma…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 03:06 AM
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Time is the biggest challenge or at least it is for me. I'm dedicating as much time as I can to improving myself. Taking time away from those efforts to manage several LTRs at one time is out of the question and brings no value to me. There is also no reliable method to streamlining the process and therefore it is worthless (for me) to pursue. If you have enough time to dedicate to manage several LTRs, chances are pretty good you aren't working on bettering your situation and from my point of vi…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 02:19 AM
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How can you not see what is going on here? She's an average-looking woman who is playing you to make herself feel better about herself. She's probably aware she's an HB5 but by playing hard-to-get with you, she tricks herself into thinking she's better than that. She may want to fuck but she's convincing herself she's a catch first. Next her into oblivion. Find someone better-looking who will take less work. I don't know what kind of impact this will have in the grand scheme of things (if she's …
/r/askTRP22/01/17 02:03 AM
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This is one of the many reasons why I don't fuck around with women in relationships. This sounds like serious post-coital ASD to me. I would follow the suggestion of others and say that you didn't because you couldn't get it up from all the alcohol. I would then proceed to soft next her to be on the safe side.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 04:15 PM
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I know men who behave the same way (although my favorite story does feature a woman who behaved in a similar fashion). I was on a team of five for my capstone in college and worked on it by myself. I did all the programming, put together of the documentation (and eventually one of best friends did the rest since I hate documentation), and regularly met with clients. Our team lead chewed me out (in front of our team) after a meeting with a client because he gave the client some wrong information …
/r/askTRP21/01/17 01:17 PM
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Your "friends" are sharks. They're not worth keeping around. If they'll turn sketchy over frivolous pussy, they will do more (and worse) when the stakes are higher. There are far too many women in this world for them to want to occupy the same holes as you.
/r/askTRP20/01/17 06:55 PM
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Don't listen to them and find more intelligent friends. The relationship is over, she threw her tantrum, and you are free. If you really want to really set her off, do so by living your life and finding success all around without her in your life. Make more money, be more successful, enjoy life more. The conclusion that people will come to is that she was holding you back. That's worth far more than getting into a war of words with someone who doesn't add value to your life anymore.
/r/askTRP20/01/17 03:32 PM
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That's one of those things that piss me off about Western culture. People tell you that women don't owe you anything but she, in turn, is somehow entitled to some amount and combination of your time or money. Your needs and desires aren't more important than her feelings and validation. I don't know why anyone would ever suggest just settling. We're told not to do it when we're investing money. Why should we do it when it comes to invest money and time?
/r/TheRedPill20/01/17 03:26 PM
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If that's the case, it may be time to jump ship. Don't get comfortable in a place where mediocrity & complacency are rewarded.
/r/askTRP20/01/17 11:19 AM
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I get where you're coming from. Having someone enforce the hands off policy goes a long way not to mention that it may open your boss' eyes to what can be perceived as incompetence. Whatever happens, I hope you get this particular monkey off your back. I've been there and it's the most frustrating thing having to deal with nonsense like this.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 06:25 PM
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Consider having a conversation with your boss about this. Suggest that the whole project be handed back to you since she is struggling to assume ownership of it (if you don't mind working on it) or that you be labeled as "off limits" when it comes to this particular project so she's forced to learn it (and she either does or your boss realizes she's incapable of assuming ownership and gives it to someone more capable). I've been in a similar situation and it took me getting two directors involve…
/r/askTRP19/01/17 02:54 AM
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I started balding about two years ago and I decided to just shave it all off. Haven't looked back. I personally think it looks best paired with some stubble or a beard. Good luck.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 02:07 PM
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"Unselfish orgasm?" Did she deliver that gem with a straight face? "I got my rocks off and there is something SOOOOO HOT AND SEXY about me getting mine, you not getting yours, and you being okay with it." Right. Some people come up with the best bullshit.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 07:46 PM
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Single mothers are double-edged swords. She'll either treat you as a second class citizen because her priority are her spawn or she'll treat you like a king but at the expense of her spawn. You may find a woman who can balance both but it will take a lot of time for you to figure that out. Valuable time you could be dedicating to finding higher quality women, investing in yourself, or oretty much any other activity. I know we all have preferences but you shouldn't obsess over them the way you do…
/r/askTRP03/01/17 12:02 AM
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This is normal. I still have people in my life who haven't taken the first step. Still live with mom & dad and live for playing the next big video game. I'm willing to admit that I'm still making up for my stupidity when I was younger (didn't manage my money right, didn't invest in myself) but I've already seen great growth and should be in great shape in another year or two. Those are the kinds of people you keep around in life to remind you of where you could be today if you hadn't decide to i…
/r/askTRP01/01/17 06:03 PM
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Exercise some self control (keep her blocked and don't contact her) or ditch social media altogether.
/r/askTRP31/12/16 10:47 AM
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Just ignore this shit. MTV has done nothing in the last 20 years but get rid of the programming that made them famous and become SJW TV. Between giving that Chescaleigh bitch a platform to spew her PC, judgmental, hateful bullshit and it behaving like Buzzfeed, MTV isn't worth having a reasonable discussion over.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/16 11:33 AM
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That sounds like the best way to handle it. The most satisfying part is where she whines about being used when he decides anything is better than letting that leech grab on.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/16 11:40 PM
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Sounds like a solid plan to me. String her along and let her witness you achieving your goals before slamming the door on her face.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/16 07:53 PM
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What are you going to do with this information? If I were you and were also a vindictive asshole, I'd play the long game and string this asshole along until she comes to claim her prize.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/16 07:41 PM
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Bingo. Again, I just hope this guy realizes just how much of a blessing this truly is. He's an outsider in almost any relationship with a single mother. I believe that dating a single mother is a double-edged sword. If she pays no attention to her kid(s), she's an awful human being and you should want no part of that. If she's a good parent, it will take years of hard work and dedication on your end to potentially get the same level of consideration as her kid.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/16 03:22 PM
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I suppose the problem I have is that I have a difficult time putting myself in her position. I try to be rational about the decisions I make. If a woman won't date me because I'm taking the opportunity to save thousands of dollars per year, good riddance.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/16 09:02 AM
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My bad. I think I took this entire thread more seriously than I should have.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/16 08:54 AM
10

That makes one of us. Go to Walmart and check out the women in their 30s who look like they're in their 60s riding around on scooters. 50 lbs of tits, 50 lbs of ass, and another 50 of thighs, gut, and chin. Not raggin' on you but that's what I imagine this woman looks like.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 03:43 AM
1

That's what I'm thinking. If I'm that man, I'm looking to save as much as possible and making my money work for me. Retiring in 10-15 years because I've been saving a considerable amount of my income.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 03:40 AM
10

I don't mean to make this guy out to be perfect because he isn't. I'm just rubbed the wrong way by this woman making herself out to be some kind of catch when she's a single mother, she's 50 lbs overweight, and because she's in her echo chamber looking for people to back her up on her decision.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 03:37 AM
4

You're right. He could be a total scumbag for all we know. I can speculate on the type of man he is but I can speak with far more certainty how shit this woman's attitude is. If I were him, I would be happy I lived rent-free in the house and would feel no shame. The house will at least be partly his if his parents die early or they keep it until they pass so having someone with a personal stake taking care of it seems like a sound decision… plus he saves thousands (if not tens of thousands) a ye…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 10:19 PM
19

She might as well be 270. She thinks the thick layers of fat on her chest and her ass make her desirable.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 08:27 PM
64

The guy lives with his parents and has the opportunity to save a considerable amount of his money instead of paying rent or blowing it on a mortgage. If he's been frugal, he should be able to buy a house cash once he decides it's time to move on. Not a bad deal and how she can hold it against him, I don't know. She's going to drop this guy because he's overweight but because she's got big, fat tits and a big, fat ass she thinks she's a catch. Nice to know that all you need to be a catch is big, …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 08:25 PM
1

I agree. She's crazy, she's ready to bail, and is disrespectful as all fuck. All signs OP has been at the watering hole for too long.
/r/askTRP02/12/16 04:35 AM
2

She's an asshole and you're an idiot. Oneitis for a chick who talks shit to you? Ghost her yesterday.
/r/askTRP01/12/16 01:35 AM
2

I'm an introvert by nature and I have to prepare myself for social events which may be what you need to do. I find myself not looking forward to them but when it comes time to socialize, a switch flips and I'm the life of the party. Get the energy you need before you dive into the social event so you don't find yourself looking for it. I find I'm likely to duck out for a quick recharge if I break my ritual but people typically notice. My friends know to give me the space I need but people who ar…
/r/askTRP01/12/16 12:29 AM
1

I have no advice to offer that hasn't already been given. I just hope that everyone in her life, yourself included, make it out as best they can. Good luck.
/r/askTRP29/11/16 02:12 AM
2

If you're tall, athletic, decent-looking, or "confident as hell," you wouldn't have any trouble socializing with others. You're either over-confident in your abilities, a diamond in the rough (you need to present yourself better), or you're putting up fromt for us. It's been my experience that if you're even remotely genetically gifted, people will still seek you out. I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm overweight and I still get approached by women at bars (not as much as I did whrn I was fitter)…
/r/askTRP27/11/16 03:39 PM
5

I think the key factors here for you is that she didn't volunteer the information until the last minute and that she wants to get obliterated. My LTR gets "crunk" at home watching shit like Gilmore Girls or Criminal Minds and goes and sings karaoke with a couple of her friends and is there for an hour or two. In my head, I'm weighing whether or not I'd do the same in your shoes. I'm leaning in favor of no but I don't have a good reason outside of "I'd have more pressing matters to concern myself…
/r/askTRP26/11/16 05:53 PM
2

I love the world, I love life, and I love living. People have the capacity to do good but in the long run, they will do what benefits them most. An example is I like to do things for people. It makes me feel good… but I'm doing it because it makes me feel good.
/r/askTRP25/11/16 11:27 PM
3

It's over. You're not friends. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Move on before she fucks you over.
/r/askTRP25/11/16 03:16 PM
6

It is. Assume that people will operate with their own interests in mind and the world becomes a far more predictable place.
/r/askTRP25/11/16 03:00 PM
7

More importantly, she doesn't want to jump from the branch she's onto blindly to another one. She just doesn't have the next dick ready. OP should pull the rug out from under her before she has a chance to surprise him.
/r/askTRP25/11/16 02:38 PM
12

This seems pretty cut & dry. You're a safety blanket for her. You don't give her the tingles but someone down the road will and that's when she'll try to hamster her way into having her cake and eating it too. Next her the first chance you get. Sort your living situation out, find a good weekend to have a couple of your boys help you move (offer food & drinks), and get a fresh start. I make it a habit not to repeat myself and neither should you. If you've said "We don't fuck enough" and she nodd…
/r/askTRP25/11/16 02:36 PM
3

No, you're not ready for that. You say your current girl is more attractive and more intelligent yet you're concerning yourself with your ex. If TRP has taught you anything at all, you should see why this is a simple question to answer. If these old friends want to reconnect and you're interested (which seems to be the case), do so on your terms. Grab a bite to eat. Do something social that doesn't require your ex or her partner. If you're the one in control of the guest list, you can include an…
/r/askTRP25/11/16 04:03 AM
28

They chose to cling blindly onto the worldview that was most comfortable for them ("nice guys eventually finish first") instead of opening their eyes and seeing the world for what it is.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/16 10:39 AM
4

You haven't internalized any of the tenets of Red Pill and are seeking external validation (which itself goes again TRP tenets). I'm a big proponent of Monk Mode. Cut out the unnecessary and focus on yourself and your development. Gym. Reading. Beneficial hobbies. Do that for a couple of months and marvel at your personal growth. The confidence you'll acquire will help kill the validation-seeking behavior.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 10:01 PM
0

Demoting her to a plate would either get her to bail or reignited her desire for him. Not necessarily a bad approach if he's just looking to fuck although the oneitis is strong with that move. As long as OP recognizes that he has oneitis, I don't think plating her is the worst thing in the world. He'll figure out she's too much work compared to the others and cut her loose.
/r/askTRP10/10/16 09:53 PM
6

I came to say essentially this. No matter how great the sex is and how great of a catch you may be, you will never be a single mother's top priority (if she is a good mother) because she is more focused on her kids (and herself) than on you. If you're her priority, that's a red flag and she should be dropped immediately. Damned if you do stay, damned if you don't. Nothing wrong with that, though. Just don't take on responsibilities that you don't have to take on. Enjoy your time together but kee…
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:26 PM
2

Many of us have probably been where you are. Whatever it is, it's honestly not worth it. People fail but failure is a learning experience. I felt thay way after getting let go from my first job out of college. I was also busy going through the worst break-up in my life so I can honestly say I was at my all-time lowest. It was only years later, after having picked myself up and done something about it, that I realized that I'd been literally set up to fail by my supervisor. I got over the break-u…
/r/askTRP15/09/16 04:39 PM
6

She's sowing the seeds to go ride the carousel while having some steady dick at home. It's a two-way street. If you can enjoy your sexuality then she believes she should be allowed to as well. I'd say that is a test in that she's probably trying to see what you do. It's a no-win situation from my perspective. Fuck around "with her approval" and she gets to have her cake and eat it too. Don't fuck and don't address the situation, you lose her respect or she takes you inaction as disinterest and s…
/r/askTRP15/09/16 07:38 AM
3

The best thing you could do for yourself is drop little hints about how great the frequency is and how the lack of sex led to the collapse of your relationship. That bit of dread will help insure that the well doesn't dry up.
/r/askTRP14/09/16 05:52 PM
1

The latter aren't real friends so that's a moot point.
/r/askTRP26/08/16 10:13 PM
1

Sorry for the late response. That's awful advice from anyone, man or woman. That's not advice I would take from anyone and no man should either. Fortunately, the women I consider friends would never give that as advice.
/r/askTRP26/08/16 10:12 PM
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I was about to comment on how the real lesson here is that he was resilient enough to bounce back but the moron took her back so that's out the window. Why the fuck are there so many men stupid enough to let this kind of thing happen to them? Edit: What a surprise, she's not even attractive. This dude is dumb beyond his years.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 11:09 PM
3

Not having female friends. I've seen varying degrees of agreement with this tenet here. If you're smart (which I admit we aren't all the time), it's nice to get some perspective from a woman without an agenda. They're hard to come by (I've only had two women in my life I consider friends) but their advice has been indispensable, at least to me. It's easier to say "No female friends" but I feel the truth is a little more nuanced than that.
/r/askTRP24/08/16 11:05 PM
7

You seem to know what to do already. In the past, I've found monk mode to be very beneficial. It let me focus on what I had to do and constantly being busy with self-improvement helped drill into my head that I did the right thing and that things could only get better.
/r/askTRP24/08/16 04:54 AM
1

No man becomes a deadbeat overnight. Lazy people work hard when they have to and then burn out and don't do shit for long stretches of time. If the woman in that situation didn't figure out the guy was a deadbeat before letting him knock her up, then she didn't value herself enough to form an informed opinion of the guy. It shows poor judgment. A guy doesn't become neglectful overnight. Plus, as someone has already said, there are so mamy single women out in the world. What makes this single mot…
/r/askTRP15/08/16 10:55 PM
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I don't know what you hope to gain from here. Most people (myself included) are going to tell you to bail. She betrayed your trust and allowed you to build a life with her based on a lie. The counselor is an absolute piece of shit for shaming you into trusting her again. Find a new one that will take your feelings into consideration and isn't just trying to put paint on the stains of your relationship. Yes, the betrayal was several years ago but it's one that would have drastically changed the n…
/r/askTRP15/08/16 10:40 PM
5

They've probably convinced themselves that oral doesn't count or guys who were inside them for less than five minutes don't count or men they're ashamed of don't count.
/r/askTRP11/08/16 06:58 PM
4

I would maintain radio silence if I were you. Let her reach out to you if she reaches out at all. Anything less and you'll lose face (and frame). First off, she's hung up on her ex and you're just a distraction for her. Second, the ball is in her court and she isn't interested in playing. She's into you but not more than her ex. Too many women out in the world for you to wait for her to make up her mind.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 02:52 PM
2

It's too common for people today not to take the time to digest what they consume. For one reason or another, they're quick to react and those same people double down on said reaction. "Measure twice, cut once" is an adage that everyone should keep in mind in their everyday lives. Taking the time to process information is an art that we've slowly lost. I'm glad this concept is something that men here, from mods to regular contributors to regular members, are preaching.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/16 07:38 PM
2

HRC: The Ultimate Appetite Suppressant.
/r/askTRP04/08/16 09:17 PM
2

Blaming you for her lack of growth is the easy way out. Forcing you to stop all of this positive growth insures that you stick around and she continues to have an emotional punching bag. Cut her loose before you lose any momentum. Let her know that her trying to turn you into a scapegoat (because she's too immature to look inside for the root cause of any of her problems) is why she's getting cut loose. At best, she takes that an addresses it and isn't a miserable bitch to the next dude and at w…
/r/askTRP04/08/16 05:44 PM
6

Come on man, this isn't r/wtf. Gonna have to eat lunch later…
/r/askTRP04/08/16 05:43 PM
2

It's difficult to give advice in this situation without a bigger sample size. If this is an isolated incident, I say let it go. The worst thing you can possibly do is go nuclear because she didn't want to fuck last night and this morning when she puts out regularly without a complaint. It would make you come off as a whiny beta bitch. However, if you see a pattern begin to form then your second suggestion is the way to go.
/r/askTRP27/07/16 02:31 AM
1

This is the younger brother of a girl I fooled around with. He tried online dating and found a high-maintenance single mother. The single mother works low-paying jobs and (until they got together) lived with family. While his job isn't much better, he still works hard and makes good money. They moved in together shortly after getting together because him & his ex lived together and the lease was up. He currently pays all the bills. His mother is loaded and offered to buy him a house on the condi…
/r/askTRP26/07/16 03:34 AM
2

I've had threesomes (with my current LTR) and never had this issue. Part of it is we had a prior conversation about what our expectations were and I immediately said "No other men. Period." It's never been brought up or been an issue. A couple of people have already pointed out that she probably has a male candidate in mind. As soon as I read your post, that's what came to mind. Why rock the boat so much over a hypothetical? Because she wants to have her cake and eat it too. I would be on high a…
/r/askTRP24/07/16 12:54 PM
1

I don't know that you could have recuperated that night at that venue (but I wasn't there so I could be wrong). If I felt I was having bad luck at a bar, I would move on to another bar nearby. The city I live in is somewhat of a college town (in that we have probably a dozen different colleges within ten miles of each other) so there are plenty of bars to try my luck at. Out of an LTR or no, I think it's kind of fucked up to snipe a girl is already talking to. With that said, you're a better man…
/r/askTRP26/06/16 06:26 PM
1

Friends don't step on each others' toes. If you can't trust the person who you call as your best friend, who the fuck can you trust? Consider that OP's friend made him look like shit and fucked up his game for the rest of the night. What kind of bro is that?
/r/askTRP26/06/16 03:44 PM
3

Definitely not r/news. I haven't been back since their poor management of the Pulse shooting (not that the coverage was that great to begin with). A couple of the mods took it upon themselves to start deleting practically any post made (including a post by a Redditor sharing information like help hotlines, where to donate blood, etc.). It ended up breaking down into a bunch of angry Redditors spamming the thread. I can only assume that no one over there lost their job over it but it's clear that…
/r/askTRP26/06/16 03:34 PM
1

That's unfortunate. I had someone talk to me for looking in the direction of two women directly in front of the stationary bike I was using to warm up on. When I warm up, I keep my head down to help me get into the zone but I look up to see the time I have on the bike every couple of minutes since I have headphones in and don't hear the beeps. These same women told the staff it wasn't an issue. If I was a disgusting slob or a creepy guy, chances are good they don't say anything. But that's here …
/r/askTRP26/06/16 12:19 PM
2

These women are spinning the situation so they don't lose face for being unable to lock the dude down. Sounds like he's using this fact to his advantage (good om him for doing so). I can't knock his tactics. I personally wouldn't do something like this since she can easily turn this around on him and whine to whomever will listen that her "bestie" is being negligent and not spending time with her.
/r/askTRP26/06/16 12:15 PM
2

Don't Swedish gyms have staff to police this kind of nonsense? Why doesn't she let them know so this guy can get kicked out?
/r/askTRP26/06/16 11:32 AM
2

This seems cut and dry. She didn't unblock you on the spot, tried (and succeeded) to cloud your judgment with tears and theatrics, and keeps apologizing profusely to try and get you to drop the matter. Ask her sister what's in her story? Sure, she's going to tell you about everything she's doing because you guys are the best of friends, right? This is a huge read flag, man. She's using your feelings against you. Think about this objectively. What you do in the end is up to you but I'd be on high…
/r/askTRP15/06/16 12:04 PM
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Congratulations. You know what you want and you're not wasting time with a woman who is unable & unwilling to meet your basic needs. Despite all you did for her, she'll find new and interesting ways of spinning this and putting the failure of the relation solely on you. She gave you the answer for how to avoid this in the future. Don't commit. The moment you do, they flip a switch and their tingles are gone.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 11:40 AM
2

She probably will since you sound like an asshole. All this other guy has to do is be a sympathetic shoulder to cry on and she'll be banging him in no time.
/r/askTRP10/06/16 05:37 PM
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It makes perfect sense when you consider the tingles she gets from being Daddy's good little girl. I think she'll get hers down the line. Her actions will no doubt catch up with her.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 05:33 PM
2

I read your comment after posting my own and essentially said the same thing with regard to confidence. I find myself more alert, more methodical in my approach with people in general, and overall just feel better about myself.
/r/askTRP08/06/16 07:02 PM
2

I know what you mean and the approach isn't for everyone. I stopped cold turkey; I know I'll slide back into old habits if I don't make a drastic change. The the way I approach the sex thing is like this: I'm the hunter and any woman in the vicinity is the prey. I take control of that desire and channel it into something positive. I strike up conversations with women I don't know and am more charismatic. I'm more alert. The women I encounter definitely notice the change but in a positive way. It…
/r/askTRP08/06/16 07:00 PM
2

I personally believe it does. I get harder, I can get erect faster, and although I go for less time (about 15-20 minutes as opposed to 30-40 minutes), it's more fulfilling. I can go again shortly after hut I still come quicker. Not jerking off is difficult but I've noticed it helps me with my LTR game. She feels desired and I get really into it which helps her enjoy herself. Stop jerking off for a bit and try to relax. I used to have the same issue and it was mostly relaxing. Not jerking off mad…
/r/askTRP08/06/16 04:03 PM
2

She's throwing a shit test at you. Next her. She's going to get into the routine of calling you up when she doesn't have better options (like her ex and like this dude she wants to stop fucking you over).
/r/askTRP08/06/16 11:12 AM
2

I'm struggling with that myself right now. What I've found works for me is just keeping my eyes on the prize. When I don't want to work out, I look at pics of guys I want to look like. When I don't want to do work, I look at the people who didn't put in the effort and where they are. Taking a rest is important since rest is part of the process but a week sounds excessive. I build in cheat days/relaxation days into my schedule to help prevent burn out.
/r/askTRP07/06/16 03:48 PM
1

It's that flawed (primarily millenial) logic seeping into the brains of SJWs & feminists everywhere. If we aren't fighting each other to the death for an opportunity to kiss a slut's holy golden asshole, we must clearly detest them and everything they stand for. If we don't conclude that their actions & behavior are God's gift to the world, we must clearly have some sort of vendetta against them.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 11:49 AM
1

I think you need to let go of some of that resentment for that guy. He inadvertently did you a big favor and you're now a much better man. Get jacked, start making obscene money and loving life and karma will steer that vile cunt of an ex your way. She'll see how successful you've become and you can close that chapter of your life.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 11:44 AM
1

He will but he'll also be bitter. He's unfortunately a "good guy" in the beta sense. Hopefully he loses nothing in the split and he can adopt & employ RP philosophy going forward.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:45 PM
1

Tell me about it. I thought he was kidding at first. Absolutely brutal.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:04 PM
2

Of course not. He still isn't quite sure why she bailed but apparently it was all his fault. I keep giving myself vertigo from how fast and far my eyes roll every time I hear that.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:00 PM
1

Unfortunately, he's not taking it well. His boss just happens to be his best friend. He's letting him work from home until he gets his shit together.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 03:58 PM
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A good friend of mine just got married six months ago and saved up tens of thousands of dollars to go on a really expensive honeymoon (guy is in his late 30s, has his finances in order, and is a hard worker). She's 14 years younger than he is but whenever you saw them, you'd think of that Disney type love everyone talks about. This was one thing that she had always dreamed of but simply couldn't do on her salary: she wanted to see the world. She was his best friend and he wanted to make that dre…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 12:08 PM
2

The one question I was hoping you'd answer was what this jerk's response was. The guy sounds like your typical millenial. Entitled and unable to communicate properly.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/16 11:42 AM
1

I won't compromise myself for anyone. I'll continue living my life the way I think best. If she does grow to recognize and appreciate who and what I am, that's great but if she doesn't, that's perfectly fine too. One thing TRP has taught me is that you should always be true to yourself. It's a value I hold very dear and something I will never waver on.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 11:21 AM
3

I'm beginning to. I didn't realize just how bad shit had gotten until my sister, of all people, started spouting feminist propaganda one day via text message. She knows the kind of person that I am yet wants for me to change myself to better reflect the feminist ideal. I've always been polite & respectful to those deserving it, diplomatic, hard-working. It hurt because we've always been close and I felt that I'd always been a good male role model for her but apparently men are truly the enemy fo…
/r/askTRP31/05/16 02:04 PM
1

That's why I never let teasing get personal. The more of a rapport we build, the further I'm willing to go but never too far. Teasing should always be used to keep moods high and people feeling good. Women are more likely to respond to what you want favorably if I keep things good, in my experience.
/r/askTRP30/05/16 08:46 PM
16

In my opinion, alcohol is more dangerous than any of the other things you mentioned. Addictive nature aside, it's a crutch. Too many guys rely on it as a way to loosen up. Not to mention most people are busy recuperating most of the next day after a long night of drinking.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 04:31 AM
2

I'd rather not be with a woman who is fucking other people and most guys probably feel the same way. That's probably why it's not a popular sentiment with RP men. TRP is a framework and ultimately, what you do and are okay with is up to you. If you're okay with your LTR getting it elsewhere, go for it.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 02:30 PM
1

I tend to ask her to give me the important details and give her advice once on the situation. She knows my attention span for that kind of thing is small so she usually complies. When she forgets, I either walk away or focus on something more important which sets her off (that obviously being her problem). At that point she knows the odds of me investing more time on her bad day are zero which helps reinforce the one thing I ask for.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 09:47 PM
2

Trite but effective and true. Living well & being happy heals old wounds and it means you're being productive with your resources.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 03:35 PM
3

I'll try to be brief: You could have handled the actual interaction with her less gracefully and that's probably the most important part. Having to run around to avoid her though doesn't look good. You should have continued to be the most charismatic, entertaining man in the bar and let her witness firsthand what it was that she gave up without ever considering taking her home. That's a lot to ask, though.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 11:39 AM
17

If you're asking about the man cheating, I personally think it's stupid and unnecessary. If you don't like a woman, don't waste your time and just drop her. You and your reputation both take a hit and my personal philosophy is that your reputation is kind of like your credit score; easy to fuck up but difficult to build up. I'd rather be known for being direct and valuing my time (amd others' time) than for being too afraid to tell someone I'm not into them anymore. As for dealing with it, I've …
/r/askTRP20/04/16 04:14 PM
2

That's a book that is typically suggested here and one I plan to read (since I have a copy).
/r/TheRedPill16/04/16 05:57 PM
1

If people share the books they read, this may be a good thread to get that project started. I wouldn't mind working with a couple of guys to get that done.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/16 05:55 PM
2

I'm on board. I've got probably a dozen books I've been meaning to read that I haven't made the time for. Time to do just that. I'm going to start with "The Total Money Makeover" by Dave Ramsey. I've been meaning to work out a legitimate budget for myself instead of winging it. Anyone else interested?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 05:41 PM
1

You shouldn't, under any circumstances, reply. Stop texting her. She is not your friend. You gave her a reason and what she does with that information is her business, not yours.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 05:30 PM
4

You're being set up to look more like "a blue pill beta fucking puppy." By showing up, you'll be showing the world you have no spine and showing her that your cold responses were a game and that she's in your head. Don't respond to your ex-girlfriend's best friend and stop communicating with your ex-girlfriend altogether.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 10:45 AM
5

So she made a post showcasing her simp fiancée and got caught fucking around and people actually did the right thing? Great job, Reddit. There may still be hope for you.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 11:41 AM
1

I personally wouldn't take up porn or masturbation (there is nothing constructive about them) but perhaps an hour of video games to wind down (nothing constructive there either but I've always enjoyed a good story; if you're addicted to video games, I'd replace this with books). One of the things I'm working on right now is mastering my addiction to getting off. I'm currently in an LTR amd there is no shortage of sex but I've maintained my masturbation habits from when I was a bachelor & lived a…
/r/askTRP14/04/16 11:18 AM
3

I myself would opt for monk mode in this situation (and after any relationship). It helps me avoid distractions, take stock of what's going on and what I need to do, and to eliminate unnecessary stress. Fucking other women is nice but as you said, you get a fleeting, overly inflated sense of validation and that could be detrimental down the road.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 01:21 AM
2

Congratulations, Rollo. I'll have to grab a copy of the audio book on Audible tomorrow.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/16 10:57 PM
13

I'm in the same boat, brother. I get told about my need to check my privilege all the time by white women from well-off families who work dead-end jobs making minimum wage with either no degree or one in a useless field. I'm an immigrant from Latin America who came here and worked his ass off and had this opportunity thanks to my immigrant parents who also made something of themselves after getting here. That kind of behavior goes to show you just how insane these women can truly be. I hope you'…
/r/TheRedPill13/04/16 03:54 PM
1

I don't think that him studying TRP during monk mode would mean that the training is revolving around her (she'd just be a catalyst and that's neither good nor bad) but I understand what you're saying. I just know that dating when trying to improve yourself isn't easy and can become a problem in itself.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 02:27 PM
1

She (potentially) gave this guy an STD. Does he really want to ever fuck her again after that?
/r/askTRP12/04/16 09:00 PM
1

Is focusing on fucking other women really the best approach? He should go monk mode, go over some TRP literature, internalize it, and work on bettering himself. Fucking other chicks is just going to remind him of the crap his (soon to be ex) girlfriend did and hid. Worse is he might find a girl who is better on paper that is even worse than the girl he has.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 08:58 PM
2

I don't think that asking a woman about her n-count makes a man immature. I personally want to know what I'm investing my time in. If a woman is in her mid 20s, her n-count is higher than her age, and she's looking for someone to settle down with, I can save us both a lot of time by letting her know that I'm not interested. Frankly, I don't feel like I can trust a woman at all who isn't willing to disclose that information. I try to be as transparent and direct as possible and expect the same of…
/r/askTRP15/03/16 04:18 PM
2

If she wants some of your time, she should compensate you for it. Tell her you're willing to exchange an hour of coaching for dinner & drinks and that she'll be paying for it. Even if she gets what she supposedly wants in your precious advice, you're not leaving emtpy-handed. Treat it solely as a business transaction (don't make any moves) but be friendly & out-going. That will all throw her for a loop and will hopefully get her seeing you in a new light. She'll perceive you as having more value…
/r/askTRP24/02/16 01:59 PM
5

In my experience, women you know works well. My LTR & I have been with two of her friends (while they were single) and at least two female friends of mine are interested. The topic came up during drinks in a public place. We had drinks at our place and talked it over some other time. Mostly what was and wasn't off limits. The next time we got together, we fucked. With one, it was a one time thing (she got into a relationship a couple weeks later) and the other we messed around with until she got…
/r/askTRP17/02/16 06:53 PM
4

That's the understatement of the year. The worst part is his unhinged ex-girlfriend is going to spread rumors that he's some sort of deviant and people will eat it up. Her story will mutate from "he came into the bathroom while I was showering" to "he tried to kick the door down."
/r/askTRP17/02/16 06:44 PM
2

I was in the friend zone ten years ago during my sophomore year of college. The thoughtful gestures didn't get me out. Being a sympathetic ear when things went wrong for her didn't either. What got me out of the friend zone was when I decided enough was enough and opted to move on. I began spending time with a woman far better-looking who was actually pursuing me instead of wasting my time. A week or two after fucking this girl, I was out of the friend zone and we were dating. Abundance was the …
/r/askTRP13/02/16 03:58 AM
1

I was going to write how this is the farthest thing from justice. If this story is true, you have a young man who is scarred for life and will never trust anyone again. He'll likely never be able to form a healthy relationship again. He'll probably need medication to function in society. This girl, on the other hand, gets shipped off to her father's house and gets a fresh start. And what kind of punishment is no inheritance? There is no justice in that story. The son is fucked up for life and ha…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/16 08:50 PM
14

Remember, it's only ever domestic abuse if a man does it. Men get shamed for coming out and saying they were abused by their partners. "Grow up and be a man" but only when shaming a woman who rightfully deserves it, right? Otherwise it's "get in touch with your feminine side." I especially love the one comment about the person hoping the man received "one hell of an ass kicking." This should surprise no one. It sure as hell doesn't surprise me.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/16 03:31 PM
1

Have you considered going and scouting the place out? I've been talking to a friend of mine about going and scoping out the city since I too can work remotely. We're planning on going in the fall for a couple of weeks.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 12:40 PM
1

You know yourself better than we do. I think many would disagree with me but Option 2 seems like the best going forward. With Option 1 & Option 3, you're looking for trouble. Cheating will cause unnecessary drama and it's unlikely that she'll be exclusively with you while you fuck other women for good. With Option 2, you can spend some time playing the monogamy game and learning more about yourself. If you lose interest or things change, no harm done. You ditch her and go back to what you know.
/r/askTRP23/01/16 09:46 PM
1

It's how we're programmed. She's definitely feeling it too but it sounds like she's less attached than you are since she's the one giving you the break speech. Take that as a hint. Steel yourself and move on. Find someone else to preoccupy your time and hopefully by the time that happens, you guys can be proper friends. Also, work on meeting other guys who have similar interests so you have a couple of wingmen for outings in other cities.
/r/askTRP23/01/16 09:32 PM
3

It sounds like you two are emotionally involved with one another. It's one of the pitfalls of having a friend of the opposite sex, gay or not. And while she identifies as a lesbian, she's attracted to you enough to mess around with you. I'd distance myself from her if I were you. You don't have any male friends to spend your 21st with? Partying by yourself doesn't sound like a good time to me.
/r/askTRP23/01/16 09:20 PM
2

I'm tall (6'8"/200cm), have tan skin, speak a foreign language, work in STEM, earn a really good wage, and have a great personality. My weakest is my weight. I left myself go and coasted on other traits. Either way, if a woman doesn't want to spend time with me based on all those positive traits, her loss. She can go on Tumblr, Facebook, or whatever and complain about how she can't find a man.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 01:09 AM
1

I understand how you came to that conclusion and agree with you that there is an opportunity that one or more of those women would change their mind. With that said, that way of thinking conflicts with the concept of abundance mentality. I'd rather have a pool of women I know want to spend time with me than have a mixed bag. I don't need to deal with a woman with a huge ego. If you personally feel comfortable following up, go for it. More power to you if it's an effective strategy. I just know t…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 12:33 AM
1

She should be the one reaching out to OP. It doesn't come off as needy and it isn't a huge breach of frame. Losing frame is the cost in this situation.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 04:08 AM
1

Move on. The pussy isn't worth it. Chicks who are married or have boyfriends can get complicated. I was in a similar position with a coworker shortly after I started working my current job. I was 23, she was in her early 40s. Petite brunette who took care of herself. We got as far as taking our clothes off before I decided not to fuck her. She was splitting up from her crazy husband and lord knows I didn't need this guy showing up at my doorstep with a weapon. About a year later, she'd left the …
/r/askTRP09/01/16 06:53 PM
3

Being polite and being a doormat are two different things. If you're aiming to be polite, hold the door for anyone immediately after you, man or woman. If helping others makes you feel good, do so as long as it isn't detrimental to you and your goals. Don't want to fuck around with multiple girls? Don't. Only you can decide what you want and don't want to do. TRP is just a framework to make achieving your goals easier and more straightforward. As one user already suggested earlier, review all of…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 01:31 PM
9

For me, it's this. She's already of a very RP mindset so there is little social programming I have to fight with.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 12:03 AM
1

Honestly, don't let the chatter distract you. If a mutual friend brings up what is going on (even her asking about you), tell them in the most polite way possible that it isn't your business and that you don't care. As others have said, your daughter is your top priority. With that said, I also agree that being cordial is important. It makes you look good all around and makes it as painless as possible to enjoy your time with your daughter. I think limiting your interaction with your ex to your …
/r/askTRP11/11/15 08:38 PM
4

"Average" will be redefined; someone who is "average" now will be thin by future standards. I wouldn't be surprised if being thin doesn't become more vilified in the future. People who are thin will be considered to have "severe" eating disorders. Unfortunately, I can't be optimistic about how things will be because we live in a society fraught with entitlement issues.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/15 07:09 PM
2

Because it was about the message for them. They base their decisions on their fee-fees and not logic. This woman lied and could have cost an innocent man his life.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 05:46 PM
1

Hahaha, you must be new here. That was a punchline in these parts for quite awhile. She was apparently dragging the mattress around after the fact trying to save face.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 11:21 AM
2

Holy crap. That is one vindictive human being. True love is the rarest of commodities. Don't fool yourself into thinking this woman ever did. Stay far, far away. Move if you have to (once this legal issue is resolved). I would get things in motion right away.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 11:19 AM
7

You know the answer to this one. It's time to check your chute for any holes and jump off that plane. Whenever I've read one of these stories, typically the woman asks for an open relationship because there is someone getting her panties moist that she wants a guilt-free pass to pursue. Reddit has plenty of first person accounts of this happening. Eventually, she'll neglect you because whatever she's getting from outside the relationship is more fulfilling than what she's getting from you and yo…
/r/askTRP01/11/15 02:02 PM
6

Pretty much every woman I've been with has pushed sex. It was never that I didn't want to have sex but mostly because I didn't want to give them the wrong impression. I was bold in some ways and conservative in others. I think you're right in that there is a large number of men willing to wait especially for the right girl. If she rode the CC, everyone knows it, and she tries to get you to wait then she's playing you. But if her count is low, she has some self respect, and you can somehow prove …
/r/TheRedPill30/10/15 02:30 AM
2

That is sadly true.
/r/askTRP28/10/15 11:11 AM
2

As do I. But I find that people do this primarily because they don't want to appear stupid. They'd rather risk being exposed down the road.
/r/askTRP28/10/15 11:10 AM
2

It's a combination of that and a combination of trying to sound smart by having an opinion about everything coupled with the notion that everyone is entitled to an opinion. Those same people that let everyone know that their opinion matters are oddly enough the first to go dark when it's time to take responsibility for them.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 07:19 PM
7

That's what people do now. They give their opinions on things they're not familiar with. I remember seeing a tv segment on a show asking people about The Affordable Care Act vs. Obamacare (they're the same thing) and the majority of people they interviewed just regurgitated a bunch of crap they watched on the news or read in the paper. Regardless of the particular narrative, most people are like that about everything. They're quick to judge without familiarizing themselves with the subject matte…
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:54 PM
3

Hahaha, please do. Honestly, it boggles my mind how little personal accountability there is with regard to modern "enlightened" women. The older I get, the more true that appears to me. It's depressing.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/15 09:16 PM
32

I like to think it's less empowering and more entitling. I don't care what women do with their bodies but I do have the right to be selective of who I date. If you used to fuck guys casually all the time, I'm simply not interested. Yeah, we may be compatible in most ways but that one thing is a deal-breaker for me. Good thing modern women have things like feminism that say that we're assholes for having standards. It will help convince men who don't know any better that it's okay to toss your st…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/15 10:21 AM
1

I remember this post. The cognitive dissonance is scary. She dumped him because she thought he was going nowhere and is upset he's doing whatever he wants because he has financial security. Worse yet is she's upset that he won't speak to her AFTER he told her he saw her in his future and she dumped him. Man, that's fucking insane.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 07:44 PM
1

Thanks a lot for the input.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 05:28 PM
1

Unfortunately, I do slouch like in the pictures I see with people who have forward head syndrome. As for tightness, definitely have hip & hamstring tightness. Thanks for the heads up. Strength Camp is Elliot Hulse, right? I like his videos.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 04:29 PM
1

Thanks for the advice. Any suggestions on must-do stretches?
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 03:12 PM
1

I know what you mean. A coworker of mine is a competitive lifter and helped me on my form but the damage has already been done. Repeated knee injuries from rugby and football have left my knees in crappy shape. I'm working on ahedding the weight I've gained over the past couple of years and hoping that it allows me to squat much more weight.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 02:23 PM
1

What kind of legwork are you doing? I have skinny ass legs and I need to focus on them. For me, it's going to be rough considering I'm 6'8" and have shitty knees from years of poor health choices coupled with improper form.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 08:43 PM
1

Only point I want to make on the condom thing is that people throw that out all the time and don't realize that some of us are smart enough to weigh the pros and cons. You probably didn't take into account just how far this particular woman was willing to go to lock you down but you at least knew what you were doing. I wouldn't make any apologies for taking a risk and having it backfire.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 08:38 PM
8

Advertising his profile and luring curious females & girls looking for trouble? Bloody brilliant move.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 08:32 PM
2

Unfortunately. "Great, thirsty guys want you. Show me all the quality guys who want you anf then we'll talk."
/r/TheRedPill08/10/15 02:07 AM
7

That's the kind of thing you can't help make fun of. Would have dropped her right there.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/15 02:04 AM
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That's her twisted way of proving to you that she's a catch. Many women actually believe that being someone's sloppy seconds/thirds/etc. is actually an honor. The cognitive dissonance is astounding.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/15 08:26 PM
1

Start making friends. I made friends in classes, pick-up games of basketball/football/soccer, campus activities, etc. Branch out from there.
/r/askTRP07/10/15 02:07 AM
2

I'm working on many of the same things. I got complacent and let myself go. I gained a bunch of weight and have lost my ambition and that has caused me to doubt myself. I want for my 30s to be spent doing something more productive than chasing pussy and drinking. The friends I have all want to drink and have a good time and there is a time and place for it but I have to make up for the time I've spent feeling sorry for myself. Don't make my mistake and worry about pussy and booze. Work on improv…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 10:15 PM
3

Try to think about it objectively. I had my first kiss relatively late (at 18; 29 now) and it's not a story I ever tell. I tell the story of my first time having sex much more often. My first kiss was romantic I suppose but at this point in my life I've got better stories about kissing a woman than that. You'll make out with nore attractive women in more interesting places under more interesting circumstances.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 09:19 PM
1

The belief that having a woman is going to solve all of the world's problems is what brought a large number of us here in the first place. As you said, we deserve what we earn.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/15 04:57 PM
41

Someone else's fault? Blame is guaranteed to fall on the husband.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 11:31 AM
1

I've been keeping an eye on it in my area. Problem is that people want a fortune for equipment they don't want or use. I wish I had the room for a squat rack. That will be the only thing I can't do at home although that's fine because I have shit knees.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 07:00 PM
1

It's too easy to blame others for this guy's problems. Yeah, he could have had people be nicer to him, I'm sure. But how responsible is each individual person for finding their own self worth? You could have the strongest support system in the world but if your foundation is shaky, it will collapse on itself. The tone in this sub can be harsh at times but this sub isn't responsible for what this shooter did.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 06:54 PM
1

I've got a free gym at work and at my apartment complex but it's hit or miss on whether I can get a good workout. I'm looking for deals on a bench and some weights so I can work out at home to avoid any distractions.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 03:00 PM
1

The man could have been fucking a HB10 and chances are he would have broken anyway. This isn't a rational reaction to the stress almost everyone experiences in the real world. Having a fucking girlfriend isn't the solution to everyone's problems. It's a pretty BP point of view to have.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 12:51 PM
-1

This is what happens when someone in the real world breaks. He was going to break regardless of how much sex he was having. A male-only community could never have saved him.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 12:26 PM
1

I unfortunately tried that shit here and there over the course of a nearly four year relationship and I now have egg on my face. That is one lesson I will never forget as long as I live. At least guys like you are wise enough never to try true vulnerability, GLO.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 09:35 PM
6

I've been a fan of Titus since his television show. To see him go through all that bullshit and still get up and be successful is inspiring. Some of us (myself included) have zero excuses considering how easy we've had it in comparison.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/15 01:59 PM
2

I wouldn't mind more in-depth information. Reading how other men have put TRP into action into their daily lives helps me find more ways to do the same.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 06:14 PM
1

This is a great response. In the past (I've cut down going out to once or twice a month), whenever a woman has approached me for a drink I just say "No" and go back to what I was doing. The only time I will buy a girl a drink is if we're actively in a conversation and I'm interested in what she has to say (so not necessarily her).
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 06:02 PM
1

Stories like the one you bring up are a cautionary tale to all guys out there. There is tons of knowledge to be picked up from it. "Watch you back." "Protect your assets." "Looks can be deceiving." If you yourself don't want to cam up then simply don't. But don't chalk up camming up as paranoia. Those of us who drive cars have to get car insurance. In the seven years I've been driving, I've never needed it. I'm a very cautious driver. But I pay it willingly knowing that if anything happens, I've…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 11:57 PM
2

There are ways around it. If he captures audio & video, all he needs is verbal confirmation from her that she understands that she is being recorded. If it's video only, he can make sure to get her to acknowledge the cameras. Edit: And I'm not saying that having signs alerting visitors that they're being recorded is a bad idea. There are obviously degrees of caution here.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 11:37 PM
3

Better to be safe than sorry. The last thing you want is for a woman to try and press charges for recording her.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 09:26 AM
3

It's your life and almost everything that people tell you here should be seen as nothing more than a suggestion. Sometimes there are situations where a fade is more effective. I've had two instances where I tried to be direct (which is just my preference) but should have gone with the fade instead.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 09:24 AM
3

She wasn't appalled by her actions. She was shocked you had that much foresight. Christ, you couldn't have been in a better position to deal with that situation. I wouldn't be surprised if she tried to reach out under the guise of apologizing and mending your “friendship” to try and figure out whether or not you're going to hand the footage over to the police. A buddy of mine at work buys flips electronic equipment. First thing I did was buy a set of security cameras and a digital recorder. The …
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 09:14 AM
1

They did state (somewhere; I'm on mobile right now so I'll let you hunt it down if you're interested) that TRP isn't a democracy. "Closing the discourse" is well within their right. If you don't like it, you don't have to participate. I also don't see how anyone here is being lead by fear, threats, or intimidation. I feel as the though the mods here are far more transparent than on any other sub. Heck, compare this with what happened with the "offensive" subs that were banned not too long ago. S…
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 11:08 AM
1

My hair started to thin up front so last year I took the plunge and shaved my head. Best decision I've made lookwise. I have a bump from when I was really young and it looks great despite that. I decided really young that I'd never let myself be one of those men walking around looking like Moe & Curly from The Three Stooges. Simply not a good look. I'm tall (6'8") and women will engage me in conversation because of my height or my bald head and they'll ask to feel it (they've even done it in fro…
/r/askTRP17/06/15 10:16 PM
16

Having a good physique may be important to you but getting better should be a higher priority. If bad form was the cause for the injury then perhaps it would be most constructive for you to work with low/no weight and improve your form so that you can hit new PRs and go farther than you did pre-injury once you're all better. I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like a bad place to be. I hope that you can bounce back and do better than you were before.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 07:44 PM
1

Figure out what you want. Chase it until you have it. Once you have it, start again.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:43 PM
1

http://nr.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2zriww/the_complete_mod_policy_rundown/ Posts based on fiction are already covered under the "Bad, False, or Low Quality Objective Data" rule. Unfortunately there is little that can be done without an amendment to the rule. Perhaps you can get a dialogue going with mods and other ECs about an amendment?
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 01:40 PM
2

Is there any way to prevent new accounts younger than X amount of time from posting? Perhaps heavily advertise sidebar material to those accounts too? It sounds like a lot if work to babysit newbs but it may relieve some of the headaches you guys experience here.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 01:30 PM
1

She told you what you wanted to hear to get you to commit. And as far as "salvaging" this goes, there is nothing of value to salvage. If I were you, I would have established something from the beginning and made that the status quo. She's used to this monogamous state of yours and is doing this to prevent a change. So as others have said, you could relent and remain monogamous… but you already know you'll be unhappy if that's the case so doing so is a bad idea. You could cheat… but you'd be unne…
/r/askTRP15/06/15 06:54 PM
4

I guess I appreciate the sentiment but I disagree with the message. You should probably back up some of these figures you're giving as facts. It takes at least a year to start spinning plates? You're doing something wrong if that's the case. If you're regularly going out and meeting people (and not using social media), there is simply no way that figure makes sense. If you're maximizing your social interaction, chances are good that you're going to hook somebody sooner than a year. I can't deny …
/r/TheRedPill12/06/15 01:46 PM
1

Would reworking some of the material in the TRP Handbook be part of that process? I've read it a couple of times and while it was a pleasant read, I found myself skipping some of the comments due to formatting.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 09:38 PM
1

I'm playful but I don't think I could pull off "Sassy Pants." I'm playful with people I'm comfortable with (especially women which has resulted in a lot of success) but I don't find that kind of approach works for me.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 09:32 PM
2

I can't believe calling her "Sassy Pants" actually worked.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 08:37 PM
22

No criticism to provide. Very well-written and very entertaining. Thanks for the share.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 01:36 PM
1

I can't ever read a Field Report again thanks to you. This was well-written and captivating. Holy crap. All I can really say is "Bravo."
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 08:46 PM
1

I respond with "Good."
/r/askTRP03/06/15 08:16 PM
3

Open yourself up to new things. You aren't doomed because you haven't found what you want to do for the rest of your life yet.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 03:17 PM
2

I don't blame you for suggesting that. We can call it a Beta Tax.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 02:56 PM
1

This was somehow MORE nonsensical than I expected it to be. Give strange women on the Internet my money because "we deserve it." No thanks.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 02:54 PM
5

This isn't a trial and OP saw what happened for himself. The wheel can spin with careless abandon. If he's smart, he will cut her off after he has said his part and he won't entertain the hamster. And just because she can try and mount a defense doesn't mean he should or will buy what she it. You're right. She could use the information at her disposal to fabricate a lie. But what is a lie to deaf ears?
/r/askTRP01/06/15 09:44 PM
18

Cut her loose. When she inevitably asks why, tell her. The hamster wheel will spin and she'll try to play it off as something else but stand your ground. It's disrespectful and if she's willing to give some rando her number while you're around, it's not difficult to believe what else she would do if you weren't. Don't end up like the schmoes in other subreddits who ignored the signs and said they didn't think anything of it because their girlfriends are "sexy flirty girls."
/r/askTRP01/06/15 06:47 PM
1

He dumped her for a reason. It's probably because she can't be trusted. Follow suit. Get tested and ditch her before she complicates your life further.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 06:42 PM
1

Depends on you, dude. If it's just sex (which it doesn't sound like to me) then stick around and enjoy the ride. Otherwise, I would get the fuck out out. If a girl I'm seeing hints that she's going to see another guy, I just ghost. There are plenty of single women with significantly lower counts out there that don't go to their ex's house and "end up" sleeping with them. It isn't worth my time to deal with all that drama. More likely than not, that trip to her ex's house was premeditated.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 05:56 PM
84

Your oneitis is preventing you from taking action. "She's just a generally sexy flirty girl" is you hamstering for her.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 05:44 PM
2

I think most guys here are reasonable enough to acknowledge that there are real risks to getting involved with women in relationships. Frankly, I think it's stupid because it adds unnecessary complexity your life. I adopted TRP to remove it so it seems counterproductive to do so to me. There was a post here not too long ago about morality and this scenario came into play. Don't believe that because you choose not to sleep with a taken woman that another guy won't do the same to a girl you're wit…
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 03:41 PM
2

You answered your own question. You aren't interested in a tattoo so don't bother getting one.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 06:15 AM
3

You lost control of the situation with the girl because you lost control of yourself while under the influence of alcohol. A mild case of oneitis doesn't help either. Find another date and keep the alcohol to a minimum.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 06:10 AM
2

Plan a social event. That can take as little work as starting a Facebook group/event and inviting people out to get food/drinks.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 08:34 PM
2

I did say "if." Like you, I read the horror stories and cringe because they do favor women. But I don't see the harm in preparing for the worst while hoping for the best.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 08:31 PM
2

Man up. Grab your grill, grab your friends, grab some drinks, and have a great time. You're giving her control over your life and she wasn't even your girlfriend. Take that control away and she's just another woman doing her time on the carousel. So the "fuck that" should be directed at sitting in your room, licking your non-existant wounds like a bitch. Go and have a good time. Flirt with some of the girls in the quad. Find your next conquest.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 08:27 PM
22

"Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing." The silver lining is that he's opened his eyes. If he can avoid getting wrecked financially by divorce then he (probably) has more than enough money to make those dreams of his a reality still.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 08:04 PM
3

Don't wait. There are plenty of free resources you can use to get started.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 07:11 PM
2

Find a job, hit the gym, and start writing down all the shit you need to get in order. Eliminate unnecessary distractions from your life since you literally cannot afford them right now. Look into going "Monk Mode" (http://illimitablemen.com/2014/04/13/monk-mode/). The time you invest now will pay dividends later. Good luck.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:44 PM
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Text like an adult & pursue women who can text like adults. That was painful to read.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:44 AM
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I think that last point is important here. He had grad students who wanted him but Wifey knew he wouldn't. If she thinks there is a shadow of a doubt he would, she would have been putting out everyday.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 07:54 PM
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From my understanding, keeping your SMV high is passive dread game. It's also one aspect of LTR game. You have to couple it with more to make it effective. Your friend wasn't and he got burned by it. Hopefully karma struck them both and gave them what they both deserve.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 07:51 PM
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If you can't agree on what lies in your future, your relationship is fucked. Think about your situation objectively. Remove your emotions from the equation and think about what you would do. You wouldn't want to marry someone who wants the opposite of you and won't budge. Run. Do yourself a favor and swallow the pill. You won't regret it. I began reading TRP because I'd heard it was an awful place and I wanted to see that for myself. Everything I read about TRP was wrong. TRP isn't what it's pai…
/r/askTRP28/05/15 06:22 PM
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At worst, a shit test. At best, a stupid comment. Don't think about it any further.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 05:49 PM
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Rawdogging a dumpster fire like takes some balls. You're incredibly lucky you didn't get burned.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 05:47 PM
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Go into every relationship with zero expectations. Allow uourself to be objective. Entering a relationship and having grand expectations early on is what dooms a relationship. You score an HB9 but she's a handful? Those expectations will cause you to stick around longer than you have to because you think she's The One™. Same goes for a girl who is great on paper except for the fact that she has to go out with her girls everyday to "unwind" at the bar. That's the kind of girl who will one day str…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 02:11 PM
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I'm the same way. You can build a friendship for life showing a man one relatively insignificant kindness.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 06:30 PM
1

My uncle suggested I get one but I forgot the name of the darn thing.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/15 08:02 PM
1

I've been shaving my head for almost a year now. I didn't know how I'd look but thankfully pretty great. And yeah, the attention I get is great. Girls love to run their hands over my head. A couple of tips for thoae considering shaving their heads: Use lotion after a shave and sunscreen when spending a lot of time outdoors. You don't want a leathery head.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/15 08:01 PM
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You aren't going to execute perfectly 100% of the time. Embrace mistakes as learning experiences (especially early on) since they're an opportunity for growth. One of the hardest things about this transition is balancing your old life and your new one. As one user already said, try and seek out like-minded people. I get my fix from just reading TRP posts and the commentary but others need more. Don't be afraid to cut ties with people. Some of those friends you described are more than eager to te…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 07:56 PM
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http://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/36mq97/its_not_our_sites_goal_to_be_a_completely/ There was talk about this earlier this week. As for the safety she speaks of, it's very clear she's talking about this new form of safety. It's a tactic used to silence opposing views. If it does happens, we can move on.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 06:03 PM
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http://illimitablemen.com/2015/05/19/the-red-pill-you-morality/ You don't have a moral balance that magically prevents some other guy from fucking your girl. Find a woman who doesn't put herself in those kinds of situation. Who isn't out late with her girlfriends getting bombed or hanging out with guys casually. Those scenarios should be automatic redflags. Those kinds of women you never LTR. Be the superior man. Make the choice easy.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 11:56 AM
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She initiated the bangout. There is definitely interest there on her part. And I think you handled the shit tests well enough to get a chance at redemption. Worst case scenario is you break even. Best case, FWB for the summer.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 11:49 AM
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Heh, funny you mention Secretary. It was 50 Shades before 50 Shades. An ex-girlfriend (a self-professed feminist) described it as "beautiful" and a "must-watch." The movie ends with her getting railed on a tree. Maggie Gyllenhal an okay actress but her brother is better. I think their respective filmographies & awards reflects that. I didn't dislike her being cast in Batman but Katie Holmes would have done better (considering I think she did great in the first film). Either way, I can believe a …
/r/TheRedPill21/05/15 08:46 PM
5

All of those things are being done For The Greater Good™ so it's okay. It's even okay when they incorrectly dox someone or cause their targets more harm than the target ever caused.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 05:16 PM
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If what you say holds true then you have a lot of influence within your group of friends. You don't (and shouldn't) have to white-knight. Simply call them out for the (frankly) bitch behavior and move on. It's far easier to shit on someone else to make yourself look good than it is for you to earn it.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 03:26 AM
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Also, if you have any questions you should post them to r/asktrp.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 01:26 PM
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Let it all go. They ridiculed you but inadvertently brought about all of this positive change in your life. Throw your own parties, form your own group of friends. Stop giving a damn about other people and focus on yourself. Someone else said you hadn't yet swallowed the pill. I disagree. You just haven't done a good job of internalizing it yet.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 01:25 PM
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I get where you're coming from and it's the way I try to make my relationships go. My girlfriend doesn't feel the need to have any male friends and the few she had before we began dating are out of her life. She comes from a family with money yet has a strong work ethic (she works two jobs and has for the 3+ years we've been together) which I value a lot. But the fact she frequently tells me she feels fulfilled is a feeling I wouldn't trade for the world.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 03:32 AM
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The brand of feminism you find in places like the US doesn't exist in Latin America. I find that Latin American women are more likely to take responsibility for themselves far more often than a woman in the US. That makes it more likely that you'll find a girl who is open to a relationship instead of a battle of wills.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 03:25 AM
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To add to what others have said already: Women gravitate toward bouncers because they are authority figures in that particular environment. You decide who comes in and who has to go. That certainly helps get the juices flowing with the women approaching you. With that said, I'd be wary of being used. These girls will go sweet on you and then start trying to take advantage of the situation. The attention is nice but you can both use it to your advantage.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 06:10 PM
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I don't think that TRP is against investing resources like time and money on a woman as long as you're being smart about how you're doing it and you're seeing a return on your investment. I see no problems with "Alpha Bux" outside of falling into a false sense of security. If you get lazy at any point, you can placate your plates by investing more money but you lose a lot of the control you had along the way. If you get complacent, you'll find yourself getting played.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 05:54 PM
2

You're speeding up the growth process that way.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 01:29 AM
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Everyone here should open themselves up to criticism every once in awhile when it's constructive. We're all here to improve ourselves and objective opinions will help us much more than trying to do it on our own. As far as being harsh goes, the truth can be just that. I've realized that people here at times come off as harsh but that what they're being blunt & direct. Yeah, there are some aasholes here and there but for the most part, you're receiving some quality feedback.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 05:30 PM
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Good. Congratulations and welcome. Honestly, you have to start looking at everything as a resource and learn to manage your resources. If a friend or a co-worker were to ask you for a ride, they would probably try to do something in return (e.g. buy you lunch, fill your tank, etc.). At best, you got laid and at worst a thanks in the situation with your ex. She was draining several of your resources and it cost her nothing to do it. You car breaks down and she doesn't chip in to get it fixed desp…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 07:20 PM
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The only way you can do that in the RP world is by making a return to your frame. You're exhibiting some oneitis for this woman and you're catering to her. Lead by example. Don't clear your schedule for her, make it so she has to clear her schedule for you. It will change the way she approaches the relationship and you. By cancelling what you have going on, you're creating and reinforcing a precendent: your time isn't that important to you. She can then begin to blow you off if she wants to do s…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 07:01 PM
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This probably should have been posted on r/asktrp. It all depends on you. I think the reason why you cater to her is because you're afraid that if you don't, that relationship will deteriorate and end. If you aren't in an LTR with her and you're finding it difficult to main plate her, you're going to have to next her. If she really wants to be with you, she'll bend over backwards to find a place for herself in your life… but I wouldn't hold my breathe.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 02:58 PM
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It's people who are not secure with themselves looking for a way to bring you down. It is significantly easier to rob someone of their Internet Points than it is to engage them in a conversation and debate them.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 02:10 PM
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They're looking for excuses to give you a hard time. If they don't want to give you the time of day because of your beliefs, they aren't worth interacting with.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 02:07 PM
8

One of my favorite double-standards in LTRs: you have to respect a woman's wish not to have sex with you but she doesn't have to respect your need to find sexual satisfaction.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 06:02 PM
9

The wife didn't volunteer this information at any point because she knew it would upset him and he wouldn't want to be with her. People are killing the husband because "it's all in the past." He's made decisions about his relationship with this woman based on a lack of information. I'm sure if the tables were turned, the angry mob would raise their pitchforks and attack the poster and not the wronged partner.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 01:25 AM
1

Picking on the insecurities of these guys stifling OP's growth is counterproductive. It would make OP look unnecessarily petty. OP should take the time that he would invest in that and put it toward better himself instead. That should be enough of a slap in the face.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 06:40 PM
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This question would be better suited for r/asktrp. With that said, just cut them out of your life. Whether you do it slowly or quickly is up to you. That sort of negativity is meant to stunt your growth. I've broken out my social network into three categories. True friends, people I can shoot the shit with. Assets, people who I may not trust or hold no value to me personally but are of some value in other ways (mostly professionally). And the third is the group of people that I am cutting ties w…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 06:26 PM
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I don't agree with the analogy. The only thing they have in common is that there is an element of luck to both (winning the lottery versus finding a suitable partner for an LTR). You can work hard (and smart) at an LTR but you can't work hard (or smart) to win the lottery.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 03:02 PM
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This was an example of strength through sensitivity that Rollins spoke of. His mentor saw someone in dire need and gave him the tools he needed to succeed. People may see that one action as abuse but he only made him tougher. It was very a masculine way of tempering Rollins. This was an exceptional read. Thanks for the share.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 01:20 PM
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With regards to your personal experience, count your blessings. That was a childish reaction on his part and you don't need people like that in your life. As for the message you're trying to send here, you're just stating something that most subscribers and lurkers should already know.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 03:09 PM
1

Or a time machine that will turn back the clock fifteen years.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/14 11:14 AM
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Are these girls really friends, though? It sounds to me like they are more acquaintances than anything else. Acquaintances you've had for a long time but still, not friends. I would lean toward dissolving those relationships. There is nothing constructive to be gained, happy & friendly banter or no. If you want to get with any of these girls now or in the future, change your approach without saying "Either you fuck me or we don't ;." I'm not convinced that approach is effective. It won't work es…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/14 02:39 PM
1

Thanks for the information. I've been looking at a couple of resources so I can add some calisthenics in the morning along with some stretching.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 02:43 PM
1

Great analogy. And you're right on the money about female friends. These are the kinds of TRP posts I wish were receiving more exposure.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/14 11:55 AM
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The problem is that the investment is rarely thought out or executed well. They don't ever want to come out in the red (it's bound to happen and with some experience, you shouldn't) so they keep investing time and effort in the hope that the final result is in their favor. I'm also on board on having actual female friends. They make damn good wingmen. But they're hard to come by.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 10:56 PM
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SMV is relative. To one person you may be a 6 and to another an 8. If you work out, dress well, and carry yourself like an adult then all you're doing is ensuring your overall SMV increases. More people will find you an 8 over a 6.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 05:38 AM
1

This is fantastic advice. Build your own connections and become a hub. That will raise your value tremendously.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 02:50 PM
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I'm similar to you in that I too believe that the stance some guys take here is a little harsh. I'm currently in a 2.5 year relationship and it is better than any other relationship I've had by leaps and bounds. I'm with someone who knows what I want and what I like and I don't have to work at it since she's got it down to a science.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 05:12 PM
1

Why are you reading this crap? He is loaded, good-looking, and enjoying his life. I wonder how successful and good-looking the posters in that piece are in comparison.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 03:23 PM
1

And more importantly, why you should make sure to check out a woman's friends & family.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 03:07 PM
2

Your friends are right. Drop her. According to you, you're having a great time together but don't communicate well when apart. That's most likely because she's attached to the thrill of meeting new guys on Tinder and the attention they (and you) are giving her. It doesn't sound as though she has any intention to commit to you so do yourself a favor and don't commit to her.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/14 02:29 PM
1

Ignorance is only bliss when you don't know any better. Once you begin analyzing everything and taking a methodical approach, you have the opportunity to experience true bliss.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/14 01:42 PM
3

This example is so common. I found myself in this situation while in college. I was busy pining for a girl that really wasn't worth my time. I ended up having to make a decision between her and a girl who was chasing me and managed to fuck that up (I chose the wrong girl) thanks to what we're taught about love. In the end, I had an opportunity to redeem myself. I dumped the first girl and dated the second one for four years. It was far more fulfilling and far less stressful. We ended up breaking…
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 02:29 PM
1

And for many, the realization never comes.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 01:51 PM
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Aladdin did have serious Oneitis. That's the reason why we don't model our relationships after Disney movies.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 11:47 AM
1

How To Shave Your Head (Smooth And Cut Free): http://youtu.be/aOLnGmGS1Qg I recently decided to try shaving my head and I used the tips from this video. The guy is a bit awkward but the advice is sound. My head is nice and smooth, I have very few cuts, and no razor bumps. Takes me about 15 minutes to shave my head and face from start to finish.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/14 02:30 PM
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Don't waste your time. If she wants to talk to her "friends," let her talk to her "friends." Don't complain and just move on. Go make some "friends" of your own and find people who are willing to give you the attention you seek.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 06:14 PM
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If we're talking about immediately after a break-up then maybe a quick comparison. Figure out if she downgraded or not. Otherwise, don't bother. Just move on. Keeping track of that kind of thing is useless in the long run.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 05:56 PM
3

I considered the possibility that it was a troll but there was too much evidence (in my opinion, of course) to suggest that it's not. The admission of defeat only came because a more attractive woman came along. All of the ex-husband's other improvements are just icing on the cake. I doubt she would have looked further into the ex-husband's life if he didn't have a new, attractive woman on his arm. The ex-husband's overall value is higher (to OP) than the fiancé's because: He takes care of himse…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/14 09:50 PM
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This situation is textbook TRP. His focus is her. He tries to make it work but can't and she loses interest. He moves on and finds professional and romantic success down the road and she suddenly finds interest again. I didn’t think about my ex-husband at all after that. I think I do love my ex-husband This is one of the things that stood out most for me. Is she really trying to convince people that she actually cares for her ex-husband and not for his new found success? She said it herself, she…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/14 12:41 PM
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