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Men's Rightsadam142857/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 11:17 AM
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Stop drinking now. Alcohol is a potent, highly addictive depressant. It may be what's keeping you low at this difficult time. Stay in shape, no matter what. Do cardio and do weights. Work out 6 out of 7 days. Add meditation/prayer to your morning routine.
/r/MGTOW06/11/19 04:58 PM
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Your response reads a little like I offered you some help, and you then came up with new problems. As a Western European, this is something I have noticed in my Eastern European friends--a tendency to spiral down, finding more and more problems, and falling deeper into the mire. If your situation is as you describe, then you are in a difficult position, and you need to spiral up. I'd suggest adopting a mindset that will help you and the other people involved emerge from it as well as possible. i…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 10:50 AM
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First and most importantly, I'm not a mental health professional. Help from one of these will make your lives better. My advice is amateur and subjective, so take with caution. Secondly, has your gf been diagnosed, and does she accept the diagnosis? Is she receiving treatment, and is she sticking to her ordination? Get Yesses on all those and moving on will be a LOT better for all of you.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/17 08:57 AM
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I don't really follow what you're saying but it sounds fairly intellectual. I'm sure it all fits together for you. Not need for any more correspondence thx.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 10:57 PM
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Yes, if you find yourself believing that you've eaten shit your entire life, that says something. Here's two words of advice, which I took from my eldest son, who's 31 years younger than me: Start lifting. Peace.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 10:07 AM
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Thank you. I do not want to distort your thinking. In my view, if you have a real question, you should seek for yourself. It will be difficult, and you will get misled, but that's part of it. I would, though, recommend that you start a meditation practice, sourced from one of the ancient disciplines (i.e. not from some 'new age guru'). Good hunting!
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 09:48 AM
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Are you trying to imply I have ruined or ignored my children? I haven't. But all you know about me is what I've told you. And I'm a complete stranger, so if you've reached a conclusion based on that, that would be a bit nutty. Live more and you will discover that virtually all humans are part good and part bad, in different ways, of course. The all-good and all-bad have made themselves that way.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/17 09:45 AM
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My daughter has more grit than a gravel pit. She can wear whatever she likes.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 08:45 PM
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Awesome advice! You must be a complete cunt.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 08:43 PM
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Ha ha . We had a good day today, and aren't dead yet.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 08:42 PM
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Please collect your thoughts and PM if you want to. I'll try to answer.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 08:37 PM
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I didn't say or imply that there's no good in them. What is good, according to you? (You don't need to answer). Your opinion is also subjective.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 08:36 PM
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You make some good points, thank you. But I also sense bravado. None of us are quite who we think we are. Fortitude = beta shit. Really? I'd like to have heard you try to convince Ernest Shackleton of that.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:52 PM
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I know. I think 'pretty' is more in the eyes of the beholder. There's always hope. I suppose I *specifically said pretty, but also commonsense rather than your 'above average intelligence.' Personal experience or taste, I'm not sure, but we're moving the same sliders.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:45 PM
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If you want a girl who is not damaged or crazy, get a girl with below average looks, nice parents and above average intelligence. These girls are everywhere, but it is near impossible to get a hard on for them. I think there's a good life partner in there. Pretty but not stunning, feminine, good family, with commonsense rather than educated intelligence.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:12 PM
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That's a very long story. Also speculative on your part. She hasn't been diagnosed BTW. Also the BPD tendencies were evident when we met. They're still evident 4 years after we parted, and are getting worse, as they do in most cases of BPD. Then we can go to: as a complete stranger, why are you so concerned with why I did 'exactly' A or B? We had children, with the responsibilities that entails, and the highs were good. The lows just got worse. Anyway, maybe have a think about why you want to di…
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:07 PM
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About BPD: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:01 PM
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On 2. It is necessary to let go. If you do not forgive, it will eat you up, and may cause illness later. But it is only possible to forgive, sacrifice and give if you have developed other qualities, such as fortitude and persistence first. Otherwise you are weak rather than compassionate. There is a very big difference.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 01:00 PM
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Yes. I think that's a clear view of where feminism is taking us. The options for bringing up children are to enter a non-marriage arrangement with a woman who understands, in a jurisdiction where the rules will not disadvantage you on separation. In the UK, for example, common-law spouses have none of the rights to income or assets that married partners enjoy. Or to not have children. It is very clear that being an absent father produces bad citizens.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/17 12:53 PM
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Glad to help. This is exactly why I posted it. If we hadn't had children, I'd have walked years back. But good children are the best thing you can leave the world, and good children need a father who is present and not pussy whipped. Never, ever get married. And before cohabiting, verify the rules that apply to asset division and child maintenance in your jurisdiction. I know of cases where women move into a guy's home for the two years it requires to gain 50% rights, and leaves him after 2 year…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/17 06:45 PM
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My post got 536 upvotes before it was taken down by the moderator bot. QED
/r/TheRedPill01/12/17 09:54 PM
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A true example. A friend of a friend of mine was diagnosed with two types of cancer. While he was fighting them, his wife had an affair. He died BTW. Without a culture (legal, familial, moral or religious) that controls and disciplines women, their solipsism closes off the possibility of moral action. From my own experience (and I was reluctant to open this chapter). My daughter was in a serious car accident after our divorce, fighting for her life, in a coma. While this was happening, my ex wif…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/17 07:20 PM
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Obviously, personal experience is not scientific: the sample size is 1. Moreover, there can be no control group. My problem isn't with marriage per se, my problem is with the outcome of a divorce, which will probably be initiated by a fickle, perfidious wife, who is entirely a slave to the phases of the moon. This is likely to damage you psychologically, deprive you of contact with your children, and may very well destroy you financially, possibly permanently. It is up to me how I frame what I w…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/17 06:57 PM
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Borderlines, personality disorders or any of the rest of it wasn't in public awareness in the 1980s when I met my ex. I was also more raging hormones and less experience. She was hot and exciting, and we went at it for seven years straight. We started a business, had children, and things got tougher. The troughs got deeper and more dramatic, although there some great years even late on. My advice against marriage applies borderline or no. Women change, usually for the worse, many marriages end i…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 01:09 PM
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It didn't say the former, it did say the latter. It was my experience, which is real. In a nutshell it said how to spot a borderline, to avoid marriage to a borderline or any other woman, because women change, usually for the worse, divorce is likely and disfavours men terribly. It offered some advice on bringing up children, and I hope, a reminder to men that the the way ahead comes from within themselves, and leads to pursuit of their aims.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 12:59 PM
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/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 12:55 PM
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Yes. What you write is broadly where I am. The following are more rewarding for me than pursuing women: being with my children (they just get better with age if you start 'em right), engaging with my teaching (different level), skiing, travelling, working, investing, lifting, running, being with my buddies. But honestly, just waking up in peace is sublime. I've been monk, yes. Desire is returning, but after my experience, and in the current cultural and legal climate in the West, the likely outc…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 12:55 PM
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It was deleted by the Automoderator bot and will likely reappear soon.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 12:27 PM
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The following are more rewarding for me than pursuing women: being with my children (they just get better with age if you start 'em right), engaging with my teaching (different level), skiing, travelling, working, investing, being with my buddies. Hell, even waking up in peace is sublime. Four years on, I'm still recovering from a very difficult marriage, and the divorce was hellish. But. I. Fucking. Won. Against ALL the odds. So that feels fantastic. Desire is returning, but after my experience…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 11:20 AM
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I don't want to bias your thinking. I'd suggest asking yourself what experiences you want to have. They are richer than books.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:56 AM
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Not wife. Partner. Do. Not. Get. Married. I think what's been said here is very true. You can build frame as much as you want, but you will have weaknesses. Chances are, if your woman has bought into your frame, she will treat you like a piece of shit when you wobble. Then, when you run into serious difficulty--and I promise you life will ensure that you do--she will just make things worse.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:53 AM
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Yes, I'm still hurting 4 years on. I do lots of cool shit, but honestly, it's a sublime joy just to wake up in peace in my apartment on my own.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:49 AM
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Also don't get married. Ever.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:48 AM
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Study abroad=great experience. Your accent will give you a boost with women in the UK especially. You're young, approach the ones you're attracted to. I think you need to find someone who's prepared to make a sensible agreement about child rearing without marriage. But hell, don't even think about kids till you're 27-30. Good degree choice. Get a master's ins something real (econometrics?MBA?)from the best school you can get into. My eldest is doing his master's in maths & computer sci at a glob…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:47 AM
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Borderlines, personality disorders or any of the rest of it wasn't in public awareness in the 1980s when we met. I was also more raging hormones and less experience. She was hot and exciting, and we went at it for seven years straight. We started a business, had children, and things got tougher. The troughs got deeper and more dramatic, although there some great years even late on. My advice against marriage applies borderline or no. Women change, many marriages end in divorce, and you will get …
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:41 AM
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I hear you. But Asia is an enormous continent housing many cultures. In the UK, Thai women are popular. I've heard, though, that once you get hitched, they and their families heavily de-prioritise you because foreigners are actually considered a lower order. My view: if you're looking for partner, go seek. But do not get married.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 10:36 AM
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I think if it was possible to partner with someone who understood your concerns about marriage and the adverse consequences of divorce, and that we change with age, women especially, you might have the basis for jointly raising good children. The phrase "it takes a village to raise a child" is also popping up in my head right now. A close community will help promote health in the child's psychology by him/her being exposed to differing views.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 10:57 PM
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My view is that there are two streams--nature and consciousness. The debt for your life, granted by nature is repaid by you reproducing. Consciousness is what you strive for, through education, deliberate efforts towards an aim, struggling willingly and so forth. The two go in opposite directions, but both are necessary. Ego will always be there, it manifests in all sorts of ways that I can't control. I can perhaps transcend it in moments. But then it returns. I notce a large gap in the language…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 10:54 PM
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Just walk from the BPD. I wouldn't marry the nice girl either, but if you make each other happier, then there may be stability there. If that's what you both want.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 04:32 PM
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I'm not a therapist or counsellor, but I'm asking what would have helped me? I had got past codependency by the time we split. Coping with the adversity my ex constantly created made me self-reliant. The trigger to our separation and divorce was my ex having a fling with an old flame. I view this now as a power play, or perhaps from her perspective, some kind of attempt to 'wake me up' to the problems in our marriage. But by that time, the unending crises--created by her--had damaged me psycholo…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 04:31 PM
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Meditation yes. Lift yes. If you have real question, seek. But it's off topic.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 03:48 PM
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Though, those men seem to be betafags with mommy issues whose insecurities cause them to ignore all the enormous red flags and adopt a "captain save a hoe" attitude. Probably some truth in that in my case back then, although perhaps not as cut and dried as you put it, and not so evident to a young man barely out of his teens. Note, though, that all humans are deeply flawed. Also BPD women compensate for those terrible flaws with some dazzling positives, like bed skills, fawning worship, and in m…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 03:45 PM
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OK, not an expert on this. I've read the big trigger is a trauma in adolescence. For my ex, this would be the messy divorce of her parents, and some sexual abuse by a trusted adult.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 03:39 PM
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Absolutely true. The law should protect families and men in this regard. If she needs meds--and my ex took handfuls of them--she should be on some form of watch list or under legal restraint. My ex's mother is tin-foil hat crazy, needless to say.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 03:32 PM
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Strong emotional urges come from hormonal changes. Big hormonal changes occur during menstruation, and during and after pregnancy. They also occur in menopause. I'm not a neuroscientist but I think it's to do with limbic regulation. This is the higher executive parts of the brain (the cortex, external parts) moderating strong emotional urges from the limbic region (a deeper, more basic part of the brain). Research indicates that borderline personality disorder and other cluster B personality dis…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 03:20 PM
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At risk of commenting over-eagerly, I actually think she is there to serve you. A woman will be most fulfilled in that role: to serve and support her man. But she wants him to be a real man. Contemporary Western society has eroded the possibility for him to become a real man. Socialism, feminism, consumerism et al. have exacerbated the problem, convincing us that we're weak, stupid and have little potential. Which is why I think TRP/MGTOW etc is timely and positive, if used as vector guides. Mor…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 02:32 PM
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Yes, close. Not a religion, nor a philosophy, but a practical Way in life. If one has a real question--and it's rare--one will seek and eventually find a teaching. I hasten to add that being in a living teaching makes you in no sense better than or superior to others. It does make you more acutely aware of your own failings though. But for the purposes of this forum, it's a separate issue. Off-topic in other words.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 02:17 PM
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Find the best you can, have children with her, but do not marry. If not marrying is a deal-breaker, walk.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 01:37 PM
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Briefly, I've come to see that life is not given, but has to be paid for. We pay our debt of life by reproducing for nature.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 01:36 PM
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I think you're probably right. They're less smart than us in some ways, but smarter than us in others. The good in me (or beta perhaps) in me wants to believe there's some good in them. An interesting alpha/beta thing on women. I want both too. Alpha female (hot) for fucks, and beta female (good girl) for support.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/17 01:35 PM
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