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Lurker, the only time you've ever posted here is when you asked for advice on an age difference. Please don't disparage those who wish to contribute, even if the content seems obvious to you.
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:25 PM
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Can we ask him questions related to "Emergency"? The book he wrote after he quit being "Style" and moved on? You know, relating to the new direction his life took as a result of meeting hardcore survivalists, PTers, foreign land-owning billionaires, passport forgers, and the like? Not only is it a great story, but it's a great lesson for the community about building value (for your own sake, not the woman's).
/r/seduction07/02/12 09:27 PM
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"You make me harder than a quadratic equation."
/r/seduction03/02/12 06:47 PM
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I've always wanted to embarrass myself and lose social proof by acting out-of-character and performing a bunch of silly requests posted on the internet! Let me know how that goes.
/r/seduction03/02/12 06:46 PM
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Disqualify.
/r/seduction24/01/12 04:26 PM
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Sounds like you really enjoyed that one...
/r/seduction06/12/11 05:58 AM
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It's just the irony of your own speech, you have to understand. You opened with: "Your opener is a major turn off, I wouldn't start an interaction that way..." Which would apply exactly to your own criticism. You began your critique in a way that would raise the OP's defenses! Just what you want him to NOT do to women. You're (with your own critique) a demonstration of how NOT to open! Praise for being direct, but subtract said praise for being abrasive. It is constructive, but it's not persuasi…
/r/seduction06/12/11 05:57 AM
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Juggler would suggest you go for direct, playful, and open about sex. The easiest way, I find, is just to use the word "sexy". Once you've done that, you've placed sexuality into her mind. "Funny joke. So, not only are you sexy, but you've got a sense of humor!" "You've traveled around the world? I find adventurous women pretty sexy." "You volunteer at a homeless shelter? There's something really sexy about that kind of selflessness and strength." "You clean up elephant shit at the zoo? I like a…
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:37 PM
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I admit: it is not scientific. I'm simply imagining in my mind all the likely ways I can see a newborn being killed prior to the existence of toxic chemicals and plastic bags, etc. I can imagine wild animals, savage attacks from warring tribes, earthquakes, home collapses, landslides, lightning strikes, flash floods, burmese tiger traps, etc. And of course, falling. All of the above would have been accompanied by loud noises. The only association I am trying to imply is that loud noises alarm us…
/r/seduction04/11/11 07:10 PM
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I was thinking of everything from, say, homo erectus up until about 17th century.
/r/seduction04/11/11 06:41 PM
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I agree with the thrust of your argument, but the truth of the premise really depends on how you define the word "natural".
/r/seduction04/11/11 06:40 PM
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Falling, and things which make sudden loud noises, would have been the two most likely causes of death for pre-industrial-age newborns. It's a fun fact, but I doubt your conclusion in pointing the finger at society instead of sharing the blame with human neurological development.
/r/seduction03/11/11 07:28 PM
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Just thought you might like to know. After 2 months on the job, I can safely say that I am the new Alpha, and my boss is absolutely beta. He depends on my input far more than I depend on his approval. The chain of command is a combination of luck, skill, and tenacity - not necessarily alpha-ness. FYI for your future jobs. May you succeed.
/r/seduction13/10/11 01:42 AM
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(waves bacon)
/r/seduction04/10/11 09:57 AM
9

My old drill instructor told me something that has stuck so firmly in my mind that I repeat it to myself whenever shit gets tough. "If you're comfortable, you're probably not learning anything useful."
/r/seduction26/09/11 04:36 PM
3

I used to carry a digital camera everywhere, but stopped, because I don't want this to happen to me.
/r/seduction22/09/11 10:46 PM
4

They're all busy having sex with multiple partners?
/r/seduction22/09/11 07:39 PM
1

fair enough!
/r/seduction20/09/11 12:42 AM
1

Reality is all in your mind.
/r/seduction19/09/11 04:33 PM
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I get what you're saying. What I'm asking is - "what else is there to talk about that isn't in the sidebar?"
/r/seduction19/09/11 04:31 PM
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Fair enough. However, despite all our protests, the default format of Reddit encourages it to be treated like a feed, rather than an archive. There's little incentive to scroll through thousands of posts seeking the small jewel of rare information that would lie under it all. It's easier to just let your antennae pick up on keywords on the topic "ooh! something about Negs!" than it is to think about the question and then seek an answer. TL;DR - This pasture is full of dead horses.
/r/seduction19/09/11 04:20 PM
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You might be right. And while you may be right, there might be 300 other amateur PUAs reading this who also didn't know what a neg is, and are having their beliefs changed by OPs argument.
/r/seduction19/09/11 03:59 PM
2

From the 48 Laws of Power (greene): Never Outshine the Master Always make those around you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please them, do not go so far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite - inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
/r/seduction18/09/11 04:55 PM
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Bonus points on that third bullet. If I'd seen a raised eyebrow, crosseed arms, or other signal, I'd have known "I've gone too far" and have to recalibrate.
/r/seduction17/09/11 09:48 AM
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Well, you're probably way ahead of me, but thanks for commenting.
/r/seduction17/09/11 09:45 AM
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I try to always keep an agreement frame. This might sound silly, but the words "I agree" have tremendous power in calming people, building rapport, and (re)establishing trust. Even if you don't agree with what's being said, you can still say "I agree that you said that, and that is why I'll be working on X..." or "I agree that you feel that way, so I'll start working on X..."
/r/seduction17/09/11 09:09 AM
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I've used embeds on people just as intelligent as myself. Whether they work is not an issue of intellect.
/r/seduction17/09/11 08:45 AM
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it depends on how you play it.
/r/seduction17/09/11 02:35 AM
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I'll look out for it and aim for being constructive. But - are you sure /r/seduction is the best place for this discussion to happen? It seems more a career/personal development focus. I wasn't sure, to be honest, if I should have posted this here, but it did seem relevant to many of Seddit's topics. If you're like me, looking for a place to play with others interested in self-improvement, this seems to be the place. I just hope it doesn't get slanted by office sex jokes and the like.
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:54 PM
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Great story, and best of luck to you! Seems like you're on the right track.
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:45 PM
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You know, I'm totally with you on this. I think the two of us should collaborate on a post. Even my first part on the submissive bodylanguage didn't really have my heart behind it - I just didn't quite know how to say "be assertive, dominate the problem not the person." Actually, that seems to work. Interest and attentive listening go far. Really, I think the best resource written on the topic is Greene's "48 Laws of Power". We aim to follow the laws and slowly build things into our favor.
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:28 PM
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Great comment. It's exactly this. I don't see why people feel as though any conversational fortitude would be seen as cocky in an HR manager's eyes. For the most part, HR people want to hire serious, capable, intelligent people. They don't want sheep.
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:06 PM
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Of course the power is theirs. I can't make the decision for them. Don't worry about that. This is just about how to make yourself stand out. Your credentials and skills will have to do the rest.
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:05 PM
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Thanks for the post! I agree with everything you say and I certainly hope people don't try to bluff their way into a position they are unqualified for. On point 2: I think the exact words out of my mouth were more like: (pause) "Ok, well, I'm sure you all have some questions for me. Mr. XXXX, Would you like to go first? (gesturing at HR manager, who seemed the most eager out of 3 people)" Does that sound a little less arrogant?
/r/seduction16/09/11 11:02 PM
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There should be a whole article written about that. "Superiors' game". I'd imagine that rapport and submissive bodylanguage is of a big help, as well as using their key words to talk about each issue brought up. I've never had real problems dealing with my superiors, and in fact have been pretty friendly with them in a number of jobs. Also, the agreement frame. No matter what they say, you can defuse tension (if necessary) with the two words "i agree". even if you don't agree to the content. "I …
/r/seduction16/09/11 10:56 PM
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I agree with this. Actually, almost all of it. Some of the lines I presented are pretty risky. I wouldn't recommend using all of them at once. I didn't. One to three spaced out over the course of the talk would be fine. In fact, I wouldn't recommend anyone do this in an interview setting unless they've been playing with the ideas presented here for several months. Was it the key that earned me the job? Maybe. Did it make a difference? I have no doubt that it did. I have been in IT in various pos…
/r/seduction16/09/11 10:50 PM
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Yes. If anything, I merely pause for an eyeblink's time before the italics are spoken.
/r/seduction16/09/11 09:05 PM
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Obviously, you want to have the right person for the job, and I want to be the right person for the job. Your reaction is a fair reaction. And to be fair, the sentence that you cherry-picked as your example would have been followed with a qualifier such as the sentence above that would explained why it was a "win-win" and would have eased your intolerance.
/r/seduction16/09/11 09:03 PM
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I see where you're coming from, but you're also making huge assumptions. Careful with that.
/r/seduction16/09/11 08:59 PM
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I was wondering. I actually felt your sarcasm, but was unable to come up with a humorous retort, so I defaulted to eager helpfulness.
/r/seduction16/09/11 06:49 PM
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Sure. Somehow leaving it out makes it seem approachable. As soon as "NLP" hits people's retinas there's a kind of skeptical pseudo-science kneejerk that I wanted to avoid. In this instance, I'd just say it's the power of suggestion.
/r/seduction16/09/11 06:48 PM
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He touches the person's arm when he commands laughter begins in you, and more.
/r/seduction16/09/11 05:38 PM
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Practice. I was nervous too. I was practicing in the car the whole way there, and for several days before I was coming up with the best phrases I could use, and how to do it. Even as I started my introduction, my heart was pounding, but I managed to convince myself to speak slowly and calmly - and they just shut up and listened. Personally I feel there is a lot more pressure on me if I let them interrogate me.
/r/seduction16/09/11 03:50 PM
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If you're not familiar with embedded commands, they involve structuring your sentence in a particular way. This takes a little practice and can be unnerving at first as you worry about getting caught, but it carries a hidden command that the listener's subconscious mind picks up on. Examples I have used: "I'd like to tell you about why I think I'm different from the other candidates" "If, as we're talking, you begin to get a sense that I'm right for this job, then that'll be a win-win for both o…
/r/seduction16/09/11 03:43 PM
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Dale Carnegie all the way. Upvote!
/r/seduction09/09/11 02:51 AM
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There's a lot of background to dig through to really understand the theory and the many ways to apply the meta-model. But what you need to know is that a 'submodality' in the sense I am using it refers to an aspect of memory that you can manipulate. For example, you can begin to remember something really great that happened to you in the recent past, and as that memory takes shape in your mind, you can notice that you actually have the power to enlarge that image in your mind, or to turn up the …
/r/seduction08/09/11 04:52 PM
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Yes. Are you familiar with the term?
/r/seduction08/09/11 04:16 PM
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Best I've seen. Thanks for taking the time to make this at once insightful, encouraging, and articulate. Also for the careful categorization. Your story reads like a psalm. An hour of deep consideration, to be followed by a month of clarity. I do small meditations at work and on my daily bike rides. I also make it a point to eliminate bad thoughts with a simple submodality change. Very effective for me.
/r/seduction08/09/11 01:18 AM
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I just like to point out something interesting about her as being "sexy". That's enough to get the job done. You traveled around the world? Wow you must be really brave. That's kinda sexy... You volunteer to help retarded children? Amazing. There's something really sexy about a woman who is out to make a difference. Best used while in rapport and emotional conversation. Don't be too eager to drop the sexy into conversation. It's graceful, gentle, and if you're honest about the qualities you find…
/r/seduction05/09/11 05:56 PM
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|genuineness Authenticity is bit nicer a word.
/r/seduction16/08/11 05:11 PM
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It's amazing the amount of sarcasm that can be implied from the simple addition of two extra "oo"'s. Isn't language great?
/r/seduction29/07/11 05:53 PM
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While I agree with this, I'd like to offer that it's a systematic way to use language effectively, within the context of the "meta-model" of the mind. The meta-model basically stipulates that the best way to understand the mind is by treating it as though it is "process-oriented". Like a computer. We simply learn the tools to throw an exception, and while the program is "rebooting", we suggest things. It's no different from what advertising agencies have been doing for decades, but the differenc…
/r/seduction29/07/11 05:50 PM
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It is fun, isn't it? But now you've got me in a puzzle. Is "bullshit" a state? Let's call it doubt or skepticism instead. The thing about doubt is that it's conscious. The subconscious mind accepts everything we throw at it, and the conscious mind filters out the implausible. This explains why critical thought is so easily overrun by emotion at political rallies, why hypnotists who bypass the conscious are able to get people to do otherwise implausible actions. Our species is still developing co…
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:52 PM
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It's meant to be demonstrative. Unfortunately the commenter withdrew his statement so I can't know how it was received.
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:39 PM
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Seduction is not science.
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:36 PM
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The major difference to the way we think of the mind in NLP is that we treat the brain as though it's a computer running a series of processes to keep us in states that we perceive as safe, happy, secure, etc. When it comes to understanding the magic of NLP, it all boils down to having an understanding that we are using language to target "processes" of the mind, and change their direction. If what you're looking for is the boiled-down, in a nutshell, simplest, handiest patterns to use, grab thi…
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:32 PM
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Agree, reframe, binding question.
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:26 PM
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The intent is completely up to you. This sentence is just the suggestion. I gave three examples, only one of which is seduction-based. For you, a more respectfully framed version might be the simpler "What's that feeling like, when you feel attraction/compulsion/satisfaction towards [intent]?
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:23 PM
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This is true. NLP goes quite far. I'm a big fan of James Tripp, who uses NLP to induce hypnotic phenomena in people, everything from amnesia, catalepsy (stuck limbs), to full blown hallucinations. It's an amazing use of language - little more than pacing and leading into feedback loops of the experience, with a few tricks thrown in.
/r/seduction28/07/11 09:13 PM
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I didn't hear it from SS, but rather a man named Rintu Basu! I might have to do some more reading (I don't want to end up pointing out old or obvious stuff) - I do loads of NLP, but I've actually never picked up any of Ross Jeffries' or any SS stuff. I use NLP more in a business/mediation context, and when I do hypnosis and quick therapy with friends. Thanks for the pointer, and for making me feel compulsion to respond. Great languaging.
/r/seduction28/07/11 09:00 PM
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What's the difference between being out-of-context, and sounding like a fool? As you're reading this and beginning to feel like a fool, you can start to understand that you'll feel very successful once you learn to use patterns in a relevant context, like talking about how powerful emotions are... (Remember that story you like to tell about your childhood?) ...and being able to turn that powerful emotion towards yourself is the other important half of this. As you're reading this and thinking ab…
/r/seduction28/07/11 08:52 PM
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Great name. Glad you enjoyed the 2nd pattern.
/r/seduction28/07/11 08:44 PM
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I totally agree and would add that your comment is also highly manipulative. Just what are you trying to get me and the other readers to think or feel when they read it?
/r/seduction28/07/11 07:29 PM
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Great points all around. It is just a tool. To answer your concerns, I've used this with men, and it does work. Just because we think logically doesn't mean we don't have emotions, or that those emotions influence our buying. Otherwise, all that advertising that is aimed at men would be wasted. Just look at how emotionally-loaded life insurance ads are!
/r/seduction28/07/11 06:59 PM
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Just ask it at the appropriate time. Or you could ask it and anchor. Or you could ask it and then just keep talking consistently and rapidly so that the person has no space to think of anything else.
/r/seduction28/07/11 06:21 PM
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Sounds like you're too focused on "not showing interest". There's a time and a place, friend, for showing interest.
/r/seduction28/07/11 11:08 AM
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Three cheers for three tiers of well-spoken advice!
/r/seduction27/07/11 11:33 PM
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Is this a gun joke? Or a mind-changing exercise? I'm interested if it's the latter.
/r/seduction27/07/11 10:39 PM
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Cold reading is something you can only do once per person. After they've begun to tell you things about themselves, it's no longer "cold". And it's painful to watch them get it wrong. There are much better ways to start conversations that by pretend-mind reading. If you wanna learn mind reading, you'd do better to study body language.
/r/seduction21/07/11 11:27 PM
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Please remove your Tl;dr! You had it going great until that moment, and it's as if you just retracted everything you wrote prior, especially the last sentence.
/r/seduction21/07/11 11:24 PM
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OP has given himself a narrow window to work with - he's not willing to tell anything but the whole truth, and the whole truth to him is that he is in an open relationship. He wants to weasel out of it, rather than proudly state his availability (as you have done) which is arguably the better answer. So, no, it's not a joke, and they ARE bad responses, but I can't do much within the tiny opening he has given me.
/r/seduction21/07/11 12:56 PM
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Sounds like you're taking strides to getting over your AA. Once you feel a little more comfortable in this, you'll begin to notice it's a lot easier if you open with an open-ended question, rather than a yes/no or statement and then trying to follow up with an open ended question. Personally, I'm big on the verbal and physical breaks - if your timing is good, it feels like she's already been opened before you say your first word.
/r/seduction21/07/11 06:31 AM
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sidestep when they ask if I have a girlfriend "Not just this moment..." "Why would I be talking to you like this if I had a girlfriend?" "I don't have any committed relationships right now..." "I don't have a girlfriend, but there's someone who would be angry if she heard me say that" facepalm
/r/seduction21/07/11 06:25 AM
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While I was over in New Zealand, I had a lot of married friends, but wanted to work on my game. I came up with this game to frame the night in a hilariously fun way that got EVERYONE's gears moving. Group. Go out to popular night-venue, order drinks, settle in. Approach and attempt to get rejected by as many women as possible. Getting slapped counts double points. The winner with the most rejections doesn't have to pay for the drinks. Believe it or not, this really got the married guys excited t…
/r/seduction19/07/11 10:18 PM
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While I don't disagree with the thrust of your argument, and in fact admire the reverence with which you speak of The Mind, there are a few things I find hard to accept about your well-spoken and poetically powerful post. I'd actually like to adopt some of these tenets myself, so please correct me or clarify to help me along. There is no book or technique or one-liner that will change the behavior of The Mind. It appears that when you refer to "The Mind" you're referring to the mammalian/reptili…
/r/seduction16/07/11 04:27 PM
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It depends on how you define "hypnosis". Depending on your definition, things like anchoring, motivational tricks, interrupting patterns that lead to bad habits, NLP swish, or erasing memories might fall under the umbrella of "hypnosis", simply because it deals with the subconscious mind. The only things I do in my subconscious are: erasing bad memories, increasing motivations, and anchoring positive states.
/r/seduction15/07/11 03:06 PM
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Just practice listening. Listening is 90%. Ask the kind of questions that show you have been listening with interest, and then just sit back. You might say only 5 words, but people will say "Wow, it's been so great talking with you" or "It's been fun! You're a great conversationalist!" Serious. EDIT: Of course, you'll want to use open-ended questions to really get them talking.
/r/seduction15/07/11 01:57 PM
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http://i.imgur.com/RKL92.jpg
/r/seduction15/07/11 12:21 PM
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You should always smile when you touch yourself :)
/r/seduction04/07/11 03:43 PM
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This was the book that started me down this path. It's excellent and almost deserves its own subreddit!
/r/seduction03/07/11 03:03 PM
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I like this.
/r/seduction03/07/11 03:02 PM
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A anchor is a physical "trigger" for a subconscious state. You ever met someone who really had a problem with someone touching his/her neck or some specific place? Essentially, it was "triggering" a bad subconscious feeling. You want to trigger good feelings. To set an anchor on yourself is a simple process. First, decide what physical cue you'd like to use. Me, I've got an ecstasy anchor with my arms up, and a "relax" anchor i trigger by putting my right index and thumb together, and some other…
/r/seduction02/07/11 11:32 PM
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Figuring out how to find and hold that mental frame is my next task. Anchor it. You know how to set anchors on yourself?
/r/seduction02/07/11 09:44 PM
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Just curious about something... I haven't read the book, but are you certain it's actually about seduction in the sexual sense? You can be seduced by an idea, or a politician's words, or a scientologist cult or a David Koresh-like leader, or an advertisement for that bacon burger. If what he means are these meanings, perhaps it's right on target?
/r/seduction02/07/11 09:07 PM
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This is the same Robert Greene that wrote the Machiavellian "The 48 Laws of Power" and the "The 33 Strategies of War". 48 is a great read, but it's clear from the design of his titles that he's convinced of his thoroughness and absolutely sure left nothing out. Also, in his book The 48 Laws of Power, it is made quite clear that the only tactics he agrees to are tactics that get results. Take that into consideration, but know that many of his "working tactics" will turn you into an unaplogetic, m…
/r/seduction02/07/11 09:00 PM
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Ok. I wasn't sure if I'd be able to help, but I've noticed that the only times I really get down on myself about bad nights are when I remember making a move and getting the feeling like "this is probably a bad idea, but I'm going to do it anyway"... afterwards, horrible resentment.
/r/seduction02/07/11 08:45 PM
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Sure!
/r/seduction02/07/11 08:42 PM
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A person's eyes will dart between the three points indicated. From eye to eye, and then to the third spot. It's uncomfortable to stare at one person's eye for too long, so we tend to flick back and forth and spend some 30% on each spot.
/r/seduction02/07/11 04:08 PM
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When you went to the 2nd place, were you doing things that just didn't feel right?
/r/seduction02/07/11 01:21 PM
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Exactly. The way it works is that if you (subconsciously) feel closed off, the only comfortable positions are closed off positions. It's like when someone asks you a puzzling question, and you get an itch on your head. Your mind makes you get the itch, and your body won't be comfortable unless it can scratch it.
/r/seduction02/07/11 01:08 PM
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Not a bad idea. Although I'm kind of wondering if - maybe I should just leave it where it is, even though it IS too specific, and just refer people to it when I see a topic on nonverbals come up. It's kind of like a tucked away bookshelf in a library.
/r/seduction02/07/11 01:00 PM
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Bam! What a great way to put that.
/r/seduction02/07/11 12:57 PM
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Sure, we've read the books, and almost all the same points are covered in all body language books. I was merely wondering if there's a topic that could be addresses from a seduction viewpoint. Perhaps I can assist in creating this. I'm hesitant to cover the same material that's been beaten into the ground, but I'll check out your /socialengineering.
/r/seduction02/07/11 12:57 PM
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If it's an intuition, it's something few people have. I think it's more of an awareness-based mindset that takes serious focus and study to master. Have you ever heard people use phrases like this? : My wife just filed for divorce. I never had a clue she was unhappy with our marriage. The guidance counselor tells me my son has been using cocaine for three years. I had no idea he had a drug problem. I was arguing with this guy and out of nowhere he sucker punched me. I never saw it coming. I thou…
/r/seduction02/07/11 12:53 PM
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Well there are many subtle variations. For example, the pose: one arm crossed, the other arm locked in and rising fist to chin actually implies DEEP thought. the kind of thought you need to brace yourself for. But if you're a die-hard skeptic, this (the defensive pose) will be more natural to you. Perhaps the position you wish to take is actually to be more open and suggestible, and consciously taking a more open body position would affect that.
/r/seduction02/07/11 04:28 AM
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Thanks. So let me know what you'd like me to cover! Check the link for some basic materials. I've hesitated before going into some of the advanced stuff, as it's a bit too likely to come across as bullshit or might be taken in the wrong direction by people who have no concept of subtlety.
/r/seduction02/07/11 04:05 AM
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I haven't seen anyone post a thought about "reading the woman's body language". Curious. I would have thought there'd be more interest in that. I study reading body language. It's probably the single most advantageous thing I know. I always notice when a woman is interested in me, even from across the room, out of the corner of my eye, etc. And I know exactly when to make the move, so that, if I open this woman, I'll have her full attention. It's taken reading some pretty technical guides and lo…
/r/seduction02/07/11 02:28 AM
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I think I have an issue in not investing enough on a person I have an interesting way to approach this problem. You don't have to use it, but it's sound advice that has done me credit and allows me to open just about anybody. First, I'd like you to imagine that you've won the lottery and you now have $20 Million dollars to spend. Then, you find out that the charity you donated money to was a scam, and they've robbed you of $1,000,000. Now, forget that, and imagine that you've been a hard working…
/r/seduction02/07/11 01:47 AM
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I'm happy to elaborate. But first I must clarify. I didn't say kino. In fact, I don't equate escalation with kino. I find it very easy to escalate without kino. It's about two things: The first thing is setting the vibe. The context. I see it as going through 3 major stages. (MM breaks it down to 9, but whatever). When you meet, you're two strangers. Then you're two people having a personal conversation, relating to each other. Then you're two people in a physical vibe, building sexual tension. …
/r/seduction01/07/11 04:13 PM
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Glad to hear you're continuing on the road of self-improvement. I'm sure as long as you approach the idea with a mix of confidence in yourself and humility (willing to admit your previous ideas may be wrong), you'll do well. For me it's about finding the right method (or mix of philosophies) for you. Personally, I started with David D and Mystery, but I've become a disciple of Juggler. It's more casual style allows me to feel like myself. I encourage you to read more than just what's posted here…
/r/seduction01/07/11 02:02 AM
1

10% practice and 90% attitude. In the privacy of your own home, as you cook dinner or whatever, I suggest you try it tonight.
/r/seduction28/06/11 07:15 PM
13

feeling like I "ran out of things to say", when the conversation goes stale. I've learned its the feeling I get when I've missed my chance to escalate.
/r/seduction28/06/11 05:40 PM
1

I get that. I couldn't dance till I was 27. I'm 30 and now I make other dudes look bad. :)
/r/seduction28/06/11 04:58 PM
2

Is it possible she's not into chatting, but rather wants to learn about you via the hot body contact of crowded dance floor? Maybe she's out-escalated you. She may already find you appealing but needs to test if you've got the stamina and physical confidence? (Just a guess about an alternate line of thought)
/r/seduction28/06/11 03:55 PM
1

of a dollhouse..
/r/seduction25/06/11 06:19 AM
1

Not if it's out of isolation.
/r/seduction25/06/11 06:16 AM
1

Make a SOI when she deserves it. If you lay down the idea in her head of something very attractively sexy, your default (energetic flirtatious) vibe will do wonders for building sexual tension. Do you use SOIs?
/r/seduction25/06/11 06:12 AM
2

Great followup. Thanks.
/r/seduction25/06/11 12:34 AM
2

Some of these points deserve their own self.seduction post. Although, from what I hear you saying, would you agree it's less about "understanding new ideas" as much as it is "acting against your default programming?" I guess what I mean is: you could do all the AMAs requested, answer all the questions, but the people just reading won't benefit unless they're actually actively moving towards the change they want to realize?
/r/seduction24/06/11 10:38 PM
1

Wow, afungi, thanks for this link. I've checked out their curriculum, and I'm amazed at the level of no-bullshit serious damage. I've heard about "putting your body weight into the punch" but never actually understood it until I saw some examples. Thanks for pointing me in this direction.
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:19 PM
2

So was it good?
/r/seduction23/06/11 04:02 PM
2

Sounds more like dry humping to me.
/r/seduction23/06/11 04:01 PM
1

Of course! I have utmost respect for martial artists, but I've never had the chance to take classes with serious commitment. Nonetheless, I have confidence in my ability to resolve situations non-violently. Interestingly, my venture into the study of NLP and hypnosis has given me some powerful tools for controlling others' aggression.
/r/seduction21/06/11 02:33 AM
1

Good advice. As a USMC Pistol coach, I'd rather put my faith in a handgun.
/r/seduction20/06/11 07:46 PM
3

*It came to mind more in response to the OP's questions about approval seeking. The part I'm thinking of goes something like: * The Master does his job and then stops. He understands that the universe is forever out of his control, and that trying to dominate events goes against the current of the Tao. Because he believes in himself, he doesn’t try to convince others. Because he is content with himself, he doesn’t need others’ approval. Because he accepts himself, the whole world accepts him.
/r/seduction20/06/11 07:37 PM
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This takes a lot of time, experience, and changes in attitude to overcome. I"d suggest the following baby steps (repeat as needed): The next time you do something you're proud of, before your ego takes over and demands recognition of the good deed, stop yourself and say "Nah, this one... is just for me." Also, try to spend more time listening instead of joking. You may already be a great listener. But as you do it more and gain better listening/rapport skills, you'll begin to notice that people …
/r/seduction20/06/11 07:27 AM
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You have literally nothing to lose. Tell that to this guy. Or him. While, I definitely agree that this exercise will make you feel more confident, I would really just like to add that it risks making you feel invincible. When you feel invincible, you're feel like you're on fire, but you are more likely to do stupid, irresponsible things. Insulting the wrong AMOG who happens to be a closet Steriod-freak might be one of them. This is about Game, sure, but remember that some other contestants play …
/r/seduction20/06/11 12:55 AM
2

I like your method of self-control. Although I must say, if I'm reciting mantras in my head while the other person is talking, I'm probably not listening to a word they are saying. I have to focus quite hard to pay attention in a stranger setting.
/r/seduction20/06/11 12:45 AM
5

I think what he's saying is he's reached the point of unconscious competence; he no longer has to "think about it".
/r/seduction18/06/11 03:52 PM
2

A man's free foot will point towards her. The foot his weight is not on. This will be true as long as she is in his peripheral vision.
/r/seduction18/06/11 10:15 AM
2

He's written books, and he's terrific with women, but his method (despite his name) isn't about juggling women. He was the entertainment kind of juggler (balls and clubs, knives, etc) before he started teaching the stuff. It's more about being just the exact balance of kind, engaging, socially graceful, but also resilient, decent, and powerful. It's about knowing when to escalate - not about routines and parlor tricks.
/r/seduction17/06/11 12:00 AM
1

Read juggler's method.
/r/seduction16/06/11 08:21 AM
1

this too
/r/seduction14/06/11 05:12 PM
9

You start saying this stuff only after you've escalated into a sexual vibe. And honestly, it's not that hard. A lot of guys are afraid to use the word "sexy". Your challenge is not to be afraid. When you feel there's a good personal vibe happening between you, you're talking comfortably and relaxed, you keep an eye out for when she does or says something really cool. Something you like about her. So, if she tells you a great story about how she traveled solo around the world: "Wow! That's really…
/r/seduction14/06/11 04:36 PM
10

I had anticipated that the people who read this would be intelligent enough to realize the formula instead of focusing on the details (which will change in every single applicable scenario), but, Thanks! You've proved me wrong.
/r/seduction14/06/11 06:30 AM
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Sexual tension. Build it. If you build enough tension, she's going to be drawn to you like a rubber band about to break. Sexual tension is when you both want it but can't have it yet. The simple breakdown (paraphrasing Juggler here) is: Notice that something she is doing (or some unique quality of her) is turning you on. Say it. Make a comment about something you would like to do to her, sexually (or just something very hot) End the comment with a transition using "But..." and raise some objecti…
/r/seduction14/06/11 04:40 AM
2

While I can't disagree with you - the subject of the analysis is HIM, not her. Keep that in mind.
/r/seduction14/06/11 04:31 AM
3

This is advice that will improve your whole life - not just the 'game' skills.
/r/seduction14/06/11 03:07 AM
7

It's true. Opening is fairly harmless. Once you open, you simply chat without directing it to closing. If anything, women like this are hilarious after they leave.
/r/seduction13/06/11 12:35 AM
2

I'm taking the time to read because it sounds quite familiar to me. You see, I was the awkward guy with high-minded conversation that few could follow, and it took me years to realize that my interests were in fact alienating me. It took me a 3 year stay on my own, overseas, (New Zealand) without any social network to fall back on, to realize my shortcomings. So let me lend my experience and set you straight. NLP has a wide range of applications, the LEAST of which is seduction. It is, however, …
/r/seduction09/06/11 05:47 AM
1

I dig ya. I started with MM, but personally I don't feel like I became a real man until I read Juggler method. I hated routines, and I couldn't say them congruently, and felt like a bit of a clown most of the time. Had a few lays by badly pulling off the cocky-funny. Usually when I did things right, I was following some unknown fundamental and I DIDN'T use scripts. Somehow it resonated with me that it was mainly about timing escalations, and speaking boldly about your own life without the script…
/r/seduction09/06/11 02:39 AM
2

You probably just looked like a bored guy hoping someone would talk to him. Don't immediately feel ashamed about that, but instead simply reflect on how it appears to an outside viewer. "Here's this guy... he seems bored... All these other people seem like they're having fun... I wonder why he's bored? Does no-one want to talk to him? Is he boring in conversation? Does he have nothing interesting to say? Is he a loser? Now, most people won't think to the extreme worst-case scenario. It's not a m…
/r/seduction09/06/11 02:34 AM
5

This is really good stuff. It seems like a base of solid Juggler method with the added class and dexterity of managing (potentially) close friends. Taking risks with your circle requires expert handling. Also my favorite wraps are (hummus/tzatziki spread, then 1 entire chopped green onion. (trust me). spinach, 1/2 tomato (chopped and dried a bit) , and sprouts.)
/r/seduction08/06/11 11:38 PM
1

Think it (that vibe) might have come across?
/r/seduction08/06/11 11:26 PM
1

It sounds to me like you were a little bored at the party. You think you might have been bored or feeling awkward for a minute?
/r/seduction08/06/11 11:02 PM
2

I'd probably say that "having a feel for how your friends act" is actually the better way.
/r/seduction08/06/11 10:11 PM
1

So... what exactly were you trying to achieve by walking over to join the conversation?
/r/seduction08/06/11 10:07 PM
9

You didn't get blown out, you gave up. Who cares about some stupid show the girl watches? It was a hoop you couldn't jump through, and instead of flipping it around on her, you walked away. It'll only be a regret if you fail to learn from it. Next time be prepared to disqualify yourself.
/r/seduction07/06/11 08:22 PM
1

From /r/seduction: breaking the friendzone barrier
/r/seduction02/06/11 05:21 AM
2

It's kinda hard to give advice without knowing you or your dating history. But rather than digging into that, What are your previous sticking points? Where do you feel you typically drop the ball?
/r/seduction02/06/11 12:15 AM
1

Maybe you're trying to avoid there being silence? You know, silence can be very useful. Ever hear of "the vacuum?"
/r/seduction12/11/10 06:24 PM
1

I made this, if it helps. Helped me plenty.
/r/seduction12/11/10 06:17 PM
1

I'd add that the secret is not to care about success either. Just have fun and enjoy talking to chicks and dudes alike. The less you seem like you're trying to score, the better.
/r/seduction12/11/10 03:04 PM
1

Whenever she does something you find interesting.
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:59 PM
5

I went out last new years determined to shake 100 hands. Went to 4 clubs/bars, shook 115 before midnight. Try it. Wasn't even trying, but met 5 awesome chicks that night, exchanged details. It all happens in a flash if you do this. And... if you get called out on "what the hell are you doing", just man up and say "Hey I'm trying to get over my shyness so I'm shaking 100 hands tonight." No issue.
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:56 PM
1

I think Juggler might disagree with your #1 point. He emphasizes that, once you have her interest (after reaching the personal level of conversation) that you should be talking openly, boldly, passionately about what you love and what you feel. it's ok to be talking about her, but YOU and your passion should be the driving force in the conversation.
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:55 PM
1

Wait for her to do something cool then tell her it was "sexy." That gets the point across. She'll know from that moment on, that you are viewing her in a sexual light. If she doesn't DO anything cool, draw something cool out of her with conversation. "I'm a librarian".. ---"Wow! I think that's kinda sexy."
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:48 PM
3

Man up, go out, pay no attention, do not even acknowledge your face. If it comes up in conversation, dismiss it with casualness... "yeah, acne is a pain in the ass. happens every few years." then CHANGE TOPIC.
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:45 PM
2

A brilliant point. By leaving out that detail that makes it a brag, you essentially get both the interest and the recognition without losing the modesty. It's a fine art to brag without bragging, but this is a great example (better than the obvious deadlift brag posted above). Having it loosely related to the conversational matter is important too. With such an open statement about being detained, you could smoothly bring that up even if you were only chatting about someone's late friend, or an …
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:58 AM
1

Agreed. A key point is that simply talking about the things you are interested in, even if they are the observances of social dynamics, is not bragging. Everyone talks about the things that they are interested in, and if it happens to be a cool, exciting, or interactive topic, you'll draw people in. Invite them to share your observations, don't just point them out because you saw it first. That's bragging.
/r/seduction25/10/10 10:52 AM
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