| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 668 | 100 approaches and still nothing | Field Report | adrian-mx | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 06:34 AM |
| 43 | Learnings after my 50th approach | Field Report | adrian-mx | /r/seduction | 01/07/20 09:51 AM |
| 2 | Wings in Cape Town, South Africa | Lifestyle | adrian-mx | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Wingmen in Bangkok | Resources | adrian-mx | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 11:15 AM |
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| 2 | What are your sticking points while on 40s?I'm 39 and I still do cold approaches during the day. The problem (and I know it's self inflicted) is that I feel self conscious approaching girls that I find attractive because they are often a lot younger than me. Basically I'm afraid of looking like a creep. | /r/seduction | 18/06/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Sharing room with close female friend for a week. Should I try something like conversation?Don't ask. Touch her arms, hug her, be close to her. If she responds positively, go for the kiss | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Wings in Cape Town, South AfricaThat's an impressive resume you just threw at me. I'll send you a DM. | /r/seduction | 20/04/24 12:28 PM |
| 11 | How do you guys handle a long series of rejections?I would add one thing. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it, some girls are just not into you, and you might have run into a lot of those lately. One thing that makes me feel a little better when I have a bad streak is remembering times when things went smoothly. It reminds me that it IS possible and I can do it. I just need to find the right girl. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 11:58 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI live in Sydney. I mostly approach girls on the street (In the CBD). Their usually surprised. Some of them run away, some of them ignore me, some of them seem a little uncomfortable at the beginning, but the we talk a little, some of them smile and are open to talk. I don't approach a specific type of woman. I approach any girl I find attractive, but so far I have just approached girls that are walking alone. | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 07:00 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks! I live and work in a very busy area, so there is usually plenty of people around me. I usually go after work. Every day around 5pm I go out and do a few approaches. I'm happy to talk | /r/seduction | 21/07/20 08:22 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingVery few completely ignored me (Probably less than 10). Some others told me they were in a hurry and started walking faster. Others said something like "I'm not interested" or "I have a boyfriend" and kept walking. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 06:53 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks man! I definitely got a lot out of it. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks. I plan to keep going. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 03:05 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI plan to continue. I try to make adjustments after every approach | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingCool. That's very good to know. I'll look into how I can start recording my voice and maybe later video. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI did | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:42 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI'm in Sydney | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:41 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThank! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:41 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingAll the approaches were done in the last 32 days. All of them were done on the streets. I still have approach anxiety. When I see a girl, I might not approach her. After I do the approach, if she ignores me, it doesn't really bother me that much. I think about what happened objectively and then continue. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingDon't take it personally. People are not always reliable. They don't know what they want. Work on improving yourself and put some work on it. Progress is slow, but it's real. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingIt's impossible for my look to cater to all girls. Some girls will like it, some won't. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:30 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingKind of. I walk around and approach when we cross paths. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:20 AM |
| 0 | 100 approaches and still nothingNot where I live. It's illegal to record a conversation with another person without their consent. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:20 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks man! those are all good ideas. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:19 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingSydney, Australia | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingSomeone asked this. I answered in another comment. In short, not very good. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI think in theory being completely detached is fine. I wouldn't really want to feel nothing. I do this because the result makes me feel good. If the result didn't bring me happiness, there would be no point on me doing it. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingYes, this is something I need to start doing | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:13 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThank you man! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:13 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI do feel stronger. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:12 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThis might be a good idea. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:10 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingNot very good. There was a language barrier, which made conversation hard. She didn't want to sit next to me on a couch, she wouldn't let me touch or hug her. I think she liked me, because we bumped into each other a few days later and she was making a lot of conversation with me and asked me if I still have her number. I didn't really enjoy our time together enough to try to move things further. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:09 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the perspective | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:05 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingMy goal is to be able to approach any girl at any moment. I hope I can at some point make my approaches feel to her like it might be random, but it was also brave and interesting. I know there are other ways to get laid, but that's not my goal. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:04 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingSome of they have in the past. I moved countries a few times and I just arrived to Australia before the pandemic started. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 02:00 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI do | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:59 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks, that's all good advice that I'll keep trying to apply. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:58 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingMy life is in order; finances, fitness and in general I'm a happy person. My life doesn't revolve around this, but it's something I want to improve. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:57 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks man! Good luck to you too! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:56 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI can't practice approaching strangers with people that are not strangers. I'm aware of the epidemic, but I'm lucky to live in Sydney were things are mostly under control. If government recommends we isolate I'll do it and put this on pause. I also keep a safe distance from them so they feel safe. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:55 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingSomebody else already asked med this. I answered in another comment. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:53 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI have some friends that are into it, but not really coaching me. I should probably ask them to look at me in action and give some advise. I don't know anybody really good at cold approaching where I currently live. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:52 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI keep track mostly because I want to be able to say: "It took me this much time to get better". I do analyze all my approaches and try to improve with each approach. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:50 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the encouragement. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:48 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks. I've heard a lot of people with experience mention that it's a long journey, so I'm getting ready for it. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingNo, but I'm in Australia | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:46 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks, hope you get better and can continue soon. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:46 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingNice. It's good to hear other people are on the same boat. Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingYes. 32 days to be exact. | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:43 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothing32 days | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 01:43 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI don't think I can't trust a woman to tell me what kind of man she likes, because they don't usually know it themselves. But I trust they can tell me what makes me look good. Why do you think a man's opinion is better? | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:57 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI did this a few times, and I believe it did help both of us be more comfortable. I'll try to use it more often. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:54 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI appreciate wanting to help, but I prefer not to post pictures of myself here. I get advice about my looks from female friends. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:47 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI try to approach with a mentality of "I want to know her". It would be great if we get along and have sex, but I feel good just making her smile. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:43 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingWhat does that do? | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:41 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThat makes sense. I was curious what my results were going to look like after 100 approaches, but now that it's done I can focus on other things. Namely, self improvement and enjoying the interactions. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:41 PM |
| 5 | 100 approaches and still nothingSadly I can't. It's illegal where I live | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:39 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingWhy? If I post it you'll tell me if you find me attractive or not. Then what? | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 01:10 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI know I need to start doing that. It just requires so much energy and I'm not really sure how to handle groups. Any advice? | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:57 PM |
| 3 | 100 approaches and still nothingI approach to get to know them. I definitely hope they are cool, we get along and hopefully we sleep together, but a lot of things in that path are out of my control. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:55 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingA little, but I think there is also some skill involved | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:51 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingRejections don't hurt because I don't take it personally. In some of them I see I made mistakes and try to improve. In some approaches, I think I did the right think and she was just not open to talking. I never said I'm satisfied with seeing them smile. I said that I like making them smile. I approach because I find them attractive. I don't approach because I want to have sex with them, I approach because I want to get to know them. If we are not compatible, I don't want to have sex with them. … | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:49 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI lift. My body fat is less than 15%. My clothes fit well. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:40 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThere will be awkward moments when doing cold approach. I've had my share. Think about the scenario and Imagine what you could have done so you end up feeling better. Keep practicing and you'll find yourself better at reacting to weird situations. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:30 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI know there are girls that will never talk to an stranger and this approach would never work. I also know of times this has worked and led to great relationships. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:27 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI'm doing both | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:26 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:24 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks. I did expect that 100 approaches would get me girls, but I'm trying to learn from everything I'm doing. I don't really feel bad that I didn't get the results I expected. I feel motivated to get better. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:23 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingIt could be related, but I'm in Sydney where things are pretty under control. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:20 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI know. In the country where I live (Australia), things are going pretty well. If we are recommended to isolate again, I'll sadly have to put this journey on pause. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the tips. I know cold approach is not the best way to meet girls, but it's an approach I would like to have. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:19 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the encouragement! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:15 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThank you man! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:14 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingDefinitely. After each day I try to think about what went well and what I can improve. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the advice. That sentence was not a goal, it was just something that I heard at some point. I just find interesting that now I know for sure, it's not true. As you mentioned. If I learn something, I'm winning something. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:12 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks. I do understand it's a numbers game and there is going to be a lot of rejection in the process. Still, I know there are a lot of things I can improve and I'll keep practicing to get better. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:09 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI will do! Thanks! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingUsually I try to get them to talk about themselves. I have had some conversations where we have something in common and we get to talk about that for a little. I think so far most of them have ended up with "It was nice talking to you, but I'm seeing someone right now". Anyway, it's great advice. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI am Mexican, but I'm living in Sydney now. Nice to see other Mexicans here :) | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:04 PM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingIt's hard for me to answer that question. I know many girls that find me attractive, so I think I'm at least average. I can be awkward at times, but I think in general I haven't been awkward in most of my approaches, except for the fact that I'm approaching a complete stranger. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:02 PM |
| 10 | 100 approaches and still nothingI just asked one girl, and she wasn't able to answer. She found the question funny and she started giggling. Since she wasn't answering, I moved to other topics. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 11:58 AM |
| 6 | 100 approaches and still nothingI work out and I take care of proper grooming and clothes. I know many girls that find me attractive, so I think it's mostly about skill at this point. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 11:56 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingI'm going to try to get friends with me. It'll help me improve and also motivate me. The problem is that they will not always be available. When that happens I'll have to go alone. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 08:54 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingWhy do you think I should stop this? My life is pretty in order and decide to use my free time to improve this aspect of my life instead of watching cat videos on youtube. Do you think it's wrong that I want to meet more girls? Is that decision you made? | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 08:51 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the motivation! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 08:45 AM |
| 4 | 100 approaches and still nothingThank you man! Will keep at it! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 08:44 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 08:43 AM |
| 18 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:51 AM |
| 57 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks a lot for the very detailed advise. I really appreciate it. I think I'm doing well in most of the points. I think I need to do better on these: Don't approach from the back or side - make sure they see your approach Pay attention to what they're wearing - this could help or destroy your approach and it helps you gauge better if they're coming or going somewhere, waiting for someone, etc. If you want to sit down and chat ask for permission, it's unlikely they'll be an asshole and say no, i… | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:48 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks. The law doesn't allow me to record infield, but it's a good idea to record myself practicing at home. I'll give it a try. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:42 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingIt makes sense. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:40 AM |
| 1 | 100 approaches and still nothingThank you man! | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:36 AM |
| 19 | 100 approaches and still nothingThat makes sense. Just seeing them smile brings me joy. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:35 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingI don't think looks are the problem. There are many men that are more handsome than me, but I'm fit and I take good care of how I look and dress. I know many girls that consider me attractive. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:34 AM |
| 3 | 100 approaches and still nothingI'm aware this is the hardest way there is to meet women, so I'm taking it as training. I'm also aware that it's an unusual way to meet people, but I have had great relationships with people I met without any previous context in the past. It's just been a long time. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:32 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThat's good advice. Thanks | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:29 AM |
| 3 | 100 approaches and still nothingMost of my approaches have been on the street. I live in a very busy area. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:23 AM |
| 5 | 100 approaches and still nothingSometimes I have to convince myself to go out and do it, but I enjoy it a lot when I make a girl smile. So I think it's worth it so far. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:22 AM |
| 2 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the comment and the tips. I've been thinking about the exact same things you mentioned. Most of my approaches are on the street, so I believe is not uncommon that they will ignore me. This being said, I do notice when they ignore me because my approach was awful or because they just want to be left alone. About the numbers, I was just thinking about that a few days ago. Now I've made a point to ask for the number even if I think it's not going anywhere. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:21 AM |
| 4 | 100 approaches and still nothingThanks for the comment. It's good to hear that I'm on the right path. I don't currently have an Instagram account. Sounds like I might need to get one. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:17 AM |
| 3 | 100 approaches and still nothingI'm pretty sure I'm doing a lot of things wrong. I hope practice will help me fix those things. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:14 AM |
| 4 | 100 approaches and still nothingIf you could dress like a hobo and convert 10%, then I don't being weird looking matters. It sounds like you posses a skill I don't. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:02 AM |
| 7 | 100 approaches and still nothingI thought about it. Sadly it's illegal where I live :( | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 07:00 AM |
| 13 | 100 approaches and still nothingMy opener is usually "Hi" Once I go their attention I will probably say something like "I saw you passing by and I really wanted to say hi" (I might comment on something she is wearing) Then I'll continue with either "Where are you from?" or "What are you up to today?" From there it can go anywhere. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 06:59 AM |
| 19 | 100 approaches and still nothingCovid :( I do salsa dancing, which allows me to meet a lot of girls. But currently it's not an option. I also play volleyball and started doing improv which sometimes works, but I feel this also helps me build courage. | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 06:56 AM |
| 232 | 100 approaches and still nothingI am certain that I need to change a lot of things. That's the reason I'm practicing | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Just live your life and approach that cute girl when you see her. (B.S. Advice)I have read a lot of comments saying: "Why are you approaching so much? Don't you see it's a waste of time and energy?" And I think this post nails it There might be people that don't systematically do approaches and can go talk to a girl they like when they see her, but most people don't do it (Usually giving some excuse). I'm pretty new to this, but I think this is like training martial arts. You will spend a lot of effort practicing for apparently no reason, but a time might come when your li… | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 05:59 AM |
| 2 | One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 48 Progress ReportHey, I'm also doing a cold approach challenge. Although I'm not posting every day. This is one my first post: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hj79o2/learnings_after_my_50th_approach/ I'll post another one in a few days when I reach 100 approaches. I'm not totally new to "pick up". I did a little a few years ago, but I got into some relationship, so I stopped doing it. Now I feel like I suck at this (which I'm aware is normal). I was just wondering have you done this before? What's yo… | /r/seduction | 16/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Good books for improving conversational skills and flirting?"The Complete Book of Questions" has helped me with conversation sometimes | /r/seduction | 06/07/20 09:02 AM |
| 3 | Learnings after my 50th approachI try to focus on the 27 that didn't ignore me :) | /r/seduction | 06/07/20 08:55 AM |
| 8 | Learnings after my 50th approachI'm that guy :) I think 2% is very bad. That's the reason I'm practicing to get better. Even worse than that, my current hit rate is actually 0% (I haven't slept with any of the girls I cold approached). I look at it like this. It took me a little more than 2 weeks dedicating an average of 30 minutes per day to get one date. That's 2 dates a month, which is 2 more than I had before. As I get better I expect these numbers to improve, which means that maybe one day I can get one date every week. I… | /r/seduction | 01/07/20 01:39 PM |
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