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| 143 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?Hard time staying hard is definitely a dead giveaway. Talking a really big game. Saying he’ll go down on you “for hours”, or taking no time at all giving oral. With an ex I noticed he would always end up staring at my vagina during sex. He really enjoyed it, but it totally cut off any potential for connection and made me feel like he didn’t need the rest of me. His stare down there definitely came from watching porn - when the camera is locked on downstairs with no concern for the person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 12:02 AM |
| 60 | On men frequenting OF/internet models/cam girls etc : If this were the 90s would you date a man who carried around a box of swimsuit model magazines 📖 so he could ogle them a couple times an hour??TLDR: a brief outline of porn access over the past 50 years, followed by a little rant about OF and sex work criticism. That’s such a good point. Men used to have to actively seek out pornographic materials, and save for a few guys with large personal collections, many simply went without, pulling out an old playboy every so often. Porn was taboo. And as far as films went, you had to either own a VHS or go and watch it in a special theatre - and the men who did were considered perverse. I do wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 14 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I used to think this, but the last guy I dated with opened my eyes to the possibility. He actually likes women - as people (the bar is in hell, I know). He had many female friends, but also many male friends as well, just a large social circle. He spoke very highly of his female friends, never mentioned their looks but rather their accomplishments, and showed genuine interest while in conversation with women, no matter who they were. Definitely made me suspicious initially, due to being cheated … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 03:52 AM |
| 52 | REMINDER: Playing devil's advocate is a social fauxpas, and men who do it are LVI realized with the last guy I dated that I every guy I’ve dated (save for one) would not only play devils advocate, but also fight me on every opinion I had. it wasn’t until this last guy - who had some really wonderful green flags - that I admitted to him that I didn’t want to have to defend every opinion I had, and that I didn’t think I had to - AND HE DISAGREED. He said that if I said something I had to be able to defend it. Like we were dating, why can’t I just say something without having … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:18 PM |
| 13 | Been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he does meet a lot of my requirements however he watches porn, a few times a month he says he can get it to zero if i don't like it, it does make me uncomfortable though. Idk should i still give him a chance or find someone who didn't watch to begin with?FDS has a pretty standard anti-porn policy, and I support and agree with that. I also know that it’s incredibly difficult to find men who don’t watch porn at least on occasion. Watching porn is morally complex because, for most of the videos people engage with online, it’s practically impossible to verify that the parties involved were actually enthusiastically consenting and not being coerced or threatened. From a psychology-informed perspective, porn use can certainly alter people’s ideas and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:09 AM |
| 48 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.I went on a trip to Toronto a week to the day before an incel drove a van into a crowd of women and killed and injured people. I was in the exact spot he murdered people - targeting women - a week to the day. FDS is not the same thing AT ALL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:19 AM |
| 17 | It takes men a lifetime to view women as complete human beings.My most recent ex viewed women as people and it was both refreshing and challenging! On the one hand, it was refreshing because he actually finds women interesting, full-fledged people. On the other hand, I had to deal with my own past issues because he was able to have friendships with women without any issues between them. He has a large network of friends, both men and women, and I had to confront myself because I was feeling weird about it. But I recognized that he wasn’t acting the way the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 09:18 PM |
| 90 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…I wanted to share this because, while I personally have not formed an opinion about JP (honestly just not that interested enough to learn more about either side that likes or hates him), I was surprised to hear these statements from someone so lauded by the red pill/mgtow cesspools. Reading the comments on the original TikTok and even here, perhaps I shouldn’t have been surprised since he’s apparently held these views for a while. I just thought y’all would get a kick out of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:43 AM |
| 11 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!With my first partner I would fake it, but I mean there was zero foreplay, and he would go for hours. He would only finish if I did, so to end his relentless stamina I would fake it. Not a huge surprise as to why I had a 2.5 year break from sex after that ended! My last two partners I’ve never faked. My second partner would do foreplay but it was more out of a sense of fairness than him enjoying giving. I enjoyed it with him, but my current partner finds going down to be very arousing, and his e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:41 PM |
| 30 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I like a lot of what you said, but honestly, when I was celibate for over two years, there were definitely times where I missed blow jobs. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to like giving head, plenty of men are vocal about their love of going down south too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:35 PM |
| 7 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I really enjoy it! But that level of enjoyment definitely depends on what he’s working with, like if he’s too big it isn’t as fun for me lol. I find giving them really hot, seeing your man lose his ever-loving mind over what you’re doing is such a thrill! I haven’t given my current partner one yet (I save them until I know them better, it’ll be soon for him though), but he gets super aroused going down on me, so it’s not unreasonable for a woman to feel the same. I think there are people who don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:34 PM |
| 21 | I highly recommend this book for those of you who struggle with infatuation, codependency or feeling ‘addicted’ to someone. It goes into the neuroscience of limerence (romantic obsession) and how to get rid of it.I learned about this term recently and resonated with it - thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:12 PM |
| 64 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.It always fascinates me how these men can have so much vitriolic hate towards people they are supposedly attracted to. People joke about how its now “gay” to be straight, but at this point just go fuck each other in the name of masculinity and leave us alone with the men who actually like women as people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 12:20 PM |
| 4 | The amount of times Incels have misunderstood my kindness for flirting 🤮My boss and coworkers pretty much all know him now and they are aware of his behaviour. Shouldn’t be an issue going forward hopefully | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 12:54 AM |
| 26 | The amount of times Incels have misunderstood my kindness for flirting 🤮I now have a 75 year old man casually stalking me, simply because I was being friendly and doing my job. He seemed harmless during our initial conversation but then got creepier. I thought it was over but after being off work for two days my coworkers told me he had come back each day asking for me. He caught me one day this week outside and, while I managed to slip away, he was lurking around outside, asking what time I was finished. I literally said to my coworkers, this is why I am not nice t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 36 | "there's a darkness inside me"Oh my god. This. My ex used to cry about the bad in him turns out he was cheating on me the whole time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 02:34 PM |
| 28 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting me“A few agree with me.” one. Just say one. And it’s probably not someone who is a good friend of hers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:40 PM |
| 6 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨I'm sorry but alfalfa male—IM DEAD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 12:50 AM |
| 5 | Does Anyone Else Get A Feeling of Dream When They See Older (50+) Men In Public?I feel that way too! I’m 24, and my parents’ (married) friend has made some comments and leered and I’m always hella uncomfortable- but unfortunately he usually has plausible deniability. I was walking my dog a few weeks ago and this old guy slowed his car truck and inches by while looking at me smiling. KEEP IT MOVING GRAMPS! I have had lots of men of all ages leer but 50+ is definitely the zone that gives me the most heebie jeebies, probably because my parents are around that age! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 7 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantIf anyone is interested in mate selection theory, my favourite book is “Sex at Dawn.” Witty and easy to read, but a great book on flipping the traditional scripts on sex selection | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS?Yeah I was surprised, but I was told the automod picked up on my post history in this sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I am planning on changing my whole name, first and last, to signify that I am my own person entirely. My name has never “fit” quite right, so I am creating a new one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:05 PM |
| 53 | Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS?Yes I got banned from FragileWhiteRedditor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:48 PM |
| 1 | On the science behind the male objectification (literally) of womenHahaha I know! She got it fixed afterwards lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 9 | "Sex work" is human trafficking.“But-but-but fds hates sex workers!!!” Will be the call of the lurkers reading this… As a reminder: FDS hates the sex work INDUSTRY, not sex workers!! I’ve seen more thoughtful discourse about SWers (that actually treats them as people) on this sub than anywhere else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 1 | On the science of men objectifying women…!direct link to her video, and a link to her citation video | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 11:59 PM |
| 11 | w0MeN aREn'T viSUaLThis picture shows what is probably many women’s “ideal” amount of muscle, while lots of guys end up getting waaaaay too muscular. Men go to the gym to get fit to attract women, and then end up competing with the other men there to get bigger and bigger, until they end up alienating most women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Tinder Gold. 1300 likes.I always get overwhelmed with tinder gold or platinum, because I also end up with 2k likes and it’s just too much. I end up swiping left on like 99% of them, because I have to filter through before even more crop up. Also there’s no way to filter your likes. I have pretty rigid settings when I swipe, but there’s no way to filter by location or age when looking at who’s liked you which is annoying. Full disclosure I’ve sworn off OLD, since it is just full of lvm who are low-effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)Any man lurking here should look up penile traction therapy, and understand that even that may not be enough to fix this. Look up pictures of the surgical procedures and be AMAZED | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | ⚠️The audacity of these men...I’m beyond TIRED. I had to block him. I just can’t understand why they think this is okay...⚠️Omg my literally pos-narc-ex. He’d be all high and mighty, as if he’s the smartest guy in every room, and then an hour later he’d be all, “if you really knew me you wouldn’t want to be with me wahhh!” Turns out he was a two-timing pos, but yeah the whiplash I got as a naive 20 year old was tooooo much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 2 | High Value Dates OnlyHahaha I just mean more that, if someone is obsessed with steak, the biggest irony would be having the kitchen cook the shit out of it and then using ketchup. Like, just have a burger ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:39 PM |
| 3 | High Value Dates OnlyAlso you don’t have alcohol clouding your judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | High Value Dates OnlyWow I love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:34 PM |
| 1 | High Value Dates OnlyMe too! I can be pretty quiet to other people if I’m out with a boyfriend (single atm), but when I’m out alone or with friends, I’m complimenting my server’s outfit and having pleasant chitchat at the checkout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:32 PM |
| 1 | High Value Dates OnlyHonestly the only time ordering for someone else is appropriate is in a long-term relationship where they actually do know what you’d like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:29 PM |
| 4 | High Value Dates OnlyAnd the steak would be well-done probably too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 2 | THIS is why you don’t ask guys out 🤡 😭My older brother said he would never have dated my now SIL had she approached him, because it’s a huge turn-off. Granted my brother isn’t exactly a HVM, but I remember being shocked by that. One time, when I was 18, I literally threw my number at this guy and ran away. I remember being terrified and so embarrassed, with my friends egging me on. I’ve seen some gorgeous guys while out in the past, but if they are interested they’ll approach, if they’re not, they won’t. It’s that simple. It’s not l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else gotten these? I am disgusted that they want to groom women to think their husband being on a porn site is okay. He said in the ad "it has tons of non-adukt content" NO ONE CARES. IT IS A PORN SITE. EFF OFF!! No husband should be on this site!I change all of my ads to “non-personalized” so I don’t get these anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:42 PM |
| 17 | Trying to get rid of my own pick-me BS fantasiesWonderfully said! It’s great that you mentioned reflecting inwards. I definitely suffer from fantastical delusions, but I remind myself that these idealizations only hurt myself and are unfair to pin on someone who is totally unaware. I don’t do it as much now as I did as a teen and youth, but, OP, it’s worth reminding yourself that it’s a sign of disrespect to your crush that they aren’t “enough” for you as they are, and also a good wake up call if you find them consistently disappointing in re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:26 PM |
| 9 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"Girl, AMAZING POST! I love this sub, and the leftist discourse that this thread contains is so encouraging. I define myself along the anti-capitalist/Marxist/communist side of politics, so thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 12:41 PM |
| 10 | We need to draw a line between oppression that is based on the extraction of cheap labor vs. other types of "oppression"Wonderfully said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 12:36 PM |
| 2 | /!\Ladies this situation right here, is why we need to cut toxic women out of our lives and vet our female friends too/!\She is literally restricting OP with guilt trips and shame. OP said they could respect open relationships, but if her friend won’t respect her monogamous relationship then that is hypocritical af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:34 PM |
| 97 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.“He says he doesn’t like me” girl what else does he need to say??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:16 PM |
| 7 | Luxury home in Montreal owned by Pornhub exec burned down in apparent arsonI mean, the Canadian housing market is so ridiculous right now he could absolutely have sold it. The rich just get richer, and anyone in the market for a mansion his could absolutely afford it, even with the absurd prices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:38 AM |
| 12 | Luxury home in Montreal owned by Pornhub exec burned down in apparent arsonHahaha I love this 😅😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:37 AM |
| 43 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionWhen I drive around my town, there’s lots of short blocks with lots of stop signs. I usually focus on the road but sometimes I’ll look at pedestrians or other drivers and if I ever look at a man they do exactly what you say! They always end up staring. They’ll have their girlfriend or wife next to them and they’ll turn their head to follow me. All I did was give them a once over and they fixate on me. The best is ignoring young guys in traffic. Last summer I was at a light, window down, music pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 78 | Men are most attractive in their 20sI mean Leo is also a total creep! He hasn’t dated anyone over 25 since he was 25! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Men are most attractive in their 20sI mean, I’m going to disagree respectfully. I’ve personally always found men in their thirties to be the most attractive, even as a teenager. Now it’s worth clarifying that attraction is personal and that age-gap relationships give me the heebie-jeebies. In my mind I always felt that I wouldn’t date this age cohort of men until I was in my late 20s to 30s. I have had many men in their 30s (and 40s and up) hit on me over the years and ask me out, and it’s just icky. Like I’m almost 25, but when a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:31 PM |
| 8 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?First of all! PROUD OF YOU! You are on a journey and I’m so proud of you for doing the hard work to better your life! This painful awakening reminds me of Plato’s allegory of the cave, here is a primer for those unfamiliar. When you know, you can’t go back to ignorance, to delude yourself is active self-destruction. There is a picture that has resonated with me for a decade, you can see it here. Fair warning, it’s a drawing, but I’ll say TW:self-harm, just in case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:15 PM |
| 9 | Tik Tok users are warning women over April 24 being 'National Rape Day' 🤮Okay but that collar move - I have NEVER seen it and I love it! Not super technical, and if you haven’t trained in self defence there is a good chance you won’t react quickly before there are on you. That collar move is so easy! Will definitely remember that! Thank you for sharing 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:07 PM |
| 43 | Why women hate porn: it harms and objectifies women. 🤡 Why men hate porn: 🤡When you realize that religious and conservative men are the ones who consume the most porn your eyes open up. All of the “men’s groups” at churches end up becoming like a porn addicts anonymous support group. The only difference between religious and areligious men (in my experience) is that the religious men have a deep rooted shame in their use. They hate “the sin”, but again, it’s not about stopping because of the systemic and abusive mistreatment and trafficking of women, it’s because the g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 01:55 PM |
| 52 | Starting over at 36...or "The Tiktok That Broke The Camel's Back"I hope you’re being sarcastic. That girl, if she seems to be “pandering” has probably been groomed and that definitely isn’t “make your coin” worthy. Also, call it what it is, pedophilia. “Under-age girl appreciation” makes it seem like it’s a harmless little thing, when it’s not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 25 | Four stages of denial, aka "you should have CoMmUniCaTeD"I’ve experienced this from women and men, textbook narcissistic abuse. Hell, my mom could teach a masterclass on this ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 09:59 AM |
| 18 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortAt this point I honestly have more respect for the frat/jock type of men, because at least I know what their plays are and how to avoid them. Meanwhile the shy/quiet guys I’ve dated have all turned out to be either narcissistic or emotionally unavailable. And to your point, I’ve had both kinds of men make the first move. I don’t enjoy making it, so I won’t, shy or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 01:46 AM |
| 41 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!It’s actually one of the top posts on this sub! But yes a happy ending! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:51 PM |
| 102 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!That girl actually posted on this sub that she left her fiancé because of the support she got from this group | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Job search and Linked In photosI’ll be honest they look nothing even close to me, but they are all so beautiful lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:29 AM |
| 25 | Old school pick-me's... sabotaging their sisters since time immemorialA great read for anyone interested in women’s history, is Cassandra by Florence Nightingale. There’s an open access copy available on www.openlibrary.org If you struggle with feeling alienated for not prioritizing marriage and children then it will comfort you to read a story written 150 years ago by the mother of nursing herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornAll the more reason to join the fds website honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:52 PM |
| 19 | Sex posi women are not our friends. You cannot change my mindI have been shamed time and time again for not wanting to have ONS or FWBs. Most frustratingly is having women in different (past) friend groups go out of their way to patronize me for not having had as much sex as them. Like making me out to be this super holier-than-thou person and telling their friends who I just met that I’m like a super “good girl”, as if I need to be treated differently with kid gloves. It always made me feel like I had to “prove myself” to them that I wasn’t judgemental o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 10:46 PM |
| 4 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Yes! Except they were actually seeing each other the whole time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 02:12 PM |
| 69 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.I was never jealous. Prided myself on being accepting of friendships, I had lots of girl and guy friends. One of my best friends was a guy for two years. (Ended messily, long story). My cheating ex made me paranoid and suspicious, gaslighting legitimate concerns and made me feel like I was out of line for genuine concerns. I never had any issue with jealousy before being with him. I’m still not jealous, but I’m a hell of a lot more aware now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 01:01 AM |
| 4 | Why so many women dont have orgasms or sexual satisfaction in relationshipsMy favourite foreplay is being out for dinner, knowing that we’re going to have sex later. Little touches, little looks. 95% of foreplay for me is nonverbal. I consistently have a higher libido than men I’ve dated, so I don’t always get that full build up because I’m down whenever, but when I do, holy smokes it’s great. Also unfortunate thinking about not having this in my last relationship, and how long it’s been since I’ve had that full build up. Don’t get me wrong, the sex was satisfying with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:57 AM |
| 23 | I am more disgusted by what critics of this sub have DONE than anything SAID here.Every time I post on this sub I get people messaging me. Always men. Either criticizing me, or expecting me to preform emotional labour to make them feel better because what I said hit home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Reality check.Ugh Brene dropping bombs as per usual | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:30 AM |
| 6 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceI love this sub. And u/LilithWon, Dominique is probably seething with rage at how well-written this takedown is, she could never. Reading that article felt like being in the twilight zone! This sub is so supportive and like a big girl power family. I love y’all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:28 AM |
| 6 | On why hot women end up with “finance bros”I agree with you soooo much! I just felt like sharing this girls perspective, but I personally skew very anti-capitalist and leftist. I don’t value someone who is hoarding wealth or using money as a leverage in a relationship. I did like her perspective since she seemed to be responding to men in particular. But that’s one thing I love about FDS is that while we all agree on what LV and NV is, we can value different things in a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:16 PM |
| 18 | On why hot women end up with “finance bros”That’s a great point! Thank you for bringing it up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:42 PM |
| 11 | Is it only fair to blame the sex works ?The real issue is lack of supervision. Parents neglecting their children, especially on the internet. They say you’re only ever a few clicks away from porn at any given time and they’re right. I was exposed to pornography way too young because I had unsupervised access at the age of 8. Eight years old. Parents will say they put parental locks on or check search history as if kids being raised on tech doesn’t put them at an advantage. I’m still the IT person for my parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:57 AM |
| 49 | “don’t protect women, teach men how to behave!” 👏🏽 this brown queen is spitting FACTS! I wish more people in Desi culture adopted this mentalityMakes me think about the doc “India’s daughter” so painful to watch but very illuminating about the rape epidemic in India. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 11 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑Went to go follow her and I already do 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:08 PM |
| 20 | INCELS KILL. FDS DOES NOT.Crazy thing- I was actually at the spot of this attack a week to the day earlier. I hardly ever go to Toronto but my friend and I wanted to try out this ramen place we saw on ig while we were visiting and then one week later this happened. I was shook af. We almost postponed our trip a week which is the really fucked part. I had never even been to that part of the city before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:55 AM |
| 4 | Female Dating Strategy is not heteronormativeI love this community. It hurts my heart to see things get twisted for other peoples agendas. I won’t deny I’ve seen some unfortunate takes on here but they are not as prevalent as subs like “againsthatesubs” would make you think. I’ve always been curious about dating women, but I can’t get into the idea of sex with one. I am definitely one of those straight women who understand that sexuality is not binary and it’s also not a choice. I am predominantly straight but I wish I could date women. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inHi I’ve messaged the mods a few times and not gotten any response ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:54 PM |
| 60 | I keep seeing this topic of “women not having hobbies” come up, and this is a great video on why that’s a problematic question.here is a link you can still watch without the app in your browser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:31 AM |
| 6 | FDS women don't have high standardsMaybe I'm naive but I do genuinely think there are men like this out there…the challenge is finding one that isn't already in a relationship! While there seem to be plenty of single women who are just enjoying life, it seems hard to find men who are single and not jumping from one relationship to the next. Lots of women know to take time to heal and work on yourself after a breakup, but it seems like a lot of men don't address why a relationship didn't work and just jump into the next one. Or th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 26 | Why being single is preferable over dating for many women- especially when unlearning pickme behaviours.I feel that! Honestly I was happily single for a few years but still felt like I was lacking something. I got into a relationship and I was the most anxious I’ve been in my life (I say this as someone with anxiety). After getting out I am more thrilled with being single than ever before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 09:13 PM |
| 223 | Why being single is preferable over dating for many women- especially when unlearning pickme behaviours.Honestly though. A man has to be pretty fucking amazing to be better than no man at all. I love being single, and even though I enjoy being in a relationship, I’m comfortable waiting for the right opportunity, which takes the pressure off lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:15 PM |
| 114 | The BarHahahaha omg I love it! 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:06 PM |
| 8 | Tough love for the lady lurkers (watch to the end).I want to clarify that this video is not directed towards women who are trapped in unsafe/abusive relationships. This woman is talking to women who are aware of their relationships faults and toxicity, but who still stay instead of being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:03 PM |
| 259 | The BarHahaha right?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 02:32 PM |
| 26 | Too true 😁I lol’d - massive pickme energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:27 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else feel like they're the main one doing emotional labor for their family?Look up “emotional incest”, gross term but I really resonated with it. My mom and dad always have put me in the middle since I was a child. Hearing your parents complain about each other by “confiding” really fucks you up lol. It’s a clear red flag for having no boundaries at all. My older brother gets to be oblivious to all their issues but since I was 6 I thought they should get divorced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 03:30 PM |
| 7 | So glad to see women actually standing up for themselves. No means no.I don’t even know how anyone could argue for this behaviour. It’s not like he was offering to go down on her or even have sex. He wanted a blowjob, which means he was prioritizing his pleasure over her well-being. It’d be one thing if his motivation was to make her feel better, but he was only interested in using her. Also makes me wonder if he wanted to see her in pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:46 PM |
| 4 | Probably posted before, but it's trueOof girl too true lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 01:09 AM |
| 12 | Scrotes mad! How dare we value our time and peace. Have you been blocking and deleting people more since you've learned about FDS?You should look up “avoidant attachment style”. I don’t want to play armchair psychologist here but that sounds very much like that! I say that as someone who does this too. If it resonates with you and you like to laugh check out @hellolanemoore on ig or TikTok, she posts a lot of funny videos about attachment styles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 11:13 PM |
| 4 | Thank youI’m not OP but here you go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Valentine’s Day Should Include Self Love 💗 How Do You Plan To Show Yourself Some Love This Valentines Day?A local group does a “galentine’s” event, but this year it involves a rose, love note and a fancy cocktail delivered to your door. It’s marketed as something to order for your girlfriends, but I got it for myself lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:30 PM |
| 11 | Reminder: The Wall is a lie men desperately try to project onto women to disguise their own pathetically lackluster lives.The saddest part is it was always older women trying to tell me I would change my mind about wanting to get older. They can’t see past their own cage of insecurity without trying to get me into one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:06 PM |
| 37 | Reminder: The Wall is a lie men desperately try to project onto women to disguise their own pathetically lackluster lives.I literally cannot WAIT to get old! I’m 24, but ever since I was a teenager I loved getting older. It breaks my heart when I see women so afraid or ashamed of aging. I admittedly have the benefit of having “good genes”, so I do know that as long as I take care of myself that I will look great, but regardless, getting older always signified getting wiser and more independent, too great things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 7 | Men's friendships aren't 'stronger' or 'deeper' than women's friendships.In my experience it is the opposite. My exbf literally told me he’s never complimented his friends, never told them how much he appreciates them. Then there’s my friends and I...I live 2500km away from them and we send each other letters, talk on the phone every few months, gifts at Xmas or bdays. Always say I love you, always share our triumphs and losses. We don’t talk every day or even every week but there is trust and love. Meanwhile, his friends also lived far away, he talked to them every … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:09 AM |
| 67 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.His whole “jigsaw” ideology is really great! I love his stuff because he’s hilarious, and then he just spends 15 minutes in the middle talking about really serious and “not funny” stuff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:32 PM |
| 12 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.You can see the person’s TikTok account, and you can save this particular clip from that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:16 PM |
| 117 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.Daniel Sloss! He’s actually a comedian. Does a lot of dark humour but also has serious moments in his shows. His specials are on Netflix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 10 | When he says he loves smart/strong women...💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:24 PM |
| 3 | I made a video about a HV woman in history for this community :) I hope you enjoy!I’m not an expert by any means! If you use apple products, I recorded a voice note, saved some images, and added together in iMovie :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:08 PM |
| 44 | The feeling you get when you or your friend finally leaves a soul-sucking relationship.Oh I feel that. I love being single lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:10 PM |
| 5 | I made a video about a HV woman in history for this community :) I hope you enjoy!Thank you! :) I’m glad you liked the video! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:31 PM |
| 8 | I made a video about a HV woman in history for this community :) I hope you enjoy!Yes she wrote of matriarchal utopias in a totally new genre at that time. I’m reading the island of happiness now and it is great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:35 PM |
| 7 | I made a video about a HV woman in history for this community :) I hope you enjoy!I’m glad you liked it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:08 PM |
| 36 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseOmg the Irish though! I worked at an Irish pub with lots of Irish men who’d come and work on a visa in my country, and wow did they ever get around. They’d fuck anything that would move but call a girl every name in the book for sleeping with them. I made sure to stay far away from them lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:56 AM |
| 7 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseHonestly as a yt person who’s only dated yt men, I am sooooo flipping attracted to MENA men. Like drool, honestly. But, I stay away because of the intense patriarchal bullshit. I have met some gorgeous men before, but the complete misogyny is an instant turn-off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 13 | This is the energy!That’s totally fair. We’ve all had different experiences! I have unfortunately experienced the UNethical non-monogamy (I.e, cheating) and while I am not a jealous person by nature, I’m really a one guy at a time gal. I really didn’t understand polygamy until I read “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan And Cacilda Jethá. Super interesting book (my fav nonfiction) that examines the theory that humans are monogamous by nature (spoiler, their conclusion is no). Honestly from what I’ve seen as a member … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 04:59 PM |
| 57 | This is the energy!yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 05:23 AM |
| 120 | This is the energy!She’s actually in a polyamorous relationship with her husband and another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 05:17 AM |
| 5 | Being thoughtful, “just because”, without expecting anything in return is true HVM behaviour.I’m so thankful I have friends who are actively thoughtful, even though I’ve lived 2500km for the past three years. It’s really not even a big thing to do, like we know the bar is on the floor, but it shouldn’t be. My friend just had her second child in December and her first is almost three. Her oldest was just not sleeping, extra needy, super exhausted, and cranky, which leads to even more stressed and tired parents (with a newborn too!). So I (a happily childfree friend) asked what her oldest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:14 AM |
| 13 | Being thoughtful, “just because”, without expecting anything in return is true HVM behaviour.Honestly though! The chances of me being receptive at bar with my girls is very low. On my own, wandering around a bookstore...? Significantly higher lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Found on r/trashy...biggest pickme of all-time?That was so beautifully written! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Found on r/trashy...biggest pickme of all-time?I totally get where you’re coming from! I personally haven’t seen many low value folk examples lately, but I agree with you 110%! This is definitely a wonderful community to find answers to what you mentioned! I honestly wanted to share this here because I feel like this sub talks a lot about lvm, and I honestly end up forgetting what depths some women will go to for male attention. But I definitely support what you’re trying to get out of this sub, and I wish you all of the best in your levelli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 05:16 AM |
| 4 | Found on r/trashy...biggest pickme of all-time?Honestly I agree with you! I just remembered one of the flairs was “pickmeisha hall of shame”, and honestly I haven’t seen many examples as of late on this sub so I thought I’d pitch in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 05:02 AM |
| 6 | Found on r/trashy...biggest pickme of all-time?Like, that is not a compliment...putting “pretty little” in front of it doesn’t magically make it a cute take. I remember when I was 19 I worked at a bar, and this cocky lvm tried to make my nickname c*m dumpster...I thought it was hilarious since I was a virgin at the time. I would just laugh and he would be so confused. Another coworker eventually told him the truth, and he switched to calling me “Virgin Mary”. That term will always and forever be synonymous with low value for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 05:01 AM |
| 15 | Found on r/trashy...biggest pickme of all-time?She doesn’t know her worth and you’re right, it is sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 04:47 AM |
| 5 | This is so disturbing. Who even thinks like this?Can we talk about how this persons version of sex work is raping sex workers? Rape has nothing to do with sex. It is entirely about power. Brothels and sex work has been around since forever and yet rape has too. The availability of sex work ≠ the disappearance of rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:20 AM |
| 23 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨I’m at 6 weeks post-breakup and I’ve been no contact as well! Way to go ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 15 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨I thought about him on Christmas, but texting him never even crossed my mind lol. It’s been almost 6 weeks since the breakup and I haven’t texted him, or even thought about it tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:34 PM |
| 19 | Don’t buy matching Christmas sweaters or beg him to take you to see the lights. Go with your girlfriends instead and actually have a good time.Was literally planning to not invite my bf to Christmas because I was feeling to anxious about it. I knew I wouldn’t be able to relax having him around the family, because my people pleasing ass would have been stressed trying to accommodate him. So that, along with a few other things (his emotional unavailability) push me to end things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Full of FDS lyrics: "I'm not asking for too much I'm asking the wrong motherfucker. Just 'cause we're in love Doesn't mean that we're right for each other... I stay alone, protect my energies"Thank you!!! Each day is a little easier! It’s just a matter of combatting the little things that come up. Funnily thing to happen: my ex was an athletic therapist, and yesterday I strained my oblique muscle. Really puts a damper on things when I know if it happened last week I could’ve gotten treatment on it for free lol! On the bright side though I have so much more time to put into online classes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 05:44 PM |
| 5 | Full of FDS lyrics: "I'm not asking for too much I'm asking the wrong motherfucker. Just 'cause we're in love Doesn't mean that we're right for each other... I stay alone, protect my energies"This song is hitting me in the feels. I just broke up with my first serious bf on Sunday. I fell hard in love (first time!), but the whole time I felt like my emotional needs were not being met and that he was keeping my at arms length emotionally. I brought it up and we ended up breaking up bc he admitted to being emotionally unavailable. Sigh. On paper he had so much going for him, but unfortunately he’s too hung up on ancient heartbreak to love. What I learned: That I am capable of falling in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherJust remember that other people don’t determine our worth. You have a deeper and greater worth than he was capable of appreciating. He wanted easy, like porn. If someone can’t see your value or importance then that’s their failure, not yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 12:44 PM |
| 3 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherYikes! That’s awful! :( I’m glad you stuck to your standards though!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:02 PM |
| 6 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherYeah I have wanted to find someone who doesn’t watch porn or play video games. The key for my case was finding someone in a health related field lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 12:52 PM |
| 6 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherI totally get where your coming from! I don’t think I would classify him as “very vocal” since it’s something he shared privately with me, but I will certainly stay vigilant. And honestly, he is literally a grandpa with technology, didn’t know to press to pause people stories, didn’t even make any of his own social media accounts (his friends did) because he doesn’t really care for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 12:51 PM |
| 66 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherI’m currently in a relationship with a guy who is vocal about his dislike of porn. He would watch it when he was single to jerk off, but as soon as he started seeing me he stopped masturbating entirely. He also doesn’t follow and IG “models” or anything like that. I’d honestly given up hope that guys like this even existed! Especially since he’s in his early 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Can we post tips on how to spot a mentally/emotionally stable human?It’s on Sunday! Buts he’s bringing a fruit and veggie platter and making dessert, I’m bringing the main and drinks :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Can we post tips on how to spot a mentally/emotionally stable human?No he’s offering to bring stuff, he’s bringing 60% of the food lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Can we post tips on how to spot a mentally/emotionally stable human?I’ve just started talking to this guy and I really feel like he is a good guy. Like he literally laid out 5 things he looks for in OLD profiles, why he swiped right, and we’ve had amazing chats. He doesn’t get defensive and has a lot of humility. He seems to respect people from different backgrounds and is very honest. We’re planning a picnic for our first date and I told him I wasn’t sure how much food to bring and he said he probably won’t eat as much because he’s going to be nervous. Like!!!!… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:45 AM |
| 4 | “I was a low value woman.”Great video! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:32 AM |
| 4 | Basic redditor starterpackOuh good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 08:13 PM |
| 11 | Basic redditor starterpackIn a word- delusional | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Basic redditor starterpackYeah I’m in the no box spring club too, but o have a high quality foam mattress on wooden slats, so none needed! Foam rules! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 08:12 PM |
| 6 | The downvotes I get for saying that grabbing you gf's ass and saying you'd like to fuck her isn't foreplay. Guess what? Apparently sex doesn't require foreplay every time! I'll know in ten years when I've had more sex. Honey, I've had more than 10 years of bad sex, that's why I'm saying this 🤣https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/grdaed/tifu_by_asking_my_sister_for_sex_and_grabbing_her/frywz6q/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:48 PM |
| 7 | The downvotes I get for saying that grabbing you gf's ass and saying you'd like to fuck her isn't foreplay. Guess what? Apparently sex doesn't require foreplay every time! I'll know in ten years when I've had more sex. Honey, I've had more than 10 years of bad sex, that's why I'm saying this 🤣Just went and upvoted that’s comment 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:23 PM |
| 1 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!For me especially when people have acted like it will magically fix my anger. Forgiving someone has never helped me heal from something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 10:30 PM |
| 2 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!I’ve heard it a few times and it’s always stuck with me. If you’re obsessing over the conversations and the “should I or shouldn’t I” then you’re allowing someone else control over your sanity. It certainly is easier said than done though, just like evictions can be long and messy, so too can ridding a toxic man from your brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 07:42 PM |
| 1 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!You’re welcome! We are all here to support your journey. If you even encounter someone on here who seems blunt in her assessment just know that we are all here to support and lift up our sisters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 07:29 PM |
| 1 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!You said lots of great things, but I will diverge for one part. I don’t need to give them forgiveness. There’s this huge emphasis on needing to forgive the person who’s wronged you, and for so long I fought with that. I was raised Christian but am no longer one, but I’ve found so much freedom I’m not needing to forgive someone. You don’t owe them anything, especially forgiveness. It is possible to move on. I only ever forgive someone if it will be beneficial for my healing process, but sometimes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 07:27 PM |
| 2 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!That’s fair. Well you can always post (without identifying details) on here if you feel comfortable, and my dms are open too! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 04:43 PM |
| 4 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!Well you can always ask a trusted friend for their perspective. Perhaps a friend who you think makes good decisions and isn’t someone who’s default is yessss girl text him, since that’s what you’re trying to not do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 04:40 PM |
| 25 | I used to be the worst for paragraphs. Now I just dip. Bye!The point is he’s not worth it. LVM aren’t worth a second more of your time once you’ve realized the truth about them. If he’s hurt you, the likelihood of him owning up to his mistakes is very low. Rather the chances of him avoiding blame, hurting you more, or pissing you off is very high. Don’t engage with someone who doesn’t care about you, it’s pointless. Don’t let him live rent free in your mind. Yes it’s hard, but you win nothing by sending that message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 03:23 PM |
| 40 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”I know! Like her downward spiral should’ve clued people in. Like a healthy relationship shouldn’t cause someone to react in such an unhealthy way. I think the fact that they are very involved with the church, is a big indicator that he can and will continue to get away with this behaviour. She is clearly being fed the submissive wife narrative, and now has to deal with a man child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:08 PM |
| 50 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”Yeah and he just starts badgering her. We definitely got some insight into their relationship and hopefully he either gets some therapy or she gets the heck out (or both). He’s gotta be something rough to basically cause Selena to self destruct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:00 PM |
| 150 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”Also did y’all notice the arrogant smile? And how she looked to him to see of he was serious or joking? And then after he smiled she seemed relieved and smiled. Like, oh good he’s joking! Very much victim like behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 19 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”Sounds like how my brother talks to my SIL, I don’t think she’d let him call her “woman”, but he can be pretty confrontational and argumentative. He’s very “I’m always right”, even though she makes more money and has her M.A, and he has only had one stable job (and only recently). He’s a smart dude, but also an asshole too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:54 PM |
| 4 | Why do you desire marriage?From the other side of things, as someone still trying to figure out what I want: I’m not sure if I want to get married, but I’m also self aware enough to understand that most of my motivation not to is fear based. I’m afraid of getting hurt. I don’t want to get married because that would mean I’ve publicly declared my love for this person and in the event it didn’t work out people would know that and pity me. I know that these are things that I need to work out in therapy but I’m not in a place… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:10 PM |
| 6 | Oddly specific but soooooo spot onI’m in this picture and I don’t like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Imagine being this delusional...Pretty sure it’s a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 10:24 AM |
| 15 | Imagine being this delusional...Well the bible was written by men and for men so not that unexpected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:08 PM |
| 31 | Imagine being this delusional...Thou shall not commit adultery 😭😭😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 05:23 PM |
| 87 | 🤷🏻♀️Well there’s a reason single women live longer than married women, and married men live longer than single. Food for thought here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 115 | 🤷🏻♀️^ this! I’ve heard of it before and it’s soooo true. You ever notice how some women age horribly and their husbands look young as hell? He’s a big ol man baby, sucking her of her youth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.I’m in my early 20s and almost all of my friends are married! They still support my singlehood though (even if they offer to set me up). I find lots of married people still like to live vicariously through their single friends! I definitely empathize with the desire to start over. My issue is that I’ve been moving back and forth from school to home and then plans to go away for my masters. I feel like I can’t offer commitment if I’ll be moving in a few months. Best of luck to you! Just continue … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.Hey! Thanks for your comment ! Personally while I think virginity is bs, many people wouldn’t question if you had decided to still consider yourself one after your assault. I have friends who have done this. They can’t take what wasn’t given. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:41 PM |
| 12 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.My mom tells me I need to lower my standards! Like sorry mom- I know you did but I don’t have to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 02:53 PM |
| 14 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.Desperation attracts manipulation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 02:52 PM |
| 14 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.I had kissed boys in my younger years, but after 14, nothing! I was wholly uninterested in high school boys. Had sex a month before my 21st birthday. I didn’t usually feel weird about not dating much in high school (other than occasional loneliness), but I did have people try and make me feel like I wasn’t normal for enjoying g my own company! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 04:05 AM |
| 13 | You don’t need to approach a man who’s interested in you.I have 2,301 likes on tinder (I hate tinder but I’m bored as hell) right now, and while I think of myself as pretty, I’m a bit overweight and I know what is attractive about me and what’s not (my personality and humour, straight teeth, nice hair and skin, crooked nose, flat chest). Even with lots of online attention, pre pandemic I would sit at bars (hipster ones) and read, sit at a funky coffee shop and work and read etc. No one has approached me! Even when I look damn good. I think men are so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 07:47 PM |
| 24 | Sad image...Food crumbs I think, but he’s probably eating like shit so not far off... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 11:04 PM |
| 35 | Sad image...He has no hobbies to occupy himself with other than masturbating. This is why it’s so important to cultivate hobbies and interests and develop ourselves as whole human beings without a partner. If my partner can’t survive on his own then I would end up being his mother and that’s not my style. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:01 PM |
| 51 | Sad image...And the sperm covered socks littered beside him, without a care to maintain any level of cleanliness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:58 PM |
| 4 | I have zero time for zero effort...Yay a fellow Canadian 🇨🇦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Limit how long you will be bothered by somethingHonestly this hits HARD. Found this sub today and feels like home! Always been so “picky”, my mom said there’s no way I’ll ever find a guy who meets my “standards”, but I am confident I will! But man I could’ve used this advice TWO years ago! Was cheated on and manipulated by a narcissistic asshat for a year, instead of dealing with it I was pissed off and hurt and worked 7 days a week, two jobs (10-13 shifts per week), for almost a year. Gave myself zero time to heal and process. (Also worth no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:19 AM |
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