absoluteidealismftw Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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8	Help, in a relationship with a 45 year old man Run. I have nothing against an "age gap" (I've been with women 30 years younger than me), but this man does not deserve your trust.	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/25 10:51 PM
0	Q4M: what do you mean by submission? Pretty simple indeed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 07:24 PM
0	Q4M: what do you mean by submission? O great sage, disclose to us your wonderful secret recipe for life!	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 04:14 PM
0	Q4M: what do you mean by submission? No, not necessarily. Of course, I'm happy if it does :-) But happiness as a goal shouldn't have priority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 04:13 PM
0	Q4M: what do you mean by submission? Most people are fools.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 02:28 PM
-2	Q4M: what do you mean by submission? A submissive woman is willing and able to follow the lead of her man. I wouldn't use the word 'submissive', though, because it is often associated with kinky gameplay. Yes, following the lead of an honourable man is what is best for women. This doesn't mean she will always like it (or get aroused by it)! But if she is willing to learn, and let go of modern prejudices against women accepting their traditional place, she will likely find peace and fulfilment in it. Happiness is a childish life goa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 12:39 PM
1	As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society...... For a different angle, read some Esther Vilar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/22 12:11 AM
1	what is a man? A man is an adult human male, willing and able to lead.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/22 11:42 AM
5	What is the appeal of submission in women? If a woman's submission has no appeal for you, no explanation from anyone who does see the appeal will suffice. To me, a woman on her knees before her man is an image of order and beauty.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/22 08:59 AM
2	Guys, why are you so easily influenced by sex? It is far from fair to condemn men for having a real need for sexual intercourse. It's how we are wired. But that doesn't mean they should "turn into puppy dogs" — in fact, that makes them boys, not men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/22 07:14 PM
5	What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share? Most of the men I know feel uneasy if not outright guilty about being men, and wanting to possess and dominate their women, and even liking it when women dress sexily, and so on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/22 12:22 PM
7	What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share? Same here. Give me a smallish-but-round, Nicole Kidman-type ass any day of the week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/22 12:16 PM
1	How can I repair my marriage and make it more likely that my husband will forgive me? I would have happily provided this explanation without being censored first. Will you now restore my post to public visibility?	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/22 02:57 PM
3	How can I repair my marriage and make it more likely that my husband will forgive me? I chastise my wife to correct her behaviour (she fully consents to this arrangement), and while that (correcting her behaviour) is the primary aim, of course it also gives me a way to move past something, as you put it. Even if I should sometimes misjudge her, when the fault actually lies with me, a spanking followed by tender loving care is to be preferred to an impasse with one or both partners feeling hurt or guilty or neglected and so on.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/22 12:45 PM
1	How can I repair my marriage and make it more likely that my husband will forgive me? I don't know what would qualify as a 'drive by comment' is, but mine likely doesn't, since I am being serious. In many traditional marriages some form of chastisement is used to overcome difficulties. It's an open secret that while usually (and 'officially') the chastisement is meant to reform (and thereby benefit) the wife when her behaviour is deemed inappropriate, at times it's the husband who benefits most or even exclusively, by providing a way for him to restore a wounded sense of dignity …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/04/22 12:37 PM
-9	How can I repair my marriage and make it more likely that my husband will forgive me? Perhaps you can ask him to punish you, and then try to forgive you?	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/22 07:43 PM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself I'm not. But your user name sure checks out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 02:08 PM
3	How important is intelligence in finding a HV man? An intelligent woman can make a great companion for a high value, traditional/RP man, but he will likely want her to be feminine and pretty, to take good care of her looks, and to defer to him i.e. happily follow his lead. My wife is like that (lucky me!).	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/22 09:22 AM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself Who's advocating violence here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 09:16 AM
1	Is it a red flag if my guy does not offer to help me when I’m sick? Yes. I'm a traditional husband in a male-led marriage. When my wife is sick I'm her nurse.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/22 11:23 AM
1	I was a “hardcore”, liberal feminist Preach!	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/22 06:34 PM
1	is it bad to want a man to take care of you? ‘Obey him’ is what I wrote and what I meant, yes. Great numbers of women obey their husbands in this century as well, and when it comes to heterosexual marriages, this is by far the best arrangement. Men should strive to be worthy to lead their wives, and many aren't (mostly because they weren't raised to do so), but that in itself doesn't mean it's a bad idea.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/22 06:20 PM
2	is it bad to want a man to take care of you? How to say this nicely... if he takes care of you, I'd say you should be taking care of him. Obey him, do those chores, and satisfy him sexually.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/22 08:18 PM
7	(Masculinity Self-Improvements) A Personal Manifesto. A Brand New Testament. ✞ You seem like a very anxious person.	/r/TheRedPill	10/03/22 05:47 PM
2	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You and those like you are so quick to judge when someone suggests that male-led marriages may be beneficial! The very idea makes you nervous, probably because it's true, and deep down, you know this. Many, more often than not, then lower themselves to the level of insinuations and insults. Your suggestion that I 'need help making decisions' having married an 'incompetent partner' is going in that direction, too. I will not comment on my own decision making skills, but my wife is far from incomp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 11:45 AM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You lack manners and you make no sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 10:55 AM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself Have you never heard of 'domestic discipline'?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 10:54 AM
0	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You have no manners, then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 07:48 PM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself Yes to the first question. I don't know other traditional couples well enough for them to openly discuss these things. These are taboo subjects here in the north of Europe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 07:47 PM
2	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself I do? And why is that? Because what I say is not what you usually hear in your echo chamber?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 07:01 PM
-2	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You are wrong. It's not a kink or fetish.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 07:00 PM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself Is that all you have to contribute to the conversation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 06:59 PM
-2	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself Did you read the topic? It's about what people sign up for when they want a traditional relationship. Domestic discipline starts with full consent, so no, it is not, in fact, abuse. Perhaps before judging others, you might try educating yourself a little.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 06:58 PM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You're one of many ignorant people here. So shallow, 'just having fun'.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 06:57 PM
1	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself I think many BDSM people lost the way to traditional male/female dynamics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 01:58 PM
-7	If you desire a traditional man or woman, you better be traditional yourself You are forgetting that the traditional man should be willing and able to lead his woman, take all the decisions (after consulting her, obviously), and discipline her if she doesn't obey, while the traditional woman should obey her man, be available to him sexually 24/7, and accept being disciplined. (And yes, this works very well.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 01:36 PM
1	Reminder- Never make her your focus Link to the original post? I can't locate it.	/r/TheRedPill	02/03/22 09:58 AM
0	What right or privilege do men possess that women don’t in 2022? None. And in decades past, like now, most women actually have had it better than most men. Read Esther Vilar. She exaggerates, but barely. As far as the wage gap is concerned, if women instead of lazily complaining would join a union, and organise a strike, they could easily get rid of it. Incidentally, male workers are just as lazy and half-assed when it comes to fighting for better wages and conditions. But that's a different matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 08:43 PM
1	How do you know your value as a woman, RPW? What is the ideal woman? A worthy man sets himself high standards morally and in terms of providing for his wife and children, whose needs he puts first. He's willing to lead, but also, no less, to learn. He's loving and strict and sees no contradiction there.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/22 09:30 AM
1	How do you know your value as a woman, RPW? What is the ideal woman? Of course cooperation is not the same as submission. You can cooperate with friends and colleagues. A good wife follows the lead of her husband. This doesn't mean she doesn't have a say in things. The husband would be very stupid if he ignored her insights and ideas. Surely he married a bright and resourceful woman? But he decides, and she not only accepts that, it is what she wants.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/22 09:26 AM
3	How do you know your value as a woman, RPW? What is the ideal woman? OK, so if you ask me (and you did), I'll say that cheerful submission to the man's will is what makes a good wife. It's what my wife and I live every day. Make an effort, look good, please him, follow his lead. This does assume you're able to pick a worthy man.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/22 09:45 PM
7	How do you know your value as a woman, RPW? What is the ideal woman? Are you interested in a male perspective?	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/22 02:19 PM
3	Why are "pick mes" so reviled? Pickmes are feared by other women, because they are often successful, and that's because they are on to something: it's a good idea to try and please a man you want to be with, either short term or long term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 08:52 AM
1	Why men should prioritize their sexual needs At some point, I have come to an agreement with the women I was with: I could have them whenever I wanted, in whatever way. Obviously, I wouldn't use this 'right' when I thought it might harm them to succumb to me, but often enough, if they were less than eager to have sex at the start, they would quickly warm up to it. Women like to feel their man's desire. I find this the right arrangement. Of course, this can only be done with prior 'blanket' consent and probably only as part of a male-led re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/22 09:07 PM
2	AWALT? All women are like WHAT? It happens a lot. But you would't know, you're not looking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 09:35 PM
1	How many women vs how many men want to lead a traditional life? Don't say that! Just make sure you recognise the man who can make this happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 08:30 PM
2	How many women vs how many men want to lead a traditional life? If by "a traditional life" you mean life as described by Esther Vilar, then no. But if you mean a marriage in which the man leads, the woman follows, and in which the man makes all or most of the money, while the woman mostly or exclusively stays at home with the kids, then yes. I want that, my wife wants it, too, and guess what? It's what we actually do!	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 04:41 PM
1	AWALT? All women are like WHAT? Come back in a few years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 02:46 PM
1	AWALT? All women are like WHAT? All women want to be put in their places and told what to do by a man who loves them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 02:05 PM
2	What's worse in your mind a 20 year old fucking a 16 year old or a 45 year old fucking a 20 year old? There's nothing wrong with either, if there is consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/22 09:21 PM
1	People who actually have mutually healthy relationships but you just lurk here or post: Why are you here exactly? Occasional advocacy for male-led relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/22 02:01 PM
1	My girlfriend would've slept with me on first date, if i wasnt boyfriend material We fuck guys that we try to impress. I'm not convinced. Would impressing a guy be a means to an end? If so, to what end?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/22 01:36 PM
0	RedPilled men: What qualities in a woman would it take for you to agree in good faith to an exclusive relationship with a girl. You have a lot to learn about leadership.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/22 09:00 PM
1	RedPilled men: What qualities in a woman would it take for you to agree in good faith to an exclusive relationship with a girl. No, I am often wrong, but you are incorrectly assuming that leaders being always right is a condition for hierarchies to function well (and for the benefit of all involved).	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 01:12 PM
-5	RedPilled men: What qualities in a woman would it take for you to agree in good faith to an exclusive relationship with a girl. Her willingness to surrender to me, that is: her solemn pledge to always follow my lead, in a traditional marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/22 03:43 PM
3	Guy getting gaslit for 16 minutes straight (Breakup video) This is what happens when a man doesn't take his woman in hand. A woman needs to be led by her man. She needs to be told what to do, and often also when and how to do it. She needs to be regularly spanked, not just as punishment, but to show her what her place is. For the same reason, she needs to be at his disposal sexually 24/7. This is best for both.	/r/TheRedPill	15/01/22 09:58 PM
3	PPD: When did you lose your Virginity? Your name may contain important clues in this respect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 10:49 AM
2	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? If it didn't mean being ostracised and ridiculed, many women would tell you that they want to surrender to a man who loves them and is willing and able to lead them. You misunderstood just about everything I wrote there. Try harder, if you want to grow.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 02:25 PM
2	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? You misunderstood. Both leading and surrendering are can be very satisfying. It also takes a lot of work, on both sides.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 01:34 PM
1	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? What costs are you referring to? Perhaps you are assuming that the man, leading a surrendering woman, has it easy? I can assure you: leading a strong, smart woman, even if she really wants to be lead, is a lot of work. Obviously, surrendering is difficult and intense as well, no less than leading. To answer your question: in this context, to surrender means for the woman to follow the lead of the man she loves and who loves her, to conform to his will in what she does and how she does it. Not wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 01:21 PM
2	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? You seem to assume that leading is somehow more satisfying than surrendering. It is not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 01:08 PM
1	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? It's better in the sense that such relationships tend to be more resilient and more satisfying to both partners. I say this not based on large scale statistical analysis, but on a few decades of observation and personal experience. If you happen to belong to the 'gender roles are just social constructs' school of thought, any measure of 'essentialist' reasoning supporting or explaining these observations will fail to appeal to you, but if you try to look at this without valuing 'leading' higher …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 12:50 PM
1	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? Why are they broken? Or why should men lead, and women surrender?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 10:17 AM
-2	Do Modern Relationships Need Each Person to Play a Role, and If so, What Role Does Either Gender Fulfill? Modern relationships are broken. Men don't lead (they should), and women don't surrender (they should).	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/21 10:44 PM
7	I (18 F) am secretly jealous of my friend Learn to cook and clean, but most importantly, learn to surrender and follow the lead of a worthy man. Know your place, please him, show you respect, support him, give him the gift of your intelligence, your good ideas, your body. That should do!	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/21 10:34 PM
1	How can loyalty exist if hypergamy is real Good catch, Sherlock! I refer to her as my wife, sometimes, even though we're not yet officially wedded. BTW, I do hope I wrote 'fiancée' — she's a very feminine female.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/21 12:10 PM
1	How to make up for what I did You might politely ask him to punish you as he sees fit?	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/21 12:03 PM
0	How can loyalty exist if hypergamy is real My wife is more than 20 years younger than me and has supermodel looks (while I really don't). She could have casual sex with just about every heterosexual man she encounters. So why doesn't she cheat? Because she wants to be with me, in a traditional, male-led marriage. She knows I wouldn't accept infidelity even once, but that's not the reason she's loyal. The reason is that she has surrendered herself, with all she is and all she has, to me. That, boys and girls, is what a woman's love, if it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/21 09:12 AM